EmPowered Couples with The Freemans - Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman

How We Each Played a Role in Overcoming AVOIDANT & ANXIOUS Tendencies to Create a Secure Marriage: Episode 370 Nov 19, 2024

Yes we have a secure relationship and marriage now. But we certainly had to overcome our initial anxious and avoidant tendencies early on. Even now, those tendencies can still show up; we have just done the work to handle situations, emotions, and conflicts in healthy and secure ways to stay on the same team.

In this episode you will hear us tell our relationship story as the background for how you can overcome any of your own insecure attachment patterns. You will hear the quick reminder of:

the 4 attachment styles,
the 5 core pillars within each style,
and then the things we did in our own life to be in the secure place we are now, and no matter what life events happen to us.

In telling our story you will take away many great steps you can take to further cement yourselves a secure foundation to add to your connection, closeness, and trust in your marriage.

Relationship Resources mentioned in the episode:

Get The Family Meeting Guide - either on its own here, or as a bonus for starting the Prioritize Us Challenge that starts Dec 1st.
If you listened all the way to the end, take the action we mentioned while using the word "special". Be sure you listen all the way through for the special offer of the 3 guides together!

3 Conversations to Have as a Couple Before the End of the Year (to Start 2025 Off GREAT): Episode 369 Nov 12, 2024

Lost in Translation From What’s SAID to What’s HEARD (Unpacking a Root Cause of Miscommunications): Episode 368 Nov 05, 2024

Imagine a scenario where you and your partner are having a conversation. In the middle you begin to feel as if what you are saying is clear, but your partner doesn’t seem to be getting it. You start to get frustrated, your tone or volume changes, so then they get annoyed or irritated and the conversation begins to escalate.

This episode is all about how the meaning of conversations can easily get misunderstood and misinterpreted. The longer you are in a relationship the higher chance there is of this happening. Now you do have two choices, you can keep trying to get your partner to understand in that moment, which leads to tension.

Or you both can take these 3 actions from this episode to better understand where these misunderstandings come from. It’s a common and natural thing to happen, but it takes awareness and execution to keep it from persisting in your relationship.

Relationship Resources

The 30-day challenge and all of the guides that were mentioned can be found with our resources link here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Be sure to take advantage of the Family Meeting Guide as you begin to refelct on your year and start to set your goals and intentions togther for the next year.
You can get this guide as a FREE bonus for starting the Prioritize Us 30-Day Couples Challenge

Remembering the Reasons for Being Married (That Also Get You Through the Hard Seasons): Episode 367 Oct 29, 2024

Whenever you meet an obstacle it is common to ask “why” it happened or even “why” you started down this particular path. You might even ask yourself why you got married or why you should continue when it feels particularly challenging with your partner. There are different ideas (and even studies) that give reasons for why people get married. The top ones are for love and companionship while the next on the list are to have kids, followed by financial and legal reasons.

In this episode you will hear us propose our reason for getting married, which is different from any you will find on these lists. If being married was only for love and companionship for example, how would you then handle the harder moments and when you aren’t ‘feeling’ those positive emotions? Throughout this episode you will hear 3 alternatives for being married in hopes that it radically alters your current perceptions of difficulty in your marriage and gives you renewed strength to go forward as a team.

Relationship Resources:

The 30-Day Couples Challenge starts 3 days from the time this is posted, so you’ll want to pick between Level 1 and Level 2. Go to MeetTheFreemans.com/Challenges. See why over 36,000 couples have loved the prompts, no matter how busy you are.

The Role of Emotions in Marriage & How to Better Hold the Space For Each Other: Episode 366 Oct 22, 2024

Is feeling emotion within yourself something you welcome or try to avoid? What about when emotion is expressed by your partner, do you experience that as a sign of something bad starting up or as an invitation to listen? Emotion is at the root of relationships, it is what makes it satisfying and fulfilling as well as the starting point of conflicts.

So what is the role of emotion and does it have a real place in a relationship? In this episode you will hear the answer to this question as well as the common barriers and challenges to “holding space for” your partner’s emotions? This is not a simple task so you will know what this “holding space for emotions” term really means and get practical tips for being better at this type of listening with each other. This can lead to more connection and emotional closeness, which is a fundamental aspect of a satisfying relationship over the long term.

Relationship Resources

If you haven’t done our Level 2 “Rebuilding Us” Couples Challenge, we highly recommend doing that before the end of the year. We dive deeper into 10 foundation builders in a marriage, like emotional intelligence, the art of apologies, the needle-movers for each of you in the marriage, and more! You can look at both our Level 1 and Level 2 Couple’s Challenges at MeetTheFreemans.com/links

Forgiveness & Letting Go of the Past: Episode 365 Oct 15, 2024

In marriage, unresolved hurts can pile up over time, creating distance and eroding trust. That’s why forgiveness is one of the most crucial (yet challenging) elements to maintaining a healthy, connected relationship. But what does true forgiveness actually look like? And what blocks it from happening?

In this episode, we dive into the depths of forgiveness: what it is and what it isn’t, why it’s essential for moving forward, and how it affects your closeness as a couple. We’ll also explore real-life examples of where forgiveness may be needed in marriage, what keeps couples stuck in hurt, and practical steps to move towards genuine healing. Whether you're navigating small offenses or deep ruptures, understanding forgiveness could be the key to breaking free from repetitive conflict cycles.

As you listen, we recommend these two relationship resources:

The Level 2 “Rebuilding Us” Couples Challenge

2. The Steps to Rebuild a Marriage Guide

Husbands and Wives Have This OPPOSING Marriage Goal and They Don’t Realize It: Episode 364 Oct 09, 2024

Does it ever feel like you and your partner have different goals or even that your needs are conflicting with one another? This can be obvious when one partner is saying they need more quality time and the other is saying they need more time for themselves. But there is another conflicting goal that men and women have that is hard to detect.

In this episode you will hear what this conflicting goal is, that you would likely never guess. From all the sessions we do, as well as having hosted our Couples Workshop, this is an underlying subconscious goal that is more pervasive than you realize. Listen in to make sure it is not affecting your relationship and hear what a better more collaborative goal is to have.

Relationship Resources

You can find all of our best resources from guides, 30 day challenges, and webclasses, with this link: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

What Creates Emotional Connection & Intimacy: Episode 363 Oct 01, 2024

One of the most common questions we get is “how do we create more emotional connection” with each other. The most popular question is about repair, but this is in second place! This is a great question because there isn’t a single answer because it often depends on the season a couple is in and what the most meaningful needs are for each partner in that given season. Nevertheless, the constant creation of emotional connection is one of the single most important elements for having high satisfaction in a marriage.

In this episode, we will reveal what we see as the 5 key components of emotional connection. Though you will have to use each of these aspects and determine how it fits into your current season, you will be much more clear and confident that you can create more closeness with your partner at any time. Being able to do this, you will also feel more secure about facing challenges that arise as a true team!

Relationship Resources:

Join one of the 30 Day Couples Challenges starting Oct 1st, 2024:

Level 1: “Prioritizing Us” is focused on strengthening your connection, communication, and fun “Love Deposit” ideas. LINKED HERE

Level 2: “Rebuilding Us” is focused on repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage. LINKED HERE

Defensiveness vs Gaslighting - What’s the Difference & How to Stop Both: Episode 362 Sep 24, 2024

It’s important for all of us to admit that we have defensive mechanisms and that we do get defensive with our partners at times. Let’s allow ourselves some grace here. Many of you would probably relate to getting even more defensive about getting defensive! It is common to go on the offensive through deflection or blame, which can leave another feeling that their experience is being invalidated.

