LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS

Commitment vs. Compatibility: Are You in the Right Relationship? Mar 06, 2025

In this episode, I explore the difference between commitment and compatibility, sharing my personal experience navigating these challenges in a past relationship. I also discuss how to recognize the distinction, helping you better assess whether you’re in the right relationship.

Learn about attachment coaching with me here.

Saying "No" to Emotional Unavailability and "Yes" to Secure Love With Sabrina Zohar Feb 20, 2025

Today on the podcast, I'm joined by dating coach Sabrina Zohar—best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. She brings a no-nonsense, straightforward approach to relationship advice.

In this episode, we discuss:

Sabrina’s journey from anxious to secure attachment.
The reality of managing anxiety—it doesn’t just disappear.
The power of nervous system regulation for those with anxious attachment.
How to spot emotional unavailability in dating.
Low-effort vs. high-effort behaviors in dating & relationships.
Key qualities to look for in a secure partnership.

Tune in for insightful and actionable advice on building healthier relationships!

Contact Sabrina Zohar:

www.sabrinazohar.com

Instagram: @thesabrinazoharshow

Podcast: The Sabrina Zohar Show

TikTok: Sabrina.zohar

Youtube: Sabrina Zohar

Work With Jessica:

1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE

My Secure Self E-Course (Self-Study)

Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

Embracing The Messy, Non-Linear Path of Grief With Melina Charis Feb 12, 2025

Today on the podcast we have Melina Charis. She is a writer and mentor for women moving through grief and heartbreak. She has 10+ years experience with ceremonial + somatic healing practices and 6+ years experience holding space for others, but her greatest teachers by far have been motherhood, death, grief and life itself.

We cover:

Grieving breakups, death, identity shifts, and more.
How unprocessed grief manifests in daily life.
The ways grief can resurface years later.
Understanding that grief is an ongoing process.
What it truly means to process grief.
Different healing approaches and ways to move through grief.

*Find Melina’s offerings at melinacharis.com and read her writing at [/14b27051b990809ab0a4e21d62ab80a3?pvs=25]melinacharis.substack.com.

*Learn about attachment Coaching with JessicaHERE.

1-Year Breakup Update: A Personal Reflection Feb 04, 2025

If you've been following my breakup journey, I wanted to share an update on my healing process now that it's been 1 year. My hope is that this gives you insight into the grief cycle, the messiness of healing, and reassurance that things do get better.

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Previous recorded break-up updates:

- Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens)

- Recovering From Heartbreak - (Through a Secure Lens) Almost 6 Month Update

-To Stay or Breakup - Leaving My Relationship of 6 Years

Is It Them or Me? Separating My Avoidant Fears With Randy Hamama (Client Stories) Jan 06, 2025

In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw arises, identifying what makes a partner feel safe for avoidants, and understanding when it’s worth staying with an avoidant partner or when it’s time to walk away.

Whether you have an avoidant attachment style or are in a relationship with someone who does, this conversation offers valuable insights and practical takeaways.

Learn about attachment coaching with Jessica here.

How Our Attachment Style Influences Our Relationship to Food and our Body With Vanessa Scaringi and Kathryn Garland Dec 17, 2024

Today on the podcast, Vanessa Scaringi, PhD, CEDS-C, a licensed psychologist and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, and Kathryn Garland, LCSW-S, CEDS-C, a clinical social worker and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, discuss:

How attachment styles influence our relationship with our body and eating habits
How different attachment styles may experience eating disorders
The impact of early relational experiences on eating behaviors
Tools to heal and rebuild a positive relationship with your body
And so much more!

Vanessa and both co-own a group practice Calm Counseling in Austin Texas that specializes in the treatment of disordered eating and body image issues.

Contact Vanessa and Kathryn:

www.keepcalmtx.com

Instagram: @calmcounselingatx

Work with Jessica:

www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Instagram: @thejessicadasilvacoaching

From Heartbreak to Finding Love With Hannah Flynn (Client Stories) Dec 02, 2024

In today's episode, the wonderful Hannah Flynn, a former client of mine, shares her journey of navigating her avoidant attachment style, overcoming deception and heartbreak, and ultimately finding healthy, secure love.

We discuss:

The challenges of communication with an avoidant attachment style.
The importance of addressing conflict rather than avoiding it to maintain peace.
The pain of being deceived in a trusted relationship.
Learning your relationship needs and desires through trial and error.
The journey to finding love again.

Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

Getting Attached to Things Outside of Our Relationships (Personal Share) Nov 20, 2024

I had a revelation recently with a big life change. I noticed similar insecure ways of thinking and feeling surface that resembled how I used to feel in unhealthy relationship dynamics. The goal with this episode is to help you reflect on how you may be "insecurely attaching" to things outside of your relationships, such as your home, belongings, items, routines, goals, dreams, by highlighting similar attachment patterns that could be harming you rather than helping you. Most importantly, how to shift your approach!

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Redefining Your Perspective on Needs With Chris Rackliffe Nov 18, 2024

Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless clients across five continents to help them heal their anxious attachment style and grow more secure, sharing everything he’s learned on his own healing journey—from how to integrate trauma and regulate the nervous system, to how to effectively communicate and set boundaries. With a B.S. in Psychology from the University of Miami—and an honorary Ph.D. in the “School of Life”—Chris has made it his sole purpose to help others find peace, perspective, purpose, and power through their trauma.

We discuss:

-Why it's important to know your needs for relationship health and satisfaction.

