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This week, we're blasting through a bunch of questions as quickly as we can. We'll cover questions related to topics such as: capitalism, wildly decadent baby showers, ADHD, biphobia, and not being a gamer. We've also got a bunch of thank-yous to force you to listen to, and we'll even go over all our best friendship advice so you'll never have to listen through our entire podcast backlog.
Thank you for listening. (You're welcome for talking.)
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Class solidarity means paying your friends fairly! But sometimes, our buds would prefer a little special treatment, even if we can't reasonably give it to them. This week, we'll go over what to say when your friends demand a discount, what to go over in an Informational Email, and when you might want to perhaps consider maybe possibly updating your prices perchance.
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After seven years, it's the beginning of the end. This is the first of the last three episodes of the Friendshipping podcast. But good news for all you Friendshippers: this is also the beginning... of the beginning?! Soon, Friendshipping will transition into a newsletter. We'll get you the details as soon as we have them, but until then, we're going to shout in confusion over this week's question. When should you hold your ground in an argument with friends? How can one reasonably maintain peace in a group Airbnb? What chore could have possibly been worth a half hour of awkward fighting to not do it?? All this and more, on this, the third to the last episode of the Friendshipping podcast.
Our asker this week lacks one of the MANY very specific skills that society asks us all to have, and guess what? It ain't that big a deal! Tune in this week for a spirited conversation about how bad cars are. We also go over the etiquette of carpooling, some High-Quality Car Passenger moves, and the fundamentals of gas money. Once again, basic math saves the day.
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Trin talks about her dog from 3m40s - about 9m15s.
We discuss cars almost the entire dang episode.
If you want to know what your friends want, you’ll have to either ask them, or search your memory banks in hopes you can recall what they actually asked of you in the first place. This week, we’re going to be careful with how we share our expertise, we’re going to be mindful of what our words can do to our friends’ confidence, and we’re going to grow out our bangs. Difficult tasks, surely, but we believe in you.
If there’s one thing we at Friendshipping Incorporated can promise you, it’s that if we read your question on the show, we will answer it to the best of our ability. Today, we give an answer that nobody wants to ever receive, and it goes a little something like this: You fucked up, buddy!! Stay tuned for topics such as pandemic weddings, friends from past lives, and centering yourself when you really shouldn’t. CWs for pandemic chats and wedding talks.
In this absolute doozy of an episode, our asker hopes to save a long-term friendship that has recently plummeted down the toilet. Unfortunately, his friend has absorbed and accepted a whole lot of questionable-to-terrible opinions from YouTube. What can a person do when their friend becomes a bad faith contrarian? We're not quite sure, but other topics include: coping mechanisms, flushing turds, and treating an unreasonable person as though they are a reasonable person.
In this week's thrilling installment of Friendshipping, we're discussing pre-grets: The regret-like feelings that plague a person before anything bad has even happened yet. We'll also cover making tough choices, kicking your own ass, and starting up The Ex Wive's Club.
Friendship and Food are two of our favorite F words. But sometimes the etiquette of dining with pals can be a bit tricky! This week we'll discuss screwing up, doing better, and cringing quietly to yourself every night as you go over your Personal Mistakes: Greatest Hits album in your mind.
(Heads up: we talk about religion and food a lot in this episode.)
A new, interesting, and difficult thing has occurred: this week’s asker is going through a life transition and experiencing bittersweet nostalgia. Today you will hear about cherishing memories whilst you make new ones, enjoying all of the lives and identities you will inhabit, and the infamous hole in the bathroom ceiling of Trin’s first apartment.
A group of friends is fracturing, and now there are far too many group chats for this week’s asker to keep up with. Let’s take a deep dive into the impermanence of friend groups, the importance of stated boundaries, and defaulting to the lowest level of contact. In other news: Trin has a new robot, Jenn takes her own advice, and everyone is a dork for Star Wars.
I'm fixated on one friend who doesn't seem as invested as I am. In fact, I find myself obsessing about our level of communication. I feel caught in this loop of waiting to be talked to, and sending messages that don't always get replies. How can I get unstuck? Here's an episode about investing in YOURSELF. Also introducing Susan, Trin's new Texas neighbor. Content warnings for discussion of COVID and therapy.
Alright folks, let's say it one more time, with feeling: Crushes are mostly meaningless. And past crushes? Extremely meaningless. This week, we'll discuss coming out piece by piece, tappin' some mapes, and how no gay+ people should ever have problems ever again.
Quick edit: You don't have to be straight, gay, or bi+. You can be anything, friends! There is a whole cornucopia of human sexuality (including but not limited to ace+ and aro+), and you're in there!
Here's an episode about how to talk to your friends about your break ups, or how to not talk about them, if that's your preference. And don't miss our new segment, Adding Jenn's Name To Song Titles!
CWs: divorce, brief mention of COVID-19.
In this week's episode, we discuss the astounding fact that we can start seeing people again, and what that might mean! A special thank you to Jamie Sanchez for guesting as our expert extrovert: https://jamiesanchez.com/
We also highly recommend checking out her Cowboy Bebop rewatch podcast, The Bebop Beat: https://thebebopbeat.simplecast.com/
CW for discussion of COVID-19.
You are cool and interesting, and people want your time. Unfortunately, you are a mere mortal human. You can't just give out your time and energy like free samples at Costco. In this episode, we'll discuss being present for, but not solving, your friends' problems.
Additionally, Seinfeld is bad, Jenn goes for a walk, and Trin subtly reveals that she doesn't understand what other people eat.
One correction: The Leaning Tower of Pisa is doing just fine. Apparently, the leaning isn't a big deal because the tower's center of gravity keeps it upright. Nice!!
It's springtime now folks, and you know what that means: everybody's itching to go out, and everybody's getting vaccinated. Wooo! Though it's still going to be a little while before it's safe to party, this week's asker is already worried about their guest list. Turns out, one of their friends is kind of a bummer, but the asker already invited them to boogie down with their Fun Friends in the future. Is there an amicable way to navigate this? Also featured this week is an in-depth discussion of the status of our respective thighs. Enjoy.
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When seeking advice about joking around with your pals, asking two people who have a podcast about friendship and also occasionally write comedy for a living is a pretty solid place to start. Today we’ll talk about being too depressed to find anything funny, being too funny to shut up, and being a Sensitive Badass.
Please note that in this episode, it sounds like we recommend the movie Emily in Paris. We do not. That was a joke.
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Roommates: can't live with 'em, can't afford an apartment without 'em. Sometimes they're friends, and sometimes they're just another human being stinking up your home. It's time to set some ground rules, bust out some clear communication, and stock up on hella coping mechanisms. We also discuss murdering Leonardo DiCaprio, the subtleties of living with a person with ADHD, and how deeply mad we are about people skipping in line for the COVID vaccine. Like...really, really mad. Please don't do that? Please? Thanks.
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When your coworkers describe themselves as a close knit dysfunctional family, are you obligated to participate? This week, we'll talk about how very healthy and normal it is to have a job that is "just a job." We'll also discuss why you should never, ever admit that out loud. Also: Jenn discovers The OmegaBunny, and Trin has an adventure in sunless tanning.
CW: At about 27m40s going forward, we have a COVID-related discussion of what "returning to normal" might look like, and what that even means.
Teens these days have a lot going on! Too much, if you ask us. This week we'll discuss never going to therapy, always protecting your energy, and occasionally telling your friends information about yourself sometimes. Have you ever wondered what Jenn and Trin were like as teens? Well, this is the episode for you. Journalism Bad Boy Jenn Bane and Makeout King Trin Garritano, at your service.
A very nice bisexual woman has been repeatedly failed by the members of her book club—and not just in the normal ways, like never reading any of the books! Instead, they're failing her in much more disappointing, homophobic, misogynist ways, and quite frankly, we are pretty miffed. Join us for a rousing discussion of getting good grades from your therapist, wielding your privilege, and just quitting your horrible book club already.
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The phrase "mirrors, windows, and sliding doors" was coined in 1990 by Dr. Rudine Sims Bishop. Here's an explanation from the Institute for Humane Education.
Extroverts in the pandemic. Much like dark matter, our calculations suggest that they must exist, but we've had no hard evidence or firsthand accounts... UNTIL NOW. Our asker wants to know if she should just give up and move on from her less-active friendships. What's a socially starved extrovert to do? This week we also discuss writing exercises, Trin's scalp, and how deeply angry we are about the question we're going to answer next week.
CW: Hair loss (3m42s - 6m02s)
There are few things more frustrating than attempting to take an Internet Cleanse... only to be continuously derailed by memes from your pals. This week, we'll discuss discouraging your friends from sending you links to Instagram drama, and Internet Privilege, and Trin's poor little boogery face.
Tale as old as balls: All of your friends really love doing ONE THING together, and it's the ONE THING that you simply do not want to do. Today's asker is tired of playing the often stressful online game "Among Us." Sounds like it's time again for stating some needs and boundaries!
If you're looking for games to play online with your friends, check out Trin's twitter thread here for more suggestions from #TruGamerz.
No matter how cool you may be (and we're pretty sure you're super cool), every human being in history has experienced rejection. This week, our asker wonders if it's worth reaching back out to a group of friends who removed her from their ongoing DnD game, but does not consider that she herself may have done something wrong. Interesting!
