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3. Bring on the Men: Our Husbands on Being True Partners

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270. Amy + Abby: Looking Back at 5 Years of HERself Jan 27, 2025

HERself turned 5 years old this month! Join us, Abby and Amy, today to hear the HERself Podcast inception story, the bumps and growth that happened along the way, and some of our all-time favorite guests and moments from the last 5 years. We know none of this could be possible without our incredible listeners, so truly, from the bottom of our hearts, thank you for being a part of it! It started with an idea and has grown into this beautiful, supportive community where women can come together to get the best information from the best experts and we are so happy to be sharing this space with you all! We hope you hear some of your favorite past episodes and quotes - or that you’ll go back and re-listen to the ones that meet you where you are today. Cheers to 5 years and many more episodes to come!

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10. HERself Expert: Molly Millwood on Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma

213. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert: Kristin Neff on Self Compassion and Calming Your Mean Inner Critic

103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries

157. Real Parenting: What To Do When the Script Doesn’t Work with Claire Lerner

178. Discipline, Fostering Resilience, and Finding Your Confidence as a Parent with Dr. Aliza Pressman

21. HERself Expert: Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist. All Your Questions, Answered.

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269. Healthy Sleeping Habits for a Better Quality of Life With Dr. Fiona Baker Jan 20, 2025

You all know by now that here at the HERself podcast, we love and prioritize our sleep - our guest even deemed us sleep advocates! Which is why we are beyond excited to bring you today’s episode with Dr. Fiona Baker, Director of SRI International’s Human Sleep Research Program. She is a leading sleep expert who graciously joins us for today’s interview where we ask her questions we received straight from you all, our HERself community! Today we will discuss aspects of sleep like the differences between men and women, how our partners impact our sleep, what to do about sleep disturbances, and more. Because sleep touches all areas of our lives, Dr Fiona shares some great tips on how we can improve our sleep too to set ourselves up for a successful day. Whether you sleep well or are a light sleeper, we hope you find some key takeaways from this episode and have a great night’s sleep!

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268. Anxious Children: How We Can Better Support Them with Dr. Tammy Schamuhn Jan 13, 2025

We are so pleased to have Dr. Tammy Schamuhn on the podcast today! Tammy started her professional career in the classroom as a teacher in inner-city schools in Canada. While she enjoyed teaching, it was clear to her that teaching was not her passion. What she DID love was caring for her students with behavioral issues like anxiety. Tammy went back to school to earn her Master’s Degree in Psychology and now combines her love of teaching with her love of being a therapist on a daily basis by helping children and parents with her platform, Institute of Child Psychology, and her play therapy practice. Tammy is here today to guide us and talk us through all things related to childhood anxiety. We are answering questions like is it normal for children to have anxiety? What does anxiety look like in kids? And when should we, as parents, intervene? We found today’s interview to be SO educational and FULL of mindblowing information. It really hit home for us! If you love today’s episode too, we’d love it if you would share this episode with a friend who needs to hear Tammy’s knowledge!

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267. Feeling off? Understanding the Thyroid and How it Affects Women with Alisha Knicely Jan 06, 2025

If you’re a long time listener, you know we love talking about all things health and wellness. We are very open about our own health journeys here at the HERself Podcast, including our thyroid journeys. Which is why we are so excited to be interviewing Alisha Knicely today! Alisha is a mother of two and a Registered Dietitian and Integrative & Functional Practitioner specializing in hypothyroid conditions. Alisha understands what it's like to both live with and effectively manage Hashimoto’s and hypothyroidism as she’s struggled with both first hand. Lisha will share so much knowledge with us today that is comprehensive and holistic in nature; helping listeners to see the immense positive impact that lifestyle and nutritional changes can have on managing not only this condition, but other autoimmune conditions as well. It is clear that Lisha has a true passion for helping others and we are excited to share this episode with you all today! Whether you are here to learn more about hypothyroidism and are searching for solutions, love someone with a thyroid condition, or you are here as one of our avid listeners filling up your cup, we hope you find some new knowledge from today’s episode and are able to take away some solutions to apply to your health and wellness journey.

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266. Amy + Abby: Sustainable Shifts We're Making to Feel Good In the New Year Dec 30, 2024

Today’s episode will be the last of the year! We thought this would be the perfect opportunity to discuss moving into 2025 with a healthy mindset. Social media can make it really easy to get swept into the pressure of making New Year’s resolutions or extreme goals of starting a diet and exercise routine. We, Abby and Amy, have learned over the years how to start the new year with sustainable changes and mindset shifts that actually matter to us and our lifestyles. We are going to share our experiences from years past and the things we are shifting for 2025 to help make this our best year yet! We hope today’s episode is helpful for you as we start a new year, and would love it if you could share this episode with a friend!

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265. Greatest Hits: Everything You Need To Know About Sick Season With Resilient Rascals Dec 23, 2024

Happy holidays! This week, we wanted to revisit one of our most popular episodes as we not only are in the holiday season, but also sick season. This time of year, we are exposed to so many germs and may end up dealing with sick kiddos which can be a really stressful time for parents! Today’s guest is Dr. Anjuli Gans, a board-certified pediatrician and educator who runs the platform Resilient Rascals. She’s a trusted and compassionate provider who empowers parents with the knowledge and tools to tackle sick season.

Dr. Anjuli reveals how we as parents can deal with our kids being sick, and what she shares is not only honest, but her tips and advice on this topic is both realistic and practical. We are in this with you, as we’ve certainly been in situations where our kids have been sick and have experienced the impact it has on everyone in the family. We learned so much from Dr. Anjuli today, and we’re so excited for you to learn and use this information as well!
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264. Navigating In-law Relationships and Boundaries with Abby & Amy Dec 16, 2024

A few weeks ago we interviewed our husbands with YOUR questions sent in on our Instagram page. What we were not expecting to receive was a lot of questions about navigating in-law relationships! Since so many of you sent in questions on this topic, we thought we’d dedicate an entire episode diving into how our relationships with our in-laws have changed over the years and how we’ve navigated being daughter-in-laws.

When it comes to in-laws, everyone has a different story. We’ve seen these relationships go all sorts of directions in our friends’ lives and also in our own. If you’re feeling like your in-law relationship is hard as a parent of young children, you’re not alone. These relationships can be hard! We’ve been there. We’ve learned over the years that in-law relationships are a journey. We understand that today’s episode may not apply to everyone’s situation, and we want to hold space for you if that’s the case. However, if you feel it's appropriate, we hope you find our simple tips about managing expectations and boundaries, communication, and how to deal with the holidays (and more!) helpful and use them to nurture and grow your in-law relationships.

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263. Perfectionist Tendencies and How to Overcome Them with Dr. Menije Dec 09, 2024

Today on the podcast, we are happy to be hosting Dr. Menije, licensed Psychologist and founder of Embracing You Therapy which specializes in perfectionism, OCD, addiction, and anxiety. Dr. Menije is passionate about turning judgement into compassion, and pain into purpose. She loves helping people explore behavior changes to support their new way of thinking and utilize action goals.

This episode will be a deep dive into perfectionism; the addiction to it, why it can create anxiety, and more. With the holidays approaching, we all can fall victim to the feeling of needing to be doing it ALL or MORE. This episode is a great listen for someone who is a perfectionist themselves and wants to learn better strategies to manage their tendencies. On the flip side, this episode also takes a look into relationships where your partner might be the perfectionist, and ways that you can work together to help them process and better cope with their perfectionist ways. Whether you deal with perfectionism, or you love someone who has perfectionistic tendencies, we hope from today’s interview that you learn some practical tools and methods to apply to your everyday stressors or you learn how to support someone you love!

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262. Bring on the Men: How Are We Doing In Our Partnerships Now? Dec 02, 2024

You asked, we answered! Today, the husbands are back to answer your burning questions on our relationships, parenting, how life has changed since their last sit down with us, and more. Drew and Colin get vulnerable with their honest answers, which is why we love them so much! Whether you want to hear how our families handle filling in our social calendar with sports, parties, and other activities OR you’re here to find out what REALLY goes on behind the scenes of the Green and Kiefer households, we’ve got it here for you. We felt this episode was good timing considering the holiday season is upon us. We all can utilize this time to reflect on our 2024, to recognize the areas in our lives we can improve and the areas we excel. We hope you find today’s episode to be fun, but that you also take away something valuable!

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169. “A Conversation with Erica Djossa of @momwell…”

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261. Greatest Hits: A Conversation with Erica Djossa of @momwell on the Mental Load, Navigating Transitions, and Getting Your Needs Met in Parenthood Nov 25, 2024

With the holiday season here upon us, we thought it would be the perfect time to revisit our interview with Erica Djossa of @momwell as our “Greatest Hits” episode this Thanksgiving week. We feel like her mission and our mission here at the HERself podcast to get women the best information possible really align!

During this incredible episode with Erica we discussed the invisible load in motherhood, what causes the feeling of being on edge, toxic positivity and so much more. These topics could not be more relevant during the hecticness of the holiday season.

At the end of the episode, Erica speaks to the fathers of our children. We get asked so often, from you, about how your partner/husband can get resources. We wanted to make sure we covered that inside this interview as well because we all know dads and partners struggle too. We hope revisiting this episode highlighted something new for you to reflect upon as we enter this busy season at the end of 2024!

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260. Smart Money Moves for Couples with Hannah Rein Nov 18, 2024

We know finances and discussing budgets can be major pressure points in romantic relationships, and here at the HERself podcast, we want to cover these difficult topics and bring you the best experts and best information! Today we have Hannah Rein, CPA, financial educator, wife, and mother of two on the show today. Hannah’s goal on her platform, Financially Engaged, is to help people find the balance between living in the now while also investing for the future. She loves helping couples who want to make good money choices, but aren’t exactly sure where to start. Hannah is going to answer our hard-hitting questions like how often to have a budget meeting with your partner, where to begin investing if you’re in your 30s, how to deal with upcoming holiday spending, and more! We close out our interview with some rapid fire questions all about money we think you should know. Hannah has some really great financial resources and courses we think could be valuable to you, our listeners, so be sure to check out her website linked below for more information!

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259. Simple Decluttering Tips Everyone Can Do with Abby + Amy Nov 11, 2024

Inspired by our recent project together, today’s episode is all about how we tackled decluttering Amy’s house! Amy felt her house was bursting at the seams in all the wrong ways - think overflowing closets, dresser drawers, toy storage, etc. In comes Abby to save the day! Having read all the books and listened to all the podcasts, Abby has taken all the information she’s learned over the years to create her own manageable and flexible method of decluttering to keep her home, and now Amy’s, a space that is clutter free and easy to keep tidy. We’re tagging it the “Abby Green Method” and she’s going to share her 4 decluttering steps with us during today’s discussion! Whether you’ve also read all the books like Abby and feel like an experienced declutterer, or you’re totally new at this and feeling overwhelmed with where to begin, our hope is that you are able to take away some of the tips from this episode and apply them to your own decluttering journey!

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258. "The "One and Won" Reframe for Family Sizes with Dr. Jasmine Nov 04, 2024

Dr. Jasmine, our guest on today’s episode, did everything she could to check off her boxes on her timeline. But after struggling to conceive her first child, she expected motherhood to be smooth sailing from there. However, after the birth of her baby, Dr. Jasmine suffered from debilitating postpartum depression, anxiety, and insomnia. With her background as a clinical pharmacist with a doctorate in Pharmacy, Dr. Jasmine felt that even though she was clinically prepared to be aware of the signs and symptoms and treatment of PPD, it still didn’t make sense to her why she was walking through that hardship. Once she accepted her feelings, she sought help from a perinatal mental health therapist and decided to pursue studies to obtain her own perinatal mental health certificate to better understand what she and so many other women were struggling with.

Now through that storm, she hosts a podcast called “Healing the Tigress” where she focuses on conversations and stories around Asian American Pacific Islander (AAPI) mental health. Her presence online has created a safe and honest space for other women to share their experiences and celebrate the meaning of “One and Won”. Today on our show, Dr. Jasmine is so vulnerable about her postpartum depression, anxiety, and insomnia experience and also shares with us how she came to the conclusion that one child was the best fit for her and her family. She explains how the societal saying of “One and Done” can be perceived and instead, provides a new and fresh reframe of “One and Won” to celebrate the joy of having one child. This concept leaves room for families to change their minds if they decide to expand their family in the future. We are so grateful for the honesty and openness Dr. Jasmine brings to today’s episode and hope you share this with someone you love who may need to hear today’s message.

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257. Realistic Self Care For Busy Moms: A Check-in with Amy & Abby Oct 28, 2024

We shared in our last check-in episode that this school year was going to bring big changes to both of our family’s lives. Today, we, Amy and Abby, wanted to revisit those changes and discuss how things are going now that we are a few months into the school year, as well as talk about how we practice self care during this season of motherhood.

While today is a shorter episode, we still wanted to bring you, our listener, some tangible tips that we feel have made a big difference with prioritizing self care in our everyday lives. We talk about leaving space for quality family time, creating time to move your body and how that movement may vary during different seasons of motherhood, and how to tweak your daily routine by adding or removing habits that can support your well-being.

We want to be good examples for our kids. And our kids watching us pour into them with an empty cup doesn’t set the greatest example. Fill up your cup mama, however you feel will fill you up best, and then pour into your family with renewed enjoyment and excitement for motherhood. Whether you are a stage ahead of us in motherhood, or a stage behind, we hope you found today’s episode helpful in some way!

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256. Parental Stress Matters with Dr. Cindy Hovington Oct 21, 2024

You cannot miss this episode! Cindy Hovington, PhD, mother of three, and creator of Curious Neuron is our guest on today’s episode. Cindy specializes in mental health and emotions and has made it her mission to support parents in developing skills and habits that will allow them to nurture their own well-being. She also helps parents to develop leadership skills, coaching skills, and learn science-based well-being tips to encourage parenting and emotional intelligence. We are diving into some deep and heavy topics today with Cindy, but you know here at HERself, it’s our passion to bring you the best information from the best experts.

Soccer practice, dance class, play dates…the list goes on and on of the activities we do for our children. Cindy reminds us that the studies show if we continuously say “there isn’t enough time!” that it will eventually have negative effects on our mental and physical health. It’s so important to be mindful of how your family spends their time and find the balance that works for your family. Setting boundaries, knowing your limit, and having open communication with your family is key.

Gentle parenting has been a trending parenting style for the past several years. Cindy has really great insight to help us find the balance between being too permissive and being too authoritarian. Finding that balance is not only best for your children, but best for your mental health as the parent. Cindy has a special offer just for HERself listeners, so check out the links in the show notes for more information!

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255. Breaking Down Gut Health with Dr. Heather Finley Oct 14, 2024

We get into it ALL in today’s episode with Dr. Heather Finley! After struggling with her own digestive issues for nearly 20 years, Heather completed her training to become a registered dietitian and also has a doctorate in clinical nutrition. She understands first hand the impact that nutrition, lifestyle, and mindset all have on digestive health and now uses her passion for nutrition to help people struggling with bloating, constipation, and IBS find relief from their symptoms and feel excited about food again.

Social media is constantly showing us the newest elimination diet, anti-bloating pill, or inflammation-friendly health trend. But is it really that easy? Heather gives us her expert opinion on what “normal” GI health should look like, factors that may be impacting your overall gut health, and how to help your bloating. Travelling seems to always bring on constipation due to many external factors like dehydration, less movement, diet change, etc. Heather gives us her favorite tips and tricks to ease your tummy problems while on your trips, but they are also totally applicable to at-home use too!

Decreasing inflammation and elimination diets seem to be big trends online right now. We talk with Heather about how the gut can impact a lot of areas of our health, how to know if you’re experiencing inflammation, and whether or not you should try that new trendy elimination diet. The good news is that there is help from experts like Heather if you are experiencing any of the symptoms we talked about in today’s episode AND there is so much research happening surrounding gut health! Follow Heather for an expert’s guidance and the most up-to-date information on these topics!

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254. Amy and Abby Get On Air Therapy on Their Relationship Challenges with Mallory Wolfgramm Oct 07, 2024

This episode is a bit different from our norm! Today we have a couple on the show! Stranz and Mallory Wolfgramm host the podcast “Make Marriage Work” and are here to talk with us about what they’ve learned as a couple over the years and techniques we can take away to have successful arguments and conflict resolution in our relationships. Mallory is a licensed therapist with a private practice who specializes in couple’s therapy and is the perfect guest to talk about this topic!

We want you to know that every relationship has a conflict cycle and it’s perfectly normal to have arguments! And to really prove that theory, Abby and Amy get vulnerable and share some areas of conflict in their marriages and relationship challenges to get Mallory’s expert advice. We also talk through Mallory’s controversial Instagram post about how she feels we should know our partner’s phone passcode. We really enjoyed today’s talk with Mallory and Stranz and feel this could have gone on much longer than time allotted for!

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253. Dr. Devorah Heitner Answers Everything on Screentime with Children Sep 30, 2024

Parenting in the digital age can be confusing and scary. We know a lot of our listeners have the same questions that we do when it comes to technology and our kids! Today on the podcast, we are interviewing Dr. Devorah Heitner who has a PhD in Media/Technology and Society, is a parent, author, and screentime expert. She brings a lot of passion to this topic and answers all our questions with a new perspective surrounding social media, devices, and screentime when it comes to our kids!

Every family will have a different take on screentime. Instead of judging others for their comfort zones and boundaries, Dr. Devorah encourages us to talk about screentime with friends and family to see the ways other families approach the use of tech in their homes. Dr. Devorah gives us her insight on wearable devices that have gained a lot of popularity with younger kiddos. We also ask the question “when is it the right time to give my child a cell phone?” Many factors go into this answer and Dr. Devorah breaks them down for us.

Most importantly, we need to mentor our children on how to conduct themselves online and on their devices. Having the hard conversations about the content they view and conversations they have with their peers will help lead them in the right direction. There is no blueprint, but Dr. Devorah does give us a lot of insight into things we should discuss and think about before giving our children access to being online and devices.

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252. Your Mindset Around Aging Gracefully with Tanya Dalton Sep 23, 2024

Society pressures women to stay youthful, but our guest on today’s episode, Tanya Dalton, has a motivating message that will encourage you to embrace aging gracefully and love the wisdom that comes with having more birthdays! Tanya is a bestselling author, motivational speaker, wife, and mother who is going to share with us why we should be excited about getting older!

Several other cultures revere their older adults and grandparents are often seen as the wisest family members! However, in America, women in their 50s and older are seen as the “wicked stepmother” and the “old crone” tropes that come with negative connotations. Tanya explains why aging could not be further from this comparison and why it is in fact a beautiful thing that should not be feared!

We know a lot of our listeners are entering their 40s soon, so we talk with Tanya about why your 40s can be exciting and a time for deep self exploration. Getting to know your true self over the years and quieting your ego will leave room for your intuition to speak and help you make life decisions more easily. Knowing what you truly want out of your life and doing the things you love will not only make YOU happier, but those around you as well. Let’s all celebrate our next birthdays with enthusiasm for another year of beautiful life worth living!

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HERself Episode 12 - Mom Guilt: How We’re Working Through It

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251. Mom Guilt, Where We Are Today Sep 16, 2024

Mom guilt can feel SO heavy in one season of life, and lighter in others. If you’ve yet to feel one of the lighter seasons, today’s episode is for you. We are here to tell you that we see you and we hope that today’s episode helps to open up the conversation about mom guilt.

In today’s episode we both share how our mom guilt has changed over the years from when our children were infants to their ages now. For Abby, mom guilt currently shows up with her children’s involvement in sports and being able to spend time at practice and games with all the other life things going on creating schedule conflicts. Amy shares that having one child who is a deep feeler and big reactor requires a lot of hands-on parenting and how that has affected her other children and the guilt that comes along with making each of her three children feel special.

Something both of us can relate to is the guilt that comes along with being a working mother. Amy finds encouragement thinking about the other working moms in her life that are both amazing career women AND amazing mothers! Seeing the proof you can be both at the same time and reminding yourself that your work is important for your family makes the guilt a little less heavy. Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, working to release the mom guilt will lead to a happier life!

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250. Kate Anthony on Marriage: Should You Stay or Should You Go? Sep 09, 2024

Divorce is a heavy topic, but it happens and that’s why we thought it was important to bring you this episode. We are so lucky to have Kate Anthony as our guest for today. Kate is a divorce coach who helps women decide if they should stay or leave their marriages and is a wealth of knowledge of the divorce process. Whether today’s episode applies to you personally or not, it could be helpful for your sister, friend, or other family member. We hope you take what you need from today’s interview with Kate and pass this episode along to someone you know who may need the information too.

There are two big common misconceptions about divorce that Kate breaks down for us. Lots of people think that couple’s therapy may be the first step towards reconciliation. However, it is not always the answer and Kate tells us which marriage scenarios should actually avoid it. If divorce is the route you choose, Kate shares with us how she thinks you should go about the first steps of the process as well as some important “do’s and don’ts” of divorce.