However that does not mean that someone is being gaslighted. Gaslighting is a much more serious pattern when it is happening, and is a strong accusation to make that can quickly escalate a conversation or conflict. In this episode you will hear the clear distinction between defensiveness and gaslighting so that you can use the terms properly and reduce escalation. By the end of the episode you will hear 6 different actions to take to reduce both defensiveness and gaslighting in your relations. Both of these lead to erosion of connection, love, and emotional closeness.

Relationship Resources:

Join one of the 30 Day Couples Challenges starting Oct 1st, 2024 - select either one with this link: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/challenges. Or see the individual details below:

Level 1 details: “Prioritizing Us” is focused on strengthening your connection, communication, and fun “Love Deposit” ideas. LINKED HERE

Level 2 details : “Rebuilding Us” is focused on repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage. LINKED HERE

Navigating Make It or Break It Moments in Marriage: Episode 361 Sep 17, 2024

Today we explore the turning points where marriages either survive or fall apart, when they hit that "make it for break it" decision point. We've seen five couples end their relationships recently, one even filing papers yesterday, yet none of them reached out for support from us. Given marriage is what we do, it came as a shock to us when we heard the news.

We know many people have this expereince when they hear about friends ending their relationships. So we want to give you the reasons why couples get to this point and WAYS to work at it. In this episode we provide you with clarity as to the build up that gets couples to this point, but also how they can get THROUGH it together. Not just to survive, but to become more understanding, connected, and stronger as a team to face future challenges!

Relationship Resources:

The “Rebuilding Us” 30-Day Couples Challenge, The Steps to Rebuild a Marriage Guide, and more all LINKED HERE.

How Stress Affects Your Marriage (Plus Ways to Better Cope & Stay Connected): Episode 360 Sep 10, 2024

How would you rate the amount of stress in your life right now? We all know that some stress is good stress and that it’s a part of life. Its commonly known that stress plays a major role in physical, mental, and emotional well-being of all of us individually. It’s less known (or at least discussed) how much stress decreases marriage satisfaction and quality!

In today’s episode you will learn everything you ever wanted to know about the effects of stress on your marriage. After listening to this episode you will know:

The 3 sources of stress
How stress directly affects 2 key components in your marriage
Ways to use key coping methods to deal with stress individually and together
10 + positive coping strategies that you can use to better handle the current stressors that you are facing in your life and marriage. So that you can feel relief and be on the same side no matter what stress you face.

Relationship Resources:

1) You can find all of our resources from guides, webclasses, events, to coaching sessions with this link: Best Resources

2)Join us at the in-person Couples Workshop in Arizona on Oct 6th, 2024. Use this as a weekend getaway for you and your partner and attend this 1/2 day event with us to communicate even better and handle challeges as a team.

Is This a ME Thing or a WE Thing? Distinguishing Personal Growth from Relationship Growth: Episode 359 Sep 04, 2024

When there is tension or an upset in your marriage, it’s easy to point the finger at your partner as the source of the discomfort. But this often leads to further conflict. It also does not address this critical aspect of being in a marriage for a long time… that growth is a part of it! The common question for those that see these events as places to grow is “well, is this a me thing, a you thing, or a we thing”!

Today’s episode is more motivational (and aspirational) about growth in your relationship. You will hear how you can quickly distinguish between the necessary individual work that needs to be done as well as the relationship work that needs to be focused on. After listening to this episode you both will feel more grace for each other with the reminder that you are in this to grow and you are in it together!

Relationship Resources:

1) Discover all our online resources here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

2) Join us at the in-person Couples Workshop on Oct 6th, 2024. As of this episode, the event is 60% sold out so don't wait to grab your seats for this relationship changing event!

Wives Are Facing this Inner-Challenge and it’s Affecting Marriages: Episode 358 Aug 27, 2024

Last week’s episode focused on husbands was a huge hit, so this week we’re focusing on what inner-challenge wives are struggling with and how it’s affecting marriages. In this episode, we dive into the pressure many wives feel to constantly do more, grow more, and be more—often at the expense of their own well-being.

This relentless pursuit can lead to burnout, resentment, and a disconnect in marriages. We’ll explore why it’s crucial to recognize these patterns, how they impact your relationship, and what you can do to create a healthier, more balanced approach. Tune in to discover how you can start making small shifts that will lead to a stronger, more fulfilling marriage.

As you listen, make sure you sign-up for the upcoming 30-Day “Prioritizing Us” Couples Challenge so you can:

Fill each other’s Love Accounts
Strengthen your connection & communication
And consistently feel like your marriage (and your satisfaction) is a top priority

Husbands Are Facing this Inner-Challenge and it’s Affecting Marriages: Episode 357 Aug 20, 2024

Men are facing an inner-challenge that is also affecting the marriage. For men to feel a sense of meaning, empowerment, responsibility, value, and achievement they have to show up in the eternal world a certain way. Whether this be in business, profession, managing finances or contracts for the family, relationships with family/friends; men are supposed to show up as warriors, lions, unstoppable, and unshakeable in their pursuits…

But at home that same mentality causes issues and conflicts. Men are then supposed to be understanding, supportive, slow to anger, quick to listen, and in a loving attitude to meet their spouses needs. But without knowing how to transition back to being a partner; men can be defensive, quick to react, withdrawn, and with poor coping and communication with their partners. In this episode you will hear about how men can navigate this internal conflict so they can both be the warrior and protect the family in the outside world, and be a loving partner and father.

Relationship Resources:

Level 1: “Prioritizing Us” is focused on strengthening your connection, communication, and fun “Love Deposit” ideas. LINKED HERE

Level 2: “Rebuilding Us” is focused on repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage. LINKED HERE

How to Disagree WITHOUT Fighting: Episode 356 Aug 13, 2024

Are you able to have a disagreement with your partner without fighting against each other? To be honest many couples view having a disagreement as a fight, because anytime they disagree and there is a little bit of emotion, it always turns into a fight. We are here to tell you that you can disagree while staying on the same team and moving down the decision making path together to find the best route for both of you and your future.

In this episode you will hear 6 different tools/skills to implement in a moment of disagreement that will keep you on the same side and avoid it turning into a conflict or fight. This is a significant and powerful episode as you cannot avoid disagreement in a marriage, but you can use that to gain understanding and make even better decisions as a couple, rather than have it turn into a fight.

Relationship Resources:

1) Visit our top resources for the season you are in, find anything from guides, to challenges, courses, and even attending an in person workshop: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

2) The Next Couples Workshop is Oct 6th, 2024, in Arizona: http://thecouplesworkshop.com/

What Men Truly WANT in a Marriage, Especially the Longer They’re Together: Episode 355 Aug 06, 2024

This is the second half of that age old question “what do men want” in a marriage? If having a successful marriage is directly related to meeting each other’s needs then it’s quite important to know what those needs are. This episode is the followup from last week about women's needs right now.

With the amount of coaching sessions we do, we have a great insight into the common needs that are going unmet for couples. There are themes that seem to show up in general, so even the specific needs we hear from men in one season, will not be the same in another (though admittedly more consistent than women’s it seems)!

In this episode you will hear the top 3 needs we are hearing from men right now. A little different from the start of the women’s needs episode, you will also hear 3 key traits that also need to be present in the marriage for there to be willingness and receptivity to these needs. Get ready for a great episode for insight into men’s needs (and the critical element of integrity)!