Today’s asker brings extremely relatable content: How can I be in touch with my friends, without actually expending the energy to have a conversation? We’ll discuss leaving “love packets” for your pals, the benefits of living underground, and how impressive it is any time you can give even a small amount of time to someone you love. Thanks to Trista Sutter for having us on Better Etc. Also, if you’ve read our book, please leave a review! We would very much appreciate it.
I haven't heard from my friend in a long time. Like: a lonnnng time. Are we still friends? This week, we discuss how equally valid all of the following options are: giving up, giving up for now but then trying again later, or trying now and giving up later.
We're not gonna mince words here. The asker's two best friends became best friends themselves, stopped talking to the asker, and moved in together. Allow us to be the first to say: What the fuck? Today we'll discuss accepting our bad feelings, Minecraft streamer RPF on AO3, and how you shouldn't start physical therapy while you're still in the ICU.
How do I maintain friendships if I have a very, very limited social battery? This week we discuss how to keep yourself charged while still putting in the work and being a supportive, loving friend. Content warnings for discussion of diagnosis, brief mentions of depression, PTSD.
My roommate films the whole damn apartment when he’s on Discord. Is it normal to have Good-Smelling Room Spray in your bathroom? Cohabitation in the Age of COVID is tricky, but we’ve got special guest co-host Billie Bullock to help sort us out!
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A special note:
Trin would like to acknowledge that there was indeed a time they bought the vegan propaganda of “vegetarian poops smell less bad.” Also, Trin apologizes for her terrible mic etiquette throughout.
Learn more about Billie here. Check out their monthly online comedy show Congrats on your Success right here.
We found the only people on Earth who are consistently, meticulously getting ready for Zoom calls, and they are driving this week’s asker a little bonkers. Let us discuss this rare species and how to handle it when your friends look so perfect that it’s starting to give you feelings. Also covered: Chris Evans’ useless muscles, the deep satisfaction of a warm bowl of oatmeal, and how greasy and filthy we are, in detail.
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Alone time: a precious commodity in these trying times. How can I ask for and receive alone time when I'm stuck inside an apartment with two other adults 24 hours a day? This week, we'll discuss creating conditions that work for you and your housemates, just locking the freakin bedroom door already, and Trin's "two-hour long" Jimmy Eat World Greatest Hits Playlist (which in reality clocks in at 2 hours 57 minutes).
"My neighbors in having parties, not wearing masks in our apartment common spaces, and in no way following pandemic protocol. What can I do?" We've got some ideas to kick around. One involves laminating! Also, Jenn has a realization, and Trin takes a bathroom break. Content warnings for COVID; brief mentions of death and aging.
A listener wants to know how to best support her friends right now, even as she is feeling bad herself. This one's about managing the rage, ADHD coping mechanisms, and what you can do for yourself between therapy sessions.
"I’m quarantining, and my friends are not. What can I do?" This week, everyone we know is staying home and not breathing on anyone, including the wonderful person who asked today’s question.
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We also have two online events this week, and we'd love to see you there:
One more thing: Because she's our hero, here’s the article by our hero Captain Awkward.
My friends are stressed. Can I tell them to take a break from the news cycle? Our answer is yes, no, maybe, and sometimes! Here's an episode about absorbing the world's crap like a Bounty paper towel.
This week: we're here, we're very tired, and we're discussing envy between friends. What if you and your friend want the exact same darn thing, but your friend is coming by it much more easily than you are? Also: Jenn speaks on behalf of the humble apple, and Trin puts their foot down for perhaps the very first time.
We're back, we're online, and we're not entirely sure if we remember how to talk to people. Let's find out! This week, an asker wonders: When should I switch therapists? How do I know if this therapist is The One? We're here to give you our hottest therapy tips, appreciate one another, and read from our upcoming book. Content warnings: The first nine minutes revolve around coping with existential dread, loss, and social distancing.
What is the right thing to do? What should you do when you tried to do the right thing, but ended up doing the wrong thing? We hope you’re in the mood for a good, deep cringe! After Animal Crossing and plants banter, we detail some choice moments when we really screwed the heck up, and how we made amends and recovered in the aftermath. CWs In banter (first 14 min): Humorous/cartoon skeleton, death, fake murder mentions. After banter: Racism, social mistakes discussion. Trump admin mention. 9m20s: Humorous 9/11 mention. 34m50s: Mention of Trump’s history of sexual assault. Dismissal of social injury, pussy hat discussion.
The first asker is caught between two friends going through a sudden divorce, oh no! The second asker isn't freaking out about COVID, and can't understand why everyone else seems to feel differently. Hm!! Most importantly, we want to know: Why do all men go through a phase of hitting each other in the testicles? Aaaa!!! CWs: - Discussion of testicles and kicking them, first ten minutes of the show. - Discussion of divorce, death throughout show. - Big death mention at 27m20s, big climate change mention at 37m00s. - Poop mention, eating poop mention 27m20s
Sometimes, you just need a little more. We’re here to help you figure out how to effectively ask for it. How can I get my friends to talk freely about their guilty pleasures? What can I do to encourage my buds to initiate more conversations and online hangouts? In personal news, Jenn has started Animal Crossing, and Trin waxes poetic about her Wonder Woman emotions. Content Warnings: - Food mentions around 7m00s, 7m50s, and 18m18s. - COVID-heavy second question. - Occasional joking references to porn starting at 14m08s. - Death mention 19m43s.
First up: “I was out on leave and I’m worried my coworkers are resentful that I’ve been gone. What can I do to feel less terrible about this?” Then, “I feel closer to my coworkers through this pandemic trauma. Is this why hazing works?” Around Friendshipping Headquarters, Jenn just started playing Animal Crossing, and Trin can’t stop screaming. Big week all around for everyone. Production note: Trin is wrong; Spanish Flu was not our most recent pandemic. But she is correct that we did not have The Internet back then. CWs: Discussions of COVID and hazing
Today on this here podcast, it’s all about being polite on our favorite utopia simulator, Animal Crossing. What’s the tea on Blood? Do you leave a tip for big gains on the Stonk Market? Why is my friend sitting motionless on a log? Whew! Now that we got that out of our collective system, we’ll be back on Thursday with your regular friendship programming.
“My friend mailed me $50. She’s the worst, right?” This week, Jenn wonders if there’s a gas leak, Trin deeply mispronounces “Oregon,” and neither of us can quite wrap our brains around an asker who feels grievously wronged by a sorta disappointing wedding gift, I guess. Thank goodness, the second question is about Animal Crossing (but is applicable to the other social tech that we now rely on for human interaction). CWs: Queerphobia, and money are discussed at length. COVID mentions.
Is it okay to like having time off from work? Jenn and Trin tell you the hard truth about enjoying your life. We also get down with house envy, the box full of personal shame that lives in everyone’s home, and empathizing with your bored house cat on a level you never thought possible. CWs: Discussion ADD/ADHD spectrum. Brief, sudden masturbation mention when we read the first question.
Mary Tyler Moore, the real one*, wants to know how to deal with the guilt of her shelter-in-place privilege in relation to her friend Ethel, who has it much harder as the single caretaker of four kids and one adult nurse. This week we once again validate an asker and everything they are doing. Plus: How to gracefully exit a group video call when everyone knows you don’t have anything better to do, and Tom Nook is an oligarch who must be deposed, his monopolies disbanded, and his assets redistributed to the people. *real in the existential sense CWs: Humorous, metaphorical mentions of blood. Discussion of COVID. Poop mentions, Casual death mentions. Trin goes on an anti-capitalist rant again.
How can we fight off the terrible dark feelings of pessimism? And what can I do when my friends set up wayyy too many group video calls? I don’t have anything else to do, and they know it, so I feel like I have to go to all of them. Help! This episode once again starts with a Pop Culture Corner, with some mentions of cinematic violence. Are you all into that segment? Should we keep doing it? Let us know! CW: COVID discussion throughout, discussion of the fall of civilization/human extinction Send your questions to FriendshippingPodcast@gmail.com.
How should I check on my friends while we're social distancing? Is asking "how are you?" a silly question right now? We're all in this alone together! Content warnings for discussion of COVID-19.
My friend sends me extremely long text messages. Paragraphs and paragraphs. All the time. Can I clue her in that this is a little much for me? This one's got advice, a little bit of Love is Blind, a little bit of politics, some quotes from literature, everything you could ever want. CW: at 3:00 min, hyperbolic cancer mention; discussion of politics; brief mention of COVID-19.
We've got a listener who is new to town! "I (he/him, gay) was lucky enough to graduate from college and move to Chicago. How do I go about finding Hobbies for Gays™ that I’m interested in? How have you made and found friends after getting out of school?" Here's some ideas for meeting new people and finding a community. CW: repeated use of the word 'penis' in the first three minutes.
"I told my best friend not to share my pronouns with his parents so they don't tell MY parents, but he did anyway. How can I move forward from this?" This week's episode is all about boundaries, respect, and privacy, with a little metal smithing thrown in for good measure. Do better, Jared!!! CW: depression (brief), gender identities.
"I’m throwing a Galentine’s Day party. I’m not sure if I should invite my (AFAB, she/they) non-binary friend. How can I do this without making them feel misgendered?" How timely! Includes discussion about Birds of Prey and our absolute perfect taste in movies. CWs: gender discussion, genitalia mentions, discussion of sexual assault portrayals in movies, Trin lists several queer stereotypes in a row (humorous intent).
Do you have to make nice and visit with your distant family members? In this episode we discuss your obligations, if any, to your family and buds. Frankly, you gotta wonder: what's the point of having an aunt in Europe if you can't jet off to Paris. CWs: frank homophobia discussion, parents, transphobia, racism mentions.
