Finding Direction

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Episode 350: Rewriting Your Story: How Changing Your Narrative Can Transform Your Life Mar 30, 2023

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In this episode of the Finding Direction podcast, I talk about the power of changing the story we tell ourselves about who we are. I share my own experience of realizing that I had been telling myself a story of being shy and introverted, which had shaped my entire life. However, I decided to create a new story for myself, one where I was incredible with people and a leader in my own life. This shift in my narrative changed everything for me, and I encourage listeners to examine the stories they tell themselves and consider what new story they could create to live the life they want.

What We Discuss:

Gratitude [00:00:26] Encouragement to express gratitude for something in life.

The power of our story [00:01:15] Explanation of how the story we tell ourselves about who we are controls our life.

Rewriting our story [00:02:14] Discussion of how rewriting our story can empower us to live the life we want.

Change and growth [00:03:15] Explanation of how change is inevitable but growth is optional.

Personal story [00:04:15] Introduction of the speaker's personal story of transformation from a shy and introverted kid to a more confident and outgoing person.

Observing a mentor [00:05:12] Speaker's observation of a mentor's ability to connect with people and realization that our stories shape who we are.

The power of our story (continued) [00:08:04] Continuation of the discussion on how the story we tell ourselves about who we are controls our life.

Changing Your Story [00:08:59] Stu shares his personal story of how changing his narrative transformed his life and encourages listeners to ask themselves what story they are telling themselves.

Magic Mind [00:11:57] Stu talks about a company called Magic Mind that has helped him get into a state of flow and offers a discount for listeners.

Creating a New Story [00:15:24] Stu encourages listeners to uncover the story they tell themselves that is not empowering and create a new story that can lead to a better life.

Changing Your Narrative [00:18:15] The importance of choosing a narrative that supports your life goals and how it can shape your future.

Implementing a New Story [00:19:03] Encouragement to think about a new narrative that can change the trajectory of your life and create a more empowering story.

Living in Alignment with Your Story [00:19:53] The power of living in alignment with the story we tell ourselves about who we are and how it can transform our lives.

Episode Resources:

Magic Mind: (Website) Use discount code "direction20" for 20% off first-time order or 56% off first subscription order. (00:11:57)

Episode 349: Man on Fire With David Mehler Mar 28, 2023

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This week on the Finding Direction podcast I chat with David Mailer, creator of Man on Fire, a company that empowers men to live fulfilling lives. David shares his journey from being a successful chiropractor to becoming a masculine leader and discusses the importance of vulnerability and living in one's heart. He explains the three fundamental pillars of Man on Fire and the two invisible forces that control why people do what they do. David encourages men to face their fears and use them as leverage to find their true purpose. Listeners are invited to connect with David and learn more about his coaching programs and community.

What We Discuss:

David's Journey [00:01:50] David shares his journey from being a successful chiropractor to becoming a masculine leader and empowering men to live fulfilling lives.

Using Regret to Move Forward [00:02:56] David talks about using the power of regret to move forward in life.

The Two Invisible Forces Controlling Behavior [00:02:56] David discusses the two invisible forces controlling why people do what they do.

Importance of Vulnerability and Living in One's Heart [00:05:16] David emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and living in one's heart to live a fulfilling life.

David's journey to creating Man on Fire [00:08:00] David shares his journey of surrendering into faith and finding his message for the world, leading to the creation of Man on Fire.

Leveraging the power of regret [00:09:51] David and Stu discuss the power of regret as a motivator for change and how to leverage it to create a life you love.

The story of David's father and the importance of time [00:12:02] David shares the story of his father's regret and how it taught him the importance of time and taking risks.

Man on Fire and its purpose [00:14:31] David explains what Man on Fire is and its purpose as a movement to empower men to live fulfilling lives.

Man on Fire [00:15:30] David Mailer explains what Man on Fire is and how it helps men live fulfilling lives.

Support Structure of Accountability [00:16:30] David Mailer discusses the importance of building a support structure of accountability to help men stay motivated and reach their full potential.

Magic Mind [00:18:32] Stu Massengill shares his experience with Magic Mind, a company that helps with productivity and focus, and offers a discount code for listeners.

Three Pillars of Man on Fire [00:22:19] David Mailer explains the three fundamental pillars of Man on Fire, starting with seeing your game and the two invisible forces that dictate why people do what they do.

The Game of Selling Yourself [00:23:43] The importance of understanding who you're selling yourself to and the consequences of not being true to yourself.

The Two Invisible Forces [00:25:10] The two invisible forces that control people's actions: feeling unworthy and unlovable.

