For The Hayters: The Stories We Survive

Latest Episodes:

You Were Never the Problem | Katie’s Story of Family Estrangement and Emotional Abuse Nov 24, 2025

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Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Katie’s powerful story of growing up in a home filled with emotional abuse, scapegoating, and toxic family dynamics. For years, she believed she was the problem. She believed she was unlovable. She believed something was wrong with her.

After a lifetime of manipulation, guilt, and feeling invisible, Katie made the hardest choice she has ever made. She walked away from her parents and siblings to reclaim her peace and rebuild her life.

In this episode, Katie opens up about the shame, fear, and isolation that come with going no contact and the healing work that finally helped her see the truth. This is a story about survival, self worth, and the courage it takes to break a cycle that should never have existed.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach her through: @sollessrelaxation on Instagram

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Crystal’s Story Part 2: Losing My Husband in Afghanistan & Learning to Live Again Nov 17, 2025

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses grief, military loss, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Please listen with care and step away if you need to protect your peace.

In Part 2 of Crystal’s story, she reads letters her late husband Jake wrote from boot camp, recounts the day she received the knock at the door every military wife fears, and opens up about the long journey of healing that followed.

Through pain, therapy, and years of self-work, Crystal found her way back to purpose — and to herself.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: @crystaltdoestherapy

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TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors): www.taps.org | 800-959-TAPS (8277)

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988

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Losing My Husband in Afghanistan at 19 | Finding Purpose Through Grief (Part 1) Nov 10, 2025

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of childhood trauma, addiction, sexual abuse, and grief related to military loss. Please take care while listening and skip this episode if you need to protect your own peace.

At just 19, Crystal’s world shattered when her husband Jake — her high school sweetheart and best friend — was killed in Afghanistan. In this two-part episode, she opens up about their love story, the pain of loss, and how she found purpose through helping others heal.

This story is about heartbreak, strength, and the power of love that never leaves.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: [insert guest handle]

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TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors): www.taps.org | 800-959-TAPS (8277)

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988

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When a Mother’s Gut Saves Her Child: Jordan’s Story of Infantile Spasms Nov 03, 2025

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TW: Medical trauma, hospitalization of a child, discussion of seizures

Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Jordan’s powerful story of parenting a medically complex child. Her daughter, Reagan, was diagnosed with infantile spasms — a rare and serious form of epilepsy — at just nine months old.

Jordan opens up about the first signs she noticed, the overwhelming journey through hospital stays, steroid treatments, insurance battles, therapy, and the emotional toll of caring for her child while her husband travels for work.

This is a story about motherhood, intuition, and never giving up — even when every step feels impossible.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: @jordanpashon2012 on Instagram

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988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988

Child Neurology Foundation: childneurologyfoundation.org

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Miscarriage IVF and Motherhood Through a Pandemic | Shaheena’s Story Oct 27, 2025

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Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about miscarriage, infertility, pregnancy loss, and fertility treatments which may be difficult for some listeners.

In this episode of For The Hayters, Shaheena shares her powerful story of navigating multiple miscarriages, years of infertility, and two pregnancies during the height of COVID.

Her journey through grief, IVF, and motherhood is a reminder that even in our most painful chapters, hope and healing can coexist.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her through: @iamshaheena

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988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988

Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net

Resolve: The National Infertility Association: resolve.org

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Healing the First-Gen Way: Boundaries, Culture, and Courage Oct 20, 2025

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This week on For The Hayters, Sara shares what it means to heal as a first-generation Latina. From being called “toxic” for setting boundaries to redefining what peace looks like inside her culture, her story is about courage, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles.

Sara opens up about her mental health journey, postpartum struggles, and the guilt that comes with choosing yourself when your family calls it selfish. Through therapy, faith, and community, she learned that boundaries are love — and that healing and culture can sit at the same table.

If you’ve ever felt alone for doing things differently than the generations before you, this episode is for you.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her on Instagram: @sar.vaore

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Guilt and Self-Forgiveness The Goodbye I Didn’t Say Oct 13, 2025

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So many of us carry guilt for what we didn’t do. Mira loved her grandfather deeply — yet she was the only one in her family who didn’t visit him in the hospital to say goodbye.

For nearly ten years she has wrestled with shame, isolation, and the long road back to grace. Today, Mira opens up about love that lasts, forgiveness that takes time, and learning to let joy sit beside grief.

If you’ve ever replayed a moment and wished you could change it, this conversation is for you.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: mdbertsch93@gmail.com

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Healing Culture and the Power of Representation with Jen Harper Oct 06, 2025

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This conversation with Jen Harper is about more than beauty. It is about culture resilience and turning pain into purpose. Jen shares her journey through childhood abandonment addiction and recovery and how reconnecting with her Indigenous identity led to the creation of Cheekbone Beauty and Canada’s first Indigenous innovation lab. We talk healing representation sustainability and the power of believing in yourself and taking one consistent step at a time

To connect with this week’s guest you can reach out to them through: @cheekbonebeauty and @cheekbonejen

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988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Call or text 988

SAMHSA National Helpline 1 800 662 HELP

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Losing Mom to Breast Cancer at 10: Paige’s story of grief and healing Sep 29, 2025

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At just ten years old, Paige lost her mom to breast cancer. The people who were supposed to protect her left her feeling alone, and she carried that grief in silence for years. Paige opens up about growing up without support, being told to get over it, turning to drinking to cope, and what it meant to finally build the family she always longed for.

This episode is about breaking cycles, choosing boundaries, and finding healing in the everyday love of chosen family, a steady partner, and two little boys who turned on the lights. Paige’s story is a reminder that even when the people you needed most let you down, it’s still possible to create a life filled with love, safety, and hope.

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If you or someone you know needs support, please visit:

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988lifeline.org | Call or text 988

The Dougy Center for Grieving Children and Families: dougy.org

Breastcancer.org patient and caregiver resources: breastcancer.org

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Surviving Betrayal Abuse and Finding Love Again Sep 22, 2025

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In this episode of For The Hayters, Kari opens up about her journey through toxic relationships, betrayal by her closest friend, and the weight of abandonment that began in childhood. She shares the painful truth of emotional and verbal abuse, the challenges of single motherhood, and the long road of rebuilding trust. With honesty and courage, Kari shows us what it looks like to heal through therapy, co parenting, and eventually finding a safe and steady love.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to her on Instagram at @kkisner87 or TikTok at @krie_kisner

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