Good Grief, People! Podcast

Episode 31: Finding the Good in Our Own Grief Jun 24, 2021

Happy S.H.I.T (So Happy It's Thursday) day my friends! Welcome to Episode 31 where we are going to tell you how we are going to be taking some of the advice we have been giving over the last 30 episodes so that we can find the good in our own grief this summer.

With coming off of quarantine and the world slowly opening up, we both have extremely busy summers with family, travel plans, etc etc. and we don’t want to miss a thing. Because of our tremendous losses, we know how fleeting life is and we want to be 100% present for these upcoming plans. Soooo, we are going to be taking a few weeks off of recording but do not worry, we have big plans to come back with some great content to help take the information you have learned from these first 30 episodes and APPLY them to your everyday life.

We are here if you need us! If you have just found us, then please go back and listen to our episodes (there are 30 of them for you to binge!) and if you have been with us since the beginning, thank you so much! We can’t wait to be back with you to start Season 2!

In this episode, you will hear: -How and why we are taking our own self-care advice and taking some time off from the podcast this summer -What our vision is for Season 2 -The reminder that while grief never goes away, we all have a choice to make and if we choose to find the good in it, it will make our lives so much better

Do you have ideas for anything you would like us to discuss in Season 2? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 30: Letting Go of Who You Were to Find Out Who You Are with Daisy Eckman Jun 17, 2021

Today we are joined by Daisy Eckman who is going to share her story that is different from the guests that we have had in the past. Her story is not about losing an actual human being but of having to lose herself in order to move on after being violated in high school. She is now a rising sophomore in college and is wise beyond her years. Her courage and insightfulness is so inspiring. We are so appreciative to have her on the show to share her powerful, beautiful, and messy story with us. We can all learn something from this.

This episode is a must listen if you have your own children or have any interaction with kids- especially middle and high schoolers. You may want to share this story with your daughters and sons so you can have conversations about respecting boundaries and the damaging effects of peer pressure.

In this episode, you will hear: -How we learned of Daisy’s difficult story -Her experience in a new high school, how she tried to fit in, and how she was sexually violated -How she had to let go and mourn the loss of her old self in order to move on to a healthier place

Does this story resonate with you? Do you have kids that need to hear this? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 29: Finding Your Connection Jun 10, 2021

In today’s episode, we are talking all about finding connections in your life. When going through grief, it is so important that you find a connection with other people, with other grief warriors, and even with those that you have lost. This truly is pivotal to you being able to grow in your grief and get to a place where you can find your good, where you can find joy, where you can laugh about the good times and the special memories you have.

And if you know someone who is grieving, you can help them just by reaching out and creating that connection. The purpose of this podcast is to help those who are grieving AND those who want to help those who are grieving. Creating a connection and being there is a wonderful way to help.

Quote from this episode: “Death ends a life, not a relationship.”

In this episode, you will hear: -How you can find your connections to who you have lost and to other people -The importance of finding these connections to help you heal and find your good in your grief -How connections provide a reason to live your fullest life, create memories, and leave your legacy

Have you found connections to other grief warriors or to what you have lost? Are you looking for connections? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 28: Crazy Things Grievers Do Jun 03, 2021

If you are a grief warrior, then you know you’ve done some crazy things! And in this episode we are talking all about some of the crazy things that we’ve done and we have heard others do as they deal with their grief. Do you stay under the covers for days when it is the anniversary of your loss? Have you kept things just the way they were and don’t want to change anything because that’s how it was before this traumatic loss occurred?

Guess what, if that is what you need to do, we want you to keep doing your crazy! That might be just what you need to do to find your good in your grief- whether it is to keep your connection to what you have lost or to get your feelings out, you do what you need to do.

We are kind of making light of the word “crazy” but it is basically like giving yourself that permission slip, that grace, to do what it is you need to do.

Quote from this episode:

“Tough times never last but tough people do.”

And you are a tough person! If you are listening to these episodes, you are tough because you are trying to find your good in your grief.