Facing Your Feelings [00:27:30] The importance of slowing down and feeling your feelings to face the two invisible forces controlling your actions.

Somatic-Based Technologies [00:28:14] The use of somatic-based technologies to break into your body and feel your feelings to face the two invisible forces controlling your actions.

Influence of Chiropractic and Neurophysiology [00:29:44] The influence of chiropractic and neurophysiology in the development of the proprietary processes used in Man on Fire.

David's background and Donnie Epstein's technique [00:30:53] David explains how he got involved with Donnie Epstein's technique and how it evolved over time.

Playing the game differently [00:32:30] David discusses the second step of his coaching program, which involves confronting one's fears and learning to authentically own one's power.

Playing the game to win [00:33:41] David explains the third and final step of his coaching program, which involves living a fulfilling life and leaving a positive impact on the world.

Where to find David Mailer [00:34:34] David shares where listeners can find him, including his Facebook group and website.

One thing to do to find direction [00:35:45] David suggests having empathy and compassion for oneself and taking control of one's physical health as a way to start finding direction in life.

Introduction [00:38:07] Stu Massengill thanks the audience for joining him and introduces the guest, David Mailer.

David's journey [00:38:45] David Mailer talks about his journey from being a successful chiropractor to becoming a masculine leader and empowering men to live fulfilling lives.

Using regret to move forward [00:40:50] David Mailer discusses the power of regret and how it can be used to move forward in life.

The two invisible forces [00:43:30] David Mailer talks about the two invisible forces that control why people do what they do.

Importance of vulnerability [00:46:20] David Mailer emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and living in one's heart.

Episode Resources:

Man on Fire Rising (Website) - 00:34:34
Man on Fire Rising Facebook group: "Get Your Balls Back" (Website) - 00:34:34

Episode 348: The Power of Creating A Schedule: Tips and Strategies for a Successful Week Mar 23, 2023

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In this episode of the Finding Direction podcast, I discuss the importance of creating a schedule to achieve goals and live a fulfilling life. Personally, I have a routine for creating a weekly schedule that works well for me, but I encourage listeners to design their own schedules based on their preferences. Having a schedule is crucial to saving time and staying focused on tasks, while also allowing for flexibility in adjusting the schedule. I cannot stress enough how important it is to take action and implement a schedule into your life to see real change. So, let's get started on creating a schedule that works for you!

What We Discuss:

Creating a Schedule [00:00:26] Stu explains the importance of creating a schedule to achieve goals and uses an analogy of a bowling alley with bumpers to illustrate how a schedule can help one reach their goals despite unexpected events.

Weekly Schedule [00:05:02] Stu shares his personal routine for creating a weekly schedule, which involves filling in commitments that are already on the calendar and asking oneself what are the three most important things that must be accomplished in a week to move towards desired life.

Scheduling Accomplishments [00:06:38] Stu gives an example of how to schedule accomplishments for the week and fill in the blank spaces in the weekly schedule.

Creating a Weekly Schedule [00:08:12] Stu shares his personal routine for creating a weekly schedule and how he converts it into a daily schedule.

Building a Daily Schedule [00:09:03] Stu explains how he plans out his entire day, including breaks and wind-down time, the night before.

The Power of Having a Schedule [00:09:48] Stu discusses how having a schedule saves time and helps one stay focused on tasks, even when unexpected events occur.

Flexibility in Scheduling [00:10:40] Stu emphasizes the importance of allowing flexibility in one's schedule and adjusting it as needed.

Benefits of a Weekly Schedule [00:11:30] Stu shares how having a weekly schedule has helped him be more productive and achieve his goals.

Encouragement to Take Action [00:12:17] Stu encourages listeners to take action and implement scheduling into their lives for real change to happen.

Episode 347: Finding Happiness: A Deep Dive Into Life's Ups & Downs With Jenn Lim Mar 21, 2023

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In this episode of the Finding Direction podcast, I interview Jen Lim, founder and bestselling author of Beyond Happiness and CEO of Delivering Happiness. We discuss the importance of values, purpose, and deep conversations in finding happiness and fulfillment in both personal and work life. Jen shares her personal journey and experiences, and offers practical exercises and insights to help individuals on their journey towards happiness and purpose. We also discuss the importance of self-care and self-discovery, especially in the context of mental health in the workplace. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of reflection, self-discovery, and meaningful connections in finding direction in life.

What We Discuss:

Jen Lim's background [00:00:26] Stu Massengill gives an overview of Jen Lim's background and accomplishments.

