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One of our family mottos is, “Do hard things first.” Oftentimes though, we get so distracted as parents that we don’t take the time to sit with our kids to help them learn to do hard things. So, what happens? We do it for them. We get more exhausted and they, in turn, become less resourceful. In this episode, we talk about how to help your kids accomplish something difficult for long term gains both with your kids and your sanity!
There is not a more sanctifying set of verses in the Bible than James 1:19-20, “…be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for human anger does not accomplish God’s righteousness” (CSB). So what happens when we’re slow to listen, quick to speak, and quick to anger, especially with our spouse and kids? Today’s 5 minutes is about how we can be quick to listen, but also how to make it right with our loved ones when we get it wrong. Because we will.
No matter whether you homeschool, or your kids go to public school, private school, or remain in the middle of remote learning, we believe it’s important for kids to be in life school.
In this episode, we talk about what life school is and how and what we’re doing in our first year as a homeschooling family. Here are some highlights:
- We share the lessons and curriculum we use
- Christi shares what hasn’t worked and the importance of always evaluating and making tweaks
- Why family rhythm and routine is more important than a schedule
- The life school lessons we taught so far
- Why Google might know more than dad, but can’t teach character
- How we manage working from home, schooling our kids, and how we communicate about it all
What happens when we switch roles with our kids and we allow them to teach us something they know that we might not? Well, your kids just might surprise you. In this 5 minute episode, we talk about the surprising benefits of putting your child in the teacher role and the boost of confidence it can give them.
What comes out of us and how we live our lives is often a reflection of what we take in. In this 5 minute episode, Josh + Christi share what music is on their current playlists and the books shaping how they think in this current season.
We have a fun surprise! Our new children’s book 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience released this week!
In this episode, we talk about the fun activities, life lessons, character traits, and prayers your family can engage this Advent season. Let’s be honest, 2020 in many ways has felt like Groundhog Day–the same day over and over again. This Christmas, we hope each day of Advent can feel different, like a warm hug for your family as you engage the Christmas story!
Read the Bible this weekend as a family. Choose a passage and sit down together as a couple, or with your kids, and read it aloud. Keep your reading short if you have young kids, but use the following guide as a way to engage the text.
Pastor Jon Tyson from Church of the City New York has three questions he challenges us to ask of our kids:
1. What does this passage tell you about God?
2. What does this passage tell you about yourself?
3. What does this passage tell you about how life works?
Dr. Diane Langberg is a pioneer. As a practicing psychologist for nearly five decades, she gives voice to those without a voice. She joins us this week to talk about how we can help our kids find their voice and use it for good in the world. She also describes practical ways we can teach our kids to stand against unhealthy people and systems.
Speaking from the heart of a mother and grandmother, and from the experience of a psychologist, Diane defines power as “the capacity to impact.” From a nursing home resident, to your newborn infant screaming for food in the middle of the night, the capacity to impact others is in all of us. But what happens when power is abused? Particularly in a system, whether political or religious, that uses God’s name as a weapon to protect the system more than the people it serves?
In this episode, Diane joins us to talk about her new book Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church. She shares how we can redeem our own voice if hurt by those in power and how we can help our kids find their voice and use their power for good in the world.
Here are a few of the highlights:
- Diane shares who helped her find her voice as a little girl and how it shaped who she is today who she is today
- How women can prioritize raising kids and doing what they love
- Where our power originates from
- The danger of trying to move on too quickly after an apology
- Practical ways to help your kids find their voice and recognize unhealthy systems
- The healthy steps toward healing for the parent once victimized
Pre-order Diane’s book, Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by clicking here.
Healthy marriages see what cannot be seen. What does that mean? We fight for our spouse’s heart by seeking to understand what our spouse is feeling each day–the underlying feelings your spouse is carrying that you can’t see on the surface.
Let’s be honest, busyness and distraction become massive barriers to feeling fully known and loved in our marriage. So when we experience uncomfortable emotions, we tend to get defensive and lead with anger. This episode provides a practical help for overcoming busyness and distraction to fighting for one another’s heart.
In this 5 minute episode, we talk about how to stand firm and pray for your spouse. We talk about the passage on marriage from Ephesians, chapter 5. However, we need to put this part about marriage specifically in the context of the entire letter and in light of Ephesians chapter 6. Here’s 5 minutes on how you can begin fighting for your spouse’s soul.
Much is shifting in the unseen realm right now. Maybe you're feeling it too. The change happening in society is trickling down and effecting our families unlike many of us have seen in our lifetimes. Today, we talk about what that means for us as families.Here are some highlights:Modeling and teaching our kids the power of intercessory prayerThe importance of praying for someone else who has the same need as yoursDiscerning transition and what God might be teaching you in itEphesians 6 as a model of how to fight for, and not with, your spouseWhy to consecrate your home, marriage, body, and workShow Notes:Click here to sign up for YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and ValuesIf you're already a member of the Famous at Home Network, and would like to sign up for YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE, click here.To download the Wild at Heart app, click here.
In marriage, we have opponents that war against our intimacy and level of connection. Sometimes it's finances, busyness, an upcoming deployment, or even lack of sleep from a newborn baby. Whatever the opponent, we have to name it in order to get on the same team against it. If not, we run the risk of making our spouse the enemy. And your spouse is not your enemy.
In this 5 minute episode, we talk about a surprising discovery we had about what a true worship song really is, and what it means for how we teach our kids about God. This simple practice of worship is a game-changing 5-minute win for how you and your family can start the day.
A Deeply Formed Life. Is it possible with a family? Young kids? Newborns? Pastor Rich Villodas gives us a road map to the richly rooted place we all yearn for: a place of communion with God, a place where we find our authentic purpose amid chaotic times. This conversation is beautiful.Rich is a longtime friend of Josh's from seminary days nearly 20 years ago. Today he is lead pastor at New Life Fellowship in Queens, NY, an intergenerational, multi-ethnic church representing 75 different nationalities. He is a husband and father who pursues a deeply formed life.Pastor Rich says we must restore balance, focus, and meaning for our souls. He describes how to find this spiritual breakthrough by following five key values. Best of all, he talks about how these values inform how we parent our kids!The values he breaks down in this episode and his new book The Deeply Formed Life include:Contemplative Rhythms: for an exhausted lifeRacial Justice: for a divided timeInterior Examination: for a world living on the surfaceSexual Wholeness: for a culture that splits bodies from soulsMissional Presence: for a distracted and disengaged peopleShow Notes:Be sure to purchase The Deeply Formed Life by Pastor Rich! Click here.Follow Pastor Rich on Instagram. Click here.
Welcome to Famous at Home in 5 Minutes, the new twice weekly podcast drop, offering practical ways to create a family of connection, celebration, and purpose.In this episode, the one way to win the day as a parent.
Have you thought about what it means to awaken wonder in your kids? To help them finish the phrase, "I wonder..."? As a pioneer in schooling from home, Sally Clarkson joins us to talk about wonder. But even more, her beautiful stories of educating her own kids help set us free!Whether you homeschool or send your kids to a public or private school, you hold the keys to who your children become. Sally describes practically what this can look like in the day-to-day and the ways we can open our child's heart to the beauty of learning. There are some beautiful highlights you won't want to miss:How to follow your child's sense of wander.The beautiful moments that really matter when it comes to educating your kids.Practical ways to educate your kids and what it can look like in the day-to-day.How modeling and instruction work together and why it's important.Raising children who love learning, not just practice rote memorization.How Sally and Clay became a team as husband and wife in educating their kids.Show Notes:Get your copy of AWAKING WONDER: Opening Your Child's Heart to the Love of Learning by Sally Clarkson. Click here to purchase!Visit Sally's website by clicking here.Subscribe to Sally's podcast by clicking here.YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE: A STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE TO ESTABLISHING YOUR FAMILY’S VISION AND VALUES. Cart is now open at 20% off. Click here to join!
Pretty much everyone is now schooling from home at some level. Not only that, work has also returned home. This makes for a lovely recipe of childcare issues, conflicting schedules, and marital bliss. Okay, so the latter is a bit of an exaggeration. But what if we really could get on the same team?In this episode, we talk about what we're learning and the adjustments we needed to make because of the new school-from-home routine. Surprise, surprise, it begins with the marriage. We share about a very real moment we had last week that blindsided us but got us back on the same team in a new way.We also go in-depth about our current daily schedule and what's working. Hopefully, it'll give you some insight on how you can school from home in a more harmonious way.Show Notes:YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE: A STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE TO ESTABLISHING YOUR FAMILY'S VISION AND VALUES. Cart is now open at 20% off. Click here to join!
In a follow-up to last week's conversation about being a spiritually attuned family, we talk this week about paying attention to how God is shaping your child's heart. Not only that, Josh makes a big time confession that leaves Christi speechless. It's a moment you won't want to miss!In this episode, we talk practically about how we pay attention to the Holy Spirit when it comes to shepherding our children's hearts. The conversation includes:Why it's important for us as parents to press into our child's heart and have difficult conversationsHow to discern behavior change and steward attitudes in your childrenHow to have conversations about the messages our kids take in through video games, music, television, etc. What it looks like to walk the tightrope of support / challenge with your kidsHow to encourage and follow the Holy Spirit's leading in your child's lifeWays we specifically champion our children's hearts right nowShow Notes:Keep the conversation going and gain encouragement from other families just like yours by joining the Famous at Home online community, FREE. Click here to join now!
How is your family approaching these uncertain times? Do you feel overwhelmed by schooling from home? Confused about what God might be up to right now? Figuring out what a new normal looks like for your family?In this episode, we talk candidly about our own pursuit of the deeper things of God during these uncertain times. Specifically, we talk about:How to not to "miss" our child's inner worldOvercoming the spirit of distractionHow to turn our focus onto what really matters in the day-to-day Why we believe God wants to use families in these uncertain timesHow we approach discipleship with our kidsWhy bringing our kids into the conversation mattersShow Notes:We extended the 20% OFF registration for The Leader’s Heart Cohort. Register now or schedule a call with Josh to learn more!
Dorena Williamson joins us for a beautiful, honest, and at times, uncomfortable conversation about race. Dorena loves the power of story and writes children’s books that adults need too. She is the author of ColorFull, ThoughtFull, and GraceFull, children's books that feature diverse ethnicity and shape perspective on race, disability, and homelessness. She is the co-planter of multiracial Strong Tower Bible Church in Nashville, and a leader with Be the Bridge.Dorena joins us to talk about her children's books and gives us insight on how to talk to our kids about race. Here are some highlights:Why it's necessary for our kids to see colorA biblical basis for every child's identity, regardless of colorA historical perspective on how the United States veered away from the biblical foundation of human creation and worthDorena shares practical ways she has taught her kids about race, the history of injustice, and the cultural experiences she gives them.How we can see our own bias, prejudice, and pay attention to the pain in our stories.Show Notes:Find Dorena's books and visit her at dorenawilliamson.com. She has a great list of resources to learn more about growing in racial awareness. Click here for those resources.Click here for Dorena's book ColorFull!Click here for Dorena's book GraceFull!Click here for Dorena's book ThoughtFull!We extended the 20% OFF registration for The Leader’s Heart Cohort. Register now or schedule a call with Josh to learn more!
Working from home. Managing school from home. Raising little kids (especially under age three). And living on little sleep. This recipe is perfect for treating your spouse like a three-year-old. Pouting. Talking back. Ignoring. You know, just being emotionally immature with your spouse.We get it. We're on little sleep. Have an infant at home. And date nights come at a premium these days. In this episode, we talk about how to treat your spouse like an adult. Or, in other words, how not to be emotionally immature with each other.A few highlights:We talk about our own recent "disconnection." How to talk to one another about expectations.The ways we can accept influence from each other.How to keep our relationship fresh.Showing up for one another with weird schedules and new routines.Show Notes:We extended the 20% OFF registration for The Leader’s Heart Cohort. We're almost full, but you can still get in. Register now or schedule a call with Josh to learn more!
We cannot pretend that life is going to get back to normal. It's not. And we believe that's a good thing, especially for families. In this episode, we talk about what we believe God is up to in this moment of history. There is an apocalypse, or a revealing, taking place in our society. How do you discern what that means for your family? That's what this episode is all about.We discuss a number of topics relevant to your family right now:How to listen to God in this hour and what He has for your family.Our decision to lay everything on the table and decide what needs to go and what needs to stay.Why we decided to homeschool this year and what that looks like.How to grieve and say goodbye well to an old season so we can properly say hello to a new one.What it means to "unschool" ourselves in regard to being famous at home.Show Notes:Sign up today for The Leader’s Heart Cohort and receive 20% off registration. Spaces are running out!
Carlos Whittaker tells stories in books, on stage, and on Instagram. In this episode, he tells stories about race, trauma, and talks about his new book Enter Wild. Carlos' voice in these trying times is one we all need to listen to.In this episode, Carlos covers some amazing ground on how we as families can specifically hear from God. If you're in a difficult season as a family and questioning God's presence, Carlos will challenge you. Instead of asking "What if God doesn't show up?" Carlos challenges us to ask, "What if He does?"Here are some highlights:Carlos talks about why we're afraid to ask God for specific requests. How we can teach our kids to pray to God for specific prayers. What the Lord is really committed to as it relates to you and your family. What it costs to step out of a mild and mundane faithWhat the real goal of being a parent is and how to achieve it.Show Notes & SponsorsSign up today for The Leader’s Heart Cohort and receive 20% off registration.Do yourself a favor and follow Carlos Whittaker on Instagram. Click here.Click here to get Enter Wild: Exchange a Mild and Mundane Faith for Life with an Uncontainable God.Register now for The Patient Parent: How to Stop Yelling, Quit Overreacting, and See Your Child for Who They Really Are. Click here to register.
The upcoming school year is fast upon us and unlike any we've encountered. As parents, it can feel unsettling with all of the unknowns. You might be working from home. You may be going into work. Either way, keeping the kids at home this school year or having them learn online adds further burden. Not only is fear of the unknown an issue, so is our depleting frustration tolerance.In this episode, we reveal the decision we made about this school year and invite you on the journey to use the podcast as an ongoing discussion as we all journey through these uncharted waters as families this fall. No matter the decision you make for your family, we can all lead well for our kids and inside of our homes.Show Notes:Sign up today for The Leader’s Heart Cohort and receive 20% off registration.Register now for our FREE webinar, How Not to Lose Your Ever-Loving Mind on Your Kids coming up the week of July 27th. Click here to register.Looking to establish Your Family Purpose for this fall? Sign up here and get 20% OFF!Join the Famous at Home Network by clicking here.
Fr. Aaron Smallwood joins us for a conversation on racial injustice and what it means for today's family and the family of God. If you're learning about the root of the racial tension in America and trying to figure out how to talk to your kids about racial justice, this is a good starting conversation.In this episode, we talk about our personal covenant relationship, our own family histories as it relates to race, and how we're living out covenant relationship in our own families today.Show Notes:Sign up today for The Leader's Heart Cohort and receive 20% off registration.Register now for our FREE webinar, How Not to Lose Your Ever-Loving Mind on Your Kids coming up the week of July 27th. Click here to register.Books on Racial Reconciliation and Injustice:Be the Bridge: Pursuing God's Heart for Racial Reconciliation by Natasha MorrisonPost Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America's Legacy of Enduring Injury and Healing by Joy DegruyRace, Religion, & Racism by Frederick K. C. PriceThe New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in an Age of Colorblindness by Michelle AlexanderMovies to Watch:The HelpImitation of LifeJust MercySelmaRootsQueen
Father Aaron Smallwood, Spiritual Director of Famous at Home, joins the podcast this week to talk about spiritual direction. We talk openly and transparently about our own journey of spiritual direction, what spiritual direction is, why it's important in the day-to-day of your family, and how you can find spiritual direction.Show Notes:To sign up for the free webinar, How to Not Lose Your Ever-Loving Mind on Your Kids, click here!To register for The Leader's Heart Cohort and save 20%, click here!
When we lead, we influence culture. Whether culture is at home with your kids or it's at work, how you show up has a ripple effect on the environment. Bill Lokey joins Josh for the final episode in a 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership. This week we talk about the heart of your culture: at home and work.In this fourth and final episode on leadership and connection, Josh and Bill talk about:The game of spiritual mathematics in relationshipsWhy healthy culture starts with understandingHow we can enter into the stories of those we lead and loveThe multiplying power of making our world smallerWays to cultivate healthy culture both at home and workShow Notes:Get 20% OFF before July 17! Bill and Josh together will be facilitating The Leader’s Heart Cohort beginning September 1. Seats are limited. To learn more about this holistic emotional / spiritual one-year journey, click here.
Bill Lokey joins Josh again for part 3 of our 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership. And this week we talk about something deep for each one of us: how trauma influences our heart, soul, and how we lead.In this third episode on leadership and connection, Josh and Bill talk about:Why we tend to feel like impostersThe definition of trauma and how it shows up in how we act toward othersThe subtle traumas we may have never labeled as suchHow trauma influences our relationshipsWhy we tend to medicate our trauma and what we use to medicateThe power of feelings in healing the pain from our pastWhy it's so difficult for us to face shame and trauma as an adultPractical ways to face our trauma and show up for those we leadShow Notes:Bill and Josh together will be facilitating The Leader’s Heart Cohort beginning September 1. Seats are limited. To learn more about this holistic emotional / spiritual one-year journey, click here.
Bill Lokey joins Josh again for part 2 of our 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership. And this week we talk about something we all tend to struggle with: meaningful connection and spending time with those we love.In this second episode on leadership and connection, Josh and Bill talk about:The barriers to meaningful connection and how we can overcome themShame as a bad motivator for changeHow to silence shame so we can connect deeply with othersHow self-medicators keep us from intimacyWhat it feels like to spend time with someone who really likes youHow to show up for someone you really like spending time withSpiritual disciplines for meaningful connection with GodShow Notes:Bill and Josh together will be facilitating The Leader’s Heart Cohort beginning September 1. Seats are limited. To learn more about this holistic emotional / spiritual one-year journey, click here.
No matter your stage, you lead people. As a parent, you lead your kids. As a spouse, you lead your husband or wife. At work, you lead your employees, congregants, soldiers, clients, and teams. How would those you lead describe your ability to connect to their realities? And how much do we really pay attention to those realities versus focusing solely on our own?Make no mistake, the quality of how well you lead rises or falls on your inner world. And the people you lead feel it. That's why we begin season 8 of our podcast with a 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership. Sitting in as co-host while Christi is on maternity leave is world-renowned therapist Bill Lokey.In this series, we'll be covering The Heart of Your Leadership, The Heart of Connection, The Heart of Trauma, and The Heart of Your Culture.In this first episode, Josh and Bill talk about:What makes a person a leaderWhat happens when your stage is ripped out from under youHow to transition well as a leader when bad things happenWhat it means to grieve and why it's critical for how we leadWhy we have a tendency to focus more on reputation than characterWhat happens when we feel like we're not enough or don't have what it takes to leadShow Notes:Bill and Josh together will be facilitating The Leader's Heart Cohort beginning September 1. Seats are limited. To learn more about this holistic emotional / spiritual one-year journey, click here.
Social distancing threw us a few curve balls. With that season seemingly coming to a close for many across the world, the question we have to ask as families is: What did we learn?Not only is social distancing coming to an end, but so is season 7 of our podcast. Pretty crazy! As we launch a new season, we begin with Christi on maternity leave. In this episode, we talk about the lessons we learned as a family, the changes we'll be making, and where we're headed as a new season of the Famous at Home podcast begins.Show Notes:Register now for The Leader's Heart Cohort by clicking here.
Social distancing has given us a chance to really focus on the atmosphere of our home, both emotionally and spiritually. It's made us a little more intentional, but also has brought a lot more fun to our home as well.In this episode, we talk about the practices we've been implementing in our home to cultivate our kids' hearts and foster a healthy spiritual environment for all of us.Here are some highlights:The misperception that spiritual growth begins with instructionWhy the spiritual environment of our home rises and falls on modelingThe transmitting power of relational warmth How listening and asking questions of our kids influences the environment Why worship changes the atmosphere of your homeThe ways we teach our kids to listen for God's voiceWhy we need to take prayer seriously and be the spiritual covering for our kidsShow Notes:To learn more about The Leader's Way Cohort, or to apply, click here.Click here to learn more about Minno!Click here for Moving Mountains by John EldredgeClick here for The Ransomed Heart App
No doubt your child's world has been rattled in some way by the uncertain times we live in. How we respond to our child's big emotions now will set the stage for how they learn to manage those emotions and make decisions in crisis as they grow older. No pressure, right? In this episode, we provide hope and talk about five practical ways to create an emotional growth environment for your kids.Lead in grace, follow in truthTalk about emotionsCelebrate your kids for who they are; don't mourn who they're notRight your wrongsFocus on who you're becomingShow Notes:The What Am I Feeling? children's book is a perfect way to help your kids label their emotions. Click here to purchase.What to learn more about Emotional Safety in Parenting? To purchase Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well, click here.
Leading your family well requires intention and discernment. To be honest, it can't be done alone either. You need the ability to learn along the way what works and what doesn't for your family. In this episode, self-proclaimed "expert pregnancy survivor," Aaron Sharp (IT Director for Right Now Media) joins us to share ways he and his wife Elaina, aka Wonder Woman, lead their family.Aaron also wrote an incredibly witty book on pregnancy and preparing for a new baby, which is important for our season of life. Having done this pregnancy thing himself four times (okay, let's give his wife Elaina the credit), they have a zoologist, a ballerina, a fashionista, and a Jedi. Here are some highlights:Witty conversation on how to prepare your home for a new baby, especially as a dadHow they balance his role and his wife's entrepreneurial journey owning a plumbing companyWhat they believe about schooling their kidsEye-opening ways he leads his family in this season of social distancingShow Notes:REGISTER TODAY for THE LEADER'S HEART COHORT. For more information, click here.To purchase You Got This, Dad by Aaron Sharp, click here.
Who doesn't need help communicating in a COVID-19 era? Learning to communicate with your spouse can take years. Fortunately, our cohosts for Sex, Love, and Relationships (on Hillsong Channel), John and Helen Burns, bring 46 years of marriage to the podcast. In this episode, they drop absolute gold--simple lessons you can apply today, but with the complexity that comes with four-and-half decades of marriage. As former church planters and pastors, they now mentor pastors all over the world. Today, you get to be mentored by them as well. Here are some highlights:Why communication was their problemHow they learned to tame the tongue How to discern when to talk and when to zip itWhy life should be a treasure huntAnd the 11th commandment of the Burns home -- thou shalt laughShow Notes:As we mentioned in the episode, The Leader's Heart Cohort is beginning this fall! Click here to learn more and register now!Check out Sex, Love, and Relationships on Hillsong Channel!