Relationship Resources:

1) As mentioned, get the Family Meeting Guide as a free bonus when you start the Priotitize Us 30 Day Couples Challenge for $1/day.

2) You can also get the Family Meeting Guide by itself for $19.

What Women Truly WANT in a Marriage, Especially the Longer They’re Together: Episode 354 Jul 30, 2024

It’s the age old question “what do women want” in a marriage? If having a successful marriage is directly related to meeting each other’s needs then it’s quite important to know what those needs are. This episode will be a two part series that will follow up with exploring the needs that men have as well (so don’t feel left out guys)!

With the amount of coaching sessions we do, we have a great insight into the common needs that are going unmet for couples. There are themes that seem to show up in general, so even the specific needs we hear from women in one season, will not be the same in another.

In this episode you will hear the top 3 needs we are hearing from women right now, which are especially related to the longer a couple is together. As you will hear from the beginning, these needs are more like categories than specific actions. If you look at them this way then it won’t seem like a moving target from one season to another. Focus on these 3 categories and you will find more flexibility and effectiveness in meeting the needs in the years to come.

Relationship Resources:

Want fun, simple, and sweet ideas for feeling more Prioritized by each other? Make sure you take advantage of the 30-Day “Prioritizing Us’ couples challenge that is starting less than 2 days from when this is posted. Go to MyCouplesChallenge.com

No matter how busy you are, these prompts are realistic but shake things up a bit and get you out of the routine in your interactions. Just read the testimonials and you’ll see why over 32,000 couples have loved our challenges.

Deeper Questions Couples Should Been Asking Themselves Right Now: Episode 353 Jul 23, 2024

The success of your life and marriage isn’t as much about the things that happen to you, but how well you can course-correct. This goes for bigger life decisions about where to live, send your kids to school, and where to spend money. As well as the amount of time to pass before initiating repair after a conflict, the attitude you wake up with, and even the thoughts you let your mind focus on.

So then what does “course-correcting” actually look like in regard to these decisions? That is exactly what you will hear in the episode. You are going to hear 4 questions to ask yourselves that will help you to determine whether you are on path or off path, which greatly impacts your satisfaction in your life and marriage together. (So yes it’s pretty important!)

Relationship Resources Mentioned

The Level 1 “Prioritizing Us” 30-Day Couples Challenge (you get the popular Family Meeting guide as a bonus gift with this)

The Level 2 “Rebuilding Us” 30-Day Couples Challenge (repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage)

Additional Guides - https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

5 Ways to Get Out of a Marriage FUNK and Spark More FUN Together: Episode 352 Jul 16, 2024

Whether you’ve been in a funk as a couple, or things have just felt pretty routine with your “adulting” responsibilities, this episode will help you SPARK more fun together!

The truth is, life is short. And we don’t believe we’re meant to just let the weeks pass by and survive our busy schedule. Of course there are challenging days (and you hear us talk about that), but let’s enter into a season of more fulfillment, connection, and play together.

You will hear 5 very tangible and actionable ways to spark more fun together, so dive on in!

We often hear couples say, “we get inspired and motivated to create these changes for a few days, and then we forget or get off track.” And that’s exactly why we created the 30-Day Couples Challenge!

Relationship Resources (pick between):

Level 1: “Prioritizing Us” is focused on strengthening your connection, communication, and fun Love Deposit ideas. LINKED HERE - https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

Level 2: “Rebuilding Us” is focused on repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage. LINKED HERE - https://mycoupleschallenge.com/rebuilding

Talk About the “Seeds” Before They Become “Weeds” in Your Marriage: Episode 351 Jul 09, 2024

Talk about things before they become a bigger issue. On our vacation with family, I brought up the topic of intimacy (physical specifically) and it sparked a great conversation between us. Now for many this could be a conversation that isn’t brought up and turns into a bigger issue later. This is when it can turn into a “weed” that impacts your marriage. Or it could be a conversation that causes defensiveness and conflict. Neither of these are positive options.

You see, we want to talk about how we’re feeling and what we want BEFORE it starts to affect you and the connection, trust, or openness you have with your partner.

In this episode you will hear us discuss:

What’s a “seed” in the relationship vs a “weed”
What happens when we don’t discuss things soon enough
How to think about bringing these things up and making it a productive conversation

Relationship Resources:

The Level 1 “Prioritizing Us” 30-Day Couples Challenge (you get the popular Family Meeting guide as a bonus gift with this)

The Level 2 “Rebuilding Us” 30-Day Couples Challenge (repairing and rebuilding after a harder season of marriage)

Changing Your Attachment Style + Reprogramming the Subconscious With Thais Gibson: Episode 350 Jul 02, 2024

You’ve likely heard of the now popular Attachment Theory about having a secure, safe, trusting, and connected relationship. If you have, likely what you’ve seen is quite conceptual and you are not sure how to use the information. If you have not heard of this theory it simply describes how you connect and bond with a partner and how that was influenced by your parents (or primary caregiver) as well as other romantic relationships you have been in (primary attachment figures).

For us Attachment Theory has become so popular online, rightfully so, but without the right experts describing how to use this theory to make a difference in your own relationship, or how to actually change your style. In this episode you will hear from Attachment Theory expert, counselor, PhD, author, and founder of Personal Development School, Thais Gibson! You will hear her cover:

The 4 Attachment Styles (quickly)
The 5 Pillars and traits of each style
How to reprogram your conscious mind (where attachment needs and behaviors come from) with tools like autosuggestion to change your style

Relationship Resources

Take the FREE Quiz to determine your Attachment Style: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz

Learn more from the Personal Development School:

https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Join our 30-Day Couples Challenges (level 1 or 2) starting July 1st, 2024

https://www.meetthefreemans.com/challenges

Lost in Translation From What’s Said to What’s Heard: Preventing Misunderstandings and Conflicts: Episode 349 Jun 25, 2024

Many communications between couples can cause misunderstandings. This leads to more expectations and further frustrations and upsets. Then these upsets can turn into conflicts. Though it seems simple to just “listen better”, listening is not the same as hearing.

Listening is the requirement for understanding, but even then, it does not guarantee complete and accurate understanding of what was actually meant by your partner.

Though much of this has to do with the listener's role, there is also much to say about the speaker and how they deliver the message so as to not create mistranslations.

In this episode you will hear:

Mistakes the speaker makes
Mistakes the listener makes
5 tips for more productive conversations
Plus the psychology principles that can prevent communications from being misunderstood or turning into conflicts.

Relationship Resources:

1) Join the upcoming 30-Day Couples Challenge “Prioritizing Us”, proven to improve your interactions, help you understand each other more, strengthen your connection, and fill your Love Accounts. https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

2) For links to our top resources and guides: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Why Some Partners Struggle to APOLOGIZE and How to Get Better: Episode 348 Jun 18, 2024

“I’m sorry” - 2 little words that can not only be challenging for some partners to say, but also can mean MANY different things.

So in today’s episode we cover:

Several specific reasons apologizing can be harder for some (self-awareness)
Why couples can battle over whether the ‘I’m sorry’ is deemed “necessary”
The different meanings of “I’m sorry” and how to expand your language for more things to say in these moments
How to get better at apologizing, big or small

We encourage BOTH of you to listen to this episode and talk about how you can both be better. Because these little moments truly can strengthen your bond or erode your ability to respect each other. We know, strong statement, but respect is tied to this.

As you listen, make sure you get our popular Making Up & Moving Forward guide. These repair steps prevent re-triggering a conflict, having to re-hash the details, and ensures you both feel resolved.

