Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Episode 188: Great Communication With Teenagers Oct 29, 2024

What does great communication with teens really look like and how can parents achieve that? Dr. Ken and Jessica outline the aspects of the parent-teen relationship that usually cause trouble in communication (spoiler alert: control battles). Also we discuss the more nuanced issue of what great communication with adolescents should really look like. Should parents really have the goal of being so close to their adolescents that "we talk about everything"? Are there even times when a parent should actually tell their teenager, "I don't think you should be telling me this"? Is it a good goal for parents to want to be their teenagers' constant "go to" relationship through the trials of adolescence? You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 187: When Planned Emancipation Doesn't Work Oct 22, 2024

Parents some times complain that they "tried" planned emancipation and it "didn't work." Today we talk about the common reasons for planned emancipation not seeming to have the impact parents expected. This is all covered in the new edition of "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You." You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 186: Planned Emancipation - Second Edition Oct 15, 2024

As we prepare for the release of the second edition of "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You," Jessica and Dr. Ken talk about the power of planned emancipation. This method is often mistaken for the practice of rewarding children's good behavior with more privileges. Planned emancipation, by contrast, recognizes the greater freedom that comes with just getting older. Parents who fearfully try to hang on to control end up weakening their influence on their adolescents. You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 185: Teaching Parents To Release The Burden of Parenting Oct 08, 2024

In the second edition of "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You," Dr. Ken explains why he added an entire chapter on the issue of burdened parents. We discuss the difficulty of providing information for parents while avoiding the appearance of having an "inside scoop" to guarantee happy, successful teenagers. You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 184: Refocusing On Individuation - The Main Thing To Know About Teenagers Oct 01, 2024

We're getting ready for the release of "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" second edition. This gives Jessica and Dr. Ken the chance to clarify the most important themes that are unique to this approach to parenting adolescents. Today we review individuation which is the most important need that adolescents have by far. This need is so important that Dr. Ken even worries that if your teen doesn't seem to be pushing for autonomy that's not a good thing at all. Also, we take on common misperceptions like individuation is "just like when they were a 2 year old." WRONG! You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 183: When Parents Are Suffering Sep 24, 2024

This was a tough episode. When parents are struggling with serious illness or other types of suffering, how should they handle their adolescent kids? Jessica talks about her own, recent diagnosis of multiple myeloma cancer and how it has impacted her adolescent and adult children. Dr. Ken talks about his wife's cancer battle 20 years ago when their children were young. There's a significant difference in how parents should deal with their kids when they are young vs. adolescents. In suffering, parents truly show their faith. You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 182: Inside Out 2 Sep 17, 2024

Today we talk about Pixar's big summer movie "Inside Out 2" in which the star, Riley, becomes a teenager. Although a really funny movie, Dr. Ken had a fair amount to complain about how we think about the inner life of teenagers. Jessica enjoyed it and so did her 13 year old daughter. Maybe Dr. Ken is just being a curmudgeon. You decide! You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 181: "The Anxious Generation" Sep 10, 2024

Today we talk about Jonathan Haidt's new book, "The Anxious Generation." He is a social psychologist and co-author of the book "The Coddling Of The American Mind." This new book reviews massive amounts of research and delivers what Dr. Ken thinks is a "slam dunk" answer to the debate about whether smartphones are damaging to the lives of children and adolescents. We discuss the concerning data and how smartphones, social media and pornography have contributed to significant increases in adolescent levels of anxiety and depression. As you can guess, we also talk about effective ways to delay and limit smartphone access while still inviting your teenager into the discussion and maintaining a path to autonomy. You can get "The Anxious Generation" book here: https://a.co/d/gvfk0JY You can preorder Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 180: The Big Announcement: The Revised and Expanded, 2nd Edition of the Feeding Book Is Here! Sep 03, 2024

The second edition of the "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" book will drop on November 5th! Dr. Ken finally finished the work of updating and expanding the Planned Emancipation message. Listeners of this podcast will recognize the new material covered in the book since they are many of the topics we talked about on this podcast over that past four seasons including: - anxiety and depression - ADHD, Autism-spectrum disorders and neurodiversity - brain science and trauma - sexuality and gender identity - single parents - divorce and blended families - adoption - adult children at home - grandparents and teenagers Today we review how the new book is laid out and the new topics this second edition will cover. Of course, this new edition lays out the basic understanding of transitioning adolescents into full adulthood and all the "how-to's" that parents have relied on since publication of the first book. We're glad to be back and are getting fired up about "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" second edition! Pre-order the book here: https://a.co/d/77bAlpm Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 179: We're Going On Break Plus A BIG Announcement! May 28, 2024

We're taking the summer off after our fourth season! Plus... Dr. Ken has a big announcement that will interest all "Feeding The Mouth" parents when we get back. See you in the fall!

Episode 178: Bad Therapy - Part Two May 21, 2024

Today we finish up our discussion of Abigail Shrier's book, "Bad Therapy." We take on her more wide-ranging critiques of psychotherapy's influence on schools and parenting. Are schools overstepping when they start monitoring the mental health of their students? When did parenting become a specialized technique for the psychologically trained few. When did parents lose confidence in simply raising their children the same way their parents raised them? We take on these and other issues related to Abigail Shrier's book, "Bad Therapy." Ms. Shrier's book can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CK524HQ7/ Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1514762374/ Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 177: Bad Therapy - Part One May 14, 2024

If you haven't read Abigail Shrier's book, "Bad Therapy" you probably should take a look. Ms. Shrier's critique of an over-psychologized culture and the negative effects of poorly applied therapeutic methods is a timely warning for parents. Dr. Ken doesn't agree with all her conclusions but, as you'll see, there's plenty of very important cautions for parents considering taking their kid to therapy. This is part one of a two part (rather long) discussion. Ms. Shrier's book can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CK524HQ7/ Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1514762374/ Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 176: Stepparents and Teenagers May 07, 2024

Stepparents can play a powerful role in the lives of children. But dealing with teenagers is a very different matter. Even if you've been in your stepkids' lives for years, the onset of adolescence can change how they see their relationship to you. Dr. Ken talks about the importance of stepparents taking an honest inventory of how the teenager sees them and the ineffectiveness of stepparents unilaterally expecting a teen's acceptance regardless of the circumstances of how they came into the teenager's life. We also review the power that stepparents have and can play in the lives of their stepchildren and much more. Listen if you are a stepparent or if you know someone who is. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 174: Cellphones and Teens - Another Update! Apr 30, 2024

By far the number one question parents ask about is managing cell phones. Just when you think you've set some guidelines they go right out the door. What's the best age to allow cell phones? Does Dr. Ken still recommend allowing complete freedom with these things at some point? We cover these and other important things to review with these stupid devices including some thoughts on parents' own usage of cellphones. Dr. Ken references the "Wait Until 8th" campaign - https://www.waituntil8th.org/ Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 174: Marriage Problems, Separation, Divorce and Teenagers Apr 23, 2024

How should parents deal with teenagers when they're having marriage problems? What are the real effects of divorce on teenagers? When and how much should parents talk to their teens about marriage problems or when considering divorce? Today Jessica and Dr. Ken take on these questions and more. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 173: Teenagers and Religion - Church, Synagogue, Mosque or Temple Apr 16, 2024

Today we revisit the issue of passing on your own religious priorities to your teenagers. Since the pandemic, attendance at religious services is down significantly among Americans of all faiths. Among Christians, a significant percentage believe that watching church online is equal to church attendance. This drop in regular church or synagogue participation brings a unique challenge to parents who want to influence the faith of their adolescent children. Additionally, we talk about whether parents should require teenagers to attend activities designed for youth when they'd rather just go to service with their parents, what if they tell you they don't even believe in God? We cover these and other aspects of teenagers and faith. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 172: Porn and Anime Revisited Apr 09, 2024

It's been awhile since we talked about pornography and issues surrounding it. Jessica is also worried about anime. Are these two related? Should parents be worried about animated porn images as well as live action videos and images? What is hentai anyway? What is the impact of trying to "lock down" a teenager's access to porn vs. the impact of open communication? We take on these and other issues surrounding harmful, sexually related imagery. Dr. Ken makes reference to Cindy Gallop's book "Make Love Not Porn." It appears this is no longer available. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 171: We Interview Cynthia Yanof... Your New Best Friend Apr 02, 2024

Today we talk to Cynthia Yanof, host of the "MESSmerized" podcast, former host of the "Pardon the Mess" podcast and author of her new book, "Life is Messy, God is Good: Sanity for the Chaos of Everyday Life." Always relatable, Cynthia's book shares stories and lessons learned from the vantage point of a wife, mom, former lawyer, foster parent and Christian woman just trying to keep things together. Her honesty and genuine interest in everyone around her draws people to her like a magnet, including Jessica and Dr. Ken, Cynthia is the new best friend that you just met! You can order Cynthia's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Life-Messy-God-Good-Everyday/dp/0830785337/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.FpO-LuS7Ai5oyZNB81l-7asYYzhZFnYyOGIopmyTzVALHajKoWGLDx1gXtl_5wCBSxDJIjJ6xZzU1tF6kjWfpsfc6cs1SFbC-JWwRAwxtVR4e-mJ32SSOHicPhIUHjcVkU4jANzkzVa3SH4JtNabgqqAoPA3PaGf0UY79_TDUcbpxAS0wGJbaXwCSunISCHy2b0axBG2pNqdD2C2pyx0Iw.AeupKj1yBCDiNddCRyXUx7xrb3xdXF96k4LwbSodga0&qid=1711833469&sr=8-1 Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 170: Sociosexuality Part Two Mar 27, 2024

