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How To Manage Career & Personal Change with Dr. Keri Ohlrich & Kelly Guenther Nov 14, 2024

Is entrepreneurship truly a solo journey, or would you rather start a business with a friend? For Dr. Keri Ohlrich and Kelly Guenther, co-founders of the leadership and HR consultancy the Abbracci Group and co-hosts of “The Breakout” podcast, the answer is clear: collaboration is key. Together, they’re on a mission to help women and entrepreneurs navigate both professional and personal changes, big and small. Their book, “Whatever the Hell You Want”, is a guide to identifying the “boxes” that confine us, creating a roadmap to break free, and living a life of choice and freedom. Keri and Kelly’s story is a powerful testament to the transformative potential of partnership and support.

In this episode, Erin, Keri & Kelly dive into themes of change, growth, and the pursuit of personal fulfillment. Hear how taking bold, sometimes daunting steps can help break free from traditional paths and bring about lasting happiness. Tune in as we discuss:

The challenges and rewards of entrepreneurship and why a supportive business partner can make all the difference, especially for women
Reimagining community over competition in the workplace and fostering mutual support for women
Identifying your core values, wants, and motivations as key to your next steps in life and career
How growth often emerges from painful experiences, revealing what’s no longer serving you
Why workplace gender bias still persists, even in progressive workplaces
How women leaders can drive change by mentoring the next generation
Tips for embracing the uncertainty and instability that come with entrepreneurship

OUR GUESTS: Kelly Guenther and Dr. Keri Ohlrich are the co-founders of Abbracci Group, co-hosts of The Breakout podcast, and co-authors of Whatever the Hell You Want. Together, they bring a wealth of experience in leadership, HR, and professional development, focusing on empowering individuals and creating supportive workplace cultures.

Kelly Guentherapplies a holistic approach to leadership and talent development, combining her experience in sales training and certification for top-level executives with a deep understanding of both team dynamics and individual strengths. She holds a Master of Education from Carroll University, a Bachelor’s in English from the University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh, and is certified in iPEC professional coaching and Prosci® change management, among other assessments.

Dr. Keri Ohlrich brings over 20 years of HR leadership experience spanning start-ups to Fortune 500 companies, where she has been instrumental in redesigning HR processes and driving large-scale change management initiatives. With a PhD in Human Development and Organizational Systems, as well as dual master’s degrees in Peace and Conflict Resolution and Global Human Resources, she is committed to transforming workplaces into thriving ecosystems. Keri also serves as a court-appointed special advocate (CASA) volunteer for children’s welfare.

Want more Dr. Keri & Kelly? Tune into their podcast The Breakout and learn more about their work at https://abbraccigroup.com/. Check out their books Whatever the Hell You Want and The Way of the HR Warrior.

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Nurturing Your Intimate Relationships with Vanessa & Xander Marin Nov 07, 2024

“Sex isn't really worth having without vulnerability.”

Sexuality and intimacy can be sensitive topics, especially in long-term relationships. But what if these conversations could be transformed into pathways to deeper connection and more fulfilling, mutually satisfying sex? In this episode, we’re thrilled to welcome our first couple(!) to Hotter Than Ever: Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience, and her husband, Xander, bring their unique perspectives together to foster honest, vulnerable discussions around sex and intimacy. Together, they’ve written the NYT bestselling book “Sex Talks” and are on a mission to help couples achieve true closeness.

Join us for an illuminating conversation on the essential ingredients for a rewarding sex life and on dismantling long-standing misconceptions about intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that true intimacy—whether in long relationships or new ones—requires courage, open communication, and a fresh look at what we really need and desire. We discuss:

Why open conversations about sex are crucial for fostering intimacy and connection between partners.
Breaking down male expectations around intimacy and performance, and how these notions can block true connection and vulnerability.
Prioritizing quality over quantity in sex—focusing on enhancing pleasure and satisfaction over frequency.
Practical, small-scale actions to boost emotional intimacy, like expressing gratitude, embracing a 30-second hug, or sharing a 6-second kiss.
Cultivating your own individual sexuality to reinforce a sense of self and desire, no matter your relationship status.
Navigating sexual changes through perimenopause and menopause, with tips on staying connected to your body and sexuality.

OUR GUESTS: Vanessa and Xander Marin are the dynamic duo behind the NYT bestseller “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life”. Vanessa, a certified sex therapist, and her husband Xander, who left a career at Google to join her in this mission, combine their expertise and candid, down-to-earth approach to help couples kick shame out of the bedroom and embrace deeper connection, pleasure, and joy. Together, Vanessa and Xander have been featured in top publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and Vanessa has contributed to The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.

Want more Vanessa & Xander? Tune into their podcast Pillow Talks for practical relationship advice, real-life insights, and plenty of laughs as they share what truly goes on behind closed doors.

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Producing Your Best Life: Movies and Motherhood with Feigco's Laura Fischer Oct 31, 2024

If you’ve ever wondered why stories of women in midlife are so rare in movies and TV, you’re not alone. In a landscape where male-centered narratives often take center stage, Laura Fischer (Co-President of director Paul Feig’s feature film company Feigco) stands out as a force for change. In partnership with the iconic comedy director, Laura champions films anchored by funny women (think Kristen Wiig, Melissa McCarthy and Leslie Jones) and helps showcase the work of diverse creators while balancing the complexities of family life and career with remarkable grace and determination.

Join us as we delve into issues impacting women today, from societal expectations to the untapped potential of stories about older women, all through the lens of Laura’s inspiring career. Laura’s journey underscores the power of authentic storytelling and the importance of defining your own priorities amid the many roles we, as women, navigate. Here’s what’s on the table:

Embracing failure as a normal part of creative and professional growth.
Practical tips for managing the ever-elusive work-life balance as a mother and professional.
Why prioritizing YOU—and the pursuits that ignite your passion—helps you best show up for the people you love and support.
Post-divorce insights: successful co-parenting and the liberating freedom of prioritizing yourself and your work.
Breaking free from the constraints of corporate life to unlock personal and creative freedom.
The ongoing fight for representation of women over 40 in media and why more female voices in decision-making roles matter.
A reminder that at every stage of life, you have the power to choose your own path.

OUR GUEST: Laura is Co-President of Feigco Entertainment, where she and Paul Feig oversee the company’s film and TV projects, currently including A Simple Favor 2 for Amazon. She also serves as CEO of Powderkeg, a content company dedicated to uplifting female, LGBTQ+, and BIPOC creators. Through Powderkeg, she has launched programs like Fuse, a short film initiative for emerging female directors, and Break the Room, focused on diverse writing talent. Previously, Laura led original series production at Yahoo! and worked on Emmy-winning projects at Disney-ABC. She is a member of the Producers Guild and the Television Academy.

Want more Laura? Find more of her work at https://x.com/Feigco and https://powderkegmedia.com/ and follow her on:

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Straight Talk About Libido Over 40 with Dr. Maureen Slattery Oct 24, 2024

Ever wondered why some women experience low libido and what can be done about it? Or what orgasms look and feel like for different women? These questions often go unanswered, but Dr. Maureen Slattery—a board-certified OBGYN specializing in sex and menopause—is here to change that. A leading advocate for women’s sexual health, Dr. Slattery joins us in this episode to share her mission of empowering women through education and enhancing sexual well-being during perimenopause and menopause.

Join Erin and Dr. Maureen as they dive deep into the complexities of women’s sexual health, exploring how reclaiming pleasure and purpose can be a transformative experience in midlife. We discuss:

Why comprehensive sexual health education is often overlooked in the medical field, and the consequences for women’s health.
How puritanical and patriarchal attitudes have shaped women’s sexual education and self-understanding.
The effects of hormonal changes on sexual pleasure, desire, and overall well-being.
Understanding low libido and Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD).
Tips for having open, productive conversations about sex and pleasure, especially in long-term relationships.
The importance of raising sex-positive children and navigating talks about consent, relationships, and body positivity.

OUR GUEST: Dr. Maureen Slattery is a board-certified OBGYN with 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual health and menopausal care. An AASECT-certified sex counselor, she has contributed to AARP and Rochester Regional Health on topics like sexual health and hormone therapy. Maureen teaches medical students and professionals about menopause and sexual health in Rochester, NY, and at the University of Michigan. Her passion lies in helping patients rediscover pleasure and educating healthcare providers about sexuality. She is a sex-positive, kink-aware, and LGBTQIA+ ally.

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How Do you Measure your Value? Oct 17, 2024

"I think our value and our values get all kinds of conflated and mixed up."

We often hear about self-love and its pivotal role in creating a joyful life. But defining self-love is subjective and multifaceted. It involves caring, self-respect, boundaries, and counteracting our harsh inner critic. Today, Erin delves beyond self-love to examine the societal and personal metrics we use to gauge our worth.

Join Erin as she questions the conflation of material wealth, career success, physical appearance, and external approval with our intrinsic value. She asks us to reconsider what true value means in our lives and how our values may have been skewed by societal norms.

In this episode, Erin discusses:

The societal emphasis on material wealth and the pros and cons of caring a lot about financial success
Whether career achievements and professional accolades truly correlate with self-worth
The complicated relationship women have with physical appearance and desirability as we age
The roles of daughter, sister, wife, friend, and mother, and how we assess our value within these relationships
The deep-rooted cultural messages that impact our self-worth
The internal qualities and strengths that may hold true value, such as creativity, resourcefulness, kindness, and impact on others

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How Astrology Just Might Help You Succeed with AstroTwin Ophira Edut Oct 10, 2024

“Astrology is a tool, not a rule. And when you use it as a tool, it can expand your power, your consciousness, your awareness.”

Long-time listeners of Hotter Than Ever know Erin tends to be a skeptic when it comes to anything ‘woo’ (remember the episode “Woo Adjacent”?). So, it might come as a surprise that today’s episode dives deep into astrology. But after hearing from astrologer Ophira Edut, even the most doubtful minds might find themselves intrigued, if not completely converted. Ophira, along with her sister Tali, form the AstroTwins, the long-standing resident astrologers for Elle magazine, authors of over 20 books, and frequent faces on TV. Together, they’ve created a practical, digestible approach to astrology that goes beyond the stars and into your everyday life.

Join Erin and Ophira to learn more about how astrology isn’t just about horoscopes, but a powerful framework to help navigate life’s mysteries, challenges, and opportunities in the second half of life. We discuss:

Ophira’s unplanned journey into astrology, sparked by her first birth chart reading
Bringing the ‘woo’ of astrology into a logical, business-driven world
The difference between horoscopes and astrology
Unpacking the historical skepticism and gender discrimination that astrology has faced
How astrology can be a practical tool for women in midlife to make decisions, plan ahead, and design a life aligned with their values
Understanding astrology’s personal archetypes to help identify strengths and areas for growth

Take the I*AM Quiz, find out if you’re an Innovator, Authority or Maven: https://astrostyle.com/astrology-advantage/iam-archetype-quiz/

OUR GUEST: Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are top astrologers and intuitive advisors, serving clients like Beyoncé, Dua Lipa, and Emma Roberts. As resident astrologers for ELLE Magazine and authors of over 20 books, they’ve guided CEOs, celebrities, and entrepreneurs worldwide. They've appeared on Bravo, MTV, Good Morning America, and the Today Show, and created the astrology-based dating show Cosmic Love (Amazon Prime Video, 2022). Their new book, The Astrology Advantage (Simon & Schuster, 2024), introduces their IAM System, which simplifies astrology into three archetypes. The AstroTwins have taught thousands through their platform and retreats.

Want more Ophira? Find her online at astrostyle.com and buy her book THE ASTROLOGY ADVANTAGE: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success

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Exploring Non-Monogamy and Getting Kinky with CJ Oct 03, 2024

“How much fun can we have and what is that going to do for us as we age?”

In this milestone 100th episode of Hotter Than Ever, we’re celebrating not only the podcast's journey but also the incredible community it has built around redefining midlife for women. To mark this special occasion, we’re thrilled to present an extraordinary conversation with CJ. CJ isn’t just a kink and non-monogamy coach; she’s an inspiring guide helping Gen X women embrace erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. With certifications as a sex coach, life coach, and cuddle facilitator (!), CJ’s transformation from living a conventional life to embracing a kinky, non-monogamous lifestyle that meets her sexual and emotional needs is a great example of what is possible when we learn and pursue what we want.

Get ready for an eye-opening and liberating discussion on sexual expression, breaking free from conventional relationship molds, and reclaiming your desires in the second half of life. Tune in as we explore:

CJ's evolution from a serial monogamist to a liberated non-monogamous lifestyle.
The vital role of sex and intimacy in personal well-being and relationship health.
How divorce can offer the freedom to reclaim time, identity, and pleasure.
Navigating kink, BDSM, fetish, and jealousy in relationships.
The power of setting and respecting boundaries in both polyamorous and monogamous relationships.
Rediscovering pleasure in your body and creating experiences that make you feel sexy and desired in midlife.
Why midlife is the perfect time to explore new aspects of your sexuality, whether it's trying kink, exploring bisexuality, or finding new ways to experience pleasure.

OUR GUEST: CJ is a kink and non-monogamy coach and mentor who is all about liberating sexual expression and cultivating new pleasure palates. She gets off on debunking the myths around female aging, desire and desirability as well as talking about the taboo. She loves welcoming Gen X women into alternative pleasures and lifestyles so that they can experience erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. She is a Certified Sex Coach, Life Coach and Cuddle Facilitator and has lived a transformational kinky, non-monogamous life for the past 8 years.

Want more CJ? Find her online at https://www.noshamewithcj.com/ and listen to her podcast ‘No Shame with CJ’

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What The Golden Girls Teaches Us About Aging Well with Dr. Maria Carpiac Sep 26, 2024

It’s no secret that our culture often presents aging in a negative light, particularly for women, leaving many of us uncertain or even fearful about life beyond 40, 50 or (god forbid), 60. But one iconic sitcom has challenged these stereotypes with humor, heart, and authenticity: The Golden Girls. For Maria Carpiac, a professor of Gerontology at California State University, Long Beach, and an advocate for healthy aging, The Golden Girls offers a shining example of how we can view aging with optimism and a sense of humor.

In this episode, Erin and Maria explore the complexities of aging, highlighting the importance of community, jou, and adaptability in leading a fulfilling life, with insights from The Golden Girls. From Blue Zones to finding purpose as we age, this conversation reveals how we can all live longer, healthier, and more meaningful lives—no matter what stage we're in. Tune in as we explore:

How to embrace aging instead of fearing it—it’s a journey we all share!
Why "anti-aging" is a myth, and why the focus should be on aging well.
The key elements of healthy aging: community, stress management, nutrition, and movement.
Creative housing solutions like communal living and co-housing to foster supportive, connected communities as we age.
How the media shapes our perceptions of aging and why The Golden Girls still resonates, even in today’s TV landscape.
Exploring the Japanese concept of "ikigai" (reason for being) and its role in aging well.
Why retirement isn’t just about money—it’s about staying engaged and connected.
The dangers of conflating normal aging with disease, and how healthcare biases affect aging women.

OUR GUEST: Dr. Maria Carpiac is a Professor of Gerontology and Director of the Gerontology Program at California State University, Long Beach. She holds a BA, MSW, and PhD in Social Work from UCLA, specializing in Older Adults. A Fellow of the Academy of Gerontology in Higher Education (AGHE), Dr. Carpiac teaches courses such as Social Policy & Aging and Women and Aging. Her research focuses on holistic health programs for assisted living and Age Friendly Universities (AFU). Under her leadership, CSULB joined the AFU Global Network, and the Gerontology Program received Program of Merit distinction in 2020.

Want more Dr. Carpiac? Learn more about her Gerontology program at www.csulb.edu/gerontology

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Getting Practical About Money Sep 19, 2024

As “Hotter Than Ever” nears its 100th episode, we’re reflecting on the impact this podcast has had since launching a year and a half ago, and the steps needed to elevate its vision to new heights.

Join Erin as she candidly shares the realities of transitioning from a financially stable corporate life to the entrepreneurial hustle. This episode is about peeling back the layers of how Erin is supporting the show, the internal struggles she faces as an entrepreneur, and the financial realities that come with following your passion. We dive into:

The challenges of self-funding as an entrepreneur, while navigating financial uncertainties and the practicalities of being a single Mom.
Confronting and counteracting that harsh inner critic that tells us we’re not enough.
How to confidently present your expertise and tangible skills to pave the next steps in your journey.
Honoring slow growth and the organic process of building something meaningful amidst a fast-paced, instant results culture.
Practical steps to generate additional income while growing your passion project into a business.

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Finding Success in Business and Love in Your 40s with Osea's Melissa Palmer Sep 12, 2024

If you’re searching for proof that our most successful chapters can unfold in midlife, look no further than Melissa Palmer, co-founder and CEO of the skincare brand Osea. While Melissa and her mother launched Osea 28 years ago, it wasn’t until year 20 that their business truly skyrocketed. And as her career soared, Melissa also found the most significant relationship of her life, showing us that midlife can truly be a time of profound rewards and joy.

In this episode, we dive into Melissa’s unique entrepreneurial path and the empowerment that comes with embracing change. It’s a reminder that age doesn’t put a limit on reinvention, personal growth, or love. Tune in as we discuss:

The dynamics of building a business alongside your mother and how trusting each other’s strengths creates balance.
Why success is as much about persistence, patience, and luck as it is hard work.
The invaluable perspective women over 40 bring to professional spaces.
Trusting your intuition and standing firm in your choices—even when others disagree.
Redefining “anti-aging” as focusing on feeling strong, agile, and confident as you grow older.
Why midlife dating and relationships can be especially fulfilling, free from the pressures of earlier stages of life.
Embracing change, reinvention, and staying open to new opportunities, even in established careers and lives.

OUR GUEST: Melissa Palmer is the Co-Founder and Chief Executive Officer at OSEA. Melissa was previously CEO of Hoopnotica, the industry leader in hula-hoop fitness. Since 2016 she’s been the CEO of OSEA and continues to lead the company today. Melissa was recently named EY Entrepreneur of the Year 2024 Greater Los Angeles. If you can’t reach Melissa she’s most likely swimming in the ocean.

Want more Melissa & Osea? Check out Osea online at https://oseamalibu.com and use code “Hotter Than Ever” on oceamalibu.com to get 10% off of their amazing products.

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Facebook: @oseamalibu
LinkedIn: @melissa-clair-palmer
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Men, Divorce, Anger and Designing Our Ideal Lives with Producer Erica Sep 05, 2024

“I’m in a phase of my life where I want to f*cking shine. I do not want to shrink.”

Sometimes we just need to admit we’re mad. While society may not always make space for women's anger, when we reflect on the challenges we face today, it can be hard not to feel it. Why do women still carry the heaviest load of care in relationships? Why are we still criticized for our ambition and judged for maintaining our independence?

In today’s conversation, producer Erica joins us as we dive into these questions and more. We’re not holding back, and we’re definitely in our feels. Here’s what we’re unpacking:

Why women often bear the emotional labor in relationships, managing not just their own feelings but also the well-being and self-esteem of their partners.
How patriarchy’s grip leaves women shouldering more at home, even in seemingly progressive partnerships.
How the very traits that make women successful— independence, competence, and resilience— can be weaponized against us.
Freeing ourselves to express anger to mitigate the build up of stress and resentment.
Re-examining our relationships with men—not just as wives and mothers, but as individuals who deserve care and support too.
Exploring financial freedom, communal living, and the pursuit of independence.
The challenge of finding emotionally intelligent partners who respect boundaries.

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How to Light Your Brain Up with Pleasure with Dr. Nan Wise Aug 29, 2024

“We need to understand that pleasure is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for sending good signals back to the brain.”

When Dr. Nan Wise had a panic attack at just 21 years old, it sparked her lifelong fascination with the brain. Today, as a seasoned behavioral neuroscientist and sex therapist, Dr. Nan is at the forefront of research exploring the deep connection between sex, pleasure, and brain health, particularly as we age. Her studies have uncovered the vital role that orgasms play in boosting oxygen flow to the brain, underscoring the critical role pleasure plays in our overall well-being.

Join Erin and Dr. Nan for an eye-opening conversation about the transformative power of pleasure and how it can help us cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others as we grow older.

