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    It’s My Pleasure

    “It’s My Pleasure”, hosted by Danielle Savory, challenges the status quo, urging women to explore a crucial yet often overlooked aspect of their lives—PLEASURE.

    Join this fun and informative podcast with candid conversations and real life solutions, from orgasms to overwhelm. You’ll enjoy the tidbits of neuroscience and real life scenarios that Danielle shares to help you lead a more pleasurable life in and out of the bedroom.

    Listed as the #1 Podcast on Sex & Relationships of Mashable’s 2023 list, this podcast focuses on self-growth from a completely different angle – where we aren’t just surviving, but loving the lives we live and using our brain for the most orgasmic outcomes.

    It’s time to de-stigmatize pleasure. Elevate the conversation around sex and reclaim a fundamental aspect of your humanity – PLEASURE.

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    Latest Episodes:
    Ep. 205: 6 Tips For Becoming Multiorgasmic: It’s Easier Than You Think! Sep 27, 2024

    The Unicorn, the famous multiorgasmic woman - sound out of reach? Think again, mastering multiple orgasms may be way easier than you think. Becoming multiorgasmic involves cultivating an awareness of your body, mind, and energy to experience that next level of pleasure, again, and again and again.

    Discover the science, tips, and techniques to unlock the potential for more pleasure and fulfillment in your intimate experiences.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Learn 6 practical ways to cultivate the safety and mindset needed to experience multiple orgasms
    • Understand the importance of focusing on pleasure rather than just the orgasm itself
    • Explore the "pleasure scale" and how to extend your arousal for longer, more satisfying experiences
    • Discover the power of "spreading and softening" sensations throughout your body
    • Leverage your breath to enhance your multi-orgasmic potential

    Mentioned in the Episode:

    • Please subscribe to my YouTube Chanel - It’s starting from scratch and I would love to get some subscribers. Can you help me out? https://youtube.com/@itsmypleasurepod
    • Interested in taking things to the next level, with my personalized support? Check out my group coaching program "Tangled"
    • Contact Danielle at Danielle@DanielleSavory.com or on Instagram @thepracticeofpleasure
    Amy Green Smith on Navigating Boundaries, Vulnerability, and Difficult Conversations for Deeper Intimacy in Relationships Sep 12, 2024

    The idea of a lifetime of love and passion is something we have been fed over and over again. Growing old with one another, staying close and of course keeping that intimacy. But HOW do we actually do that? How do you continue to find vulnerability and intimacy with someone that you have spent more than half your life with?

    Amy Green Smith is here to help. An expert in relationships and what it really takes to stay close for the long haul, Amy and I dive deep into the art of cultivating vulnerability, setting boundaries, and navigating difficult conversations - all in service of fostering greater intimacy in long-term relationships. Prepare to be inspired, empowered, and equipped with practical tools to strengthen the connections that matter most.

    Episode Highlights:

    • The power of vulnerability and why it's the key to depth in relationships
    • Strategies for having tough talks without escalating into conflict
    • The importance of understanding surface issues vs. root issues in disagreements
    • Creating "conversational consent" to set the stage for productive dialogues
    • Balancing individual needs and desires with the health of the partnership
    • Reframing sexuality and pleasure as a source of personal empowerment

    Mentioned in this Episode:

    • Grab Amy's FREE-SOURCES at:
    • Connect with Amy on Social Media:
    • The book "Fair Play" by Eve Rodsky
    • The book "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski
    • Gottman Institute's research on "turning towards" in relationships
    • Ready to take your first step to clearing the way for more pleasure? Make sure to check out my new program, The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy Masterclass daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan
    Ep. 203: Evan Katz On the Key to Relationship Bliss (Hint: It's Not Just Chemistry!) Aug 09, 2024

    In this engaging conversation, dating coach Evan Katz shares his insights on navigating the tricky balance between settling and compromising in relationships. Evan draws on his 20+ years of experience helping smart, successful women find love, offering practical advice on spotting red flags, setting boundaries, and cultivating the right kind of chemistry. Whether you're tired of swiping or wondering if your partner is "the one," this episode is packed with wisdom that will transform the way you approach dating and relationships.

    Highlights:

    • The key differences between settling and compromising in a relationship
    • Why character and compatibility matter more than physical attraction
    • How to identify the signs that a man is truly interested in you (and not just looking for a hookup)
    • The surprising ways gender norms impact our approach to love and sex
    • Why emotional safety and vulnerability are essential for a fulfilling partnership

    Mentioned in this Episode:

    • Evan Katz's website: EvanMarkKatz.com
    • Evan's free ebook: 7 Massive Mistakes You're Making in Dating (available at EvanMarkKatz.com/mypleasure)
    • The books Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb and The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel
    Ep 202: Sizzling Summer Intimacy: Overcoming the Top 7 Seasonal Challenges Aug 01, 2024

    It’s getting HOT in here! Summer is happening folks and with that comes a myriad of challenges to keeping the intimacy alive and well. Now, don’t get me wrong I LOVE so many things about summer, including the sultry and sensuous nature of it all. BUT real-life realities oftentimes can pose barriers to pleasure, connection and the sex itself.

    In this episode we discuss some of the top obstacles that get in the way of you getting it on and WHAT you can do about it.

    Highlights:

    • Fam vacations, kids home, sweaty body odor - lets talk about it ALL because the reality is, lots of summer experiences are not a turn-on
    • Learn how safety plays into your summer intimacy
    • The importance in focusing on pleasure as inevitable
    • What to do for date nights
    • The mindset shift needed to see how summer challenges might actually work towards your motivation system and the opportunity it offers for novelty

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • Please help to support this podcast by sharing with a friend, rating and write a review
    • If you are ready to put what you have learned from this podcast into practice then make sure to get the new program The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy. This revolutionary program is only $33 and will set you up with the framework, the mindset and the how to of opening your schedule, your heart and your body to more pleasure and orgasmic experiences: https://www.daniellesavory.com/offers/6pB3TpF9/checkout
    Ep. 201: Reclaiming Intimacy and Sexuality After Breast Cancer with Adriana McCulloch Jul 25, 2024

    In this important episode, Adriana McCulloch shares her personal journey with breast cancer and the many things that aren’t discussed openly when one faces cancer treatment. Because the fact is, that there is so much emphasis on the treatment itself and getting through that, but not how to put all the pieces back together once treatment is complete.

    There is a physical and emotional impact of cancer treatment that is carried on well after the treatment that can bleed into so many areas of life, but especially a woman’s relationship with her body and sexuality, including the challenges of body image, intimacy, and early onset menopause.

    Adriana sheds light into her own journey navigating these challenges as well as ways that those facing treatment recovery can begin to reclaim their intimate lives and sexuality.

    We dive into the healing process from grieving to self-love and of course tapping into pleasure.

    Highlights:

    • Adriana's personal experience with breast cancer diagnosis and treatment, and how it inspired her to become a coach for others
    • The profound impact of cancer treatment on Adriana's relationship with her body, including scars, loss of sensation, and feelings of distrust
    • The importance of grieving and unlearning societal expectations and trauma to build a solid foundation for healing
    • The journey of rediscovering pleasure, intimacy, and communication after cancer treatment
    • The societal perceptions and expectations of breast cancer survivors, and how they can negatively impact one's ability to pursue pleasure and intimacy
    • The need for more support and resources for cancer survivors, especially in the areas of sexuality and mental health

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • Adriana’s website www.choicecoaching.org
    • Follow Adriana on IG @choicecoaching
    • Have someone who has gone through cancer treatment? Please send this episode and let them know they are not alone!
    • Ready to take your first step to clearing the way for more pleasure? Make sure to check out my new program, The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy Masterclass daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan
    Ep. 200: Rewriting the Story of Women's Pleasure with 200 Episodes! Jul 18, 2024

    In this milestone 200th episode, we're celebrating over five years of conversations around a topic that's long been taboo but is so important for our wellbeing. Tune in as we discuss how societal messages have led us to disconnect from our bodies and desires over time. We'll delve into how limiting beliefs formed and how we can start rewriting our stories to align with self-pleasure and worthiness.

    I am humbled by how all of you have supported this important work to help bring these discussions into the light. Join us to learn how tapping into your joy, pleasure and empowerment can positively impact your life and be a part of shifting conversations for generations to come.

    It's time to feel good - don't miss this special episode celebrating over 200 installments of empowerment!

    Highlights:

    • A look back at over 5 years of conversations and how far we've come in breaking taboos
    • Revealing how societal messages shaped our beliefs about what really matters for our wellbeing
    • Fun ways we can start reconnecting with our bodies and what feels good
    • Celebrating the community that's come together to support these important discussions

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • Please help to support this podcast by sharing with a friend, rating and write a review
    • If you are ready to put what you have learned from this podcast into practice then make sure to get the new program The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy. This revolutionary program is only $33 and will set you up with the framework, the mindset and the how to of opening your schedule, your heart and your body to more pleasure and orgasmic experiences: https://www.daniellesavory.com/offers/6pB3TpF9/checkout
    Ep. 199: Amy Allebest on Decoding the Secrets of Patriarchy to Unleash Your Pleasure & Reclaim Your Sexuality Jul 11, 2024

    It is time to talk about the ways in which patriarchy operates in society, including historical roots, in order to understand the ongoing effects on women's agency and pleasure. In this enlightening conversation we explore how patriarchy has influenced women's bodies and pleasure throughout history, from biblical and classical texts to modern times. It is time to challenge patriarchy so that we can reclaim our sexuality and pleasure in empowering way.

    Amy McPhie Allebest is a feminist historian and writer. She has a master's degree from Stanford University and is currently working toward a PhD at the University of Utah in Education, Culture, and Society. Her podcast and YouTube channel, Breaking Down Patriarchy, educate about the history of patriarchy and its intersections with racism and homophobia.

    Highlights:

    • Discover how ancient texts like the Bible secretly shaped your views on gender without you even knowing
    • Learn the surprising history behind your favorite high school books and how they slyly pushed patriarchal ideas
    • Find out which body part doctors were clueless about for centuries and how it impacted women's love lives
    • Hear the hilarious code names women had to use to talk about taboo topics back in the day
    • Get the real scoop on how the beauty industry has been playing us all along!

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • YouTube.com/@breakingdownpatriarchy
    • @bdownpatriarchy
    • www.breakingdownpatriarchy
    • Please share, subscribe and write a review for the podcast!
    • The Pleasure Plan - your 5-step program for making your life filled with more orgasmic pleasure and intimacy: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 198: Using Intention To Maximize the Power of Pleasure Jul 01, 2024

    Welcome back to It’s My Pleasure. In this week's episode, I'm diving deep into how intention can maximize all the amazing benefits of pursuing pleasure.

    We all know pleasure is good for us, but did you know the impact it can have depends on your intention behind the pleasure you are pursuing?? I'll be sharing a fascinating study I came across that shows just how powerful our intentions can be. Simply by shifting their focus, pleasurable actions you are already taking, can become more beneficial

    I'm also giving you all my best tips for finding your "why" - those reasons you're pursuing pleasure that really light you up. Because when you show up with intention, connected to how good it makes you feel, your brain and body are primed to reap all the rewards.

    So tune in to learn how getting clear on your intentions can supercharge the effects of pleasure on your creativity, focus, stress levels and so much more. It's time to own your pleasure - are you ready to unlock its full potential?

    Highlights:

    • The power of intent and why its important to get clear about why you are in engaging in pleasure if you want to reap the full benefits
    • Finding a why that lights you up
    • Supercharge the effects of pleasure on your creativity, focus, stress levels and so much more

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • The Pleasure Plan - your 5-step program for making your life filled with more orgasmic pleasure and intimacy: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 197: Anna Iovine on Debunking Stereotypes and Exploring Individual Sexuality Jun 27, 2024

    Hey friends, I have such an insightful conversation for you all from my latest episode with Anna Iovine. If you've ever questioned your sexuality or struggled with feeling believed in your queer identity, you do not want to miss what Anna has to say.

    Anna dives deep with me on the disbelief bisexual women often face and helps shine a light on why our brains seem to reject the idea of fluid sexuality. I mean, can you believe people still think sexuality is as simple as black and white? Spoiler alert: it's anything but.

    Happy pride month everyone - you’re going to love this conversation!

    Highlights:

    • How to reconcile queer and straight identities in relationships
    • Debunking common myths and stereotypes
    • Why we feel lonely even though we are connected
    • Plus how does a tech writer navigate her own boundaries with tech in terms of intimacy with her partner?

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • https://www.annaiovine.com/
    • https://disintercourse.substack.com/
    • Please share, subscribe and write a review for the podcast!
    • Ready to take your first step to clearing the way for more pleasure? Make sure to check out my new program, The Pleasure Plan daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 196: It's Not You, It's Your Brain: How Thoughts Impact Arousal (and How to Shift Them) Jun 24, 2024

    Got some of those thoughts running wild in your head during intimate moments? You're not alone. But did you know that particular things occurring between the ears could be impacting what’s happening (or not) below the belt??

    In this episode we cover some game-changing insights about how our beliefs affect arousal, yes arousal - and more importantly, how to tame those pesky thoughts so you can rewire your brain to create more blood flow to your genitals. This might just be the mind-blowing info that takes your pleasure to the next level.

    Highlights:

    • Learn the surprising average time it takes for full female arousal (it's more than you think!)
    • Understand how limiting beliefs and distracting thoughts can trigger stress and halt arousal in its tracks
    • Discover simple strategies for calming the mind and fully engaging the body, like scheduling pleasure time
    • Get tips for combining hormone therapy with mindset work for optimized arousal and orgasm

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • An upcoming 5-day "Pleasure Plan" course will provide tips for planning pleasurable sex and dropping into the body
    • The course will also help rewire mindsets around sexuality and accessing more pleasure without pressure
    • The Pleasure Plan - your 5 day guide to helping you find the time, the desire and the passion to get it on: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan
    Ep. 195: How to Optimize Your Energy and Thrive with Cyclical Living Jun 20, 2024

    April Davis - creator of the Haus of Vagina, shares her deep wisdom, wit and humor on the show today. April has tunneled her passions to create an entire community around female body health and helps vagina owners feel empowered with more knowledge on how their bodies, specifically their cycle works. This important conversation dives into the topic of cyclical living and what it actually means to live in harmony with your body. Plus, you get to sex enthusiasts together and you’re bound to have a fun time ;)

    Highlights:

    • April's experiences with different birth methods and how it impacted her
    • The importance of informed consent and education around childbirth
    • How society is built for the male cycle and what that means for women
    • Practical tools for learning about your cycle, improving sexual satisfaction and experiencing more pleasure

    Mentioned in this episode:

    • House of Vagina (hausofvagina.com) - April's blog and resources
    • Ruby the Plush Vulva - Anatomy teaching tool for children and adults
    • Cyclical Living Journal - Guide to living in rhythm with your cycle
    • The Pleasure Plan - your 5 day guide to helping you find the time, the desire and the passion to get it on: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 194: How Scheduling Sexy Time Can Help You Lean Into Pleasure Again Jun 18, 2024

    Why is it that you can enjoy sex, have a good time, maybe even LOVE the sex you’re having and still find yourself not eager to make the time and the space for it?! Why are we like this?

    Listen to this episode as we dive into the complexities of desire, that wanting, and how to help create the time in your schedule. Remember pleasure is not just a nice to have and sex can be so much MORE than action you take, but a truly worthy use of your time to develop deep connection, well-being and wholeness to your life and your partnership.

    And believe me, I know that it sounds like a bore, maybe even a chore, if you have sex on the schedule but perhaps you will understand how this act may just be the key to opening up to receive more in all areas of your life.

    What’s happening on the show today:

    • Understanding the complexities of desire and how to use this knowledge to create the craving you see.
    • Why great sex isn’t motivating enough for many of us
    • What does resistance tell you about your sex life?
    • What you need to tap into if you are wanting to want it again

    Featured on the show:

    • The Pleasure Plan - your 5 day guide to helping you find the time, the desire and the passion to get it on: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 193: Lily Womble on How To Date with Joy Through a Feminist Lens Jun 13, 2024

    If you want to create a joyful dating life that lights you the hell up without all the patriarchal BS then you HAVE to tune in today’s episode. Lily Womble joins the show today to discuss her journey from late bloomer to joyful dater through feminist relationship coaching and how starting with JOY is truly a key to your success in finding a match.

    Learn her tips for prioritizing pleasure over settling in your dating life. Plus ways that we ALL can take a look at communicating effectively whether we have been partnered for eons or are newly dating.

    What’s happening on the show today:

    • Lily's experience dating and settling in an unfulfilling relationship
    • Tools for building self-trust and emotional safety in relationships
    • Navigating needs vs preferences through open communication
    • How focusing on joy can attract better matches and expand your social circle
    • Practical exercises for connecting with yourself and pursuing pleasure

    Featured on the show:

    • Lily's book "Thank You More, Please" available June 11
    • Follow Lily on IG or TikTok @datebrazen
    • Lily's coaching and podcast at datebrazen.com
    • Dating or want to support your friends that are? Please share this episode with them!
    • Check out the new YouTube Channel @ItsMyPleasurePod
    Ep. 192: 6 Ways Orgasms Spark Creativity & What To Do Jun 03, 2024

    Orgasms are wonderful, I think we can all agree on that one. However, creating a strong incentive to pursue pleasure - making the time, the space and engaging in the effort - is a crucial piece to not only get you in action, but also reap the many benefits of mind and body that the orgasm can provide.

    Understanding why you are taking a certain action, like going after those O’s, will not only help you get motivated, but also allows for your brain chemistry to support you endeavors.

    In this episode you will learn 6 powerful ways that orgasms can help fuel your creativity and exactly HOW you can go about making the those O’s work for you and your projects!

    What’s happening on the show today:

    • How using intention can make your actions (orgasms and otherwise) more powerful from a neurochemistry standpoint so you get the results you want
    • Dopamine’s impact on your creativity and how to harness it for those projects you feel stuck in
    • What neuroplasticity has to do with thinking outside of the box and how pleasure facilitates this process
    • Learn the exact process of what to do with your orgasm so you can fuel your brain

    Featured on the show:

    • Got friends who want to boost their creativity? Please share and subscribe!
    • Use promo code “ITSMYPLEASURE” for 25% The Sexy Revamp course
    • Check out the new YouTube Channel @ItsMyPleasurePod
    Ep. 191: How to Be Courageously Selfish Feb 22, 2024

    We were socialized to focus our care taking to be outside of us. For others to benefit from. Which is lovely AND you need that same attention from you.

    I will always argue that taking care of OTHERS is easier than taking care of yourself, not because the task itself is hard, but because of our resistance to it.

    Let’s talk about how and why its so important for us to be courageously selfish and how that can help us in our pleasured life.

    Featured on the show:

    • Tangled in open for enrollment: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangled
    • If you enjoyed this episode please share with a friend who might need to take her own courageous step towards being more selfish.

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 190: Unpacking Relationship Dynamics and Nurturing Individual Growth w/ Victoria Albina Feb 15, 2024

    Valentine’s Day might be over, but the conversation about love and relationships continues on "It's My Pleasure." In this episode, we dive deep into the intricacies of relationship dynamics, shedding light on thought patterns and emotional dynamics that can subtly impact our connections over time.

    EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

    **Codependent Thinking and Emotional Outsourcing:**

    Unpack the long-term effects of codependent thinking and emotional outsourcing on relationships. Discover how the quest for initial safety and validation can evolve into unexpected pressures.

    **Attachment Styles Unveiled:**

    Explore the world of attachment styles and how our experiences with caregivers during childhood unconsciously shape our adult relationships. Gain insights into how recognizing these patterns can foster healthier connections.

    **Unseen Emotional Labor:**

    Shine a light on the invisible burden of emotional labor often carried by women, and its intersection with codependency when left unrecognized. Understand the importance of acknowledging and sharing this load within relationships.

    **Inner Work Tools for Relationship Harmony:**

    Receive practical tools for inner work, focusing on self-safety and nervous system regulation. Learn how these tools can reduce reactivity and defensiveness, fostering a more harmonious and connected relationship.

    **Empowerment and Pleasure on Your Terms:**

    Gain perspectives on finding empowerment and pleasure by embracing femininity and sexuality on your own terms. Challenge societal pressures and norms to create a more authentic and fulfilling connection with yourself and your partner.

    Tune in for an enriching conversation between Danielle & Victoria in an exploration of relationships, self-discovery, and the pursuit of genuine connection. 🎙️✨

    Featured on the show:

    • Victoria Albina Information:
    • Save $500! New & Improved Tangled: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangled

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 189: Making Valentine's Day Meaningful Feb 08, 2024

    Valentine’s Day, hmmmm, there is so much to say about this commercialized holiday. And yet, love it or hate it, it still comes around each and every year.

    But here on “It’s My Pleasure” we are all about infusing your life with more of the stuff that lights you up and turns you on.

    Valentine’s Day can be FUN, why not let yourself receive all the love and juicy pleasure you are wired for?!

    But it is time we do it differently - not as a check, DONE - but because you want to feel alive in your body, present for the relationships that matter and turned on in your life.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Redefining Valentine’s Day for a more fulfilling experience
    • The difference between checklist sex and sexual intimacy that fuels you AND your relationship

    Featured on the show:

    • Join for a FREE Masterclass: A Pleasured Valentine’s Day: The Art & Science of Intentional Intimacy . . . https://www.daniellesavory.com/vday
    Ep. 188: How Shifting Towards Pleasure Can Create More Joy Feb 02, 2024

    How can we become more joyful with using the embodiment of pleasure? In this episode I share a clip from a recent discussion inside the Pleasure-Centered Coach Training I offer where we are discussing the importance of “pleasure” vs joy and how that one degree shift towards pleasure can make all the difference in the world.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Why the distinction between pleasure (vs happiness, joy etc) is so important
    • How pleasure often gets mixed up with sexuality
    • The one degree shifts we can all be making

    Featured on the show:

    • Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.
    • Tangled is almost ready to kick off! Check out the details HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangled
    • Want to be part of the next cohort of Pleasure-Centered Train coaches and help lead the revolution of more women feeling whole, alive and powerful in their brains and bodies? Then email team@daniellesavory.com and I can fill you in on the details
    Ep. 187: Sex Life After Kids - It's NOT the same Jan 29, 2024

    Your sex life changes after kids, this is simply a fact. But usually when we talk about it, it is with such a Debbie Downer tone. Just because your life looks different (including the sexy bits) after kids, doesn’t mean that is a bad thing. In fact, in can be incredible, I promise.

    Listen in to this special episode, where my colleague and host of The Ambitious and Balanced Working Moms podcast interviews me on all the ways things shift once we have kids and how we can insure our pleasure and intimacy are still a top priority.

    Episode Highlights:

    • How things change after having kids
    • Why prioritizing pleasure, especially for working moms is a much
    • How to create the ENERGY , let along the time, for more intimacy

    Featured on the show:

    • Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.
    • Want more on how to keep the spark alive in a long term partnership? Download my free course FRESH. In this video course you will learn how to make time for one another, have conversations around sexy time and how to help yourself get in the mood. DOWNLOAD IT HERE.
    • Check out the Ambitious & Balanced Working Mom’s podcast HERE
    • Follow Rebecca Olson on IG: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaolsoncoach/

    Enjoying the podcast?

    • Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.
    • It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
    • Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting team@daniellesavory.com!
    Ep. 186: 6 Ways To Increase Intimacy NOW Jan 19, 2024

    Hey welcome back to another mini-episode, where I give you some quick actionable tips or food for thought on a topic.

    Today's discussion is a quick list of somethings that you can do right now to increase intimacy with your partner. The truth is, long term partnerships, really any partnership, take effort and attention. And if you don’t water that intimacy plant it will wither and die. But like you, I also have a lot going on. With our busy schedules feeling like we have to do “one more thing” can feel daunting. And it isn’t like you don’t want to help in the intimacy department, but where do you even start?

    I got you. This episode will cover 6 easy and tangible ways you can boost your intimacy with your lover right now.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Scheduling sex is on the list, again. It will never leave. But perhaps this time listening to why you may be inspired to put in on the damn calendar!
    • Why its important to get uncomfortable with your partner on the regular.
    • Should you be focusing on “me” time or “we” time?
    • Plus more ideas on how to keep that attraction alive!

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    • Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.
    • Want more on how to keep the spark alive in a long term partnership? Download my free course FRESH. In this video course you will learn how to make time for one another, have conversations around sexy time and how to help yourself get in the mood. DOWNLOAD IT HERE.

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    Ep. 185: How Hormones Change Your Vagina, Pleasure & Desire with Dr. Shyama Jan 12, 2024

    Dr. Shyama was such a pleasure to have on the podcast this week. As a practicing gynecologist and certified menopause specialist, she breaks down some of the changes we may see in perimenopause and menopause and how this impacts our sexual response.

    Dr. Shyama is so well versed on this topic, and as a mother and wife herself she understands how challenging it can be to juggle it all and still find time for pleasure. Because of the lack of education she even got in her medical training when it came to hormones, female pleasure and sexual response, it is her mission to help more people understand what they can do to experience more pleasure and ease during all seasons of life.

    Episode Highlights:

    • The many causes of sexual dysfunction and what to look out for
    • What to expect in perimenopause and post menopause as it relations to symptoms and changes in sexual response and satisfaction
    • Why Dr. Shyama got involved with Playground, a female sexual wellness company and what products they offer for the female body

    Featured on the show:

    • Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.
    • Check out Playground at: https://helloplayground.com/
    • Connect with Dr. Shyama on IG @drmathewsgyn

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    Ep. 184: 2024 Sex & Intimacy Goals Jan 05, 2024

    New year and a time that so many of us are setting intentions. What I love to observe about this time is about how much of the narrative is about doing MORE. But when it comes to sex and intimacy goals, for most of us it requires us to do less.

    To do less to reset our nervous system. To do less so that we can open to receive. Do less so that we aren’t overwhelmed, overtired and overstretched so that we can experience the oodles of pleasure that our bodies are wired for.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Why sex and intimacy goals are so important to create the relationships we want.
    • 4 steps to help yourself be successful with these goals
    • A list of ideas for sex and intimacy goals for YOU and for YOUR RELATIONSHIP

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    • Get turned on every morning, so that you can simmer in the foundational state of feeling GOOD. Download the FREE guide, Savory Starter, HERE to make a very impactful and small shift towards your pleasure.
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    How To Ask For What You Want - Mini-sode Dec 22, 2023

    Learning how to ask for what you want is essential to experiencing more pleasure and also creating more desire.

    Whether it is asking to try a new position, more time to transition from ‘work’ to ‘home’ or asking for help so your mind is racing with all to-do it is a skill we all need as pleasured and turned on women

    Please enjoy this short and to the point episode with all the how-tos

    Episode Highlights:

    • The place we ALWAYS must start change from
    • Why it’s important to view this as a skill and where else we are killing it at asking
    • The mindset shift needs before you ask
    • 4 steps to asking for what you want

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    Ep. 182: When Sex Hurts: 6 Ways For More Pleasure Dec 14, 2023

    Listen, sex shouldn’t hurt. Period. But the truth is sex hurts for many women and is uncomfortable for so many more. In this episode I will share with you six ways to help make sex more pleasurable.

    Please note that this episode is NOT to replace medical care and if you are experiencing pain, I highly recommend you speak to your OBGYN and see a pelvic floor therapist.

    What is shared in this episode has also helped many of my clients, myself included, dramatically reduce pain and I hope in the least, it will allow you to start relating to your pain in a different way.

    Also don’t forget to enter the podcast giveaway - where everyone will receive a guided meditation and sexy playlist to help facilitate that turned on woman mood. Plus be entered for a chance for private coaching and a gift card for some sensuous gifts.

    You can find all the details about how to enter by visiting: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway

    Episode Highlights:

    • What happens when we expect sex to hurt
    • Why it’s important to watch “your tone young lady” when noticing your body hurts
    • The relationship between pain and stress
    • Ways you can start reducing your pain right now

    Featured on the show:

    • New giveaway for simply following the show! Plus extra drawing entries for some juicy grand prizes when you also include a review. Check out the details here: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway
    • Get turned on every morning, so that you can simmer in the foundational state of feeling GOOD. Download the FREE guide, Savory Starter, HERE to make a very impactful and small shift towards your pleasure.

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    Ep. 181: Beyond 'Fine' - Changing the Brain For More Pleasure Nov 23, 2023

    There are so many ways that we can change our brain for the better, meaning in order for us to experience the things we want - like greater happiness, connection, motivation and satisfaction.

    Please enjoy this minisode of how we can move beyond our default setting of just ‘ok’ to more of what we want and why pleasure is a key element of this.

    Also don’t forget to enter the podcast giveaway - where everyone will receive a guided meditation and sexy playlist to help facilitate that turned on woman mood. Plus be entered for a chance for private coaching and a gift card for some sensuous gifts.

    You can find all the details about how to enter by visiting: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway

    Episode Highlights:

    • How science helps us be on our own side
    • The three different ways we can work with the mind
    • Why pleasure is essential and how you can use it to actively change the mind

    Featured on the show:

    • New giveaway for simply following the show! Plus extra drawing entries for some juicy grand prizes when you also include a review. Check out the details here: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway
    • Get turned on every morning, so that you can simmer in the foundational state of feeling GOOD. Download the FREE guide, Savory Starter, HERE to make a very impactful and small shift towards your pleasure.

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    Ep. 180: The Secret To Being A Turned On Woman Nov 16, 2023

    What's holding you back from being that Turned On Woman?

    Hint it isn’t your hormones or your sexy lingerie or even having a partner who is fawning all over you. It’s a way of being in the world. The way that you think about being turned on and how often you truly allow yourself to BE that.

    We always have a choice, we are always simmering, just waiting to boil over - but are you boiling over towards ecstasy or towards burn-out. Listen in this week as Danielle gives you a compelling case for feeling good and being turned on MORE . . . the secret every turned on woman is tapped into.

    And also don’t miss out on the amazing GIVEAWAY happening right now! You already listen to the show, now get rewarded for tuning in 🙂

    You can find all the details about how to enter by visiting: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway

    Episode Highlights:

    • How to make yourself more accessible for pleasure in mind and body.
    • If you want to think, feel and show up as a turned on woman this one thing MUST be a part of your daily routine.
    • Our unrealistic expectations when it comes to being able to just turn it ON in the moment and how we can help ourselves shorten that time.

