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Teaching Our Daughters to Live Wholeheartedly Nov 23, 2020

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Raising children in today’s society has lots of opportunities and challenges. In this episode, we explore the ones that are specific to raising girls. This is an exciting time to be a woman, and there are many things we can do as parents to help our girls truly embrace the gifts this time in history offers us while rejecting the limiting messages that are simultaneously given to girls.

We address topics like body image, power, and joy. We all have such an incredible opportunity for influence for the girls in our lives, and the ideas we delve into this episode will hopefully spark a dialogue for you. We can all do better.

Related Episodes:

Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same

Seeing Ourselves Clearly in the Role of Mother

Parenting Boys Part 1

Parenting Boys Part 2

Books that inspired us:

Untamed // Glennon Doyle

Loving What Is // Byron Katie

Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch

Love Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon Doyle

For the recipes we mentioned for banana pudding and acorn squash, visit our website, findthemagic.co, episode 101

Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.

p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)

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Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same (Untamed by Glennon Doyle) Nov 16, 2020

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“Feelings are for feeling. All of them. Even the hard ones.” Glennon Doyle

This is our 100th episode! In this landmark episode, we explore what it means to step into our own power. There are lots of things we are told as we grow throughout childhood and into adulthood. Many of those things are wonderful and they serve us in creating a life that is true and beautiful. However, there are also things that we learn that simply don’t serve us. One of the joyful realities of adulthood is that we actually have the power to identify what we have learned and CHOOSE which things are true and beautiful, and which are not for us.

We discuss the work of Glennon Doyle in her new book, Untamed, and discuss the deep topics that she brings up. She challenges the way we look at ourselves, and truly helps us see what dialogues we are having with ourselves because of society’s pressures, and walks us through how to authentically connect with who we truly are. We cover topics like how we cannot selectively numb our feelings; to lean into one, you must learn to lean into them all.

Related Episodes:

How to Own Your Own Desires and The Art of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Books that inspired us:

Untamed // Glennon Doyle

Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch

Love Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon Doyle

Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE.

p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)

Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen

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How to Own Your Desires & the Art of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Nov 09, 2020

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Physical intimacy is an important aspect of our lives, and yet it is also an area that for many people, can be a space that is complicated, difficult, and even emotionally or physically unpleasant. In this episode, we have a conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology.

In this conversation, we discussed this important topic and specifically address how you as a woman can own your own desire in a positive and empowering way. We address how developing yourself as a whole person, making room for yourself, and belonging to your own desires instead of only belonging to others and sacrificing yourself for their desires and needs are all key components to owning your own sexuality (and your own life).

Intimacy takes courage. It means you are willing to be knowable--even the flaws and the scary parts. Sexuality is just a part of intimacy, and Dr. Finlayson-Fife beautifully addresses how we can bring our full selves unapologetically to our partners, and as we learn to do that, we can learn to fully bring ourselves unapologetically to the world. We can show up as a whole, flawed and glorious person in our own lives. As we acknowledge and validate our own desires, we are able to own them. Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s words are both empowering and inspiring.

You can learn more about Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and her course offerings at her website, https://www.finlayson-fife.com

Related Episodes:

Putting Connection With Our Spouse First

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Prepping Kids for New Babies, Earning vs. Rewarding, Quiet Time Tips, & Our Favorite Life Hacks Nov 02, 2020

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So many of the life hacks that we use in our lives every day to make it easier came from other people sharing them. In this episode, we answer several listener questions, including our very favorite life hacks that are saving us right now, from laundry and cleaning life savers to hair and easy morning breakfast tricks.

We also address issues about helping toddlers adapt to quiet time (one of our most frequent questions asked), preparing your older children to welcome a new baby into the family, and we discuss the important difference between systems of earning and rewards, bribes and punishments.

Books we mentioned:

Entitlement Trap // Richard and Linda Eyre

Fairplay // Eve Rodsky

Links we promised:

Taralyn’s hair curlers that she and Katelin sleep in. She now likes the first link best started with these ones, which are fabulous as well.

Felica’s black socks she uses for her boys.

Taralyn uses the KB no show socks (she and her 4 kids wear all just wear the same size for simplicity. You can buy a big pack from costco or a smaller pack from Amazon).

For the overnight breakfast recipes Taralyn, go to our website, findthemagic.co, episode 98.

Related Episodes:

Running a Household Without Resentment

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections

p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)

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Seeing Ourselves Clearly in the Role of Mother Oct 26, 2020

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Society has often put the role of motherhood either on a pedestal or in a cage, and both are small spaces from which to thrive. Few roles combine such responsibility and power with such possibility for shame and unhelpful pressure. Because of this, the topic of seeing our own role as mother clearly and with curiosity is an important one.
Something that every single one of us have in common is the fact that we have a mother. Some of us know our mothers, while some of us have never met her. Our relationship with our mother might be simple, joyful, complicated, toxic, or countless adjectives in between. Every situation is different, and regardless of what that relationship looks like, we can find wisdom as we address that relationship.
In this episode, we discuss the fascinating work of Harriet Lerner and explore how it is possible to learn from the things our own mothers did or didn’t do with a combination of both clarity and grace. According to Lerner, addressing that relationship in our own mind and heart is something that is helpful to us as we approach our life and our own parenting. As we gain clarity with this relationship, we are able to see ourselves more clearly and truly learn to find the magic that we can access in this powerful role.
Books we mentioned:
Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters: Breaking the Patterns that Keep You Stuck // Harriet Lerner https://amzn.to/2HzsGPI
Related Episodes:
Guidance for the Changing Seasons of Motherhood
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=1000466525358
The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=1000471366626
Keeping Our Personal Identity While Parenting https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=100045781826
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Creating Roots Through Family Traditions (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) Oct 19, 2020

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The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior.

