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#300 Managing Anxiety and Breakup Burnout with Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein Dec 16, 2025

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In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein, a licensed psychologist and wellness consultant who specializes in anxiety and burnout. I was drawn to her unique perspective on anxiety—not as something to “fix,” but as a deeper internal experience that we can learn to navigate with curiosity and compassion. We dive into how anxiety and burnout show up during breakups, why it’s totally normal to feel chaotic and out of control, and how masking our true feelings can be both a helpful tool and a source of long-term exhaustion. Dr. Carolyn shares practical ways to support yourself, compartmentalize the pain while still working through it, and gently poke your head out of those ruminating cycles. We also talk breakup burnout, the power of rituals, and why being kind to yourself is the most important tool you can use. If anxiety during a breakup makes you feel like something’s wrong with you, this episode is a must—so many validating reminders that you’re human and this too shall pass.

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#299 How Keeping Secrets Sabotages Your Breakup Recovery Dec 09, 2025

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In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into the topic of secrets and their role in breakups. I explore why we tend to keep certain things hidden after a breakup—whether it's to save face, avoid embarrassment, or keep the door open for a possible reconciliation—and why this is ultimately harmful to our healing. I share some personal experiences from my recovery journey, talk about how secrecy breeds shame and isolation, and offer practical advice on how to start opening up to trusted people in your life. Whether you’re struggling to admit what you put up with or afraid to say out loud what really happened, this episode is all about encouraging you to let go of those secrets so you can truly heal your heartbreak.

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#298 The Five Habits of Hope with Dr. Julia Garcia Dec 02, 2025

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In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Julia Garcia, psychologist and author of the new book The Five Habits of Hope. We talk about how hope can be a real tool for growth and healing, rather than just a personality trait or toxic positivity. Dr. Julia shares her own personal struggles—from early heartbreak to grappling with addiction and self-worth—and how she discovered resilience through hope. We dive into the five habits of hope she outlines in her book, practical exercises you can try right away, and how to process difficult emotions without getting stuck. We also discuss why hope isn’t about attaching your worth to someone else or an external outcome, and how to lean on others and even “borrow hope” when you need it most. If you’re feeling hopeless during heartbreak, this episode will give you strategies and validation, and maybe even a path forward.

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#297 How Romcoms Gave Us Unrealistic Breakup Expectations Nov 25, 2025

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In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into a topic that’s come up a lot in the background of other episodes, but today I’m bringing it all together—what romcoms got wrong about breakups and relationships. I talk through five major themes that 90s and early 2000s romantic comedies sold us—like the myth of the “one that got away,” why fighting isn’t proof of love, the trope of getting back with toxic exes, finding your soulmate right after a breakup, and the classic “revenge glow-up.” I share examples from some of my all-time favorite movies, break down why these storylines gave us such unrealistic expectations, and offer my thoughts on how these narratives impact our healing after a breakup. If you grew up watching these films and ever compared your breakup story to a romcom, this episode is for you!

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#296 Navigating In-Law Dynamics and Boundaries with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish Nov 18, 2025

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In today’s episode, I’m interviewing Dr. Tracy Dalgleish about her brand new book You, Your Husband, and His Mother. We dive into the impact of outside influences—especially in-laws—on relationships, and why these dynamics can so often lead to breakdowns. Dr. Tracy shares insights from her work as a couples therapist, including her five-step Vault Method for protecting your partnership and setting effective boundaries. We discuss the misconceptions around boundaries, the importance of getting on the same team with your partner, and specific strategies for dating with these issues in mind. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s struggled with in-law relationships in the past, or who wants to lay a stronger foundation in future partnerships.

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#295 How Detachment Can Transform Your Breakup Recovery with Sabrina Bendory Nov 11, 2025

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In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by relationship and confidence coach Sabrina Bendory, host of the "You Will Be Okay" podcast and author of the new book Detached. We dive deep into the meaning of detachment—what it actually is, common misconceptions about it (hint: it’s not emotional shutdown!), and why learning to detach from outcomes is a crucial life skill, especially after heartbreak. Sabrina Bendory shares practical tips, writing exercises, and personal stories, including how to detach from an ex and ways to approach dating with a healthy, detached mindset. We also talk about how to be kind to yourself during the grief of a breakup, how to identify what needs you’re trying to fill post-breakup, and how detachment can help you build real self-worth. If you struggle with moving on or want to heal and grow after a breakup, you’ll get so much from this episode.

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#294 Navigating Anxious and Avoidant Attachments with Julie Mennano Nov 04, 2025

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In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Julie Mennano, who you might know from her Secure Love podcast or her super insightful Instagram account @thesecurerelationship. Julie is an attachment expert and the author of Secure Love, and in this episode we tackle all things attachment theory—especially how it relates to breakups and healing. We dive deep into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, the misconceptions so many of us have around avoidant partners, and why those relationships aren't necessarily doomed. Julie shares her unique perspective on taking accountability after heartbreak without falling into self-blame, how to build self-trust for future relationships, and explains how negative cycles erode intimacy. We also talk about why labeling attachment styles can be helpful—but sometimes overdone. If you've ever wondered how to make sense of your breakup through the lens of attachment or want to set yourself up for a healthier relationship next time, this episode is a must-listen.

To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN

To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!

To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873

To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/heartbreak

Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreak

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#293 How to Feel Safe in Relationships with Jessica Baum Oct 29, 2025

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In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert, and author of the new book Safe (out today!). We dive into what it truly means to feel safe in relationships, why so many of us struggle with this, and how our attachment styles play a huge role—whether we lean anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between. Jessica breaks down the origins of our attachment styles and offers insight into how we can gradually heal, especially after heartbreak. We discuss the power of finding anchors—safe, supportive people outside of romantic relationships—and how real healing happens in connection, not isolation. This is an episode packed with hope, practical tips, and so much validation for anyone rebuilding after a breakup or looking to feel safe and secure in future relationships. To access the free resources click this link:

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To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!

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#292 Exploring Sexual Confidence and Healing After Heartbreak with Dr. Tara Oct 21, 2025

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In today’s expert episode, I’m so excited to welcome back Dr. Tara, a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV sexpert, and now author of the brand new book “How Do You Like It?” We dive deep into the shifting narratives around sex and relationships, especially for Gen Z, and talk about how younger generations are redefining what it means to be sexually empowered and communicative. We cover everything from the myths the media has created about “sexless” generations, to the real impact of porn on relationships (hint: it’s all about porn literacy, not porn itself), and how secrecy—not the act itself—is what really feels like betrayal in a partnership. Dr. Tara also touches on why passion and sexual communication are at the heart of lasting relationships, and shares so many tangible tips for getting to know yourself sexually—whether you’re single, going through a breakup, or in a long-term commitment. If you’re curious about healing your relationship with sex, learning how to voice your own desires, and breaking old patterns of shame and people-pleasing, this episode is for you!

To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN

To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!

To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses

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Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!

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#291 Is Your Breakup Story Helping or Hurting Your Recovery? Oct 14, 2025

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In today's solo episode I’m diving into the topic of your breakup story—what it means, why it matters, and how the way you tell it can shape your healing. I explore how sharing your breakup experience is an important part of processing, but also how we can unintentionally make our stories more painful by filling in the gaps with negative self-talk or assumptions. Whether you were cheated on, ghosted, or ended the relationship yourself, I break down practical ways to tell your story with honesty and compassion, and give tips on how to keep your narrative from holding you back. I also discuss the importance of writing out your breakup story, sticking to the facts, and allowing yourself space for your feelings without making the breakup mean something negative about you.

To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN

To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!

To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses

To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873

Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!

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