"My friend is undergoing a volatile divorce. It's making him angry and impatient, and he's even made a few jabs at me. How do I handle this?" Allow us to give you permission to take a break from your friends! Put 'em on ice for now! And don't miss another gripping Pop Culture Corner. CW: divorce, break-ups, depression, size/weight, and shopping with your mother
"I've become friends with my massage therapist, and now when I go in for an appointment, we end up just hanging out instead of giving me the massage I need!" Here's an episode about boundaries with friends who also provide a professional service for you. There's a very minor spoiler for the show CHEER in the first ten minutes (it's not really a spoiler, but just incase). Please note strong content warnings for sex and vaginas.
We hear from a listener in an open marriage who wants to maybe make a move on a new friend. This episode's got everything: Oscar snubs, metalworking class, make a haiku together, and even some advice. Content warnings for marriage discussion, dating, sex.
Do you HAVE to be friends with your partners friends? No, you do not. Look, some friendships just aren't meant to work out. Just people are meant to be polite acquaintances and that's A-OK. This episode is about deciding not to struggle through a makeshift, forced relationship. You have enough to worry about. Content warnings for discussion of insecurities!
This one's about people who flake. Some friends just don't show up when they say they will. Some friends are unreliable. When's the right time to cut the cord and move on? Let's discuss! Please note: content warning for discussion of parent death.
A question older than Father Time: Can I be friends with my ex? SHOULD I be friends with my ex? In this case, we're here to give you a resounding and loving "no."
A listener wants to know how to be a better roommate, especially because her roommate is too midwestern to say what they need! Meanwhile, Jenn & Trin go places they have never been before. Stick around to the end for this one, folks. Content warnings: around 33:00, the word penis is mentioned roughly 500 times.
"I am going to be a bridesmaid next year for a friend. The problem is, this friend has some very offensive things about another friends of ours--like doubting her struggles with suicidal thoughts and depression." This one's about handling (or NOT HANDLING) a friend who is being incredibly unkind! We also dive into that Twitter thread about the template. You know the one! (Content warnings for broad discussion of mental health, depression, suicide.)
This week, we tackle: "I'm in a group chat and one of the participants has blocked me. We used to be friends, but we're not any longer. I hate that she thinks I'm toxic because I'm not the same person I was back then." Some people don't want to be your friend. This hurts. This sucks. No denying that. But fortunately there are about 8 billion other people on the planet. Here are some thoughts on moving on from mistakes, learning, growing, you know the deal. Content warnings: discussion of misgendering around 4:00 minute mark.
"My friend's boyfriend won't leave me alone on Instagram." This episode is literally about someone sliding into your DMs. Listen as we become physically and emotionally overheated! Content warnings for discussions of harassment and misogyny.
Collaborating with your pals! Sometimes it goes poorly! The question: “I was working on a professional project with my friend. She completely botched the deadline and really let me down. How do I move forward from here?” Counter question: How do we get Jimmy Eat World on our show? Content warnings: 5:02 mentions of fetish, racism. 17:30 animal death, environmental distress. 34:30 balls!
"I have a friend who brags about himself constantly. Every other conversation he starts is about how desirable, intelligent, or successful he is." We've got follow-up questions, such as: "What's it like to have positive self-esteem?" and "So which coast are you from?" Some advice snuck itself in there too.
What if you don't like the person your friend is dating? Can you speak up? Let's discuss the many shades of this very common and confusing topic. Plus. intriguing update on the snail front! Content warning for light sexual content throughout. Gross bug from 9m40s to 10m46s.
Trin is mad online, Jenn finally meets Trin’s snails, and capitalism ruins the party yet again. What can you do about friends who continually try to entrap you into selling crap (makeup, jewelry, Tupperware, sex toys, etc) with them? Shouldn't there be laws regulating this kind of thing? Why do we even have a government?
Content warning 14m05s - 15m30s where we complain about sex toy parties and make several graphic jokes about penises.
Trin cleans off her fire escape, Jenn unloads her feelings about her former neighbors, and together your humble narrators make a stabbing attempt to answer this question: How do I decide who to be friends with? Who is worth investing my time in? Strong language warning for 7:40 to 8:12. Thank you to a listener for sending us pins from your Esty shop! https://www.etsy.com/market/juniper_moon
Jenn shares what is delighting her this week, Trin manages her snail eggs, and a listener writes us to ask if it's OK that she doesn't have or want friends because she just is too exhausted between work and parenting. Is friendship even worth the effort? What if you just don't have energy to socialize? Can you just not have any friends? Is that bad? Is that OK? Do you want to name our book or what?
Great question this week. A listener asks, "How do I know when I'm wanted in social situations? How can I tell?" We've got first-hand insight into this one, as well as snail eggs, night lotion, and hey, do you want to name our book for us? Please and thanks!
A listener brought a friend into her D&D group. New friend is not really acclimating so well. In fact, the other folks want him out! How can you smooth things over here? Should you even?! Content warning for mention of death at 28:27.
A listener wrote us and said they made a bunch of positive life changes and now feel like they need to leave their old group of friends. But first we want to ask: are you sure you should do that? Content warnings: discussions of prisons, brief mention of violence
Best friends, college buds, road trip friends... you can be all of these things! Or none of them! This week, a listener wrote in after they took a hard look at a decades-long friendship and found that it just wasn't what he thought it was. Their old friend just doesn't initiate convos or hang-outs or seem to love them quite the same! Let's discuss having friends who don't treat you quite as you hoped. (Content warnings for brief mention of blood. Raw-doggin’ snails. Trin singing Marvin Gaye instead of Al Green.)
A listener lended out her favorite kitchen mixer to a friend who has not given it back. And this friend now also has a crush on her! We love this question very much. We also love snails, sharks, the ocean, fish tubes, all of it, everything.
Scooters are all the rage! And by that we mean, they're making us feel rage. This week, we heard from a listener who wants to know how to move on from a past hurt: years ago, her friends didn't give her the help she asked for. What now? What do?
Jenn got married, Trin's snails are happy, and a listener loves to play board games with her friends but is feeling a liitttlee uneasy about how she keeps losing at them. Allow us, two certified losers, to help you with this. [Content warnings 2m41-56s - sex mention; 7m17-25s climate emergency mention. Food mentions throughout intro. We throw around “stupid” a lot in this episode.]
Jenn has a nemesis, Trin's snails continue to enjoy their retirement, and a listener wants to know how to make friends and connections online--because their boss wants them to. Uggghhh.
What do you do when you think a friend is crushing on you? Do you speak up? Let it go? We have thoughts. Trin’s snails are doing well btw.
What do you do when you meet a new friend who seems great, but then plants a few red flags? Do you write them off completely? Does anyone want some snails?
A listener doesn't want to be chummy with their new colleagues. We understand! We're also going to challenge you juuust a little, though. Content warning for discussions of social biases, brief mention of racial stereotyping.
Jenn's softball team is being bullied online, Trin visits a spa, and a listener asks how to adjust their inner monologue so they can be be kinder to themselves and their friends. What a lovely idea. You're doing the right thing with your face, by the way. Content warnings this week: discussions of body, fitness, self-esteem.
This week, we heard from an awesome listener who wants to support a friend who is receiving bad treatment from her family for being gay. Strong content warnings for homophobia, discussion of religion. We threw in "levity breaks" to add a little laughter back into this stupid world. Timestamps below! Cancer Mention Start time: 1m35s Duration: 4s Being Gross about the word "Engorged" Start Tim3: 3m19s Duration: 6s Levity Break #1 Start Time: 15m21s Duration: 3m45s Levity Break #2 Start Time: 28m20s Duration 2m12s ANGRY BREAK: Straight Pride Start Time: 33m44s Duration: 3m22s Levity Break #3 37m04s Duration 1m50s
If a friend is visiting the city you live, are you supposed to show them around? Let them crash on your couch? Skip work to hang out together? Really, what are your obligations as a host? We've got answers to this and also quick mentions of vomit from 4:00 to 6:00, feel free to skip that part.
A few dedicated listeners asked us to lighten things up and talk about ourselves for some reason. Careful what you wish for. This week, no advice. Instead, plants, sinus infections, some new projects we're working on(!!!), and finally, FINALLY, we grapple with cinematic masterpiece Detective Pikachu.
Let's get META. Our first asker wants to know the best way to ask us a question without giving away their identity, so we went through some best practices when asking us for advice. The next asker is about to embark on the journey of therapy, and wants to know how to do therapy correctly. CW: mention of animal death, mention of penis injury. If you don't care to hear our animal stories, skip to 12m57s for advice.
My friend has terrible etiquette on Twitter--what do I do? Am I a bad friend if I delete Facebook altogether and sometimes miss birthday notifications? This episode it's about friendship and social media. Listen as we try to convince you to never subtweet again! Content warnings: we get into discussion of pregnancy in the first eight minutes or so.
- My friend uses social media to brag about how busy she is with work. - I was offered a job at a toxic company. My friends keep telling me not to take it, but I need to! This week, it's all about: being annoyed that your friends might be working too much; letting your friends make their own life decisions; and decidedly not grinding yourself down to dust for someone else’s enrichment! Let's do this thang.
