Happier with Gretchen Rubin

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Little Happier: Some of My Favorite Rules, Paradoxes, Laws, and Razors Sep 21, 2026

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Whether through science, personal observation, or humor, short statements of these human “laws” help us understand that world we live in.

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Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com
Website: gretchenrubin.com
Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
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More Happier: A Lesson from the Real Housewives, Plus a Tool for Dealing with Shared Work Sep 19, 2026

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What reality TV can teach us about miscommunication, plus a simple tool for dealing with shared work based on your tendency.

Episode highlights:

Something Making Us Happier: Elizabeth's first-ever September getaway to Nantucket, and Gretchen's trusty sweatshirt [00:33]
I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You: A grammar rule Gretchen’s been pondering [08:33]
Spotlight on a Tool: 13 strategies for handling shared work based on the Four Tendencies [17:09]
A Lesson from Reality TV— How often are conflicts a simple miscommunication? [18:15]

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13 strategies for splitting chores by Tendency
Take the free Four Tendencies quiz
Audition by Katie Kitamura (Amazon, Bookshop)

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Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com
Website: gretchenrubin.com
Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
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Ep. 604: Clear Clutter With a Courtroom Hack, Plus How to Decline a Request for Accountability Sep 16, 2026

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Clear clutter fast with a courtroom-inspired trick, and we discuss how Upholders might set boundaries for unwanted accountability partners.

Episode highlights:

Try This at Home: A hack for decluttering by issuing an “order to show cause" [04:34]
Idea for Do-Spend September— A listener’s Do-Spend September upgrade turns into a housewide "Upgrade Week" [01:57]
Four Tendencies Tip: How Upholders might set boundaries with Obligers looking for accountability partners [12:11]
Happiness Hack: A clever way to repurpose empty Altoid tins [09:54]
Fun with the Five Senses: The nostalgia and whimsy of Jello [20:35]
Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s Demerit:fallen off on dog-walking duties;Gretchen’s Gold Star:reviewed many books and podcasts [24:26]

Mentioned in this episode:

Altoid Tin Organizer Insert
Take the free Four Tendencies quiz
Rest Jump-Start Challenge on the Happier app
Dakota Born by Debbie Macomber (Amazon, Bookshop)
Blaming by Elizabeth Taylor (Amazon, Bookshop)

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Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com
Website: gretchenrubin.com
Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz

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Little Happier: A Lesson from the World Cup: Danger and Temptation Don’t Always Appear When We Expect Sep 14, 2026

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As the World Cup illustrated, in the happy moments of scoring a goal or celebrating, we may find it hard to stay focused on our aims.

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Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com
Website: gretchenrubin.com
Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz

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Move Happier: Getting Unstuck: A Fresh Start for Your Move 26 Habit Sep 13, 2026

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Not sticking to a habit that’s important to you? Dan Harris and Laurie Santos join Gretchen to share how to spot what's holding you back — and get moving again.

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⁠Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz⁠.

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More Happier: Four Tendencies Solutions to Real-Life Problems Sep 12, 2026

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We revisit some of our most useful Four Tendencies listener questions, including how to help a Rebel stick to exercise, work with a Questioner boss, and keep Obliger people-pleasing from getting in the way of dating.

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Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
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Ep. 603: Avoid the Sunk-Cost Fallacy, and Why it’s Hard to Plan for Emergencies Sep 09, 2026

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We talk about how to avoid the mental trap of the “sunk-cost fallacy.” Plus, why it’s so hard to plan for emergencies and the biases that keep us from preparing for risk.

Episode highlights:

Try This at Home: Avoid the sunk-cost fallacy—the mental trap that keeps us committed because of the time, money, or energy we’ve already spent [04:57]
Happiness Hack: Create a personal reading syllabus with deadlines to help you read more [12:58]
Happiness Stumbling Block: Six common biases that make it difficult to assess and prepare for rare but serious emergencies [16:03]
Demerits and Gold Stars: Gretchen’s Demerit: Turning into a Knicks bore; Elizabeth’s Gold Star: To her friend Mindy for a new exercise experience [24:11]

Mentioned in this episode:

The Ostrich Paradox: Why We Underprepare for Disasters by Robert Meyer and Howard Kunreuther (Amazon, Bookshop)
This Vast Enterprise: A New History of Lewis and Clark by Craig Fehrman (Amazon, Bookshop)
Audition by Katie Kitamura (Amazon, Bookshop)
Rolling utility cart
Happier Labor Day resources

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Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com
Website: gretchenrubin.com
Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz

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Little Happier: After His Death, I Can Still Learn More About My Beloved Father Sep 07, 2026

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Even after a person has died, we can continue to understand them in new ways.

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Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com
Website: gretchenrubin.com
Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz

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More Happier: How Do People Know What To Do? Plus Making Friends at the Gym Sep 05, 2026

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We discuss how people know what to do in certain situations. Plus why you might–or might not–make friends at the gym.

Episode highlights:

Something Making Us Happier: Elizabeth finds connection to our beloved father through reading history. Gretchen delights in discovering Jamie’s rock-skipping skills [00:48]
I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: How do people know what to do in certain situations? [07:29]
Spotlight on a Tool: Check out my free 7-day email challenge designed to help you head into fall with more energy [13:03]
I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: Do you make friends at the gym? [14:40]

Mentioned in this episode:

This Vast Enterprise (Amazon, Bookshop)
Check out Gretchen’s free 7-day movement challenge here
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations (Amazon, Bookshop)

Connect with Us:

Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com
Website: gretchenrubin.com
Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft
Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz

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Ep. 602: Spend Your Money at Home Instead of Away, and Why You Should Delegate Sep 02, 2026

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Why you might consider spending your vacation money on a home experience that you’ll enjoy for years, and why delegating tasks is more important–and harder–than it may seem.

Episode highlights:

Try This at Home: Why you might "spend out" on your space, instead of on vacation, to give yourself fun and comfort at home [02:35]
Happiness Hack: A listener's three-system method for documenting daily life and family milestones [13:14]
Happiness Stumbling Block: Why we avoid delegating and how to let go, especially during the empty-nest years [17:25]
Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s Demerit: still need to visit the Encino Mah Jong parlor; Gretchen’s Gold Star: Winsteads! The ice! The lacy burgers! [25:57]

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