Marriage Burnout vs the Motivation to Change: Episode 347 Jun 11, 2024

“How do I get my partner to _____?” This is one of the most common questions we get. Obviously this is referring to wanting a partner to change a behavior in a certain area of the relationship. Underneath that question is the real question of “what is going to motivate my partner?”

If you have ever had this experience of wanting your partner to change something, but they didn’t, you likely felt discouraged or even burnt out. This was likely because you have been asking for things to change for some time now, but nothing did.

In this episode you will hear about the process of motivation and being able to achieve a result you have been wanting to have in your relationship. You will get the 6 steps of the decision making process and how to overcome the motivation threshold so that you do not feel that same burnout or discouragement from not seeing a change happen. In the end you will realize there was something even better for you than the goal you initially set out to achieve!

Relationship Resources:

1) For use in your "Evaluation Step" from the episode, here is the link to the Family Meeting Guide - https://thecouplesexperience.com/family

2) Start the level 1 Prioritizing Us 30-Day Couples Challenge and get the Family Meeting guide as a free bonus. - https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

3) Start the level 2 Rebuiulding Us Couples Challenge - https://mycoupleschallenge.com/rebuilding

Be RESPONSIBLE For Your REACTIONS With These 3 Strategies: Episode 346 Jun 04, 2024

We said to several couples last week: “The ultimate sign of a secure marriage is knowing that even if one of you says something at the wrong time, in the wrong way, or with the wrong tone, the other person will be responsible for their reaction.”

And this is the ultimate goal for so many couples.

So dive in today as we cover:

The 4 D’s that derail conversations and destroy your connection
3 strategies for being responsible for your reactions
Further understanding of the brain so you don’t act from 2 of them in unproductive ways.

As you listen, get 2 of our popular guides:

De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions HERE

Making Up & Moving Forward (repair steps after conflicts) HERE

Having Your Needs Met in Marriage Isn’t as Simple as You’d Think: Episode 345 May 29, 2024

Do you know what you need in your relationship? Whether you do or not right in this moment, knowing what you need is certainly a requirement for being able to communicate and act to fulfill it. This is the basis for having a satisfying relationship.

In this episode we go deeper into explaining our process for effectively communicating your needs and what being assertive really means. But you will also have a new perspective on whether you really know what you need or not. It is not as simple as you think.

Relationship Resources:

Both of the 30 Day Couples Challenges start on Jne 1st.

The Level 1 - Prioritizing Us Challenge

The Level 2 - Rebuilding Us Challenge

Trust & Being Able to Count on Each Other are Based on 4 Things: Episode 344 May 21, 2024

Can you count on each other completely? Not with just the BIG things, but also with the small daily things in your life?

Building and living a great life with each other is only possible if you can count on, TRUST, each other. When you see the word “trust” it’s easy to think of big things around feeling physically safe or being truthful in what you say. But this conversation gets way more into your day-to-day experiences that either lead to doubting each other and losing trust or increasing the reliability and foundational confidence you have no matter what comes up.

Being attracted to each other, feeling connected, being intimate, and having fun together, is only possible if you can COUNT on each other as partners and that you each are operating as people of integrity to these 4 things…

Relationship Resources:

It is the last week to attend the in person Couples Workshop with us in Arizona on May 26th. Check out the details and reserve your seats here: http://thecouplesworkshop.com

If that date is past, or you are looking for immediate resrouces, like the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide: you can see all the resoruces here.

Navigating the 7 Stages of Marriage and Their Usefulness to You Right Now: Episode 343 May 14, 2024

Which of these 7 stages of marriage are you two in right now? Knowing this not only gives you perspective about navigating your current season, but also what’s ahead of you in the bigger picture of being married for many years.

It is unrealistic to think that every season of marriage should be the same, or will be in the same order as another couple’s. But also, we should be able to navigate some of the harder stages more quickly so they don’t last too long or rob us of joy and fulfillment in living life together.

RELATIONSHIP RESOURCES:

Meet us in-person at The Couples Workshop in Arizona at the end of May.
Start the Prioritize Us 30-Day Couples Challenge and see why over 25,000 couples have loved these prompts!

What Really Creates Change in a Marriage (for better or worse): Episode 342 May 07, 2024

We all want some degree of change in our lives, and our relationships. So long as they are the changes we want! Change can be difficult if it brings about a lot of unknown, or if the change you desire requires your partner to change some of their behavior.

But what is it that creates change and how do you get the results that you really want? In this episode we outline the drives and motivations behind creating change and the one foundational element that you must be able to identify if any real change is going to happen, let alone last!

Relationship Resources

- May 26th, 2024 is The Couples Workshop in Arizona. If you have been wanting to join us in person for this 1/2 day event to create positive change in your communiation and conflict resolution, save your seat today! Make this a little vacation/reset for both of you.

- If the May workshop is past, make sure to check out which online resource is best for the change you are looking to make: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

3 Ways to Connect More as a Couple in Everyday Life, Even When Busy: Episode 341 Apr 30, 2024

Building connection (and closeness) with your partner is fundamental to having a happy and satisfying relationship. Yet it’s the first thing that takes a back seat when you are busy, stressed, or just in the routine of your life.

Yes, maintaining connection takes effort. If you thought you could be in a marriage without effort, someone needs to inform your partner! But it doesn’t need to be extravagant or just be when you have time for date nights. In this episode you will hear 3 ways to build and maintain connection in your everyday life, so that your long-term life can be satisfying for both of you!

Relationship Resources

The next round of 30 Day Couples Challenges start May 1st. Now we have the level 1, prioritizing Us, and the level 2, Rebuilding Us challenges. You can see the details of both of them at our main weblink here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Marriage Trials to TRIUMPH: Our Story Overcoming the HARDEST 2 Years + How We Became STRONGER Than Ever: Episode 340 Apr 23, 2024

The last 2 years could have torn us apart and made us turn against each other. It felt like life was throwing everything at us at once, all while we had a newborn baby.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

Our personal journey of what trials we faced over the last 2 years
How exactly we triumphed after these challenges and got stronger than EVER
What social psychology says about overcoming stressors and adversity
4 areas of wisdom to guide you through anything you face as a couple

As you listen, make sure you also get signed up for one of our 30-Day Couples Challenges:

The Level 1 ‘Prioritizing Us’ Challenge focuses on filling your Love Accounts, improving your communication, and strengthens your connection.

The Level 2 ‘Rebuilding Us’ Challenge focuses on repairing and rebuilding the foundation of your partnership after being in a harder season of marriage.

Who’s to Blame? Determining Your Part in Marriage Issues: Episode 339 Apr 16, 2024

Who's to blame for your frustrating problems and patterns in your relationship?

It's obviously your partner, right... they're the problem. No… blaming them doesn't get you anywhere, in fact it makes things worse and more difficult to get out of.

If there's one thing that is inarguable in social psychology it's that relationships are bi-directional.Meaning, your attitude, actions, and choices affect your partner's attitude, actions, and choices, and vice versa.

Unfortunately many couples stay stuck in frustrating cycles or without a solution because they aren't in a problem-solving state. If you truly operate as a team and dive a little deeper into WHY you keep encountering this frustrating pattern, you can overcome it together.

In this episode you’ll hear a deep-dive into:

The 5 root causes of most marriage problems/issues
4 self-reflective questions to ask yourself to identify your partner in the situation
Understanding more about a psychology approach to effective problem solving

Use this link to join the mentioned Rebuilding Us 30-Day Couples Challenge (level 2).