"I have become flooded with Facebook messages, at all hours of the day and night, with my friend pouring her life out. What do I do?" is our first question. And our second question: "My friend uses Twitter to tell people to kill themselves." This week, we discuss how to put up boundaries and be direct. Content warnings: very brief hypothetical rape mention and fat shaming mentions. Mention of suicide. In-depth discussion of suicidal ideation.
We're stoked on spring time and excited to bring you an episode about little bebes. Sometimes you want to hang out with your friend's kids and sometimes you don't. Here are some thoughts on how to be accommodating to your friends who are parents. Minor CW for brief mention of sick children.
What do you do when an almost-friend becomes suddenly distant and uninterested? That's our first question. We're here to tell you that it's OK to feel a little bummed. Our second question, now, got us all frazzled and excited: How can I get my friend to stop taking MORTAL RISKS WITH HER LIFE? Check the content warnings for this one: Erections, war, discussion of violence. Geez.
A live episode! We swear we're getting better at these. First we consider what we've learned over the years, and then take some questions from listeners, including, "how do I tell my friend I can't afford to donate to all the fundraisers she's organizing?" And don't miss the audience Q&A, which really was wonderful. Thanks for being there.
Small talk gets a bad rep. People think it's boring and awkward. But! It's actually an important tool! This week, we hear from listeners who want to improve their active listening skills, especially when it comes to meeting people you REALLY ADMIRE AND YOU JUST LOVE THEIR WORK OMG!
This week, our listeners just need a little nudge in the right direction. Our first asker wants to know how to make friends online. Luckily, we are very online! Our second asker wants to know how to meet folks while volunteering at an animal shelter. Let's do this thang.
This week we tackle something pretty common in adult friendships - you feel that you have a best friend, but you're not THEIR best friend in return. Not as depressing as it sounds, we promise!
You can't solve every problem for your friends. You simply can't fix everything. In this episode, we give you permission to go easier on yourself. Important content warnings for this one: we discuss gatekeeping within the queer community, as well as gender, sexuality, and depression.
"My friend puts herself down constantly. She's always insulting herself, and it bums me out. How can I talk to her about this?" This episode is about self-esteem, something neither of us have, which makes us the perfect candidates to lead this discussion. Content warning for discussions of therapy and body shaming.
A concerned and confused 21-year-old wrote in and asked, "I have a friend who is older, and he makes a woman in our group feel uncomfortable often. How do I handle this?" We have some ideas on how to get this person out of your life ASAP. This one's a doozy, y'all! Content warning for discussions of harassment.
We already know that the rudest thing you can do online is email someone's wife. So here's an episode about the other kinds of modern etiquette: keeping your headphones in, texting during conversations, and adding someone to a new group text. (CW: Mouse death. Yeah.)
A listener asks how to become a functioning social adult after working from home full-time. Try keeping slippers at your desk! Then we hear from somebody who's being hard on themselves with their sleep & clothing habits. Hey, stop that!
How do you wind down a friendship? If your friends get divorced, must you choose between them? As a new mom, how can I tell my friends who don't have kids that I can't relate to them now? This week, we heard from a few folks who are interested in breaking things off with their friends. BUT FIRST! Let's make sure that's the right move! Content warnings for drugs and discussion of pregnancy.
Should I de-friend my ex on Facebook? How do I handle an intense Twitter crush? We attempt to answer these questions before debuting our new podcast, The Jeff Probst Fan Show! Content warnings for lots of sex talk. Important links mentioned in this episode: Michael B. Jordan's instagram. https://www.instagram.com/p/BsUoyd5Ai6R/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link PS: Just to be clear, we do not think that EVERYone bangs at conventions. We're just friggin' goofballs!
What are you supposed to do when someone you barely know surprises you with a gift? What if the gift is a terrible painting? No, wait: what if it's a terrible painting that they made themselves? This one's about what to do when you don't know what to do. Nancy, help us.
So, how was your holiday? Awesome? Terrible? Let's listen to someone else's problems for awhile. Our first question reads, "I came between a friend's marriage. Therapy was had, I sincerely apologized, we moved on. It's been two years. Can I reach out and rekindle our friendship?"
Befriending your colleagues can be tricky. Especially if your colleagues happen to find your Twitter account. This episode is about Personal Twitter, Work Twitter, and when maybe you should just lock your account and throw your computer into the eye of a hurricane.
Jenn has a cold, Trin wants a haircut, and we both have advice for a new listener who is lonely and has frankly been through some tough shit. This episode is about making new friends after a bad break up, filling your empty hours, making your apartment feel nice, deciding when to date again, and when to give your beef to a friend. Content warning for brief mention of masturbation mid-episode.
We're back! We're back! Did you miss us? Did you miss the crap out of us? Here's an episode about exchanging gifts with friends and co-workers. One listener wants to know what the frick to do now that her close friend gave her a bottle of wine for her birthday even though... wait for it... she does not drink.
All about us! Us! You asked and we answered. Who's more inspiring, Odo or Nog? What's the worst advice we've ever given? And what about gymnastics?
“My boyfriend is close friends with a sexist ass. I’m trying to be civil. How do I proceed here?” Well we have some ideas! We would not call our ideas particularly civil. In this week's episode, allow us to get mad on your behalf.
Our first question asks, "I made a close friend online months ago. But my partner has no idea. It's been going on for months. How can I clue my partner in without feeling guilty for hiding it from him?" This episode is a bumpy thrill ride and we've almost certainly lost one listener, perhaps two.
In this very special episode, we consider how you can best support your non-binary friends. Discussion of pronouns, gender spectrums, and why we let boys run into the street but not girls for some reason. A million thanks to Ian and Maya for guesting!
This week's theme is all about confrontation! Bringing up the thing that's bothering you! Our starting question: "My best friend has been in a long-distance relationship and it's making him SO UNHAPPY. I think they need to break up. Should I say as much?" and then we move into "I worked for a photographer for a weekend. I got payment but not the social media shout-out that he mentioned." Content warning, we muse over sex toys for a bit and now it's unclear why.
It's time for a group activity. The first asker is going on a road trip with old friends and we're fully clenched on her behalf. The second asker's roommate is now dating the annoying dude in her jam band, and it's just the worst. CLARINET!
CW: sex mention, group sex mention
A concerned listener asks, "My partner is smoking a lot. More than she has before. How do I approach this with her?" In response, Jenn and Trin put their heads together and deduce that weed is funny. Surprise appearance by Dave Matthews! Please note content warning for the first few minutes. We briefly discuss the hearing and men and their mistakes (without names and details). Skip to 5 minutes and 45 seconds in if ya need to.
This episode is all about BOUNDARIES! How do you quietly back out of a friendship with someone who is asking time you don't have? How do I manage friendship with a somewhat famous person I admire? As a woman, how do you handle having a best friend who's a guy? We answer all this and more in Jenn and Trin's weekly fever dream.
Live from XOXO Portland! Failed jokes, crowd work, pesky microphone habits--this episode has everything you never asked for. We also managed to give some advice on awkward small talk, making friends at conferences, and finding collaborators on your creative projects. And at the end of the show, YOU SIMPLY CANNOT MISS a few special version of our theme song from the ridiculously talented Molly Lewis.
Did you know that your friend recites sonnets in their sleep? Or that they take 28 minutes to make a bowel movement? Or that they get hangry when you failed to give them the bananas they require? This is the kind of stuff you'll learn when you take a trip with friends. Here's a few thoughts about group travels, food, and logistics.
How do I get my friend to stop selling me stuff? What are the best ways to support my pal's comic book shop? Can I spar with my co-worker over Girl Scout cookies? Please note that in spite complaining in this episode, Jenn loves her old Girl Scout Troop Leader, who is just a wonderful person.
What's the etiquette for a locked Twitter account? What do I do if my co-worker won't stop requesting to follow me on my private Instagram? Should I do something to intervene when my friend Tweets really sad stuff? In this episode, we dive into the murky waters of social media and privacy!
When is it time to cut the cord and move on from old friends? And when is time to tie the knot and hang on? These are huge questions that we don't know the answer to! But we do know that your friends need you, and you need your friends. Content warning for discussion of depression.
Am I overstepping my bounds if I comment about my friend's health? This episode is all about listening to your doctor, gym etiquette, and sexy hot personal trainers. Content warning for discussions of exercise, obesity, and body image.
We are Friendshipping and we’re here to say Jeff Bezos sucks in a major way. That being said, let’s discuss how to be cool to your friends when they aren’t participating in the same protest or boycotts as you are. This episode is about the balance of holding your friends accountable while letting them be imperfect people living in an imperfect society. Content warning: this episode is all about capitalism, and there's occasional discussion of climate horror. If that's not something you can handle right now, go right to question 2 at 23m22s which is a little lighter! We make fun of Lena Dunham and Ben Affleck a lot.
It's Trin's birthday and it's Friendshipping Live! Raw! Uncut! Sweaty! Listen as we down cocktails and discuss gift-giving etiquette, group plans, and how to change up your social life when you feel like you're a boring person. Hint: you are not boring. And you have great taste in podcasts. Thank you to Dynasty Podcasts for having us and our friends for being there!
Our askers have questions about going to concerts! One wants to ignore their friends at concerts, and one has a Cool and Famous Friend and doesn't know how to be chill about it. We're deeply sorry to Beatles fans for the entire first two minutes of this episode, and we're equally sorry for the secret last question, in which we divulge just how emo we are. Enjoy!
