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186: What Your Longings and Loneliness Might Be Telling You with Chuck DeGroat Oct 10, 2024

In Episode 186, Daniel and Christina Im engage in a profound conversation with Chuck De Groat, a licensed therapist and author of "Healing What's Within." The discussion centers on themes of loneliness, healing, and the integration of spiritual and psychological insights. Chuck shares his journey in writing his book and emphasizes the importance of reconnecting with oneself. The episode explores practical tools for self-examination and highlights the significance of understanding and addressing deeper longings for connection and fulfillment.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About:

Exploration of themes of loneliness and disconnection.
Discussion on the healing process and its significance.
Integration of spiritual and psychological insights.
The importance of self-awareness and introspection.
The role of community in the healing journey.
Examination of internal conflicts and desires.
Reflection on the biblical concept of "coming home to oneself."
Practical tools for self-examination based on biblical questions.
Encouragement to engage in contemplative practices and connect with God.

Meet Chuck DeGroat:

Chuck DeGroatis a professor of pastoral care and Christian spirituality at Western Theological Seminary in Holland, Michigan, where he also serves as the founding executive director of the clinical mental health counseling program. He is a licensed therapist, spiritual director, author, retreat leader speaker, and faculty member with the Soul Care Institute.

As a therapist, he specializes in navigating issues of abuse and trauma, pastoral (and leadership) health, and doubt and darknights on the faith journey. He trains clergy in handling issues of abuse and trauma, conducts pastor and planter assessments, and facilitates church consultations and investigations of abuse.

Before transitioning to training and forming pastors, Chuck served as a pastor in Orlando and San Francisco. He and his wife, Sara, have been married for 30 years and have two adult daughters.

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185: Building Resilient Minds: Fostering Confidence, Kindness, and Responsibility in Children through Neuroscience, Love, and Logic with Dr. Charles Fay Sep 24, 2024

We interview Dr. Charles Fay, president of the Love and Logic Institute, about parenting strategies from his book "Raising Mentally Strong Kids." Dr. Fay emphasizes allowing children to experience and learn from mistakes, fostering resilience, confidence, kindness, and responsibility. He discusses the negative side effects of overprotective parenting and introduces practical techniques for encouraging problem-solving and independence. The episode also explores the role of mental hygiene, highlighting the need to challenge automatic negative thoughts and promote truthful thinking to support children's mental health.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About The Following:

Parenting strategies for building resilience in children and teens.
The importance of fostering confidence, kindness, and responsibility in youth.
Current trends in youth mental health and their implications for parenting.
The significance of allowing children to experience small failures for growth.
The role of empathy in effective parenting and problem-solving.
Differentiating between healthy and unhealthy struggles for children.
The concept of "mental hygiene" and managing negative thoughts.
Encouraging open discussions about parenting challenges and strategies.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Pick up a copy of Dr. Charles Fay's book Raising Mentally Strong Kids
Listen to our previous episode about Why We Need To Teach Our Kids to Fail
Listen more about the importance of joy in your children's lives: The 4 Habits of Raising Joy-Filled Kids

Meet Dr. Charles Fay:

Dr. Charles is an internationally recognized author, consultant, and public speaker. He is also president of the Love and Logic Institute, which became part of Amen Clinics in 2020. Millions of educators, mental health professionals, and parents worldwide have benefited from Dr. Fay's down-to-earth solutions to the most common and frustrating behaviors displayed by youth of all ages. These methods come directly from years of experience serving severely disturbed youth and their families in psychiatric hospitals, public and private schools, homes, and other settings. For more information, visit loveandlogic.com

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184: Learning To Trust Again After Betrayal with Josh and Katie Walters Sep 10, 2024

Is it possible to recover from an affair? Can you learn to trust your spouse again? Josh and Katie Walters candidly discuss their journey through betrayal and the rebuilding of trust in their marriage. Katie opens up about her emotional affair and the subsequent guilt and self-reflection she faced. Josh shares his initial shock and the struggle to process the betrayal, highlighting the importance of his decision to forgive and stay committed to the marriage. They explore the emotional cost involved in healing, the role of their faith in guiding them towards forgiveness and restoration, and the beauty that awaited them on the other side of the betrayal. It's not just their story; it's an invitation to anyone wrestling with forgiveness to find solace in the shared experience and redemptive power of grace.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About:

What is an emotional affair and its impact on a marriage
Emotional journey and reevaluating priorities in marriage
Process of forgiveness and rebuilding trust
Complexity of forgiveness, trust, and transformative power of love and grace
Highlighting a different narrative of hope and staying in a relationship despite challenges

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183: The Art of Marriage: Redefining Love, Intimacy, and Growth with Brian and Jen Goins Apr 23, 2024

Daniel and Christina discuss the intricacies of marriage with Brian and Jen Goins and how marriage is like a living art form that demands creativity, evolves, and requires a blending of different perspectives and experiences. The episode highlights the re-release of "The Art of Marriage" series, which encourages couples to engage in open dialogue about love, intimacy, and the divine representation of God's love in marriage.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About:

Marriage as an art and the re-release of "The Art of Marriage" series
The intention behind the creation of marriage and its purpose as a representation of God's love
Importance of love, forgiveness, and intimacy in marriage
Having healthy and transparent conversations about sensitive topics like sex and intimacy
The "Art of Marriage" program as a platform for couples to grow together
Stories of transformation and growth in marriages through the "Art of Marriage" program
Emphasizing the power of humility, learning, and actively working towards building a strong and healthy marriage

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182: Unplugging for Connection: How to Break the Distracted Parenting Cycle Mar 26, 2024

Ever caught yourself scrolling through your phone while your child's voice fades into the background? Yup! Us too. Let's face it, the era of smartphones has us all hooked. But did you know that this habit might be doing more harm than good to our kids? Distracted parenting isn't just about not hearing their stories—it's about the message we send about their value to us. In Episode 182, Daniel and Christina breakdown the costs of distracted parenting and discuss how we can respond to our children's bids for attention to foster intimacy and connection.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following:

Distracted parenting and its impact on children
Importance of being present and engaged with children
Examples of distracted parenting scenarios
Emotional impact of distracted parenting on children
Responding to children's bids for attention and connection
Role of empathy in nurturing intimacy with children
Practical tips for parents to improve engagement with children
Creating undistracted time to fully engage with children
Modeling attentive behavior in interactions with others

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

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181: The 5 Apology Languages: Learning To Say I'm Sorry Mar 12, 2024

Daniel and Christina explore the nuances of apologizing in relationships by discussing the 5 Apology Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. They delve into the emotional depth of expressing regret, the challenge of accepting responsibility without excuses, the significance of making restitution to show sincerity, and the commitment required for planned change to rebuild trust. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they underscore the importance of understanding and using these apology languages to foster forgiveness and reconciliation with the ones you love.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following:

Importance of apologies in relationships
What "fake" apologies are and what to watch out for
The 5 Apology Languages: expressing regret, accepting responsibility, making restitution, planned change, and requesting forgiveness
How forgiveness and trust are not to be equated
Ways to discover your apology language and the apology language of others

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret To Healthy Relationships by Dr. Gary Chapman
Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner
Listen to our previous episode about The 7 New Love Languages and 4 Steps To Get Your Love Language Heard
Do you need more help with learning to apologies? Listen to our previous episode: Do You Suck At Apologies? Here Are 4 Steps To Healing Hurts With Your

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180: Is It Okay To Fight In Front of The Kids? Feb 27, 2024

Daniel and Christina delve into the complexities of resolving conflicts in a marriage, particularly in the presence of children. They discuss the importance of empathy, active listening, and collaboration in handling disagreements, and share personal anecdotes and strategies for effective communication. They also talk about the impact of parental conflict resolution on children, emphasizing the need for transparency and the creation of a safe space for family discussions. The episode offers practical advice for couples to navigate marital conflicts constructively while fostering a positive environment for their kids.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following:

Healthy conflict resolution within a marriage
Impact of conflict on children
Importance of active listening and empathy
Personal experiences and challenges in conflict resolution
Solutions-focused therapy techniques
Value of validating and empathizing with one's spouse
Developing empathy as a skill
Collaborative aspect of conflict resolution
Impact of healthy conflict resolution on children
Creating a safe environment for discussing conflicts with children

Timestamps:

Is it okay to fight in front of the kids? (00:00:01) Exploring the impact of parental conflict on children and the nuances of healthy conflict resolution within a marriage.

The generational effect of parental conflict (00:00:57) The impact of parental conflict on children's perceptions of relationships and the importance of modeling healthy conflict resolution.

The harmful effects of hostile conflicts (00:02:13) The negative impact of frequent hostile conflicts on children and the signs that a relationship needs help.

Gottman approach to conflict resolution (00:04:47) Understanding the concept of perpetual problems in relationships and the goal of regulating, rather than resolving, conflicts.

Listening and being heard (00:06:00) The importance of active listening and summarization in conflict resolution, fostering constructive dialogue and mutual understanding.

Empathy and perspective taking (00:13:33) The role of empathy in conflict resolution, its impact on emotional well-being, and fostering a deeper connection in relationships.

Empathy and perspective taking (00:18:39) The importance of empathy and perspective-taking in conflict resolution and share practical techniques for validation and understanding.

Collaborative conflict resolution (00:21:13) The significance of collaboration in conflict resolution, highlighting the need for mutual willingness to find sustainable solutions and the benefits of brainstorming together.

Transparency and family dynamics (00:25:40) The segment explores the educational value of children witnessing healthy conflict resolution, emphasizing the resilience of relationships and the importance of transparent communication within the family.

Repairing relationships (00:28:02) The importance of explicit communication and repair in the aftermath of conflicts, emphasizing the impact of parental transparency on children's understanding and emotional well-being.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Need to learn how to fight well? Listen to our previous episodes about conflict resolution.

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179: 6 Ways To Deepen The Love In Your Marriage Feb 13, 2024

Daniel and Christina discuss strategies for deepening love in your relationship. They explore how to address complaints constructively, repair conflicts, and avoid contempt. They also highlight the role of physical touch, expressing gratitude, and the power of forgiveness in strengthening marital bonds. The episode provides practical advice and personal insights for couples looking to enhance their relationship and foster a deeper connection.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following:

Addressing complaints without blame in a marriage
Repairing conflicts and distinguishing between solvable and perpetual conflicts
Sticking to the issues during arguments and avoiding contemptuous behaviour
Understanding underlying emotions and addressing unmet needs in relationships
Extending the time between feeling, thinking, and speaking in a relationship
The significance of physical touch and the impact of oxytocin on reducing stress hormones
Growing fondness and admiration in a marriage through gratitude and appreciation
Seeking to understand before seeking to be understood and the role of forgiveness
Practicing apologizing and forgiving in a marriage

Timestamps:

Share your complaint without pointing fingers (00:07:41) Discussing the difference between sharing complaints and criticizing your spouse, emphasizing the importance of addressing specific issues.

Repair conflicts with skill (00:11:14) Exploring the concept of solvable and perpetual conflicts in relationships and the significance of addressing and bouncing back from disagreements.

Stick to talking about the issues at hand (00:12:37) Emphasizing the importance of avoiding name-calling, personal attacks, and contempt in arguments, and the need to understand underlying emotions.

The impact of contempt on relationships (00:15:07) Exploring the destructive nature of contempt in relationships, its role as a predictor of divorce, and the need to avoid displaying contemptuous behavior.

Recognizing and addressing signs of contempt (00:16:26) Discussing how contempt can develop over time in relationships and the importance of recognizing and addressing signs of contemptuous behavior.