Pleasure isn't a luxury—it's essential for a healthy brain and maintaining well-being.
Why many women experience better sex as they age
Unpacking elements of modern life that diminish our ability to experience genuine pleasure.
The importance of engaging in pleasurable activities for managing anxiety, depression, and stress.
Why active sexual desire isn't necessary for a healthy sex life
Tips to maintaining and ‘rebooting’ long-term relationships
Cultivating an attuned relationship with your body and the things that bring you pleasure

OUR GUEST: Dr. Nan Wise is a licensed psychotherapist, cognitive neuroscientist, certified sex therapist, and clinical hypnotherapist with 30 years of experience. Motivated by a deep curiosity about the brain's role in shaping moods and behaviors, she earned a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience from Rutgers-Newark in 2014. Her research, particularly her fMRI study on female orgasm, has filled critical gaps in understanding the neural basis of human sexuality, attracting international recognition. Dr. Nan’s journey is rooted in both personal and professional experiences, having faced anxiety from a young age and turning her challenges into a lifelong pursuit of emotional well-being.

Want more Dr. Nan? Find her online and get a free consultation at https://askdoctornan.com and read her book Why Good Sex Matters. Follow her on:

Instagram: @askdoctornan
X/Twitter: @askdoctornan
Facebook: @AskDoctorNan

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Making Room for Women's Voices in Hollywood with Melissa Silverstein Aug 22, 2024

If you’ve ever paid attention to female representation in Hollywood or the push for more women filmmakers in entertainment, you’ve likely encountered the work of Melissa Silverstein. As the founder of Women and Hollywood, one of the pioneering platforms advocating for gender diversity in the film industry, Melissa has been a driving force in this movement. She also co-founded the Athena Film Festival, a celebration of female-driven films, established the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives, and hosts the podcast In Her Voice, which offers a behind-the-scenes look at women who make films. A true trailblazer, Melissa has dedicated decades to elevating women and their stories and is now turning the page to focus on her own creative journey.

Join Erin and Melissa as they delve into the importance of creating spaces that spotlight women’s stories and explore the opportunities that arise from challenging the status quo—especially the patriarchy. We discuss:

The ongoing struggle for women’s stories and representation in the film industry.
The crucial role of women behind the camera in bringing authentic, diverse narratives to the forefront of entertainment.
Why it’s essential to see women, especially women of color, in powerful on-screen roles to shift societal attitudes and dismantle patriarchal structures.
Expanding the conversation on gender representation in media to include trans and non-binary voices.
The ongoing challenges of getting women’s stories made in Hollywood and the importance of women investing in and supporting each other's projects.
The current disruption in the media industry and how it creates an opportunity to develop new storytelling models for women over 40.

OUR GUEST: Melissa Silverstein is the founder of Women and Hollywood and the Artistic Director and Co-Founder of The Athena Film Festival at Barnard College. She is also the founder of the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives.

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After The Rubble: Inventing Your Next Chapter with Producer Erica Aug 16, 2024

“I want you to know what your options are at this point in your life.”

In this special episode, we’re breaking from our usual format to bring Hotter Than Ever producer, Erica, out from behind the scenes for a candid conversation with Erin about the podcast's journey and it’s future. Inspired by thoughtful feedback from our hottie listeners and Erin’s reflections during this ‘slow-roll summer,’ we’re diving into Erin’s evolving views on midlife, personal transformation, and the unique challenges and opportunities facing women over 40 as we navigate this uncharted chapter of life.

While the road ahead is filled with uncertainty, one thing remains clear: Hotter Than Ever is committed to offering our community not coaching or self-help advice, but a variety of possibilities for thriving in midlife and beyond. Join us as we discuss the themes and ideas that have shaped this podcast and will drive its next evolution, including:

The myth of “having it all,” its impact on women, and why a stronger support system and equal distribution of labor are essential.
The feminization of wealth and the potential for women to increasingly step into their power.
Unpacking the systemic nature of the stresses and challenges women face in midlife.
Embracing the unknown and discovering new ways to live, even without a clear precedent or roadmap.
Reconnecting with the joie de vivre of youth, while harnessing the wisdom and experience that comes with midlife.
Why being in community is vital for our emotional and social well-being.
What’s next for Hotter Than Ever: a book, live events, stand-up comedy, filmed episodes, partnerships, and more!

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Everything is a Love Problem and Only You Can Solve It with Sheri Salata (Re-Air) Aug 08, 2024

As part of our ‘slow roll summer’ on Hotter Than Ever, we’re revisiting one of our favorite early conversations with Oprah dynasty legend, author, producer and transformation doula Sheri Salata.

In this episode, we explore self-love and renegotiating what life looks like after you’ve achieved your wildest dreams (hint: it’s not over!). We unpack what it means to focus on yourself beyond your work, and what happens when we choose to step out from behind the curtain and into the spotlight. Join us as we discuss:

The price of amassing conventional success and achievements, and how that factors into our self worth
Learning how to steward your own wellbeing and ascend beyond people pleasing
Recovering from self betrayal–in the many forms it takes–and learning how to have your own back
What it means to choose discomfort in order to continue evolving, releasing, healing and upleveling, until our very last breath
Getting over the shame that comes with the desire to be front and center, and to have a public voice and presence
Overcoming chronic dissatisfaction and learning to appreciate the time you have left in this world (and start using it to its fullest)
Knowing that you can’t complain your way to the life of your dreams. Our actions are completely informed by the stories we tell ourselves, so start telling yourself an incredible story and get going!

Free for Hotter Than Ever listeners! Check out Sheri’s Change 10 Words Workbook using this link.

OUR GUEST: Sheri Salata is an author, world class producer and transformation doula. She is the founder + CEO of The Support System, a global membership group for women dedicated to creating real-life transformation. Sheri’s memoir, The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation is an Amazon Editor’s Choice Best Memoir and an Apple Must-Listen audio book. Sheri spent 20 years in the land of Oprah finishing that glorious run as the final Executive Producer of The Oprah Winfrey Show, President of Harpo Studios and President of OWN as captured in the cable hit series Season 25: Oprah Behind The Scenes. Learn more about “The Support System,” Sheri’s global membership group for women empowerment through this link. Check out her incredible memoir, “The Beautiful No” here.

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Inner Beauty and Aging in Hollywood with Makeup Artist Molly R. Stern Aug 01, 2024

In a world where beauty standards are constantly evolving and societal pressures can feel overwhelming, makeup artist Molly R. Stern brings a refreshing perspective to the conversation. With a career spanning over two decades and a client list that includes some of Hollywood's most iconic faces, Molly has witnessed firsthand the struggles women face with self-perception and the impact of the beauty industry on mental well-being. In this candid and insightful episode Erin and Molly dive deep into the complexities of beauty, aging, and self-love.

Join us for an eye-opening discussion as Molly shares her wisdom on navigating the beauty industry while staying true to oneself. We explore:

Why negative self-talk is so pervasive among women, regardless of fame, wealth, or appearance and the importance of shifting towards self-love and acceptance.
The role of societal pressures and marketing in creating insecurity, and how to combat these influences.
Molly's approach to her work as a makeup artist: prioritizing making her clients feel good about themselves and focusing on their individual needs and empowerment.
The changing ideals of beauty over time and the importance of being inspired rather than emulating unattainable standards.
The impact of the body positivity movement, and the rise of weight loss drugs on beauty standards.
Practical beauty tips, including self-massage and nurturing skincare routines as acts of self-love and self-care.

OUR GUEST: For over 30 years, Molly R. Stern has been a trusted artist and influencer in Hollywood with an engaged social media audience of over 60K followers. Molly has been recognized with numerous industry accolades. She was awarded Makeup Artist of the Year at the prestigious Hollywood Style Awards, and her outstanding makeup on the acclaimed HBO series Big Little Lies was nominated twice for an Emmy. A couture piece from her cult apparel line, m.r.s, was selected for the Goddess exhibition at the Costume Institute of the Metropolitan Museum of Art. The stunning makeup Molly created for the Disney blockbuster film, A Wrinkle In Time, was immortalized in a collectible signature Barbie doll line by toy manufacturer Mattel. Her #LOVEyourself mantra led to the collaboration with renowned jewelry brand Sarah Chloe. Molly resides in Los Angeles, CA with her husband, 3 children and 2 dogs.

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Getting Good at Handling Change Jul 25, 2024

“The job of life is to get good at change, because it never stops.”

Why do so many of us resist change instead of embracing it? For our host Erin, life over the past few years has become almost unrecognizable, but in the best way possible. In this episode, she takes us through her journey of navigating and thriving through these shifts. From battling COVID to a complete lifestyle overhaul, Erin explores the evolving landscape of her life and what it means to fully embrace change.

Join Erin as she recounts her experiences of significant personal and professional changes, emerging stronger, more self-assured, and more connected to her desires. We discuss:

Dismantling the "boxes" society places around us: work, marriage, motherhood
Staying connected to your desires and being open to new experiences, from romantic adventures to deepening friendships.
Practical ways to actually ‘thrive in ambiguity’ and embrace the inevitability of change.
Lessons from various life phases, from parenthood to navigating modern dating.
Ways to identify and let go of dynamics and situations that no longer serve you, and embrace new, enriching experiences.

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4 Ways That Covid Changed Absolutely Everything with Lori Hamilton Jul 18, 2024

“I'm striving for excellence, but I'm not pretending to be perfect anymore.”

The Covid-19 pandemic was a watershed moment of change for everyone, reshaping both personal and professional lives. For our host Erin, it catalyzed her divorce and sparked a career pivot that led to the birth of “Hotter Than Ever”. But what major trends emerged post-pandemic that are now influencing how we navigate our next chapters—midlife and beyond?

To explore this, we’re joined by Lori Hamilton, an award-winning writer, director, performer, and insights expert. In this episode, Lori delves into her research, highlighting how the pandemic prompted a reassessment of our relationship with work, redefined our notions of success, and emphasized the value of authentic connections. Erin and Lori also discuss the joy and fulfillment that come from identifying and pursuing your unique talents and finding work that aligns with your core values, moving beyond the pursuit of perfection.

Join us as we embrace authenticity and explore:

Recognizing and pursuing your true gifts rather than forcing yourself into roles that don’t fit.
Balancing corporate work with artistic endeavors for a more fulfilling career.
How sharing vulnerabilities can enhance our well-being and relationships.
Post-COVID corporate dynamics and the efforts made to shift from perfectionism to authenticity and genuine care in the workplace.
The importance of aligning your relationship with your employer to your personal values.
Focusing on relationships and activities that bring true joy and fulfillment, and setting boundaries with those that do not.
Prioritizing environments that appreciate and value your contributions.

OUR GUEST: Lori Hamilton is an award-winning writer, director, performer, and creator with 69 awards for creative excellence, including 28 for short films. Her work includes Project Spudway, a take off of Project Runway with animated potatoes, to Landalor Industries, a serious corporate satire, to North Star (or what I listened to instead of my intuition), a one-woman show from the Edinburgh Fringe Festival, to 150+ short films, comedy bits, TV pilots and feature film scripts.

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Juggling Creative Careers and Motherhood with comedian Ophira Eisenberg Jul 11, 2024

Navigating modern life as a working mother and a creative professional is no small feat. In this episode, we dig deep into comedian and Mom Ophira Eisenberg's journey through comedy, storytelling, and podcasting. Ophira, a multi-talented comic, storyteller, and host of the podcast "Parenting is a Joke," shares her captivating story with humor, and recounts the diverse roles she has embraced to carve out a meaningful career all while juggling motherhood and beating back toxic positivity culture, one post-it note at a time.

Join us for an insightful conversation as Erin and Ophira explore:

How career pivots can lead to greater professional success
The challenges of balancing career ambitions with motherhood
The need for realistic, tangible support for working mothers
How societal systems often place the burden of systemic issues on individuals, especially working mothers
Unpacking the cultural shift towards positivity and gratitude, and the negative impact of the commercialization of wellness practices targeted at women
The importance of creating space for real, honest humanity and actionable support for one another
The ongoing journey of self-care, setting boundaries, and the liberation that comes from learning to say "no"

OUR GUEST: Ophira Eisenberg is a standup comedian, writer, and host of the award-winning podcast Parenting Is A Joke. She also hosted NPR’s Ask Me Another, interviewing and playing games with celebrities like Neil Patrick Harris, Rosie Perez, and Awkwafina. Ophira has appeared on CBS’s The Late Late Show, Sherri!, Comedy Central, HBO, and The Moth Radio Hour. Her memoir, Screw Everyone: Sleeping My Way to Monogamy, was optioned for TV, and her comedy special, Plant-Based Jokes, is streaming on YouTube. She performs regularly at The Comedy Cellar and other New York clubs, and her solo show, Leaving A Mark: A Comedy About Scars, won the Women in the Arts & Media Award for Solo Show Scripts.

Want more Ophira? Find her online at https://www.ophiraeisenberg.com/ and listen to her podcast Parenting is a Joke. Follow her on:

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Your Authenticity is Your Secret Weapon with Kim Rittberg Jul 04, 2024

“Every single person is special, but most of us are too afraid to show up in the world and let them see how special we are.”

In a world that often values polished presentations and corporate facades, finding and maintaining authenticity in professional and personal settings can feel like a daunting task. Yet, it's precisely this authenticity and vulnerability that can create genuine connections and drive impactful change. Kim Rittberg, a former media executive who took the brave step to become her own boss, joins Erin in this episode to dive deep into the power of bringing your authentic self to every situation.

Join us for an insightful and candid conversation as Kim and Erin how embracing vulnerability and being true to oneself can lead to richer, more meaningful interactions and greater professional success. We discuss:

Kim’s decision to leave a successful corporate corporate life to see more control over life and career.
Transitioning into entrepreneurship and how to recognize and lean into your unique skills and strengths.
How authenticity and being true to oneself enhances not only your professional success, but personal connections.
The importance of integrating vulnerability into your professional life and how to bring (almost) your whole self to work.
Why more women feel imposter syndrome and why it’s important to validate your place in these spaces.
Reshma Saujani’s *Smith College commencement speech about imposter syndrome: Imposter Syndrome Is A Scheme: Reshma Saujani’s Smith College Commencement Address
Shifting your mindset to prioritize your goals and message over the fear of displeasing others.

OUR GUEST: Kim Rittberg is a 6x award-winning digital marketer who teaches business owners and brands how to grow leads and revenue through video and podcasts, bringing 20 years of media experience from Netflix, PopSugar and TV News. She launched the first ever video unit for Us Weekly (which sold for $100 million). She’s been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Fast Company and is a national speaker. She hosts the podcast The Exit Interview with Kim Rittberg for self-employed folks to grow their business, every Friday is a 5-minute marketing tip and Wednesday amazing founders share inspiration and actionable tips.

Want more Kim? Find her online at https://www.kimrittberg.com and listen to The Exit Interview with Kim Rittberg. Follow her on:

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How To Attract Epic Love with Lilli Bewley Jun 27, 2024

"It's in vulnerability and self-love that we find our true strength."

If you've been tuning into Hotter Than Ever, you know that while our host Erin offers plenty of dating advice, especially for those re-entering the scene after a marriage, her aim isn’t necessarily to find love herself. But regardless of whether you're skeptical about love or seeking it with all your heart, you'll enjoy this conversation with Lilli Bewley. Lilli is a dating coach, teacher, author and host of the Lilly Bewley podcast, with a mission to help 1 million people find true love in their lifetime. In this episode, Erin and Lili delve into the complexities of modern dating through the empowering lens of the goddess archetype, transforming how women view themselves and their relationships.

Join us as we explore embodying confidence, self-love, and actionable steps every woman can take to attract epic love. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their relationships, improve their dating experiences, and gain a deeper understanding of themselves. Together, we delve into:

The power of the goddess archetype in enriching women's self-improvement and dating journeys
Strategies for healing perfectionism and control, opening oneself to vulnerability and honest communication
The significance of emotional availability in partners and the role of past trauma in shaping relationship dynamics
Personal stories of setting boundaries, fostering understanding, and creating healthy, supportive partnerships
Different archetypes of women—chill woman, fortress woman, goddess woman, and magnetic woman—and the path to becoming a magnetic woman
The mirror effect in relationships, reflecting our internal states externally, and the importance of inner healing work
Practical insights on overcoming the fear of being "too much" and embracing self-love and confidence in dating and life

OUR GUEST: Lilli Bewley is a Dating Coach for Finding Love with over 10 years of experience in personal development. She, herself, went from just surviving in life to thriving in love & purpose. Currently, she is helping single & successful women love dating & find true love. Lilli is on a mission to educate people on how dating can be fun again after a divorce, even in their 30s & 40s & 50s, & even if they’ve been single for forever. We have the ability to create magnetic energy in our dating lives even if we have to perform & be high achievers in other parts of our lives. Her signature Quiz, The Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz, will show women their blocks to love & help them find their true love match.

Want more Lilli? Find her online at https://www.lillibewley.com/ and listen to the Lilli Bewley Podcast. Follow her on:

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Advertising for Women Over 40, Made By Women Over 40! with Katie Keating Jun 20, 2024

Despite the fact that women make 85% of household buying decisions, the majority of women over 40 report feeling largely overlooked by the advertising industry. Even more striking, 82% of women in a recent survey felt cooler, stronger, and sexier than they ever expected at this age—so why aren’t advertisers targeting them? Enter Katie Keating, the founder and Co-Chief Creative Officer of Fancy LLC, a 100% women-owned advertising agency. Katie and Fancy’s mission is not only to create impactful work targeting women—especially those in midlife—but also to provide a work environment where women can thrive.

Join us for an enlightening and empowering conversation as Erin and Katie delve into reshaping how women are viewed and spoken to in the world of advertising, and embracing their power as consumers and entrepreneurs. We discuss:

How women are often relegated to female-centric products in advertising, like beauty and women’s health.
Katie’s founding of Fancy LLC to tackle the gender disparity in advertising and create an agency where women can balance their careers and personal lives.
Why traditional advertisers often ignore women over 40, despite their significant role in household purchasing.
Approaching “taboo” subjects in advertising to better connect with women over 40.
How social media platforms restrict advertisements related to women's health and sexual pleasure, perpetuating taboos.
How cultural resistance to discussing salaries and finances hinders women's economic empowerment.
Strategies for advertising to women about aging, cannabis, and mental health.
The positive impact and empowerment that occurs when women control financial resources.

OUR GUEST: Katie Keating is recognized as one of Adweek’s Creative 100, and a snappy, strategic, and seasoned Creative Director empowering brands to create meaningful, motivating connections with women—setting the stage for long-term brand loyalty and revenue growth. Katie co-founded Fancy in 2011 to change the way advertising works for women. Entrepreneurial in spirit and in practice and a hands-on leader who values collaboration with both clients and partner agencies, Katie’s is a contributor to Adweek, Ad Age, and Campaign. She loves a spontaneous dance party.

Want more Katie? Find her and Fancy LLC online at https://www.fancynyc.com. Follow her on:

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Advice: How Do I Juggle Dating Several Guys at the Same Time? Jun 18, 2024

“Are you being compulsive and chasing that dopamine hit of likes and matches like you're one of Pavlov's dogs?”

Dating apps can be exhilarating, especially when exploring new connections for the first time after leaving a marriage. But what if swiping has left you with so many matches that managing them feels overwhelming? In this episode, Erin responds to a listener’s dilemma of balancing multiple matches, by offering practical advice on managing dating app usage, staying honest with matches, and not worrying about losing the "good ones" as the right connections will stick.

Join us as we discuss:

Limiting your time on dating apps to avoid feeling overwhelmed and compulsive.
Being upfront with your dates about seeing multiple people to manage expectations.
Prioritizing the matches you're most excited about to maintain balance in your schedule.
Taking breaks to maintain your well-being if dating becomes too stressful.
How the right connections will persist; those meant for you won't be scared away by honesty or a slow pace.
Staying present and enjoying the dating process without the pressure of immediate serious relationships.