In this episode, we do our best to answer: Uh, is this [interaction/feeling/action] weird? As two weirdos ourselves, allow us to tell you: YOU BET YOUR ASS IT IS! Also keep listening for the third question, which is one of the most challenging inquiries we've gotten, and note our content warning for mentions of mental illness.
Sometimes we receive questions that are just beyond our ability to answer. That's why this week, our esteemed friends Billie and Kat of the UnLearned Podcast are here to assist with questions about friendship and race. How do I support my PoC friends? What are some common White People Fuck Ups I should be more aware of? Content warnings apply. Don't miss UnlearnedPodcast.com.
An asker wants to know how to better support their spouse who has decided to be become ... oh my good gracious ... a vegan. Here's some tough love from Jenn and Trin, with a side of PLANTS! Yum.
What's a good way to show your friends you're proud of them? Well that's a real sweet question and we've got some ideas! We've also got a wild story about a fake girlfriend that is so good it needs its own Netflix special.
Maintaining friendships once you reach your mid-30s has a few special challenges. Starting with: "My friend doesn't. leave. She insists on extending our hangouts for hours and hours. She's even just spent the night." HAHA WHOA. Let's do this. Content warning: sex/masturbation mentions in the first few minutes!
Your friend has taken a new lover, and now you're certain you are being replaced. Youch, that hurts. Have a listen to this episode as we apply some soothing aloe to that sting!
"My friend had an extreme reaction when I mentioned that I am interested in trying a recreational drug." In this episode, we discuss how you don't have to tell your friends EEEVERYTHING about yourself. In fact: maybe don't!
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This week we tackle one of the best questions we’ve ever received: How can I get my friend to stop being so physical and touchy with me? Come for the advice, stay for the surprise fruit delivered to your office! This episode is not sponsored by Edible Arrangements but it should be. We’ll take sixty bucks for it.
When is it appropriate to dance my face off? Can I sneak alcohol into a dry reception? It's a wedding episode! Listen as we make a wild attempt to discuss wedding etiquette as a guest, a plus-one, member of the wedding party, AND even part of the couple! Please note the content warnings for this episode from 00:40 to 09:59, we discuss sex and virginity even though virginity isn't a real thing and your worth is not based on the number of sex partners you've had. WHEW. OKAY.
"I want to reconnect with a friend. She's blocked me on Facebook and we haven't talked in years. Where do I begin?" Stop right now, thank you very much. You don't need someone with a human touch. You need Trin and Jenn to come in and yell at the lizard in your brain!
"I want to be friends with more men, how can I make that happen?" is our first question. And our second: "My friend is trying to hook me up with a bit of a dud. Do I suck it up and go out?" You can prrrrrobably guess our answer to this but you should listen anyway because we discuss how to confront your friend about this scenario AND we get an exciting update on Trin's plants. Also, Jenn gets overexcited to talk about running for the first seven minutes, so feel free to skip if that's not your thing. (Content warnings: mentions of body shaming and being fat.)
Your buds don’t get a pass to call you whatever words they want. A friend called our first asker a B Word (not Butthole), and then alleged that she is “sensitive” for being hurt by it. As you might have guessed, we take issue with this behavior. Then, we encourage our second asker to bone down on their friend.
CWs:
This week it's all about physical appearances and how that can impact a friendship! Topics include: - My friend won't do anything (camping, go to outdoor concerts) where she can't be in full make-up - My friend Photoshops images of herself online and it weirds me out! - My friend's diet is completely exhausting Content warning for mentions of food + disordered eating in the last question.
Listeners sent in some great questions this week that really moved us. "I fucked up ten years ago. I was a teenager. Can I make amends?" and "My friend said something crappy to me a few months ago. It's still bothering me. Should I bring it up now?" In this episode we discuss addressing your mistakes and regrets of yesteryear, and Trin becomes several versions of Meryl Streep. (Content warning: discussions of consent in the last few minutes.)
This week's theme is: badness. Bad feelings, bad behavior, the whole deal. Our first question is "I've been unfriended by two people in my life. I've never done them wrong. What's the deal here?" followed by "My boyfriend is dismissive when I tell him my problems. NOW WHAT?" [cracks knuckles] Here. we. GO.
If you've ever felt jealous of someone else's creative success, this episode will give you an entire THIRTY SECONDS of relief and happiness before you just feel jealous again. Also we start a bloody rivalry with Do By Friday.
Hey, Jenn here. I just got off the horn with legal and they advised us against posting this one, but guess what? We're bad to the bone. So enjoy this episode where we answer the most important question of all time: "Should I tell my therapist I smoke weed?"
To celebrate three years of making this show, your humble narrators discuss their favorite topic: themselves. Trin shares what made her laugh today. Jenn reflects on the glory days. And if you glean any wisdom from this episode, it's purely by accident.
A listener asks, "My friend REALLY unloads on me. The heavy stuff. I'm worried about her! How can I help?" We've got a few ideas! Are they good ideas? Who's to say. At least this episode is funny. Also, Trin's got a new therapist. Content warning for discussion of depression.
Holy HECK, we cover miles of territory in this episode. It’s all about speaking up — or deciding not to. Listeners ask: - My boss wants to be my friend. How do I put distance here? - My future mother-in-law insists that I call her “mom" and I am not cool with this. - And the grand finale: I moved away, and my friend ghosted! She may have changed her number! How do I reach out?
In this episode, we discuss how it's possible for you to be both 1) kind and 2) impolite! BELIEVE IT. We also offer some suggestions for dealing with a co-worker who is disruptive in your work space. Oh, and... we formally break up with Trin's therapist. For real.
Here's the article we discussed, and here's a link to Kelly Sue DeConnick's Twitter.
"I'm a touchy kind of person but my friends aren't. How do I approach this without making anyone uncomfortable?" and "I'm in a group text with 14 people I barely know. It's all baby pictures. How do I get out of this politely?" Thank god for Jenn's bachelor's degree in communications or we never would have been able to answer this week's questions, all about: conflicting communication styles! (Note: The first eight minutes of this episode are nutty. Trin shares her bizarre and amazing follow-up story about her WHACKADOODLE therapist. Includes a content warning for brief mentions of divorce and suicide.)
It's 2018 and we're backstreets back, ALRIGHT! Miss us? In this episode we tackle "My co-worker is just too OUTRAGEOUSLY FRIENDLY for me" and "When I vent to my friend, she gives me advice and tries to fix everything, even when I specifically ask her not to."
A "cactus friend" is a pal who doesn't need a lot of watering or sunlight to feel loved. Did you know that term? Now you do. We think our friend Kate made it up. In this episode, we kinda-sorta lovingly lecture one of our listeners for maaaybe being too much of a cactus friend. Sometimes you DO need to water your friends! Call them back! Answer that text! (Hey, content warning for the first few minutes: sex mentions. And Christmas. Together.)
Is it possible to have TOO many friends? WE KNOW this sounds like a humblebrag. We swear it is not. Here's an episode about feeling socially overwhelmed, spreading yourself too thin, and caring for your inner introvert when you would rather throw your iPhone in a lake than participate in another group text. 'Tis the season!
"I texted about my friend ... TO THAT FRIEND!" and "My two friend groups are fighting. I'm stuck in the middle. Now what?" This episode is all about handling conflict and then moving past it. Also, if you thought the last episode was wackadoodle, hang on tight for THIS thrill ride. Shakespeare, Air Bud, and Jenn's muscles: this episode truly has nothing you asked for.
Is it okay to not allow booze at my wedding? How do I navigate my sister-in-law's nasty divorce? Check out this episode about weddings, marriage, divorce, and toxic family members! This is absolutely the weirdest we have ever been. You know when you're overtired and slap-happy? That's this whole episode.
The holiday season is upon us and we've all got a bad case of the Travel Butt. This week, we're giving advice about all of our favorite holiday traditions, like decking halls, giving gifts, and running into people who hated you in high school. Trin regales us with tales of her AP Biology teacher's farm, and Jenn once again gives us damning evidence that she's a huge nerd. Enjoy.
How do I learn to friend again? How can I help my distressed friend who lives far away? Today’s episode is about bad feelings, and naming the mean voice in your head after your least favorite character on the American television sitcom, Friends.
Also, we have two corrections for this episode:
Steven (yes, that Steven) actually named his brain goblin Vincent, not Victor. He chose
the name because “he sounds like a mean gay.”
Trin in fact owns three swords, not two.
This week, we've got two questions about feeling SHUT OUT. If a friend (or a group of friends!) is making you feel like you don't belong, this is the episode for you. Relax your rectums and enjoy this feel-good episode where we discuss Die Hard and share some small daily tasks to improve your mental health.
"Should I tell my friend to quit smoking?" and "My friend plays video games all. damn. day." This episode is all about that E word: ENABLING--what to do think you may be enabling your friend's habits, for better or for worse! Oh, also, be sure to commit this to memory: when Trin was in 6th grade, she went as a toilet for Halloween and Jenn dressed as Harry P before anyone else on the planet did. Wow.
Our first asker wonders how to get closer to a friend who doesn’t want to be alone with them. Another asker seeks advice on confronting a friend repeatedly for a mistake. And finally, in our grand finale, a listener wants to know how to handle group Snapchat drama. And to all of these questions we say: "Nah. You can stop there. Ya done."
If you see something, say something! Maybe! In this episode we discuss if and when you should tell a friend who is feeling low that you think they oughta go back to therapy. And what about crushes? Do you have to tell a friend if you are having feelings, the warm squishy kind? This one is all about: speaking up.