Moving toward reconciliation and repairing (00:17:26) Highlighting the significance of acknowledging and apologizing for displaying contemptuous behavior and moving towards reconciliation and repairing the relationship.

Extending the space between feelings and thoughts (00:17:48) Discussing how to extend the time between feeling anger and reacting, to respond instead.

Showing love through physical touch (00:19:26) Exploring the benefits of physical touch in relationships and the impact of a six-second kiss.

Growing fondness and admiration (00:21:18) Encouraging the practice of expressing gratitude and appreciation for one's spouse's positive qualities.

Seeking first to understand and then to be understood (00:23:04) Emphasizing the importance of active listening and understanding in communication.

Practicing apologizing and forgiving (00:28:19) Discussing the significance of forgiveness and the process of seeking and granting forgiveness in relationships.

Conclusion and episode recap (00:31:56) Summarizing the six ways to deepen love in marriage and expressing gratitude to the audience.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Learn the difference between perpetual and solvable conflicts and how to handle each of them:

Learn about the importance of turning toward your spouse and responding to their "bids"

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178: You Can't Run From Your Past: Why Healing Is The Best Way Forward with Jason VanRuler Jan 30, 2024

Jason VanRuler, a therapist and author, discusses the transformative power of facing one's past. He shares his personal journey from a troubled childhood to professional success, highlighting the importance of self-reflection and seeking help to overcome recurring life challenges. Daniel and Christina explore with Jason the various ways individuals can begin addressing their issues, whether through therapy, journaling, or simply talking to a trusted friend. Jason emphasizes that healing from the past involves changing our relationship with it, reducing its emotional intensity, and no longer allowing it to dictate our present and future.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following:

Importance of confronting brokenness and the past
Impact of childhood experiences on adult behaviour
Promises individuals make to themselves that may keep them stuck
Jason's personal journey from a challenging environment to becoming a therapist and author
Why we need to address and change our relationship with the past
Paths forward for confronting brokenness, including seeking therapy, journaling, and talking to others
Importance of community and connection in the healing process
What it looks like to be healed from our past

Meet Jason VanRuler:

Jason began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multistate private practice. In 2018, Jason joined Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, TN, where he serves as a group leader and facilitator. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships.

Jason enjoys spending time with his wife and three children playing games and traveling. In his spare time, Jason enjoys cycling, running, music, fly fishing, and all things personal development related.

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177: Discipleship At Home: Growing Together in our Faith Journeys Jan 16, 2024

Daniel and Christina discuss the importance of discipleship at home. They emphasize the need for parents to set an example in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity, and discuss how children can sometimes guide and correct their parents. Sharing personal experiences, they explore the significance of aligning actions with words, as children learn more from what we do than what we say. They also discuss the importance of personal growth and helping children grow in these areas, and the role of spiritual disciplines in this process. They conclude by reflecting on the need for genuine faith and a consistent relationship with God.

In this episode, you'll hear about the following:

Importance of discipleship at home
Setting an example for children in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity
Grounding children in the truth of God's word
Parents being open to their children as a source of guidance and correction
Repairing relationships and apologizing to children
Aligning actions with words
Importance of personal growth and helping children grow
Prioritizing worship and gathering as a church community
Practicing spiritual disciplines and developing well-worn pathways in the brain

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176: Purity, Parenting, and Paradigm Shifts: Navigating the Impact of Purity Culture on Modern Parenthood with Nadine Crain Dec 05, 2023

Canadian Certified Counsellor Nadine Crain discusses the impact of purity culture on parenthood. She explains the origins and effects of purity culture, highlighting how it emphasized abstinence and tied a person's worth to their sexual purity. Nadine emphasizes the need to develop a healthier relationship with our bodies. Also, she discusses the importance of communication with our bodies and how to navigate the tension between teaching a biblical ethic around sexuality while avoiding the harmful aspects of purity culture.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following:

Impact of purity culture on parenthood
Origins and long-term effects of purity culture on individuals
How to develop a healthier relationship with our bodies
Importance of recognizing and acknowledging our bodies
Communication with our bodies and addressing past traumas
Navigating the tension between biblical ethics and harmful aspects of purity culture in parenting

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Books for Parents Personal Healing and Learning:
Faithful: A Theology of Sex, by Beth Felker Jones
The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living, by Hillary L. McBride, PhD
Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals our Way to Healing, by Jay Stringer

Meet Nadine Crain:

Nadine is a Canadian Certified Counsellor with a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Nadine is a pastor’s wife, and has served in ministry with her husband Brandon for the past 13 years. They live in Edmonton, AB, and have three daughters.

Nadine’s passion is helping Christians connect their mental, emotional, and spiritual health with how they live and experience their bodies. In her counselling practice Nadine works with couples and individuals who are struggling with anxiety, emotional regulation, recovering from religious trauma, or struggling with sexual intimacy and communication. Nadine also offers Pre-Marital Counselling, and presentations for church groups.

While completing her Master’s degree, Nadine chose to research “How Purity Culture Has Impacted the Self-Esteem, Sexuality and Spirituality of Evangelical Women.” Her findings from that project have inspired the trajectory of her counselling practice and ministry.

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175: Rescuing Relationships: The Power of Intensive Marriage Therapy with Dr. Bob Paul Nov 07, 2023

We interview Dr. Bob Paul about the concept of intensive marriage therapy and how it differs from traditional counselling. Bob explains the advantages of intensive therapy, such as addressing core issues and providing a focused environment for couples to work through their challenges. He also discusses the person-centred approach of their program, prioritizing the well-being of individuals while building healthy relationships. Bob addresses the suitability of intensive therapy for couples and emphasizes the importance of investing in relationships.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following:

Intensive marriage therapy vs traditional weekly counselling sessions
Advantages of intensive therapy
Importance of individuals being whole and healthy for successful relationships
Self-care and honouring God to bring the best selves to marriage and family
Suitability for intensive therapy or traditional counselling
The definition of a great marriage
Resources, opportunities, and aftercare support provided by the program
Recognizing when a couple is drifting apart and investing in the relationship
Seeking professional help for couples hanging by a thread

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Hope Restored Marriage Intensive in Canada https://hoperestored.focusonthefamily.ca/
Hope Restored Marriage Intensive in the USA https://hoperestored.focusonthefamily.com/
The DNA of Relationships for Couples by Greg Smalley and Robert Paul - https://amzn.to/3M9TKng
9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage: And the Truths That Will Save It and Set It Free - Robert Paul and Greg Smalley https://amzn.to/4041D3c
Restoring Hope - Robert Paul, Robert Burbee, Christine Arnzen https://amzn.to/3S2knhM
Reconnected: Moving from Roommates to Soulmates in Marriage - Greg and Erin Smalley https://amzn.to/3QtDIHz

Meet Dr. Bob Paul:

Dr. Robert Paulis the vice president of the Focus on the Family Marriage Institute. He is also one of the founders of its highly acclaimed Hope Restored marriage intensive programs. He is a licensed professional counselor, an international speaker, and co-author of a number of books including The DNA of Relationships and 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage.

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174: Rebuilding Hope and Love: Navigating Marriage with a Spouse's Porn Addiction with Dannah Gresh Oct 24, 2023

Dannah Gresh shares her personal story of navigating her husband's addiction to pornography in their marriage. She discusses the impact it had on their relationship and the importance of seeking help and support. Dannah emphasizes the role of faith and the Holy Spirit in the healing process, highlighting the need for God's power in overcoming addiction. She also talks about the importance of forgiveness, trust, and the journey she and her husband took together to heal from the hurt and pain of infidelity.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About:

The Power of Honesty and Accountability: Dannah's emphasizes the importance of open discussions about struggles and establishing accountability. It's crucial to prevent addiction from becoming a source of comfort.
The Role of Faith: Dannah's shares a powerful moment of divine intervention that led them to seek help. She underscores the importance of the Holy Spirit and the Word of God in the healing process, believing that without them, traditional therapy has limited efficacy.
The Journey of Healing: Dannah's story highlights the need for individual healing. She shares a powerful analogy about taking responsibility for her own healing, rather than relying solely on her husband.
The Impact on the Church: Dannah discusses the devastating impact of pornography on the church and the need for open dialogue. She believes the church should be a sanctuary where people can find freedom from addiction.
The Process of Rebuilding Trust: Dannah acknowledges that forgiveness and trust are interconnected but do not necessarily happen simultaneously. She uses the analogy of "putting cookies in the cookie jar" to describe the process of rebuilding trust through consistent actions and behaviors.

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173: Unlocking Lasting Love: A Journey Through Marriage with the Enneagram and Christa Hardin Oct 10, 2023

In Episode 173, we interview Christa Hardin about the Enneagram and how this tool can deepen the love you have for one another. We discuss the importance of individual work and creating a safe environment in relationships. Christa explains the concept of seasons in marriage, comparing them to the changing seasons in nature. She emphasizes the need for couples to engage in deeper relational work during challenging times. We also discuss Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage," which explores the different pairings of Enneagram types and provides tips for navigating the shadows and afterglow stages of each pairing. She shares how the Enneagram can help couples identify their core fears and work on them together.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

Importance of doing individual work in relationships
Creating a safe environment in relationships
The concept of seasons in marriage
Comparison of seasons in marriage to changing seasons in nature
The stages and seasons of marriage as described in "The Enneagram in Marriage"
Engaging in deeper immersion work during difficult seasons in marriage
Using Enneagram types to understand and meet emotional needs in marriage
Benefits of using the Enneagram in couples' work

Meet Christa Hardin:

Christa Hardin, MA is a relationship expert, author, as well as host of the popular Enneagram & Marriage Podcast. Christa has been working with and researching marriage for two decades, providing hope for couples who are struggling to find their light, love, and mission together in any season of relationship.

Her most recent title, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing," is due out with Baker Books October 3. You can catch up with her at @enneagramandmarriage on Instagram or find her many resources over at www.enneagramandmarriage.com

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172: Transform Your Chaos Into Calm with Bonnie Gray Sep 26, 2023

Bonnie Gray knows a thing or two about being stressed. During the first year of the pandemic, Bonnie's once full, black hair began falling out. Overwhelmed by the exhaustion of disrupted routines and pressure to meet expectations at work, parenting, ministry and a bottomless checklist of To Do's, Bonnie focused on meeting everyone else's needs at the expense of neglecting her well-being. With her usual coping mechanisms stripped away, she was drained by worries, stress, and anxiety. On Episode 172, Bonnie describes how using soul care and breath prayers can create healthy habits with God to help restore peace and joy in your life.

You'll Hear About:

The concept of soul care and the four areas of wellness
The importance of social wellness and building meaningful relationships
The impact of negative emotions on our bodies and the importance of naming and discussing them
Tips for managing burnout and improving sleep quality
The practice of breath prayer and its impact on managing stress

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Meet Bonnie Gray:

Bonnie Gray is a Soul Care mentor and the author of Breathe: 21 Days to Stress Less and Transform Chaos to Calm, Whispers of Rest, Finding Spiritual Whitespaceand Sweet Like Jasmine, an ECPA 2022 Christian Book Award Finalist. Heaving healed from PTSD, Bonnie is passionate about helping thousands of listeners detox stress and flourish in emotional wellness with God’s love through soul care, Bible Study and prayer.

Bonnie is a trusted voice writing for Proverbs 31, Christianity Today and RelevantMagazine. She is also the host of Breathe: The Stress Less Podcast. Take Bonnie’s Soul Care Quiz to learn which area of wellness you’re missing at SoulCareQuiz.com. She loves hiking and eating waffles with her husband and two teenage boys in Silicon Valley.