-How to identify and meet your needs.

-How to measure if your needs are being met within your relationship.

-Creating a balanced approach of give and take.

-When to stay or leave your relationship.

Contact and work with Chris:

Check his my website and TikTok!

Get your copy of his first book, It's Good to See Me Again, on Amazon now.

Contact and work with Jessica:

10 Week Attachment Coaching

Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

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Somatic Experiencing for Healing Attachment Wounds With Lisa May Francisco Nov 07, 2024

Today on the podcast we have Lisa May Francisco who is a first-generation Filipino women’s empowerment coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, EFT practitioner, and host of the Sacred Femme Alchemy podcast. She leads women to bust through their emotional blocks, reclaim unshakable self-worth, and unleash their wild, authentic selves through potent spiritual coaching and transformative practices.

We talk about:

-The benefits of using somatic techniques to address our attachment challenges.

-A guided EFT session for anxiety.

-Retraining our nervous system for secure attachment.

CONTACT LISA: Free 45-min EFT coaching session - https://calendly.com/sacredfemmealchemy/free-eft-session

Sacred Femme Alchemy Podcast

Instagram: @sacredfemmealchemy

Work with Lisa

CONTACT JESSICA:

1-1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2

Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

Identifying Subtle Signs of Dismissiveness in Your Partner and It’s Impact on Your Well-Being Oct 26, 2024

In this episode, I discuss identifying subtle forms of dismissiveness in a partner and its impact on our well-being from a personal and general perspective. It's easy to overlook milder forms of rejection, especially if we consider our loved ones "good people." But if we don't become aware of these troubling mild behaviors, they can perpetuate our feelings of disconnection and insecurity within our relationships, leaving us confused.

1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica:

https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2

How to Connect to Your Authentic (Secure) Self With Rebecca Haddock (Client Stories) Oct 17, 2024

Today on the podcast, we have a special guest: Rebecca Haddock. She is a badass businesswoman, scientist, inventor, and president of her company, Equitape. Rebecca is also a former client of mine who originally came to me seeking support in breaking her unhealthy attachment patterns, specifically tendencies associated with avoidant attachment.

In this episode, we talk about…

-Typical relationship challenges for those of us with an avoidant attachment style.

-How attachment science can help us understand our relationship patterns (specifically those toxic or unhealthy ones that we just tend to keep re-creating in our lives).

-The importance of separating chemistry versus compatibility for long-term relationship satisfaction.

-Conscious dating and how empowering that process can be when we have this attachment insight.

-The importance of knowing your values and needs so that you make wiser relationship decisions.

-And most importantly, connecting to your authentic (aka secure self) for true personal and relational fulfillment.

Book a free Clarity Call with Jessica to learn about Attachment Coaching:

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How Our Attachment Styles Affect Our Break-Ups With Lucy Price Sep 30, 2024

On this podcast the podcast we have Lucy Price. Lucy is a breakup and relationship coach who helps individuals heal from heartbreak, get over their exes, and create fulfilling lives. Lucy specializes in guiding clients through the emotional challenges of breakups, teaching self-love, and helping them rebuild confidence and clarity for the future.

We talk about: -How our attachment styles are reflected in a breakup. -How to navigate a breakup depending on our attachment tendencies. -Going no contact and is that the best move?

-Filling the void when we are feeling lonely.

-When its time to start dating again or enter a new relationship.

-Tools on how to get over your ex, heal from the heartbreak, and move forward in the most empowering way…

And so much more—Including intimate details about our own break up journeys.

Attachment Coaching With Jessica:

My secure Self (3 month Group Coaching Program)

One-on-one Attachment Coaching

www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

@thejessicadasilva

Contact Lucy Price:

IG: @lucy.m.price

TikTok: @lucy.m.price

Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Podcast: Breakups and Breakthroughs

An Inside Look into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Mind With Licensed Therapist Patch McCormick Sep 17, 2024

Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to agree to come onto my podcast and share his personal experience with having a dismissive avoidant attachment style and his process over the years to becoming more secure.

We talk about:

-How our hypermasculine society reinforces the dismissive avoidant attachment style characteristics and behaviors.

-The importance of normalizing male emotionality.

-Common dismissive avoidant fears hindering them from commitment.

-What makes a “safe partner” and motivates them to change.

-Debunking the misconception that dismissive avoidants don't have feelings and don't want relationships.

-Why avoidants are subconsciously attracted to anxious attachers (and vice versa).

-How avoidant and anxious attachers can actually serve as catalysts for each others individual growth and healing.

-How to best determine when to stay or leave your relationship with an avoidant attacher.

-Strategies Patch has used to overcome his avoidant attachment style and earn secure attachment.

Contact Patch:

www.talktopatch.com

Instagram: @talktopatch

Attachment Coaching with Jessica:

One-on-one Coaching (10 weeks)

My Secure Self Group Coaching (12 weeks)

Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens) Sep 10, 2024

I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach.

In this episode I share:

-How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up.

-How I've been navigating the 5 stages of grief and it's natural highs and lows.

-Entering the dating app world!

-Opening myself up to new experiences (and people).

-Navigating my fearful avoidant and anxious attachment tendencies as they surface while dating.

Work with me:

⁠My Secure Self Group Coaching (3 month)⁠

⁠1-1 Attachment Coaching (10 weeks)⁠

How to Not "Attach" Quickly When Dating Sep 03, 2024

Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away.