Partying, partying, YEAH! This week, we got a question from a listener who says they're just bad at attending parties. Luckily we've got a whole slew of tips for surviving a crowded social gathering where you don't know anyone. Discussion includes how to handle small talk, how to remember someone's name, and how to maybe put your shirt back on before the host gets upset.
We're Jenn and Trin and we're here to say: you do not have to be nice and giving tuh-day. You don't have to do crappy favors for friends all the time. And you don't have to forgive people who wrong ya. In this episode, we answer: "I don't want to write a letter of rec for my friend, do I have to?" and "My friend neglected my pet while he was catsitting!" Ohhhh, let us at 'em. (PSST: Listen after the credits for a blooper.)
Friends, we've uncovered something very interesting: dentists love Trin. DENTISTS LOVE TRIN. If you don't want to hear about teeth and how much fun Trin has at her dental cleaning appointments, skip ahead to 7:15 because our two actual topics this week are incredible: "How do I ask an Internet friend to meet without being imposing?" and "My friend uses the word fat without realizing they are being hurtful to me." Please note our content warning: we mention some of the shitty ways society treats people who are fat.
Hey everyone, Jenn and Trin here, just a coupla podcast bad boys giving advice that's so dangerous and naughty you can't bring it home to mommy. We start off by offering survival tips for attending a bachelor party when you are broke. It involves our tried and true tactics for sneaking into alcohol into restaurants (but do tip your bartenders). If that's not your style, hang tight for our second question which is a real monster: "My friend is going through a divorce and flirting with someone else who is married. Do I intervene?" WOOF. Also, please note the content warning: mild amusing body horror. If you're not interested in hearing about our medical problems, skip to the 4:00 minute mark.
You'll need SPF 150 for this red-hot episode. Our first asker wants to know what to do when you've got a "good friend" who is sexist. As you can imagine, we did not hold back! We got mad! We're still mad! Then we uncovered some new sexy territory with how to: manage a crush. On your: co-worker. While you're: in a monogamous relationship.
You’ve got 99 problems and your friend asking to come over to your house everyday is all of them. In this episode, we discuss the polite-but-firm way to say “no thanks, I don’t want company tonight.” To practice, Jenn attempts to turn down Trin's invitations to hang out and fails in spectacular fashion. Also, we discuss when and how to step in when you suspect your friend is being teased in a group setting. Lots to cover, y’all. Jump into this friendship pool, the water’s fine.
Lil pop quiz for all you roommates out there. When was the last time you swept the kitchen floor? How about cleaned the toilet? Do you even know HOW to clean the toilet? BAM, you’re on notice. In this episode we discuss living dynamics, roommate drama, and being the odd person out. And as a fun bonus, we deeply analyze the best party snacks you can offer, which is advice you didn’t ask for but maybe should have.
"I helped my friend get a great job. Now, they're not doing well at this job and I am pissed about it." Whoa! Okay. This episode is about helping your friends, but also butting out. Helping them...to a certain extent. You know there's only so much you can do. BTW, our producer said this is his favorite episode ever, and he has to listen to all of our unedited bullshit. JUSTICE FOR NANCY!
"I feel like I'm a doormat. How can I stick up for myself to my friends?" Take it from Book 1 Neville Longbottom, this isn't easy to do. This week, we discuss voicing your needs and boundaries. And if your friends continually ignore those boundaries, it may be time to spring-clean those mofos. (Also, Trin was recording from afar and sounds like she's in a bath tub. Sorry about that!)
"How do I make my friends feel heard? What are some empathic words I can use?" Hey, talking clearly and directly about your feelings is difficult. Asking your friends about THEIR feelings is difficult, too! In this episode we discuss how language, while powerful, is still limited and you are probably doing your best, so good job. Also, Trin knows her name is Elizabeth Barrett Browning, not Emily Barrett Browning. She just got excited.
"I was shamed on Facebook for de-friending someone!" and "My friend leaves WAY too many comments on my posts." This week, we tackle these excellent questions about doing friendship on the world wide web, the final frontier. And uh, not to sound too braggy, but we know a LOT about being weird online.
Our gushing review of the new Wonder Woman movie and the friendships it celebrates. Steve Trevor and consent, Etta Candy and female friendship, Ben Affleck barely appearing -- this movie rocked our ass. Diana will fight for those who cannot fight for themselves and WE WILL, TOO. This one's light-hearted, dorky, and full of fandom love. Enjoy.
We here at Friendshipping, LLC accept all political views, unless your political view is shitty. This episode is about choosing to accept your friends in an imperfect capitalist society. Starting with: "So my friend eats at Chick-Fil-A..." CW: discussion of homophobia and racism.
Find out how Trin supports the long distance friends she never sees and when Jenn realized she was becoming a capital-a Adult. In this light-hearted ding dong of an episode, we interview each other about our personalities, relationships, the smell of Chicago, and what, exactly, makes tomatoes so cute to look at!
We got a great question from a student at university (that means college) about taking your friendships to the NEXT LEVEL. Maybe you've got a dozen acquaintances (all over campus, at your work place, whatever) but you're looking for something more more meaningful. Some depth. You know? We've got a few ideas for how to do that! Also, Jenn talks about her most hilariously embarrassing story from college.
Are you constantly worrying about your friend's bad life decisions? Always helping your pals move apartments? Giving rides to the airport? Organizing their schedule? Providing wisdom and advice? If you said YES to one or more of these questions, UH OH! You may be a Helicopter Parent to your friends. This episode is about being the "mama bear" -- when you are too controlling, really involved, care a lot, or simply exhausting yourself at the expense of your friends. Trin admits she was once this Mama Bear and as a result, drops some mind-blowing wisdom that will rock your face off.
So I made a sexist crack, and I feel bad about it. Now what? Can I apologize? Even though it happened months ago? How do I move forward? Am I bad? Am I okay? Am I doomed? Can I see Wonder Woman again? Is Chris Pine moving up on the top Hot Chris list? This episode covers how to handle your shit when you say something problematic. PLUS some non-spoilery gushing over Wonder Woman, because we couldn't not. Content warnings: discussion of sexism, racism, transphobia.
One time Connor Oberst emailed Trin at 2:00 AM and you have to listen to find out why. Or you can listen for the actual advice, which is about handling awkward, I-don't-want-to-talk-about-this conversations with friends. Like when your pal wants to discuss what's bothering you, but you really don't, and you get sweaty, and then your glasses fall down.
How to handle a messy friend break-up and keep your cool when you suspect someone is talkin' shit. This episode is all about zooming down the high road and being the bigger person. Even bigger than James Comey! Content warning for banter involving babies, pregnancy, and cannibalism - you can skip the first four minutes.
Listeners ask,"How do I introduce the person I'm dating to my friend group?" and "Is it going to be weird to bring my friend to a family wedding?" This episode is all about dating, friends, feeling weird, and wedding etiquette! We also try to wrap our minds around how tall James Comey is, but we can't, we just canNOT.
Friendship is the foundation of Star Wars, so we allowed ourselves an episode to get into the significance of Rey's first desert scene, Finn and his handholding, Han Solo being A Good Older Dude, why BB8 is definitely a Slytherin, and finally... the Sisterhood of the Traveling Poe's Jacket. Plus, bonus! You can find out how Jenn feels about love triangles. This episode is for DORKS ONLY!
How much advice can we pack into one episode? LET'S FIND OUT! We tackle a whole slew of questions that are big and small, important and silly. "How do I take a compliment?" and "My friend is lying about having PTSD!" and "Can I get my friend to stop chewing so loudly?" Whoooole lotta wisdom up in here, try to keep up, 'kay?
Listeners ask: "I want to have a birthday party with booze. Can I invite my friend who doesn't drink?" and "I'm a new baby vegan. What's the protocol with friend groups? Do I bring my own food to potlucks?" Jenn sort of daydreams about vegetables for awhile but Trin remains the expert on this subject. Go ahead, check her pockets. They're full of snacks. Also, please note our content warning for discussion of food health & mentions of alcoholism.
This week we got an awesome and tough question that really tested us: "My friend's kid is turning into a jerk. Do I speak up?" We have some thoughts on how to handle little Dave and little Gary, but if you decided to rocket to the moon instead of confronting this, we'd understand. Please enjoy! We're going to go watch re-runs of Jeopardy now.
This week we tackle the worldwide phenomena known as "sports" and discover that sports are basically D&D in disguise. Our first question is: "I don't care about sports but my friends really do. Do I need to make myself care to hang out with them?" And another: "My hockey team is doing badly and my friend is talking shit." Special thank you to our new editor, Ian Parman, for helping us with this episode!
You've probably got a friend in need. A friend who is struggling. You do! In this episode we offer some small, everyday things you can do to help -- things that don't cost a ton of time, energy, or money. So have a listen, help your sad pal, and STAY AWAY FROM HORSES. Trust us on this. CW: mentions of masturbation and vehicular manslaughter.
Jenn's had the flu all week, so while she's been chugging Pedialyte and disinfecting her doorknobs, Trin was kind enough to edit our live episode from Very Very Fun Day. For this one we held a workshop: How Not To Be A Jerk About Politics. This is probably our best live show. No...it DEFINITELY is. Includes some truly great questions from the audience. Thanks, audience!