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171: Using The Stoplight Approach To Calm Big Emotions with Cherilyn Orr Sep 12, 2023

Anyone feeling tired, stressed, and overwhelmed? Are you looking for a tool to simplify your life and bring back the calm, peace, fun, and love in your home? Us too! In this episode, you will discover how brain science can increase the connection with your spouse and your children. We interview author and speaker Cherilyn Orr on the stoplight approach. You will discover the link between brain science and the Bible, and how you can use this knowledge to cultivate a connected and thriving "green home."

In this episode, you'll hear about the following:

Explanation of the stoplight approach (red, yellow, green brain states)
Connection between the stoplight approach and marriage and parenting
Comparison of the stoplight approach to traditional parenting techniques like timeouts
Description of a "green home" and its pillars (safety, mutual respect, responsibility)
Importance of skill-building and empathy in teaching responsibility
Application of the stoplight approach to teenagers and the decision-making process

Meet Cherilyn Orr:

Cherilyn Orr is an educational consultant, trainer, coach, and resource developer. She has been an educator from pre-school to university level for 35 years. Cherilyn was a teaching professor at Vanguard College in Canada for 14 years and has worked with families and educators in Canada, Uganda, Greece, and England to help build safe schools, safe homes, safe communities, and resilient children. The Stoplight Approach she developed synthesizes the latest research in brain science and her years of experience as a teacher (early childhood, primary, special needs), as a mom to 7 children through birth and adoption, and as a foster mom. Her practical, simple, hands-on approach to understanding children's emotional health and relational needs has helped hundreds of parents, caregivers, and teachers build strong, healthy relationships with their children and their students.

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170: How To Encourage Your Spouse To Join You In Couples Therapy In 5 Simple Steps Jun 27, 2023

In this episode, you will learn about the benefits of couples therapy and discover practical steps to inspire your spouse to attend therapy. You will also learn how to approach your spouse who may be resistant to attending therapy, and how you can present therapy as an opportunity rather than an obligation. Overall, this episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and patience in working through relationship issues.

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169: How to Affair Proof Your Marriage with Braden and Kristen Hafner Jun 13, 2023

What is an affair, how do they start, and how can you affair proof your marriage? In Episode 169, we interview Braden and Kristen Hafner on common reasons marriages are susceptible to affairs, the role of trust in affair-proofing your marriage, how to identify potential vulnerabilities in your marriage, and how to rebuild trust and recover from infidelity if it has already occurred in your marriage.

Meet Braden and Kristen Hafner:

Since their parents are friends and they grew up in the same church, Braden and Kristen joke that their marriage was arranged. But the truth is Kristen found Braden to have too much hockey hair for her liking. So Braden cut off his luscious locks and the rest is history. Kristen, a former high school science teacher, and Braden an ordained pastor, have been married for 15 years and live in Edmonton. Together they are the Regional Directors of Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. They run Starting Marriage Strong, FamilyLife's pre-marriage course, and Braden co-hosts Pure Victory Podcast helping individuals get free from porn.

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168: 5 Divorce-Predicting Factors To Watch Out For Apr 04, 2023

Divorce is a complex and emotional experience and not a "fuzzy feeling" topic. No one wants to think about the possibility of their marriage ending in separation or divorce. However, understanding the potential factors that may contribute to a marital breakdown can help you work to strengthen your relationship and avoid potential pitfalls. In this episode, you will discover the 5 divorce-predicting factors you must watch out for.

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167: The Power of Joy: How To Transform Your Life With Neal and Carly Samudre Mar 21, 2023

Have you ever felt like you're constantly pushing yourself to change, but it never seems to stick? Maybe you've been told that you'll finally see the results you want if you try harder. But what if that's not the case? In Episode 167, we interview Neal and Carly Samudre about what happens when you start with joy. They will challenge the idea that pushing through blood, sweat, and tears is the only way to achieve lasting change in your life. Drawing on insights from the Bible and the latest research in positive psychology, they'll explore the power of joy as a driving force for transformation.

They believe that focusing on joy can create positive change in your life without resorting to shame, guilt, or fear. Instead, you'll discover how to cultivate a sense of fun and playfulness that makes the process of change actually enjoyable!

Throughout the podcast, Neal and Carly will explore topics such as the difference between happiness and joy, why shame, guilt, and fear aren't good motivators for change, how therapy and theology can go together, how to start from joy when you are suffering, and how to start from joy when it comes to your body image.

Join us as we explore a new way of thinking about change—one that starts from joy. Get ready to leave shame, guilt, and fear behind and discover the fulfilling life you were always meant to live.

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166: The Importance Of Friendship In Your Daily Life Feb 28, 2023

Friendship can enrich your life in many ways. Good friends teach you about yourself and challenge you to be better. They encourage you to keep going when times get tough and celebrate your successes with you. But friends do a lot more than give you a shoulder to cry on; they also positively impact your health. Some research even says friendships are just as crucial to your well-being as eating right and exercising.

If friendships are so impactful and beneficial to our lives, shouldn't we be talking about them more often? In episode 166, we talk about three relationships you can cultivate daily: friendship with Jesus, your spouse, and others.

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165: Important Parenting Tips For Connecting With Your Kids Who Deal With Anxiety with Justine Froelker Feb 14, 2023

A child dealing with anxiety can be a challenging and unpredictable experience, much like a rollercoaster ride with its ups and downs. Some days may feel manageable as their parent, while others may feel overwhelming. In Episode 165, we interview Licensed Profession Counselor Justine Froelker about how we can connect with our children who deal with anxiety. As parents, one of the most important things we can do is to provide a constant sense of reassurance, connection, and love to our child. We can help them find peace and security amid their struggles by reminding them of God's love.

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Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than 20 years of experience in traditional mental health and personal and professional development. Justine has been certified in the work of Dr. Brené Brown for eight years. Justine is the author of nine books, including five Amazon bestsellers covering infertility, faith, and grief. She has been honored to do two TEDx Talks, The Permission of the And and The Donut Effect. She travels nationally and presents virtually to global audiences delivering keynotes, workshops, retreats, and training on topics such as leadership, courage, resilience, mental health, preventing and coping with burnout, and courageous and curious conversation, especially in creating cultures of belonging and diversity, equity, and inclusion.

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164: How to Establish a Family Rhythm Through Sabbath and Celebration Jan 30, 2023

We are going to give you a framework to be able to set your family's weekly rhythm. You can establish a routine for your family, despite how chaotic or busy your lives are. Just as you may create a family budget to direct where your money goes, you can establish family rhythms to direct where your time goes. If you do not take authority over your time, you risk living in the tornado of whatever events the day or the week throws your way. There is no room for moments, rest, or enjoyment in that kind of life. However, when you live by intentional rhythms, you can live the life God created for you. A life of learning to abide in Him.

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163: The 4 Keys To Long-Term Sexual Satisfaction With Your Spouse Jan 17, 2023

No area of a couple's life offers more potential for embarrassment, hurt, and rejection than their sexual relationship. On the other hand, when everything is connected...when relational transparency and emotional honesty meet physical desire...wow...that’s a recipe for great sex. Great sex helps produce greater relational and emotional intimacy, and it just keeps snowballing in the best way possible.

Emotional bonding is key to good sex; when couples feel emotionally connected, they become more likely to share their vulnerabilities, which naturally improves the quality of their sex. Lovers who feel confident in their emotional attachments can tune into one another’s feelings and experiences. This power enables them to notice if their partner is feeling excited, tense or relaxed, which proves highly useful in pleasuring each other sexually. In Episode 163, Daniel and Christina give you the four keys to long-term sexual satisfaction with your spouse.

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162: Raising Kids Who Are "Includers" Instead of "Excluders" Nov 14, 2022

Are you raising kids who are kind and compassionate? It is critical to demonstrate to our children what it means to include others instead of excluding them. In episode 162, we share with you some ideas of how we can raise kids who are “includers” by modelling what that looks like.

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161: The 7 New Love Languages and 4 Steps to Get Your Love Language Heard Oct 25, 2022

Perhaps you are familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman's The 5 Love Languages. It has been revolutionary to individuals, couples, and families worldwide. Truity, a company that offers a variety of online personality quizzes, wanted to build on Dr. Chapman's work. They surveyed over 500 000 people about what makes them feel loved and discovered that there are seven distinct ways of showing and receiving love.

In episode 161, Daniel and Christina break down the seven new love languages and give you four simple steps to get your love language heard.

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160: 5 Relationship Advice Every Young Couple Should Know Oct 11, 2022

We were recently asked about what advice we would give to younger couples, and so that’s what we want to unpack today. If we were to write a congratulations card to your wedding or sit down together to chat with you about those first precious years of your marriage, here’s what we would say…

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159: Drake Farmer on Finding Hope in the Hard Seasons of Life Sep 27, 2022

Hope can seem like such an elusive thing. In Episode 159, Drake Farmer unpacks for us what hope is, where we should put our hope when we are going through a difficult season, and how to be full of love, fueled by faith, and addicted to hope.

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158: 4 Ways To Stick Together When You Feel Bored, Irritated, or Frustrated with your Spouse Sep 13, 2022

Sometimes our spouse can feel like our best friend. And, other times, they can drive us crazy! In episode 158, we want to give you 4 ways to stick together when you feel bored, irritated, or frustrated with your spouse.

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157: How 20 Minutes A Day Can Fuel Your Child's Soul with Dr. Josh and Christi Straub May 03, 2022

No one wakes up and decides, "I’m going to ruin my marriage, neglect my kids, and cause mistrust in my family." Yet, sometimes our spouse and children can feel like they have taken second (or last) place to our personal goals and busyness.

In Episode 157, Dr. Josh and Christi Straub share with us how seven core decisions can help us put what’s most important center stage in our lives. If you can carve out 20 minutes a day for your child, it can fuel their soul.

Dr. Josh and Christi Straub are speakers, authors, and marriage and leadership coaches. Together they lead Famous at Home, an organization devoted to equipping leaders, organizations, military families, and churches in emotional intelligence and family wellness.

They host the weekly Famous At Home Podcast, lead a yearlong coaching cohort called The Leader’s Heart, and have written children’s books on emotional intelligence. Josh and Christi love spending time on the lake with their three sweet kids and their feisty Goldendoodle, Copper.

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156: Finances Are Killing My Marriage. What Do I Do? with Bob and Linda Lotich Apr 12, 2022

With the rising costs of gas, groceries, and pretty much everything in life, are you feeling the financial strain like we are? In Episode 156, we’re so thankful to be talking with the founders of SeedTime money, Bob and Linda Lotich. They answer the tough question, "Finances are killing my marriage. What do I do?"

Bob and Linda Lotich have spent the last 15 years helping millions discover true financial freedom with their award-winning blog SeedTime.com and SeedTime Money podcast.

Unlike most financial experts, they lead with grace over judgement and focus on creating hope while washing away the shame so many carry with money.

In their new book Simple Money, Rich Life they share practical steps to save and earn more money in order to fund your God-given purpose and dreams.

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155: The Enneagram For Understanding Your Spouse with Dani Cooper Mar 22, 2022

The gift of Enneagram for relationships is that it offers us insights and perspectives of others. If you've ever found yourself questioning why your spouse does certain things in some ways or reacts to certain triggers in other ways, this episode is for you.

In episode 155, we interview Enneagram coach, Dani Cooper, about how the Enneagram can help you understand your spouse at a deeper level. She also helps you learn how to love your spouse well by discovering the core lies they believe and how you can speak truth to their deepest wounds.