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A Males Perspective on Having an Anxious Attachment Style With Jason Berry Jul 31, 2024

Today on the podcast, we have Jason Berry. He is a podcaster, entrepreneur, and amateur Hyrax athlete. A few months ago, I was a guest speaker on his podcast @awakenoutofcontext, where we discussed attachment styles. I loved his vulnerability and personal insights so much that I invited him onto my podcast to talk more about his experience with having an anxious attachment style. In this episode, he shares: -A male's perspective on having an anxious attachment style. -Dating as an anxious attacher. -The anxious attachments' natural inclination and attraction to people with an avoidant attachment style. -His experience with shifting from anxious to avoidant attachment after heartbreak. -How alcohol exacerbated his insecurities as an anxious attachment style. -How he better navigates his insecurities as someone who aims to be more secure. Find Jason here: linktr.ee/awakenoutofjason Instagram: @awakenoutofjason Attachment Coaching with Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

The Attachment Styles and Taking Things Personally Jul 24, 2024

If you have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style, it’s most likely you are self-conscious and therefore take things personally. This can be problematic as we can distort the reality of a situation and therefore engage in self-sabotaging behaviors. In this episode, I share how each insecure attachment style takes things personally, the implications, and how to stop. ——— My Secure Self Group Coaching Program: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-case-study

How the Attachment Styles Experience Being Single Jun 23, 2024

In this weeks podcast episode I talk about how anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure attachments experience single-hood and ways to navigate these often challenging phases with more ease. —— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Recovering From Heartbreak (Through a Secure Lens) Jun 03, 2024

In this episode, I share my personal experience of recovering from my recent breakup of almost 7 years (from a secure approach).

Is the grass greener on the other side? Tune in to learn more :)

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1-1 Attachment Coaching With Me: https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2

How to Communicate With Someone Who Has Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style May 27, 2024

Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to communicate with someone who has a fearful avoidant attachment style.——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How to Communicate With Someone Who Has a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style May 14, 2024

Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication. ——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How to Communicate With Someone Who Has an Anxious Attachment Style May 08, 2024

Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are, how to address them with those you love, and helpful tips on how to communicate effectively to create emotional intimacy. ——— Attachment Coaching (for individual’s and couples) - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Four Steps to Connect to Your “Secure Self” Apr 24, 2024

In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity. —— Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

To Stay or Break-up? Leaving My Relationship of Six Years (Personal Share) Apr 04, 2024

Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself. ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Overcoming Relationship Jealousy With Shanenn Bryant Mar 14, 2024

Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about: -How jealousy can manifest in your relationships. -How to change your relationship to jealousy. -Viewing jealousy as a symptom and solution to your underlying attachment wounds. -Steps to navigate jealousy in a healthy, secure way. ——— Find Shanenn: Website- www.topself.com Instagram- @topselfcoach ——— Find Jessica: Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram- @thejessicadasilva

Trauma Recovery for Attachment Styles With Rowan Garlow Mar 01, 2024

Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma. We talk about: -What is trauma recovery work? -What attachment trauma looks like specifically. -How trauma manifests in our behaviors. -Why your “over-reactions” are gateways to your healing. -How to heal attachment trauma. ——— Find Rowan: Website- www.rowangarlow.com Instagram- @rowangarlow ——— Find Jessica: Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram- @thejessicadasilva

Why We Tolerate Difficult Relationships Feb 19, 2024

In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations. —— Find me here: 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram - @thejessicadasilva

Simplifying the Four Attachment Styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley Feb 08, 2024

Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style). -Strengths and challenges of each attachment style. -How knowing the relationship styles help us in dating and relationships. -If incompatible attachment style dynamics can work out for the long haul. -Tips to make incompatible attachment styles within relationships work. (Ex, anxious and avoidant) -How to shift from insecure to secure attachment from a realistic standpoint. Find Anita: www.dranitakunhley.com Instagram: @the.empathetic.counselor ——— Find Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Compromise Within Relationships with Imani Tutt Feb 01, 2024

Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising. ——- Find Imani here: https://imaniintouch.com Instagram: @imani.intouch ——- Find Jessica here: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

Difference Between Relationship Anxiety and Relationship OCD with Dr. Holly Batchelder Jan 24, 2024

In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life. You can find Dr. Holly here: instagram: holly.phd webiste: www.hollyphd.com podcast: twinmindsunwind ——— You can learn more about attachment coaching and e-courses here: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Difference Between Needs and Expectations Jan 05, 2024

In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

How To Stop Attracting Toxic People Dec 27, 2023

In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

How Alcoholic Parent(s) Influence the Development of Our Attachment Style Dec 18, 2023

PODCAST In this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

How I Navigate the Distance in My Relationship (Anxious - Avoidant Dynamic) Dec 08, 2023

In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

How To Navigate Relationship Ambivalence (Aka, Confusion and Indecision) Nov 29, 2023

Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.