If you, our listener, is living in an unhealthy marriage, we want you to know that you deserve to be happy. Reach out to a marriage coach, someone like Kate, who can help you discern what your next steps should be and utilize their resources. You deserve happiness and we support you!

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249. Greatest Hits: Clinical Psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy on How You and Your Child Can Feel Good Inside Sep 02, 2024

As we are closing the chapter on this year’s summer season with the celebration of Labor Day here in the US, we thought it would be perfect to revisit our conversation with clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy from episode 146. Besides being a psychologist, Dr. Becky is also a mother of three and founder of Good Inside, the expert-guided, community-powered platform equipping parents with a new way of seeing and solving challenges at home.

With a new school year starting, there will be many transitions for our kids. And for us as parents! Dr. Becky’s insight on parenting is so valuable as we go into this fall season. She opens up the conversation on a lot of topics that usually happen behind closed doors and has great advice on how to approach our children’s changing behaviors when going through transitional times like the start of a new school year. Dr. Becky encourages us that no matter where we are in our motherhood and parenting journey, it’s never too late to re-evaluate our behaviors and start to make a change.

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248. Stress: Where It Shows Up and Our Solutions For It Aug 26, 2024

Today is a more casual episode between us, your hosts, Amy and Abby, as we talk all about stress and the way it’s impacted our lives, our families and friends, and the techniques we’ve learned over the years to get through those stressful times.

Our long term partners can get the brunt of our stress. Sometimes that means our stress can be triggering for them and vice versa! Every person deals with stress differently. Do you withdraw? Do you nitpick? Do you yell? Reflecting on your inner self, what are your triggers while you’re going through a stressful time? Knowing these triggers can help you pause in the moment and approach the situation differently. Try narrating how you’re feeling to your kids so they know you’re reaching your limit to prevent an explosion. And don’t forget to utilize your “village”. Whether that’s nearby family or friends, lean on them to support you in times of stress. Most of the time, they will happily help!

Work and friendship goes hand and hand for us as best friends who own a business together. Being open, honest, and direct about our stressors and what our needs are from each other has really helped us be on the same page with our expectations for the day-to-day workflow. We often check in with each other before unloading a heavy work-related topic just to make sure it can be given the proper attention it needs. Not taking things personally has really helped the way we respond to friends as well.

What we want you to take away from this episode is that we all experience stress and stressful situations. And we all express our stress differently. We can’t handle it perfectly every time, but the goal is to take a deep breath and be a little bit better each day.

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247. Dr. Karen Tang, GYN Debunks the Myths on Periods, Menopause, Birth Control and Women's Health Aug 19, 2024

This episode is a MUST listen! Today on the podcast we have Dr. Karen Tang. She is a board-certified gynecologist who is here to answer ALL of our questions about women’s health that we were never taught before! Her goal through her online presence is to help get rid of the stigma around women’s health so that women everywhere can live better.

“Cycle syncing” is a popular trend going around online. Dr. Tang tells us that if it works for you to change your workouts and diet based on your cycle phase, then keep doing so! But it’s totally not necessary. Your flow can say a lot about your period health, so Dr. Tang covers how much flow is too little and also how much is too much and could be cause for concern. If you’ve been on birth control for several years and are wondering if it’s safe to continue, Dr. Tang breaks that down for us based on the types of birth control and the risk factors involved.

As we enter into our late 30s and 40s, women start experiencing symptoms of perimenopause. We talk with Dr. Tang about what we can do during this transitional time to improve our experience of perimenopause. Dr. Tang leaves us with the encouragement that if you feel something is not right, don’t wait to seek help while you suffer. Talk to your provider or get a second opinion to come up with a plan to help you live your best life. You’ve got this!
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246. Picky Eaters and Simplifying Family Meals with Megan McNamee of Feeding Littles Aug 12, 2024

Today on the podcast we are happy to have Megan McNamee of Feeding Littles. Megan is a Registered Dietician Nutritionist who works specifically with babies, children, and their families to promote positive eating habits. Megan began teaching feeding courses at her local hospital after an unfortunate series of events before her first child was born. It was there that she fell in love with teaching families and babies and met Judy, an OT and feeding therapist, and created Feeding Littles together!

Do you have a picky eater? Megan wants you to know that picky eating is normal in childhood! And it won’t last forever. You know your child the best, so the guidelines Megan shares with us today may not apply to every situation, but are a great starting place to help your picky eater.

We’ve all heard how beneficial it is for our children to sit as a family for dinner time because it is a time for connection. But we realize that our school-age children have activities that happen during the evenings. Not every family can sit down daily for a meal together, so just do it when you can! We also go through some tips about snacks before bed, easy protein sources, and how you as a parent can set a good example through food.

Making school lunches can get overwhelming. Megan and Judy’s new book, Feeding Littles Lunches, is the perfect inspiration you need to create simple, easy, and nutritious lunches for your kiddos. With beautiful photography and a list of easy swaps for allergies/diet needs, this book will be your saving grace this upcoming school year! We’ve been using it this summer for packing our kids’ lunches and loved all their ideas!

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245. Finding Fulfillment in Your Career with Career Contessa Aug 05, 2024

Lauren Goodwin, creator of Career Contessa, loves helping women navigate their careers. After having done all the “right” things, her first job after college left her wanting something more. After a long job search, Lauren became a recruiter. Now on the other side of the hiring process, she finally understood what employers were looking for. And from that, Career Contessa was born!

There are more women in the career world now than ever before! Lauren tells us that job flexibility and pay are the two main things we should be mindful of in our current careers. If you’re feeling burnt out, present your boss with a list of solutions to your desires that would give you more flexibility in your current role. Pay is always something we should be evaluating too, even if we are happy at our current jobs. Researching the open market for salaries of your same position at other employers can help you know your value and worth. Lauren goes over how to have a salary negotiation if you find you are being undervalued at a job that you love.

Networking is everything! We know you’ve been told to network externally, but don’t forget to be relationally-minded within your current company. Lauren suggests keeping your Linkedin profile up to date even if you are taking a career break. It’s also never too late to pivot into a new career field if your priorities have shifted. And don’t forget, sometimes the “good enough” job allows us a better work/life balance than the “dream job”. To wrap up our interview, Lauren shares her opinion on some popular career advice!

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244. How to Integrate Dogs and Kids at Home with @dogmeets_baby Jul 29, 2024

Today on the show we are talking with Dominika from Dog Meets Baby. Dominika is a certified dog trainer who works specifically with families who have a dog and are bringing home a new baby or have kiddos and are bringing home a new dog. She helps to make the transition smooth for both kiddos and canines!

Dominika’s first piece of advice if bringing a new baby home to the family dog is to have a plan - don’t wing it. If you are able to, practice! We go through some details of how to do this in today’s episode. Don’t forget to plan where your dog will go or who will stay with them while you are in the hospital for delivery!

If you feel your family is ready to add in a canine companion, it’s important to choose a dog that will fit into your family’s lifestyle. Dominika shares her insight on several points to consider when picking a dog. Is there a magic age that your kiddos should be before adding a dog to the family? Dominika tells us the age, based on the research, and a bit of an explanation behind it.

The last thing any parent wants to happen is your dog biting your child. Dominika tells us that we should have safety rules set in place that will prevent bites. But also what to do if it does happen.
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243. Navigating Secondary Infertility Jul 22, 2024

(Trigger warning: secondary infertility, miscarriage)

1:8 couples will experience secondary infertility. Allie Karagozian, Occupational Therapist, momma, and founder of @holdingboth, always knew she wanted to be a mom. After using fertility treatments to conceive her first child, she was overjoyed to become a mother. When she and her husband were ready for a second child, they were met with secondary infertility troubles. From that hardship, @holdingboth was created with the mentality that it is okay to be thankful to have a child, but still grieve not being able to have another. Allie wants to bring more awareness to secondary infertility and through her business she provides support and a safe landing place for those families walking through it.

Allie wants you to know that it’s important to take care of your mental health during the journey of secondary infertility. She highly recommends that you and your partner seek therapy through any outlet you feel comfortable with, whether that’s through your insurance, BetterHelp, or support groups like the ones Allie hosts. And if you’re a friend of someone going through infertility, it can be hard to know what to say and ask. Allie gives us a great insight as to what thoughtful questions to ask to show you care without causing overwhelm.

And if you are going through a pregnancy loss, we want you to know it’s okay to ask for help. Ask a friend or family to take your other children for the day so you can rest. And please give yourself some grace during this time. We understand this is a sensitive topic, and if listening to this episode is too much right now, we understand, and encourage you to tune back when the timing is right.

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242. Colonics, Thyroid Changes, and Feeling Great in Your Body Jul 15, 2024

If you follow us on Instagram, then you may have seen our stories the day we got colonics. It was an interesting experience to say the least! A lot of you, our listeners, had questions and wanted more detail about the process, how it makes you feel, what to expect, etc. Spoiler, one of us had a little bit of a poopy situation! And one of us unfortunately had a not so pleasant experience. Today we’ll go in depth about our individual experiences during our colonics and share about what you can expect if you think a colonic procedure is right for you. Would we do it again? You’ll have to listen to find out!

On a more serious note, Abby wanted to share more about her journey with Hashimoto’s disease. We have a real conversation about being aware of your body’s symptoms, knowing your triggers, and slowing down. Abby discusses her symptoms she was having when she was first diagnosed and how those have waxed and waned over time. Amy shares her concern over her heavy periods and that she is doing some hormone testing to see if any improvements can be made. If you have been experiencing symptoms similar to ours, or just not feeling yourself, we encourage you to get hormone testing done!

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241. Understanding Our Emotions Around Money with Financial Therapist Lindsay Bryan Podvin Jul 08, 2024

After seeing some of Lindsay’s work through a friend, we knew we needed to have her on our podcast. Lindsay Bryan Podvin is a licensed social worker turned financial therapist, and the first of her kind in Michigan! As a financial therapist, Lindsay’s job is to look at the emotional side of money and help others with their mind/money connection.

Money is a hot topic whether you’re single, partnered, or married. Sometimes we think we are doing worse financially than we really are. Lindsay’s work with individuals and with community groups has shown that you may not be as bad off as you think! It’s important that we understand our emotions behind money and understand things like why it may be hard to stick to a budget and why we feel the way we do about money. And it’s people like Lindsay that can help you figure that out!

If you have a partner, discuss and get clear on what your financial goals are as a couple. And if one partner makes more than the other, it’s important to have a game plan on how your finances will be shared. Making sure that you are being transparent about your debts, salary, and spending habits is part of financial fidelity.

Lindsay touches on other trending topics like “loud budgeting”, 9 financial goals for couples in their 30s and 40s, her financial type quiz and book titled “The Financial Anxiety Solution”, and even gives us a mini therapy session! You won’t want to miss today’s episode, and you’ll probably want to pass this along to your partner too!

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240. Greatest Hits: Real Parenting: What to Do When the Script Doesn't Work with Claire Lerner Jul 01, 2024

We both have experience raising children who seem to not respond to gentle parenting and the other well known techniques. It has been frustrating for the both of us at times because it makes us feel isolated and exhausted. We are so excited to revisit episode 157 with Claire Lerner as our “Greatest Hits” episode over this 4th of July week. Claire shares her expertise with us and we feel it is just as helpful now as when this episode first aired.

Claire shares what to do if your child is wired differently during moments of aggression towards others. She explains that our children are not trying to be manipulative in any way, just that they need boundaries to help themselves regulate.

Have you ever wondered if timeouts are truly a thing of the past? Claire explains her concept of a safe space break and how this alone time can help kids get back to a place of calm.

With it being the summer season with lots of gatherings with family and friends, we know these gatherings can be major triggers for our kiddos who tend to be big reactors. Claire helps us navigate the conversations we can have with our friends and family.

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239. Dr. Nancy Grechko on Avoiding Burnout in Personal and Professional Caregiving Jun 24, 2024

Whether you’re a teacher, a nurse, or a therapist, professional burnout is real. Our guest today, licensed psychologist and mother of two, Dr. Nancy Grechko, specializes in supporting women therapists and women working in the mental health field. And while Dr. Grechko’s main focus is with women in the mental health field, they are usually also mothers. The tips she offers in today’s episode are really relatable as busy mothers who want a healthy work/life balance.

As mothers, we are caregivers. And sometimes it can be easy to over commit ourselves in our personal and professional lives to help meet the needs and care for the other people in our lives. We can squeeze in that play date on Thursday evening with friends, right? And we can squeeze in one or two more clients on Wednesday morning too? Well, Dr. Grechko tells us today that overscheduling can cause increased stress and resentment over time leading to burnout. It’s important for us to recognize our limits and set boundaries to prevent burnout from occurring.

A lot of us have flexible work hours or are able to work from home some days. However, this can make it harder for us to “turn down the volume” of work when we can see emails popping into our inboxes. Dr. Grechko reminds us that we need to be more mindful of being in one place at a time and create more separation between our work and home lives. She has some wonderful teachings to help us create that mindful space.

Overall, the importance of recognizing, honoring, and communicating your limits to prevent burnout is what we want you to take away from today’s episode with Dr. Nancy Grechko. And remembering that we weren’t meant to do this motherhood journey alone. There are several tangible tips in today’s episode to help you work through things internally, with partnership, and with a greater support community.

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238. Friendships & Partners: How They Can Be a Positive Source of Energy Jun 17, 2024

We (Amy and Drew, Abby and Colin) just got back from our amazing trip to Kaui, Hawaii to celebrate our 10 year anniversaries. We had such a great time vacationing as separate couples exploring North Shore Kauai, and then also as a group enjoying the South Shore. The best of both worlds!

Coming home from Hawaii, we felt compelled to record this episode and talk about friendship. As busy moms, wives, and entrepreneurs, our schedules are pretty full. Which makes the time we dedicate to friendships very sacred. We have learned over the years that not only is time precious, but who you keep in your inner circle is just as important. Are you okay with the habits and behaviors of those friends and their children rubbing off on your kids? Do their values line up with yours? It’s important to choose wisely which friendships you nurture. Choose ones that will build you up and leave you feeling energized and happy instead of drained.

Enriching friendships takes a lot of work. A new friend can’t be a best friend immediately. Maintaining surface level friends is okay, but digging deep, asking questions, and spending quality time together can get you to that best friend level. Being open to new friendships in our 30s and 40s may bring a new best friend (or two!) to walk through life with. We are so thankful to have developed our great friendship over these past years and witness each other's vow renewals in Hawaii. We encourage you to keep an open heart to new friendships as they may provide you with joy you didn’t know you were missing!

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237. The Episode You Need If You Are About to Return from Maternity Leave Jun 10, 2024

We have some news to share today… Pursuing HER Purpose, our other business focused on helping entrepreneurial moms with our friend Kat, is officially closing its doors. As we mention in today’s episode, while PHP may be ending, we are bringing over the best of that brand to the HERself platform! Our consulting services and coaching courses will still be available on our website.

In honor of one season ending and another beginning, we thought we would replay one of the most listened to episodes from the PHP podcast titled “The Episode You Need if You Are About to Return From Maternity Leave” for you today. The season of your maternity leave ending can be bittersweet. It can seem daunting to leave your infant just as you were getting the hang of being a new mom, or new mom again! In this episode we go through many tips and tricks to help you during this transition like what to wear to pump at work, how to prepare the night before for a smooth morning and daycare drop off, as well as how to lean on your partner during this season.

Beyond the physical things we can do to prepare to go back to work, we encourage you to embrace a mindset change too. Instead of feeling guilty for needing to step away from work for 15 minutes to go pump, changing your mindset to “I’m doing this for my baby” can help you stay motivated and empowered to go pump. Going back to work can be stressful, but reminding yourself that your role of providing for your family is important and your kids will be so proud of you for doing so! To wrap up, Kat shares with us a heartfelt letter she wrote to her children when her maternity leave was coming to an end.

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236. Dr. Emily Jamea on How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Jun 03, 2024

Today on the podcast, we are excited to welcome back Dr. Emily Jamea, who was last with us for episode 192. Dr. Emily is a sex therapist who works with couples and individuals to overcome relationship and sexual hurdles to enjoy more meaningful lives. She sits down with us today to discuss how we can talk with our kids about all things related to sex. Here at the HERself podcast, we plan on talking to our kids about sex, but understand that if this topic does not align with your beliefs, please feel free to skip this episode!

“Mom, where do babies come from?” If you haven’t already been asked, you will be at some point. And when is the right time to give our kids “the talk”? Dr. Emily points out that it is important to use proper anatomical terminology while she walks us through how to answer these questions with age appropriate responses.

She also emphasizes the importance of discussing different scenarios when sex may come into play with our older children. By helping them establish their personal sexual values, they will be better prepared for when those scenarios happen in real life. While privacy settings and activity monitoring apps can be useful on teen phones, nothing can replace the conversations we need to have with our kids about being safe online. We know this can be an uncomfortable topic to talk about, but we encourage you to get uncomfortable and have those conversations. We thank you for listening to today’s episode!

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235. Greatest Hits: Dr. Morgan Cutlip on How to Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself May 27, 2024

For today’s “Greatest Hits” episode, we are revisiting our interview with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. She joined us for episode 162 and episode 190. This episode we are focusing on how we take care of ourselves as mothers; how do we feel good inside motherhood? So many of her answers spoke directly to both of us.

In her book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, Dr. Morgan explains three core concepts moms face. She chats with us about these concepts including what we can do to help ourselves with the conflict of sacrificing our own identities in motherhood. We also discuss the core concept of idealization of motherhood and how intense our standards are on ourselves as parents.

Ever feel like your needs aren’t being met by your partner when it comes to sharing the load? Do you ask them for help but it never seems to go anywhere? Dr. Morgan shares actionable steps you can take when our own needs are not being met. She talks about how you can best manage all of our commitments and why that means you can’t be 100 percent committed to everything at once.

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234. How to Support a Child Through Anger with Leda Rawlins May 20, 2024

We’ve all experienced the feelings of happiness, sadness, fear, anger, etc. And if you are a mom, you’ve seen your children experience all of these emotions too. But why is it that when our children are displaying anger, it makes us so uncomfortable? Today we are talking with Certified Parenting Coach, Leda Rawlins, about why anger in children is normal and what we, as parents, can do when our child is angry. Leda will walk us through how, and when, to teach our children how to react in a frustrating moment.

We know that angry behaviors from our kids at home is stressful enough, so it’s normal to worry about those same behaviors while they are at school or extracurricular activities. Leda will explain when and who we should collaborate with to make the best team to support our child in those settings.

Sometimes as parents it can seem daunting to change our own behavior when responding to anger from our child. Leda acknowledges that the help of professionals can be beneficial and sometimes necessary to teach us the tools and strategies we need to help our child succeed. The main thing we want you to know is that it doesn’t take a perfect parent to implement the strategies Leda teaches us today. It’s about being better, and that’s what’s important! You’ve got this, mama!

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233. Overwhelmed? How Adding Margin Can Improve Your Life May 13, 2024

Have you ever gone through a rough stretch and it’s made you take a look at your life from a zoomed out perspective? Well that’s exactly where we’ve been lately. Both of us have gone through a stretch of illnesses for both ourselves and our kids that has made us reflect on what we want to stay in our lives and what we want to leave behind. And sometimes it takes going through a really hard period to notice these things.

In this episode we talk about how most of us live such busy lives that we don’t have any margin for sick days. And that includes for ourselves. We talk about what we call the “10-minute” support person and how neither of us have that. But instead of wishing we did, we share how we have the necessary conversations with our partners and friends, so that when we do get that call from school saying our kiddo is sick, it isn’t always falling on just us.

We want this episode to be the push you need to do some reflecting on your own life. What can you let go of? Where can you ask for help? What are your values and what can you do that is going to help you live in more alignment? Do you have the necessary margins that you need so that when something does come up, you’re set up to handle it in a way that feels best for you?

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232. Dr. Danielle Bayard Jackson With the Power of Female Friendship May 06, 2024

Making new friends in our 30’s and 40’s can be tricky, especially as moms. Today, we have Danielle Bayard Jackson on the show to talk with us about how to maintain close friends while nurturing the surface level ones at the same time. Danielle is the friendship expert on Bumble’s new app; Bumble for Friends. She is here to share everything from what to do if your partner doesn’t get along with one of your friends to ideas on how to find those deep friendship connections if that’s what you're seeking.

What is more important - the quality of the friendships you have or the quantity? Danielle gets into how many deep friendships we can sustain at a time but also pushes us to not discount the “weaker” ties that we have. She explains the pros and cons of both. And what are we supposed to do when those feelings of being left out creep in? Danielle offers some great tips on what you can do if loneliness seems to be a factor in your life right now.

We know that many of you are moms and this can be one of the hardest stages to make or maintain friendships. But the value that they bring to your life is so rich. It’s not too late to find those deep connections. Be intentional with the new people you meet. Put in some effort and remind yourself that these types of relationships are going to take time and work!