In this episode, you will hear:

What crazy can look like for grief warriors
The importance of letting our crazy out
Why you need to keep doing your crazy

What kind of things do you do that some might think is crazy? Guess what? As fellow grief warriors, we don’t think it is. Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

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Episode 27: Just Us May 27, 2021

Welcome to Episode 27! This episode is all about us- how we met (and were supposed to meet!), our incredible similarities, and how we help each other find the good in our grief. You will hear how we first connected over social media, how important it was for us to be open and vulnerable with one another, and how our friendship has blossomed over time. Distance can’t even keep us apart!

We hope this episode shows you how you can meet “your person” anywhere. Be open to it! It is really important that you be willing to share parts of your life with someone you trust. And even if you don’t know if you can trust that person yet- be open to the fact that sharing could deepen your relationship. As human beings, we were made for connection and it really makes life better!

Quote from this episode:

“Find your person.”

In this episode, you will hear:

How we met over social media
The amazing similarities we already shared and then continue to share almost on a weekly basis
The importance of being open to sharing your journey and your story with others

Do you have “your person”? If not, are you open to letting people in? Come let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 26: You have to help YOU May 20, 2021

We have talked about this subject before and the importance of putting things in place to help YOU through your grief. Check out Episode 8: Healthy Habits if you haven’t listened to it. What all of this boils down to is that with grief, you have to be willing to help yourself. And kudos to you for tuning in and listening because by listening to this podcast, you are helping yourself!

When going through your loss, you will need to figure out ways that you can help yourself. Listen in to get ideas of things that you can do to help yourself through grief. We can’t tell you exactly what will help you but we can tell you that you have no choice but to figure it out so you don't stay stuck in your grief.

Quote from this episode: “Start where you are, use what you have, and do what you can.”

In this episode, you will hear: -Why you have to help YOU -Why relying on others is not helping you -Different ways to help yourself through your grief journey

How are you helping yourself through your grief journey? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 25: Dealing with Resurfacing Grief with Kristen Schnall May 13, 2021

Welcome to Episode 25 where we are so excited to have another guest on our podcast today! Kristen Schnall is connected to us both not only through grief but also through our obsession and love for health and wellness. The three of us have had some experiences that brought us together and bonded us in a way where we don’t need to explain ourselves, we just know each other’s hearts because of our tragedies.

Kristen joins us today to share the story of losing her dad to alcoholism when she was just 13 years old. She talks through some difficult feelings she experienced as a young girl- how she grieved before he actually died because he was not always there for her due to his disease, the relief she felt when he died because she would not have to worry about him anymore, and then the guilt she felt for feeling relief.

Listen in to find out how her grief resurfaces, what she is doing about it, and how her life has truly come full circle so that she can help others and find the good in her grief.

In this episode, you will hear: -Kristen’s story of losing her dad at age 13 -The difficult feelings she had to deal with at a young age -How she got help through her close family and a school counselor -How her grief still resurfaces -How her life has come full circle and how she helps others while finding the good in her grief

No matter what you are going through we would love to hear from you! Reach out to us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

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Episode 24: Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms May 06, 2021

Today we are talking about how many of us use unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with our grief. It is not uncommon for people to turn to unhealthy things when grappling with the devastation of losing something or someone they love. And we get it! It is like you are in survival mode just trying to make it through the day, the week, the month.

Early on in our grief journeys, we dealt with our losses in ways that we are not proud of. But you know what? We have learned from them and know better now. We have found things that help us and we want to encourage you to find things that are healthy and help you. Because those unhealthy coping mechanisms are not helping you, they are prolonging your healing and are actually hurting you and possibly those around you.

Listen in to find out how to not have guilt over any unhealthy coping mechanisms you may have used and how to find healthy ways to deal with your grief.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why many of us turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with loss and grief -The things we have done that we are not proud of -Why it’s important to let go of the guilt of using unhealthy coping mechanism -How to find healthy ways to deal with your grief

If you have used (or are using!) unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with your grief, you are not alone. Reach out to us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 23: Stop Being the Salmon Apr 29, 2021

So this title may be confusing and you may be wondering, “what in the world are those girls going to be talking about today?!” Well, you need to listen in! We will tell you that we are using this analogy because so often while we go through our grief, we make it so much harder than it needs to be. Yes, of course, grief sucks! But are you making it even harder on yourself? Are you compounding it, pushing it away, not dealing with it, then letting it bubble up and come out in the worst way possible? Then you are acting like a salmon!