    Featured on the show:

    • New giveaway for simply following the show! Plus extra drawing entries for some juicy grand prizes when you also include a review. Check out the details here: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway
    • Get turned on every morning, so that you can simmer in the foundational state of feeling GOOD. Download the FREE guide, Savory Starter, HERE to make a very impactful and small shift towards your pleasure.

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    Ep. 179: The Pleasure Paradox: When your partner's desire to see you pleasured feels like pressure Nov 10, 2023

    Of course you want to be with a partner who wants to see you pleasured, I mean don’t we all??!

    But then you feel like them wanting to see you writhe in ecstasy is making it even harder for you. You worry that you aren’t going to be able to ‘get there’ and even though they say something like “I want to please you” “Or I want to see you come” instead of feeling turned on and sexy inside you feel, whelp, pressure.

    Don’t worry, this is so normally and we have ALL been there.

    Listen in on how to deal with The Pleasure Paradox on this week’s episode.

    And also don’t miss out on the amazing GIVEAWAY happening right now!

    You can find all the details about how to enter by visiting: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway

    Episode Highlights:

    • Why it is important to understand what the Pleasure Paradox is
    • Knowing when and why your partner’s best intentions don’t FEEL always so good in your body
    • How your partner needs to be aware of their own reasons for wanting you to feel pleasure
    • How to communicate effectively and open up conversation when you are feeling pressure around pleasure

    Featured on the show:

    • New giveaway for simply following the show! Plus extra drawing entries for some juicy grand prizes when you also include a review. Check out the details here: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveaway

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    Ep. 178: Confidently Ask For What You Want Pt. 2: HOW! Oct 27, 2023

    YES! You’re all prepped after last week to truly step into asking for what you want. And today we dive into part two - what do you actually say?

    As adults we understand that we can never guarantee what we are asking for or sharing is going to land perfectly with our partner - we are all humans - sometimes things are missaid, sometimes feelings are hurt and sometimes we completely flub getting across what our deepest desires truly are. And it is all OK - why? Because it is practice, all of it. Most of us do not have much experience communicating about sex and our desires, but this episode will give you some prompts and guidelines to make things more smooth.

    How do you teach them without hurting their feelings? How do you ask for something you really want without feeling awkward as all get out?

    Tune into this episode where I break it all down so you have the confidence to go in and have those juicy, intimate talks and advocate for your own pleasure with ease.

    Episode Highlights:

    • What convos to have in the moment and which ones to save for outside of those sexy times.
    • The importance of starting with something you love or appreciate about what your partner is already doing.
    • How you can make it an “us” thing vs a “them” thing and prompts to usher in this pleasure collaboration.
    • Scripts, prompts and ideas to have this conversation with more ease.

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    • Or BOOK a call here.

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    Ep. 177: Confidently Ask For What You Want Part #1: YOU! Oct 20, 2023

    Giving your partner feedback is NOT easy for most of us. Whether it is asking for something we want more of or letting our partner know we aren’t really a fan of something that they are doing, it is hard to know HOW to actually deliver the information.

    How do you teach them without hurting their feelings? How do you ask for something your really want without feeling awkward as all get out?

    Tune into this two part episode where I break it all down so you have the confidence to go in and have those juicy, intimate talks and advocate for your own pleasure with ease.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Why focusing on YOUR experience first is a crucial step in the conversation.
    • How to make every discussion successful, regardless of your partner’s reaction.
    • Why working on your own beliefs behind your desires is imperative to a successful outcome.

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    • Hit “SUBSCRIBE” or “FOLLOW” to make sure this podcast can keep running 🙂
    • Have you written a review yet? Please take a few minutes to to write why you enjoy this podcast so much, it helps tremendously in spreading the word.
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    • Or BOOK a call here.

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    Ep. 176: 5 Brain Hacks For Better Sex Oct 05, 2023

    Brain hacks for productivity, good grades, following through with goals - but what about your pleasure?? Well your brain IS your largest (and most important) sex organ, so today I am going to give you five quick and dirty brain hacks to elevate your sexual satisfaction.

    Whether you're in a long-term relationship, exploring new connections, or simply curious about the power of the human brain in the bedroom, you won't want to miss out on these hacks.

    From boosting desire to enhancing intimacy, these five brain hacks are designed to supercharge your connection with your partner and unleash the full potential of your sensual experiences.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Tangled is enrolling NOW - join us for the most pleasurable and deep transformation personal growth journey out there. What it actually looks like when you start making your pleasure a priority
    • 5 hacks you can apply right now for better sexual experience, plus WHY these are so impactful
    • The surprising mind skill you already likely have that is being utilized in a misguided way
    • How to set the stage for more pleasure with your mind
    • Simple ways you can rewire your brain in a way that advocates for your pleasure

    Featured on the show:

    • Email danielle@daniellesavory.com to set up a time to discuss joining Tangled or becoming one of the FIRST Pleasure-Centered Trained Coaches
    • Join Tangled : https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangled
    • Message me @thepracticeofpleasure and let me know what brain hack you are planning on implementing right away!

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    Ep. 175: Why Wait For a Problem To Make A Change? Caitie's Experience From Satisfactory to Sensational Sep 28, 2023

    It is so interesting that we as humans will typically wait for something to be a problem before we make a change. We wait for things to fall a part, or for someone to be dissatisfied or for our mind to be consumed with something ‘not working’ long enough before we take the action to change.

    In today’s episode Caitie, a past participant of the Tangled program, shared her big ah-ha of how she was hesitant before joining because the sex was good. And so many women I speak with will say the same thing. But after having a baby things began to change so she decided to truly do something about it. But through her journey to experience more desire postpartum she realized how much she always had let her husband’s pleasure take precedence.

    Caitie opens up about the profound impact this work has had on her relationship, from incredible shifts of more mind-blowing pleasure, to the liberation of saying no and yes from a place of true desire. If you've ever felt that this area of your life wasn’t ‘problematic’ but had a sneaking suspicion that there was more, Caitie illustrates a beautiful example of what is possible when you lead with your pleasure.

    Episode Highlights:

    • What flipped the switch for her from “this is something fun” do “whoa, this is way more important than I thought”
    • What it actually looks like when you start making your pleasure a priority
    • Does pleasure planning actually work??
    • Her rocky experience with feeling pressure to get it on and what she did to move through that

    Featured on the show:

    • Email danielle@daniellesavory.com to set up a time to discuss joining Tangled or becoming one of the FIRST Pleasure-Centered Trained Coaches
    • Join Tangled : https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangled
    • To connect with Caitie on IG https://www.instagram.com/caitiedaidone/ or @caitiedaidone

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    Ep. 174: When It's Easier To Be Friends with Your Partner Interview with Jenna Sep 14, 2023

    Today we dive even deeper into the titillating world of pleasure with Jenna, a past participant of the Tangled program. Jenna candidly opens up about a feeling many of you might relate to - when the rush of daily life makes it seem easier to be friends with our partners, allowing intimacy and pleasure to take a back seat. Through moments of vulnerability, confronting shame, and her transformative experience in the Tangled program, Jenna shares a poignant journey back to the heart of intimacy. If you've ever felt that push and pull between the demands of life and the deep human need for intimate connection both with yourself and your partner,, Jenna's story will resonate deeply.

    Episode Highlights:

    • How shame can be a powerful catalyst for change.
    • Why marriage can unintentionally fall into the friendzone
    • What type of changes Jenna noticed when she began to embrace pleasure and prioritize sensual time with her husband
    • The one area that she realized she NEVER spent time feeling and how transformative it was once she integrated this part of her sensual experience
    • The way Jenna uses the military lingo of ‘command emphasis’ to help train her brain to prioritize and open up to pleasure

    Featured on the show:

    • Email team@daniellesavory.com to set up a time to discuss joining Tangled or becoming one of the FIRST Pleasure-Centered Trained Coaches
    • Join Tangled Group Coach Waitlist: https://www.daniellesavory.com/groupcoachingwaitlist
    • To connect with Jenna professionally or to ask questions about Tangled reach her through social media @theuncommonway or on her website https://theuncommonway.com

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    Ep. 173: 5 Shifts For Fantastic Foreplay Sep 08, 2023

    Foreplay is always a hot button topic amongst my clients - should I? Is it really worth the effort? What IS foreplay exactly?

    Foreplay could be the single most important thing to help your body (and your mind) warm up, get turned on and become erotically aroused. So why then is it the first thing to go as a relationship becomes more established?

    In this episode my hope is that you walk away understanding WHY it is so important to set you up for a pleasurable experience and also give you some ways to lay the foundation for your foreplay to get even better.

    Episode Highlights:

    • The importance of prioritizing foreplay in order to create an orgasmic experience.
    • How patriarchal socialization has impacted the frequency of foreplay and how it hurts female pleasure
    • The 5 shifts you can make - from mind, to body, to early partner connection to lay the foundation to insure fantastic foreplay
    • Reawakening Week: 5-Day Pleasure Challenge, free for you to join to guide you through the foundational steps for fantastic foreplay and more orgasmic experiences

    Featured on the show:

    • Reawakening Week: 5 Day Pleasure Challenge starts next week! This incredible challenge will set awaken your senses, get you in touch with sensual pleasure and set you up for orgasmic experience. It is the Septmeber reset we all need. www.daniellesavory.com/savory-starter
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    Ep. 172: Designing Delight: Using A Framework To Make Pleasure EASY Aug 18, 2023

    Listen, there is A LOT going on and pleasure gets put on hold MOST of the time. What I find so often with my clients is that the desire for more pleasure in their life is THERE. That is something they want, but HOW is much harder. But it can be so much easier when you have a framework for how you will incorporate pleasure into your life. Instead of just thinking, “Oh yah, that’d be nice”, a framework gives you the structure to make pleasure a reality.

    Episode Highlights:

    • Why a pleasure framework is vital for the busy woman
    • The importance of having a framework for pleasure for structure and ease
    • How you can save mental energy with a pleasure framework
    • How overwhelm because a hindrance to our sensual pleasure and what you can do about

    Grab your notes, because this episode is packed with insights that could very well reshape the way you approach your pleasurable endeavors

    Featured on the show:

    • Don’t forget to grab my new powerful guide Savory Starter: Simple Practices for a Pleasure-Ready Mind, Body, and Space," This IS the framework that is going to set you up for so much delightful success. www.daniellesavory.com/savory-starter
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    Ep. 171: Embracing Self-Love: A Journey to Appreciate Our Bodies w/ Laura Conley Jul 27, 2023

    Join us in this powerful conversation with Laura Conley as we delve into the profound journey of learning to love our bodies.

    Letting go of shame and self-criticism isn’t for the faint of heart. There are so many messages about ‘how’ we should think and feel about our bodies - from loving them just how they are to never being satisfied, so where is that sweet spot? When is self-loathing driving change and can we still want to change our appearance even if we love our bodies??

    Episode Highlights:

    From Criticism to Self-Love:

    • Laura shares her personal journey of moving away from being critical and judgmental towards her own body.
    • The societal shift towards body positivity and the challenges faced by those seeking to lose weight without shame.
    • Learning to Love Our Bodies:
    • Nurturing Self-Love:

    Tune in to this transformative episode as Laura Conley shares her wisdom and insights on embracing self-love and appreciating our bodies, regardless of their appearance. Start your journey towards a healthier and happier relationship with yourself today!

    Featured on the show:

    • Don’t forget to grab my new powerful guide Savory Starter: Simple Practices for a Pleasure-Ready Mind, Body, and Space," we will explore three easy, yet powerful, steps you can take each morning (or anytime really) to enhance your day and make your internal & external environment conducive to pleasure.
    • www.daniellesavory.com/savory-starter
    • Follow Laura on IG @lauraconleycoaching
    • Join her group coaching program the Yummy Mummy https://lauraconley.com/work-with-me
    • Listen to her podcast, The Yummy Mummy podcast HERE

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    Ep. 170: The Power of Pleasure Boosts Jul 13, 2023

    It is easy to fall into all or nothing thinking. My over achiever brain has been guilty of this most of my life. But the problem is all or nothing usually isn’t sustainable and can make it easy to abandon our pursuits at the slightest disruption.

    This is why I created “Pleasure Boosts” for myself awhile ago. These boosts of pleasure may be small, but the benefits are mighty. Enjoy the quick episode to hear ways you can begin incorporating Pleasure Boosts and why they are essential for supporting ourselves, even during those hectic times.

    In this episode, you will learn:

    • Ways all or nothing thinking can delay your progress.
    • Ways we unintentionally abandon our deep desires
    • What Pleasure Boosts are and why they are essential in creating a sustainable habit of embodied pleasure
    • Two ways you can incorporate Pleasure Boosts and examples of what the boost might actually be

    Featured on the show:

    • If you are enjoying this podcast please take a moment to write a quick review or share with a friend!
    • FRESH, a free mini-course by Danielle Savory to bring novelty to long-term relationships: [https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh]
    • For topic ideas or questions, you can reach out to the team at team@daniellesavory.com

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    Ep. 169: The EX-Good Girl with Sara Bybee Fisk Jul 06, 2023

    Continuing our conversation about the ripple impact of the "good girl" complex, which affects our daily interactions and our relationship with our sexuality, we are joined by Sara Bybee Fisk, a former "good girl," to discuss her personal and professional experiences with this phenomenon.

    Sara shares how she spent her entire life as a "good girl" until she had a profound realization that prompted her to make a drastic change. She discusses both the freedom she found and the heartbreaking consequences she faced when she decided to shed the mask of the "good girl" and embrace her truest and most authentic self.

    We delve into the topic of pleasure and the conflicting messages women receive, particularly when trying to navigate between being a "good girl" and a "good wife" in the realm of sexuality.

    Since her transformation, Sara has dedicated her professional life to helping other women embark on the courageous and healing journey of letting go of perfectionism and people-pleasing, so they too can live in alignment with their authentic selves.

    In this episode, you will learn:

    • What it means to live life as a "good girl"
    • The devastating consequences of stepping into your authenticity
    • How the need for belonging influences our choice to be a "good girl" and makes it difficult to break free from that pattern
    • The paradox between being a "good girl" and a "good wife"
    • The role of pleasure in the positive transformation from being a "good girl" to embracing your true self

    Featured on the show:

    • Sara Fisk's Instagram: [https://instagram.com/sarafiskcoach?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==]
    • The Ex Good Girl Podcast: [https://tr.ee/Pt8LDHTfh9]
    • Sara Fisk's website: [www.sarafisk.coach]
    • FRESH, a free mini-course by Danielle Savory to bring novelty to long-term relationships: [https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh]
    • For topic ideas or questions, you can reach out to the team at team@daniellesavory.com

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    EP. 168: Pleasure & The Good Girl Complex Jun 29, 2023

    We're delving into a topic that resonates deeply with many women - a phenomenon known as the 'good girl' complex or sometimes referred to as the 'good girl syndrome.' This is a concept that has permeated our culture and society, and it paints a very specific picture of how women 'should' behave.

    When societal expectations are imposed to such a stringent and uncompromising degree, that they begin to feel less like guidelines and more like chains is when these qualities, that may very well be good ones, become a problem. When the desire to please others overshadows one's own needs and desires, then we're navigating in the territory of the 'good girl' syndrome

    The 'good girl' complex impacts our lives, our mental health, relationships, careers, and yes, our experience with our sexuality. But how does it specifically impact our ability to experience more pleasure? Listen in and find out.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What actually is the definition of the ‘good girl’ complex and how it differs from very attractive qualities
    • How rebelling directly against the good girl guidelines isn’t necessarily the way to find your authentic truth
    • Ways in which the good girl complex impacts our ability to access pleasure that directly and indirectly have to do with sexuality
    • What is on the other side of the good girl shackles

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    Ep. 167: Anger, Pleasure & The Discomfort of Staying The Same w/ Angela Han Jun 15, 2023

    In this episode of the podcast, we dive deep into the realm of sexual pleasure as a crucial element of self-growth. Our guest, Angela, shares her personal journey of transformation and empowerment through her participation in the Tangled program. Join us as we explore how Angela discovered the power of embracing her own pleasure and the profound impact it had on her life.

    What You'll Learn on This Episode:

    • Angela's motivation for joining the Tangled program: When the discomfort of staying the same becomes greater than the discomfort of change.
    • Breaking free from self-imposed limitations: How Angela realized she had been inadvertently holding herself back from sexuality because of her socialization of it being taboo
    • Uncovering suppressed emotions: The correlation Angela noticed between leaning into pleasure and experiencing anger, and the valuable lessons she learned from this connection.
    • Fully expressing herself: Discover how integrating the exploration of pleasure allowed Angela to show up in the world as her authentic, fully expressed self.

    Tune in to this intriguing and fun conversation as Angela shares her personal insights and experiences, reminding us of the transformative power of embracing all of ourselves, even the bits we might be afraid of at first.

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    Ep. 166: How To Use Desire To Make Your Experience More Pleasurable May 19, 2023

    Wanting sex, desiring it, thirsting for it are all important. We want to want it, of course!!

    But how does desire actually impact your overall experience of the sex you end up having?

    In this week’s episode we will be diving into why we have to look at the texture of the wanting and motivation when assessing how pleasurable the actual experience is.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How a mundane experience can be transformed into an awe inspiring one
    • Why your motivation for taking action matters and how to take your sexy action to the next level of pleasure
    • How we inadvertently go through the motions and an impactful way to show up more fully for the experience

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    Ep. 165: Why Orgasming Should NOT Be Your Goal May 13, 2023

    Orgasms! Of course you want them! I want them and I want them ALL for you. But when we focus on orgasms, not only can it create problems, but it will diminish your overall capacity for mind-blowing pleasure.

    So what should you focus on instead? Listen in on this episode to learn of why it is SO important to not lead getting orgasms drive the show.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Why orgasm focused sex is problematic
    • What we lost when we try to get the orgasms
    • Where you want your focus TO be so that you can have the most memorable and mind-blwoing sexual experience
    • And a very relevant tangent about a craft store

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    Group coaching is the best way for you to elevate your experiences of pleasure in and OUT of the bedroom. TANGLED is now open for enrollment! LEARN MORE HERE.

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    Ep. 164: Making The Blowjob Orgasmic For Both May 04, 2023

    Blowjobs - love them or hate them, this episode is for you.

    The blowjob is one of those sexual acts that is seeped in assumptions, stigmatization and ‘shoulds'. Sure they are ‘for’ your partner and it can be so fun to see him turned on, but I want you to know there is so much MORE to them.

    In this episode I will be sharing with you an entirely new way to look at blow jobs — one that will have you excited to practice your technique and make blowjobs a more regular occurrence.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What society taught you about fellatio and how to spot where it is holding you back
    • Why the blowjob can bring you in closer relationship with your sexuality
    • The prerequisites for being turned on by giving a BJ

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    Ep. 163: High on Pleasure: Exploring Cannabis' Impact on Female Sexual Experience with Dr. Adie Rae Apr 20, 2023

    Puff, puff, pleasure! Ha! In this episode, we speak with Dr. Adie Rae, a leading neuroscientist researcher in the field of cannabis, discussing the effects of cannabis on female sexual pleasure. Dr Adie shares their knowledge and insights on the topic, discussing the ways in which cannabis can enhance women's sexual experiences.

    What you’ll learn from this episode

    • Dr. Adie explains the science behind how cannabis affects female sexual pleasure, including how it can enhance sensitivity and increase relaxation and other ways it directly helps you experience more pleasure
    • We get into the different strains and methods of consumption that are best suited for enhancing sexual experiences.
    • In this conversation Dr. Adie also addresses potential risks associated with cannabis use and fears you might have if you have never used it before.
    • Dr. Adie offers tips and advice for individuals who are interested in incorporating cannabis into their sex life, including dosage recommendations, communication with partners, and safe usage practices. She emphasizes the importance of individual experimentation and finding what works best for each person's unique body and preferences.

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    Ep. 162: Unlocking Your Sexual Potential With These 5 Visualization Strategies Apr 13, 2023

    In this episode, we explore how visualization can be used to enhance your sex life and increase your desire. This is a tool that I use regularly in my own personal life and is vital in helping my clients get the results they are wanting as well. I will share 5 specific techniques for using visualization to improve your sexual experiences and tips and techniques to make visualization easier.

    What you’ll learn from this episode:

    • The science behind the mind-body connection and how visualization can impact sexual function and satisfaction.
    • Why visualization can be particularly helpful for individuals who struggle with low desire, performance anxiety, or other sexual challenges.
    • The 5 specific visualization techniques that I recommend for enhancing your sex life, including [insert techniques].
    • Tips for getting started with visualization and incorporating it into your sexual routine.

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    Ep. 161: The Permission Slip: Allowing Yourself to Change Your Mind Will Help Inc. Your Desire Apr 06, 2023

    Do you ever struggle with scheduling sex because you’re afraid that when the time comes you might not like feel like it and you don’t want to get your partner’s hopes up? Or you hold yourself back from a midday makeout sesh or big french kiss because you know it’’ be met with a knowing grin and “Oh I see what’s going on” suggestion - and to be honest you just don’t know if you want to? Or maybe you have with all good intention been into it and then along the way you simply aren’t feeling it anymore, but it is easier to go along than stop things.

    Then you have to listen to this episode. Subconscious fears about not wanting to disappoint your partner, give the wrong idea or lock yourself into something you aren’t so sure about are keeping you from feeling more desire.

    And the solution is simply. Listen in to find out what it is.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Why giving yourself permission to change your mind is VITAL to feeling more turned on
    • The emotional responsibility women take on, especially when it comes to sex
    • How you are unintentionally being dishonest and what you need to do to become a trustworthy lover again

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    Ep. 160: ADHD, High Sensitivity, The Neurodivergent Brain & SEX Mar 30, 2023

    Hello my fellow neurodivergent lovers! This episode is FOR you. Today we talk about how high sensitivity and ADHD tendencies can keep you from loving the sex you are having and dampening your desire and exactly what to do about it.

    This episode originally showed up on The Black Sheep Playground podcast with Meg Kierstead and I loved the interview so much I wanted to share it here as well. Because to be honest it isn’t talked about a lot. How to regulate more - yes, how to get organized and stay on task - yes but sex and pleasure? Not so much.

    In this episode I will give you specific tools, that I have used to work with my own neurodivergent brain, in order to relish in all the pleasure your body is wired for. Enjoy!

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How to make your environment pleasure friendly
    • Creating a physical anchor to give your busy brain something to return to
    • Why schedule sex is once again a fabulous thing to do, even if you are super resistant!
    • Using pleasure for a barometer and more!

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    • Black Sheep Playground Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-black-sheep-playground/id1631943092

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    Ep. 159: Caretaking vs. Caring For Your Lover Mar 23, 2023

    Have you ever asked yourself the question what the difference between caring or caretaking is? And why am I even asking this question? Because if you are anything like me, or my clients, playing mother to your lover is for sure NOT a turn on. So when does genuine caring and doing something from love for another cross into the realm of being their caretaker? That is exactly what we will be discussing on this episode

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How caring plays a vital role in our intimate relationships
    • The identifying factors between caring and caretaking
    • How sex shows up in our ‘caretaking roles'
    • Choosing on purpose what and how you’ll do particular tasks so that you can continuously foster that passion

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    Ep. 158: Carry The Mental Load & Being Overwhelmed Mar 02, 2023

    There is a lot of talk about the mental load and physical load of running a house that a woman in a heterosexual relationship typically experiences. And thank goodness - we NEED to be talking about this.

    However, I do see some of this narrative getting turned into a laundry list of “dos” for our partner and often in the vein of “Maybe I would be more in the mood if I had more help”.

    And I want to address why this subtle shift can be problematic to the connection you are actually wanting.

    Also TANGLED is open - enroll now or email me to schedule a call to see if this program is right for you!

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How we unintentionally create a transactional relationship and how exactly this causes less emotional intimacy
    • What we get wrong about emotional intimacy and who is really in charge of creating it
    • The generational belief that we unconsciously are believing at some level that makes it harder to experience pleasure

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    Ep. 157: The Trifecta of Sexual Satisfaction: Three Must-Dos Feb 24, 2023

    Understanding sexual pleasure and desire can feel complex - there can be so many factors that impact your mood, your openness to receive and your experience of pleasure.

    That being said, in order to increase your sexual satisfaction it really comes down to three essential things. You can keep your mind focus on these THREE things over and over again because you’ll always find little nuances to work with that will help you elevate your sensual experience.

    Tangled is the group coaching program that starts in a couple of weeks and this is the framework we work from.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The top three things that will elevate your sexual experience over and over again.
    • Why it’s important to understand the nuances of each focus - what it means and what it doesn’t mean.
    • The skills to develop that will help you do each of these three things well

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    Ep. 156: "I WANT What She Has" - Balancing The Pursuit of Pleasure While Staying Committed To Religious Beliefs Feb 09, 2023

    “Babe. Listening to this woman was like I was listening to myself. I want to sign up for this program. I want what she has!” That’s the exact thing one of my clients said to her husband after listening to an interview about a year ago on “It’s My Pleasure”. Now she is coming on to share with all of you how this work, in her words, “has completely changed my LIFE.”

    It is easy to think that truly LOVING your sex life and being orgasmically fulfilled is just for “other women” and not for you. My client Faith was nervous that the same might be true for her. Having had a conservative upbringing and being dedicated to her own religious beliefs, Faith was worried that it might not be in the works for her to love her sex life, but she knew she wanted things to change.

    Listen in on this compelling story full of raw honestly, transformation and truly seeing a ripple impact of what is possible when becoming a turned on woman.

    It is so important that we not only conceptually understand what is possible, but listen to others share their stories in their own words.

    You’re going to love this discussion!

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The most simply and PROFOUND belief that will set more pleasure in motion
    • How a conservative/religious upbringing impacted her marital intimacy and what it looks like now
    • The power of thinking “what if?” when you want to go all in on this growth
    • Why Faith consciously chose NOT to join an exclusively Christian sex coaching program and how that decision ended up being wildly beneficial in a # of ways

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    • FREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh
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    Ep. 155: 5 Ways Your 'Yes's' Are Hurting Your Sex Life Feb 02, 2023

    It’s easy to blame the “big” culprits for our lack of desire or intimate pleasure - things like crazy schedules, hormones, a partner who is being an a-hole. But what about the little things? The way that you are behaving that is unconsciously depleting you and cutting you off from your body?

    This week we talk about the yes’s that are having a direct negative impact on your body, your desire and your intimacy. Not the all over, full body “hell yes!” but the habitual ways we say yes to others and expectations. Understanding the way we unintentionally hide our ’true’ self in the name of showing up the way we are expected to. How we start saying yes to avoid conflict and get approval - aka people pleasing.

    In this episode we dive into the world of people pleasing, but in a way that will allow for more compassion AND motivate change. I want all women to feel incredible in their bodies and sex lives and having acute awareness around our socialization to please is the key to that.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What people pleasing REALLY is and the ways you might not even know you are doing it.
    • How distinguish people pleasing from helping and being in service.
    • The top 5 ways your saying yes will harm your overall pleasure and why its so important to understand
    • The first step in changing your behavior FOR your own good

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    • Episode #130: 5 habits That Keep You From Receiving & How To Open Up More

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    Ep. 154: Pleasure: A Vital Element To Successful Leadership w/ Emily Feairs Jan 26, 2023

    For high achieving women, especially leaders, pleasure and rest tends to be seen as irrelevant to the important work and impact they are creating in the world. On this week’s episode, former client and leadership coach, Emily Feairs shares why we’ve got it all backwards.

    Emily is The Feminist Leadership Coach. She has spent years as a leader in politics and knows from experience how overwhelm and perfectionism can get in the way of the most determined woman. She shares her own knowledge from years studying the brain with her lived experience leaning into more pleasure to show women how focusing on being pleased is key to being the badass you want to be in the world.

    This conversation challenges the norms we’ve been taught and will demonstrate exactly why pleasure is vital to our success.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How your ability to lead ties to your ability to receive pleasure
    • Why ‘pleasure’ can feel so ‘ick’ for high achieving women and what you can do to move past it
    • The importance of understanding how the patriarchy has kept women from pleasure and the impact of dissolving this thinking can have on your personal and professional life

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    • FREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh
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    • Emily Feairs: https://emilyfeairs.com
    • Emily’s instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyfeairs/
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    Ep. 153: How To Handle Mismatched Desire For More Satisfying Sex Jan 19, 2023

    Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. However most of us might label the different levels of desire as ‘mismatched’ when in fact that isn’t what is going on - which is exactly what we talked about in last week’s episode 152.

    But what do you do if you have determined that it is in fact mismatched desire you are experiencing? Well tune in this week to find out. Sometimes it seems as though there is nowhere to go, but but there is actually a lot both partner’s can do to alleviate the tension and get back to pleasurable play.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What mismatched desire is an isn’t.
    • Why emotional responsibility is essential.
    • How to determine non-negotiable and where to go from there.

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    • FREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh
    • It’s My Pleasure episode 152: Is Mismatched Desire a Problem?
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    Ep. 152: Is Mismatched Desire A Problem in Your Relationship? What To Do To Find Out. Jan 12, 2023

    Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. Mismatched desire is the term used when one person may want more than the other. This is the most common thing I clients will bring to me, however with further investigation most women will realize that there isn’t actually a problem with mismatched desire at all.

    This week I want you to understand what mismatched desire is and isn’t, because how we handle this and move forward looks very different in either case. Learning more about yourself and about your partner will help both of you have much more satisfying sexual experiences - which is of course my aim! Listen on and find out if you truly are experiencing mismatched desire or perhaps the way desire is presenting itself is outside what media depicts.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The importance of labels and why calling it sex ‘drive’ can be problematic
    • Sexual urges vs sexual desires
    • The misrepresentation of desire in the media and how that can impact your relationship
    • Why a difference in how desire is experienced is more commonly the issue NOT mismatched desire

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    • S.O.U.L. Centered Communication w/ Maggie Reyes Episode #114: https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/114-s-o-u-l-centered-communication-w-maggie-reyes%2F
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    Ep. 151: New Year Goal: The Shameless Practice of Pleasure Jan 05, 2023

    Lets do something different in 2023, let’s embark on the actual PRACTICE of pleasure. Without the shame, without the guilt, with out the feeling that we are doing something selfish.

