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83. Release the Struggle: More on Expectations Mar 03, 2025

In this episode, Steph explores the pervasive issue of expectations and the less-than-desirable effects on personal and professional relationships. We all want less conflict in life, more peace, and more fulfillment...not more stress. Expectations are a recipe for failure, and Steph emphasizes the importance of acceptance and the need to shift from expectations to agreements to foster better communication and collaboration. By creating mutual commitments, people can reduce frustration and resentment, leading to more impactful interactions. The conversation highlights the significance of radical ownership in relationships and the power of engaging in meaningful discussions to build trust and accountability.

Chapters

00:00 The Roadblock of Expectations

06:43 Shifting from Expectations to Agreements

14:36 Radical Ownership in Relationships

82. Defensive Pessimism Feb 27, 2025

In this episode, Steph addresses the way people talk to themselves. She uses the example of her stepdaughter talking down to herself after she tried out for a solo performance. Steph breaks down the concept of defensive pessimism, its psychological effects, and the distinction between being prepared and simply being pessimistic. The conversation emphasizes the significance of high-frequency emotions in achieving success and the power of perspective in shaping our experiences.

Chapters

00:00 Celebrating Achievements: Upcoming Carnegie Hall Performance

02:25 The Challenge of Self-Belief in Adolescence

04:48 Understanding Defensive Pessimism: A Double-Edged Sword

07:04 The Impact of Energy and Mindset on Relationships

09:40 Choosing Optimism: The Power of High Frequency Emotions

11:13 Broadcasting Positivity: Creating Opportunities in Life

81. Be an Awesome (Impactful) Partner Feb 24, 2025

In this episode, Steph discusses the profound impact of relationships, particularly intimate partnerships, on our lives. She looks at relationships through the lens of having powerful impact and talks about some key factors in making that happen: radical ownership, emotional intelligence, mutual support, gratitude and appreciation, as well as the significance of personal growth and adaptability within partnerships. Ultimately, the goal is to create a fulfilling and joyful relationship that can weather life's challenges together.

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Relationships

05:44 Radical Ownership in Partnerships

10:40 Building a Supportive and Connected Relationship

15:15 The Power of Gratitude and Appreciation

80. Facing the Fear of Uncertainty Feb 20, 2025

In this conversation, Steph shares insights on navigating uncertainty and stress. What helps people get through times of uncertainty? Acceptance, recognizing what we can control, and managing fear. The conversation highlights that fear is a natural part of life, but it doesn't have to dictate our actions. Instead, we can learn how to "move despite the fear." By embracing what is, moving even with uncertainty, and taking intentional steps, we can create a supportive environment that fosters resilience and personal growth.

79. Update on Breaking Your Armor Feb 17, 2025

In this episode, Steph revisits the theme of breaking down emotional armor to embrace authenticity and vulnerability. Inspired by a recent story from a friend relating to a past episode (Ep 75 "Break Apart the Armor"), she shares how being genuine can create powerful connections and impact communities. Through a real-life story of a physician's testimony, she illustrates the importance of showing one's true self in, even and especially in, professional settings. The conversation emphasizes that true connection leads to joy, peace, and opportunities. May we all have the impact we have by breaking apart our own armor.

Chapters

00:00 Breaking Down Emotional Armor

02:24 The Power of Authenticity in Communication

03:58 Real-Life Impact of Vulnerability

78. 5 Ways to Freedom Feb 13, 2025

In this episode, Steph addressees one of the top values/desires/goals that humans have: FREEDOM. She gives 5 different ways to access freedom in your life, but through the lens of "cleaning or clearing." She emphasizes the importance of decluttering physical spaces, cleaning up language and mindset, nurturing healthy relationships, prioritizing health, and achieving financial clarity as key components to experiencing freedom. By addressing these areas, you can access that feeling of freedom every single day, even while pursuing your larger freedom goals.

Chapters

00:00 The Pursuit of Freedom

01:57 Five Simple Ways to Access Freedom

05:03 Cleaning Up Your Language and Relationships

07:29 The Importance of Health for Freedom

09:09 Financial Freedom as a Key to Overall Freedom

77. Getting Quiet Feb 10, 2025

In this episode, Steph discusses a solution to the culture wide challenge of feeling overwhelmed: the practice of getting quiet. She emphasizes the importance of solitude for mental health, balance in life, and tuning into one's inner voice. By establishing a consistent practice of solitude, individuals can reconnect with themselves, manage stress, and enhance their overall well-being. The conversation highlights the need for balance between active and quiet energies, and encourages listeners to create sacred spaces in their lives for reflection and peace.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Overwhelm and Solitude

01:56 The Importance of Getting Quiet

04:20 Balancing Yang and Yin Energy

07:14 Reconnecting with Intuition

08:31 Establishing a Consistent Practice

10:24 The Impact of Daily Solitude

76. The Happiness Advantage Feb 06, 2025

In this episode, Steph explores the complex and often elusive concept of happiness. She discusses the paradox of striving for success while feeling unfulfilled, the personal nature of happiness, and the myths that surround it. Drawing on insights from positive psychology, she emphasizes that happiness is not solely dependent on achievements or circumstances but is an "inside job," an internal state that can be cultivated. The conversation highlights the profound impact that happiness can have on individuals and their ability to create positive change in the world.