Or for other resources, link on our general website link.

Navigating Power Struggles With Your Partner: Episode 338 Apr 09, 2024

There are disagreements in your relationship, and then there are Power Struggles! These power struggles are more detrimental and have deeper rooted contributing factors. They keep you from being the best team possible and being able to come up with mutually beneficial solutions for your family. In today’s episode we dive into:

How to define a power struggle
The goal of interdependence, rather than co-dependence or independence
Contributing factors to being in a power struggle
Communication skills to be more collaborative + harmonious

Dive into our Relationship Resources:

📔 Family Meeting guide

💻 Marriage WebClass

❣️ Our NEW 30-Day Couples Challenge: Rebuilding US

…and more!

ALL LINKED HERE

Issues With the In-Laws: Episode 337 Apr 02, 2024

Your family is a source of support, love, and acceptance. Now there are certainly times that our perception of actions from family members make us forget those underlying intentions. Of course this can be even more true when you are interacting (or dealing with) your partner’s family members (your in-laws)!

There is always the grand idea that two sides of a family can come together and just magnify the sense of community, family, and support, but that doesn’t always happen. It can be common that each of your own families (and how you individually interact with them) can be a source of conflict, even between you and your partner. In this episode we dive into some of these sources of conflict and 5 particular patterns that you should avoid as to not make your partner out to be the bad guy with your family!

Relationship Resources:

It's April 1st, 2024 and we now have TWO 30-Day Couples Challenges that you can start!

1) The Prioritize Us Couples Challenge - daily activities to grow your love accounts

2) The Rebuilding Us Couples Challenge - daily prompts to repair and rebuild after a hard season.

Communicate Better, De-escalate Conflicts, Repair Faster After Arguments: Episode 336 Mar 26, 2024

The basis of a strong marriage is how well you handle 3 “stages” of interactions. These 3 stages are before, during and after conflicts. The before stage is all about communication and being able to prevent conflicts from even happening. The during conflict stage is about de-escalating tensions and potential conflicts. The after stage is about how you repair when conflicts to happen (because they will)

In this episode you will hear the tools you will need to master each of the 3 stages and putting them all together will make you feel unstoppable and confident that you can handle any challenge as a team.

This episode is our "audio version" of the webclass we just hosted. So be sure to watch the replay of the webclass while it’s still available. You can find it here on our Top Resources Page.

There you can also find the BRAND NEW ‘Level 2’ 30-Day Couples Challenge that is all about repairing and rebuilding from a hard season. This is the advanced “Rebuilding Us Couples Challenge”!

6 Keys to Become More Emotionally Intelligent Partners: Episode 335 Mar 19, 2024

Emotional Intelligence (or lack thereof) can truthfully be a make it or break it factor for a marriage. It’s a big part of what helps you be connected, navigate hardship and disagreements, and embrace your differences. It’s also what can cause feelings of “walking on egg-shells” or be what escalates simple miscommunications into big conflicts. Yet nowadays this term can be used too conceptually, and you know we are all about making things useful and practical!

In this episode you’ll hear:

6 keys to Emotional Intelligence
Examples of how these look in your marriage
How to improve in each one

Also, our LIVE Marriage WebClass is next week, March 25th! And we only host these two times a year, so get signed up here. (yes, it’s free!) Spots will be limited to 500, so make sure to join early for Communicating Constructively, De-escalating Conflicts, and Repairing Arguments webclass.

After March 25th, visit our resource link for the latest guides, courses, and events

5 Foundations for a Strong Marriage: Episode 334 Mar 12, 2024

You can’t build a strong marriage on a weak foundation. But do you know what the ingredients for a rock-solid foundation are? Well don’t worry, we’re covering that today and we’re certain this will open up some great conversations for you two.

In this episode you’ll hear:

The 5 foundations to a strong marriage
Specific examples so that you can have these conversations with your partner
How these can help guide you when you disagree and/or encounter hard moments

Also, make sure you utilize our resources because we have a long waitlist for private sessions:

3. Making Up & Moving Forward guide

How Your Psychology Helps OR Hinders Your Marriage (Perception & Memory Bias): Episode 333 Mar 05, 2024

You don’t often “think about your own psychology”, life is just happening and you are responding. So when it comes to interactions with your partner, it's easy to defend yourself when your perspective is brought into question. The cycle continues when you go back and forth about who remembers events more accurately.

Your perception and memory are all a part of your psychology. These are actually very complex cognitive functions that can easily make errors and include bias you are not even aware of. In this episode we intend to share some of these errors and biases with the intent that you loosen the grip you have on being right and be willing to be more flexible with your own perception to bring more understanding into your marriage.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting April 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

2. STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

3 Mistakes Women Make in Marriage: Episode 332 Feb 27, 2024

From the thousands of coaching sessions, DMs, and emails that we receive, we tend to see themes come up in marriage. You would be surprised to learn how common certain topics are for couples, that all seem to come up in the same weeks and months. We are not here to hypothesize about why that is, but just make these themes known.

This is the highly anticipated followup episode from last week’s on mistakes men are making. Lately we have been noticing themes around Women and mistakes they are making in marriage. These are not character flaws but just patterns of behavior that we see adding to the dynamics in marriage. Today you will hear from Jocelyn on this solo episode about the 3 mistakes women are making: Criticisms, Conclusions, Consistency

Resources For Your Relationship:

1. Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting March 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

2. If the challenge start already passed, you can find all of our resoruces from guides, to courses, to coaching sessions with this link: Best Resources

3 Mistakes Men Make in Marriage: Episode 331 Feb 20, 2024

From the thousands of coaching sessions, DMs, and emails that we receive, we tend to see themes come up in marriage. You would be surprised to learn how common certain topics are for couples, that all seem to come up in the same weeks and months. We are not here to hypothesize about why that is, but just make these themes known.

Lately we have been noticing themes around men and mistakes they are making in marriage. These are not character flaws but just patterns of behavior that we see adding to the dynamics in marriage. Today you will hear from Aaron on this solo episode about the 3 mistakes men are making: Reserved, Responsibility, and Receptivity.

If you are new to listening or just looking for where to go for the best relationship resources we have, you can find everything from simple conflict guides, webclasses, books, and dates for upcoming events here with out Resources Link.

Not Everything Needs to Be A Thing: Discerning Between Tension & a True Issue in Marriage: Episode 330 Feb 13, 2024

The scenario is that your partner makes a comment, you sense they are a little irritated. They may very well have a frustration but have expressed it with a mild (level 2) upset. Yet you are not in a conflict or argument. But as you talk back and forth, you start giving explanations and justifications and an early onset of defensiveness starts to create a divide. This is a critical moment where you could even say to each other “this doesn’t have to become a thing …”

Often these moments are not handled properly and now it does turn into something. You have this energy between you and your partner that for many can cause you to go do your own separate things and even have you ruin/cancel plans you had together for the evening. We have heard this happens for date nights, and even Valentine's Day plans, which happens to be tomorrow from when this podcast came out.

This episode is about how to discern between tension and a true issue in marriage with 5 actions to take to “bounce back” faster.

Resources:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Feb 14th, 2024 for Valentines Day - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

Find all our other guides and resources here on our website resources page

The Bare Minimum to Expect in a Marriage (from yourself): Episode 329 Feb 07, 2024

What is the bare minimum to expect in a marriage? You likely read that question and think about your expectations about your partner… However this is actually about what to expect from yourself!