Putting Myself First with Alicia (Client Stories) Nov 24, 2023

Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant areas of her life. ——————— $300 OFF Coupon Code: FLASHSALE https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ——————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How to Measure Your Progress in Developing a Secure Attachment Style Nov 16, 2023

Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately. ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How Each Attachment Style Experiences 5 Stages of a Relationship Oct 26, 2023

Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant). ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Normalizing “The Icks” in Dating and Relationships with Kelsey Wonderlin Oct 10, 2023

Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many of us have been taught about what a healthy relationship looks like. In this episode, we dive deep into relationship anxiety, the realities of dating, and how to better differentiate what is our insecurity versus what is our truth. Kelsey Wonderlin: https://coaching.kelseywonderlin.com/ —— Jessica Da Silva: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Navigating a Break-Up As Someone With an Anxious Attachment Style with Alexa (Client Stories) Oct 02, 2023

Today we have a special guest, Alexa. She is a mother, a humanitarian, a leader, a former client of mine, and just a beautiful soul who was willing to come onto the podcast and share her story of navigating love with an anxious attachment style, how understanding attachment theory brought so much clarity to her marriage, the challenges that come with anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics, her grieving process with the recent separation of her marriage and the lessons she has learned through all of it. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Can We Change Our Attachment Style? (The Honest Truth) Sep 26, 2023

In this episode, I share what research says about whether we can actually change our attachment style. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Realities for Insecure Attachers in Relationships Sep 07, 2023

In this episode, I share some hard truths about how insecure attachments (anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant variations) experience relationships in hopes of cultivating more self-acceptance and realistic expectations for themselves and others. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Normalizing Insecurities and Relationship Anxiety Aug 23, 2023

In this episode, I share my experience with relationship anxiety in hopes of normalizing the ebbs and flows that naturally occur in relationships, especially those with insecure attachments. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Why Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Attract Each Other Aug 15, 2023

In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond. These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

How Understanding Attachment Styles Can Help Your Relationships Aug 08, 2023

In this episode, I share how understanding attachment styles can help your relationships in a multitude of ways. This includes relationships with partner, friends, family, and colleagues. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

Differences Between Coaching and Therapy Aug 02, 2023

In this episode, I share some major differences between coaching and therapy, in order to help you identify which approach is best for you. I also share why I transitioned from working as a Mental Health Therapist to an Attachment Coach. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

Set Boundaries & Reclaim Your Power with Arnie (Client Stories) Jun 20, 2023

What you'll learn… * The challenges of co-parenting and how to navigate it in a secure way * The importance of setting boundaries to reclaim your power * How to identify red flags in a relationship * Overcoming toxic relationships * Dating as a single mom ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How Attachment Styles May Self-Sabotage Dating & Relationships Jun 12, 2023

What you'll learn… * Defining relationship self-sabotage. * How each attachment style (including secure attachments) may sabotage dating and relationships. * Why they behave in these unhealthy ways. * How to stop pushing those you love away. ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Unhealthy Vs. Healthy Ways Attachment Styles Communicate Needs May 26, 2023

What you’ll learn in this episode: -Why we have difficulty communicating our needs. -The consequences of not communicating our needs directly. -How each attachment style communicates their needs. -Healthier ways of communicating your needs to create relationship satisfaction. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

How Each Attachment Style Parents Their Children May 19, 2023

What you’ll learn in this episode: -How each attachment style parents their children. -How to form secure bonds with your children. -Why you shouldn’t feel bad about your parenting style. -Why it’s important to break these generational patterns. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

Navigating Relationship Anxiety For Fearful Avoidant Attachment with Bouket (Client Stories) May 02, 2023

In this episode, former client, Bouket, shares her experience navigating her fearful avoidant attachment style. We touch on relationship anxiety, intuition vs. fear, finding secure love, managing triggers, balancing the masculine/feminine, and so much more. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

What If Your Relationship Needs Change? Apr 18, 2023

In this episode, I share how common it is for our relationship needs to change, how that impacts our life, how to identify what those needs are, and how to navigate those insecurities in a healthy way. 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

Saving My Relationship Through Saving Myself (A personal share on meeting my needs) Jan 16, 2023

Why did I move away from my fiancé after getting engaged? In this episode, I share my personal experience with saving my relationship through saving myself. Also, how to know the difference between self-sacrifice versus self-neglect. ______ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course —— 10% discount code: MEETMYNEEDS

Anxious Attachments & Long Distance Relationships with Zahirah Evitt Dec 27, 2022

Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Attachment Styles and Hook-Ups Nov 18, 2022

Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Honoring Your Anxious Attachment Style and Creating More Security with Chris Rackliffe Oct 27, 2022

Today's guest is Chris Rackliffe. Chris is an author and Anxious Attachment Coach who shares his personal story, wisdom, and tips to guiding anxious attachers into more joy and fulfillment. Book: It’s Good To See Me Again Tiktok: @crackliffe Instagram: @crackliffe ------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Benefits of Dating Each Attachment Style Oct 18, 2022

My Secure Self E-Course https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How Attachment Styles Cope With Relationship Anxiety (Activating & Deactivating Strategies) Oct 08, 2022

In this episode, I talk about how the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant) cope with relationship anxiety. ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How To Reverse The “Caretaker Role” (for anxious and fearful avoidant attachments) Oct 01, 2022

In this episode, I talk about how (and why) anxious and fearful avoidant attachments identify as “caretaker”, “savior” and/or “fixer” in their relationships and how to shift these roles in order to promote more balanced relationships. ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

The Feminine and Masculine Polarity of Attachment Styles with Natalie Kennedy Sep 21, 2022

In this episode, Relationship Anxiety Coach and founder of Anxious Love Coach, Natalie Kennedy, shares her personal experience with relationship anxiety, her process for managing this anxiety, the multidimensionality of attachment styles, as well as how she uses feminine and masculine polarity to create balanced relationships. ______________ Natalie Kennedy: Instagram @anxiouslovecoach Website: www.anxiouslovecoach.com ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Owning Your Anxious Attachment Style with Rikki Cloos Sep 14, 2022

