How To! with Charles Duhigg

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How To Deal With a Difficult Parent Jul 25, 2023

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Every year J. and her parents fly thousands of miles, meeting in the middle for their family vacation. A vacation that often leads to shouting and tears. J. and her father have a rocky relationship. Little disagreements often lead to her dad yelling and dredging up the past. It would be easy, in theory, to cut off the relationship before it got even more toxic. But J. wants to make it work. The question is, how? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Nibarna Kannathasan, a psychotherapist who has helped people navigate tricky intergenerational conflict, especially when factoring migration and differing cultural expectations. She helps J. parse what she really wants from her father and figure out a way to start down that road while protecting herself along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Walk Away From an Impossible Parent.

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Make Aging Easier for Everyone Jul 18, 2023

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Caregivers provide an estimated 600 billion dollars in free labor each year, according to the AARP. This week's listener, Dani is one such caregiver. She and her partner found themselves navigating the confusing world of Medicare and Medicaid, estate planning, powers of attorney, etc. All in the hope of helping their loved ones stay healthy and comfortable until they need an end-of-life plan. This experience has her worried—who is going to look after her when the time comes? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Amy Goyer, AARP's family and caregiving expert and has quite a bit of personal experience. She cuts through the confusion on how to caregive, how to care for caregivers, and how to prepare to be cared for yourself. Because we're all going to need it, sooner or later.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Fight With Your Parents, which is about parenting your parents.

Resources mentioned:

Caregiving Guides

Livable Communities

Local Resource Connections

National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys

Five Wishes Document

Aging Life Care Association

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Hack Any Bureaucracy Jul 11, 2023

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When Gwen applied for unemployment during the early days of the pandemic, she never thought she'd still be waiting for her benefits years later. Despite hours on the phone, countless emails and even a court appearance, Gwen is haunted by her inability to get the money she was approved for. On this episode of How To!, co-host Amanda Ripley brings in Marina Nitze, author of Hack Your Bureaucracy. Not only does Marina help Gwen find shortcuts in her state's unemployment system, but she has useful advice for untangling any bureaucratic nightmare.

If you liked this episode, check out: How To Fight Outrageous Medical Bills.

Do you have a problem that's keeping you up at night? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Stop Finding Your Self-worth Through Your Job (w/ Gloria Chan Packer) Jul 04, 2023

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On this bonus episode from our friends at the How To Be A Better Human podcast: For some of us it's easy to lose ourselves in our work. But a lack of boundaries between your personal and work life is something mental wellness educator Gloria Chan Packer would warn you twice about. Gloria speaks about the perils of gaining your sense of self-worth from your job, discusses her experience with burnout and stress and shares empowering insights on how to shift our perspectives to create – and maintain – a healthy distance. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts

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How To Find Genuine Happiness Jun 27, 2023

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The last few years have been overwhelming for Tracy. Her career was demanding and she experienced multiple deaths in her family. Recently, she changed jobs and is in a better place with her mental health, but something is still missing from her life. She's just not sure what. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings on Samantha Clarke, happiness consultant, speaker, and author of Love it Or Leave It: How To Be Happy At Work. Samantha will help Tracy (and all of us) design a plan to find fulfillment.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Style Your Home Like a Pro."

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Find the Gems in All Your Junk Jun 20, 2023

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Most people have something they're holding on to. For Lesley and Alex, that's some old baseball and basketball cards that are collecting dust in their attic. For Kathy, that's a house full of antiques. They've all been wanting to pare it down. But the big question is: how much is it worth? On this episode of How To! co-host Carvell Wallace is joined by Leila Dunbar, a veteran appraiser and frequent expert on Antiques Roadshow. Leila knows the stories and the value behind all kinds of collectibles and memorabilia. She'll break down why we hold on to certain items and let go of others…and how to make money along the way.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Put Your Town on the Map."

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Quit Your Calling Jun 13, 2023

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Amy and Sarah are high school English teachers who both want to quit the classroom, but for very different reasons. Amy has over 200 students, and tensions between teachers and parents are on the rise so she's "beyond burned out." Whereas Sarah has been teaching for over a decade and is itching for a change. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, co-host Amanda Ripley is joined by Daphne Gomez, a former teacher who's now CEO of Teacher Career Coach. (She also hosts the Teacher Career Coach podcast.) Daphne has some wonderful advice for Sarah and Amy—and anyone else who has no choice but to leave a job they once loved.

If you liked this episode, check out Part 1: "How To Help Teachers Thrive."

More career change episodes:

How To Bounce Back From a Layoff

How To Know When to Quit Your Job

How To Make the Leap to Your Dream Job

How To Bounce Back From Burnout

How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job

How To Find a New Career Before It's Too Late

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Help Teachers Thrive Jun 06, 2023

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Today there are about four million teachers in America, and nearly a third of them are thinking about leaving their jobs. It has become harder to be a teacher in the U.S. due to a lack of resources, political meddling, and teacher shortages, to name a few reasons. On this episode of How To!, the first in a two-part series, co-host Amanda Ripley talks with two teachers, Sarah and Amy, and Daphne Gomez, a former teacher and now the founder and CEO of Teacher Career Coach. They discuss challenges in and out of the classroom as well as changes that would actually support teachers.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Succeed When Everyone's Mad at You"

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Sleep Apart to Save Your Relationship May 30, 2023

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Sleep is objectively worse when splitting a bed. Yet that's the default for most couples. But that doesn't mean sharing the covers is easy. Especially when one person is having trouble falling or staying asleep. On this episode of How To!, the second in a two-part series, co-host Carvell Wallace continues the conversation with Dr. Wendy Troxel, author of Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep. Dr. Troxel explains how couples can experiment with sleeping arrangements in a way that makes everyone feel safe, and why sleeping apart might be the key to saving your relationship.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Stop Snoring (and Breathe Easier)."

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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How To Sleep Like a Champ May 23, 2023

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Vanessa isn't a night owl. Yet, often, you can find her lying awake desperately trying to turn off her brain. When her partner stays over she often resorts to the couch just to get some rest. On this episode of How To!, co-host Carvell Wallace brings in Dr. Wendy Troxel. She is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in sleep medicine and the author of the book, Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep. On part one of a two part series—Dr. Troxel explains how insomnia disrupts sleep, how to avoid it, and why a good night's rest starts with your environment.

If you liked this episode, check out: "How To Beat the Dreaded Midday Slump."

Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler.

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