Chapters

00:00 The Happiness Advantage: An Introduction

06:12 Myths Surrounding Happiness

10:29 The Power of Perspective in Happiness

75. Break Apart the Armor Feb 03, 2025

In this episode, Steph reflects on her recent experience at a live event with her mastermind group, where speakers shared deeply personal and vulnerable stories. She describes how the power in their storytelling was in their vulnerability. Ironically, this kind of vulnerability is the stalemate for so many people. Steph discusses the misconception that failures and hardships disqualify us from sharing our messages, arguing instead that they enhance our credibility. She shares her journey from being guarded to embracing authenticity, highlighting how this shift has positively impacted her relationships and professional life. The episode concludes with the idea that we might not have to use a proverbial hammer to have big impact, but rather use the hammer to break apart our own guardedness so we can impact people with our humanity.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections

03:01 The Power of Vulnerability in Storytelling

06:12 Impact Through Authenticity

11:15 Breaking Down Walls for Connection

13:36 Embracing Humanity in Interactions

74. Get to the Root (Stop Chasing Branches) Jan 30, 2025

In this episode, Steph talks about "getting to the root". She discusses the importance of identifying root causes in various aspects of life, like in health, conflict and personal development. Drawing from her background in Chinese medicine, she emphasizes that addressing symptoms without understanding the underlying issues leads to ineffective solutions. You end up "chasing branches" instead of dealing with the main cause. Through relatable examples, she encourages listeners to explore the roots of their challenges to foster genuine transformation and growth. At the end, she gives practical questions to help you start to diagnose the root in various scenarios.

Takeaways

- Look for root causes, not just symptoms.

- Nature teaches us about health and balance.

- Understanding the root can alleviate multiple issues.

- Stress often leads to unhealthy coping mechanisms.

- Communication breakdowns often stem from unmet needs.

- Health issues can often be traced back to lifestyle choices.

- Negative stories influence our behaviors and perceptions.

- Fear of unmet needs drives many of our actions.

- Asking the right questions can reveal deeper insights.

- Focus on roots to work smarter, not harder.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Root Cause Analysis

00:46 The Importance of Understanding Root Causes

02:45 Applying Root Cause Thinking in Daily Life

04:33 Identifying and Addressing Saboteurs

06:43 Practical Steps to Discovering Roots

07:42 Conclusion and Call to Action

73. The Novelty Phase Jan 27, 2025

In this episode, Steph discusses the 'novelty phase' that often accompanies new endeavors, highlighting the initial excitement and motivation that can fade after a few months. Have you ever started something you were super excited about, and then about three months in, you seem to lose your motivation? That's the novelty phase. Steph emphasizes the importance of pushing through this phase to achieve lasting transformation and growth. By combining insights with consistent action, individuals can overcome the challenges of maintaining motivation and ultimately reach their goals.

Takeaways

The novelty phase brings initial excitement and motivation.

Dopamine plays a key role in our enjoyment of new experiences.
Many people struggle to maintain motivation after three months.
Pushing through the novelty phase is crucial for growth.
Insight without action leads to stagnation.
Long-term commitment often yields the best results.
Transformation requires consistent effort over time.
Avoid falling into the trap of chasing quick highs.
Reflect on your progress to find fulfillment.
Commitment to goals is essential for achieving dreams.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding the Novelty Phase

02:21 The Impact of the Novelty Phase on Learning

06:04 Pushing Through the Hump

09:07 The Importance of Commitment and Action

72. How Much Do You Give? Jan 23, 2025

In this episode, Steph explores the complexities of giving and helping others, particularly in relationships where the recipient may not be ready or willing to accept help. This topic comes up a lot for people because relationships are nuanced, complex and we are often invested in the outcomes of the people we love! Steph discusses the importance of understanding one's limits in providing support, the necessity of intentional giving without control, and the significance of taking ownership of one's energy in relationships. The conversation centers around the recognition that everyone has their own path to walk, which may include hardship and struggle, and sometimes we have to take our hand out of it and get out of the way.

Chapters

00:00 The Challenge of Giving and Helping

05:01 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships

10:39 Navigating Personal Energy and Impact

Takeaways

How much do you give in relationships?

Some people don't want to change or get better.

It's important to give without trying to control outcomes.

You can only control your own actions and feelings.

Helping others should come from a place of true intention.

Avoid giving out of obligation or expectation.

Recognize that everyone has their own path to walk.

You cannot fix or save anyone; it's presumptuous to think so.

Take ownership of your energy and what you give.

Recharge your own battery to maintain balance.

71. Why You're Not Taking Action Jan 20, 2025

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of taking action not just at the start of the year, but throughout the entire year. There is a powerful formula used in coaching: Insight + Action = Transformation. Action is where the rubber meets the road and so many people avoid it. She emphasizes the need to connect with a strong personal 'why' to motivate action, the dangers of waiting for the perfect moment, and the impact of fear and comfort on our ability to take risks. The conversation encourages listeners to shorten the time between insight and action to achieve their goals and avoid regrets.

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Year-Round Action

02:49 Understanding the 'Why' Behind Action

05:49 The Pitfalls of Perfectionism and Preparation

08:14 The Cost of Delayed Action

10:13 Overcoming Fear and Comfort Zones

12:52 The Practice of Taking Action

15:31 A Call to Action for Transformation

70. The Complaining Crisis Jan 16, 2025

In this episode, Steph talks about the "crisis of complaining" and how it affects us and the people around us. She references Wayne Dyer's famous quote, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." This discussion addresses the pervasive issue of complaining and the three hard truths that go along with it. She emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility, ownership, and the story we tell. Steph encourages listeners to take responsibility for their lives and break the cycle of negativity.

Takeaways

Complaining is a habit that many people fall into.