We didn't always have family rhythms established on paper. And we suffered for it, oftentimes feeling overwhelmed, other times feeling purposeless. In this episode, we talk about how we established family rhythms, why we gave each day of the week a name, and how those rhythms serve our family and keep us thriving throughout social distancing. We also talk about how why we named each month and set up a yearly rhythm that brings us hope.Show Notes:To learn more about the Famous at Home family coaching and marriage coaching options, click here.
How many times a day during social isolation have your kids asked for snack? Have you struggled keeping them, or yourself, moving? Noelle Martin, aka motherhoodandmeals, a registered dietician and university professor, joins us to talk about how she helps her own three boys develop a healthy relationship with food. She also shares with us a practical and kind approach for how to keep yourself and your kids exercising.Noelle shares with us:Snack ideas for our kidsHow often our kids should eatHow to set an eating schedule for your kids that worksThe foods she includes in each meal with her kidsThe conversation and language they use about foodHow to use cooking as a part of your homeschool curriculumApps and a plan for exercise and movement during social isolationThe relationship between gut health and movementShow Notes:Go follow MotherhoodandMeals on Instagram by clicking here!Here is the blogpost full of apps Noelle mentions in the episode to keep your kids moving!Visit MotherhoodandMeals.com to sign up for a food schedule by clicking here.To get Noelle's Super Foods for Super Kids Cookbook, click here.
Your story matters and deserves to be told. That's the heart and message of this episode with our friend, CEO of Onsite Workshops, Miles Adcox. An unexpected consequence of social isolation is how it's forcing many of us to look at some pain or grief, maybe within our marriage, or within ourselves, that we hadn't taken time to address. If you feel burdened, this episode will bless you.In this episode, we all share our own therapeutic journeys and how we continue to find freedom by prioritizing our own unique stories. Miles does a great job of helping us see, at a deep level, what emotional wellness can look like and why it matters. No matter what you might be experiencing right now during social isolation, this conversation will fill your heart and mind with grace and compassion.Show Notes:For more information on the Online Programs Onsite is currently offering, click here.To learn more about the Emotional Wellness opportunities at Onsite, click here.Check out more about Miles, including his speaking schedule, by clicking here.Purchase the What Am I Feeling? children's book, by clicking here.
In part 4 of the Famous at Home series during social isolation, we talk about how to talk to your kids about coronavirus. Kids, too, have had their schedules and routines interrupted. But, unlike many adults, kids don't always know how to communicate fear, sadness, or confusion. Making it more difficult is that a child's feelings will often come out through behavior--either behavior we don't pick up on, or behavior we don't like. So not only do we punish the behavior, we punish the negative emotion too.In this episode, we provide practical ways we can talk to our kids about coronavirus without making these mistakes. We also talk about what our kids need most during this time, how we can settle their hearts, and how we can make the most of the time we get together as families.Show Notes:Sign up here for Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values. 20% Off Buy One, Gift One Until April 3!
In part 3 of the Famous at Home series during social isolation, we talk about marriage. With spouses in close quarters, work schedules changing, and kids home from school, spouses are forced to begin communicating in new ways. Marriages once held together by busyness are now struggling because of idleness. In this episode, we talk about how to connect at a deeper level, get on the same team, and champion one another. We also talk about spiritual growth, and yes, sex.Show Notes:Sign up here for Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values. 20% Off Buy One, Gift One Until April 3!To listen to The Elephant in Your Marriage episode, click here.
In part 2 of the Famous at Home series during social isolation, we talk about setting family rhythms. With kids out of school, finances taking a hit, spouses working from home, and everyone stuck together in close quarters, we talk about why family routines matter. We also share what we're doing specifically for the weeks ahead. Christi ends the episode with a great reminder though, that whatever you do, give yourself grace, focus on your home, and don't compare to what you see everyone else doing.Show Notes:Sign up here for Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values. 20% Off Buy One, Gift One Until April 3!Click here to purchase What Am I Feeling? children's book.
Being famous at home requires that we remain emotionally engaged with our loved ones. But suddenly finding yourself isolated from others in a very uncertain time can create panic, fear, and stress that emotionally distances you from those you love.In part 1 of the Famous at Home series during social isolation, we talk about emotional resilience. Put another way, resilience is our ability to "bounce back" when we feel panicked, depressed, stressed, or emotionally disengaged. The practical strategies we discuss are designed to build your emotional immune system, so you can "bounce back," and be famous at home for those you love.Show Notes:Click here to join the discussion at the Famous at Home Network!
If you want to be a dad who is famous at home with his son, this is a must listen. Pastor Jon Tyson joins us to talk about the path he created to raise his now 19-year-old son. He turned the path itself into a course that every dad can use to lead his son into a life of purpose. As Jon looked at the landscape of today's boys, he saw the need for boys to be guided by a community of men, on a recognized path into adulthood, that matched the aches or longings boys have in their heart. He calls it The Primal Path.With so many incredible one-liners to count, here are some highlights of this episode:There is no constant, consistent, intentional pathway for boys to become men in American Christianity. Boys need a mentor or a father who can walk him through the process. The primal path is a way to help overwhelmed but determined dads raise sons of consequence.There's no way you can underestimate the joy of getting it right and overestimate the pain of getting it wrong when it comes to raising your son.It's not about getting it perfect, but getting it right. Don't shrink back out of insecurity or lack. Your son doesn't know what you don't know. Engage the path and process. Build a relationship with your son where he brings you his sin.Show Notes:Click here to check out Jon's Father-Son course, with a 77-page field guide, called The Primal Path.You can also check out YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE by clicking here.
Y'all are amazing! This is a celebration episode--number 150. We also hit a milestone for downloads (mind grapes blown) and we have YOU to thank! In this episode, we talk about the one thing that's bringing each of us to life as spring approaches. We also challenge you to find that one life-giving thing for yourself. Christi shares her struggle with finding anything that was life-giving in the early years of parenthood, and talks about her process of discovering the things that now brings her to life.Also, because of your awesomeness, we're giving away t-shirts. Just set up your profile on the Famous at Home Network, join the group called "FAH Podcast Friends," and tell the group the single most useful thing for you or your family that you've taken away from the Famous at Home podcast.Show Notes:Click here to join the Famous at Home Network and connect with other families just like yours!
What are some of the mottos your family lives by? Visit any home goods store today and you can buy signs with all kinds of crazy mottos. Seeing these signs gave Troy and Ruth Chou Simons an idea. As the founder of GraceLaced, an art and lifestyle brand, Ruth decided to create signs adorned with biblical truths that her own family lived by.In this episode, Ruth and Troy give us a sneak peak into their home to talk about the rhythms and spiritual disciplines of raising their six boys. One of the best parts of this conversation is the guilt-free manner at which they talk about how to live out biblical truths in all seasons of your family, whether you're in the sleepless years of infancy or the tumultuous years of adolescence.Show Notes:Buy Ruth and Troy's book, Foundations: 12 Biblical Truths to Shape a Family, by clicking here.FAMOUS AT HOME NETWORK: Don't miss the Famous at Home Network! To join a community of like-minded families on the Famous at Home Network, click here.
Do you have an annoyance in your marriage that seems to rear its ugly head every now and again? That one issue that seems to block you and your spouse from being on the same team. In-laws. Finances. How you parent your kids. Where you spend the holidays.We all seem to have that one elephant. You know it's there, but most of the time it's hibernating in the cold, dark, corner of the basement, out of sight. Yet, every now and again, you feel the elephant coming up the stairs. Your reaction might be to pretend he's not coming. Or it might be that you see him walk into your living room so you obviously have to talk about him. So you do. You argue about him. You try to find a way to get him back into your basement, out of sight, but you can't agree on how to do that.In this episode, we talk about our own elephant. We also give practical ways to finally address that one issue in your marriage and why talking about it actually takes away its power. For the sake of your marital intimacy, talk about the elephant.Show Notes:To sign up for marriage coaching, or to learn more about Famous at Home Marriage and Family Coaching, click here.Join the Famous at Home Network!
Handling the tension between our stage and our home can wreak havoc on our family. Especially when all of the hard work of reaching the pinnacle of our career becomes a reality. The time our stage demands at that point can radically steal from those we love the most. For Sanctus Real's Matt Hammitt, his stage became a glaring mirror of how he was failing at home.Matt is a Grammy-nominated Christian singer, perhaps best known for Sanctus Real’s hit song, “Lead Me.” In this episode, Matt takes an honest look at how fulfilling his dreams of life on the road with Sanctus Real ultimately came at the cost of his family. He reflects on his challenging newlywed years—including hopping into a 15-passenger van with his band and wife, Sarah, immediately after their honeymoon—as well as the times he was thousands of miles away when crises hit at home. A particular tipping point came with the birth of his son, Bowen, who was born with a life-threatening heart defect.After years of living in an unhealthy cycle of communication and conflict, Matt realized that although he was a man of good intentions, he needed to be more than that—his family needed him to be a man of action. Here are some highlights from this episode:The heart and irony behind Sanctus Real’s hit song “Lead Me”The struggle many men face putting their family’s emotional and spiritual needs first while also financially providing for their physical needsMatt's son, Bowen’s, live-threatening heart defect, the doctors’ encouragement to abort the pregnancy, and how the diagnosis affected Matt + Sarah’s marriageWhy good intentions aren’t enough when it comes to leading your familyHow Matt answered the call to be a better husband and father, and his challenge to men to be the spiritual leaders of their familiesShow Notes:Go get Matt's new book Lead Me: Finding the Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Family, and Faith, click here.Click here for Matt Hammitt's website and upcoming speaking schedule.For Marriage or Family / Leadership Coaching through Famous at Home, click here.Click here to sign up for and find Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values.
You have a friend in crisis. Maybe it's a job loss, miscarriage, extramarital affair, a child in the hospital, or perhaps marital trouble finally has your friend breaking the ice. What do you do? Can you say the wrong thing? Do they need advice?In this episode, we talk about some basic principles of what it looks like to show up and be present for a friend in crisis. We also provide some outside resources should your friend need professional care.Show Notes:To watch the latest season of Sex, Love, and Relationships, click here.Sign up for the Becoming Famous at Home Marriage Retreat at Winshape, Click here.To purchase the What Am I Feeling? kid's book, click here.Click the professional service below to find a therapist in your local area or a therapeutic intensive.Faith-based counseling services:Winshape IntensivesWinshape RetreatsFocus on the FamilyFaith-inclusive counseling services:ThriveworksOnsitePsychology Today
So many of us start marriage off completely unprepared. We mean well and we genuinely love each other. But so often, being unprepared can leads to years of heartache.In this episode, Jackie and Stephana Bledsoe join us to talk about their experiences during the early years of marriage, and the decisions they began to make that eventually got them on the right track.Show Notes:Don't miss this amazing community! Sign up now for our new online course called YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE: A STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE TO ESTABLISHING YOUR FAMILY VISION AND VALUES by clicking here!To learn more about our one-on-one marriage coaching journey, or to set up a call with us, click here.Check out Jackie's book, The 7 Rings of Marriage, by clicking here.
Valentine's Day is upon us. Don't you love it? That one holiday that forces you to talk about (or not talk about) how you're doing with your spouse. This year, we want to help you have meaningful conversations together, to make this Valentine's Day the best yet!In this episode, we begin by talking about the events we'll be speaking at in February. We'd love to see you! Before talking about the five ways of "resetting" your marriage, we begin by talking about the semantics of the word "reset," and what it actually means for you to reset your marriage. We hope this episode is one that sparks the conversation for you and your spouse to connect in a deeper, more intimate way this year.Show Notes:To learn more about the Famous at Home Family Coaching Journey, click here.Buy your spouse a wonderful Valentine's gift by purchasing our brand new online course called Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values. Click here to learn more!Upcoming Events: Come say hi!February 9 Thompson Station, TNFebruary 16 Lake Zurich, ILFebruary 21-22 New Albany, INFebruary 28 Cookeville, TN
Women feel the strain of being famous at home in unique ways. The desire to be a mother to our children can often conflict with our passion for work and the stage we believe God is calling us to. Not only that, the stage God has called you to may very well be your home. Yet, you feel the pressure to have a stage beyond it. Or perhaps you have to work and wish so much you could stay at home, and the added pressure of not being there leaves you feeling less than famous.Rachel Swanson is a dear friend of ours, but even more, she is a best-selling and multiple award-winning author, inspirational speaker, and accredited Christian life coach. She joins us this week for a heart to heart conversation about her pull to be an entrepreneur while raising "wannabe triplets," and how her journey led her to being a dental hygienist for a season, a stay-at-home mom for a season, and even the primary breadwinner for a season. Her secret to managing it all? Finding harmony.But how does Rachel "find" harmony? That's what this episode is all about. Here are a few highlights:The struggles of being a stay-at-home mom versus full time work, versus part-time both work and motherhoodHow to find your own unique calling apart from the expectations of othersPractical ways to connect with God throughout the day even while taking care of kids and workingHow saying "yes" to God usually brings about the most hardship and joy all at the same timeHow to step into the "only God" story waiting just for youLiving in such a way that our souls can breathe againShow Notes:To purchase Rachel's new book, Refine and Restore: Revive Your Heart, Release Your Purpose, click here.To purchase or check out Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values, click here!To purchase Rachel's award-winning book, Big and Little Coloring Devotional, click here.To follow Rachel on Instagram, click here.To learn more about Rachel's coaching and speaking, click here.
One of the most difficult parts about being famous at home is that nagging feeling that you're not doing the best you can. Maybe you feel like you're messing up your kids. Or you know that you're not doing all you can to connect with your spouse.In this episode, we talk about 7 easy "wins" that can give you the confidence that you're building a rock solid marriage and laying a relational foundation for your children. And the beauty of these 7 daily "wins" is that they literally take minutes, and can be done even when you're not physically at home. But when done consistently over time, your marriage and relationship with your children will look completely different.Show Notes:To register now for Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values, click here!
Have you ever thought about what it actually means to be "famous?" Especially as it relates to the context of your spouse and kids?We talk a lot about being famous at home, but today we take some time to dive deeper into one specific word--what it means to be "famous." It's not a trite, superficial word, but a phrase that packs a lot of relational punch.In this episode, we define the word famous, talk about what it practically means to be raving fans of our loved ones, how to cultivate the emotional and spiritual climate in our home, and the law of sowing and reaping.Show Notes:Join the Famous at Home Network FREE by clicking here!To sign up for YOUR FAMILY PURPOSE, click here.
Happy New Year! This episode is our coffee date with you to share our favorite books, music, Instagram accounts, podcasts, and television shows. We also talk about the rhythms shaping who we are in this season of our lives.In other words, we discuss our favorites things coming out of 2019, and what's shaping our family environment as we begin 2020.Be sure to check out the brand new Famous at Home Network, which you can join for free! We also have a brand new Online Course to help you set your vision and values in 2020! You can click here to learn more about Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values.Here's to being famous at home in 2020!Show Notes:Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values. Our brand new Online Course! Click here to sign up.Join the Famous at Home Community by clicking here FREE!To order What Am I Feeling? click here.To order Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well, click here.Links to some of our favorites:Check out The One Year Hearing His Voice Devotional, click here.Check out Hunter Brothers by clicking here!
In this episode, we announce some really cool surprises we have been so excited to share with you! There is one really cool personal surprise we can't wait for you to learn.We also raise our glasses to YOU, as we come to a close on 2019, for your commitment to being famous at home and your unwavering friendship to us as we journey together.Our last surprise is for YOU, to have a community for you to stay even more connected to, and to become more famous at home in 2020.Show Notes:Register Now to the discounted rate for Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values. Click here to join!To join the brand new FAMOUS AT HOME NETWORK, click here.
A new decade is upon us. What a great time to look at where we are now as a family, and begin to cast vision for where we want to be. Besides, ten years goes by quickly.In this episode, we talk about the great lengths some people go to so that they can be famous at home and how we can follow their lead. We also look forward to the upcoming ten years and lay out a very specific plan for you to get intentional about your family.Friends, we're also releasing a brand new community forum for Famous at Home! Yes, it's a forum for all of us to network and converse about the people that matter to us most--those under our roof.Show Notes:Register Now to the discounted rate for Your Family Purpose: A Step-by-Step Guide to Establishing Your Family Vision and Values. Click here to join!To join the brand new FAMOUS AT HOME NETWORK, click here.Friday Night Flights: 24 Hours with Eagles QB / high school coach Josh McCown
It's the holiday season! That means to-do lists, Christmas lists, shopping carts, and your Uncle Jim's farts. Yup, we went there on ya. 'Tis the season!Let's be honest, family time can be awesome, but it can also be draining. Whether you live close by extended family or far away, or whether you have a plan you already put in place for the holidays, we talk about how we can take care of ourselves and still honor our family.So for the introverts who need alone time, to the extroverts who cannot get enough of people and holiday parties, this episode is for you.
Being famous at home requires that we become students of our kids. That we pay attention to their strengths, but also their growth areas.For boys, helping them learn to communicate with others in a respectful manner and with a good attitude can sometimes feel daunting. That's why our resident therapist, David Thomas, joins us this week to talk about our sons.This conversation began as a private one, when Josh reached out to David for help of his own. In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of that scenario, how David's wisdom has helped our family, and why we wanted to share it with you.This was such an insightful episode that you'll probably want to listen to a few times, especially if you have boys.Here are some highlights from this week’s episode:David describes why we tend to have to work more with our sons when it comes to social awareness.Why our boys can be so loud, energetic, and come across as rude or disrespectful. The tightrope that boys walk between blame and shame.Why it's important to help boys understand the choice of being right versus being kind. How to train our boys to reach for progress, not perfection. Practical exercises to help our boys of all ages become socially aware of their environment and how they come across to others.Why this conversation matters for who our sons will become as adult men.Show Notes:To get a copy of Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, click here.To get a copy of Are my Kids on Track? click here.To learn more about The Leader's Way Cohort, or to fill out a form and set up a call, click here.
Being famous at home requires that we become students of our kids. That we pay attention to what brings them alive and what shuts them down.Our resident therapist, Sissy Goff, joins us this week to talk about how we can better know our girls, especially when they worry. If you haven't heard Sissy before, and you have a daughter, this is an episode you won't want to miss.She begins by helping us understand some of the causes of the anxiety epidemic in girls today--from the biological to the generational, and even how we as parents tend to handle it.Here are some highlights from this week's episode:Sissy describes the two most common parenting strategies as parents, why they make sense, but why they're not helpful.A simplistic definition of anxiety for girls that helps us practically be able to help our girls realize they are bigger than the thing they are afraid of. The one primary strategy for helping your daughter overcome fear.How you can help your young daughter who is afraid of going to sleep or sleeping in her own beds overcome that fear.Why grades are so anxiety-producing for girls today.Practical exercises to help our girls of all ages overcome anxiety.Show Notes:To get your copy of Raising Worry Free Girls, click here.To get your copy of Braver, Stronger, Smarter: A Girl's Guide to Overcoming Worry and Anxiety, click here.To get your copy of the What Am I Feeling? children's book, click here.
The holidays are upon us! Unfortunately, that can mean added stress. With so many more decisions to make, Christmas shopping, house decorating, and excessive socializing can become a recipe for shorter fuses with--and toward--our loved ones.But alas, not this Christmas. In this episode, Josh and Christi spend time talking about the environment of their home, what God is teaching them, and how they are cultivating their environment this holiday season.Here are some talking points:Cultivating your environment requires intention. That you intentionally decide to stop running ragged and miss the moments.**Parental warning: We also talk about the existence of Santa Claus and how we talk to our kids about him.How listening to the Holy Spirit is so crucial to the environment of our home.Since life and death are in the power of the tongue, how we are choosing to speak life into our home and what that means for one another. Christi's desire to cultivate peace and joyJosh's living out of James 1:19--being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.Show Notes:Click here to listen to Christmas Hot Topics: Entitlement, Gift-Giving, Santa Claus, and Family Traditions.To learn more about our Family Coaching Journey or to see if coaching is right for your marriage, click here.To download the 7 Core Decisions to Becoming Famous at Home, click here.
Moments matter. Unfortunately, we live such busy lives, we rarely soak them all in. Families who don’t take time to celebrate and rest, get caught up in the cultural tide of making, “So busy,” the badge of honor answer to the question, “How are you?”Being busy is not a badge of honor. Of the most productive and successful people we know, celebration is a priority.In this episode, we talk about:How to celebrate the good in your lifeHow to celebrate the good in the lives of those who look to you for affirmation--namely, your spouse and kidsHow to celebrate dailyHow to celebrate weeklyWhen we fail to celebrate, we act like our accomplishments and influence on others didn't happen. Let's stop minimizing our value in the world and celebrate.Show Notes:Submit a question or topic for an upcoming episode by clicking here.To download the 7 Core Decisions ebook, click here.To purchase the What Am I Feeling? children's book, click here.
This week, we discuss what it means to "show up."Contrary to what we might think, showing up is rarely easy. Showing up for our loved ones requires quite a bit of energy. In other words, as Christi describes in this episode, showing up requires energy to do the things that matter, even when we don't want to do them.It's like the energy it takes to choose salad over pizza, or working out over sleeping in. Choosing to get on the floor and play trains, or have a tea party, with your kids requires intention. Choosing to show up for your spouse in his / her insecurity or difficult day require energy.But it's that very energy that brings life, not just to those we love, but to our own souls as well.In this episode, we also talk about what it means to show up in our relationship with God, and how the investments of "showing up" today, pay dividends over time.Show Notes:Show up for your kids by checking in with their feelings. You can get a copy of the What Am I Feeling? children's book by clicking here!For more information on our Family Coaching Program or to set up a free discovery call with us, click here.
Let's be honest, if we don't have a set of values that drive who we are as a family, the culture around us will dictate who we, and our kids, are becoming.This is an episode you'll want to listen to, then go back and listen to again to set your family values. We lay out how we coach families to define their family purpose, and some things to think about as it relates to putting together the values that make your family unique.Be sure to use the 100 Commonly Held Values List in the Show Notes below to help guide you. If you need help, that's what we're here for.Show Notes:Click here for the 100 Commonly Held ValuesTo learn more about our Family Journey Coaching Program or to set up a Free 30 minute Discovery Call, click here.