You see, salmon swim upstream. They are constantly fighting the current and working so hard to get to where they want to be. You don’t have to be a salmon. You don’t have to constantly swim upstream and make your grief journey more difficult than it already is.

Listen in to find out how to free yourself from the constant fight and figure out how to simply float.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why we compare our grief journeys (and life honestly!) to a salmon -How to recognize if you are being a salmon -Ways to stop fighting, let go and float -Who actually loves salmon and who does not!

Have you ever heard this analogy before? Are you guilty of being a salmon in your grief journey or in your life? Let us know by heading over to Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and commenting on this episode post.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

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Episode 22: Getting Stuck in the Anger Phase Apr 22, 2021

Welcome to Episode 22! Today we are talking about anger and grief because anger seems to be the stage a lot of us get stuck in or we revert back to in our grief. We want you to know that being stuck in the anger phase is very, very common and it is a stage that you can go back to depending on what is going on in your life. This is normal and okay! But we want to make sure that you have healthy habits around this so that you can move out of the anger phase and not stay stuck. (If you haven’t yet, go back and listen to Episode 8: Healthy Habits and Episode 13: Stages of Grief!)

The reality is that if you are experiencing anger over your loss, that is because you loved so much. Allow yourself to accept and acknowledge that reality and find the good in that love.

In this episode, you will hear: -How and why so often people get stuck and revert back to the anger stage -What to do when you find yourself in the anger stage; how to move to acceptance -Importance of letting those around you know what you are going through but also don’t let that be an excuse for bad behavior -Why it is so important that you acknowledge that you are angry about your loss

Every Thursday, when an episode goes live, we get these amazing messages of how these episodes are helping. We want you to know how healing these are to both of us. You are helping us! Keep the messages coming by heading over to Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. Maybe we will give you a shout out :)

Resource mentioned in today’s episode: Untamed by Glennon Doyle https://www.amazon.com/Untamed-Glennon-Doyle-Melton/dp/1984801252

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 21: Loss is a 4-Letter Word and Grief Shouldn't Be a Comparison Game Apr 15, 2021

Today we are talking all about how loss is a 4- letter word and we all know what 4-letter words are right? While loss is awful and happens to everyone, we tend to get stuck in the comparison game of whose suffered the worst loss or whose is worse than another. We are here to say that loss is horrible no matter how it is, no matter who or what you lost. It truly is not fair to cross examine different losses and say that one is less or more of a loss than the other. Because comparing grief to someone else’s doesn’t make your loss any bigger or smaller, it is still yours. It’s not going to change how tremendous it is. Loss and grief means something different to everyone. What matters most is what it means to you, to your heart, and to your grief journey.

In this episode, you will hear:

How loss affects everyone, no one is immune to losing someone or something that is important to them
Why it is important to not play the comparison game with your grief or others
How we can use our own loss to help us respect other people's losses

Have you gotten stuck in the comparison game with your loss and grief? Let us know over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

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Episode 20: Wife, Widow, Now What? with Rachel Engstrom Apr 08, 2021

We are so excited to welcome our second guest to the show! Rachel Engstrom is a fellow grief warrior and the author of a book titled Wife, Widow, Now What? She is joining us today to share her grief story and how she lost her husband and best friend to cancer when she was just 31 years old. You will be amazed at some of the commonalities we all have (like the year of 2011) and many of the differences we have.

We are three different women who collectively suffered the most significant and catastrophic losses that anyone can suffer- the loss of a spouse, the loss of a child, and the loss of both parents. And while we all grieved them differently, we are all choosing to find the good in our grief and the freedom that provides us to help us all move forward.