Chronic complaining can be isolating and draining.

Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing our own complaints.

We often complain about things we can change but choose not to.

Acceptance is necessary for things we cannot control.

The language we use shapes our life story.

Problem energy prevents us from finding solutions.

We have the power to change our perspective.

Taking ownership leads to empowerment.

Breaking the habit of complaining can transform our lives.

69. The 7-38-55 Rule Jan 13, 2025

In this episode, Steph talks about a famous rule around communication called the 7-38-55 rule. She emphasizes that effective communication goes beyond words, highlighting the significance of tone and body language. The conversation illustrates how much of our communication is nonverbal and how many people aren't intentional about the way they take up space in a room. Steph shares personal anecdotes and insights on how to improve communication skills to enhance influence and connection with others.

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Communication

02:06 Understanding the 7-38-55 Rule

08:37 The Role of Tone in Communication

13:03 Body Language and Its Impact

15:00 Mastering Communication for Impact

68. It's All About Your Story Jan 09, 2025

In this episode, Steph explores the profound impact of the stories we tell ourselves and how they shape our perspectives and emotions. Through the example of a coaching client named John, she illustrates the importance of recognizing and challenging our narratives to foster personal growth and empowerment. It comes down to one insight: "It's all about the story we tell, isn't it?" The discussion emphasizes the ability to choose our perspectives, the significance of self-reflection, and the power of language in shaping our experiences.

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Storytelling in Coaching

06:15 Choosing Your Narrative: A Turning Point

08:42 Empowerment Through Self-Reflection

67. I Am the Bottleneck Jan 06, 2025

In this episode, Steph discusses the concept of personal bottlenecks, drawing from a coaching client's experience. The conversation explores how individuals often become the obstacles to their own success, emphasizing the importance of personal responsibility, effective communication, and taking action. Steph provides practical strategies for overcoming procrastination, creating routines, and maintaining accountability to oneself, ultimately asking the simple question, "What is the bottleneck in my life?"

Chapters

00:00 The Bottleneck Revelation

05:29 Identifying Personal Roadblocks

08:45 Strategies to Overcome Bottlenecks

66. Year in Review: The Top 5 Tactics for Personal Growth Jan 02, 2025

In this episode, Steph reflects on the new year and shares the top 5 tools and ideas from the podcast in 2024 that have helped listeners and clients achieve personal growth and impact. She shares these 5 tactics: 1) the ONE change, 2) radical ownership, 3) problem energy vs. solution energy, 4) choose your story, and 5) energy is everything. We are always out there seeking new tools, but sometimes the real money is in the simplicity of the tools you already have. Happy new year, team.

Chapters

00:00 New Beginnings: Embracing 2025

01:39 Reflecting on the Past: Lessons from 2024

04:20 Top Five Tools for Personal Growth

06:50 One Change: The Power of Simplicity

09:58 Radical Ownership: Taking Control of Your Life

12:27 Energy Matters: The Foundation of Success

65. The Most Controversial Episode of 2024 Dec 30, 2024

In this episode, and in honor of the coming new year, Steph discusses the most controversial episode of the last year for the Impact Ready podcast. It was Ep.6 "Stress is a Choice". She breaks down the different reactions people have to this sentiment, "stress is a choice", and talks more about what it means in practice. Steph emphasizes how this idea is about perspective and the story we tell about our life. The result of embracing this idea? More personal freedom, ownership, and fulfillment each day.

Episode 6: Stress is a Choice

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/impact-ready/id1747814249?i=1000658021220

Chapters

00:00 Reflecting on Impact and Personal Growth

01:51 The Controversy of Stress as a Choice

03:58 New Chapter

04:41 The Power of Perspective and Ownership

07:43 Choosing Attitude in Challenging Circumstances

09:55 Embracing Responsibility and Agency

64. Why Negative Thinking is Good Dec 26, 2024

In this episode, Steph explores the complex relationship between negative and positive thinking, challenging the notion that one must choose between the two. Don't we want to know all sides, all facets, of who we are? We are constantly sifting and sorting through experiences in life. Negative thinking is framed not as a flaw but as a valuable part of the human experience that can lead to self-discovery and empowerment. The conversation encourages listeners to embrace their negative thoughts, recognize their role in shaping their narratives, and take ownership of their mental processes to foster a more balanced mindset. By recognizing the value of both perspectives, listeners can learn to navigate their thoughts more effectively, leading to more personal freedom and greater impact.

Chapters

00:00 The Dichotomy of Thinking: Positive vs Negative

06:56 Understanding Negative Thinking: A Necessary Perspective

11:57 Embracing the Full Spectrum of Thoughts

63. Regret: A Sneaky Form of Perfectionism Dec 23, 2024

In this episode, Steph describes another sneaky form of the Perfectionist saboteur...regret. She discusses how our inability to let things go and feel stuck in regret is connected to the false narrative that we have the capacity to be perfect, and when we make mistakes, we have somehow failed. This was a pervasive belief for her, and has often comes up for many people in general. By understanding the roots of these saboteurs, listeners are encouraged to let go of regret and embrace learning from mistakes, ultimately fostering resilience and our own expansion. We always have the ability to choose how we view our past. Let's choose compassion and learning so we can grow.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Saboteurs and Their Impact

02:56 The Perfectionism Trap and Its Consequences

05:46 Regret: A Sneaky Form of Perfectionism

09:07 Learning from Mistakes and Letting Go of Shame

12:12 Embracing Growth and Releasing Regret

62. Anticipation is Joy Dec 19, 2024

In this episode, Steph examines the sentiment, “So much of our joy comes from anticipation of an event, not the event itself.” This came as a result of acknowledging that many people today report feeling very little joy in their lives. Steph talks about the practice of anticipation as a way of creating excitement in your life, and therefore increasing your baseline level of joy. Through a client story, she describes how you can make this practice even better by adding appreciation into the formula. The more excitement we feel, the more joy we experience, and the better impact we have.