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Why We Need Adult Sex Ed with Dr. Kelly Casperson Jun 13, 2024

For many women who’ve never had an orgasm, it’s easy to feel like there’s something wrong or that they’re broken, a sentiment shared by many of Dr. Kelly Casperson’s patients. However, as urologist and star podcaster Dr. Casperson explains in our latest episode, the issue isn’t with women—it’s our lack of good sex education. This lack hinders women’s ability to experience pleasure, which is why over 10% of women report never having had an orgasm. This issue is particularly pronounced in midlife, where menopause and societal stigmas leave many women feeling abandoned in their sexuality.

Join us as Erin and Dr. Casperson guide you through your own adult sex ed class, busting myths about female sexuality, diving into hormonal balance, discussing how to express your sexual needs, and showing you how to reclaim your sexual health and well-being at any age.

Debunking myths and misconceptions about female health, libido, and sexuality, which are often understudied and not discussed.
How tuning into your inner voice can lead to a more passionate, truthful life.
Unlocking the secrets of estrogen and testosterone for better sex and overall health.
The impact of unrealistic media portrayals of sex on women’s self-perception and satisfaction.
How open conversations about sex can boost pleasure, connection, and intimacy.
Why we need a sex education revolution to replace porn as a go-to resource, helping close the orgasm gap for mutual pleasure.
How sex toys can help you discover what you really want and what gives you pleasure.

Read the paper discussed in the episode The heteronormative theory of low sexual desire in women partnered with men.

OUR GUEST: Dr. Kelly Casperson is a certified urologist, surgeon entrepreneur, Tedx speaker, author, and top international podcaster with "You Are Not Broken." Her book, "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over Your Sex Life" is an Amazon best seller. She has a dynamic speaking presence and is proud to speak on female pelvic health, sexual wellness, and genitourinary symptoms of menopause to educate and empower individuals to take control of their bodies and health care options.

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Advice: Should I Give This Guy a Second Chance? Jun 11, 2024

Getting your needs met is hot. What’s not hot is when your emotional or physical needs (or both!) are neglected. One listener is grappling with this issue, questioning whether to give a man a second chance after a real first date fail, especially as she navigates dating after a sexless marriage.

In this episode, Erin is drawing from her own experiences and shares the importance of prioritizing our own needs and self-worth in casual dating, and to avoid settling for less than you deserve. Join us as we discuss:

Prioritizing emotional care and connection in addition to physical intimacy
Trusting your instincts and prioritizing your well-being, particularly if an encounter leaves you feeling empty or degraded.
Communicating your needs and being prepared to move on if they're not met.
Recognizing your worth and refusing to accept poor treatment, even in casual relationships.

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How to Feel Less Exhaustion and More Joy with Victoria Albina Jun 06, 2024

“It's only when we come into the body that we can start to see our thoughts.”

In the age of the internet and social media, we're constantly bombarded with pseudoscientific wellness trends that promise quick fixes for every aspect of our mental well-being. Beneath the noise, there exists a grounded, science-based, and holistic approach to wellness, exemplified by Victoria Albina. Victoria is a family nurse practitioner, breathwork meditation guide, life coach, and host of the "Feminist Wellness Podcast." Her mission is to empower women to become their own best healers, enabling them to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and to reclaim their joy. This is what being Hotter Than Ever is all about.

Join us for a fascinating conversation as Victoria guides us through the importance of getting deeper in touch with our bodies through feminist wellness, understanding the nervous system, and utilizing somatic practices. We discuss:

Intersectional feminism and the importance of considering the whole person to understand their unique experiences and needs in wellness
The connection between the nervous system and mental wellness, and how past traumas and emotional experiences affect current well-being.
How emotional outsourcing and feeling unsafe in our bodies can lead to chronic stress in women, making it difficult to unwind and relax
Practical somatic practices to calm the nervous system and how these differ from healing practices
Why self-love is so challenging to cultivate in a world driven by external approval, and how somatic practices can help foster it
How visualization can be used as a technique for healing, allowing us to alter our neural pathways

OUR GUEST: Victoria Albina (she/they) is a Certified Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping women realize that they are their own best healers, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley.

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How I Learned to Flirt Jun 04, 2024

Are you a natural flirt, or do you consider yourself clueless when it comes to flirting or recognizing when you’re being flirted with? Our host Erin has experienced the entire spectrum, from being oblivious to flirting—both as a single and married woman—to embracing it as a powerful form of self-expression and connection post-divorce. In this episode, Erin shares how flirting has transformed the little moments in her life, whether she’s at Trader Joe’s or the DMV, making her feel more alive, seen, and engaged with the world.

Join us for fun stories and advice on letting your own light shine through flirting, including:

Embracing flirting as a source of joy and self-expression
Projecting playful, open energy that invites connection and new interactions with others
How practicing flirtation actively defies the stereotype that women in their fifties are invisible
Making small efforts to let your sparkle show, engage with others, and soak in the fun and freedom that come with it

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Choosing Mediation over Divorce When You Know It's Over with Paulette Rigo May 30, 2024

Half of marriages these days end in divorce, but did you know that 73% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode we’re joined by Paulette Rigo, a credentialed private mediator and certified divorce coach, whose mission is to help couples avoid court and navigate their divorces more amicably. Paulette endured a grueling divorce litigation process that spanned nearly 10 years. Now, she is determined to use the insights from her experience to ensure no one else gets trapped in a similar situation.

Join us as Erin and Paulette take an honest and hard look at the evolving landscape of marriage and divorce for women in midlife, offering a compassionate and comprehensive guide to navigating divorce. We discuss:

Why women are initiating the majority of divorces and no longer see marriage as a prerequisite.
Insights from Paulette’s personal journey from marrying young to enduring an extensive legal battle during her divorce.
The importance of mediation to resolve divorces more peacefully and cost-effectively, and why most divorces can be settled through alternative dispute resolution methods.
The 21 reasons couples divorce and how to determine whether divorce is right for you or if the issues you’re facing in your marriage are something you can work on.
How to avoid involving your children in marital conflicts and maintain a stable and loving environment through divorce.
The importance of understanding marriage laws in your state, as they significantly impact the divorce process.

OUR GUEST: Paulette Rigo is a Credentialed Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, High Conflict Specialist, Trauma-Informed Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist, Book Writing Coach, Speaker, Host and Author. Her best selling release “Better Divorce Blueprint” the Book and Workbook, No Matter What card deck, Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast, All Things Divorce on Clubhouse, Best Life Ever Private Island Retreats and Better Divorce Academy are tools she created and utilizes to help her clients create an optimal divorce experience even with high-conflict personalities and build the new chapter they deserve and desire.

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'The Idea of You' is Midlife Rom Com Candy May 28, 2024

“Thank God for representations of real sex on screen.”

A 40-year-old woman and an unbelievably hot 24-year-old man get together for an unexpected, steamy romance? Sign us up! It’s no wonder why everyone has been asking Erin what she thinks of the new movie “The Idea of You”, released earlier this year. In this episode, Erin breaks down the film and shares her thoughts on why this story, and the representation of romance between an older woman and a younger man, matters in today’s cultural landscape.

Join us as we explore the emotional truths the film reveals about love, vulnerability, and the enduring allure of a good love story. We discuss:

The importance of stories featuring older women finding love and happiness in our media
The realness and magic the film portrays of letting your heart lead you, despite its ‘Hollywood-ized’ nature.
Why romcoms and romance are still important in today’s culture–they remind us of what’s possible in our own lives

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How To Have Hot Sex for Life with Susan Bratton May 23, 2024

It’s no secret that many women don’t enjoy having sex. But the problem isn’t the women: it’s the sex we’re shown in the media and porn, which is dominated by patriarchal ideas and largely ignores women's pleasure. Amidst this dearth of sexual satisfaction for women emerges Susan Bratton, an intimacy expert and advocate for lifelong intimacy and passion. Susan has helped countless clients and readers of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion, proving that we can all embody being Hotter Than Ever.

In today’s episode, Susan shares her valuable insights on transforming sexual experiences, maintaining sexual health and enjoyment as we age, embracing authenticity in intimate relationships, and more. We discuss:

The importance of enjoying pleasure and sexuality throughout life and normalizing the sexuality of older women
Tips and techniques for transforming sex into heart-connected conscious lovemaking
Addressing cultural myths that prioritize male pleasure, and encouraging men to understand and fulfill their partner’s needs for a mutually satisfying experience
Practical advice on reversing sexual atrophy and maintaining sexual health and vitality into older age
How estrogen impacts body image and the need for more diverse and realistic representations of pleasure in media
The benefits of unconventional relationship structures and polyamory to fulfill different needs
How women and men can support each other in fulfilling our sexual desires

OUR GUEST: Susan Bratton, known as the "trusted intimacy wellness expert to millions,” is the co-founder and CEO of two companies in the intimate wellness space and an author and publisher of 44 books. She manufactures supplements and publishes online courses on lifelong relationship health. Her expertise includes ageless sexuality, sexual biohacking, libido supplementation, and sexual regenerative therapies. A sought-after speaker, Susan has appeared on numerous podcasts, radio shows, and TV segments worldwide, including CBS, The CW, and NBC.

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Vulnerability Is So Hard! May 21, 2024

“I am willing to take on the uncomfortable feelings that it takes to be vulnerable. Are you?”

When you’ve been raised as a fiercely independent Gen X-er and have been hurt by men in relationships (who hasn’t?), everything tells you not to be vulnerable. But in reflecting on her personal journey post-divorce, Erin shares how her efforts to become more emotionally open have transformed her relationships. In this episode, Erin is renewing her commitment to break free from old patterns and embrace vulnerability, even if it means facing discomfort and potential heartbreak.

Whether you’ve had your heart broken or have built up emotional defenses over the years, this episode is a reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength. Join us as we discuss:

The importance of being emotionally open and how it can deepen friendships and relationships
How being raised to be independent and past romantic betrayals shaped a reluctance to be vulnerable
The ways in which fear of vulnerability manifests and how to break these patterns through practice
Why taking risks with your heart is essential for growth and fulfillment

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You're Not Too F***ing Old! with Jen Marples May 16, 2024

“You're worthy of the life that you can envision for yourself.”

When Jen Marples found herself unable to muster the energy to get out of bed, it was a stark wake-up call. A true go-getter, she had carved out a stellar career in marketing and PR, even launching her own thriving business, all while married with three children. Yet, amidst all of the success and achievements, she realized she had neglected one crucial thing: herself.

From this moment of realization, Jen embarked on a journey of transformation, emerging as a beacon of empowerment for women navigating midlife. As an entrepreneur, speaker, and host of the Jen Marples Show, she champions the notion that age is never a barrier to pursuing one's dreams.

In this episode, Erin and Jen delve into the nuances of midlife reinvention. From navigating career transitions to balancing work and family, Jen shares insights on reclaiming identity and rediscovering purpose in this next chapter for women. Here's what's on the agenda:

Reframing midlife as a beginning, not an ending, for new careers and personal growth
Why attaching meaning to work and prioritizing happiness are crucial for thriving in midlife
Recognizing the signs of burnout, seeking help when needed, and reprioritizing your own well-being
Cultivating a culture of mutual support among women and amplifying each others’ voices to create collective empowerment
Midlife pivots and the importance of taking time for yourself to get clear on your next move
Setting boundaries and communicating your needs in relationships as a form of self-care in midlife

OUR GUEST: Jen is a champion of midlife women and a cheerleader for ALL women. She’s an entrepreneur, keynote speaker, podcaster, and leader in the midlife women’s empowerment movement. She puts midlife women first and preaches: You’re Not Too F***ing Old! to Step Into the Midlife Spotlight! Jen runs the Jen Marples Agency, a full-service marketing communications with one goal: to help women Step Into the Spotlight to get seen, heard, paid, and make an impact. Jen also hosts The Jen Marples Show, a top 2% globally ranked podcast, dedicated to empowering midlife women so they can power the world! She’s been helping women for decades achieve life and career success and is a frequent speaker nationwide.

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My 52 Year Old Body May 14, 2024

“My health, my well being was the catalyst for all of the radical reinvention that I am talking about here on this podcast.”

What is your relationship like with your body? Feeling disconnected from our bodies is a common experience, and in today's digital age, it's often exacerbated by the constant barrage of fitness fads and wellness trends flooding our feeds. But as we navigate midlife, ignoring our bodies becomes less of an option. In this episode, Erin dives deep into her own journey of body rediscovery at 52.

From childhood struggles with weight to a disconnected relationship with her physical self in adulthood, Erin shares the pivotal moments that sparked her radical reinvention. Join us as we explore the tough questions about body image, self-care, and well-being, and uncover actionable steps to embrace a freer, happier, healthier life. We discuss:

The ties between body image struggles and feeling detached from our physical selves
The empowering role of sexuality and embracing physical activities in fostering a renewed connection with our bodies
The importance of proactive health measures, from routine check-ups to medical interventions, in prioritizing our well-being
Embracing cosmetic procedures (if it feels right for you) as a part of self-care

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Are You Wired to Love a Narcissist? with Michelle Roberts PhD May 09, 2024

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with a narcissist? Or maybe you were raised by one? Whatever the relationship might be, there’s a chance that it’s left a neurological impact on that is going untreated. In today’s episode, we’re joined by Michelle Roberts, investigative journalist turned psychotherapist, who specializes in narcissism. Michelle’s work helps to unravel the mysteries behind why some women are attracted to narcissists, the toll it takes on our emotional well-being, and most importantly, the path to healing.

Join Erin and Michelle as they provide a roadmap for navigating the complexities of relational trauma and actionable ways to treat it so that we can live our best lives. We discuss:

Defining narcissism and the different ways in which it manifests on a spectrum
How the “mask of normalcy” often shrouds narcissists until it’s too late
The strong correlation between childhood trauma and attraction to narcissistic partners
Understanding Complex PTSD (CPTSD) from relational trauma and its symptoms
Exploring trauma responses through the lens of the four Fs: Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
Treating trauma through attachment-focused EMDR and psilocybin therapy

OUR GUEST: Michelle Roberts, journalist, psychotherapist, and professor, specializes in helping women understand the impact of past trauma on their present relationships. With over 25 years of experience, she is a leading expert in relational trauma and narcissistic abuse. Michelle holds a doctorate in clinical mental health counseling from the University of Missouri in St. Louis where she teaches psychopathology and diagnosis. She has served as executive director of Bravely, a program aiding women with trauma and addiction recovery, and authored books on mental health management. Michelle contributes insights on dark personalities to the Oxygen network's Mastermind of Murder and has presented her research on empathy at the American Psychological Association.

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Surviving Singles Events IRL May 07, 2024

“I want you to take action towards what you fantasize about.”

On Hotter Than Ever, we've delved deep into the world of online dating, including strategies for crafting the perfect profile and navigating the digital landscape of romance. But what about the lost art of meeting people the old-fashioned way–in real life?

In this episode, Erin shares her experience stepping outside of her comfort zone and attending two in-person events: a LA matchmaking mixer and a BDSM munch. From navigating awkward encounters to unexpected connections, Erin explores the nuances of stepping out from behind the screen to meet people face-to-face, including:

The transformative power of discomfort: how pushing boundaries leads to personal growth
Embracing the moment, seeking genuine connections, and adopting a “no expectations” mindset
The importance of exploring your passions and actively pursuing desires, especially in midlife
Cultivating a deeper sense of self-love, joy, and fulfillment, regardless of societal norms or expectations

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Lonely At Work? How to Build Community and Connection with Ann Shoket May 02, 2024

“Loneliness is the thing that's keeping women from rising and I don't want to see that anymore.”

As part of her research for The Li.st, Ann Shoket uncovered a staggering statistic: 80% of women in white collar careers are lonely because of their jobs. As heartbreaking as that is, it didn’t surprise Ann, who as the former editor of Seventeen and CosmoGIRL magazines, is no stranger to the loneliness women face as they rise higher up the corporate ladder. Now as CEO of The Li.st, Ann is on a mission to combat the loneliness epidemic for women in the workplace and foster community and connection so that women can show up as their full selves.

Join us for an empowering conversation, as Erin and Ann discuss redefining traditional notions of power, embracing vulnerability, and offer actionable strategies for women to cultivate connections and reclaim agency in their professional lives, including:

Why women often struggle to reconcile their authentic selves with their careers, leading to loneliness or an inability to fully express themselves at work.
Redefining power as collaborative, transparent, and inclusive helps create environments where women feel empowered to thrive
Why employers have a responsibility to combat loneliness and create environments that foster transparency and collaboration
"Community cultivators" and nurturing “micro-habits” of simple check-ins and offering connections or support.
The difference in how loneliness is created/triggered by men and women in the workplace
How to stop seeking permission and instead gather like-minded individuals to drive change in the workplace

OUR GUEST: Ann Shoket is a CEO, Media Brand Builder, Next Gen Expert, and former Editor-in-Chief of Seventeen magazine. Known for redefining ambition and success for women, Shoket has launched and revitalized media brands like CosmoGIRL and Seventeen. Currently CEO and Owner of TheLi.st, she's reshaping content, community, and connection. Author of "The Big Life," she's also consulted for Good Morning America and judged on America's Next Top Model.

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Advice: How Do I Make Time for a Sexual Awakening As A Single Mom? Apr 30, 2024

“You can be a good mom who is available to your kids and who is also experiencing a sexual becoming.”

Starting your sexual awakening journey in midlife can sometimes feel like threading through a maze of practicalities, particularly if you're juggling kids and career. Luckily, Erin is here to take the reins, drawing from her firsthand experience, to guide us through. From treating her romantic life as a part-time job to embracing solo polyamory with transparency and honesty, Erin offers practical advice on making room for pleasure amidst the demands of parenting and modern life. In this episode, we explore:

How to carve out dedicated time for your dating and romantic life, treating it with the same level of importance as other aspects of your life
Utilizing childcare resources to create space for your sexual growth and exploration
Exploring multiple connections without the constraints of traditional monogamy
Prioritizing pleasure tools like masturbation, erotic literature, audio erotica, or sexting apps as a hobby

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Sexual Coming of Age in the 90s with Tracy Clark-Flory Apr 25, 2024

Tracy Clark-Flory’s sexual exploration began at the age of 12, when she ventured into AOL chat rooms, seeking to discover what men wanted sexually. In her memoir, "Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire," Tracy details her personal sexual coming of age through the maze hyper-sexualized media, where she grappled with the conflicting messages dictating her sexual identity. It wasn't until her tenure as a sex journalist and the dawn of deeper relationships that she unearthed a profound truth: there's no universal formula for male desire. This revelation sparked a profound shift, leading her to prioritize her own sexual fulfillment.

Join Erin and Tracy for a conversation spanning the portrayal of sexuality in media to the complexities of sexual experiences, including orgasms and the performance of desire, as we explore:

The clash of feminism and hyper-sexualization in media and its impact on young women's journey to self-discovery
The pressure women face to conform to performative standards of desirability for men
Feminist theory's role in untangling society's conflicting messages about sexuality
Exposing the myths surrounding pornography and the importance of media literacy
Faking orgasms and how to pursue genuine pleasure
The intersection of motherhood and sexuality, and the liberating journey towards self-awareness and acceptance that comes with age

OUR GUEST: Tracy Clark-Flory is a journalist, essayist, and author of the memoir “Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire”, an NPR best book of the year. Clark-Flory has written for Cosmopolitan, Elle, Esquire, Glamour, The Guardian, and The Washington Post. She is a former senior staff writer at Jezebel and Salon. Her work has shown up in the Best Sex Writing anthology and she has been called “one of the best journalists of our generation writing about sexuality.” She writes a weekly newsletter on sex, feminism, motherhood, and pop culture at tracyclarkflory.substack.com.

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Advice: What Do I Do If I Can't Get Divorced For Logistical Reasons? Apr 23, 2024

Sometimes women get stuck in a marriage that is no longer working, but they’re unable to break free due to logistical constraints. Add a skyrocketing libido and an irresistible crush into the mix, and today’s caller has got herself one h*ll of a scenario. Fear not, because in this episode, we dive into the art of juggling desire and commitment when divorce isn't an immediate option.