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231. Simplify Your Life with Robyn Conley Downs Apr 29, 2024

Are you working on forming habits that will lead to positive behavior change? What’s the difference between a behavior change and an actual habit? Today, our guest Robyn Conley Downs, joins us to speak on all things habits! When it comes to forming new habits maybe you fall into the all or nothing category? Or perhaps you compare yourself too much or have that perfectionistic mindset? Well, Robyn is here to give you strategies that you can implement right away no matter what stage of habit formation you are currently in.

Wanting to live a healthier lifestyle but not knowing where to start can be overwhelming. Robyn explains the power that momentum can have when we start small. She also reminds us to give ourselves credit for how far we have come. Robyn explains what a purpose habit is and why it is a key piece to the puzzle.

Are you one to focus on the outcome of a goal rather than the process? Robyn shares what shifting your goals to process goals versus outcome goals can do for you. She also breaks down the 80/20 rule and talks about the impact that becoming brilliant at the basics can have on your life.

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230. Managing Family Life Like a Team with Michael Perry Apr 22, 2024

In the past so many of you have requested more podcast episodes that are aimed towards dads. This one does just that. Our guest, Michael Perry, is a husband, dad of two young boys, and the founder of tech startup and household organization app Maple - which stands for Make All Parents Lives Easier.

It is easy to hear Michael’s passion for his work. He talks about his values and how they show up both in and out of his household. Michael touches on how he and his wife share the load and the responsibilities he takes on as a father. He also offers tips on how to empower your partner to step up more and share more of the work that comes with parenting.

If you’ve implemented different strategies and systems to try to improve how your household functions but it doesn’t seem to be working, Michael offers suggestions on how a simple conversation about things can make the world of difference. We also know that at times, it can feel like we and our partner are giving each other the leftover version of ourselves. Michael touches on how we can bring the best version of ourselves to our families and how that might mean not giving 100% at work all the time.

We know this episode is going to really resonate with our male listeners so be sure to share this one with your partner!

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229. My Partner Feels Like a Roommate, Now What? with Sheina Schochet from @loveafterbaby Apr 15, 2024

Are you in a phase of your relationship where your partner feels more like a roommate? We know this is a challenge that many of our listeners in this community face. Today we are excited to have Sheina Schochet of @loveafterbaby back on the show. If you haven’t already, be sure to go back and listen to episode 170 when we first had Sheina on.

Today’s discussion is infused with so many tips on everything from what to do if your partnership doesn’t feel like it’s in a strong place to some actions you can take if your partner isn’t open to going to therapy. Since Sheina’s last visit on the show, she has become a Gottman Bringing Home Baby educator and the insights she’s gained from this are tangible throughout our conversation.

What we want you to walk away with from our discussion with Sheina is that being in a rut in your relationship is super common and it’s something that isn’t talked about enough. So if you’re feeling like you are in a low place right now, tune into this episode to learn how to reconnect with your partner and get back to a place where you are able to find the friendship & intimacy in your relationship again.

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228. Dr. Gloria Han Shares Her Best Practices for Mindfulness in Motherhood Apr 08, 2024

This episode with Dr. Gloria Han is all about mindfulness. Gloria is a clinical psychologist but today we focus on how simple mindfulness can be yet at the same time, it’s not easy. Gloria gives us lots of ways we can plug mindfulness into our daily lives that will allow us to be more present and get more enjoyment out of this life.

When we think about mindfulness we might think that it needs to be an uninterrupted time of meditating. Gloria explains how this isn’t true. She goes into details about how it can be something that we practice all day long and explains the three skills of mindfulness, including examples of each. She also gives us examples of things we can do that will only take 5-10 minutes but can have a huge impact.

There are both mental and physical benefits of mindfulness. Gloria talks about how the mind isn’t separate from the body and how the well being of the two are inextricably linked. She also differentiates between when judgment is good versus when it can be a negative thing and how living too far in the past or future can be detrimental to our minds.

Finally, if you’re interested in how mindfulness can be beneficial to your kids, Gloria shares her favorite tools she uses as a pediatric pain psychologist to help children become more aware of their well-being.

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227. How to Nourish Ourselves Even When We're Low on Time & Energy with Shanna Hutcheson Apr 01, 2024

Shanna Hutcheson has been a longtime listener of the HERself podcast. But what we love about our interview with her today is that she breaks down her dietitian knowledge into a way that every mom can understand. Shanna gives us snack ideas, breakfast ideas, and explains how to develop a healthier relationship with food so that we can be better parents and love ourselves more.

Shanna’s honest answer about why she got into the field of nutrition and health will have a lot of you understanding where she comes from. Many of us struggle with our relationship with food and Shanna breaks down three simple things we can all aim to have in our diets to ensure we are nourishing and taking care of ourselves in the best way possible.

As a mom of two, Shanna understands the struggle of feeling like you don’t have enough time to take care of yourself. She even shares a little bit of the behind the scenes of being a special needs parent and how that can feel even more demanding than normal. Shanna explains what has been helpful during her hardest months and shares what you can do if you, or someone you know, might be in a similar situation.

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226. Gain Confidence in Politics with Reena Ninan Mar 25, 2024

As you might know, we love to push both ourselves and this community to think bigger and gain perspective. This entire episode is all about politics. And although this topic can be a touchy one, our guest, Reena Ninan, loves to take complicated world affairs and make them easy to understand. Reena has been a correspondent for CBS, ABC, and FOX. She has delivered news on some of the world’s most critical events.

Reena covers why it is so important to be informed about current events and also shares her top, trusted resources on where we should be consuming this type of information. If politics are a touchy subject amongst you and your partner, or close family members, you are going to want to tune in to hear what Reena has to say on how you can decipher these conversations that can become heated at times.

Some of us may have the goal to raise kids who are informed. We ask Reena how we can start to open up our children’s perception of the world and help them realize that there is more to it than just their little bubbles. It can be hard to decide when it is appropriate to talk about current affairs with our children but Reena leads us in the right direction on how we can start to bring up both the good and the bad that is going on in today’s world.

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225. How to Truly Find Your Happiness with Gretchen Rubin Mar 18, 2024

Gretchen Rubin is someone that we’ve enjoyed listening to for years. She hosts the podcast HAPPIER with Gretchen Rubin with her sister. In her work Gretchen investigates unexpected truths about everyday life and identifies ways we can take happiness from the transcendent to the concrete. During our conversation with Gretchen she touches on ways we can make ourselves happier, how to identify our own self tendencies, and things we can improve on as we all seek to be just a little bit happier.

Happiness is not one size fits all and Gretchen stresses that there are certain elements that will bring individuals more happiness than what might spark joy in someone else. She also explains the concept that she developed; the four tendencies. Gretchen talks through the fact that both the people we surround ourselves with and how well we know ourselves are the two main things that play a role in the level of happiness we feel for ourselves.

We also discuss habits and how they play a vital role in our happiness. Another topic we cover is mindfulness and the positive impact that tuning into our five senses can have throughout our daily lives. Our conversation with Gretchen is sure to leave you feeling more enlightened about ways that you can start to live a more positive and happier life.

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224. How to Stop Taking Things Personally Mar 11, 2024

If you’ve been a longtime listener then you might recognize these voices. We have Emmalee and Jen from ShrinkChicks back on the show today. They are some of our favorite guests because they use their own life experiences when they’re talking about therapy. In this episode, we also give our own life experiences on times where we’ve taken things personally and how we’ve worked through them.

There are many reasons why we take things personally. Emmalee and Jen go through some examples and explain if these tendencies can be unlearned. A lot of it has to do with the way we were raised and now that most of us are raising kids of our own, we ask Emmalee and Jen how we can help our children not take things so personally themselves. If you’re currently stuck on something that you’ve taken personally, today’s guests walk us through some at-home therapy steps you can do to work yourself out of these types of situations.

This episode is going to call you out and call you in in the best ways. Jen and Emmalee are a wealth of information and have a way of putting things so that they are easy for everyone to understand. If you struggle with taking things personally, you’re not alone and you’re going to want to tune into this one.

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223. Bring on the Men: Vasectomies, Intimacy, Sharing the Load - Oh My! Mar 04, 2024

You guys are in for a treat today! Our husbands, Colin and Drew, are back on the show. We took questions from this community on things that you’re struggling with with your partners right now. We’ve had Colin and Drew on the show before but it has been a while. Most of the episodes that they’ve been on have been focused on the years when our kids were babies. But today it is great to have them back on now that our kids are a little older, we have new challenges and victories we’ve gone through, and we just know ourselves a little bit more.

We cover the heavy topic of permanent birth control. Drew and Colin both share their thoughts on vasectomies and how each of them has dealt with the finality of that procedure. We also talk about intimacy and whether or not it has improved now that our kids have grown up a little bit. And we know that we all go through tough stretches in marriage so the guys share their insights on what actions they both take to try to get our marriages back on track.

Finally, we finish with some fun, rapid fire questions that are not to be missed! Drew and Colin share their pet peeves and even give the inside scoop on the peaks + pits of being married to influencers.

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222. The First Steps to Making a Career Change with Madelyn Mackie Feb 26, 2024

We know many people in this community are looking for a career transition. That is why we are so excited to have our first ever career coach on the show today. Madelyn Mackie is a certified career management coach and she walks us through everything from how to build your resume, to how to network, and also how to get back into the workforce if you’ve been away for a while.

Making a career change is a big decision and Madelyn starts off by sharing how common this shift is for women these days. She also explains how and where to start if you are feeling like you want to make a change to your current work situation. Madelyn covers the importance of making a list of the things you really enjoy doing as far as work goes and offers a suggestion on what to search for instead of a job title when it comes to hunting for new opportunities.

Have you heard of upskilling? Madelyn explains what this is and why it doesn’t just have to be seeking another degree. She also chats with us about how networking can change the trajectory of your career and gives her top tips on how to build a resume for the current job you are applying for.

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221. Jessica Pan on Making Friendships as an Introvert Feb 19, 2024

Today’s conversation has been a long time coming because it is something that we’ve talked a lot about in the past but we’ve never really taken the time to fully dive in on this subject. And that’s the idea of how an introvert can make adult friendships.

Our guest, Jessica Pan, is a journalist and the author of the book Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come. She is also a self-proclaimed introvert who took a year of her life to explore what being more extroverted might be like. If you too are in the position where you want to engage with more people, make new friends, or speak up more at work - she has some really valuable tips throughout this episode.

We cover everything from defining the difference between an introvert and an extrovert to where to find other introverts who are also looking to meet new friends. Jessica shares whether or not she thinks being an introvert has to do with how you were raised and if she thinks you can change this personality trait. If you are in the beginning steps of trying to expand yourself, Jessica coaches you through three steps you can take to put yourself out there and meet new people!

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220. How to Find Your Confidence + Our Relationship with Alcohol Feb 12, 2024

We get asked about today’s topic a lot; confidence. We both believe it is something you build, it ebbs and flows, you may have a lot of it in one area and may need to work on it in another. In this episode, we cover how we’ve built our own confidence in certain areas of our lives.

Career confidence is where we start off. Even if you are good at something, have a degree in it, have done it for a long time, and maybe you even love it - that doesn’t mean you have to stay stuck in that job forever. However, it’s up to you to bring what you need to make a change. Abby shares some prompts to ask yourself if you are feeling this way.

The next area we cover is body confidence. We talk about how it’s so important to not wait for someone else’s compliment to build your own confidence. You have to rely on yourself and having a neutral stance on your body could be a good goal. The main factors that we feel are the most important measurements of good health are making sure you’re eating enough of a nourishing diet, getting some movement in, making sure you’re getting enough sleep, and having ways to manage stress.

And finally, we cover our relationship with alcohol. We know you might be wondering how this topic ties into confidence but hear us out. We feel that alcohol can be a direct factor into how you take care of yourself overall, and that can have an influence on your confidence. We feel like we have a fresh take on alcohol that lands somewhere in the middle and for us, that feels like a good place to be.

We want you to ask yourself, do my habits align with my goals? We feel that confidence is built when you can align what you are doing with what you want your life to look like.

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219. Jeanelle Teves on Being a Working Parent Both Inside and Outside the Home Feb 05, 2024

Today’s guest, Jeanelle Teves, is the Chief Commercial Officer of Bugaboo. She is also a speaker, a wife, and a mom of two kids; ages three and six. Jeanelle is crushing it in corporate America and has a stay at home partner. We cover both of these topics in our interview and we touch on confidence. Jeanelle shares how she built her own and how she fully embodies it.

We know lots of our listeners have times in their lives where they contemplate a career move. Maybe you’ve thought about leaving your job all together and being a full-time stay at home parent? Jeanelle shares how she knows when it is time to make a change. She also manages a fully remote team and knows that for moms who are working from home, it can be easy to blur the lines between professional and mom. She shares her tips on how to set some boundaries both at home and with your work place.

In Jeanelle’s family, she is the breadwinner and her husband is the full-time stay at home working parent. Jeanelle talks to us about how they came to this decision as a family and what she does to support her husband in finding time for himself outside of all the household work he puts in.

Finally, we know that a lot of women can struggle with confidence at times. If this has been you, tune in to hear how Jeanelle is so unapologetic about her successes and the tips she has on how you yourself can grow in this area.

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218. Pam Beron With Support for Special Needs Parents Jan 29, 2024

We believe that whether you are a parent of a child with a disability, or not, it is important to open up this conversation and learn the terms and language surrounding kids with extra needs. Today, we sat down with our long time friend, Pam Beron, to discuss parenting a child with a disability or supporting a friend or loved one who just received this type of diagnosis for their child.

Pam has 14 years of experience teaching special education in the classroom and has since transitioned to starting her own business, Highest Potential Pathways, where she consults with families that are navigating raising a child with disabilities. Pam educates us on the most inclusive language to use, how families with children with special needs can navigate the stigmas that come with this, and how to talk to your own child about their own special needs.

As a parent, it can be difficult to explain to your own children without special needs why someone with a disability is different from them. Pam walks us through examples of how to have these types of conversations. We also know that parenting a child with special needs can have a major impact. We discuss how this affects a parent personally and what you can do to support a parent who may be going through something like this.

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217. Erica Neuman on How to Talk to Your Kids About Money Jan 22, 2024

Abby chats solo this week with Erica Neuman, a certified public accountant who specializes in how to talk to your kids about money. As a mom herself, Erica’s goal is to make finances approachable and to show young people the value of financial education. She’s also a wife and an accounting professor with over 12 years of experience.

We cover the hot topic of chores. Should we have our kids do them and if so, should we pay them for their work? What about talking about finances in front of our kids? Is it appropriate? Erica shares why giving our kids hands-on experience with money is so empowering and what to do when kids are gifted money for things like holidays or birthdays.

Maybe you’re not so confident when it comes to talking about money. If you don’t know where to start, be sure to tune into this episode. Erica shares where to begin, how to build your financial confidence as a parent, and the eight money conversations you’ll want to have with your kids before they turn 18!

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216. Vibe Check This Year Jan 15, 2024

This episode is all about mindsets and other things that are inspiring us as we head into the new year. There is something about a fresh start and the passing of another year that allows us to gain some fresh perspective. Today we are asking ourselves what areas we feel like could use some changes and what areas of our lives feel really good?

We both share a couple of words that we are focusing on this year. The first one being bold and how we can shift our perspective from what do others think of me to what do I think of me? The other word is embrace. Instead of looking forward to future goals, being sure to take the time to reflect on how far we have come.

As you all know, our health is very important to both of us. We share updates on where we are on our health journeys and why we think it’s okay to continually have goals as far as our bodies go. We also discuss relationships. Are you in any relationships right now that are energy sucking? Maybe you need to make the conscious decision to end that relationship. We remind you that it’s a process, it will take time, and while you’re in the process of it all it might seem like the end of the world. But in the end, it’s worth it.

Our hope with this episode is that by sharing the things that are working for us we inspire you to reflect in the same way. Ask yourself what is coming up for you? What is your gut saying? This is your one life to live so do you want to waste it complaining or can you make a change that is going to allow you to feel so much better?

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215. Elisabeth Emmerich on the Power of Play Based Therapy with Children Jan 08, 2024

Our friend, Elisabeth Emmerich, is on the show today. She is a mom of three, a licensed therapist, and a registered play therapist. We found this conversation exceedingly interesting because Elisabeth really shares ways we can support our children’s mental health. And by no surprise, we learned that our mental health is directly connected to our children’s mental health.

It can be tough to tell when the right time is to seek out extra help for your kiddo. Elisabeth shares some signs to watch out for and explains when and why children are coming to her for therapy. We also know that resiliency in kids continues to be a popular topic. Elisabeth speaks on how we can foster this in our children and whether or not she thinks gentle parenting is hindering our kids from becoming as resilient as they could be.

Maybe you’re not quite ready to put your child in therapy but you like the sounds of this play based therapy. Elisabeth shares some ideas of what you can do at home that would have a similar effect. It’s simple things like playing games with your kids, setting up predictable routines for them, and even helping them regulate their nervous systems but getting some exercise.

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214. Unlocking the Secrets of Women's Health with Christine Yu Jan 01, 2024

We are sitting down with Christine Yu this week and she is talking with us about the science behind women’s health and how it relates to each of us as moms who want to be healthy examples for our children. Christine is the author of Up to Speed: The GroundBreaking Science of Women Athletes and she has a masters degree from Harvard University.

Christine is also a mom and she shares real life examples of the changes that her body has gone through and the mindset shifts she has had to make when it comes to the type of exercise she can do as she ages. She educates us on the role that hormones play in the way they affect the amount of fatigue we can feel when exercising. Christine also explains why there is so much more research out there when it comes to men’s fitness compared to women’s and the direction that women’s research is going.

We know that it is so important for our children to find a physical activity that they connect with when they are young. Christine talks about the importance of this, especially for young girls, and gives recommendations on what we can do as parents to foster this healthy relationship between our children and exercise. Even if you don’t have children yourself, you’ll be able to put yourself back in your shoes when you were a child and relate to so much of what we talk about throughout this episode.

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213. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert: Kristin Neff on Self Compassion and Calming Your Mean Inner Critic Dec 25, 2023

We want to wish all of you a very Merry Christmas to those who celebrate. As we head into the New Year, this Greatest Hits episode with Kristin Neff is such an important one. That mean inner critic that we all have can speak really loudly at times. Sometimes we even start to believe that voice. During this episode Kristin encourages us to think past that mean voice and instead to think about what we are truly saying.

We all know we should speak to ourselves kindly. But when we make a mistake, say the wrong thing, our kids are acting up, it’s easy to place blame and judgment on ourselves. Kristin is a pioneer in the self compassion space and has a wealth of knowledge on the “in the moment” things we can do to raise ourselves up and show kindness over anything else.

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212. What to Do When Your Partner is in a Bad Mood Dec 18, 2023

Today’s topic idea came from a friend of ours. She explained that her partner is going through a rough stretch at work and it’s trickling into their home life. She was wondering how she can help him and how she can make sure this issue is not taken out on their kids. We decided to dedicate an entire episode to what happens if one of the two of you has a tough stretch of life.

We give real life examples from both ourselves and our partners. Both of us have been there. We know what it’s like to go through tough seasons as individuals and what it’s like to have a partner go through a rough patch. We help break it down into three parts; finding the root cause, pulling the other person out of their rut, and how to stop their bad mood from bringing you down.

A common theme that comes up throughout this episode is the importance of self-awareness. We get it that it’s not your responsibility to make sure your partner is happy all the time. It is up to them to recognize what their triggers are and to communicate with you what will help them during this tough time. And the way to help your partner out in times of need is going to be different for everyone.

You and your partner are two different people. When they are going through a rough patch it’s just not easy. We have to normalize that as humans we are going to go through hard things. It’s important to ask ourselves how can we help each other, how can we best support each other, and be there for one another? How can we take some things off their plate while also knowing that we exist outside of them too?

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211. What It's Like Having a Traveling Spouse Dec 11, 2023

This is a special episode that was originally recorded for the other podcast that Amy & I host; Pursuing HER Purpose. I (Abby) get behind the microphone with our other co-found of that business, Kat Herro, and together we share what it’s like to have a traveling spouse. May you are the traveling one or may it’s your partner, either way this episode is going to fill you with so much insight into what this lifestyle is all about.

We go through how often Kat and I’s partners are gone, what they do ahead of time to set the family up for success, and what the expectations are for both themselves and their partners when they are gone. Kat and Abby share what systems work best for them when their spouses are out of town including having something fun planned in advance, having groceries delivered, and even making bath time a longer than usual activity with the kids.

Having a partner who travels for work can be taxing in more ways than one. But we want you to know that you’re not alone. It’s easy to slip into that angsty comparison place. We hope this episode not only gives you ideas for how to make the time your partner is away easier but also something that you can actually look forward to.

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210. Real Talk: Money and Personal Finance with Jamila Souffrant Dec 04, 2023

Jamila Souffrant, from Journey to Launch, is on the podcast today. We’ve had financial experts on the show before and we know these types of episodes always hit! But we feel that you’ll especially vibe with Jamila. She is a mom of three, a money coach, a podcast host, and a certified financial education instructor. Her own journey with money and how she too is learning along the way is so relatable.