Last week, Jeff + Beth McCord walked us through the nine Enneagram types. This week, they join us for part II, and discuss how to use the Enneagram to connect at a deeper emotional level with your spouse.Remember, Core Decision #4 of becoming famous at home is talking about emotions. In this episode, we get to the heart of how to do that using the Enneagram.Here are the highlights:How your core longings influence how you react to your spouseThree secrets to using the Enneagram to connect at a deeper, more emotional levelHow your Enneagram types speak into the relational dance in your marriageThe specific ways you can talk about emotions and increase emotional intelligence in your marriageWhat it means to become A.W.A.R.E. of emotional reactions in your marriageShow Notes:Schedule a free call today for the Famous at Home Family Coaching Journey. Click here to learn more!Take your Enneagram test by clicking here.Order Jeff + Beth’s new book, Becoming Us by clicking here.Get your free personalized marriage plan by clicking here.Jeff & Beth also created a course just for the combination of your two Types so you both see how to feel fully understood, heard, and loved in your marriage.This in-depth course features 8 modules, a personalized workbook, and 6 bonuses to help you transform your marriage quickly! Click here to learn more about the course.
Are you ready to talk Enneagram?Core Decision #4 of becoming famous at home is talking about emotions. When it comes to our marriage, the Enneagram is arguably the single most helpful tool that has given us clarity and language to understand our emotions and motivations behind our behaviors.Jeff and Beth McCord (www.youreeneagramcoach.com) join us to talk about the Enneagram and how it informs your marriage.In the episode, Beth describes the Enneagram and discusses the various aspects of each of the nine types. Here are the highlights:Learn about each of the nine typesFind out how to apply what you learned from taking an Enneagram test Know your type's core motivations, deadly sin, and core longingLearn how you and your spouse relate to one another based on your Enneagram typesShow Notes:Take your Enneagram test by clicking here.Order Jeff + Beth's new book, Becoming Us by clicking here.Jeff & Beth also created a course just for the combination of your two Types so you both see how to feel fully understood, heard, and loved in your marriage.This in-depth course features 8 modules, a personalized workbook, and 6 bonuses to help you transform your marriage quickly! Click here to learn more about the course.
So often, we stay living on the surface because life has a way of keeping us there. We go to work. We take the kids to school. We all come home, grab dinner, and get ready for bed. Repeat.Unless we get intentional about using key moments in the day to talk about emotions, our homes can become a microcosm of the culture around us--with few people feeling heard or understood. The longer this goes on, the further apart we grow from our spouse and kids.In this episode, we talk about why it's important to talk about emotions, and how to begin doing so. We focus primarily on listening to and understanding your kids, but also how to create the environment of emotional language throughout the environment of your home.We specifically talk about:The difference between emotional safety, empathy, and emotional intelligence Why these terms matter for how we lead others and parent our kidsPersonal examples of differentiating our kid's emotions from their behaviorHow we talk about emotions in our marriageHow to help our kids feel valued and understoodShow Notes:To purchase the What Am I Feeling? children's book, click here.To set up a discovery call or inquire about the Marriage Coaching Journey with Famous at Home, click here.
What does it look like to actually listen to what's going on within your spouse's heart? Especially when there's been unresolved hurt, misunderstanding, and even built up resentment in your marriage through the years?Ryan and Courtney have walked through this pain. In this episode, they tell their story of how they learned to listen to one another, forgive one another, and make deliberate choices to begin serving one another. But that's just the beginning.Little did they know why resolving the emotional brokenness in their marriage would matter so much, so quickly. As we continue our journey through the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home, this is a story of marital transformation you won't want to miss.Show Notes:To learn more about our Marriage Coaching Journey, click here.To schedule a discovery call with us, click here.To wear the new Famous at Home t-shirt, click here!
In this episode, we talk about the decision to listen to what's happening within the heart of our spouse. When life gets busy, our conversation at home becomes primarily content-based (i.e. information about the day, upcoming schedule, etc.).Yet, it's the process-based conversation (i.e. how we feel about what's happening in our day) that keeps us growing as a couple and feeling connected to one another.Sure, this is conversation that takes a little extra work, especially for those of us who weren't taught to communicate this way. That's because we go on autopilot to keep up with everything we're doing, that it gets too easy to neglect our being. But you, and your spouse, deserve deeper connection.In this episode, we talk about some very practical strategies for being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. If you feel stuck in your marriage, even unsure what to talk about anymore, this episode is for you.Show Notes:Download the 7 Core Decisions to Becoming Famous at Home by clicking here.To inquire about Marriage or Leadership Coaching, click here.
Healthy rhythms have the power of making, or breaking, the trajectory of our family. In this episode, Jeff Bethke joins us to talk about the daily, weekly, and seasonal rhythms he and his wife Alyssa set in their home.Jeff takes us back to why they decided to be so intentional about setting rhythms. He also has a new book releasing called To Hell with the Hustle, a book about the rhythms that keep us thriving.In this episode we talk about:How our culture is set up to numb us from healthy rhythmsWhy we have to make the decision to set and then regularly practice rhythms The daily morning rhythm the Bethke's use at the breakfast tableHow healthy rhythms can viscerally influence our kids later in their adult lifeWays your family can implement rhythms to honor the SabbathThe 1-1-1 rhythm is for technologyShow Notes:Preorder To Hell with Hustle: Reclaiming Your Life in an Overworked, Overspent, and Overconnected World by clicking here!Purchase Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit by clicking here.Be sure to check out www.familyteams.com, by clicking here.Check out the To Hell with the Hustle course at www.jeffandalyssa.com, by clicking here.
In this episode, we talk about making your one goal doable by setting one new rhythm in your life. Notice this next decision also includes a singular focus—one new rhythm. Remember, even with parenting, we become an overnight success a decade in the making.Some of the highlights of this episode include:Keep your rhythm doableVectoring means that small changes over time leads to an entirely different destination.Why work-life balance is not attainableWhy your first rhythm should coincide with your first goalShow Notes: Download the 7 Core Decisions by clicking here.To follow along and stay accountable with others on Instagram @famousathome, click here.To request access to the private Facebook Group for women to journey together through the 7 Core Decisions, click here.To learn more about The Leader's Way cohort, click here.
When things aren't going well at home, we feel it. The toll that the pace and added emotional pain of our day has on our marriages and most important relationships can feel overwhelming, and even unmanageable.This week's episode is the beginning of the powerful, life-changing stories you'll hear as we journey through each of the decisions.In this episode, we interview Jerrad and Leila Lopes about their rock bottom moment as a family, and the one decision each of them made to begin their ascent back to one another. Prepare yourself. These two were serious about their decisions!Jerrad and Leila are proof that our circumstances do not need to remain unmanageable. As we like to say, you can't eat an elephant in a day. Leila's one decision, one-bite-at-a-time mentality, got the process started. Sometimes, all it takes is just one person.Leila's one decision was the catalyst Jerrad needed to begin making his own decisions and move him from a place of deep brokenness, to a thriving ministry today.Out of his brokenness he founded DadTired.com, a non-profit ministry focused on equipping men to lead their family well. He hosts the weekly Dad Tired Podcast, listened to by hundreds of thousands of men from around the world.Jerrad and Leila live in Portland, Oregon with their three children. Their story will inspire you to name your one decision and get moving in a new direction!Show Notes:Purchase Jerrad's new book, Dad Tired and Loving It, by clicking here.Follow the Dad.Tired podcast, by clicking here.Podcast Sponsors:Get your kids emotionally ready for school by journeying with Sam and friends. You can purchase our brand new What Am I Feeling? kids book by clicking here.Journey through a 6-week study on the fruit of the Spirit with other parents AND your kids. Includes family activities, prayers, and more. Purchase Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit, by clicking here.
The Famous at Home journey begins this week! We start by discussing core decision #1 -- defining your first goal.This fall, we're journeying together through the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home. Last week, we mentioned that becoming famous at home is a journey to making ongoing decisions about how we pursue one another.In this episode, we invite you to download the e-book, sit down with your spouse or loved ones, and talk about your first goal.Key talking points in this episode include:We have 100% responsibility for how we show up.Why our self-medicators may not be working anymore. What one thing weighs you down the most right now? The power of starting a gratitude journal as you begin this decision-making journeyHow do define your first goalShow Notes:Follow along on Instagram at www.instagram.com/famousathomeDownload the 7 Core Decisions here: www.famousathome.com/7coredecisionsTo learn more about the Famous at Home Marriage Coaching Journey, visit www.famousathome.com/coaching
You can be famous at home and thrive on your stage. In other words, you don't have to choose between work and your family.In this episode, we welcome you to the newly titled Famous at Home podcast and discuss all of exciting initiatives ahead--including the upcoming podcast series on the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home.The Famous at Home podcast will feature conversations and interviews about how to:Have a rock solid marriage. Stay close to your loved ones, even when work and travel pull you apart. Show up and make the most of raising your kids.Avoid the pitfalls of success. Define and clarify your family values.Show Notes:Download the 7 Core Decisions by visiting www.famousathome.com/7coredecisionsTo order What Am I Feeling? click here.
In this episode, we cast the vision for Famous at Home.Up until this point, our podcast has been affectionately known as "In This Together." Like so many of you, we spent time in the trenches, having babies, chasing toddlers, and trying to find time in between to still pursue our spouse's heart. That's why we've been "in this together," trying to do all of these things well and inviting you along for the ride.But as of today, we have a new vision. And in this episode, you'll hear all about the vision of Famous at Home! That's right, starting today, we'll now be the Famous at Home podcast with Dr. Josh and Christi. You'll still get both of us--our hearts, our stories, and our journey. And don't worry, your podcast feed, as well as all of the previous episodes, will remain the same.But what's new is a fresh vision and clearer direction for what we do and how we serve families, just like yours!So beginning next week, we start a whole new journey together! And we cannot wait for you to join us on it. Listen to this episode for the vision, follow Famous at Home on Instagram, and invite your friends to join us--in this together--becoming famous at home!Show Notes:Follow @famousathome on InstagramTo sign up for the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home, click here.
Our "Best of" summer series concludes this week with one of our most downloaded episodes of this past season. We believe it speaks to where we are as a culture with the hustle we feel. This episode is about bringing freedom to your life through practical, easy-to-implement, daily habits.The modern world is a machine of a thousand invisible habits, forming us into anxious, busy, and depressed people. The trouble is that our habits are almost invisible to us. In fact, habits form us more than we form them. So what can we do about it?Welcome to The Common Rule: Habits of Purpose in an Age of Distraction. In this week's episode, we interview Justin Whitmel Earley, a mergers and acquisitions lawyer who nearly crashed and burned in his own panicked lifestyle. As a husband and father to four young boys, Justin knew he needed help.In what turned out to be a fateful moment of self-discovery, Justin's compelling story led him to create The Common Rule, four doable daily and four weekly habits designed to help us create new routines and transform frazzled days into lives of love for God and neighbor.Looking for a doable routine for your family that leads to freedom and rest for your soul? This episode is for you.Show Notes:To purchase The Common Rule, or to learn more, click here.To purchase What Am I Feeling? or to learn more, click here.
Our summer "best of" series continues with one of our most listened to episodes on marriage. In this episode, we discuss some of the deeper reasons behind why it's so difficult to connect with the one we love the most.We also talk about our own marital journey of late and how counseling has helped us work through the baggage, blindness, and busyness of the day. Yes, three "bee's" that can "sting" your marriage. Dad jokes rock.Of course, the conversation includes practical ways we can connect at a deeper, more intimate level with our spouse.Show Notes:To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives and Adventures, click here.To learn more about marriage coaching intensives we offer, or to set up a discovery call, click here.
Welcome to part 2 of our "best of" summer series! Last week, we talked about raising our girls. This week, we talk about raising our boys.Our podcast “resident therapist," David Thomas, is back with us, live from Daystar Counseling. He talks with us about what our sons need across the developmental lifespan.In this episode, David breaks down what our boys need in the following age groups:Ages 2-4: The ExplorerAges 5-8: The LoverAges 9-12: The IndividualAges 13-17: The WandererAges 18-22: The WarriorSome of the best nuggets of this interview include:The biggest hurdle of boys today across the developmental lifespanWays that boys self-medicate their pain and whyWhy helping boys problem solve and use critical thinking is crucial to their developmentThe importance of placing your hand on your son's shoulder and addressing him by nameWhy boys need less words, not moreHelping our boys navigate video gaming in a healthy wayShow Notes:To purchase the What Am I Feeling? children's book, click here.To learn more, click here to purchase David's book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing BoysTo buy David’s latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here.To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.com
Welcome to our "best of" series of the summer! The next two episodes are gold medallion interviews with our podcast "resident therapists." This week, we interview Sissy Goff from Daystar Counseling about what our daughters need. Next week, we interview David Thomas about what our sons need.In this episode, Sissy breaks down what our girls need in the following age groups:Birth-5: The Discovery YearsAges 6-11: The Adventurous YearsAges 12-15: The Narcissistic YearsAges 16-19: The Autonomous YearsSome of the best nuggets of this interview include:The growing epidemic of anxiety in girls today The years our daughters seem disinterested in relationship with dad How dads can press into their daughters Why daughters tend to be ambivalent with their moms in the narcissistic years How moms can press into their daughters in these yearsShow Notes:To learn more, click here to purchase Sissy's book, All You Need to Know About Raising Girls.To buy Sissy's latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here.To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.comPodcast Sponsors:
Be prepared to have your idea of how you "do" family flipped upside down. Our friends Jeremy and April Pryor join us this week to talk about multigenerational family teams on mission, a way of leading their family they have been practicing for two decades.In this episode, we talk about:The difference between the ancient Jewish and modern day Western approach to family How the West has redefined family to focus on individuals Why the Western redefinition of family doesn't resonate with most men How we can practically begin to implement a multigenerational family on mission An innovative way of implementing the Sabbath into your homeShow Notes:Click here to purchase and learn more about Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the SpiritClick here to visit www.familyteams.com to learn more and follow all of the Family Teams podcasts and resources.To sign up for the Family Teams event in October, click here.To follow Family Teams on Instagram, click here.
What if God has more for your marriage than happily after? Could it be that God intended your marriage to have a life-enriching, hope-giving purpose of sharing God's love with a hurting world?In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer Smith, founders of the well-loved UnveiledWife.com and HusbandRevolution.com, share their own marital journey of one in crisis, to one built on Christ's redemptive love. No matter the current condition of your marriage, God still can, and even wants to, use your marriage for His glory.In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer talk with us about:Their story of marriage in crisis How God got a hold of Aaron's heart and gave him vision for their marriage How to practically lay down our lives for our spouse each day Why our kids learn to interact with others based on how we interact with our spouse What it means for your marriage to boldly chase after GodShow Notes:To purchase What Am I Feeling? click here.To purchase the Marriage After God book, click here.Follow Aaron and Jennifer Smith:To follow Marriage After God podcast, click here.To visit UnveiledWife.com, click here.To visit HusbandRevolution.com, click here.
Finding friends once we have children and become "grownups" isn't always easy. Especially for families who move quite often. Especially for moms who long to talk to anyone who can tie her shoes. And especially since it takes time and trust to go deep.This episode came out of one question from our question and discussion episode. Some of the topics we discuss include:The struggle it is to find friends you connect with Practical ways to move from acquaintances to friends The time and vulnerability required to go deep How to move from authenticity to vulnerability Christi discusses practical ways for women to find and cultivate friendships with other women Josh discusses practical ways for men to find and cultivate friendships with other menHere's the question that got it all started:From Jenny: First, I just wanted to say thank you. I am so grateful for you. I found this podcast last week and it has already changed my life. I have two kids, 22 months apart, and my youngest is turning one next month. I love them with all of my heart, but it has definitely been a struggle. I feel like I am just coming out of the cloud of postpartum depression and probably still revert back to those feelings on tough days, but your episode about self-care as a parent was so helpful in that stage of finally being able to breathe again.One of the biggest pieces of advice I hear when searching for answers to finding time for myself as a mom or for us as a couple "in the trenches" is to find your community, those really good friends that you admire, because it really does take a village to raise a child. And I really want my kids to have that blessing, too. My question is, how do we do that?I feel like that is often given as a simple answer even though it is so hard to do, especially as an introvert. We serve and are involved in our church, and I try to reach out of my comfort zone at least once a month, but I still have trouble connecting on that deeper level, or on more than an acquaintance basis with people in large group settings. I sometimes say I prefer having one or two good friends versus several acquaintances, but the problem is you have to have acquaintances to have good friends and I just can never seem to make that transition. And taking that to a couple or family level adds even more layers. Do you have any practical tips for finding those people and really connecting?Show Notes:To learn more about Eden and Vine Magazine, click here.To read the article Josh refers to about men and friendships, click here: Today's Problem with Masculinity Isn't What You Think, by Ben SledgeTo learn more about Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit, click here.
In this episode, we once again discuss your questions. In particular, this week's discussion points include:Marriage books to read for non-Christians Ways to get your spouse to increase more time together and get in sync Next steps for rebuilding your marriage after it fell apart How to help our kids navigate adults who lack emotional intelligence / awareness Whether your child's enneagram type influences how we discipline and disciple themThe Questions:From Emily: I really like your podcast and have been feeling this urge to put my husband and I more in sync. He thinks we are great and perfect and that you shouldn't mess with something that's not broken. And we are really great most of the time, but I want more. I want us to be "in this together" more. He is fine with watching TV together at night and calling that quality time, however, we don't say any words to each other. I told him that for my birthday, which is at the end of this month, I want his time. I want to read a book together or something and grow our marriage. I think he would rather spend a $1000 on me than read/discuss a book! lol! A little background: he is not spiritual at all, and I don't know if I am a believer these days either. We both grew up Christian. He is very scientific and logical and seems to disprove a lot of the Bible. And when he talks, it makes sense. So y'all talked about Fierce Marriage on your podcast and I thought about reading this together, but I CAN NOT push religion on him or he will check out. I am on the fence about Jesus, but he isn't. So my question is, what book do you suggest we read together to strengthen our marriage and make it even better without pushing religion on my husband too much? Thank y'all! And thank you for being so REAL about marriage and life! From Brooke: My husband and I are struggling with how to parent our kids through interactions with adults who lack emotional intelligence/awareness. Would you guys talk about that? We do feelings in our home, and we expect emotional honesty. However, grandparents and teachers don’t always deal with things the same way. How do we teach our kids to honor emotion and respect authority? When trying to rebuild your marriage, how do you heal past hurts and move forward when you each speak a different love language and one seems to take the other for granted, but we didn’t know until it fell apart? Could you discuss how knowing your child’s enneagram type can help guide the approach used in discipling your child?Show Notes:To learn more about or to purchase The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, click here.Marriage books not from Christian perspective:To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here.To learn more about or to purchase The 7 Principles to Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman, click here.Marriage books from Christian perspective:To learn more about or to purchase Fierce Marriage by Ryan and Selena Fredrick, click here.To learn more about marriage coaching, click here.
Sex is the elephant in the room. At some point, every spouse feels the unspoken tension. For many marriages, the elephant grows bigger after our kids enter the family.In this episode, we call out the elephant in the room and provide ways you and your spouse can begin talking about sex with one another in an emotionally safe way. We talk about:Why sex is so difficult to talk about in the first place How to communicate about sex if past trauma is influencing physical intimacy in your marriage What to do if only one spouse is interested in talking about sex How husbands need to approach the conversation Helpful ways for wives to approach the conversation Why the word "duty" should be banished from the conversation altogether Practical ways to talk about sex in an emotionally safe wayShow Notes:To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here.To learn more about Onsite Workshops, click here.To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives, click here.To find a counselor in your local area, click one of the following:Focus on the Family NetworkThriveworks NetworkPsychology Today
Having an emotionally safe marriage doesn't just happen. The way we listen to and communicate with our spouse makes all the difference. But doing so takes practice--and the willingness to be empathetic.In this second episode of our two part series, we talk about the building blocks to having an emotionally safe marriage. In particular, we talk about:What it means to be empathetic with our spouse Why labeling emotions makes a difference A simple way of communicating for deeper connection Practical strategies you can implement todayShow Notes:To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here.To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here.For the blogpost, How 15 Minutes is Changing my Marriage, click here.
So often, couples tell us that communication is their greatest problem. But more than communication, empathy for what's going on within your spouse's heart is even more crucial to connection and intimacy. In fact, our willingness to genuinely show care and concern for our spouse's feelings is where great communication begins.In this episode, we talk about what it takes to have an emotionally safe marriage. In particular, we talk about:What it means to be "emotionally safe" What hinders us from being emotionally safe for our spouse The three decisions you need to make for an emotionally safe marriage Why blame is the greatest barrier to changeShow Notes:To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here.To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here.For the blogpost, How 15 Minutes is Changing my Marriage, click here.
Have you ever been curious about your own family lineage? The marriage that happened you didn't know about? The hobbies passed down through the generations? Or maybe even the relational dynamics that led to addiction?Or what about the reasons you parent the way you do? Why you treat your spouse the way you do?Genograms can reveal so much about our family history. In this episode, we talk about genograms and how they can help us discover more of who we are and where we come from. We also discuss practical ways we can learn from our family history to stop negative generational patterns and embrace the positive ones.Show Notes:Click here to purchase What Am I Feeling?To learn more about genograms or how to create one, click here to download the necessary charts. *Note: You don't need to buy the software on this site.If you'd like to create your own genogram with a third party, you can check out our coaching services by clicking here and setting up a free discovery call.
Gain insight into two husbands and dads building their family teams. That's what this episode is all about. Josh interviews Jeff Bethke about the state of the American family, how it stands in contrast to biblical fatherhood, and the practical ways we can build a family team.Specifically, we talk about:What Abraham might be looking for in a dad today and why. The biblical foundation and mission of family versus how we actually function in the Western world The intentional steps you can take right now to lead your marriage and family on purpose, not by accident What a multigenerational family team on mission looks like How Jeff and his wife Alyssa manage and thrive on social media as a family on missionShow Notes:Click here to visit www.familyteams.com to learn more and follow Jeff's podcasts.You can learn more about and follow Jeff and Alyssa's podcast by clicking here.To purchase What Am I Feeling?, click here.
