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#553 Divorce and Separation: How to Know What to Do Feb 10, 2025

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When a marriage is in crisis, it can be hard to know what the next step should be. Is divorce the only option? Are there other steps available that couples often miss?

Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family, joins Juli to talk about some of the options couples can explore.

Guest: Dr. Greg Smalley

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#552 When You Want Sex More Than Your Husband Does Feb 03, 2025

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It's reported that 20-30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife and lower-desire husband.

This means that while many women may wish their husbands requested less sex, there are also many women who experience the opposite. For the woman who wants her husband to want sex a little more, Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of "I Want Him to Want Me", joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.

Guest: Sheri Mueller, LCPC

Sheri's Website: marriagetrac.com

Sheri's Instagram: @growthtrac

Book: I Want Him to Want Me by Sheri Mueller, LCPC

Blog: Why Christians Need to Care About Sex

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#551 How Keeping Secrets Keeps Us in Shame Jan 27, 2025

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What secret are you keeping?

Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved.

Jason VanRuler, author of "Get Past Your Past", joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it's worth us living in the light.

Guest: Jason VanRuler

Website: jasonvr.com

Instagram: @jason.vanruler

Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler

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#550 What to Do When Sex is Painful Jan 20, 2025

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Sexual pain makes sex challenging, stressful, and a source of tension rather than a source of pleasure. Sadly, it's a very present reality for many couples, and one that can quickly erode sexual intimacy for years or even decades.

Many women are told to 'watch porn', 'drink wine', or 'relax', with no clear diagnosis found and no real solution given. Today's guest, Jess Setiz, knows this reality all too well. Now a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner, Jess struggled through painful sex for 8 years before she and her husband were able to find a solution that really worked. She joins Juli to share what she learned, and how she's helping other women enjoy pleasurable, pain-free sex.

Guest: Jess Seitz

Website: painfreeintimacy.com

Instagram: @painfree.intimacy

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#549 What the Latest Research Shows About Porn Jan 13, 2025

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How many men and women consume porn on a regular basis?

How common is porn use within the church?

How is porn affecting us?

Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, unpacks the surprising results of a recent study conducted by Barna on pornography use, and shares potential solutions.

Guest: Nick Stumbo, Pure Desire Ministries

Website: puredesire.org

Instagram: @puredesirepdmi

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Java with Juli: #542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him

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#548 How To Repair Your Relationships Jan 06, 2025

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What does it take to have good friendships, healthy family relationships, or a strong marriage?

John Van Epp, creator of the RAM theoretical model, has some strong and well-researched ideas about what it takes to make your relationships stronger than ever.

Guest: Dr. John Van Epp

John's Website: lovethinks.com

Book: Endgame: The Church's Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America by John Van Epp and J.P. De Gance

Book: Becoming Better Together by John Van Epp

Website: ramseries.com

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#547 How to Talk to Your Spouse About Sex Dec 30, 2024

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Talking about sex and sexual issues with your spouse can be intimidating. Dr Corey Allan breaks down why discussing sex can be challenging for married couples, and what husbands and wives can do about it.

Corey's Website: smr.fm

Corey's Instagram: @sexymarriageradio

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#546 Answering the Most Popular Questions on Sex, Dating, and Singleness Dec 23, 2024

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Juli and Hannah answer your questions about sex and singleness in this week's special Java with Juli episode.

Hannah's Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah's Instagram: @hannahnitz

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#545 George Barna: Parenting and Discipleship in a Sexually Chaotic World Dec 16, 2024

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Raising your kids to love and know Jesus has never been easy, and in a culture saturated with messages about human sexuality, it can feel next to impossible to raise your kids with biblical values and a Christian sexual ethic.

How do we effectively disciple our kids?

Dr. George Barna, founder of the Barna Group and America's foremost faith and culture researcher, joins Juli to talk about his new book, "Raising Spiritual Champions", and what parents can do to equip their kids with a robust faith.

Website: georgebarna.com

Book: Raising Spiritual Champions by Dr. George Barna

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#544 What You Need To Know About Sex, Aging and Menopause Dec 09, 2024

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How do you know you've started menopause? Can you get pregnant during menopause? What happens to your sex drive during menopause?

Experts Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS, join Juli to share some crucial information about menopause, options for easing symptoms, and how husbands can be sympathetic supporters at this pivotal moment in a woman's life.

Guests: Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS

Debra's Website: debraltaylortherapy.com

Mike's Website: intimatemarriage.org Mike's Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages @drsytsma

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