There are different ways to approach your finances. Jamila explains that during different stages of life you may approach money differently. You could be an aggressive investor at one point versus extremely frugal at another. She explains things like what the FIRE acronym stands for and what her “guacamole lifestyles” mean in her new book; Your Journey to Financial Freedom.

We know that finances can feel like an all or nothing approach. Jamila gives a fresh take on how you can look at a side hustle and how to get on the same page as your partner when it comes to still valuing each other's independent financial goals. Another thing our generation tends to think is that our parents didn’t teach us enough about money. If you want to start having money talks with your children, Jamila gives some advice on where to start.

We loved so many of Jamila’s answers during this interview. You’ll be able to take her real life examples, implement them right away, and not feel overwhelmed while doing so.

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209. Dr. Sumi on Seeing Rest as Being Productive Nov 27, 2023

We have Dr. Sumi Raghavan on the show today. If you’ve heard of Dr. Becky Kennedy, who has been on the show before, Dr. Sumi consults for her parenting company. She also collaborates with other psychologists who support women and mothers.

Throughout this interview Dr. Sumi does such a great job of empowering our listeners to feel confident and break free from mom guilt. She lets us know that if a system isn’t working for us, it’s not our fault. Instead, she gives us techniques we can use to move forward through community and finding support from the people around us.

Dr. Sumi answers our questions on how we can create more space for rest and how we can help ourselves understand that rest is necessary. We live in a culture that loves to value being over-productive. Dr. Sumi explains how we can move away from this lifestyle. She also shares her concept of “anti-work Wednesday”; what it is and why she created it.

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208. Erin & Stephen on The Hardest Decisions Couples Make (Adding Another Baby, Conflict, and Self-Awareness) Nov 20, 2023

We are sharing the microphone with a married couple who also happen to be couples counselors specifically for parents. Erin and Stephen Mitchell join us today to talk about the tough decisions we have to make as parents, starting with do we want to have more kids? They go into their own story on this very subject and share the struggles they had to overcome to come to a final decision. Not only do they bring the humanity behind therapy, but also with Stephen’s PhD in medical family therapy and Erin’s masters in counseling and psychology, they’re able to bring in so much more.

We know that the decision of how many children to have shows up constantly for this community. Some couples can fight on this topic for months and months, some even years. Erin and Stephen share what you should be asking yourselves, as individuals, if this is a topic of tension in your household. And what about if you’re grid locked - one person is a no and the other is a yes. They share how you can move forward in this situation.

Finances are another topic of discussion that cause stress for couples. Do you feel like you can never get on the same page as your partner when it comes to money? And what about a career change? How do you decide as a couple if this is the next right move for your family? Erin and Stephen bring forth the idea of asking what the truth behind the story we are telling ourselves is with these issues. They also share how to help your partner feel seen and heard when their opinion differs from your own.

We both had so much to reflect on after this conversation. Erin and Stephen still have issues, even though they are experts in this area. We all have things that we can continue to work on inside our relationships. And, when we throw kids in the mix, it only elevates the demands and responsibilities we feel when making tough decisions. We hope this episode allows you and your partner to revisit some of the stories underneath the surface and that together, as a couple, you can understand each other just a little bit better and decision fatigue can be less of a burden.

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207. Stressed About the Holidays? Listen to This! Nov 13, 2023

Many of us are craving our own holiday traditions yet we are trying to please our parents at the same time. When is it our turn to enjoy the holidays? We can’t be expending all our energy into others and expect there to be time to dedicate to our own families. Today we hope you leave this episode feeling inspired, with some new strategies to try this holiday season, and definitely with some solidarity.

We understand that juggling the holidays is complicated. It’s so easy to say, “set a boundary. Say no.” But when other people’s feelings are at risk, it’s just simply not that easy. We share where we draw the line and say no. Being flexible when you can is key but also know what you’re going to hold near and dear to your immediate family.

We reached out to our community and asked you what was the most stressful for you during the holidays. We go through your hot takes on topics such as gifts, kids being crabby, sleeping arrangements, perfectionism, and the mom’s mental load this time of year.

To make this holiday season a little bit more about you and less about everyone else you might have to have that hard conversation with your loved one or your in-laws. If anything, we suggest making your partner take some things off your plate! Keep it simple, delegate, and get ahead of what you can.

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206. Jamie Scrimgeour - An Episode for Step Moms and Those Who Support Them Nov 06, 2023

This episode is all about step families, blended families and how to deal with exes. Even if that’s not your current situation, opening your eyes to the challenges that stepparents face is really important. And that’s exactly what today’s guest, Jamie Scrimgeor, helps us do.

Jamie has a background in psychology and social service work. She is now a certified life coach who specializes in step family dynamics. Jamie also hosts her own podcast, is a content and community creator, she’s a wife, a mom to three stepchildren and one of her own.

In our conversation with Jamie she shares what she would like those of us who aren’t stepmoms to understand about those who are. She also shares what the most common challenges are that come up for stepmoms. We know that blending a family with stepchildren and an “ours” baby can bring up a lot of emotion. Jamie shares her own personal story with this and why it’s the best thing that has happened to her family.

One topic that isn’t often talked about is the mental load of a stepmom. Jamie shares her insights on what contributes to stepmom mental load most often and also shares her reframes to help you release the guilt, shame, and judgment of others when it comes to divorce.

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205. Where Therapy and Interior Design Meet with Anita Yokota Oct 30, 2023

Did you know that your physical space can help you with your mental health journey? Today we are speaking with Anita Yokota, former mental health therapist turned interior designer. Anita shares her story of how practicing as a marriage and family therapist for over 20 years before pivoting her career into interior design allowed her to realize the importance of how your space feels. She is also the author of the best selling book Home Therapy.

Do you feel insecure about your home? Are you nervous to do any improvements because you’re afraid you might ruin it? Or you want to do all the things because you're hosting this upcoming holiday season? Anita teaches you how to be somewhere in the middle. She also explains what the four domains are from her book and how we should be using them to find more peace and joy in our homes.

Anita walks us through how we can feel good in our homes during the little kid years without breaking the budget. She recommends things like changing the paint color in a room to help a space feel more calm and less chaotic. She also touches on how you can compromise if you share a space with someone who has a different vision than yours when it comes to decorating.

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204. Lydia Fenet - The Confidence Episode Oct 23, 2023

Do you lack confidence from time to time? Let us introduce you to Lydia Fenet. She is the world’s leading charity auctioneer and has single handedly raised over one billion dollars for over 800 different organizations and broken down countless barriers for women in our industry. In this episode Lydia teaches us how to step into our own confidence by focusing on the present.

As moms we are forced to make so many decisions and with all of the options we have, we can struggle with the choices we make. Lydia explains how things influence us, both in positive and negative ways, and how we can start to tune out the outside world and trust our own instincts. She shares what the “strike method” is and how we can start using it today. Lydia also states that she has learned way more from her failures than her successes and how this has made an important impact on the lives of her three children as well.

A lot of women in this community struggle with working mom guilt. Many of you have thought about leaving your careers completely because the stress of managing a household and kids gets to be too much. Lydia has some words of wisdom for you if you are stuck in this mindset right now. She also stresses the importance of understanding money, whether or not you’re the one bringing it in for your household.

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203. Supporting Your Health Goals with Jessica Kuchnia Oct 16, 2023

Did you know that there are more tools to measure your health progress than just a scale? Today, Jessica Kuchnia, from DexaFit Madison is here to explain to us what a DEXA scan is and what all it measures. We first met Jess when we walked into her business for our own scans. We all share the same passion for all things health, fitness, nutrition, and longevity.

It can be so hard not to compare ourselves to other women. Especially in this social media era we are living in. Jess explains why it is important to focus on progress on ourselves and how focusing inward can be our best bet when it comes to living our healthiest lives. We also know that progress can be slow. Especially as we age and after we have babies. Jess explains what can help with this and why playing the long game when it comes to your health is best.

One of our favorite pieces of advice that Jess shares is to beware of the “BLTs” of life - and they aren’t what you think they are!

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202. Dr. Danielle Lane Answers Your Questions on Fertility, Hormones, and Menstrual Cycles Oct 09, 2023

Topics like fertility and menstrual cycles usually have a serious tone to them but our guest today, Dr. Danielle Lane has a way of bringing humor into these often stressful situations. Dr. Danielle is a board certified fertility specialist and you’ll learn why she has more information related to fertility issues than your Ob-Gyn might.

This episode covers everything from defining what a normal and abnormal menstrual cycle is to the difference between endometriosis and endometrial cancer. We hear the acronym PCOS, or polycystic ovarian syndrome a lot these days and Dr. Danielle explains what this is and what you can do if you suspect you might have it?

Unfortunately, many of our listeners are currently struggling with infertility. Whether it be you are trying to conceive for the first time, or maybe you are having issues a second or third time around. Dr. Danielle explains when you should seek out a fertility specialist and what to do if you don’t feel like you’re being heard from your current provider.

We want so many women in this community to hear Dr. Danielle’s message. Even if you haven’t struggled with fertility issues, you can benefit from listening to this conversation. We cannot wait to hear what you have to say about this one. It’s definitely a must listen!

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201. Julie Menanno Dives Deep into Attachment Theory and Creating a Secure Relationship Oct 02, 2023

Our conversation with Julie Menanno, therapist and mom of six, centers around secure and insecure relationships based on attachment styles. She educates us on what attachment theory is and what the different types of attachment styles are. Julie breaks down what happens when a couple has an argument and how to help get you back to the ultimate goal in any relationship: feeling safe.

Do you wonder what attachment style you and your partner are? Julie walks us through how we can tell and what it means if you don’t identify with one attachment style over the other. She talks about why avoidant and anxious partners are often attracted to each other. Julie also explains why different attachment styles react differently when their partner is disappointed in them.

To conclude our talk with Julie, she gives us an example of what we can start doing today to create a home that has an attachment friendly environment. Doing this type of work is hard but it’s fulfilling. Remember, it’s not linear but it will be worthwhile. If you want to be in your partnership for life, you must figure out how to sustain it and nurture it. When you get to go through something like this with someone you love, you come out the other side feeling like a rockstar!

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200. Whitney Casares on How To Stop Doing it All and Start Doing What Matters Sep 25, 2023

We are excited to have Dr. Whitney Casares back on the show today. She was first on the show back in episode 87; HERself Expert: Dr. Whitney Casares Talks Working Motherhood and Silencing Your Inner Critic. Dr. Whitney is a maternal child health expert, a pediatrician, a mom of two; one child has ADHD and the other has autism. She’s also the author of the soon-to-be released book - Doing It All.

Today we are talking about how we can make working motherhood better for ourselves. Dr. Whitney explains how when she was doing it all, in the end, she was the one who was suffering the most. She shares her hot take on the word balance and offers a suggestion on what we could be seeking instead.

We cover everything from how to advocate for yourself and others in incremental ways at the workplace, what the term sandwich generation means, and what you can do if you fall into this category. Dr. Whitney shares how her and her husband split the household and parenting load & you’ll find her honest, personal answer refreshing.

In Dr. Whitney’s upcoming book, Doing It All, she talks about the centered life. In this episode she walks us through this concept, gives her own personal examples, and shares what you can do when your top priorities conflict with one another.

We appreciate Dr. Whitney’s honest, realistic approach to working motherhood. We all want you to know that you deserve to feel good in this role and that even if you feel like you don’t have five minutes to reflect on your own needs, doing so will have a foundational impact on the rest of your life.

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199. Katie Taylor on Having Hard Conversations with Our Kids Sep 18, 2023

We are discussing a topic we’ve never really talked about before. And that is how to have the really hard conversations with our kids. In this episode we cover topics like death, funerals, losing a pet, and what to do when our child has completely lost it at an appointment.

Our guest, Katie Taylor, is a certified child life specialist with over 12 years of experience. She supports kids and their families as they navigate challenging life events. Today, Katie explains to us that having hard talks with our kiddos is a learned skill and why it is one that is so important to develop.

In this conversation Katie gives us her tips on whether or not we should tell our kids the truth about what to expect in an upcoming appointment. She also walks us through what age appropriate conversations around the death of a pet or a close family member sound like and gives suggestions on the appropriate language to use to help explain these events to our kids. We both took so much away from our chat with Katie and know you will too!

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198. Dr. Tracy D on Reconnecting With Your Partner Sep 11, 2023

It is a well known fact that ⅔ of couples report decreases in their marital satisfaction in the first three years after having a child. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is back on the show with us today to talk about what happens after those first three years. How do we reconnect with our partner?

Dr. Tracy is a mom to two kids, a wife, and has over 15 years of practice as a clinical psychologist. She gives us advice on how we can find the passion in our relationship again when we are in the thick of raising littles. And it doesn’t have to be these big extravagant date nights. It’s more about the little things like a text in the middle of the day to let your partner know that you’re thinking about them.

Do you feel like your relationship with your partner is transactional? Or when you do get a chance to sneak in a date night - do you only talk about your kids? Dr. Tracy explains how we can go from the mundane conversation of, “how was your day” to the four “C’s”; curiosity, compassion, connection, and collaboration.

What we love about Dr. Tracy is that she shares her own, personal experiences with us as well. Which is one of the touch points in her upcoming book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This. In her book Dr. Tracy writes about the importance of sharing the stories of other couples, and her own, to help her clients relate and feel less alone.

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197. Greatest Hits: Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries Sep 04, 2023

If you’re like us, we are celebrating Labor Day today! We are at the cabin, our kids are going back to school, and we’re getting together with friends. With everything we have going on we thought we would bring back one of our most listened to episodes with Nedra Tawwab all on boundaries.

Nedra does such a good job of explaining boundaries, the need for them, and how to implement them into your life. Every time we listen to this episode we find ourselves saying “no” so much more often because it makes our “yeses” feel that much better!

We read Nedra Tawwab’s book “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” as a group in our Patreon Book Club and in this episode, we dive into the details of her book and boundaries in general. We have answers to the family member who gives you the guilt trip, the friend who keeps testing the limits, and also with finding the power within yourself to make the changes with boundaries needed in the first place.

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196. Getting Your Needs Met Aug 28, 2023

The whole idea of this episode is that, as women, we have to ask for what we need. And this takes practice. We were raised by a generation of women who did not speak up when it came to getting their needs met which is leading us to a lot of resentment and burnout. But today we talk through a few situations that have happened in our lives recently where we have stood up and asked for what we need.

We cover what getting our needs met from our partners looks like. We think they can read our minds and this just isn’t true. If you are feeling resentful towards your partner, you have an unmet need. We both share some things that work for us with Drew and Colin and hope they might help you as well.

The other two areas we cover are work and kids. You have to set boundaries with both. Whether you work inside or outside of the home, setting boundaries around these areas of your life will help you get what you need. We’ve recently implemented some changes with the role our kids play inside of our homes that will hopefully help aid them in becoming a more collaborative part of the family unit.

With all the things we cover in today’s episode, make sure you do what feels right for you. But also, in the moment, when something doesn’t feel right, speak up. We’re sensing a shift for our generation. We are starting to get our needs met. We are starting to ask for what we need. And that is a really great thing!

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195. The Secrets to Long-Term Partnership with Dr. John Van Epp Aug 21, 2023

It always feels good to get advice from those who are two steps ahead of us in life. And that’s exactly what today’s episode is. We have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. John Van Epp, developer of evidence based relationship programs. He also has his PhD in counseling and psychology. Dr. John Van Epp has over 44 years of marriage experience himself and has raised two daughters who are also in healthy marriages. You might even recognize one of his daughters; Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who has been on the show twice before!

Have you ever been at a point in your relationship where it feels more challenging than other times? Dr. John Van Epp explains that this is completely normal. He gives us evidence based examples of when relationships tend to struggle the most and walks us through how to get through those tough times. For many couples, the same argument keeps coming up time and time again. Dr. John Van Epp talks to us about the importance of not making it a you versus me thing but rather to dig deeper by trying to act like the other person’s defense attorney in order to come up with a resolution.

We loved our conversation with Dr. John Van Epp because it felt like he was giving us the wise advice that we all need. He is at a much different stage in life than most of us and it was refreshing to hear his take on things. If you loved this episode we would love it if you left us a rating and/or review wherever you listen to podcasts.

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194. The Back to School Episode Aug 14, 2023

It’s almost back to school time! Since we both have soon to be second graders, almost kindergarteners, and younger kiddos, we thought we would do an episode all about this big transition! This time around we feel a little more experienced and open up to you about how the process of sending our littles off to school has gone for us.

In this episode, we start off by sharing our thoughts on the end of the summer pressure we put on ourselves as moms. We might feel like we haven’t done enough. But ask your kids what their favorite memory from this summer was. We think you might be surprised to hear that in their eyes, the little things are what matter most.

We share what caught us off guard as first time parents of kindergarteners. We touch on how with school comes a whole new bag of unexpected responsibilities for not only your child but for you as the parent as well. If you’re part of a household that has two, full-time working parents, juggling this new school year schedule definitely comes with its challenges. We share how we’ve had to build a bigger village than just our own couplehoods in order to get the help that we need.

With big transitions come big emotions. We want you to know that every feeling is valid. You and your little one have everything you need, you’re going to get through this, and don’t forget to have a little fun along the way!

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193. Melinda Moyer on the Research Behind Raising Kind, Generous, Grateful Children Aug 07, 2023

This conversation is chock-full of great information that we are so glad we get to insert into our own lives right away! Melinda Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, is our guest today. She is also the mom of two, contributing editor to Scientific American Magazine, weekly contributor to The New York Times and a faculty member in the science, health, and environmental reporting program at NYU.

We sometimes tend to think that talking about emotions too much with our kids may lead to them not being able to stand up for themselves or might make them too sensitive. Melinda explains why this is not true and how research has shown that strong soft skills, like emotional awareness, directly improve hard skills.

As a parent, we’ve all witnessed the dreaded scenario when our own kid treats someone else in a way that we are not proud of. Melinda coaches us through what to do in this scenario and how we can move forward from that. She also explains that saying sorry might not be the best solution, and what to foster instead.

We know so many of you are on the same page as us - you want to raise kind humans. In today’s conversation we take a deep dive into how to do just that. We hope you enjoy!

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192. Dr. Emily Jamea on Keeping Sex and Intimacy Alive After Children Jul 31, 2023

We are thrilled to have Dr. Emily Jamea on the podcast today. She sits down with us to talk all things sex and intimacy! Emily is a sex therapist who is also the mom of two. She also has a book coming out next year and hosts her own podcast: Love & Libido. It was important for us to talk to someone about this topic who was a mom because we know Emily truly understands the ebbs and flows that come with intimacy in parenthood.

Sex is often the first thing that gets dropped by couples when life feels so full or gets super stressful. Dr. Emily coaches us on how we can make sex a priority if it has been put on the back burner. Or maybe sex feels like it’s too far gone? She walks us through how to even bring it up in conversation when it can feel too awkward.

There are a lot of things that can be mismatched between partners when it comes to sex; frequency, time of day, fantasies, etc. It can be hard to even get started when you are feeling so misaligned. Dr. Emily shares her evidence based facts on how you too, as a couple, can have great sex! Even after having kids!

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191. The Episode Every Woman Needs: Let's Talk About Your Sleep with Dr. Shelby Harris Jul 24, 2023

We hear it so often when we are about to become mother’s for the first time, “Oh, you’re not going to get any sleep!” But the problem is there’s not a plan in place for how the mom’s sleep is actually going to happen. And we think this is something that needs to be talked about more!

Today we have Dr. Shelby Harris on the show. She is a mom, a clinical psychologist, and is board certified in behavioral sleep medicine by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. We are absolutely obsessed with this interview! We go off script so many times, in a good way, because we ask all the follow-up questions that all of us have.

Dr. Shelby answers our questions around whether or not women really do need more sleep than men, how to enhance the quality of sleep when more sleep is just simply too hard to come by, and how caffeine really affects our sleep.

Do you ever wonder if naps are good for you? What about the term “revenge bedtime” that we are seeing all over the internet? Should we be taking sleep aids? And what to do on those nights that you just can’t fall asleep, no matter what. Dr. Shelby answers those questions and so many more!

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190. Dr. Morgan Cutlip on How to Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself Jul 17, 2023

Dr. Morgan Cutlip is back on the show today. She first joined us for episode 162. Today we are focusing on how we take care of ourselves as mothers; how do we feel good inside motherhood? So many of her answers spoke directly to both of us.

In her upcoming book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, Dr. Morgan explains three core concepts moms face. She chats with us about these concepts including what we can do to help ourselves with the conflict of sacrificing our own identities in motherhood. We also discuss the core concept of idealization of motherhood and how intense our standards are on ourselves as parents.

Ever feel like your needs aren’t being met by your partner when it comes to sharing the load? Do you ask them for help but it never seems to go anywhere? Dr. Morgan shares actionable steps we can take when our own needs are not being met. She talks about how we can best manage all of our commitments and why that means we can’t be 100 percent committed to everything at once.