There are a lot of social media comments on relationship posts that judge the portrayal of a partner. That shows that most people think about what changes a partner needs to make in order to better meet one’s own needs. But that is quite backward. In this episode you will hear 6 traits that are the bare minimum to expect within yourself if you want to be a good partner.

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Feb 14th, 2024 for Valentines Day - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

Find all our other guides and resources here on our website resources page

The ‘7 Year Itch’ When Marriage Dissatisfaction Peaks & What You Can Do About It (At Any Point): Episode 328 Jan 30, 2024

You have heard about the "7 Year Itch" in a marriage. Though that was the name of a Marilyn Monroe movie in 1955, studies have shown that a couples satisfaction in marriage hits a low around 10 years into a marriage. Whether you’ve been together 2 years, 10 years, or 30+ years, you’ll get a lot out of this episode by understanding what couples lose sight of and causes an increase of dissatisfaction.

We dive into:

What the studies say about the “peak of dissatisfaction” being around year 10 together
The actions that lead a couple to these rough patches
What to do about it so you two can stay satisfied or boost it up, no matter how long you’ve been together.

As you listen, make sure you join our upcoming 30-Day Couples Challenge here.

Attachment Styles Part 2: Overcoming Avoidant and Anxious Pasts and Tendencies: Episode 327 Jan 23, 2024

Are attachment styles fixed? This is the essence of all the questions and messages we received after last week’s episode on attachment style, behaviors, and needs. This required a Part 2 episode this week where you will hear how to overcome your avoidant or anxious style pasts and tendencies.

Not only is attachment style not fixed, it’s a range, and can be very situational. You may have created a secure relationship experience for both of you, but circumstances and your environment can have you fall back into insecure behaviors that remind you of your past. Today we share more of our own back stories of being anxious and avoidant, how those would creep back in over the years, and 5 ways to move yourselves back into that secure attachment experience you are used to operating in together!

Resources:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Feb 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

P.S. - you also get the Family Meeting Guide as a bonus for start the Couples Challenge!

Understand Your Attachment Styles, Needs, and Behaviors: Episode 326 Jan 16, 2024

Attachment is a key term and principle for relationships and refers to the way in which you bond and connect with your partner. The theory of Attachment Style has become much more popular in recent years from its conception by John Bowlby in 1969. Though many are familiar with the Secure and Insecure categorizations and the insecure types of avoidant, anxious, and fearful; people are not so familiar with the attachment needs and behaviors that are as critical.

All of this as a theory can feel very conceptual so in this episode you will hear even more depth about the attachment needs, and behaviors so that you can take more practical action to move in the direction of a secure relationship experience. Even if you are securely attached with your partner you will hear how to maintain this on a range of relationship confidence and trust.

Also, utilize our resources to put this into practice:

The Family Meeting guide and tempaltes.
The Steps to Rebuild a Marriage guide

3. All of our resources are here.

Passion, Closeness, and Commitment: Maintaining the 3 Components of Love in Marriage: Episode 325 Jan 09, 2024

What is Love in a very practical sense? We hear people say “we fell in love” or “we fell out of love”... so what is causing this experience of love? Or why do couples start to feel more like roommates?

As the years pass, it can be easier to fall into what is called “empty love” or “friendship love” and miss the 3rd element of love that we all crave.

So dive into today’s episode where you’ll hear:

The 3 components of love
Variations of relationships that have one or 2 components but are missing the 3rd
How to maintain “complete love” encompassing all 3 components

Also, utilize our resources to put this into practice:

Our "Prioritize Us" 30-Day Couples Challenge is open for just a couple more days.
The Family Meeting guide for weekly, quarterly, and yearly check-ins

3. Or see all of our resources are here (including in-person events & coaching)

How to Do the “Yearly Check-in” to Start off 2024 as a United Team: Episode 324 Jan 03, 2024

The one thing that the beginning of a year allows you to do is draw a clear line in the sand. It’s a psychological distinction to review your last 12 months and see how well you executed on your game plan. Some do this for work, for individual achievements, as sports teams, and it is very powerful to do for your marriage.

In this episode you will hear how to go through a Yearly Check-in to start off your new year. This will allow you to reestablish your core values, set your vision and goals, and remove any old distractions and barriers that didn’t serve you from the previous year.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Jan 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication. PLUS you get the Family Meeting Guide as a Bonus

FAMILY MEETING GUIDE: The step-by-step guide to having your family meeting, with templates for weekly, quarterly, and the yearly meetings. This is the Family Meeting Guide from the episode and it’s only $19.

How Parenthood Has Affected Our Marriage + The Biggest Challenges We See Couples Face: Episode 323 Dec 27, 2023

Parenting definitely shifts priorities, but that shouldn’t mean we de-prioritize our marriage, right? This week was our daughter’s 2nd birthday and we were reflecting on our own parenting journey up until this point.

We know from many couples that parenting really does shift many things in a marriage, even studies have shown that satisfaction goes down in the first 5 years of becoming parents. Though there are so many great positives that also come with being a parent, in this episode you will hear about the challenges that we have faced in the first 2 years, the common challenges other parents face, and the steps to take to better handle these challenges. All so that they do not negatively impact your marriage and you can focus more on all the benefits of being a parent and a great partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Jan 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

How to VALIDATE Your Partner! Why This Is Important But Difficult When You Don’t Agree: Episode 322 Dec 19, 2023

If you have listened to the podcast at all you probably have thought “Yes, I get the importance of validating my partner but HOW exactly do I do that?” Even if this is your first time listening you likely have the same question about how to have your partner feel validated in their experience especially when you do not agree with their feelings or details of an event!

Validating a partner is a difficult thing to do because you will not always see (or experience) events the same way. You also might feel as if they are blaming you for how they feel, which makes it more difficult to validate because it seems you have to take the blame. In this episode you will hear 7 easy actions to take to have your partner feel validated but also understand the real importance of validation on positive influence!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Jan 1st, 2024 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

How to Get On a “Winning Streak” in Your Marriage & Move Beyond a Hard Season: Episode 321 Dec 12, 2023

All Work & No Play Makes For A Dull Marriage. If you’re like most of the couples we talk to, you’ve been working at overcoming patterns and challenges that have kept you stuck and in frustrating cycles. Many couples even say, “I’m so exhausted” or “When do we get back to more fun times?”

If you have ever seen the movie Moneyball, it’s just clicking in a few key aspects so that you can get on a winning streak! In this episode you will hear a brief answer for why you might feel like you’re on a losing streak, but how you can use the same ideas to turn it into a winning streak. Then we give you categories that you can take an action in to keep the positive momentum going.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1)Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Jan 1st, 2023 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

2)STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

What Men Need in Marriage That is Often Overshadowed and Unexpressed to Their Partner: Episode 320 Dec 05, 2023

We were not going to leave the men out from last week’s episode about what women need in a marriage. This episode is about what men need that is often overshadowed and not expressed. Just so you know, the answer is not going to be sex… we have our own issue with accounts that tote sex as men’s only need in a marriage (but you will hear that in the episode)!

In this episode you will hear about the need of Harmony and how that is a key need for men, even if they would not have said it that way. You will hear 5 pathways to practically move into more harmony and how to have men’s underlying needs in this area be met so that each of you can be more fulfilled in both the short and long term!

Relationship Resources:

STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

What Women Need in Marriage That is Often Overlooked and Difficult to Describe to The Partner: Episode 319 Nov 28, 2023

In this insightful podcast episode, dive into the heart of successful marriages and discover a nuanced perspective on meeting the emotional needs of women, a crucial but often overlooked aspect. Women generally prioritize people and nurturing, while men care more about things and problem-solving. This difference poses a challenge to men in grasping the seemingly ever-changing emotional needs of their partners and introduces a vital skill: Emotional Attunement.