Dani Cooper is a Certified Enneagram Teacher and Coach for individuals, couples and teams. She is the author of a new book, The Enneagram For Christian Couples. She is passionate about encouraging others to get on the road to self-discovery, and believes that only as we begin to understand ourselves, can we begin to truly love and care for the people in our lives and grow in our relationship with God and the world around us.

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154: Practical Ways To Have A Healthier Relationship With Your Mother-In-Law or Daughter-In-Law with Barbara and Stacy Reaoch Mar 08, 2022

Whether you're a bride-to-be, a mother-in-law-to-be, or a woman who has been braving the in-law relationship for decades, every daughter-in-law and mother-in-law needs help navigating their relationship sometimes. In Episode 154, we chat with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law duo, Barbara and Stacy Reaoch, about practical ways the in-law relationship can genuinely thrive in the midst of difficulty.

Barbara Reaoch, author of A Better Than Anything Christmas (2020), is the former director of the children’s division at Bible Study Fellowship International. Her home is Minneapolis, Minn., with her husband Ron. Prior to her role at BSF, Barbara and Ron lived in Cape Town, South Africa, to teach Bible Study Fellowship classes. They also worked with the Rafiki Foundation to train young women in job and life skills. You can connect with her at www.barbarareaoch.com.

Stacy Reaoch is a pastor’s wife, mother of four, and the author of Wilderness Wanderings: Finding Contentment in the Desert Times of Life. She has written for various ministries including Desiring God, The Gospel Coalition, and Revive Our Hearts. Stacy and her husband, Ben, (Barbara’s son) live in Pittsburgh, Penn., with their children. You can find more about Stacy and her writings at www.stacyreaoch.com.

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153: Celebrating Lent As A Family with Tsh Oxenreider Feb 22, 2022

Known as 40 days to give up chocolate, alcohol, social media, or a "quick" way to diet before Easter, the Lenten season can easily be misunderstood. It’s not in the Bible and Jesus never told us to do it, yet the ancient Church declared the months before Easter a fasting season, and millions of Christians still observe it today.

In Episode 153, we interview best-selling author, Tsh Oxenreider, about celebrating Lent as a family.

Whether you have been celebrating Lent for many years, or you are just wanting to dip your family's toes into this liturgical practice, this episode is full of practical tips and historical background of the why and how of observing Lent.

Starting with Ash Wednesday, Tsh guides us to a better understanding of Jesus’s sacrifice as we delight in His ultimate love. She opens up with a brief history of Lent, the importance of Lent’s trifecta: fasting, almsgiving, and prayer, as well as 5 questions to ask yourself when you’re deciding what to give up. She also gives us some practical ideas about how to involve our children in this practice.

So, pull up a chair, get a warm drink, and listen to our conversation with Tsh. Consider this your invitation to go deeper this Lenten season.

Tsh Oxenreider is the bestselling author of several books, most notably At Home in the World, her memoir about her family’s year traveling around the world and living out of backpacks. She’s also a travel guide, teacher, and podcaster, and she lives in Georgetown, Texas, with her husband and three children. She is equally happy snorkeling the Great Barrier Reef with her family and putzing around her own backyard.

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152: How To Find Meaning In The Daily Chaos of Raising Kids with Justin Earley Feb 08, 2022

Whether you realize it or not, parenting happens in habits. We make meals, we get in cars, we answer SO many questions, we discipline, and we do bedtime. So much of our relationship with children happens through these ordinary rhythms of the day, and yet how often do we go through these motions as if they were meaningless? How often do we just blaze through these mundane “chores” to finally get some “me-time?”

In this episode, Justin will show us how ordinary routines are actually extraordinary opportunities to live out the love of God in a profound way. He’ll give us the tools we need for parenting and discover spiritual meaning in the everyday moments of waking, mealtimes, screen time, and bedtimes.

We trust that you'll find this episode inspiring and useful in establishing new habits and intentional rhythms around your everyday routines. We hope that by seeing these mundane moments as spiritual practices, your family will have a greater sense of peace and purpose as your home becomes a place where everyone learns how to love.

Justin Earley is a writer, speaker, and lawyer from Richmond, Virginia, and the author of an award-winning book on habits and spiritual formation. But, most of all, he is a dad who is married to Lauren and spends a lot of time wrestling his four young boys. You can follow him online at justinwhitmelearley.com

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151: How To Support Your Hurting Spouse When You're Hurting Too Jan 25, 2022

Today, we’re going to be discussing how to support your hurting spouse when you are hurting too. This topic hits close to home because we’ve lived it this past year. In May of last year, we said goodbye to Daniel’s dad after a brave 16 month battle with cancer. Thankfully, we were literally there to say goodbye to him. We had flown into Daniel’s hometown on Sunday and his dad unexpectedly passed away two days later.

We weren’t ready for this kind of grief. No one is.

Many of you have been grieving and hurting as well. Perhaps you’ve lost a loved one too. Maybe you’ve lost your job in these tumultuous times. Perhaps you’ve lost friends or family members over differences of opinion. It’s been a difficult few years, to say the least.

So, how do you support your spouse when you’re hurting too? How do you not ignore your own pain to be there for your spouse? How do you not resent your spouse for needing extra attention when they are not necessarily paying attention to your needs and wants? There are no easy answers, but we wanted to share with you a few tips that have helped us during these difficult times.

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150: The 4 Habits of Raising Joy-Filled Kids with Chris Coursey and Marcus Warner Dec 14, 2021

Marcus and Chris have spent years studying human relationships and were previously on our podcast talking about the connection between joy and marriage. Now they offer parenting principles derived from the way our brains are hardwired. As you'll soon find out, joy isn’t some abstract concept, but a neurochemical reality that arises from the choices we make.

Listen to this episode to learn how to make the parenting decisions that bring joy to yourself and then to those young lives in your hands. You’ll never regret investing in joy!

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REPLAY: The Perfect Gift For Every Enneagram Type with Dr. Drew Moser Dec 07, 2021

This episode is just in time for the holidays!

Are you looking for the PERFECT gift to give to your loved one, friend, co-worker, or neighbor? Are you tired of dropping hints to your loved ones about what you want, only to be disappointed by their gift-giving? If you want to give or receive the perfect gift, the Enneagram can help guide you.

Dr. Drew Moser takes us through the perfect gifts to indulge and/or to encourage each Enneagram type to grow into a healthier version of themselves.

And as an added bonus, go to IMbetween.org/episode51 to grab your FREE Enneagram Gift Guide e-book.

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149: Celebrating Jesus in the Advent Season with your Family with Scott James Nov 30, 2021

In Episode 149, we chat with Scott James about Celebrating Jesus in the Advent season with your family. For those of you that would like to observe Advent together as a family, but don’t know where to start, this episode is for you. Or, if you have been celebrating Advent together as a family for a number of years, but looking to do something a little different, this interview is for you too.

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148: How To Break The Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life with Karen Ehman Nov 16, 2021

In Episode 148, we are chatting with Karen Ehman about How to Break The Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life.

As we enter into the holidays, there are many times we bend over backward or say “YES!" to many situations that we look back and wish we had said no. Whether it’s packing the calendar with holiday parties, or hosting Christmas dinner for the family because “No one else will do it and then what will happen?!” this episode will help you realize if you are a people pleaser or not. This interview will also give you practical steps about how you can implement boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers, and others who try to call the shots in your life.

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147: When Strivings Cease with Ruth Chou Simons Oct 19, 2021

In Episode 147, we have the great honor of interviewing Ruth Chou Simons. Y’all…this was such an incredible discussion as we jump right into why we need to stop pretending we have it altogether, the gospel of self-improvement and why we need to replace it with the gospel of life-transforming grace.

We talk about growing up in a shame based household as we all grew up in first generation Asian families, and how she learned not to carry on the same way of parenting into her own family. We also talk about what it means to be a third-culture-kid and striving for approval. We could have talked to her for hours on end as we feel like we were just scratching the surface of what it means and how it feels to be an Asian North American during this time.

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146: Healthy Habits To Teach Your Kids Who Worry A Lot with Dr. Josh Straub Oct 05, 2021

Research shows that worry has a trickle-down effect from parent to child. Thus, it's important that parents learn how to manage their worries so that they can cultivate a more peaceful environment for their children. It is possible to give your children (both young and older) the tools for coping with worry and the ability to think differently about the problems and challenges they encounter in the world around them.

In episode 146, Daniel and Christina interview Dr. Josh Straub about what tools to teach our kids to help them manage their worry and trust God. We can all choose to be brave and live free even when we worry. Here's how to do it.

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145: Marriage Burnout: Protect Your Marriage, Heal From Past Hurts, and Move Forward Together with Carey and Toni Nieuwhof Sep 21, 2021

There has been a lot of talk about personal burnout as the result of everything we have been experiencing. In the same breath, there have been lots of conversations about how we can practice self-care to improve/protect our mental health and overall well-being. And while these conversations are important, one crucial piece of the puzzle has not been highlighted enough: marriage burnout.

In Episode 145, Daniel and Christina interview Carey and Toni Nieywhof about what marriage burnout is and how to prevent it. We also discuss the crucial link between getting healthier personally and having a healthier marriage. If you are currently experiencing marriage burnout, they share some really practical ways to heal and move forward together with your spouse.

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144: What 15 Years Of Marriage Has Taught Us Sep 13, 2021

After studying thousands of couples for over 4 decades, Dr. John Gottman found that the difference between happy and unhappy couples is not how much they fight, how often they have sex, or how much money is in their bank accounts. Instead, it is how often they turn toward each other instead of turning away from one another.

In episode 144, Daniel and Christina share how the first half of their marriage was a disaster waiting to happen and what changes they made to ensure the second half of their marriage was healthier.

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143: Family-Life Hacks To Bring Your Home From Chaos To Calm with Laura Hernandez May 11, 2021

After a year of ups and downs, loss of power and control, children in and out of school, and working from home, our lives have become more chaotic than ever before. Are you ready to bring peace into your home? In Episode 143, Laura Hernandez shares with us her proven customized systems that have brought calm and order into her family of 12. If you feel like you are only reacting to your life instead of intentionally living your life, this episode is for you!

Laura Hernandez and her husband Tony live in the Dallas area where they raise their 10 amazing children, 7 biological and 3 adopted. Laura created Mama Systems to help others bring peace to their homes through customized systems. She offers coaching and courses that help families live more intentionally.

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142: 4 Simple Ways To Reconnect With Your Spouse When You Are Feeling Disconnected May 04, 2021

Is it possible for you and your spouse to live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, eat dinner around the same table, be quarantined in the same space, and feel utterly alone? Absolutely. And if you feel this way, you are not alone. It happens more often than couples talk about or are willing to confess.

Researcher and psychologist, Dr. John Gottman, discovered that the #1 thing couples fight about is not about money, or in-laws, or sex. Instead, most arguments in relationships are about a failure to connect emotionally. That’s why, in today’s episode, we want to share with you 4 simple ways to reconnect with your spouse when you are feeling disconnected. After more than a year of this pandemic, there has been a lot said (or maybe unsaid) that may have left the both of you feeling more weary and alone. We want to help redirect you to one another instead of continuing to let the wedge grow between you and your spouse.

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141: The Parenting Secret That Changes Everything with Dave and Ann Wilson Apr 27, 2021

What is the purpose behind your parenting? What are you aiming for? In Episode 141, we interview Dave and Ann Wilson about the parenting secret that changes everything. Dave and Ann share their hard-earned but easy-to-apply principles that ensure a strong parent-to-child relationship and a strong foundation for your child in every stage of their lives. Get ready to laugh until your belly hurts as they share their parenting wins, mistakes, and the lessons they have learned raising three (now grown) sons as imperfect parents.