In this episode, you will hear: -Rachel’s grief story and why she decided to write her book -The commonalities and differences we have in our grief journeys -How Rachel is finding the good in her grief

To purchase Rachel’s book https://www.amazon.com/Wife-Widow-Now-What-Navigated/dp/B08KBV5DBL

To connect with Rachel: Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/wifewidownowwhat/ Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/wife.widow.now.what

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 19: Trigger Words Apr 01, 2021

In today’s episode, we are talking about trigger words and while we are excited to dig into this, it is also a very tough subject and sometimes even taboo. Everyone who goes through a loss or something traumatic, has trigger words- words that can take us back to that memory, that moment, that loss. And it can hurt so deeply and so badly. But we want you to remember that people who say these words, do not mean to cause intentional harm. They don’t know how this can hurt because they have not endured the loss.

We will talk through our trigger words and what feelings they bring up for us. We also talk about how we deal with it. It is important that you know you are not alone if you have been hurt by someone’s words. It is part of dealing with grief because we all already feel the hurt so the words just intensify our pain. It is normal and okay but it helps to recognize it so you can deal with it and move on.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why trigger words hurt and why they are not meant to cause intentional harm -What our trigger words are and how we deal with them -How you are not alone in hurting and how you can help others understand your trigger words

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 18: Your Other Feelings Too Mar 25, 2021

In today’s episode, we are talking about dealing with other feelings besides grief. We all have other things, other issues, and other feelings that we can’t ignore and we need to give them our attention. Just because we are grieving or have grief, does not mean we have a hall pass or don’t have to deal with them. Go back and listen to Episode 12: No Hall Passes for Grief Warriors for more insight on this.

We also want you to know that it is okay if these other things and feelings come up and leave you exhausted. That is normal. We are all a little more fragile and that’s okay. Many times, our grief and suffering allow us to be more compassionate and more aware of what people are going through and how they feel.

One way that can help you with dealing with your other feelings is to set yourself up for as much success as possible by establishing healthy habits when dealing with your grief. Another great episode to go back and listen to is Episode 8: Healthy Habits. If you don’t deal with these other feelings and issues, they are going to compound and will be even harder to deal with while you grieve.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why it is important to deal with your other feelings and not ignore them -What things we are currently dealing with and how we are giving them our attention -Tips for how to deal with your other feelings and situations in a positive way

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 17: The Dash Mark - Mar 18, 2021

The dash mark? What does that even mean? For grief warriors, and honestly for everyone, the dash mark has a very significant meaning. You see, the dash mark is referencing what is between the date in which you were born and the date you die. The dash mark represents your life and where you live. So our question for you is: what are you doing with your dash mark? What are you doing with your life? Are you truly living or just getting by each day?

We don’t want you to just live, we want you to be ALIVE. If you haven’t found the good in your grief, chances are you are not fully living. Do you have something that is helping you pop out of bed every day because you are thankful to be alive? If you don't, you’ve got to create it or go out and find it. We are not grief experts but we are both experienced with grief. We’d never tell you to do something we haven't gone through and done ourselves. We have found out how to be ALIVE and we want that for you! We want you to make the most of your dash mark, your life.

In this episode, you will hear: -The significance of the dash mark -The importance of making the most of your dash mark and what that means -Tips to making the most of your dash mark while dealing with grief

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 16: Band-Aids vs. Solutions Mar 11, 2021

Welcome to Episode Sweet 16! Today we are talking about the difference between using band-aids or real solutions when dealing with grieving and loss. As we know from first aid, band-aids are a temporary and quick fix. They allow you to stop the bleeding quickly, and with grief, sometimes that is exactly what we need, we need to stop the bleeding quickly.

The reality is we all use band-aids especially in the early stages and in that year of firsts. There is nothing wrong with that! But you don’t want to keep those band-aids on forever. They are not a solution. Just like a scrape or a cut, you need to remove the band-aid in order for your wound to heal. If you continue to put the band-aids on without finding long-term solutions, you’re going to end up with scar tissue and that is no way to live.

Listen in to hear some examples of our band-aids and solutions. You know we aren’t going to tell you what solutions will work best for you and your loss. You have to figure out what works for you! But we are going to tell you that you need to find real solutions to deal with your grief and we are here to help you pull those band-aids off!