Pobody's nerfect! We share some of our significant fuck ups, the moments when we were the assholes in a friendship. Let's improve together! We have faith that even the most egregious assholes, like the anonymous Twitter eggs with naked anime avatars, can be better. You CANNOT miss this wild episode. It's basically a confessional. (Psst! Listen until the end for a small gift surprise from us.) Content warnings for mentions of: death, gun violence, and abuse.
Hey! This is the most intense, honest episode we've ever done! We interviewed each other and got into our struggles with self-worth, insecurities, some memories from childhood, and going to therapy. There's laughter, there's darkness, there's a bit of everything in here. We hope you like it. We're going to go lie down for awhile. Content warning for depression, mental illness, and indirect reference to suicidal thoughts.
"My friend is a serial dater and he thinks he is in love with every woman he goes on a date with." How do you tell him he's *probably* not? DO YOU EVEN? We're back after a brief hiatus to bring you some sexy advice. Also, Jenn missed Trin so much that she got her a rock.
Business business BUSINESS! Step right up for business! This episode is about working and hiring your friends. We start with the question, "I asked a friend to design a logo for me. It's terrible. What do I do now?" We'll help you out with this, but only if you let us see the logo.
Do you have a friend who makes you feel forgotten? On the regular? Whaaaat if you have a friend who nitpicks things about you, like your appearance? Well we sure hope that's not the case! But if it IS! Listen to this! We clawed our way through many terrible sports metaphors to bring you this advice. Side note: prepare thyself for Trin's upcoming spin-off podcast, Talking Skin with Trin, debuting summer 2019.
If you thought LAST week was a rollercoaster, well, get ready for this one. We answer the question: "I’m part of a marginalized community. I’ve had people attempt to compliment me in a manner that is either inappropriate or downright offensive to my community. How can I communicate this?" (P.S. We had to re-upload this episode because the file got all bungled up. Sorry everyone!)
An episode about being new to the fight! We answer, "How can I stay woke enough for my friends?" and "My friend can't turn off the politics and it's bringing me down, what now?" How to turn your discomfort into action, handle enragement fatigue, manage etiquette while protesting, and taking care of yourself and your friends in these tryin' times.
You want to know what the hell is going on in your friend's life, BUT you definitely don't want to pry or make them uncomfortable. What do? Also, Jenn still has a head cold and Trin still has a screaming robot.
Give us your hand, and let us go on a journey...a long journey....into YOURSELF! Sorry, that was weird. Basically this episode is all about introspection and meta-thinking and examining your own behavior. We answer three (three!) questions this time, starting with "How come my friends don't let me dump my problems onto them? Are they crappy friends?"
ALRIGHT, we went for it. This episode is about coping with the end of a friendship. You may not want to close the door, but it could just be friggin' time. This is all about what to do, what the heck not to do, how to write therapeutic letters, how to heal, and finally, what the hell happens after it's over. This is all about leaving someone behind without getting haunted by the ol' friendship ghost and you know what? WE AIN'T AFRAID OF NO GHOSTS.
Have you ever felt like a runner-up in a friendship? Second best? Not good enough for your own pal? We discuss "ranking systems" in relationships. Trin invents a name and rich backstory for one of our askers. Hang in there, Clarisse.
It's the taint of the year and we're back with advice! This one's all about friendship as it relates to romantic partners. "My girlfriend is better to her friends than they are to her!" and "I've been seeing this guy for a few months. We're in dating mode, but I want to be his friend." Some bonus advice from us to you: Never forget that you are more genetically similar to a banana than your own sibling. That isn't true at all, but it is fun to say.
This week we get into doing friendship while you're depressed. Should you muscle through and hang out with friends, or go into Hobbit Mode? We suggest BOTH! Also, Jenn has a head cold that is just bad. So bad! It's okay to laugh at her pain.
Not to be all braggy, but this might be our best episode. Ever? Yep. It's full of sound advice for handling friends who show thoughtless Internet behavior on Twitter and email. And a surprise twist: Trin can do a celebrity impression that she's just been like, selfishly keeping in her back pocket this whole time. What! YEAH.
Ghosting is when a friend just, POOF, disappears! And neglects your friendship. Without explanation! It's EXTREMELY COMMON and it extremely sucks. So what do you do then? Call? Write another email? Send a muffin basket and demand an explanation? Here's an episode about feeling left behind. As a fun bonus, Jenn reveals a new celebrity crush that may delight or confuse you!
How do I connect with my older sister? Should I try to hang out with my cool cousin even though our families aren't close? A timely episode for the holidays--this one's all about doing friendship (or not) with family members. Also, Trin drops some incredible wisdom about social currency that everybody needs to hear, and Jenn has to concentrate all of her brain power for a solid minute to recall the one single event on our calendar next year.
The election's done and we're all coping with bad, dark feelings. Here's our attempt to provide you with some coping mechanisms so you get help yourself first and then get your ass out of bed to get to work to help your community. If nothing else, this episode is worth a listen if you need a break from life. We offer you some quintessential Friendshipping quirks, like confusion over wedding traditions and a pep talk that's just yelling. Here's the song featured in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xx3nTsFJEQE
You're a nerd. Your friends are nerds. But are you good at being a nerd, or do you need a brush up? This week, we discuss making your friends watch Stranger Things, and being nice to jocks. We also get slowly drunk throughout the episode because the Cubs won, and Trin tries to do math. There are more Neopets mentions in this episode than all previous episodes combined.
CW: alcohol, brief sex mention, brief violence mention.
The blinding relief of finishing our Kickstarter campaign must've been hitting us hard, because this episode is JAM PACKED with goofs, chortles, and belittling Ringo Starr. We did manage to give out some practical advice, including "how to befriend introverts" and "how to speak up to your friends when you really need their support." Two difficult, important tasks!
This week a listener asks, "I'm distancing myself from a toxic friend. What are some red flags I should look out for in the future?" We list some common iffy behaviors and define negging, which was oddly cathartic. Sillies abound.
This episode was recorded live with an adorable audience at NerdCon! Jenn may have been hungover but that didn't stop us from dropping knowledge all over Minneapolis. Questions included, "How do I talk to my friends about my illness?" and, "I have a friend who isn't really a friend who will not stop talking to me about her wedding." Thank you to our producer Alex for joining us onstage! (Content Warning: we share some stories about barfing, feel free to skip 8:00 to 11:30.)
Look, we talk about emotions and empathy and social cues a lot on this here podcast. It's kind of our thing! But we're overdue in addressing that some people? Some people are emotionless Vulcans and that's just fine, too. We also address the question, "my friend posts vague sad lyrics on Facebook. All the time. WHY?" (IMPORTANT PRODUCTION NOTE: If you're a member of Jimmy Eat World, please do not listen to the last 2 minutes of this podcast. Super important. THANKS!)
A listener sent in a really important personal question this week: How do I deal with a friend who is too physically touchy-feely for me?
A very loopy episode as we celebrate our Kickstarter project, and then dive into this strange concept known as: feeling joy. Discussion topics include: the time Trin met Will Ferrell while he was wearing sweatpants; what Jenn says to her dog every morning; Tweeting with The Jackson Five.
Uncle Joseph Biden sent us a fax in the middle of the night begging us to do an episode about the election. We never turn down urgent requests from Washington so here we go: "How do you debate politics with friends?" and, gulp, "My friend supports Trump. Now what?" (Content warning: uh, this whole election.)
A discussion of when your support network of friends kind of, um, won't stop trying to support you even if you don't really want their support. We start with the question, "I'm a very private person. How can I tell my friends that I don't want to talk about my feelings?" and it's entirely possible Jenn submitted that in her sleep.
A very special episode that isn't an episode at all, actually. Got ya. This is our live audio recording from our Making Friends in Geek Spaces panel. We also gave an exciting announcement...and that announcement is a Kickstarter project. We're doing a Kickstarter project soon. Spoiler alert! A huge, tremendous thank you to our panelists Maya, Khahil, and Jamie for sharing their wisdom.
Bill and Steven guest host while Jenn and Trin are out on assignment. They're men! What? Crazy. It turns out being men in friendships isn't all that different than being any other gender! In this modern age, even men can be friends. What a time to be alive.
Say you're throwing a party but you maaaaybe don't want to invite every single person you know. Hey, that's fair. Just don't brag about it all over Facebook. This week we discuss party invitation etiquette, especially as it relates to social media.
"My friend got an awful, obscene tattoo" and other bad decisions your friends make. Also, Jenn finds a slide whistle. (Content warning: lots of swearing, brief mention of rape and homophobia.)
ATTENTION: lots of people want it, and not everyone can give it to you. What should you do when your friend ignores you for their boo? How do you keep from feeling discarded? Ughhh this sucks, man.
"How do I compliment my friends when they post sexy selfies?" and "Can I tell my friend her sibling is hot?" We cover lots of new territory in this episode and yell NO way more than usual. Enjoy. Oh, have a content warning: mention of masturbation and sex and kissing.
How do I make new friends? Why am I so bad at small talk? Can I learn to carry a conversation as well as NPR's Terry Gross? And other concerns.
Today is Jenn's birthday and I, Trin, recorded an episode about it. Posting episodes and writing summaries is Jenn's job and honestly it's really hard, thanks Jenn for everything you do. I'm having a lot of trouble figuring out what to say here?? okay goodbye everyone have a really nice afternoon
New this week: we rapid-answer a range of questions, including, "Does my husband need friends?" and "Is it okay to buy the same clothing item as a friend?" and most importantly of all, "Should Trin buy us matching pajamas?"