You will hear a vivid contrast between what it looks like to be unattuned versus the transformative qualities of attunement. Attunement is commonly absent in many male partners stemming from childhood experiences, unresolved conflicts, and a lack of self-validation. Ultimately, the episode empowers you with the profound understanding that emotional attunement is a cornerstone for creating a deeply connected and fulfilling marriage.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1)Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Dec 1st, 2023 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

2)STEPS TO REBUILD A MARRIAGE GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to the process of rebuilding a marriage after a hard and prolonged season of disconnect or hurt. It’s the Rebuild a Marriage Guide and it’s only $19.

Steps to Rebuild a Marriage Part 2: Places You Can Get Off Track: Episode 318 Nov 20, 2023

If you plan to be married for a long time, you need to work through hard seasons, course-correct, and commit to make changes. These are the times that you need to take steps to rebuild the marriage and start a chapter. This is PART 2 of the “Steps to Rebuild a Marriage” episode #312 as we got so many messages about this topic.

In this episode we will briefly remind you of the steps to rebuild, which we have shortened from 8 to 6. Then we will dive further into 4 ways that you can easily get off track in these difficult conversations for rebuilding. These conversations are inherently going to be more vulnerable and potentially charged, so you will need to quickly adjust when you feel them getting off track.

Relationship Resources From This Episode:

The brand NEW Steps to Rebuild a Marriage Guide so you can end a hard season and create a new chapter together.

Does Emotional or Physical Intimacy Come First? A Chicken or the Egg Dynamic in Marriage: Episode 317 Nov 14, 2023

Meeting each other’s needs is the basis for a great relationship. This can get complex especially when it comes to the need of intimacy in a marriage, a fundamental need that often takes different forms for men and women. While some men seek physical intimacy to feel connected, their female partners emphasize the need for emotional intimacy.

In this episode you will hear the significance of first establishing emotional safety (in its various forms) before either type of intimacy can be created. Then how each person’s need can be accepted as valid and a roadmap for building emotional intimacy through 4 key elements: attunement, honesty, vulnerability, and initiation.

As for physical intimacy, you will hear the keys of emphasizing love deposits, injecting fun, and introducing intentional variety into the experience. You will understand that you can in fact meet both of your needs as they are independent of each other first. The meeting of those needs further raise both the emotional and physical aspects of your marriage.

Relationship Resources (mentioned in the episode):

1) Register for the next "Prioritize Us" 30 Day Couples Challenge and get the Family Meeting Guide as a part of it.

2) Get the Family Meeting Guide on it's own now.

5 Ways to Be a Exceptional Partner, No Matter the Circumstances You Face: Episode 316 Nov 07, 2023

It's not that difficult to show up as a great partner when everything is going smoothly in your life. Being an exceptional partner has much to do with how you show up in the face of challenges and things not going how you planned.

In this episode you will hear 5 ways to be an exceptional partner that will be demonstrated through aligning your words and actions, being responsible for the attitude you bring to the environment, how you show up in support, focusing on the satisfaction of your partner, and your mental and emotional resiliency.

Relationship Resources:

Check out the in-person couples workshop in Arizona Jan 28th. http://thecouplesworkshop.com/

Explore all the resources from simple guides to private coaching. https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Leadership in Marriage and Trusting Each Other: Episode 315 Oct 31, 2023

Disconnection and dissatisfaction can often stem from a power struggle for leadership, especially if it’s been absent. This episode highlights the unique marriage challenges in contemporary relationships, where misconceptions about domination and disengagement can create more conflicts.

Leadership within a marriage is not about control but influence and the initiative to guide. This episode explores essential leadership values including a just cause, trust within the team, accountability, collaborative rivalry, substantial flexibility, and the courage to navigate life's challenges together. Ultimately, you'll be inspired to approach your marriage with a renewed perspective for sharing leadership for long-term satisfaction.

Marriage Resources:

Find all the resoruces you need from simple step-by-step guides, to webclasses, in person workshops, and even private coaching at https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Crucible Moments in Marriage That Can Change Things For Better or Worse: Episode 314 Oct 25, 2023

In this thought-provoking episode, you'll explore the intriguing concept of "crucible moments" and where you have already experienced them in your own relationship. These pivotal junctures, situations, or decision points test the strength of your bond and commitment, with choices leading to breakthroughs or declines in your relationship.

You’ll hear real-life examples, from navigating the newborn stage to handling heated arguments or even a big financial loss. This episode encourages you to make decisions aligned with your values, practice ruthless self-honesty, and consider the long-term consequences, leaving you with essential guidance for when you are confronted with critical crucible moments in your marriage!

Relationship Resources:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge starting Nov 1st, 2023 - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

4 Non-Negotiables For a Fulfilling & Lasting Marriage: Episode 313 Oct 17, 2023

In this podcast episode, the fifth step in rebuilding a marriage takes center stage – expressing and agreeing to non-negotiables. Overall this is a crucial step for building trust and granting forgiveness. You will hear 4 non-negotiables that we feel are paramount to a strong and lasting marriage. Those steps are individual responsibility, emotional intelligence, open communication, and developing the traits of flexibility and resilience. You will discover how these keys lead to a stronger, more connected partnership, where both partners actively participate in nurturing a resilient and fulfilling relationship that will last.

Resources:

1) Join the FREE Marriage Webclass on communication, conflict repair, and deescalation on Oct 19th, 2023. Register at: https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/

2) After that date, find the resource guides here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Steps to Rebuild a Marriage: Episode 312 Oct 10, 2023

Are you facing a difficult season in your marriage, feeling weighed down, worn out, or dissatisfied by challenges and conflicts? This type of season is not uncommon for marriages. Though it seems complex and ominous to tackle, there are specific patterns that have brought you both to this place.

In this episode you'll explore the process of revitalizing a marriage mired in challenges, resentment, and conflicts and provides you with crucial steps to navigate this journey. You'll learn the importance of committing authentically to your relationship, focusing on effective communication, shedding old patterns, and identifying non-negotiables. By listening, you'll gain insight and guidance to embark on the challenging yet hopeful path of rebuilding your marriage and becoming the partners you aspire to be for a stronger future together.

Resources:

You can find our top resources, incuding step-by-step guides and online courses, with this one link here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Making & Keeping Agreements For Times of Conflict, Even When Your Partner Isn’t: Episode 311 Oct 03, 2023

In this episode, you'll explore the critical role of agreements during times of conflicts in your own marriage. Just like any game, your marriage really only works on the adherence to certain rules or guidelines, then everyone can have fun playing the game! While your marriage involves various agreements for different aspects of life, the most vital ones are those designed for navigating conflicts. These agreements, treated as laws, encompass actions for you to take or avoid when emotions run high, including refraining from yelling, name-calling, bringing up past grievances, or storming out without communicating the need for a break.

Beyond mere verbal promises, these agreements demand your genuine commitment and personal responsibility. Emotions are viewed as data, not directives, and you're encouraged to recognize your emotions, calm your nervous system, and pause when necessary. Even when your partner fails to uphold their agreements, this episode stresses the importance of your personal integrity and establishing minimum acceptable standards for yourself, ultimately providing you with a roadmap for resolving conflicts constructively and maintaining a healthy marriage.