In this episode, you will hear: -Why we need band-aids and why we also need to pull them off -Some examples of what real band-aids and real solutions can look like -Ways you can prepare to get rid of those band-aids and find solutions to your grief

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 15: For the Love of Lipstick with Steph Heumann Mar 04, 2021

Welcome to Episode 15 where we are welcoming our first guest, Steph Heumann, to the podcast! Steph and Missy met in college and have been through a lot together- the good and the bad! We are honored to have her as our first guest as she is sharing how the Good Grief, People! Podcast has touched her and helped her deal with the grief of losing her mom seven years ago. She made a special connection with one episode in which Lori was talking about her mom. You’ll have to listen to hear what the connection was and why this episode is titled “For the Love of Lipstick!”

Join us as we talk through how Steph was able to find her permission slip to grieve in a healthy way that has led her to filling her hole of grief with love, celebration, and remembrance of her mom. She has found the good in her grief and we are hoping this inspires you to find the good in yours.

In this episode, you will hear: -How Steph was moved by this podcast to grieve the loss of her mom in a healthy and special way -The connection Steph and Lori have and why this is episode is titled “For the Love of Lipstick” -How grief, like life, can be tough but we’ve got to find the good in both

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 14: Grieving through the Seasons of LIFE Feb 25, 2021

In today’s episode, we are talking about grieving through the seasons. And we do not mean calendar seasons, we are talking about grieving through the different seasons of LIFE. Traditionally, grief usually makes one think of the death or loss of a loved one- a human or a pet but today we are talking about the non-traditional grief and losses that everyone goes through during different seasons. Let’s face it, we are all going through a season right now with the COVID pandemic! And think of the losses that we have faced or seen others face- loss of work, travel, time with extended family, senior years, graduations, weddings, the list goes on and on.

We all go through different seasons in life- from childhood to adulthood. Through the passing of each season, we all experience loss and grief- whether it is a child moving out of the house to attend college, the role reversal and taking care of aging parents, or an expectation that is not met. All of these losses deserve our attention. We must acknowledge them and go through some of those stages of grief we discussed in our last episode (if you missed it, go check it out, it is Episode 13: Stages of Grief!). Once you acknowledge and grieve the losses in your season, then you have to find the good in them. This way you are able to move on and find the joy in your life. That’s what this podcast is all about!

In this episode, you will hear: -What grieving through the seasons of life looks like -How everyone goes through loss during different seasons of life -Why we need to give our attention to these losses and our grief so we can get through them and find the good

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

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Episode 13: Stages of Grief Feb 18, 2021

We are tackling the 5 stages of grief in today’s episode. While this will be somewhat educational, we also hope that it will be exciting because it can help you make sense of some of your feelings when you realize it is normal to go through different periods of grief. When you see that there are stages or compartments for your feelings, it can actually help your soul heal.

We are going to go through each of the 5 stages of grief and discuss them one by one. And while we will list them in an order, you may not actually go through them in that order. You may jump around to different stages and you may actually go through all of the stages in one day! The purpose of this episode is to let you know it is sooo normal to be in any of these stages at any given point. And the ultimate goal for all of us is to get to the acceptance stage and stay there!

In this episode, you will hear: -The 5 different stages of grief and what they may look like -How these stages are all different and how you can jump in and out of them at different periods -Why you must go through 4 of the stages before you can land in the best stage which is acceptance

Please come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are keeping the conversation going and would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 12: No Hall Passes for Grief Warriors Feb 11, 2021

Welcome back! We are so excited about the subject of today’s episode because, friends, we are living it. It almost doesn’t seem fair but us grief warriors are not given hall passes. Just because we are hit with a tremendous loss or tragedy, that does not mean that life is going to take it easy on us. It would be nice but then that’s not the real world is it?

We share with you how, as grief warriors, we seem to feel things a little bit more and maybe react differently to situations and challenges if we did not suffer our losses. What can we do about that? We can be prepared, and as we have discussed in previous episodes, we can do things in advance to put ourselves in a better place when the inevitable difficulties of life come down on us.