61. How Do I Know if This is Meant for Me? Dec 16, 2024

In this episode, Steph reflects on the question she asks herself all the time: How do I know if this is meant for me? She discusses the idea that the best things in life aren't forced, and the mental dilemma of deciding if you aren't trying hard enough, or the thing you want just isn't meant for you. We talk about how a lot of it boils down to a desire for control. And that by releasing the fear, we get the chance to find the things that are truly meant for our life. If you've ever struggled with something that just felt "hard" this episode is for you.

60. Start/Stop Energy Dec 12, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the concept of 'start-stop energy,' a frustrating cycle where individuals experience momentum in their goals or projects, only to have it abruptly halted. She shares personal anecdotes and insights on how this pattern affects various aspects of life, emphasizing the importance of being intentional with time and preparing for life's inevitable challenges. Steph outlines practical steps to break the cycle, including taking action, expecting life to happen, and being prepared, ultimately advocating for a balanced approach to productivity and rest.

59. The Power of Your Why Dec 09, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the absolute power of understanding your personal why and how it influences your ability to create a fulfilling life. She describes your "why" as the big reasons behind your actions and as your foundations when things get hard in your pursuits. Your "why" can serve as motivation and your tether to the ground when things get stormy. Steph shares the clinical experiences that first illustrated how a strong personal why can lead to resilience and success in various aspects of life, including health and personal development.

58. Hold It Loosely Dec 05, 2024

This episode, Steph describes the transformative power of "holding it loosely" or letting go. She discusses how resistance to reality can lead to pain, something most people deal struggle with on the daily. Through personal anecdotes, she illustrates the journey of embracing the unknown and the growth that comes from surrendering control. The conversation encourages listeners to view letting go not as a weakness, but as a necessary step towards creating space for new beginnings and personal growth.

57. Why We Have to Do Hard Stuff Dec 02, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of embracing hard things in life as a pathway to building resilience and confidence. She emphasizes that these qualities are not innate but cultivated through doing hard things. We have all had experiences that felt challenging in life, but in looking back, led to tremendous growth. The conversation also touches on the fear of the unknown and the human tendency to seek comfort, urging listeners to choose the hard paths that lead to long-term fulfillment over instant gratification.

56. The Appreciation Filter (A Different Take on Gratitude) Nov 28, 2024

In this episode, Steph talks about appreciation and gratitude from a different angle. She discusses the strange cynicism surrounding gratitude, the contrast between gratitude and the messaging we get from mainstream, and the innate ability to apply an "appreciation filter" to anything. Steph relates to feeling gratitude even in challenging times and encourages listeners to practice appreciation as a daily habit. This Thanksgiving episode is a reminder that we have access to gratitude anytime, and it's our choice to choose our perspective every day.

55. Growth is Exhausting - Debunking the Myth Nov 25, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses a common sentiment from clients: "Growth can feel exhausting!" This is regarding the process of practicing personal growth and self-development. Steph describes how this feeling often stems from unrealistic expectations and the way individuals approach their growth journey. By shifting perspectives, being mindful of input, and recognizing the importance of repetition, individuals can navigate their growth more effectively and find it less exhausting. The conversation encourages listeners to view personal development as an investment in themselves, leading to positive outcomes and fulfillment.

54. Change Your State Nov 21, 2024

In this episode, Steph describes the power of "changing your state" as a technique to interrupt negative thought patterns. She emphasizes the importance of being aware of our habitual thoughts and how they shape our experiences. Changing your state is simple and can have almost instant impact. She shares practical strategies for doing this so you can shift your mindset. It's one of the easiest ways to feel more in command of your thoughts and feelings.

53. Why We Need the Wind - Lessons on Resilience Nov 18, 2024

In this episode , Steph delves into the concept of resilience, exploring its importance and the ways to cultivate it in our lives. She describes lessons from Biosphere 2, an experiment from the 1980s that taught us valuable lessons about why the trees need wind to survive. The same is true of for all us going through this human experience. The episode concludes with practical steps to enhance resilience and build a stronger "bounce back" for yourself. Let's take the bubble wrap off and face challenge head on, knowing it's what makes us stronger, better, faster.

52. Navigating the Holidays Nov 14, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the complexities of navigating the holiday season, addressing both the joy and stress that can accompany this time of year. The biggest struggle during this season? EXPECTATIONS. So how do we manage those? Steph shares personal experiences and insights on how different family backgrounds can shape holiday expectations and stresses the importance of understanding and managing these emotions. The conversation offers practical strategies for creating a more peaceful and joyful holiday experience: Let people be who they are, say what you need, and slow down.

51. Your Highest Belief of Yourself Nov 11, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the value of investing in yourself, whether it's your time, energy or resources. Why? Because we can only rise to the highest belief of ourself. Our investment is essential to overcome limiting beliefs and achieve personal growth. And as you grow, you expand your ability to impact others, some of whom you haven't even met yet. There are so many ways to invest in yourself, from health and wellness to coaching and education, and in the end, it's about embracing growth and overcoming resistance to change.