Dave Wilson was the Detroit Lions chaplain for 33 seasons, a lead pastor, co-founder of Kensington Community Church, and a nationally touring speaker as well as the radio host with his wife, Ann, of the nationally syndicated radio show Family Life Today.

Ann Wilson has served alongside her husband for more than twenty-five years, cofounding Kensington Community Church, speaking at FamilyLife's Weekend to Remember®, and hosting their own marriage conferences across the country. They live in the Detroit area, and they have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody; three daughters-in-law; and five grandchildren.

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140: 3 Clear Signs You Need Couples Counseling with Monica DiCristina Apr 20, 2021

Have you ever considered going to couples counseling, but were afraid of the unknown? The first step is often the hardest because you are not sure what to expect. In Episode 140, we interview Monica DiCristina, a Licensed Professional Counselor, about some tell-tale signs your relationship could benefit from counseling. We also discuss what to expect during your initial counseling session, how to know if you and your therapist are a good fit, and what to do if one partner is more willing to pursue counseling than the other. We also ask Monica to take us through a counseling session using a real-life example that plagued our marriage for almost 7 years! We hope that our vulnerability will help demystify what happens during a counseling session and help you take the next step toward healing and wholeness in your relationship.

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139: The Parents' Guide To Navigating Tough Conversations With Your Kids with Jimmy and Kristin Scroggins Apr 06, 2021

Parenting isn’t for wimps, especially when it comes to navigating the crucial conversations that we must have with our kids. Jimmy and Kristin Scroggins have had plenty of crucial conversations in their lives—not only with their own eight children but with parents who are scared and seeking wisdom. In Episode 139, Jimmy and Kristin share the "conversation map” to work through any tough conversations you will have with your children.

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138: How To Boldly Build A Life You Love With Emily Ley Mar 30, 2021

12 years ago, Emily Ley found herself with a life she didn’t love. But instead of just settling, she dug deep and did the hard work of changing her life. In Episode 138, Emily shares with us about her journey from "Unsatisfied Emily" to the founder of Simplified, a successful brand of planners and home organizational tools for busy women. Emily created a life she loves using the BUILD philosophy, and she’s on a mission to help others do the same.

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137: How To Repair Your Relationship After A Big Fight Mar 23, 2021

In every conflict, there are two options: to go down the road of an argument or open the doors to a deeper conversation which can lead to a greater understanding between you and your spouse. As John Gottman’s research has shown, it doesn’t actually matter what you fight about. What matters is how you repair your relationship after the fight.

In Episode 137, we want to give you the framework of how to repair your relationship after a big fight. Because, if you don’t process your conflicts, you may both find yourselves feeling disrespected, unheard, lonely, and festering in your anger. The little fights will become huge arguments because you don’t feel safe with one another.

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136: Signs of a Toxic Person and When To Walk Away with Gary Thomas Mar 16, 2021

Toxic relationships drain us, consume our brain space, and steal our joy. We've all experienced the aftermath of a toxic person's destruction, but do we all know what to do next? In Episode 136, we interview Gary Thomas about the tall-tell signs of a toxic person and how to walk away from this relationship in freedom and without guilt. We can't let others steal our joy or our mission. Listen in to learn how to set good boundaries and protect your life's calling.

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135: The Hidden Treasure Of Difficult Times: Let's Stop Faking It Through The Hard Stuff With Lisa Harper Mar 09, 2021

Do you live your life trying to avoid pain? Maybe you've pretended everything is fine even though you feel like you are crumbling inside. While most people would never choose to go through a difficult season, we have all walked through some very dark days. In Episode 135, we interview Lisa Harper about the hidden treasure of difficult times and why it's important not to fake it through the hard stuff of life.

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What this pandemic can help us learn.
Why "faking it 'till we make it" is a horrible idea.
How to stop pretending everything is fine and what to do instead.
How Jesus is enough...even in really difficult circumstances:

When you are single and parenting
When you lose a loved one
When you are hurt by other people, especially Christians
When you are learning what it means to grieve with hope

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134: Enneagram and Parenting: Tips For Cultivating A Closer Relationship With Your Kids Based On Your Type Mar 02, 2021

The Enneagram is a tool that can help us grow in our understanding of ourselves and each other. In Episode 134, we want to take a deeper dive into the Enneagram as it pertains to parenting. Many teachers of the Enneagram do not recommend typing your children, so that is not what we will be doing in this episode. Instead, we will be discussing each type’s parenting strengths, certain areas each type needs to watch out for, and the paths of growth in our relationships with our children.

A Healthy Person Leads To A Healthy Parent:

We have talked to hundreds of parents and most would say that they are trying to be the very best parents to their children given the tools that they have. Maybe you've taken a parenting course, read a few books, or are raising your kids the way your parents raised you. And, yet you are still stumped about your relationship with your child. "Why do I react the way that I do when my child doesn't want to spend time with me?" or "Why is it easier to get along with my older children than my younger children?"

While we will never know all the answers to our parenting questions, what we do know is that perfect parents don’t exist —and that should not be our goal. However, the longer that we parent, the more we realize that being emotionally healthy is really a huge component of parenting. It’s really difficult to model and teach our children how to be in a relationship with others if we don’t know how to be in a healthy relationship ourselves. As we further unpack the Enneagram within the parenting lens, you will see that no matter what type you are, the healthier you become, the better your parenting skills will be.

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133: The 5 Love Languages Of Blended Families With Ron L. Deal Feb 23, 2021

The 5 Love Languages has helped millions of relationships, marriages, and families grow in their love and understanding for one another. In a blended family, The 5 Love Languages can help build your love for each other too, but with some unique parameters. In Episode 133, we interview Ron Deal—the leading national expert and the most widely read and viewed author on blended families in the country—about how to use the 5 Love Languages to create a loving and safe environment for your stepfamily.

The 5 Love Languages For Blended Families?

Maybe you have read other titles in the 5 Love Languages Series and your marriage and parenting have benefited from lessons learned. However, you are beginning to realize that what was successful with your own children or previous spouse is not succeeding as well with your current family. Perhaps you are confused as to why your stepchild’s love language is physical touch, but when you try to hug your step-child, they respond in anger or walk away. There are unique challenges to using the 5 love languages with the blending of two families.

Ron provides the context surrounding the challenges that stepfamilies face when expressing and receiving love based on the 5 Love Languages. While empathetically reminding us that loss is a fundamental storyline in the backstory of every blended family, he also presents hope and encouragement for each stepfamily. He shares how we can avoid common mistakes and gives practical recommendations to help family members take steps forward with patience, persistence, love, and intentionality. By using the 5 Love Languages, and learning the unique dialects your family speaks, you can grow in your coupleness and your family togetherness.

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132: Do You Suck At Apologies? Here Are 4 Steps To Healing Hurts With Your Spouse Feb 16, 2021

Why is it so hard to say, "I'm sorry?" If you’ve been married longer than a week, you’ve probably already realized that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. You will have disagreements, misunderstandings, hurt feelings, or trust broken. Making mistakes is what makes us human. But, when you’ve hurt your spouse, knowing the right way to apologize makes all the difference. True apologies strengthen your relationship and bring you closer together, not further apart. That’s why we want to give you 4 steps to healing hurts with your spouse by learning the art of apologizing.

An Important Note:

Before we dive in, we do want to note that some mistakes are bigger than others. Sometimes saying sorry is not enough, especially if there is a big betrayal like an affair. If you are walking through this journey, these 4 steps are a good start, but we highly recommend counseling both for you as a couple, and also as individuals. There is much more that needs to be worked through than we have time to discuss today.

Apologizing is About Repairing Connection:

Knowing you’ve hurt the one you love feels awful, right? And it may feel quite frustrating when it seems like whatever you do or say makes things worse. "I said I’m sorry! What else do you want?!" Apologizing to your spouse and healing your relationship involves more than just saying “I’m sorry.” It’s about repairing your connection. As Dr. John Gottman, says, “Successful relationships master the art of apology.”

Knowing how to apologize well is one of the keys to successful relationships. It’s not about accepting the blame for something. But, instead, it’s about acknowledging and responding to your spouse’s emotional pain. You can and should be accountable, but as we talked about in last week’s episode about boundaries, everyone is responsible for their emotional reactions.

Relationships are a tender dance that can have many stepping on toes moments from both dance partners. But, by knowing how to apologize well, these "stepping on toes" moments can go from hurting each other to learning to work together and repair your emotional connection.

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131: This Is The Year You Learn To Set Boundaries: 4 Tips For People-Pleasers Feb 09, 2021

Many times we do not set boundaries because we feel the need to help others or we fear disappointing them. While helping others is not wrong, if you feel like you can’t say no because you’re afraid of disappointing the other person, or you feel like you are giving so much of yourself that you are exhausted or in deep emotional pain, it has crossed the line of helping to hurting. That’s why, in Episode 131, we want to teach you how you can learn to set boundaries…even if you’re a people-pleaser! This is the year you learn to set boundaries. We’ll also address some common myths about boundaries, which may be the reason why you aren’t setting them.

What is a boundary? Boundaries are what define us. They define what is you and what is not you. In its simplest sense, a boundary is a property line. It outlines the beginning and end of something. By having boundaries, you are able to know what we are to own and take responsibility for. In relationships, ownership is really important. If you know where the boundaries are in a relationship, you know who “owns” things such as feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. You don’t own someone else's feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. Neither do they own your feelings, attitudes, and behaviors.

It's important to note that boundaries are not walls. They are not meant to keep people out. It isn’t an excuse for you to be a hermit or unkind to those who are outside of your boundaries. In John 17:11, it says that we are to be “one." We are to be in community with others. But, in every community, all members have their own space and property. Like author Dr. Henry Cloud says, "The important thing is that property lines be permeable enough to allow passing and strong enough to keep out danger. Boundaries help us distinguish our property so that we can take care of it.” In other words, boundaries help you take care and improve your own life. Instead of being SO concerned about what others are thinking or doing, you focus on your own health and well-being.

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130: Money Advice Married Couples Should Not Ignore with Rachel Cruze Feb 02, 2021

Money is often the source of many marital conflicts and has been one of the top reasons for divorce. But, it doesn't have to be this way! In Episode 130, we interview #1 New York Times bestselling author and money expert Rachel Cruze about the money advice married couples should not ignore. When couples understand why they handle money the way they do it changes everything. You can partner with your spouse more effectively, you can build on your strengths, change your bad habits for good, see some serious life-change, and have the freedom to do the things that matter most to you.

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Discover how the way you grew up influences your money decisions.
The 4 money classrooms:

Anxious Classroom - emotionally stressed and verbally closed
Unstable Classroom - emotionally stressed and verbally open
Unaware Classroom - emotionally calm and verbally closed
Secure Classroom - emotionally calm and verbally open

Why it is important to set a value system about money with your spouse.
The 7 money fears and how fear can signal what financial changes need to take place in your family.
How working together on your money will improve other parts of your relationship.

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129: 4 Life-Changing Resolutions To Make With Your Family Jan 26, 2021

As a family, the New Year is a great opportunity to decide together what habits and rhythms of life you want to live out in 2021. It’s also a great time to come together and set some family goals for the upcoming year too. And, that’s why in today’s episode, we want to share 4 Life-Changing Near Year’s Resolutions for your family to make this year. These ideas will grow your closeness with one another, but they will also set healthy rhythms for your children to take with them into adulthood.