Join Erin as she offers candid insights and guidance, illuminating the path towards personal liberation and fulfillment within the confines of marriage, including:

The importance of having open and honest communication with your partner
Advocating for your emotional and sexual needs within the relationship
Considering alternative arrangements, such as separation or evolving the relationship into a different form, even if you’re still married on paper
Allowing yourself to explore newfound desires and attractions

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How to Really Feel Your Feelings and Heal From Grief with Meghan Riordan Jarvis Apr 18, 2024

"Unresolved, unprocessed grief really lays a heavy tattoo inside your system."

With more than two decades as a seasoned psychotherapist, Meghan Riordan Jarvis found herself unexpectedly thrust into the throes of her own grief upon the sudden loss of her mother. Through this profound personal journey, Meghan gained an intimate understanding of the very trauma and PTSD she had long treated in her patients. Now, with her podcast "Grief is My Side Hustle" and the bestselling book "The End of The Hour", Meghan is on a mission to foster a culture more attuned to the nuances of grief.

In this episode, Meghan delves into the intricate layers of loss, highlighting the necessity of processing grief. From navigating the unpredictable tides of emotion to unraveling the physiological toll grief exacts on the body, Erin and Meghan offer a compassionate perspective on embracing discomfort and honoring the complexities of the human experience. Join us as we discuss:

Grief as an integral part of the human experience, that transcends background and circumstance.
The interplay between emotions and feelings and the subconscious currents that shape our emotional responses.
The physiological impact of unresolved grief on the body, from digestive issues to chronic pain, and the importance of holistic healing.
Meghan's personal journey through grief and trauma, including her experiences with loss, PTSD, and the transformative power of surrender and vulnerability.
Renegotiating boundaries, quiet quitting, and cultivating authentic connections for resilience and grace.

OUR GUEST: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA, LCSW is an author and speaker, specializing in trauma, grief, and loss. With over 20 years of clinical experience, Meghan's personal encounter with PTSD after her parents' deaths led her to advocate for a more grief-informed culture. Founder of MRJ Consulting, Meghan and her team work with Fortune 500 companies to address grief in the workplace. She is the author of the best-selling memoir "The End of The Hour" and of the upcoming book "Can Anyone Tell Me Why: Essential Questions About Grief and Loss".

Want more Meghan? Find her online at https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/ and listen to her podcast Grief is My Side Hustle. Follow her on:

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Facebook: @griefismysidehustle & @meghan.jarvis.12
LinkedIn: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA LICSW

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Advice: Dating Again After a Bad Breakup - What Do I Need to Share About It? Apr 16, 2024

“Share information about your breakup with the new people in your life whenever it feels right”

Breakups are universally painful, regardless of the circumstances. And after a long-term relationship, it can be daunting to dip your toes back into the dating pool. In today’s episode, we’re tackling a listener's question about reentering the dating scene after a challenging breakup. With a decade-long relationship behind them, our listener grapples with how to discuss the breakup with others, while being respectful of their ex’s mental health issues.

Join us as Erin dives into the complexities of navigating post-breakup dating. From acknowledging the pain of a breakup to reclaiming agency in sharing personal narratives, we discuss:

Acknowledging the courage it takes to pursue new connections
How to hold compassion and understanding for both yourself and your ex-partner
Allowing yourself the freedom to share personal details at your own pace
How crafting a script for the breakup can help you navigate conversations with new partners
Releasing yourself from the need to protect others’ perceptions of your ex-partner

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How To Buy Essentially Nothing with Elizabeth Chai Apr 11, 2024

“You don't find fulfillment in material things”

You've heard the advice to "buy less" or "consume mindfully," but have you ever considered going cold turkey on buying altogether? As she chronicles in her book, "How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year,” Elizabeth Chai, a graphic designer by trade, did just that. For the past five years, Liz has refrained from purchasing anything non-essential, and she's here to share how this decision has brought her newfound freedom from trends and a deeper appreciation for what’s right in front of her.

In this episode, Liz unpacks her decision to abstain from buying, debunking the misconception that minimalism means living in a stark, white box. Instead, she reveals how it's about aligning your lifestyle with your values and priorities, while fostering gratitude for the possessions you already have. Join us as we explore:

How possessions often become symbols of identity and status and drive us to accumulate belongings unconsciously.
Practical tips for distinguishing between needs and wants, helping you make intentional purchasing decisions.
Shifting from mindless consumption to intentional living, and how it cultivates gratitude.
Embracing community-driven practices like clothing swaps and buy-nothing groups.
The effectiveness of tools like the “minimalism game” in decluttering and reevaluating your relationship with material possessions.
The pitfalls of “retail therapy” and the importance of seeking fulfillment beyond materialism.
The importance of committing to significant changes and holding yourself accountable with the support of others.

OUR GUEST: Elizabeth Chai is a graphic designer and self-proclaimed "Coffee Designer," blending her passions for design and the specialty coffee industry. Five years ago, she decided to make a significant change by abstaining from purchasing anything for an entire year, a narrative she shares in her book “How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year”. Through her experiences, Elizabeth aims to inspire others to embark on their own paths of self-reflection and intentional living.

Want more Liz? Find her and her book online at https://www.buyessentiallynothing.com/ and read more about her project in the New York Times. Follow her on Instagram @chaiamericano.

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Advice: Help! I'm SO Distracted By Sexy Apps (But I Love It)! Apr 09, 2024

“It really changes our lives when we give ourselves permission to have all the pleasure we deserve.”

Are using dating apps the modern-day equivalent of juggling a part-time job? For one of our listeners, the allure of Pure, a sexting app, has sparked both a whirlwind of fun and distraction that begs the question: How long will it last? Join Erin on this episode as she delves into the tantalizing world of digital intimacy, sharing her own experiences with and a myriad of dating apps.

From anonymous sexting with zero stakes to setting boundaries and embracing validation, Erin offers candid insights from her experiences on managing attention and fulfillment in the realm of online connections.

What sets Pure apart from other apps, and how to engage in anonymous and fun sexting experiences
Breaking down the landscape of dating apps and what each one is best for
Why online flirting is deeply validating and how you can embrace the positive attention that comes from dating apps
Setting boundaries and listening to your intuition when interacting with potential partners on dating apps
Tips for staying anonymous and communicating safely on the apps

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Dishing About Domestic Labor with Eve Rodsky Apr 04, 2024

“How can I be the breadwinner and also the one who knows the name of my child's dentist?”

When Eve Rodsky received a text from her husband that read, “I'm surprised you didn't get blueberries”, it sparked a revelation. It wasn't just about the fruit; it was about the deeper imbalance in their household dynamics. Fast forward over a decade, and Eve has emerged as a leading voice in reshaping the gender division of labor. With two groundbreaking books under her belt – “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space” – Eve's mission is clear: to revolutionize how partners share the burden of domestic responsibilities, ensuring women no longer shoulder the lion's share of unpaid labor.

Join Erin and Eve for as they delve into Eve's journey of creating a gamified system to tackle household inequalities. They explore how societal norms and gender expectations perpetuate disparities in domestic responsibilities, igniting a fiery discussion sure to spark change in your own partnership. Get ready to reexamine and recalibrate as we unpack:

The concept of "Invisible Work" and its disproportionate burden on women, regardless of their career status or economic power.
The importance of asserting agency in the home and advocating for an equitable distribution of labor.
Recognizing and valuing the conception and planning of tasks, not just their execution.
How men embracing greater domestic responsibilities can empower women in the workplace and mitigate the "motherhood penalty."
Challenging the notion of infinite women's time versus finite men's time
Debunking toxic beliefs that fuel unequal distribution of domestic labor
The vital role of "unicorn space" in allowing women to pursue their passions outside traditional domestic roles.
Society's fixation on toxic positivity and the unrealistic expectations it puts on women to be constantly happy.

OUR GUEST: Eve Rodsky, a Harvard-trained attorney and organizational management expert, turned a personal struggle into a catalyst for social change when she asked the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her bestselling book, “Fair Play”, offers a gamified system for balancing domestic workload and reimagining relationships, sparking vital conversations about unpaid labor. In her latest work, “Find Your Unicorn Space,” Rodsky explores the intersection of creativity, productivity, and resilience, offering an antidote to burnout. Born and raised by a single mom in NYC, she now resides in Los Angeles with her husband, Seth, and three children.

Want more Eve? Find her online at http://www.everodsky.com/ and https://www.fairplaylife.com/. Follow her on:

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Rethinking Modern Motherhood & Reclaiming Our Bodies with Amanda Montei Mar 28, 2024

Amanda Montei's fascination with understanding motherhood started long before she became a parent herself. However, it wasn't until she embarked on her PhD journey while welcoming her first child that she began to approach motherhood through a scholarly lens. In her illuminating book, "Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control," Amanda dissects the nuanced layers of societal expectations and judgments that surround women's bodies, particularly during motherhood, reminding us to be attentive to the stories that are being told to us.

Join us for a deep and fascinating episode as Erin and Amanda delve into the complexities of motherhood, dissecting societal norms, reclaiming bodily autonomy, and advocating for systemic reform. This conversation will encourage you to question the “expert” advice around motherhood spouted on social media, and instead to lean into your support systems, embrace your individuality, and set boundaries. Here’s what’s on the table:

How societal pressures encroach upon women's bodily autonomy in motherhood and beyond–and why we have to continuing questioning these expectations
Exploring the oppressive nature of advice-driven parenting culture online and its isolating impact on mothers
How the lack of systemic support, including paid leave, affordable childcare, and gender equity in parenting responsibilities, exacerbates the challenges faced by mothers.
Embracing advice from community support systems, rather than parenting experts and social media gurus
How embracing your individuality and setting boundaries in motherhood, not only empowers mothers, but also models these essential behaviors for children

OUR GUEST: Amanda Montei is the author of TOUCHED OUT: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, & Control (Beacon Press), as well as the memoir Two Memoirs (Jaded Ibis Press) and The Failure Age (Bloof Books). Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Guardian, ELLE, and other publications. She has taught writing at Stanford University, Columbia University, and other institutions, and has received support from In Cahoots and Riverrun Foundation. Amanda holds an MFA in Writing from California Institute of the Arts and a PhD in English literature from SUNY at Buffalo. She resides in California and runs the newsletter Mad Woman.

Want more Amanda? Find her online at https://www.amandamontei.com/ and subscribe to her Substack https://amandamontei.substack.com/.

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Advice: How Do I Approach Sex After 33 Years With My Ex-Husband? With Dr. Juliana Hauser Mar 26, 2024

Nothing gets us more excited than witnessing one of our listeners burst back onto the dating scene after a long marriage. Yet, as thrilling as this new chapter may be, it can also come riddled with uncertainties. How can I ensure my safety while exploring new sexual partners? How can I feel confident in my body as an older woman? Join us as we welcome back marriage and family therapist, and sex educator Dr. Juliana Hauser, to help Erin shed light on these vital topics.

In this episode, Erin and Dr. J delve into a question from Amy, a 63-year-old woman venturing back into the dating scene after 33 years of marriage. We uncover practical advice that any woman can embrace to embark on her sexual journey with confidence and enthusiasm, including:

Self-Perception Matters: Why confidence in your worth and sexiness is your greatest asset in the dating world.
Trust Your Instincts: Engage in texts and phone calls before meeting in person to identify any potential red flags.
Set Boundaries Early: Understand the importance of setting boundaries and how to gauge a partner's respect for consent
Safety First: Strategies for meeting in public places, sharing plans with friends, and utilizing video calls for added security.
Embrace Your Body: Prioritize connection and pleasure over societal standards of what’s hot
Normalize Playfulness: Embrace a lighthearted approach to sex to alleviate pressure and tension in your sexual journey.

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OUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide.

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Being a Doctor on Skid Row with Dr. Susan Partovi, Renegade MD Mar 21, 2024

Since she was a girl, Dr. Susan Partovi felt the pull toward a career in medicine. But it wasn't until a transformative journey to Tijuana, Mexico that her calling took on a deeper meaning, igniting a lifelong commitment to championing the health of marginalized communities.

Now, after decades of serving people experiencing homelessness on the streets of Skid Row in Los Angeles, Susan stands as a testament to the vitality and impact of women flourishing in their passions after 40, all while uplifting society's most vulnerable.

While "Hotter Than Ever" isn't a show about social issues, Susan's remarkable work - and the fact that she’s a relatable woman our age taking on such a big challenge - compelled us to spotlight her story.

Join us as we explore the challenges and complexities of addressing homelessness, mental illness, and substance use disorders with raw honesty and insight. Susan's story is a treasure trove of wisdom, showcasing resilience and the profound impact of human connection that can inspire transformative change within any community. We discuss:

The importance of honoring people’s humanity, no matter their circumstances
Defining harm reduction, and advocating for non-judgmental approaches to addressing substance use and mental health issues among the unhoused
Examining the systemic factors contributing to homelessness, including trauma, inadequate mental health support, and societal stigma
Reframing language to remove judgment and cultivating empathy in health and helping vulnerable communities
How money is distributed for homelessness solutions and why costs are still high despite the problem’s persistence
Strategies for improving care and housing options for the severely mentally ill
The importance of maintaining a balance between serving others and self-care (like having boundaries in our dating lives!)

OUR GUEST: Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Susan Partovi developed a passion for serving the underserved during high school, catalyzed by volunteering in Tijuana. After earning a medical degree from Thomas Jefferson Medical School and completing residency at Harbor – UCLA Medical Center, Dr. Partovi dedicated herself to providing healthcare to the homeless and uninsured. As a faculty member at Harbor, she mentored future healthcare professionals for six years before becoming medical director at Homeless Health Care Los Angeles in 2006, pioneering street medicine initiatives. Her advocacy extends internationally through H.E.A.L., a nonprofit she co-founded to provide healthcare in Haiti. Through writing and media, Dr. Partovi amplifies the voices of the marginalized, advocating for compassionate healthcare and social justice.

Want more Dr. Susan Partovi? Find her online at https://therenegademd.com/ and read her book “Renegade MD: A Doctor’s Stories from the Streets”

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Advice: How Do I Talk About My Sexual Needs? With Dr. Juliana Hauser Mar 19, 2024

“There's so much bravery in saying ‘my sex life matters’”

Imagine this: you've just broken free from a decade-long relationship that didn't quite fit, and then you find someone new, someone exciting, and the text messages start heating up. But as you settle into the relationship, you realize your partner isn't quite on the same page when it comes to acting on those steamy promises. How do you navigate this shift in your sexual dynamic? Lucky for us, we have marriage and family therapist and sex educator Dr. Juliana Hauser joining us again on Hotter Than Ever to help tackle our latest listener question.

Join Erin and Dr. Juliana as they discuss the importance of clear and unapologetic communication of sexual needs and desires within relationships, offering practical strategies for addressing these discrepancies with your partner. Here's a sneak peek of what's in store:

Sexuality is not a luxury, but a necessity and it should be prioritized as such
Talk about sexual needs as a team, focusing on understanding each other's perspectives and co-creating solutions
Identify the behavioral changes and solutions you’re looking for before you talk about them with your partner
How trauma, fantasies and changes in life circumstances can create differences in sexual expression
Ensure that empathy doesn’t overshadow your agency and advocating for your needs and desires
Keep the initial conversation focused, intentional, and short

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OUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide.

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A Comedian's Psychedelic Awakening with Negin Farsad Mar 14, 2024

“Mushrooms are for getting over your horseshit so you can move on with life.”

Like most comedians, Negin Farsad was a self-described skeptic, especially when it came to the trendy world of "magic mushrooms" and psychedelic retreats sweeping the wellness scene. But when a writing assignment led her to participate in a psilocybin retreat, she found herself on a transformative path she never expected.

In this captivating episode, Negin shares her initial doubts and ultimate revelations as she delves into the world of psychedelics. What began as a journalistic endeavor quickly evolved into a deeply profound experience, challenging Negin to confront past traumas and rediscover and forgive herself in unexpected ways. Whether you're a mushroom enthusiast or a curious skeptic, Negin’s story offers incredible insights into the potential of psychedelics to heal and transform. Join us as we explore:

The immersive experience of a psychedelic retreat and its fusion of therapy and medicine
Negin's surreal journey into an "ego death" and how embodying Serena Williams helped her banish self-doubt
The pervasive nature of self-doubt among women and how we can dispel it
Confronting suppressed trauma and finding forgiveness and healing through psilocybin
The sense of unity and connection fostered among a diverse group of participants during the retreat
Neuroplasticity and how psychedelics create a unique window for personal growth and transformation

OUR GUEST: Negin Farsad is a TEDFellow and gave a TEDTalk on social justice comedy seen by millions. She is a regular on NPR’s Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me and Neil deGrasse Tyson’s StarTalk. She is author of the Thurber Prize-nominated How to Make White People Laugh and host of the podcast Fake the Nation. You can see her on HBO’s High Maintenance, Hulu’s Not Okay, and starring on HBOMax’s Birdgirl. She’s also a gutsy woman on Hillary Clinton’s Gutsy series for Apple TV+. Farsad has written for the Guardian, Oprah Magazine, and the New York Times. She once sued the MTA for the right to put up funny posters about Muslims, and won.

Want more Negin? Find her online at http://neginfarsad.com/ and listen to her podcast “Fake the Nation HERE. You can follow Negin on social media:

Instagram: @neginfarsad
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Read Negin’s Afar Magazine article At a Magic Mushroom Retreat, a Comedian Reluctantly Embraces Her “Healing Journey” and watch her TED talk HERE.

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Advice: Mushrooms for Anxiety and Menopause? With Tracey Tee Mar 12, 2024

Have you ever wondered about the therapeutic potential of psilocybin or "magic mushrooms" for treating anxiety or menopause? Or perhaps you've heard of people swapping out alcohol for shrooms? In today's advice episode, we're thrilled to welcome back Tracey Tee, the founder of "Moms on Mushrooms" (M.O.M), to tackle our latest listener inquiry. Tracey sheds light on why women are turning to microdosing mushrooms to address anxiety and menopause. In a world where conventional treatments often fall short, Tracy is empowering women to chart a new course, reclaiming their inner selves and navigating their “third act” with agency and grace.

Join us for an informative and eye-opening conversation as Tracy shares insights gleaned from her personal journey and community work through M.O.M. You'll discover:

The benefits of magic mushrooms over SSRI medications for treating anxiety, and processing emotions
How psilocybin can be a powerful tool in helping individuals overcome addiction, including alcohol dependency
Psilocybin and menopause: how mushrooms can improve emotional well-being, reduce inflammation, and help you navigate menopause with greater agency

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OUR GUEST: Tracey Tee, active in the momosphere for over a decade, co-created The Pump and Dump Show, starred in its nationally touring comedy, and co-produced the Band of Mothers Podcast. She's also the CEO of Band of Mothers Media. Inspired by her own psilocybin journey during the pandemic, in 2022, she launched M.O.M. (Moms on Mushrooms), an online microdosing course for moms. Tracey's mission is to unite mothers through plant medicine for personal growth and healing. M.O.M. has gained widespread recognition, featuring on NPR, Today Show, Piers Morgan, Rolling Stone, CBS Saturday Morning, PBS, Colorado Public Radio, NBC News, and Romper Magazine. Tracey resides in Denver, Colorado, with her husband of 21 years and their 12-year-old miracle daughter. She aims to create a conscious, Sacred Feminine-inspired model of doing business.

Want more Tracey? Find her and her courses online at https://www.momsonmushrooms.com/ and follow her work on Instagram at @momsonmushroomsofficial

Read more about the microdosing study Tracey is collaborating on with Dr. Pamela Kryskow HERE

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Chasing Physical Pain and Discovering Tenderness with Margo Steines Mar 07, 2024

“Your identity and your life is lived through your body”

In a time where many of us find ourselves disconnected from our bodies, Margo Steines relentlessly chased physical pain. As she recalls in her gripping memoir “Brutalities: A Love Story”, Margo pursued extreme experiences—drugs, sexual violence, and abusive relationships—as avenues to escape psychological discomfort and to feel alive.

