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Why Would Bill Gates & Melinda Get Divorced? (what keeps love and connection alive in a relationship): Aaron Solo Episode 155 May 06, 2021

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Is it at all surprising to you that Bill & Melinda Gates would choose to divorce? It might not be surprising that it happens to very prominent and wealthy couples, because it has been happening often (Jeff & MacKenzie Bezos, Kim & Kanye West, J-Lo & ARod). It would seem that when areas like finances, significance, and contribution are at such a high level, that relationships would work even better!

But that is just not the case because there is a fundamental principle of relationships that is required to continuously have connection, understanding, and love be present in a relationship. This principle is completely independent of money, fame, and significance; which is clearly what is being shown in society today.

In this episode Aaron will dive into just what this principle is so that you can raise your level of connection and love in your own relationship. On top of that, you will know that love and connection is not something that just happens or doesn't happen based on circumstances. By knowing this principle, you will be able to consciously bring more love and connection into your relationship with your partner, no matter what season you are in or the challenge that you face!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You don't want to miss these 2 FREE Webclasses on May 18th & May 20th. Register for both of them here.

The first is "3 Communication Skills to Overcome Any Relationship Challenge".
The second one is "End Argument Hangovers: How to Fully Repair & Reconnect After a Fight".

3 Ways to Be a Better Listener: Episode 154 May 04, 2021

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Listening is one of the most important skills in a relationship, and is fundamental to improving your communication!

The problem is we think listening is easy, but truly listening to your partner does NOT just automatically happen, and it's not a "passive" activity.

Truly listening takes effort and intention. The thing is, how you listen to your partner determines how much they feel understood, which then directly impacts your level of connection!

In this episode, we cover:

The most common mistakes people make when "listening" to their partners
3 ways to be a better listener

Resources For Your Relationship:

Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

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We're The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Q&A- Answering Your Q's on Communication Challenges: Episode 153 Apr 29, 2021

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In this episode we're answering your specific questions submitted from Instagram. What was the topic for these questions? … Communication! This Q&A session is all about communicating better for the specific challenges that were submitted.

The questions we answer today are:

When I have an emotional low, my wife tends to be dismissive...especially if it has to do with her. What can I do differently?
Please explain why transparency/openness/honesty is so important.
Suggestions to stop getting defensive immediately when someone brings up an issue?
Currently I have trouble with my partner opening up to me, but he'll confide in his friends/coworkers. suggestions?

We Are Asking For Your Help:

In the episode we asked for authentic reviews for, The Argument Hangover.

If you have not gotten a copy you can get yours, and a free course on being better fighters, with this link.

Then to help us with our publisher, please leave a review with the retailer you purchased from!

Thank you so much, it really helps these principles get in the hands of more couples!

Vague Communication Creates Upsets in Your Relationship + How to Now Be Crystal Clear: Episode 152 Apr 27, 2021

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Gut check time for a few of you… just because you talk often doesn't mean you are being clear. Have you ever said to your partner out of disappointment, "I already told you multiple times"? Of course this can be frustrating to both you and your partner.

If this keeps coming up, it is possible that you are being too vague in your communication, even if you are more assertive! Have you ever said anything like this to your partner:

"I want you to help more around the house."

"I want us to work on our intimacy."

"I need to feel like you care more."

"I will do more of what I say I will"

If so, your upsets might be coming from you being too vague in your communication. In this episode, you will hear how to become crystal clear in your communications to keep common upsets from happening.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

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True Intimacy Happens Outside of Your Comfort Zone: Jocelyn Solo Episode 151 Apr 22, 2021

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Not to be dramatic, but this episode will crack open your heart and radically transform your mind. Especially with how you see challenges or blocks around increasing intimacy in your relationship.

If you're going through a rough patch or you just want to connect at a deeper level, this episode is for you! You will hear how true intimcy is going to be found outside or where you are currently looking... outside your comfort zone!

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen, sign-up for the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th! (hurry before it passes!)
You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Couple's Session here

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How to Hold Space For Your Partner When Emotions Are High: Episode 150 Apr 20, 2021

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If you have been listening to this podcast, you now know that escalating conflicts and argument hangovers are not from what started the disagreement, but what you said or did after that. It's when you think to yourself "I don't even remember what started this!" Part of why this happens is because we are not great at "Holding Space" for our partners when they have high emotions or are emotionally triggered.

For some this might be a new term, holding space. In this episode you will hear about what this really means and then you will get 5 things to do so that you can hold space for your partner. By doing this, you allow for an environment of acceptance and love for you and your partner to have emotions and not make that wrong. It's a powerful opportunity to connect deeper and develop emotional intimacy… when you appropriately hold space for the emotions they are having.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways!

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How to Hold Yourself and Your Partner Accountable, Without Being too Critical: Episode 149 Apr 15, 2021

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After the last episdoe you now think "ok great, I'm doing my part, but what about my partner"? We asked many of you how your partner normally responds when you hold them accountable, and the answers were versions of: denial, defensiveness, withdrawing, being rude, or dismissive.

If you don't have an agreement about how you will hold each other accountable, it can feel like being micro-managed or controlled. This leads to tension, and even feeling "parented" by each other. So instead of that frustration, tune in to this episode for specific ways to hold yourself and your partner accountable to making real progress.

And while you're listening, sign-up for the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th!

Personal Accountability: 5 Things You Need to Take Ownership of For a True Partnership: Episode 148 Apr 13, 2021

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Have you realized that you can be in a relationship, yet not be in a true partnership? It might seem like a simple word change but the experience can be radically different. You can be in a relationship yet still feel like a victim to your circumstances and your partner's responses day to day.

A true partnership is made up of two people who are accountable for how they are showing up. More specifically these 5 specific things that we cover in this episode. In this type of partnership you will feel empowered to create and direct your life and relationship, regardless of the circumstances that show up!

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3 Needs Women Have But Are Often Misunderstood Episode 147 Apr 06, 2021

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You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn't always happen right? Especially when a woman's needs are not being met.

Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of women are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you as a partner, because at times these needs are not clearly understood and can be shared in a way that causes defensiveness. So what to do?

Well, listen to this podcast episode where you will hear what the 3 needs are of women that are misunderstood. Then once you know these needs, you can have the conversations needed for your partner to truly feel loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th.

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I Realized My Underwear is 5 Years Old. What 'Old Energy' Needs to be Removed From Your Relationship?: Jocelyn Solo Episode 146 Apr 01, 2021

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This episode might make you laugh out loud, but will also get you fired up to get rid of OLD energy in your life. It's critical that you clear out energetic clutter in your environment, in your relationship, and in your habits. If you want to invite in anything NEW (more intimacy, more fun, more connection), you need to make space for it.

Tune in to this episode where Jocelyn dives into specific ways you can clear out old energy. And that includes old underwear (I just threw out a bunch and ordered more)

Also, make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th. We might not host another one online, so now is your chance!

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