Some tips for gently rebuilding a friendship with your ex or exes. Or maybe deciding not to do that after all because they left with your suitcase full of cash. Don't you hate it when that happens!
"I do freelance favors for friends and colleagues. Am I being used?" and "Am I obligated to promote all of my friends' Kickstarter projects?" If you've ever asked anyone to Tweet about your Kickstarter project, have a listen to this.
When your friends RSVP to your thing but then don't show up. Youch! Links mentioned in this episode: Uplift Together
It's 2016 and people still wonder, "Can Dudes and Ladies ever just be friends without crushing?" Holy dang, let's get into it!
"My long distance friend has stopped answering my texts" and "I'm sick of driving my friend everywhere." An episode about resentment and the hard truth of long distance friendships. Things do get a little heavy, so we pause between questions for a Star Wars interlude full of giggles.
"My friend is stagnating professionally - how can I push him with love?" and "My friend cheated. Do I tell her boyfriend?" In this episode we discuss when intervene with your friends and when to back the heck off.
A short, special episode about PAX! Where we'll be, what we're doing, and how we'll cope with stress!
All about handling friends who are ignoring you. Giving you the silent treatment. The COLD SHOULDER. Brrr.
A discussion about peer pressure based around two questions: "My friend is badgering me about getting a boyfriend" and "My friend is continually telling me to go to therapy. I don't know that it's for me." Content warning: depression, therapy, brief mention of suicide. **Links mentioned in this episode:** [CaptainAwkward.com][1] [Twitch.tv/Friendshipping][2] [1]: http://www.captainawkward.com [2]: http://twitch.tv/friendshipping
This week, we discuss dealing with friends who are problematic and say shitty things! Let's be kind and forgiving to others, but protective of our own time and energy.
Mentioned in this episode:
Unfollow: How a prized daughter of the Westboro Baptist Church came to question its beliefs. By Adrian Chen.
How To Tell Someone They Sound Racist. By Jay Smooth.
Pet sitting. Giving rides to the airport. Moving furniture. Friends help one another! But let's examine that doing favors can get complex. There's a fine line between doing something nice and obligating someone to thank you. Dun dun dun.
How do you turn a frenemy into a real friend? When is a frenemy relationship too toxic? Wait, WHAT EVEN IS A FRENEMY? Let's get into it.
I messed up, but it wasn't my fault! What to do when you didn't do anything wrong but it's up to you to fix it anyway. This is what we call The Unfairness of Life. TW: casual discussion of death, sex mentions.
Here are some thoughts about being good to yourself and your friends while Valentine's Day celebrations are shoved down your gullet. [Please note that this episode is quite vulgar. Don't listen with your babies maybe? We talk about hate-fucking.]
We just found out that today is Friendship Day, so here's a list of activities that are better with friends. We don't need booze and drugs to have a good time: we're all hyped up on FRIENDSHIP.
Being roped into a "third date" conversation when you're really on a *first* date is awkward as heck. Here's how to adjust, and measure how close you are with your friends & acquaintances.
Our topic this week: jealousy! If you've ever harbored envious feelings toward a friend's successes (and you definitely have), this is the episode for you.
Being the "planner" or the "parent" of the friend group can get exhausting. Even worse: if your friends bail on your plans constantly! BUT WAIT: we've still got sympathy for those who bail.
The Internet can be a roaring dumpster fire of negativity. It's also where we personally meet new people and make our friends feel loved. In this episode, we tackle moments of friendship that are made possible through Instagram, Twitter, and Tumblr. We are millennials.
This week, we discuss tactics for doing a very awkward, difficult thing: confronting your friends when they embarrass you. "My friend gets way too drunk at parties" & "A friend keeps bringing up a private fact about me in groups" are the jump-off points.
We've gotten this question a few different times: what do I do if my friend has a blindspot when it comes to how badly behaved her dog is?!
You done fucked up. We all have! Here's how to make the necessary apology, without asking for a reward in return.
The holidays can be fun and relaxing! And maybe also: not relaxing, expensive, cold, tedious, stressful, and full of family complications. Here's how to not be an asshole this time of year.
Improvising what to do when your friends are just being incorrect dinguses.
My friend downplays her accomplishments constantly. She lacks confidence, and she has no idea how cool and smart she is. Aarghh!!
The mean girls episode. Some friends will be bad influences on you -- they'll turn you into a version of yourself you don't really like. And then it's time for some tough love. (Side note: the end of this episode includes lots non-spoilerly Star Wars excitement.)
It IS possible to travel in a group without wanting to kill everyone! Jenn & Trin improvise a few scenes: Jenn is an inflexible traveler tired enough to sleep on a bench, and Trin is her friend-dad.
"When I plan an activity and don't invite the entire group, inevitably someone always feels left out or upset. How can I avoid hurting people's feelings?" And "One friend in my social circle is very quiet and sulky. Should I discourage her from coming out with us?"
What to do when someone considers you a friend and the feeling is juuust not mutual. All about tricky relationships, especially in a work or convention setting.
A list of things you don't have to apologize for. A short episode because Trin has the sniffles.
Some advice in advocating for yourself when you feel left out in your own group of friends!
This week, Jenn and Trin analyze the friendships in Fellowship of the Ring and learn some lessons from Leggles and the gang. If you haven't seen Fellowship of the Ring, please be aware that there are spoilers for this 14 year old movie.
Stick around after the closing credits for several minutes of weird, nerdy stuff we couldn't fit in the episode.
We're back from hiatus to tackle two relationship-y questions. "I've got a single friend who doesn't want to be single. I want to help!" vs. "I'm single and my friend keeps trying to hook me up."
Mentioned in this episode: Damsels and Distress Panel at PAX 2015.
This week, Trin is invited along to witness Jenn's first tattoo! Listen as we grasp for metaphors to link friendship and getting a tattoo. Content warning for needles, cocaine, and Minions. This episode was recorded at Chicago's Deluxe tattoo and Joy Yee ToGo.
Thanks to Tattoo Artist Troy for putting up with us, and for his friendship.
Thanks also to special guest star Max Temkin for the friendship and the Thai smoothies.
Also, the stories about cocaine are completely true.
Trin tries to distract Jenn from the tattoo needle by asking her questions from friends on Twitter. A twitter friend asks, "What's your favorite pizza topping?" Full episode posted next Thursday!
We address the question, "How do I handle feeling jealous of other friendships?" Includes the first-ever Friendship Workshop to sharpen your skills! Sit your ass down, class is now in session.
If you've got a negative friend who dumps on you all the time, this is the episode for you. We also tackle a difficult topic: "I'm friends with a woman who says she hates women!" Mentioned in this episode: - "I Was a Teenage Sexist" by Jenn Frank
Two tricky questions this week about finding your friends: - Is becoming a successful creator myself the only way to befriend like-minded individuals? - How can I navigate friendships with people I have crushes on?
We took the week off to answer questions about the podcast itself, Bioware videogames, Harry Potter, and Chris Pratt's jeans. Mentioned in this episode: - Jenn's angry blog post about Jurassic World
Money in friendships can be hella awkward. I've got a friend who owes me money! How do I get it back? And my friends eat at expensive restaurants all the damn time.
How to navigate friendships in the workplace, meet new friends, and then keep them after you've left your job.
tw: vagina jokes, and mild body horror.
How do I tell my friend who's a new mom that she's working too hard at it? What if I don't want to babysit? How to be good to your friends who have kids.
How to properly thank your friends for the nice things they do. Jenn & Trin share their controversial view on receiving thank you notes.
What to do if you feel like you're on the outside of your friend group, like Neville, and how to want to make friends with "better" people. Includes a lengthy Harry Potter discussion!
How and when to give advice to your friends without being an asshole. For the first time in human history, Jenn & Trin disagree on how to handle this.
What can I do when my friend butts into my Twitter conversations? Should I ask why my friend unfollowed me on Twitter? Let's talk Internet Friendships.
My friend always flakes on me, my friend can't put her phone down when we're together, and other concerns. Common courtesy can sometimes get lost in friendships.
Every time my friend dates someone new, I'm pushed aside and ignored. What now?
My friend is dating someone who is racist/sexist/terrible/annoying. When is it time to intervene? Part I of II.
What if I have crushes on all my friends? Do I have to be friends with my ex? And other sexy questions.
Seeing old friends will make you feel weird and that's okay. Here's how to handle high school reunions, friendships that have faded, and other awkwardness.
Aubrey & Angela of the Doubleclicks guest-host to answer sibling-related questions. What if my friends like my sister more? How can I do friendship at my grieving brother? How can I get closer with my siblings?
The best friend episode! How can I be a best friend when I live far away? How can I advance a friendship to BFF-status? Wait, what the hell IS a best friend, anyway?
Today Jenn and Trin decide if you're a bad friend. I mean, maybe you are a bad friend. That's certainly a possibility. Also Trin eats a smoothie with a spoon and you hear that quite a bit in the episode, sorry everyone. At least the smoothie was delicious.
We rapid-fire-answer a bunch of questions, including, "is it okay to listen to this podcast if I'm a dude?" and "how did you two meet, anyway?"
Meeting an Internet friend for the first time will probably be awkward. Here are some tips for taking your friendship into offline mode.
What if you feel like you've already met all of the women you could ever be friends with? What if all of your potential friends live far away?
How do you balance being a good friend and being good to yourself? Jenn and Trin discuss the value of self-care to personal relationships.
Her success is not your failure, and there’s room at the top for all of us. So move over, fuckers.
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