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#538 How I Rebuilt Faith In God After Church Abuse Oct 28, 2024

buse so often warps our sense of self and our sense of who God is. How do you lose the lies and rediscover your faith?

Author and adventurer Ryan George joins Juli to talk about how he disentangled the manipulation and abuse of his past and discovered who God really is.

Guest: Ryan George

Ryan’s Website: explorience.org

Ryan’s Instagram: @ryplane

Book: Hurt and Healed by the Church by Ryan George

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#537 Can You Be a Christian Feminist? Oct 21, 2024

Why did God design our bodies the way He did? Is our gender more than our bodies? What does it look like to live out our male and femaleness?

Dr. Abigail Favale, author of “The Genesis of Gender”, joins Juli to talk about why our bodies matter and how to cultivate a deep and rich theology around sex and gender.

Guest: Dr. Abigail Favale

Abigail’s website: abigailfavale.wixsite.com/home

Book: The Genesis of Gender by Dr. Abigail Favale

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#248 Gay Girl, Good God: Jackie Hill Perry's Story Oct 14, 2024

When we struggle with sexual sin, what is God’s ultimate hope for us? Is it that we stop our sexual sin? Or does it go beyond that to addressing our sinful nature and hearts, bringing us to a place of submission and surrender?

Jackie Hill Perry shares how God drew her to Himself and brought her out of a lesbian lifestyle.

Guest: Jackie Hill Perry

Book: Gay Girl, Good God by Jackie Hill Perry

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#536 How To Help Your Kids Avoid Identity Traps Oct 07, 2024

How do we root our identities in Christ and help our children do the same? Jonathan Holmes, Executive Director at Fieldstone Counseling, shares with Juli how we can avoid identity traps and teach our kids to do the same.

Guest: Jonathan Holmes

Jonathan’s Instagram: @akjonathanholmes

Book: Grounded in Grace: Helping Kids Build Their Identity in Christ by Jonathan Holmes

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#297 Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness Sep 30, 2024

Many men and women experiencing same-sex attraction struggle to imagine they can be loved by God and live a life of real freedom.

Is there a future where you can be free and fulfilled?

Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, joins Juli to share what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction.

Guest: Laurence Koo

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#535 What Men Weren’t Taught About Sex Sep 23, 2024

The vast majority of men didn’t get a sufficient sex education. Besides a handful of condoms and advice to not get girls pregnant, wasn’t there more they needed to know about women, sex, and romance?

Sam Jolman, LPC, author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got”, joins Juli to talk about what men didn’t learn about sex growing up.

Guest: Sam Jolman, LPC

Sam’s Website: samjolman.com

Sam’s Instagram: @samjolman

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#534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife's Sex Drive Sep 16, 2024

Female sexuality is complex, with numerous factors weighing into how a woman may feel about sex at any given time. Obstacles run the gamut, from parenting young kids, to demanding jobs, and sexual pain.

What about the lesser-explored reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband? Dr. Jennifer Degler joins Juli to share her thoughts and observations.

Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler

Jennifer’s Website: jenniferdegler.com

Jennifer on Instagram: @drjenniferdegler

Blog: Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy

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#533 Why It Feels Impossible To Beat Your Sin Sep 09, 2024

Are we supposed to battle our sin or surrender it to the one who has already defeated it?

Juli and Hannah discuss the difference between struggle and surrender, the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives, and what happens when we resist God’s leading in our lives instead of embracing it.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz

Book: Absolute Surrender by Andrew Murray

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#532 How the Church Can Help Stop Domestic Abuse Sep 02, 2024

Studies have shown that churches are often among the first places people turn when they are experiencing domestic abuse, but unfortunately churches aren’t always well-informed when it comes to how to help victims.

Chris Moles and Stacey Womack, who work independently in organizations PeaceWorks and Abuse Recovery Ministry Services, join Juli to talk about what churches need to know when it comes to helping abuse victims.

Guests: Chris Moles and Stacey Womack

Chris’s Website: chrismoles.org

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Stacey’s Website: Abuse Recovery Ministry Services

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#531 The Basics of Talking to Kids About Sex Aug 26, 2024

Discussing sexuality with children can be intimidating. As a Christian parent you long to give your kids a faith-based sex education and you want to do so without shame, but often the very first step towards this is the most challenging.

Thankfully, there are more and more experts providing support and guidance in this area. Dr. Julia Sadusky, author of “Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex” and “Talking with Your Teen about Sex”, joins Juli to provide wisdom on age-appropriate sex education and give some practical parenting tips for Christian families seeking to engage in healthy conversations with their kids about sex.