50. "Glad to Be Here" - Lessons from the Blue Angels Nov 07, 2024

We are celebrating 50 episodes of Impact Ready! Steph reflects on the journey of the podcast and draws inspiration from the Blue Angels after watching their documentary. She highlights the phrase 'glad to be here,' said by the crew members and pilots, and discusses the sentiment behind that, and how it applies to our life and our ability to impact. Thank you for being here for 50 episodes! Let's keep the momentum and the work going. Glad to be here with you all!

49. The Power of Being Prepared Nov 04, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses one of the key pillars to being able to have significant impact in life: being PREPARED. She describes how preparation consists of both planning ahead and emotional readiness, which are essential for high performance. Steph shares personal anecdotes and practical strategies for enhancing preparation, including mental visualization and energy management. She also describes the mental attitude of "life preparing you" and how this means viewing challenges as opportunities for growth and to adopt a mindset that sees the universe as supportive rather than adversarial. Ultimately, the episode serves as a motivational call to action for listeners to embrace preparation in all aspects of their lives to maximize their impact.

48. The 4 Levels of Learning (and Our Unrealistic Expectations) Oct 31, 2024

One of the biggest sources of struggle for people is their unrealistic expectations. In this conversation, Steph describes the "levels of learning", a series of steps every person goes through when learning anything. We all want less struggle in life, and Steph emphasizes how setting realistic expectations can alleviate struggles in personal growth. The levels of learning illustrate how mastery is achieved through a non-linear process of growth, mistakes, and perseverance. Ultimately, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace their learning journey with grace and patience.

47. The Impact of Phones on the Brain, Sleep and Time Oct 28, 2024

We all know how pervasive our phone use is, right? In this episode, Steph discusses the significant impact of phone usage, particularly at night, on well-being, productivity, and emotional health. She emphasizes the importance of reducing screen time before bed to improve sleep quality and emotional resilience. By exploring the neuroscience behind screen time, she highlights how excessive use can disrupt circadian rhythms and lead to negative emotional states. Steph also shares some shocking math around screen time, as well as practical insights on reclaiming time lost to screens.

46. Bring the Data, Not the Drama Oct 24, 2024

In this episode, Steph talks about the power of this statement: "Bring the data, not the drama." Humans are often bringing a skewed perspective to the table based on the emotions of the current moment. This episode emphasizes how quantifying experiences can lead to a clearer understanding of our situations. Through examples from her practice as an acupuncturist, she illustrates how people often misinterpret their feelings based on current circumstances. The conversation also touches on conflict resolution and the need for personal accountability in our emotional responses.

45. Getting Out of "Stuck" Oct 21, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the common feeling of being stuck in life, often described as being on a hamster wheel. She explores the core human needs for certainty and uncertainty, emphasizing the importance of variety and excitement in our lives. Steph outlines three actionable steps to overcome feelings of stagnation: gaining clarity on personal dreams, raising ambitions, and believing in one's worthiness to achieve more. The conversation encourages listeners to take small steps towards a more fulfilling life, highlighting the power of mindset and action.

44. Three Powerful Words: I Am Responsible Oct 17, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the transformative power of the phrase 'I am responsible' and its impact on leadership, personal growth, and team dynamics. She emphasizes the importance of taking ownership, shifting from problem energy to solution energy, and creating a culture of responsibility within teams. This is not about saying "It's my fault." Rather, the conversation highlights how embracing responsibility can lead to improved relationships, morale, and overall effectiveness in both personal and professional settings.

43. Where Focus Goes Energy Flows Oct 14, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of focus and mindset in creating a powerful impact in our lives and the lives of others. She emphasizes how our attention shapes our reality and how shifting our focus from limitations to possibilities can lead to significant personal growth. Through examples and insights, she highlights the role of the reticular activating system in filtering our perceptions and the necessity of awareness in overcoming limiting beliefs. Ultimately, the conversation encourages listeners to break free from mental barriers and tap into their untapped potential.

42. It's Difficult to Find a Strong Person with an Easy Life Oct 10, 2024

In this conversation, Steph shares a sentiment we've all heard before: It's difficult to find a strong person with an easy life. She describes how the mistakes, failures, or hardship you've been through might just be the things that qualify you to be a great leader in your life. Steph explores the broader themes of resilience, strength, and the importance of embracing one's imperfections as a leader. We know that true strength often comes from overcoming hardships and that our struggles can qualify us to lead and inspire others.

41. Why Your Impact Matters Oct 07, 2024

In this episode, we discuss why it matters that you have powerful impact in the world. Steph discusses the two main reasons: our deep need for meaning and purpose in life, and how our impact is the gateway to getting the life we want. She describes a cycle that can be positive or negative, beginninng with radical ownership, leading to personal power, solutions, and finally, IMPACT. This cycle is how we can understand how to create a ripple effect of positive impact in communities.

40. Understanding Confidence & How To Have It Oct 03, 2024

We all know what confidence looks like, and we all want more of it, but how do we actually get it? In this conversation, Steph explores the multifaceted, and sometimes elusive, nature of confidence. In order to know how to get more confidence, we have to know the core beliefs and behaviors that define confident individuals. She also discusses the role of self-worth, and the necessity of keeping commitments to oneself as foundational elements in building and maintaining confidence. If you've wondered how you can improve your self-confidence, this conversation is for you.

39. What's Really Behind the All or Nothing Mindset Sep 30, 2024

In this conversation, Steph explores the pervasive issue of all or nothing thinking. We call it by many names: all or nothing mindset, black and white thinking, or perfectionism. She discusses how this mentality often stems from fear and can hinder growth and genuine connections. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing and challenging this mindset, giving simple strategies to start to break free from the fear and live a life of your design.