In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special.

From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year!

Books we mentioned:

Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor Mate

The Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard Eyre

Food Nanny Rescues Dinner // Liz Edmunds

The recipes we talked about are on our our website under Episode 96: www.findthemagic.co

Related Episodes:

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections

p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)

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How Light Affects Our Sleep, Fertility, Our Child’s Behavior, and More with Andy Mant Oct 12, 2020

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A good night’s sleep is an elusive goal we simply dream about but rarely attain. We all know the benefits of quality sleep for us and our children, but we find ourselves at a loss for how to improve it. In this episode, we have a fascinating conversation with Andy Mant, founder of Blublox glasses. He shares loads of helpful research regarding how the light we expose ourselves to throughout the day and especially in the hours after the sun goes down impacts our sleep quality and overall health, including our brain focus power and maintaining a healthy weight. With only a few simple changes in our habits surrounding light, we can quickly reset our circadian rhythms to a healthy pattern.

He addresses how this light hygiene affects babies’ sleep cycles, children’s learning and behaviour, and even fertility. He gives an entire spectrum of ideas to help you circadian rhythm, from the simplicity of watching the sunrise, to the options for changing the EMF and light environment in your home.

To read more articles on this subject, or to try their amazing products, go to blublox.com and use the code findthemagic at checkout and enjoy 15% off your purchase! You can also get more information on their youtube channel as well.

Also, check out Restoring Vision, an amazing charity organization that blublox is currently partnering with to donate glasses to people in need.

Related Episodes:

Habits for High Performance

Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound Into Big Results

Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:)

Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books)

https://www.findthemagic.co

Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast

p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)

For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com

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Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Results (Atomic Habits by James Clear) Oct 05, 2020

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It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking.

Books that inspired us:

Atomic Habits // James Clear

Deep Work // Cal Newport

Essentialism // Greg McKeown

Getting Things Done // David Allen

The Power of Habit // Charles Duhigg

Our Related Episodes:

Habits for High Performance

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connection

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

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Growing Up Alongside Our Kids with Upbringing Sep 28, 2020

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Our child’s resistance to cooperate or push back against our wishes can be alarming. However, it is possible to actually welcome the resistance instead of desperately trying to control it. In this episode, we collaborate with Hannah and Kelty, cohosts of the parenting podcastUpbringing and explore the concept of resistance and how we as parents can respectfully and emphatically create and hold boundaries while still honoring our childrens resistance.

Hannah and Kelty are certified coaches in Simplicity Parenting, Positive Discipline and trained in the respectful parenting approach, RIE. They have an abundance of parenting knowledge and they share with us their wonderful parenting tips which include their Freedom Model, and the RESIST technique to help you know exactly what to do as you come up against your childrens’ resistance. We talk about leaning into our child’s resistance as we work to recognize our triggers and grow up beside them!

You can find more about Upbringing on their website, Upbringing.co, where you can find their shop, their podcast, and their helpful models. You can also find them on instagram:)

Books that inspired us:

Nonviolent Communication // Marshall Rosenberg

Elevated Childcare // Janet Lansbury

Our Related Episodes:

Parenting with Unconditional Love

How to Embrace Childhood

Putting Connection First

Guidance for the Changing Seasons of Motherhood

Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1

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p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)

For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com

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Let Your Phone Be a Tool Not Your Master: Screen Detox Tips and Boundaries for Real Life Sep 21, 2020

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We can all use a little less screen time in our lives and the lives of our kids. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming to know exactly where to start when attempting to set boundaries and help our families become less dependent on entertaining technology to get us through the day. After a particularly inspiring conversation with Collin Kartcher a few weeks ago (see link below to listen), we have, in this episode, taken the conversation even deeper and walk through how to apply the principles in real life. We discuss how screen boundaries have worked in our own homes with hacks and tips that we have found to be immensely helpful in keeping technology in the place of a useful tool instead of the master it has become in so many of our lives. We address not only how to find freedom from technology, but how to also foster the antidote to this dependence: connection with real humans, in real life.

Want to motivate yourself a bit more? Try plugging in your own daily screen time into the following equation. Pull out your phone, check your daily screen time (or, look at your daily social media time, or gaming time--whatever you feel like is just kind of fluff screen time). Then plug in that number of hours into this equation:

Daily Screen time X 365 (days in the year) X 50 (years) divided by 5,840 (awake hours a year, if you sleep 8 yours a night) = the amount of years of your life you will spend looking at your phone if you do the same amount for 50. (For people who average 5 hours per day, it is around 15 years total!)

Motivation? Found. Your welcome:)

Books and links that we mentioned:

Digital Minimalism // Cal Newport

Atomic Habits // James Clear

Gabb Phone

Tick Talk Watch

Our Related Episodes:

Saving Our Kids and Ourselves from Screens & Social Media with Collin Kartchner

Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

Curbing Your Screen Attachment

Tantrums, Screen Time, and Breaking Out of a Funk

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p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)

For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com

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