When we think of New Year’s Resolutions, many times we are very aware of what changes we want to make in ourselves like losing the last bit of baby weight or wanting to read more books. And sometimes we are keenly aware of what changes we hope to make in our spouses. Har, har..just kidding…this episode has nothing to do with that.

Until the pandemic hit last year, we had never thought about making meaningful family resolutions. In a previous episode, we talked about discussing with your family about what stays and what goes. It was in the middle of our country’s lockdown when we were all working and learning from home. Everything else but grocery stores were shut down…so literally, we lived, worked, and played at home. But, in the middle of this mess, we were able to look at everything we used to have in our schedules and take a proactive step in choosing if we will put those activities back in.

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The 4 life-changing resolutions to make with your family:

Adopt a growth mindset.
Try things that we will fail at.
Practice "secrecy."
Learn to apologize.

Why having a growth mindset is crucial to your family's well-being.
We'll discuss why we need to teach our kids to fail.
We will break down the practice of "secrecy" (and no..it's not about keeping secrets from one another).
We'll talk about all things apologies and how to avoid the tricky "I"m sorry" traps.

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128: How To Do A Relationship Check-In Jan 19, 2021

When the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve, many of us breathed a sigh of relief. Finally…2020 is over! Kiss me, we survived! What many of us may have not done is talk about how the last year has been because how do you put into words what 2020 has done to us? In many ways, 2020 has been traumatizing. What was is no longer what is. That much change in such a short period of time is exhausting and unnerving.

Many times the new year offers us the chance of a “do-over”. What we didn’t like about the previous year is what we hopefully won’t bring into the new year. However, this year when we realize that what we wanted to leave in 2020 is most likely sliding in through the door of 2021, it’s really important that we take the time to check-in with one another.

That’s why in Episode 128, we want to walk you through how to do a new year’s relationship check-in and help you carve out the space to think through what relationship resolutions you may want to make for 2021.

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127: 7 Lessons Learned From A Year That Did Not Go As Planned Jan 12, 2021

When you’re sitting down with your not-yet-born children, grandchildren, or great-grandchildren, what are you going to say about 2020? And when you read through the not-yet-written history books outlining the COVID-19/coronavirus global pandemic of 2020, what lens will you be looking through? What words will you use to describe this unprecedented year? What sorrows, joys, and silver-linings will you share?

2020 was the year that literally felt like the world had stopped spinning. We quickly learned to have all of our plans written in pencil so that they could be erased, put on hold, or put aside. We learned how to be bosses, workers, teachers, personal chefs, and sanitation engineers,..sometimes all at once. We learned that toilet paper, sanitizer, masks, and wipes are treasures more valuable than gold. There was a LOT to process, to grieve over, to cry about, to be frustrated about, and to rejoice over. What lessons did you learn in 2020? In episode 127, we share the 7 lessons we learned from a year that did not go as planned.

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The importance of taking the time to pause and reflect about 2020
Why naming your emotions is a vital part of processing all that happened this past year
The 7 lessons we learned from a year that did not go as planned
How these 7 lessons will help you walk in freedom in 2021

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126: //Replay// Learning To Celebrate Everything When You Feel Like You Can't Celebrate Anything (with Katherine Wolf) Dec 15, 2020

Shutdowns. Stay-at-home orders. Canceled holiday plans. Christmas certainly looks different this year. And while we may feel like we can't celebrate anything, does everything need to be perfect for us to have a reason to celebrate? Can we experience joy even when we are suffering?

In Episode 126, Daniel and Christina interview author and advocate, Katherine Wolf. At the age of 26, Katherine experienced a near-fatal stroke when her son was only 6 months old. Katherine shares her inspiring story of recovery and how she learned to celebrate everything even in the midst of pain and suffering.

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125: Fake News, Cancel Culture, and The Growing Need For Online Discernment (with Dan Darling) Dec 08, 2020

Fake news. Online rage. Canceled out. Silenced. Echo chambers. These phrases did not mean much a decade ago, but they are prevalent today. In a world that relies heavily on digital communication, it is becoming more and more difficult to tease out what is real and what is fake. In Episode 125, Daniel and Christina interview Dan Darling about the importance of "online discernment" and how you can use your online conversations for good.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

How you can use your online conversations for good
Learn to use "online discernment" before posting something or responding to someone on social media
Hear about when it is appropriate to “silence” or “cancel out” someone on your social media
A framework of discernment to use when reading the news to know what’s real and what’s fake news

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124: 5 Sanity-Saving Conversations To Have With Your Spouse Before The Holidays Dec 01, 2020

The holidays are known to be the most stressful time of the year. And perhaps this statement rings true in your own life. But, it doesn't have to be this way! In episode 124, Daniel and Christina share the 5 questions you need to ask your spouse before the holidays start. With a little bit of planning ahead and some cozy couch discussions, this Christmas can be a celebration worth remembering, even if it is in the midst of a global pandemic.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

The 5 discussion questions to have with your spouse before the holidays:

What did Christmas feel like in your own home while growing up?
What boundaries do we need to set?
How can we play to each other’s strengths?
What do you need to feel recharged during this season, especially when visiting family?
Do we need a Plan A and Plan B?

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123: //Replay// When Adoption Is A Part Of Your Story (with Aaron and Jamie Ivey) Nov 24, 2020

In light of November being National Adoption Month, Daniel and Christina Im interview Jamie and Aaron Ivey about their adoption story. They have four children, three of whom are teenagers, and one preteen. 15 years ago, they started building their family through adoption — 2 international and 1 domestic. Jamie and Aaron honestly share about their experience, how they continue to talk about adoption with their children, and how their approach to adoption has changed over the years.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

Jamie and Aaron's adoption story
How to talk to your children about adoption
How we are all called to care for the orphans, but how we may not all be called to adopt
Practical ways to help and support those who are going through the adoption process

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122: Mindful Parenting: Learning To Respond Instead Of Scream Nov 17, 2020

Raise your hand if you've ever yelled at your child? And at the moment it felt good to blow off some steam, but afterward, you feel terribly guilty, right? We know how it feels because we used to be serial screamers. Thankfully, both of us have learned and grown through these experiences. In episode 122, Daniel and Christina share what it means to be a mindful parent and how we can learn to respond to our feelings of stress, anger, and frustration, instead of scream.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

What mindful parenting is
Why we tend to scream at our kids when we are stressed
How to recognize your emotional triggers and hotspots
The importance of self-care
3 key factors to mindful parenting:
Notice your own feelings when you’re in conflict with your child
Learn to pause before responding in anger
Listen carefully to a child’s viewpoint even when you disagree with it

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121: Nine Enneagram Questions To Help You Make Wiser Decisions (with Dr. Drew Moser) Nov 10, 2020

Have you ever made a decision that you later regretted? Do you wish you knew how to make wiser choices instead of repeating the mistakes over and over again? In Episode 121, Daniel and Christina interview Enneagram teacher, Dr. Drew Moser, about how you can make wiser decisions by asking yourself these nine Enneagram questions.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

How The Enneagram can give you a good framework to help you make wiser decisions
The different centers of intelligence and how they can help you in your decision-making process
The importance of looking at the past, present, and future (the fullness of time) as you navigate a decision
Should Christians use The Enneagram?

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120: Adult Friendships 201: Why Some Friendships Change Over Time (And How To Be Okay With That) Nov 03, 2020

Do you find yourself currently frustrated with a relationship in your life? Perhaps you've been ghosted and you aren't sure what you did. Perhaps you constantly feel aggravated by a person with who you were once close. It is natural for friendships to change over time, but it can cause hurt, confusion, and frustration if you aren't sure why it happened.

In Episode 120, Daniel and Christina continue their conversation about Adult Friendships. They discuss how to know which category of relationship a person belongs in, and how to discern if you are expecting someone to give what they are incapable or unwilling to give.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

The reason why some friendships change over time and what to do about it (especially if you are hurt)
The next steps to take after understanding the 4 categories of relationships
Learn to discern who is in your life, what category they are currently in, and whether they should actually be there
How to readjust relationships to lessen frustration and journey with others in love, grace, and freedom

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119: How To Be A Voice Of Peace In A Culture Of Polarization (with Sharon Hersh) Oct 27, 2020

A recent survey shows that 8 out of 10 people feel we are completely, hopelessly divided from one another. Do you feel the same way? We have come to the point where we are valuing being right over valuing those around us. In a culture of polarization, do we have to join in?

In Episode 119, Daniel and Christina interview Sharon Hersh about how peace and common grace can be the transformation that we all desperately need.

In This Episode, You'll Hear About:

How to be a voice of peace in a culture of polarization on social media/in-person
What relational violence is and what to do when you've been the receiver/giver
Why we all need common grace

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118: Adult Friendships 101: What They Didn't Teach You In School Oct 20, 2020

Do you remember how easy it was to make friends in kindergarten? Do you wish it was still as simple? With the number of people we meet in-person and online, work with, and become friends within our lifetime, learning how to be successful in friendships is a crucial life skill to have. That’s why in today’s episode, we want to do a crash course on everything that they didn’t teach you in school. Welcome to Adult Friendships 101.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

Why you may be feeling frustrated with your current relationships
What relational intelligence is and why it matters
The difference between doing things versus doing life with others
The four categories of relationships:
Friends - individuals who are relational assets and not liabilities; a relationship where you can be your authentic self
Associates - a relationship where a common interest or intersecting schedules brings individuals together. The nature of the relationship is friendly, but there isn't a desire to go deeper in the relationship or you don’t know enough about the person to really trust them.
Assignments - a trainee, a mentee, and/or advisee. It is a mentoring relationship where you are the mentor
Advisors - when an individual is mentoring you for a limited amount of time

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Mini Episode 24 | The Relating Child Oct 16, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Relating Theme in your child.

The Relating Theme:

0:54 Characteristics of the Relating child
1:44 Emerging signs of the Relating theme
3:08 Action items for parents with a Relating themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child, The Future Thinker Child,The Organizer Child,The Relating Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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117: Why Parenting Feels So Hard (with Leslie Leyland Fields) Oct 13, 2020

If there’s anything that’s tested our resilience as parents, it’s COVID. Schooling at home or in person, masks/no masks, bus/no bus, having others over or not; the choices seem endless and the stakes seem really high. In the midst of all of these difficult decisions, parenting sometimes feels very weighty.

In Episode 117, Daniel and Christina interview Leslie Leyland Fields about what we can do when parenting feels so hard.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

Should parenting feel this hard? Is there a parenting hack to make things easier?
Myths about parenting that many of us believe and the truth behind them
How you can tell the difference between the myths you believe about parenting and the truth
The importance of laughter and fun, especially during a pandemic

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Mini Episode 23 | The Presence Child Oct 09, 2020

The Presence Theme:

0:56 Characteristics of the Presence child
2:16 Emerging signs of the Presence theme
3:14 Action items for parents with a Presence themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child, The Future Thinker Child,The Organizer Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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116: 3 Things You Can Do When You Cannot Make A Decision Oct 06, 2020

Having choices is both a blessing and a curse; it is a blessing to be able to make choices and not be forced into a decision. However, when you cannot decide —when there are too many choices — you can start to feel overwhelmed or stuck. In Episode 116, Daniel and Christina give you 3 things to do when you cannot make a decision.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

How to figure out what is essential in your life
Learn how to clear your soul clutter
When is quitting the right decision?
3 Decisions You Can Make:
What’s essential in your life
Wait for more information
Try on your decision

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Mini Episode 22 | The Organizer Child Oct 02, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Organizer Theme in your child.