    When pleasure is your AIM, when it becomes the goal everything in your life changes. In this episode learn why practicing more pleasure this next year is a worthy endeavor and how it can impact all the other goals you may have in your life. 2023 is your year, to feel good, to create at a higher level, to become truly turned on.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Why the pursuit of pleasure is not only a worthy endeavor, but a necessary one.
    • How your conditioning keeps your from pursuing pleasure and the mindset needed to set your self up for success
    • The impact that practicing pleasure will have on your other goals
    • Actionable steps to take to make sure your life is infused with pleasure

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    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
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    Ep. 150: How To Increase "Natural" Desire Dec 15, 2022

    I talk to loads of women every single week about increasing our desire - that wanting, that longing. You want to WANT it more and I get it, it can be jarring going a time in your relationship when looking forward to intimacy with your partner seemed effortless to wondering how the hell you were going to get yourself in the mood. And despite the fact that we talk about other ways to create that desire, you may feel like it is a game of mental gymnastics to get there.

    In this episode we take a look at ‘natural desire’ and our longing to create more of that. Plus don’t forget that the holiday special with sexy gift guide is available now for free - your way to make your holidays more pleasure! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What does natural desire even mean and why its important we have a working definition of it.
    • The impact of hormones on your desire and what can be even more influential in you wanting it.
    • How putting sex in a special category of motivation harms our ability to experience the desire we are wanting
    • The best way to create more desire and how to make this easier as time goes on.

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    • Get the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan right now! This totally free 5 day email sequence packed with strategy, tools and your go to thinking to create the most fun, playful and orgasmically pleasing holiday! Sign up HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday
    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
    • Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching
    Ep. 149: Gifts To Turn You On Dec 08, 2022

    Let’s make this the most pleasurable holiday - filled with gifts that will actually LIGHT you up. Have you ever wanted to buy something for the holidays to add to your pleasure, your intimacy or feeling more turned on? Then look no further! Whether you want some fun and creative experience ideas or a few toys from your own ‘naughty’ list this episode will cover it all.

    I have also included a shopping guide with links to ideas of some of the gifts mentioned on the podcast in the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - This is my free gift for you - 5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep leaning into your turned on woman self, daily fun challenges and now your juicy gift list! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday and let's get you all holiday spiced up.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Ways to invest in your pleasure and passion this holiday season.
    • Some toys you might never of heard from that you can check out.
    • How to turn on YOUR mind with resources and education
    • Ways to make your bedroom a pleasure sanctuary
    • Creative gift ideas that won’t cost you a thing to give!

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    • Get the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan right now which includes a list of gift recommendations with links and ideas. This totally free 5 day email sequence packed with strategy, tools and your go to thinking to create the most fun, playful and orgasmically pleasing holiday! Sign up HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday
    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
    • Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching
    Ep. 148: 5 Tips To Make Your Holiday More Pleasurable Dec 01, 2022

    Look we don’t need to kid ourselves that the holidays are NOT a busy time of the year. The month of December brings on different things that will fill up your calendar - traditions, social gatherings, volunteering, baking, gift buying etc. Prioritizing pleasure is tricky in REGULAR time, let alone during the holidays - especially because we are socialized to put everyone else’s needs and feeling FIRST. Listen, I promise no one wins when you put your pleasure on hold - not you, not your family, not your partner. And during the holidays when the obligations and requests from others are running high it is important to get intentional about how you WANT to experience the holidays. The holidays are magical and fun and an incredible time of year - let’s make sure that is YOUR experience this year.

    Here are my 5 tips for the most ecstatically enjoyable holidays. PLUS make sure you sign up for the FREE 5 day Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - your 5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep leaning into your turned on woman self. Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Why it is important to decide what we WANT our holiday to look like ahead of time
    • Where we have energy and time leakage
    • Why guilt has no space in you declining requests and bowing out of invitations
    • What self-loving boundaries look like and why they are even MORE important during the holidays
    • E.L.F. and other tools you will receive in the free Turned On Woman Holiday Plan

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    • Get the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan right now! This totally free 5 day email sequence packed with strategy, tools and your go to thinking to create the most fun, playful and orgasmically pleasing holiday! Sign up HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday
    • REVIEW It’s My Pleasure NOW and be entered to win 2 life changing coaching session with Danielle, the course Undressed or a $100 gift card for some pleasure enhancers. Plus every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
    • Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching
    Ep. 147: Being Tired Is A Reason For More Sex, Not An Excuse To Say No Nov 24, 2022

    Being too tired is one of the main reasons that I hear women dismissing an invitation for intimacy or putting off pleasure for another day - when they think they might have more energy. And I get it, I too have experience lots of tired nights when sex is the last thing my mind says I want. But in this episode I want to offer you a very radical perspective . . . what if being tired is the exact reason we need to be having MORE sex? What if it is actually the antidote to having more energy?

    Well my friends, this isn’t just a theory - when we look at how orgasms and sensual pleasure support the body and the brain you will quickly see how orgasmic pleasure might be the ‘caffeine’ boost we all need, but even more nourishing because it helps create actual rest and ease in the body. Pls when you learn how to put pleasure at the top of your list, instead of the bottom, the way you show up will have the added bonus of giving you more energy to begin with.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The impact of coaching 1:1 with me and how you can get two free sessions.
    • How our mindset about sex will make it seem like an added effort instead and how to change that
    • The importance of understanding what is draining energy in your life
    • How pursuing sensual pleasure will have you showing up in a way that revitalizes your whole being
    • The impact that orgasms can have on a more restful sleep

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    • REVIEW It’s My Pleasure NOW and be entered to win 2 life changing coaching session with Danielle, the course Undressed or a $100 gift card for some pleasure enhancers. Plus every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
    • Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching
    Ep. 146: We Are TIred AF Nov 17, 2022

    I was being interviewed awhile back by the producer for Red Table Talk (a story for another time) and she asked, “so what do you think is the main reason women aren’t having much sex or it isn’t that good” and without hesitation I answered . . . Because we are tired. And this was in March 1, 2020 - before the pandemic hit - before we had experienced the level of fatigue most of us our experiencing now.

    But despite the fact that we have every reason in the world to BE tired, it doesn’t mean our desire and sexual should suffer because of it. In this two part podcast on tiredness and fatigue we explore a simple mindset shift and speaking tip to help you begin to break out of the cycle of fatigue.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How our mindset about fatigue and tiredness impact our physical sensation of it
    • The importance of breaking out of the habitual beliefs around tiredness
    • How to use our approach to fatigue to gain more energy

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    • REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more women to feel freedom in their body. Every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran, Plus be entered for a drawing for some very pleasurable prizes. I SO appreciate each and everyone of you listening and taking the time, let’s work together to spread the word. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
    • Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a coaching intensive to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

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    Ep. 145: Women.Life.Freedom w/ Mahsa Darabi Nov 10, 2022

    Women. Life. Freedom - What does that mean to you? Today we talk to Mahsa Darabi, Iranian immigrant, mother, business owner, inspirational powerhouse and one of my favorite humans in the whole world. Mahsa speaks candidly about what it has been like living as an Iranian-American woman watching the protests happening in Iran as women fight for their rights against a violent regime.

    We discuss the intersection of our own internal work around pleasure and sexuality and how that relates to the fight for women’s liberation globally.

    Don’t miss this important conversation about the importance of creating powerful internal change and the impact that has on our community, future generations and women’s sovereignty at large.

    Also make sure write and share a review to get direction involved in helping raise awareness for Iranian women and be eligible to be gifted the Undressed course, private 1:1 sessions with me or a Pleasure Package. Follow the instructions below to have us make a donation on your behalf and enter you to win these prizes!

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What it was like growing up as an Iranian woman in America and how Mahsa’s life has been impacted by the current protests.
    • The conversation Mahsa had with her father that immediately shifted sexual shame for her
    • Why the intersection between women’s liberation at large with her own personal liberation has been confusing at times.
    • How to get involved and why it matters.

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    • REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more women to feel freedom in their body. Every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $5 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran, matched by another $5 from Mahsa to help the local protests of Free Iran PDX. Plus be entered for a drawing for some very pleasurable prizes. I SO appreciate each and everyone of you listening and taking the time, let’s work together to spread the word. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
    • Connect with Mahsa on IG @themoodypersian or stop by her website to order her new Moody chai and see what other yummy endeavors she is up to at https://www.moodypersian.com
    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
    • Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a coaching intensive to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

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    Ep. 144: Better Sex Starts With Better Self-Awareness Nov 03, 2022

    YOU already have self-awareness. You already are conscious of many of the thoughts that are getting in the way of you having more pleasure, you notice how you feel in your body when it is a “yes” or a “no”, you understand what your current sex life is like and where you ware wanting it to go. But did you know there is so much more to self-awareness? That there are multiple layers of our awareness and when we unlock each layer the sex just keeps getting better and better? In this episode we talk about what you might be missing in your self-awareness journey and exactly what to watch out for so that you don’t get stuck in your pursuit for more pleasure.

    Also make sure to tune in to a special drawing that is going on in the month of November when you rate & review the podcast! You may be eligible to be gifted the Undressed course, private 1:1 sessions with me or a Pleasure Package. Follow the instructions below to become eligible!

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What self-awareness is and how it helps you up-level your sex life.
    • The two ingredients required for effective self-awareness practice.
    • How your initial self-awareness around your goal and what is standing in the way will catapult you into action.
    • The most common and detrimental barrier to your success and how reverting back to self-awareness is key skill to utilize in this moment.

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    • REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more women to feel freedom in their body. Every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $5 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Plus be entered for a drawing for some very pleasurable prizes. I SO appreciate each and everyone of you listening and taking the time, let’s work together to spread the word. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
    • Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a coaching intensive to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

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    Ep. 143: When You Don't Feel Sexy Oct 27, 2022

    Have you ever thought “Ugh I just don’t feel sexy” or something along those lines and it has kept you from getting it on?! Yup, me too. I think we all have before. Not feeling good in our bodies or feeling confident about our bodies is a complete desire killer. But it doesn’t have to be, in fact the reason this even shows up is because of the way we learned about sex and what we taught about our bodies, especially in the realm of desirability.

    This inevitably becomes one more way we inadvertently keep ourselves from feeling good. Let’s change that. In this episode you will learn how to rewire this mental obstacle and take actionable steps to never having your thoughts about your body keep your from enjoying some sensual pleasure.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How our socialization regarding what sex is all about, has us measuring up our body in the first place.
    • Why acknowledgement of why this is showing up is the first step in our changing it.
    • The ways perfectionism, reward and beauty standards keep us from enjoying sensual pleasure.
    • The two relationships you want to focus on changing to prevent this from happening in the future.
    • A strategy and actionable steps to take for next time this inevitable pops up.

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    • Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
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    Ep. 142: The Importance of Developing Desire & How To Do It Oct 20, 2022

    Have you wanted to improve your sex life and just noticed that you honestly don’t have that much desire FOR it? So you get stuck, like how am I actually supposed to make this better if I can’t even get in the mood to start with? Wanting sex, not feeling tired for it or not being in the mood seem to be the main hindrances for most women in having a more pleasurable sex life. Like I want to really want it, but how? Don’t worry, I got you. Desire is one of the most fascinating topics for me and one I absolutely LOVE studying both scientifically and with my clients and find new ways to think about it and approach it. You might also be wondering if developing more desire is even worth it and spoiler alert, not only is it a skill you will look forward to developing, but it is wildly important for you well-being and beyond.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How our socialization around desire will help you understand why this isn’t a skill most women have.
    • The difference between desirability and desire and how they influence one another.
    • Understanding the type of desire is to help you gather information, not dictate what’s possible.
    • 3 steps to help you begin developing more desire right now
    • Why desire is a skill set worth working on and the impactful impact it has beyond the bedroom.

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    • It’s My Pleasure episode #99 https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/103-the-411-on-foreplay%2F
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    Ep. 141: Why Desire To Better Your Sex Life Isn't Enough & How To Take Action Oct 13, 2022

    Wanting to do something to change your sex life is an AMAZING first step, but often times it isn’t enough to actually get us taking the action to shake things up. Desire is part of the equation, but our desire is often times enough to overcome some of the unconscious fears and doubts that we ALL have. In this episode I share some real client stories as well as some of my deeply personal fears I had about improving my sex life. You will find actual practices to do at home at the end of this less to hope you lean more into that desire. I hope this is the exact thing you need to hear to create more safety for yourself and create the fun and playful sex life you want.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • A real client story of someone who had a lot of anxiety and fear and how she ended up with doing this work
    • The necessary equation we need to make momentum towards change.
    • How this realm of personal growth can bring up a whole lot of shit and what to do with it.
    • Practices for you to do right now to start shifting yourself into taking the steps towards your pleasure you want

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    • Undressed: new course all about YOUR pleasure. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
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    Ep. 140: What To Do When You're Taking Too Long Oct 06, 2022

    Are you afraid you are taking to long to get aroused and orgasm? Listen, if so, you are so not alone. This is one of the most common worries among women when it comes to their sexual ‘performance’ is how long things are taking and how to move things along. In this episode you will learn if you are in fact taking too long and if so how to move things along to the orgasmic outcome you are hoping for.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The assumptions we make about the length of time it takes for arousal and how this can actual make us take longer
    • The importance of identifying where we are starting our sexy session from and how to create a more erotic vessel to facilitate arousal
    • What it means to slow down to speed up
    • The way to approach orgasmic goals DURING sex

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    • Questions? Email team@daniellesavory.com
    Ep. 139: Proactive Pleasure Sep 30, 2022

    Have you ever decided you really want to have something in your life or have your life look differently than it does right now, but then wonder why it doesn’t happen the way you imagined? Well this episode is for you - where I will explain to you the concept of being proactive in creating what you want and specifically why it is crucial we learn how to be proactive with our pleasure if we want to lead a sexually satisfied and pleasured life.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • What being proactive actually is, how it relates to the brain and why it is so important in creating the future you want.
    • The way we inadvertently mix up different types of pleasure and keep ourselves from being more proactive in this realm.
    • What Proactive Pleasure is and why its crucial to an orgasmic future.
    • A brand new course that you are going to want to get in on right away and a special offer just for you!

    Featured on the Show:

    • The Life Coach School Podcast Episode #181: Proactivation
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    Ep. 138: Don't Poo-poo Your Pleasure Sep 22, 2022

    Hey have you ever had a great time, like legit good sex, but then afterwards you started second-guess it? You start being judgey about what went down and ruin the celebratory sex you had because all the sudden your brain convinces you that it wasn’t actually that good for x, y or z reasons?? Kind of like the walk of shame. It felt good, your body loved it and YET your brain wants to de-legitimize your pleasure because perhaps it wasn’t what you have unconsciously decided is ‘aspirational’ sex. Listen to this episode to see how you may be poo-pooing on your pleasure and inadvertently keeping yourself from the mind-blowing sex you want.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How we inadvertently poo-poo on the pleasure we already had
    • The secret hierarchal sex flavors that may be inciting shame
    • How to help yourself find those hidden shaming thoughts

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    Ep. 137: The #1 Mindset Shift To Experience More Pleasure Now Sep 08, 2022

    It is easy to imagine yourself basking in juicy sensual pleasure when you have the time, the space and the connection. But it is a whole other thing when that is NOT what you are currently experiencing. To really experience the pleasure you want isn’t about waiting until the star are aligned, but instead learning HOW to be the kind of woman who experiences being turned on and pleasured - right now - as things are - in your everyday life. And this episode will share with the first (and crucial) mindset shift that will catalyze you taking more sexy action and experiencing more pleasure.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The #1 Mindset shift you need to start experiencing more pleasure in your life right now
    • How it is important to see how we are unintentionally holding ourselves back from the growth we want
    • What to do when NOT pursuing pleasure seems like the best, most logical option

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    Ep. 136: 6 Ways To Feel Less Awkward During Sex Sep 01, 2022

    Listen, sex can be super awkward for a variety of reasons - first of all - it is two naked bodies trying to entangle in a pleasurable way - awkward. Not to mention the different personality types, desires and skill & comfort levels when it comes to sexual intimacy. So if you have ever felt awkward, consider yourself to BE awkward or know that trying certain things would ring in the awkward bell - then this episode is for you.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How awkwardness can impede on our sexual pleasure
    • Why its so important to get clear on WHAT exactly makes you feel awkward
    • Exact steps you can take to ease the awkwardness out of your sex life

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    Ep. 135: Unapologetic Sex Aug 25, 2022

    We come to the sheets with so many ’sorries’ as women and it is time we put an end to it, enter Unapologetic Sex.

    Have you ever notice there is this subtle, slump of the shoulders and dumpy energy that you can bring to the bedroom sometimes. Like “oh I am sorry its taking me so long to cum” if you orgasm at all. Or ugh, I am sorry I am so wish-washy, awkward or I don’t know what I want. It feels ick and it for sure doesn’t make a fun and pleasurable experience for you OR your partner.

    In this episode we talk about stepping INTO having unapologetic sex - uninhibited, fully accepting, perfectly imperfect sex - ummm yes please!

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Ways we have been conditioned for ’sorry’ and how you might identify your apologetic energy
    • What it truly means to be unapologetic and ways you can start right now
    • The benefits of showing up for unapologetic for sex

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    Ep. 134: 4 Lessons We Can Learn From Distance & How It Increases Desire Aug 18, 2022

    They say distance makes the heart grow fonder and it is true, it really does - plus it gives a good ole’ boost to that desire for your lover. But perhaps, like me, you don’t always have the option to be away from your partner.

    In this episode we will explore four important lessons that we can learn from what distance offers us and exactly how it increases desire. And then what are some things we can do to recreate those same sort of experiences so that even if you are with your partner 24/7 you can benefit from what “distance” may offer.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How distance DOES really increase our desire
    • The ways when we are with someone we don’t always have the chance for erotic wanting
    • Lessons and practical applications for you to implement right now to recreate what occurs during ’distance’ and increase your own desire for you partner, even if you are with them all the time

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    Ep. 133: How "Maybe" Might Just Change Your Life Aug 03, 2022

    I am always up for a little mind trick hack, one that is easy to remember in the moment and helps me move forward on my long-term goals and aspirations. And ‘maybe’ my friends is just the mindset hack you have all been wanting. Quick and easy to remember and a simple habit you can implement right now. Use maybe to experience more pleasure, open up to curiosity or simply to set some much needed boundaries around your time and body.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How I recently used maybe to say ‘no’ even though it went against an intention I have been working on all summer.
    • The way ‘maybe’ buys you time to make a sound decision of both body and mind.
    • How to use your body to make better decisions.
    • The use of the word ‘maybe' when your brain is doubtful, anxious or flat out rude so that you can keep going with curiosity,

    Featured on the Show:

    • Want to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at team@daniellesavory.com and I will send the details over to you.
    Ep. 132: 4 Ways Nature Improves Your Sensuality Jul 28, 2022

    Have you ever noticed how nature can immediately help you feel more at ease? Or even for me, I have had experiences where it feels like my pain and discomfort are lifted the moment I immerse myself in nature. I don’t think anyone would argue how energizing and calming being in nature can feel.

    But is it just in our minds or is there science to support it?

    In this weeks episode not only do we dive into the scientific studies of the profound impact nature can have on our overall well-being, but also how nature then can improve your sensuality.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The particular ways that nature helps release stress & why to keep this in mind if you have some sexy time scheduled
    • The surprising discovery that was made when working with ADHD children and the impact nature had on their attention
    • How are experience of emotional connection can be improved by nature
    • Why filling our 5 senses is so important for our pursuit of pleasure and what role nature plays in this

    Featured on the Show:

    • Ready to immerse yourself in nature, with me and do some deep dive coaching? 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container now available. Then shoot me an email at team@daniellesavory.com and I will send the details over to you.
    Ep. 131: How Bad Sex Can Be Used To Your Advantage Jul 20, 2022

    We’ve all had it, bad sex. And it is something that we all try to avoid? But at what cost?!?

    Trying to avoid bad sex could actually be holding you back from the mind-blowing sex you ARE wanting to have. In this week’s episode we explore what tends to happen when the boot knocking isn’t lighting anyone up and how we can actually learn and improve our sex lives by the willingness to have more bad sex!

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • How to handle when you things don’t go as planned
    • The importance of recognizing the story this may be playing into vs what is actually happening
    • What discomfort you SHOULD pay attention too
    • When and how to evaluate after the fact
    • The one thing to work on next time

    Featured on the Show:

    • Want to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at team@daniellesavory.com and I will send the details over to you.
    • Get on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. Plus just tips on how to live a more pleasurable life as a human https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe
    Ep. 130: 5 Habits That Keep You From Receiving & How To Open Up More Jul 14, 2022

    Do you ever feel closed off from receiving? Like something in you makes it so hard to open up to receiving compliments, help, pleasure or even money? Like somehow you are just repelling all the the good stuff instead of bringing it in?

    This is such a normal experience, especially for those socialized as women.

    We tend to have a knack for giving, sometimes to the point of depletion, but receiving? Um not so much.

    In order to actually experience pleasure in your life, pleasure in your sexual experiences and pleasure in your relationships then receiving is a key skill to develop.

    This week you will learn the unconscious habits that are keeping you from receiving and how to actively open up to taking in the juicy bits. Discover where exactly you are keeping yourself from the good stuff and how cultivating this skill is the key to creating your most orgasmic life.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Why cultivating the skill to receive is so important for your overall well-being
    • How to identify the habits that are keeping you from opening up
    • What you miss out on by not actively receiving - including how it impacts the other person
    • And how we can get both our minds and our bodies on board to be more open to reception

    Featured on the Show:

    • Get on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. Plus just tips on how to live a more pleasurable life as a human https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe
    Ep. 129: How Contrast/Opposites Can Be Our Greatest Tool In Self-Growth Jul 06, 2022

    Do you feel like it is hard to fully lean into a new way of being when you aren’t exactly sure WHAT that even looks like? You aren’t alone. Often times when When we are trying to create MORE of something in our future that we aren’t experiencing right NOW it can be challenging to grapple with what that actually looks like, feels like and who we would be acting from that place. Using contrast and opposites is an incredible tool for giving us more insight into exactly HOW to do that.

    This week you will learn exactly how directing your attention to the opposite or contrast experience of what you want can actually be incredibly revealing for your next steps to create the future you WANT. Find out exactly where you can create greater awareness by looking at specific contrasting experiences, then I will take you through the exact process of using this tool to help you catapult your growth.

    And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast, if you can take two minutes to write a review I would so appreciate it ( seriously, if you like this please review, it means the world to me and I read every one!)

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The importance taking a look at contrast to bring a sense of gratitude and appreciation for where we are now.
    • How contrast and opposites can give you a direct line access to what you actually WANT to create.
    • The step by step process in how using the tool of contrast can benefit your personal growth in pleasure, desire and all areas of your life.
    • Specific opposites you can look at that will immediately increase your awareness so you can start making more intentional choices.

    Featured on the Show:

    • Alter Your Life Podcast with Alissa Alter http://alissa-alter.com/podcast/
    • Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HERE
    • Get on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe
    Ep. 128: 4 Overlooked Reasons Why Motherhood Takes a Toll on Your Sex Life & 5 Steps To Break The Cycle Pt. 2 Jun 29, 2022

    Last week we started a conversation around the extra challenging circumstances that many mothers face and how these can can put a damper on the sex life. And to be honest, I got fired up, because these are just a handful of the OVERLOOKED ways that mother’s put pleasure on the backburner and I am tired of it. Not in a balmy - I am tired you are acting this way - more like I am tired we have been dealing with this for so long and we don’t even realize there is a BETTER more juicy way TO BE LIVING. When we are in the constant swirl of motherhood, with nervous systems on simmer just waiting to be triggered at any moment, disconnected from our bodies and despite doing all the things - STILL not feeling like we are measuring up - something has GOT to change.

    In this part 2 episode we recap some of the ways we are overlooking why pleasure feels out of reach and actual steps you can start taking right now to change this. Because a pleasured woman is an empowered woman, and MAMA - you are wired for so much pleasure - not to mention how it will just make life easier and more fun when you start tapping into it.

    Please SHARE this episode with your mama friends - it is an important message for us all. And if you have your own podcast or a group that reaches a bunch of mamas I would be honored to talk to your audience about the importance of pleasure in motherhood - just shoot me a message at team@daniellesavory.com and we can get an interview or teaching class set up.

    And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast, if you can take two minutes to write a review I would so appreciate it.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The importance in understanding these overlooked reasons SO that you can start off with more understanding for your self.
    • Why to-do lists can make things worse and what type of list to make instead
    • How self-compassion is more than just a cheesy sentiment and how to start practicing it in order to access more joy
    • What to do with the mama-fried nervous system
    • What self-connection time is and how to start doing

    Featured on the Show:

    • Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HERE
    • Get on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe
    Ep. 127: 4 Overlooked Reasons Why Motherhood Takes a Toll on Your Sex Life & 5 Steps To Break The Cycle Jun 23, 2022

    As summer is upon on (at least when this episode was recorded) I am reminded often what we take on as mothers. From coaching clients who are mamas to being one myself I find so many similarities in how we approach our pleasure and the impact that motherhood has on our sex life.

    There are of course obvious ways that our sex life is impacted - late nights, sleep deprivation, pregnancy/post-partum, privacy issues etc. But I wanted to spend some time focusing on some of the overlooked ways that mother hood can take a toll on our sex life.

    In this part episode we will focus on the top 4 Overlooked Reasons for this phenomenon and then in part 2, the steps you can take to break this cycle.

    Whether or not you are a mama I think you will find this episode useful as it touches on many of the ways we are socialized as women, the labor we take on and how this impacts our sexual pleasure.

    And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast, please send this on to a mama in your life and if you can take two minutes to write a review I would so appreciate it.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • The importance in understanding these overlooked reasons SO that you can start off with more understanding for your self.
    • What invisible labor is and the role it plays with our nervous system and receptivity to touch
    • The narrative that most mamas have that keep you from intimacy
    • Lack of time boundaries and how this ultimately serves no one

    Featured on the Show:

    • Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HERE
    • Get on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe
    Ep. 126: Why Improving Your Sex Life is Hard Jun 16, 2022

    However, GETTING to the place of working on your sex life is hardly easy. And it isn’t because the process is hard, it is because so many beliefs we have about sex actually make WORKING on our sex life harder than it needs to be. In this episode I share with you some of the pervasive beliefs I see that keep us from creating the most orgasmic intimate connection.

    Whether you are already dedicated to improving your sex life or are just curious about it, this episode will offer you a totally different perspective. You’ll be inspired to start dropping some of these old beliefs and taking action towards more pleasurable experiences.

    If you want to be part of a movement of women who are ready to increase their pleasure in and out of the bedroom then The Turned On Woman is for you. This membership offers you actionable steps, weekly coaching, guided practices and in-depth trainings to help you feel more ALIVE in your body. Ummm, yes please!

    And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast – please leave a review

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Why educating ourselves on sex is so hard
    • How we unintentionally block ourselves from growth in this area
    • How to borrow the mindset when development of other skill sets and apply it your pleasure
    • Why we are so afraid of ‘practice’

    Featured on the Show:

    • Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HERE
    Ep. 125: The Mind-Body Connection You Must Understand to Elevate Your Experience of Pleasure Jun 09, 2022

    Have you ever wondered why changing your thinking is NOT making a huge difference in how you feel in your body? Like despite how much effort you make in trying to get your brain on board with the possibility of pleasure it still doesn’t seem to FEEL much different in your body?

    This happens a lot. Mostly because we don’t talk about the influence that the body has on the mind. Mindset and thought work can only take us so far when it comes to the experience of pleasure.

    In this episode I explain in detail how the mind influences the body and also how the body will influence the mind. And you will learn how bringing awareness to your habitual patterns will give you so much more opportunity for choice and creating the orgasmic conditions you crave.

    If you want to take these concepts, apply them and start to experience a whole new world of pleasure then you have to join The Turned On Woman. In this membership you will have an opportunity to get coached by me, be part of a supportive community talking about ALL things sex/pleasure/relationships and more, plus have access to a whole library of learning, practices and guided meditations for you to feel lit up and vibrant in your sex life AND beyond.

    What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

    • Where I have been and what I’ve been up to!
    • The impact your mind has on your body
    • How your body impacts your mind
    • How habitual patterns of mind AND body will show up and hold you back from pleasure
    • How you can work with your habitual patterns to create more pleasure

    Featured on the Show:

    • Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HERE
    Ep. 123: 5 Steps to Creating REAL Change In Your Sex Life Sep 16, 2021

    On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure podcast we break down 5 steps to help you create real change in your sex life.

    Making REAL change is different than being half assed about it, you are saying “oh yeah, that’d be nice” you are saying “I am ready for things to be different” and mean it.

    The challenge is change isn’t easy, meaning it requires effort. No it isn’t because you're lazy or you aren’t all the way committed, it simply because the brain resists making changes because it takes energy. And the brain wants to conserve as much energy as possible.

    Plus its way easier staying with the familiar, even though the familiar might suck, it doesn’t require you being or doing anything differently than you are right now.

    I help women make REAL changes and these are the 5 steps I recommend for anyone ready to stop messing around and wishing things were better, but actually MAKE them better.

    Ep. 122: How Small Shifts Can Lead To Orgasmic Returns w/ Elizabeth Sep 09, 2021

    On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure Podcast the brilliant Elizabeth Salazar joins me in conversation about how impactful small shifts of the mind can be and her experience of participating in Better Sex in 90 Days.

    Elizabeth reminisces about listening to this podcast with her husband a few months back and reflecting on how different things are now in her sex life vs. back then.

    She shares some of her own big ah-ha moments and the mental shifts she made that created orgasmic results. Not to mention the impact she believes doing this work will have on her daughters.

    Enjoy this candid conversation.

    • Email additional questions to team@daniellesavory.com
    Ep. 121: Listener Q&A: Arousal, Playfulness & Being Too Tired Sep 02, 2021

    On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I answer some of the questions I have received from you - the listeners!

