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The 4 Communication Personality Types and Understanding Your Dynamic as a Couple: Episode 125 Jan 26, 2021

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Communication is not "one size fits all" and your partner might never communicate EXACTLY like you do. So you can stop trying to get them too! You can either fight against it when you get frustrated or you learn to flow with it for even more effective and connecting ways of communicating (no matter what circumstances or emotions come up).

But guess what...your communication can significantly improve as you understand the "4 Communication Personality Types" and by determining which type represents you and your partner.

In this episode, you'll hear:

What the 4 Communication Personality Types are and the traits that describe each of them
How tension and miscommunication can be significantly reduced by understanding your partner's type
The 2 most important things to be aware of for yourself so you can be a better communicator
How to get access to the self-assessment to determine which of the 4 types you fall into

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If You've Felt Discouraged Lately, Listen to This One to Feel Different: Episode 124 Jan 21, 2021

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Can this be true, do you really feel discouragement or difficulty in life and within your relationship? Absolutely. If you have listened to this podcast before, you know that the point is not to avoid these types of feelings or even talking about them with your partner.

But it can feel difficult to shift out of this state even as an individual. Plus there are a lot of outside factors that contribute to life feeling hard. So is the goal to try and wait it out and hope that things get better? NO!

In this 10 minute motivational podcast you will get the one way to shift from this feeling of discouragement or difficulty. Once you start to feel positive momentum, it will be even easier to positively impact your partner and your relationship. But it does start with you, and that's what this episode is for!

P.S.

Our new book, The Argument Hangover is about to hit shelves on Feb 23rd, 2021. So did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a "debrief after an argument" workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

When Your Partner Gets Triggered: The Do's and Don'ts Episode 123 Jan 19, 2021

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When your partner gets triggered, what do you do?...

#1: Do you react back, get defensive, and it triggers an argument?

#2: Or do you lovingly hold space and help them process what came up for them?

Don't feel guilty if you fell into the first category, as that is where most people fall into.

We weren't taught how to recognize and SUPPORT someone while they're triggered, especially in a romantic relationship. And instead of it bringing healing, they often create arguments and emotional distance.

In this episode, we cover:

How triggers can be a "good" thing for the relationship
The things you DON'T want to say or do when they are triggered
The things that you DO want to say or do so that it is more constructive for your relationship

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

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I'm an 'Assertive' Woman With a 'Reserved' Partner: How I Learned to Not Make Him Feel Dominated: Jocelyn Solo Episode 122 Jan 14, 2021

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I'm an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover.

Did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a "debrief after an argument" workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

How to Bring Up Challenging Conversations Without Triggering an Argument or Defensiveness: Episode 121 Jan 12, 2021

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When you bring up a challenging/hard conversation, does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument?

You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding.

You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship.

In this episode, you'll hear:

Ways to initiate the challenging topic so that it doesn't spark into an argument
How to handle times your partner gets defensive
5 simple things you can do so that challenging topics end up strengthening your relationship, instead of creating unnecessary tension

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

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4 Steps to Help Men Identify What They're Feeling and Be Comfortable to Share It: Aaron Solo Episode 120 Jan 07, 2021

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Is there any place in your relationship that you shutdown and isolate from your partner by saying nothing or getting away from them? Are you even on the other side of things where you lash out at your partner to get them off your back?

In either case this is probably because you are not "good with emotions". Which is not something to feel bad about because not many of us start out with the ability to even identify exactly what we are feeling to even be able to articulate it.

This episode is all about starting the process of building both of the skills to identify what emotion you are feeling and then be able to share it with your partner. This will allow you to know even more about yourself and about each other. Tune in for 4 steps to go from not knowing what to say at all, to having even more connected conversations with your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

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The 4 Elements of True Love (They're Not What You Think): Episode 119 Jan 05, 2021

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Love is kind of the point of a relationship right? We know that you felt a lot of love for your partner early in your relationship and now that love probably feels different or maybe less. As you progress through your relationship your feeling of love will be different as you have more trust and comfort with each other. Maybe some of the challenges in your relationship have led you to a place of currently not feeling as much love. So how do you keep love not only alive but growing?

You should notice that in either case above, love is often based on outside conditions and how happy you currently feel. Whether it's about financial security, how your partner has been talking to you, or feeling too routine in your day to day life all of these are conditional feelings of love. In this podcast you will learn the 4 elements of love that allow for a truly unconditional love to be alive in your relationship. Then knowing these 4 elements, when you do feel less love between you and your partner, you will know the exact way to generate it.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

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Differentiate What Your Partner is Saying vs What They Actually Need: Episode 118 Dec 29, 2020

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Let's be honest, we all have said to our partners one of these statements: "that's not what I said, that's not what actually happened, what you are saying doesn't make sense". Especially for those partners (like Aaron) that are logical left brained people. As soon as this happens the predictable next sequence will be an argument or conflict, or at least not feeling like your partner is on your side.

Though this can feel like one of those areas where you and your partner are just different (male vs female or masculine vs feminine differences), the real culprit here is not making the differentiation between what your partner is saying versus what they need.

In this episode we cover this big difference between the actual words that you or your partner use and what the missing need or deeper desire really is. You will get questions to ask your partner that lead to more connection and understanding than the typical difference of opinion, recurring conflict, or simple disconnections in your day to day life. This will elevate you and your listening skills in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Give a gift to your relationship that will impact the rest of your year! Join the next Couples Workshop - Live Steam with us right from home and take your communication skills to a deeper level. (Live interaction with us as we take you through the communication exercises and help with any conversation where you get stuck.)
Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

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Our Ritual for Reviewing Life and Creating New Aligned Goals Before Starting the New Year Episode 117 Dec 22, 2020

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Whether you can't wait to end this year or you are just excited to keep the momentum you have going, this is the episode for you. The end of the year just so happens to be a "made up" time that you can truly reset and refocus. For some you don't want the next year to be like this past year. For others, you realize you just want to experience life and your relationship newly. Either way it comes down to a lot more than just setting new goals like most everyone talks about at the end of each year.

In this episode you will get the 5 questions you MUST reflect on and ask each other so you can complete this past year, and keep it from impacting your next year. Doing this as a couple is VITAL to not hitting bumps and road blocks a few months in. Once you establish this type of "blank slate" to work from, you will get the 5 ways to create what it is you desire together for the coming year.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Give a gift that will impact the rest of your year! Get access to The Couples Workshop - Home Edition, and take your communication and listening skills to a deeper level.

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I Used to Hate My Body and it Impacted My Relationship - Here's How I Became Confident: Jocelyn Solo Episode 116 Dec 17, 2020

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You aren't alone if you've dealt with body image challenges. In this episode, I share the vulnerable truth about my relationship to my body growing up, and specifically how it negatively impacted my romantic relationships.

You will hear the 6 things I did to start loving myself (inside and out) so that I could show up as an authentically confident partner. Feel free to steal any one of them for yourself so you can show up more confident in your own relationship.

Resources For You:

After you listen to the episode, snag one of the two spots we've opened up for a Relationship Breakthrough Session. These sessions can be either 2-on-2 including your partner or 1-on-1 if you want to do it solo. Sign up for one here.

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