38. It's Not Failure, It's Growth Sep 26, 2024

In this episode, we discuss the concept of failure, and create distinctions about what often feels like failure versus signs of growth and progress. Steph discusses various experiences that may seem like setbacks, such as feeling overwhelmed by new challenges, making mistakes, admitting ignorance, outgrowing relationships, asking for help, and starting over. By reframing these experiences, listeners are encouraged to embrace their journeys and recognize the inherent growth in their struggles.

37. Lessons on Impact from Urgent Care Sep 23, 2024

In this episode, Steph shares a poignant story from her teenage years about a time when her mom demonstrated the power of personal impact during a visit to urgent care. She illustrates how small acts of kindness can create significant ripples in the lives of others. The conversation emphasizes the importance of being aware of one's influence and the courage it takes to act on it, regardless of societal expectations. Steph encourages listeners to reflect on their own potential to make a difference, no matter how subtle or quiet that impact may be.

36. How Good Do You Want to Feel on a Scale of 1 to 10? Sep 19, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the significance of understanding one's personal motivations, or 'whys', in achieving goals and maintaining engagement in life. She emphasizes the importance of knowing your personal why. She describes her "why": feeling 10/10. We talk about striving for a '10 out of 10' feeling in various aspects of life, including energy, relationships, and work, and the continuous process of self-improvement and consistency in achieving these goals.

35. Choosing Small Rewards Over Big Rewards Sep 16, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses how we often choose small, immediate rewards over significant, long-term achievements and explores the psychological comfort these habits provide. She describes it as choosing "pennies over dollars" and dives into what motivates people to forego the big rewards. Through self-reflection and awareness, listeners are encouraged to identify their habits and the small rewards they offer, ultimately challenging them to prioritize their bigger aspirations for personal growth and fulfillment.

34. The Roles We Perform in Life Sep 12, 2024

In this episode, Steph explores the concept of performing in our lives and the impact it has on our well-being and fulfillment. She discusses the gap between our inner selves and the outer version we present to the world, highlighting the struggle and dissatisfaction that arises when this gap is large. The focus is on the kind of performance that feels out of alignment and drains us. She encourages listeners to examine where they may be performing in their lives and take steps to close the gap.

33. Nobody's Coming to Save You Sep 09, 2024

In this episode, Steph asks the question "where are you hiding and where are you playing small." She describes a time in her life where she felt these very things and how one statement from a coach at a seminar shook her awake to the reality of her life and what she needed to do. If you play small, you get small results. And we know you're here for the big fulfilled life.

32. You're a Leader Sep 05, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the concept of leadership and how everyone has the potential to be a leader in their own lives. It's not about your work role or title, it's about the way you show up. She talks about the qualities to embody as a leader and how you have it in you already. The truth is, someone in your world needs you to step up as the leader you were meant to be.

31. Time to Start Taking Action Sep 02, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of taking action and provides insights on how to beat the action paralysis. She describes three reasons why we get stuck and procrastinate things. This short and sweet episode will give you some inspo to get things moving this week. Let's go!

30. The Gap to Close Aug 29, 2024

In this episode, Steph describes the "gap to close"... closing the gap between our current reality and the life we desire. This gap exists in two forms: the gap between our current reality and our dream life, and the gap between who we are on the inside and who we present to the outside world. The gap is filled with beliefs, programming, feelings, and lack of clarity. Closing the gap requires addressing these internal factors and aligning our inner and outer selves. If you want to have a different life, or a different sense of fulfillment, this conversation is for you.

29. Coaching...I Won't Tell You What To Do Aug 26, 2024

In this episode, Steph explains coaching...what it is and what it isn't. Coaching is becoming popular worldwide as people recognize the power of a strong resilient mind. It helps manage the inner game and improves mental and emotional health, leadership, relationships, and performance. Steph explains the differences between coaching, therapy and consulting. This conversation helps you understand some of the gateways to improving your impact and becoming the person you want to be.

28. This is Your Greatest Asset...Your Health Aug 22, 2024

In this episode, Steph talks about your greatest asset in your life...your health. She shares her personal journey and experiences with health crises, highlighting the mental and emotional impact of physical limitations. Steph encourages listeners to take action now, not just in terms of physical health but also mental and emotional well-being. She describes some of the foundational ways to prioritize mental and emotional health. Steph reminds us that health is true wealth and challenges listeners to assess their current health and make improvements.

27. The When/Then Trap You Fall Into Aug 19, 2024

This episode discusses the 'when then' trap, which is the tendency to believe that achieving a certain goal will bring the desired feelings. It's one of the most common things we do as humans. The trap is twofold: it procrastinates beneficial actions and it often doesn't deliver the expected feelings. The root motivation behind our actions is to achieve certain feelings. Steph talks about importance of practicing and cultivating these feelings along the way, rather than relying solely on the end goal. She offers ways to help you avoid falling into the trap in your own life.

26. Why You Don't Want to Set Goals Aug 15, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the fear of setting goals and the resistance that comes with it. It's all about the voice in our head that says "I don't want to set goals." The conversation is inspired by a client who expressed her fear of setting goals due to the possibility of failure. We talk about the discomfort with failure and the unknown, as well as the reduced tolerance for extremity in today's convenient world. We also discuss the difference between making a decision to do something versus just hoping it will work out. It's a new look at goals and how you're approaching them.

