Stay ConnectedBest Friends, Kristin and Tessa, have been through a lot in their 12 years of friendship. Now that they are unexpectedly living together again in a mommune as single, divorced, mom’s they want to share what they’ve learned on this new, deep, healing journey they are on, in hopes that it will help you on your healing journey…or help you make better choices for your life!
Join us each week as we share how to GROW through it while you’re going through it.
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Welcome to the first guest episode! This week Susie joins us to talk about going through an unhealthy relationship that ended in betrayal, how to help yourself on the journey to heal from relationship trauma, and what dating has been like after going through that. Susie is an old friend of Kristin's and later in the episode we talk about how to keep yourself safe when dating by setting boundaries and raising your standards, journal prompts you can do to get very clear on what you are looking for in a partner, and the struggles of modern dating.
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In this episode Kristin share some annoying advice that is actually great advice to help pull you out of a funk. She goes over 15 small actions to take that will start a snowball effect and guide you towards feeling better.
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This season we want to connect with you on a deeper level and build a community that provides love and support growing through life and so we have started a Patreon! There are 4 different tiers - ranging from a virtual hug (if you want to support our mission but don't need the extra support from us) all the way to one-on-one chats. Plus a tier that gives you access to the Patreon ONLY monthly Podcast episode.
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This week's episode is short and sweet. Kristin is sharing 6 of her favorite podcasts that have helped her on her personal growth and healing journey.
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This season we want to connect with you on a deeper level and build a community that provides love and support growing through life and so we have started a Patreon! There are 4 different tiers - ranging from a virtual hug (if you want to support our mission but don't need the extra support from us) all the way to one-on-one chats. Plus a tier that gives you access to the Patreon ONLY monthly Podcast episode.
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In this episode Kristin solo and talking about the practice of Mudita and how it has helped her forgive her ex-husband and the woman he cheated with.
The concept of Mudita can be applied to anyone you are struggling to forgive or feel compassion and empathy for.
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In this episode Kristin is solo and talking about not apologizing for existing and not being perfect. She goes over areas where you might be saying "i'm sorry" and not even realize it.
Implementing these mindful, micro changes in your life may help you feel more confident and allow you to take up space proudly.
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In this episode Kristin is answering the questions:
How do I cope with sharing custody of my child?
What can I do when my child expresses not wanting to go to the other parents house?
Did I do the right thing by leaving, or would it be better if I stayed so I didn't have to be separated from my child(ren).
Links to Kid's Books mentioned in this episode:
When my Parents Forgot how to be Friends
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Have you gone through something in life that completely wrecked you, but you decided to grow through it instead of just go through it? Did you just answer yes?! Well then we want you to be a guest on the podcast!
Please send us a DM on Instagram @letsgrowthrough it and let us know your story and how you've started healing and growing through it. If it feels like a good fit for the podcast we would love to help you share that story with others.
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This season we want to connect with you on a deeper level and build a community that provides love and support growing through life and so we have started a Patreon! There are 4 different tiers - ranging from a virtual hug (if you want to support our mission but don't need the extra support from us) all the way to one-on-one chats.
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In this episode Kristin is solo and talking about how to regulate emotions. She goes over 6 different difficult emotions and feelings, how to work through them in a healthy way, and gives personal life examples of when she dealt with each one.
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WE WANT YOU TO JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY!
This season we want to connect with you on a deeper level and build a community that provides love and support growing through life and so we have started a Patreon! There are 4 different tiers - ranging from a virtual hug (if you want to support our mission but don't need the extra support from us) all the way to one-on-one chats.
Check it out by going to the link below and as always, thank you so much for your support!
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If you are just starting your self love journey, or even if you have been at it for years, this week's episode will inspire you to start incorporate these 5 simple habits into your life to love yourself better.
This week Kristin in solo and sharing 5 habits she started doing at the beginning of her self love journey which started after leaving her marriage that ended because of infidelity.
WE WANT YOU TO JOIN OUR PATREON COMMUNITY!
This season we want to connect with you on a deeper level and build a community that provides love and support growing through life and so we have started a Patreon! There are 4 different tiers - ranging from a virtual hug (if you want to support our mission but don't need the extra support from us) all the way to one-on-one chats.
Check it out by going to the link below and as always, thank you so much for your support!
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In this episode we talk about how the body keeps the score and all the symptoms that Kristin's body was trying to tell her that she was not safe while she was getting cheated on. We touch on 13 different symptoms that showed up and how they continue to show up each year around the anniversary of the discovery date.
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This season we want to connect with you on a deeper level and build a community that provides love and support growing through life and so we have started a Patreon! There are 4 different tiers - ranging from a virtual hug (if you want to support our mission but don't need the extra support from us) all the way to one-on-one chats.
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WE ARE BACK! In light of Tessa bringing a new baby earthside, we decided to kick off Season 2 with an episode sharing our experiences with pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum. We have 4 very different experiences between the two of us and touch on the topics of "pain free" birth, birth complications, interventions, becoming a mom, grieving the loss of the old you while loving the new mom you, postpartum struggles, depression, joys, and growing through it all!