    I chose these questions as I feel they are most relevant to many of you and I hope you are able to gain a new perspective on each topic.

    Listen in this week as I dive into how to become more playful, what to do if you feel like you are taking to long to become aroused and how to handle having a sex life when you are simply too tired (this listener from young kiddos).

    Links mentioned in this episode:

    • Episode #104 Motherhood & Sex: Overcoming Obstacles To Pleasure
    • Email additional questions to team@daniellesavory.com
    Ep. 120: It's FUN To Work On Your Sex Life - Interview with BS90 Grads Brittany & Lindsay Aug 26, 2021

    Working on your sex life can be loads of FUN!

    Despite the fact that sex and pleasure tend to be is taboo topics, tied to shame and guilt, growing in this area doesn’t have to be miserable.

    Talking about sex, connecting with our bodies and our partners, can be a lot of fun!

    In this episode, I bring on two recent graduates of the Better Sex In 90 Days program, Brittany and Lindsay. In our conversation, we talk about why they chose to do this work, some of the impacts it has had on them both in and outside of the bedroom, as well as the safety, joy, and compassion of a group coaching experience.

    Sexy Revamp is HERE {Free 5-Day Live Online Event}

    Ready to work with me directly and get access to training, practices, and meditations to help you feel a juicy connection with your body, and feel more pleasured?!

    Join the first every Sexy Revamp! A free 5-day live online event to kickstart your sexy!

    5 days of training, private facebook group and pop up podcast with guided practices and replays of the trainings.

    If you’ve been wanting to reignite your desire, this is the best opportunity to see what is possible for you. To register or learn more, go to: https://bit.ly/thesexyrevamp

    Topics In This Episode:

    • Prioritizing pleasure in your life when it doesn’t seem important
    • Why we put off pursuing our pleasure
    • You can have amazing sex, even if you are tired
    • Being vulnerable in a group setting
    • Learning from other’s experiences, even if they are different from us
    • The fun and lightness that is translated from the group experience to the bedroom
    • What it looks like when pleasure is a priority
    Ep. 119: Feeling Alone in Your Sexual Struggles Aug 19, 2021

    On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I share how isolating it can feel in our struggles with sex and pleasure. Pain and suffering are a universal experience yet when we are in the midst of challenges, especially when it comes to our sex lives, it can feel like we are on an island all alone.

    In this episode, I discuss loneliness, it’s impact on our pleasure, and how we can peel back from the “otherness” so that we can connect with ourselves and create the result of being a pleasured woman.

    Topics In This Episode:

    • How sex being “taboo” to talk about can make our isolation more maginified
    • Assumptions of what “normal” looks like
    • How we “other” ourselves, and how that “otherness” keeps us from our result
    • The curse of the lone unicorn
    • Clean pain versus dirty pain

    Want to ask me a question?! The first listener Q&A is underway and I want to hear from you.

    Maybe you have some burning questions and you’re afraid to ask someone else. Send those questions my way! This is a safe place for you to get answers. Nothing is TMI or too taboo. All your information will be anonymous. Send your questions to team@daniellesavory.com.

    Ep. 118: The Impact of Perfectionism on Your Pleasure Aug 12, 2021

    Perfectionism and pleasure are oil and water. They don’t mix! Perfectionists set impossible standards for ourselves, and when we are unable to meet these expectations, we are in our heads and say mean things to ourselves. And this certainly is not an environment where pleasure can enter. I am a recovering perfectionist, and despite all the work I have done in this area of my life, it is still there. The key is to be able to identify those thoughts and create awareness so that we can love ourselves through it. In this episode, let’s take a deeper look at identifying those thoughts, the different areas of our lives where it can disrupt our pleasure, and what we can do about it.

    Topics In This Episode

    • Perfection is subjective
    • What would perfect even look like? Is it even realistic?
    • When perfectionism keeps you from setting goals
    • The physical impact that damaging self-talk can have on you
    • Holding on to this idea of perfect does not serve you
    • Creating a container for pleasure to thrive in
    • When we extend our perfectionism and expectations to our partners

    A quick note! I am planning an upcoming Q&A episode on the podcast. If you have a question you would like for me to answer, send an email to team@daniellesavory.com and use the subject, “Podcast Q&A”. I want to assure you that these will be kept completely anonymous. This is your opportunity to ask me anything. Nothing is TMI or off-limits.

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this conversation with you about perfectionism in the world, and how it wreaks havoc on our pursuit of pleasure. Take a look at it for you. When you notice that you are berating yourself, it’s a chance to be aware, and show yourself love. Are you ready to not feel this way anymore? If you’re ready, make the decision to work on your perfectionism for the sake of your pleasure.

    Ep. 117: But What If It Doesn't Work? Then What? with Leigha May Aug 05, 2021

    On this episode of It’s My Pleasure, one of my all time favorite clients Leigha May joins me to talk about her time working with me 1:1. Growing up in an extreme conservative Christian culture Leigha had already known that there were beliefs from her upbringing holding her back in her sexuality. But having done a lot of work around healing her past already there was still this sense of, ‘I guess this is as good as it gets’. Leigha had been following me on social media and listening to the podcast for a while. She knew she had yet to create the sex life of her dreams and was beginning to question if what she wanted was possible when it came to her sexuality and relationship with her partner. There was a lot of fear of even trying this work, afraid of what it might mean about her relationship and her sexual identity. She is a life coach and had invested time in upleveling her life in other ways, and believed in the power of coaching and was hoping to create growth in this area as well. In our conversation, you’ll hear Leigha talk about what she thought the work was and that it turned out to be something completely different, and it opened her up to so much more.

    I am also going to have a limited number of spots for one-on-one coaching, so if that is something you are interested in and want to know more about, please email me at: team@daniellesavory.com.

    Topics In This Episode

    • The relationship between our self-image and our pleasure
    • Long lasting effects of our upbringing, even when we think we’ve worked through it all
    • When you uplevel one area of your life, the possibilities are endless!
    • Fears and hesitations in pursuing this area of coaching
    • The difference between what she thought the main issue was, versus what it actually turned out to be
    • It’s way easier to blame our partners than to own our shit
    • Why we settle in our relationships and with our pleasure
    • Gaining a sense of understanding of her sexuality, and how it fits into her relationship

    Connect

    • Instagram: @lmaycoaching
    • Website: https://www.leighamaycoaching.com/
    Ep. 116: How Often Should You Have Sex? Jul 29, 2021

    When it comes to sex, how many times a week is considered “normal”? This is one of the most common questions I get in my DMs on social media. So many people want to know what is considered normal, or how often most people are having sex, so that they can use this as a way to see how they measure up. A lot of my clients come to me because they feel like they aren’t having sex enough, either for their own preference, or that of their partners, and they think that this means something about who they are as a person. In this episode, I introduce the importance of exploring our motivations behind wanting to have sex, separating any meaning from the frequency of sex sessions, and yes, I even give you a number.

    The next cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program is starting soon! If you are someone who is unhappy with the frequency of your sex life and you are looking to make a change, I invite you to join us in the group program. This is just one of the many topics we explore in this group. Email us at: team@daniellesavory.com

    Topics In This Episode:

    • Recommendations if you’re experiencing pain during sex
    • The mind-body connection, and the relationship between our thoughts and our physical bodies
    • Physical changes you may experience when you begin to prioritize your pleasure
    • What studies show for average frequency when it comes to sex
    • There is a difference between the sex you may or may not be having, and what you are making it mean about you, your partner, and your relationship
    • Looking at quantity versus quality. Frequency doesn’t matter if it doesn’t feel good!
    • Ask yourself: why is this important to you?
    • Benefits of sex, both partnered and solo sex sessions
    • Where to start, if you aren’t at the recommended number, or if you aren’t happy with the frequency

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Remember to be grounded in love and to be open to your partners feelings. Create a safe space for them and for you to be able to talk about this topic, which can be difficult and scary. Good luck in your conversations and I can’t wait to talk with you next week.

    Ep. 115: Talking To Your Partner About Sex Coaching Jul 26, 2021

    So you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while now, and you want to take this work to the next level and it’s time to bring your partner into the conversation. Talking about pleasure and your sex life can be taboo and a bit of a minefield when bringing this up with your partner. Sex has a way of making us feel vulnerable in a way that nothing else can.

    In this episode, I share with you how to bring this up with your partner, whether you are the one who wants to take this work to the next level, or, if you are wanting your partner to engage in this work. I talk about creating a safe space for both of you, conversation starters, and what a successful outcome looks like.

    If you’re listening to this podcast and you’re enjoying the content I’m putting out there, I would love it if you would share, rate, and review this show! The more that you can share how this is helping you allows other women to come to this podcast and learn as well. As many of us know, this topic can be very scary and vulnerable, and the first place people go when they’re deciding to listen to something is to look at the reviews, and by sharing your ah-ha moments and how this show has helped you, it can begin to help others.

    To help other women find this show and create more pleasure in their lives, leave a review! Click here to go to Apple Podcasts and follow the steps below.

    Topics In This Episode:

    • Looking at your role in this conversation
    • Creating a safe space for both you and your partner
    • When to bring up this topic and have the conversation
    • Preparing yourself for this conversation and understanding why it is important for you
    • Avoid focusing on the problem
    • Navigating through miscommunication and misinterpretation
    • Are you seeking permission? If so, why?

    Enrollment for Better Sex in 90 Days is coming up in September for the next cohort. I have so many additions for this upcoming cohort. Plant the seed on why you want to do this. If you have any questions, reach out to me at team@daniellesavory.com

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Remember to be grounded in love and to be open to your partners feelings. Create a safe space for them and for you to be able to talk about this topic, which can be difficult and scary. Good luck in your conversations and I can’t wait to talk with you next week.

    Ep. 114: S.O.U.L. Centered Communication w/ Maggie Reyes Jul 15, 2021

    What if there was a simple tool to help you and your partner be able to communicate better, and be able to talk about sex better? That’s the exact thing that Maggie Reyes is here to talk about today! She is a dear friend of mine and a marriage coach, who helps high-achieving women have five-star marriages. In our conversation today, we talk about just how crucial communication is for a marriage and the sex within that relationship.

    Maggie breaks down soul-centered communication, how to identify when you or your partner are in the stress cycle, and really how to prepare and have productive conversations with your partner around sex. I really enjoyed this conversation with Maggie and know that this will be so helpful for you when it comes to pursuing your pleasure.

    Topics In This Episode

    • How you can make change in your marriage/partnership when only YOU are doing the work
    • What is SOUL-Centered Communication?
    • How to use this powerful tool right now to have vulnerable or challenging conversations about sex with your partner.
    • The difference between making requests vs demands
    • How prioritizes yourself impacts those around you.
    • The worst time to problem solve with your partner
    • Why safety is key when communicating to your partner about sex and how to do this

    Connect

    • Maggiereyes.com
    • Instagram: @themaggiereyes
    • Podcast: The Marriage Life Coach Podcast
    • Book: Questions for Couples Journal
    Ep. 113: Diet For Great Sex Interview w/ Christine DeLozier Jul 08, 2021

    On this podcast we usually talk about what we can do with our brains in order to tap into our pleasure, but I’m also interested in sharing with you other ways we can accentuate our bodies to experience greater pleasure. What if you could make some changes to your diet and it would allow you to have more pleasure and better sex? This is the exact thing that I talk about with my guest on this episode, Christine DeLozier. She is an acupuncturist and holistic nutritional counselor, and she recently wrote a book on the research she has done to answer the question about the effects of diet on our sexual health. She talks about some of the physiological indicators for better sex, the truth about aphrodisiacs, and even shares her date night menu if you’re looking to have better sex tonight.

    Topics In This Episod

    • Looking at the root of the problem, not just the symptoms
    • Evaluating a good sexual experience psychologically versus physiologically
    • The 3 key physiological factors that contribute to better sex
    • The role omega-3’s, antioxidants, and potassium has, and good sources of these nutrients
    • Of course blood flow is important for men, but what about for women?
    • Planning our meals around sex sessions

    Connect with Christine

    • Website: dietforgreatsex.com
    • Book: https://www.amazon.com/Diet-Great-Sex-Female-Sexual/dp/173554521X
    • Recipe videos on Instagram and TikTok: @dietforgreatsex

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you. As a total brain nerd, I found this information to be fascinating! I hope that this was helpful for you to see that in addition to examining our thoughts and our beliefs around our sex lives, there are other ways we can make it better outside the bedroom. Not only are these foods good for our bodies, they are good for our sex too. Have fun trying new recipes and having better sex!

    Ep. 112: He Always (Or Only) Wants Sex Jul 02, 2021

    When you have the thought, “All he wants is sex from me, so I should want to have sex with him,” how does that feel in your body? Does that allow you to feel pleasure and lit up and turned on? Absolutely not! So many women come to me with this belief that all their partners want is sex, or that there’s a problem with them because they don’t have the same level of desire as their partner. They then assign meaning to it which creates negative emotions and feelings, none of which create space for pleasure.

    The belief that our partners want to have sex with us is a totally neutral situation. However, so often we assign meaning to this that only allows for guilt and shame, which do not allow for pleasure. In this episode, let’s look at these thoughts about our partner’s desire and explore how we can shift away from obligation and frustration to a place of excitement and desire, for you.

    This is the exact process we work through in Better Sex in 90 Days, the group program where we dive into the beliefs that keep you from pleasure. We take these thoughts and see how it’s impacting you, and step-by-step, we re-wire this belief to become a more positive experience. You gain more awareness around how to wake your body up to being available for more pleasure and the opportunity for more desire. Join us at: https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics In This Episode:

    • The origins of our emotions and how we can change them
    • Feeling negative emotions on a physiological level
    • Exploring the impact of feeling obligated or pressured when it comes to sex
    • Someone else’s desires don’t have to mean anything about you
    • Evaluating different types of connections with our partners
    • Reminding ourselves of why we are doing this work

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Your thoughts about your partner’s desire can and the way we perpetuate these beliefs is keeping us from owning our pleasure. At the end of the day, if you’re wanting sex or not, when you believe that your partner only wants one thing from you, how do you feel? Does it allow for you to feel loved and connected? If not, then drop it! Look at how these thoughts are manifesting in your brain and decide to see it as something neutral and take back your pleasure.

    Ep. 111: 5 Tips To Improve Married Sex Life Jun 24, 2021

    How about a quickie?? In this short episode, I wanted to get right down to it and share 5 really quick things you can do to activate your sex life. In this podcast, I like to focus on helping you really build your mind-body connection and teach you how to use your brain to understand your mindset and the beliefs you have. We also take a look at how to create new thoughts that allow for you to feel more connected to yourself and your partner. However, in this episode, I really want to share 5 behaviors and action steps you can take to really start to tap into your pleasure today and feel more pleasure.

    Topics In This Episode:

    • The quickest way for you to access pleasure
    • Scheduling sex isn’t boring!
    • How to build anticipation.
    • Foreplay begins way before the bedroom
    • Thinking about our partners as our lovers, not just our roommates
    • Building desire and eagerness for our partners
    • The relationship between sex and the stress cycle, and how to break it

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share these five tips to help you reignite and improve your long-term partner sex life to the next level. If you are ready to take all these tips further in a loving, supportive community of women, Better Sex in 90 Days is open for enrollment. Not only do we work on each of these five things from a place of taking action, but you’ll also know exactly how to do this by creating the belief system and mindset to get you into action. To learn more and join, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Ep. 110: Is This As Good As It Gets?! - Interview with Whitney Jun 17, 2021

    I hear from clients and women all the time that they are unhappy with their sex lives, but they are afraid to do this work because of what they may find out about themselves, and how it could possibly negatively affect other areas of their lives. This was also true for my client Whitney, who has come on the podcast this week to share with you the powerful transformation she experienced through facing her fears and really setting her relationship with herself as a priority in a whole new way. In our conversation, she shares the total empowerment she now gets to feel on a daily basis, in the bedroom and in all aspects of her life, as a result of learning the tools that I share in the Better Sex in 90 Days program. To learn more about this group coaching program, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics In This Episode

    • Approaching the shame around sex and overcoming it
    • Orgasms are not the same as pleasure
    • When we are holding ourselves back from exploring
    • The power in getting support. You don’t have to go it alone!
    • Untangling the codependence of pleasure with a partner
    • Finding liberation from letting go of things that are not your responsibility
    • Creating safety and compassion for yourself, and how it serves you in all areas of your life
    • Seeing sex as a barometer

    Connect with Whitney

    • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whitneyuland/
    • TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whitneyuland
    • Podcast, The Abundant Artist: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-abundant-artist/id1512877614
    Ep. 109: At Home In Her Body – Interview with Morgan Renaldo Jun 10, 2021

    I know you have heard me talk about the transformations that my clients get, but there is something so powerful about hearing from the clients themselves and having them on to share their stories. And that is why I have invited Morgan on the podcast this week! She is a graduate of my Better Sex in 90 Days program and I have continued to see her grow through the ongoing community calls I offer to my clients, in order to help with continual support.

    She came to the program as a bit of a skeptic. After previously seeking therapy for past sexual trauma and it not being very helpful for her, she knew that she wanted to see change in her sex life, but she wasn’t sure if coaching and my program was going to be a fit for her. In this episode, she shares why she decided to go for it, some of the biggest transformations she experienced, and how it has impacted her work as a coach.

    Better Sex in 90 Days is now open for enrollment! If you’re ready to feel sexy, fully whole, and wildly playful, then I invite you to join us. You will learn how to identify all of the shit that is holding you back from pleasure, and how to compassionately connect with your body in a loving and juicy way so that you can be present in your sex life and all of the areas of your life. To join, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/.

    And if you have any questions about this program, or if you want to make sure that it is a good fit for you, I invite you to set up a few minutes to speak with me. I like to hop on the phone with anyone to help talk through what you’re going through and really make sure this is the right solution for you. You can email me at team@daniellesavory.com

    Topics In This Episode:

    • How Morgan knew that she still needed help with her sex life, even after seeking therapy
    • Identifying the results she wanted to create
    • Having problems with your sex life isn’t only for people who are married with children
    • The next-level growth she received from the group environment, as opposed to one-on-one coaching
    • What it looked like when she was able to love herself more
    • Morgan’s biggest transformation

    Connect with Morgan

    • https://www.instagram.com/morganrenaldo/
    • https://linktr.ee/morganrenaldo
    Ep. 108: Getting Turned ON Jun 04, 2021

    I am surrounded by high achieving women who are taking it to the next level in all areas of their lives. I have clients and listeners who are expanding and growing their businesses, raising children, are actively involved in their communities, yet, they feel like something is missing. Many women have reached out to me and told me just how exhausted they are, and I get it! In this special episode I want to share with you an upcoming training on how to become a turned on woman.

    Being turned on doesn’t have to only apply to what happens in the bedroom. When you become turned on, it has a ripple effect on every area of your life and how you’re showing up in the world. When you feel turned on, it makes everything feel different. You feel more juicy, more creative, more alive.

    This training is going to take you through the direct process that, until now, has only been available to my clients in my program, Better Sex In 90 Days. During this 90 minute training, you’re going to get to understand your unique path forward to becoming a turned on woman: understanding what is blocking you, and the steps you need to take to feel more alive. To join, head to: http://bit.ly/TurnedOnWomanTraining

    Topics In This Episode

    • What it looks and feels like when I’m not connected with the turned on version of myself
    • Being turned on sets the tone for everything else
    • It’s not effortless, but it can become that way
    • Habits that make all the difference
    • The neuroscience of being a turned on woman
    • Examples from my clients and what it looks like for them to be turned on women

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. If you are really looking to learn how to start this work and apply it to every area of your life, I highly encourage you to join me in this training. It’s damn good, and you deserve it!

    The training is only $6 and it takes place on Thursday, June 10th, 2021 at 5pm Pacific Standard Time. It will be recorded if you can’t watch it live.

    Ep. 107: Sexual Fantasies: Yuck or Yum? May 27, 2021

    Sexual fantasies can be a lot of fun as something to incorporate into your pleasure and maybe even something you share with your partner. However, for many of the women I work with, fantasies bring on feelings of shame and judgement. A lot of clients are worried about what their fantasies might say about them and who they are, especially if it is out of alignment with how they view themselves. Let’s really take a look at understanding where these fantasies come from and how to remove the guilt and shame so that they can be used to spark your desire and your pleasure and help you become a more turned on woman.

    I just recently created a new module for my group program. Better Sex in 90 Days, focusing on how to use fantasies as a path to your pleasure. If you are looking to connect with your desire and become a more turned on woman, I encourage you to join right now. I am amazed by the women in the group and the results they are creating, and I can’t wait for you to join. To learn more and apply, go to: https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics In This Episode

    • The inherent vulnerability in opening up about our desires
    • Looking at what our fantasies are at their base, and what they become when we assign meaning to them
    • When your fantasies don’t line up with who you think you are
    • The responses in our bodies when we feel shame, and the effect that has on our pleasure
    • How to approach our fantasies so that we can learn from them
    • What does your fantasy show you, especially beyond the surface level?
    • Examining two of the most common fantasies that I hear from clients

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you that is all about sexual fantasies and how you might start to look at them differently so that you can proceed and help them become a purposeful path to you having some mindblowing sex.

    Ep. 106: Your Inner Bitch Needs Love Too May 21, 2021

    Your inner bitch. We’ve all got one. You know, that voice tells you you aren’t good enough, that makes you doubt yourself, and is so judgemental about your every move. Not only is she saying things to you when you’re having a sex session that can take you out of the moment, but also impacting your pleasure even when she is chirping in about your parenting or procrastinating or whatever else.

    In this episode, I share with you some of the things my inner bitch has said to me in the past, help you identify and separate her voice from your own, and share with you why its important to show her love and be able to take the power back with your thoughts to be able to continue to prioritize your pleasure.

    Topics In This Episode:

    • How our inner bitch’s thoughts become our beliefs about ourselves
    • What it means when our stress cycle is triggered
    • Taking a look at how it feels in our bodies when we listen to our inner bitch
    • The first step in order to create a container for pleasure
    • Where she is showing up, outside of the bedroom
    • Telling her to “f*** off” doesn’t actually work
    • What does our inner bitch need?

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I hope that you are able to see more about why it is so important to treat ourselves with kindness, and that it begins with speaking to ourselves with love, compassion, and acceptance. And that acceptance applies to all of us, not just parts of us.

    Ep. 105: Incredible Sex: Planting New Beliefs May 13, 2021

    I don’t know about you, but now that it is spring, I have been spending a lot of time in my garden recently. This has really got me thinking about the metaphor that I got from a mentor of mine that our minds are like gardens. If left unattended, weeds and plants can grow and sprawl out in ways we never imagined, causing damage and preventing our gardens from being what we truly want them to be. In the same way, old thoughts and beliefs, if not tended to, can also have this same effect. In this episode, let’s investigate how unchecked thoughts can hold us back and how we can begin to plant new thoughts in order to live the pleasured life we desire.

    This is exactly what I help my clients do in Better Sex in 90 Days. With my step-by-step process, we weed out the thoughts that we no longer want to believe and create a fertile ground to get to planting the thoughts that will create the sex life we want to have. Enrollment is now open. To learn more, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics In This Episode:

    • Getting to choose the thoughts that you want to think
    • Asking ourselves: is it time for an overhaul?
    • Shifting the way we think about negative thoughts
    • Why our brains have a negativity bias, and how to identify it
    • Investigating where our beliefs come from
    • Comments that become beliefs, which hold you back from what you’re really trying to create

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Think about the garden of your mind when it comes to your pleasure and your sexuality. There is a whole bunch of shit that is in there that you had no say in, whatsoever. Whether they were planted on purpose, or through societal pressures, they are there. So tending to your mind and weeding out the thoughts that do not serve you and hold you back is key in order to create the results you want.

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    Ep. 104: Motherhood & Sex - Overcoming Obstacles To Pleasure May 07, 2021

    With Mother’s Day coming up, I want to celebrate all of the momma’s out there who are investing in their pleasure, and talk about the specific hurdles I see for my client’s who are mother’s and the ability for them to connect with their pleasure. I want to share that as a momma myself, I see you, and I see the challenges you face. I want this episode to serve as a reminder to put yourself first, your pleasure as a priority, and to hold yourself with love and kindness. So often, when women become mothers, that serves as their identity. And yes, you are a mom, and you are so much more, and it is your birthright to be a pleasured woman.

    If you struggle with setting pleasure as a priority, then I suggest you check out my mini program, Making Time For Intimacy In Three Simple Steps. I take you step by step how to make the time for your pleasure. I give you the actionable steps, mindset shifts that it takes, and I talk to you about how to talk to your partner about creating this time in a way that benefits both of you.

    Topics In This Episode:

    • Celebrating the wins of a client
    • How we can redefine our motherhood from burnout to pleasure and joy
    • Looking at how the narrative of struggle plays out in our role as mothers and as partners
    • Advocating for our pleasure and for that of other moms
    • Setting pleasure as a priority, instead of an afterthought
    • The results we create when we start from a place of pleasure
    • Investigating our self talk, and how it affects our relationship with ourselves and those around us
    • Removing the pre-momma version of you from a pedestal

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I want you to see that pleasure is so possible for you with your full schedule and with your children needing you. It is still possible. And not only is it possible, you deserve for your pleasure to be at the forefront of your mind. It will create delight in your body and in your life that fuels you and allows you to show up differently.
    And if you’re ready to take this work further and really apply these skills and making the best years yet, then join us for Better Sex in 90 Days. Enrollment is open, and I love helping women come back home to their bodies in a loving and celebratory way. To learn more and apply, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/.

    Ep. 103: The 411 on Foreplay Apr 29, 2021

    I’m going to paint a picture for you. You have spent your day being a high achieving woman, taking care of your business and your kids. It’s the end of the night, and you know that you have sex on the schedule, but it’s one of the last things on your mind. You’ve made a commitment to yourself and your partner, but you are tired and aren’t thinking about sex as something that you want to do. So you decide to follow through, but you cut out foreplay in order to make the sex session as quick as possible so you can get back to whatever else you wanted to do. What if I told you that you are missing out on the most important part?

    For most of the women I work with, they have been with their partners for a while, and foreplay is no longer a part of their pleasure toolkit. Our society puts such high importance on penetrative intercourse that it seems like we should just skip ahead to that end goal. But in this episode, I share with you why foreplay is crucial for your pleasure and how to approach it with your mindset in order to achieve lasting change and become the fully pleasured woman you deserve to be.

    Topics In This Episode:

    • The shift in foreplay throughout the life of a relationship
    • What it looks like when we have a lack mentality with our time, and how that affects our sex life
    • When sex becomes just another item on your to do list
    • Being aware of when we put foreplay on the backburner
    • The great misunderstanding of female pleasure
    • Preparing our bodies for intercourse
    • Why I call them “sex sessions”

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I encourage you to take all of the things that we talked about in this episode today, examine the beliefs that you have, and see how these things are getting in the way of your pleasure. Begin to do thought-work around them and start to give yourself the time to warm up and become aroused so that you can experience more and more pleasure.
    This is exactly the process that I take all of the women that go through Better Sex in 90 Days. To learn more or to join, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Ep. 102: My Story of Becoming a Sex Coach Apr 16, 2021
    Ep. 101: Creating Profit & Pleasure with Master Coach Stacey Boehman Apr 06, 2021

    So many of the women that listen to this podcast and who I work with in the Better Sex in 90 Days program are high achievers. They come to me and ask me for how they can make time for pleasure when they are already so busy with their careers and their families. In this episode, I am delighted to share with you a conversation I had with my friend and coach, Stacey Boehman. Stacey is one of the most ambitious and high-achieving women that I know. In our conversation, she shares insight into how she intentionally and consistently makes pleasure a priority, both in the bedroom and beyond.

    Topics in this episode

    • What it looks like to date yourself, and why you should
    • The power in being able to turn yourself on
    • Untangling the patriarchy from our pleasure
    • Recognizing when other things are taking priority over sex, and recommitting to it
    • Building a business as a pleasured woman
    • The freedom of an unbound life
    • Breaking out of the default mode
    • How to get into the moment when he catches me off guard
    • Committing to courage and vulnerability in the bedroom

    As always, it was my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I hope you were able to see from Stacey just how important it is to be intentional in your commitment to pleasure. Yes, life is busy and hard, and other things may come up, but staying committed to your result of being a pleasured woman will benefit you, those around you, and your business. To learn more about Stacey Boehman, go to her website at: https://staceyboehman.com/

    Ep. 100: Meeting Your Match - Interview with The Husband Himself Apr 01, 2021
    Ep. 99: 6 Daily Habits To Spark Desire Mar 18, 2021

    Most of us in long-term relationships have faced that time in our lives where it feels like all desire for our partners have faded away. Trust me. It’s not you. You’re not broken. This is a natural thing that happens in our brains as we get comfortable and move through the demands and responsibilities in everyday life. But you can get it back! Just because this is normal and this is what happens, doesn’t mean we have to settle. In this episode, I share my six daily habits to spark desire and get that spark back with the one that you love.

    I’ve also been thinking about the issue where it feels like there just isn’t enough time in the day. And one of the first things that tends to go out the window is making time for our sexual desire and pleasure. So I’ve created a new mini-course for you called 3 Simple and Effective Steps to Create More Time for Intimate Connection. We’ll take a look at why you’re not making time for pleasure, why you want to follow through with getting it back, how to talk to your partner about it, and then how to move through resistance when it is on your calendar. This is such a great resource and I am excited to share it with you! To get this course, go to:

    Topics in this episode

    • The 6 habits to spark desire
    • Reasons why our desire dwindles
    • Looking at what is required in order to get interested in pleasure
    • How our bodies respond to stress
    • Ways to be aware of pleasurable sensations throughout your day
    • Getting back the feeling of love and connection with your partner
    • Creating awareness around how we feel in our body

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. If you’re enjoying this podcast, I encourage you to share it with other women in your life who you believe could benefit. And don’t forget about the new mini-course I created for you. It is going to change everything for you, and it’s only $17!