In this episode, you will hear: -How grief causes us to be more fragile while dealing with the day to day of life -What we can do when we feel like we need a hall pass -How we can prepare for the inevitable difficulties of life

Listen all the way to the end of the episode because we are giving you a preview of our upcoming episodes! We have a lot of ideas and plans up our sleeves :)

And come hang out with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are going to be keeping the conversation going and may even be having a GIVEAWAY!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 11: Gratitude Eases the Pain, Always Feb 04, 2021

The theme for today’s episode is all about gratitude and the biggest thing we are grateful for today is this podcast. We are so grateful to sit down with each other and all of you to talk through the good, the bad, and everything in between. Thank you for continuing to join us each week!

While gratitude will certainly help you find the good in your grief and help with your loss, it is not just for those who are grieving. Gratitude can help anyone live a more full and joyful life. It is proven that you attract what you put out so if you start your day with gratitude and appreciation, that is what you will get back. If you put out negativity, that is what you get back. So what do you want?

We want to challenge you to start some sort of gratitude journal to get into a daily habit of focusing on the good in your life. No matter what you are going through we know you can find some good and something to be grateful for- no matter how big or small. If you have never done this before, it can feel awkward or weird at first but once you begin, you will start to see your life change for the better.

In this episode, you will hear: -How and why gratitude can change your perspective -How to start your day off in a positive way -A challenge for all of us to make gratitude a daily habit

Do you have a gratitude journal or are you going to be starting one? Come over and let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them.

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 10: Grief Shouldn't be 24/7 Jan 28, 2021

Today’s episode is all about helping you release any guilt you may have with how you are dealing with your grief. Whether you are living and breathing it every day OR just the opposite- you are living your life each day and not thinking about your grief. Either way, you should not feel guilty.

When you first suffer a loss, it is so heavy and so much a part of every minute of every day that when you have a day where you are busy or have a lot going on and you realize that you didn’t think about your loss, you may feel guilty. Don’t! This means you are living and that is exactly what you need to be doing. There should be no guilt associated with you actually living your life!

In this episode, you will hear: -Why you should not feel guilty no matter what your grief looks like -How and why being busy doesn’t make your grief go away but it means you are living life -Encouragement to find strength to live your fullest life

Are you in a constant state of grief or are you going through days when you don’t think about your loss? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them.

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 9: No Timeline Jan 21, 2021

Before we dive into today’s episode, we want to invite you all to check us out on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We are going to be providing more content and resources there and it is a great way for us to connect! We would love to hear about you and what is helping you, what resonates, or what you would love to hear on the show. You can also check out our profile to print out an e-book with helpful tips for dealing with your grief. Can’t wait to connect with you!

In today’s episode, we are talking all about the fact that there is no timeline for grief. Even if you know someone who has had a similar loss or dealt with a situation like yours, we all grieve differently. Do not put the pressure on yourself to try to propel your healing at a faster rate or try to be somewhere that you are not. We cannot compare our grief to someone else's. It is not fair and it is not healthy. Listen in to get permission to grieve on your own timeline, not someone else’s.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why there is no timeline for grief -Why your grief doesn’t look like anyone else’s -How to cope with your grief in your own time

You don’t have to grieve alone. Come connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them.

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 8: Healthy Habits Jan 14, 2021

2021 is here and with it brings hope for a better day, a better time, a better year. After 2020, we are all ready for that! But just because a new year has been ushered in, that does not mean our grief is any less. What can we do daily to set ourselves up for success when dealing with our grief?

In today’s episode, we are talking about the importance of building daily healthy habits so you can be prepared to deal with the good and bad days of grief. We are sharing what works for us and has helped us take control of the things we can control. Always remember though, that what works for us may not work for you. We want you to find healthy habits that you can do daily that will set yourself up for success and control your grief better.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why it is important to build daily healthy habits and control the things you can -What healthy habits we have that help us each day -Why we never truly want our grief to diminish or go away

Do you have some healthy habits or things you do to help you get through your days with grief? Come share with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them.