Throughout this episode, Margo shares her ever-evolving relationship with her body from working as a professional dominatrix, to an ironworker, and later as a writer and mother, the latter of which revolutionized her relationship with her body. It is a profound conversation on identity evolution, mental health, family dynamics, self-love, and what it means to be human beings living within physical bodies in this confusing modern world. Join us as we discuss:

Margo’s path to pursuing pain through sex work and BDSM
The power of aging and how it allows us to uncover profound truths about ourselves
Nature vs. nurture and how inherent traits and environmental influences shape our identities in different ways
The lasting impact of childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior and coping mechanisms
The interconnectedness of body and identity and the transformative effect of motherhood
The importance of ongoing self-reflection, growth, and embracing the fluidity of identity

OUR GUEST: Margo Steines holds an MFA in nonfiction writing from the University of Arizona, where she is faculty in the Writing Program. Her work was named Notable in Best American Essays and has appeared in The Sun, Slate, Air Mail, Brevity, Off Assignment, The New York Times (Modern Love), the anthology Letter to a Stranger, and elsewhere. She is the author of the memoir-in-essays ‘Brutalities: A Love Story’. Margo is a born-and-raised New Yorker, a journeyman ironworker, and serves as mom to a small person. She is also a private creative coach and writing class facilitator. You can read more about her practices at margosteines.com.

Want more Margo? Find her online at https://www.margosteines.com and her book HERE. Take her writing classes at https://www.margosteines.com/classes

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Advice: What To Do When Your Boyfriend Dumps You Mar 05, 2024

“They don’t ever talk about what it feels like when the first relationship after your big relationship ends.”

In this episode we’re giving advice to none other than Hotter Than Ever. Yes, you read that correctly. When Erin found herself blindsided by the sudden end of her relationship with her boyfriend, “The Marine”, she knew she had to open up about the experience, no matter how raw the pain. For anyone facing the aftermath of a significant breakup, this is your reminder that healing and moving forward are possible, even in the midst of heartache.

Join us for a heartfelt and vulnerable episode, as Erin shares the story of how (and why) her relationship ended, and tangible advice for how to get over the first breakup after divorce. Here’s a sneak peak:

Take Stock: Reflect on the positive aspects of the relationship and what worked well
Tell the Truth: Be honest with yourself about what didn’t work, including unmet needs and underlying issues
Set Intentions: Get clear about your desires and boundaries for future relationships
Embrace Singlehood: Revel in the freedom to rediscover yourself, your passions, friendships, and creative pursuits

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Cindy Gallop’s Vision for a Safe, Sexy Internet Feb 29, 2024

“We end rape culture by showing you how wonderful great consensual, communicative sex is in the real world.”

Cindy Gallop never intended MakeLoveNotPorn to be a groundbreaking social sex tech platform. But when her original website went viral after Cindy’s TED talk in 2009, she knew she was being called to create something far bigger and more meaningful. Today, MakeLoveNotPorn is the world's first and only user-generated and 100% human-curated social sex video sharing platform, whose mission is to promote good sexual behavior and good sexual values by showing real people having safe, healthy, consensual sex. The platform is blazing the trail for female-built and mission-driven businesses, and the need to create more safe and inclusive online and real-world experiences for us all.

In this episode, Erin and Cindy engage in a thought-provoking conversation around the intersection of sex, business, and the important role of women in shaping the future of the Internet. Join us in charting a course towards a more inclusive and empathetic future, as we discuss:

Unpacking the detrimental effects of mainstream pornography on sexual education and behavior
Rethinking business as a way to do good and make money simultaneously
The transformative power of real-world, consensual sex in fostering healthier sexual attitudes and behaviors.
The critical need for female-led initiatives in tech and AI development to create a safer, better, happier internet for all of us (including men!)
Read Cindy’s op-ed in Fast Company, “Three Reasons Why the Future of AI Relies on Women” HERE
Harnessing the power of human curation to foster safe, inclusive (and profitable) online spaces
The pivotal role of AI in redefining consent and combating toxic masculinity in the media and legal landscapes.
Strategies for aligning personal values with professional pursuits to effect positive change and drive innovation

OUR GUEST: Cindy Gallop, a graduate of Somerville College, Oxford, boasts a diverse background spanning over 30 years in brand-building, marketing, and advertising. Named Advertising Woman of the Year in 2003, she founded IfWeRanTheWorld, a co-action software promoting shared values and shared action for shared profit. Additionally, as the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn, she spearheads a social sextech platform advocating for healthy sexual behavior and values. Recognized as one of Business Insider's 15 Most Important Marketing Strategy Thinkers Today, Cindy is a sought-after speaker globally, renowned for her insightful talks on the future of advertising and marketing. She champions diversity and inclusion in various industries and serves as a Jury President at Cannes Lions and a leader in initiatives combating ageism and promoting gender equality.

Want more Cindy? Find her online at https://cindygallop.com/ and learn more about MakeLoveNotPorn at https://makelovenotporn.tv/

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Watch her TED talk “Make Love Not Porn”: https://www.ted.com/talks/cindy_gallop_make_love_not_porn

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Listener Mail: How Do I Stay Safe While Dating (and More)? Feb 27, 2024

Picture this: you’re 50, newly separated from your husband after 20 years of marriage, and diving into the world of casual dating and sex. How do you navigate sex safely as an older woman in the new world of dating app culture? You’ve come to the right place. In this week’s advice episode, we’re discussing our favorite topic: sex—how to talk about it with potential partners and how to navigate it safely when getting back out there.

Join Erin as she offers her subjective POV on the ups and downs of post-divorce dating and shares practical tips and insights from her personal experiences. Here's what you can expect:

You decide the timeline: you don’t need to rush into dating and sex after getting out of a long marriage, but it’s also ok if you want to!
Try multiple different dating apps to get your feet wet, but be patient with the results
Trust your intuition: vet your partners, talk to a lot of different people, and don’t be afraid to assert your boundaries
Safety First: Meet in public spaces for the first time and don’t shy away from discussing safe sex once intimacy comes into the picture

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When Your Whole Family Comes Out with Jessi Hempel Feb 22, 2024

Jessi Hempel is many things: an award-winning journalist, podcaster, author, and senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. But despite her myriad accomplishments, she shies away from labeling herself as ‘successful’. For Jessi, her illustrious career as a technology and business journalist was always a stepping stone on the path to her childhood dream of writing a book. However, after the publication of her memoir, "The Family Outing," Jessi found herself facing an existential quandary: what comes next after you achieve your ultimate goal?

In this episode, Jessi takes the helm as we navigate through diverse topics, from the uncertainty of charting a new career trajectory post-success, to the poignant journey of motherhood and the heart-wrenching experience of loss. Together, we delve into the complexities of gender and sexuality, drawing from Jessi's personal narrative, including the remarkable tale of her transgender brother who embarked on a unique journey of pregnancy. Here's what's on the agenda:

The challenges women face in defining success and navigating career milestones
What to do when you fall out of love with your career
Unpacking societal expectations and pressures surrounding motherhood
The profound joys and challenges of parenting, including Jessi's unexpected journey into parenthood and coping with loss
How experiences of loss can instill a "f*ck it" attitude, reshaping perspectives on life's brevity, and pursing meaning
Jessi's journey to writing her memoir and the liberation found in giving yourself permission to explore personal narratives
Why we need more nuance when it comes to speaking about and understanding gender and sexual identity
The ongoing struggle of asserting boundaries and saying no, even as you age

OUR GUEST: Jessi Hempel, a seasoned tech journalist and host of the acclaimed podcast Hello Monday, serves as senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. With over two decades of experience, she has crafted compelling features and cover stories on prominent figures and companies in the tech sphere. Previously, Hempel held editorial leadership roles at Backchannel and Wired, and her insights have been featured on major news networks. She is also the esteemed author of The Family Outing, recognized by Time as one of the 100 Must-Read Books of 2022, now available in paperback. Hempel holds degrees from Brown University and U.C. Berkeley, residing in New York City.

Want more Jessi? Find her online at https://www.jessijhempel.com/ and listen to her podcast, Hello Monday, at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hello-monday-with-jessi-hempel/id1453893304

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Listener Mail: Looking for a New Life in New England Feb 20, 2024

“If you get to the root of what it is that you care about, you will probably also find a path to meaningful work.”

Ever found yourself at a crossroads, wondering what’s next after already pursuing your professional dreams? In this week's advice-packed episode, we're delving into the daunting, yet exhilarating realm of career transitions. Whether you're eyeing a shift in industries or skill sets, especially later in life, the roadmap to your next chapter starts within.

Let Erin be your compass as she unpacks practical strategies for deciphering your next career move, including:

Get to the core of you: identify your passions, interests, and talents to guide your career decisions
Identify what you want to get out of work: Is it intellectual stimulation, flexible schedules, or financial stability?
Research fast-growing industries and seek advice from those who have successfully transitioned careers

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How Gen X is Taking on Menopause with Stacy London Feb 15, 2024

“The more you fear aging, the harder it's going to be. You’ve got to lean in.”

Happy 50th episode to Hotter Than Ever! We're thrilled to celebrate this milestone with you by sharing an incredible conversation with TV icon, Stacy London. You probably remember Stacy from TLC’s “What Not to Wear” where she turned fashion faux pas into fabulous looks and boosted self-esteem week after week. Now, she's shining a spotlight on menopause and women's health in midlife–topics long overlooked in both media and medical circles. Stacy's mission is crystal clear: it's time to rewrite the story on women and aging.

Join Stacy and Erin for an engaging and informative conversation on the intersection of perimenopause, menopause, aging, sexuality, and women’s health. Here’s what we explore:

Why Gen X is spearheading the revolution in conversations around women and aging
The importance of destigmatizing menopause and prioritizing women’s health in medical research and education
Banishing the "anti" in front of aging and instead, embracing it as a natural, vibrant phase of life.
How a study with flawed data halted scientific research on menopause for the last two decades
How the choices we make in midlife directly impact our vitality and longevity as we age
Dissecting the gaps in research on female physiology and women’s health, menopause and beyond
The importance of having representation of midlife women in media
The vital role that real-life connections and community building play in educating women on their health

OUR GUEST: Stacy London is best known as the co-host of the iconic TLC show, What Not To Wear. She has been a regular correspondent on the Today Show, The Oprah Show, Access Hollywood, and Rachael Ray. She served as the spokesperson for Pantene, Dr. Scholls, Lee Jeans, and Woolite. Her book, The Truth About Style, was a NYT bestseller. She is also an advisor to Wile, a wellness brand for women, and Evernow, a telehealth and menopause treatment platform. After her own debilitating experience with menopause, she now focuses on education and healthcare advocacy for those in mid-life and menopause. Her next project, a media platform, dedicated to these same issues will debut early in 2024.

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Listener Mail: How Do I Get Over My Fear of Rejection and Be More Authentic? Feb 13, 2024

“How long are you going to let fear of other people's points of view dictate how you live your one and only life?”

We all want to be the most authentic versions of ourselves, but how do we overcome the fear of judgment, criticism, and rejection that’s holding us back? In today’s advice episode, we hear from a listener who is struggling to share her true self without reservation.

Drawing from Erin’s personal experiences with corporate life, divorce, and unexpected layoffs, she shares poignant insights that helped her embrace a liberating self-expression. The takeaway: no matter how daunting it may seem, authenticity always triumphs.

Tune in for practical tips on how to let go of your fear and why embracing our truth, not only empowers ourselves, but also fosters communities built on honesty and vulnerability.

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Getting Comfortable with Uncomfortable Transitions Feb 08, 2024

“Just because I'm uncomfortable with discomfort, it doesn't mean I'm not okay.”

Ever been laid off? Experienced the gut-wrenching dissolution of a relationship? Or maybe you're just grappling with the uncertainty of what comes next in your career or love life. Whatever the case, Erin's here to remind you that amidst these difficult transitions lies a world of potential–we just need to trust the process.

Join us as Erin shares her insights on navigating upheaval, embracing uncertainty, and finding beauty in the messy middle of change. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, discover how to thrive amidst life's twists and turns. We discuss:

Embracing the discomfort of transitions, recognizing them as opportunities for growth and renewal.
The importance of transition periods and taking the time to envision and build a new future, brick by brick
Trusting in the journey, finding comfort in discomfort, and knowing that clarity will come in its own time
Taking action in the face of uncertainty to navigate the in-between phases of life with resilience and grace.

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Listener Mail: How Can I Control My Mood And Not Be Affected By The Actions of Others? Feb 06, 2024

“I made it worse because I was not the master of my emotions.”

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone hits that emotional button you never knew existed? Did you end up regretting something you said or did in the heat of the moment? We've all been there. In today’s advice episode, we’re delving into a listener's question on how to control one’s mood and avoid being swayed by others’ actions.

Join us as Erin shares a recent personal story on the challenges of navigating relationships and emotions, along with tips for controlling how you can respond in the heat of the moment. These include:

Cultivating mindfulness through journaling, meditation, and staying present
Identifying your emotional buttons and their triggers, so that you’re prepared to address them
Developing a sense of self-mastery in how you navigate your world and control what affects you
Acknowledging and learning from your mistakes

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Claiming Your Sexual Power in Midlife with Eva Clay Feb 01, 2024

Eva Clay is on a mission to make sex a spiritual practice. With two decades of expertise, Eva has helped countless women defy the misconception that perimenopause and menopause mark the end of a woman's sexuality. In this riveting conversation, discover how midlife can unfold as a magnificent era of sexual exploration, fostering healthier, empowered, and fulfilled lives.

Get ready for an insightful and passionate exchange between Eva and Erin as they not only express their profound appreciation for midlife sexuality, but also delve into the biological benefits of menopause and the intricate relationship between sex and spirituality. You don’t want to miss this one. Here's what’s on the table:

Why midlife is far from a sexual retirement phase for women, but can be a vibrant era for sexual exploration and fulfillment
How actively pursuing sex, pleasure, and orgasms contributes to women's empowerment, health, and overall success.
Unpacking the biology behind perimenopause and menopause and how it strips away the inclination to accommodate others
Defining sexual archetypes in midlife: the Queen and the Witch
The importance of allowing oneself to be wild, rebellious, and impulsive in midlife
Redefining what sexuality looks like in midlife and how to take control of common challenges
How treating sex as a spiritual practice can lead to profound experiences and heightened creativity
Embracing a shift towards responsive, rather than spontaneous, sexuality in midlife

OUR GUEST: Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science. With a background as a former neuroscience professor, she intertwines intelligence with sensuality, unlocking innate pleasure potentials for thousands. As a seasoned practitioner of sexual tantra for over a decade, her work seamlessly blends the profound with the playful. Particularly passionate about guiding women through the midlife portal, Eva advocates for relishing the most vibrant phase of their sex and love life. Featured as an expert in VICE TV, Sexy-Fit, Truth-Telling, Super Power Experts, and The Sassy and Single Show, she also graces stages as a keynote speaker at Wanderlust yoga festivals.

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Listener Mail: How Do I Start Dating Again After 60? Jan 30, 2024

“Change is often uncomfortable and is almost always good.”

Today, we’re delving into a topic near and dear to our hearts: reentering the dating scene. This week, our hot listener is looking for Erin’s top three tips for women over 60 venturing back into dating. While the prospect of dating again may be uncomfortable, Erin is your trusty guide to transform this experience into a golden opportunity for self-discovery and, of course, a bit of fun.

Join us as Erin shares her essential tips for navigating the dating landscape during this exciting phase of life, including:

Treating your dating app profile as a marketing project to attract the best matches
Cultivating an open mind to potential matches you might not have considered
Turning virtual connections to real-life dates (and keeping it casual)

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Dildocon 2024 or I Went to a Pleasure Conference So You Don't Have To Jan 25, 2024

“I am dedicated to having experiences that are aligned with my curiosity,”

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to attend a sex conference? Erin did the daring deed so that you wouldn’t have to. In this episode, Erin takes us on the wild ride that was attending the Vibe Expo, a trade show dedicated to sensory exploration, pleasure, play things, sensual ecstasy, and intimacy insights. Although it sounds right up Erin’s alley (and it is), it was still a step outside of her comfort zone. From Tiki-themed sex toys to BDSM gear, she shares the craziest highlights and the unexpected rewards, including:

The power of embracing your curiosity, even when it doesn’t fit in with societal norms
The fun in exploring business opportunities that align with your passions
The joy that comes with normalizing pleasure and celebrating sexuality

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Listener Mail: How Do I Age Gracefully? Jan 23, 2024

“We need to revise our imagery of what elderhood looks like.”

Welcome back to another episode in the Hotter Than Ever advice series! In today’s episode, we’re tackling two hot listener questions around how to balance aging gracefully, while also looking youthful and attractive. We dive into the age-old debate: should we use Botox, plastic surgery and hair dye to keep looking young? Or do we embrace the full force of natural aging, wrinkles, gray hair, and all?

For Erin, it’s all about doing whatever makes you feel like the best version of yourself. Whether your version of sexy is getting a boob lift or letting your hair go full silver fox: you do you.

Join us for Erin's candid insights on beauty, aging, and navigating the labyrinth of societal expectations surrounding women's appearance. It's time to own your hotness at any age.

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Besties for Life: The Power of Female Friendship Jan 18, 2024

“Female friends are treasures and they hold a mirror to one another in a way that no one else can.”

Do you have that ride-or-die friend who's witnessed your every transformation throughout years? That friend who will stay by your side and be supportive, loving, and nonjudgmental no matter the new paths you’re exploring? For our host Erin, that friend has been Amber Rickert—a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and trauma specialist and also Erin’s best friend for the past 30 years.

In this funny and touching episode, Erin and Amber take you on a journey through their friendship, from the freezing winter night they met in college to the present. This engaging conversation delves into the profound aspects of female friendships, and the supportive and nonjudgmental role they play in one another's lives. Together, they explore:

Discovering the generosity and kindness of women through their friendship
Sharing a love for adventure, risk-taking, and leading lives that defy convention.
Embracing their different approaches to relationships
Navigating conflicts through open communication and feedback
Supporting each other through diverse life choices, with a commitment to judgment-free acceptance
Candid discussions about their journeys with recovery programs
What it would be like to cohabitate together as they age

OUR GUEST: Amber Rickert, LCSW, MPH: Psychotherapist specializing in PTSD, developmental trauma, and couples therapy. With practices in Vermont and California, Amber is dedicated to transforming lives through the power of relationships. Focused on breaking through challenges, she helps clients navigate the unconscious mind. Passionate about the transformative energy of friendship and partnership, Amber believes in changing the world one relationship at a time.

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Listener Mail: How Soon Is Too Soon To Date After Divorce? Jan 16, 2024

“Is it possible to mostly grieve your marriage before it ends?”

Welcome back to another episode in the Hotter Than Ever advice series! In these episodes, Erin gives her opinionated (but not professional) feedback on your questions and quandaries on everything from love, to sex, relationships, career, aging, ambition, divorce, and more!

In today’s episode, we’re tackling a listener question that Erin knows all too well: how soon is too soon to start dating after divorce? While some people in our listener’s corner have been telling her to give it time because it’s only been six months, she knew long before then that the marriage was over. Plus, there was no sex for the last year and a half.

Tune in for Erin’s advice based on navigating a very similar situation, and why post-divorce the perfect time to embrace your newfound freedom and play the field, but keep it light.

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New Year Reset: Seeking Your Spark in 2024 Jan 11, 2024

“There's so much more in life on the other side of discomfort.”

We’re kicking this week off by discussing New Year’s resolutions. Not the clichés that fall by the wayside as quickly as they’ve started, but commitments that can lead to genuine growth and fulfillment.

While each of us is constantly evolving and changing every day of our lives, there’s something special about taking time to reflect on how we want to change going forward and getting clarity on our roadmap for the future. Join Erin as she shares her 2024 goals, including:

Faith that everything good is on its way personally, professionally, and in relationships
Creating more love, connection, friendship, and community
Setting clearer boundaries—especially post-divorce
Forging deeper intimacy, honesty, and self-expression in relationships
Continuing the path of sexual exploration and listening to your body
Pursuing the people and things that spark joy

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Listener Mail: Am I Being “Aged Out” Of My Job? Jan 04, 2024

“The money is the indicator of how much they care about keeping you.”

Welcome back to another episode in the Hotter Than Ever advice series! Informed by her very subjective POV and life experience, each week Erin takes a crack at answering your questions and quandaries on everything from love, to sex, relationships, career, aging, ambition, divorce, and more!