25. The One About Bodybuilding Aug 12, 2024

In this episode, Steph shares her perspective on her wife's bodybuilding journey and the insights she gained from witnessing the dedication, discipline, and consistency required in the sport. She highlights the importance of preparation and consistency in achieving goals and discusses behaviors such as time management, research, finding mentors, creating systems, and setting mini goals. Steph reflects on the parallels between bodybuilding and other pursuits and encourages listeners to approach their own goals with dedication and consistency.

24. Build Your Scaffolding for Resilience Aug 08, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the concept of scaffolding as a support network that helps you feel more supported in your life. She explores the importance of community and mentorship as key elements of scaffolding. She also emphasizes the role of health habits, such as exercise, nutrition, sleep, and stress management, in building a strong foundation. Additionally, she highlights the significance of personal needs, such as alone time and connection with nature, and being intentional about the information we allow into our lives. The conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own scaffolding and consider what they need to feel supported and resilient.

23. Choose Your "Hard" Aug 05, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the common sentiment of 'it's too hard' and the emotions behind it. But if everything is some kind of hard, why wouldn't you choose the "hard" that is going to take you to your desires and your best life? Steph shares her personal experience of coming out as gay and the internal struggle she faced. What hard are you choosing?

22. It's Not Too Late For You To Make Change Aug 01, 2024

In this episode, Steph debunks the idea that it is too late for you to make changes in life. One of the most common fears for people is that they won't be able to change things like their health, their mindset, or their circumstances. Don't fall into that trap! You are more than capable of change. Steph lists three truths that she leans on to remember that we are all capable of growth and overcoming challenges. It's not too late to pursue your desires and dreams.

21. Problem Energy vs. Solution Energy Jul 29, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the concept of problem energy versus solution energy. The game-changing insight for her? It is impossible to find a solution from a place of problem energy. Problem energy is being focused on the problem, venting, criticizing, complaining, and getting stuck in the details of a challenge or struggle. It is characterized by low-frequency emotions such as anger, frustration, resentment, and hopelessness. On the other hand, solution energy is focused on finding a solution and is characterized by high-frequency emotions such as curiosity, open-mindedness, hopefulness, and joy. To shift from problem energy to solution energy, one can ask questions, become aware of their energy, and take ownership of their thoughts and feelings.

20. Remember..."I Asked For This" Jul 25, 2024

In this conversation, Steph Saffer discusses the feeling of overwhelm and stress that many people experience in their lives. How one phrase, "I asked for this," changed her perspective. She describes a time when she was feeling overwhelmed and how she realized that she had asked for every single thing she was managing. She emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of our circumstances and choosing to love and enjoy them.

19. I Stopped Saying "Busy" Jul 22, 2024

This episode builds on the previous episode "The Language of your Life" and refers to how you talk about your life and the words you use. Steph shares how she stopped using the word 'busy' and the impact it's had on her life and relationships. Choosing language with intention can lead to more positive and energizing interactions. It's sends a message and begs the question, what's the story I want to be telling about my life?

18. My Top 5 Health Hacks Jul 18, 2024

Steph discusses her top five health habits that have helped her maintain great vitality and energy consistently. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on foundational health habits rather than getting lost in trendy health hacks. The five habits she highlights are exercise, eating in a way that's healthy for her, prioritizing high-quality sleep, practicing meditation, and having a supplement regimen. She is passionate that we as a society need a solid health foundation. We don't need more hacks, we need better habits.

17. Discover Your Saboteurs Jul 15, 2024

This episode explores the topic of saboteurs, which are the inner critics and negative self-talk that can sabotage us. Saboteurs are learned stories that we create in our heads as a result of our lived experiences, and they can influence our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. Everyone has saboteurs, and it's important to become aware of them in order to change our behavior and feel more empowered. Some common saboteur personas include the perfectionist, people pleaser, martyr, controller, victim, and judge. Saboteurs are rooted in fear and the belief that our needs won't be met. Steph talks about how to begin to identify saboteurs and how to manage them.

16. Bring Big Energy for Big Outcomes Jul 11, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of bringing extraordinary energy to achieve extraordinary outcomes in life. She highlights the disconnect between wanting big dreams and goals but bringing lackluster or inconsistent energy to the process. Steph emphasizes the need for self-awareness, intention, and consistency in cultivating and maintaining high energy levels. She describes doing an energy audit to assess the energy you bring to your daily life. By being aware and intentional about their energy, we can align it with our desired outcomes and have a greater impact.

15. W.A.I.T. Jul 08, 2024

This conversation is about effective communication and the importance of listening. Steph shares a helpful acronym, W.A.I.T. (Why Am I Talking), as a reminder to be mindful of your intention in conversation and prioritize listening. The majority of people are terrible listeners, often just waiting for their turn to talk. To be an impactful person, listening needs to be a top skill. Active listening involves being curious, open-minded, and setting aside ego. It's one of the keys to being a person of impact.

14. What Are Your Top Desires? Jul 04, 2024

Steph explores the concept of desires and how they contribute to a fulfilling life. She discusses the when-then trap, where people believe that achieving certain goals will bring them fulfillment, but often find that it doesn't. Steph emphasizes that desires are the root feelings that make life meaningful and suggests focusing on the motivation behind tasks and goals. She identifies some of the core desires that many people share and encourages listeners to identify their own desires and align their actions with them to experience more fulfillment.