This week we finish our discussion on teens and sociosexuality - an individual's interest in sexual behavior without commitment. Dr. Ken reviews the need to help our daughter's understand the normal differences between male and female sociosexuality. We review the importance of talking to your teens about these differences even though you're sure to get "eye rolls" from a generation that believes everything is about individual differences. Dr. Ken references the following books: "The Case Against the Sexual Revolution" - Louise Perry https://www.amazon.com/Case-Against-Sexual-Revolution/dp/1509549994/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.VQOg_8sw7jb9T-0fFt9KZCudi7AKKInduM-ES9xPDq4fecfnh-xyNUH5_mErzn25V8VZYfgsM40B8bBbH0MuZhUwKGHw8iio8lGPnP9w9PaGdBFZ4oItBrySGW5vLIDLCjre-SlUEoGFvNOECO56WaFPtxp2nJLX9oLy5mLvIkEMw7ynbQ_h5i2DIATK-wsBpllOsL5fjdYk8yo-xeXjDiKARLptoz3P0SShYQrx8So.BPByX1Va2VbaA8yOQ_1T61tIS9n2pE1ZYKrP3SkfAus&qid=1711545656&sr=8-1 "American Hookup" - Lisa Wade https://www.amazon.com/American-Hookup-New-Culture-Campus/dp/0393355535/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2HWS0SCACFO6A&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.W9K4D6-NKQNtoSlI_ReUXRsV_oCd_70Nnq4u93_VjI7IuEspEXW7D-QFY7F2w9HfFzIfkElqGvqPYsP4ogaxHWeX359PKTMFHGBTsntQ8ky3NVWq-RA4H8Xhqe1hZ2WwFElZacMo5-gsrafyy_Ooe0A06lxrPnheI5dzsRiW61nfN6Dm7RwLGVpH3jYYPLmWN4T3aIoxnUxi_2bJApir87RsTOkdqHgX1WbP9u6eDzM.aLTxpOmvbRd9dT_TNohQYHEeSNmlB5daRoecF6oZB4A&dib_tag=se&keywords=american+hookup&qid=1711545789&sprefix=american+hookup%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1 Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 169: Sociosexuality Part One Mar 19, 2024

Are men and women different in their sexual drives and needs? Popular culture seems insistent on portraying men and women's sexual interests as the same. In psychology research, an individual's desire and interest in casual, sexual interaction is known as sociosexuality. This has been studied worldwide and surprise surprise, there are consistent differences between males and females in their levels of sociosexuality. Today is the first part of an important discussion on how to talk to our girls and boys about these differences and the implications this has on how young men and women interact, regardless of ideological insistence otherwise. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 168: Neurodiversity And Teenagers Mar 12, 2024

What is neurodiversity and what does it mean to be neurodivergent? Today we talk about this broad category that covers autism-spectrum conditions as well as deficits in attention and other cognitive, learning issues. Why is neurodiversity becoming a popular term? Is this a useful category for our kids? Jessica and Dr. Ken talk about the possible drawbacks to this category. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 167: "Lost In Trans Nation" Dr. Miriam Grossman Interview (Part Two) Mar 05, 2024

Today we share the second half of our interview with Dr. Miriam Grossman. Grossman is a board certified psychiatrist who has been educating parents about the misinformation that has all but hijacked the fields of psychiatry, psychology and virtually all other human sciences. Dr. Grossman’s practice currently focuses on gender-distressed young people and their parents. She believes that every child is born in the right body. Dr. Grossman is the author of five books and has been translated into eleven languages. She testified before Congress and lectured at the British House of Lords. You might have seen her interview in the documentary "What Is A Woman?" Be careful when ordering her book as there have been efforts by some to interfere with getting the right book. Best to order from here: https://www.miriamgrossmanmd.com/about-4-2 Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 166: "Lost in Trans Nation" We Interview Dr. Miriam Grossman MD (Part One) Feb 27, 2024

We are so excited to have one of our heroes join us for an in-depth look at the ideology of gender diversity that is sweeping our country. Dr. Miriam Grossman is a board certified psychiatrist who has been educating parents about the misinformation that has all but hijacked the fields of psychiatry, psychology and virtually all other human sciences. Dr. Grossman’s practice currently focuses on gender-distressed young people and their parents. She believes that every child is born in the right body. Dr. Grossman is the author of five books and has been translated into eleven languages. She testified before Congress and lectured at the British House of Lords. You might have seen her interview in the documentary "What Is A Woman?" We are honored to present this first of a two part discussion. Be careful when ordering her book as there have been efforts by some to interfere with getting the right book. Best to order from here: https://www.miriamgrossmanmd.com/about-4-2 Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 165: Alcohol, Drugs And Vaping - Revisited Feb 20, 2024

It's hard to believe how long it's been since we covered alcohol, drugs and vaping. Today we review the important differences between things that are bad for your teen and things that get them intoxicated. That difference is important! Also, Dr. Ken reviews the kind of craziness that can surround even normal sounding teens when they spend a lot of time around drunk kids. We also cover a brand new kind of nicotine delivery system (oh great)! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 164: Parenting Teenagers In An Age Of Anxiety Feb 13, 2024

Today we review yet another news article about increased anxiety in teenagers. What is causing so much anxiety among our teens today? How should parents respond to teenagers who are anxious about the world they face today? When parents worry unnecessarily about every teenage struggle they run the risk of implying their adolescents are powerless to face today's struggles. Dr. Ken focuses instead on the need to parent in ways that empower adolescents and encourage them to face the troubles of their world in ways we parents could never imagine. Today's episode refers to these articles: Today’s Teenagers: Anxious About Their Futures and Disillusioned by Politicians - https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/29/upshot/teens-politics-mental-health.html How Anxiety Became Content - https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/12/therapy-language-anxiety-mental-health/676325/ Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 163: Mentalization - Is Your Teen Good At Knowing Other People? Feb 06, 2024

Does your teenager misread others? Are they able to read the motives and feelings of their peers? This is known as "mentalization." Since the COVID pandemic more and more adolescents are struggling to read others and this effects their peer relationships and all other social interactions. Today we talk about how parents can influence mentalization in their teens and encourage their relationships. Dr. Ken references David Brooks' book "How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen" https://www.amazon.com/How-Know-Person-Seeing-Others/dp/059323006X/ref=asc_df_059323006X/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=647264363749&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11579897834764221685&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9026972&hvtargid=pla-1973418059256&psc=1&mcid=2b6838d100a03234bfccdfda564a7ab5 Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 162: What About Starting Planned Emancipation Earlier Than Thirteen? Jan 30, 2024

We've had some listeners ask about starting Feeding The Mouth parenting early. You know, like what about that extra responsible, mature 11-year-old? Wouldn't it be better to encourage that kind of behavior with early Planned Emancipation? Dr. Ken's answer may surprise you. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 161: When Teens Attract the Wrong Friends Jan 23, 2024

What can parents do when their teenager seems to attract the wrong kind of friends? How is it that some adolescents seem to get in with the "good" kids in their school while others apparently struggle? Today we talk about the somewhat complex issue of teens who hang with the "wrong" sort of friend group. What causes some teens to gravitate to the wrong crowd? What can parents do about it? What about moving your teenager to a new school? We answer these and other questions surrounding teens and the "bad crowd." Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 160: Teenagers and Masturbation Jan 16, 2024

NOTE: Today's episode isn't suitable for young children (obviously). We know it's hard to talk about masturbation with your kids but it's so important that you do. How did we go from a culture that lied about near fatal consequences of masturbation to a culture that celebrates it as some sort of "self-care"? Today we take on the topic of how to address masturbation with your teenagers. When should you bring it up? Who should your son or daughter talk to? This episode isn't for kids to listen to but parents definitely should. Dr. Ken references the book: "Every Young Man's Battle" https://www.amazon.com/Every-Young-Mans-Battle-Strategies/dp/0307457990/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3OBJ3JH43Z3MJ&keywords=every+young+man%27s+battle&qid=1705425383&sprefix=every+young+%2Caps%2C112&sr=8-1 Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 159: Make-Up, Hair, Nails and Teenagers Jan 09, 2024

When should parents allow their kids to wear make-up? What if your daughter tells you that all her friends are wearing make-up? What about some "radical" hairstyle? How should you respond if you son wants to wear make-up? Today we use the "Feeding The Mouth" philosophy with issues related to make-up, hair and even super long fingernails! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 158: "I Want My Teenager To Be Able To Tell Me Anything... Right?" Dec 19, 2023

Did you talk to your parents the way your teen talks to you? Is that always a good thing? When does the priority of "you can be honest with your parents" become an excuse for teens to berate their parents? We hear from many parents struggling with their teenager's verbal tirades that leave them feeling exhausted and like they're failing as parents. How should parents handle this kind of verbal whipping from their teenagers? Is their a limit to the priority of being able to tell their parents anything? How should parents answer when teenagers criticize how they are being parented? We take on all these questions and more! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 157: Hygiene Issues with Teenagers Dec 12, 2023