We love getting your questions and discussing the topics dear to your heart. In this week's episode, we discuss the following topics and questions:Kids should be allowed to feel anger, but should we allow our kids to stomp off in their anger? It feels like such a fine line to walk. When our children don't transition well, or don't want to transition well, from one activity or event to another, what do I do? As a single mom, how do I compensate for my children not having a father? I'm emotionally safe for my kids, but my husband is not. Are there extra things I can do? I'm a foster mom and our kids are transitioning back to their parents. How can I prepare them?The Questions:I have a 4-year-old little girl and 1-year-old twins. I can't wait to get your feelings book. Something you guys mentioned in your Kids Who Can Empathize episode was that we should allow our kids to feel that anger. I think you mentioned allowing your kids to stomp. This may be a ridiculous question, but is stomping always acceptable? My daughter got upset that I didn't give her way about something and she stomped off to her room. Is this considered disrespectful? Or should it be allowed because she's expressing I upset her by not giving her what she wanted? I feel like it's a fine line. How do we teach them when it's acceptable? --JourdanMy husband and I have two boys three and six. My husband is transitioning into a new career which has led him yet again to a new schedule. I own a business and work full-time. Our children attend to a private Christian school and are surrounded by a wonderful tribe. My question is an ongoing issue of our eldest son. He is full of life and energy as little boy should be. We struggle with listening and follow through. He does not like transitions at all. He will do anything he can to make sure that we are late. We have tried rewards. We have tried talking about respect and loving. I know that this issue hits a trigger for me because as a child my mother was always late and therefore as an adult I am always early. Each day throughout the day it is a struggle getting up transitioning to breakfast transitioning to backpacks transitioning to getting dressed or getting out the door. Even leaving school we have to go and say goodbye to all of the teachers. And then, when we get home, transitioning into the next thing. I’m not sure where he is coming from and in our conversations his answer is I just want to play mommy. We spent most of our time at home cooking together, doing Legos together, or art, or whatever they want to do. I am a hands-on mother who just wants to help my kiddo. This one just hits the right spot since it affects everyone in the family as well as others around us. --KristinI just listened to the two podcasts on raising boys and girls, by David Thomas and Sissy Goff, respectively. They were really insightful and helpful for me, especially the one with David regarding boys. I know the father's role was mentioned in those podcasts, and I wondered if they, or you, have any advice for single parents. I am a single mom, and my kids' father is not involved. They haven't even seen him in four years. I have a son, 7 and a daughter, 4. I so appreciated the podcasts and even bought the book by David Thomas but honestly, I am feeling so overwhelmed and kind of anxious right now. Any special words for single parents? --JennYou talk about how emotional safety of parents is the key of raising children. I couldn't agree more and am so willing to change things in my life to become more emotionally safe. I'm ordering your book Safe House today. My husband however, is always present, but not always emotionally safe. He is very old school when it comes to parenting and basically parents just the way his father did. In this environment, children do not have a say in things and are encouraged to go play and not be involved in grownup conversations.
We all seek to find our life purpose. But have you ever thought about your marital purpose? The purpose God has for your marriage? He has one for you--but it may not be for what you think.In this episode, we talk with Ryan and Selena Frederick from Fierce Marriage about how your marriage is designed to bring God glory. But what does that mean? And how can we do that, especially in an age of confusion?Ryan and Selena break down what it means to be transparent in marriage and cover such topics as:Exposing ourselves to meaningful risk How to have a "see through" mentality What it means to be vulnerable with one another Why self-discovery is crucial for transparency To be "unoffendable"Show Notes:To order Ryan and Selena's book, Fierce Marriage, click here.To subscribe or listen to The Fierce Marriage Podcast, click here.Sponsor: For FREE downloadable lunch notes and games, or to order Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit, click here.
Sex is our most requested topic lately for the podcast. And the types of questions we receive about sex reveal the power it holds in how well--or not--we connect with our spouse.In this episode, Ryan and Laura Dobson join us to talk about the joys and difficulties of sex in marriage.We discuss:How to begin talking about sex in your marriage The power sex has on how well we feel emotionally connected How to discuss and overcome past hurts to rediscover--or maybe discover for the first time--an enjoyable sex life Sexual satisfaction and the early years of parenting What porn does to marital intimacy and some ways to get through it The spiritual significance of sex in marriageShow Notes:To learn more about marriage or family coaching with the Straubs, click here.To find a Christian counselor in your local area, click here.To find a counselor in your local area, click here.To listen to REBEL Parenting Podcast with Ryan and Laura Dobson, click here.
Feeling exhausted, or simply tired of going through the motions? The modern world is a machine of a thousand invisible habits, forming us into anxious, busy, and depressed people. The trouble is that our habits are almost invisible to us. In fact, habits form us more than we form them. So what can we do about it?Welcome to The Common Rule: Habits of Purpose in an Age of Distraction. In this week's episode, we interview Justin Whitmel Earley, a mergers and acquisitions lawyer who nearly crashed and burned in his own panicked lifestyle. As a husband and father to four young boys, Justin knew he needed help.In what turned out to be a fateful moment of self-discovery, Justin's compelling story led him to create The Common Rule, four doable daily and four weekly habits designed to help us create new routines and transform frazzled days into lives of love for God and neighbor.Looking for a doable routine for your family that leads to freedom and rest for your soul? This episode is for you.Show Notes:To purchase The Common Rule, or to learn more, click here.To purchase What Am I Feeling? or to learn more, click here.
This episode is a discussion about what we describe as the "art of becoming." Too often we get so focused on the day-to-day sleep, discipline, or behavioral issues with our kids that we lose sight of what really influences who they become.Don't get us wrong, it's not that these day-to-day issues don't matter. However, it's easy to get so lost in the day-to-day, that we neglect who we're becoming.In this episode, we talk about a recent research study that connected more parenting information to increased parenting anxiety and decreased self-confidence. As one article suggests, we get more anxious when we think there is one answer to our parenting problem, and we don't have it.Our hope is that this discussion encourages you to create the spiritual and emotional environment you and your kids need to thrive.Show Notes:Click here to learn more about Homegrown, to watch the video trailer (a must see!) and to receive free downloads for your kids.Click here to purchase the new children's book, What Am I Feeling?Articles mentioned in the podcast:The Diabolical Genius of the Baby Advice Industry by Oliver BurkemanBecoming Human by Jean VanierSafe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well by Joshua Straub
The Bible consistently uses botanical growth to describe our spiritual maturity and how we grow. Applied to us as parents, we want to raise children who love God and share His love with the world. But how do you prepare a spiritual seedling to become fully grown?In this episode, we talk about our new parent Bible study that you can do with your kids to cultivate them in the fruit of the Spirit. But what does this look like, especially at a practical level?This week, we discuss:What botanical growth looks like The necessary ingredient for the fruit of the Spirit to grow, is to die to our flesh (Gal. 5:24, John 12:24). Cultivating kids in the fruit of the Spirit is connected to the spiritual environment of our home Connection to Jesus (John 15) and a Church community is necessary and important for growth The practical ways you can cultivate and water your seedlings during the four key times of the day (Deut. 6:7, Proverbs 22:6).Show Notes:Click here to learn more about Homegrown, to watch the video trailer (a must see!) and to receive free downloads for your kids.Click here to purchase the new children's book, What Am I Feeling?We also talked about the following books in this episode:Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well.God Attachment: Why We Believe, Act, and Feel the Way We Do About God by Tim Clinton and Joshua StraubFaith of the Fatherless by Paul Vitz
Our 100th episode! And what better way to celebrate than talking with two amazing humans--Ryan and Laura Dobson--about being emotionally healthy for your family.This is arguably our most raw and vulnerable episode to date. We talk with Ryan and Laura about mental illness, addictions, pornography, and other self-medicators. Even more, we talk about grace and the path to healing. No matter your family history or past mistakes, you have a story you get to live--a story that's being passed on from one generation to the next.Our discussion is all about how we can engage a path of healing and become emotionally healthy for our spouse and kids. Feel like you're messing up a lot? You're not alone. In this episode, you will find grace and a few next steps.Show Notes:Our next Emotionally Safe Marriage Coaching Group begins April 15, 2019. Click here to learn more. Spaces are limited.Check out Ryan and Laura's Podcast Rebel Parenting by clicking here.Check out Winshape Marriage Intensives by clicking here.To learn more about Onsite Workshops, click here.
In this episode, we take your questions and talk about them. This week's questions include the following topics:What educational apps we would recommend How to handle a co-parenting situation where you have no control with what's happening in the other home How to help our kids with bad dreams and night terrors How to further talk to your kids about Santa, Easter bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc. Managing a child who craves being social more than we have the energy forThe Questions:I am a first grade teacher in public school. I often get asked about educational apps that I would recommend. Knowing what you know about screen time, what is your opinion about using a tablet for educational purposes? I'm a stepmom of three children who live with their mom 70% of the time. My husband and I do plan to fight for more custody this year. My question relates to how to co-parent with someone who is working from a different worldview. Their mom is more focused on herself and her life than the kids. She frequently leaves them home by themselves (ages 13, 10, and 8) until midnight or later while she is out at the bar. She has had a live-in boyfriend and other boyfriends that are a part of their daily life (most of these men also have kids who come around). They do not have consistency or security with their mom. We have had the kids in counseling for almost a year and even the counselor said it's a struggle when we can only be consistent with them when we have them 30% of the time. On top of that, I'm the stepparent so I have little influence/say over any interactions with their mom. I have a great deal of frustrations/concerns/questions surrounding this topic and i am trying to keep this brief. --Jamie I listened to your podcast regarding the holiday season. I loved it. My husband and I LOVE that you say "Santa is pretend and we pretend in this house." I know you had said that you just make that blanket statement and move on. We are struggling when our 4 year old daughter wants to know more and more about Santa. Last night when we were talking to her at bed time she was asking questions like, "Does Santa sleep in a bed?", "Where does Santa eat?", "How does Santa get everywhere?" So, even though she didn't say, "Is Santa real?", we did say, "He sleeps in a pretend bed. He eats pretend food."...etc. Do you have other suggestions? To be honest, she doesn't like the idea of Santa. She doesn't like that he goes into people's houses and she's scared of him when she sees him at a mall or anything. So last year Santa "delivered on our porch"...but even with that she woke up a few times that night and nights leading up to it and said, "Are you sure he's not going to come in our house?" Also, do you tell your kids to NOT tell other kids about him being pretend? --Amber What is your advice for providing opportunities for a child who enjoys/thrives on being social, around people way more than I have energy for? My husband and are social people--he even more than me and we feel like we provide plenty of social opportunities, yet it never seems to be enough from her perspective. She loves serving/helping so we have involved her in some (though limited) of those activities. When as parents do you draw the line? How to handle bad dreams and night terrors in young kids? How much is a spiritual battle vs normal growing up? This is something my daughter is going through right now. It was really hard the first few times. Any advice? --BekahShow Notes:Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order.You can also click here to learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well.To learn more about Kathy Kochs, click here.
"Mom, who sang the first song?" When Ellie Holcomb's then five-year-old daughter, Emmylou, asked her this question, Ellie threw the question back at her. "Well, who do you think sang the first song?" Emmylou's answer is priceless. Yes, you have to listen to find out.But as Ellie thought about it, she had to do some research. Her answers were put into her first children's book called Who Sang the First Song? In this episode, we go behind the scenes of this incredible story and what it means that God created each of us with a song to sing.Applied to the family, we talk about the "rhythms" God calls us to. With three children, ages six and under, Ellie and her husband, Drew, have some very practical ways they create rhythm for their family. This is an episode you won't want to miss.Show Notes:To download Sing: Creation Songs by Ellie Holcomb, click here.To purchase Ellie's children's book, Who Sang the First Song, click here.Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order.
In this episode, we take your questions and talk about them. This week's questions include the following topics:How to thrive in the survival years with young kids Should we send our kids to kindergarten early or hold them back How to manage our own anger and fear so as not to yell at our kids How to be emotionally safe in the early years The stage we set up for our kids in our dining roomThe Questions:Hi! Absolutely love your podcast and have been a fan since episode one. Could you please post a picture of your living room concert stage? I love the idea behind this simple yet impactful and intentional choice you’ve made in making family memories come to life! God bless! --Suzanna I absolutely love your podcast and Safe House book! It's completely changed how I view parenting, as I did not grow up in an emotionally safe home. I struggle with control and anger that leads to yelling at my child. How can I safely teach my toddler that she needs to obey her parents without yelling or threatening? - Ashley Can you please talk about leading your family well in the survival years? We have a 3.5 year old boy and one year old boy. Thank you. - Mandy I would love some insight in delaying kindergarten. My son (my first born) will turn 5 on June 9th. I never really thought much about delaying kindergarten, and always just knew we would wait and make the assessment towards the end of his PK year to see if he was ready. My husband feels pretty strongly now about delaying it no matter what to help him in the future. There is just something about it that doesn't feel right to me, but my husband is pretty confident in delaying and I don't want to push and regret it later down the line in middle school when it seems the age difference really starts to become an issue. I would greatly appreciate and respect your thoughts. - MichelleShow Notes:Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order.You can also click here to learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well.Images of homemade stage outside and inside the house.
In part 2 of our series on kids and feelings, we talk about kids who can empathize with others. This episode is a deeper dive into the "why" behind our new kid's book What Am I Feeling?So often, it can feel like a pipe dream getting our kids to think about anyone other than themselves. Let's be honest, our world could use more adults who can empathize as well. In this episode, we talk about being teachable, responding to others in empathy, and how our kids mirror our emotions. We also discuss how fear and busyness become barriers to entering our child's world and helping her label her feelings.Show Notes:Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order.You can also click here to learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well.For a link to the Google study mentioned in the podcast, click here.
Teaching our kids to give their feeling a name and then decide what to do with it—is crucial to helping them love God and love others. Turns out, it's also helpful for juvenile delinquents to develop empathy, and for our kids to one day be successful at major companies like Google.In this episode, we talk about these scenarios and why developing emotional awareness is so important for our kids. As it relates to spiritual growth, this is also where emotional and spiritual maturity go hand-in-hand: the lived out fruit of self-control (Galatians 5:23).But it all starts with us as parents. Being emotionally safe with our kids provides calm to the fear center of their brain. The calmer our kids are in emotionally overwhelming situations, the more likely they are to think straight and make wise decisions.And that’s our privilege as parents—to help our kids learn to name their feeling, make good decisions with that emotion, and begin to think about others. That's what this episode is all about.Show Notes:Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order.You can also click here to learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well.For a link to the Google study mentioned in the podcast, click here.For more insights into the circle of security, click here.For John Bradshaw's book Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child, click here.
Sometimes, a few nuggets of wisdom just isn't enough. In this episode, we discuss some of the deeper reasons behind why it's so difficult to connect in marriage.We also talk about our own marital journey of late and how counseling has helped us work through the baggage, blindness, and busyness of the day. Yes, three "bee's" that can "sting" your marriage. Dad jokes rock.Of course, the conversation includes practical ways we can connect at a deeper, more intimate level with our spouse.Show Notes:To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives and Adventures, click here.To learn more about marriage coaching intensives we offer, or to set up a discovery call, click here.
We live in a beautifully diverse world. Unfortunately, our world is also plagued by racial and ethnic division.As families, we can bring unity and change by embracing our differences. But it requires that we pass onto our kids what it means to walk in love, not fear—a lesson that's easier said, than done.In this episode, author Trillia Newbell, sits down with us to discuss:How to talk to our kids about families who look different from ours Whether or not we should raise our kids to be "color blind" What it looks like for us as adults to model unity and love in our home How we should talk to our kids about the history of racial tensions And most importantly, how the gospel transcends racial and ethnic differencesShow Notes:Trillia Newbell is the author of If God is For Me, a 6-week Bible study on Romans 8 (2019), Enjoy: Finding the Freedom to Delight Daily in God's Good Gifts (2016), Fear and Faith: Finding the Peace Your Heart Craves (2015), United: Captured by God's Vision for Diversity (2014), and a children’s book, God’s Very Good Idea: A True Story of God’s Delightfully Different Family. You can find her at trillianewbell.com and follow her on twitter at @trillianewbell.Bring the 2019 Parent's Summit to your church via simulcast! Click here to learn more.
We can get so busy that we allow culture to dictate who we are as a family, rather than our family influencing the culture around us. In this episode, we talk about some of the critical first steps in discovering what makes your family unique.And as Christi so eloquently states, "Your uniqueness is so normal to you, that you often can't see it." That's because our family purpose is often hidden within the generations that went before us--the family stories, patterns, and even moments of overcoming difficult circumstances.In this episode, we outline the beginning steps to discovering your family purpose and why it's important for your kids. And, if the Your Family Purpose group coaching program sounds like something your family could use, simply click here.Show Notes:Your Family Purpose: 4-week Group Coaching Program begins February 11! Click here to learn more. Spots are filling up.Click here to purchase or learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well.To preorder our new children's book, What Am I Feeling? click here. It releases March 1.
Welcome to season 5! This week's episode is full of updates about the upcoming season. In addition, we talk about why we believe "parenting" is the wrong term to use when it comes to raising our children.The best part is that we don't leave you hanging. We talk about what we believe the right term should be and why it matters in how we relate to our kids.Show Notes:To preorder our new children's book, What Am I Feeling? click here. It releases March 1.Your Family Purpose: 4-week Group Coaching Program. Next group begins February 11! Click here to learn more.
What a year in the life of the "In This Together" podcast family. As you'll hear once again through Christi's tears, we love journeying with you. Your stories, questions, podcast reviews, and encouragement fuel our souls. Thank you for making 2018 one of the most joy-filled years for our family.In this episode, we go back and forth, each offering our wishes for your family in 2019. This is a heartfelt episode, offering our blessing over your family for the New Year. We love journeying with you.Show Notes:To learn more about the coaching programs we offer, click here.To learn more about our 4-week Your Family Purpose group coaching program for families, click here.To learn more about Onsite Workshops, click here.
Our podcast “resident therapist," David Thomas, is back with us, live from Daystar Counseling. He talks with us about what our sons need across the developmental lifespan.In this episode, David breaks down what our boys need in the following age groups:Ages 2-4: The ExplorerAges 5-8: The LoverAges 9-12: The IndividualAges 13-17: The WandererAges 18-22: The WarriorSome of the best nuggets of this interview include:The biggest hurdle of boys today across the developmental lifespan Ways that boys self-medicate their pain and why Why helping boys problem solve and use critical thinking is crucial to their development The importance of placing your hand on your son's shoulder and addressing him by name Why boys need less words, not more Helping our boys navigate video gaming in a healthy wayShow Notes:To learn more, click here to purchase David's book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing BoysTo buy David’s latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here.To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.com
The next two episodes are gold medallion interviews with our podcast "resident therapists." This week, we interview Sissy Goff from Daystar Counseling about what our daughters need. Next week, we interview David Thomas about what our sons need.In this episode, Sissy breaks down what our girls need in the following age groups:Birth-5: The Discovery YearsAges 6-11: The Adventurous YearsAges 12-15: The Narcissistic YearsAges 16-19: The Autonomous YearsSome of the best nuggets of this interview include:The growing epidemic of anxiety in girls today The years our daughters seem disinterested in relationship with dad How dads can press into their daughters Why daughters tend to be ambivalent with their moms in the narcissistic years How moms can press into their daughters in these yearsShow Notes:To learn more, click here to purchase Sissy's book, All You Need to Know About Raising Girls.To buy Sissy's latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here.To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.comPodcast Sponsors:
As a social entrepreneur and founder and co-CEO of Noonday Collection, Jessica Honegger aims to do everything with boundless courage. But just as happiness is not the absence of sadness, and faith is not the absence of doubt, courage is not the absence of fear.Now leading the largest fair-trade jewelry company in the world, Jessica gives us a behind the scenes look at her highly-successful business and her journey to get there as a working mom. In this episode, Jessica shares stories of motherhood, adoption, guilt as a working mom, partnership, and friendship.Most powerfully, she explains how she made fear her friend.Speaking from her highly-touted book, Imperfect Courage: Live a Life of Purpose by Leaving Comfort and Going Scared, Jessica shares with us her inspiring story and challenges us to have the courage to do the very thing we've been afraid of doing.Show Notes:Buy Imperfect Courage here. It also makes a great gift!To buy gifts from or learn more about Noonday Collection, click here.Subscribe to Jessica's podcast, Going Scared.Learn more about Jessica by clicking here.To learn about becoming a Noonday Ambassador, click here.
This is a special re-released episode on Christmas topics for families, because there's nothing we want more than to experience the joy of Christmas.The problem is that Christmas can leave our time feeling pressed and our wallets stressed.In this episode, we go behind the lens of our own crooked picture frame to discuss some Christmas hot topics. We tell stories about how we were raised and what we implement today in our own family. We also discuss topics like:Is my gift-giving out of control? What does an entitled child look like? Is it okay for my kids to believe in Santa Claus? What will my kids really remember about Christmas? How can we truly make it about Jesus’ birth? Is the attitude I’m modeling for my kids at the holidays one of gratitude or grumbling? What role do traditions play in our family?As you listen to this episode, think about your own family traditions, values, and what you model for and teach your kids. And be sure to engage the conversation. Tell us stories from your own picture frame. We love learning from you.
Christmas often comes and goes in the blink of an eye. Not only that, it's easy to miss the magic of the season. Either things don't go the way we had hoped with our family, or we get so buried in our to-do lists we need a search and rescue team just to help us come to the surface.In this episode, we talk about decisions you can make to enjoy the Christmas season with your family. We talk about:Practical ways we can manage our expectations of the Christmas season Why it's important to also acknowledge and grieve loss during this season Being people who include others How to prioritize Jesus during the holidays--i.e. getting our kids to behave because of Jesus, not for Santa :) How to make decisions at Christmas based on your family values, not the culture around you One very practical way husbands can crush it this Christmas How to be the grace others need at this time of yearShow Notes:To join us in the 25 Characters of the Christmas Story: An Advent Experience for Families, click here!Podcast Sponsor:
Bedtime--it's that sometimes elusive and dreaded time of the day, especially if you have young kids. Yet, bedtime can be the most significant time of the day to connect with your kids, and even your teens.In this episode, we discuss the spiritual and emotional significance of bedtime. We also get super practical about turning it into one of the most memorable--and maybe even enjoyable--parts of your day. Even more, bedtime could be the environment that shapes your family and child's story for years to come.We talk about:Why even Moses championed bedtime When it's okay to call an audible Practical ways to keep our kids in bed and not dread the process Guilt free and emotionally safe ways for either laying with our kids to help them fall asleep or making them stay in bed Questions we can ask our kids to draw out what's happening in their inner worldShownotesClick here for 15 Conversation Starters for Tucking Your Kids into Bed.Click here for Dr. Ross Greene's book, The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children.For free resources and to learn more about Dr. Ross Greene's approach to behaviorally challenging kids, click here.Podcast Sponsors
For many of us, inviting people into our lives and homes feels more like inviting judgment on our entertaining skills and stress on our already maxed-out schedules. And with the holidays approaching, you may be feeling the pressure.But what if you knew that opening your front door had the power to radically change the world around you? To make an impact and leave a legacy with everyday invitations?Jen Schmidt has set out to reframe how we think about hospitality and to equip us to walk a road of welcome in our daily lives. Jen knows that every time we choose open-door living—whether in our homes or by taking hospitality on the road—those we invite in get to experience the lived-out love of Jesus, our kids grow up in a life-lab of generosity, and we trade insecurity for connection.In this episode, we talk to Jen about how you and your family can offer the life-changing gift of invitation, no matter the stage of life your family is in. We talk about:The freedom of hospitality, not the burden of it How invitation gives purpose to our kids and family The difference between hospitality and entertaining How your invitation can expand beyond your home Ways you can see your home as the most likely location for changing the world around you, one open door at a time.Show Notes:To learn more about Jen's book and Bible study, Just Open the Door, click here.For information on The Becoming Conference, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
What happens when our son is exposed to pornography at a young age? Or our daughter begins hearing about sex at school and asking you questions? Many of our own parents didn't model for us how to have these difficult conversations with our kids. Not only that, our kids seem to be exposed to sex at even younger ages today.In this episode, we revisit with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part two of a two part series.In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss with us how to talk to our kids about sex through a simple, yet powerful framework of flourishing.We discuss: how to talk to our kids about difficult topics, like when they discover their private parts why a Theology of the Body is an important framework for us as adults as well age-appropriate ways--from preschool through the teen years--to talk to our kids about sexIn the show notes below, you can also gain access to free PDF downloads from THE Conversation Workshop that help you have these conversations with your kids.Show Notes:To access free PDF conversations of "The Talk" with your kids, click here.To learn more about THE Conversation Workshop, click here.To subscribe to THE Conversation podcast, click here.