Topics to be discussed [00:01:17] Stu Massengill lists the topics that will be covered in the episode, including happiness, values, and purpose.

Jen Lim's journey [00:02:35] Stu Massengill asks Jen Lim to share her journey and how she got to where she is today.

Pivotal moments [00:03:51] Jen Lim talks about the pivotal moments in her life, including losing her father and realizing she was chasing the wrong things.

From Asian American studies to working in thecom [00:05:24] Stu Massengill asks Jen Lim how she went from studying Asian American studies to working in thecom.

Deep conversations [00:07:08] Stu Massengill asks Jen Lim about the deep conversations she had with herself that led her to her current trajectory.

Discovering Values [00:08:09] Jen talks about how she discovered her values through deep conversations and prioritizing the people in her life, freedom, and authenticity.

Simplifying Decision Making [00:09:29] Jen shares how she simplified decision making by asking herself what is most important to her and filtering decisions through her values.

Becoming a Consultant [00:10:57] Jen talks about how she became a consultant and worked with different companies before joining Zappos as a consultant.

Navigating Uncertainty [00:15:39] Jen discusses how going one page at a time and grounding herself in her values helped her navigate uncertainty and cope with the unknown.

Jen's journey and mentors [00:16:50] Jen reflects on her journey and the importance of having mentors as examples.

Discovery of positive psychology [00:18:54] Jen and Tony discover positive psychology and the science of happiness, leading to the founding of Delivering Happiness.

Deeper conversation about happiness [00:20:45] Stu and Jen discuss the deeper questions about happiness, including its meaning, the four pillars of happiness, and finding purpose.

Magic Mind [00:24:02] Stu shares his experience with Magic Mind, a company that helps with productivity and focus, and offers a discount for listeners.

Discovering Purpose [00:26:01] Stu and Jen discuss three questions to ask oneself to discover their purpose, including what lights them up, what they are inherently good at, and how they can impact their immediate world.

Living a Purposeful Life [00:30:00] Jen shares her personal experience of discovering her purpose and how it evolved over time. Stu emphasizes the importance of living a purposeful life and how it can change one's perspective.

Happiness in the Workplace [00:32:16] Stu and Jen discuss how to increase happiness in the workplace, including doing exercises to discover one's values and purpose. Jen shares an exercise called "Happiness Heartbeats" to help identify patterns in one's highs and lows.

Reflecting on past experiences [00:34:36] Importance of reflecting on past experiences to understand and grow from them, minimizing long-term impact of trauma.

Practical exercises for happiness and purpose [00:35:54] Discussion of practical exercises for happiness and purpose, including reflection and asking three questions. Exercises available for free download on Jen Lim's website.

Going beyond happiness [00:37:26] Discussion of the concept of going beyond happiness to embrace the full gamut of highs and lows, and finding fulfillment in life.

Practice and curiosity [00:40:02] Importance of practice and curiosity in the pursuit of happiness and fulfillment, reframing failures as stumbling and learning opportunities.

Self-love and self-care [00:42:56] Jen talks about the importance of self-love, self-care, and self-compassion, especially during tough times.

Mental health in the workplace [00:43:59] Jen discusses the importance of being real about mental health in the workplace and how it can lead to feeling more fulfilled.

Finding direction through action [00:46:09] Jen suggests trying something new with a beginner's mindset as a way to start finding direction in life.

Episode Resources

MagicMind.co (Website) - 00:26:01
Beyond Happiness Book (Website) - 00:26:02
Delivering Happiness (Website) - 00:26:02
Purpose exercise - (Website) 00:27:29
Happiness Heartbeats exercise (Website) - 00:32:52
Jenn Lim's Personal Website

Episode 346: 10x Your Productivity: Strategies for Working Smarter, Not Harder Mar 16, 2023

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In this solo episode of my podcast, Finding Direction, I discuss ways to increase productivity and work smarter in various areas of life. I encourage you to focus on the 20% of tasks that bring 80% of the results and to delegate or eliminate the rest. Let's break down the "three D's" of productivity: Do it, Defer it, and Delegate it. Ask yourself what you want to do, not just what you need to do, in order to find joy and passion in your work. I want to offer you words of encouragement to take action and execute on your goals. Let's do this together!

What We Discuss:

Introduction [00:00:00] Stu Massengill welcomes listeners and expresses gratitude.

Story of the Fly [00:02:25] Stu shares the story of the fly hitting a glass door and how it relates to working smarter, not harder.