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 7: It's Okay to Feel Jealousy Jan 07, 2021

Welcome to Episode 7! This is the first episode that we are recording since our podcast launched and WOW! We just have to say THANK YOU! Thank you for the amazing feedback and support you have given us and this podcast. Based on such positive feedback and the download numbers that have been out of this world, it truly solidifies our decision to start this podcast and it is a testament to how many people need to hear and start to normalize the word grief.

In today’s episode, we are talking about the jealousy that you will feel after a loss. When you lose something, whether it is a relationship, a pet, or a person, whatever it is, when you see someone else that has it, you may feel jealous or angry. We want you to know that that is totally normal and okay. What is not okay, is to stay there. We are talking today about the best way to get through these very normal feelings so you can get to the other side. As Lori says, “You’ve got to flip the switch!”

In this episode, you will hear: -Why jealousy and anger can creep in after a loss -Why it is absolutely okay and normal to feel this way but not okay to stay there -How you can deal with these feelings and get to the other side

Have you experienced jealousy and anger after a loss or major life change? Come share with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them.

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 6: Less Tolerance for BS Dec 31, 2020

We cannot believe we are on Episode 6 of this podcast! We are so grateful that you are tuning in and listening! It truly is an honor to share with you all the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of grief.

Today’s episode is all about how, when you go through a loss, you have less capacity to put up with BS, especially in the very beginning. It’s like if someone is complaining about something that you feel like is not a big deal, because let’s face it, it probably isn’t compared to what you are going through, you may not have the capacity to listen and tolerate it. The best thing to do in this situation is get out of it. Since your tolerance level will change depending on how you are feeling, you need to figure out how you’re feeling and be ready to pivot to get out of situations that you don’t have the tolerance to deal with. It’s totally normal and okay to feel this way but you have to realize that it’s on you, it’s not on them. It is not their fault, it is not their grief.

We have definitely gotten to a place where we are less tolerant of the little things because life is too short. And we know this because we have lived it- we know we are not guaranteed tomorrow because our tomorrow was taken from us. But not everyone knows this and we can’t expect them to. We hope this episode gives you permission to catch your breath because so many things with grief can take your breath away.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why we can become less tolerant for BS when it comes to grief -Why it is absolutely okay and normal to feel this way -How you can deal with these feelings and allow yourself to pivot and breathe

How are you tolerating BS? Come share with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them.

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 5: Signs Dec 24, 2020

Do you believe in signs from above? Have you ever experienced a sign from a loss that let you know everything is going to be okay?

We think signs are a very important aspect of your grief journey but you have to be in a good place with your grief, so that you are open and willing to see signs. In today’s episode, we are exploring signs and what they can mean for your grief. We are sharing the signs we have personally experienced and how they have helped us as we grieve the loss of our loved ones.

When you get to a place where you are ready to see these signs, it truly is pure magic. It’s not scary or sad, but it actually feels like a hug and a sign from above that they are still here and that we will see them again. Some may think signs are crazy or just a coincidence but if it makes us feel better and if it makes you feel better, then we say, go with it! We hope this episode allows you and gives you permission to be open to seeing signs if and when you are ready.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why signs can be magical, comforting, and helpful when you are grieving -Some of the signs that we have experienced -How it can take time to be ready to see signs but it will come if you are open to it

Have you experienced signs from your loss? If so, share them with us over on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. We would love to connect with you!

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them.

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 4: Tools in Your Toolbox Part 1 Dec 17, 2020

When you suffer a loss, you are basically handed an empty toolbox of how to deal with grief. In this episode, we are giving you permission to start putting your own tools in your toolbox. We discuss just a few of the tools that have helped us (and some that didn’t) BUT here’s a disclaimer- not every tool is going to work for every person. For instance, a tool that works for Lori may not work for Missy and vice versa. We want you to find what works best for you so that they can help you when you have those hard days.

Wherever you are in your grief journey, if you have been grappling with it for years or if this is something more recent, and your toolbox is empty, that’s okay. It can take awhile to fill it up but know that there are things you can do to help you get through the difficult times associated with grief.