What happens when our daughter tells us she's fat? Or our son begins to ask questions about his private parts? These questions are enough to throw off any good parent. So how can we raise our kids to have a healthy body image in a culture that has distorted it?That's the conversation we have today with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part one of a two part series.In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss a framework for the Theology of the Body, and how we as parents can be ready anytime these conversations arise with our kids.We discuss: the 2 most common parenting approaches to the body and the one we need to take the 3 truths we need to instill in our kids about their body-selves on an ongoing basis practical questions we receive from parentsIn the show notes below, you can also gain access to free PDF downloads from THE Conversation Workshop that help you have these conversations with your kids.Show Notes:To access free PDF conversations of "The Talk" with your kids, click here.To learn more about THE Conversation Workshop, click here.To subscribe to THE Conversation podcast, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
There are eyes on your marriage. If you have kids, they watch how you interact. If you lead others in your community, those you lead watch how you live. In other words, your marriage is in a fishbowl.Some feel it more than others. But regardless of who's watching, if we don't pursue a marriage we'd wish on our kids, or we keep leading others without tending to our own marital garden, it will catch up to us. And besides, isn't it better to enjoy life with our spouse than merely tolerate it and go through the motions?We think so. That's why this episode covers four ways we can become teammates in marriage and why it's so important.Show Notes:To learn more about our Coaching Programs, click here.To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives and Adventures, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
This episode is a treat. Lisa Harper joins us to talk about her newly released children's book, Who's Your Daddy: Discovering the Awesomest Daddy Ever.But she's not the only one to join us! After the break, her daughter Missy joins us - along with our kids - to sing and talk about Sid the Science Kid, the Greatest Showman, and Sing. They also talk about God and people they know in heaven. It is a precious portion we decided to keep in. We hope you enjoy the "real" interaction.The best description of this episode comes directly from the children's book:Missy has lived with her new mommy (Lisa) ever since she was adopted from Haiti. But when someone asks little Missy a BIG question—"Who's your daddy?"—she starts thinking and learning a lot about daddies.Missy could be sad that she doesn't have a "skin" daddy who can make her pancakes and take her to soccer practice. But through lots of talks with Mommy, Missy realizes that she DOES have a Daddy! In fact, no matter what our family looks like, we all have the same amazing Daddy; and Missy can't wait to tell everyone about the Daddy who loves us more than all the stars in the sky.Told mostly through a mother-daughter conversation, this sweet story is careful to affirm relationships with the good, strong daddies here on earth, but it is also comforting for children who might be struggling due to divorce or the loss of a father.Show Notes:To purchase Who's Your Daddy? Discovering the Awesomest Daddy Ever, click here:
How we set boundaries with our parents and in-laws is a frequent stressor for many families, especially around the holidays. Whether family lives close by or far away, everyone brings expectations into what that relationship should look like. We navigate this on an ongoing basis as well.The first question deals with that very issue. How do we talk to our parents about it in an honoring way? How can we be united as husband and wife in making decisions and setting our own traditions?In this episode, we also discuss questions related to:helping kids set their own boundaries and manage their feelings teaching kids to play independently how we can avoid showing favoritism when one child is more compliant than another resources to manage explosive or strong-willed kidsThe questions:Question 1: Hi! I've recently listened to your grandparent episode - THANK YOU. My husband and I are new parents, and his parents live close by. My (divorced) parents both live out of state. Anytime they come visit they usually stay with us (and they come separately so it's kind of double visits). I know my husband doesn't love when they stay with us but he grins and bares it for the most part since he knows it means a lot to me.However, this Christmas my mom had announced (not asked) that she will be visiting and staying with us for over a week. It's really important to my husband that she does not stay with us on Christmas Eve since we have (and are still) developed our own family traditions. I know that the "guidelines" we set in this first year of our child's life will live forever, and I'm so nervous to have this conversation with my mom. I want to honor my husband's wishes and present a united front to my mom and also be respectful to her when I ask that she stays elsewhere for two nights. Help?? How do I handle it? She is emotionally very dependent on me since I am an only child and I don't want to hurt her feelings but I need to put my own small family unit first.Question 2: Thank you so much for your book and podcast. The book has given me a framework with which to help navigate this parenting world that I am very new to and I am so appreciative!My question is about teaching kids about their own boundaries. It is so important that they are taught to be kind and think of others first, but how do you balance that with the fact that each person is responsible for their own actions and feelings. For example, I watched a 4 year old emotionally manipulate her friend into giving her what she wanted by pouting and her friend said after she just wanted her “to be happy”. Being kind, sharing, and self sacrifice are so important but so is developing the ability to say no. How do you find the balance?Question 3: In episode #42, you referenced a question that my husband and I both responded with "get out of my head!!" but didn't answer it. The question was something like, "How do you parent/discipline a strong willed boy and a compliant boy without showing favoritism?" We need this one! The strong willed, older boy is in a cycle of feeling defeated while his younger brother just doesn't deal with defiance as a frequent heart issue. We are on the cycle with him - and its incredibly hard on the entire family.Also - another aspect of the same scenario - since our firstborn is also incredibly strong willed, explosive, and hyper - we wonder these things: was it our doing, especially since we had no idea what we were doing and parented so much out of our own issues and dysfunctions? Regardless, how can we help heal the past of parenting in frustration and anger while trying to figure out parenting in those first 4/5 years?Question 4: Hi! I am currently reading Safe House. I am a stay-at-home mom and have a 13-month-old. He is pretty clingy when we are at home. If he is playing outside, he definitely wants to explore or when we go places he is pretty brave and isn't afraid to be left at the nursery at church...
Do you have a recurring issue in your marriage you can't seem to settle?Perhaps every now and again your marriage is tested in ways you couldn't even imagine at the time. Some nights you don't even sleep in the same bed.Maybe right now you just can't seem to connect with your spouse at all. Just getting on the same page would feel like a win.If you've been married for any length of time, you likely experience all of the above.That's because spiritual warfare is real. Natural and supernatural forces attack our most cherished relationship regularly. In this episode, we talk about how the things that separated Adam and Eve in the Garden are the very things attacking our marriage today.In this episode we discuss:The three most common enemies of a great marriage The importance of coming into agreement as a couple How blame and shame distance us from our spouse Why the love of God is the antidote to seeing your spouse as the enemy Effective ways to pray and fight for your spouseShow Notes:Get the Ransomed Heart AppClick here for Moving Mountains, by John EldredgePodcast Sponsors:
Did you know that singing is one of, if not the most, stated commands in all of the Bible? Filling our homes with song has a deep, visceral effect on who we are and what we believe. Perhaps it's no wonder why singing is arguably the most powerful way to pass God's truth onto our kids.In this episode, Keith Getty joins Josh to talk about the importance of singing in the home. Keith and Kristyn Getty occupy a unique space in the world of music today as preeminent modern hymn writers. According to CCLI, it is estimated that 40 to 50 million people sing their hymn “In Christ Alone” (penned by Keith and long-time writing partner, Stuart Townsend) in church services each year.With four young daughters, Keith takes us behind the walls of the Getty home to describe how he and Kristyn pass on the truths of God to their kids through song. Even more, Keith gives us insightful reasons for (that are quite convicting by the way) and practical ways to implement song into our kid's lives every single day.To learn more about the Getty's, click here.Show Notes:Sing Conference 2019Getty Kids Hymnal: Family Hymn SingSing: How Worship Transforms Your Life, Family, and ChurchGetty Music TourJoy: An Irish Christmas TourPodcast Sponsors:
Thanks again for your questions. These episodes are gold for us because we get to interact with you, our family of listeners, on a regular basis.The questions this week are vulnerable and honest. We appreciate that so much about this community. Let's keep striving to be better spouses, parents, and all out human beings.This week we discuss:How being raised in a legalistic home can impact our own parenting and climate of our home How grandparents can influence the spiritual lives of their grandchildren How to make Jesus attractive to our kids and grandkids The one key factor to faith transmission across the generationsShow Notes:For more information on the findings of the study on faith transmission across the generations, click here to check out Families and Faith: How Religion is Passed Down Across Generations by Vern Bengtson.The Questions:#1. My question relates to the spiritual life of my 5 year old daughter. I am a pastor's kid and was brought up in a very legalistic but loving family. I went astray for a few years of my life but I know for certain that my parent's prayer is what kept me not too far so that I could come back to Jesus. My husband was brought up in a semi-Christian home, where his mom was/is a very devoted Christian but his dad was/is not. All of this is to give you an idea as to why I am concerned. We both love the Lord, we both serve in the church and are leaders, but we definitely have different views of what a Christian life is or should be.I am more on the legalistic side, where I put all the burden on him being the head of the family. I feel that if I don't say "Let's read the Bible or pray," we don't do it. It makes me mad that I have to be the one initiating these times. And so I enter into this guilt trip where if I don't do it, my fear is that my daughter will not grow up in a Godly home. My husband feels that if we serve in an area at church, we do not need to be involved in anything else. I, on the other side, go the extreme of having to be involved in everything the church offers (to the point that it gives me anxiety if I don't).How do I let go of the legalistic way of thinking? No matter what my decision is I feel like I'm letting someone down. And I feel like my daughter is living in an unstable environment when it comes to our spiritual lives.#2. From Collene: As a grandmother who really failed as a mother, but have sought and received full forgiveness from my son - Praise the Lord, I am puzzled how to be a spiritual guide to my two grandsons, 9 and 12 years old. I don't get to be around them all the time, but do visit frequently. My son and his wife want their children to be brought up in church (which really didn't start until 2 years ago). The boys love church and have gone to church camp once last summer. When I ask my grandsons if they would like me to say night time prayers or read the Bible or anything that I would like to do to open the door to spiritual talks they say no. I let it go at that. I grew up in a very strict religious home and was forced to do everything right. So, I guess I am asking for ideas to free our spiritual conversations up. Thank you for your prayers to lead all of us in the Truth of leading our children in His wisdom and love!Podcast Sponsors:
In a recent survey of over 700 parents, we found that “being too busy” or “not having enough time” was the biggest parenting struggle of our day. Can you relate?Do you wish you could slow down a bit? Do you seem to use the phrase "too busy" too often?We did. That's why we're having this conversation on today's episode. And it begins by realizing one thing: You are the only person looking out for your family.Starting at a 30,000 foot view, we begin our discussion asking of ourselves one question: "What are we chasing?" Usually we can see what it is we're chasing when we look at our calendars and see where we're spending our time. From here we discuss what the Bible says about rest, provide practical ways for creating margin, and why it's more important than ever to honor the Sabbath.Show Notes:What Makes a Good Parent? - A Scientific Analysis Ranks the 10 Most Effective Child-Rearing Practices by Robert Epstein. Click here for journal article.In our conversation we talk about kids being able to play independently. Click here for a blogpost I wrote on it: 4 Ways to Help Your Child Play Independently.Two books influencing our lives right now and that helped birth this conversation:Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less by Alex Soojung-Kim PangThe 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family by Patrick LencioniFor Pastor John Lindell's message on the Sabbath, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
Have you felt stuck in the trenches, especially in the early years of parenthood? Trying to be the best mom you can be, yet also feeling the urge to lead outside the home too?Or maybe you decided that in certain seasons you would focus on leading your kids, and wait to find God's calling for you outside of motherhood after that particular season was over.In this episode, we talk with Kelly King, Women's Ministry Specialist for LifeWay Christian Resources, about how women can lead in the varying seasons of motherhood.We talk specifically about:How to navigate raising kids and discovering the call to lead Not dismissing the little doors because they feel small to us Why it's important to stay in your lane How to overcome mom shaming The importance of who you surround yourself with How husbands can champion their wives to leadKelly's insights come directly from her own personal lessons. This is a message she has lived in every season of raising her kids.Show Notes:Click here to register for the LifeWay Women's Leadership Forum, November 8-10, 2018. To receive a special $20 discount, use Promo Code: FORUM226Podcast Sponsors:
Have you been faced with getting difficult questions from your kids, and perhaps at a younger age than you had wished? Or feeling the need to have conversations with your kids but not sure how to have them?Welcome to parenting in the 21st century.We live in a very different political and cultural climate than in decades past. In this episode, we talk with Dr. Phillip Bethancourt, executive vice president of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, on how he equips parents and church leaders to have these conversations. A very practical episode, you will be encouraged and equipped, especially if you lack confidence with some of the topics.Phillip, who has four boys, also provides super helpful illustrations to matter the age of our kids.In addition, this episode kicks off an online Bible study that Phillip co-wrote and that we're hosting on our blog called Christ-Centered Parenting: Gospel Conversations on Complex Cultural Issues. It's a free online study and we'd love to have you join us! Click here for details and to sign up.These 6 sessions will give you more confidence as a parent, help you instill a biblical worldview into your children, and equip you to talk to your kids about today’s tough cultural issues, including:Gender issues Suicide, depression, and anxiety Pornography Addiction and coping mechanisms Technology Singleness, dating, marriage, and divorceShow NotesSign up for the Christ-Centered Parenting Free Online Bible Study. Click here.To sign up and learn more about the ERLC National Conference, The Cross-Shaped Family, click here.To sign up for The Weekly, and learn more about today's cultural issues with the Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission, click here.Podcast Sponsors
Your questions are fuel for us for two reasons. First, you are real and desire to live a great story for your kids. Secondly, your courage to ask questions helps everyone listening to the podcast. If you struggle with something, other families struggle with it too.It's an honor being in this together with you. These Q & A episodes give all of us encouragement. So thank you!In this episode, we had a number of questions related to being emotionally safe for our kids and why it's important. In this week's episode we discuss:Resources for understanding our own story as a parent How to connect and talk to our child with grace, especially if he / she is prone to feeling ashamed If a parent is away for work, ways he / she can connect with the kids from the road How to plan for a difficult conversation with our teenager (and even our kids), especially when there is a rift in the relationship Championing our kids in their interests and passions, even if they have no outlets for it in our local area The importance of kids recognizing and putting words to their emotionsAs a general takeaway for this episode, give yourselves grace. When we walk in grace, it's easier to pass it onto our kids as well.The questions:Jen: In episode 51 you talk about emotional safety for our kids and attachment. I recognize the only way I can address my own attachment style and my tendencies and my reasons for flying off the handle (or why certain things make me go to that place) is if I do the hard work of understanding my past and who I am. But I don't know where to start. I have very little long term memory, so I don't know how to dig in? Do you recommend any resources for helping along with this deep work?Annie: My oldest is 6, she is extremely independent and smart. I have raised her almost completely by myself because my husband is in the oilfield and physically absent. Over the last year or so she has developed this habit of every time I try and correct her (often my delivery isn’t with grace) she responds by saying, "It’s because I’m stupid, I’m just stupid.” She just seems so frustrated and defeated. I can’t seem to get through to her to try again or that she isn’t dumb/stupid. I know I have done something maybe to contribute to that. But since it’s already been done, what is something I can say to maybe help navigate or reframe her mindset. I also need to say I have NEVER called her that. However, I know she has heard me say things like, “This is so stupid,” talking about lots of different things.Lindsay: I just found your podcast in a major time of need. I just feel I'm getting it all wrong. I've listened to a few of your episodes and know I need to change my parenting style. I have a 16-year-old who previously to this last year was easy to raise. The last year has been a living nightmare and I'm handling it all wrong. I'm disappointing, angry, mean, and just lost. My question is, how do you suggest I start making a change? I know I need to sit down and have a conversation but I don't know where to start.Shannon: My daughter is nine years old and she hates sports, exercise and being outdoors. She loves singing and performing and creating movies on her iPad. Unfortunately we live in an area where our school only offers athletics - there is no chorus, show choir, drama, or band. My daughter has a meltdown and wants to quit anytime something is difficult. She is a pleaser, is very sensitive and wants to fit in and be included. So we make her play rec sports because a) she needs the exercise and b) we are worried that if we let her quit now that she will regret it once she gets up to junior high and all of her friends are on teams. She currently complains about leaving the house to go do anything because she just wants to sit in her room on her iPad, but she is athletic and seems to enjoy the sports while she’s there. So how would you handle this in terms of screaming data and letting her be the p...
Welcome to Season 4 of the "In This Together" podcast!School is back in session. In this episode, we talk about three ways we can spiritually prepare our kids for the new school year.Whether you homeschool, or your kids go to a public or private school, this episode will help guide your family to spiritually prepare your kids (and yourself) for the school year ahead.Here are the questions we consider to help us:What is the biggest lesson you learned from last school year? Revisit that lesson. Write it down. What decisions will you make differently this year as a result? What parental agendas do you have for your kids that you need to surrender this year? What are questions your kids have about the year ahead? What two values do you want to instill in your kids this school year? Do you have a family mission's statement? Put a plan in place to start one this week. What is one thing you can remove from your family calendar that is adding undo pressure?Podcast Sponsors:
The final week of our "Best Of" Series is one that will challenge your faith. We listened to it again and it was like watching a movie the second time around. There was much we missed the first time that we needed right now in this season of our lives.Faith is the currency of heaven. We all need more of it. You may be in a season where you think that a "faith adventure" is just too much...“But we are in survival mode.” “Maybe when the kids are out of the house.” “I’m too afraid.”We ourselves have said everyone of these. Christine Caine shares her family’s story of living a faith adventure and graciously shows us why we can’t afford not to.Here are a few highlights from one our favorite episodes!How to overcome our, “But, God.” Why marriage and family is a crucial part of Christian witness in the days ahead. How our paralyzing fear serves nobody, and how to overcome it. How to bring our kids on the adventure, no matter their age, and why our kids deserve it!Don’t miss this one. The topic is too important.Show Notes:Purchase Unexpected: Leave Fear Behind, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure by Christine Caine, click here.
Welcome to week 3 of our "Best Of" series!As Dr. Townsend states about entitlement, "This isn't a generational problem; it's a human problem."Apparently, a lot of parents in our generation don't want their kids to be entitled. It was the most listened to episode of season 3!Entitlement, according to Dr. John Townsend, is "a belief that I am exempt from responsibility and that I am owed special treatment." Unfortunately, you don't have to look too far today to find entitled kids--and adults!In this episode, Dr. Townsend helps parents learn how to not raise entitled kids. An incredibly practical discussion, you'll learn the three antidotes to entitlement and hear Dr. Townsend explain the following three ways to apply the antidote:Change your language Do hard things first Keep inconvenient commitmentsDr. Townsend encourages us, "Kids need to grow up at a dinner table where mom and dad are doing interesting things." Here's to being parents who take responsibility, live well, and show our kids how to be grateful.Show Notes:Learn from a Role Play Coach. Join TownsendNOW today!To learn more about Townsend Leadership Program, click here.Learn more about earning a Master's degree through the Townsend Institute. Click here.To purchase The Entitlement Cure by Dr. John Townsend, click here.
Welcome to week 2 of our "Best Of" series!Emotional safety was one of the most requested topics in season 3. Not only that, this episode became one of the most listened to of any we did.When we first became parents we were exhausted and overwhelmed by the opinions of what we "should" do. That's why we decided to start with the end in mind. With the outcomes we most desire in our kids when they become adults. What we found is that emotional safety—more than any other factor—is scientifically linked to raising kids who live, love, and lead well.In other words, the posture from which we parent matters infinitely more than the techniques of parenting. What is emotional safety?In this episode, we answer this question and discuss:The Golden Rule of relationships Four walls of a Safe House (exploration, protection, grace, truth) Four parenting styles (BFF, helicopter, boss, religious) How to lead in grace and follow up in truth as we discipline Why being a parent isn't rocket science; it's just brain surgery.Show Notes:To order Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well, click here!Interested in going through the 6-week DVD Safe House Parent Study with your spouse or church small group? Click here to learn more!
We're kicking off our "Best Of" Series for season 3. During the summer we take a little hiatus to regroup, rejuvenate, and plan for our upcoming season--season 4!In part 1 of of our "Best of" series, we revisit our interview with Frank Tate. As one of the most highly listened to and commented about episodes, we chose it first because of how it will change your view of being a parent.If you're a regular listener and were unable to listen to this episode, put it at the top of your list. Likewise, if you're new to the podcast, put it at the top of your list. This is time well spent!In his upcoming book, Foster Kid, Frank tells his riveting story and leaves behind nuggets of wisdom he’s picked up from the screaming data of raising his own two kids. Here’s a few nuggets he discusses with us in this episode:How to listen to your kids’ screaming data Why parents should be editors, not authors How to avoid GPS (Generational Peer Stress) Parenting What “goodwill shaming” is and why we do it Why you should give data-based praise How to champion your child’s inner genius (and potentially save lots of money on a college education)If there is one episode that will change how you think about parenting, this is that episode.