    Make sure to follow me on social media! You’ll get tips and mindset shifts to help you and that you can share with the women in your life and continue to normalize women pursuing their pleasure. Instagram: @thesexcoachforwomen

    Ep. 98: Sexual Pleasure Advocacy for YOU Mar 04, 2021

    Let’s talk about advocacy, what it means to advocate for your own pleasure, and for that of the women in your world! If we take a look at how the landscape of mental health has changed over the past few years, it has evolved from being something hush-hush to something that we now talk about openly. And this has lead to more options, and more solutions to the problems that exist. I want to share with you that this is possible when it comes to pleasure and sexual pleasure!

    I share with you how to begin the process of advocating for your own pleasure. You may think that this means speaking up in the bedroom, and that is certainly part of it, but there’s also so much more! I also go into some ways in which we can begin to be pleasure advocates in small ways that, when we all start to do them, become part of a much larger shift for our society and for future generations.

    Topics in this episode

    • The role that advocacy plays in your pleasure journey
    • Your sexual pleasure is part of you. You don’t have to feel broken, alone, or have shame around this part of you.
    • The 3 parts of self sexual advocacy
    • Being able to identify what is blocking your pleasure, and working through those blocks
    • Techniques for getting out of the stress cycle, in order to create space for ease and connection
    • How can you advocate for pleasure outside of the bedroom?
    • Having the conversations with our partners to be able to ask for the things that we want
    • Ways in which you can begin shifting the narrative for women’s pleasure

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you and I hope it gives you some good pointers to really become a pleasure advocate, both for yourself and for the women in your world. I want you to know that we can, and we should start talking about it. It’s a huge part of our well-being and it is our birthright.

    Make sure to follow me on social media! You’ll get tips and mindset shifts to help you and that you can share with the women in your life and continue to normalize women pursuing their pleasure. Instagram: @thesexcoachforwomen

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    Ep. 97: He Only Wants Sex From Me Feb 25, 2021

    I’ve got to be honest with you and tell you that I’m a little bit fired up, and there’s something that we can all do about it. There is something that I hear from women all the time, whether they are clients, friends, or from people on social media, I hear them say, “he only wants one thing from me”. This is not a thought that creates an openness to desire and becoming a more turned-on woman.

    Let’s take a look at how this idea of sex being a give and take has been engrained in us from a very young age, and how a shift in our thoughts can really change the narrative around sex within our society as a whole. And not only that, we’ll look at how you can apply these shifts to your relationship and how you can make your pleasure about you, and create the results you are seeking of more passion and connection.

    Topics in this episode

    • Being aware of our thoughts, and the ones that do not create an openness to pleasure
    • Investigating how it feels in our bodies when we think "he only wants something from me"
    • It’s not him. It’s actually you.
    • Blaming our partners
    • How we are sabotaging our own pleasure
    • Being able to identify when your brain is working against you
    • How as a culture we perpetuate the idea that men only want sex from

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share this truth bomb with you about him wanting something from you, and how it’s killing your own desire and your own pleasure. And if you are wanting to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Better Sex in 90 Days, where I share practices and tools for you so that you get real results. We are always enrolling and we have another cohort starting soon. For more information, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

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    Ep. 96: Pausing the Autopilot Feb 18, 2021

    When was the last time you just stopped and took a second, pause it all? We live such full lives, and our brains are wired to constantly be on the lookout to keep us safe and efficient. And that’s not to mention how bombarded we are with emails, notifications, and constant distractions. All of this working together makes it difficult to connect with ourselves, our bodies, and our pleasure. Today I want to share with you the practice of the pause. Why the pause is an easy and impactful practice both in your sex life and out of it and how to integrate it into your day.

    Topics in this episode

    • The impact of the distracted brain
    • How the pause practice can help you
    • Easy ways to integrate the pause
    • What this has to do with sex
    • How the pause can create more connection with your partner and self
    • Discuss the four different types of pauses:

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be here with you this week. Remember to pause and take stock of what’s happening in our minds and in our bodies. Really enjoy these moments and breaks from distractions, connect to you, and becoming a fully turned-on woman.

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    Ep. 95: Your Fixed Mind is Keeping You Unsatisfied Feb 04, 2021

    If your social media feeds are anything like mine, you’ve definitely noticed a shift in the past few years around mindset and the self-discovery journeys people are taking. However, and you may not have noticed this, but I certainly have, there doesn’t seem to be much of a shift around how we’re thinking about sexuality. For most people, they tend to have a fixed mindset around sex and what that means for them. The power that our mind has on our pleasure and desire is incredible, if we are open to it!

    In this episode, I share with you the characteristics of having a fixed mindset versus a growth mindset. I walk you through how to identify each and I share the amazing potential that is awaiting you from a growth mindset, particularly around your sexuality and your pleasure.

    If you’re loving the concepts that I’m sharing on the podcast, then come join us in the group program, Better Sex in 90 Days. We take all of this information and this work to the next level. You learn to rewire your brain for more passion and pleasure with practices you can learn right away that are going to allow you to feel more sexual. Just imagine how much more your mind will be blown when you start implementing them in your life in a very focused way. To learn more, or if you have any questions, reach out to: team@daniellesavory.com

    Topics in this episode

    • Sexiness isn’t something you’re born with or you’re not. It’s available to everyone!
    • What it looks like when we apply our fear of failure to our sex lives
    • How to approach new things with an open mind
    • Bringing awareness to a fixed mindset, and then moving to a growth mindset
    • The areas around sex that can be developed with a growth mindset
    • Why we should learn to anticipate failures, and what it takes to be prepared to fail
    • Some of the techniques I walk my clients through in order to investigate what’s wrong

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share with you, this concept of a growth and fixed mindset. I hope that you are able to see how this applies to how you are thinking about sex, and how you can begin to move more into that growth mindset. There is so much delicious goodness on the other side of a growth mindset. And if you’re ready to take this to a deeper level, be sure to check out Better Sex in 90 Days at https://daniellesavory.com/group/.

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    Ep. 94: What To Do If You Are Ready For Better Sex NOW Jan 29, 2021

    I want you to know that right now, you can start practicing the skills and going through the processes needed in order to have better sex. Yes! Right now. If you are listening to this podcast, I know it’s because you are looking to make a shift when it comes to the sex you’re having, or may not be having. You know that it’s out there; the connection to your partner, to yourself, confidence, passion, and of course, orgasms. And in this episode, I share with you how to access it all for yourself, how to apply it to all areas of your life, and how to become a fully pleasured and orgasmic woman.

    All of this juicy goodness is available to you through my Better Sex in 90 Days program, which kicks off soon! Throughout the 90 days, you get to focus on what you need most and create the results you are looking for, with step-by-step coaching, meditations, modules, and group support. No matter where you are coming to this work or the results you are looking for, I know you will find it here, and so much more. I know this work works because I have seen it. And this is all available to you too.

    Here is just a taste of some of the skills, practices, and results that await you in the program:

    • Actually embracing and celebrating the sexual part of you
    • Openness to receiving pleasure, as opposed to chasing it
    • Creating awareness around the thoughts and habits in our brain
    • Focusing your thoughts during sex
    • Developing the skill of processing your emotions
    • Feeling more confident in communicating with your partner
    • Evaluating and learning from the sex you are or aren’t having

    Wherever you are right now, I’ve got you. I truly have. It’s there for you to experience all this juicy pleasure that is your birthright. I can’t wait to see you in there and for you to see and experience all the delicious goodness that these next 90 days have in store. To join, go to: https://daniellesavory.com/group/. You might even be eligible for more delicious bonuses depending on when you enroll, so make sure that you don’t hesitate! I can’t wait to see you in there.

    To help other women find this show and create more pleasure in their lives, leave a review! Click here to go to Apple Podcasts and follow the steps below.

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    Ep. 93: From Blah to BJs, Multi-Orgasms & Juicy Marriages Jan 21, 2021

    In this episode I speak with 7 women who went through the first cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program. It was such a joy to hear updates from each of them around what the long-term results of doing this work have had on their lives. And by sharing their stories, you’ll get a chance to see just how life-changing this work can be over the 90 days and beyond

    If you are ready for better sex, then I invite you to join the Better Sex in 90 Days program, which kicks off in just a few weeks. This is where you’re going to learn everything that I talk about on this podcast, on a deeper level. Over the 90 days, you will learn how to identify what is holding you back from pleasure, how to connect with your body, your partner, and your sexuality all with compassion, and really be able to show up more alive than you thought possible, not just in your sex life, but in every aspect of your life.

    Topics in this episode

    • Why they joined Better Sex in 90 Days – where they were starting and their hesitations in joining
    • How they moved through thoughts of shame and religious upbringings around sex
    • Ways in which they now prioritize pleasure throughout their day-to-day lives
    • Fears about pleasure taking away from business growth
    • The stories of despising bj’s to loving them, becoming multi-orgasmic and living in a more juicy marriage.
    • Self-compassion what does that even look like?
    • The camaraderie of a community of women learning to lean into pleasure

    You’ll also hear them say things like

    You teach that we can have an amazing sex life whenever. And now the main takeaway is that I can be turned on whenever I want. I have the tools to do it, and it’s not hard at all. It keeps getting better! This is amazing. And it’s my new me.

    -Fanny

    So much of it for me was about reclaiming my power and trusting my body. I thought that pleasure had to be earned, before. And now I know that I have a right to pleasure that I want, when I want it, just for pleasure sake.

    -Kate

    I was worried that pleasure would take away from the business growth. It has really been just so breathtaking to watch the beauty of a woman being present with her own pleasure in all aspects of her life, in the way that that contributes to her blossoming in her full growth potential showing up, too.

    -Lizzie

    It made me feel so normal! When you actually gather with women and they’re actually sharing all their experiences, you get to hear it firsthand. And I walked away from every call just feeling empowered and super connected to women in general, which is so special to me.

    -Jamee

    Ep. 92: BETTER Than Better Sex Jan 14, 2021

    In today's episode I interview 5 incredible women that have gone through the Better Sex in 90 Days program in the most recent cohort. Their fears, hesitations and of course the sex and results they got from doing this program. I often talk about the process working through many different layers of what is holding you back from pleasure, and how to access the pleasure that is your birthright and now, you get to hear from the women who have been through it and have built the solid foundation of skills and practices that they can keep returning to again and again. The better sex and so much more.

    In these conversations, you will hear them share

    • Why they joined Better Sex in 90 Days - their fears and hesitations
    • Their big takeaways and the obstacles they had to overcome
    • How this work changed them both inside of the bedroom, as well as throughout other parts of their lives
    • What it looked and felt like to work within a group setting, and the joy and freedom they found within it
    • What they would say to someone considering joining Better Sex in 90 Days (spoiler alert, everyone recommends it!)

    You’ll also hear them say things like

    What I got out of it was so much deeper, so much more about me than it even was about my relationship, my partner, or sex. No regrets!

    -Ruthie

    I fell deeply in love with my own body

    -Tonya

    Sex was an area where I felt dependent on my partner. And it’s just not a fun dynamic to be like, ‘Hey, if I want to be turned on, I need you’. You get to take responsibility for your own pleasure, and it definitely changes your relationship.

    -Vikki

    The connection I have with the other women is huge. People would be vulnerable on the calls and I would think, ‘I’m so glad they’re sharing that, because it’s touching me so much, just in the way that I need.

    -Dana

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you. Thank you to all the women who came on the podcast and took part in the Better Sex in 90 Days group experience. I’m so excited to meet the next group of women who are going to be coming into this group. I can’t wait to hear from you and what your stories are going to look like.

    If you’re hearing this, and it’s speaking to you and it’s something you want to do, then I invite you to join Better Sex in 90 Days. We kick off the first week of February! As you can see, everything is there for you to be able to unlearn the things that we’ve been taught in this society that’s holding us back from our pleasure, and learn and access all of the juicy goodness that is available to you.

    To help other women find this show and create more pleasure in their lives, leave a review! Click here to go to Apple Podcasts and follow the steps below.

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    Ep. 91: 5 Tips For Success with Your Sex Goals Jan 07, 2021

    Let’s have some sex-success! In the previous episode, I shared with you why you should set intentions around the area of your pleasure and sexuality, and what that may look like for the year ahead. This episode is a continuation of that conversation in which I share with you the “how” of how to reach that success.

    I also want to share with you that this time in the new year can bring a feeling of excitement, or may bring a sense of pressure and overwhelm when it comes to creating goals. Whatever you’re experiencing, welcome it, invite those feelings in with acceptance and love, and know that the results you want to create are still entirely doable. Now let’s talk about how.

    Topics in this episode

    • Debunking the myth of laziness or a “weak” mindset around a lack of follow-through
    • Why you get stuck in the status quo
    • What happens when you make it mean something about you
    • 5 things for being successful in achieving your goals
    • Examining your self-talk, and moving from guilt to love
    • The importance of defining sexual success for ourselves
    • How stress shows up in your sex life, and the effect it has on your sex goals
    • The benefit of investing in your pleasure every day and what that looks like

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. These five tactics will be so helpful in achieving your sex goals. These are the exact things that we work on in the group coaching, Better Sex in 90 Days. Sign up now for access to the most premier program for getting all of the sex goals that you want to achieve. We start in February and I look forward to you joining us.

    To help other women find this show and create more pleasure in their lives, leave a review! Click here to go to Apple Podcasts and follow the steps below.

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    Ep. 90: Setting Sex Goal - Why & How Dec 31, 2020

    I love the end of one year and the beginning of the next. The new year gives us a chance to reflect on what worked well and to celebrate those things! So often, we’re only looking ahead at what’s next, what’s next. In this episode, I share with you some ways to examine your sexuality this year and what may be revealed. I also share with you why it’s so important to create intentions for the new year centered around your pleasure, and what that may look like for the year to come. For those of you who are serious about having better sex, the Better Sex in 90 Days program is the most efficient way of getting there. It’s 90 days of getting coached directly by me in a supportive community of other women with the same intentions. Enrollment starts in January and the program kicks off the second week in February. If you’re interested, you can find all of the details and enroll here.

    Topics In This Episode

    • Scientific benefits of prioritizing your pleasure
    • What we can learn by looking at our wins
    • Celebrating our achievements in the area of pleasure
    • Looking at what’s really possible in 90 days
    • Experiencing the ripple effect of being mindful in your life
    • How to create a resilient brain, and the freedom that result
    • The framework for evaluating your sex lives and creating intentions for the new year.

    Thank you so much for an incredible year in 2020. It has been my absolute pleasure to bring this podcast to you nearly every week. I’m so excited for you to take this opportunity to look at your sex life, see where you can celebrate, and apply what worked to the goals and results you look to create in the year ahead.

    As a reminder, there’s still time to enter for the giveaway! Entries will be accepted until January 4th. So, submit a review, take a screenshot, and email it to team@daniellesavory.com for the Sensational Sex starter kit, and a chance to win the most delicious, pleasurable gift box ever.

    Ep. 89: Let's Talk Vibrators Dec 24, 2020

    Recently, there has been a bit of "buzz" about vibrators in the community, perhaps it’s because we are in the swing of the gift-giving season. I’ve seen a lot of articles out there about sex toys and vibrators, and I realize that it’s time we talk about it here on the podcast. In this episode, I share with you why I recommend for some clients to use one, and for others to not. I also dive into some of the myths around vibrators and take a look at how they affect our mindset and the ability to access pleasure in our bodies.

    And don't forget about the most incredible giveaway going on right now for a pleasure-filled box just for you! In this gift box are some of the most luxurious things to get yourself pleasured. All you have to do to be entered for this giveaway is go to Apple Podcasts and write a review and share your feedback. Take a screenshot of that review and email it to team@daniellesavory.com. When you do so, you’re also going to immediately get the Sensational Sex starter kit. Which includes instructional videos, meditations, and a workbook to take this work even further

    Topics in this episode

    • Vibrators and long-term sexual sensation
    • What happens in your brain when you use a vibrator
    • Achieving the same level of focus with manual stimulation
    • Asking ourselves, what is the goal for this sex session?
    • The confidence and comfort of using a vibrator
    • Addressing what you’re making the use of a vibrator mean
    • Looking at the dependence upon a vibrator for an orgasm

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be with you. This week I encourage you to investigate your thoughts around using a vibrator or not. When you are able to see the types of thoughts you are having, that when you’re really going to open the doors for your pleasure and be able to lean into your pleasure potential. Enjoy yourself and your journey to becoming the most pleasured woman possible!

    Ep. 88: Drinking & Sex Dec 17, 2020

    No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex comes up. In the last episode, we talked about when we should say no. And in this follow-up episode, I share with you why you shouldn’t say no, how saying no becomes an automatic response, and the kind of awareness and pleasure that is possible for you.

    I also want to remind you about the amazing opportunity I have going in the month of December 2020. For this month, whenever you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and send it to team@daniellesavory.com and you’ll receive your Sensational Sex starter kit! My team and I have put together meditations, instructional videos, and a workbook to really jump start this part of your journey.

    You’ll also be entered in a giveaway for a gift box of some of my favorite sexy things to help facilitate getting you in the sexy mood. It includes some sexy toys, high-end vibrators, items for general self care, skincare products that make me feel good and help me access pleasure, and some other goodies.

    Topics in this episode

    • It starts innocently
    • When no becomes automatic, and you find yourself always saying no
    • Saying no ahead of time, to avoid saying it later.
    • Noticing when you start cutting your partner off in little ways
    • Practice in the pause in between the idea of sex, and deciding what you’re going to do
    • Entertaining the thought, “Maybe I could be into it”
    • Responsive desire - putting yourself in a place where desire can bloom
    • Making “maybe” your new automatic response

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be with you today. I hope these two conversations around the word no has created curiosity and awareness of your thoughts around why you’re saying no, feeling safe so that you can even enter a place of possibility, and starting to say yes and creating the pleasure that is possible for you.

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    Ep. 87: Stop Saying NO Dec 10, 2020

    No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex comes up. In the last episode, we talked about when we should say no. And in this follow-up episode, I share with you why you shouldn’t say no, how saying no becomes an automatic response, and the kind of awareness and pleasure that is possible for you.

    I also want to remind you about the amazing opportunity I have going in the month of December 2020. For this month, whenever you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and send it to team@daniellesavory.com and you’ll receive your Sensational Sex starter kit! My team and I have put together meditations, instructional videos, and a workbook to really jump start this part of your journey.

    You’ll also be entered in a giveaway for a gift box of some of my favorite sexy things to help facilitate getting you in the sexy mood. It includes some sexy toys, high-end vibrators, items for general self care, skincare products that make me feel good and help me access pleasure, and some other goodies.

    Topics in this episode

    • It starts innocently
    • When no becomes automatic, and you find yourself always saying no
    • Saying no ahead of time, to avoid saying it later.
    • Noticing when you start cutting your partner off in little ways
    • Practice in the pause in between the idea of sex, and deciding what you’re going to do
    • Entertaining the thought, “Maybe I could be into it”
    • Responsive desire - putting yourself in a place where desire can bloom
    • Making “maybe” your new automatic response

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be with you today. I hope these two conversations around the word no has created curiosity and awareness of your thoughts around why you’re saying no, feeling safe so that you can even enter a place of possibility, and starting to say yes and creating the pleasure that is possible for you.

    Ep. 86: The NO We Should Be Saying More Nov 26, 2020

    A lot of my clients have this expectation that in long-term, committed relationships, there is less pressure when it comes to sex, but oftentimes, there’s even more pressure, and it can be difficult to say no when we really should. Today I really want to talk with you more about saying no, using this word, stopping sex and when this is important for you and your pleasure, and also why it’s so damn hard to do. I’m not even going to pretend that it’s not, because it is really tricky, but it’s important to remember why we’re doing this and that it’s just one more way to keep becoming a fully turned on woman living a pleasured life.

    I also want to say thank you to those who have taken the time to write a review on Apple Podcasts. If you haven’t yet, please write a review and take a screenshot and send it to team@daniellesavory.com for your Sensational Sex starter kit! I’ve put together some meditations, instructional videos, and the things you need to help you get started on this journey. All submissions are entered to win a giveaway with one lucky winner who will receive a box with so much good stuff in there to nourish you, nourish your soul, and be able to bring pleasure into your life.

    Topics in this episode:

    • Saying no creates boundaries and safety.
    • No can work against you when it’s the only thing that you say
    • The ultimate outcome is to shift your mind to connect with yourself and your partner in a way that you are experiencing more pleasure
    • Creating a container that is inviting for pleasure
    • The body needs safety and a lack of pressure
    • The disconnect between what we know cognitively, and what we feel in our bodies
    • Reasons why we’re afraid to say no
    • Addressing the idea that it is our job and responsibility to prioritize the pleasure of others

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this information with you about stopping sex and why it’s so hard to say no. Remember, there is no room for pleasure when you don’t give yourself the permission to say no. It’s crucial that you feel that it’s ok. Saying no is scary sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. I hope this episode helps you create more safety in your body so that pleasure and desire can grow. In the next episode, I’ll be talking about when you shouldn’t say no, and why these are both important.

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    Ep. 85: Sex & Trauma: Moving Through Nov 19, 2020

    This episode is part 2 of what we started to talk about last week, sexual trauma. If you haven’t yet, I would encourage you to go and listen to that episode first. We truly can’t expect to have freedom as a turned-on woman in our lives when we’re weighed down by past trauma and all the emotions that come with it. My promise to you is that I will not mention any details of sexual trauma. In this episode, I share with you how to begin the work of recognizing and responding to triggers and identifying the ways in which we may making our trauma worse and adding to our suffering. It is our birthright to feel whole as pleasured women, and with these episodes, I want to help you on that journey.

    I mentioned last week that I’m doing a drawing for a sensational sex starter kit and we came up with an even better idea to put together hand-picked items for the most delicious, sexy, gift box you can imagine. These are premium products that I absolutely swear by that allow you to connect with yourself in a sensual and loving way. All you need to do to be eligible to win this box is write a review on iTunes. By writing a review, you’ll also receive a sensational sex starter kit, which includes a workbook, meditations, and everything you’ll need to begin your journey of being a turned-on woman. In order to receive this sex starter kit and entered to win the sexy gift box, simply write a review on Apple iTunes and send a screenshot of your review to team@daniellesavory.com.

    Topics in this episode

    • Responding to the reaction and feelings of when we are triggered
    • Trauma takes us away from being able to access what we truly want
    • Pleasure isn’t about adding something in to our lives. It’s about liberating our true nature.
    • Starting our healing journey by addressing the additional suffering
    • Creating containers for you to be able to bring pleasure in
    • What it looks like to process stored emotions
    • Rewriting our stories

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share some of these tools with you as you begin your own journey. I am so proud of you all for showing up and listening to this episode. I know it can be scary, but hopefully this episode outlined the process of beginning to face your trauma and showed you what it can look like when you do. Feeling whole and connected with your body is your birthright. It might be scary, but it is so worth it on the other side.

    Ep. 84: Sex & Trauma: The Elephant in the Bedroom Nov 12, 2020

    Today we are talking about trauma, and I really encourage you to listen to this one, even though it is more of a serious and heavy topic. It is a really necessary conversation we need to have as women, especially as we continue to tap into all of our potential in so many different ways. Even if you think this may not apply to you, you may still learn something about your own body and experiences. Trauma has many forms, and it is going to affect your ability to access pleasure, and that’s why we’re here.

    Disclaimer: In this episode, I will mention abuse, sexual assault, and childhood abuse, but I will not go into any details. My intention in discussing this topic is to open up a safe, loving, and healthy dialogue so that we can all heal. I hope that this is episode will jumpstart your healing journey and will lead to more pleasure in your sex life and every part of your life.

    Topics in this episode

    • Why I haven’t talked about trauma on this podcast before
    • Trauma is another part of being human that we can all learn how to embrace. We don’t have to feel afraid of it. It can be an opportunity for us to love ourselves even deeper
    • How to support ourselves when we feel the sensations from trauma
    • It is our birthright to experience pleasure and freedom in our own bodies
    • Recognizing trauma in our brains and in our relationships with our bodies
    • Not shaming our brain and body’s responses to trauma
    • We deserve to feel free from this so that there’s nothing holding us back from connecting with ourselves and the person we love

    New resource for you

    I wanted to let you know about an opportunity. Maybe you’ve joined my webinar, or you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while and you’re ready to take the next step in your journey but you’re not sure if you’re ready for coaching, so I put together a starter kit for you. It’s a totally free resource for you to jumpstart your journey.

    Included in this starter kit is a workbook with questions and explanations and a couple of meditations. I want to gift it to you totally for free.

    To access this amazing resource, go to Apple Podcasts and write a review of this podcast. Share with others why you keep coming back, what you’ve learned, and how it has impacted your life! Once you’re done, take a screenshot of your review and send it to team@daniellesavory.com, and you will receive this free starter kit.

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to be with you here today and have this conversation. This episode might not have been as exciting or fun as we want sex to be, but it truly is one of the most important topics. Healing our traumas is a crucial part of sexual liberation and falling in love with yourself and being able to fully enjoy who you are and to access your birthright to experience pleasure and freedom.

    Ep. 83: Self-Pleasure - aka Masturbation Re-Imagined Nov 05, 2020

    I think it’s time we dedicate an episode to talking about one of my favorite topics, self-pleasure! When it comes to the thought of self-pleasure, shame tends to be the predominant feeling, and it comes from the ways in which we’ve been socialized and taught about enjoying our bodies. In this episode, I get into some of the specific beliefs that hinder us from being able to explore and enjoy our bodies, and then how to shift those beliefs. Once we’re able to create that shift, it opens up the possibility of what sex and pleasure could look like for us, and then we’re able to apply that to our sex lives in our partnered experiences! I also share some of the ways in which it could negatively impact your sex life, and some ways to get started.

    This is a topic that comes up with my one-on-one coaching clients, as well as with the women in my group coaching, Better Sex in 90 Days. I am currently taking applications for the next group session, which starts in January. To learn more or to hop on a call to see if this is the right fit for you, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics in this episode:

    • Understanding why you’re associating this practice with shame.
    • The foundational belief that our bodies aren’t our own
    • Self-pleasure vs masturbate
    • Self-pleasure is an opportunity for you to be able to connect with yourself and your body in a caring way
    • The goal of self-pleasure
    • How it feels to receive your own love and touch
    • How self-pleasure can help and how it can take away from your sex life
    • Giving yourself permission to explore

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you. I hope that it helps you up your self-pleasure game, no matter where it’s at. This is one of the most delicious and amazing self-care practices that creates connection with our bodies. Give yourself permission to bring this in as a regular part of your practice and have fun!

    Ep. 82: Sexual Standards Are Killing Your Pleasure Oct 29, 2020

    When I say “mind-blowing sex”, what images come to mind for you? For most women, there’s an immediate image that pops in our heads that we’ve been fed through the media about what incredible sex should look like. This image in our minds forms how we think it looks, and how it feels, to be turned on and pleasured. What if I told you that this image of mind-blowing sex is actually keeping you from having that kind of sex that you’re picturing? In this episode, I talk about these sex standards, and how to let go of them so that you can create your own image of pleasurable sex, and you can start having the sex of your dreams.

    Topics in this episode

    • Is there a right way to have sex?
    • How this affects the way we’re thinking about our sexual partners
    • The standards you’re holding yourself against and how you’re measuring the success of your sex
    • Confirmation bias - the brain believes something, and it’s going to work to find evidence of that belief
    • Creating pleasure requires curiosity
    • The difference between sex goals and goals in other areas of your life

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I hope that with this episode, you’re able to find more pleasure in your body, the obstacles that are holding you back from experiencing delicious, amazing sex. Pleasure is possible with your mind, and when we start to break down these standards, we all win.

    Ep. 81: Squeezing Sex into a Busy Life Oct 22, 2020

    Today’s topic may seem similar to things we’ve talked about in previous episodes, but I really wanted to simply talk about flipping the narrative about how we look at pleasure in general. So many of my clients and podcast listeners come to me to figure out how to make time in their life for pleasure and how they can squeeze in their sex life into their day. But what if instead of trying to fit it into our lives, we made sex and pleasure the goal to begin with?

    Topics in this episode

    • The socialization of hustle culture
    • The expectation and glorification of doing it all
    • Why we feel compelled to take on extra burdens and tasks
    • The cost of doing it all, and how that impacts our pleasure
    • Sex and pleasure aren’t things to wait for

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I hope this episode has given you food for thought about what it would look like for you to really flip the narrative and focus on pleasure, and letting that be the focus that supports everything else around you.

    Ep. 80: Creating Momentum Oct 15, 2020

    I talk to a lot of women every week, and one of the main things I hear is the idea that they don’t know where to get started. When you think about taking on your sex life and creating the result of having a pleasurable sex life, it can totally feel overwhelming. This feeling of overwhelm causes our brains to shut down, and we don’t even know where or how to get started. In this episode, I share with you the tools to break down this huge undertaking and walk you through step-by-step with specific examples of how you can create momentum and become a turned-on woman.

    Topics in this episode

    • The indicators that your sex life may not be creating the result of you being a turned-on woman
    • What causes us to shut down
    • Pause and examine the elements
    • Have a vision and know what you’re going towards
    • Understanding that pleasure is possible for you
    • Previous episode, 6 Skills Needed for Better Sex: https://daniellesavory.com/77-6-skills-needed-for-better-sex/
    • The difference between: “What can I do to make my sex life better?” And, “What actionable step can I take in this one area?”

    It has been my absolute pleasure sharing this with you today. I hope this episode helps you find more pleasure. When you’re looking at everything as being this one huge overwhelming problem to be solved, your brain and your body wil shut down. Give yourself the gift of being a project manager. Break it down into one chunk, and break that down into a smaller size until you get down to a bite-size piece of one specific thing you can focus on tonight to move your sex life forward. Over time, the more that we work on one thought, behavior, or action, the more it will compound and create the result of you becoming a pleasured woman.

    Ep. 79: Resisting Sex Oct 08, 2020

    I was talking with a woman the other day and she told me she has had an amazing sex life before. She has felt sexually alive in her body. She also told me that for a variety of reasons, she just doesn’t feel like that person anymore. She feels disconnected from her past-self, but she knows that it can be better again. This conversation is an example of what I’m calling the “pedestal effect”, putting a past version or a future version of yourself, and what is possible for you, on a pedestal. In this episode, I share with you why this can be a problem, and how to look at your current state and the current level of happiness with your sex life with love and appreciation, and why that is so important to taking it to the next level.