Ever have to air out your car after driving your teen home from practice? Adolescence brings major changes to teens lives including how they smell! Today we tackle the tricky issue of parents intervening with adolescents with poor hygiene including not showering, not brushing their teeth and other basics. Teenagers are too old to use a checklist like a child so what can parents do? Dr. Ken discusses paying attention to underlying factors effecting this behavior as well as ways to effectively communicate about issues of personal hygiene with teenagers. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 156: Grounding Teenagers Dec 05, 2023

Today we talk about grounding your teenager. When should you ground them? What exactly does grounding include? Can they still use their phone while grounded? What about work or church activities. We even talk about what the maximum time limit for grounding to remain effective. What about when your ex won't enforce your grounding limits? We answer these and many more questions about using grounding to discipline your teenager. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 155: Holidays, Grief and Teenagers Nov 14, 2023

Each year we focus on some aspect of the holidays with teens. This year we want to focus in on those who are dealing with grief, loss and even depression around this time of year. What's different about how a parent should treat a teenager vs. a child when there's been a death, divorce or some other significant loss in a family's life? Is it better to just leave for the holidays and avoid facing grief? Why are teenagers sometimes the worst to have around when grieving and sometimes the best? We cover these and other topics (like whether canned or fresh cranberry sauce is better) as we head into the holidays. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 154: Health Issues and Teenagers Nov 07, 2023

Why can it be so hard just to help a teenager stay healthy? Today we answer listener questions about exercise, diet as well as medical issues that impact adolescent lives. How can parents deal with teenagers that seemingly ignore allergies and other dietary concerns that can affect their health? What about medications that my teen needs to take but hates to be reminded about? We even take on life-threatening health issues like Cystic Fibrosis which is one of several conditions that prove just how important a teenager's need for autonomy really is. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 153: Helping Teenagers' Problems with Friendships and Social Groups Oct 31, 2023

How can parents help their adolescents when they are having problems with their social group? What if my teen isn't really in a social group at all? Today we take on the increasingly difficult area of social relationships. In an era of increasing isolation, it is more important than ever for parents to do what they can (if anything) to encourage their teenagers to make, build and sustain social relationships with their peers. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 152: "Why Is My Teenager Angry All The Time?" Oct 24, 2023

Why do teenagers sometimes go through phases of being constantly angry and surly? Dr. Ken reviews the most common causes of teenager's anger and talks about some best ways to respond. We also take on the question of just how bad is it when your teenager seems to not like you. I mean, it gets better right?

Episode 151: When Teenagers Isolate In Their Rooms Oct 17, 2023

Today we answer a common question from listeners, "How should I handle it when my teenager spends all their time in their room"? As you can guess, Dr. Ken starts with advice on avoiding a control battle but what to do after that? What is the reason they stay in there so much? Is this a sign of depression? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 150: The Parenting "Finish Line" Part 2 Oct 10, 2023

This week we finish up our discussion from last week about dealing with adolescents after they finish high school. Many young adults live at home at least for some period of time after they have reached adulthood. What are the best ways to deal with conflicts that might arise? Are parents required to let their adult children stay in their home if they need it? What about uncomfortable questions about an adult kid who wants his boy/girlfriend to sleep over? A very relevant and down-to-earth discussion. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 149: The Parenting "Finish Line" Part 1 Oct 03, 2023

Is there a time when parents are really done parenting? We get so many questions from parents who have invested so much in parenting their teens that they're not sure what to do after high school. While you'll always be their parent, their is a point where you should no longer push your help on your kids. Dr. Ken offers even more clarity on parents as a "benevolent bank." Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 148: Teens Who Resist Sports and Activities Sep 26, 2023

We've gotten email questions about adolescents who resist involvement in any sport or activity. How can parents continue to implement planned emancipation if they have to sit a watch their teenager sit around and avoid getting involved with anything? What if your teen has been successful in a sport, music or something else but they suddenly decide they want to quit? Today Jessica and Dr. Ken talk about ways to offer freedom while still requiring involvement. Plus, we talk just a bit about the state of Texas' weird fascination with homecoming mums! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 147: The Barbie Movie Sep 19, 2023

Did you see the Barbie movie? Should you take a 12 year old girl to see it? You're not still limiting your 13 and older kids on what PG-13 movies they can see are you? Today Jessica and Dr. Ken discuss the implications of the summer blockbuster hit. Some movies are worth seeing and discussing with your daughters because they reflect current cultural issues well. How can Christians make use of a movie that captures much of the confusion and disappointments that today's culture struggles with? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 146: The Burden of Parenting - Part Two Sep 12, 2023

This week we conclude our discussion of "parenting" as the term has come to imply some "inside track" of parental knowledge that can, supposedly, guarantee a happy and successful kid. Dr. Ken shares the truth that not only is this burden carried mostly by moms but actually by middle-class, white moms. At least that's what New York Times columnist Ylonda Gault Caviness says. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/03/opinion/sunday/what-black-moms-know.html Carrying too much of this parenting burden can even result in adult children who blame parents when they should be taking responsibility for their own actions. Now, more than ever, Feeding The Mouth parents need to actively push back against these false expectations that leave too many parents feeling guilty and fearful. Maybe "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" T-shirts? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 145: The Burden of Parenting - Part One Sep 05, 2023

Where did we get this idea that there's some "inside track" of techniques parents should be implementing to raise amazing children? Is there any evidence that parental influence can guarantee some level of success in their children? Why do so many parents live in fear that they're failing with their kids? Why does this fear burden mothers so much more than fathers? Today we take on the topic we hear most from our listeners. How to share helpful information to parents without burdening them with crushing expectations for themselves. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1 Music provided by the great John David Kent! - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

Episode 144: "You're Only Human" part 2 - Dr. Ken Interviews Dr. Kelly Kapic Jun 06, 2023

Today we finish our great interview with Dr. Kelly Kapic, professor of theological studies at Covenant College in Lookout Mountain, Georgia. His book, "You're Only Human: How Your Limits Reflect God's Design and Why That's Good News" is a breath of fresh air for Christian parents who constantly struggle with their own limitations as parents. In this second part, Kelly talks about how personal limitations reflects the human need for support from others. Should we be careful about "co-dependency" and other toxic relationships? What does humility really mean from a Christian perspective? These and other things get thrown around in Dr. Ken and Kelly's discussion. This is part two of two episodes. You can find Kelly's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Only-Human-Limits-Reflect/dp/1587435101 Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 143: "You're Only Human" Dr. Ken Interviews Dr. Kelly Kapic May 30, 2023

Most all parents constantly feel guilty that they're not doing enough for their kids. For Christian parents, does our faith make any difference when we suffer like this? Theology professor Kelly Kapic's most recent book, "You're Only Human" takes on this constant guilt and self-judgment. He reminds us that human limitations are not the same as sin. As a college professor he has seen first hand how so many of our kids are taught to have those same demands on themselves. Kelly is the author of several books including his award-winning, "Embodied Hope: A Theological Meditation on Pain and Suffering." He reminds us that our stress isn't a time-management problem, it's a theological problem of knowing who God is and how he wants us to live into the world he created. This is part one of two episodes. You can find Kelly's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Only-Human-Limits-Reflect/dp/1587435101 Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 142: Another "Dr. Ken's Essentials" - Entitlement in Teenagers May 23, 2023

We continue paring down some of the vast amount of information and focus on the critical elements that are sometimes lost. Today Dr. Ken revives a discussion about entitlement and the damage this does to children of all ages. How can parents avoid overly entitled teenagers? What if parents haven't focused on this before but decide they need to now? Also, isn't "entitled" just a nice way of saying "spoiled?" Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 141: Dr. Ken's "Feeding The Mouth" Essentials May 12, 2023

Summer's coming, Jessica and Ashley are swamped so Dr. Ken shares some of the essentials of "Feeding The Mouth" parenting. Today we revisit questions about phone limits, when your kid has been drinking, "dab" pens, driving and more. There's a lot of information out there but focusing in on the more common issues can, hopefully, remind us of what a Planned Emancipation approach can accomplish and also that you are no alone in dealing with these issues. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 140: "Why Are You Telling Me This?" Complications In Communicating With Teens Apr 25, 2023

Having a relationship where your teenager shares everything with their parents is a good thing... right? Today we talk about complications in the idealistic expectation that parents want teenagers who tell them everything that is going on in their lives. Sometimes there's reason to actually ask a teenager, "... why are you telling me this?" After all, did you tell your parents everything you did when you were a teenager? Dr. Ken even admits a secret he never told his parents! Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 139: Trash Talk, Verbal Sparring and Teenagers Apr 18, 2023

Jessica and Ashley revive an axiom they learned in a Bible study, "our words should build, bless and benefit." How could any Christian parent disagree with these goals for our children? Well... Dr. Ken has some concerns! Today we consider the purpose of words that may seem critical. Verbal sparring can be an advanced form of "rough-housing" which, research indicates, can be helpful for children and teenagers. We also discuss the necessity of connection in shared humor and put-downs. How can parents help teens navigate these choppy social waters? Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 138: A Spring Checklist For Feeding The Mouth Parents Apr 11, 2023