Guest: Dr. Julia Sadusky

Julia’s Website: juliasadusky.com

Julia’s Instagram: @drsadusky

Book: Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex by Julia Sadusky

Book: Talking with Your Teen about Sex by Julia Sadusky

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#530 Sexuality and Smartphones: How to Help Teens Thrive Aug 19, 2024

How do you help your kids develop a healthy relationship with social media, avoid the traps and pitfalls, and learn how to connect with peers safely and authentically?

Pastor James Talbert from Citizens Church Akron joins Juli to share what he’s learned through ministry about the good, the bad, and the ugly of social media.

Guest: James Talbert

Website: citizensakron.com

Instagram: @citizensakron

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#529 Modern Dating: How To Do It Well Aug 12, 2024

How do you set the pace for a dating relationship? What kind of expectations should you have? How do you break up with someone without disrespecting them?

Kait and JJ Tomlin from Heart of Dating join Juli to help singles navigate the ups and downs of modern dating.

Guests: Kait and JJ Tomlin

Heart of Dating website: heartofdating.com

Heart of Dating Instagram: @heartofdating @kaitness @jjtomlin

Book: Thank You for Rejecting Me by Kait Warman Tomlin

Podcast: @HeartofDating

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#528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing Aug 05, 2024

Wondering how to improve your sex life? Beyond the general relationship advice and intimacy tips you might have found online, there’s an unpopular argument you might not have heard: that the key to improving your sexual connection lies with you.

Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about three underrated ways couples can boost their sexual and emotional intimacy.

Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Michael’s website: intimatemarriage.org

Java with Juli: #516 Don’t Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist)

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#228 (Bonus) Intimacy After Infidelity Jul 29, 2024

In this special re-release, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest join Juli to answer the question: Can a couple’s sexual relationship survive and thrive after infidelity?

While they were serving as missionaries, Troy’s long-term addiction to pornography was revealed. As hard as this was on their marriage, Melissa soon realized she had her own issues around sexuality too.

They join Juli to tell her what was wrong, and how God helped them heal and find restoration.

Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas

Instagram: @hopequestgroup

Website: hopequestgroup.org

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#527 Why Friendship, not Romance, is the Greatest Love of All Jul 22, 2024

Have we lost our vision for loving relationships outside the context of marriage and the nuclear family? What was the greatest love Jesus described in the Bible? Was it romantic love, or a different type of sacrificial love?

Rebecca McLaughlin joins Juli to explain how we’ve minimized friendship and overemphasized sexual relationships.

Guest: Rebecca McLaughlin

Rebecca’s Website: rebeccamclaughlin.org

Rebecca’s Instagram: @rebecc_mclaugh

Book: “No Greater Love” by Rebecca McLaughlin

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#526 How God Heals Us From Past Abuse and Trauma Jul 15, 2024

Abuse and the trauma it creates run deep. How can survivors begin to move forward?

In this episode we explore a deeply personal journey of recovery from decades of sexual, physical and emotional abuse, discussing how embracing the fatherhood of God can transform your life. Author Jennifer Michelle Greenberg shares how her heavenly father and a healthy marital relationship helped her heal from her painful past.

Guests: Jennifer Michelle Greenberg and Jason Greenberg

Website: Jen’s website

Instagram: @jenmgreenberg

Book: “Not Forsaken” by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg

Book: “Defiant Joy” by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg

Java with Juli: #512 Friends Who Hurt Us: How To Recognize Unlikely Sources Of Abuse

Java with Juli: #92: When the Woman You Love Was Abused

Blog: I Was Sexually Abused. Now, God Is Restoring My Identity

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#525 Churches and Porn: What isn't Working and How to Change it Jul 08, 2024

Struggles with pornography are incredibly common within the Church, and the problem isn’t going to go away on its own.

What can churches do to be an environment where it is safe for congregants and leaders to admit struggles and get the support they need to overcome them? How can those going into ministry receive sufficient discipleship and care so they can heal from past traumas, win the battle, and walk closely and authentically with Jesus?

Sam Black, Director of Life Change Education at Covenant Eyes, and author of “The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It”, joins Juli to discuss what the church at large can do to address the issue of pornography.

Guest: Sam Black

Website: thehealingchurch.com

Website: covenanteyes.com

App: The Victory App

Instagram: @covenant.eyes

Book: “The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It” by Sam Black

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#524 Her Freedom Journey: A Powerful New Book Helping Women Overcome Porn And Sexual Shame Jul 01, 2024

Introducing “Her Freedom Journey”, Juli and Joy’s brand new book!

In this very special podcast episode, Joy and Juli talk about the lack of discussion around female sexuality in the Church, and particularly around issues like pornography and masturbation. Joy shares some of her personal story, and together she and Juli talk about the heart behind the new book.

