Stay ConnectedOn It’s Complicated, Jenifer Golden, Lauren Leonelli, and Rob Evors dive into the oh-so-messy world of dating and relationships with hilarious anecdotes, strong opinions, and expert guests. From situationships and ghosting to commitment and compatibility, they share their own experiences while bringing in the pros to weigh in.
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In a game of $20,000 Pyramid, the clues would be: Because they have babies, because they can multitask, they have a high level of emotional intelligence, because they have a high tolerance for pain, they are the muses of historical art and music and because wars have been fought over them. The answer?
Why women are superior to men! You guessed it! We have definitely all heard versions of this phrase before, and we probably all have our own reasons as to why we can argue the validity of that theory, so today we are excited to have Dr. Ricky Arenson, author of the popular book Women Are Superior To Men, in to discuss why he believes this idea to be true and the 8 reasons that back up this theory, the number one issue that couples fight about and what they can do to stop the arguing, and what the “mysterious box” is that men retreat to and how to get them to come back out.
Get some relationship medicine from Dr. Ricky:
Listen to his podcast here: Happy Healthy Ever After
Buy his book here: Women Are Superior to Men
Learn more from Dr. Ricky here: https://drrickyarenson.com/
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Many of us have dreamed of the moment we are proposed to, or the moment we are going to ask someone to marry us. The details of these monumental relationship steps differ from couple to couple, but most often they include an element of surprise, and happen in a standard order.
We are so happy to have resident heartbreak coach for POOSH and newly engaged, Claire Byrne, our favorite relationship expert, back on the pod to discuss her recent engagement, why she and her fiance did a lot of planning before he popped the question, why this worked for them and which other types of couples could benefit form this kind of preparation, how to know if you’re ready before any planning begins, why Claire felt it was important to be transparent about her unique proposal experience, and how she is letting go of the judgment that came after the question!
Keep up with Claire:
Buy her course: How to Stop Wanting Him Back
Coach with Claire: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/
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We have all had this happen. One of your friends, your brother or sister or cousin, your coworker or even your kid is dating someone you don’t like! What do you do? You want so badly to confront them and tell them to pump the brakes or run the other direction but will they listen? Do you tell them how you feel just to be honest, or do you just let them be and figure it out on their own?
The truth is, there is no right answer but we have rounded up some of our favorite and most effective theories and approaches to dealing with a friend’s significant-o that significantly annoys you! We go over the Tell Them Upfront Theory, the Let Them Be Theory and the Vampire Theory, what they are, why they will work, and how they can all potentially be applied together.
Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob:
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Our new “Bestie,” Southern Charm’s Craig Conover, joins us for his first podcast interview of the season! Craig shares his thoughts on dating in the real world vs the reality world, how he met Paige, and why it took some time to take off. He discusses how life differs on and off camera, his point of view on prenups (get one), and why he’s on a 6 month Reddit hiatus. And it’s not just his relationship with Paige that makes the convo! He also dives into how his relationship with Austen has evolved, why it’s important for friends to adapt to each others’ relationships, and how to do it! Wanna know where he and Paige stand on their future, what she thinks about his sewing side hustle, and what everyone can expect to see in “the most WILD season yet” (his words) of Southern Charm? Then tune in to this weeks episode! This is one you DON’T want to miss!!
Listen to Criag’s Pod here: Pillows and Beer
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Buy Craig’s book here: Pillow Talk
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There are always points in every stage of dating a relationship where insecurities arise and boundaries need to be reset and communicated. So what happens when you take off the “cool girl” or “nonchalant guy” mask and act how you really feel in the moment? We are very excited to introduce you to our guest, Dr. Veronica Anderson, intuitive Guide, and Relationship Coach for High Performers, who shares how to transform inner doubts and insecurities into unwavering calm confidence, how to discover your human design and magnetize the life you truly desire, why you should leave behind the “cool girl/guy” persona to break free from societal expectations, and how practicing all of this can ultimately help you gain acceptance and appreciation for being a nonconformist.
