GilandBrenda

Latest Episodes:

S2 Episode 19 STEPDADS Unsung Heroes Oct 25, 2021

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Unsung Heroes is encouragement for Dads in a Stepfamily. Although, ALL dads will benefit from this 8 episode video series. Gil shares why and how he created this resource for men

S2 Episode 18 MARRIAGE The #1 Marriage Killer Sep 21, 2021

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A sure-fire way to murder your marriage and bury your relationship...find out how to avoid this!

S2 Episode 17 MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP Touch Points Jun 22, 2021

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Drift and Apathy can wreak havoc in a relationship.

How you watch TV may directly impact this! Gil and Brenda share 12 ways (you can come up with more) how couples can have “touchpoints” in their relationship. It’s in the things that we do every day. We miss the opportunity to connect…which launches us right toward the killers in marriage. Believe it or not, even sharing a laugh can be a touchpoint…a connection. It’s in the sinews (the little touchpoints) that muscles (your marriage) get stronger. We don’t need to make this more complicated!

It’s the little things that make a marriage and it’s the little things that destroy it.

ACTION STEPS:

1. Listen to this podcast together.

2. Which ideas did you resonate with?

3. What kind of touchpoints could you add?

4. Be intentional and do them!

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S2 Episode 16 STEPFAMILY (all kids) Rocks in the Bucket Jun 09, 2021

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Gil and Brenda share a concept they have been sharing in their presentations for years. “Rocks in the Bucket” helps give your kids a voice. When done correctly, you empower your children to tell you the truth of how they are feeling. The system is built on you honoring them as they try to honor you with something hard to say. It’s a win/win.

We all carry around an invisible bucket; it represents our well being. Family members, friends, coworkers can all put rocks in our buckets….and we can put rocks in their buckets! This is an easy way to share this with someone when rocks start flying!

ACTION STEPS:

1. Find a metal bucket and 3 rocks.

2. Demonstrate (as we did) how this works.

3. Ask them what they think? Talk about examples where they have felt rocks in their bucket.

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S2 Episode 15 STEPDADS Stepdad to Stepdad Pt 2 Feb 02, 2021

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This is part 2 of an interview with Gil Stuart. There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 in part 1 and the remaining 3 in part 2.

1. What is a relational safety zone?

2. It’s ok to love your mom.

3. A rock and a hard spot; You between your wife and your kids.

Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they could tell their wives.

ACTION STEPS:

Guys: Have an honest conversation with your wife about these topics. Which do you resonate with more…and why?

Gals: Be quiet and listen. Do not interrupt… and listen. Do not be judgmental. Be loving. You are holding your husband’s heart. Be gentle. Put on the glasses of curiosity.

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S2 Episode 14 STEPDADS Stepdad to Stepdad Part 1 Jan 19, 2021

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There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 are in this Part 1.

1. How to contend with the infamous “you’re not my dad!”

2. What is reverse betrayal?

3. Stepdads who demand too much too soon.

Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they could tell their wives.

ACTION STEPS:

Guys: Have an honest conversation with your wife about these topics. Which do you resonate with…and why?

Gals: Be quiet and listen. Do not interrupt… and listen. Do not be judgmental. Be loving. You are holding your husband’s heart. Be gentle. Put on the glasses of curiosity.

Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers

#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles

#conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp

#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast

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S2 Episode 13 MARRIAGE The Husk of the Heart: What Are You Looking For? Jan 08, 2021

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A heart with a hard husk views the world with a negative sentiment. Gil and Brenda talk about breaking down the husk and how it affects our relationships: marriage, friends, coworkers, etc.

Positive or Negative: What lens do we look at our spouse through? If it’s been negative, how do we change it? How does that soften our own heart when we do that? Be aware. Be intentional.

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Action Steps:

1. Look for ways your spouse/friend/whoever does or says something positive

2. When having a bad day, ask them for a word of encouragement (put pride a side)

3. Reciprocate and exchange encouraging words/acts.

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S2 Episode 12 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #4 Vulnerability is a strength! Dec 22, 2020

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This is the fourth podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged!

“Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged." ... "This is how true intimacy is achieved. We are known, accepted, supported and loved.”

This is an important topic for Gil and Brenda. Although vulnerability often is interpreted as being weak, quite the opposite is true. It takes courage to be vulnerable. Couples who are vulnerable have a deeper level of intimacy and have a feeling of peace, confidence and safety in their relationship. Learn some new ways to be vulnerable in your relationship!

Action steps

1. If you got burned by being vulnerable, what would it take to try again?

2. By sharing your thoughts, feelings, challenges, and weaknesses how will that strengthen your relationship?

3. If vulnerability takes courage, what is one simple step you can take to me courageous for the sake of your relationship?

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S2 Episode 11 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #3 Got Trust? You are valued and Loved Dec 08, 2020

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This is the third podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged!

Because of your family of origin, past relationships, or just life, your level of trust can be deflated. Violation of trust can lead to pain and confusion. Gil and Brenda talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. If damaged, how do you repair it? What are the two outcomes of trustworthiness? Couples who have high trust in their relationship can make choices, are valued and feel loved.

Action Steps

1.How can you create a high trust environment in your relationship?

2. Ask for what you want (without demanding) being assertive and humble.

3. If trust has been violated have a conversation about the roots of that violation. Is the past affecting the present? Gently ask, why they don’t feel safe.

(put on the glasses of curiosity, not judgement, blame or defense…listen!)

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S2 Episode 10 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #2 Connection: How Do I Improve it? Nov 23, 2020

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This is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged!

Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t even notice. We all want connection but how do we get it? Gil and Brenda share the depths of what dis-connection looks like and what a couple does when they are experiencing connection. Being approachable, available and accessible is the foundation of a good connection. Get ready to use your hands as Gil demonstrates this subject in a way you’ll never forget!

Action steps:

1. Make a list: How do you feel when you are disconnected from your spouse?

2. Make a list: How do you feel when you are connected with your spouse?

3. Have this conversation with your spouse: (reminder: put on the glasses of curiosity. Do not go into judgement, blame or shame. You are honestly

asking so you BOTH can improve your relationship!)

How can I be more connected, what do I need to change/adjust?

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