Championing kids with special needs or medical disabilities can be quite difficult on many levels.First, there's the academic needs of the child. For instance, in some school systems, grades become emphasized over emotional development or character. Other schools lack the resources to champion the heart or strengths of the child.In addition, there's the therapeutic needs of the child. From a financial perspective, this can put quite a strain on the family.We close out this three-part series on families with children who have disabilities or special needs by talking with Kelly Bagwell. She and her husband Jeff are on the latter end of the journey, as their twin boys (who are on the autism spectrum) are about to graduate high school. She is also a high school teacher with special education students and a certified Christian counselor. So her perspective comes from all sides.However, as you listen, especially if you're a parent, what you'll hear is raw emotion and honesty about how to champion your family and kids. It's an honest conversation about the challenges, necessary steps, and gifts of raising children with special needs.Show Notes:Click here for the 100 Day Kit for Newly Diagnosed Families of Young Children at www.autismspeaks.org.Podcast Sponsor:
So often, conversation on kids with intellectual disabilities centers on ministry "to" children with disabilities. What if we instead focused on the ministry "of" children with disabilities?In this episode, Amy Julia Becker presents us with a massive paradigm shift on many levels. After reading her cover article in Christianity Today titled The Ministry of the Disabled, we knew we needed to learn from her.A graduate of Princeton University and Princeton Theological Seminary, Amy Julia's essays about faith, family, and disability have appeared in the Washington Post, USA Today, Christianity Today, the Christian Century, and online for The New York Times, ABCNews, the Atlantic, Vox, and The Huffington Post.Here are some highlights of our conversation:Changing how we see the word "need." Would you describe yourself as "being needy?" What if it were a necessary and good thing? Why it's important to receive people (especially our kids) as they are given to us, not through the lens of who we want them to be. How Amy Julia discovered the core parental fears and idols she had after learning her daughter, Penny, had Downs Syndrome. Tangible ways we can all come alongside families who have children with disabilities. How churches can include children with disabilities. Very practical ways we can celebrate and champion every child, and look for ways to bring everyone together.Show Notes:Visit Amy Julia Becker's website by clicking here.Click here to read Amy Julia's Christianity Today article title, The Ministry of the Disabled.Click here for A Good and Perfect Gift: Faith, Expectations, and a Little Girl Named Penny.Click here for Small Talk: Learning From my Children About What Matters Most.Podcast Sponsors:
Parenting children with special needs or medical disabilities brings with it so many added variables. As if having a strong marriage and being a great parent weren't hard enough, what happens when you have to travel for 20 hours of therapy each week in addition to your other tasks and roles?This is the journey Nick and Jackie Tait are walking. With three beautiful children ages five and under, their five year old was born at 23 weeks. Today, he is a walking miracle. However, he has medical disabilities and developing special needs that require added attention and care.In this episode, we talk with Nick and Jackie (a 22:6 family!) about their story. Their countenance and approach alone speaks volumes. They share with us not only what they have done to maintain a strong marriage, but also what they need from others who aren't walking the same road.Here are a few highlights from our discussion with Nick and Jackie:Grieving the loss of dreams you had for your child The pressure of social media in comparing your family to others The surprising benefits of reaching out and asking for help The high divorce rate and how to focus on your marriage How to genuinely interact with each child Practical advice on how to interact with families who have a child with special or medical needsGuest bios:Jackie Tait is married to her college sweetheart, Nick, and is a mama to three littles. As a nonprofit writer and communicator, she is passionate about child and maternal health and telling the stories of the world’s most vulnerable people. Her first children’s book, The Adventures of Abuelito, is available on Amazon, benefitting UC San Diego’s neonatal intensive care unit where she serves on the Women and Infants Advisory Council.Based out of San Diego, Nick Tait is a commercial insurance broker at Marsh & McLennan Agency and leads the Life Science Practice Group for the West region. Originally from the U.K., Nick has been married to his wife, Jackie, for eleven years, and together they have three children. In his spare time, Nick enjoys traveling with his family, playing golf and following Formula 1 racing.Show Notes:Click here to check out Jackie's children book: The Adventures of Abuelito.Podcast Sponsors:To learn more about the 22:6 Parenting Community, click here! We'd love to journey with you!
Money is one of the single biggest reasons for divorce today. If we don't have vision for our money, it will own us.Chris Brown, host of Life, Money, and Hope and a Ramsey Personality, joins us this week to talk about two primary topics:A.) How and why to budget from a Biblical perspective.B.) How to teach our kids about money.Here's a specific overview of what we talked about:How to tell your money where it's going How the Western world and Biblical teaching contradicts one another when it comes to money Why normal in today's world is broken How to shift your mindset about money Surprising statistics about families and money today 3 ways to teach your kids about how to give, save, and spend A surprising perspective on college debtShow Notes:Check out Life, Money, Hope with Chris Brown. Click here.Click here for Financial Peace University, Jr.Podcast Sponsors:
With Father's Day approaching, we want to honor dads. In particular, we share stories from our own dads.In this episode, I (Josh) share about what I've learned about being a dad, from my dad. He went to be with Jesus in November, 2016, but his legacy lives on in our family.Christi also shares memories from her childhood and the influence of her dad to this day.In this episode, you'll hear about:Dad jokes. Yes, dad jokes. How to make the most of the moments with our kids and those we love. The importance of being others-centered. The power in telling stories of how your dad influenced you.Show Notes:For Celebration of Life Video of David E. Straub, click here.The Boat!Podcast Sponsors:
Your questions have been so good! We love hearing from each of you. This episode covers more questions related to parenting.In this week's episode we discuss:How kids handle emotions New ways to think about your child's overwhelming emotions The difference between a temper tantrum and an act of disobedience Sibling rivalry How to handle grief and loss with kids And how should we handle family members who don't hold their kids to the same values we hold ours to, especially when we spend a lot of time together with them?Again, if you want to submit a question for a future episode, simply click here to submit your question.It's an honor journeying with you!Show Notes:Click here for Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen Thomas and David ThomasClick here for Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead WellClick here for FREE Feelings Chart for Kids!This week's questions:Emma: I am a part time single parent. My children are 5, 4 and 8 months. Last night, my eldest would not stop slamming things. I told him if he was going to continue this he would not have the sweets he was going to have for dessert when he finished his fruit. He slammed and his sweets were taken away. He then refused to get in the bath, refused to brush his teeth, refused to get into bed, and refused to be quiet so I could put the baby to sleep.I tried many things. He ended up slamming his door and crying in his bed (after 1 hour of all this). When I had gotten the baby to sleep, and my middle child was sleeping, I went into his room, told him his behavior was unacceptable, but that I still love him and always will. I told him that tomorrow was a new day and a new start.I had to keep my physical distance from my son as I was so angry with him that I was afraid of hurting him in my anger (grabbing him, pushing him, etc.). I was so angry that I could not hug him, or try to calm him, when he would not listen. What could I have done?Nichole: I have two things we struggle with in our house more recently.Part I: We have a 10-year-old and 5-year-old boy. I feel like we always have to separate the two of them because they both just can't play together well without fighting. Or my older son always wants to be away from his younger brother. I want to foster a healthy brother relationship for the boys and for them to grow up loving each other. Can we get more tips or ideas to foster this relationship and teach them better how to love each other more!Part II: We have also struggled this past year with death. We have had 4 huge losses and the kids went to all funerals. I can see they get anxious about things, more teary and worried. So we would love tips in how to continue to make them feel safe and that they don't have to be scared or so sad. We talk about heaven and Jesus and have a huge love of the Lord, it's just so hard to understand as a kid. (I lost my dad at 8 and can sometimes struggle with loss as well).Erika: My 3-year-old thinks it is optional to listen to me. Is this normal? How do I teach her this is definitely not an option, without losing my patience?Keila: I have a question related to friendships’ influence on young school-age children. My daughter is 7, and she loves hanging out with her 9-year-old cousins.We live (my brother's family and mine) about 40min away so we get to spend time together on most weekends. However, they are more liberal with TV choices and media, and how they handle technology in their house. We’ve had a few incidences where my daughter was exposed to materials on TV and cellphone (their kids each have cell phones while we are against that for our kids) that we consider inappropriate.The last time the girls spent the night there, they came back saying they spent the weekend playing on musical.ly. After this incident I feel like I should never allow for sleep overs at their house anymore,
When should I get my child her first phone? Once I get that first phone, how should I set it up? What limits should I set on it? Is my child's phone different than the one I buy?We get so many questions from parents about what to do, and what not to do, when it comes to their child's first phone. Navigating the world of screens can feel scary, but it doesn't have to be!In this episode, we interview Michael Kong, CEO and founder of Forcefield, a parental control product he developed when his girls were in middle school (5 years ago). He shares with us what he's learned first as a dad, and now as a developer.With your kids home for the summer, this is a fascinating episode on screens you won't want to miss.Show Notes:Try Forcefield FREE for 30 days! Just click here.Podcast Sponsor:
In 2015, Corie Weathers was named Military Spouse of the Year. That was in large part because of how her husband, Chaplain Matthew Weathers, nominated and championed her. But as we all know, championing your spouse is much easier when you feel championed.In honor of Military Appreciation Month, we wanted to honor and learn from the marriage of a military family who is also in the trenches serving other military families and first responders.In this episode, Chaplain Matthew and Corie Weathers take us behind their own picture frame and teach us how they connect personally as a military family. Even more, they share with us incredibly powerful insights and tools they use to help military and first responder families thrive.The nuggets harvested from this episode are gold. Here are a few of them:How to praise your spouse The power in seeing your spouse as a bonsai tree How to find purpose together in your marriage, especially for families with traveling spouses How much is too much to share with your spouse, especially in relation to deployment or where trauma is involved What it means to have sacred spaces in marriage and how not to miss them The feeling wheel on their refrigerator The healthy competition that keeps Team Weathers thriving.Show Notes:Click here to download the Lifegiver AppClick here to learn more about Corie's book, Sacred Spaces: My Journey to the Heart of Military MarriageTo listen to Raising Emotionally Safe Kids with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub on the Lifegiver Podcast, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
When you hear the phrase, "faith adventure," what comes to mind? Excitement. Risk. Trust. Memories. Miracles. Or does the rational, natural side of your brain kick in?"But we are in survival mode." "Maybe when the kids are out of the house." "I'm too afraid."We ourselves have said everyone of these. In this episode, Christine Caine shares her family's story of living a faith adventure and graciously shows us why we can't afford not to.Here are a few highlights from one our favorite episodes!How to overcome our, "But, God." Why marriage and family is a crucial part of Christian witness in the days ahead. How our paralyzing fear serves nobody, and how to overcome it. How to bring our kids on the adventure, no matter their age, and why our kids deserve it!Christine Caine is an Australian born, Greek blooded, lover of Jesus, activist, author and international speaker. She and her husband, Nick, founded the global anti-human trafficking organization, The A21 Campaign. They also founded Propel Women, an organization designed to activate women to fulfill their God-given passion, purpose, and potential. Christine is the author of six books including Unexpected, which we discuss in this episode.Don't miss this one. The topic is too important.Show Notes:Purchase Unexpected: Leave Fear Behind, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure by Christine Caine, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes that sweet, lovely, and wonderful baby carriage.Then comes our in-laws telling us how to parent.Then comes our parents spoiling our kids.Okay, so that may sound a bit dramatic. At least we hope so for your sake. Truthfully, we loved seeing our parents become grandparents. That doesn't mean we haven't had to figure things out along the way, sometimes with difficult conversations. But it does mean that our parents have our hearts. And because they have our hearts, they have incredible influence in how their grandkids are being raised.In this episode, we go behind the scenes to talk about our own relationship with our parents and how they grandparent our kids.We also discuss practical ways for unity and honor to be the soil for the intergenerational relationships in your family to flourish.Podcast Sponsors:
If parenting is difficult, single parenting is all the more unyielding and lonely. In this episode, we learn from someone walking the road of single parenting. Even more, she gives us insights into her own ministry to single moms in her church community. Nicole C. Mullen, a two time Grammy nominated recording artist and Female Vocalist of the Year Award winner, who is now a single mom of three, shares her story. Since her difficult divorce, she has emerged from a "night season" stronger than she's ever been before. Compiling her story into a new album fittingly titled, Like Never Before, Nicole shares how she had to learn to forgive and relates to those who have walked through betrayal and hurt. Church leaders, single parents, and families with single parent friends will find this episode incredibly insightful, practical, and inspiring! Show Notes: Be sure to check out more of Nicole's story at www.nicolecmullen.com. For Nicole C. Mullen's latest album Like Never Before, featuring her kids, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
Welcome to our third Q & A episode! As always, we're grateful for the opportunity to journey with you. Thank you for submitting your questions.In this episode, we address questions specifically related to parenting teenagers, dealing with respect, the reasons for increasing anxiety and depression in teens, and managing technology in the home.Here’s a review of the questions we discuss in this episode:What to do with a teen who is rude and disrespectful when spending too much time on technology. How to manage our own anxiety and depression and not pass it onto our children. Why anxiety and depression are increasing in kids and teens. When to say yes to our teens (so they can prove their trust to us) and when to say no (without overprotecting them). How to encourage our teenagers to be self-motivated.The questions:I am a Christian, and I struggle with anxiety and depression. I am going to counseling to work through these struggles, and my goal is to hopefully not pass them on to my children. Do you have any advice or resources you would recommend? - AshleyMy 15 year-old is rude when he spends too much time with his technology. My husband and I have set boundaries and he continues to break these boundaries. When we enforce consequences by taking his technology (all of it) away for periods of time, his attitude changes. However, this is a cyclical pattern that has been reoccuring for 2 years now. He uses his technology for good purposes. He's learning to speak 3 languages online. He's very bright, but sometimes his intelligence gives way to pride and disrespect. What advice can you offer us? -JenDepression in teenagers appears to be on the rise. What are the causes? How do we as parents help our teenager? -TeresaI have 2 teen girls. They have been raised in the church and learning God's word. Yet, they battle the temptations of this world via social media and public school life. I try to keep them centered on being in the world but not of the world. To rely on God's word and not the lies of the world. With that said, I struggle with how much slack I give to let them make--and learn--from their mistakes so they will be refined and grow, yet keep them from falling off the cliff (so to speak). Bottom line, as their guide, I struggle with when to speak up, put my foot down, say "NO," VERSUS when to be silent, say "YES," and trust them to make some decisions (even if I do not agree 100%) hoping they will learn as they go. -MichelleI have an adopted daughter age 14 and I feel that I have missed the mark on a few things. I need your help and would like a do-over on some things. For example technology, respect, and responsibility. I'm married to a wonderful man and we have to move forward and make some changes. -HelenaShow Notes:Parents --> This episode is super practical -> Episode #47: Screaming Data: How to Hear Your Kid's Passions and Strengths by Observing Their Actions with Frank TateThe Screen-Balanced Family Workbook (with included Family Media Agreement). Use code: JCPODCAST20 for 20% off. We appreciate you being an ongoing listener and journeying with us!Why Mister Rogers is Smarter Than Baby EinsteinPodcast Sponsors:To establish your family values we talk about in this episode, sign up for a free trial of 22:6 Parenting! Click here.
Entitlement, according to Dr. John Townsend, is "a belief that I am exempt from responsibility and that I am owed special treatment." Unfortunately, you don't have to look too far today to find entitled kids--and adults!As Dr. Townsend states, "This isn't a generational problem; it's a human problem."In this episode, Dr. Townsend helps parents learn how to not raise entitled kids. An incredibly practical discussion, you'll learn the three antidotes to entitlement and hear Dr. Townsend explain the following three ways to apply the antidote:Change your language Do hard things first Keep inconvenient commitmentsDr. Townsend encourages us, "Kids need to grow up at a dinner table where mom and dad are doing interesting things." Here's to being parents who take responsibility, live well, and show our kids how to be grateful.Show Notes:Learn from a Role Play Coach. Join TownsendNOW today!To learn more about Townsend Leadership Program, click here.Learn more about earning a Master's degree through the Townsend Institute. Click here.To purchase The Entitlement Cure by Dr. John Townsend, click here.Podcast Sponsors:
With Mother's Day just around the corner, we wanted to do something special for moms, so I (Christi) decided to host an online Bible study!The study is called Mom Set Free by our friend Jeannie Cunnion, it begins May 17, and it's good news for moms who are tired of trying to be good enough.We love Jeannie and wanted you to have a special opportunity to get to know and learn from her!This episode describes the details of the upcoming online Bible study and also includes our original interview with Jeannie where she talks about "wrestling with the wild grace of God," so she could learn to overcome shame and give grace to her kids in their weaknesses and brokenness.To learn more about the online Bible study and to sign up, click here!Show Notes:Click here to sign up for the FREE online Bible study.Have more questions? Check out the Online Bible Study FAQs.To pick up a copy of the Mom Set Free Bible study book, you can order online or pull off the shelf from your local LifeWay Store.
Does parenting sometimes feel complicated to you?You can't even leave the hospital before having to make a decision on whether or not you're going to immunize your child. Think about some of the other choices we have to make as parents in the twenty-first century. ~ “Is it okay that our baby sleep in bed with us?” ~ “Should we let our baby cry it out?” ~ “Is spanking okay? Or should we do time-outs?" ~ “How do I respond to a temper tantrum?” ~ “Wait, we're supposed to do time-ins? What's a time-in?" ~ “Should I stay home with the kids or put them in day care?” ~ “Should we homeschool or send our kids to a private or public school?” ~ “How much screen time do I let my kids have?” To be quite honest, we were exhausted. That's why we decided to start with the end in mind. With the outcomes we most desire in our kids when they become adults. What we found is that emotional safety—more than any other factor—is scientifically linked to raising kids who live, love, and lead well.In other words, the posture from which we parent matters infinitely more than the techniques of parenting. What is emotional safety?In this episode, we answer this question and discuss:The Golden Rule of relationships Four walls of a Safe House (exploration, protection, grace, truth) Four parenting styles (BFF, helicopter, boss, religious) How to lead in grace and follow up in truth as we discipline Why being a parent isn't rocket science; it's just brain surgery.Show Notes:To order Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well, click here!Interested in going through the 6-week DVD Safe House Parent Study with your spouse or church small group? Click here to learn more!Podcast Sponsors:For a FREE one month trial for 22:6 Parenting, click here.For more information on a LifeWay Women's event near you, click here!
In the spirit of interviewing people who influence us personally, this episode features marriage mentors of our own, David and Claudia Arp. Married for 55 years, their insights on marriage have influenced the types of conversations we have in our marriage today.In this episode, David and Claudia share the secrets that have kept them enjoying their marriage for more than five decades. In addition, they introduce us to their research based marriage program, 10 Great Dates!Here are some insights you'll hear from them in this episode:The story of their greatest period of emotional disconnection in their marriage (hint: it was when their kids were young!) How they overcame this season and the lessons they learned from it Why having fun in marriage is serious business The beauty of an anger contract How both spouses can be right Why it's important to walk down memory lane The amazing benefit of intimacy couponsFinally, we had the privilege of being a part of David and Claudia's updated 10 Great Dates curriculum. Be sure to check it out and watch our video journals. They were pretty epic :)Show Notes:Order the 10 Great Dates Book + Video Curriculum and Receive 20% off your order! COUPON CODE: together20Visit David and Claudia's website at 10GreatDates.org, click here.10 Great Dates: Connecting Faith, Love & MarriagePodcast Sponsors:For more information on upcoming LifeWay Women's events in your area, click here!To learn more about Exile International and how you can partner in restoring former child soldiers to become leaders for peace, click here!
Welcome to our second Q & A episode! Thank you for submitting your questions.In this episode, we address questions specifically related to marriage, sex, and what to do when you and your spouse are not on the same page.Here’s a review of the questions we discuss in this episode:How can I stop from feeling wrong and dirty about sex with my spouse? What do I do when my spouse isn't "on the same page." How can I encourage godliness in my son when his dad isn't actively growing in his faith? What is the best way to help our kids heal after years of marital turmoil we are now trying to fix?The questions:From Amanda: My husband and I have been married for about 4 1/2 years and have had sex about 4 times. Every time I begin to feel good I also feel incredibly wrong and dirty. I believe this may stem from my abstinence, true love waits upbringing, but in marriage it's now time to stop waiting. Mentally, I can grasp this concept but I'm having a hard time letting my body catch up. Are there any resources you can recommend to get past this mental block?From Amanda: How do I implement the great advice and tools you offer if my spouse is "not on the same page"?From Natalie: One of the best gifts that we can give our children is a strong spiritual marriage with our Lord Jesus Christ and our spouse. How do you recommend doing that when your spouse isn’t a strong believer and isn’t actively growing their faith but rather seems to be slipping down the trap doors Satan has planted. What are ways as a wife/mom to encourage godliness in our son when he isn’t seeing that in his earthly father and to encourage repentance in our husbands?From Tara: A question about family healing after turmoil. When a marriage has been through major turmoil or brokenness with many things said and did through anger, hurt, and regret, how do you heal the kids and the family unit once the marriage is piecing back together and healing. How do marital struggles affect the children? How can you help them heal when mom and dad feel they have caused damage with their own struggles in the marriage?Show Notes:For information related to sexual wholeness in marriage, you can visit our trusted friend and colleague's website, Dr. Doug Rosenau at www.sexualwholeness.com.A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Married Sexual Pleasure by Dr. Doug RoseneauIntended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage by Ed and Gaye WheatEnjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Joyce PennerMoving Mountains by John EldredgeBlogpost: 5 Rules that Ruin Families by Dr. Eric ScaliseBlogpost: 5 Ways to Change Your Spouse by Dr. Joshua StraubPodcast Sponsors:Sign up for FREE one month trial today! Visit 226parenting.com.
The resurrection of Jesus changed everything. But how do we help our kids understand the resurrection in a concrete way? How can we communicate to our kids the power that Christ has in our life?Don't get us wrong, we love chocolate and Easter eggs, but how can we make sure Easter isn't just another holiday for our kids.In this episode, we clarify four ways we can turn the abstract message of the resurrection into a concrete message our kids can begin to understand.Live out the resurrection for our kids. Use resurrection eggs. Raise caterpillars. This is our favorite. Die to something that has power over you.Being families who live, love, and lead well begins with the resurrection. Let's not allow Easter to slip by as just another holiday. Instead, let's be intentional about walking daily in the authority and resurrection of Jesus. Our kids are watching, and always learning.Show Notes:To purchase Resurrection Eggs, click here.To purchase caterpillars, click here.For the blogpost, How I'm Dying in my Marriage & Why That's a Good Thing, click here.Sponsors:To learn more about Exile International and how you can partner in restoring former child soldiers to become leaders for peace, click here!For more information on upcoming LifeWay Women's events in your area, click here!