This week we review a checklist of the stuff parents need to be doing this spring to move planned emancipation along. Especially for parents of high school seniors, now is the time to be mostly finished with giving over freedoms including... electronics, attending church etc. Scary stuff but necessary to finish well. We also talk about items on the list for parents of early and middle adolescents. Now is the time to be thinking about summer jobs, camps etc. We cover these and other items on your "spring Feeding The Mouth checklist." Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 137: How To Talk To Teens About School Shootings Apr 04, 2023

School shootings only add to parents' fears for their child's safety and well-being. These fears make it hard for parents to know how to or even if they should talk to their kids about these events. As you might guess, Dr. Ken suggests there are important differences in the way parents should talk to children vs adolescents. Is this the time to talk about gun-control or mental health laws? Is it bad to let teenagers see your own emotional reactions? What if my teenager is uncomfortable with praying in times like these? Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 136: Parents Who Can't Stop Checking, Nagging Or Reminding Their Teens Mar 28, 2023

Once a parent has given over an area of freedom to their teenager, they must NOT continue to check and remind their kid about it. Letting the natural consequences of your teen's choices fall on them is necessary to teens developing responsibility in managing more and more areas of their lives. On the other hand, parents shouldn't be saddled with constantly "biting their tongue" while watching them make poor choices. Today we discuss this difficult balance between leaving teens to make their own choices while communicating with them when they seem to be making bad choices. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 135: Teens, Femininity And Feminism Mar 22, 2023

In a world that insists that there are no real differences between men and women, how can parents help their daughters navigate this confusion? Today we talk about the successes and failures of feminism for our girls. We also talk about empowering girls in their femininity rather than needing to be "just like a boy." Dr. Ken references the book by Louise Perry, "The Case Against The Sexual Revolution" Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 134: Teens And Toxic Masculinity Mar 14, 2023

What is "toxic masculinity?" How can parents encourage healthy masculinity? Today we take on a somewhat provocative topic for today. What is a healthy way to encourage real "male-ness" in a culture that is denying any "real" masculine and feminine traits in our children? What can moms do to encourage healthy masculinity in their sons? What is the role of fathers in this struggle? Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 133: Teens And Life Purpose Mar 07, 2023

Adolescents who feel a sense of purpose in life report overall higher levels of happiness and life satisfaction. What are parents to do with such information? Particularly, how does this relate to Christian parents? We cover this and other implications of such research results plus you get to listen whether Dr. Ken and Ashley were right to gang up on Jessica's desire for her children to be "world changers!" Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 132: Teenagers and psychiatric hospitals Feb 28, 2023

Is there ever a time when parents should send their teenager to a psychiatric facility? (Please don't call them "mental hospitals") Today we discuss the situations that require parents to consider having their adolescent evaluated for psychiatric hospitalization. We also cover when parents might need to consider long-term, residential treatment as well as the negative effects of NOT considering hospitalization when it's really needed. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 131: Dads Speak: Dr. Ken Interviews Jessica And Ashley's Husbands Feb 21, 2023

This week Dr. Ken gets honest with Jessica and Ashley's husbands, Charlie and Brett. Dad's have a different take on parenting and we dive into that as well as what it's like to have wives who already "know all this stuff." Brett and Charlie get honest about what they like and DON'T like about Feeding The Mouth That Bites You. This is only a taste of the full interview where we cover fathering teenage boys vs. girls, grandparent involvement, handling disagreements with your wife and much more. For the full interview go to our Patreon website at: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 130: Teenagers and siblings Feb 17, 2023

We've already talked about sibling rivalry (see episode 24) but today we talk about teenagers' relationships with siblings in general. How can parents cultivate good relationships between their children? What are ways that parents inadvertently discourage mature relationships between siblings? And, as always, what are some particular aspects of the adolescent phase of development that make this hard? Are there aspects of adolescence that parents can use to their advantage in helping sibling relationships? Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 129: Help! It's Not Working! Feb 07, 2023

What do you do when you implement Planned Emancipation but things don't seem to be getting any better? It's not uncommon that we hear from parents who feel that Feeding The Mouth parenting isn't making the kind of difference they were expecting. To address this, Dr. Ken clarifies what kind of expectations are realistic for Feeding The Mouth parenting. Also, we focus on the intangibles that can cause teenagers to still feel over-controlled even though parents are trying to give freedoms. So, take a deep breath, Feeding The Mouth parenting isn't always an overnight "fix" but remains an essential adjustment to your household in a culture that has no idea how to translate children into adulthood. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 128: "Good Enough" Parenting Jan 31, 2023

In the 1950s, British pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott introduced the concept of "good enough" parenting and Dr. Ken thinks it's time we brought it back! Parents worry so much about doing parenting "right" and put a lot of pressure on themselves. Even worse, there's this idea that maybe there's some book that you haven't read that tells you how to raise your kids "the right way." Dr. Ken doesn't believe that "perfect parenting" book exists and "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" is not that book either. All parents do things they shouldn't have done and fail to do things they should have done and yet they've done their job well enough for their kids to succeed. Parents' over-focus on their own parenting failures runs the risk of disrespecting their teens who are old enough to make their own mistakes. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 127: Teenagers And Sleepovers Jan 24, 2023

Today we take on the sometimes scary topic of sleepovers with teenagers. Strangely, many parents are less concerned about sleepovers when their kids are younger only to "shut it down" when they become teenagers. What kind of boundaries are reasonable for teenagers wanting to spend the night with friends? Although it's becoming more common, is it ever ok to allow boys and girls to spend the night? What do you do when you know that your teen or their friend has declared themselves to be gay or bisexual? Wouldn't it just be easier to declare a moratorium on the whole thing? Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 126: Culture And Feeding The Mouth That Bites You Jan 17, 2023

How Does Feeding The Mouth parenting work in different cultures? Today we talk about the expectations that immigrant parents bring with them to a new culture and how that impacts parenting. Also, we discuss taking Feeding The Mouth parenting with you into a different culture from your own. How can parents maintain impact on their teenagers when the culture around them is changing so fast? Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 125: Teens And Therapy: Don't They Just Lie? Jan 10, 2023

Parents often have questions about the effectiveness of therapy for teenagers. Many will ask, "How can a therapist tell when a teenager is just lying to them?" Turns out, that's not as common a problem as you might think. Today we take on this issue and other aspects of therapy for adolescents and adults for that matter! Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 124: Teens And The Holidays - A Refresher Dec 20, 2022

Just in time for the holidays. Let's review some of the main things to remember when your adolescents are out for the holidays or even when your graduates come home from college or wherever. How can parents involve their teens in holiday family activities without compromising their sense of autonomy? What do we do with our kid's "plus one?" We cover these and other holiday topics just in time. We'll be taking a break ourselves... see you January 10th! Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 123: Preparing For An Empty Nest Dec 13, 2022

The goal of Feeding The Mouth parenting is for your kids to leave your home and start their own. But what about getting your life ready for life without kids around? Today we talk about preparing for empty nesting. When should parents start getting ready for this? What steps should we take in getting ready? Is it bad for my kids to see me almost happy that they are leaving? We answer these and other questions on today's episode. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 122: Teens Sending And Receiving Nudes Dec 06, 2022

What do you do when you find out your teenager has sent or received nude photos of themselves or others? Is the issue of nude photos the same problem if you have a daughter or a son? Nude photos shared among teenagers can be one of the scariest issues parents can think of. Is my kid gonna end up in jail for sending child pornography? What if it's just "normal" sexting while dating? As usual, we seek an EFFECTIVE way to prepare your teen to manage this issue since angry "scared straight" speeches tend to fall a bit flat. LISTENER WARNING: This episode discusses mature content that isn't suitable for young children. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 121: Parenting In Reverse Nov 29, 2022

Today we focus on the best way to parent when your kids are young so they will be most prepared for planned emancipation when they reach adolescence. Dr. Ken is concerned about a kind of parenting that reverses the healthy pattern of teaching and disciplining young children followed by conscious releasing control in adolescence. "Reverse parenting" is the temptation many parents follow to allow their younger children too much freedom when young and then being surprised when freedoms given in in adolescence are of little impact.Are you "parenting in reverse?" Dr Ken refers to the book: 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos; Jordan Peterson - https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/0141988517/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1669689083&sr=8-1 Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 120: It's Time For More... FAQs! (part 2 of 2) Nov 22, 2022

Today we keep plowing through our listener questions. We take on issues surrounding giving school freedoms when your teen is home-schooled. How should a parent handle when your kid is dating someone who's parent isn't following planned emancipation and is bad-mouthing your parenting?! Do you handle school freedoms differently if your kid has a learning difference and is even failing some or many classes? We tackle these and more FAQ's in this second part of a 2-part episode. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 119: It's Time For More... FAQs! (part 1 of 2) Nov 15, 2022

It's been awhile since we've answered listener questions so we dive in for two episodes! Today we discuss important issues like, should teenagers EVER be given the freedom to skip school? How should parents handle boundaries such as sleep-overs if their teenager has expressed that they are gay? How do you manage limits on screen time when your kid needs to be on the computer for school? We take on these and other issues including a question that Dr Ken has actually never heard before! (Maybe we should give prizes for that.) Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 118: How To Talk So Your Teenager Will Listen Nov 08, 2022

Today we focus on the advanced communication skill of advice- giving. Dr Ken refers to this often but many parents aren't sure all the implications of this method of giving information to their teen in ways that actually have impact in their lives. We discuss that how's and when's of advice-giving as well as the importance of listening to your teenager... especially when they are saying very "wrong" things! Dr Ken refers to the book: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk - find it here - https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667923842&sr=8-1 Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 117: Teenagers And Basic Life Skills Nov 01, 2022