In this episode, writer and content creator behind @anxiousheartsguide, Rikki Cloos, shares the healing power of owning your anxious attachment style. She also gives tons of helpful insights and tips on how to become more securely attached yourself. ______________ Rikki Cloos: Instagram @anxiousheartsguide Book: The Anxious Hearts Guide ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How To Soothe Your Anxiety with Gabrielle Gonzalez, LMFT Sep 08, 2022

In this episode, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Mindfulness Expert Gabrielle Gonzalez shares her challenges with having an Anxious Attachment Style and how self-soothing has helped her cultivate more security within herself and her relationships. Gabrielle shares the benefits of emotional regulation on the brain overt time, as well as some quick tips and strategies for all attachment styles to use when they're feeling anxious. ————————— Gabrielle Contact: ggonzalez@mindfulrevampinc.com Website: https://www.mindfulrevampinc.com Instagram: @gabriellerosegonzalez ______________ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ______________ Find Jessica: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How We Restored Our Fearful Avoidant Mother/Daughter Relationship with Jessica and Denise Da Silva Sep 01, 2022

My goal with this podcast is to give you guys an inside look into my relationship with my mother. If you’ve been listening for a while, you know my mom has played a huge role in my prior fearful avoidant attachment style. Even though we have our rough patches till this day, we’ve both learned to become more secure in our own ways, thus helping us maintain our relationship. ______________ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How Each Attachment Style Manages Financial Insecurity Within Relationships With Ed Coambs Aug 23, 2022

In this episode, Ed Coambs, a Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Financial Therapist & Planner, talks about how each attachment style experiences financial anxiety within a relationship and insights on how to approach it in healthier, secure ways. ————————— Find Ed Here: Website: www.healthyloveandmoney.com Book: The Healthy Love & Money Way: How The Four Attachment Styles Impact Your Financial Well-Being. Course: The Couples Guide to Financial Intimacy Instagram: @healthyloveandmoney https://www.instagram.com/healthyloveandmoney/ ______________ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Healing My Avoidant Attachment Wounds with Ren Russ Aug 16, 2022

In this episode, guest speaker Ren Russ talks about her challenges in dating and relationships with having an avoidant attachment style. Ren speaks to the complexities and the multidimensional nature of our attachment style(s). If you’re ready to understand the fears that drive the avoidant’s behaviors and how to become more secure, definitely tune into this conversation. ————————— Ren Russ Contact: neonphoenixinc@gmail.com Instagram: @blondelobotomy ______________ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ______________ Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

What To Do When Your Needs Are Not Being Met Aug 11, 2022

In this episode, I talk about some key essential elements for deciphering whether your needs are or are not being met in your relationship and what to do. This episode will give you clarity moving forward. ————————— Values List: https://drive.google.com/file/d/16wyOMzM749bJVtWIAi1dNX89qvxWB_0c/view?usp=sharing My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ______________ Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

The Relationship Survival Kit w/ Jessica Da Silva and Jemma Joel Aug 03, 2022

Todays podcast episode is a little different as I am sharing an interview in which I was a guest on Jemma Joels The Dating Diaries Podcast. I loved our conversation so much that I asked her if I could share the episode on my personal podcast as we touch on a lot of commonly asked questions: —How to create a healthy and happy relationship considering our attachment styles?—How to tell someone’s attachment style in the early stages of dating? —The difference between self sacrifice and self neglect within a relationship? And lots of good tips and tools on how these experiences… ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Jemma Joel info: Podcast: The Dating Diaries Instagram: @thedatingdiaries__ —————————- Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Healing My Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style with Meghan (Client Stories) Jul 28, 2022

In this episode, former coaching client Meghan Kelley shares her journey of beginning overcome her fearful avoidant attachment style and her favorite tools to becoming more secure. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

From Fearful Avoidant To Secure Love with Priyanka Y. (Client Stories) Jul 27, 2022

In this episode, Intimacy and Dating Coach Priyanka Yadvendu shares her story of healing her Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and finally experiencing her first secure relationship. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Priyanka’s instagram @wildyintimate —————————- Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Attachment Type Combinations in Relationships Jul 13, 2022

In this episode, I talk about how each attachment style experiences relationships with other attachment styles and tips to mitigate certain challenges that arise with these specific dynamics. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How Each Attachment Style Deals With Break-Ups Jul 07, 2022

In this episode, I talk about how each attachment style deals with break-ups…From their general thoughts and feelings to their behavioral responses. This will help you understand what they may be experiencing through an attachment lens. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Breaking Generational Patterns of Attachment Jun 27, 2022

Learn about how attachment trauma gets passed down from generation to generation and how to begin breaking these painful cycles! ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

What Setting Boundaries in My Relationship Looks Like May 25, 2022

What does setting boundaries in a relationship look like?—-In this episode, I share my experience of lacking boundaries in the past and the impact it had on my attachment style + what setting boundaries has looked like in my current relationship. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Why Fear of Abandonment Is the Root of Attachment Insecurity and How To Shift It May 03, 2022

In this episode, I shed light on why abandonment is the root of our attachment insecurities, what abandonment looks like, how we respond to it in regards to our attachment style and my go-to process of reframing these fears into secure ways of operating. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Exploring The Anxious and Avoidant Relationship Dynamic with Morgan Bolender and Scott Ferreter Apr 20, 2022