Today, we’re unpacking one listener’s corporate dilemma. She’s a seasoned tech professional who’s always been a top-performer, but recently found herself with no bonus or salary increase this year. Is she being pushed toward the door? Is it age bias? If corporate life has expired for us, how do we find the courage to opt-out of the bullshit? Tune in as Erin shares her POV from many years in the corporate world, including the importance of following the money, asking the right questions, and letting your intuition guide you to your next steps.

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Listener Mail: High School Flame Reignited Jan 02, 2024

“How do I keep his interest without scaring him away?”

Happy 2024 Hotties! We’re so excited to bring you our first (ever!) advice episode! Informed by her very subjective POV and life experience (as opposed to actual expertise) each week Erin addresses your questions and quandaries on everything from love, to sex, relationships, career, aging, ambition, divorce, and more!

In this episode we’re diving into a hot listener question about maintaining interest in a rekindled high school romance, post-divorce. Tune in as Erin shares her advice for success, including honest self-expression, clear communication, and letting go of what you can’t control.

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Adapting to Big Changes in Midlife with Humorist Annabelle Gurwich Dec 28, 2023

“Could I have a bigger imagination about this point in my life than I thought I might need to have?” Annabelle Gurwitch is no stranger to reinvention–or as she prefers to call it, adaptation. As an actress and TV show host turned best-selling author, she understands the importance of embracing change in order to shift your life circumstances. In her latest memoir “You're Leaving When? Adventures in Downward Mobility,” Annabelle chronicles one of those changes: her decision to welcome an unhoused couple into her home after becoming an empty-nester. This decision not only shifts many of her own beliefs, but also beautifully underscores the importance of discarding preconceived notions at the doorstep of understanding.

In this episode, Annabelle’s insights illuminate the intricacies of downward mobility, the pursuit of adaptation over reinvention, embracing creativity, and fostering community amidst personal and societal shifts. Annabelle’s ability to infuse humor into each of these subjects is just one of the many reasons you don’t want to miss this conversation. Here’s what’s on the table:

Defining ‘downward mobility’ and its impact on the middle class and women.
Navigating life and career changes with resilience and flexibility.
Embracing the unconventional path of being a creative and a freelancer.
Coping with missed opportunities and unexpected life turns.
Redefining the terms of relationships in midlife and post-divorce.
Understanding others' experiences and humanity without passing judgment.
Why small actions matter, even when the world’s problems feel overwhelming.
Creating enduring significance and meaning in life's choices through pursuing long-term goals.
The strength of friendships and community during tough times.

OUR GUEST: Annabelle Gurwitch, a New York Times Bestselling author, actress, and activist, skillfully blends humor and insight in her work. Her latest book, "You're Leaving When? Adventures in Downward Mobility," was a 2021 New York Times Favorite Book for Healthy Living and a Thurber Prize finalist in 2022. Her versatile career also spnas TV and film, from co-hosting TBS's "Dinner & a Movie" to roles in "Seinfeld" and "Dexter". Annabelle co-hosts the podcast "Tiny Victories" and lectures at institutions like The School of the New York Times. Her impact extends through patient advocate talks and recognition in the Museum of the Southern Jewish Experience.

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2023 Hotter Than Ever Year in Review Dec 21, 2023

“How much time do you think you have left?” Posed by friend and episode 6 guest, Sheri Salata, this question became part of Erin’s catalyst to launching Hotter Than Ever in April 2023. Since its inception, this podcast has been dedicated to empowering women to cultivate lives brimming with joy and authenticity. Thirty-six episodes and 25 interviews later, we couldn’t be more grateful for the community that has been built around this mission and the extraordinary conversations with countless incredible women that have followed.

As 2023 comes to a close, join Erin as she reflects on the year and shares her top 10 insights from guest conversations. We explore everything from sexuality, self-talk, and trauma to pursuing long-term goals and finding last joy. Here’s a glimpse of the takeaways:

Self-love: The antidote to countless life hurdles
The profound link between sexual empowerment and overall agency
Mastering your inner dialogue and silencing the self-critic
Learning to appreciate your perfectionism and ambition
Trauma is intergenerational and why it’s important to break the cycle
Looking inward to find the answers you’re looking for
The myth of quick fixes; the magic of meaning lies in long-term goals
The power in not only accepting, but embracing change
Discovering sources of enduring joy in your life
Crafting depth and meaning for lasting happiness

We’re also excited to announce an exciting update–Hotter Than Ever will be moving to two episodes a week starting in January 2024! If you have a question, an issue, or some aspect of your life you want advice on, reach out and we’ll chat through it on our new second weekly episode! Get in touch with us by leaving a voicemail or sending a text to the Hotter Than Ever Hotline at (323) 844-2303 or DMing us on Instagram @hotterthaneverpod.

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How to Get Through Your Mid-Life Crisis with Lauren Zander Dec 14, 2023

“I am impressed with the midlife crisis.” We’re thrilled to welcome Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of the Handel Group, back to Hotter Than Ever. As a life coach, whose coaching technique, the Handel Method, has been taught at MIT, Stanford Business School, and to the likes of CEOs and celebrities, Lauren is no stranger to helping her clients navigate through midlife crises. Yet when Lauren experienced a midlife crisis of her own, it rocked her to her core ways that she could have never anticipated.

Join us for a candid and introspective conversation as Erin and Lauren share their personal midlife crisis journeys, what they learned in the aftermath, and how they rebuilt their lives and relationships into something more authentic and profound. We discuss:

Breaking stereotypes and why midlife crises are sexy and liberating for women—not just men
How the ending of their respective marriages ignited Lauren and Erin’s midlife transformations
Reconstructing your identity after a long marriage
Discerning true friendships and gaining clarity on what you need out of relationships
Coming out on the other side of a midlife crisis—embracing self-honesty, listening to your body, and focusing on what’s most important
Discovering the beauty in rebuilding a life, relationships, and aspirations with deeper significance and alignment

OUR GUEST: Lauren Zander is the Founder and CEO of Handel Group®, a renowned life coaching company. She's the creator of The Handel Method®, taught in over 35 world-class institutions like MIT, NYU, and Stanford Graduate School of Business. Lauren is the creator of Inner.U: Learn to Human Better®, the online coaching course that teaches the entirety of The Handel Method. With two decades of coaching experience, Lauren has empowered countless clients, including top executives from companies like Vogue and AOL. She's also authored "Maybe It’s You," a practical guide to achieving your life goals. Lauren's expertise has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and more.

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Boldly Navigating Cancer, Caregiving and Career Change with Laura Stratte Dec 07, 2023

When Laura Stratte was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 35, she didn't just fight it—it transformed her life’s path. Following nursing school, Laura became a superhero of sorts—a nurse navigator—guiding cancer warriors through the tangled mess of the healthcare system, from diagnosis to survivorship. Now in the world of health tech, she’s helping women own their menopause and master their health.

In this episode, Erin sits down with Laura to discuss navigating health challenges that so many women find themselves in. This includes the complexities of cancer care, the need for improved support beyond medical treatment, and the impact of toxicities—financial and time-related—on patients and caregivers. Beyond healthcare, Laura sheds light on how she pivoted her career, and how you can too, no matter what life throws at you. Join us, as we discuss:

How Laura's breast cancer diagnosis at 35 shaped her nursing career trajectory
Why you should always ask for a nurse navigator if you’re diagnosed with cancer
The importance of integrated care for cancer patients and beyond
The financial and time toxicities of treating and managing cancer— it’s a full time job and requires better support systems
How Laura blazed a career transition into health tech at 47
How Laura embraced her shaved head and found empowerment and freedom during her cancer journey

OUR GUEST: Laura Stratte is a mother, wife, nurse, and 2x cancer survivor. Three years ago at the ripe old age of 47, Laura Stratte decided to leave the security of traditional healthcare as an oncology RN and enter the unpredictable and unknown-to-her world of startups and digital health at Elektra Health. Switching her speciality from breast cancer care to the overlapping field of menopause care, she continues to help women navigate major life changes.

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Elektra Health: @Elektrahealth
FB: @LauraHoffmannStratte
Twitter: @lstratte

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How Perfectionism Can Be Positive and Powerful with Katherine Morgan Schafler Nov 30, 2023

“Can you assume that nothing is wrong with you?” Self-defined perfectionist, psychotherapist, writer, and former on-site therapist at Google, Katherine Morgan Schafler wants you to know that it’s ok to be a perfectionist. In her book "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, A Path to Peace and Power,” Katherine challenges the stigma surrounding perfectionism in our culture by defining both its healthy and unhealthy manifestations, exposes its harmful gender biases towards women, and advocates for redefining the call for “balance.”

In conversation with host (and fellow perfectionist!) Erin, Katherine offers insights into perfectionism’s impact on relationships, work, and personal growth. Unveiling insights into navigating ambition, embracing fluidity, and prioritizing values aligned with current life seasons, they explore:

Defining perfectionism and why it's not a flaw, but a facet of your unique brilliance
The dynamic relationship between perfectionism and mental health
How perfectionism became a gendered term for women and a hindrance to embracing ambition and power
Redefining ‘balance’ —it's about internal well-being, not checking off tasks
How to prioritize values that align most with the current season of your life
Managing your energy vs. managing your time (read the Harvard Business Review article Katherine mentions HERE)
Distinguishing between meaningful pursuits and the allure of immediate gratification

OUR GUEST: Katherine Morgan Schafler, LMHC, is a psychotherapist, writer and speaker based in New York City. Formerly an on-site therapist at Google, she earned her degrees and training at UC Berkeley and Columbia University, with post-graduate certification from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy.

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It’s Not Always Sunny: Navigating the 'Dips' with Grace and Gratitude Nov 23, 2023

“This too shall pass.” Being human means understanding that challenging times, as tough as they may be, won’t last forever. It’s the highs and lows, the ebbs and flows that make up our everyday existence. But how do we work through those lows–or as Erin likes to call them, the ‘dips’? In this episode, we navigate the intricate terrain of managing the ‘dips’ – those moments when darkness creeps in and threatens our optimism and resilience.

Whether it’s seasonal affective disorder, single parenthood, career demands, or the struggle with self-care and transitions, this episode is your reminder that life isn't always sunshine and roses–and that’s ok. Tune in for tips, tools, and wisdom from Erin’s personal experiences on how to maneuver these curves, including:

Acknowledging that life isn't a constant upward trajectory; it's about embracing the blend of light and shadow that shapes our journey
Understanding that challenging times will pass, support is there for you if you reach out, and that setting boundaries is self-care
Find solace in gratitude by recognizing the blessings, small joys, and connections that anchor us in turbulent times
Embracing vulnerability and recognizing that it's okay not to have everything figured out

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Handle Your Money Trauma and Build Wealth like a Grownup with Veronica Grant Nov 16, 2023

There’s nothing hotter than using your finances as the ultimate tool to build the life of your dreams. But how do we get there? On this week’s episode of Hotter Than Ever, we’re joined by Veronica Grant, a financial expert and host of the Run Your Money podcast. Veronica is not your typical financial guru; she's a certified financial wellness consultant who intertwines personal finance wisdom with coaching and a keen awareness of the social and economic systems affecting women's wealth.

Join Erin and Veronica as they delve into Veronica’s personal money journey, the impact our relationships have on our finances, and practical tips for managing and growing your income, including:

How starting to build wealth at a young age helped Veronica develop a money-savvy mindset she carried into adulthood
How money trauma in childhood impacts adult financial behavior and what you can do to re-write these narratives
Why comparing your cash flow to others’ can skew your financial reality
Unpacking the intersection of politics and personal finance and how political decisions directly influence our financial well-being
Why it’s important to start money conversations early on in relationships and how to continue to the conversation throughout a partnership or marriage
Practical ways to increase income and financial strategies for being self-employed
Finding the harmony between chasing financial success and being present in other aspects of your life

OUR GUEST: Veronica Grant, a financial powerhouse with a unique story that defies the typical "money makeover" narrative, has always had a knack for financial savvy. She started her financial journey at 11 as a sought-after baby sitter and opened a 401k on day one of her first job. However, launching her own business in 2015 brought unexpected challenges, teaching her that managing money goes beyond budgets. Armed with degrees in International Studies and Social and Economic Justice, plus certification as a Financial Wellness Consultant, Veronica empowers women to overcome systemic barriers and claim the wealth they deserve.

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Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/run-your-money-show/id1077479098

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Family Secret Bombshells and Choosing Self-Love with Carmen Rita Wong Nov 09, 2023

Imagine discovering that the man you believed was your dad was not your biological father. What would that do to your sense of self and identity? Carmen Rita Wong lived that reality, and it sparked an electrifying journey of self-discovery that shares in her memoir, "Why Didn't You Tell Me?" Get ready for a rollercoaster of revelations as she uncovers her heritage and answers the age-old question: Who the hell am I?

But Carmen's life isn't just about secrets and ancestry. It's a relentless journey of reinvention in both her personal and professional spheres. From multiple successful career pivots to navigating the complexities of family and parenting, Carmen's story is an inspiring tale of resilience and the audacity to be unapologetically herself.

Join Erin and Carmen for a conversation that dives deep into self-discovery, family mysteries, smashing stereotypes, and a rebellious spirit in a world that insists on fitting into its tiny, boring boxes. Here's what’s on the table:

Discovering the difference between who you are, who the world says you are, and who your parents tell you to be
Carmen’s journey that followed learning about her father’s true identity
The challenges Carmen faced as a Latina and Chinese woman in predominantly white environments
Why 50 is a transformative and liberating age for women and helps us see what’s most important in life
Carmen's magnetic career transitions, from magazine editor to advice columnist, to writer and more!
Exploring parent-child relationships and the importance of letting your kids be their own unique selves
Embracing change and redefining what family and relationships mean - it's a pathway to epic connections

OUR GUEST: Carmen Rita Wong is a writer, producer, and non-profit board leader, including the boards of The Moth and the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. She is the former co-creator and television host of On the Money on CNBC and was a national advice columnist for Glamour, Latina, Essence, Men’s Health, and Good Housekeeping. Carmen is the author of a series of novels and two bestselling advice books, including her latest memoir "Why Didn't You Tell Me?". She is the founder and CEO of Malecon Productions, LLC, where she develops female-focused media and entertainment.

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Twitter: @CarmenSense

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Single Moms! Have a Sex Life! with Writer Rebecca Woolf Nov 02, 2023

“I don’t believe in rules.”

Rebecca Woolf is a rule-breaker: she doesn't believe in following society's cookie-cutter definitions of motherhood. In this unapologetic episode, she takes us on a journey through her life as a mother who fully embraces her sexuality and autonomy. Just like we say at the beginning of each episode, Rebecca has not only broken the rules in her own life, but also found her path to being freer, happier, sexier, and more self-expressed.

Rebecca's path to this point is unconventional, and she's here to share every raw, honest, and sexy detail. With an award-winning personal blog, "Girl's Gone Child," her Substack “The Braid,” the column "Sex and the Single Mom" on Romper.com, and her memoir "All of This," Rebecca has shattered the rules and redefined what it means to be a single mom.

In this episode, Erin and Rebecca dive headfirst into the intricate world of motherhood, sexuality, and self-expression. Together, they unpack:

Why it feels scandalous to be a mom writing about sex in our culture and what we can do to challenge those beliefs
What it means when someone tells you you're "more than just a mom" and how it robs us of thinking of moms as multifaceted humans.
Navigating parenting as a single mom: being both mom and dad, and the complexities of bringing new partners into one’s life
Why blended families shouldn't always be the goal - there are other options beyond falling back into conventional relationships
The liberating power of creating a shame-free home

OUR GUEST: Rebecca Woolf, a personal essayist since her teens, is renowned for her award-winning blog, "Girl’s Gone Child," and essays featured in Refinery29, LitHub, Entertainment Weekly, Huffington Post, and more. She writes the column "Sex & the Single Mom" on Romper.com and “ The Braid" newsletter on Substack. Her published works include "Rockabye: From Wild to Child" and the best-selling memoir "ALL OF THIS: a memoir of death and desire." Based in Los Angeles, she shares her life with her son and three daughters.

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Twitter: @GirlsGoneChild

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Loving Men while Dismantling the Patriarchy with Author Sonora Jha Oct 25, 2023

What would you do if you weren’t afraid of failing? Dr. Sonora Jha., essayist, novelist, and professor of journalism at Seattle University, is the embodiment of this very question. From forsaking math and sciences growing up in Mumbai, to entering the male-dominiated field of journalism, to writing the memoir “How to Raise a Feminist Son'' and the novel “The Laughter” (which is told from a white male perspective), today’s guest has consistently defied societal expectations. True to her life story, Dr. Jha doesn't mince words. She fearlessly dives into charged topics like 'patriarchy,' 'white supremacy,' and 'the male gaze,' revealing how these forces influence both societal norms and our personal choices.

Prepare for a fascinating, honest and insightful conversation that touches on love, feminism, identity, how we tell our own stories, and so much more, including:

How discovering the freedom to fail allowed Dr. Jha to explore her passion for storytelling
The challenges of working in a male-dominated field
The harsh truths about the 'having it all' mythExploring the crossroads of white supremacy and colonization and their impact on education, culture, and our personal choices
Dr. Jha’s journey writing from the white male perspective in "The Laughter" and how it became a vehicle for truth and self-expression as a brown woman
The revelation that we're all unreliable narrators in our life stories and the complexities of human perception and storytelling
The challenges of being a woman of color in a relationship with a conservative white man, exploring the intricate dance of love and politics
Rediscovering the beauty in the institution of marriage and choosing love over fear in our daily lives and relationships

OUR GUEST: Sonora Jha, PhD, is a renowned essayist, novelist, and journalism professor at Seattle University. She's the author of 'How to Raise a Feminist Son,' 'Foreign,' and 'The Laughter.' Sonora's op-eds and essays have graced publications like the New York Times and The Establishment. With an extensive background in journalism, she's taught writing at prestigious institutions like Hugo House and Hedgebrook Writers’ Retreat and serves on the boards of Hedgebrook Writers’ Retreat, Artist Trust, and Hugo House.

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Twitter: @ProfSonoraJha

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The Lies We Tell Ourselves That Keep Us Stuck with Life Coach Lauren Zander Oct 19, 2023

“What do you think will happen first, world peace or the end of lying?”

Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of The Handel Group, was a life coach long before being a life coach was a “thing”. Forget the clichés; Lauren's trademarked coaching technique, the Handel Method, isn't about hand-holding—it's about getting sh*t done. She's taught it at prestigious institutions like MIT and Stanford Business School and counts celebrities, CEOs, and entrepreneurs among her clients.

In this episode, Lauren takes the wheel as your personal life coach to expose the truths we're afraid to confront. First stop: our culture, which, let's be real, thrives on lying. But Lauren's on a mission to change that. She'll lay out why we're all so prone to being “pleasey” (especially women!), the role behavioral epigenetics plays in our life choices, and how self-sacrifice leaves us high and dry. We also discuss:

Lauren’s journey from being an environmental studies graduate to becoming a life-coaching guru
Behavioral epigenetics and why knowing your family history is like holding the treasure map to your future
Why we're trained to lie, and how it holds us back, making us feel like we're imposters
Unmasking the origin of people-pleasing, the invisible puppeteer that hijacks our desires
The concept of parallel relationships—you don't have to agree and overlap on everything
Lauren dissects the three main voices in our heads: the chicken (fear), the brat (self-sabotage), and the weather reporter (judgment and commentary). Learn how to master these voices, drop the excuses, and step into authenticity
Why doing what we know will get results feels like trying to move mountains and why big achievements aren't microwaveable
The power of transparency and authenticity in coaching. Lauren believes in laying it all out, and she's got the results to prove it

OUR GUEST: Lauren Zander is the Founder and CEO of Handel Group®, a renowned life coaching company. She's the creator of The Handel Method®, taught in over 35 world-class institutions like MIT, NYU, and Stanford Graduate School of Business. Lauren is the creator of Inner.U: Learn to Human Better®, the online coaching course that teaches the entirety of The Handel Method. With two decades of coaching experience, Lauren has empowered countless clients, including top executives from companies like Vogue and AOL. She's also authored "Maybe It’s You," a practical guide to achieving your life goals. Lauren's expertise has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and more.

