Heart of Dating

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S18 E299: But What If I'm Not Attracted? Jul 15, 2026

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Today we're digging into the myth of instant chemistry as Kait and JJ unpack why moderate attraction matters, challenge Disney-style romance expectations, and share stories (including their own) about how attraction can genuinely grow over time!

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

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Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

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Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

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Heal the Part of You That Keeps Choosing the Wrong People Jul 10, 2026

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Explore emotional healing, forgiveness, and understanding attachment styles that influence your dating choices. It’s time to reset what you’re attracted to and open your heart to a new kind of relationship.

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

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Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

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S18 E298: Should Women Make the First Move? Jul 08, 2026

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Today we’re diving into the big question of whether women should initiate in Christian dating as JJ and Kait break down biblical perspectives, cultural shifts, and practical advice for making the first move!

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast

Come hang with us on the gram:

http://instagram.com/heartofdating

http://instagram.com/kaitness

https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en

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Check out this week's sponsor:

Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self.

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A quick thank you to one of our friends!

Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

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S18 E297: Why Do Good Christian Men Feel So Rare? Jul 01, 2026

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Today’s episode dives deep into the realities of the Christian dating scene, unpacking why quality men may feel scarce, exploring shifts in church attendance, and offering hope, challenge, and compassion to singles navigating modern relationships.

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast

Come hang with us on the gram:

http://instagram.com/heartofdating

http://instagram.com/kaitness

https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en

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. . . . .

A quick thank you to one of our friends!

Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

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S18 E296: Are Dating Apps Too Worldly For Christian Dating? Jun 24, 2026

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Today we’re diving into the gray zone of Christian dating, tackling whether dating apps are too worldly and breaking down the real pros and cons of online dating for those seeking godly relationships!

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast

Come hang with us on the gram:

http://instagram.com/heartofdating

http://instagram.com/kaitness

https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en

Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true

. . . . .

Check out this week's sponsor:

Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self.

. . . . .

A quick thank you to one of our friends!

Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

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S18 Ep295: What Does It Actually Mean to Hear God About a Relationship? Jun 17, 2026

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Today we're unpacking whether that uneasy feeling is God's voice or just anxiety, and diving deep into how to discern real peace versus fear when it comes to relationships!

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast

Come hang with us on the gram:

http://instagram.com/heartofdating

http://instagram.com/kaitness

https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en

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. . . . .

A quick thank you to one of our friends!

Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

. . . . .

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S18 Ep294: Does God Tell You Who To Marry? Jun 10, 2026

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Today we're kicking off Season 18 by diving into the age-old question: does God really determine who you marry, and how do you navigate the pressure, theology, and decision-making in Christian dating?

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast

Come hang with us on the gram:

http://instagram.com/heartofdating

http://instagram.com/kaitness

https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en

Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true

. . . . .

Check out this week's sponsor:

Better Help: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HOD and get on your way to being your best self.

. . . . .

A quick thank you to one of our friends!

Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

. . . . .

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Navigating the GRAY ZONE: It's Complicated... Jun 03, 2026

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This season we’re diving into the unspoken questions of Christian dating—think making the first move, hearing God’s voice, and navigating attraction—by tackling the conversations everyone’s afraid to have!

Join the School of Dating Waitlist NOW! https://www.heartofdating.com/the-school-of-dating

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast

Come hang with us on the gram:

http://instagram.com/heartofdating

http://instagram.com/kaitness

https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en

Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true

. . . . .

A quick thank you to one of our friends!

Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

. . . . .

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Ultimate Guide to Masculine and Feminine Energy in Christian Dating May 22, 2026

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Join the School of Dating Waitlist NOW! https://www.heartofdating.com/the-school-of-dating

Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching

Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz

Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating

Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating

Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw

Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest

Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!

https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library

Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:

https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ

Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast

Come hang with us on the gram:

http://instagram.com/heartofdating

http://instagram.com/kaitness

https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en

Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true

. . . . .

A quick thank you to one of our friends!

Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

http://compassion.com/heartofdating

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trapped in Relationship Limbo? Here's What's Really Happening Apr 24, 2026

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This month for our bonus epsode in Patreon we're tackling the biggest question we've been asked lately. How long should you stay in something confusing? They're not sure about you...now what? Should you stay or should you leave? Tune in to get answers!!! Join School of Dating Now! https://www.heartofdating.com/the-school-of-dating Need 1:1 support for your specific dating situation? Book a coaching call today! https://www.heartofdating.com/coaching Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true . . . . .

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