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#329: Addressing Tough Questions About Identity and Sexuality Sep 14, 2020

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Theology meets real life in this episode of Java with Juli! We're asking the difficult questions about identity and sexuality: Why does language (e.g. "gay" versus "same-sex attracted") matter? Can two people of the same gender share covenant love? Are some people born gay? As you do life with friends in the LGBT+ community, HOW you answer these questions is important, but maybe not so important as HOW WELL you listen.

Guests: Laurence Koo, Lori Wildenberg, and Sarah Schepins (Axis.org)

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#117: How Your Sex Life is Connected to Your Spiritual Life Sep 07, 2020

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An early theologian once wrote, "We know that when a couple has sexual intercourse, the Holy Spirit leaves the room." If you were raised in the church, you might agree—and not be so sure you'd even want Him there! After all, is there any time you're feeling less "spiritual" than when you're having sex? But in fact, the Bible suggests just the opposite is true. Join Juli, Linda, and Hannah on this episode of Java with Juli as they talk about why sex in marriage is not only beautiful, it's holy.

Guests: Linda Dillow & Hannah Nitz

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#328: Answers to Your Questions About Pornography Aug 31, 2020

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"Will I cause a set-back in my husband's recovery if I say no to sex?" "My daughter talks to me about her porn addiction, but she's mortified at the thought of telling her dad, is that okay?" "My husband confessed to looking at women on Instagram. It wasn't exactly a porn relapse—so why am I so angry about it?" This week, our guest is Jonathan Daugherty, author of Grace Based Recovery and founder of Be Broken Ministries. He sits down with Juli to offer hope, encouragement, and answers to oft-asked questions we get from listeners about pornography. Whether you're an addict, a spouse, or a friend walking this journey with a loved one, you'll want to tune in to this Java with Juli.

Guest: Jonathan Daugherty

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#327: When Your Spouse Feels More Like a Roommate Aug 24, 2020

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Every couple experiences times of disconnection, but when your spouse begins to feel more like a roommate than a lover, it's easy to want to go looking for intimacy in other places. But what would it look to like to ditch the idea that there is something better outside your marriage and ask, instead, how you can keep your heart open to your spouse? Join Juli and her guests, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, for a candid conversation about tending to your heart during the busy, difficult, or painful seasons of life and marriage.

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Reconnected; Moving from Roommates to Soulmates in Marriage by Greg & Erin Smalley
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#326: Gen Z and Gender Identity Aug 17, 2020

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Few ideas have changed more rapidly than the way our culture perceives gender. The idea that you can choose your gender (some cite more than 50 options) can feel downright crazy-making for the average Christian parent—but being dismissive of Gen Z's refusal to be put in a male or female box isn't going to help YOUR child navigate all those choices. How do you respond when your child is struggling with gender identity? In this episode, Juli is joined by friends from Axis.org to help you understand how Gen Z perceives gender, and how to walk alongside a young person you love who is struggling.

Guests: David Eaton & Evan Barber from AXIS*

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#325: When Sex Hurts, Pelvic Floor Therapy Can Help Aug 13, 2020

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Past trauma, childbirth, a physical fall—just a few of the MANY reasons you might experience painful sex or sexual dysfunction. Sadly, the story for most women is that when they finally get the courage to bring this up with their GYN, they're told, "Everything looks normal. Just try to relax." When left untreated, sexual dysfunction brings shame, frustration and sadness and can drive a wedge between husbands and wives. Could a pelvic physical therapist help? Listen in to find out!

Guest: Amy Robinson, PT, DPT, PRPC, CLT, WHNC

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Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women* by Cliff & Joyce Penner
The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex* by Cliff & Joyce Penner
Restoring the Pleasure* by Cliff & Joyce Penner
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#324: Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go? Aug 10, 2020

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Online Christian sex therapy—yes, you read that right. Did you know that there are therapists trained specifically to address issues like low libido, mismatched sex drives, intimacy after trauma, and painful sex? And that these challenges can be addressed from the comfort of your home, no physical contact required? Join Juli and her guest, certified Christian sex therapist Josh Spurlock, for encouragement and practical insight into how a sex therapist might help you.

Guest: Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST

#323: Bye, Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships Aug 03, 2020

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Was Jesus a bit aloof with Martha and Mary because He didn't want them to think there was, you know, "chemistry"? Did He give Mary Magdalene side hugs? We don't actually know the answers to these questions, of course, but if we look at the way Jesus had intimate interactions with both men and women in the Gospels, we think not. In our churches, however, we've become so uncomfortable with our bodies, with sexuality, and with male/female relationships, it's almost like we don't know how to be friends with the opposite sex at all—especially if you're married! In this episode, Juli talks with author Bronwyn Lea about getting over our fear and awkwardness and teaching men and women how to build intimate, non-romantic, and life-giving relationships.

Guest: Bronwyn Lea

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#70: Stepping up as a Stepmom Jul 27, 2020

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Being a stepmom is one of the hardest roles a woman can take on. Because, let's be honest: you fell in love with your husband, you didn't really fall in love with his kids--at least not right away. In this candid and lively conversation with two stepmothers, we dig deep into the heart of boundaries, relationships, and love with someone else's children in your life.

Guests: Kathi Lipp and Sarah Kallberg

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#322: The Secret Superpower of Kindness Jul 20, 2020

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Think about your toughest relationship: The husband you're finding it hard to respect. The wife who only ever seems to offer you the cold shoulder. Or the coworker or in-law who makes you crazy. What if you had the power to change things? In this episode, Juli asks author and researcher Shaunti Feldhahn to share the most fascinating thing she learned while surveying thousands of men and women, and how she discovered how kindness is a "superpower" that can change the dynamics of ANY relationship. Grab your java and join us!

Guest: Shaunti Feldhahn

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