In this episode, I interview Morgan Bolender and Scott Ferreter from the band The Feelings Parade about their relationship/band dynamic and how their attachment styles have manifested in their love lives. Their transparency sheds light on the uniqueness of each relationship. ————————— The Feelings Parade @thefeelingsparade https://link.thefeelingsparade.com/Loose_Boards ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Self-Sacrifice vs. Self-Neglect and When To Let Go of a Relationship Apr 12, 2022

In this episode, I talk about the difference between self-sacrifice and self-neglect and when to let go of a relationship. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Attachment Styles & Job Insecurities (Anxious and Fearful Avoidant) Mar 31, 2022

In this episode, I talk about how attachment styles experience insecurities that arise in work + career. I also share tips on how to reframe these insecure thought patterns into secure belief systems. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Healing My Anxious Attachment Style with Priyanka S. (Client Stories) Mar 22, 2022

In this episode, social worker and former coaching client, Priyanka Sahajpal, shares her journey, her challenges, her victories with healing her attachment style and embodying her secure self. This episode has tons of wisdom, relatable examples and tools to help you on your journey as well. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Priyanka Sahajpal (Instagram): @priyankaelohel Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Fearful Avoidant’s and Their Conflicted State of Mind Mar 16, 2022

In this episode, we talk about the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and their conflicted + self-sabotaging ways of experiencing love. I also share my favorite therapeutic strategies to begin cultivating a secure attachment style. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Astrology and Attachment Styles with Natalie Holbrook Mar 10, 2022

In this episode, Natalie Holbrook and I talk about attachment styles and how astrology can help us understand these relationship patterns in more intricate ways. ————————— Natalie Holbrook info: Instagram: @risewithnatalie https://natalieholbrookwellness.com ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Why cultivating a Secure Attachment Style shifts everything in your life Mar 04, 2022

In this episode I share why buying an Audi helped me embody my Secure Self. Cultivating a secure attachment style shifts our relationship to everything in life!———-My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

My Journey to Secure Attachment (And why you can also change!) Feb 22, 2022

In this episode, I share my experience of growing up with a Fearful Avoidant / Anxious Attachment Style, how our attachment styles get passed down from generation to generation, and why we can change. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Anxious Attachment’s when ACTIVATED (Experiencing Relationship Anxiety) Feb 20, 2022

In this episode, I talk about how Anxious Attachment Styles experience relationship anxiety, where it comes from and what it looks like when their attachment system is activated. This episode will shed light on your attachment traumas and patterns. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Before Entering A New Relationship….(do this first) Jan 28, 2022

My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

How To Soothe Your Relationship Anxiety (for all attachment styles) Jan 27, 2022

In this episode, I talk about what relationship anxiety looks like for each of the attachment styles, how we respond to it and healthier ways to manage these anxieties. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Attachment Styles and Co-Dependency Jan 20, 2022

In this episode, I share how each attachment style experiences co-dependency and how to begin breaking those relational patterns. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How You Went From An Anxious To An Avoidant Attachment Style Jan 13, 2022

I’m this episode, I share how we can go from an Anxious to an Avoidant Attachment Style and steps to bring yourself back into balance. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Anxious Attachment Truth Bombs: Understanding the root causes to their behaviors. Jan 03, 2022

In this episode, we talk about certain major misconceptions of the anxious attachment style and the underlying roots to these “troublesome” behaviors. I also share tools on how to become more secure. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Avoidant Attachment Truth Bombs : Understanding the root cause to their behaviors. Jan 01, 2022

In this episode, I humanize the avoidant attachment’s most troublesome behaviors by discussing the root causes. I also give you practical steps to shift from avoidant to secure attachment. ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Understanding The Fearful Avoidant Attachment & My Personal Story Dec 03, 2021

In this weeks episode, I do a deep dive into the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (aka Disorganized or Anxious-Avoidant Attachment) and share my personal story of how I developed a Fearful Avoidant Attachment and my journey to security. —————————My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Attachment Styles & The 4 Types of Boundaries Nov 24, 2021

In this episode, I talk about the 4 types of boundaries and how each attachment style experiences those boundaries. I also share steps on how to begin cultivating healthier boundaries in order to navigate the uncertainties of life with more freedom and grace. —————————My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Relationship Deal Breakers For Each Attachment Style Nov 03, 2021

In this episode, I talk about common relationship deal breakers for each attachment style and how to determine if your relationship is worth fighting for and when it’s possibly time to call it quits. —————————My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Attachment Styles and Friendship Oct 18, 2021

In this episode, I talk about how the 4 attachment styles experience friendships differently. This understanding will help you have more compassion for your experiences, for other people and hopefully guide you into more secure attachment. —————————My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Should Insecure Attachment Styles Be In A Relationship? Oct 08, 2021

In this episode, I talk about why you should or shouldn’t be in a relationship if you have an insecure attachment style. There is so much healing to be had if you go into a relationship with the right intentions, and on the contrary, a lot of damage that can be done if our hearts aren’t in the right place… ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Why Each Attachment Style May Cheat Sep 27, 2021

In this episode, I share research studies of why each attachment style (anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant & secure) may cheat from a psychological and attachment perspective. Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com ——— Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching

Anxious Attachments & SEX Sep 21, 2021

In this episode, you will learn why anxious attachments use sex as a go-to coping mechanism for relationship anxiety, where it comes from, if it’s “bad” or “fixable” and how to begin challenging these ways of experiencing love so that you can cultivate more inner security. Anxious to Secure Attachment Meditation: https://youtu.be/fmE8bKiQfiA Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com ———My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching

Can You Be More Than One Attachment Style? Sep 19, 2021

In this episode, you will learn why you can have more than one attachment orientation and the different influences that factor into your multidimensional attachment style. I also share my personal story of transitioning from anxious to fearful avoidant to secure attachment in hopes that you gain a better understanding of how attachments work in our lives. ———My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How To Support Your Avoidant Partner Sep 10, 2021

In this episode, I share 5 ways in how you can best support your avoidant partner. We go deep into understanding their attachment traumas, the result of these traumas, and how other attachment types (especially anxious styles) can live more harmoniously with their avoidant partner. ———My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

How To Stop Needing So Much Reassurance From Your Partner Sep 07, 2021

Do you feel as though you constantly need validation, reassurance or connection with your partner? If so, this episode is for you! Learn where you learned these ways of relating, how it plays out in your relationships and steps to becoming more secure! ——— Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Why Are Anxious and Avoidant Attachments Attracted To Each Other? Sep 03, 2021

In this episode, I briefly share the psychology behind why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other. This is the most common attachment dynamic, however also the most complicated one due to subconscious factors. Hopefully this episode will give you some clarity! ———My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Introduction To The 4 Attachment Styles Sep 02, 2021

In this episode, I talk about what Attachment Theory is, how it was developed within us and what the 4 different attachment styles look like. ——— Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Why We Must Listen To How We Feel Aug 29, 2021

In this episode I share my personal experience of my last 3 months traveling the U.S. with my boyfriend and the impact it had on my mental and physical health. We often overlook our feelings, not being aware of the intelligence they hold, and I hope that this personal experience will help you shift your relationship and perspective to your emotions so that you can start using them as your personal guides! Cultivating emotional intelligence is KEY to having a secure attachment. ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

I CHANGED MY PODCAST! Aug 28, 2021

Hello! Long time no chat! As my coaching work has evolved, so have my platforms. I wanted to focus this channel on helping you better understand the Attachment Theory framework as it pertains to your life and your relationships. This will be a space for transparent, vulnerable and relatable sharings in hopes you can easily digest and implement these learnings into your own life. Enjoy.

We Stop Pedestaling Our Partner By Adding Value To Our Own Life Dec 05, 2020

One of the biggest reasons why many of us don’t leave our partners is because we’ve put them on a pedestal, meaning, we’ve exalted them in such a way that we don’t feel as worthy or valued without their presence in our lives. In this episode, I talk about how this “pedestaling” has played a significant role in my love life and how to begin adding more value to your own life so that you can feel innately worthy with it without them.

“Healing Alone Vs. Within A Relationship” with Jessica Da Silva Jul 06, 2020

In this episode, I answer the question that so many wonder: “Can I heal within a relationship or should I be alone?” Whether you’re thinking about taking a break for a solo healing journey or committing again to a relationship, this conversation will surely shed light on your decision as I share my own personal journey of becoming whole (and committing again) after a series of toxic relationships. Interested in Relationship Recovery Coaching? Visit: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

“Overcoming Self-Sabotage In Love & In Life” with Mezena Bagnall Jun 26, 2020

On this weeks podcast I speak with Habit Forming Health Coach Mezena Bagnall about her experience of transforming self-sabotaging behaviors, both in relationships and in life, into healthier ways of relating to herself and other’s. Her personal story is so inspiring and of course, I asked her to share some of her personal strategies so that you too can benefit from these amazing tools. Mezena Instagram: @Mezena Mezena email: mezena@live.ca

“From Victim Mentality To Finding Love + Purpose” with Inna Mel May 07, 2020

I’m this episode, Relationship Coach, Inna Mel shares her own personal story of breaking unhealthy relationship dynamics, her journey of self-discovery & healing, as well as tools she learned along the way, which she now gets to teach to her 1:1 coaching clients. Inna’s Website: www.innamel.com Instagram: @iaminnamel ————————— Empowered Living Coaching Program: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/

“Human Design + Love” with Kelly Roland Apr 17, 2020

In this weeks episode, Human Design expert Kelly Roland explains what Human Design is, the different types involved, and how knowing our type can better help us understand ourselves and our relationships. I’m super excited about sharing this conversation with you guys 💡Over the last few months, I’ve been diving deep into human design myself and have been resonating so much with this multifaceted system of understanding human behavior and our energy DNA. It’s also given me really great insight into my partners personality and our relationship dynamic as a whole. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! ——— Kelly Roland info: Instagram- @whenthestarsaligned_ You can see all of her offerings through her Instagram page.

“How Anorexia Impacted My Relationships” with Celina Stobbe Apr 01, 2020

In this episode, holistic mentor Celina Stobbe from @alignedwithcelina vulnerably shares her story about her 8 year recovery process from anorexia. We talk about the many factors that fed into her dieting obsession, the repercussions it had on her relationships and how she’s using her story to help other women today. ——- Celina’s info: www.alignedwithcelina.com Instagram: @alignedwithcelina

"Finding Your Joy After A Cycle Of Toxic Dating Patterns" with Megan Lee Joy Feb 14, 2020

In this episode, actress and founder/host of TV show @findyourjoy.tv shares her experience of overcoming a long history of toxic dating patterns, guidance as to how she journeyed back to herself, as well as her beautiful perspectives on dating today! Find Megan here: Instagram: @meganleejoy Find Your Joy TV Show: findyourjoy.tv