WE ARE SO EXCITED TO INTRODUCE OUR PATREON!
This season we want to connect with you on a deeper level and build a community that provides love and support growing through life and so we have started a Patreon! There are 4 different tiers - ranging from a virtual hug (if you want to support our mission but don't need the extra support from us) all the way to one-on-one chats.
Check it out by going to the link below and as always, thank you so much for your support!
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On the final episode of season 1 we are celebrating a divorce, a new baby, and sharing a few ways and reasons why you SHOULD NOT TAKE YOUR EX BACK WHEN THEY ARE BEGGING YOU.
Thank you for an amazing season 1, we are so thankful for all of you and we are excited to continue to grow and heal with you all in season 2!
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In this episode Kristin in Solo and is talking about how to be alone, but not lonely and touching on how you can be more lonely in a relationship than you are when you are single. She shares 13 different ways to find more happiness when you are alone. This episode it told through the lens of a single women, but a lot of the information could be applicable to anyone.
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After marrying and building a life with our trauma bonds (that we confused for soulmates) and watching those relationships end in divorce and even MORE trauma, we are sharing what we learned from examining our childhood trauma and seeing the patterns we subconsciously recreated in our relationships.
In this episode we dive deep into trauma bonds and soulmates and how to identify the difference between the two. We also touch on red flags and rebuilding trust with yourself during your healing so that you find the idea of ever dating a trauma bond so unattractive.
In this episode Kristin is solo and shares a little epiphany she had, and dives into and tries to answer the question "Does present you really care about x,y, and z, or is a past version of you getting triggered right now?"
Then she goes on to share how you can use this question to help let go of things from the past, live in the present, and make choices that will get you to the future your desire.
She shares a real life experience that recently happened where a past version of her got triggered and tried to mess up the present moment, but she lovingly noticed this and was able to move through it in a healthy way.
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Coping with the after math of betrayal in a relationship is quite possibly one of the hardest things you will ever have to work through, but there is light...so much light and beauty after betrayal! In this episode Kristin shares 4 ways that helped her cope in the early stages after finding out she had been getting cheated on for an entire year.
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In this episode Kristin and Tessa share a few different ways to process hard emotions after getting cheated on, that aren’t journaling and meditation. We had a listener reach out and say that journaling and meditation are the main recommendations she can find and that she is not able to connect with herself that way.
Through a little therapy session with each other we came up with several alternatives that may help you process those hard emotions in a different way and start healing and letting go of those hard emotions you face after betrayal.
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this week Kristin is solo (how fitting) and sharing 13 silver linings she's enjoyed the last year and a halfish as a single mom that shares custody a % of the time. Being a single mom comes with it’s struggles, but it also comes with a lot of silver linings.
Most moms don’t plan to become single moms, but for various reasons, a lot of us are here…and surprisingly, a lot of us find it easier to be single moms vs married (single) moms.
If you’re new to being a single mom or struggling to embrace life as a single mom it’s a good listen. And If you know any new single moms please share it with them!
At the end of the day, this is our reality now, so we may as well make the most of it!
In this episode we share our top 4 book recommendations that helped us rewire our mindset while going through betrayal and while healing in its aftermath. These books changed our mindsets and helped us so much on our healing journey and we hope they will do the same thing for you!
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The year is almost over and as you head into the new year, out of habit you can make New Year's resolutions that in 2 months you will most likely give up on. If you have a habit of not succeeding at New Year's resolutions, in this episode Kristin shares 6 alternative ways to set intentions for your new year.
Whatever you do and however you celebrate New Year's we hope you have the best 2024! We are so thankful that you have been a part of this healing journey with us in 2023 and we look forward to growing through it with you in 2024!
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In this Episode we take a little walk down memory lane and go through all the things people told us to do to get revenge on our ex's. We share a few maybe not so healthy ways we've gotten "revenge" and then we share the BEST way to actually get "revenge" on your ex.
In those first few weeks and months following a breakup/ a betrayal anger and seeking revenge can be the top things you feel and think about and we hope this episode offers you a little perspective shift about revenge.
What a YEAR 2023 has been! In this episode we compare where we were at last year, to where we are at this year. It's been a wild year, especially for Tessa who went from "heartbroken and leaving her cheating husband" to "In a healthy, happy relationship, engaged and has a baby on the way!"
We are living proof that life can drastically change, for the better, in one year, if you make healing and growing your priority.
Wake up, tomorrow is the 1st of the month! And it's the last month of the year! Which is the perfect time to start a new habit. In this episode, Kristin is solo and shares 7 things she likes to do the first weekend of each month to help get life organized and set the month up for success! Let's kick butt this month and end the year on a high note!
Special thanks to our listeners. We just saw our Spotify wrap up and we are so thankful to have been in top 10, 5 and the number 1 spot for some of you. Thank you for letting us be a part of your healing journey.
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Silence Only Benefits the Abuser! In this episode Tessa is opening up about her experience with sexual abuse as a child and as an adult. She shares steps she has taken to help her heal this betrayal wound and we also talk about how most women have been sexually abused in one way or another, but might think it was their fault for various reasons.