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189. Denaye Barahona on Simplifying Your Family Routines Jul 10, 2023

If you’ve been wanting to minimize the clutter and simplify your life, we have a podcast episode that’s going to hit today! We are speaking with Denaye Barahona who has her Ph.D. in child development, is a licensed clinical social worker, and a mom of two.

She shares her own journey when it comes to decluttering and simplifying her life. Denaye brings in the research side of things to help coach parents to adjust and eliminate the shame around feeling inadequate as a parent when you can’t say yes to everything.

Struggle with all the “stuff” that comes along with raising kids? Denaye gives us her top three strategies for coping with clutter and simplifying our physical spaces. She explains how when the space around us is peaceful, it puts our minds at ease as well.

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188. Let's Catch Up: Your Questions Answered Jul 03, 2023

We know that many of you might be in vacation mode this week due to the Fourth of July holiday so we thought we would do a more casual episode. We are answering your questions that you submitted via Instagram and we have not seen these questions beforehand so we are answering off the cusp!

We talk about whether or not each of us takes naps and if the nutrition changes we have made have had an effect on how tired we get throughout the day. Things get a little spicy when we share what our favorite and least favorite quality of our spouses are.

Parenting is a roller coaster, as we all know. We dive into what the peak and pit of parenthood looks like for both of us and how we each built our confidence level as mothers.

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187. Dr. Traci Baxley on How to Raise Compassionate, Anti-Racist, Justice-Minded, Kids Jun 26, 2023

Are your kids starting to ask the really difficult questions especially when it comes to race? Then today’s episode is going to be a great one for you to learn from. Our guest, Dr. Traci Baxley is a cultural and race identity coach and she supports families in creating a safe place to have these types of conversations.

Dr. Traci approaches all of the subjects we cover in a non-judgmental way. She explains how being an educator in the classroom for years and being a parent of five children has led her to the work she does with social justice parenting. Dr. Traci describes why shielding our children from the ugliness of the world makes it more difficult for them to empathize with the struggles other people are going through. She goes into details on why she coaches parents to acknowledge race and shares tangible examples of age appropriate ways we can talk about these things with both our school aged children and younger kiddos as well.

Have you ever been in a situation where your child has asked a question right in front of another person? Dr. Traci walks us through what to do when this happens and explains how to go about handling that other person’s reaction as well.

We know that today’s episode is going to help you grow both as a person and as a parent. We would love it if you shared this episode with a friend who you know would enjoy it as well. As always, thanks for being here.

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186. Liz Fosslien Normalizing the Full Range of Emotions in Motherhood Jun 19, 2023

Oftentimes as parents we focus so much on our kid’s emotions that we forget to give ourselves grace in this area. Today’s guest, Liz Fosslien is an emotions expert, an illustrator, and best-selling author of two books; No Hard Feelings and Big Feelings.

Liz explains why it is so hard for us as adults to focus on our own emotional needs. She also talks about why demonstrating our emotions to our children is so important and why editing them all out isn’t a good idea. Liz touches on the touchy subject of regret and explains why it isn’t always a bad thing.

Amy and I couldn’t help but feel the whole range of human emotions when we did this interview with Liz because not only does she allow that, she expects it. As women we often shove down emotions like anger or frustration when in reality those feelings should be invited. Having our kids see us work through those emotions is in fact very healthy!

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185. Peaceful Parenting: Getting on the Same Team as Your Child with @destini.ann Jun 12, 2023

Destini Ann Davis is our guest today. She is a parenting coach, a working mom, and the author of Very Intentional Parenting: How to Raise Empowered Kids. She approaches parenting in a peaceful manner. Today, she talks with us about what this means and explains it in a way that we are all on the same team and we’re all trying to figure things out together.

Destini focuses on the energy that we can bring to parenting to really help everyone be more positive and peaceful and in return, we can raise children who are the same. She answers our questions on whether or not peaceful parents are raising entitled children, what to do when our approach to parenting differs from our partner, and how to use reflection and intention setting in parenting.

The continuing message throughout our conversation is centered around encouraging the parent and child to connect and communicate. If this episode resonated with you, we would love for you to share it on your Instagram stories and tag both @herselfpodcast and @destini.ann.

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184. Dr. Lisa Damour on Raising Kind, Respectful Adolescents (Starting When They're Little) Jun 05, 2023

We are bringing you something we’ve never really spoken about in the past. We are talking about adolescents and teenagers. We cover really hot topics including when it’s appropriate to give your child a cell phone. Our guest is Dr. Lisa Damour. She is a mom of two daughters, a psychologist, and the author of three New York Times best selling books that help parents untangle family life.

Dr. Lisa answers our questions on when we should start laying the groundwork with our children so that they can be resilient and cope with the challenges that come with the adolescent years. She covers how we can help our kids develop a solid self-esteem even if they’re not one of the stars. Body autonomy, expressing feelings, and how to support your kids in school are just a few of the topics we cover in today’s episode.

If you are the parent of an adolescent, or will be transitioning to this stage soon, you are not going to want to miss this episode! Be sure to tag both @herselfpodcast and @lisadamour on your Instagram stories and share this episode!

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183. The Episode Every Couple Needs May 29, 2023

The Dude Therapist is back with us today! We have Eli Weinstein on again, this time to focus on communication and conflict in relationships. This is a real conversation of what it’s like to be in a long term relationship with kids. There are challenges that come up and figuring out how to work through these and stay on the same page is so crucial.

Eli walks us through how couples that stay together deal with conflict. He touches on how to deal with heated issues when kids are in the room and how to work around that feeling of wanting to solve an argument right now.

Have you and your partner ever had the same disagreement over and over? Eli shares his tips on how to resolve this so that the same issues don’t keep coming up. If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is more transactional than anything else, tune in to hear what Eli recommends when things with your other half start feeling this way.

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182. Eli Weinstein with a Male's Perspective on Partnership After Kids and Sharing the Mental Load May 22, 2023

We are shaking things up today by bringing you a male voice from the therapy, personal development, relationship, and parenting space. Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a Dad of two and a psychotherapist that isn’t afraid to give it to people straight. He has an honest, blunt, but always kind style.

Eli has been working as a therapist for over eight years and shares some of the struggles he has faced since becoming a Dad. Him and his wife have experienced loss and infertility and Eli shares what that is like to go through as a Dad.

As women, we often ask ourselves if Dad’s ever feel the mental load? Eli shares his perspective on this and what advice he has for women who are feeling the mental load burden. We cover the topic of postpartum mood disorders in men, what it’s like to be the starting player versus the bench warmer in parenthood, and how we have to be able to switch on and off as the preferred parent even when our children aren’t as comfortable with it.

You guys are always asking us for more episodes that center around a male’s perspective. This one's for you. You are going to want to share this with your male partner as well as any friend that you think might benefit from this episode!

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181. Dr. Corina Dunlap Talking Thyroid, Gut Health and Brain Fog May 15, 2023

Dr. Corina Dunlap joins us for today’s conversation. She is a mom and a naturopathic doctor whose research is incredible. She focuses on hormones, mood, and gut health. Dr. Corina’s goal with each of her patients is to get to the root cause of their symptoms.

We discuss what the most common symptoms of hormone imbalance are and what kind of foundational health habits we should have in place in order to function at our best. Dr. Corina answers our questions on how hormones affect our metabolism, why our thyroid is so crucial for overall well being, and how we can know if our gut is truly healthy.

If you’ve ever asked yourself questions like what do these symptoms mean or what changes can I make to feel better then you’re not going to want to miss this episode. Dr. Corina even gives those of us who have been putting our own health on the back burner the gentle nudge we need.

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180. Supporting Your Mama Needs Through Realistic Strategies with The Matrescence May 08, 2023

Megan and Lauren from The Matrescence are back with us today. If you’ve been around for a while then you know they were on previously in episode #112.

The Matrescence was born out of a desire to help other women navigate their personal experiences with motherhood while providing a community to support, uplift, and empower one another. Lauren is a licensed and trained registered nurse in the NICU and a mom of three precious little men. She is also now a board certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner, focusing on women’s health and wellness. Megan splits her time developing marketing strategies for national brands and chasing three toddlers.

In today’s episode we cover everything from anxiety to depression to what this looks like inside motherhood and how we can keep ourselves mentally well. This month is mental health awareness month and as you guys know we think this is so important.

Lauren and Megan provide us with strategies on how we can cope with mental health challenges, explain how we can start to accept help for those of us who struggle in this area, and share their top wellness tips that they recommend every mom does.

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179. Meghan Watson on Discovering Your Emotional Awareness May 01, 2023

This interview feels like a big hug. We sit down with Meghan Watson, a psychotherapist, writer, consultant & content creator, to talk about understanding emotions and giving ourselves compassion.

We cover the steps of what building emotional awareness looks like, the topic of resentment - how it can be an emotional burden, and Meghan gives us prompts on how we can move past resentment even if we feel like the other player isn’t willing to make a change. We dive into how we can start to build self-trust and the role that social media plays on our ability to trust ourselves.

This episode is both thought provoking and healing all at the same time. We would love it if you shared it in your Instagram stories tagging both @thrive_withmeg and @herselfpodcast.

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178. Discipline, Fostering Resilience, and Finding Your Confidence as a Parent with Dr. Aliza Pressman Apr 24, 2023

We are honored to have Dr. Aliza Pressman back on the show today. She was a guest on episode #41 and also hosts her own podcast; Raising Good Humans, where she interviews very knowledgeable and renowned parenting experts.

What we love about Dr. Aliza is that she parents the parent. She brings the latest research in child development and helps parents with the things that we deal with every, single day. Throughout this episode we bring in our own experiences and sift through ways to not only make parenting easier but also more enjoyable.

Dr. Aliza shares the through line that all her guests agree on and you might be surprised to hear that it’s actually way simpler than you might think. We cover how we can keep our information intake at a manageable level when we live in a world where we are bombarded with information overload. We talk about resilience and how we can help our kiddos self regulate, how we prevent passing on our own worries, and whether or not that should even be the goal.

As always, we appreciate all the tags, ratings, and reviews. We are trying to grow our download numbers and every share helps us do just that. Thanks for listening.

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177. 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Right Now Apr 17, 2023

It’s Amy & Abby here this week. We are talking about five questions we’ve asked ourselves recently and we think everyone else should ask themselves these questions too. The whole point of this episode is that all of our answers will be unique. We will give you prompts, and share our own answers to the questions, but we want you to take them and run with them.

We hope that these questions give you something to think about and allow you to do the type of self reflection that you deserve.

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176. Elizabeth Earnshaw on Finding Solutions to Your Biggest Relationship Conflicts Apr 10, 2023

If you are in a romantic partnership of any sort you are going to love today’s conversation. We sit down with Elizabeth Earnshaw who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is also a mom, author, premarital counselor, and she’s the voice behind the very popular IG account @lizlistens.

What we love about Liz is that she is an expert at navigating conflict in relationships. She not only teaches couples who are just beginning their partnerships but she also helps couples that have been together for a long time.

Liz shares tips on the nonnegotiables every couple must have in order for their relationship to be successful. She shares her best advice on how to solve conflicts we get into and how we can close the loop so that we can move forward in a healthy way. She also just affirms that sometimes we just need a little tough love and sometimes we just need a little change. We know you are going to love this interview!

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175. People Pleasers and Overfunctioners - THIS One Is For You with Yara Heary Apr 03, 2023

Do you identify as a people pleaser or an overfunctioner? Then this episode is going to hit home for you. Today we sit down with Yara Heary of the @lifeafterbirthpsychology Instagram account. Yara is a therapist, a speaker, and a coach who really likes to help women thrive on their journeys both as women and as mothers.

Yara chats with us on how over functioning can affect us both short and long term. She gives us prompts to replace more work with actually taking a break. We cover how it is impossible to run on maximum capacity at all times and how it is a necessity to build in recovery time to our busy lives.

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174. How to Find a Balance Between Toxic Positivity and Optimism with Whitney Goodman of @sitwithwhit Mar 27, 2023

Today we are so excited to have a conversation with Whiteny Goodman, the radically honest psychotherapist behind the very popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit. You may have seen her information and content in dozens of publications including the New York Times and New York Magazine.

We love this interview because it takes the toxically positive environment that many of us are living in and it gives it a little bit of a shift. We don’t want to be walking around in complete negativity but there definitely is a balance and Whitney walks us through ways we can find that balance while helping ourselves and our relationships in the process.

Whitney covers everything from why she got started with toxic positivity to how we can show up for a friend who is going through something we might not fully understand. She also helps us identify the connection between people pleasing and toxic positivity.

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173. Faith Broussard Cade of @fleurdelisspeaks on Why You Shouldn't Put Yourself Last Mar 20, 2023

We are so excited to introduce today’s guest, Faith Broussard Cade. We have been long time fans of hers and she is the woman behind the movement of self-care. Faith’s handwritten notes that she shares online tend to go viral. She started writing these notes as a means to heal from a personal accident and in today’s interview she explains how her messages have helped many others heal as well.

If you are someone who struggles with rest, Faith shares how we can turn that to-do list off in our head and actually take some time for ourselves. She shares a list of self-care items that we can benefit from that are inexpensive and tangible ideas to pull ourselves up from the bottom of our priority list.

We would love for you to do two things for us this week. 1. Make sure you are subscribed to our show so these new episodes show up for you every week and 2. Leave us a review. Those help us get our important conversations, like this one with Faith, to more ears!

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172. Going Behind the Scenes on Our Health and Partnerships Mar 13, 2023

With this episode we are going to take you behind the scenes. We usually do this type of thing over on Patreon but we know many of you are interested in more episodes where we are just being ourselves and talking about what we are going through. We would love to hear what you think about this type of episode and if you’d like to hear more like it.

We go through what it is like for us to have different social needs than our partner. For Amy, it can be a struggle when she is more of a homebody and her spouse is more social. Or the opposite can be true as well. Abby tends to be more of a busy body and, at times, wishes her partner would have more real-life friends. Navigating these situations is tough and we chat about what works for us in these scenarios.

If you’ve been a long time listener then you know that we both have been going through our own health journeys. As we enter our mid-thirties, we are finding that this season of life can be challenging. Especially if you’ve had children. Both of us give you an update on where we are currently at and what tools we use to help us feel our best.

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171. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart on How to Support Your Child Through Fears, Anxiety, and Preparing Them for Challenges Mar 06, 2023

Our guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. She is a pediatric psychologist, a parent coach, an author, and a speaker. And let us tell you, we wish we would’ve had this episode sooner in our parenting journeys. Dr. Lockhart walks us through actual, real-life scenarios we are going through with our kiddos.

She also answers the tough questions that so many of us have. How do we handle our kid’s fears and anxieties? Where does rebellion come from and what can we do about it? How can we better understand a child who is lacking motivation? And, how do we help our kids not miss out on a commitment because they are nervous?

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170. Keeping the Love in Our Partnerships After Kids with Sheina Schochet @loveafterbaby Feb 27, 2023

Today’s guest is Sheina Schochet, a licensed mental health counselor who is the face behind the popular account @loveafterbaby. What we love about this interview is that she pulls in her own life experiences around how we can help partners stay connected for the long haul even after they have kids.

We know that with children comes more challenges. After listening to this episode you’ll be able to directly apply Sheina’s simple, tangible tips to start improving the love in your relationship right away.

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169. A Conversation with Erica Djossa of @momwell on the Mental Load, Navigating Transitions, and Getting Your Needs Met in Parenthood Feb 20, 2023

You guys are in for a treat today because we have Erica Djossa; formerly known as Happy as a Mother, now known as Momwell, on the show. We feel like her mission and our mission here at the HERself podcast run side by side. We both try to get women and mothers the best information possible.

Throughout this interview we nod our heads along with all the advice Erica gives on topics including the invisible load in motherhood, what causes the feeling of being on edge, toxic positivity and so much more.

At the end of the episode, Erica speaks on Dads. We get asked so often, from you, about how your partner/husband can get resources. We wanted to make sure we covered that inside this interview as well. Because we all know Dads and partners struggle too.

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168. Talking Codependency and Resentment with Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan Feb 13, 2023

We have two awesome guests joining our show today; Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan. They are therapists who do a deep dive into the psychology of the soul. They have their own podcast, Cheaper Than Therapy. Their whole point is to demystify, destigmatize, and desensitize what goes on both inside the therapy room and in daily life.

This is the type of episode that is going to push you. It also challenged us. Vanessa and Dené speak so vividly on why it’s important to have a sense of self throughout your entire life. They define what codependency is and how that compares to interdependence. We ask them the hard question of whether we should wait for our partners to change, should we try to change them or is it best to just accept them for who they are?

In the three years of hosting this podcast, this episode is one of my (Abby) very favorites episodes. You’re not going to want to miss it!

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167. Prioritizing Your Spending, Investing, and Financial Goals with Carly Hill Feb 06, 2023

Today we have Carly Hill from Debt Free Mom on. If you’ve ever been resistant to the idea of budgeting because it seems archaic, we’ve been there too. But we love Carly’s approach. She gives actionable, achievable steps to help you on your financial path.

Carly is the mom of four who teaches women how budgets can help them gain more financial freedom and lower their stress. She covers whether or not we should be saving, paying off debt, and investing all at the same time or if we should be prioritizing one over the other. Carly breaks down what a budget is and why it’s important to have one.

If budgeting seems overwhelming to you, or you don’t even know where to start, Carly speaks on this as well. She talks about how money mindset comes into play with how we approach our finances and what it can look like when you are incentivized differently than your partner.

There’s a lot of numbers talk in this episode, but don’t let that overwhelm you because Carly breaks it down. This is definitely an episode you’ll want to listen to with your partner and you might even want to listen to a few parts twice, depending on where you’re at in your financial journey.

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166. A Mom's Perspective When a Child Has Delays Jan 30, 2023

Have you ever had that feeling that your child is behind in something? This week the two of us sit down and share some insight on what has been going on in our lives when it comes to feeling like we are letting our children down.

Abby shares a personal story on the weight that can come with having a child with special needs. Amy gets vulnerable on what it felt like when she was told her kindergartener was behind in reading. Oftentimes, as women, we take the load of the heavy issues. Today we talk about what our village looks like and how we can lean on them through these tough times.

We know that in moments like this it can feel like you might want to throw in the towel. But remember, you are allowed to have these ups and downs. You’re allowed to have success and the hard days. We hope that you have a village of support where you feel like you can be honest about your relationships, parenting, and the things that are really, really tough.

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165. ALL Things Siblings with Jess from @nurturedfirst Jan 23, 2023

Today we are so excited to have Jess from @nurturedfirst (formerly Our Mama Village) back on the show. Jess is a registered psychotherapist who shares her expertise on all things sibling relationships. This is an episode we wish we had before we had multiple children!

Navigating sibling conflicts can be exhausting. As parents we are trying to help our children thrive as individuals but we also want to foster the relationships they are developing with their brothers or sisters. Jess helps us by providing things we can do or say as parents to support these healthy relationships among our kids.

We love hearing what you as listeners are pulling from these episodes. Tag @ourmamavillage and @herselfpodcast and share something you learned from this episode.
Update March 2023: Our Mama Village is now Nurtured First! Check Jess out on Instagram @nurturedfirst, and check out her new website here: nurturedfirst.com. Together, let's create a generation of children, parents, and caregivers who are nurtured first.

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164. Cassie from The Caffeinated Clean on Decluttering and Divorce Jan 16, 2023

We have the pleasure of speaking with Cassie from @thecaffeinatedclean this week. Whenever we talk about decluttering and organizing, we get such a positive response from this community. We know that a messy house or space leads to a messy mind. Cassie walks us through ways that we can start decluttering our lives.

She talks about cleaning our cleaners, organizing and how we can get our kids on board to make our lives more streamlined by having them step up into their own independence. We also get into details on Cassie’s recent divorce. If you are someone who is contemplating divorce or are recently separated Cassie gives her heart and helps us figure out this tough transition.

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163. Real Partnership: How We Implemented Dr. Morgan Cutlip's Relationship Wisdom Jan 09, 2023

This week we are talking about how we implemented some of the things Dr. Morgan Cutlip talked about in last week’s episode. We have tried a few of her tips in our own relationships and we share what is working and what is not working so well.

We hope this episode normalizes that in this season of life with all of the demands it can lead to some moments where you wish you would have acted differently or you wish your partner would have acted differently and that's just the truth of the matter with how much stuff we all have going on.

We hope that you can take something from this episode. Whether it's the strategy of using, “the story I’m telling myself is…” as a way to start tough conversations and help your partner understand you better. Or maybe it is in the idea of helping yourself and your partner feel more visible and valued by giving really specific compliments.

Whatever you need today, we hope you are able to take it with you.
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162. Dr. Morgan Cutlip Answers Our Top Relationship Questions Jan 02, 2023

Dr. Morgan Cutlip sits down with us this week to discuss all things relationships and partnerships. She is a wife, a mom to two spirited kiddos and has a PhD in psychology.