"Seeking Your Bliss" with Shealyn Ivany Dec 20, 2019

In this episode, Shealyn shares her struggles with anxiety and depression, what that looked like for her, and how she was able to finally accept and embrace her experience. With this new found knowledge (and strength), she now shares self-development and mindset tips, advice and ideas on her blog livingembrace.ca. --------- More Info: "Empowered Living" 8 Week 1:1 Coaching Program with Jessica Da Silva - https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/

“Overcoming Maternal Narcissistic Abuse” with Amanda White Nov 27, 2019

In this week's episode, Amanda and I dive deep into: ·Narcisstic abuse ·What it was like for her to grow up in a chaotic & negligent household ·The effects of having a mother who lacks empathy & the extent to which a person will go in order to get that validation & love from a parent ·How we re-create painful past experiences in our current lives ·The benefits of not saving or enabling our parents bad behaviors ·Being "perfect" or "productive" to gain a parents love ·Creating healthy boundaries with toxic parents ·Letting go of the guilt and shame ·How she found her new identity once she broke free from who people needed her to be I can't tell you how amazing this podcast was. So healing to have someone bring these issues to light. ----- Amanda's Info: www.breakupwithyourmother.com Instagram: @breakupwithyourmother Facebook: Breakup with your mother Jessica's 8-week "Empowered Living" Coaching Program: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/

"Thriving With Anxiety" with Lisa Poe Nov 14, 2019

In this episode, Lisa shares her long journey with Anxiety and Panic Disorder (since age 6), emphasizing that knowledge was really the key factor in her healing process. In our talk, we explore the nature to her anxiety and different methods she uses to thrive amongst it. Now, Lisa shares her story openly on different platforms, allowing others to find peace and empowerment within their own stuggles with anxiety...Such a powerful talk! You don't wanna miss. Lisa Poe info: www.adventuresandanxiety.com Instagram: @adventuresandanxiety To learn more about "Empowered Living” 8 week private coaching program, visit: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/

Committing Again After A Cycle of Toxic Relationships Oct 31, 2019

In Episode #6, I am personally sharing with you my experience of committing to a new relationship after a long cycle of toxic relationships. I also share with you tools and techniques that I used on myself and that I use with coaching clients to overcome unresolved emotions keeping us stuck in unhealthy patterns and to maintain peace & harmony in our current relationships. They're amazing and so effective! If you're interested in coaching with me one-on-one to overcome your own patterns of toxic relationships and finally experience healthy love, visit: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/

“Embracing Motherhood” w/ Lauren Lee Oct 10, 2019

In this episode, meditation teacher and founder of @innerrebel.co shares her experience of the shame around unexpected pregnancy, the judgments she overcame from the traditional ideals that so many of us hold about what starting a family "should look like", and finding empowerment & fulfillment from fully embracing motherhood. Truly a rebel at heart, Lauren sought out to create her own meaning and a life she wanted, despite opposing views. And now, she is sharing her story publicly for the first time on my podcast (which is so awesome 👏🏽) and has been on a mission to help people think more deeply about their life so they can find their own personal freedom. Lauren Lee Info: Instagram: innerrebel.co App: Insight Timer (meditations) Resources Lauren suggests for parents: The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children https://g.co/kgs/iPfjJu Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide https://g.co/kgs/96qS6f https://www.handinhandparenting.org https://insig.ht/9zKtdzMT8Z

“Work/Life Balance” with Alia Elasmar Sep 27, 2019

In Episode #5, Mental Health Therapist (and former colleague) Alia Elasmar shares her struggles with work/life balance, the implications of working in a toxic environment, the physical & emotional ramifications it had on her life and what she did/learned through the process in order to experience more fulfillment in her career and in her personal life.

“From Perfectionist To Work In Progress” with Melina Charis Sep 06, 2019

In Episode #4, Writer and Mindset Coach, Melina Charis, shares her journey with overcoming perfectionism and how she managed her crippling anxiety. Melina goes in depth with her struggle with the inner critic, imposter syndrome, creating healthy boundaries with social media, finding her passion through trying new things, as well as using creativity and mindfulness as a catalyst to her growth and well-being. Melina’s info: www.melinacharis.com Instagram: @melinacharis

“Healing From Broken Friendships” with Gabrielle Rose Gonzalez Aug 22, 2019

In Episode #3, Mental Health Therapist (and fellow colleague) Gabrielle Rose Gonzalez discusses her grieving process from recently broken friendships and how she turned her pain into peace and power through creative expressions. Gabrielle Instagram: @sugarforthepsyche ------ For more info on my digital Masterclass "From Pain To Peace, Power & Purpose" visit https://mailchi.mp/ab98d2338130/masterclass

“Self-Empowerment” with Julie Nelson Aug 08, 2019

In this week's episode, Life + Mindset Coach Julie Nelson shares her life long journey of battling anxiety & depression, as well as how she overcame the stigma of her experience with postpartum depression, sharing the tools she gained to create peace within these challenges, power in her breakdowns, and purpose as she now serves to empower other mom's to create more fulfillment and joy in their daily lives. Julie's website: www.julienelsoncoaching.com Julie's Instagram: @julienelsoncoaching ---------------------------- Want to join or learn more about Jessica's "From Pain to Peace, Power & Purpose" Digital Group Coaching Program? Visit this link --> https://mailchi.mp/1b05b45cd383/program

“Spiritual Awakening” with Jim Rawson Jul 18, 2019

In this episode I chat with Jim about his spiritual and healing journey which has changed his life forever. What some may call a mental disorder, Jim & many others believe to be a spiritual awakening.

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