What basic skills do you require of your teenager? Do they make their own doctor's appointments? Can they change a tire? This week we discuss the sometimes alarming lack of basic life skills that parents require of their teenagers and why it's so hard to teach them. Whether you just don't live on a farm or you're hanging on to those "little extras" you can do for your kid while you still have them, we discuss the importance of requiring more of your teen in everyday life situations. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Mouth-That-Bites-You/dp/1514762374/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667269257&sr=8-1

Episode 116: Trauma And Teenagers Oct 25, 2022

Trauma is another term we hear very often these days. How does trauma effect teenagers? How do we know when our teens have been traumatized? What are the effects of overusing terms like "trauma?" This week we talk about trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and its relationship to teenagers. HEADS UP: We do get specific about issues of violence and sexual abuse. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com

Episode 115: When Dr. Ken Talks To Teenagers About "Feeding The Mouth" Oct 20, 2022

What is the teenagers role in Feeding The Mouth That Bites You? This week Dr. Ken talks about the message he (and other therapists) give teens about their responsibility to manage themselves while their parents are seeking to let go of their control. What do therapists say in counseling sessions with teenagers? Does everything they say have to stay confidential? Does a therapist just agree when teenagers complain about their parents? This episode coincides with a bonus video where Dr. Ken sends a video message to teenagers whose parents are initiating Planned Emancipation. Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com

Episode 114: Help! I'm Starting Feeding The Mouth Late! Oct 11, 2022

Listeners often worry that they've come across Feeding The Mouth late in their teenager's development. Is it ever too late to start Planned Emancipation? What's the best way to implement these principles if my teenager is already in middle or even late adolescence? Dr. Ken assures all of us that it's NEVER too late to start Planned Emancipation and reminds us that parenting teenagers isn't "math," it's not an exact science and you'll do fine! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 113: The Ideal Way To Start Feeding The Mouth That Bites You Oct 04, 2022

Episode 112: Is It Ever OK To Kick Your Teenager Out Of The House? Sep 27, 2022

Episode 111: Adult Children Living At Home Sep 20, 2022

What about circumstances when your kid is still living at home after high school? Is this always a "failure to launch?" How should parents handle conflicts that may emerge with adult children at home? Today we discuss this and other questions related to kids who still live with their parents after high school. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 110: That Music Can't Be Good For Them! Music And Teen's Moods Sep 13, 2022

What should parents do when their teenagers are listening to music that promotes depressing themes or even violence? Does music cause depression in teenagers? Today we take on the often distressing issue of watching our teenagers consume music that really can't be good for them. What are effective ways to intervene? Aren't there exceptions to this whole "giving freedom" in music choices when that same music can be damaging? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 109: When Feeding The Mouth Really Begins Sep 06, 2022

When should parents start doing planned emancipation? It's hard when you feel like you're the only parent doing it. What about kids that aren't yet thirteen but seem to be very responsible? Should you start emancipation early with that kid? What about older kids who aren't yet thirteen but push back so hard on your efforts to control that you just want to give up? We cover these and other important issues about when to begin Feeding The Mouth That Bites You. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 108: Gaslighting, Narcissism And Teenagers Aug 30, 2022

When did “gaslighting” become such a big thing? Why does everyone’s ex seem to qualify as “narcissistic?” What does a parent do when you’re pretty sure your teen is being controlled by a boyfriend, girlfriend or just a friend in general? After taking the summer off, we tackle the sudden rise in use of the terms narcissism and gaslighting. We address the definition and origin of these words as well as the potential harm in misusing and over-using diagnostic terms that can be wielded like “clubs” to bash people we don’t like. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 107: It's Summer Break Time For FTM! May 24, 2022

Well, it's time once again for Feeding The Mouth... summer break. While we regroup and prepare for another season this fall, feel free to contact us with feedback and questions. Thanks to all our listeners. Your support means a lot! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 106: Critical Teenagers And Critical Parents May 17, 2022

How are parents supposed to respond to teenagers that regularly criticize them? Why are some adolescents so critical and seem to find fault with everything their parents do? How do you know if you're an overly-critical parent of a teenager? We'll talk about these and other aspects of criticism in parenting teenagers. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 105: Jobs, Summer Jobs And The Value Of Work Experience May 10, 2022

Whatever happened to parents yelling, "Get a job!" to their kids? Today we take on summer jobs and other employment issues. What if my teen refuses to get a job? We address teens who are super involved in sports and other activities. What about parents who just want to have their teenager available so we can go on family vacations? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 104: Anime, Furries And Other Strange Things May 03, 2022

Today we talk about oddities that occasionally come up in the lives of adolescents. What is anime and is it something parents should worry about? What is a furry? Isn't that something sexual? We'll demystify these and other strange things in the lives of teenagers. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 103: Piercings And Tattoos And Teenagers Apr 26, 2022

What should you do when your teenager starts arguing for piercings or even a tattoo? What about parents who take that "hard line" stance: "If you get a tattoo then we won't pay for college!" This week we take on the issue of tattoos and piercings. As usual, we take this topic on from the FTM perspective that reminds parents that the answer is either "yes" or "not yet," never "no." Is it even a good idea for parents to give permission for underage teens to get a tattoo? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 102: When Your Own Parents Won't Let Go Apr 19, 2022

When did you know you were completely an adult in the eyes of your parents? We haven't known how to give independence to our adolescents for a long time. Many of us who are parents of teenagers have really never felt independence from their own parents. This week we discuss how to handle parents that don't let go and other implications of generational lack of individuation. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 101: More And More FAQs! Apr 12, 2022

You've got questions and we've got answers. This week we take on more FAQs from our listeners. What if you didn't start planned emancipation early and now your teens are older? How do you get your adolescent to take his piano lessons seriously? More bullying questions. What about cutting off funding for college-age kids wanting to get married? What if my teen doesn't want me volunteering at their school? All these and more in another FAQ episode! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 100: FTM Reaches 100 Episodes! Apr 05, 2022

It's hard to believe but this is our 100th episode! This week we celebrate the growth of the Feeding The Mouth podcast and talk about how we started all this. This is a special thanks to all our listeners. As Dr. Ken says, "If you listen to this podcast regularly you're either a dedicated parent or you need to find more interesting podcasts!" Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 99: LGBTQ Revisited And That Story Of The Transgender Swimmer Mar 29, 2022

Why do we keep hearing about LGBTQ issues? What are the best ways to protect our teenagers from unwanted influences? This week we discuss LGBTQ issues AGAIN! Trust us, most of your teenagers are talking about it so it's important that parents know how to respond. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou If you're liking this podcast please give us a review or just give a 5-star rating. This is helping other parents to find our podcast. For a deeper dive into adolescent parenting you might want to become a Patreon supporter: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 98: Mothering Styles And Fathering Styles Plus Letting Your Teen Go To Concerts Mar 22, 2022

Mothers and fathers approach parenting in fundamentally different ways. These differences are particularly highlighted when dealing with adolescents. This week we explore these differences and how parents can learn to respect each other's priorities in parenting. Also, we answer a listener's question: if we allow teens to listen to what they want, do we have to let them go to concerts of these objectionable artists? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 97: Reviewing The Importance Of The Individuation Drive (And Even Its Relationship To Teen Crime) Mar 15, 2022

This week we review just how essential the teenage drive for autonomy known as individuation. This drive is so essential in teenagers that it can be worrisome when an adolescent isn't striving for it at all. Plus we discuss the relationship between the individuation drive and some teens' vulnerability to crime. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 96: Gossip And Rumors In Teenagers (Plus, Talking To Teens About War) Mar 08, 2022

Gossip and rumors can be hurtful and damaging to teenager's lives. What if the gossip is your kid? How do you help when your teen is the target of rumors and gossip. Is it true that girls are more likely to spread rumors and gossip? Why is that? This week we cover these and other aspects of this common problem. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 95: The Dating "Playbook" Is NOT The Same As Marriage: Know The Difference! Mar 01, 2022

This week we expand on previous discussions about the important differences in managing dating relationships vs marriage. Too many teenagers don't know the difference. PS - You might want to listen to this one with your dating age teenager! (If they're interested) Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 94: Communication Differences Between Guys And Girls Feb 22, 2022

Men and women communicate in some fundamentally different ways. Knowing these differences can make us more effective parents as well as better husbands and wives. This week we explain these differences and how they affect our and our teen's lives. In an age of individualism, too many of our teenagers don't believe in differences based on gender. Parents have to be ready to answer their opposition. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou We reference the book "You Just Don't Understand" by Deborah Tannen

Episode 93: Dr Ken Interviews Focus On The Family's Jean Daly Feb 15, 2022

Episode 92: The Way They're Wired: Understanding Temperaments In Teenagers Feb 08, 2022

This week we talk about understanding your teenager's temperament. What are basic temperaments and how much can you expect your adolescent to change these basic characteristics? Why is it especially hard when your teenagers has the same temperament struggles that their parents have? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 91: Procrastinating Teenagers Feb 01, 2022