In this episode, you will hear: -Why having tools in your toolbox will help you in your grief journey -Some tools that have helped Lori and Missy (and some that haven’t) -Why it can take some time to start finding tools that can help

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. You can also find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. Please reach out, we would love to connect with you!

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 3: The Hard in the Holidays Dec 10, 2020

When this episode releases, it will be December, which is holiday time and tends to be one of the hardest times for anyone who has suffered any sort of loss. In a time of celebration and cheer, sometimes that is the very last thing you feel like doing. It is important that you honor that and remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is just your way.

Over the years, we have learned some strategies and ways to not only deal with the hard in the holidays, but to thrive in them. When it comes to grieving, you have to find the good in your grief. We share how we found ours with the hope that we spark something to allow you to go find yours.

In this episode, you will hear: -Our first hard in our holidays and how we got through them -Some things that have helped us and hope will help you -Advice to those who haven’t personally gone through a loss but knows someone who has

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. You can also find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. Please reach out, we would love to connect with you!

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 2: Our Stories Dec 10, 2020

If you have listened to the Trailer or Episode 1, then you know that Missy is a mom who lost her child and Lori is a child who lost both of her parents. In this episode, we are sharing our stories of how we both suffered unexpected, tremendous losses and earned our badge to this undesirable, but very real, grief club. This is all from our hearts today as we get raw and share why we are here and the grief we experienced and have to deal with every day. Not going to lie, you will need your tissues (there will be laughter too!). But we want you to know what we’ve been through and think it is important so you can see how we are living now and provide you with some hope.

This podcast and this platform is our way of reaching out and helping those who are grieving to find their good in their grief and to help them heal. We know that we all grieve differently and there is no timeline in grief so it is not going to look the same. But that is why we are here- to give you the permission slip to grieve your way.

In this episode, you will hear: -The tremendous and unexpected losses we both suffered -Why it’s important that we share our stories -What we hope you will gain from listening

Tune in to Episode 3 as we talk about how we get through “the hard” in the holidays and the year of firsts.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. You can also find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. Please reach out, we would love to connect with you!

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.

Thank you for listening!

Episode 1: What Is Good Grief, People! Dec 10, 2020

Welcome to the first episode of the Good Grief, People! podcast! We are so excited to finally be getting this show out into the world as it has been on our hearts and minds for a very long time. We have both been through the most severe losses imaginable and have learned how to find good in it, to find hope in it, and to use it to fuel us to show up and live our best possible lives. And that is our goal for you with this podcast- to help you find your good in your grief so you can live your best life possible.

This podcast is for anyone who has suffered a loss of any kind- and actually, that means this podcast is for everyone, because no one is immune to loss. We will ALL suffer through loss in this world. Whether it is a loss of a child, parent, puppy, a financial loss, or loss of identity. Join us as we go through this journey together and share what we’ve learned to find the good in grief.

In this episode, you will hear: -A little background on us and why we are starting this podcast -Who this podcast is for (hint, hint- everyone!) -What you can expect to hear each week

Get your hearts ready for Episode 2 as we are getting raw and going to be sharing our stories of how we both suffered unexpected, tremendous losses and earned our badge to this undesirable, but very real, grief club.

If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. You can also find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. Please reach out, we would love to connect with you!

Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".

Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help even more people.

Thank you for listening!

Trailer Nov 16, 2020

Welcome to the Good Grief, People! Podcast! The podcast that gives you a permission slip to grieve your way.

Let’s be honest people, grief sucks!!

Co-hosts Missy Gaspard and Lori Miggins know this first hand and all too well. In this trailer, you will find out a little bit about them, why they are starting this podcast, and what you can expect to hear as you tune in each week.

Their hope is that what they share weekly will provide a greater source of love, light, and softness to this heavy issue that affects so many. So get your tissue boxes ready as there will be tears, but not to worry, there will certainly be fun and laughter (and some colorful words!) as well!

These two should have never met, but they did. And now they are coming together for a greater purpose to help each other and you find the light in the darkness and the good in the grief.

The Good Grief, People! Podcast launches Thursday, December 10th, so get ready to tune in and binge listen! Subscribe now so you don't miss an episode!!

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