If you love stories that lead to practical truths, this episode is for you! Frank Tate is one of Josh's closest friends on the planet. Even more, his insights as a dad have revolutionized the way we parent our kids.Growing up as a foster kid, Frank came to know "invisible Jesus" as his dad. During that time, Frank began asking Him what good dads do. Then, in Sunday School as a little boy, Frank remembers learning that wisdom cries aloud in the streets (Proverbs 1:20). With this newfound truth, Frank ventured into the world looking for "screaming data" on what it takes to be a good dad, because he never wanted his own children growing up the way he did.The "screaming data" Frank learned through the years and the stories he tells will leave you wanting more. One of the most invaluable truths Frank discusses is that, as parents, we can't hear screaming data if we're screaming data. Too often, we don't listen to our kids' passions or see their strengths. That's because we're too busy trying to make them into the people we want them to become.In his upcoming book, Foster Kid, Frank tells his riveting story and leaves behind nuggets of wisdom he's picked up from the screaming data of raising his own two kids. Here's a few nuggets he discusses with us in this episode:How to listen to your kids' screaming data Why parents should be editors, not authors How to avoid GPS (Generational Peer Stress) Parenting What "goodwill shaming" is and why we do it Why you should give data-based praise How to champion your child's inner genius (and potentially save lots of money on a college education)If there is one episode that will change how you think about parenting, this is that episode.Show Notes:To stay up-to-date on the progress of the Foster Kid book, click here.Visit fosterkidbook.com to sign up for updates.Podcast Sponsors:Sign up today for a FREE one month trial of 22:6 Parenting! Click here to learn more.
Jonathan and Wynter Pitts have four beautiful girls. At one point, three of them were in diapers at the same time. As you can imagine, Wynter was overwhelmed. But in the middle of the exhaustion and discontentment, she found purpose and contentment. During this time, the Lord revealed to her a need he wanted her to fill for girls in today’s culture.Today, she leads a ministry called For Girls Like You, a magazine for girls that unravels the heart of God for them. Her passion for raising girls who find their identity in Christ is contagious.In this episode, Wynter, along with her husband Jonathan, who serves as Executive Director for the Urban Alternative (the ministry of Dr. Tony Evans), describe practical ways they shepherd the hearts of their girls.Fellow dads, you also want to listen to what Jonathan has to share. The conversation in this episode is so rich and applicable to each of us, but to dads especially, Jonathan will encourage you.Here are a few highlights from this episode:How to see the art of parenting as Kingdom work What it means to invite our kids into our world How to strive for presence, not perfection Why we need to give our kids more credit The power of turning things outward for our kids The difference between good intentions and intentionalityYou cannot listen to Jonathan + Wynter without one of their many insights sticking on you. As they state, “The degree we reflect Christ as parents is the degree to which our kids will see Christ.”Show Notes:Visit For Girls Like You and subscribe to the quarterly magazine, click here!Click here to purchase She is Yours by Jonathan + Wynter PittsPodcast Sponsors:To find a LifeWay Women event near you, click here!We would absolutely LOVE to have you join the 22:6 Parenting Community! Click here to learn more.
This is our first Q & A episode! Thank you for submitting your questions.In this episode, we address questions specifically related to parenting young children.Here's a review of the questions we discuss in this episode:What are good, practical survival tips for our marriage? How do I hit the reset button after blowing up at my kids? I struggle with setting limits on technology. I'm a single mom and I'm all alone.The questions:From Jody: In September, we will be welcoming into the world our fourth child in 5 years. We are very excited. But it is definitely tough because we have zero help from grandparents and are on our own. What are some good practical survival tips for our marriage in this season to keep it "till death do us part and not till kids do us part?"From Jenny: Two sick toddlers + one sick mommy = a terrible, horrible morning today. After the dust settles though, how do I come back from that? My kids recover more quickly than I do. How do I hit the reset button after blowing up at my kids and show them patience and love again, without needing to take a break from them?From Jenny: I have a three-year-old and struggle with setting limits on technology but also allowing her to explore technology. I don't want her left behind with knowing how to use it but I want her to be a kid and learn how to be independent of it. I struggle with the balance.From Kerry: I'm a single mom. My boyfriend left when I was 3.5 months pregnant. I've now been on my own for the past six years. I am all alone. What can I do? I'm missing the conversation with an adult. I read books, I read the Bible, but I miss socializing with friends. I go to church, but the church is so big. I don't particularly like hanging out with other couples with kids. I do sometimes and the dads try to include my daughter in wrestling, etc. but it's just not the same. Help?Podcast Sponsors:For LifeWay Women events in your area, featuring Beth Moore, Priscilla Shirer, and more, click here!
Jamie Ivey's Happy Hour podcast was Christi's gateway drug into the podcastosphere. So you can imagine what a joy it was to have Jamie, and her husband Aaron, join us on our podcast.We love these two human souls because they embody healthy authenticity. Jamie's new book is called If You Only Knew: My Unlikely, Unavoidable Story of Becoming Free. The title itself is a fitting description of our conversation. As parents to four children, Jamie and Aaron have navigated ministry, marriage, and adoption. Once Jamie navigated her way through her own story, finding identity in Christ, she became free to lead--as a wife, as a mom, and as a successful podcaster.And that's what you hear throughout the interview: a message of freedom. Jamie and Aaron give us the permission to tell our stories and the importance of doing so for our family. So we can champion our marriage. Get rid of shame as a mom. Be present as a dad.So many of us want rid of the nagging feeling of shame. We desire vulnerability. Jamie and Aaron share how they found it, and lead boldly because of their identity in Christ.Show Notes:Check out Jamie and Aaron's book and Jamie's podcast below.If You Only Knew: My Unlikely, Unavoidable Story of Becoming Free by Jamie IveySteal Away Home by Matt Carter & Aaron IveyThe Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey PodcastSponsors:Forcefield: The best parental control software on the market. Become a digital mentor to your kids. Click here for a FREE 30 day trial!22:6 Parenting: A parenting community designed to give you more confidence as a parent. Click here to learn more about 22:6 Parenting.
Why is it that our natural tendency is to become hard and insensitive toward the person we love the most? Rather than being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry (James 1:19), we're quick to defend ourselves, quick to cast blame, and slow to understand—a recipe that keeps us enslaved to self-righteousness, and too often, unable to forgive.In this episode, we talk about 5 ways you can create a culture of forgiveness in your marriage:Forgive from the heart but set boundaries on behavior. Don't defend yourself. Clothe yourself in gentleness, because bitterness is unattractive. Pray this one prayer each day for your spouse. Take the Golden Rule and replace the word "do" with the word "understand."We also reveal the first three actions we give to a couple who call us because they feel stuck in their marriage. If you feel stuck, forgiveness may be the first place to begin.Show Notes:For counseling referrals in your local area, enter your zip code in one of the links below:Focus on the Family Counselor NetworkAmerican Association of Christian CounselorsThriveworksBlog Post: How 15 Minutes Is Changing Our MarriagePodcast Sponsors:LifeWay Women Events. For the latest events in your area, click here.Exile International. To learn more about how you can serve war affected children, click here.
We asked families in our 22:6 Parenting audience this one question: What’s your #1 struggle as a parent? We had over 700 responses.Last week we covered struggles 6-10. In part 2, we talk about the top 5 struggles of today's parents. We also offer some practical insights on how we can overcome these struggles.In this episode, we talk about the top 5 struggles:5. How do I disciple my kids?4. I lose my patience.3. I feel inadequate.2. How can I get my kids to obey? (Discipline)1. There's not enough time.Also, we invite YOU to ask us questions and be on the podcast. We will have Q&A episodes this season. Just click here to ask your questions or submit your topic.Show Notes:Be on the podcast! Submit your question / topic here!Christi's article: A Shame-Free Approach to Teaching our Kids About Jesus written by Christi StraubSafe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead WellOther books mentioned in this episode:Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene BrownMindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
Welcome to season 3!Last month, we asked families in our 22:6 Parenting audience this one question: What’s your #1 struggle as a parent? We had over 700 responses. Trust us when we say, you’re not alone.In the first two episodes of season 3 we talk about the top 10 struggles of today's parents. We also offer some practical insights on how we can overcome these struggles.In this episode, we talk about struggles 6-10:10. Single parenting9. Technology8. Raising kids to be independent7. Communication6. RespectFinally, in season 3, we are going to focus on topics YOU deal with in your family. That's why we want to invite YOU to ask us questions and be on the podcast. We will have Q&A episodes this season as well. Just click here to ask your questions or submit your topic.Show Notes:Be on the podcast! Submit your question / topic here!You can download the electronic nuptial agreement by clicking here.You can also check out The Screen-Balanced Family workbook and digital video series written and produced by Josh + Christi. Click here for the videos + workbook ($29.97).Click here for just the workbook ($14.97).
Welcome to our 40th episode!What an incredible and fun year it's been for the podcast.Having not yet been at this a year, we have learned a lot from each of you. Thank you for becoming a part of our family and making this journey so enjoyable.We thought it would be fitting to close out season 2 by talking about ways we can prioritize our family in the New Year. As the saying goes, "The days are long, but the years are short."In this episode, we light-heartedly go behind our own crooked picture frame to discuss how we have prioritized--or failed at prioritizing--one another. Throughout the discussion, we also offer practical ways you can have fun with your spouse and make memories with your children in the New Year. In addition, we offer tons of bonuses in the show notes to help you get started.As a fun addition for season 3, we will have specific episodes where we answer listener questions. Therefore, we invite you to ask questions, give us feedback on topics you'd like to hear about, and share the podcast with your friends and family.It is an honor being in this with you!Show Notes:Receive 20% off The Screen-Balanced Family Digital Videos and Workbook when you use the code: JCPODCAST.Sign up to receive 40 Date Night Ideas + 216 Questions. Click here.To download FREE the 100 Commonly Held Values List, click here.To download FREE the Marital Electronic Nuptial Agreement, click here.Podcast Sponsors:Become a digital mentor to your kids. Try Forcefield FREE for 30 days. Click here to learn more.We would LOVE to have you join our 22:6 Parenting Community! Get monthly discipleship tools, coaching, and a community of like-minded parents. To learn more, click here!
When is the last time you and your spouse argued about being too busy? Or maybe you didn't argue. Perhaps the busyness meant you just passed one another by, like ships in the night. That's how overcommitment usually begins in our home. It's not until we feel the stress of trying to manage it all that we begin to argue. That's when we "see" one another floating by.Let's face it, overcommitment is plaguing today's families. Unfortunately, the first casualty is usually our marriage. Whether it's finances, work, kid's school activities, or even church, we all feel stretched. Without intentionality, our family life will simply go wherever the winds take it.That's why we decided to make this episode a special one!We were invited to talk about overcommitment in marriage as a part of "marriage week" on Dr. James Dobson's Family Talk. This is a conversation we want to invite you in on, especially with the demands of the holiday season upon us.Our hope is that after you listen, you and your spouse are able to recognize and talk more openly about when saying yes is adding too much stress.Podcast Sponsors:Become a digital mentor to your kids today. Try Forcefield FREE for 30 days. Click here.Struggle with finding time to disciple your kids? 22:6 Parenting gives you the tools you need without adding anything to your already busy day. Click here to subscribe today!
There is nothing we want more than to experience the joy of Christmas. Unfortunately, Christmas can leave our time feeling pressed and our wallets stressed. In addition, the holiday also brings along with it some baggage, especially when it comes to our children and the traditions we hold dear.In this episode, we go behind the lens of our own crooked picture frame to discuss some Christmas hot topics. We tell stories about how we were raised and what we implement today in our own family. We also discuss topics like:Is my gift-giving out of control? What does an entitled child look like? Is it okay to lie to my kids about Santa Claus? What will my kids really remember about Christmas? How can we truly make it about Jesus' birth? Is the attitude I'm modeling for my kids at the holidays one of gratitude or grumbling? What role do traditions play in our family?As you listen to this episode, think about your own family traditions, values, and what you model for and teach your kids. And be sure to engage the conversation. Tell us stories from your own picture frame. We love learning from you.Podcast Sponsors:If you buy screens at Christmas, consider a 30-day FREE trial of Forcefield. Click here to learn more about becoming a digital mentor to your kids.To make the most of the time you have with your kids with creative discipleship tools, subscribe today to the 22:6 Parenting community!
Over one-third of Americans live in, or are a part of, a blended family. So many questions abound for stepparents. Fortunately, in this week's episode, our dear friend and expert on blended families, Ron Deal, answers many of these questions.Ron serves as Director of Family Life Blended and is the author of The Smart Stepfamily, The Smart Stepmom, The Smart Stepfamily Marriage, and The Smart Stepdad. After listening to this episode, you'll realize he's smart too. What's even better, his approach to blended families is honest, but full of grace. He answers questions like:What does the Bible say about stepfamilies? I'm trying to instill good values with my kids but my ex-spouse doesn't. How do I handle that? What do I tell my kids when they have a new aunt, uncle, grandparent, etc. How do we deal with loss during the holidays in our family? We just divorced and now we are both getting remarried. What do we tell our kids to call our new spouses? How do we decide whose house to go to for the holidays? And many more!This episode is rich and full of wisdom. If you live in a blended family, grew up in a blended family, or are now raising kids in a blended family, Ron will bless you.Show Notes:For more information including articles and links to Family Life Blended events, click here.To purchase The Smart StepFamily, click here.For the article, 13 Ideas to Manage Holiday Step-Stress, click here.Podcast Sponsors:A Parenting Community for Busy Parents. Click here for more information.Forcefield: For a FREE 30-Day Trial, click here.
Cooler weather. Peppermint mochas. Hallmark movies. The holidays. For many, it’s wonderful. For others, this time of year can be quite chaotic. The pressure of figuring out what to buy. Making travel arrangements. Deciding which family members to spend the holidays with.We try—emphasis on “try”—to talk about the upcoming holidays ahead of time. We pray and think through how we can make the most of it as a family. Having little kids can make it a bit more chaotic for us, but it can also make it a lot more precious too.What #TeamStraub has found out is that, without a plan, it’s too easy to allow the chaos and busyness to rob us from being truly present with those we love most, especially one another.In this week's episode, we talk through the acronym E.N.J.O.Y.I.N.G., and discuss eight proactive ways we can enjoy the upcoming holiday season as family. Some of the topics we discuss include:When and how to say "no" How to navigate Christmas gatherings with extended family Ways we can be proactive with potentially awkward family interactions How to simplify our lives Ways to take care of yourself during the holidaysShow Notes:Podcast Exclusive Offer: Sign up and receive the 25 Characters of the Christmas Story: An Advent Experience for Families, in your inbox each day beginning December 1st! Click here to sign up.Podcast Sponsors:Click here to join 22:6 Parenting! We'd love to journey with you!To become a digital mentor to your kids, try Forcefield FREE for 30 days! Click here to learn more.
Do you sometimes feel like you live in a fishbowl? Especially as a parent of young kids, your every move feeling scrutinized by glaring eyes in the grocery store. Or your teenager's every post on social media a reflection of how you parent?For many of us, the peanut gallery just adds insult to injury. We don't need the added pressure of the critics or the perfect family on social media to feel like we're not living up to the expectations we have of ourselves. One person who lives with these feelings heightened to the nth degree is our friend and America's beloved "DJ Tanner," Candace Cameron Bure.In spite of living in the fishbowl of Hollywood, Candace lives, loves, and leads with a confidence so many admire. In this episode, she graciously invites us behind the picture frame of her own family. With candor, Candace describes how she filters out the noise of the critics and who she allows to have access to her heart.Based on her new book, Staying Stylish: Cultivating a Confident Look, Style, and Attitude, Candace talks about how she cultivates confidence. However, as you'll learn, this didn't happen overnight. Candace details for us:What she learned living "in the invisible" as a stay-at-home mom for 10 years while her kids were little How she decides who can have access to her heart Why it's important for moms and wives to feel good about themselves (and their style) and how to do it How she and her husband, Val, navigate raising three teenagers in a social media driven world The single biggest factor for her in maintaining confidence as a wife, mom, and actorShow Notes:To preorder Staying Stylish: Cultivating a Confident Look, Style, and Attitude, click here.Podcast Sponsors:22:6 Parenting--Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right.
Nobody can really prepare us for the chaos, unpredictability, and self-imposed guilt that accompany becoming a parent. Well-intentioned people may try to prepare you for the sleepless nights, colic, and grocery store tantrums, but let’s be honest, you can’t really be prepared until you encounter them.Instead, it was something subtler, yet much deeper, that nearly took me (Christi) out as a momma. Something nobody else warned me about—I lost my identity.In this episode, we talk about what taking care of ourselves as parents looks like from our own picture frame. Rather than remaining stuck in the ongoing cycle of guilt, shame and feelings of depression, together, we are finding a way out. The reason this is so important to us is because research consistently shows that it's not necessarily what we know about parenting that matters most for how our kids turn out, but who we are becoming as adults.If you too have lost yourself in parenting, this is a conversation we think you’ll find quite refreshing. We not only share our own journey, but we offer realistic and practical ways we can all come alive and rediscover ourselves, even in the midst of parenthood. Because the reality is: the healthier we are, the healthier our kids will be.Show Notes:For the FREE PDF Download: 7 Ways to Disciple Your Kids, click here.For Christi's blogpost, 11 Ways to Reclaim Yourself in the Midst of Parenthood, click here.For the book, The Slight Edge, click here.Podcast Sponsors:22:6 Parenting--Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right.
Education is one of the most challenging topics for many parents. Do we homeschool our kids? Is it okay to send them to public school? Or should we invest in private school?What about a parent's role in their child's education? How much responsibility should we shoulder versus the school itself?These are questions we tackle in this episode with Mr. Stuart Tutler, the Headmaster of New Hope Academy in Franklin, TN.We describe Mr. Tutler as a student of pedagogy. He has a passion for learning about the methods of teaching. In other words, in this episode, Mr. Tutler shares with us what he's learning to be the best ways to teach kids.Encouraging parents, he answers for us a few questions:Who's responsible for a child's education? How important is it that my child gets good grades? What is the role of experience in a child's education? How do we navigate the private, homeschool, or public school discussion? Why and how should we emphasize wellness (i.e. nutrition, movement, rest, etc.) in our child's education? How can we educate our children--and ourselves--about the history and issues related to both racial reconciliation and empowering the poor?Speaking of these latter two topics, one of the reasons we love New Hope Academy is because they are committed to providing an excellent, Christ-centered education to all students while intentionally reserving 40 to 50 percent of their seats for children from low-income households. With an emphasis on economic and racial diversity, the heart is to teach kids to love all people.Our discussion in this episode ends with ways we as parents can help our children do just that. No matter your choice of schooling, this is a conversation you won't want to miss.Show Notes:For more information about New Hope Academy, click here.Podcast Sponsors:22:6 Parenting--Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right.
For parents in the trenches of the early years, this interview is for you. The heart of our conversation with Christy and Nathan Nockels is the story behind their new lullaby album. The reason we were drawn to the story is because we have played Scripture lullabies in our children's bedrooms from the time they were infants. Ironically, as you'll learn, this album was birthed in the early years of Christy and Nathan's journey as parents.Christy Nockels is a worship leader / singer-songwriter. Her husband, Nathan, is a producer (Passion, Matt Redman, Laura Story). Together, they have three beautiful children.Christy and Nathan toured for several years as the duo Watermark. Today, Christy is a GMA Dove Award winner and podcaster. Her own podcast, The Glorious in the Mundane, came from her own journey as a mom. She shares her journey in this episode.Even more, Nathan shares how he championed Christy's creativity and career from behind the scenes. Truly, the conversation on marriage in this episode, especially for husbands, is so rich. These two not only talk about how they champion one another, but how they have championed their children's gifts and strengths through the years. Our favorite song on the lullaby album, Pitter Patter Goes the Rain, includes all five of the Nockels' family.In the end, they give us hope that we don't just have to survive the early years, but together, as a team, we can thrive there.Show Notes:Podcast Sponsors:TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Community. Content. Coaching.Forcefield: Become a digital mentor to your kids.
Our affectionally labeled "resident child therapists," David Thomas and Sissy Goff are back on the podcast! In season 1, David and Sissy joined us to talk about the emotional milestones of boys and girls. Now that school is in full session, we talk with them about social milestones. Respectively, Sissy eloquently describes how girls can develop socially, and David describes what it takes to help boys do the same.The four core social milestones include: awareness, reciprocity, ownership, and boundaries. In this episode, David and Sissy talk about the milestones, and also give us very practical ways we can help our boys and girls, respectively, reach these milestones. Fortunately, they also counsel us a bit with our kids. Christi took copious notes.David and Sissy are licensed counselors and serve at Daystar Counseling in Nashville. Along with Daystar’s founder, Melissa Trevethan, they host a website of helpful resources for parents called Raising Boys and Girls.Show Notes:For the book, Are My Kids on Track? click here.For David's book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, click here.www.RaisingBoysandGirls.comPodcast Sponsors:
We want to ask an honest question: Are you the master of your screen, or is your screen the master of you? Nobody doubts the pervasiveness of screens in our culture today, especially among kids and teens. But when was the last time you stopped and truly asked yourself, "What, about my screen, do I accept without question?"Don't misunderstand us, we don't believe screens are all bad. We just want to be honest with ourselves. And after listening to our conversation in this episode, we hope you'll do the same. Because as research is showing, the subtle lies we have come to believe about our screens may be changing us in ways we never expected.Show Notes:The Death of Reading is Threatening the Soul by Phillip YanceyHave Smart Phones Destroyed a Generation by Dr. Jean TwengeiGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy--and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood--and What That Means for the Rest of Us by Dr. Jean TwengeThe Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to our Brains by Nicholas CarrPodcast Sponsors:TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersJoin exclusively for a limited time ONLY between now and September 30!
Our guest this week is singer and songwriter, Matthew West. Matthew just released a brand new album called "All In." When we heard about Matthew's heart behind the album, we knew we had to interview him.Most noteworthy, our conversation centers around a song on the album called, "The Beautiful Things We Miss." If you listen to our podcast, you can already tell where this is going.As a self-described "professional Christian," West knows how easy it can be to coast, to pretend his spiritual life is in a better place than it actually is.“That’s a dangerous place to be,” he says. “That’s what the Bible talks about. Being lukewarm. So I’ve had this idea that I want to be all in like never before. I want to be all in with the songs that I write, I want to be all in with my time with the Lord, I want to be all in with my wife, I want to be all in with my relationship with my daughters.”As a husband, dad, and "professional Christian," Matthew takes us behind his crooked picture frame, and tells us what it means for him to be "all in." As you listen to this episode, may you ponder these lyrics:Open up my eyes, Lord Keep me in the moment just like this Before the beautiful things we love Become the beautiful things we missShow notes:Matthew West's album, ALL INPodcast Sponsors:TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.