Follow your intuition to Dr. Veronica:
Follow Dr. Veronica here: @drveronica
Figure out what your biggest relationship mistake is here: Quiz
Buy her books here: Available on Amazon
Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob:
Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow
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YOU GUYS! Jen is ENGAGED! We are so happy and proud to have a full on relationship start, blossom and come to this stage while being documented in real time on our show! Jen’s relationship has developed over a short time frame so the fun has been jam packed, super exciting and happening in front of our eyes (and ears)!
No matter which speed you are deciding to move at, there are always so many steps in dating a relationship and we think it’s healthy to focus on the present stage, be in the moment and enjoy the place you are currently in. So, before we start discussing wedding planning and how to stay connected all the way to the altar, we pick Jen's newly engaged brain to find out how to know if you are ready to accept a proposal, whether she was surprised by the proposal and if someone should act shocked if they saw it coming, why she and her fiance decided to start wedding planning asap, and how to enjoy being an engaged couple while being focused on the future big day!
Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob:
Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow
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Love languages, we know them, we love them and we even lead with them when looking for a romantic partner or even while in a current relationship. This system of categorization is relatively new terminology in the dating world, but now there are NEW additions to the list that might better represent YOU!
We are excited to share the two new love languages added to the list! We discuss why we think these new additions are relevant, why the love languages you speak and the love languages you want to be shown can be different for yourself and your partner, and which ones new languages we connect to!
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The stages of dating and of relationships are very exciting, very layered and very complex. We could talk for hours about each stage and the positives and negatives that come with them, essentially what we’ve been doing the last handful of years on this podcast, but if we break down the journey from being single to finding your match, we can identify some key steps that seem to surface the most questions and the most confusion. The question then becomes which are the most important steps within the stages of the dating and relationship path you are on?
Whether you are looking to get in or out of a relationship, we have the perfect person to coach you through. We are honored to have @JillianTurecki, a certified relationship coach & fellow podcaster, in to discuss what to do if you are single and looking for love, how to approach finding love better than you ever have before, and what to do if you are stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere fast!
Follow Jillian, on Love:
Listen to her pod Jillian On Love
Get Coached here
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Change your mindset and change your life! Your mindset determines the actions you take and the actions you don’t take. This is why EVERYONE talks about the importance of changing your thoughts. We all know that if you are worrying about an issue, telling yourself to “not worry’ or to “calm down” does NOT help. Let’s also be clear, changing your mindset isn’t a cute way to put a positive spin on a negative situation either. Those bad dates, breakups and relationship issues are real and we're not asking you to cover the trauma with rose colored glasses but we do think changing your mindset can spin things in a positive direction! What if there was a way to train your brain to hand pick the good things that exist in your current reality? Well, there is and we are going to help you get yourself out of negative dating and relationship thought patterns!
There is a filter in your brain called the reticular activating system. This RAS won't change your reality, but it will change YOU and your ability to face adversity and give you courage and resources to face issues that come up time and time again in your love life! We break down what the RAS is, how to use it correctly, what exercises you can use to train your brain everyday to only let the important stuff filter in and how this can change your dating and relationship struggles for good!
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Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob:
Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow
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Whether you’re on a vacation and looking for love or you’re in your hometown swiping or walking your dog and waiting for a rom com “meet cute,” you’re probably feeling anxious to find “the one” and get the relationship going, right! You might think this sense of urgency sounds like desperation but we think being sure about what you’re looking for and standing solid on your expectations, boundaries and standards can help you fast track your road to love, as long as you don’t ignore the ever so dreaded red flags and fall for someone without really knowing what you’re getting into.
Committing to someone is the ultimate goal and there are ways to become exclusive and drive into a relationship without getting a speeding ticket for premature emotional "investulation." We are going to guide you through some tips we read posted by Erica, @your.relationship.reset, a relationship therapist and dating coach, that will help you identify if early emotionally investment is a pattern for you, how to be intentional about your dating decisions, why healing your abandonment wounds is important and 12 warning signs that you are emotionally investing too soon!
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Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob:
Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow
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