    Topics in this episode

    • When we put others, or other verions of ourselves, on a pedestal, we automatically see ourselves as less-than
    • How you’re inadvertently rejecting yourself right now
    • Allowing yourself to look into the future with curiosity and possibility
    • We can’t change reality by being frustrated with it
    • When you think about your frustrations with your sexuality, how does it feel in your body?
    • Coming to a place that what you have right now is good enough
    • Being excited about the future of where you can go in your sex life

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I love sharing this reflection about when we’re comparing ourselves to our past or our future, and how to step into not really seeing ourselves as less-than, or rejecting who you are right now, but truly finding acceptance and love, so that you can lean more into pleasure and really grow from this place.

    Ep. 78: Sex Life on a Pedestal Sep 24, 2020

    I was talking with a woman the other day and she told me she has had an amazing sex life before. She has felt sexually alive in her body. She also told me that for a variety of reasons, she just doesn’t feel like that person anymore. She feels disconnected from her past-self, but she knows that it can be better again. This conversation is an example of what I’m calling the “pedestal effect”, putting a past version or a future version of yourself, and what is possible for you, on a pedestal. In this episode, I share with you why this can be a problem, and how to look at your current state and the current level of happiness with your sex life with love and appreciation, and why that is so important to taking it to the next level.

    Topics in this episode

    • When we put others, or other verions of ourselves, on a pedestal, we automatically see ourselves as less-than
    • How you’re inadvertently rejecting yourself right now
    • Allowing yourself to look into the future with curiosity and possibility
    • We can’t change reality by being frustrated with it
    • When you think about your frustrations with your sexuality, how does it feel in your body?
    • Coming to a place that what you have right now is good enough
    • Being excited about the future of where you can go in your sex life

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I love sharing this reflection about when we’re comparing ourselves to our past or our future, and how to step into not really seeing ourselves as less-than, or rejecting who you are right now, but truly finding acceptance and love, so that you can lean more into pleasure and really grow from this place.

    Ep. 77: 6 Skills Needed For Better Sex Sep 10, 2020

    In this episode, I wanted to share with you the six skills to practice for better sex. This is the foundation for the work I do with my clients, and they are the key to unlocking pleasure, pleasurable sex, and for being a pleasured woman. With these skills, you will be able to connect with your body, give yourself grace, and make incremental changes so that over time, your sex, and your life, keeps getting better and better.

    These skills are part of the foundational work we do in my group coaching experience, Better Sex in 90 Days, starting September 17th. If you’re on the fence at all, I encourage you to fill out an application and hop on the phone with me. This work changes your life. This isn’t to be waited on as something to do later. The longer we wait to make this a priority and don’t work on practicing these skills, is time that we are just letting life happen to us.

    Topics in this episode

    • The 6 Skills to Practice for Better Sex
      • 1. You have to believe in pleasure in general, and sexual pleasure
      • 2. Practice having a playful presence.
      • 3. Focus the brain
      • 4. Develop sensual awareness
      • 5. Processing emotions
      • 6. Sex assessments
    • If you don’t believe that pleasure is possible, you’re cutting yourself off from being able to access it
    • Passion versus arousal
    • Emotions as physical sensations
    • Processing versus indulging your emotions

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure being with you, and I hope that you’ll take these skills and practice them, either on your own or with us in Better Sex in 90 Days. There’s nowhere in these skills that relate to spicing things up. I don’t talk about new positions, toys, or finding your G-spot, because none of that stuff really matters unless all these other skills are practiced and worked on. These are the foundational skills that are needed for pleasurable sex, and with these skills, you’ll be able to create a better connection and a pleasurable sex life.

    Ep. 76: It's Not Them, It's You Aug 28, 2020

    A common misconception that the reason we’re not having orgasmic sex is because of our partner, or our children, or something else that is standing in the way. So many women truly feel that if things were different in their relationships, then they would be able to have better sex and it would be more attainable for them. In this episode, I explore some of these excuses and share with you why it’s not them, it’s you, and that instead of feeling guilt or shame, this is a powerful step in taking back control of your sexuality. We have to reprogram our brains on how it comes to thinking about your partner, yourself, and your sex life, in order to create the environment for pleasure, and that is what empowerment is all about.

    This is the exact work I do with my clients all of the time, because it’s about creating a process and a skill set so that you are changing who you are being as a woman. You become a turned-on woman. You become an orgasmic woman. You become a woman who actually wants sex more. This is possible for you too. To be a part of my group coaching experience, Better Sex in 90 Days, go to: https://daniellesavory.com/group

    Topics in this episode

    • Masterclass, The Orgasmic Sex Playbook: https://better-sex-in-90-days-with-danielle-savory.mykajabi.com/Orgasmic-Sex-Playbook
    • The partner problem
    • The excuses, that aren’t actually the problem
    • Even if all of that stuff changed, it doesn’t mean that who you are as a woman has changed
    • The brain will find something else to think about so that it still feels pressure and shame when it comes to sex
    • Looking at the emotions that come up around sex
    • You have the power to change you.
    • It’s super easy to blame somebody else. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t make you feel in control

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to be with you today. I can’t wait for you to start seeing the shifts of where you’re blaming your partner, and instead, taking on the responsibility that this is actually about you. You have the ability to become a turned-on woman. It is the most empowering and freeing thing that you can believe about your sex life.

    Ep. 75: Truth Bombs About Who Benefits Aug 20, 2020

    I recently wrapped up the first of my group coaching programs, Better Sex in 90 Days, and I want to start this episode by sharing feedback from one of the participants who said that she embarked on this journey because she saw how important it was for her husband. Now, after completing the program, she says that it is her favorite gift she’s ever given to herself. In the beginning, she was curious to see if sex was something that she could enjoy, not just something that was for her husband. Through this coaching, she now thinks about sex more often and learned that she actually likes sex a lot.

    Which is what leads us to the topic of this episode. I hear from many women that they want to pursue coaching and investing in their sexuality because it will benefit their husbands or partners. The motivation for these women is that this investment is a good idea, simply because it will benefit the people around them, without really thinking about themselves. Listeners, I want to share with you that while of course, this kind of work can have a positive ripple effect on those around you, you should pursue this simply for your own pleasure. You are reason enough.

    Topics in this episode

    • We see sex for the husband and partner, rather than the possibility of it being pleasurable for ourselves
    • Our sexuality and sensuality can be for the benefit of us
    • We aren’t simply objects of desire.
    • How might you be seeing your pleasure as a way to benefit him, to benefit your partner, rather than something for you?
    • The deep transformation of saying yes to you

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to explain to you why your pleasure is enough of a reason. Really think about how you are using the idea of benefiting others for motivation to drive your sexual journey, and how powerful of a shift of your mind it can be when you simply say, “I’m going to benefit, and that’s a good enough reason”.
    Enrollment is open for the next cohort of the group coaching, Better Sex in 90 Days. To learn more and to apply, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Ep. 74: Withholding Sex Aug 13, 2020

    Have you ever withheld sex as a punishment or have used it as a reward for “good behavior”? I was on a call with a client recently and we were talking about this idea of withholding or rewarding with sex, and it made me think of a time in the early years of my very own marriage when I would tell my husband that if he did certain things, that he would be rewarded with sex. I remember one argument in particular over something really small, and I was paying attention to my brain as it had the thoughts, “I’m going to show him! I’m not going to have sex with him tonight. I might not even have sex with him this whole week!”

    This idea of using sex as a reward or withholding it as a punishment is something that we see a lot of in our society. In this episode, I share why this thinking is so damaging to your own self-concept of your sexuality, and why it’s so important to prioritize your pleasure and the connection between you and your partner.

    Topics in this episode

    • The underlying message we tell ourselves and our partner when we incentivize sex
    • Instead of being for them, sex should be about your own enjoyment and pleasure
    • This doesn’t just hurt them. It hurts you too.
    • This doesn’t mean that you have to have sex when you’re mad and don’t want to have sex.
    • You are the one who creates your own feelings through your thoughts.
    • You don’t have to deny yourself the pleasure that is possible

    We just finished the group coaching experience, Better Sex in 90 Days. I heard from so many of the women who participated that it was an incredible and life-changing experience. Some of the takeaways were that they learned how to slow down and truly be present, taking time to connect with the body, and getting to experience what it’s like to be a fully pleasured woman.

    The next group coaching session begins the first full week in September, after Labor Day. To learn more or to apply to join, go to: https://daniellesavory.com/group/.

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you about withholding sex and using sex as a reward. I hope it’s got you thinking about this concept that it is all about your pleasure. Sex isn’t just something to give to your partner. It’s about pleasure, connection, passion. It is for you.
    To make sure you don’t miss any of my content to help you become a more pleasured woman, sign up for the newsletter at: https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe

    Ep. 73: The Patriarchy and Your Sex Life Aug 06, 2020

    Let’s discuss the patriarchy and how it impacts our ability to experience pleasure in our bodies, starting from a young age, and sticking with us throughout our entire lives. The reason I’m talking about the patriarchy on a sex podcast is that the way we are socialized as women is going to greatly impact the way that we are able to show up in our bodies and experience sex and pleasure. When we have awareness about the types of messages we receive, we can see how our brain is naturally going to react when it comes to sex, pleasure, and our body image. Then, once we have awareness about it, we can begin to change and rewire it, so that we are more tuned in to experience pleasure.

    In this episode, I share some of the patriarchal messaging we receive, how to work through those beliefs, and share some of the transformations that women in my group coaching program are experiencing right now.

    If you want to take this work deeper, I am currently accepting applications for the next cohort of my group program. Better Sex in 90 Days, which is starting soon. To learn more and to apply to be a part, go to: https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics in this episode

    • The image of the good girl, and it’s affect on our sexuality
    • Differences in how sex is presented to men versus women
    • The fear of presenting ourselves as though we are “asking for it”
    • The messaging that keeps us smaller
    • What female pleasure actually looks like
    • Turning off the turn-offs
    • Opening ourselves up to the practice of receiving

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you. I hope this has helped you really start to peel apart all of the layers of what you’ve learned so that you can fully step into yourself in a sexually expressed and loving way. It’s such a beautiful journey and I’m excited for you to be on it.

    Ep. 72: Arousal - How To Get Turned ON! Jul 30, 2020

    Across the last two episodes, we’ve been discussing motivation and desire when it comes to sex, how they’re different, and how they interact with each other in order for you to have more pleasure. So often the terms “desire” and “arousal” are used interchangeably, but they really are not the same. Desire is the eagerness and wanting to have sex, and arousal is the physiological response to sexual stimulus. In this episode, we dive into what it means to feel aroused, how to get there, and why it’s the missing piece to your libido and being able to be a fully pleasured woman.

    I’m also really excited to share a recent testimonial I received from a woman in my group coaching program, Better Sex in 90 Days. We’re coming up on the last few weeks of the program, and there have been so many ah-ha moments, mindset shifts, and celebrations, and it has been such a joy to see the amazing things these women have accomplished. My next group coaching starts the first week of September, and I am currently accepting applications. To learn more and to apply, please go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics in this episode

    • Spontaneous desire versus responsive desire
    • Getting aroused will lead to the eagerness
    • What desire feels like in your body
    • Motivation is the willingness. Desire is the eagerness. Arousal is the physiological response.
    • Arousal is the foundation of pleasure
    • Give yourself the time. Give yourself permission to be in your body, and to let go of control.
    • What does arousal require?

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to bring this episode to you. I hope that it helps you understand arousal a little more, and to know that you can create thoughts so that you can become more embodied. Take a look at how you’re thinking about sex and putting pressure on yourself. Give yourself permission to become aroused, so you can get off and get the pleasure you deserve.

    Ep. 71: How To Help Increase Desire Jul 23, 2020

    If you’ve been listening to this podcast, you’ll know that your thoughts create your feelings. This episode is a continuation of the conversation we started last week about motivation and desire, and how those play a role over the course of a long-term monogamous relationship, which may result in a lack of desire for sex. Last week I shared the difference between motivation and desire, the cultural factors that created the motivation for sex, and that once the goal of a long term relationship is secured, the motivation for sex is diminished.

    In this episode, we continue exploring the connection between motivation and desire, and how we can use our thoughts to create the feelings of enthusiasm and excitement, which drive our desire for pleasurable sex. To hear last week’s episode, go here: https://daniellesavory.com/ep-70-motivation-to-have-sex/

    Topics in this episode

    • Have some compassion and love for yourself.
    • The difference between motivation and desire:
    • Motivation influences desire
    • Desire is totally in our control. It’s a feeling. It’s a mood
    • Thinking thoughts that help increase your enthusiasm and eagerness
    • Approaching desire with curiosity creates an environment for pleasure to enter

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Don’t forget, your mindset and your thoughts create your feelings, and desire is one of those feelings. Think about what happens in your body when you’re enthusiastic about something, you get excited and enthusiastic about pursuing it, and your pleasure should be no different. Keep thinking thoughts to create these emotions, and create more desire today.

    Ep. 70: Motivation to HAVE Sex Jul 16, 2020

    One of the most common things I hear from women is about how their desire has diminished throughout the course of their long-term, monogamous relationships, and that it may have even stopped altogether. For most of us, we have been brought up with a cultural narrative of the importance of securing that long-term relationship. And one of the ways in which we secure this relationship with our “person” is through sex. In this episode, I dive into the subconscious motivations for sex within a relationship, what it is that creates desire, and a prompt for self-reflection on why it is you want to tap into your desire and for doing this work.

    Topics in this episode

    • Pleasure is not measured in the same sense of achievement or milestones as other areas of our lives, making it difficult to find the motivation to invest in ourselves and our desires
    • Motivation versus desire
    • The biggest factor that keeps us from owning our pleasure
    • We can’t enjoy sex more if we’re not having it in the first place
    • When we have security and attachment, we have to look for another motivational system
    • This isn’t something wrong with you. You aren’t broken.
    • Desire comes from a want, and not a “should”.
    • Ways to help yourself find your motivation

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you. This is something I cannot stop thinking about, and I hope it will help you tap deeper into your “why” for doing your work on your sexuality and seeing all the ways it’s worthy of the effort. Next week we will talk more about the desire to have sex, and I can’t wait to chat with you then.

    "Celebrating the Queen Within" With Brig Johnson Jul 02, 2020

    Brig Johnson is a fellow life coaching colleague and friend of mine. She is an amazing representation of a woman who fully celebrates her body, and I wanted to have her on the show today to share about her recent journey of doing a boudoir photoshot in honor of her 55th birthday. Brig is such an inspiration, and I am excited to have her in my world because I feel like I have permission to shine brighter when I’m with her because of the way that she shines. In our conversation, she shares her journey of deciding to pursue a boudoir photo shoot, the mental preparation she did, and how she celebrates herself and her body every day.

    Brig is on a mission to help high-achieving Black females become un-fuckwithable. Her unique approach combines her knowledge as an advanced practice healthcare provider and her skill as a life coach, and her direct style helps clients see themselves with clarity and compassion so that they reach the results they desire. If Brig sounds like she may be a great fit for you, please check out the links to contact her and get connected.

    Topics in this episode

    • The revolutionary act of embracing our sensuality
    • Why she decided to do this photoshoot
    • Willingly celebrating someone else’s shining light
    • Asking for support from other women
    • The difference between giving and celebrating
    • Paying rent: The constant health practice we all must do in order to enjoy our bodies
    • Working towards a goal, while also being loving and accepting of yourself along the way and enjoying the process
    • We all have the possibility to create a future that is way better than our pasts
    • Creating a sisterhood by recognizing the beauty of others and releasing judgment of others, and ourselves
    • Celebrating yourself and making it a habit
    • Brig answers the question I ask each guest: What do you think the impact would be if more women in this world were pleasured?

    Contact Info

    • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachwithbrig
    • Website: http://brigjohnson.com/
    • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnsonbrig/
    • Ricardo Andre, Photographer: https://www.instagram.com/ricardoandrephoto/

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to share this conversation with you. I am so happy that I was able to have Brig on and to have her share her journey and experience with all of you. After we recorded this episode, we started talking and we really want to bring this celebratory experience into more women’s lives and we have decided to put together an event to help women just like you find and celebrate their queendom.

    Ep. 68: The Audacity to Change Jun 25, 2020

    When we start to do this work, it starts with little tweaks that we do to think differently, to have a different perspective, and to unlearn our behaviors. But really, when you look at the bigger picture, what you’re doing is changing your personality. Who we are and how we show up in the world is a collection of different things: things we’ve learned, the thoughts we have, the beliefs that we have, which dictates how we feel emotionally in our body. And when we start to challenge how we feel in our bodies and make shifts in our thoughts and beliefs, it changes who we are and how we show up. In this episode I really dive into the emotion of shame, especially around self-pleasure, and how we can notice our thoughts, and begin to shift them so that we can become the self-pleasured women we want to be.

    Topics in this episode:

    • How addicted we get to our personality
    • Why is this so hard, even when I know this isn’t serving me?
    • Emotion showing up in our bodies
    • Why self-pleasure brings up shame
    • Exploring what emotions feel like in the body
    • Why it becomes scary to face our shame
    • Sustaining emotions of pleasure, satisfaction, and joy
    • The steps to finding joy and pleasure in your sex life

    As always it has been my absolute pleasure to be with you this week. I hope that you have the audacity to see that there’s so much pleasure available for you, and you can start to lean into it moment by moment. Over time, by taking these steps, you become the sexual woman that you are wanting to be.

    Ep. 67: What is Pleasure? Jun 18, 2020

    For today’s topic, I wanted to talk about the idea of pleasure. It came to mind when I was working with my group program, Better Sex in 90 Days, and I was recently asked what I meant when I said pleasure, and how the women in that program know if they are experiencing pleasure or not. We’re told what pleasure should feel like or what pleasure looks like, and we don’t often think about what it means to actually feel like. In this episode, I share with you how to identify what it is that you find pleasurable, and how you can apply that to your sex life and become the sexual woman you seek to be.

    Topics in this episode

    • Defining pleasure and sexual pleasure
    • Let yourself be curious
    • Pleasure is made up of physical touch and the filter with which we see it
    • Context matters
    • Pleasure is subjective
    • Finding what it takes to feel sexual pleasure

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to share this information with you and I hope it allows you to find more pleasure in your life. If you’re enjoying this podcast, I encourage you to write a review and tell your friends about it. It really helps get this word out so that we can become more pleasured human beings. We need more pleasure in this world and to allow ourselves to delicious pleasure.

    Q&A: Pleasure During Hard Times, Libido and Anxiety w/ O's Jun 11, 2020

    I want to start by discussing the current events that are taking place in response to Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd, and the thousands of other Black lives that have been unjustly taken. It has been very clear to me why this movement of Black Lives Matter is so important. With what is going on right now, I want to start by saying to my Black friends, listeners, and colleagues; I love you. I see you. And I fully stand with you, today and every day.

    Being a white woman in this country and really listening to the Black voices close to me, in my local community and beyond has been particularly important recently. I am learning and unpacking, and I want to continue to learn and be a part of the conversation and take action that I can take.

    In this episode, I share with you a Q&A, something I’ve never done before. The topics I cover in this episode are how to feel pleasure when there is so much overwhelm and deep hurt, how to push through anxiety in order to fully organsm, and increasing libido.

    Question 1: How is it possible to feel pleasure when there is so much anger, overwhelm, and deep hurt?

    • Learning how to be compassionate to yourself for your emotions
    • Give yourself permission to feel
    • Getting through the trauma in our bodies
    • Give yourself permission to feel pleasure, along with the emotional pain you’re experiencing
    • Moments of pleasure are soothing and will help you get through the hard times

    Question 2: How do you push through anxiety to fully orgasm?

    • We’re not trying to push through anything
    • When you’re not having sex, ask yourself, where is this anxiety coming from?
    • What are you afraid of experiencing?
    • If you don’t know where the anxiety is coming from, it makes it difficult to do anything about it
    • How to identify where the anxiety is coming from

    Question 3: How do you increase libido?

    • What libido means
    • Ask yourself, how can I want sex more?
    • Spontaneous vs responsive desire
    • Spend time finding out what it is that turns you on, and spend time doing that thing
    • Minimizing your turn offs

    It has been my pleasure, as always, to share these tools, insights, and mindset shifts that can really help you become a more turned on woman and help you lean more into your pleasure. Not only are you deserving of pleasure, but it is also available to you and it can help you in all areas of your life.

    Ep. 65: 5 Things To Practice For Better Sex May 28, 2020

    Today I wanted to share five practical things you can practice to have better sex. If you want to get better at anything, it requires practice, and the same thing applies to sex. And it’s important that we practice these things outside of sex so that it becomes more of a default in the moment, and you can really feel and enjoy the pleasure of having sex. Carve out time in your every day life to really be intentional and practice these five things, and you’ll be able to feel more pleasured and have better sex.

    Topics in this episode

    • The 5 things to practice for better sex:
      • Feeling pleasure
      • Thinking about sex
      • Connecting with your lady parts
      • Focusing
      • The muscles you are going to use during sex
    • Finding moments of pleasure throughout the day
    • Find time to think about your partner more, and to be eager to see them and spend time with them
    • Pay attention to the person he is and the things he is doing, rather than the things he isn’t doing
    • Notice what it feels like in the moment to tap into the sensations of your vulva
    • If you want better sex, you have to learn to focus your mind
    • Why we want to focus during sex
    • Getting your body ready for the kind of sex you want to have

    Resources

    • 3 Simple Steps for Mindblowing Sex: https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-59-first-step-to-mind-blowing-sex%2F
    • Pelvic Floor Health for Greater Pleasure with Buffy Stinchfield: https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-29-pelvic-floor-health-for-greater-pleasure-with-buffy-stinchfield%2F

    It has been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you. I had a fun time thinking about all of these ways that you can practice better sex when you’re not actually having better sex. I hope that all of these practices help bring more pleasure to you in the bedroom. If you’re enjoying this podcast, please take the time to write a review and sharing this so that more women can feel sexually pleasured and alive.

    Ep. 64: Not Sexual (Enough) May 21, 2020

    We are going to talk today about this idea of not being sexual, and what that even means. Women often say to me, “I’m just not that sexual”, and it seems like an innocent thing, but I want to unpack why this sneaky thought is negatively affecting your ability to become more sexual. We’re all here because we want to have better sex, and believing you aren’t sexual is holding you back from the sex you deserve. I’m also going to share a simple technique you can use to shift away from this thought and to be able to identify as a more sexual person.

    Topics in this episode

    • The difference between being asexual versus not feeling very sexual
    • When you think “I’m not sexual enough” it’s going to affect your ability to access pleasure
    • The roadblocks in starting from a place of “not enough”-ness
    • When we identify ourselves in a certain way, it feels like it’s set in stone and impossible to change, but it’s not
    • Your brain will sabotage your desire to even change this belief you’ve created
    • An exercise to remove old beliefs about yourself
    • When you can see it as a thought in your brain that you are a sexual person, you can begin to direct your brain to think differently

    This is a sneaky thought that is so commonly overlooked. And when you are starting this journey with this belief, you are starting at a disadvantage. Give yourself the possibility of pleasure by recreating your self-concept and your identity as a sexual being. If you want to be guided with this, this is the exact kind of work I do with my clients and I’m more than happy to talk to you about what that would look like. http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

    Ep. 63: "From Rejecting to Relishing in Her Body” an Interview w/ Jamee May 07, 2020

    In this episode I share with you another interview with my beloved clients, Jamee. I just love hearing her paint the picture of what it looks like to be a vibrant woman who’s alive in her body. She shares with you just how she went from rejecting her body, for a number of reasons, to now being able to relish in the pleasure of it. She wanted to make choices from a place of love, and now she can because she’s in a deep love affair with herself. She also talks about the new approach she has to sex, now that she has recognized that she truly enjoys it and wants it for herself. By learning how to tap into that pleasure, she’s now able to apply it to other areas of her life, and she talks about the transformation she’s seen because of it.

    For any of you that are ready to do this work, my group program, Better Sex in 90 Days, is open right now. I’m so excited to take you through this transformational journey because I know what it’s like on the other end. As I take clients through this process of falling in love with themselves and redeveloping this deep relationship with their bodies and their partners, they can dive deep into their sexuality. And also by doing this work, they can bring integrate what they learn into their lives and become a fully expressed person. It’s the most incredible work you can do. Take a look at it at: https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics in this episode:

    • Getting curious about the fact that sexual pleasure isn’t just about your partner, and that it can be for you too.
    • Opening up to pleasure, instead of ignoring yourself and your needs
    • “I wonder what else feels good.”
    • Spend more time thinking about what it is you do want, instead of all the reasons why you don’t.
    • Making the shift so that you are able to actually ask for what you want.
    • Having compassion for yourself shows up in having compassion for your partner, and allows you to be able to show up for yourself and for sex.
    • Part of the reason it doesn’t feel pleasurable is that sex is under the veil of obligation. But once it becomes a choice that you are free to make, you will feel the pleasure of making that choice.
    • The ripple effect of being a pleasured woman, and how that changes our parenting, and the people around us

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to bring you this episode where we got to hear all about Jamee’s journey and where she’s at. It’s been such a delight to work with her and to keep doing this work with her through our group program, so that she can continue to find new levels of pleasure. I hope that by being able to hear her story and the ups and downs she’s experienced, and what it’s like on the other side, that it inspires you. Sex doesn’t have to be a “have to”. It can be a choice you make for yourself. To learn more about this work and going on this journey, go to

    https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Ep. 62: Burning Through Shame Apr 30, 2020

    I interviewed one of my clients, Deise, and in this interview, you’re going to hear exactly what doing this work looks like from the inside. In our conversation, she is open and honest about her experience starting from the first time we got on the phone, what motivated her to start this journey, the fear about moving through the good girl identity she grew up with, to now being completely transformed and on the other side. It can be hard to picture the before and after of what it means to be an empowered woman, and in this episode, Deise does such a beautiful job painting that picture for you.

    If you’re ready for this level of growth, I encourage you to apply for the new group program I have created, Better Sex in 90 Days. It’s the most comprehensive coaching program available to women to learn the exact process that I take women through, like you and like Deise, to have better sex, and to feel empowered and sexually alive. https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Topics in this episode

    • Deises journey before coaching that culminated to make sex seem unimportant in her life
    • Coaching through the fears and the stories we tell ourselves
    • Defining what is actually pain, versus a fear from past pain
    • The journey of self-pleasure
    • How this work allows you to connect with yourself more
    • Sex can be so much more fun when we’re not dependant on the other person to meet our needs
    • The steps to gaining confidence and being able to communicate what we want, within sex and beyond
    • Ways to help get into your body and to enjoy self-pleasure and the connection to yourself
    • Deise answers the question I ask all guests on my show; how would the world change if more women were pleasured?

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to share this work with you that Deise has done, and the transformation that she’s had. I hope that it gives you insight into what is possible for you. Doing this work on your sex life and integrating this into who you are can change everything. If you want to do this work with me, I encourage you to check out Better Sex in 90 Days. I take you through a step-by-step process to unleash that wild woman in a safe and loving way that you walk out of it knowing how to keep falling in love with yourself, your relationship, and more in tune with your sexuality and your power. https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Ep. 61: Turn On the ONs & Off the OFFs - Step 3 Apr 25, 2020

    We are on part 3 of our series based on a recent masterclass I did called 3 Steps to Mindblowing Sex. These steps are essential for being able to uplevel your sex life, no matter where you’re starting at. Two episodes back we covered Step 1, have sex. We talked about why so many of us aren’t having sex and how to recommit to that action so that you can start showing up for the right reasons. In Step 2, Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body, we covered the disconnect between the mind and the body, and how to cultivate a connection to be able to access that pleasure.

    To listen to Step 1, go here: https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-59-first-step-to-mind-blowing-sex%2F

    To listen to Step 2, go here: https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-60-second-step-to-mind-blowing-sex%2F

    Step 3 - Turning On the Ons, and Turning Off the Offs

    • This step is really about getting into the mindset work and tweaking our thoughts one at a time to create more pleasure in the body
    • Reasons why it may be more difficult for you to get turned on
    • The more power you have on the “ons” side, the more you’re going to be able to experience pleasure
    • Our turn ons and turn offs aren’t just confined to what we’re doing when we’re having sex.
    • Common turn offs, and how to move through them so that you can access pleasure:
      • The environment in which you’re having sex
      • Stress
      • The belief systems
      • Physical discomfort
      • Trauma
    • Knowing when negative emotions are present and knowing how to be with them and process them so that you can have room for pleasure

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to share these 3 steps for mindblowing sex, and remember: have sex, get out of your head, and turn on those ons, and turn off those offs. This is such important work. When you start to lean into these 3 steps and start moving toward your potential for pleasure, it is one of the most rapid ways that you can develop and grow as a person and help you become the person you’ve always dreamed of being.

    For those of who you would love my help, I do have spots open for one-on-one coaching and I would really encourage you to take a look at the 90 Days to Better Sex group experience program I’ve just launched. If you want expert guidance from me, support from a group of other powerful women, and you want to get the skills and step-by-step processes that I’m talking about, go and check out the group program and apply at:

    https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Ep. 60: Second Step to Mind-Blowing Sex Apr 24, 2020

    I know that this episode is coming out earlier than expected, but I wanted to go ahead and record and release all 3 parts of the series all in a row. I know that right now a lot of you are at home, and I want to help you have better sex in your quarantine with your partners. This series is based on a masterclass I did that was called, How to Have Mindblowing Sex. In the last episode, I went over Step 1, have sex. To hear that episode, please go here:https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-59-first-step-to-mind-blowing-sex%2F. This series is for anyone, no matter where you’re at, and following these 3 steps will help you have the better sex that you deserve.

