Description:
In this episode Mandy talks with Hannah Brencher about writing letters to strangers building things out of love instead of fear and how to make friends in a new city.
Selected Links:
Hanna’s Website
Hannah’s Instagram
More Love Letters
Hannah’s latest book “Come Matter Here: Your Invitation to Be Here in a Getting There World”
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Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com
Show Notes:
1:00 Introduction- Making big decisions by coin flips
2:15 The “happiness” result of 20,000 coin flips
3:02 The coin toss gives us clarity
3:40 How to make a decision based on a coin flip
3:55 Just say “Yes!”
4:05 Introduction of Hannah Brencher
5:00 Moving to New York City and overcoming depression
5:25 Writing letters to strangers
6:19 If you need a love letter, just ask. How it all got started
7:22 You are not the only one facing this
7:55 Did you write all the letters?
8:04 How long did it take you to write all the letters
8:45 What story stands out to you of all the letters you’ve written
10:02 The Big move
10:28 How to make friends in a new city
12:05 Happy hour instead of a speaker fee
12:45 Ikea bringing people together
13:10 The chase for the next best thing
14:01 Don’t miss what’s happening in this moment
14:41 How to be present during a busy day
15:02 Building things out of fear instead of love
16:21 I didn’t have to let fear drive the car to Atlanta
16:56 Dismantling flakiness
17:50 Showing up when you’d rather not
19:05 The Fight Song Journal
20:47 Being Where Your Feet Are and Experiencing Belonging
21:50 Belonging comes with honesty
22:48 Initiating versus waiting for others to initiate
23:40 Sometimes we have to be the invitation
24:00 Come Matter Here
25:10 Waiting on a text saying, “Come matter here”
26:03 Letting people know that they matter
26:15 A simple prayer… “God show up”
27:08 God doesn’t leave me
27:20 What does “show up” mean
27:57 What are you doing to have more fun in your life right now
29:49 What is the best advice you never got
30:49 Just because you can multi-task, doesn’t mean you should
31:15 Get the 1st Chapter of Mandy’s new book for FREE
Quotes:
“The moment the penny is up in the air, you suddenly know what you’re hoping” Piet Hein
If you need a love letter… just ask
Be where your feet are
It doesn’t matter what you fill it with… it usually doesn’t fill
When we spread ourselves too thin we are doing a disservice to people
Belonging is like the manual at IKEA
You have to be willing to put yourself out there
The things that are hard transform us the most
Sometimes you have to BE the invitation
Most of the prayers that we need to say are simple and they don’t need to be muddied up with a ton of beautiful, eloquent words.
I’m slowly learning as I get older that multi tasking, while it’s possible, isn’t actually something that’s most effective.