13. Celebrate the Wins (You Need to Do This) Jul 01, 2024

In this conversation, Steph discusses the importance of celebrating wins and the negative impact of constantly striving for the next goal without recognizing the achievements. She introduces the concept of 'the gap' and 'the gain', where the gap represents always looking ahead and feeling like you're falling short, while the gain is about looking back and acknowledging your progress. Steph emphasizes the need to integrate the wins to upgrade your self-identity. She challenges listeners to audit their big wins and encourages them to celebrate and level up their self-perception. By doing so, they can become more confident, capable, and impactful.

12. Expectations vs. Agreements - How to Win In Relationships Jun 27, 2024

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of using agreements instead of expectations in relationships. She explains how expectations can lead to resistance and conflict, while agreements create mutual understanding and trust. Steph shares how she applied this concept in her relationships with her stepdaughters and how it transformed their interactions. She also highlights the benefits of using agreements in work, marriage and friendships. The challenge to you? Let go of your expectations to live a more stress-free life.

11. You're Doing a Good Job Jun 24, 2024

In this episode, Steph emphasizes the importance of validating and acknowledging others by telling them 'You're doing a good job.' She discusses how the need for true quality connection is stronger than ever in today's world, where people feel isolated and lonely despite being more connected through the internet. Steph shares a personal story about her wife's battle with breast cancer and how she realized the power of acknowledging and encouraging each other. She encourages listeners to spread this simple message of acknowledgement and support to the people in their lives.

10. Discipline: One Who Follows a Plan Jun 20, 2024

Discipline is essential for having a powerful impact in the world. However, the word discipline often carries negative connotations and can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. One way to reframe discipline? Think of it simply as one who follows a plan that you set for yourself. When assessing your own self-discipline, consider if you lack energy, if you haven't taken ownership of your plan, or if you're not willing to be uncomfortable. Steph breaks down these 3 key questions you might ask yourself, and how to get honest about your self-discipline game.

9. Know Your Input: How to Keep a Killer Mindset Jun 17, 2024

This episode discusses the impact of external influences on our mindset and suggests monitoring and controlling our input to have a positive output. When we are aware of what's coming in, we can be more intentional about what's coming out energetically. Steph describes various actions that can contribute to positive output. Consistency and practice are highlighted as key factors in maintaining a positive mindset.

8. Do You See Possibility? Jun 13, 2024

A major characteristic of people who have a powerful impact in the world is their ability to see what's possible. They see possibility beyond their current circumstances and abilities. Many people struggle to see things beyond their current circumstances or ability. It's crucial to believe there could be something different or bigger, even if the current circumstances don't support it. Spending time visualizing a new future and focusing on possibilities creates positive change and powerful impact.

7. Bring The Best of Who You Are Jun 10, 2024

Steph talks about the importance of bringing the best of who you are in order to have a positive impact on others. Many people pursue self-development and growth for the sake of improving their relationships with others or being a better role model for their family. There's a need to prioritize self-care and personal growth in order to show up as the best version of oneself. Someone in your life needs you to bring your best self and to take action this year.

6. Stress is a Choice Jun 06, 2024

Stress is a major concern for many people, impacting their health and well-being. The idea that stress is a choice can be initially met with resistance, but it offers a new sense of personal freedom and control. We have the power to choose how we perceive and respond to stress. Many people wear stress as a badge of honor, but it can lead to resentment, frustration, and burnout. Taking an active role in managing stress and challenging our beliefs can lead to a calmer and more empowered life.

5. The Language of Your Life Jun 03, 2024

The conversation explores the power of language and how it shapes our experiences and impacts our well-being. Steph emphasizes the importance of being conscious of the words we use to describe our lives and the story we tell about ourselves. The language we use has energy and influences our thoughts, feelings, and even our physical health. It also affects our ability to have a positive impact on others and shapes our perspectives and the way we see the world. Is the language you're using a reflection of the story you want to tell about your life?

4. How You Face Challenge May 23, 2024

In this conversation, Steph explores the different perspectives people have on challenge and how it affects their experience of life. She shares her personal experience of growing up with a single mom and witnessing her resilience in the face of adversity. Steph discusses two paths people can take when faced with challenges: viewing them as afflictions or as assets. She emphasizes the importance of consciously choosing the path of seeing challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. Steph also highlights the power of mindset and the ability to choose one's attitude in any given circumstance.

3. Radical Ownership (Will Change Your Life) May 23, 2024

In this conversation, Steph discusses the concept of radical ownership and its importance in having a powerful impact on one's life. Radical ownership involves taking responsibility for every aspect of one's life, including thoughts, feelings, actions, past experiences, and present circumstances. It is about accepting and owning everything that is within one's sphere of influence, regardless of fault or intention. Radical ownership leads to self-awareness and empowers individuals to find solutions and make intentional choices. It frees them from being beholden to other people's reactions and emotions and allows them to focus on personal growth and positive impact.

2. The One Change May 23, 2024

This conversation explores the overwhelm people feel when making changes in their lives, in any context. Instead of trying to make dozens of changes, identify the one "catalyst" change that will have the most impact and lead to exponential change down the road. We discuss the concept of root versus branch in traditional Chinese medicine, highlighting the need to focus on the underlying issues rather than getting caught up in small problems. There is power in making that ONE change that can lead to a cascade of positive transformations.

1. Ready for Impact? Introduction May 22, 2024

The first episode of Impact Ready focuses on the concept of impact and the influence we have on others. The host, Steph Saffer, shares her personal journey and experiences that have shaped her understanding of impact. She emphasizes the importance of preparation and consistency in creating powerful impact. The show aims to help listeners become more aware of their influence and increase their satisfaction and fulfillment in life.

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