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Making Peace with Divorce and Opening Your Heart To Love Oct 12, 2023

What if you dared to let go of the old to make room for the new?

In today’s episode, Erin gets raw and vulnerable when reflecting on the seismic shifts in her life. From getting a divorce after 17 years of marriage, navigating the maze co-parenting, and the plot twist of finding an unexpected new love. If you've ever found yourself in the midst of a divorce, a crumbling relationship, or a job that sucks the soul out of you, Erin’s got a message: It’s ok to let it go.

Erin’s story is a reminder that each time we let something go, we are given the gift to begin again and take control of our own destiny. Here’s your sign to embrace the beauty in life’s unpredictability and savor the freedom in new beginnings.

Buckle-up as we discuss:

Divorce Isn't a Dirty Word: It's okay to admit when a relationship has run its course. Divorce can be mutual, liberating, and the right decision for both parties
Sharing Your Truth: Why Erin talks openly about her personal life on the podcast and a reminder that your story is yours to tell
Co-Parenting After Divorce: How setting boundaries and maintaining respect can lead to a peaceful and functional arrangement for everyone involved
Making Room for the Unexpected: Erin’s journey to falling in love again and why we shouldn’t be afraid to embrace the unexpected and let relationships evolve naturally

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Manifesting Your Destiny like a Boss with Adult Film Star Lisa Ann Oct 05, 2023

Lisa Ann is a name synonymous with adult film fame, but her journey goes far beyond the screen. She has also been a talent agent, written two books, and is now a radio host for fantasy sports, including the "Lisa Ann Does Fantasy Bettor" show on Youtube. Lisa's story is one of resilience, reinvention, and empowerment. Her ability to navigate two vastly different worlds and emerge as a strong, influential figure is a testament to her determination and unwavering commitment to personal growth.

Join Erin as she delves deep into Lisa Ann's remarkable life story, from her early years as a teenager to her evolution from adult film stardom to becoming a respected voice in the world of sports radio and fantasy football, including the wisdom and life lessons she learned along the way. Get ready as we discuss:

Lisa Ann's journey to achieve three essential goals: traveling the world, achieving financial independence, and making her own schedule
Building a strong sense of self and learning to prioritize your own thoughts and values over others' opinions
How Lisa’s time in the p*rn industry helped foster her sexual self-discovery and taught her the importance of connection and communication in sex
Her unwavering advocacy for female empowerment and “interracial” representation within the adult entertainment industry.
Insights into the changing landscape of adult content, from strict regulations in the '90s to the rise of aggressive and degrading material in today’s online world
The complexities and risks of platforms like OnlyFans and the importance of online safety
Lisa’s transition into the world of fantasy sports–a lesson in maximizing the opportunities you’re given by doing your homework and working hard

OUR GUEST: Lisa Ann is an icon in the Adult Industry with over two decades of success. Her career spans from being the most searched adult star to feature dancing, producing, directing, and running a talent agency for adult performers. In 2014, Lisa Ann shocked the world with her retirement, driven by her newfound passion for SiriusXM Fantasy Sports Radio. She dominated the Fantasy Football scene, winning the SiriusXM Celebrity Host League in her debut year. Her retirement mantra was simple, "it’s time to get out of bed and put some clothes on!" Since her retirement, she has written two books, including her autobiography, "The Life," providing an unfiltered look into the world of an adult star. This marked the beginning of her love for writing and a world of opportunities.

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/thereallisaann

WATCH “Lisa Ann Does Fantasy Bettor” every Wednesday night 7-9pm (ET) at https://www.youtube.com/@bettornetwork

LISTEN to “The Lisa Ann Experience” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-lisa-ann-experience/id1525220847

Lisa Ann’s BOOKs are:

“The Life”: https://thelifelisaann.com/products/the-life-by-lisa-ann
“The Life Back”: https://thelifelisaann.com/products/the-life-back-hardcover

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Using Improv to Get Unstuck and Silence Your Inner Critic (with Katie Goodman) Sep 28, 2023

Can improv comedy be used as a tool to improve your life?

Drawing from her wealth of experience teaching improv to groups from nuclear physicists to CEOs, award-winning comedian, author, and speaker Katie Goodman demonstrates how the principles of improv can help you live more creatively, spontaneously, and courageously. Whether it’s learning to navigate the unexpected, being present with what’s right in front of us, or silencing your inner critic, Katie’s contagious enthusiasm and practical wisdom prove that there’s so much more that can be gleaned from improv than just making you laugh.

In this episode, Erin gets specific with Katie to extract those practical gems you can apply right now. Here's what's on the table:

The 8 ways improv comedy can serve as a practical tool for dealing with the unexpected, effective communication, being present, and more! Learn more HERE
How constraints can breed creativity
Gagging your inner critic and replacing it with an inner coach to guide your towards your goals and avoid the negative self-talk
Learning to embrace small changes and the thrill of ‘getting lost’ to uncover your authentic self
Showing up as our authentic selves, in both our professional and personal lives. Find your niche and rock it.

OUR GUEST: Katie Goodman is an acclaimed comedian, author, and speaker with a comedic career garnering 3+ million online views and TV appearances. She's the creator of "Broad Comedy," a national Off-Broadway touring show blending comedy and self-help, recognized by luminaries like Arianna Huffington, Comedy Central, and more. With a Philosophy degree from the University of Pennsylvania, Katie's diverse expertise led to her MacArthur Genius Grant nomination for theater work. With over two decades of experience, she's empowered 30,000+ individuals through improv comedy tools to enhance creativity, courage, and confidence. Beyond her New York City base, Katie travels nationwide, sharing her wisdom through speaking events, comedy shows, and corporate workshops, helping people thrive in handling life's challenges. She's also the author of "Improvisation For The Spirit," offering insights into leading a more creative, spontaneous, and courageous life using improv comedy techniques.

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Likeability and the Cost of Faking It Sep 21, 2023

Why do we care so much about what others think of us? We've all been there, meticulously curating our lives to be oh-so likable. But guess what? It's time to shed that people-pleasing skin and unleash our unfiltered, unapologetic, and authentic selves. In this episode, Erin fearlessly tackles the age-old conundrum of whether you'd rather be liked by everyone (yawn) or adored by those who truly get you. In a culture that breeds chameleons, it’s time to start being the neon unicorn you were born to be.

From middle school drama to navigating the corporate world, Erin shares laugh-out-loud anecdotes and hard-earned wisdom on why being your authentic self is not just liberating; it's downright magnetic. This includes:

Getting honest: are you willing to settle for being liked by many but not truly known, or do you crave deep connections with those who genuinely understand you?
Focusing on connecting with those who truly resonate with you, rather than the approval of the herd
Why your job in life is to be the best version of yourself and share your unique gifts with the world
How people-pleasing and faking happiness can limit your self-expression and personal growth
Cultivating a positivity bias and how it can help you attract the right people and opportunities

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Can Your Body Reverse Menopause? Science and Hope with Dr. Anna Cabeca Sep 14, 2023

When we say women over 40 are “Hotter Than Ever”, we mean it and so does Dr. Anna Cabeca. As a triple-board certified OBGYN, best selling author, and host of “The Girlfriend Doctor" podcast, Dr. Anna is on a mission to break the stigma that menopause means “it’s all downhill from here” and instead help women reclaim their vibrancy, sexuality, health, and happiness before, during, and after menopause. Through her multi-decade medical career and her own personal experiences, Dr. Anna has not only been able to successfully reverse her own early onset menopause and infertility, but help countless women thrive in this phase of life. It’s all part of what Dr. Anna refers to as getting in touch with your vitality during your “second spring” of life.

Join Erin and Dr. Anna in this insightful conversation as they discuss the importance of holistic health and reclaiming your agency to enjoy a healthier and happy life in your second spring when confronting menopause. Other topics include:

Discussing the gaps in women’s healthcare that Dr. Anna experienced first hand
How discovering ancient healing practices, medicinal foods, and lifestyle shifts that reversed Dr. Anna’s early menopause diagnosis and enabled her to naturally conceive a child at 41
How a “food as medicine” approach and the mind-body connection play crucial roles in women's health and challenge conventional medicine
Empowering oneself to take control of their health and address root causes rather than merely managing symptoms
Debunking menopause myths and shedding light on perimenopause
Bio-identical hormones and the potential for rejuvenation during menopause
How removing stress, choosing positivity, and reconnecting with love and intimacy can help you become happier and healthier in menopause

OUR GUEST: Anna Cabeca, DO, OBGYN, FACOG, is best selling author of The Hormone Fix and Keto-Green 16 and MenuPause . Dr. Anna is triple-board certified and a fellow of gynecology and obstetrics, integrative medicine, and anti-aging and regenerative medicine. She holds special certifications in functional medicine, sexual health, and bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. She lectures frequently on these topics throughout the world to large audiences and is known nationally as The Girlfriend Doctor and is host of The Girlfriend Doctor show. She has personally developed natural products to help women balance hormones and thrive through menopause including the highly acclaimed Julva® cream for the vulva and MightyMaca® Plus , a powerful superfood blend. She now lives in Dallas with her daughters, horses and dogs.

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You can find her books at:

The Hormone Fix https://drannacabeca.com/products/the-hormone-fix
Keto-Green™ 16: https://drannacabeca.com/products/keto-green-16
MenuPause: https://drannacabeca.com/pages/f-menupause-sneak-peek-opt-in

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Finding Your Sexual Agency with Sex Therapist Dr. Juliana Hauser Sep 07, 2023

“If you’re breathing, you’re sexual.” Dr. Juliana Hauser is on a mission to connect people with their essence – their truest self – through uncovering, demystifying, and reclaiming their unique sexuality. Through her work as a sex therapist and educator with countless clients, Dr. Juliana has demonstrated how showing up for yourself in the bedroom can help you show up for yourself in EVERY corner of your life.

In this episode, Erin and Dr. Juliana strip away societal taboos, inviting you to explore the hidden depths of your desires and rediscover your sexual agency to lead a happier and more fulfilled life. Other topics include:

Why sexuality is both a core expression of us and a core experience for us
Defining “holistic sexuality” and how it encompasses sensuality, connection, love, intimacy, desire, and pleasure
Sexual agency, and how it helps you better understand who you are and seek what you want in life, unapologetically
Rediscovering your desires by breaking free from societal expectations
How hearing “no’s” can help you better trust “yes’s”
How to apply skills from your sex life into other parts of your life (and vice versa!) to create success and fulfillment
Creating a sex plan and changing the discourse around sex
What sexual fantasies can tell us about ourselves and why they shouldn’t be judged

OUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide.

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The Universe, Spirituality, and Being Woo-Adjacent Aug 31, 2023

Step into the mystical as we delve into the realm of the "Woo". Erin ponders the enigmatic world of modern spirituality, offering a fresh perspective on astrology, human design, crystals, manifestation, intention setting, mantras, altars, and the belief that everything happens for a reason. Basically, Erin sorts all the bullsh*t that can come with contemporary interpretations of these practices, so you don’t have to. And once the dust settles, it becomes clear the power these tools can hold in helping us show up as our best selves each day and in savoring the present.

In this episode, Erin shares why after a long relationship with skepticism, she has since dubbed herself “Woo-Adjacent”, covering topics like:

Embracing the Woo: How contemporary spirituality offers an alternative to conventional religion
Astrology Alchemy: Erin’s secret horoscope obsession and how even the most rational minds can find solace and guidance in the stars
Manifestation Magic: The power of intention setting and vision boards in shaping your dreams and desires into reality
Mantras and Altars: Unearthing the significance of daily rituals and grounding practices that empower your journey toward authenticity
Force vs. Flow: Shifting from a mindset of control and force to one of ease and trust in the universe's guidance
Embracing the Unknown: Exploring the mysterious third path where life's surprises and opportunities unfold

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Moms on Mushrooms Creator Tracey Tee on her Heart Opening Radical Reinvention Aug 24, 2023

Magic mushrooms? Psychedelics? Microdosing? Drugs once considered countercultural are being reinvented as part of the plant medicine movement. As Tracey Tee, the founder of “Moms on Mushrooms” (M.O.M) explains, it’s perhaps the best ‘assistant’ you can find when it comes to your unique healing and personal growth. In a world overwhelmed by information and distractions, Tracy helps women forge a new path to reconnect with their hearts and true selves through the power of psychedelics.

Whether you're a seasoned advocate or a curious skeptic, join Erin as she delves into this eye-opening conversation with Tracy, who takes us on a journey from the depths of COVID-induced despair to the transformative power of micro-dosing with magic mushrooms, including:

Tracy’s journey, from co-creating "The Pump and Dump Show" for moms to her current role in the plant medicine movement
What is micro-dosing and how does it differ from traditional therapies?
Magic mushrooms’ role in mental wellness and personal growth
Changing the approach to mental health to empower individuals to take charge of their healing journey.
The cultural shift surrounding plant medicine and its potential to offer new perspectives on life, emotions, and inner peace.
Importance of community, intention, and readiness for change in the context of personal growth.
Exploring the skepticism about "woo”, while acknowledging its potential for healing and growth
Challenging preconceptions and encourages self-compassion, exploring the transformative power of psychedelics.

OUR GUEST: Tracey Tee, active in the momosphere for over a decade, co-created The Pump and Dump Show, starred in its nationally touring comedy, and co-produced the Band of Mothers Podcast. She's also the CEO of Band of Mothers Media. Inspired by her own psilocybin journey during the pandemic, in 2022, she launched M.O.M. (Moms on Mushrooms), an online microdosing course for moms. Tracey's mission is to unite mothers through plant medicine for personal growth and healing. M.O.M. has gained widespread recognition, featuring on NPR, Today Show, Piers Morgan, Rolling Stone, CBS Saturday Morning, PBS, Colorado Public Radio, NBC News, and Romper Magazine. Tracey resides in Denver, Colorado, with her husband of 21 years and their 12-year-old miracle daughter. She aims to create a conscious, Sacred Feminine-inspired model of doing business.

Want more Tracey? Find her online at https://www.momsonmushrooms.com/ and follow her work on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/momsonmushroomsofficial/

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How to Be Brave-ish with Travel Expert Lisa Niver Aug 17, 2023

Despite traveling to 102 countries and scuba-diving with shark countless times, writer and travel expert Lisa Niver wouldn’t call herself “brave”. She prefers “brave-ish”. As Lisa explains in her memoir Brave-ish: One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty, cultivating bravery is like planting seeds—it takes patience and practice to see it grow. Years later, the fruits of those seeds have led Lisa on an incredible journey of self-discovery, adventure, and transformation.

In this captivating episode, Lisa reminds us that it’s never too late to live our own "Brave-ish" life, explore the world, and create the life we dream of. In addition, Erin and Lisa discuss:

Lisa's transformation and liberation after getting divorced at 47
Her pursuit of 50 new adventures before turning 50 and the lessons she learned along the way
The significance of self-care, rest, and reflection in achieving personal growth
Redefining bravery as a muscle that grows through practice and facing fears
The power of embracing change, stepping out of our comfort zones, and taking challenges head-on
The importance of honest self-assessment, finding balance between adventure and community
Crafting a unique, unconventional life path

OUR GUEST: Lisa Niver, an award-winning travel expert, has explored 102 countries on six continents. A University of Pennsylvania graduate, she spent seven years sailing with cruise lines like Princess Cruises and Royal Caribbean, and three years backpacking across Asia. Her articles appear in esteemed publications like AARP and WIRED, and she hosts the podcast Make Your Own Map, featuring interviews with figures like Deepak Chopra and Olympic medalists. With multiple journalism awards and finalist recognition, Niver is also a #3 travel influencer in 2023. She shares her insights on KTLA TV, YouTube (2 million views), and in her memoir "Brave-ish, One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty."

Want more Lisa? Find her online at http://wesaidgotravel.com/ and follow her on:

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisaellenniver/

You can find her book at: https://lisaniver.com/braveish/

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Leaving a Life you Love to Save Yourself with Author Kelly McMasters Aug 10, 2023

What do you do when you are faced with the choice between leaving a life you love or leaving yourself behind? These are the questions that essayist, professor, and mother Kelly McMasters explores in her memoir The Leaving Season, as she details her remarkable journey from being a sophisticated writer in New York City to a rural mom of two in Pennsylvania. It was in this transition that Kelly came to define her unique relationship to motherhood, find liberation in divorce, and discover the beauty that comes with choosing yourself and unapologetic happiness.

Join us for a deeply emotional and powerful conversation, as Kelly and Erin explore themes of love, loss, transformation, motherhood, self-discovery, and freedom, including:

Breaking free from a life that no longer allows you to be you
Raw emotions of motherhood: when you don’t think of yourself as a “natural mother”; the freeing feeling of becoming a single mother after divorce
The fantasy of marriage and how it masks the reality of what happens when relationships grow apart
Complexities of divorce, finding critical distance, and softening anger from past relationships
Reinvention as a mother and finding empowerment on your own terms
Dating after divorce: creating a relationship in a way that works best for you and letting go of the fantasy
What it means to no longer apologize for using your voice

OUR GUEST: Kelly McMasters is an essayist, professor, mother, and former bookshop owner. She is the author of several books including her recent memoir-in-essays The Leaving Season, and co-editor of the ABA national bestseller Wanting: Women Writing About Desire (Catapult, 2023). Her essays, reviews, and articles have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post Magazine and The Paris Review. Kelly serves as an Associate Professor of English and Director of Publishing Studies at Hofstra University.

Want more Kelly? Find her online at www.kellymcmasters.com and follow her on:

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Facebook: www.facebook.com/kelly.mcmasters.3

You can find her books at:

The Leaving Season: A Memoir in Essays: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-leaving-season-kelly-mcmasters/1142386744
Wanting: Women Writing About Desire: https://bookshop.org/p/books/wanting-women-writing-about-desire-margot-kahn/18576719?ean=9781646220113

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Dating Coach Bela Gandhi Helps You Avoid Dumpster Fire Relationships Jul 27, 2023

What does it mean to find “the lid to your pot?” Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy, shares her journey from business school to unlocking her gift for igniting meaningful connections. From her work with countless clients, Bela delivers insights on love, attachment, and embracing the best version of ourselves on the journey to finding lasting happiness.

Bela takes the reins as your love life's personal trainer in this transformational conversation with Erin. They delve deep into relationships, from the evolutionary roots of our romantic preferences, to the impact of family dynamics on dating patterns, and so much more, including:

Unmasking the truth behind relationship failures
Why someone “good on paper” is not always worth the paper it’s written on
The fascinating role of DNA in our dating preferences, including the allure of tall men
Understanding the difference between what we think we want vs. what we truly need for lasting love
Discovering your "elevator people" and aligning happiness with potential partners
Breaking free from destructive relationship cycles fueled by family of origin dynamics
Debunking misconceptions about attraction and chemistry
Why we’re acculturated to want the wrong things in a relationship
Why Bela has her clients wait 15+ dates before exploring physical intimacy (WHAT?!) and the importance of standing in your emotional strength
Redefining relationships as fundamentally contractual and knowing when to renegotiate those contracts

OUR GUEST: Bela Gandhi is a born cupid with a gift for helping people find love. Her matchmaking journey began in college when she had a lightning bolt moment, predicting a perfect match for her roommate who eventually got married and had beautiful kids. While getting degrees in Finance and German and working in Mergers & Acquisitions, Bela's passion for matchmaking persisted. After her family business was acquired, she founded Smart Dating Academy in 2009, incorporating online dating into her proven process. Now, with a life she adores, a fantastic husband, and two amazing kids, Bela is dedicated to spreading love and helping others find their perfect match.

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Investigating the Desire to be Desired with Writer Melissa Febos Jul 20, 2023

Melissa Febos has always had a penchant for operating outside of convention. Whether it was her eagerness to try all of the drugs she was warned about in her school’s D.A.R.E program or deciding to self-homeschool herself at 16, she knew she was different from her peers. Now as a bestselling author and associate professor, Melissa joins us to explore the complexities of desire, empowerment, and self-discovery, drawing from her experiences as a professional dominatrix and her recovery from heroin addiction.