What causes teenagers to procrastinate? What can parents do to help with procrastinating teens? This week we tackle the different causes of procrastination and how that knowledge can help parents be effective in impacting procrastinating teens. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 90: Why Am I Not Funny To My Teenagers? Teens And Humor Jan 25, 2022

Why do parents go from hilarious to their 6-month-olds to sadly crying to their teenagers, "Deep in my heart, I know I'm funny" (see Good Morning Viet Nam movie)? Why am I funny to my kids' friends but not them? Today we answer these and more questions about humor and teenagers. And yes, we do take on the whole issue of "Dad jokes." Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 89: Eating Disorders, Body Image And Diet In Teenagers: Interview With Amy Carlson Jan 18, 2022

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Episode 88: When Your Teenager Triggers You Jan 11, 2022

Why do teenagers seem to enjoy making their parents angry? How can parents best respond? What causes parents to get so upset? This week we talk about keeping your cool when you're triggered. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 87: Teenagers And Social Anxiety Jan 04, 2022

We've already talked about anxiety, fear and panic, but what about the specific challenges of social anxiety? How can some seemingly happy kids suddenly become withdrawn and fearful in social settings? How has the COVID pandemic affected generally shy teenagers? When should parents intervene and what can they really do to help? We take on all these questions and more. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 86: Divorce, Blended Families And The Holidays With Teens Dec 14, 2021

Just in time for the holidays, we talk about parenting teenagers in divorced and blended families during the holidays. How can newly divorced parents deal with the grief of the holidays? What about blended families? Managing teenagers is (you guessed it) not the same as dealing with children. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 85: Exceptions To Planned Emancipation Dec 07, 2021

One of the most common questions parents ask is "what are some exceptions to planned emancipation?" Many parents are on board with giving over control to their teenager BUT... [fill in the blank]. Today Jessica and Ashley try to guess what circumstances constitute a real exception to the planned emancipation schedule. Spoiler alert: there are only two! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 84: Teens Who Make A Difference Nov 30, 2021

In this episode we reference:

"Do Hard Things" - Alex & Brett Harris

"The Dangerous Book For Boys" - Conn & Hal Iggulden

Episode 83: Preparing Teenagers For Vocation Plus That Kentucky High School Scandal Nov 23, 2021

How can parents influence a teenager's choice of vocation? Why are so few parents even talking about career with their teenagers? This week we look at this all-too-often forgotten goal of parenting. Also, we talk about that Kentucky High School where senior boys dressed as girls and did lap dances with school administrators! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 82: When Your Teen Announces They Are LGBTQ Nov 16, 2021

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Episode 81: Lies Our Daughters Believe: Dr Ken Interviews Suzanne Venker Nov 09, 2021

"How To Get Hitched (And Stay Hitched)" by Suzanne Venker is available here

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Episode 80: Teaching Teenagers At Home plus A Teen Slang Vocabulary Quiz Nov 02, 2021

More and more teenagers are doing school at home. Whether it's temporary or true "home schooling" managing teenagers is definitely not the same as when they are children. We discuss the keys to maintaining a teenager's motivation and cooperation with school at home. Also, we take a teenage slang vocabulary quiz (e.g. "cap" and "trolling") and even find out what "phubbing" is! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 79: Teenagers And Bullying plus Dr Ken's Hero Teen Stories Oct 26, 2021

How should parents handle when their teenager is being bullied? What if it's your teen that is accused of bullying? Plus, Dr. Ken reviews Richard II of England, a famous teenager from history. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 78: What You Need To Know About Marijuana and Should You Ever Put Your Daughter On The Pill? Oct 19, 2021

This week Dr. Ken goes on a rant about marijuana and how easily parents can lose track of it's dangers. Also, we tackle the tricky question of birth control for teenage girls who want it. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 77: Lying Teenagers, That Dangerous Tik Tok Trend & Teenage Tantrums Oct 12, 2021

Parents hate when teenagers lie to them but how big a deal should we make over lying? Also we discus the "devious licks" Tik Tok trend and what to do about it. Also, a listener asks about responding to her teenager's tantrums when punished. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 76: The Importance Of Fathers plus Teach Your Boys Real Respect For Girls Oct 05, 2021

We discuss new research on the importance of fathers in different stages of adolescent development [spoiler alert] sometimes Dads are more important than Moms! Also Dr. Ken goes on a rant about teaching our boys how to respect girls (whether the girls think they need it or not). Death to boys who ask girls for nude photos of themselves!... or maybe just grounding... Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 75: That Antifa Teacher Story and When Teenagers Blow Your Trust Sep 28, 2021

This week we review a news story of a California teacher suspended for trying to indoctrinate students. One mother complained that two weeks of class "undid" a lifetime of teaching their teenager. Is that possible? Also, we review how parents should handle issues after a big breach in trust. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 74: Managing Toxic Messages From School And Other Settings Sep 21, 2021

We respond to a listener question about a teenager's school that speaks poorly of American military and other messages that may fly in the face of your family's values. Remember, with adolescents your response needs to be a little different than with your younger children. We also talk about the Chinese government's recent ruling that severely limits video gaming among citizens under eighteen years old. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 73: A Teenager's Right To F-Bomb? Sep 14, 2021

Today we look at news items from a "Feeding The Mouth..." perspective. Did the Supreme Court really just rule in favor of a teenage girl's right to an F-bomb laced rant against her school cheerleading program? We also cover Dr. Kan's "tip of the day" now that your kids are heading back to school. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 72: Feeding The Mouth 2.0 is here! Sep 07, 2021

We're back! After a summer break Jessica, Ashley and Dr. Ken are ready to take on new Feeding The Mouth topics and much more. This season we will be doing more than before to equip parents to be the most effective they can be with their adolescents. Listen up and find out where we're headed this season. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 71: FTM is taking a summer break! May 11, 2021

Just letting you know that we're taking a break over the summer. We need some time to breathe as well as get feedback from you listeners about what other topics you want to hear on Feeding The Mouth That Bites You. Thanks so much for the great response we've had from Feeding The Mouth parents all over the world! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 70: Teenagers and prayer May 04, 2021

For people of prayer, how can we involve our teenagers? In this episode we cover praying for our teenagers as well as praying with teenagers. Can we force our teenagers to pray with us? What kind of prayer are teenagers ready for? What kind of prayer are they NOT ready for? Why don't we pray more and why doesn't prayer bring us more peace? Is there such a thing as relying too much on prayer? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 69: "How Far Is Too Far" - The really AWKWARD sex talk! Apr 27, 2021

Here's the link to the "Awkward Graph"

Episode 68: Slow down... creating margin and rest with teenagers Apr 20, 2021

In this episode we reference the book: Abraham Joshua Heschel - The Sabbath

Episode 67: Not in my house! ...Common objections to Feeding The Mouth parenting Apr 13, 2021

So many parents swear by the Feeding The Mouth That Bites You method... but not all parents do. Today Jessica and Ashley ask Dr. Ken some of the most common objections parents have. "Teenagers should be given freedom when they show they're responsible enough to handle them." "Sounds like Dr. Ken just wants teenagers to do whatever they want." "Grades are too important to leave to immature teenagers." And of course, the perennial favorite, "We believe in raising teenagers the biblical way!" Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 66: Teenagers and grandparents Apr 06, 2021

Grandparents are playing a bigger and bigger role in teenagers' lives. How can parents encourage their own parents to have good relationships with their grandkids? What about parents who meddle in your parenting or even undermine your parenting? Dr. Ken talks about the complications of showing respect to your own teenagers when you're around your own parents that may STILL not be respecting you as an adult. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 65: Teenagers and their friends! Mar 30, 2021

How can parents be effective in influencing their teenagers' choice of friends? This week we discuss problems with our teenagers' friends. What do I do with that friend of my kid's that I really don't like? What if I know their friends are using drugs? Is it ever ok for me to ban my teen's friend from coming to my house? Dr. Ken also talks about increasing concerns with the lack of teenage friendships in our culture. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 64: Traveling with teenagers! Mar 23, 2021

Thinking of taking a trip with teenagers?... think again! We talk about the pitfalls of teenagers on family trips and what parents can do to deal with them. Teenagers need to be brought in on the planning or maybe even given the option to stay home! What about bringing their video games? Dr. Ken also talks about the life-changing importance of taking your kids to see a different culture. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 63: Teens and cancel culture Mar 16, 2021

Isn't "cancel culture" just a polite term for a mob? This social media-fueled frenzy is on the rise in middle schools and high schools. If your teen hasn't faced being "cancelled" yet, they certainly know someone who has been. How should parents respond when their teen is being "cancelled?" What if my teenager is taking part in "cancelling" someone? Is there some speech parents should be making to their kids about this problem in our society? Can I take social media away if it's getting bad? Get ready before the cancel culture comes for your kid! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 62: Getting serious about planned emancipation Mar 09, 2021

Are you a "Feeding The Mouth" parent but things still not working out with your teenagers? Half-hearted "Feeding The Mouth" parenting doesn't work! In this episode Dr. Ken covers the most common ways that parents water down the impact of planned emancipation. Does your teenager know WHY you're giving over freedoms? Is planned emancipation a "technique" that causes responsible behavior in teenagers? Are you more focused on rules and consequences than on freedoms? Are both parents on board with this stuff? These and other issues keep parents from getting serious about planned emancipation. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 61: Dr. Ken asks the questions Mar 02, 2021