Pick an Area of Your Life [00:03:29] Stu encourages listeners to pick an area of their life where they want to work smarter, not harder.

Leveraging the 2080 Rule [00:05:13] Stu explains the 2080 rule and how to use it to identify the 20% of tasks that bring 80% of the results.

Identifying the 20% [00:07:05] Stu gives examples of how he used the 2080 rule to identify the 20% of tasks that brought him the most joy and fulfillment in running his podcast.

Identifying the 20% that brings 80% of results [00:08:45] Stu encourages listeners to identify the 20% of tasks that bring 80% of results and to delegate or eliminate the rest.

Identifying the 20% that brings 80% of headaches [00:09:36] Stu asks listeners to identify the 20% of tasks that bring 80% of headaches, frustration, and annoyance.

Example of Stu's 20% that brings 80% of headaches [00:10:28] Stu shares his experience of creating marketing clips and doing guest outreach for the podcast.

Introduction to Magic Mind [00:12:11] Stu introduces Magic Mind, a company that helps with productivity and focus.

Explanation of Magic Mind ingredients [00:13:07] Stu explains the ingredients in Magic Mind and how they help with productivity and focus.

Discount for Magic Mind [00:14:01] Stu offers a discount for Magic Mind for listeners of the podcast.

Applying the Three D's [00:16:01] Stu introduces the Three D's: Do it, Defer it, and Delegate it, and explains how they can help increase productivity.

Three D's [00:16:45] Explanation of the three D's: Do it, Defer it, Delegate it, and how to apply them to increase productivity.

Finding what you want to do [00:16:45] How to identify the tasks that bring joy and passion, and how to focus on them.

Defer it [00:17:34] Explanation of how to defer tasks that need to be done but not necessarily immediately, and how to schedule them in advance.

Delegate it [00:18:21] Explanation of how to delegate tasks that need to be done but not necessarily by you, and how to find interns or people to help for free or at a low cost.

Systematize/Automate [00:22:09] Explanation of how to systematize or automate tasks that cause headaches, and how to use tools like Calendly to streamline processes.

Summary [00:23:42] Recap of the 20/80 rule and the three D's, and encouragement to execute on what was learned to increase productivity.

Closing Remarks [00:24:27] Stu thanks the listeners for joining and encourages them to share the episode with friends. He also reminds them to implement what they learned.

Productivity Strategies [00:00:00 - 00:24:27] Stu discusses ways to increase productivity and work smarter in various areas of life, using his own experience with running the podcast as an example.

Episode Resources:

Magic Mind (Website) - 00:14:01

Episode 345: How to Work From Your Happy Place With Belinda Ellsworth Mar 14, 2023

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On this episode of the podcast, I chat with Belinda Ellsworth, a sales trainer and personal development expert, who shares her experience of pivoting her business during the pandemic and realizing that she was not living the life she wanted. She talks about how she went through a grieving period and eventually got clear on what she really wanted, which led her to focus on monetizing her podcast and launching a subscription box. Belinda emphasizes the importance of being disciplined, stepping up, and networking to achieve success. She also discusses the concept of working from your happy place, finding a balance between life and work, serving others, and ultimately changing their lives.

What We Discuss:

Belinda's pandemic pivot [00:02:50] Belinda shares how she pivoted her business during the pandemic and saved it by offering additional products and courses.

Realizing she was not living the life she wanted [00:04:30] Belinda talks about going through a grieving period and realizing that she was not living the life she wanted, despite teaching others to work from their happy place.

Monetizing her podcast and launching a subscription box [00:05:21] Belinda shares how she got clear on what she really wanted, which led her to focus on monetizing her podcast and launching a subscription box. She talks about taking courses and networking to make it happen.

Making a clear decision [00:09:23] Belinda talks about the importance of making a clear and concise decision about what you want in life, and how it can help you move from a scarcity mindset to a thriving one.

Work from your happy place [00:13:48] Belinda discusses the theme of her podcast, "Work from your happy place," and what it means to her. She explains that it's about loving what you do, making a difference in someone else's life, and having the freedom to choose how and where you work.

Layers of work from your happy place [00:15:41] Belinda explains that the idea of "work from your happy place" has different layers, including finding your passion, having the freedom to work from anywhere, and being able to choose when and how you work. She emphasizes that making an impact on someone else's life is also an important aspect of finding your happy place in work.

The Journey to Working from Your Happy Place [00:16:24] Belinda Ellsworth explains the five stages of working from your happy place and how it involves serving others and changing lives.

