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Episode 21: Navigating the Mental Load in Relationships with Dr. Morgan Cutlip Oct 07, 2025

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In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn discuss the concept of the mental load in relationships with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. They explore how feelings of unfairness and resentment can arise when one partner feels overwhelmed by invisible tasks and emotional labor. The discussion emphasizes the importance of communication, appreciation, and understanding the dynamics of emotional labor in marriage. Dr. Cutlip provides practical strategies for couples to navigate these challenges, including the need to make the invisible visible and to frame the mental load as a shared enemy. The conversation highlights the significance of regular discussions about responsibilities and the unique pressures faced by both partners in family life.

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Episode 20: When Hurting People Come To Church NEW BOOK RELEASE with Dr. Jim Sells Sep 25, 2025

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In this conversation, Shaunti and Jim discuss the pressing mental health crisis and the role of the church in addressing it. They explore the importance of traditional counseling and the need for a new system of care that includes community support. The discussion emphasizes the importance of building capacity within churches to provide emotional support and the legal considerations involved. They also address the fears and misconceptions that may prevent churches from engaging in this vital work, ultimately calling for a collaborative approach to mental health care that integrates faith and community. They explore how churches can train lay counselors to provide emotional support and care, creating a network that addresses the mental health needs of their communities. The discussion highlights practical steps for church involvement and the universal need for care and support, encouraging listeners to engage in their communities and foster relationships that can lead to healing and growth.

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www.thechurchcares.com

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Episode 19: Unlock the Sensitive Side of Men: humor and insights from Dave Barnes Sep 09, 2025

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In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with singer-songwriter Dave Barnes to unpack the emotional world of men and the dynamics that shape relationships. Together, they explore the often-overlooked depth of men’s feelings, how love is expressed differently than women might expect, and the surprising role of music and creativity in emotional connection.

They also dive into some of the biggest misconceptions women have about men’s romantic intentions, and why understanding love languages—and misreading them—can lead to unnecessary hurt. Drawing on personal stories, research insights, and years of marriage experience, the conversation turns toward the deeper challenges couples face: loneliness, unmet expectations, and the myth that one person can meet all emotional needs.

Throughout, the trio emphasizes the power of believing the best in your partner, the healing gift of forgiveness, and the essential role of community, prayer, and positive communication in building strong, resilient relationships. Whether you're married, dating, or simply curious about how men really think and love, this episode offers a rich, encouraging guide to connection and empathy.

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Episode 18: Happy Couples Hang Out Aug 26, 2025

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Episode 18: Happy Couples Hang Out

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Join Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn as they delve into the habits of the happiest couples. Discover the deceptively simple secret that we learned in the research for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages about the power of simply spending time together and how that plays a role in maintaining a strong relationship. Learn from real-life examples and research-backed insights to transform your marriage.

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Episode 17: When the Wife Wants More Sex, with J. Parker Aug 12, 2025

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In this candid and insightful episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn welcome author and intimacy expert J. Parker from Hot, Holy & Humorous. Research shows that in roughly 75% of marriages, the husband has a higher sex drive or initiates more often. But what about the other 25%—when the wife is the one with more desire, or when the couple’s patterns don’t match the stereotype at all? J. Parker, whose ministry focuses heavily on this topic, shares practical, grace-filled wisdom for couples navigating mismatched desire—especially when the higher-desire spouse is the wife. This frank, faith-based conversation tackles myths, encourages empathy, and offers hope for every couple to thrive in intimacy, no matter where they fall on the spectrum of desire.

Note: This conversation is PG-13 and may not be suitable for younger listeners.

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Episode 16: Common Questions Couples Have About Sex, with Dr. Michael Sytsma Aug 12, 2025

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In this engaging conversation, Dr. Michael Sytsma, a seasoned therapist specializing in marriage and intimacy, shares his extensive experience and insights into the complexities of sexual relationships. The discussion covers common questions couples have about their sexual health, the importance of understanding desire discrepancies, and the normalization of various sexual experiences. Dr. Sytsma emphasizes the significance of communication and understanding in fostering healthy relationships, while also addressing the myths surrounding sexual intimacy.

Note: This conversation is PG-13 and may not be suitable for younger listeners.

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Episode 15: The Science of Male and Female Communication Jul 29, 2025

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In this conversation, Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn explore the fundamental differences in how men and women process thoughts and decisions. They discuss the implications of these differences on relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding and communication. The episode highlights the brain wiring differences, the significance of verbal versus internal processing, and practical strategies for couples to navigate these challenges effectively. Through real-life examples and insights from neuroscience, the Feldhahns provide valuable advice for fostering stronger connections between partners.

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Episode 14: Navigating Marriage: Insights with Michelle Lentz Jul 15, 2025

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In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn interview Michelle Lentz, an Instagram influencer and author, who shares her journey through marriage, parenting, and overcoming significant life challenges, including a devastating earthquake. Michelle discusses the importance of community support, the power of prayer, and treating your spouse like a friend to build a strong marriage. Her insights are particularly valuable for young couples navigating the early stages of marriage.

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Season 1 Episode 13 BONUS Looking Back, Moving Forward Jul 01, 2025

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Bonus Episode 13: Looking Back, Moving Forward

Description: In this heartfelt Season 1 finale bonus episode, Shaunti and Jeff take listeners on a reflective journey through the most powerful insights shared over the season. This bonus installment isn’t just a recap—it’s a spiritual reset button that captures the highs, lessons, and most touching moments that moved both guests and listeners alike.

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A Boy Mom Cracks the Code on Male Behavior with Jenilee Samuel-Season 1 Episode 12 Jun 17, 2025

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Episode 12 Release Date: June 17, 2025    

Duration: Episode 11: 44 minutes    

Summary: Shaunti, Jeff, and Jenilee Samuel (host of the Java with Jen podcast) explore the complexities of being a woman leader in ministry, the challenges of marriage, and the importance of understanding the male psyche. Jenilee shares her journey from being a missionary kid to a co-pastor and her experiences with raising boys. The discussion emphasizes the need for empathy, learning, and the balance between strength and sensitivity in both personal and professional realms. Jenilee also shares her insights on parenting teenage boys, the importance of emotional intelligence, and the challenges of maintaining a healthy marriage.

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