Guest: Dr. Joy Skarka

Website: joyskarka.com

Instagram: @joyskarka

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#523 How Past Family Patterns Impact the Way You Love Today Jun 24, 2024

The way we are brought up has a significant influence on the way we form attachments with others. There are few relationships in which this is as pronounced or as obvious as marriage.

Kay and Milan Yerkovich, authors of the breakthrough book, “How We Love”, want to empower couples to become more aware of the ways in which their early years formed them, and to acquire the skills to develop secure attachments for healthy, long-lasting relationships.

Guests: Kay and Milan Yerkovich

Book: How We Love by Kay and Milan Yerkovich

Website: howwelove.com

Instagram: @howwelovebook

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#522 The Paradox of Hope and Brokenness: Jesus, Depression and SSA Jun 17, 2024

In Jesus there is hope for healing and transformation, but that doesn’t mean that in this life we won’t experience hardship and brokenness.

Brenna Blain, renowned speaker and new author, knows this better than most. Experiencing same-sex attraction and fighting her own mental health battle from around the age of 14, Brenna joins Juli to explain how coming to the very end of herself led her to a place desperate enough to long for God Himself, and not just His healing.

Guest: Brenna Blain

Brenna’s Website: brenna-blain.vercel.app/

Brenna’s Instagram: @bunonmyhead

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#521 How to Know if Your Marriage can Recover from Betrayal Jun 10, 2024

My spouse keeps acting out, why won’t he stop?

Is my wife still keeping secrets?

How do I know if my spouse is truly repentant after betrayal?

Infidelity changes everything, and relationship recovery is extremely challenging to navigate. What signs of change are you supposed to look for? How do you build trust after cheating

Jeremy Smith, LPC and founder of the Marriage Recovery Course joins Juli to discuss the unique approach he’s developed to help couples heal their marriages and achieve deep, lasting change as individuals and together.

Guest: Jeremy Smith, LPC

Website: Smith Counseling

Website: Marriage Recovery Course

Java with Juli: #480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair

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#520 Sex, Cancel Culture and the Church: How to Pursue Unity When we Disagree Jun 03, 2024

Have we the Church lost our way when it comes to living in unity? What would Jesus say about Christian cancel culture and the many threads on social media where people criticize one another in the name of Christianity?

God’s Word says, “Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!”, and yet, in the modern American Church, unity can often be hard to find.

Join Juli and co-host Hannah Nitz as they discuss:

The need for a biblical perspective of the Church as Christ’s bride
How to extend God’s mercy, grace, and forgiveness to others and ourselves
How to cultivate a true Christian response to disagreements within the Church
Why maturity in the faith requires engagement with those with whom we disagree
How we can use the churches of the New Testament as a model to work through disagreements and pursue unity

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz

Book: “Until Unity” by Francis Chan

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#519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church May 27, 2024

When a marriage ends through divorce, it makes sense that the people involved would experience deep grief. So how do we care for those walking through it? What is a Christian approach to divorce-care and helping divorced individuals in the church?

Laura Petherbridge, who suddenly found herself divorced at 29, joins Juli to share her experience as a divorcee, discuss the work she is doing, and explain how the Church can be a place of healing and empathy for those mourning the loss of their marriages.

Guest: Laura Petherbridge

Laura’s Website: thesmartstepmom.com

Laura’s Instagram: @laurapetherbridge

Java with Juli: #376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage?

Java with Juli: #409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things)

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#518 Single Sexuality and the Unique Challenges of Widowhood May 20, 2024

Widowhood presents profound challenges, with loneliness permeating every aspect of life, including the realm of sexuality. The loss goes beyond losing a life partner; it extends to losing a sexual companion as well.

In this week’s Java with Juli, Dr. Carol Tanksley, who became widowed after just seven years of marriage in 2016, delves into the complexities faced by widows, and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face. She also shares her personal experience of surrendering her sexuality to God in widowhood.

Guest: Dr. Carol Tanklsey

Carol’s website: drcarolministries.com

Carol’s Instagram: @drcarolt

Book: Sexpectations by Dr. Carol Tanksley

Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder

Java with Juli: #407 Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us!

Blog: Masturbation: Is It Wrong?

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#517 How to Beat Loneliness and Cultivate Deeper Friendships May 13, 2024

Why are we all so lonely? Why is it that at a time when we are more connected than ever, many of us find ourselves feeling lonely and isolated?

Jeff Kemp and Juli explore what’s making us feel lonely, how to bring more vulnerability and honesty into our relationships, and why understanding our identities is pivotal when it comes to cultivating deep, long-lasting friendships.

Guest: Jeff Kemp

Jeff’s Website: jeffkempteam.com

Book: Receive: The Way of Jesus for Men by Jeff Kemp

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