This week Dr. Ken turns the tables on Jessica and Ashley! We find out what J & A really think about planned emancipation, what do they struggle with and what do they get grief from other moms about. THEN, Dr. Ken gives his Feeding The Mouth quiz. This includes tough ones like "What's the difference between a privilege and a freedom" and "What if your teen doesn't drink but still wants to go to parties where other kids are drinking?" Find out how Jessica and Ashley did and test your own FTM knowledge. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 60: Money and teenagers Feb 23, 2021

In this episode we reference:

Dave Ramsey's resources for kids and teenagers - daveramsey.com

Episode 59: Lazy teenagers Feb 16, 2021

Feel like you're the only one picking up around the house? Why do so many of our teenagers seem lazy? How is it that so many parents seem more motivated about their kids' school, sports and other activities than their own teenagers are? This week we look at the underlying causes of teenage laziness and what parents can do about it. Whether its failure to get a job, help around the house or not caring about school, we look at strategies that can help. Also, Dr. Ken warns against lazy parenting! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 58: The addicted teenager and their families - Part 2 Feb 09, 2021

We continue our focus on the destructive effects of addicted teenagers and their families. This week we consider the effects on siblings of addicted teenagers. Should parents let siblings help with an out-of-control teenager? What about parents' anger when they have to endure ongoing struggles with these adolescents? What role should we play when we see families struggling with these issues? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 57: The addicted teenager and their families - Part 1 Feb 02, 2021

Drug and alcohol addicted teenagers can drag a whole family into a never ending spiral. How can families avoid patterns of addiction in teenagers? How can we help friends or family struggling with their teen's addiction? In this episode we discuss types of addictions, what is enabling, how addicted teens affect their parents' marriage and much more. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 56: Even more FAQs! - Part 2 Jan 26, 2021

Dr. Ken answers even more questions from "Feeding The Mouth" listeners. This week we answer even more good ones like: "I want to post pictures of my teenager's room!" and other ways of shaming our kids. "What do I do about my teenager's poor diet if it affects their health?" "My senior wants to stay behind when we move" and "Should we change churches because our teenager doesn't like ours?" and more. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 55: Even more FAQs! - Part 1 Jan 19, 2021

Dr. Ken answers even more questions from "Feeding The Mouth" listeners. This week we get some great ones like: "What about tattoos? Is that related to cutting yourself?" "I let my teen have control over video games and it's gone horribly. What am I doing wrong?" "What do you mean by parents as a 'benevolent bank' and how does that work?" "Are there exemptions like depression or severe anxiety to a planned emancipation schedule? What about teenagers with Autism-Spectrum Disorder?" We talk about these and more on today's part one of answering all, well... almost all, of your questions. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 54: Teenagers and politics Jan 12, 2021

This episode was recorded after the last election and before the holidays. Who knew how important this discussion would turn out to be?

Episode 53: Self-esteem and teenagers Jan 05, 2021

We're back!.. and starting off a new season with the nagging issue of teenagers' self-esteem. Why do teenagers so often feel down about themselves? What can parents do to help boost an adolescent's flagging self-esteem? Why do parental efforts to help often end up making things worse? We also discuss "just how important is self-esteem anyway?" and "should Christian parents approach this differently from other parents?" Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 52: Teenagers and family secrets Dec 01, 2020

This will be our last episode for the year 2020. Thanks for all your support and we'll see you all again in January, 2021!

Episode 51: Teenagers and the holidays Nov 24, 2020

Holidays can be so fun and full of love... unless our teenagers mess everything up! In this episode we discuss why teenagers sometimes don't like holiday family time and how to avoid impossible control battles trying to force them to smile. Instead, Dr. Ken recommends using holidays as another way to signal to our teenagers that they are now on the adult side of the holiday equation. Maybe it's high time your teen starts asking what YOU want for Christmas! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 50: Parents feeling all alone: Planned emancipation in a confused culture Nov 17, 2020

In this episode we refer to:

"Parenting With Love And Logic" - Foster Cline and Jim Fay

Episode 49: Driving!... and teenagers Nov 10, 2020

Eventually, all parents will face the challenge of teenagers and driving. Why aren't teenagers today as excited about driving as they used to be? What if we don't think our kid is ready for driving? Is GPS tracking a good thing or not? We take on these and many more questions that get you ready for when your teenager takes the wheel! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 48: LGBTQIA+ issues and teenagers - Part 2 Nov 03, 2020

LGBTQ issues are a huge part of our teenagers' lives. If your teenagers aren't dealing with these issues themselves, they know or will know other young people who are. In this episode we answer further questions parents have including how should parents talk to their teenagers about LGBTQ issues and whether or not parents should take their transgender or gay teenager to therapy. It turns out that these answers depend quite a lot on the foundation of our own identity as parents! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 47: LGBTQIA+ issues and teenagers - Part 1 Oct 27, 2020

In this episode we reference:

"Primal Screams: How the Sexual Revolution Created Identity Politics" - Mary Eberstadt

and

"Psychology as Religion: The Cult of Self-Worship" - Paul C. Vitz

Episode 46: Body image and eating disorders and teenagers Oct 20, 2020

Teenagers' relationship to their bodies are conflicted enough as it is. Social media has made these bad feelings worse than ever. In this episode we talk about "normal" teenage struggles with food, appearance and body-image and when parents should be concerned. Do eating and body-image issues affect girls only? Most importantly, we cover what parents of teenagers can do and should NEVER do to impact their teenagers' relationship to food and their bodies (can you say control battle?).

Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you!

podcast@feedingthemouth.com

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Episode 45: We need to talk about "The Social Dilemma!" Oct 13, 2020

In this episode, we reference:

"The Social Dilemma" - Netflix

"The Tech Wise Family" - Andy Crouch

Episode 44: ADHD and other learning issues in teenagers Oct 06, 2020

In this episode we reference:

8 Great Smarts: Discover and Nurture Your Child's Intelligences by Kathy Koch, PhD

Episode 43: Anger, attitude and aggression in teenagers Sep 29, 2020

Whether it's that constant, low-level hostility or scary blow-ups, adolescent anger can bring your whole family down. Why do teenagers get so angry? How should parents handle their teenagers' anger? Today we take on parent problems with managing teenager's anger including the "myth of teenage attitude" as well as tell you what to do when their anger gets violent. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 42: Ghosts of parenting past - How our own upbringing affects the way we parent our teenagers Sep 22, 2020

This week we take on the tough issue of spotting our own weaknesses as parents. How you were raised clearly effects how you parent your kids... and that's not always good! What are the most common ways a parent's upbringing impacts their own parenting? When do parents need to consider therapy for themselves and when do they NOT need therapy? What do parents who experienced abuse need to be aware of in their own parenting? How can a parent's Christian faith impact these weaknesses? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 41: Hormones and teenagers - part 2 Sep 15, 2020

In this episode we reference:

"Testosterone" - "This American Life" episode 220; originally aired on Aug. 30, 2002

Episode 40: Hormones and teenagers - part 1 Sep 08, 2020

Just because hormones aren't the root CAUSE of problems in adolescence, that doesn't mean they aren't a significant factor in teenage behavior. Today we start a two-part series and take on the issue of hormones in teenage girls and teenage boys. How much do hormones effect adolescent behavior? How can we help our teenagers cope with hormones and the physical and psychological changes they bring? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 39: More FAQs! Sep 01, 2020

You asked and we answered! This week we answer more listener questions including: - what to do about teenagers bad language over text and social media - handling your teenagers' whining about stuff they "have to have" but you know it's too expensive - managing that kid your teenager is friends with but you REALLY don't like Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou - "HELP! My teenagers don't think I'm funny!" and more...

Episode 38: College, COVID and beyond Aug 25, 2020

Young adults are (supposed to be) heading off for college, job training or work right now. How can parents best handle this "end of the road?" What are the best strategies for influencing young adults once they leave home? What happens when a pandemic keeps our kids from leaving as planned? This week we answer all your questions about the "finish line" of parenting... when they're ready to leave home. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 37: Grief and loss and teenagers Aug 18, 2020

In this episode we reference Elizabeth Kubler Ross's book "On Death And Dying"

Episode 36: Video games and teenagers Aug 11, 2020

Video games can be a constant headache for parents. These days it's easier than ever for our teenagers to play video games ALL DAY LONG! In this episode we provide important guidelines for parents to help manage this huge drain on so many adolescents' lives. How much gaming should parents allow? When is a teenager addicted to video games? What about games with violent or sexual content? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 35: FAQ! - we answer questions from our listeners. Aug 04, 2020

Parents of teenagers ask us a lot of questions. This week we take on some of those most frequently asked. Just a few of the questions we answer in this episode include:

How can we set house rules about phones and technology devices in general?
Help! My teenager walked in on us... you know... being intimate.
Is it good to tell your teenager they can call us even if they've been drinking and we'll give them a ride home?
What if my teenager is scared to start school this fall during the pandemic? What if I'm scared to let them go back?
We hate her toxic relationship with her boyfriend. What do we do?

Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you!

podcast@feedingthemouth.com

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Episode 34: The teenage brain: separating myths from facts Jul 28, 2020

In this episode we recommend (and pick on just a little bit) - "The Teenage Brain" by Frances E. Jensen and Amy Ellis Nutt

- https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Teenage-Brain-Audiobook/B00SYZBGBA?source_code=GPAGBSH0508140001&ipRedirectOverride=true&ds_rl=1258208&ds_rl=1260658&ds_rl=1262685&gclid=CjwKCAjw9vn4BRBaEiwAh0muDIlKt9LnZEwcPf29_xEAnEh33kD2dOuMfFJ4R0HHjpr0SDbjstq8pxoCyDYQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

We also reference Dr. Daniel Amen - https://www.amenclinics.com

Episode 33: Pornography and teenagers Jul 21, 2020

In this episode we reference:

"The Butterfly Effect" by John Ronson

https://www.amazon.com/Butterfly-Effect-Jon-Ronson/dp/B073JT718M

"Make Love Not Porn" TED talk - Cindy Gallop

Episode 32: Teenagers and blended families Jul 14, 2020

What are the ways parents can make their blended family work with teenagers? How can we support our friends who are raising teenagers in blended families? In this episode we take on the tricky issues of raising adolescents in blended families. What's different about teenagers and children in these families? What if my teenager doesn't like my new spouse? It's Planned Emancipation to the rescue! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 31: Anxiety, fear and panic in teens Jul 07, 2020

Why are teenagers so anxious these days? What can parents do to help when teenagers are fearful and anxious? What about panic? Why do parents' attempts to calm their teenagers down so often make things worse? In this episode we cover fear and anxiety in teenagers. How parents can actually help too much with their anxious teens and when to seek help for adolescent fears and anxiety. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 30: Sex and teenagers - Part 2 Jun 30, 2020

In this episode we refer to yourbrainonporn.com

Episode 29: Sex and teenagers - Part 1 Jun 23, 2020

We refer to "Theology Of The Body" by Pope John Paul II

https://www.amazon.com/Man-Woman-He-Created-Them/dp/0819874213/ref=pd_lpo_14_t_0/139-5159073-5126723?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0819874213&pd_rd_r=b4521ac8-1394-460d-93a2-1d7e331fde89&pd_rd_w=YD6zR&pd_rd_wg=7VRmJ&pf_rd_p=7b36d496-f366-4631-94d3-61b87b52511b&pf_rd_r=MF3YQSWS0TE63RBY3B33&psc=1&refRID=MF3YQSWS0TE63RBY3B33

Episode 28: Dr. Ken's kids give us the real story about Planned Emancipation. Jun 16, 2020

Check out Alex Wilgus' podcast - Word & Table

Episode 27: Teen Depression Jun 09, 2020

Are you concerned that your teenager is depressed? Maybe you think their response and attitude to life is typical of a teen. Listen in as Dr. Ken explains teen depression, what it is and isn't. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 26: Divorce and teenagers Jun 05, 2020

If you've been through, are going through or know someone who's gone through divorce, this an important episode to listen to. This week we talk about handling divorce with adolescents. How does divorce effect teenagers? What are some ways parenting adolescents through divorce is different from younger children? Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 25: You can't wear that! Teenagers and their clothes. May 26, 2020

For parents of teenagers, summertime can bring conflicts about what our kids choose to wear and what they choose NOT to wear. What can you do when your teenage son wants to wear gym shorts to your cousin's wedding? How do you handle telling your daughter that her favorite new dress is too short? "But all my friends are wearing two-piece bathing suits!" In this episode, we take on all things clothing related and even a little about hair, piercings and tattoos! Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 24: Stop fighting! Teenagers and sibling conflicts. May 19, 2020

Parents often wonder if their kids will even like each other when they leave home. How should parents handle sibling conflicts when one or both are teenagers? Should a parent's role in managing sibling problems change as their kids get older? This week we take on the whole issue of brothers and sisters fighting with each other during the adolescent years. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 23: How to drive your teenager AWAY from church! - part 2 May 12, 2020

In this episode Dr. Ken gives us the final two "backfire" techniques:

4. Always force your kid to go to church no matter how old they are or what their reasons are for not wanting to go.

5. Talk about non-Christians or other Christian denominations in condescending, judgemental ways. Don’t forget to use over-generalizations like “the gays” or “those liberal churches”

Episode 22: How to drive your teenager AWAY from church! - part 1 May 05, 2020

In this episode Dr. Ken gives us the first three "backfire" techniques:

Continuously teach and preach no matter what your kid’s age.
Do not ask about or show interest in your teenager’s views about faith and shut down all disagreements with long speeches.
Don’t address your own shortcomings or obvious sin in front of your teenager.

Episode 21: Mothers & sons; Fathers & daughters - Part 2 Apr 28, 2020

What are unique issues for mothers and their teenage sons? What about the role of fathers in the lives of teenage daughters? In this second of a two-part series, we take on the differences in how men and women approach communication and relationships and how these differences particularly effect mothers with their sons and fathers with their daughters. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 20: Mothers & sons; Fathers & daughters - Part 1 Apr 21, 2020

What are unique issues for mothers and their teenage sons? What about the role of fathers in the lives of teenage daughters? For the next two weeks we take on the differences in how men and women approach communication and relationships and how these differences particularly effect mothers with their sons and fathers with their daughters. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 19: Self-harm & suicide - Part 2 Apr 14, 2020

In this second of a two-part series, we cover more of the difficult issues related to teenagers who self-harm or are threatening suicide. What should parents do if their teenager threatens suicide? What if your kid's friend threatens suicide but doesn't want anyone to know? We take on these and other tough issues. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 18: Self-harm & suicide - Part 1 Apr 07, 2020

What do parents do if they find out their teenagers are cutting themselves? With so much concern out their about potential suicide in teenagers, what are parents to do? In this two-part series, we cover the difficult issues related to teenagers who self-harm or are threatening suicide. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 17: Behind the scenes with Dr. Ken's wife, Sally Mar 31, 2020

A fun and frank interview with Dr. Ken's wife, Sally on raising their three children and life in the Feeding the Mouth That Bites You "test lab." Did Dr. Ken's wife actually bribe one of their teenagers to clean their room but "don't tell Daddy?" It didn't always go smoothly. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 16: "If Covid doesn't kill 'em, I will!": The Quarantine Episode Mar 24, 2020

As Coronavirus restrictions tighten up, we talk about how to survive teenagers when everyone's locked down. What about college kids that are back home? Can you take back freedoms in an emergency? How do I get my teenager to help keep the house from falling apart? Plus, we hear a special message from Dr. Ken's brother-in-law in Beijing. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 15: The Coronavirus Episode: Parenting teenagers when life seems scary Mar 17, 2020

How can parents best influence their teenagers when the world around us seems so scary? What are the differences in helping adolescents to cope vs. dealing with children? In this special episode we talk about ways to be more effective in parenting teenagers no matter what scary things go on in life. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 14: Sports and other activities Mar 10, 2020

How busy should teenagers be with extra-curricular activities? Sports are good for teens right? What if they take up all our family's time (and a bunch of our money)? In this episode we talk all about dealing with adolescents and their activities. What about teenagers that won't get involved with anything extra-curricular? We even talk about family activities (including church) and handling teenagers who no longer want to participate. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 13: Keeping Your Marriage Strong While Parenting Teenagers Feb 25, 2020

How can parents of teenagers maintain a strong marriage? In this episode, we talk about the particular need that teenagers have to see their parents' marriage as close and stable. Also, Dr. Ken gives us some practical tips on maintaining a good marriage during the "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" years. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 12: Entitlement Feb 18, 2020

Tune in as we discuss ways to combat entitlement in teens. Trust us you're not the only one who thinks their precious child turned into a selfish teen over night. Parents have more influence in this area than you might think. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 11: Limit setting series part 2 Feb 11, 2020

Join us as we wrap up the limit setting series discussing appropriate expectations parents should have while setting limits for their teens. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 10: Limit setting series part 1 Feb 04, 2020

What are appropriate limits for our teens? How should we respond when our teen crosses those limits? Join us as we discuss limit setting with our teens in this two part series. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 9: Communication series part 3 Jan 28, 2020

Join us for part three as we wrap up the communication series with guiding our teens to make their own decisions and emotional maturity. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 8: Communication series part 2 Jan 21, 2020

Tune in for part two of the communication series as we continue to discuss the most effective ways to communicate with teenagers. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 7: Communication series part 1 Jan 14, 2020

Communicating well with your teen... is it even possible? Join us for a three part series as we discuss the most effective ways to invite your adolescent to honest and open communication. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 6: Vaping, drugs, and alcohol Jan 07, 2020

Vaping, drugs, and alcohol use are significant issues in the life of our adolescent. Join us as we discuss how to best communicate with our teens and how to respond appropriately when necessary. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 5: Teen dating Dec 31, 2019

Teen dating, often times this is a sensitive subject for parents that is loaded with concern. Join us as Dr. Ken answers all of our questions with expert advice as we chat about expectations, freedoms, and how to guide our teens at every stage. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 4: Social Media Dec 17, 2019

Join us as we discuss the role of social media in the lives of our teens, the positive and negative effects and how to guide our teens to use this tool in a healthy and beneficial way. Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com Join us on Patreon for bonus content and more: https://www.patreon.com/FeedingTheMouthThatBitesYou

Episode 2: Common mistakes parents make with teenagers (and how to avoid them). Dec 10, 2019

Episode 3: School! Dec 10, 2019

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Intro music: "Battles" - The Afters