Don't let the title of this episode fool you. Yes, Jeannie Cunnion's message is helping moms find relief from the pressure to get it all right (i.e. be perfect). But this conversation is for all parents. If you need to experience the grace and gentleness of Jesus today as a mom or dad, this episode is for you. Jeannie's words are salve to the exhausted parent. You don't need to listen long before you realize Jeannie really "wrestles with the wild grace of God."We had the privilege of meeting Jeannie through this episode. Since then, her words have penetrated our home and how we show Jesus to our kids. Jeannie is a wife and mom of four fun boys. Her unique message of God's grace is so refreshing.In Jeannie's words, "I spent the first many years of parenting believing that I had to be a perfect example for my kids to follow and worrying that their entire futures were riding on my ability to perfectly orchestrate their lives. My goal was to make very few mistakes and have very little regret. You can probably guess how that turned out. The shame I felt from the mistakes I made was real. And because I wasn't accepting God's grace for me in all of my weaknesses and brokenness, I struggled to give grace to my kids in their weaknesses and brokenness."But Jesus. Yes, but Jesus. This conversation helps all of us wrestle with and apply the grace of Jesus in our homes.Show Notes:Jeannie Cunnion's blog and website, click here.Mom Set Free Book by Jeannie CunnionMom Set Free Bible Study Launch November 1. For more information, click here.Podcast Sponsors:TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.
Our guest this week is Ian Morgan Cron. We invited him on the podcast because nothing has been as significant as the Enneagram in taking our marriage to the next level.What is the Enneagram? Personally, we have been busting at the seams to introduce you to it. But nobody can explain the Enneagram the way Ian can. In this episode, Ian graciously joins us to explain all nine types.As you'll learn, and unlike all other personality tools, the beauty of the Enneagram is that it doesn't just show who you are, it shows you who you could be. When you become aware not just of your behaviors, but the underlying motivations behind your behaviors, it changes the view you have of yourself.Subsequently, we unlock barriers to living fully alive. Not only that, it changes the view you have of your spouse as well. That's why Christi and I also go behind our picture frame to share stories about how the Enneagram has helped us to understand ourselves, and one another, at a much deeper level.We hope this episode leads you on a deeper journey toward intimacy with one another, and ultimately toward your relationship with Jesus.Show Notes:To purchase The Road Back to You Book, click here.For The Road Back to You Podcast, click here.Check out Ian's NEW podcast, Typology.You can also take his Enneagram assessment by clicking here.Podcast Sponsors:Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others
Have you given thought to what it means to be human? Think about what makes you--and your kids--truly come alive. Perhaps not surprisingly, those moments rarely happen on a screen.This summer we challenged ourselves to embrace more of what it means to be human. We took our kids camping. Gave away items to those in need. Went on adventures. Completed projects with our hands. And in so doing, we discovered five ways we can teach our kids to be human.In this episode, we tell stories from behind our picture frame and use examples from our journey this past summer. We also talk through the five ways we can show our kids what it means to be human. Full of stories and practical application, it was one of our favorite episodes to record together.Show Notes:Feelings Chart FREE DownloadPodcast Sponsors:Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersJoin exclusively for a limited time ONLY between now and September 30!
Do you struggle finding time for those you love most? Does busyness tend to disconnect you from the heart of your spouse?In this episode, we affectionately adopt new "podcast parents," Rodney + Selma Wilson. They join us to explain the secret behind how they can still look at one another like teenagers in love, after 40+ years.Now grandparents, they talk about how they see parenting differently today than when they were raising their daughters. The wisdom and encouragement Rodney and Selma share in this episode comes purely from their experience of loving people so well.At LifeWay, Selma Wilson serves as VP of Organizational Development and Chief People Officer. Cool title, right? She's also a cheerleader for moms! Her husband, Rodney, is an Associate Pastor and Marriage and Family Counselor. He doesn't consider himself a cheerleader (bye, bye pompoms), but he is an encourager.You are in for a dose of wisdom. Some highlights include:How to prioritize your marriage for your kids The images we can etch into our kids' minds for a spiritual legacy How to look at life in seasons The one perspective that helps moms move from surviving the trenches to enjoying motherhoodAll in all, the primary theme is about guarding our time and our hearts.Show Notes:Check out Selma's blog and podcast, Selma on Leadership.Podcast Sponsors:Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others
If you listen to the podcast, you know every conversation we have is centered on being a generation of families who live, love, and lead well. This week's guests, Louie and Shelley Giglio, epitomize this vision.Louie is pastor of Passion City Church and founder of the Passion movement, which exists to call a generation to leverage their lives for the fame of Jesus. Since 1997, Passion has united millions of students in worship, prayer, and justice.Not only did Louie join us, we got the inside scoop from behind their picture frame from his wife, Shelley. Together, Louie and Shelley lead the teams at Passion City Church, sixstepsrecords, and the Passion Global Institute. Shelley is chief strategist, director of label operations and artist management at sixstepsrecords.Not surprisingly, Louie and Shelley walked down a difficult road a few years ago. Remember, everyone of us has a picture frame. And every one of us have Goliath's we fight in our families. Fear. Rejection. Addiction. Anger. Comfort. Louie and Shelley share with us about the Goliath Louie had to fight a few years ago. Some of richest part of this conversation include the ways Shelley supported and championed Louie through it.There's a reason these two have the favor of God on their lives. You'll hear it in this episode.Show Notes and Sponsors:Goliath Must Fall by Louie GiglioTwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.
Today's episode is a continuation of last week's conversation for Dads. This week, however, we talk to Moms. But that doesn't leave husbands off the hook. Guys, it's imperative you join the conversation. Without your input, it's hard for your wife to know what motivates you to pursue her.To reemphasize, our conversation in this episode comes from our own crooked picture frame. Our story is not your story. My (Josh) needs may be different than those of other husbands. However, we hope this conversation is what you and your spouse need to talk deeper about your own relationship and how you can better support one another--especially when the going gets tough.Once again, based on a blog post I (Josh) wrote, we talk about the valuable lessons we continue to learn as it relates to connecting deeper in our marriage, particularly after kids.Let us hear from you. Join the conversation with us and share the lessons you are learning from your own picture frame.Show Notes and Podcast Sponsors:TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.
Today's episode is a conversation for Dads. Okay, so wives will appreciate it too. Peaking behind our own picture frame, we begin with a story about how we began to emotionally disconnect in our marriage after our kids entered the world (i.e. invaded our home).Don't get us wrong, we love our children dearly. But nothing challenged our marriage more than having two kids less than two years apart. Even more, it impacted Christi's identity. But in the moment, she was unable to put words to that. As I left for work each day, she stayed in between the four walls of our home. Eventually, as she describes it, she was on "the bottom rung of life."Based on a blog post I (Josh) wrote that continues to resonate with many, we talk about the valuable lesson we learned on connecting deeper in our marriage, after kids.This conversation is certainly not exhaustive, nor does it represent the feelings of every woman. However, we hope it opens the door for wives to voice what they really need, and for husbands to empathetically understand and offer support.Let us hear from you. Join the conversation with us and share the lessons you are learning from your own picture frame.Show Notes and Podcast Sponsors:TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.
Part of the vision of In This Together with Dr. Josh + Christi is to be a podcast where we interview guests to discover how their stories can give us insight on becoming families who live, love, and lead well. Today's guest is the epitome of what it means to live a great story.Rarely are the terms hilarious storyteller and theological scholar used in the same sentence, much less used to describe the same person. But then again, Lisa Harper is anything but stereotypical! Listen for a few minutes and you'll see why.Lisa a gem. In this episode, she shares her journey with adoption, losing two, before adopting her precious daughter, Missy.In addition, Lisa hilariously, yet truthfully, gives us incredibly practical advice on living happy. And no it's not sinful to be happy. In fact, Jesus teaches about it. Lisa encourages exhausted moms, single parents, and families in the trenches. She even lovingly calls us out as parents (hint: we do trauma, but we don't do drama).You'll hear Lisa's heart behind her latest book, The Sacrament of Happy: What a Smiling God Brings to Wounded World. Be prepared to laugh and walk away feeling less guilty, and more inspired, about your parenting.Show Notes and Podcast Sponsors:The Sacrament of Happy by Lisa HarperTwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love OthersForcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.
Our guests this week are two of our favorite people. We believe they will fast become two of your favorite people as well.Licensed counselors Sissy Goff and David Thomas serve at Daystar Counseling in Nashville. Along with Daystar's founder, Melissa Trevethan, they host a website of helpful resources for parents called Raising Boys and Girls.In this episode, Sissy, who serves as Director of Child & Adolescent Counseling, talks about the increasing anxiety in today's culture. Particularly, she shares stories of how anxiety is impacting girl's development.In addition, David, who serves as Director of Family Counseling, talks about boys and anger. David and Sissy, with their decades of counseling experience, provide very practical ways we can help our kids best channel their negative emotions.Based on their new book, Are My Kids on Track?, you'll learn about the emotional, social, and spiritual milestones of your kids. Personally, this is a book I devoured.Show Notes:For the book, Are My Kids on Track? click here.
Our guest is best-selling author, pediatrician, mother, and grandmother Dr. Meg Meeker. Even more, she is a mentor and dear friend to us.This is a super fun episode! One I personally love because she hones in on what Christi is doing wrong in our marriage. Seriously, the advice on marriage is epic for both husbands and wives.And, we talk about Dr. Meeker's latest book Hero: Being the Strong Father Your Children Need.Here are a few highlights from our time together:Meg tells the story of how she and her husband, Walt, both finished medical school with young kids. How Meg undermined and blamed her husband, and how it created chaos for their family. Why she believes wives are trained to think this way about their husbands--and the one thing wives can do to make it right. The reason she came to deeply respect her husband--and the one way husbands can get their wives to respect them. How dads can see who they are from behind their child's eyes. How fathers have everything they already need to be great dads. Why kids define the word "hero" with dad.Show Notes:For a fantastic Father's Day gift idea, check out Dr. Meeker's brand new book, Hero: Being the Strong Father Your Children Need.You can also check out Dr. Meeker's Parenting Great Kids podcast by clicking here.
We all have a lot to learn from the sacrifice of those who serve in the military. In this episode, we learn from a couple, married more than 30 years, who served active duty. But even more, Wes Crawford, a military analyst, and his wife Wanda, a social worker for Special Operations continue to serve in the trenches with military families day in and day out. We are excited to introduce you to Team Crawford!In this episode, Wes and Wanda teach us the secrets to what kept them fighting for each other. We also learn how they prioritized the mission, no matter the season of life they were in. One of our greatest takeaways was what to do when the mission requires us to focus on other priorities. Especially when that mission requires us to be separated from one another. Whether it's her focus on the new-born baby, or his focus at work, we can always fight as a team.In honor of all military families, we salute you. To those who paid the ultimate sacrifice, we remember you. May we all learn from and honor our fellow military families.
Anxiety in kids is increasing in epidemic proportions, particularly in the past three years. Not only that, anxiety has a trickle down effect on kids. In fact, one research study shows that—only behind love and affection—that a parent’s ability to manage their own stress is the second most effective parenting strategy for getting the outcomes we desire most in our kids.We have had our own run-ins with anxiety just in the past few weeks. In this episode, we tell stories from our own journey. We also describe three practical ways you can help your kids when they get anxious.Show Notes:This month we’re launching TwentyTwoSix parenting, an online community for parents to disciple their kids based on Proverbs 22:6. Each month we focus on a mile marker to lead our kids in the way they should go. July’s mile marker provides content and coaching on this topic: Fear Not: Building Confidence in our Kids. Click here to reserve your spot before May 26, 2017!
Our guests this week are none other than Bob and sweet Maria Goff. One word defines these two: LOVE. Get a pen and paper. Prepare to laugh. And especially ready yourself to learn super fun and creative ways to instill love in your own home. If there's anyone we want to be like one day (apart from Jesus, of course) it's these two.Oh yeah, and find out why Christi is buying a "Help Wanted Sign," a tiny stuffed koala bear, and a pole. Our own parenting journey is about to get more fun!Show Notes:For more information on Sweet Maria's book, click here.To purchase Love Lives Here, click here.
So often we feel alone as parents. But we aren't supposed to do it alone. Raising kids who love God and love others doesn't have to be filled with shame. We don't have to fear that we're somehow messing them up. In this episode, we break down Proverbs 22:6, and how we can raise our children "in the way."Leading our children in "the way," is about the environment we raise them in. Consequently, we created a community called TwentyTwoSix. A way to connect with our kids at a heart level. Without needing to add anything more to our already busy day, we lay out content for the four key times of the day prescribed by Moses--morning prayers, drive-time games, dinnertime stories, and bedtime questions.In this episode, we also talk about the monthly mile-markers--a new character trait or life skill necessary for our kids to grow in emotional and spiritual maturity.Though parenting isn't easy, we believe doing it together can make it simpler. That's what this community is all about.Show Notes:Click here to sign up for the FREE video series, The Three Most Important Lessons We Can Teach Our Kids, beginning Wednesday, May 3.For more information, visit www.226parenting.com.
We all want to win our children's hearts. Even more, we want them to give their hearts to Jesus. Unfortunately, there's no surefire way to get our kids to make the right decisions. However, there is one primary posture we can take as parents that increases the chances of influencing their hearts--and having them call us when they're out of the house :)In this episode, we discuss five critical moments—in discipline, in our child's anxiety, in our mistakes, in our kids’ interests, and in play—where how we speak, matters for winning our kids' hearts. We talk about why focusing on how we respond, not how we react is important. That's because research consistently shows that it’s not necessarily what we know about parenting that matters for child outcomes, but who we (the parents) are becoming.
Our guests this week are Gabe (Q Ideas) and Rebekah Lyons (You are Free). They talk openly about how they prioritize being present with their three beautiful children. From battling perfectionism and how she discovered her calling, Rebekah talks about her journey. Today, the dance parties she has with her kids in the kitchen represent her freedom. But not until she walked through the trenches of motherhood and wrestled with resentment and anxiety did she find such freedom. Speaking from her two best selling books, Freefall to Fly and her latest book You are Free, Rebekah brings hope to every mom looking to find who God created them to be.What's more is the wisdom Gabe brought to the conversation about how he walked with Rebekah through the difficult years, but also how she championed his dreams. What you'll come to learn as you listen is the power of vulnerability, how being present with one another matters, and the importance of raising our kids to be human.Show notes:Get a copy of You Are Free! Register for Q 2017.
If your marriage is anything like ours, you probably fall out of "like" with your spouse. The trouble in today's culture is that we too easily confuse "like" with "love." But the difference is quite distinct. Like is a feeling. Love is a choice.In this episode, we talk transparently about very practical ways we build intimacy in our marriage. We first define what it actually looks like to have intimacy. Then, we outline five very practical ways to become more intimate emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Our guests this week are Matt Chandler, lead pastor of the Village Church, and his wife, singer and songwriter, Lauren Chandler. These two are the real deal. We talked transparently about being parents, raising pastor's kids, and what it looks like to be "all there" when we're with our children. We also asked them what they do to cultivate joy in their marriage. From topics like technology, to how moms of young children can begin stepping outside of their four walls to pursue their dreams, the practical application goes beyond cookie cutter answers. Best of all, they share with us the joy and freedom found in being messy and inconsistent. This is an episode you will listen to more than once.Show Notes:The Mingling of Souls Get Lauren's brand new album: The Narrow PlaceThe Valley of Vision
Mister Rogers said it best, "I think of discipline as the continual everyday process of helping a child learn self-discipline."But let’s be honest, the "everyday process" can feel awfully long. Our kids scream in ways that could peel paint off a wall—that’s assuming they haven’t already used markers to turn the wall into an art gallery.They also bicker and fight, get snippy, don’t eat when we want them to, fall asleep when we don’t want them to, and know how to get us so frazzled we give in to behaviors we never thought we would when we didn’t have kids. Can we be honest? We were all perfect parents, until we had kids.In this episode, we flip the conversation. Instead of talking about our children's behavior, we talk about ours. We reveal the top three parenting strategies, according to research, that lead to the outcomes we desire in our kids. In turn, we discuss not only the ways we shoot ourselves in the foot, but how we can get it right.
Have you and your spouse ever felt like you might be "missing" one another? Like there's something deeper going on between the two of you, yet you just can't put your finger on it? Then, all of a sudden--and often out of nowhere--it rears its ugly head.Research shows the most effective and balanced leaders are able to engage both sides of their brain in conversation. I realized that when I process my day with Christi, it is usually content based (i.e. what I did, who I talked to, etc.) rather than process based (i.e. what I felt about what I did or who I talked to).Translation: I needed to be more in touch with my feelings.I remember coming home from work one day telling Christi about my day—who I talked to, what I did, and quite a bit about the projects I had cooking. Visibly irritated, and nearly in tears, Christi looked at me and was—well, painfully honest.“Why don’t you ask about me? I feel like it’s always about you. You never ask about what’s on my heart.” That was a wake up call for me. From that moment, we decided to implement a practice into our marriage that has helped us make sure we wouldn't "miss" one another as much.In this episode, we talk about this practice. And the beauty of it, is that it only takes about 15 minutes. Not only do we describe what we do, we talk about the "why" and "how" behind it.This is our plan. We hope each of you will practice it with us.
As a safety for the Penn State football team, Ryan Keiser married his high school sweetheart, McKenzi, who was also playing soccer at Eastern University. As college students, young and in love, little did they know they would have to embrace the "in sickness" part of their wedding vows so soon. On October 23rd, 2014, Ryan was injured in practice--an injury that resulted in an induced coma, several surgeries, and a three week hospitalization. Later that year, Ryan was honored as Penn State's Big Ten Sportsmanship award winner.Ryan and McKenzi--now in their mid-twenties--learned valuable lessons about what makes a marriage stronger. In this episode, not only do they dispel the myth that young couples should not get married, their story teaches all of us about true sacrifice in marriage. For parents who might be worried about your son or daughter marrying young, Ryan and McKenzi also talk about how their parents navigated their early wedding.The best part is where the story is now. We'll leave that for you to hear.Show Notes:Ryan Keiser's Journey from gridiron to ministry to father.Ryan Keiser no Longer Hospitalized-- ESPNFrom Injured to Inspired: Ryan Keiser Overcomes Adversity with New Focus-- The Daily ItemRyan Keiser Penn State Football-- GoPSUSportsCongratulations to Ryan and McKenzi, who had a healthy baby boy-- Oakley Ryan--one week after we recorded this podcast.
I recently spoke at the same conference as, and later became good friends with, a representative from the National Organization of Victim’s Assistance (NOVA). The mission of NOVA is to champion dignity and compassion for those harmed by crime or crisis. They work quite frequently on behalf of abuse victims.One evening, my friend and I were carpooling back to our hotel from the event. On the car ride, I asked him a personal question.“As a dad,” I began, “how can I best protect my kids from sexual abuse?”In this podcast episode, we discuss the seven answers he gave me and how we have applied them in our own home. The purpose of this episode is to help you be vigilant and proactive.Show notes:To find a counselor in your local area, you can use the following counselor networks. Just click on the link and enter your zip code.American Association of Christian CounselorsFocus on the FamilyThriveworks
Our podcast guests this week are Russell and Sarah Glass. Business owners with four young children--ages 2, 4, 6, and 8--they share their adventure, a move from California to Tennessee, to open a restaurant. The catch? They were never in the restaurant business until this move. Instead, they're in the relationship business.Before the move, Russell described himself as a "shell of a husband and dad." When they made the decision to sell everything and take this adventure, it became about the entire family. From the Lego bricks in their restaurant that the kids designed, to the lessons they teach us about doing ordinary things extraordinarily well, there's a lesson for each of us. Are you ready to follow an adventurous God?
Have your children asked you to put your phone down, trying to get your attention? Ours have.Our relationship with our screens—not unlike the secondhand smoke elicited by a smoker—may be impacting our children more deeply than we realize.One such study describes it as "distracted parental attention," and how it is impacting our kids’ cognitive development, especially their ability to process pleasure. Other studies show increased anxiety and depression in our kids today related to screens.In this episode, we talk openly about the challenges of the screen in our own home. We also discuss practical ways to show our kids they are more important than our phones. The most powerful application comes at the very end, when Christi reveals the "why" behind her limits.Show notes:For more information about Circle with Disney, click here.To take the next steps in setting limits on screens in your home, you can purchase the Screen-Balanced Family: Six Secrets to a More Connected Family in the 21st Century, Digital Videos + Workbook, by clicking here. Remember to use promo code: JCPODCAST for 20% off entire store!For the Screen-Balanced Family Workbook, click here. (This doesn't include the videos).Here is the song Christi mentions at the end of the podcast called I Get to Love You, by Ruelle.
Our podcast guests this week are Matthew and Bethany Williams. Not only are they married, together they lead Exile International, a nonprofit organization whose mission is to empower children of war to become leaders for peace through art therapy and holistic, rehabilitative care. In this episode we go behind the scenes of the Williams' marriage and work together. They share with us how they discover hope in the emotionally draining work of helping restore rescued child soldiers. Matthew and Bethany also share practical ways they lead a nonprofit ministry together, yet still prioritize fun and play in their marriage. Christi and I consider it a privilege to serve on the Board for Exile International. See the show notes below to learn more about Bethany's story in the book Color of Grace, and the work of Exile International.Show notes:For more information on the work of Exile International, click here.To learn more about Bethany's story and the stories of these incredible children, you can pick up a copy of The Color of Grace by clicking here. All proceeds go to support the mission of Exile International.Forty Days to a Closer Walk with God: The Practice of Centering Prayer by J. David Muyskens
Do screens come between you and your spouse? Are you cuddling with your phone in bed more than one another? We answered yes to these. So, we decided to take some very practical steps to make sure the phone did not get in the way of our affection for one another. In this episode, we talk about the elephant (uh um, iPhone) in marriage and discuss 7 practical ways to set limits with our screens. Here's to being married to our spouse more than our phone.Show Notes: Click here for the Electronic Nuptial Agreement (e-nup)For the Screen-Balanced Family: Six Secrets to a More Connected Family in the 21st Century, Digital Videos + Workbook, click here. Remember to use promo code: JCPODCAST for 20% off entire store!For the Screen-Balanced Family Workbook, click here.
Our first podcast guests are Eric and Kaye Geiger. Why? Because they're awesome! Eric is vice president of LifeWay Christian Resources and pastor, and his wife, Kaye, is a full-time school teacher. This podcast episode goes behind the scenes of two working parents in ministry. Eric and Kaye are candid about how they stay closely connected in their marriage. They also describe how they lead their daughters to love Jesus. To learn more about Eric and his book, Designed to Lead, click here.We learned so much from them and know you will too.
Welcome! In our first episode, we introduce our heart behind it. We also tell the backstory behind why our passion is raising kids who live, love, and lead well--and having marriages we'd wish on our children. Christi also threw out a fun little game in the episode that helps you get to know us a little better.As always, it's a joy walking alongside you!Josh + Christi
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