Overcoming Fear and Taking Risks [00:17:31] Belinda Ellsworth discusses fear and resignation as the biggest roadblocks that stop people from living in their happy place. She also talks about the importance of taking risks and having self-confidence.

Taking the Leap to Pursue Your Passion [00:20:07] Belinda Ellsworth shares her personal experience of leaving her corporate job to pursue her passion as a motivational speaker. She talks about the importance of taking risks and not waiting for a guarantee.

The Importance of Sales in Life [00:24:30] Belinda Ellsworth emphasizes the importance of sales in everyone's life, whether in a sales position or not. She describes sales as an art form and loves the analytics and closing rates involved.

Sales Skills [00:25:19] Belinda discusses the difference between men and women in sales and the importance of finding what the customer needs.

Importance of Sales [00:26:21] Stu and Belinda talk about the importance of sales in life and how it relates to working from your happy place.

Discipline and Scheduling [00:26:56] Belinda emphasizes the importance of work ethic, discipline, and scheduling systems to be successful.

Where to Find Belinda [00:27:49] Belinda shares where listeners can find her, including her podcast, website, and new subscription box.

Action Step: Finding Direction [00:28:58] Belinda suggests an action step for listeners to take in the next 24-48 hours to start finding direction in their life.

Episode Resources:

Work From Your Happy Place Podcast (Website)

workfromyourhappyplace on IG (Website)

Episode 344: 3 Ways to Build Momentum In Your Life Immediately Mar 09, 2023

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In this podcast episode, we discuss three ways to build momentum in life. I cannot stress enough the importance of momentum and I encourage you, to reminisce on a time when you felt you had momentum in your life. Let's dive into the first way to build momentum, which is to implement a practice called "capturing three wins a day." The second way is to start with one thing, and the third way is to take care of other parts of life. By taking small steps in other areas of your life, you can slowly build momentum and start to see progress in all areas of your life.

What We Discuss:

Introduction [00:00:00] Stu Massengill welcomes listeners and introduces the topic of the episode.

The Importance of Momentum [00:01:15] Stu discusses the importance of momentum in life and how it affects our ability to achieve our goals.

Capturing Three Wins a Day [00:03:00] Stu shares his practice of capturing three wins a day and how it helps to shift focus from what didn't work to what did work.

Start with One Thing [00:05:47] Stu encourages listeners to focus on one thing that they can achieve each day to move the needle forward in their life.

Taking Care of Other Parts of Your Life [00:07:22] Stu emphasizes the importance of taking care of other parts of our lives, such as exercise and nutrition, to build momentum in our overall well-being.

Building Momentum [00:08:13] Importance of taking care of other areas of life to build momentum and avoid feeling stuck.

Three Ways to Build Momentum [00:09:43] Recap of the three ways to build momentum: focus on one thing, capture wins, and take care of other areas of life.

Encouragement to Share [00:09:43] Encouragement to share the podcast episode with friends who may need to build momentum in their lives.

Episode Resources:

Stu's IG - @stumassengill (Website)

Finding Direction Podcast on IG (Website)

Episode 343: Becoming Your Own Best Friend With Lisane Basquiat Mar 07, 2023

Show notes

Lisane Basquiat is the founder of Shaping Freedom, a personal growth company. She also owns Hera Hub Carlsbad, a female-focused and gender-inclusive community which is a co-working space and business accelerator. She is now a master practitioner of neurolinguistic programming and mental and emotional release, among many others.

In this episode, we talk about:

◾️Taking inventory on why you're doing what you're doing in your life right now.

◾️The power of becoming your best friend.

◾️Lisane's top 4 life lessons.

@shapingfreedom

https://shapingfreedom.com/

Episode 342: Making A Career Change: 5 Things You Can Do When You're Ready For Change Mar 02, 2023

Show notes

Making A Career Change: 5 Things You Can Do When You're Ready For Change

◾️Make a mindset shift.

◾️Take inventory and find your 'ikegaya'.

◾️Start asking people around you.

◾️Ask yourself 'If I could wave a magic wand and do anything with my life, what would I do?'.

◾️Make and create a shitty plan.

Stu's IG - @stumassengill

Episode 341: Therapy with Tanya Cole-Lesnick Feb 28, 2023

Show notes

Tanya Cole-Lesnick is a psycho-therapist and coach who has been in this field since 1995. Her focus is helping people to clear energetic clutter so they can focus on what matters to them.

In this episode, we talk about:

◾️The self-talk that may be holding you back.

◾️All things therapy.

◾️How to clear energetic clutter in your life.

ClearEnergeticClutter.com

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