HELLA MARRIED

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14: Farewell for now May 12, 2021

“Being the one calling time of death on a relationship is hard. People don’t understand it’s hardest for that person because they are the ones who are having the make the decision no one wants to make.” - Leisse Wilcox.

People think the people who are wanting a divorce are the ones who have the upper hand in all of it, but I don’t think that’s true at least it wasn’t for me. I consciously knew that by divorcing my husband of 12 years I would be destroying the dreams I had for myself, his dreams and vision of family, the model relationship/marriage that my daughters had, and the security we all felt in being a family of four.

This is a solo recording with Jo and a sweet final farewell for now...

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13. It's Complicated Nov 11, 2020

WTF moments and messy conversations are a part of relationships, they are inevitable especially when you’ve been in a relationship with someone for a long period of time.

Today, we’re sharing the start of another set of messy conversations and the incredibly difficult decision to transition our relationship from being partners in marriage to focusing on being partners in co-parenting.

Tune in to hear us share this raw, real, and beautiful conversation about the next chapters of our lives.

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12. Hashtag Relationship Goals Oct 30, 2020

We took a break and we're back. This week we're talking about relationship goals and all the ways in which #relationshipgoals can stifle growth in a relationship and cause so much stress and anxiety for those trying to understand what it means to be in relationship.
How has #relationshipgoals affected your lif?

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11. Listener Questions: Sex therapy and rekindling sexual attraction, time management in a polyamorous relationship, and stimulating physical and emotional intimacy. Jun 26, 2020

Another hot episode of listener questions! Jo and Jonathan go over 3 more listener questions that range from sex therapy and rekindling sexual attraction, time management in a polyamorous relationship, and stimulating physical and emotional intimacy.

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SHOW INFORMATION

Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show!

Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf

Custom music by Tyler Hafer

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If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried

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10. Raising Emotionally Intelligent Children Jun 17, 2020

After taking some time off to #amplifymelanatedvoices for the #blacklivesmatter movement — Jo and Jonathan take a moment in this episode to check their own cultural biases as Filipino-Americans and their views on the current state of the US and the fight against racism that is so deeply rooted in the country. In understanding where their own cultural biases originated from, they segue into a conversation about raising emotionally intelligent children and touch on topics like what it means to give space and hold space for their children to own their emotions, in order to have uncomfortable yet necessary conversations. — SHOW INFORMATION Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show! Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf Follow us on social: @hellamarried Custom music by Tyler Hafer — To watch: 13th The Hate U Give Selma When They See Us — Other Resources: The Feelings Wheel Non-Violent Communication — If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried — THANKS WE LOVE YOU! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellamarried/message

9. Our Lessons Learned Through Ethical Non-Monogamy Jun 17, 2020

Similarly to the episode on The Lessons Learned From Infidelity, Jo and Jonathan head on into a conversation about the lessons the both of them have learned from being in a polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous relationship. In this conversation they discuss topics around learning how to listen to their own needs and how to express them, emotionally laboring for themselves while supporting each other, and even managing time and creating intentional time spent together.

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The Ethical Slut

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8. The Importance of Self Love May 27, 2020

This week on the HELLA MARRIED podcast, Jonathan hops in the hot seat as Joanne asks him questions about the value and importance of self love through his own story. From stepping into his parental role as a father at 24, he discusses with Joanne the loss of his identity, turning to his vices to cope with his depression, his passion becoming work, and making a stand for to show up for himself to become the best version to show up for his loved ones.

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7. Listener Questions: What Do You Need and Where Do I Begin? May 20, 2020

On this weeks episode of the HELLA MARRIED podcast, we tackle three listener questions. We dive head first into questions from, "How do I hold space for my partner as she finds happiness in herself?" to "How do I forgive infidelity and where do I begin in healing process." We even get a little silly and talk about what might come up missing if you try to build-a-partner off of a checklist!

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SHOW INFORMATION

Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show!

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BONUS: Our lessons learned through infidelity May 15, 2020

Surprise! Jo and Jonathan throw out a bonus episode where they have an unscripted conversation about the lessons the both of them have learned through the infidelity. In something that could have destroyed their 16 year relationship, actually brought them closer together. They talk about the healing process, vulnerability, and other things such as building a new container for their relationship on a foundation of open and honest communication. — SHOW INFORMATION Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show! Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf Follow us on social: @hellamarried Custom music by Tyler Hafer — If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried — THANKS WE LOVE YOU! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellamarried/message

6. Sex, Boys, and Toys May 13, 2020

On this week’s episode, Jonathan and Jo pull back the sheets and talk about sex, intimacy, their journey of redefining what sex and intimacy in their relationship and offers some key tips on how to have conversations with your partner about inviting sex toys and vibrators into the bedroom to spice up your sex life. You'll hear how toxic masculinity and the misconceptions of female pleasure can affect a couple's sex life and how the art of negotiating can open up a whole new world of fun and pleasure!

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SHOW INFORMATION

Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show!

Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf

Custom music by Tyler Hafer

Our couples therapist Nisi Baier

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Resources and links:

Our favorite tool used to communicate about sex: A Sex Journal for Couples

Our favorite CBD Lube: Foria Wellness

One of our favorite sex toy companies: Dame Products

Jo's Favorite Crystal Pleasure Wands: Chakrubs

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BONUS: Parents, It's OK to cry in front of your kids. May 08, 2020

In this episode, we are honored to have our first guest, our 16 year old daughter Airis (Iris). Her and Jo have an unscripted conversation about the teenage experience, mental health, cannabis, and Airis offers her advice to parents who are navigating the rough road of cultivating open and honest communication between children and parents. Grab a notebook and a pen and get ready to take some notes. — SHOW INFORMATION Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show! Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf Follow us on social: @hellamarried Custom music by Tyler Hafer — If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried — THANKS WE LOVE YOU! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellamarried/message

5. From Break Ups to Make Ups in the Time of Quarantine May 06, 2020

On this week’s episode, Jonathan and Jo answer some frequently asked IG Live questions about Jonathan's perspective of non-monogamy, his thoughts on dating, and some of the lessons they both have learned so far in their polyamorous relationship. The dynamic duo also dive into the nitty gritty of some listener questions discussing how to bring up hard feedback between partners, the art of negotiating needs in the time of shelter in place, the importance of owning your own emotional experience, and addressing why some words can be triggering in conversation. — SHOW INFORMATION Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show! Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf Follow us on social: @hellamarried Custom music by Tyler Hafer — If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried — THANKS WE LOVE YOU! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellamarried/message

4. 7 Tips on How to Have a Hard Conversation in a Healthy and Productive Way Apr 29, 2020

In this episode, Jo and Jonathan share their 7 tips on how to have hard conversations in a healthy and productive way. We talk about how this period of sheltering in place might bring up some old traumas, but also how we might develop new ones as our nervous systems are being activated. We discuss the new challenges we face in being confronted with our partners 24/7 and they give us some helpful tools and guidelines for working through conflict effectively so that our relationships emerge stronger than before. Having hard conversations and navigating through conflict and differences takes a lot of practice. — SHOW INFORMATION Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show! Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf Follow us on social: @hellamarried Custom music by Tyler Hafer — If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried — THANKS WE LOVE YOU! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellamarried/message

3. Transforming Pain into Power Apr 22, 2020

This episode is part two of a two part telling of Jonathan and Jo's story of struggle and hope.

Jonathan and Jo have an intimate and honest conversation about a hard truth they’ve never shared publicly before. And in their quest to open up their love for one another, they recount their bumpy journey into ethical non-monogamy, including Jonathan’s experience meeting the man Jo had an affair with.

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SHOW INFORMATION

Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show!

Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf

Custom music by Tyler Hafer

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If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried

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2. Getting on and off the Relationship Escalator Apr 22, 2020

This episode is part one of a two part telling of Jonathan and Jo's story of struggle and hope. In this episode Jonathan and Jo talk about getting on and off the relationship escalator, how society and cultural romantic expectations of love and marriage set them up to fail, and how the lack of knowing one's self created a communication gap in their 12 year marriage. Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show! Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf Follow us on social: @hellamarried --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hellamarried/message

1. WFH, School from Home, and Staying Sane during COVID-19 Apr 15, 2020

In this episode, we should share with our experience during the 2020 COVID-19 shelter in place, what our struggles have been as parents who own their own businesses while juggling the new role of being teachers, and how we've processed through some of the tough conversations and conflicts we've navigated through during this time. We talk about the importance of emotional baselines and how understanding each person's emotional baseline can help create harmony in the home during this time.

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SHOW INFORMATION

Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show!

Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf

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If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried

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HELLA MARRIED Podcast Teaser Apr 10, 2020

HELLA MARRIED is a new podcast that dives into messy conversations around sex, love, relationships, communication, parenting, and everything in between. Brought to you by us! We are Jonathan and Jo Encarnacion. Jonathan is one of SF’s most sought out wedding and lifestyle portrait photographers. He’s been documenting people’s greatest adventures while they get to live their fullest human expression for over 10 years now! Joanne (many of you might know her as @GOFITJO) is a relationship + sex coach who empowers women to lean into their vulnerability and truth while teaching them how to women create pleasure and play in their relationships so they can experience healthy sensual bliss in all areas of their life. They’ve owned businesses together, now own separate businesses, AND they know a thing or two that they have learned through their experience. Not only are they just an incredible dynamic duo in their careers, but they are also incredible parents raising two queens (as they both say). They’ve been married for almost 12 years and have spent the past 18 years navigating the waters of loving one another, falling out of love with one another, embracing ethical non-monogamy, and learning how to grow and evolve together. Each week, we’ll empower folks to get a little more comfortable with the uncomfortable.

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SHOW INFORMATION

Along with sharing the lessons we’ve learned in our own relationship, we’ll be answering your questions on the show!

Submit your questions at hellamarried.wtf

Custom music by Tyler Hafer

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If you want to support the podcast and keep the show going check us out at https://anchor.fm/hellamarried

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THANKS WE LOVE YOU!

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