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Diffusing Sibling Rivalry Apr 29, 2019

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We get more questions about sibling conflict than any other topic! We know that how our kids get along can make or break our days. As parents we are the source of all our kids need, it is natural for them to feel resentment towards their siblings. In this episode we break down our favorite tips for guiding sibling conflict without interfering with their process.

Here are the links of books related to this topic:

Siblings without rivalry

Janet Lansbury Unruffled Podcast

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HOW TO Turn Control into Intention Apr 22, 2019

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In this episode, we delve deeper into how disciplining from a place of true acceptance is far more powerful than from a place based on expectation and control. Acceptance does not mean parenting from a passive stat of allowance of indulgence. In fact, it is quite the opposite. We can still hold our boundaries with strength, but our children will feel at their core that our love for them is not on the line.
Today we zoom in on specific, concrete examples to help us as parents be able to release control and really connect with our kids in the present moment. This is where the magic happens.
Here are the links of books related to this topic:
The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399563970/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_NkCVCbTXCH9RM
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Letting Go of Expectation / Discipline Pt. 3 Apr 15, 2019

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Children are wonderful teachers. We learn so much about ourselves during the journey of parenting. When our kids do something that drives us crazy, it is an opportunity for us to look inside of us. Kids don’t trigger us, we trigger ourselves. This concept is mind blowing once you unlock the theory.
Today we explore the concept of how this process of self discovery can free us from expectations. The word expectation often has a positive connotation, but today we will explore how some expectations might be more damaging than we think.
As parents, most of us want our kids to be independent thinkers and strong, confident trailblazers. But at the same time, we don’t want them to develop those traits while in our own home, because that might conflict with our own agenda. This mindset creates trouble because we can’t expect our children to become independent the instant they leave the house at 18 years old. Many children get the unintentional message as children: be yourself, as long as that self is the one that we have chosen for you as parents. Our expectations for you are the only ones you are safe to meet.
Today we explore the paradox that as we release our children from our rigid expectations (while still setting healthy boundaries and limits of course), we can truly engage with them in the present moment by using powerful intention.These two words, intention and engagement are the antidote for relationship damaging expectation.
The books/authors we mention in this episode are:
The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Elevating Childcare by Janet Lansbury
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The Pause / Discipline pt. 2 Apr 09, 2019

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Today we introduce the concept of The Pause. It is the idea that really first turned Felica on to the concept of wholehearted parenting. It is a quite magical technique that helps make so many parenting situations not only easier but more filled with peace and respect. We cover how it applies to babies, toddlers, and older kids in common parenting pain areas such as fussy babies, toy squabbles, hitting, and tattling. We hope it helps you:). INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/
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Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt.1 Apr 01, 2019

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This is the first episode in our series on discipline! We are so excited to guide you through this respectful parenting journey. Even in the moments that seem so simple you can parent with love and respect without compromising your connection to your children. Today we are talking about how to set & hold limits, lovingly! Boundaries are so important as our relationships with our children progress and we will talk about a few ways to set them with babies, toddlers and into childhood. This is a core discipline principle, we can’t wait for you to try it! No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame – https://amzn.to/2OuPW0E Simplicity Parenting – https://amzn.to/2Fv2Zv8
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HOW TO Embrace Childhood Mar 25, 2019

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As parents, days sometimes feel like they will never end, and yet as we look back at our child’s life, it seems to have flown by. Within 5 minutes, we can go from feeling like we are going to pull our hair out, to feeling like our hearts are going to burst with joy and love for our kids. How can we balance the ideas of living in the present moment and cherishing our children with just surviving the difficult, patience testing storms?
A lot of well meaning people give parents of young kids the advice to just “enjoy every second of parenting”, which often makes us feel guilty that we didn’t enjoy the morning full of screaming and soggy cereal on the floor. Enjoying EVERY second seems like a tall order. Today we will give you concrete tips on how to both reframe your perspective and also increase your parenting tools which will make finding moments to enjoy a bit easier. There is a way to maintain balance and contentment while experiencing the entire messy spectrum that is parenting, and we hope to help you discover it.
Affiliate Links -
High Performance Habits by Brendan Buchard - https://amzn.to/2Fd7V7G
Elevating Childcare by Janet Lansbury - https://amzn.to/2Ugh8WF
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Finding Light Through Hard Times Mar 18, 2019

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In our reviews we’ve had many questions from listeners struggling to break out of a rut! Whether you’ve had a loss, are in the grind of parenting little children everyday or have simply plateaued this episode is for you! If we can find peace within our own hearts we will be able to make it through hard things and come out better for them. Getting to a place where you can TRULY accept the worst outcome is true inner peace. If we can teach this to our kids imagine the endless life they will have!

Eckhart Tolle // The Power of Now

Brendan Buchard // High Performance Habits

Listen in iTunes here, or for androids, listen here.

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Wholehearted Loss & Grief Mar 11, 2019

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None of us get through this life without dealing with loss of some kind or another. We lose loved ones, experience the grief associated with loss of expectations, and many experience betrayal and our own regret. In a family, we not only have our own grief to process, but we also watch our partners and children grieve. Today we are going to delve into our own personal experiences with grief and some things we have found helpful while processing our own as well as guiding our families through the waters of loss.

Here are the books we mention:

When Children Grieve by John W. James

A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

Listen here on iTunes:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=1000431537535

For androids, listen here:

https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/episodes/Wholehearted-Loss--Grief-e3e6hu

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Tantrums, Screen Time & Breaking out of a Funk Mar 04, 2019

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It’s our 10th episode! We have had so much amazing feedback so we decided to answer a few of our most asked questions on limiting screen time, dealing with BIG emotions and toddler tantrums and how to break out of a funk when you’re stuck!

Books we mention:

Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne

The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting by Brene Brown

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Comparison vs. Contentment Feb 25, 2019

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Let’s face it, we are living in a world of comparison. We see all the achievement of others and none of the downfall. We are over exerting ourselves while simultaneously feeling like we aren’t doing enough. When in reality we only have this exact moment we are in, so how can we remember that? By interviewing many people on this concept, we have found some great tips that will hopefully help you with that. In this episode, we cover what it means to be content with your current stage (and not torture yourself with all the other infinite options available to you), while still making sure you are fulfilled on the inside by still growing on the inside and connecting with yourself and your purpose.

Here are the books we mention in this episode: A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle - https://amzn.to/2TaQmyl

The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin - https://amzn.to/2T8fRAn

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