In this conversation Erin and Melissa have no limits when it comes to talking about sexuality and the power of embracing your true self, including:

Working outside of conventional norms and institutions, while being driven and intellectually curious
Living with addiction and working in the sex industry
Writing about your life experience and how it can be used to make sense of yourself and your past
Exploring sexual empowerment, and the desire to be desired over 40
Talking about sex with your kids, from expectations and pornography to the language of consent
Why not telling yourself the whole truth can be a survival mechanism
Embracing change and recognizing that personal and sexual evolution are constant
The value of open and communicative relationships to sustain personal development

OUR GUEST: Melissa Febos is the bestselling author of four books, most recently, Girlhood, winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award in criticism, and Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative. She is the recipient of awards and fellowships from the Guggenheim Foundation, the National Endowment for the Arts, MacDowell, LAMBDA Literary and others. She is an associate professor at the University of Iowa.

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15 Things That Make A Relationship Hot Jul 13, 2023

What are the things that make a romantic relationship Hotter Than Ever? Sure there's chemistry and physical attraction (that's a given!) but there are so many other factors that make for a healthy, sexy, open connection between two conscious adults. Erin shares her opinion on how to turn up the heat by cultivating aspects like:

Self-reliance
Affection
Honesty
Vulnerability
Reliability
Confidence
Asking for What You Want
Boundaries
Time Alone
Positivity
Listening
and of course, as Aretha sang...Respect

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Trusting Yourself with Your Own Dreams and Desires With Sybil Amuti Jul 06, 2023

What is the fabric of your spirit? Podcaster and brand strategist and Sybil Amuti not only answers questions like these, but inspires us to ask them of ourselves. In this episode, we’re investigating how we show up for the world and what it takes to embrace our truest, most colorful selves. Sybil’s infectious charm, inspiring wisdom and expansive podcast community are proof of the miracles that happen when we harness the power of voice–whether that’s our own, the voices of others, or even the voice of God. This episode is packed with revelations and Sybil is taking us to church (although church might not be where you think it is):

The power of community that comes from storytelling
Understanding that we are not alone–and that asking for help is a powerful tool (even if you’re yelling at God or the universe…we won’t judge)
Learning how to put your spirit on display. How can we identify ourselves through things like clothing, passions, even candy (are you a Starburst or a Dove Bar?).
Overcoming chronic people pleasing, and knowing that the effort you put into helping others should also go towards helping yourself
Not dwelling on the bad stuff, because of how much evidence we have of the good stuff
Exploring the difference between the structure of religion and a personal relationship with God, and leaning into that connection when it calls to us
Finding evidence of the divine in nature (why is corn so organized? What is a pine cone and why does it look like that? You can’t make this stuff up!)
Embracing that we are just shadows and dust. Let’s all just enjoy the magical things that are available to us, like human connection, community, and dressing up
Claiming your voice sometimes requires the silencing of everyone else’s, and working on suspending the judgment of others (and yes, we mean the voices in your head, too)

Make sure to listen to Sybil on the Great Girlfriends Show podcast using this link, or find it wherever you get your podcasts. The Great Girlfriends Show connects women with daily tips and solutions for living a passionate life and building a thriving business, and we couldn’t recommend it enough.

OUR GUEST: Sybil Clark Amuti is an executive brand strategist, podcast producer and host, philanthropist, wife, and mother. For over 15 years, Sybil has delivered world-class strategy and brand direction to some of the world's most renowned personal, corporate, and philanthropic brands, such as Scholastic, Nike, Sony Entertainment, Conde Nast, Tony Robbins, Red Table Talk and more. Her company, Legacy Row, is focused on legacy brand building and creating an alliance of like missioned brands who seek to create an impact on a local to global level.

Sybil also serves as the creator and co-host of The Great Girlfriends Show, a podcast conversation series created to connect women with daily tips and solutions for living a passionate everyday life and building a thriving business. Under her direction, The Great Girlfriends has served over 700,00 women with content and experiences that support their growth journey.

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Dating and App Culture: Options, Acronyms, and WTF is Compersion? Jun 29, 2023

Romance has gone through a big operating system update recently.Now that Erin’s been released from captivity (aka her long marriage), she’s giving us a highly subjective, hopefully handy survival guide to this new, evolved ecosystem of love. But in order to redefine our beliefs around love, romance and dating, we’ll first have to define some terms. It’s easy to get tangled in the wires of all this new-age romance, especially when there’s all this new, at times nerdy terminology that goes with it (WTF is a polycule?). Open your notebooks, everyone, because today we’ll be giving you lessons such as:

The 411 on dating apps: which ones are right for you, depending on your wants and needs
What it means that people are questioning monogamy–now that partnerships are lasting longer than ever
What it’s like to begin that process of unlearning implicit biases around relationship structures and opening your belief system to consider options other than monogamy
How people in unconventional relationships may be using layers of language to intellectualize something that’s likely to be very challenging emotionally
There’s not just one way of being, anyone can re-assess and re-define what they think about love and monogamy at any time–and you can do that too!
When it comes to love and desire, all bets are off. It’s a choose your own adventure life now, and it’s time to make the most of yours

Here’s an index of terms we discuss in this episode, for reference:

GGG: “Good Giving and Game.” Someone who is good in bed, committed to giving equal pleasure, and is up for anything

ENM/CNM: Ethical/Consensual Non-Monogamy. People who want to be/sleep with multiple people at a time, but don’t want to be dishonest about it.

Polyamory: The practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved.

Primary/nesting Partner: The partner you are most committed/attached to in a polyamorous relationship. If they are your “nesting partner,” that means you live with them.

NRE: “New Relationship Energy.” That feeling in a new relationship when you’re deeply infatuated with someone and it’s borderline obsessive

Compersion: Experiencing or feeling joy for your partner when they are excited about a new relationship or turned on by a new sexual thing they’re experiencing with someone other than you

Polycule: A group of three or more people in a relationship together

Unicorn: A third party sexual partner that you and your partner bring in to your sexual and/or romantic relationship

Relationship escalator: A relationship that builds upwards towards linear goals (ie. moving in together, having children, etc)

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Finding the Humor Inside of Tragedy with Comedian Kellye Howard Jun 22, 2023

Calling Kellye Howard resilient doesn’t quite capture her ability to triumph in the face of relentless challenges. The stand up comic/actor/speaker turns even the darkest of tragedies into stories that will leave you hanging on every word. Her journey of healing through laughter–and lots of therapists–is epic, and her willingness to try anything once (except beef, pork and scorpions) will inspire you to do the same. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it takes to find yourself–and follow your passion–no matter what challenges life throws your way. Kellye takes us through the many different lives she’s lived, and we uncover truths such as:

The pain we carry from trauma doesn’t go away until we face it head on– it will keep showing up in other places until we do
It’s vital to remember your successes in life just as much–if not more–than the failures
Doing what you’re passionate about is a powerful medicine. In many cases, it can be lifesaving
When you’re passionate about something–keep at it, no matter what you’ve been through or how long you’ve taken a break from it. This next try could be your best yet
Don’t let your past dictate who you could become
Sometimes, it’s helpful to view adversity as an opportunity to grow closer to your authentic, best self
One form of healing is likely not going to be the one that fixes it all–healing is a cumulative process, and you are the result of every step you take towards that healing–whether that be trying out different therapists or going to see a witch–all of it adds to your growth
Seek lasting joy instead of fleeting happiness–it will ensure that your cup is half full even on your worst days

Make sure to follow Kellye’s socials for details about her upcoming one woman show, “Crazy Or Nah,” in theaters later this year, and listen to her podcast “Be Less Petty” using this link, or find it wherever you get your podcasts. You can also watch her in the TV series “Power Book IV: Force” on Starz, Amazon Prime, or Hulu.

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How to Stop Judging Our Bodies and Finally Live Shame-Free Jun 15, 2023

If you have even been convinced that you needed to lose weight before you went after that next relationship, promotion or achievement of any kind, you are not alone. In this episode, we’re renegotiating the qualifications it takes to have a “successful” body. The answer? Making peace with the body you’re in right now. Erin walks us through her journey of overcoming an unhealthy relationship with food and self-image, and after years of diets, weight fluctuation, 12 step programs, and searching for a higher power…she’s here to assure you that you are more than capable of finding success and love at any size. Your body is not deviant, incorrect, or unlovable. And neither are you.

Through this journey, we’ll be exploring subjects such as:

How our belief systems and the narratives we allow our subconscious to tell us limit what we think we’re capable of in life
Overcoming the judgment of a gorgeous family that finds chubbiness unacceptable
The reality behind trading your health and a normal functioning body to achieve what is ultimately a temporary ideal body shape
The dangers of internalizing the message “to be thin is to be lovable”
Unlearning the belief that it’s our job as women to control our weight and our bodies
Internalizing the truth that (shocker) men actually like women’s bodies, and not just one specific kind
Demystifying the dominance the scale has on the lives of many women, and realizing that those numbers mean absolutely nothing
Understanding that it’s important to live well and take care of your health, but that a large part of being well is not being so f*cking mean to yourself!

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Betting on Yourself: Leaning into Scary Things with Director Dawn Porter Jun 08, 2023

Dawn Porter was reluctant to call herself a Director, even after her movie premiered at Sundance and got picked up by HBO.Today her award-winning documentaries (John Lewis: Good Trouble, The Way I See It)are an invaluable addition to the historical record, but her humility keeps her from calling herself an activist. In this episode, we’re using Dawn's expertise – she was once a practicing attorney – to renegotiate the contracts that keep women from assuming titles we don’t think we’re qualified for, even when we have more than enough on our resumes. Dawn takes us through her incredible journey from comfortable DC lawyer to celebrated documentarian, covering topics such as:

The importance of advocating for yourself with as much passion as you advocate for others
How to free yourself from the traps of structure and comfort to take on your next, great adventure
How to use mistakes as stepping stones to your next success
Learning how to get comfortable with discomfort
Stepping into your power and your title as a woman in charge
Acknowledging the danger of “if it ain't broke, don’t fix it,” because sometimes breaking things is the first step to your next great adventure. In Dawn’s case, it led her to flying on with Oprah in her private jet to meet Harry (yes, that Harry)

OUR GUEST: Dawn Porter is an award-winning documentary filmmaker. Her latest film, The Lady Bird Diaries - about first lady Lady Bird Johnson, just premiered at SXSW. She has had a busy decade - she made a great ESPN documentary series 37 Wordsabout Title IX, the civil rights legislation that gave women the equal opportunity to play sports, and her mental health series The Me You Can’t See,which she made with Oprah and Prince Harry, premiered on Apple TV. You may also have seen her films John Lewis: Good Trouble about the legendary Congressman and Civil Rights leader or The Way I See It, about photojournalist Pete Souza, who served as Chief Official White House photographer for President Barack Obama.

Make sure to watch Dawn’s latest film The Lady Bird Diaries, when it airs on Paramount Plus and Showtime this fall.

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Finding Belonging in Spite of Ourselves with Actor Alysia Reiner Jun 01, 2023

You belong. You think you don’t, but you do. I promise. Despite being a successful actor, producer, activist and…firefighter(?!) Alysia Reiner still has to remind herself that she fits in. But she goes beyond just reminding herself–Reiner is on a mission to create belonging for others through her films, art and social justice endeavors. The definition of walking the walk, she’s all about taking action.

Why give money to environmental rights groups when you could learn to be a community firefighter instead? Why post about women getting equal pay when you can make a movie–by women for women–and make the female investors 110% back on their returns? Does this woman ever sleep? We’ll answer all this and more in this episode, with some pretty life changing takeaways, such as:

Life is all about playing the long game, especially now that we’re living longer than ever before
Take your creative career at your own pace: people reach success at different speeds
Don’t get a nose job. You do you.
Take the time before success to really get clear on what you want…once you figure that out, you’re more likely to become a magnet for it
Leaning into action-oriented service helps to heal you as much as it helps your community
Regardless of how many magazine covers, red carpets or runways one is on, belonging is elusive to all of us at times
To succeed in a long term partnership, work on conflicts before they even start. Get a couples therapist before you have problems, just to have someone on deck who knows your relationship. That is, if your partner’s open to it
Loving your partner is a choice that you have to make every day, and making intimacy a priority is essential
You can try your hardest and do your absolute best and still fail: it’s the getting back up that counts

If you’re feeling particularly inspired, find local volunteer firefighter opportunities at https://makemeafirefighter.org/

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Why We Stay in Unhappy Relationships May 25, 2023

There are many reasons we stay in long-term marriages/ partnerships/ relationships that aren't working. But what if staying, in the end, is not the right decision for you? How do you know when it's time to go?

Erin shares the kinds of relationship dynamics she's seen and admires; the reasons she stayed too long in her own marriage; why your friends are not going to tell you the truth, and how you can make a change without first having to go to the depths of suffering.

In this episode, we’ll be unpacking what it means to take the leap, asking ourselves...

What am I willing to accept as a baseline of happiness and wellbeing?
If my marriage has problems, are they the kind I want to work at solving?
How do I gain the courage to generate immense change in my life, even when it seems impossible?

You deserve a partnership filled with compassion and kindness that supports your every dream!

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Everything is a Love Problem and Only You Can Solve It (with Sheri Salata) May 18, 2023

We’re sitting down with Oprah dynasty legend, author, producer and transformation doula Sheri Salata to renegotiate what life looks like after you’ve achieved your wildest dreams (hint: it’s not over!). We’ll be unpacking what it means to focus on yourself beyond your work, and what happens when we choose to step out from behind the curtain and into the spotlight. Join us for a conversation about:

The price of amassing conventional success and achievements, and how that factors into our self worth
Learning how to steward your own wellbeing and ascend beyond people pleasing
Recovering from self betrayal–in the many forms it takes–and learning how to have your own back
What it means to choose discomfort in order to continue evolving, releasing, healing and upleveling, until our very last breath
Getting over the shame that comes with the desire to be front and center, and to have a public voice and presence
Overcoming chronic dissatisfaction and learning to appreciate the time you have left in this world (and start using it to its fullest)
Knowing that you can’t complain your way to the life of your dreams. Our actions are completely informed by the stories we tell ourselves, so start telling yourself an incredible story and get going!

“The only love that you must have, that’s like breath, is yours” - Sheri Salata

“I f*cking hate the way that everything’s an evolution, we’re never just fixed” - Erin Keating

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OUR GUEST: Sheri Salata is an author, world class producer and transformation doula. She is the founder + CEO of The Support System, a global membership group for women dedicated to creating real-life transformation. Sheri’s memoir, The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation is an Amazon Editor’s Choice Best Memoir and an Apple Must-Listen audio book.

Sheri spent 20 years in the land of Oprah finishing that glorious run as the final Executive Producer of The Oprah Winfrey Show, President of Harpo Studios and President of OWN as captured in the cable hit series Season 25: Oprah Behind The Scenes. Sheri lives in the Napa Valley with her bulldog babies Dolly and Buzz the Wonder Boy.

Learn more about “The Support System” through this link. Check out her incredible memoir, “The Beautiful No” here.

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Getting Back Out There After a Long…Long Time May 11, 2023

Calling all formerly partnered/married/committed folks. It’s time to get back out there! But how? Where? And what do I do?! In this juicy episode, Erin dishes about what happened when she started dating a bunch of men (and many at the same time) in the year after ending her marriage of 16 years. Bottom line – whatever you’re looking for is available to you. So how do you figure out what you are looking for?

In this episode, Erin takes us through her Rumspringa of romantic adventures in the year following her separation, and divulges some of the lessons she’s learned along the ride. We're renegotiating the timeline for when we're allowed to date, have torrid affairs, and get super f*cking romantically entangled. We’ll be covering topics like:

Using romantic exploration to cultivate your own sense of self and desires
Reconnecting with your body and desirability during your sexual reprise (people still want you, and you don’t have to be skinny or a 20 year old!)
Gaining practice in expressing your authentic and genuine needs
Seeking low stakes, exciting connections beyond just sex (but the sex is a great plus)
Cultivating a willingness to have new experiences, to accept new people into your life and to let them go
Trusting that if you go out there to have fun, you will evolve, and you’ll come to know what you want
Learning the “take a flier, just in case” mindset, because you never know when an unexpected connection can sweep you off your feet

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Owning All Sides of Your Sexuality with Music Producer Barb Morrison May 04, 2023

Even in fourth grade, Barb knew they had to get out. They had seen David Bowie in drag on SNL and realized there was something better out there, something that felt right. Sometimes the binary – whether that be for gender, sex, or position in bed – just doesn’t honor everything we are. So we go punk rock and say f*ck it.

In this episode, we’re talking to musician, Billboard Platinum music producer, author, and overall icon Barb Morrison. We're renegotiating what gender, sex, and everything in between means to us, and how that drives what we ask for–and who we become–in our relationships. Here’s some insight Barb gives us throughout the episode:

Gender is who you want to be, sexuality is who you want to f*ck
What it’s like knowing who you are but not having the words to describe it (yet)
Discovering your sexuality can happen through cartoon characters, crushes on 2nd grade teachers, punk rock, maybe even a gay boyfriend or two
Sometimes we just need to bottom for God and accept whatever love (or lessons) the universe has in store for us
Life is a tragedy in close up and a comedy when you zoom out…it’s good to trust that there’s a bigger picture
Exploring our roles and possibilities in the bedroom is essential, as is investigating your desires
Sex evolves in a partnership, and it can be seen as connection and communication just as much as a tool for pleasure

If you’re still thinking about Tom of Finland (as we are), check out this Wiki

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Claiming Your Own Legitimacy Apr 27, 2023

Do you ever wonder if you’re the one holding you back? In this episode Erin shares the attitudes and beliefs that will help you level up in your career or any area where your mojo could use a boost. HINT: Take a risk and channel Dolly Parton!

In this episode, we’re reopening the terms and conditions for what it takes to level up in life. We’ll be discussing…

What it actually means to be “qualified” for the life you want
The “legitimacy” versus “fuck it” attitude
How sometimes we need to fire ourselves in order to get a promotion
The beauty of audacity in women
Giving ourselves permission to try (and even to fail!)
Hairspray, John Waters, Dolly Parton, and much more

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Marrying the Wrong Guy: Writer Joanna Rakoff on Her Big Do-Over Apr 20, 2023

What happens if we immediately regret the single most important decision many of us will make in our lives? The day after writer Joanna Rakoff got married, she knew she had made a big mistake. But as a self-professed “good girl” and quasi-perfectionist, she stayed in the marriage for fifteen years. Her big wake up call came when at a conference, she spotted the man she had dated in college, not just any man, but the love of her life. Joanna shares how she overcame her fear of being judged by the world, and the relief that came when she finally let go and leapt into a new life.

In this episode, the contract we’re rewriting is one of expectations around romance, marriage, and motherhood. We’re challenging the imaginary court of public opinion that we as women have been taught to fear so much. We discuss:

Why a supposedly life-ending mistake can be a blessing in disguise
How to challenge the notion that making a big change will lead to ridicule
Some of the reasons we make not-so-stellar choices
The warning signs to notice in your body that reveal your true feelings
Why you should stop wasting so much time caring and start changing your life today

OUR GUEST: Joanna Rakoff is the author of the international bestselling memoir My Salinger Year and the bestselling novel A Fortunate Age, winner of the Goldberg Prize for Fiction and the Elle Readers’ Prize. Rakoff’s books have been translated into twenty languages, and the film adaptation of My Salinger Year, starring Sigourney Weaver and Margaret Qualley, opened in theaters worldwide in 2021 and is now available on Amazon Prime, AppleTV, and everywhere you stream movies.

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Pleasure: Why Are We So Afraid to Feel Good? Apr 20, 2023

Pleasure is more than just an Eat, Pray, Love fantasy. We need it to feel good! So why don’t we give ourselves permission to have more of it? Think about the last indulgence you allowed yourself beyond a glass of white wine or a square of dark chocolate (having two squares doesn’t count). Erin shares that most of us don’t even come close to the line of overindulgence, and how you can make pleasure a priority in your life today!

In this episode we discuss:

Renegotiating pleasure’s place in our lives
Taking inventory of everything we’ve been holding ourselves back from in order to “have it all”
Accepting that hedonism isn’t fatal
Flexing our biologically built-in feel-good muscles, igniting our senses, and rediscovering what it’s like to really put pleasure first. Really.

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