We open up about our own struggles with our partners and this episode feels like a real time therapy session for the both of us. We are sure that the issues that we go through will apply to you as well.

Dr. Morgan walks us through what to do when our partners give us the silent treatment and when they have issues apologizing. She takes the things we know we should be doing to improve upon our relationships and adds another element to them.

You can start using Dr. Morgan’s practical relationship strategies today!

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161. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert Susie From @busytoddler on Activities, Play and How to Survive the Little Kids Years Dec 26, 2022

It is right in the middle of the holidays so if you are traveling this week it is the perfect time to listen to one of our most downloaded, re-shared episodes of 2022. This week we are re-airing our episode with Susie from @busytoddler. The biggest takeaway you will have from this episode is to give yourself credit for making it through the hard days and to give yourself a pat on the back for the incredible job you are doing as a parent.

We could not be more excited to talk with our special guest today, because we have Susie Allison from Busy Toddler with us! Susie is a former kindergarten and first grade teacher turned stay-at-home mom. She is an author and one of Instagram’s favorite moms, because she gives us so many tangible tips to help us navigate the “little kids years” and what to do to keep our children happy, thriving, and frankly, entertained.

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160. When Worry Becomes an Issue with Kate Borsato Dec 19, 2022

What is the difference between worry and anxiety? And how do we recognize when our thoughts are causing a negative impact on our everyday lives? This week we are bringing Kate Borsato back on the show to discuss this matter. Kate is a therapist who specializes in anxiety, especially in motherhood. She talks to us about what exactly worry is compared to anxiety and offers great suggestions on what we can do if we recognize some of these problematic symptoms in ourselves.

Kate guides us through different exercises including how to surrender to our anxious thoughts and focus our attention on what we do want to be thinking about instead. She encourages us to write down what a good mother means to us and to make sure we are including ourselves on that list. Even things like deep breathing are exercises that can help get us out of that worrisome headspace and back to where our feet are planted.

So many of us can relate to the struggle we have when we are able to watch our partners participate in a mindless, relaxing activity for a few hours at a time when we ourselves simply cannot. Kate goes into details about how society puts this pressure on moms to constantly be productive and suggests that we take a page right out of our partner's playbook by allowing ourselves to participate in activities that make us feel creative.

If you worry that your anxious tendencies are going to be passed on to your children, listen in. Kate explains that those of us who are more prone to anxiety can be caused by many factors including childhood trauma, abusive romantic relationships, or we may just be genetically more prone to worry.

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159. Why Adult Friendships are Hard and How to Make Them Work with Dr. Miriam Kirmayer Dec 12, 2022

Adult friendships are hard. We hear this over and over again from our community. That is why we are so excited to sit down with Dr. Miriam Kirmayer today to discuss what we can do to foster, build, and maintain these special relationships in our lives.

Dr. Miriam is a clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and friendship expert who has spent a decade researching the science of friendship and social connection. She shares with us her expertise on how we can build new friendships as adults and how we can stay connected to our friends once we become parents.

If your friendships have taken a back burner since you became an adult, this episode will strike a cord. Dr. Miriam goes into simple techniques we can use to make sure there is a match between the type of support that’s being given from our friends and the type that we are really looking for.

She helps us navigate the tough situation of ending long term friendships and identifying when they are no longer serving us. We can only entertain so many friendships at once. Dr. Miriam helps us recognize when it's time to let friendships go so we can make room for new ones.

If adult friendships have been a struggle for you, know that you are not alone. We hope this episode helps you get some ideas on how you can better your relationship with your current friends and put yourself out there to make new ones!

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158. Real Parenting: How We Parent Our Big Reactors Dec 05, 2022

This week we are trying something new. We’ve decided to implement the things that we learned from our interview with Claire Lerner last week. We both have children who we consider to be big reactors. So we took our insights from our conversation with Claire and put them into action in our own homes!

One of Amy’s biggest takeaways was that each of her children might need individualized things. Her big reactor needs to be parented differently than his brothers. Continual praise and more time are a coping mechanism that seem to help.

Abby realized that when these types of kids have these big reactions they aren’t trying to cause a challenge. They are just trying to react in a way that their own body needs. They’re more sensitive, more empathetic, and look at the world in their own unique way.

The thing that we want you to know is that we don’t get it perfect every time. We are learning right alongside you. We are both, everyday, normal moms who aren’t experts. We struggle through this parenting thing as well. And it does get better. Both of our big reactors are around age five now and it has taken us a little longer to learn what parenting techniques work. We are making progress and hope this episode helps you do the same.

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157. Real Parenting: What to Do When the Script Doesn't Work with Claire Lerner
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157. Real Parenting: What to Do When the Script Doesn't Work with Claire Lerner Nov 28, 2022

We both have experience raising children who seem to not respond to gentle parenting. It has been frustrating for the both of us at times because it has made us feel isolated and exhausted. We are so excited to have Claire Lerner on today to share her expertise in this area.
Claire shares what to do if your child is wired differently during moments of aggression towards others. She explains that our children are not trying to be manipulative in any way, just that they need boundaries to help themselves regulate.
Have you ever wondered if timeouts are truly a thing of the past? Claire explains her concept of a safe space break and how this alone time can help kids get back to a place of calm.
With it being the middle of the holiday season, we know that these large family gatherings can be major triggers for our kiddos who tend to be big reactors. Claire helps us navigate the conversations we can have with not only our friends and family members, but with our children's teachers as well.
And next week, we will both share our learnings from implementing Claire's strategies into our own households. So be sure to tune in to hear how these teachings are helping us with our own personal situations at home.
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156. All Your Questions Answered: The Episode Built Around Your Top Q's Nov 21, 2022

This week we are answering your questions you submitted on Instagram. We know several of you are probably busy with your families this week and we wanted to keep this episode lighthearted and fun.

We know as business partners that it can be hard to get along all the time. We dive into whether or not we fight a lot and what we appreciate the most about one another. Another relationship several of you had questions on was the ones we have with our spouses. Tune in to hear what we are both currently working on in our marriages.

As many of you know we have both been on health journeys and we share where we are at when it comes to our mental and physical wellbeing. Amy shares details on how she is focusing on her nutrition whereas Abby gets into the nitty gritty on her journey with SSRIs.

We go into what each of our families do as rituals around the holidays and what our typical morning routines look like. You’ll be surprised to hear that Abby’s changes on a daily basis.

If you have been with us since the beginning of this podcast, we want to thank you for following along. Many of you are wondering if or when a HERself podcast event is in the making? Tune in to this week’s episode to learn more about where we are at with that!
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155. The Holiday Survival Episode Nov 14, 2022

With the holidays quickly approaching, we want to bring you an episode that we hope will help you to stay sane during this busy time! As you know, we are both moms of three kids each, and this is our 7th year of having children during the holidays. Needless to say, we have learned so much throughout our own journeys and we’re here to share the tips and tricks for what to do, as well as what not to do, during the holiday season.

A lot of what we talk about today will not only help you this year in the moments of overwhelm you might experience, but we want it to make future holidays easier for you, more streamlined, and to give you the space that you need so that you can actually be present and enjoy the time with your loved ones!

We love hearing where you are when you listen to our podcast! Are you on a walk, on a break, or listening somewhere else? Tag us over on Instagram, @herselfpodcast and let us know, and if you found this episode helpful in planning for the holidays, we would be so grateful if you shared it with others!

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154. Getting Real on Relationships After Kids with the Shrink Chicks Nov 07, 2022

You’re in for treat today, as our special guests are Emmalee and Jennifer from the Shrink Chicks, who are also the co-founders of The Therapy Group. In this episode, they share their expertise on conflict resolution and communication strategies to use in your romantic relationship. We really felt like we were getting couples therapy in front of thousands of people during this conversation, as they covered so many of the issues that many of us face in our relationships!

Before diving in, we want to give the disclaimer that what we talk about here is for people that are in healthy relationships, and if there is any sort of abuse happening, these things won’t apply to your relationship.

A key message that we took from what Emmalee and Jennifer had to share is that we really don’t need to be having these conversations on our own. Go seek the resources and get the right tools in place so that you can have a better life and stronger relationship with your partner!

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153. Everything You Need to Know During Sick Season with Pediatrician @resilientrascals Oct 31, 2022

We are releasing this episode because we know that in addition to us, so many other people need it too. Today’s guest is Dr. Anjuli Gans, a board-certified pediatrician and educator who runs the platform Resilient Rascals, and in this episode, we’re diving into all things kid sickness.

Dr. Anjuli reveals how we as parents can deal with our kids being sick, and what she shares is not only honest, but her tips and advice on this topic is both realistic and practical. We are in this with you, as we’ve certainly been in situations where our kids have been sick and have experienced the impact it has on everyone in the family. We learned so much from Dr. Anjuli today, and we’re so excited for you to learn and use this information as well!

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150. Overwhelmed? This One’s for You.

152. A Candid Motherhood Conversation with @diaryofanhonestmom Oct 24, 2022

Today we are excited to speak with Libby Ward from Diary of an Honest Mom, as so many of you have reached out and asked us to have her on the podcast!

Libby is a digital creator, speaker and mental health advocate with a deep commitment to breaking the cycles of trauma. She is known for talking about the hard things that mothers face through storytelling, while using humor and a lot of vulnerability. Her mission is to help other women realize that they are good moms, just as they are!

We feel the reason that Libby resonates with so many people, and so deeply too, is that she shares with a level of honesty that we’re just not used to hearing today. We hope that you find this interview as inspirational and inspiring as we did, and we’d be so happy if you shared it on Instagram, tagging us @diaryofanhonestmom and @herselfpodcast.
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151. Wills, Trusts, and Everything You Need to Know about Future Planning Oct 17, 2022

Before we jump into this episode, we wanted to let you know that it is longer than our usual episodes, and we talk about some heavy stuff in this one. In fact, this might be the type of episode where you take a couple of breaks while listening, and one that you send to your partner to check out. Today, we’ll be talking about what would happen if we should die, which is a topic that could take a while for you to process, because as you’ll hear, there is a lot to consider here.

Our expert guest today is attorney Eric Christoffersen, who has been with the law firm Grams & Christoffersen for 13 years and counting. He started as a law student, clerking for Founder, David F. Grams who established the firm nearly 30 years ago. After graduating law school, cum laude from the University of Wisconsin Law School, he became an associate attorney and then later a shareholder. Now with 11+ years of practice experience he is the Managing Shareholder of Grams & Christoffersen, S.C., leading a great team to serve their clients into the future.

We think this episode with Eric is a really important one, and we discuss something that a lot of people will go through in their lifetimes. We feel that thinking about the future is worth having an entire episode on, and we hope you get a lot from this interview with Eric, who was in charge of helping Amy plan for her future.

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150. Overwhelmed? This One's for You. Oct 10, 2022

Today’s episode expands on the feelings of burnout and overwhelm that we’ve been talking about, and our hope is that it will give you some tangible tools and ideas for how we’ve worked through it in different seasons of our lives.

Both of us are moms of 3 children, with careers, partners, houses and laundry. We get it! We’ve been through all the tough seasons where we just weren’t asking for help or accepting it from others. In this episode, we reveal some personal stories of times where we were really overwhelmed, and we share what worked, what didn’t quite work, and how we have been able to get to where we are today in this area.

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149. Amelia Nagoski on Preventing and Overcoming Burnout Oct 03, 2022

Today we are diving into the all-too-familiar topics of stress and burnout with our special guest, Amelia Nagoski. Amelia is an author, speaker and conductor who holds a Doctorate in Music from The University of Connecticut. She wrote the New York Times bestseller, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, with her identical twin sister, Emily. The book contains science and stories for people, especially women, who have felt exhausted and overwhelmed by everything they have to do, yet they still feel like they’re not doing enough.

This conversation with Amelia is a reminder to take yourself seriously and to start listening to that voice inside of you. You won’t be able to show up fully in this world until you begin taking this thing called burnout seriously, and by figuring out what your needs truly are!

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148. Katy Joy Wells on Decluttering Your Life Sep 26, 2022

Is clutter holding you back? Would you like to have less clutter in your life? This is something many of us face, and we have a super tangible and relatable episode for you today about this topic! Katy Wells is a declutter expert who has turned her own life from cluttered to peaceful using the practical tips that she shares today, along with giving herself a ton of grace in the process. She’s helped thousands of families gain control of their households through solving their clutter problems at the root. She’s also helped them generate momentum towards building a home they love, and that allows them to focus on what really matters.

It is our hope that this conversation with Katy inspires you to tackle one room, or even just part of a room in your house today! Tag us, @katyjoywells and @herselfpodcast, with your pics of these projects because we want to see the transformations we can all start to make not only in our homes, but also our mental space. After listening to what Katy shares, you’ll see that decluttering truly can impact our lives for the better!

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147. Real Life Parenting - How We Implemented Dr. Becky Kennedy's Teachings Sep 21, 2022

Welcome to this bonus episode of HERself! It is our dream to someday bring you two episodes each week, so today is the test for that. What you might not see behind the scenes is that our amazing sponsors want a certain amount of downloads, so we have an ask of you. If we do go to two episodes a week, it’s important that you keep listening and sharing these episodes to help us accomplish this dream! With that being said, we’re excited to continue providing you with the best resource that we can to support you along your journey.

Today we want to reflect on Episode 146 with Dr. Becky, because Dr. Becky is someone who meets people where they are, and she’s not the type of expert who will shame you by pretending there is a “perfect” way to parent. Rather, she is trying to come alongside you and to help wherever you are.

Implementing some of the things that we talk about in this episode can make such a difference in helping you and your kids to get through the tougher times, by you providing support but not solving every problem for them. It might not show up at that very moment, but little by little you’ll start to see that all these hard conversations will lead to some really amazing transformations!

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146. HERself Expert: Clinical Psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy on How You and Your Child can Feel Good Inside Sep 19, 2022

You are in for a treat today! We are so excited to be bringing you our conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy, who is a clinical psychologist, mom of three, and founder of Good Inside, the expert-guided, community-powered platform equipping parents with a new way of seeing and solving challenges at home.

Dr. Becky meets parents where they are at, and it’s so refreshing to get her insight on parenting, because a lot of these conversations are often happening behind closed doors. Today’s episode is a reminder that wherever we are in motherhood, we can start over right now by re-evaluating and changing our behaviors. By doing so we’ll not only help our kids, but we’ll start to help ourselves in the process.

We encourage you to visit Dr. Becky’s website at https://www.goodinside.com/ and check out all the amazing resources that she has available for moms, and if you enjoy this episode, we’d be so honored if you shared it on Instagram, tagging @drbeckyatgoodinside and @herselfpodcast.

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59. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships

145. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship Sep 12, 2022

One subject that comes up over and over again with our community is friendship, so we’re excited to bring Dr. Marisa Franco, a psychologist and friendship expert, back on the podcast today!

Some of the things we cover in this episode include keeping friendships healthy when we’re in a busy season of life, tools for navigating conflict in friendship (and why conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing), and ways to approach ending a friendship if the time comes for this to happen. Dr. Marisa also shares her best tips for making new friends, what to say when first engaging with new people, how strong friendships benefit our overall well-being, and so much more.

We really want to make friendship uncomplicated for you and meet you where you are, because it’s normal to feel nervous about these topics. If friendships are something that you’re working on, like we are, we are proud of you because we recognize that this can be hard!

If you enjoy what Dr. Marisa shares today, you’ll want to get a copy of her brand new book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends, which is available now! As always, we also want to hear your biggest takeaways from this episode, and you can tag us on Instagram, @DrMarisaGFranco and @herselfpodcast. We’d love for you to share this information with others, because it’s so important for us to work on and build the friendships we all have in our lives!

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144. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws Sep 05, 2022

In the United States this week we are celebrating Labor Day, and we know that many of you may be with friends and family and won’t have as much time for your normal Monday morning podcast listen. For this reason, today we are bringing you a Greatest Hits episode, and one that will be especially important if you are with your in-laws this week!

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish joins the HERself Podcast to talk about in-law dynamics as it relates to children. Yes, this is your time to be a parent and your children are so important to you, but also this is the time where your in-laws can shine as grandparents. There will be a learning curve and some challenges involved, but getting through it together in a way where everyone can be happy is what Tracy D focuses on in this episode.

If you like what she shares, you’ll want to tune in Episode 94, which is the second part in this two-part series. In it, we go into in-law dynamics as it relates to the adults in the relationship, because we want you to make sure that you can keep the peace while maintaining your boundaries!

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143. Dietitian Sammie Gollup on Navigating Weight Changes and Respecting Your Body Aug 29, 2022

Hi, it’s Amy here, and today is one episode that I’ve been wanting to do for a long time now! In this episode, you’ll hear me share about my own health journey that I’ve been on for the past year and a half, and I reveal what has happened during this time, where I am today, and more.

Joining me is Sammie Gollup, who is an incredible dietician, to make sure that we have a safe and scientific conversation. With that being said, if hearing about weight gain or weight loss is triggering for you, please sit this episode out and take care of yourself first. In this conversation, we try to be very conscious of the way that we present these topics, but I want you to be aware of your own boundaries and needs, as always.

Today, we want to have a really honest talk about weight gain and how it can impact a person mentally, and then give you the tools that can help you work through this. This episode is meant to be educational through storytelling. In it, I tell my story and Sammie gives some of the science behind it and background from her experience working with many patients. It’s going to be really interesting and informative, and we hope you get lots from it!

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142. Yasmine Cheyenne on Boundaries, Compromise, and Honoring Yourself Aug 22, 2022

We’re so excited to have Yasmine Cheyenne on the show today! Yasmine is a self-healing educator, author, speaker and mental wellness advocate who helps people learn how to cultivate daily practices to build healthy and joyful lives.

In this episode, Yasmine reveals how you can create emotional and mental health boundaries, compromising with others, and the ways to begin using your own intuition in your daily life. She also talks about her powerful “sugar jar” concept, (which we love!) and how it will allow you to start checking in with yourself.

Yasmine shares several prompts and activities that you can pull from this episode, and we want you to try them and let us know how you make out. We would love it if you tagged us on Instagram, @yasminecheyenne and @herselfpodcast with your biggest takeaways from this episode!

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103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries

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140. The Mom Guilt Episode
59. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships

141. Prioritizing Partnership and Friendships in Parenthood Aug 15, 2022

Today’s episode is all about relationships, and specifically the power of those in-person friendships that mean so much. We’ll be sharing some of the things that we’ve been going through ourselves lately, but one thing we strongly believe in at HERself is that you need to have good friends in your life that you can absolutely count on.

Real relationships take time to nurture and the process can’t be rushed, but we want you to be open to the idea of making new friends. During this season of life, there are times that you will need those people close to that you can lean on!

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121: Shame vs Guilt and The Human Experience

140. The Mom Guilt Episode Aug 08, 2022

Today we are tackling the topic of mom guilt, which is something we talked about way back on Episode 12 of the podcast. This is important to mention, because what we say today is coming from a place of it being two years later. Back then, mom guilt was something that we were struggling more with, which led to both of us doing a lot of work in this area, and we want to share our insights and what we’ve learned with you today.

Motherhood is a journey, and we realize that mom guilt shows up differently in all of us. We think that a lot of people just accept their mom guilt in a way that really holds them back, and we feel that your goal shouldn’t be focused on being selfless, but rather to demonstrate to your children that you are a healthy person. We hope this episode provides a nudge for you to dive deeper into these feelings of mom guilt, and as always, we’re here for you every step of the way.

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139: Molly Millwood on Finding Your Voice in Motherhood and Marriage

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10. HERself Expert: Molly Millwood on Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma
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139: Molly Millwood on Finding Your Voice in Motherhood and Marriage Aug 01, 2022

It would be an understatement to say that we have been looking forward to having today’s guest, Dr. Molly Millwood, back on the podcast! If you’re a long-time listener of HERself, you undoubtedly remember when Molly was with us for Episode 10, which is actually our second most listened to episode of all-time, and one that Amy still receives the most personal messages about.

In this episode, Molly reminds us that not every part of motherhood is going to be enjoyable, and it’s ok to voice this out loud. She also helps us get a new perspective on the invisible load faced by so many women and mothers today, along with revealing why it really is time for us to start prioritizing our female friendships again, and a whole lot more.

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138. HERself Expert: Haley Sacks from @MrsDowjones - The Financial Episode Every Woman Needs to Hear Jul 25, 2022

One topic that we know you tune in for is money, and today we’re covering it with Haley from Mrs. Dow Jones! Haley is a “Financial Pop Star”, and her superpower is the ability to simplify financial matters and make them relatable for her community, which we appreciate so much here at HERself.

In this episode, Haley shares her thoughts on a budget versus financial tracking, what you need to know about credit cards and your credit score, and the tremendous impact that holding regular “money dates” with your partner can have (along with so much more good stuff)!

The big message that we want you to take away from this episode is that you really can start small and build your financial self-esteem over time. Money issues won’t go away on their own, but just by gaining awareness and implementing the strategies that Haley reveals today, you’ll be in a much better position to empower yourself when it comes to your finances.