The Future Thinker Theme:

1:18 Characteristics of the Organizer child
2:33 Emerging signs of the Organizer theme
4:07 Action items for parents with an Organizer themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Grab a copy of Daniel's book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies About Work, Life, and Love
Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child, The Future Thinker Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
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115: Practicing Hospitality in Every Season (with Myquillyn Smith) Sep 29, 2020

In Episode 115, Daniel and Christina interview Myquillyn Smith about how you can practice hospitality in every season of life including hosting others during a pandemic.

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How to transition your home from one season to the next, even if the weather isn't co-operating
How "shopping your own home" will save you time and money
The meaning of hospitality
How to host a meaningful and beautiful party, even during a pandemic
The importance of shifting your mindset to hospitality really not being about your house
The importance of being mindful of the personalities in your own family when hosting others

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114: How To Fight With Your Spouse Without Ruining Your Marriage Sep 21, 2020

Is there a way to fight with your spouse without the argument blowing up into World War III? We previously discussed what to do with perpetual conflicts and how a conflict-free marriage should not be your goal because it’s impossible. In Episode 114, we want to dive deeper into those “solvable conflicts” and how you can fight with your spouse without ruining your marriage.

While conflict is inevitable in a marriage, we’ve learned through experience that there are many different ways we can fight; and some fights may last longer or hurt deeper than we intended because of the “weapon of choice” we choose to battle with. Here are 5 tools you can use during your next argument to help defuse the flames of a fight.

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Mini Episode 21 | Transforming Your Conversation With God (with Chrystal Evans Hurst) Sep 18, 2020

Prayer can feel daunting, especially with the busyness of life. Where to begin? What to say? How do you make time to pray when you don't even have time to think? On today's mini episode, Chrystal Evans Hurst takes us on a guided journey to develop a powerful daily prayer life.

Transforming Your Conversation With God:

1:24 What does "pray without ceasing" mean?
1:50 What a day of prayer looks like.
6:50 Prayer as a conversation with God.
7:07 How you can hear from God.
10:00 Time of reflection.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

To find out more about Chrystal, check out her website
Pick up a copy of Chrystal's newest book: The 28-Day Prayer Journey: A Daily Guide to Conversations with God
Anytime is a good time to have a conversation with God. @chrystalhurst
Praying without ceasing is an invitation to talk with God. @chrystalhurst
If you want to hear from God, you start with His word. And then if you want His word to resound in application in your life, then you have to make time for Him to allow that word to take seed, to sprout out, and then infect and inform the way you think, the way you feel and, in return, what you do. @chrystalhurst
Prayer is our conduit into relationship with God. Just like any relationship, our relationship with God requires time, intentionality, and consistent deposits of our hearts while listening to His. @chrystalhurst
Don't let distraction or forgetfulness throw you; just pick up where you left off with God. He is ready and willing to listen and wants to talk to you, no matter how long it has been. @chrystalhurst

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Chrystal Evans Hurst is an encourager who teaches people to love God, to love others, and to love themselves. Chrystal is a wife, mother of five and grandmother of two. She is also a speaker and the best-selling author of She’s Still There and Kingdom Woman and the newly released, The 28-Day Prayer Journey.

Chrystal is an energetic, life-loving “girl-next-door” who loves encouraging others to fulfill their potential in Christ. With humor and vulnerability, Chrystal tells it like it is but does so with grace, integrity, and love. You can find Chrystal regularly sharing encouragement via her podcasts and blogs, where she poignantly reflects on faith and speaks with frank honesty about the everyday experiences of women.

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113: How To Help Your Family Fight Modern Day Slavery (with Richard Lee) Sep 15, 2020

There has recently been a heightened awareness of human trafficking in the news and on social media. While there are many conspiracy theories floating around, one thing is certain: There are an estimated 40 million people trapped in slavery around the world. If that’s the reality for 40 million people, we can no longer choose ignorance of this issue.

In Episode 113, Daniel and Christina interview Richard Lee, the Global Officer of Public Engagement with International Justice Mission, about how your family can take part in the fight against modern-day slavery.

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Mini Episode 20 | The Future Thinker Child Aug 14, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Future Thinker Theme in your child.

The Future Thinker Theme:

2:35 Characteristics of the Future Thinker child
3:22 Emerging signs of the Future Thinker theme
5:24 Action items for parents with a Future Thinker themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Grab a copy of Daniel's book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies About Work, Life, and Love
Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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112: Sex After Parenthood with Sheila Wray Gregoire Aug 11, 2020

How do you keep your sex life active after becoming parents? How do you find the time to be intimate with your spouse when you are exhausted, there are hungry mouths to feed, dishes to be done, and homework to help complete? In Episode 112, Daniel and Christina interview author and speaker Sheila Wray Gregoire about how to prioritize sex with your spouse in every stage of parenting.

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Mini Episode 19 | The Discoverer Child Aug 06, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Discoverer Theme in your child.

The Discoverer Theme:

2:04 Characteristics of the Discoverer child
4:03 Emerging signs of the Discoverer theme
7:05 Action items for parents with a Discoverer-themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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111: What Your Doctor Wish You Knew About Rest with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith Aug 04, 2020

Do you sleep 8 hours a night and still wake up feeling tired? Do you find yourself feeling exhausted, even though you’ve had your second cup of coffee and put your feet up to rest while checking social media? In Episode 111, Daniel and Christina interview Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith about the 7 different kinds of rest and why you need each one to live your best life.

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Mini Episode 18 | The Dependable Child Jul 31, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Dependability Theme in your child.

The Dependability Theme:

1:36 Characteristics of the Dependable child
2:30 Emerging signs of the Dependability theme
4:43 Action items for parents with a Dependability-themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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110: Porn-Proofing Your Child Jul 28, 2020

Porn is a billion-dollar industry and a national epidemic that aims to turn your children into addicts. If the porn industry can get your kids addicted while they are young, they know they will grow into porn-addicted adults, and thus make money off of them for years to come.

In Episode 110, Daniel and Christina interview Rosie Makinney about practical tools parents can take to porn-proof their kids. We discuss what signs to look for to know if your child is watching porn and how you can support a child who is struggling with a porn addiction.

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Mini Episode 17 | The Confident Child Jul 24, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Confidence Theme in your child.

The Confidence Theme:

0:55 Characteristics of the Confident child
1:38 Emerging signs of the Confidence theme
3:37 Action items for parents with a Confidence-themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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109: My Spouse Is Addicted To Porn with Rosie Makinney Jul 21, 2020

Help! My spouse is addicted to porn! If these words are familiar, this episode is for you. Porn is a billion-dollar industry and a national epidemic that is seeping into our homes and taking marriages captive. In Episode 109, Daniel and Christina interview Rosie Makinney about how you can fight against porn in your marriage and family.

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Mini Episode 16 | The Competing Child Jul 17, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Competing Theme in your child.

Competing Theme:

1:41 Characteristics of the Competing child
2:43 Emerging signs of the Competing theme
4:05 Action items for parents with a Competing-themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child and The Caring Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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108: 7 Keys To Resiliency For The Exhausted Parent with Laura Howe Jul 14, 2020

Resilience is the ability to withstand and overcome. As a parent, you have shown resiliency through a pandemic, through school closures, through canceled playdates and vacations. But, what if you find yourself exhausted from the load of parenting? How do you continue if you feel like you have nothing left to give? In Episode 108, Daniel and Christina interview Laura Howe about the 7 keys to resiliency for the exhausted parent.

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Mini Episode 15 | The Caring Child Jul 10, 2020

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Caring Theme in your child.

Caring Theme:

0:40 Characteristics of the Caring child
2:20 Emerging signs of the Caring theme
4:45 Action items for parents with a Caring-themed child

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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107: Help! We Have A Sexless Marriage with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley Jul 07, 2020

Do you feel like you have a sexless marriage? You are not alone and there is hope. In Episode 107, Daniel and Christina interview Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley about what triggers sexual inactivity in a marriage, what to do if there is a mismatch in the desire for sex, and some practical steps you can take to resurrect your sex life.

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Mini Episode 14 | The Achiever Child Jul 03, 2020

During the strengths based parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. We didn’t have time to get into detail, so we wanted to deep dive into each theme separately. Here is how to spot the Achiever Theme in your child.

Achiever Theme:

1:44 Characteristics of the Achiever
2:44 Emerging signs of the Achieving theme
5:27 Action items for parents with an Achiever-themed child
6:42 What to do if your child doesn't have the achiever theme

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting
If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup
Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students
Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14
Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents
Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage

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106: A Conflict-Free Marriage Is Not The Goal Jun 30, 2020

Do you believe that not having conflict with your spouse is a sign of a healthy marriage? While, it may seem like couples that don’t disagree or argue, seem to have a good marriage, there is more to the story. In Episode 106, Daniel and Christina discuss why a conflict-free marriage should not be your goal.

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Mini Episode 13 | It's Time To Decide What Stays And What Goes Jun 26, 2020

This pandemic has caused us to pause, to breathe, and to take inventory on what matters and what doesn’t. It is almost like we are able to start our year over again. Like New Year's resolutions help us decide what we want to focus on, this is your opportunity to make your "Pandemic Resolutions". Before everything opens up again, this is the perfect time to ask yourself: What stays and what goes.

What Stays and What Goes:

0:40 What was your pre-COVID life like?
1:04 Pandemic resolutions
1:23 What is staying?
2:02 What is going?

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Needing some more tips about making decisions?
5 Keys To Help You Make Decisions
How Our Brains React In Crisis
How To Find Your Family's Purpose
What To Do When Life Doesn't Go As Planned
5 Tips To Help You Thrive Your Next Transition
Why Slowing Down Life Matters

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105: Talking To Your Kids About Racism and Racial Justice (Interview with Cara Meredith) Jun 23, 2020

What does it mean to talk to our kids about race? What does it mean to engage in conversations of justice, race, and privilege, in the context of diversity? How do we approach these conversations with our kids even when it's hard? What if we don't know what to say? In Episode 105, we interview Cara Meredith about talking to your kids about racism and racial justice.

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MIni Episode 12 | Teaching Our Kids To Love Others By Gathering Around The Kitchen Table Jun 19, 2020

You’ve heard the old saying, “More is caught than taught?” Well, this rings even truer as our children observe who we spend time with, who we shy away from, who we shake hands with, or who pretend we don’t see. If we want our children to learn to love God and love others, we can start by practicing hospitality.

The Gift Of Hospitality:

1:32 What is hospitality?
2:27 The grander purpose of hospitality
2:48 The power of imperfection

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Talking To Your Kids About Racism and Empathy
In a world that is hurting and longing for hope, we can be the ones that share the good news of the gospel—that they are seen, heard, loved, made in the image of God, and redeemed. We can show them grace. @imbetweenshow
How To Raise Kids That Change The World
If we really believe in the power of imperfections, that they put people at ease and allow us to truly to connect, then we won’t have to erase all signs of imperfection and real life before we invite people over. We’ll realize that sharing some of our everyday imperfection is an essential part of connection with people. We don’t have to finish every project, redecorate every room, overthink or over spend. People remember being loved, welcomed, invited, and thought of. @thenester

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104: Strengths Based Parenting Jun 16, 2020

Are there some things your child is naturally better at than other people? What if you could spot those areas of talent and turn them into strengths? That's what this episode is precisely about.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

The importance of knowing your own strengths
Why the Strengths-Based parenting approach to raising children is crucial
How to notice, appreciate, support, and build on your child's talents
The difference between focussing on your child's weakness versus managing their weakness
How to cultivate your child's interests and turn them into strengths

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Mini Episode 11 | When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed, Remember This Jun 12, 2020

There are many times we have found ourselves feeling stressed, unsure, scared, anxious, and completely overwhelmed with the brokenness of our world. That is when we stop, open our Bibles and continue to remind ourselves about the promises of God. The promises written in His word about how He will never leave us or forsake us, promises that He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. His word is a balm to our hearts, minds, and souls. It is the cure to our overwhelm.

