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TPP 112: Differently Wired is Finally Here! Special Book Release Episode Jun 12, 2018

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TiLT founder Debbie Reber is interviewed by Donna Bardsley about her book, "Differently Wired"—why she wrote it, who it's for, and what she hopes it does in the world.

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TPP 111: Katherine Reynolds Lewis Tells us the Good News About Bad Behavior Jun 05, 2018

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In week’s podcast episode, we’re talking about bad behavior. Specifically, The Good News About Bad Behavior. That’s the name of a new book by journalist, author, speaker, and parent educator, Katherine Lewis, and in this episode, Katherine and I talk about what our kids’ behavior is telling us and how we as parents, teachers, and other adults in kids’ lives can best respond to it while encouraging our kids to develop into healthy adults.

In researching and writing her book, Katherine connected with one of our favorite parenting thought leaders, Dr. Ross Greene, and reframed her own thinking about bad behavior as being a child’s way of demonstrating lagging skills. Katherine’s book aims to help parents navigate tricky behavioral situations and work with their children toward better solutions. I really enjoyed this conversation and hope it offers you some good food for thought.

Katherine Reynolds Lewis is an award-winning journalist and author of The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever – And What to Do About It. Her work has appeared in the Atlantic, Fortune, Money, Mother Jones, The New York Times, Parade, Slate, USA Today’s magazine group, the Washington Post Magazine and Working Mother. She holds a BA in physics from Harvard University and is a certified parent educator with the Parent Encouragement Program (PEP) in Kensington, Md.

Things you’ll learn from this episode

How parents can shift their mindset in the way they think about behavior
Why our kids’ need to experience failure, and why modeling it for them can be so powerful
How to let go of what others think of our approach to parenting and discipline
Ways parents can compassionate advocate for and educate others about our children
What Katherine hopes her book does in the world in terms of changing the conversation surrounding behavior
What the good news about bad behavior actually is

Resources on the good news about bad behavior

Katherine Lewis’ website
The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever, and What to Do About It by Katherine R. Lewis
Katherine Lewis on Facebook
Katherine Lewis on Twitter
Katherine Lewis on Instagram
The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Dr. Ross Greene
Lives in the Balance (Dr. Greene’s website)

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TPP 110: A Conversation Between Debbie and 13-year-old Asher About Education May 29, 2018

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In this special kid’s POV edition, 13-year-old Asher shares his thoughts about learning and education, including how he thinks traditional schooling could meet the needs of atypical kids.

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TPP 109: Author and entrepreneur Jonathan Fields on How to Live a Good Life May 22, 2018

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Author, entrepreneur, and founder of the Good Life Project Jonathan Fields talks about his book "How to Live a Good Life: Soulful Stories, Surprising Science and Practical Wisdom."

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TPP 108: Dr. Laura Anderson on Gender Noncomformity and Differently Wired Kids May 15, 2018

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Clinical child and family psychologist Dr. Laura Anderson talks about gender noncomformity in children and explores the link between autism and gender dysphoria and gender fluidity.

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TPP 106: Author and Parent Coach Julie King on Sibling Dynamics May 01, 2018

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If you are the parent of more than one child, neurotypical or atypical, this is an episode you are definitely going to want to listen to. I get requests for topics from listeners all the time (which, by the way, is great…please keep them coming!), and one of the most common requests is for an episode specifically on sibling relationships. So I found the perfect guest to talk about the sibling dynamic—parent educator Julie King.

Julie co-authored the book How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen, a Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 alongside Joanna Faber, and leads dynamic lecture/presentations for schools and other parent organizations. Among the workshops she offers is one based on Siblings Without Rivalry, and she brings to her work the perspective of having raised two differently-wired and one neurotypical kids herself. I’m really excited to share this conversation with you, and I hope to do more episodes on this topic.

Julie King has been educating and supporting parents since 1995. In addition to her work with individual parents and couples, she is a highly regarded parenting workshop leader and public presenter. Her most popular workshops, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen, are based on the bestselling books of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish and her own book, written with Joanna Faber.

THINGS YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

What the common challenges are for siblings in families with differently wired kids
Best practices for creating and maintaining family harmony
How to approach conflict resolution in a way that’s respectful, peaceful, and fosters growth
The power of the “reframe” conflicts as problems in need of solutions
How to handle “inequalities” in the amount of attention and/or resources one sibling may be receiving over another due to neurodifferences
Strategies for addressing one child’s anger about or resentment of their sibling
The key to finding solutions to sibling conflicts that get everyone’s needs met

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Julie King’s website
How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 by Joanna Faber and Julie King
How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen Facebook Page
How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen (website)

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TPP 105: Educator Zach Morris on World-View Transformation Apr 24, 2018

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This is a conversation about children and flexible thinking with educator, co-founder of the Learn Inc school, and founder of Alive at Learn, Zach Morris. I had Zach on the show almost a year ago for a fascinating conversation on whole-person learning and the power of using a nonviolent communication model in schools. Today we’re going to go deep into the idea of how we as parents, caregivers, and educators can facilitate what Zach calls “world-view transformation” or flexible thinking in children. In other words, how can we help our differently wired kids change their thinking and perspective in a way that not only preserves our relationship with them, but results in the best possible outcome for our kids?

Zach is a thought-leader in education. He is committed to the cultivation of person-centered learning communities built on compassion and whole-person growth. Zach supports individuals, families, and organizations in creating supportive structures for people working to make a change in themselves and in their relationships.

Things you’ll learn from this episode:

What world-view transformation is and why it’s something we’re working on facilitating with our kids, whether we realize it or not
What we as parents and educators are getting wrong as we work to help our kids shift their thinking
The importance of tapping into our child’s (and our) “window of tolerance”
The difference between compliance and consent when it comes to getting our kids to “buy in”
The role of “fixed versus growth mindset” in world view
Why our relationship with our child is the most important thing
The importance of modeling and patience, a.k.a. this is a process
How we can best facilitate world-view transformation through honesty and openness

Resources mentioned for supporting children in flexible thinking:

Alive at Learn (Zach’s website)
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg’s Global Organization)
Institute of Noetic Sciences
Carl Rogers (on Positive Psychology Program)
Zach Morris on Emotionally Support Children Through Difficult Periods (podcast episode)
Non-Violent Communication, Whole-Person Learning, and Neurodiverse Students (podcast episode)

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TPP 104: Dr. Lori Baudino on the Power of Movement, Dance, and the Mind/Body Connection Apr 17, 2018

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Dance/movement therapist Dr. Lori Baudino talks about how teaching differently wired kids to tap into the mind-body connection can help with emotional regulation, social communication, and more.

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TPP 103: Margaret Webb On How to Get Through the Most Difficult Moments With Our Kids Apr 10, 2018

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Parenting coach Margaret Webb shares her best strategies for dealing with our children's intense and explosive behavior, both in the moment and in the aftermath.

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