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137. HERself Expert: Alyssa Blask Campbell of @seedandsew on All Things Emotional Intelligence for You and Your Kids Jul 18, 2022

Alyssa Blask Campbell dives into a topic that is real in this community - emotional intelligence. Not just for raising our children to learn EI but to help us understand it in the process. As an expert in this field, Alyssa is no stranger to how dysregulated emotions for an adult can impact a child and she dives into real scenarios on how we (and our partners) can learn, repair, and grow in this important area of parenting.
@seed.and.sew has an abundance of resources on this topic as well as others that will help you build confidence on your parenting journey. We can't wait to see what you pull from Alyssa's interview!
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136. Strategies to Lessen Worry Jul 11, 2022

Today’s episode is inspired by something that we go through as hosts of this podcast which you don’t see as listeners, and that is what goes on behind the scenes as we deal with our guests. Every once in a while we have changes or cancellations, and things can get a little bit stressful for us as a result when these curveballs happen. Both of us often ruminate or worry about the impact that it has on our schedule, and that is what we’re focusing on here.

In this episode, we not only share specific strategies that you can use to overcome rumination, but we also reveal our own personal experiences with it and how we’re working to reduce, or eliminate it, as well. Rumination isn’t something that you’re going to solve tomorrow, but just take one step in the right direction whenever you feel that it is popping up for you and see what happens!

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135. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist. All Your Sex Questions Answered Jul 04, 2022

This episode is being released the week of July 4th in the United States, and we realize that with the Independence Day holiday, you may be a bit busier this week spending time with family and friends - but you must relisten to this episode!

Today we are bringing you one of our Greatest Hits episodes with HERself Expert, Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist who takes the taboo out of sex. This is such an important topic that seldom gets discussed in this much detail, even among close friends.

Join us this week as we uncover how sex, conversation and releationships really go hand-in-hand, and where we as women (and couples) can find joy and more confidence in this key area of our lives. We can’t wait to hear what you get from this episode with Vanessa!

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132. Bring on the Men: Colin and Abby Talk Parental Stress with a Spirited Child and Strategies for Miscommunication

134. Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts with Strategies to Be Where Your Feet Are Jun 27, 2022

We’ve got a special treat for you today, as we bring you a conversation we had with the amazing Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts. Chelsea earned her teaching credentials and later completed her MA followed by her Ph.D. from the Division of Educational Studies at Emory University in 2014. It is during her experience as a classroom teacher that she began to make connections between literacy development, yoga and other mindfulness practices. Now she’s able to teach hundreds of thousands of people, including celebrity supporters and clientele such as Shonda Rhimes and Jennifer Garner - and she really helped Amy restore after the long pandemic parenting days too!

Chelsea is such an inspiration to us, starting as a teacher and now being on a big platform that she is serving people so well on, and we are so happy that you get that chance to learn from her today. Listen in as she shares more about her journey, including how she is approaching being a mom for the very first time, and Chelsea gives us all a reminder that showing up as ourselves is enough.

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133. Bring on the Men: Drew and Amy on All Things Marriage Jun 20, 2022

Last week, you heard Colin and Abby talk about what’s going on in their marriage and with parenthood right now, and today Drew and I will be diving into some questions that I gathered from the community for us. You’ll hear what we’ve been going through as well, and the goal of this episode is that by sharing our experiences and the way we are working through certain things that come up, you might be inspired to also work through whatever you may be going through at this time.

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122. Bring on the Men - Partnership: the Good, the Bad and Everything in Between
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131. Emily Oster on Making Confident Decisions in the School Age Years

132. Bring on the Men: Colin and Abby Talk Parental Stress with a Spirited Child and Strategies for Miscommunication Jun 13, 2022

Covid has finally hit the entire Green household, and it resulted in a full week of rearranging plans and alternating childcare. Colin and I thought that this would be the perfect time to record an episode with just the two of us, coming to you from our studio (which happens to be our master bedroom, for the time being)! Today we are focusing on some of the biggest obstacles that we deal with as a family, while also sharing how we’re finding strategies to get through them. We have a feeling that many of our pain points may just be the same ones that your family is going through as well!

Drew and Amy will be doing an interview with each other for an upcoming episode on the podcast, and you won’t want to miss that one! If you are enjoying this type of content, we’d love it if you shared this episode and let us know what you took away from hearing a new perspective on some of the biggest things that we deal with in parenthood, as well as partnership!

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98. Emily Oster on Debunking the Myths We Hear as Parents

131. Emily Oster on Making Confident Decisions in the School Age Years Jun 06, 2022

Today we’re excited to be welcoming Emily Oster back on the podcast! The last time Emily joined us to debunk many of the myths we hear as parents, and today she’s specifically sharing her expertise on how we can be more confident in the decisions we’re making as moms with school-aged children.

Emily Oster is a Professor of Economics at Brown University and the author of Expecting Better, Cribsheet and The Family Firm.

We were so glad that Emily came back to talk about this topic, because the decisions we must make do get trickier as our kids get older. This is the stage that we are entering right now with our little ones, and we know that many of you are in the same season or getting close to it, so we hope you find the information that Emily shares valuable to you. To hear more great advice from her, we encourage you to check Episode 98, the last time she was here to chat with us!

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106. HERself Expert: Author Eve Rodsky on Sharing the Load at Home

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130: Greatest Hits: Our Husbands on Being True Partners May 30, 2022

With many of us celebrating Memorial Day this week, we thought we’d throw it back to one of the most shared and listened to HERself episodes of all time! This was Episode 3, our very first “Bring On The Men” episode, and it was also our very first one where we had guests on. Drew and Colin joined us to talk about becoming a true partner, and they shared about dividing household tasks, entering parenthood, and that 3-letter-bad-word we refer to as “nag” - plus how to ditch it for good!
There is just so much gold in this episode, whether you’re hearing it for the very first time or you’ve been a HERself listener right from the start!

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129: Britt Hawthorne - How to Raise Antiracist Kids May 23, 2022

Today’s episode features a really important conversation with Britt Hawthorne, who is an anti-racism educator, teacher, speaker, visionary and advocate. We are such huge fans of Britt and her energy is so infectious that we could not wait to dive into this interview and to share it with you.

What we love about this conversation with Britt is that she explained things in such a non-judgmental way and she answered the questions that so many of us have. Best of all, she gives us the permission to have these tough conversations with our parenting partners and children, as well as providing language to use and her advice for handling anti-racism when it arises.

We’d encourage you to pre-order Britt’s upcoming book, Raising Antiracist Children: A Practical Parenting Guide (which we cannot wait to read!) and watch our Instagram this week as we’ll be sharing more great resources from Britt.

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106. HERself Expert: Author Eve Rodsky on Sharing the Load at Home

128: HERself Expert: Therapist Kaitlin Soule on Becoming a Little Less of a Hot Mess in Motherhood May 16, 2022

Motherhood can be hard, and that’s why we like to bring experts on to the podcast to help you, and us, navigate each day as moms. Today’s guest is Kaitlin Soule, a therapist, maternal mental health and anxiety expert, author, and she’s also a HERself listener. It’s been so fun for us to connect with Kaitlin over the last couple of months, and for us to get the opportunity to read her new book, A Little Less of a Hot Mess: The Modern Mom's Guide to Growth & Evolution as we prepared for this interview.

Kaitlin shares so many tips, strategies and advice for moms in this interview, and she really is someone who walks the walk by giving herself permission to be fully who she is, and we hope that this conversation allows you to do the same.

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127: Rosie Acosta on Finding Presence and Self-Acceptance May 09, 2022

Self-love, living in the present moment and self-acceptance are things we talk about so often here on the podcast, which is why we’re really excited to bring you our conversation with author, podcaster and meditation teacher Rosie Acosta! We just finished reading Rosie’s book, You Are Radically Loved, which is an invitation to discover the healing power of who you are, body, mind, and spirit. If you haven’t read it yet, this is one book you’re going to want to dig into, as Rosie is on a beautiful journey and she is helping so many women in the process.
We got so much from this interview with Rosie, but most importantly, it was her message of the importance of finding yourself. Whether it’s through yoga, meditation, or just sitting for 5 minutes, we encourage you to use a little bit of time today to reconnect with yourself.

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106. HERself Expert: Author Eve Rodsky on Sharing the Load at Home

126: Mindset Reframes for Your Biggest Challenges May 02, 2022

We’re hoping today will be a powerful episode, as we talk about the common things that come up for us as women! Abby uses her life coaching knowledge to coach us, having gone through The University of Wisconsin’s Professional Coaching Degree in Business and Life Coaching, and we always want to make sure that we’re giving you the right information and coaching that is research-based.

There are things women can do right now to help with their mindset in lots of different areas, including motherhood, relationships and friendships. Today, Abby gives coaching prompts, tangible reframes and exercises to help get you out of your own head when the inner critic (or “gremlin” or “saboteur”) starts chiming in!

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103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries

59. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships

47. HERself Expert: Jancee Dunn on How to Not Hate Your Husband After Kids

36. HERself Expert: Kara Loewentheil on Thought Work, Retraining Your Brain, and Finding Your Keys to Life

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119: HERself Expert Michelle Dempsey: How to Move on with Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist

125: HERstory: Sammy Harrison on Binge Eating Recovery and Her Journey Through Infidelity Apr 25, 2022

Today we have Abby’s long-time friend Sammy Harrison on the podcast, and she is someone who has been an inspiration to watch over the years. When we talk about the concept of turning pain into courage, this is exactly what Sammy has done with her life! Sammy is a certified life coach, podcaster and former secret binge eater, and in this episode she specifically shares her personal experiences related to binge eating, infidelity and single parenting. Sammy allowed us to ask some very tough questions in this interview, and we are honored that she agreed to be so open with us and our listeners by answering them.

Sammy wants women to know that healing is possible, and that they don’t have to do it alone. We hope that you are as inspired as we are by what she discusses in this episode, and if it resonates with you, please share it with anyone you feel could benefit from hearing this conversation.
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120: The Body Image Episode

Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program that Works by Elyse Resch and Evelyn Tribole

Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené Brown

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

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124: HERself Expert: Susie From @busytoddler on Activities, Play and How to Survive the Little Kids Years Apr 18, 2022

We could not be more excited to talk with our special guest today, because we have Susie Allison from Busy Toddler with us! Susie is a former kindergarten and first grade teacher turned stay-at-home mom. She is an author and one of Instagram’s favorite moms, because she gives us so many tangible tips to help us navigate the “little kids years” and what to do to keep our children happy, thriving, and frankly, entertained.

A big takeaway that we got from this conversation is that we must remember to give ourselves credit for making it through the hard days, and for everything that we do as parents!

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122. Bring on the Men - Partnership: the Good, the Bad and Everything in Between
63. Bring on the Men: On Dad Life and How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved

123. Bring on the Men - Parenting: the Good, the Bad, and Everything in Between Apr 11, 2022

They’re back! Colin and Drew are joining us again this week for another Bring on the Men episode, and this week we’re focusing on all things parenting. Drew may have said it best recently when he said that no one prepares you for these little kid years - and we would have to agree!

We want to thank the guys for their vulnerability and openness in sharing what’s behind the curtain of being a dad these days, as they answered some questions that fathers aren’t asked often with some very thoughtful and emotional responses (which makes us love them even more).

We hope you enjoyed this special mini-series with Colin and Drew, and that it inspires conversations between you and your own spouses about some of the important topics that we just scratched the surface on these past two episodes. As always, we would be so grateful if you shared the episode, and tag us on Instagram, @herselfpodcast, with your biggest takeaways.

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33. Bring on the Men: Our Husbands on Dad Life, Discipline, and Being True Partners

18. Bring on the Men: The State of Our Unions

9. Bring on the Men: Arguments, Communication, and Those Tough Conversations

3. Bring on the Men: Our Husbands on Being True Partners

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122. Bring on the Men - Partnership: the Good, the Bad and Everything in Between Apr 04, 2022

Today we’re all in for a treat, because we have another Bring on the Men episode! It’s been awhile since Colin and Drew have been on the podcast and a lot has changed since that last time they joined us, including our friendships, as we’re all more comfortable and much more open with each other.

In this episode, we look at partnering and how different seasons of partnership exist. We believe that every couple, including the 4 of us, have things to work on, constantly. Every time we bring Colin and Drew on, there's going to be different things to talk about, but the thing we really like about these Bring on the Men episodes is that the 4 of us are always committed to recalibrating and getting back on track. Whatever we are going through, we want to make sure we get back on track, and we want the same for you.

We had so many important things to touch on about partnership that we decided to make this a special 2-part series with the guys, and you’re not going to want to miss next week’s show where we’ll be focusing on parenting!

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63. Bring on the Men: On Dad Life and How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved

62. HERself Expert: Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist. All of Your Sex Questions Answered PART 2

33. Bring on the Men: Our Husbands on Dad Life, Discipline, and Being True Partners

21. HERself Expert: Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist. All of Your Sex Questions, Answered.

18. Bring on the Men: The State of Our Unions

9. Bring on the Men: Arguments, Communication, and Those Tough Conversations

3. Bring on the Men: Our Husbands on Being True Partners

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97. HERself Expert: Kristin Neff on Self Compassion and Calming Your Mean Inner Critic

121: Shame vs Guilt and The Human Experience Mar 28, 2022

Today we’re talking about an important subject and one that can have such a big impact on our lives, especially if we don’t understand it. We’re talking about the shame and the guilt that so many mothers, including ourselves, feel each and every day. As you know, we’re reading Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart with our Patreon Book Club, and in the book she helps define what that human experience is for us, and the book can really help us to start to understand the difference between those two words, shame and guilt.

What is so fascinating is that shame and guilt are words that are often used interchangeably, but there is a subtle difference that we need to be aware of. We’ll dive deep into that difference in this episode, as well as share both of our personal experiences with these feelings, along with self-compassion, perfectionism, humiliation, and embarrassment.

These feelings don’t only plague motherhood, but other extremely important parts of our lives as well. Shame is part of the human experience, and we really want to bring it into the light so this community can start growing together. We hope that you can learn from us, and maybe give yourself the empathy that you really need much earlier than we have in the past with ourselves.

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73. Mom Rage

64. Yellow Flags

30. HERstory: Jacquelyn Brennan on Infertility, Parenthood, and Owning a Business With Your Spouse

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120: The Body Image Episode Mar 21, 2022

Body image and health is a topic that we knew we had to talk about again on the podcast, because it’s something that we’ve both been on a journey with over the past year. Today we’re opening the conversation on body image back up and diving deeper into what this process has looked like for us.

We also thought it would be fun to have our friend Nina join us to share her thoughts. The 3 of us just did a swimsuit try-on together showing them to our Instagram followers, and she has some awesome insights that we wanted to share with you in this episode.

Before you listen, we must stress that body image is something that anyone can struggle with, and there is space for women of all shapes and sizes to take part in this discussion. If body image is something that you struggle with hearing about, or you find it to be triggering, give yourself permission to sit this episode out. While we are presenting it in a way that we believe to be safe, we want to add this warning so that you can take care of yourself, as always.

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74. HERself Expert: Alyssa Miller, Dietitian, on Intuitive Eating, Food Freedom, and Establishing Healthy Habits in Childhood

36. HERself Expert: Kara Loewentheil on Thought Work, Retraining Your Brain, and Finding Your Keys to Life

34. HERself Expert: Melainie Rogers on Diet Culture, Disordered Eating, and Navigating These Subjects with Your Kids

2. Body Image: From Struggle to Confidence

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119: HERself Expert Michelle Dempsey: How to Move on with Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist Mar 14, 2022

Even if you’re married, it’s still really important for all of us to understand divorce, which is why we wanted to have today’s special guest join us to share her expertise on this subject.

Michelle Dempsey is a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist and host of the podcast, Moms Moving On, which is also the title of her brand new book (that happens to be launching tomorrow, March 15th, 2022, if you’re listening to this episode in real-time)! Michelle is the go-to divorce guru on Instagram, and today she reveals tangible and actionable advice for women who are thinking of separating, are in the midst of the process, or are a friend who is supporting someone going through divorce right now.

As women, we all have to get comfortable in setting boundaries and comfortable with the idea that we’re going to have people mad at us at times, but as Michelle says, this process doesn’t have to be intimidating. We as women always find a way to make it work, and in the end, divorce can be the best thing for not only you and your spouse, but for your children as well.

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118. Investing in You Mar 07, 2022

Both of us are always reading books, and oftentimes we’re reading the same book at the same time. On today’s episode, we’re looking at a specific chapter from Eve Rodsky’s amazing book, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World (Eve also happens to be past guest of this podcast, and we encourage you to check out that conversation we had with her)!

With this podcast we want to get women one step further than they are today, and the chapter from Eve’s book that spoke so loudly to us was about something that women in our community often struggle with. So many of them are getting swallowed up by mothering, being a partner, and working, which leaves little time to be who they are outside of these roles. This is something that we have both experienced, so we wholeheartedly understand.

In today’s episode, we’ll be encouraging you to ask yourself the tough questions. What do you enjoy outside of motherhood? What do you do for fun, and what are the hobbies that light you up? These are questions that some women simply can’t answer, because being so entrenched in their roles, they’ve put themselves on the back burner.

We’re hoping to give you a gentle nudge in the right direction here, one that allows you to have interests and to care about things outside of your home and work life. This episode focuses on all parts of you, making sure that you’re giving yourself the time and energy to invest in the relationships that really matter. Ultimately, it’s about making sure that you feel more like YOU by doing the things that help you feel that way!

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117: HERself Expert Larissa Geleris on Overstimulation in Parenthood Feb 28, 2022

When you’re in the weeds of parenting it can all feel so heavy, and sensory overload is something that so many of us struggle with as parents. This is why we’re looking forward to bringing you this conversation with Larissa Geleris, an Occupational Therapist who has been on a mission to help people become aware of their sensory processing. Larissa supports parents and their children, because if you know more about how sensory works, you’ll be able to be a more empathetic parent and have more tools available for both you and your child.

In this episode, Larissa brings a topic to light that is relevant for so many members of this community. Not only are the ideas and concepts she shares backed by science, but they are tangible and doable for anyone. You’ll hear about “reset nachos” and so many more helpful tips from Larissa, and we recommend you try implementing just one or two of the strategies she talks about into your daily life. When you do, you’ll see a world of difference this will make for you and your family!

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Episode 41 with Dr. Aliza Pressman
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel

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116: HERself Expert Karrie Locher on Building Confidence in Your Own Journey Feb 21, 2022

Motherhood is beautiful, but it’s exhausting and hard at the same time, and we’d be lying if we said it was always easy raising children. Today’s expert guest is Karrie Locher, who is someone that faces these struggles and openly shares about them so that she can help others on their journey.

We see a lot of Karrie on Instagram where she has a large following, but we’re so excited to dive into her behind-the-scenes here so that we can all get to know her a bit better and hear more about her life with 4 precious kiddos and her husband. We’ll cover some of the topics that she’s so well known for as a postpartum RN with nearly a decade of experience caring for moms and babies, and more recently she furthered her credentials and became a certified lactation consultant as well.

If you’re tired of the curated Instagram feeds and images on television that show mothers who seem to be in total control raising their children 100 percent of the time, you’ll find this conversation refreshing because Karrie is not only an expert on these subjects, but she is real about her own journey in motherhood.

We hope you enjoy listening to this episode with Karrie as much as we did in recording it, and that it gives you permission to always be in a state of learning.

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115. Reflection is Growth Feb 14, 2022

If you’re listening on the day this episode is published, February 14th, 2022, it’s the very first day of our book club that we’re doing with the HERself Podcast Patreon members, and we can’t wait to dive into Atlas of the Heart by the amazing Brené Brown (who is one of our favorite authors)!
To paraphrase a quote from Brené’s, we should all strive to live a life with regrets in order to learn, become braver, and to teach us things we wouldn’t have experienced otherwise. A life full of reflection is worth living, and we’ll explore this life-changing concept in this episode and inside the book club with you.
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Episode 36 with Kara Loewentheil
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114: HERself Expert: Stephi Wagner on the Mother Wound Feb 07, 2022

Mother wound is a subject that we really wanted to cover here on the podcast, which is why we just knew when we found today’s guest on Instagram that we had to bring her on the show. If you’re not familiar with what mother wound is, or who it even applies to, we can assure you that you will leave this episode being more informed on this subject.

Stephi Wagner is the Founder of The Mother Wound Project, which is fueled by the power of lived experience. Every member of the MWP Team not only has the relevant training and experience in fields such as psychotherapy, psychology and program management but also personal experience with and demonstrated recovery from the mother wound themselves.

In this episode, Stephi reveals how becoming aware of and addressing the mother wound is really all about reclaiming ourselves and breaking the silence, isolation, and often generation cycles that exist with the mother wound. She provides the first steps to take and helpful resources to start healing the mother wound right now.