    I’m so excited to share with you that I have been working on something that I can now share with you. I am starting group coaching sessions, called Better Sex in 90 Days. All of the steps that I’m talking about here, these are the foundational pieces that you can take and apply right now. If you want expert guidance from me, support from a group of other powerful women, and you want to get the skills and step-by-step processes that I’m talking about, go and check out the group program and apply at: https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Step 2 - Getting Out Of Your Head and Into Your Body

    • The reasons we’re not in our head to begin with
    • We need to be comfortable with uncomfortable emotions
    • Your brain wants to protect you
    • Learning to cultivate the connection between the mind and the body so that we can be present for the thing we are experiencing
    • Your brain wants to take advantage of the time that it has to do something else
    • Realizing when your mind wanders, and bring it back
    • You’re watching the sex you’re having, instead of experiencing the sex that you’re having
    • The practiced skill of paying attention to what’s happening in your thoughts

    In the next episode, we get into the third step, turning on more of the ons, and decreasing the offs. As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to bring this to you, now go and practice getting out of your head and get into your body. Get into the sex that you’re having. Let yourself experience the ecstatic pleasure that’s possible for you.

    Ep. 59: First Step to Mind-Blowing Sex Apr 23, 2020

    Last week I did a masterclass called “3 Simple Steps to Mindblowing Sex”. The reason I wanted to do this is that there’s a lot of information, and definitely misinformation, out there, and it can be confusing to even know where to begin when it comes to having better sex. These are the three foundational steps. If you’re not having the kind of sex you’d like to be having, it all comes down to one of these three steps. You’re either not doing one of these things, you’re not doing one of these things enough, or you’re not doing one of these three things correctly.

    I also get to share with you something I’ve been working on for months! It’s a group coaching experience, called Better Sex in 90 Days. This is the most comprehensive, accessible program, that you could ever get to help you better your sex life. This takes the topics that I cover in the podcast, and gives you practical and workable ways to get the better sex that we all want, and making that part of who you are. The thing I’m most excited about for this program is because I really feel like something special happens when a group of women gathers and allow themselves to talk about something openly that has been off-limits for so long. When women start opening up and talking about it, you realize you’re not alone. To learn more, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

    Step 1 - Have Sex

    • You have to have sex if you want it to get better
    • The main reasons women aren’t having sex: fear, not being committed to the outcome, having sex the wrong way
    • Your brain makes things scarier than they turn out to be, and that’s where the fear comes in.
    • Fear of rejection, being awkward, embarrassed, or that things will not work out as planned. What are we making that mean?
    • We let sex become optional.
    • Thinking we have to be “in the mood”
    • Sex can actually be a “want”, versus an obligation
    • Remind yourself that you do want the bigger result of becoming a sexually pleasured woman.

    In the following episodes, I’ll be covering steps 2 and 3, “get out of your head, and into your body,” and “turn on your ons, and turn off your offs”. It has been my absolute pleasure sharing this with you and covering the foundation of how to have mindblowing sex. Remember to check out my 90-day group coaching, Better Sex in 90 Days if you want to take this work to the next level.

    Ep. 58: What To Do When You Can't Have Sex Apr 09, 2020

    Despite all of the things happening in the world, there is still pleasure and the ability to listen in and learn how to get more pleasure. Obviously, we are in unique times in the world. So I really want to take this time to talk about how and what can we do to bring pleasure into our life if sex is off the table. Just because sex isn’t an option, we have to make sure that we aren’t disconnecting from ourselves and our sexuality. In this episode, I share the importance of redefining sex and foreplay, what it means to self-pleasure, and other ways to play and prioritize pleasure.

    I also want to let you know that I am doing a free masterclass, 3 Steps to Mindblowing Sex. In this class, I teach you the top 3 things you can focus on that will help you have amazing sex. Sometimes it can feel so complicated to have great sex, so I want to share with you the foundations of what it takes. This masterclass is for you if you’re not having sex, or if you’re having sex and want to take it to the next level. This is for all of you. To learn more and sign up, go to http://daniellesavory.com/masterclass/

    Topics in this episode

    We can all take time for pleasure

    The cultural definition of sex

    Give yourself permission to expand your mind

    Taking sex off the table could actually be way more fun.

    Having the mindset that fun is a possibility

    Start with the mind. Let it be open to pleasure and let it be curious.

    What do I need to think and believe that’s going to create a sense of playfulness and curiosity?

    Self-pleasure vs masturbation

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you. I hope it allows you to expand your mind that whether or not sex is on the table, pleasure is possible for you. Sometimes it may be more fun when we give ourselves permission to be creative in a different way.

    Ep. 57: Pandemic, Pleasure & Panic - Oh My! Mar 26, 2020

    It is a crazy time in our world right now, and I thought it was really important for me to get on and do this podcast. I think it is so easy for our brains to put sex on the back burner, especially when we’re experiencing something as life-altering as a pandemic. It is so important for us to remember in times like these is that pain is inevitable, suffering is optional, is that pleasure is essential. In this episode, I share with you how to break out of the stress cycle and how to do so, how to respond when our brain is freaking out, and noticing our thoughts in order to change them to a thought that will serve us. The skills we build in this time will continue to train our brain for hard times to come, in regards to the pandemic, and after, which is why this is so important.

    Be sure to go to http://daniellesavory.com/ and sign up for my newsletter. I’ve been sending out some helpful resources during this time, and you don’t want to miss them.

    Topics in this episode

    • Why sexual pleasure is so vital right now
    • How the brain works under stress
    • Why a trigger feels that much harder when our brain is under stress
    • When you’re in a more balanced place, you have a chance to connect with your body in a pleasurable way
    • Our brains have a negativity bias, and it will always default to the negative. Take your attention, on purpose, to focus on the good
    • The lasting traits of sexual pleasure: connection, safety, and love
    • Creating space for more pleasure to happen

    It’s been my pleasure as always to bring this to you all, and I hope it helps you find pleasure despite the pandemic. We can’t control what is happening in the world, but we can control how we think about it. In the midst of panic, this is always available to you, and I hope you can tap into your body this week and access it.

    Ep. 56: Sex Not For Him: Interview with Lindsay Mar 13, 2020

    Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work with me? Have you listened to the podcast and thought about the kind of transformation you could experience if you hired a sex coach? In this episode, I bring on one of my clients, Lindsay Dotzlaf, to discuss her experience of working with me, and the changes she’s gone through since hiring me to work with. I have many clients who come to me even when they are happy with their sex life, and this applied to Lindsay as well. She was having ok sex, but after hearing me talk, she knew it could be better. In our conversation, she shares the observations she was able to make about her sex life, the changes she implemented, and how her life has improved overall now that she is a more pleasured woman.

    Topics in this episode:

    • What compelled Lindsay to reach out for coaching
    • Sex was an item on the to-do list and breaking out of that mindset
    • Taking away time from your business to work on something that was fine to begin with
    • Being resistant to scheduling sex
    • Discovering some undercover thoughts
    • What if this is something I want, just because I want it just for me?
    • The play of pleasure, despite discomfort

    Lindsay’s Contact Information:

    • Website: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/
    • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LDotzCoaching/
    • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindsaydotzlaf/

    It’s been my absolute pleasure some of my client’s insights and changes she’s gone through, and I hope it helps you find your own changes in your own sex life. I think so often you hear me talking about these concepts, but there’s a difference between hearing this information and actually working with someone on this. Integrating this into your own life can be amazing and transformative. If you are interested in taking this work further and deeper, and you know I’m the person you want to work with, go to http://daniellesavory.com/coaching/ and you can apply there.

    I am also excited to share with you that very soon I am going to be rolling out a group coaching program. It’s going to be the exact process I’ve been taking clients through, but this time it will be in a group setting. I think this gives you permission to open up, and it’s a safe space to be seen. There will only be a limited amount of spots open, so be sure to go to

    http://daniellesavory.com/

    and join my mailing list so you know when it launches.

    Ep. 55: Your Sex Manual Mar 05, 2020

    How easy would it be if we could all get a manual that showed us how to have great sex every time? This is essentially what Cosmo magazine has been doing since the start! I get asked my top tips and tricks for how to have better sex all the time. My response to these questions is that each one of us is wired very differently for pleasure. If I could give you a better sex life, I would! The main reason we feel pleasure is due to the wiring in our brains, and creating the structures that are conducive to pleasure, and being curious will lead to the results and mindblowing sex you want.

    You can sign up on my new website, http://daniellesavory.com/

    Topics in this episode

    • It’s crucial that you do your own exploration and discovery so that you can find your own hot spots.
    • The wiring in our brains can be changed with intention and practice
    • Your pleasure has less to do with your physiology, your mechanical responses, and more to do with your entire mental and emotional state
    • So what does feel pleasurable? Curiosity. Responsiveness. Presence.
    • Know the mechanics. You’ve got to know your body and what works and what doesn’t work, but you still have to allow yourself to fall into the flow of what is actually going on for you at that moment.
    • Focus on being curious, instead of being “successful”

    It’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you. I hope you enjoyed this episode of why a manual doesn’t work. It’s about understanding your body, but not being fixated on a mechanical process to follow. When you let go of the mindset of following a manual, you’re going to be able to fall more in love with the process and be able to follow pleasure.

    Ep. 54: Better Sex Maximized Feb 27, 2020

    Many of my current and potential clients come to me because something is wrong with their sex life and they aren’t having the mindblowing sex life they desire, and they think that if this one thing changes, everything will be better. I’m here to tell you that it’s never just one thing. It’s all of you. Accessing pleasure requires a whole system, and you need as many systems as possible turned on towards pleasure. In this episode, I share with you the different categories of areas that can be turned on toward pleasure, and how to check in with each category in order to access the mindblowing sex you seek.

    I also wanted to let you know that I have been working on a new website and a new free training! In order to get all the details, be sure to sign up for my mailing list for this training, as well as my other regular fun and sexy emails.

    Topics in this episode

    • We don’t have to have everything in order to have great sex. But the more areas you incorporate, the more pleasure you will be able to access.
    • Why it is that having an orgasm is not the goal of sex, and how your sex is affected if it is
    • The different categories in order to reach peak pleasure:
      • Physical comfort
      • Safety
      • The connection between you and your partner
      • The environment you’re in
      • Mental state
    • You don’t have to have perfect conditions to have great sex, but taking care of those things will help you access to pleasure
    • Everything that you can tweak is going to enhance your pleasure
    • Ways to create safety with yourself and your partner
    • Getting primed for pleasure
    Ep. 53: Being Turned On By Your Partner Feb 20, 2020

    When we think about pleasure, it requires all of you to be on board. All parts of your brain, all parts of your body, and all of your thoughts. Today, we are talking about thoughts that can take us away from pleasure, specifically, thoughts about our partners. This is something that I hear all the time from women is that there is something that their partner is doing, or not doing, that is keeping them from finding their partner desireable. I want to share with you that it’s not actually about your partner, and what they’re doing, or not doing. It’s your thoughts about these things that shape how you feel about them. In this episode, I share how to shift your thoughts so that you can get back to sexual pleasure.

    Topics in this episode:

    • The kinds of things your partner does that can get in the way of your pleasure
    • Your partner is just being themselves, and you have thoughts about it. And then these thoughts create an emotional response.
    • Making the decision to be turned on by them
    • How to start celebrating your partner: start with neutral
    • Your partner gets to decide who and how they want to be, and you get to decide how you experience that behavior.
    • What if the behavior doesn’t change? Will I be ok? Is this a deal-breaker?
    • We choose our person, and then it’s our job to continue to put in the work to want them day in and day out.

    If you want a better sex life, you need to become aware of what exactly is keeping you from pleasure. This is what I help my clients with, helping them become aware and navigate thoughts through a specific and effective process. If you’re really ready to take these concepts that I talk about on this podcast and begin implementing them so that you can have results of mindblowing sex, then I encourage you to go to my website and fill out an application. We can begin right away. To find the application and learn more, go to

    http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

    Ep. 52: UnF*ck Your Brain For Better Sex with Kara Loewentheil Feb 13, 2020

    Today you get to listen to a conversation I got to have with the wonderful and marvelous Kara Loewntheil. She is a master certified coach with a BA from Yale and a JD from Harvard Law. In the last three years, after pivoting from her law career, she has grown her life coaching business to 7-figures. She hosts one of the top-rated self-help podcasts called UnF*ck Your Brain, https://unfuckyourbrain.com/podcasts/, which has been downloaded over 5 million times. She’s truly a fun and witty human that I enjoy talking to so much.

    In this episode, we discuss how to help feminist women create more confidence, of which sex is a huge part, especially in this day and age. We also talk about what has culturally influenced our views of sex and ultimately has created so many blocks to our pleasure. We share what it means to feel sexy so matter what, and how thought-work is key to better sex and so much more.

    Topics in this episode

    • Women are taught that their sexuality is receptive or reflective
    • The problem with relying on somebody else for emotional validation
    • What would it mean if you were walking down the street being sexy for yourself?
    • Connecting to what it means to connect to being sexual by yourself
    • The first step to finding desire just for you.
    • Changing your conceptual frame and body image through thought work.
    • Being in partnerships with different levels of libidos

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this conversation with you. I highly recommend listening to Kara’s podcast, UnF*ck Your Brain. If you love all of her smart and simple ways of explaining how you too can unfuck your brain, you’re going to love her online community even more. It’s called The Clutch and it’s a feminist coaching community, full of hundreds of other women who are just learning how to liberate themselves.

    Contact Info

    • Website: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/
    • The Clutch: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/theclutch/
    Ep. 51: How To Become Empowered Feb 06, 2020

    This week is a continuation of last week’s topic of what it means to be an empowered woman, and how confidence is different, yet plays an important role. Last week I shared that confidence is a feeling based on what we are thinking and that it is through practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. To listen to that episode, go here: http://daniellesavory.com/podcast/2020/1/30/ep-50-becoming-more-confidant

    Empowerment, on the other hand, is the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights. When we’re empowered, we’re using the self-confidence we posses, and we direct the way we want our lives to go. In this episode, I share the steps to becoming empowered, how to think and feel as your future self in order to become her, and why sexual empowerment is crucial to becoming a fully empowered woman.

    Topics in this episode

    • Healing is the first step in becoming sexually empowered
    • Be now who you needed then and learn how to love yourself
    • Take power over your story and define what those events mean for you
    • You can’t control everything that happens outside of you. But you can control how you feel by controlling what you think.
    • Know the results you want for yourself and how you want to show up in the world, and make decisions from the future you that has those results
    • Know thy sexual self
    • The transformation of feeling more confident in, and standing in, your body

    This week I want you to think about owning your story in a powerful way and ask yourself, “What would a sexually empowered woman think or believe about herself? What decisions might she make today to prioritize her pleasure?” And from there, think about some small tweaks that you can you make right now to feel more purposeful in your pleasure.

    We all benefit when we are more pleasured, and it makes a huge impact on the world. This is why I love coaching women on this every single week. If you know for sure this is the missing link for you to show up more powerfully in the world, I encourage you to reach out for coaching. I can help you through every step of this process. To fill out an application, go here: http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

    Ep. 50: Becoming More Confidant Jan 30, 2020

    I hear from women often who want to know how to feel more confident and how to have that “it factor”. Confidence is a feeling, based on what we are thinking, and it’s different from being empowered. In order to access confidence, we must understand and be aware of our thoughts, and hold space for the feelings that we experience. It is through a self-compassion practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. In this episode, I share the process of how to create the thoughts that are necessary to be a confident woman.

    Topics in this episode

    • We aren’t born confident
    • The opposite of confidence is doubt
    • We don’t need evidence ahead of time that we can do the thing we want to do
    • Self-compassion requires:
    • Mindfulness of what is going on with our emotions
    • Acknowledgment that we are human
    • Kindness
    • As you believe in yourself, other people, and their thoughts about you, don’t have to mean anything
    • Creating an evidence file
    • Asking your brain for help to believe in yourself
    • When the doubtful thoughts come back
    Ep. 49: Great Sex After Heartbreak w/ Heartbreak Coach Claire Byrne Jan 23, 2020

    In today’s episode, I talk with Claire Byrne, a heartbreak coach who helps women stop wanting Mr. and Mrs. Wrong back. She’s the host and creator of her podcast, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and is also a regular contributor to Kourtney Kardashian’s Poosh.com. Claire is also a really good friend of mine. We met way back when we were just getting into coaching, and it has been really great to be on this journey of building our businesses together.

    In our conversation, we cover a number of topics, things I often get asked about sex and heartbreak, emotional availability, and of course pain and healing and pleasure. It was so much fun talking with my friend, and I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did.

    Topics in this episode

    • When should you have sex after heartbreak?
    • What is required in order to heal from heartbreak
    • Heartbreak is not a linear process
    • Being ok with rejection
    • The price you have to be willing to pay for healing and pleasure
    • Creating emotional availability and safety after heartbreak
    • Getting through times of feeling disconnected with your partner
    • Claire answers the question: What would change in the world if more women were sexually pleasured?

    Claire’s Contact Info

    • Website: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/
    • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clairetheheartbreakcoach/
    • Podcast, How to Stop Wanting Him Back: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast
    • Articles: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/articles
    Ep. 48: Setting A Sexy Tone Jan 16, 2020

    The same thing applies to sex and having pleasure. When you say the word sex, what kind of tone do you have? Is it one of dread? Pleasure? Excitement? I want to share with you how the tone affects our body and how we think about sex, and what you can do to change it.

    Topics in this episode

    • The tone changes the story in our head
    • The tone that we have when we’re talking about sex, this is going to set up the way that sex feels to you.
    • Your tone is going to guide your body about how you want to feel about it.
    • How do you want your body to feel about sex?
    • It’s not just sex - it’s also how you think about yourself
    • Uncovering negative associations and how to heal from them
    • You have the power to change your tone

    This week I want you to practice saying “sex” and other words regarding pleasure. Say it in the mirror, or in the car. If it’s something you want to crave, think about how you might say something you already do crave. If it’s something you want to find pleasurable, then say it the way you already say something you do find to be pleasurable.

    Ep. 47: Bringing Sexy Back Jan 09, 2020

    Topics in this episode

    • How disempowering our thinking can be
    • We don’t have to settle.
    • Sex is irrelevant to modern-day life
    • When you’re starting something new, that can be exciting. And that becomes more tantalizing than having sex can be.
    • Circumstances are neutral. It’s about how you think about them that will either make them an obstacle or not.
    • What’s keeping you from pleasure?

    Thank you so much for joining. As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this information with you. I hope that it allows you to find all of those off switches that are keeping you from accessing your pleasure, and start to move them out of the way so you can create that flow once again. If you’re looking for more help to identify those turn off switches, I am taking applications for one-on-one coaching later this year. You can apply here: http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

    Ep. 46: 2020 Your Sexiest Year Yet Jan 02, 2020

    As we kick off a new year, I want us to take some time to reflect and evaluate the last year that we had. It’s important to take a look back, to know what is working and what isn’t. And in the realm of sexuality, what is working for you in order to feel like a sexually empowered woman? In this episode, I share helpful prompts to use when thinking about the past year and the goals you want to set for 2020. Let’s make 2020 the sexiest year yet.

    Topics in this episode

    • 3 Questions:
      • What worked?
      • What didn’t work?
      • What am I going to do differently?
    • How to move through negative thoughts and feelings that may arise
    • Getting specific with our goals
    • Stretch goals, and why they are good for us
    • Having a growth mindset
    • Be willing to fail
    • Productive vs unproductive failure
    • What sexual failure looks like
    • Not having sex
    • Changing your mind and deciding it isn’t worth it
    • Letting the “how” get in your way
    • Not following through
    • Being ok with “meh” sex
    • Giving up
    • Excuses and justifications for not doing it

    I’m so excited for you to have your sexiest year yet! It’s your year to lean into your pleasure and to pursue your pleasure. I’m so grateful for you all, and if you want any help in reaching your 2020 goals, make sure to connect with me for some coaching at http://daniellesavory.com/coaching. As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to bring this episode to you today. Please consider sharing this with a friend and leaving a review. Let’s make 2020 the year of the pleasured woman, not just for you, but for all the ladies out there.

    Ep. 45: Meditation WILL Help Your Sex Life Dec 19, 2019

    Topics in this Episode

    • Difference between mindfulness and meditation
    • There are different types of mediation, based on the desire results you are seeking
    • Insight meditation focuses on the inner connection between the mind and body
    • This focus allows you to notice when your mind has wandered so that you can bring it back
    • “I’m showing up for what is”
    • How meditation can help with your pleasure:
    • Meditation increases your focus
    • Sharpens your awareness
    • Meditation calms you down
    • Helps you become the observer of your thoughts
    • Follow-through

    As always, it has been my absolute pleasure sharing this with you, and I hope that it helps you find more pleasure and gets you to the cushion to start meditating so you can have some mindblowing sex.

    Ep. 44: Feeling the FEELS Dec 12, 2019

    ‘Tis the season for a lot of feelings. Emotions, and how we deal with them, affect our capacity to experience pleasure. Feelings and emotions come from what we are thinking, either conscious thoughts, or what is in the background. I want to talk about how we often go wrong with emotions, how we can meet them and process them. When we practice feeling, that allows us to get closer to pleasure.

    Topics in this episode

    • Emotions are labeled by the physical response we have to certain triggers
    • Feelings are created by a thought or belief in the brain our brain, and our mind’s interpretation of what’s going on around us or “to” us
    • The first step is to be the observer and to notice the quick thought that triggers our emotions.
    • How is it that I’m not able to automatically switch my feelings if I’m aware of the thoughts that are creating those feelings?
    • Emotions live in the body and may stick around for a while
    • The steps to feeling your feelings: noticing, giving compassion, and having curiosity

    As always it has been my pleasure to bring this to you today. As you get better at this, you will feel increasingly safer being in your body, which opens you up to the possibility of being in your body during sex. I’m excited for you guys to do this. It’s really a game-changer. It’s going to make your life richer in all ways. I hope as you begin the journey to feel your feelings, you’re going to be able to have a more pleasurable life.

    Ep. 43: Addressing Apologetic Energy in the Bedroom Dec 05, 2019

    I often hear women feeling bad about speaking up for what they want. This apologetic energy carries into the bedroom, and it can mean feeling bad for saying no or feeling embarrassed. To be a pleasured woman, this is something we need to work through individually and collectively. It is time. I hope this episode will help you realize how perhaps you are showing up with some apologetic energy in between the sheets and how might be able to shift out of it so you can go and get your pleasure.

    Topics in this episode

    • Why we feel sorry in the first place
    • The role of cognitive dissonance
    • Having the belief that we are in charge of other people’s feelings.
    • What are you afraid of that keeps you from using your voice?
    • Delivering our requests with boldness and with kindness.
    • Open up the dialogue, without taking responsibility
    Ep. 42: Gratitude: The Foreplay to Pleasure Nov 28, 2019

    It is holiday season and I think that I’m not alone with a say people are feeling the stresses. Today I want to hop on the gratitude train because around Thanksgiving there’s so much talk about gratitude, and what it can do for us. I think that it is such an important part of creating more pleasure in your life.

    When we’re talking about having a good sex life, it’s not just about the sex we’re having. It’s about creating the internal structure in our brain so that we can open the invitation and it’s easy for pleasure to enter. Focusing on our brain as an internal resource, and asking ourselves: what are the things that we’re working on with our mind on purpose that is going to help us have more pleasurable sex?

    Topics in this episode

    • Practicing pleasure on purpose
    • Creating a system of resilience
    • The opposite of gratitude
    • The key is awareness
    • Complaining is the ultimate killer of passion and pleasure
    • Article by Robert Emmons: Why Gratitude is Good, https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_gratitude_is_good
    • The acceptance of what is
    • How to begin a formal gratitude process

    As always, it has been my pleasure. Have a wonderful week, you guys.’Tis the season to be grateful. Bring some more appreciation and gratitude into your life for yourself and your partner. I’m excited to see how this shifts things in you and helps you tend toward more pleasure.

    Ep. 41: Enjoying Sex is More Important Nov 21, 2019

    Today we’re going to talk about the simple concept of enjoying sex and how to focus on enjoying it. As we learn that there’s more enjoyment in something, we’re much more likely to increase our motivation to do the thing that brings us satisfaction. It makes sense why so many women suffer from low desire and wanting to increase their libido. It doesn’t have a reward we are used to experiencing. But it is time for a reclamation to our pleasure and to actually wanting it, because we love it. In this episode I share tips on how to begin to want pleasure, how to open your mind to it, and how to keep it once you have it.

    Topics in this episode:

    • The reward that comes from sex
    • There’s nothing wrong with male sexual pleasure, but there should be pleasure for you both.
    • Make it a habit to practice pleasure
    • You don’t have to do anything new. You just have to harness your attention to pleasure
    • The intention of finding the good
    • Warming up your awareness
    • What happens when pleasure goes away in the moment

    As always it’s been my pleasure to be with you here today. And I hope that this episode will help you not only want pleasure for yourself but to go after finding it and enjoying it during sex. Because ladies, it is time to take a stand for yourself and equality for your pleasure. This is what I help women do boldly every single day. Standing in your pleasure is standing in your power. I have recently opened up three more spots for one-on-one coaching to help women finish this decade strong because this is so important. If this is something you want to do, hit me up, go to my website at

    http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

    Fill out the really quick form, and let’s talk.

    Ep. 40: The Competing Selves Nov 07, 2019

    I was talking with one of my clients this week about last week’s episode. Desire and drive are different because it isn’t a biological need, but how does that change anything for us? This week I want to continue the conversation about how to want sex, and understanding our inner voices and what it takes to want to undergo change.

    I love hearing your thoughts. It always helps inform what I should spend my time talking about in these episodes and what I want to share. I want to hear your thoughts and follow up questions. Hit me up directly at itsmypleasurepodcast@gmail.com. You can also follow me on Instagram and message me @DanielleSavoryCoaching.

    Topics in this episode:

    • The thoughts and belief patterns that get in the way of sexual pleasure
    • How those thoughts take us to a place of rejection of ourselves and partnerships
    • Changing the tone of your thoughts
    • Learning how to want sex
    • The siren and the sage
    • Acting from a place of thoughts that were chosen ahead of time
    • Moving through discomfort for the sake of growth

    I hope that today’s topic about the competing selves when making a change will help you create more space to become the pleasured woman you are wanting to be.

    You can access the worksheet that goes along with the episode at daniellesavory.com/sirensage

    If you’re really ready to stop wasting time, working with me one-on-one, working with me is the most time-effieicnt fun and pleasurable way to discover how to enjoy sex again. I will have one opening later this month for a new client and I am currently having consultations to figure out who will take this spot. Apply for my coaching at

    http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

    Ep. 39: Men vs Women Sex Drive Oct 31, 2019

    When we take a look at sex drives, we are taking a look at belief systems. Most often, because of the way sex has been presented to us and is demonstrated in our culture, we have the belief that men have a higher sex drive than women. This belief can be getting in the way of your pleasure, and possibly have you think that something within you is broken. In this episode, I dive into where this belief comes from, how it is affecting your sexuality, and how to overcome this belief and be able to tap into your pleasure.

    Listen to this episode and allow yourself to bring some curiosity to these belief systems that you might not have taken a look at when it comes to your sex drive and men’s sex drives. What have you made that mean about your partner? What have you made that mean about you? How is this getting in the way of your pleasure? It is so important to take a pause to look at because these are the things that are going to block you from feeling safe, empowered, and able to access your pleasure.

    Topics in this episode

    • Why things might look a little different, and what to do about it
    • Saying yes out of guilt
    • The narrative that’s problematic to pleasure
    • When you think you “should”, how does that feel in your body?
    • Women have the capability to experience more pleasure than men
    • The definition of a “drive” and why sex is not one of them
    • Spontaneous vs responsive desire

    As always it’s been my absolute pleasure having you here on this episode with me today. I hope that you can begin to unpack the idea behind your sex drive, knowing the difference between different types of desires and that it will allow you to tap more deeply into your pleasure.

    Ep. 38: Clitoral Curiosity Oct 24, 2019

    Are you clit-erate? Most of us don’t know what we want, because it’s something we’ve never been educated on. We may know some about the hardware, but by now, having listened to this podcast, you realize there’s so much more that goes into having pleasurable experiences and mindblowing sex. In this episode, I explain the importance of having clitoral curiosity and how that can have such a big impact on getting what you want with your sexuality.

    I also want to remind you guys that I’m doing an unbelievable retreat with one of my coaching colleagues Lindsey. We are doing a retreat in Palm Springs called the Pleasure and Profit Planning Retreat. We’ll be going in-depth to talking about what it takes to truly create a profitable business, and planning for a super pleasured and profitable 2020. To sign up and find more information go to http://daniellesavory.com/pleasureprofit-retreat.

    Topics in this episode:

    • Defining clitoral curiosity
    • How important your mindset is to find pleasure in your sexuality
    • Creating new neural networks for pleasure
    • Being present and engaged with what’s happening
    • Having a point of focus
    • Making an old-time lover new again
    • Clitoral anatomy
    • Helpful prompts to create curiosity

    I hope specifically that today’s episode helps you become more clitorally curious. You’re wired for extreme pleasure. Now go and allow yourself to find out what lights you up, what turns you on, and what you truly want so you can express this to your partner, or you can just help yourself find more and more pleasure. If you want to take this work even deeper, make sure you sign up for my master class and newsletter at https://daniellesavory.com/freetraining or even hit me up for some one-on-one coaching.

    Ep. 37: How to Know What You Want Oct 22, 2019

    Last week I mentioned that I was doing a three-part masterclass: How to know what you want and be able to ask for it. What I’m going to do today is bring to you the first day of the masterclass, the foundation. Sometimes you have to look into what is going into the foundation of before you can even start the inquiry. When we’re beginning with the inquiry, there has to be a level of comfort with your sexuality. So in this episode, I discuss how to start with the foundation of pleasure, and how to determine what you want.

    In day two of the masterclass, we covered the investigatoin, and day three was all about the conversation. Each session also comes with a set of resources that I provide to help guide you through to the end goal. To see all three trainings and get access to these resources, go to daniellesavory.com/training.

    Topics in this episode:

    • How pleasure impacts so many aspects of our lives
    • Redefining what it means to be selfish, versus selfless
    • Why we don’t pursue our pleasure
    • Be in tune with the tone of noticing
    • The reward of sex
    • Regulating your nervous system, and it’s role in pleasure
    • How to identify things we need to work on
    Ep. 36: Mind-blowing Midlife Sex with Dr. Sonia Oct 10, 2019

    In this conversation with Dr. Sonia Wright, a board-certified radiologist and mid-life sex coach, we discuss the role of sex coaching, particularly for women in their midlife. She shares how she got interested in being a life coach, and through that coaching, she heard from many of her clients that they were having difficulties in their sex lives. Since there isn’t much sexual education and training in medical school, she found herself doing a lot of independent research, which quickly developed into her pursuing a certificate program to become a certified sex coach.

