Enneagram and Marriage

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Holy Lament: Creating Space with God in Holy Week Apr 16, 2025

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In this special mid-week mini episode, Christa explores the ancient practice of biblical lament as a pathway to deeper intimacy with God and our spouses. Discover why expressing honest sorrow and questions to God isn't just permitted but modeled throughout scripture—from the Psalms to Jesus himself on the cross. Learn how each Enneagram type bypasses lament or grief differently, and how understanding these patterns can help couples create sacred space for lament together. The episode offers practical day-by-day guidance for Holy Week, from a movement from mourning to dancing, not rushing to resurrection but finding Christ's presence in the shadows of the cross first. A timely reminder - listen here!

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Building a Thriving Marriage & Business with Brad and Sarah Johnson, 7-6 Apr 14, 2025

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In this engaging episode, Brad and Sarah Johnson, Triad Partners, reveal how life as an entrepreneurial couple (Brad is the co-founder of Triad Partners) creates both unique challenges and extraordinary strengths in their marriage, family, and business. Brad and Sarah (types 7 and 6 pairing) share candidly about their journey and deep dive with us to the dark night of the soul moment of their marriage to climbing metaphorical mountains together, recognizing their different approaches to risk, planning, and connection to leveraging these differences to lead a thriving organization serving top 1% financial advisors and most importantly, making sure they don't lose their connection in the process of building their dreams. Discover their weekly relationship check-in ritual that's transformed their communication, how they navigate Sarah's security-seeking Type 6 energy with Brad's spontaneous Type 7 spirit, and practical insights for any couple balancing work and life together. The triad motto "Do Business, Do Life" comes alive through stories of how they've built a 100+ employee company while nurturing their relationship. If you're interested in how different Enneagram types can create powerful partnerships at home even amid work challenges, this conversation offers wisdom for turning potential friction points into your relationship and business's greatest assets. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wT8PKMkIzHQ

BRAD & SARAH’S SUNDAY CHECK-IN QUESTIONS

Where did I show up for you this week or what do you appreciate about me as a partner?
What feelings of hurt, frustration, or misunderstanding are left over from this week for you? What do you need me to hear or understand about them?
How can I support you well as we go into a new week? What might you need from me?
Can you tell me something you’re proud of yourself for this week or share with me something you did well?
Date night plans for this week?

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Holding Vigil: The Sacred Arts of Prayer and Presence in Marriage Apr 09, 2025

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In this heartfelt episode, discover the transformative power of "holding vigil" for your spouse through prayer and presence in a way that costs, but also really gives, both to you and your spouse. Learn both general tips and how each Enneagram type uniquely supports their partner during difficult times, and what challenges they face in staying present. Drawing from literary examples like Frodo and Sam, Atticus Finch, and personal experiences, Christa explores how true empathy creates sacred space in marriage and your faith journey, reflecting on Matthew 11:28. Perfect for couples seeking deeper connection through life's challenges.

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When Both Partners Carry the Mental Load: A Better Share with Dr. Morgan Cutlip Apr 07, 2025

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Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too? Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened?

In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically.

Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes, even better sex. Watch on YouTube

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Beyond the Box: When You Don't Fit Just One Enneagram Type Apr 02, 2025

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When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here!

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Finding Grace in the Mess: Dana K. White on Home Management and Spiritual Freedom Mar 31, 2025

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Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you. With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged by others or themselves for the state of their home.

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When Anxiety Takes the Wheel: Understanding Your Type's Relationship with Fear Mar 26, 2025

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How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, processes, and responds to fear. Discover why Head types (5,6,7) intellectualize anxiety, Heart types (2,3,4) emotionalize it, and Body types (8,9,1) somaticize it—creating entirely different anxiety experiences. Learn how your type's core fears amplify specific anxieties and the unconscious strategies you've developed to manage them. Through compassionate exploration and practical tools, this episode offers a personalized approach to understanding your relationship with anxiety. Whether you're seeking to support a partner through anxious moments or develop greater self-awareness, these type-specific insights provide a roadmap for transforming your relationship with fear. With concrete practices for each type, this episode empowers you to recognize anxiety's early signals and respond with presence rather than reactivity.

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Addiction in Relationships: How We All Heal Together w/Best-Selling Author Ian Cron, 4 Mar 24, 2025

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In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us all. Ian moves beyond stereotypical views of addiction to show how everyone struggles with attachments that promise fulfillment but ultimately leave us empty. With wisdom and compassion, he explains how isolation fuels our addictive cycles, while genuine community creates the environment for healing. Ian shares practical wisdom about how the steps of recovery offer a universal path toward grace and growth, regardless of what form our struggles take. This conversation offers hope for anyone feeling stuck in patterns they can't seem to break, illuminating how vulnerability and connection provide the foundation for lasting transformation. Watch the full interview on YouTube

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Ian's website: www.IanMorganCron.com

Typology podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/typology/id1254061093

Typology Enneagram assessment: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment

"The Fix" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/e2nWVsv

Visit Ian and Typology on Instagram

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Building Internal Validation in Your Marriage: An E + M Mini Mar 19, 2025

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In this transformative and quick episode, we walk together through several powerful practices to develop genuine internal validation. If you constantly seek others' approval or question your decisions, this episode is for you! Learn practical techniques to strengthen your self-trust and break the cycle of external validation right here. YouTube the episode here!

Here we explore:

Deliberate Self-Acknowledgment Practice

Lived Evidence Documentation

Faith-Based Self-Compassion

Strategic Disengagement

And more! This episode offers concrete tools to help you recognize and honor your inherent value, regardless of external opinions. Perfect for spouses, anxiously attached individuals, parents of unruly kids, people-pleasers, and anyone ready to build unshakable confidence from within.

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Beyond Self-Pres, Social & Sexual: A Fresh Take on Instincts That Drives You Forward w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman w/Joel Hubbard & Jim Zartman, Art of Growth Mar 17, 2025

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In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers framework and book. This innovative lens reveals our survival instincts as well as helps us adapt in them, speaking of how our core drives shape everything from our leadership styles to our marriages. Discover whether you're primarily a Hunter (similar to Sexual/SX instinct, focused on intensity and risk-taking), a Farmer (aligned with Self-Preservation/SP, oriented toward resources and sustainability), or a Teamer (comparable to Social/SO, driven by connection and collaboration), and how to work with your strengths and blindspots, whatever the stackingg order of your instincts. Through illuminating stories and practical insights, Jim and Joel explain how recognizing these patterns can transform relationships, reduce burnout, and resolve persistent conflicts. Learn how instinct-diverse partnerships can leverage complementary strengths while navigating inherent tensions. Whether you're struggling with communication breakdowns or seeking to understand your own reaction patterns, this revolutionary framework we share on today's episode offers a compassionate path toward greater self-awareness and connection. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I1vvmZVVRMQ

Get the book Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers here: https://a.co/d/5tZcJDA

Find their website here: https://www.theartofgrowth.org/

Find their Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/artofgrowth/?hl=en

Find the Art of Growth podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-growth/id1404087288

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