If this episode resonates with you, or you know someone who could benefit by listening to it, we would love it if you could share it and tag us in your Instagram Stories.

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Are you biased? I am - Kristen Pressner TED Talk

Stephi’s Top Resources:

All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks/Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn/What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey/Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner/Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown

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113: Don’t Stay Stuck in the Suck Jan 31, 2022

This new year started off with its fair challenges for us, including a stomach virus, breaks from work and cases of Covid (in both our households!), and more. Today, we want to share our thoughts about these experiences in pandemic parenting, as well as give you some tools that we’ve found helpful, including mindset shifts and exercises that you can start implementing in your daily life.

If you’re exhausted right now, know that we’re right there with you, but that you don’t have to stay stuck in the suck! Embracing the challenges, surviving, and finding those little pockets of light where we can is going to help us all feel better through this time.

Remember that our paths in life for a large part have been chosen for us, and time will keep moving on regardless of what is happening, but we’ve got to figure out how to make the most of it for ourselves, our families, and each and every person we meet!
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112: The Matrescence: Your Process of Becoming a Mother Jan 24, 2022

Motherhood can be hard for EVERY single one of us, and if you feel like you’re silently struggling in this area you are not alone. I’m so excited to be introducing you to Laura and Megan from The Matrescence, and if you’re not sure what this word means, don’t worry because we talk all about the meaning behind the name and the very personal mission of The Matrescence in this powerful episode!

What Laura and Megan are doing in the world right now is so needed, because we all know how difficult it can be for mothers to find time, especially in a global pandemic, to take care of themselves. In this episode, they share the importance of prioritizing self-care for not only yourself as a mother, but for your entire family, and what you can do to begin using movement and exercise without the mom guilt that often comes with it. Laura and Megan reveal what they each do to overcome the common pitfalls that mothers face, like feeling the need to wear all of the hats and carrying the invisible load, while falling short in different areas of daily life, and so much more.

This conversation provides real, actionable advice from real mommas, along with so many tools you can start using to improve your mental (and overall) health today!

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111. HERstory Molly Chesterson: An Honest Look at Motherhood and Partnership with Three Kids Jan 17, 2022

Ask and you shall receive! Molly joins the podcast as a “real mom” from our community with her compelling story. She gives details on advocating for herself in the delivery room (with the help of her doula Amy :)), tips for protecting her peace on social media while struggling with PCOS and infertility, where she sets boundaries and allows for space with inlaws and family members and how she and her husband work through their partnership challenges.

There is a little something for EVERY HERself listener and we are so lucky to have such a vulnerable interview that will inspire you in your roles.

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110: HERself Expert: Michelle Smith on Mommy Wine Culture Jan 10, 2022

“Come on, we never hang out anymore. What would one drink hurt?”

The pressure around drinking is still relevant for many women in our community. For some it’s not an issue where others feel the heaviness of saying ‘yes’ out of obligation even though their gut is saying “no”.

In this episode with Michelle Smith from @recoveryisthenewblack, we dive into all things mommy wine culture and how to be a better friend or stand up for yourself. Michelle is an author, educator and engaging TEDx speaker and has used her personal experience and work as a substance abuse counselor to support people on their journey to recovery.

This is a judgment free episode. Listen with an open mind and an open heart on where you can make small changes in your life to do and feel your best.

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109. Reframe Your Year Jan 03, 2022

Happy New Year HERself listeners! We start this year with some inspiration and prompts to help you reframe your thoughts around some of life’s biggest stressors. Whether it’s a last minute change of plans, the demands from everyone everywhere, the tiny tasks that add up to big overwhelm, or feeling the monotony of life… this episode will help you process.

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108. Greatest Hits: Molly Millwood on Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma Dec 27, 2021

We brought back Molly Millwood’s episode this week! Molly was our first author to join the podcast and our first book club author for HERself. Her message is an important one for any stage of motherhood and is one of our most listened to episodes to date.

If you have read her incredible book To Have and To Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma...you know how powerful her words are. It is both freeing and validating for women in the throes of one of life’s biggest transitions: motherhood.

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Resentment for our partners is generally formed around unrealistic expectations
The goal of being a “good enough” mother
The inequities between men and women when it comes to parenting are real
Giving voice around fear, depletion, longing and hunger will win over passive aggressive communication every time
A man’s ability to accept influence from their partner is directly related to marital stability
Seeking professional therapy should be normalized and we could all benefit from it

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107. Greatest Hits: Mental Health Therapist Kate Borsato on Postpartum Anxiety and Finding Your Identity Outside of Motherhood Dec 20, 2021

Mental health therapist Kate Borsato joins us on the podcast as we bring back her episode from late 2020. Different year, same struggles for many as we dive into pandemic stress, postpartum anxiety and the identity shift that motherhood brings. These conversations need to happen and this podcast is the perfect platform for them.

So in today's episode, you can expect vulnerability, honesty, and help navigating through your own motherhood challenges. All the while, this amazing expert will lead the way. @kateborsato, you are a light in this world. Thank you SO much for what you do for mamas and thank you for having this conversation with us.

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106. HERself Expert: Author Eve Rodsky on Sharing the Load at Home Dec 13, 2021

Eve Rodsky joins the podcast to talk on the unfair division of household labor. As women, we are doing ⅔ of the work at home… even for those who have working roles outside the home. And it’s up to us to change the script within our own homes to help our next generation see a new way of playing fair.

Learn and unlearn with us on this important conversation this week! A great one to bring back to your partner and start implementing right away.

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105. Healing Your Relationship with Your Body and Finding Peace with Food Dec 06, 2021

Brooke from @nutrition.for.mamas gives our audience the information we wish we had years ago in regards to nutrition, food freedom, and body image. As a registered dietitian who has struggles with insecurities in the past, Brooke speaks in a way that is warm, inviting, but also has the facts. If you are looking at where to start with intuitive eating, how to prevent binges, and also some easy grab and go meal and snack ideas, we cover it all this week.

Thank you for all that you do for your own community at @the.mama.well and for bringing that information to our listeners too!

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104. Growing in Your Relationship Nov 29, 2021

If you have been around here for a while, you know we are always learning and growing. Through taking courses, listening to podcasts, and reading books, we are able to infuse new information into our lives every day.

And this week we learned something new from @estherperelofficial and it sparked the idea for this podcast. It’s easy to fall into seeing the world only through your own lens but understanding the full picture is beneficial for everyone. And it starts with replacing the old “how was your day” questions with new and improved questions that we list out in the episode. The awareness of the story behind the story can go a long way at creating successful relationships.

Forward progress friends, learning and growing right alongside you!

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103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries Nov 22, 2021

We read Nedra Glover Tawwab’s book “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” as a group in our Patreon Book Club a few months ago. Together we learned where we can improve on our “no” responses to give more power to the “YES!”.

And today, we dive into the details of her book and boundaries in general. We have answers to the family member who gives you the guilt trip, the friend who keeps testing the limits, and also with finding the power within yourself to make the changes with boundaries needed in the first place.

@nedratawwab has been on our dream guest list since the very beginning of the podcast and we can’t wait to hear your takeaways from her episode!

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102. Finding Calm in the Chaos and What Discipline Techniques Actually Work Nov 15, 2021

Jess from @ourmamavillage joins the podcast this week to inspire our listeners. As a registered psychotherapist and mother, she teaches parents how to respond to children with gentleness and respect. If you’re feeling the pressure to have the perfect script and the correct answer right when the tough discussions come up, this episode welcomes you with some peace of mind. Toddler meltdowns happen. Differences in parenting are common. But finding ways to compromise and reflect inwardly can make these little people years go by far more smoothly for your entire family.

Thank you Jess for leaving our community with so many valuable takeaways. We have a feeling this one will be reshared for weeks and months to come because it’s the information we ALL need to feel confident and calm in this parenting game!!

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101. A Fresh Perspective on Marriage from a High Profile Divorce Attorney Nov 08, 2021

Communication, compromise and financial transparency are keys to a healthy marriage. But it’s not always easy. Today we meet with Jackie Combs who details out the conversations and financial measures to take in marriage and partnership. These are discussions to have proactively as well as ongoing to help create success. If you are considering a divorce, Jackie also gives details to help you and your family right from the start.

This new perspective is one that we will implement into our own marriages right away.

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100. A Behind the Scenes Peek into HERself’s First 100!! Nov 01, 2021

We are celebrating today! 100 episodes in and loving where these episodes have taken us. This week we have Kat Herro, our third partner at @pursuingherpurpose, interviewing us about this journey. We dive into lessons learned, some of our favorite episodes, how they have impacted our family and what’s to come ahead.

Whether this is your first episode or you’ve been listening from the start, thank you! And let’s celebrate this milestone together!!

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99. Who Takes Care of Mom? Oct 25, 2021

We open up in this episode about a part of self-care we have been missing all along. Caring for ourselves is important AND we need to allow others to care for us. True, deep, meaningful connection that only real friendship provides.

Friendships can be hard as adults, and they are also imperative for our wellbeing. Sending love if this is a challenge for you right now and inviting you to open the door to a relationship that will fuel your soul.

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98. Emily Oster on Debunking the Myths We Hear as Parents Oct 18, 2021

A dream guest right here! Professor Emily Oster debunks the myths that we have been told as they relate to pregnancy and the little people years. An author of three best selling books on the subject, she is so relatable while also bringing in the stats. Her research helps parents-to-be and parents make calm, confident decisions and today we provide a sliver on some of her best findings.

Emily thank you for doing the research to make for one less stressor on this crazy parenthood journey!

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97. HERself Expert: Kristin Neff on Self Compassion and Calming Your Mean Inner Critic Oct 11, 2021

We all know we should speak to ourselves kindly. But when we make a mistake, say the wrong thing, our kids are acting up, it’s easy to place blame and judgement on ourselves. Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the self compassion space and has a wealth of knowledge on the “in the moment” things we can do to raise ourselves up and show kindness over anything else.

We touch on mindfulness, where true motivation comes from, and the pitfalls of focusing just on self esteem. Thank you for sharing such valuable information, our world would be a better place if we all made space for your teachings.

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96. Our Life Mantras Oct 04, 2021

How we speak to ourselves matters. Not only for us but for the ears that are listening and learning from us. Today we go over four mantras that have helped us in motherhood, marriage, and as individuals.

Maybe these are words you say to yourself often. Or maybe it’s something you didn’t realize you needed until you heard this episode. Either way, be kind to yourself today because you are definitely worth it.

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95. Cassy Joy Garcia on Streamlining Meals and Simplifying Your Life Sep 27, 2021

Cassy from @fedandfit has created a system that makes busy parents’ lives a heck of a lot easier. Meal time can be a STRUGGLE and knowing there are ways to make it less chaotic so you can enjoy time together is a key we know many women in our community are yearning for. We love how Cassy brings her own life into the episode and acknowledges that having a full plate (pun intended) is a challenge AND something we as mothers can begin taking little steps to streamline.

We also talk through tactical and practical ways to stay present, building your team to delegate, and sinking into the fluidity of life!

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94. HERself Expert: Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 2 Sep 20, 2021

As a follow up to last week, @dr.tracyd comes back on the podcast to talk through complex in-law dynamics. This week we focus on the adults in the relationship and how to keep an open line of communication, where to set the boundaries, and also where to keep quiet or hand off the conversation. Overall, RESPECT from all parties is a top priority and Tracy gives the details on how to create, maintain, and continue to grow in all parts of these family relationships.

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93. HERself Expert: Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 1 Sep 13, 2021

The episode you have been asking for! @dr.tracyd dives into the in-law conversation and how we can ensure these relationships go as smoothly as possible. This is a two part series and this week we ask your listener questions on in-law dynamics after we bring children into the mix.

This is your first time becoming a parent, AND it’s their first time becoming a grandparent to your children. There will be some learning and this episode helps to create a solid foundation so everyone’s needs can be met and boundaries can be respected.

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92. Mail Bag: Your Questions Answered Sep 06, 2021

We love bringing our community into our content! In this episode we answer the questions that came in from all of you on Instagram with some fun loving and some serious responses. Learn what our biggest pet peeves are about each other, our dream podcast guests, how we deal with missing milestones as working mothers, vasectomies, and more :)

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91. Jo Piazza on Influencer Culture and Finding Balance Amidst the Chaos Aug 30, 2021

Jo Piazza is an author, a journalist, a podcaster, a mother, a wife, and more. She brings her real-life experience alongside the research she has conducted from hundreds of interviews. We dive into life as an influencer (and how it’s WAY harder than it looks), growing a business alongside raising babies, how hard marriage can be and a discussion on race as her new book on this topic is about to hit shelves.

Jo, you are entertaining, intelligent and we learned SO much from you!

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90. Prioritizing Your Relationship Aug 23, 2021

The grass is greener... where you water it.

In some chapters of life, partnership takes a little bit of a back seat. The ebbs and flows are part of life but if it’s put on the back burner for too long, that’s where couples can find themselves feeling lost. Prioritizing your own needs, prioritizing your partner’s needs, taking on more of the work when you can and ensuring that your partner is doing the same when you are feeling overwhelmed… these are great places to start.

Today we bring in our own experience, what has worked for a few of our close friends, and what definitely didn’t work to give you some ideas if you’re feeling a bit resentful, unsatisfied, or keep stubbing your toes when it comes to prioritizing your relationship.

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89. Rachel Luna on Confidence and Walking in Your Truth Aug 16, 2021

If you struggle with confidence, judgment, or self-acceptance even in the slightest, this episode is for you. Rachel is a wealth of information on showing up for yourself and finding your truth so you can live a life you were meant to live. We dig deep into brain mechanics and how a lot of this stems from our need to simply survive.

SO interesting and SO empowering. Thank you Rachel for showing up for our community in the ways you do best!

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88. The Power of AND Aug 09, 2021

Sometimes the episodes we record are the ones we need in that moment, and this is definitely one of those. There are a lot of tears as we dive into personal happenings and where the power of AND shows up in parenthood, marriage, fur baby mommin’ and life in general. It is possible to feel two things at once and although it can be confusing and conflicting, there is beauty in the AND.

Sink into it.

Let yourself feel both.

There can be space for all of it.

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87. HERself Expert: Dr. Whitney Casares Talks Working Motherhood and Silencing Your Inner Critic Aug 02, 2021

As a pediatrician, author, and mother, Dr. Whitney Casares brings a lot of value to this week's episode. As two working mothers who both love our children AND our work, we appreciated the reminders and recommendations in her responses.

We discuss the stress and workload that the pandemic has caused for mothers, returning to work after maternity leave, your inner critic vs your inner coach, and how to thrive in both your career and motherhood. Thank you Whitney for sharing your truth on wearing multiple hats and helping guide this community to a better place!

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86. HERself Expert: Dr. Cassidy Freitas on Getting Your Needs Met Jul 26, 2021

We have a lot of firsts and new content on this episode! Dr. Cassidy found her calling as a therapist from the need for more in her own life. She helps women prevent the issues that happen in motherhood by working through triggers that can cause overstimulation, overwhelm and mom rage. Is perfectionism holding you back from feeling your best? Does the dog barking feel like one more demand on your life? Do you need a break from social media or something else that is tugging at your time?

Thank you Dr. Cassidy for opening up about your own experiences to help us navigate through our challenges!

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85. The Overwhelm Episode Jul 19, 2021

We know you have felt it. Those heavy days, weeks, months where you are pulled in a million directions and the overwhelm creeps in. Maybe it’s from plans changing last minute or too much on your plate. Maybe it’s from needing to delegate or setting unrealistic expectations in the first place.

Wherever you are, we are standing with you in solidarity. This episode provides a warm hug if you need it right now and also some solutions on where we have been able to help prevent overwhelm from happening in our own lives.

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84. HERself Expert: Dr. Angel Montfort on The Keys to Finding Who You Are as a Mother Jul 12, 2021

Dr. Angel Montfort is a mother of four and a perinatal mental health psychologist. She understands the heaviness that comes with motherhood and is here to coach us through the changes and challenges this role brings. This is an episode we both wish we would have had when we were brand new to motherhood. We hope it hits home to those of you struggling through the baby blues, mom guilt, speaking to yourself kindly, and accepting yourself in your role as a mother.

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83. HERstory: Shayla Christine Gets Real On Motherhood Jul 05, 2021

Shayla (known as @heyshayla on Instagram and YouTube) has a hilarious yet real take on motherhood. She is the mama who questions everything and gets all the answers so we don’t have to do the research. Ummm, yes please sign me up! We loved talking with her about her pandemic pregnancy, marriage after kids, and how she talks about the tough stuff to help others not feel so alone (but also where she draws the line). Thanks for the laughs and wisdom Shayla, this was such a fun one to record!

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82. Bring on the Men: A Male Perspective on Sharing the Mental Load and Partnership After Kids Jun 28, 2021

We invited our husbands back on for their 6th HERself podcast interview! This one takes a different spin as a follow up from @decoding_couples in episode 79. We talk through a partner’s perspective on relationships after children, where we can continue growing in our communication, prioritizing marriages in full seasons, and how finding ourselves as individuals can improve our marriage. This is a great one to invite your partner to listen to as well!

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81. HERself Expert: Jenna Overbaugh on Intrusive Thoughts, Postpartum Mental Health Changes, and Recovery for OCD and Anxiety Jun 21, 2021

We have had several therapists on the podcast but Jenna is the FIRST who specializes in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). The perfectionism, intrusive thoughts, and over-checking many of us do can be linked to OCD and these can all increase postpartum. Luckily there are solutions we can start doing today to reinforce a healthier habit and future for those who do struggle with these issues and Jenna lays out tangible ways we can begin to feel like ourselves again.

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80. Breaking Up With Mom Guilt Jun 14, 2021

Mom guilt. It is something that can feel so heavy and can change as the seasons of parenthood change. We are always evolving and with it, comes a new set of skills and strategies to help us through. This week, we follow up from episode 12 on how mom guilt looks different in our lives, where we have grown, the new challenges that have popped up, and where our listeners are experiencing mom guilt.

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79. HERself Experts: Decoding Couples on Prioritizing Relationships After Kids and How to Lean Into Your Partner Jun 07, 2021

Stacey and Rachel from @decoding_couples join the podcast as two therapists who are experts in the ways couples communicate. They detail out the feelings many women in our community are having around “my partner doesn’t get it”, the unfair division of household work, and how much our marriages and relationships change after adding children to our family. This is a great one to listen to with your partner if you want to learn how to build your relationship and prevent the stumbles that often occur in this chapter of life.

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78. Our Hardest Questions Revisited May 31, 2021

Today we are reflecting back to our very first episode! These are some of the hard questions we asked in episode one and in many instances, we have grown. But there are some that we are still working on. Since we recorded the first episode, our world is different. Our lives look different. But our message and impact are the same: let’s keep taking the steps to find our better selves!

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77. HERself Expert: Dr. Mona (@pedsdoctalk), Pediatrician on Birth Trauma, Toddler Challenges, and Why Being a Happy Mom Matters For All May 24, 2021

Dr. Mona joins the podcast this week. As a pediatrician and mother, she gives a unique perspective on caring for our kiddos AND making sure we support us as mothers along the way. She also pulls in her personal experience with birth trauma and how women can begin to heal from such a tragic event.

Dr. Mona is an advocate for helping women through the 4th trimester and beyond and it shines brightly in this episode. Thank you for joining us and for all the support you give to women in this community!

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76. The Boundary Episode May 17, 2021

Let’s be honest for a minute: how are you at setting boundaries? Maybe you need to be more clear in your communication to others. Maybe you need to take action and not give in when there is a little pushback. Maybe it’s actually setting them for yourself and with yourself so you can quit feeling burned out, resentful and have energy to do the things that are most important to you.

Fueled by the wise words of Nedra Glover Tawwab, we dig into boundary setting and where we can do a better job to BUILD our relationships with others and with ourselves.

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75. HERself Expert: KC Rickerd (@milestones.and.motherhood) on Working Through Postpartum Anxiety and Celebrating the Ministones on the Way to Milestones May 10, 2021

As a pediatric physical therapist and mother, KC opens up in today’s episode on a variety of topics. If you know her from Instagram, you’ll see a whole other side of her today. We dabble in milestones, we get deep on anxiety, and she shares what has worked well for her on this motherhood journey in hopes to help some of our listeners who may be going through the same. Thank you, KC for sharing your wisdom and being so real with our community. These are the conversations that will change how we interact with our children and one another.

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74. HERself Expert: Alyssa Miller, Dietitian, on Intuitive Eating, Food Freedom, and Establishing Healthy Habits in Childhood May 03, 2021

This one is jam-packed full of good information! Alyssa has years of experience in her dietitian practice and weaves in personal stories that are SO easy to relate to. She has a way of helping women break the chains and find food freedom and makes the steps to get there super tangible. Much of what we learned about eating and issues surrounding food started in childhood and Alyssa walks us through how we can help establish good habits for our children, even when they throw roadblocks in our way.

Thank you Alyssa for being such a wealth of knowledge on a topic that is asked about so often!

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