Fare of the Free Child

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Ep. 121: More Reasons to Trust Our Intuition May 30, 2019

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Intuition is not exclusive to adulthood, and it can play a very helpful role in helping a child develop a healthy sense of bodily autonomy. At any age, we have feelings in our bellies or chests, for example, that are directly triggered by feelings of safety or lack thereof. Help children to name and acknowledge those feelings – and to trust them. How much do you trust yourself? Intuition, while hailed as something to trust in adulthood, is often discarded or even berated in childhood. Listen in as my Mama and my daughter talk about the importance of intuition in their own lives. I hope it sparks a strengthening of your own connection to intuitive knowings that help you thrive.

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EP. 120: Alternatives to Toxic Whiteness May 24, 2019

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I got an email in response to episode 115 (On White Privilege and Pleasure) that left me disappointed and upset about another experience with white fragility targeted at this podcast. Rather than stewing and ranting with my family (best believe we did it already), I’m using the email I got from a concerned white person about episode 115 as a teachable moment.

It’s my first time having Kris, Marley, and Sage here on FOFC, and I believe this is the perfect topic to hear everyone’s opinion on. By using his emails as an avatar for white fragility and the sugar-coated racism so often felt in even the most “progressive” of SDE spaces, we’ll examine this kind of mentality, its in-depth issues, and how to do better.

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Ep 119: Educating the World to Our Children (Soweto) May 19, 2019

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Inspired by her 9-year-old daughter, Leruo and determined not to let her 'shine' be dimmed, this mama decided to find a better way to educate her little light. Her do-better process affected how she worked, how she communicated, how she ended up at #LRC2018.

Tebogo Modisane: Unschooler, Freelance Event Producer, Soweto born and raised.

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Ep. 118: Let's Grow Podcast (Series Saturdays) May 12, 2019

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Join Dr. Sundiata Soon-Jahta for the first episode of Let's Grow Podcast as he explores the Selfish vs. Self-actualized concept. He'll explore concepts we talk about on Fare of the Free Child--agency, consent, and a removal of the power-over dynamic. Dr. Sundiata is inviting you to challenge your idea of being an individual, and shift it to include and embrace symbiotic relationships so that we can support each other's self-actualization. His goal is to inspire you to reject other people's ideas as a result of you pursuit of self-actualization.

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Ep 117: The Do Better Series Premiere May 08, 2019

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Gonna hone in on that mothering energy that's swirling around this month--they assigned a Mother's Day, I don't care about any of those days they assign, but I damn sure love to hop onto the waves of any good, gratitude-centered energies, and this is my contribution to that. It's also a great way to ease on into this month's focus, doing better! the Do Better Series. This week I’m reading a Self-Mothering essay to remind you why and how this do-better gotta start with you first. I wrote it in 2016, and published it on everydayfeminism.com a couple months after I published the very first episode of Fare of the Free Child podcast.

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EP 116: The Pleasure Series with The Body Relationship Coach™ Apr 30, 2019

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A fitting close-out to The Pleasure Series, Ivy Felicia talks about body relationships, especially as a Black woman of size and of color. Ivy talks about embracing pleasure and play, as well as finding the confidence to show up as herself, assert her worth, and express her full self. Is this something we get in the way of for young people in bigger bodies? If so, how can we do better? We also touch on doing the work of calling out external biases at home, and not perpetuating oppression and judgement to children. Have those conversations, and reinforce critical thinking, our progress as a society is depending on it/us..

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Ep 115: The Pleasure Series Apr 25, 2019

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As you are learning about privilege, is your practice being fortified by listening, engage, and changing? This is the question for white people in Self-Directed Education spaces that employ, offer volunteership, or otherwise work with BIPOC adults. In can feel really good to be informed, educated, “woke” and all, but what is happening in your actual SDE space? What would non-white adults who work with you say about your communication and actions when it comes to equity? We’re not just the visual of diversity, but the practice of equity.

This week's episode is reminder (or wake-up call) that equity does not end at diversity. The pleasure you get from looking at the 1, 2, or even 20 BIPOC folks in your space doesn't mean your work is done. It is this little twinge of white savior complex that can easily wrap you up in a cocoon of comfort with earplugs on. Let’s change that. As important as you feel they are, they need to feel it too. Period. Equity (or Allyship) is not just listening. It's practice.

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EP 114: The Pleasure Series with Binah Joy Apr 18, 2019

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"Our dance is so valid. So necessary and urgent."

Listen to this movement maker talk about connecting pleasure to parenting in life-affirming ways. "Mother Mother" and artist through various mediums. Binahkaye “Binah” Joy shares with us in this episode about the process of integrating creative movement into mothering, and the pleasure of dance. She has worked with women’s whose bodies have been sites of repeated violation, and she saw first-hand how a tiny bit of encouragement can help an incarcerated woman, for example, feel freedom, love, and possibility in her body.

With a background in community-centered dance, Binah dedicated her time to providing space for those around her to get in touch with the happiness and security moving their bodies can help them across manage life’s ebbs and flows, particularly with navigating the the schoolish, competition-based messages we hear surrounding dance. In addition to being mama to Bloom, Wonder, and Jubilee, Binah is a co-founder of The Family Dances, a DC-based group that facilitates dance programs that are family-centered and family-accessible. Her children are 5, 3, and 1, and have brought her movement practice to new, exciting spaces. Writer's Note: This one made me all teary-eyed. I use dance as something to explore my perception of myself and the world around me, so hearing someone taking this empowering "for you and no one else" mindset wherever they go is in turn empowering. I'm really honored to be in a space that gives a signal boost to voices like Binah's.

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EP 113: The Pleasure Series with Thea Monyeé Apr 11, 2019

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Why do we push back against children’s pleasure? Because safety, right? Because boundaries, right? Even in the cases where both of those are true, what’s also true in many cases is that we, as adults, resent pleasure. We resent children, in particular, when they engage in pleasure because they haven’t earned that right just yet. It goes even further beyond that, and Thea Monyeé takes us into this mindset, and the root of its imprint, systemic oppression. This is the second episode in The Pleasure Series here on FOFC Podcast, and we’re connecting pleasure and parenting in ways you might have thought of, but didn’t have the space or the company to explore it with. Well, let’s get into it--resentment and pain in parenting, and moving beyond pain over to pleasure.

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Ep. 112: The Pleasure Series Prelude Apr 04, 2019

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Pleasure is an adult thing. It's not for children to see, experience, or even be curious about. This is a notion that even the most liberated of unschooled parents can find themselves acting upon. As is the case with so much of we've yet to deschool from, we rarely stop and ask, "Is this a me problem?"
To start you on that journey, this is the Pleasure series, a collection of discussions about how pleasure affects our lives, and in turn, those of the children around us.
With the tools provided, you'll be able to critically examine your preconceived notions of topics that intersect with the idea of pleasure, such as bodily autonomy in children, perseverance, and even rage.

I’ll also talk a bit about Rooted US, the NYC-based unconference I’ll be engaged in this June. Listen in, share, and enjoy!

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