On today’s mini episode, we want to read 7 bible passages to you and over you. So, next time you are feeling “all the feels” and you just don’t know what to do, listen to this episode and remind yourselves of the truth that never fades, never changes, and never fails.

The Cure To Your Overwhelm:

0:31 What to do if you are feeling overwhelmed
1:08 The truth that never fades, never changes, and never fails
6:28 The cure for your anxiety

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

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103: What Your Child Really Needs From You with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick Jun 09, 2020

Our culture is obsessed with figuring out the "right" way to raise their children. But, what if the most important thing a parent needs to know for a thriving relationship is: you and your child are made for connection.

In Episode 103, we interview Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick about what your child really needs from you. The Olricks invite parents to stop treating parenting as a job and to instead embrace it as a journey. They help parents integrate the science of connection with practical tools while using easy-to-understand language. They give parents permission to breathe and show us why it's more important to be present than perfect.

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Mini Episode 10 | Change Your Life By Doing Nothing Jun 05, 2020

In a world that tells us we need to do more, be more, and buy more, it is easy to fall into the trap of more. But actually, one of the best ways to change your life is to do nothing. On today's mini episode, Daniel and Christina discuss how more sleep is exactly what you need to change your life.

Change Your Life By Doing Nothing?

0:33 What happens if you don't get enough sleep?
2:02 How sleep can change your life.
2:23 Tips to help you relax and fall asleep.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

One of our primary activities in human life is being neglected–sleep! @imbetweenshow
God has designed us to spend 1/3 of our lives sleeping. @imbetweenshow
God designed us to be stewards of all parts of our lives - physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. @imbetweenshow
We need to begin caring for our bodies by not doing more, but by sleeping more. @imbetweenshow
Sleep is a perfect example of the combination of discipline and grace. You cannot make yourself sleep. You cannot force your body to sleep. Sleep is an act of surrender. It’s a declaration of trust. It is admitting that we are not God (who never sleeps), and that is good news. We cannot make ourselves sleep, but we can create the conditions necessary for sleep. @jamesbryansmith
The Good And Beautiful God by James Bryan Smith
Looking for more ways to relax? Listen in here:
Palms Down, Palms Up Prayer
Centering Prayer

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102: How Our Brains React In Crisis Jun 02, 2020

Because of this global pandemic, our entire lives are registering on our brains—with red lights twirling around and sirens blasting—ERROR! As a result, our bodies have quickly amped up and our normal everyday functioning—emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, and physically—is off-kilter.

In Episode 102, Daniel and Christina discuss how our brains react in a crisis and 5 ways we can hit the reset button to bring back calm into our lives.

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Mini Episode 9 | Feeling Stressed? Start Smooching! May 29, 2020

With COVID restrictions starting to lift, and the talk about a second pandemic wave possibly coming, you may find yourself feeling more stressed than usual. There are many things you can do to de-stress, but did you know that kissing your spouse is an incredible reliever of stress? On this mini episode, Daniel and Christina share the benefits of passionate kissing.

What's In A Kiss?

0:42 What happens when we kiss?
1:05 Feel good chemicals that give you a natural high.
2:04 Kissing versus physical intimacy for relationship happiness.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Looking for more ways to de-stress? Listen in here:
Palms Down, Palms Up Prayer
Centering Prayer
A Simple Grounding Exercise To Help With Anxiety

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101: Life Is Better When It's Slow with Rebecca Smith May 26, 2020

In Episode 101, Daniel and Christina interview author and business owner, Rebecca Smith about how life is better when it is slow. Imagine a world in which dreams and passions are achieved with slow steps, simple obedience, and steadfast diligence? Is that not the world we are living in today? This pandemic has all forced us to pause, to allow our souls to take a deep breath, and to re-evaluate the goals we've been hustling for. It's time to learn why life is better when it is slow.

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Mini Episode 8 | What Is Your Anger Trying To Tell You? May 22, 2020

How many times have you lost your cool since the start of this pandemic? How many times have you yelled at your kids or gave the silent treatment to your spouse? No matter your experience with anger, it’s important to be aware of the anger that we feel. It is our body’s way of signaling something is wrong.

On today's mini episode, Daniel and Christina address how anger is a secondary emotion; it's a reaction to another emotion. Your anger is trying to tell you something deeper is going on.

What Is Your Anger Telling To Tell You?

1:15 Anger as a secondary emotion.
1:42 Why we need to pay attention to our primary emotions.
2:58 What your anger is trying to signal to you.
4:42 Use your anger as a yellow flag.
4:52 What to do with your anger.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Hear more about the Palms Down, Palms Up Prayer
"What emotion is underneath my anger?" @imbetweenshow
"Anger is what we call a secondary emotion. It’s a reaction to another emotion" @imbetweenshow
"While anger, frustration, or irritation is what’s showing up on the surface, the emotions are actually much deeper than that. And knowing those deeper, primary emotions, is important." @imbetweenshow
"Our anger is always trying to signal to us something deeper is going on. So when you feel yourself getting angry, when you notice frustration, irritation, and annoyance, stop, take a breath, and notice those feelings." @imbetweenshow

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100: Marriage and Parenting Advice From The IMbetween Kids May 19, 2020

What marriage and parenting advice do a 10, 9, and 5 year old have? To celebrate our 100th episode, our kids are answering your questions! They cover topics like the Enneagram, what parenting advice they'd like to share, and how important they think marriage is.

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Mini Episode 7 | Finding Beauty In The Mundane Through Journaling (with Leslie Leyland Fields) May 15, 2020

The Importance of Journaling:

2:05 What's the purpose of journaling?
3:24 Learning to value our every day lives.
3:52 Discovering moments of grace.
5:05 Frameworks around the process of journaling.
7:22 The importance of guilt-free journaling.
9:00 Inviting our children into the process of reflection.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

To find out more about Leslie, check out her website
Pick up a copy of Leslie's copy of her newest book: Your Story Matters: Finding, Writing, and Living The Truth Of Your Life
"Journaling is an important way of processing the events of the day thoughtfully." @lesliefields
"I don't think we value the plain, beautiful, everyday moments, and we miss seeing God in those moments." @lesliefields
"Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it, no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace." - Frederich Buechner
"Journal prompt: How has God shown up today?" @lesliefields

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99: Simple Ways To Have More Fun During This Pandemic May 12, 2020

The longer this pandemic goes on, the more things and events are being canceled. Birthday parties, summer camps, vacations — the list goes on and on. In some ways, it feels like COVID has thrown fun out the window! Now, more than ever, we need to look for creative ways to incorporate more fun into our lives.

In Episode 99, Daniel and Christina share simple ways to incorporate more fun into your daily lives — with yourself, with your family, and with your spouse.

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Mini Episode 6 | Give Your Spouse The Benefit Of The Doubt May 08, 2020

Most married couples know that they love each other. However, do most married couples know that they are FOR each other? When you are in an argument, do you immediately assume the worst of your spouse, even though you know that they love you? If so, it's time to learn about the power of giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt.

Give Your Spouse The Benefit Of The Doubt:

0:33 The difference between loving your spouse versus knowing you are FOR your spouse.
1:28 What happens when you assume the worst of your spouse.
3:32 What happens when you give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.
5:06 How you can calmly communicate that your feelings were hurt.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Remind yourself that your spouse loves you. @imbetweenshow
Remind yourself that your spouse is for you and not against you. @imbetweenshow

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98: How The Enneagram Can Deepen Your Marriage Connection with Jeff and Beth McCord May 05, 2020

Have you ever felt like you don't understand your spouse? Have you ever wondered why your spouse handles a situation in a completely different manner than you would? Do you wish for a closer connection, but don't know how to get there?

In Episode 98, Daniel and Christina interview Enneagram coaches, Beth and Jeff McCord, about how the Enneagram can give you the language to communicate with your spouse, the empathy to understand your spouse, and the tools to help defuse conflicts before they start with your spouse.

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Mini Episode 5 | Ask Your Family This One Question May 01, 2020

While there are a lot of things that are out of our control, it is helpful to underline for our families what we can control. So, sometime today, when y’all are altogether, ask your family this one question.

Ask Your Family This Question:

0:38 How things have changed.
1:14 The one question to ask your family.
1:24 Why you should be asking your family this one question.
2:17 What we can and cannot control.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Episode 4: Why slowing down life matters
Episode 68: Why your kids need to be bored this summer

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97: 5 Practical Ways To Show Grace To Your Family Even When They Are Driving You Crazy Apr 28, 2020

No one wants their families to look back on this Quarantine and remember the stress, the short tempers, or the frustrated tears. Instead, we want our families to look back on this time and remember feeling safe - not just from COVID, but safe in our hearts and minds as well. This is why we need to show our family grace.

In Episode 97, Daniel and Christina share 5 practical ways to show grace to your family, even when they are driving you crazy!

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Mini Episode 4 | When You Can't Sleep, Try This Apr 24, 2020

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed that you can't think? Have you found yourself tossing and turning at night because your mind is racing? When you feel out of control, when you can't sleep, try this: Palms Down, Palms Up.

Palms Down, Palms Up Exercise:

1:09 Breathing exercise to prepare.
1:36 Begin Palms Down prayer.
2:54 Begin Palms Up prayer.
4:07 Short breath prayer.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

If you want to hear more about the benefits of deep breathing, listen to Centering Prayer
Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take up my yoke and learn from me, because I am lowly and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22, 23

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96: How to Raise Strong and Empowered Children with Catherine Parks Apr 21, 2020

What makes you powerful? What makes you strong? Is strength measured in grit, tenacity, courage, bravery, and never backing down from a challenge? In Episode 96, Daniel and Christina interview author Catherine Parks about where our true strength comes from and how to start the conversation with our kids about character, strength, empowerment, and grace.

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Mini Episode 3 | A Simple Grounding Exercise To Help With Anxiety Apr 17, 2020

Anxiety is something that most of us have experienced in our life, especially during these uncertain times. This 5 step exercise can be very helpful during periods of anxiety or panic by helping to ground you in the present when your mind is bouncing between various “what ifs.”

The Grounding Exercise:

0:31 What anticipatory grief is and why it matters.
1:33 The importance of deep breathing versus shallow breathing.
2:25 Explanation of the 5 step grounding exercise.
3:24 A step-by-step walk through of the grounding exercise.

Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode:

Anticipatory grief is the mind going to the future and imagining the worst. @imbetweenshow
I was grieving things that hadn’t actually happened. I had to purposefully pull my thoughts to come into the present reality or else I would spiral out of control. @imbetweenshow
If you'd like to be taken through a deep breathing exercise, listen to our first mini episode about Centering Prayer
This quick exercise will help ground you in the present. Grounding yourself reminds your body, your nervous system, and your brain that you are safe. @imbetweenshow

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95: 4 Keys To Surviving Marital Stress Apr 14, 2020

What does stress do to a marriage? Does it make it or break it? We are seeing stats come out of China - the first country to be quarantined from the Coronavirus - that divorce rates have skyrocketed once the quarantine was lifted.

While feelings of fear, anxiety, and stress come with the territory of unexpected times, it does not have to break your relationship. Here are 4 keys to help you and your spouse survive your marital stress while constantly being together.

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