    I had a lot of fun talking with Dr. Sonia about some of the most common concerns for women, the difference in sex coaching for midlife as opposed to other phases of life, and how imperative it is for women to give themselves permission.

    Don’t forget, if you want help getting clarity on what it is you want in the bedroom, please go to https://daniellesavory.com/freetraining to access free training that is available now.

    Topics in this episode:

    • Why she pursued sex coaching, and what inspires her to continue doing it
    • Benefits of sex coaching for clients
    • Women in midlife are the sculpture and the sculptor
    • Peri-menopause and menopause and how it can change your sex life
    • Helping clients get to a place where they love themselves
    • The importance of grieving what was lost, and celebrating what’s to come
    • Dr. Sonia’s answer to: how do you think the world would change if more women were pleasured?

    Contact info:

    Email: drsonia@themidlifesexcoach.com

    Website: https://www.themidlifesexcoach.com/

    Ep. 35: Real Change Through Sex Coaching Oct 03, 2019

    I love having these episodes and this podcast to teach you concepts, and today I want to give you a glimpse into what it’s like to work with me as your coach. When you listen to the podcast, it may be hard to understand the power of what’s being said. It’s powerful to hear other people’s experiences and the transformations they’ve gone through, and I want to share some of that with you. I also want to explain some key differences between sex therapy and sex coaching. Having a coach is like having a personal champion, and through these client stories, you get to see how focusing on their sex life opened up to personal growth in every aspect of their lives.

    Topics in this episode

    • Value of sex coaching
    • The feeling of worthiness
    • What it’s like being powered in your decisions
    • What’s standing in the way of you getting what you want?
    • How to be present, one of the hardest things
    • Training your mind during sex
    Ep. 34: I Have So Much To Do... No Time For Sex Sep 27, 2019

    So far in this podcast, I’ve talked a lot about big-picture stuff, like how pleasure can change your brain for the better. And also, how to have the right structure and environment so that you can create desire and pleasure can enter. At this point, I would love to start getting more detailed on what actually comes up with some of my clients and how I coach them through it so you can start doing the same. What I really want to talk about is this idea that you have so much going on, you have so much on your plate, the predominant thought you have when it comes to sex is, “I just don’t have time for that” or “I’ve got so much to do”. What I want to show you is how to prioritize your “why” in order to make time for what you need.

    Topics in this episode

    • Time is just a construct
    • When we feel busy, we don’t have time
    • There has to be a compelling reason
    • Why is it important to you? What impact will it create?
    • The beneficial impact this can have on your business
    • How sex evolved, in your thoughts, to become an effort
    • Decide, commit, follow-through
    Ep. 33: How Other People’s Opinions Can Effect Your Sex Life Sep 19, 2019

    In last week’s episode, we began to talk about how self-image affects your sex life. I want to go even further this week and talk about how other people’s opinions can affect your sex life. We have a choice of whether or not we allow unkind comments other people say into our thoughts. Many of our beliefs have been learned by how we were raised, and the messages we got, and the world we live in. These beliefs can greatly influence our fears about ourselves, and especially about our sex, which keeps us from pursuing pleasure and desire.

    I want to share with you that the truth is really what we choose it to be. Not caring what others think isn’t easy, but it is the most liberating thing there is. It will free you and allow you to connect more with yourself so that you can go after your pleasure and go after your sexuality.

    Topics in this episode:

    • You are responsible for the integrity of your thoughts
    • The foundation of our “home” and how it affects your sex life
    • Negativity bias
    • How to overcome negative thoughts and self-talk
    • Defining your truth
    • Having an appreciation for your fears
    • Why others’ opinions hurt, and how to change it

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure sharing with you how to not let other people’s opinions affect you so much, and get in the way of your sex.

    Ep. 32: Body Image and Sex Sep 12, 2019

    Today we are talking about body image, which is a hang-up for many of us. I think it is safe to say that most women have been insecure about the way they look, and it creates obstacles for us to create more sexual pleasure or empowerment. This is something I truly love working with women to overcome in order for them to have a love affair with themselves, and to own the beautiful, badass, sexy women they are. Sexy is the relationship you have with yourself, and I want to help you re-build that relationship so you can access the sex you deserve.

    Topics in this episode:

    • The narrative in our minds
    • The role of self-criticism before and during sex
    • Would you say that to someone else? A friend? Your daughter?
    • The response of your sympathetic nervous system
    • You have to be the one to have amazing thoughts about you.
    • Shame is the opposite of desire
    • Re-building your self-image happens in stages

    Thank you for joining me on It’s My Pleasure today. As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure sharing with you, the way to begin rebuilding the relationship you have with your body, and I truly hope you take this to heart so you can start owning your pleasure and your body in a totally different way. If this message resonated with you, please know, this is the exact type of work I do with my clients. It is possible for you to feel amazing in your body. Let’s get you feeling amazing right now! If you want to hop on a call and see if coaching is the right step for you, email me at

    danielle@daniellesavory.com

    Ep. 31: 30 Ways to Have Mind-Blowing Sex NOW - Pt. 2 Sep 05, 2019

    In last week’s episode, episode 30, we started going through all the topics that have been discussed thus far on the podcast. I thought it would be so fun to recap the information that’s been shared, topics that have been discussed, and conversations so that you can remind your brain of the things we’ve discussed. And by doing so, it can ignite and inspire you to go back and listen, take some deeper notes, and actually apply, implement, and integrate what I talked about in that episode so that you can see real change.

    Episode 16: Decluttering for pleasure. Just like decluttering is important for our external environments, we can also do this work for decluttering for pleasure as well. Bring your awareness to the things that are getting in the way of pleasure.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-16-decluttering-for-pleasure%2F

    Episode 17: Priming the body for pleasure. This comes back to not getting fixated on the outcome, but really enjoying the journey.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-17-priming-the-body-for-pleasure%2F

    Episode 18: Our need to control a situation often keeps us from reaching our pleasure potential. What will it mean if you lose control? When you courageously answer these questions, you’ll realize that it’s not nearly as bad as you make it out to be.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-18-letting-go-of-control%2F

    Episode 19: Having a sexy and loving mind is the key to creating change in your sex life. Your thinking creates your results. How we think directly affects how we feel.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-19-a-sexy-and-loving-mind%2F

    Episode 20: In this conversation with my dear friend and former client Mahsa Darabi, we discuss how Motherhood does not have to mean the end of your sex life.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-20-the-sexually-empowered-mama-interview-with-mahsa%2F

    Episode 21: One way to create more sexual desire is to never say no. It is about giving your brain and your body a chance to actually explore the proposition of sex without defaulting to the automatic response you typically have.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-21-increasing-desire-never-saying-no%2F

    Episode 22: Sex is about your pleasure. Sex has become a “should” for your husband, your marriage, for your reputation, or what you think you’re supposed to do as a woman, which makes it become about something outside of you. But we are changing the narrative around it for ourselves and for generations to come.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-22-sex-as-your-pleasure%2F

    Episode 23: It is your responsibility to go after your pleasure. Take back what is rightfully yours. Your pleasure isn’t your partner’s responsibility. You get to decide how you want your sex life to look, and you get to do something about it.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-23-taking-responsibility-for-your-sexual-pleasure%2F

    Episode 24: This was the first of a three-part series, focusing on elevating your sex life. Becoming the observer and aware of the thoughts happening in your brain gives you the ability to actually do something about them.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-24-elevating-your-sex-life-pt-1-becoming-the-observer%2F

    Episode 25: Once you bring awareness to the type of thoughts you have, you can really start to notice where your attention is captured. This allows you to be able to bring your thoughts back, on purpose, to what it is you want to focus on.
    http://daniellesavory.com/podcast/2019/7/18/ep-25-elevating-your-sex-life-pt-2-capturing-your-attention

    Episode 26: Become embodied, meaning, to reside in your body with awareness. Wake up to what you are feeling and the sensations that are present. By doing this, you create the skill so that will open you up to pleasure.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-25-elevating-your-sex-life-pt-2-capturing-your-attention%2F

    Episode 27: An amazing conversation with Melanie Cristol, founder of Lorals, a thin panty that can be used during oral sex. When we decide that pleasure is attainable and necessary for us all, amazing inventions such as this can happen.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-27-a-new-take-on-oral-with-ceo-melanie-cristol%2F

    Episode 28: We have to believe that pleasure is possible. It seems simple, but it’s not a thought most of us are actively thinking. What if pleasure was possible for you?
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-28-believing-that-pleasure-is-possible%2F

    Episode 29: The importance of the pelvic floor as it relates to pleasure, a topic discussed with orthopedic physical therapist, Buffy Stinchfield. Many women tighten up in this area so much, and as a result, they may not experience the pleasure that is available to them.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-29-pelvic-floor-health-for-greater-pleasure-with-buffy-stinchfield%2F

    I am so ecstatic and proud of all of the topics we’ve discussed so far, and I am thrilled to bring you even more. Thank you for joining me. I hope you have found these 31 episodes helpful in tapping into your pleasure potential. If you want to take this work deeper, I would love to work with you one-on-one. I currently have a few spots available in this truly transformational journey. If you’re ready, interested, and serious about this important and empowering work, please email me: danielle@daniellesavory.com

    Ep. 30: 30 Ways to Have Mind-Blowing Sex NOW - Pt. 1 Aug 29, 2019

    In honor of today being the 30th episode, I want to focus on 30 key takeaways, one from each episode so far. It is so fun to see all of the things we’ve talked about and the topics and information that have been shared. I know how easy it is to hear something, and it goes through one ear and out the other. So I want to take the time to go through and grab each episode and get the essence from it to jog your memory and remind you some of the things we’ve talked about. This episode will be key takeaways from the first 15 episodes, and next week we will cover the other 15 episodes.

    Episode 1: Your brain and your body are wired and equipped to experience amazing, mind-blowing pleasure. What is getting in the way of your desire? What is keeping you from pleasure?
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-1-mind-blowing-sex%2F

    Episode 2: In order to receive more pleasure, we must set the intention for more pleasure. We have to actually be willing, open, and present
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-2-setting-the-intention-for-pleasure%2F

    Episode 3: Stress and sex don’t mix. When stress exists in the body it can get in the way of us actually experiencing a pleasure. A three-pronged approach to have a mindblowing sex life.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-3-stress-and-sex%2F

    Episode 4: Get out of your head and into your vagina. In order to experience ultimate pleasure during sex, we have to pay attention to the sex that is actually occurring.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-4-get-out-of-your-head-and-into-your-vagina%2F

    Episode 5: You can make a longtime lover new again by adopting the beginner's mind in your relationship in order to not get bored.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-5-making-a-long-time-lover-new-again%2F

    Episode 6: You’re not broken, and sexual pleasure is available to you too. Give yourself permission to be exactly where you’re at.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-6-will-it-get-better%2F

    Episode 7: Letting yourself fail. In order to learn how to be sexual, you have to remember that you are in fact, learning.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-7-learning-to-be-more-sexual%2F

    Episode 8: The goal of sex is not to have an orgasm. Learning how to let go of the end results. When you’re focused on the big-O, you create more pressure for yourself or your partner, and usually, the outcome isn’t pleasurable.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-8-orgasm-focused-sex%2F

    Episode 9: Schedule sex. Schedule sex. Schedule sex.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-9-to-schedule-or-not-to-schedule%2F

    Episode 10: A conversation with Rachel Sample, founder of The Felt Sense, on how to create explicitly erotic situations that can help usher in arousal.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-10-the-felt-sense-with-rachel-sample%2F

    Episode 11: Vacation sex. Give yourself permission to relax, have fun, or even be a different version of yourself and do the things you don’t normally do in everyday life.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-11-do-not-disturb-vacay-sex%2F

    Episode 12: Pain and pleasure in the body. Learning to accept pain the body and how to detach from it in order to see the other things the body is also experiencing.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-12-finding-pleasure-in-the-midst-of-pain%2F

    Episode 13: Sex is the connector of every single desirable trait we want to have in our lives and in our business. Going after your sexual pleasure potential is personal growth at the highest place.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-13-why-pleasurable-sex-is-important-for-your-growth%2F

    Episode 14: A conversation with marriage mentor Maggie Reyes on how to identify the things that might be taking us away from our pleasure potential, once we decide to go after it.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-14-interview-with-marriage-mentor-maggie-reyes%2F

    Episode 15: Talking with Laura Haddock, founder of Lora DiCarlo, about the often overlooked connection between being sexually pleasured and being a boss.
    https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/ep-15-interview-with-lora-dicarlo%2F

    I hope you enjoyed this run down of what I think are the juciest and fun bits over the last 30 episodes. Today we went through episodes 1-15, and next week I will go through episodes 16-29. I want you to know that I appreciate you so much. I love bringing this podcast to you every week and hearing about how it’s changing your life and relationship with sex

    EP. 29: Pelvic Floor Health for Greater Pleasure with Buffy Stinchfield Aug 21, 2019

    I am so excited for today’s episode because this is an interview I got to do with Buffy Stinchfield. She is an orthopedic physical therapist, specializing in pelvic and women's health for over nine years. Her own journey lead her to be a super passionate advocate for the care and information women receive. Earlier this year I had the pleasure of being a guest on Buffy’s podcast, The Girlfiend’s Guide to Health and Happiness, which you can listen to here. (https://www.pinnaclewt.com/podcast/021-the-power-of-our-minds-to-conquer-chronic-pain-and-even-gain-an-amazing-sex-life)

    In this discussion, we talk about how important pelvic health is for overall health, and the impact it can have on you your sex life. Some of the issues Buffy helps resolve include pelvic pain, pain with sex, bladder control, and organ issues. She also shares some of the latest information in pain science research, and how it relates to the mind-body connection.

    Join the 5-Day Pelvic Health Challenge at https://www.pinnaclewt.com/5-day-pelvic-health-challenge

    Topics In This Episode

    • Symptoms of pelvic muscle tightness
    • The issue with kegel exercises
    • How mindset approaches your body
    • Signs you are disconnected with this part of your body
    • The role of fight or flight in our pelvic floor
    • Finding pleasure in the small moments
    • Carving out time to spend with your partner
    Ep. 28: Believing That Pleasure is Possible Aug 15, 2019

    To start things off, I have a huge announcement. My good friend and coaching colleague and I are doing a retreat in Palm Springs in November. This is a pleasure and profit planning retreat. Our focus is that you walk away with your plan for 2020. And not only that, but that you have the tools to see results in your business and your pleasure. If you want more information, email me at danielle@daniellesavory.com

    In this episode, I want to talk about the belief in the possibility of pleasure. Belief is much harder than we think, and to believe that pleasure is possible eliminates the first roadblock keeping you from it. I share the details of how to know you’re not believing, why it’s so important, and the first steps you can take to begin having amazing sex.

    Topics in this episode

    • Why belief should be a part of your mental strategy
    • Belief can be fleeting
    • The role of cognitive dissonance
    • Signs you don’t believe pleasure is possible
    • Ask yourself, if I believed pleasure was possible, how would things be different?
    • Progression of thought starts with possibility
    • Recognizing the signs of the mind shift
    Ep. 27: A New Take On Oral with CEO Melanie Cristol Aug 01, 2019

    In this episode, I’m so excited to share with you the conversation I had with Melanie Cristol, founder and CEO of Lorals. In her role as a peer sex educator in college, one product that came up occasionally was the dental dam. It is a flappy sheet of rubber that is used during oral sex on a person with a vagina. It can be inconvenient and uncomfortable to use, and she knew she wanted to create a product to help women and people with vaginas experience more pleasure during intimacy.

    Lorals are incredibly silky panties that are designed to maximize sensations and minimize worries while you are receiving oral sex. In addition to sharing her journey from how she went from being a lawyer to an entrepreneur, she also details the personal skills she possesses that prepared her for creating a product in a taboo space.

    Topics in this episode

    • Difficulties in using and buying dental dams that inspired her to create a new product
    • Reasons why people turn down oral sex, and how Lorals can help solve those problems
    • Overcoming “who am I?”
    • How Tourettes has given her the courage to be able to create a product in a taboo space
    • Why it’s important to have more “taboo” conversations, especially for people with vaginas
    • Defining and discussing the pleasure-gap
    • Benefits of orgasms, and how love and intimacy leads to a healthy and happier life for people

    To learn more about Lorals:
    Website: https://mylorals.com/
    Instagram: @mylorals https://www.instagram.com/mylorals/?hl=en
    Twitter: @mylorals https://twitter.com/MyLorals

    Ep. 26: Elevating Your (Sex) Life PT 3: Becoming Embodied Jul 24, 2019

    This is the last installment of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence and purpose in your sex life and all areas of your life. In part one we focused on becoming the observer and allowing yourself that ability to start noticing what’s happening in your mind. Last week we talked about purposefully redirecting your attention to the type of thoughts that will deliver your desired results.

    This episode we cover what it means to become embodied and how to start experiencing what it’s like to be human in this human form, and opening up to sensations. We focus on what it means to be present to your sensations, and what happens to your brain when you do. I share with you how to tap into and lean these sensations, and 3 practices to help build the foundational skill.

    Topics in this episode:

    • Definition of being embodied
    • Levels of embodiment
    • Enteroception
    • Noticing resistance
    • How to mindfully attend to your emotions
    • Finding the parts of your body that feel pleasurable
    • Managing emotions

    As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to be here with you. I have absolutely loved offering you this three-part series about building the foundational skills to elevate your sex life, business, and your overall existence. I hope what you’ve learned today will help guide you to becoming more embodied so that you can experience all the pleasure your body has to offer you. If you’re loving this podcast and what you’re learning and you’re ready to take it deeper, then you should reach out for one-on-one coaching. To learn more, go to http://daniellesavory.com/coaching.

    Ep. 25: Elevating Your (Sex) Life Pt. 2 Capturing Your Attention Jul 18, 2019

    This is part two of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence and purpose in your sex life and all areas of your life. Part one was about bringing your thoughts to the forefront of your awareness. Once you are aware of your thoughts, you can capture your attention in order to shift your mindset, which we cover in this episode.

    Our mindset is made up of thoughts we think over and over that create our beliefs, and these collections of thoughts and beliefs create an overall disposition that will create a reaction to particular events, and can also show up in our behavior. As it applies to sex, your mindset can affect your attitude and disposition. So it is important to take a look at all of the learned beliefs and how you can change them in order to have mind-blowing sex.

    Topics in the episode

    • Recap of part 1 in the series
    • Definition of mindset
    • How mindset applies to sex
    • The benefit and act of writing down your observations
    • Noticing the reaction to your thoughts
    • The role of Cognitive dissonance in your sex life
    • Noticing what is capturing your attention, and redirecting your mind on thoughts that will serve you

    I hope this episode is going to help you capture your attention back so that you can get to your desired result. If you’re loving this podcast and what you’re learning on here, and are ready to apply it at a deeper level to experience mind-blowing sex and success, I encourage you to reach out for one-on-one coaching. This is where we take the work even deeper, and you’re going to see massive changes in all areas of your life. To learn more, go to http://daniellesavory.com/coaching.

    Ep. 24: Elevating Your (Sex) Life Pt 1- Becoming The Observer Jul 11, 2019

    There are three main skill sets needed to create the most mind-blowing sex life and honestly life in general. This episode is the first of three part series and is all about how to become an observer of the mind. My experience as a long time meditator as well as a meditation and mindfulness instructor has allowed me to not only become keenly aware of my mental happenings but to help others do the same. So what does watching your mind have to do with having an amazing sex life? Tune in to find out and how you can start becoming a witness to your mind or hone your skills more so that you can apply them to your pursuit of pleasure.

    Ep. 23: Taking Responsibility For Your Sexual Pleasure Jun 27, 2019

    When you decide to create a better sex life than the one you are currently experiencing then taking responsibility for your pleasure is essential. But we don't automatically do this, in fact we blame our sexual pleasure on almost everything else! Listen in on this empowering episode and starting taking your sexual pleasure BACK!

    Please note: possible trigger warning. Mention of sexual assault.

    Ep. 22: Sex As YOUR Pleasure Jun 20, 2019

    One of the most, and I would argue THE most, common thought I see standing in the way of desire is thinking of sex as pleasure for someone other than you. That is not thinking of sex as an act for YOUR pleasure. All of the "shoulds" come out - you should be more sexual, sex is something you should be doing for a good marriage, I should want it. These "shoulds" all indicate and underlying lack of belief that sex is in fact about your own pleasure. And when you approach it as such, the best sex of your life is possible, as one of my clients recently discovered.

    Also I announce the winner of the $250 sensual escape voucher as well. Thanks again for all the rules.

    Ep. 21: Increasing Desire - Never Saying No Jun 13, 2019

    The biggest issue that my clients comes to me with is lack of desire. They have achieved so much in their business and life but find that they simply don't "want" it that much. And they want to want it. I mean don't we all? But we think that desire is this thing that just overcomes us and when it doesn't we are afraid that there must be something wrong. In this episode I begin to explore the topic of desire and offer one of my common practices called "Never Say No" which is aimed to help brake the mental habit of blocking desire and the action we take of "saying no" on autopilot.

    Ep. 20: Interview with Mahsa May 30, 2019

    Ugh this conversation with the amazing Mahsa Darabi was so much FUN! Mahsa immigrated to the US from Iran when she was 7 years old and despite being the butt of many jokes in her youth for being "weird" she became a successful model and actress. Enjoy this talk I have with a dear friend and former client as we chat about how her definition of beauty changed despite the industry she was in and her transformation into becoming a sexually empowered woman after having children.

    Ep 19: A Sexy and Loving Mind May 23, 2019

    whether or not you have a fabulous and blah sex life. No, I am not lying - manage your mind and have mind-blowing sex - promise. Listen in to figure out how.

    Ep 18: Letting Go of Control May 16, 2019

    What would happen if you didn't have to keep yourself "in line"? Many people don't consciously think that they are trying to control everything around them, until they take a closer look and realize, that they are, in fact desperately trying to hold on to control. Because perhaps the fear is that if you let go of that control you might not stay motivated, or are afraid to see what is on the other side of really releasing your grip. What would happen if perhaps you kept allowing stimulation after orgasm? Or when something feels new? Or when you can seem to relax and just receive? In this episode we explore the mindset of control and despite your best efforts how it is keeping you from realizing your pleasure potential.

    Ep. 17: Priming the Body for Pleasure May 08, 2019

    There is a lot of talk about pleasure and how it can be BAD. I break down the difference between false and true pleasure and how sex can actually be BOTH, what?!? I know crazy right. And then I will take you through how to begin to prime your body for more pleasure for better sex and a better life.

    Ep. 16: Decluttering for Pleasure May 02, 2019

    Ugh why isn't pleasure happening? Well likely the same reason that calm isn't happening in your house, because there is too much shit crowding every single corner. In this episode learn exactly how you can begin to create the right type of environment that pleasure might actually exist in. It may sound boring, but this is EVERYTHING!!

    Extra show notes:
    If you wanted to get in touch with my amazing organizer and live in the Portland Metro area hit Sarah up at simplyreorg.com

    Ep. 15: Interview with Lora DiCarlo Apr 25, 2019

    Holy sh*t this interview, with badass boss Lora Haddock CEO and Founder of Lora DiCarlo was so much fun! We talk about how her and her team created the revolutionary hand frees robotic tool made to bring about the ever coveted blended orgasm, swoon! How this genius invention won a prestigious award and then was swiftly take away for, wait for it . . . being profane. And this my friends is what is at the heart of the issue of women going after and owning their pleasure. Hope you enjoy this tantalizing conversation of brilliance, bossing and bias.

    Ep. 14: Interview with Marriage Mentor Maggie Reyes Apr 19, 2019

    If you are looking for any tips on how to have a brilliant marriage filled with love and pleasure then Maggie has the answers for you! Seriously. She does. Like allllll the answers. She is a marriage and relationship expert and I love our conversation - how to talk to your partner about sex and pleasure, how to notice and close up those loops that may be keeping you from pleasure, and how impactful a delicious sex life can ACTUALLY be in your marriage, health and impact on the world.

    To access the link Maggie mentioned in the interview please visit https://modernmarried.com/creatingsafety

    Ep. 13: Why Pleasurable Sex is Important For Your Growth Apr 11, 2019

    We make time for what is important to us, even though our time is usually consumed by the things the brain labels as urgent. And the fact of the matter is, for most entrepreneurs and those of us with a lot on our plates SEX doesn't make the cut - in either category - urgent or important. But why not? Sex - pleasurable sex - is the connector of every single desirable trait we want to have in our lives and our business - don't believe me? Listen in and find out why sex should 100% be considered important.

    Ep. 12: Finding Pleasure In The Midst of Pain Apr 04, 2019

    It's easy to believe that pleasure is unattainable when we are experiencing physical pain - that perhaps it is not accessible to us. It can become a reason to shut down the possibility of pleasure in our bodies because we hurt. And boy do I know this story well. In this episode I share my personal struggles with physical pain and how I was able to find a delicious harmony of pleasure and pain in my body. Listen in to learn how to begin to experience pleasure alongside your pain or health issues.

    Ep. 11: "Do Not Disturb" . . . Vacay Sex Mar 28, 2019

    Vacay and sex seem to go hand in hand for many couples - and why shouldn't it, it can be oh so good. In this episode we explore what happens to make vacation sex oh so good and what keeps you cumming back for more. Also how can we get a little more of that at home? Listen in as I break down some common things that happen while on vacation, the mindset behind it and how you can specifically recreate the magic in your own home.

    Ep. 10: The Felt Sense with Rachel Sample Mar 21, 2019

    In this special inaugural interview episode, I am joined by the founder of The Felt Sense, Rachel Sample. We discuss the importance of creating safe and welcoming spaces for conversations to emerge around sensuality and sexuality and how The Felt Sense was born. The assumptions made about women who speak openly about sexuality, erotic story telling versus porn, and of course the patriarchy of pleasure. You will be sure to fall in love with Rachel, her sassy and smart approach to sexuality and the open discourse we need in today's world.For more on Rachel, her offerings and to download her audible erotic stories please visit thefeltsense.com

    Ep. 9: To Schedule or Not To Schedule Mar 14, 2019

    Scheduling sex? Um no thanks! If that is your immediate response you are so not alone. I used to turn my nose all the way up to planning or scheduling anything especially sex. But why might this help you get your groove on? And no it isn't just about getting that date night on the calendar - it goes so much deeper than that. Listen on and find out why!

    Ep. #8: Orgasm Focused Sex Mar 07, 2019

    In this episode we explore what happens when we have an agenda with sex, and specifically getting to that orgasm. How does having an orgasm focused agenda effect your pleasure when you hit the sheets. Listen on to find out!

    Ep. #7: Learning to Be More Sexual Feb 28, 2019

    Learning to be more sexual might seem as though it should come easy. I can just flirt more and wear a sexy outfit right? Well, yes and no. In this episode we explore the nature vs nurture convo as it relates to sexuality as well what you can do to set yourself up for success as you learn how to step into your sexual prowess.

    Ep #6: Will It Get Better? Feb 21, 2019

    There is an underlying subtext that most of us have when we begin to take a closer look at our sex lives . . . will it get better? Is this possible for me? Am I broken/fixable? And that my friends is exactly where we start - with where YOU are in this moment and taking a closer look at how you are mentally relating to sexuality. In this episode, through relatable stories and the psychology of the mind, you will learn that knowing where you are at and then knowing how you feel/think about where you are at, is the key to creating lasting change. Because how you relate to yourself when facing change or challenge is everything when it comes to cumming.

    Ep. #5: Making A Long Time Lover New Again Feb 14, 2019

    Ok so you have been with your lover for a while now and perhaps you are starting to feel like two ships passing in the night or like your connection has lost that passion or maybe just that sex feels super routine and not exciting. I totally get you. In this episode, you will learn how to actually desire your longtime lover again and how to bring more deliciousness into your sex life. Buckle up buttercup, time bring the sexy back to your marriage or long-time partnership.

    Ep. #4: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Vagina Feb 08, 2019

    Awaken your body to experience more pleasure! For so many of us, we are living from the next up - in our head's thinking about anything from our businesses to politics to that cute jumper we saw on Instagram. In this episode, you will learn how to identify when your mind is wandering and how to specifically train it to come back into your body and open up to a more pleasurable sexual experience. Buckle up - this is a juicy episode!

    Ep #3: Stress and Sex Jan 30, 2019

    Stress is prevalent in modern life - whether we like it or not.

    We are sick and tired of hearing about stress and its negative effects - I get you but truly understanding how stress may keep you away from mind-blowing sex may be just what you need to stop simmering in a reactive brain state. Not only that when you understand how stress happens and what you can actually do about it (no, it is not a face mask and a glass of wine) then you might be able to start enjoying what your mama gave you once again.

    I promise - this title might be blah - but stress and sex as explained in this episode is anything but boring.

    Ep #2: Setting the Intention for Pleasure Jan 30, 2019

    Sex and pleasure are one of those things we 'expect' to just happen to us, like all of the sudden you will be swept off your feet in desire and arousal. Unfortunately with everything going on in your life that is just now what tends to happen, not to mention this is not the way the brain is wired.

    In this episode, I cover the importance of setting the intention to bring more pleasure in your life, why it is so important and how my going after it all of the things you will discover that are actually keeping you from experience ecstatic pleasure and satisfaction in your life.

    Ep #1: Mind-blowing Sex Jan 28, 2019

    In this inaugural episode, I lay out the landscape for this path to stimulate your brain (and hopeful your lady parts) in going after a better sex life. Why it is so important at this time in our lives and in history to truly take back ownership of our pleasure. How going after amazing sex will connect you deeper with yourself, your partner and catapult so many areas of your life. We all have the opportunity for deep sexual pleasure, yes even you! Also, you may be wondering - what does the brain-mind-body connection have to do with sex?! Well listen in and get ready to have your mind blown.

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