Sexual abuse and assault is never your fault and we want you to know you are not alone if you've experienced it. It is estimated that 91% of victims of sexual assault are female and speaking up and sharing stories like this is important.
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In this episode we talk about the D word we never imagined we'd be talking about...DIVORCE. This is our advice and experience with divorce as single moms, who were both cheated on by our ex-husbands. We discuss first steps, things to be mindful of and ways to stay grounded through the process.
Everyone's experience with divorce will be different, but hopefully some of the information in this episode will help you know your rights and keep as much peace as possible through the process.
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In this episode we explore Healthy vs. Unhealthy coping mechanisms. We share the unhealthy ways we use to cope with life, from binge drinking, to not eating, to reacting and responding unregulated, and how over the years we've *mostly* replaced those coping mechanisms with healthier alternatives.
We also touch on how making space and effort to work on implementing healthy coping skills into your life can be beneficial in all areas of life, including co-parenting.
In this episode, Kristin shares her biggest pieces of advice on how she co-parents in a civil and peaceful way with her ex, who cheated on her for an entire year. She also answers a few questions she got on instagram about how to co-parent.
**This episode is only for those who are open to the idea or feel ready to let go of the hurt from their marriage/the affair/ the divorce and move forward in the best way possible for their child(ren) **
To celebrate the 1 year anniversary of Kristin's Divorce Party, we thought we'd talk about divorce parties on this week's episode. What is a divorce party? Should you throw yourself one? Ask your friends to throw it? Or, if you are a friend, should you surprise your friend with a divorce party? And in full transparency, the day of the divorce party was one of the best days ever so we wanted to share how much fun we had in hopes that it will inspire other women to take this new and happy approach to life after divorce.
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One thing we emphasize on every Let's Grow Through it podcast episode: Every healing journey will look different. Last week Kristin shared her experience being single and happy after divorce and betrayal. This week, Tessa is sharing the complete opposite experience: how to be in a healthy, happy relationship after coming out of what was most likely the most unhealthy and traumatizing relationship of your life.
In this week's episode Tessa is here to encourage you to believe that if a healthy relationship is what you desire... it is possible...and Kristin is here to share the story about how she will be giving the "you're welcome, you two" speech at their future wedding...and to give Tessa a little best friend shade for breaking the "let's stay single" pact.
Thank you for letting us be a part of your healing journey! We are so grateful and thankful you are here!
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In this episode Kristin is solo, which is perfect because she has been single for over a year and is sharing her experience and advice on how to be single and happy about it!
This episode is not recommended for anyone in a healthy, happy, relationship. :)
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In this episode we take a little walk down memory lane and uncover all the red flags we ignored in our past relationships. This is a fun episode but we do hope that if you are entering the dating world hearing the red flags we ignored will help you not miss them and save yourself the trouble of another unhealthy relationship.
In this episode we talk about the confusing process of grieving through a divorce and how to honor your grieving process while at the same time allowing yourself to be happy about the new life you are building. We share a few things you can do to help you process your grief, what the 5 stages of grief are and talk about our personal experiences with grief through the divorce process.
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Kristin is solo in this episode and talks about her Divorce Bucket List. What it is, why you should make one and what the items are on her list.
A divorce bucket list is not celebrating that you are getting a divorce, it’s celebrating that you are strong and after going through something so terrible you can find the silver lining in re-inventing yourself by trying new things.
We hope this episode inspires you to dust yourself off and get back out there, try new things, and meet the new you!
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In this week's episode we both share the top 3 things that helped us move from a place of hopelessness and hurt to a life of hope and happiness. Healing takes a lot of work, especially after heartbreak. divorce, or betrayal, but you have to start somewhere. The 6 things we share in this episode are a great and "easy" place to start. Easy is in quotes because healing takes work, but it is totally worth it!
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Let's learn about attachment theory and your attachment style. In this episode Kristin teaches you "Attachment Styles 101". Learning and understanding your attachment style, and the people that you love attachment styles, is a huge step in learning how to show up better in relationships. Especially if you are dealing with any insecure attachments. Let's grow together baby!
Here is the article mentioned in the episode:
https://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships
Here are a few quizs if you still don't know what your style is:
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz/
https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/attachment-style-quiz
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In this week’s episode we answer some questions we got over on instagram about life in the Mommune, as well as share a little bit more about our Mommune, how we ended up living in a Mommune and how you can find one for yourself.
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We’re Kristin and Tessa, best friends who have gone through it, been drug through it and at times felt like we were buried in it and we want to share with you everything that we’ve learned to help us GROW! Sometimes life kicks the crap out of you and it feels like you are being buried alive. In those moments you can refuse to grow and continue to repeat your history by simply going through it..OR you can choose to GROW THROUGH IT! If you’re here you are choosing you, and you are choosing growth. We are so proud of you and so happy you are here! Throw your hair up, roll your sleeves up, turn our podcast up, and let’s get to know each other and grow through it together!
In this episode we talk about what you can expect when you listen to our podcast and share a little bit of our friendship history and why we wanted to start a podcast. We are so excited to start this healing journey with you.
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