Resources:

NEW DE-ESCALATE CONFLICTS GUIDE: A realistic guide to managing your emotions and keeping simple conversations from escalating into overblown fights. It’s the De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions Guide and it’s only $19.

Relationship Satisfaction and Stability: What Really Keeps Couples Together? Episode 310 Sep 26, 2023

What truly determines the health and success of a romantic relationship? While popular resources online suggest differences in personality traits, attachment styles, past traumas, or external stressors as contributing factors, the episode sheds light on a more precise concept – "relationship stability."

Psychologists have coined this term to better measure long-term success in relationships, ultimately linked to the duration of the partnership along with a sense of fulfillment, not driven by obligation or fear. The VSA model of Marriage, encompassing Vulnerabilities, Stress, and Adaptation, takes center stage, highlighting the significance of effective communication, problem-solving, compromise, support, and the ability to adapt and evolve behavior to nurture a healthy and satisfying marriage.

This episode invites you to reflect on their own relationships, emphasizing that it's not about what happens to you, but how you respond when vulnerabilities surface amidst external stressors. Also, make sure you join the upcoming 30-Day Couples Challenge here. Receive daily prompts to fill your “Love Accounts,” improve your communication, and become more connected.

Staying in Love With Each Other as the Years Pass: Episode 309 Sep 19, 2023

In this heartfelt podcast episode, you'll explore the crucial difference between falling in love and staying in love. The hosts share insightful points on making your partner feel seen, appreciated, adored, respected, and accepted over time. They also emphasize the importance of navigating the natural ebbs and flows of intimacy, remaining receptive to each other's needs, course-correcting when necessary, and investing the effort required for enduring love. This episode provides you with a roadmap to cultivate a deep, lasting connection with your partner, reminding you that love is a journey, and staying in love is an ongoing commitment, regardless of the stage of your relationship.

Resources:

Use this link to find our top communication and conflict resolution resources and guides. https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

FREE BOOK for reviews through Sept 21st, 2023:

Want us to personally sign and mail you a copy of our book, The Argument Hangover? For EVERY SINGLE one of you that writes a review for our podcast, or emails us about how our guides or challenges have benefited you, we will send this book. Due to shipping restrictions, this applies to those in the United States. For those of you outside the U.S., we will send you the E-Book plus a bonus thank you gift. Just email us the review: connect@newpowercouples.com. This goes through Sept 21st, 2023.

Protecting Your Kids From Predators Online & Locally Through Teaching Consent + How Trafficking Ends With What We Do at Home: With Expert Rosalia Rivera: Episode 308 Sep 05, 2023

We know this can be a hard conversation, but it’s critical in order to protect our children from the very real threats and predators. You might think that trafficking is something that is distant or would not affect your area or town. But as you’ll learn from today’s guest, Rosalia Rivera, the abuse and trafficking of children occurs mostly in plain sight, in areas near and around you.

But this episode is not to put you in fear; in fact, it’s to empower you to have specific ACTIONS to take, whether your kids are 2 or already up to teens.

You will hear:

The difference between human trafficking and sexual abuse of children
What it means to teach “consent” to children, and conversations to have from parent to child
What age you can start having these conversations about body autonomy and consent
3 specific ways to protect children from online predators or exploitation
3 specific ways to protect children from local threats, even that can occur in their clubs, sports activities, and sleepovers with neighbors
Conversations to start with your local community, their schools, and daycares,
And so much more. All of it is sobering and somewhat shocking that we have to think about this, but we DO

Dive into her helpful resources here on her website and instagram!

3 Inescapable Truths About Marriage That Lead to More Happy or Hard Days: Episode 307 Aug 30, 2023

After you dive into the episode, be sure to sign-up for the 30-Day Couples Challenge starting Sept 1st! This is the best step to consistently add to your love account levels and be more connected on a daily basis.

Of course not all relationships are the same because of the personality dynamics that are unique to the two of you and also the specific events or challenges that you face in your marriage. This is where the episode really makes a claim; that you will face challenges in your life and marriage together.

As you listen to this episode you are going to hear 3 inescapable truths that you must accept and navigate as to lead to having more happy than hard days. This will be even more critical when you are facing challenges, whether internal or external, so that you can still have happiness, understanding, and collaboration no matter what challenges arise!

Loving Your Kids Without Losing Yourself with Guest Expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip: Episode 306 Aug 24, 2023

Becoming a mother is a transformative and in some ways challenging journey. Everyone focuses on the actions of being a parent and not enough on the identity shifts and emotional journey that it really is.

Today’s guest expert, Dr Morgan Cutlip, wrote the book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself. In today’s interview with her, you’ll hear:

Why “balance” is bologna and what to seek instead
The core inner conflicts a mom faces, and likely doesn’t expect
The impossible standards we set for ourselves and how that affects us
How to banish or tame the guilt we encounter with the decisions we make as a mother

After you tune in to the interview, please support this hard-working mom by ordering her book and claim the bonuses she provides HERE.

Ending the “Stand-Off” After a Big Blow Up: Episode 305 Aug 22, 2023

Picture this: you and your partner on vacation at your favorite spot, yet you haven't exchanged a word in three days. The silent tension, the "stand-off," can feel like it's tearing your relationship apart, whether it's a recurring pattern or a prolonged icy silence. But fear not, because in this episode, we dive into the fascinating realm of how our minds can play tricks on us, especially in the heat of a relationship blow-up. Discover the cognitive twists and turns that can lead to misunderstandings and emotional chaos.

We explore the psychology behind intelligence and how our cognitive development shapes the way we interpret conflicts. From confirmation bias that paints your partner as the villain to cognitive distortions that blur the lines between feelings and facts, we unravel the mysteries behind these mental mechanisms.

Join us as we guide you through navigating the complex landscape of emotions, reminding you that while feelings are valid, they might not always align with reality. Tune in to learn how to dismantle the stand-off, focusing on self-reflection, responsibility, and solution-oriented repair. Don't let your relationship be a casualty of the stand-off – let's bridge the gap together.

Additional Resources From the Show

Join us in-person at The Couples Workshop on September 10th, 2023 in Arizona.

Get the Making Up & Moving Forward guide to repair faster and more effectively.

3 Steps to More Proactive Communication in Your Day-to-Day Life Together: Episode 304 Aug 15, 2023

Proactive communication allows you to have more harmony, ease, and unity in your relationship. But what does that really mean, is it just speaking your mind more often?

We all know that “our partner can’t read our mind,” but how many of us try to just survive the chaos of life without communicating enough with our partner? Or worse, communicate “reactively” once there’s already tension, frustration, and miscommunications.

Today’s episode gives you 3 helpful steps to focus on more proactive communication as a couple. These steps will help you be more on the same page, avoid little upsets, and build more trust in each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

To help with these conversations ongoingly, you can get our Family Meeting Guide here for constructive weekly, quarterly, and yearly check-ins.

How You Were RAISED Affects How You HANDLE These 4 Dynamics in Your Marriage: Episode 303 Aug 08, 2023

Join us in this episode as we dive deep into the intricate ways your upbringing shapes your approach to 4 crucial dynamics of your marriage. You will hear the subtle yet profound influences of your past on how you navigate these dynamics with your partner. We all recognize the power of our formative experiences, from childhood to early romance, and their lasting effects on us, but what can you really do about it, right?

We'll explore how your emotional regulation, sense of responsibility, reception of feedback, and ability to repair are intricately tied to your upbringing. Discover how your family's approach to emotions, promises, feedback, and conflict resolution unconsciously shape your behavior in these key areas. Tune in to gain insights that will empower you and your partner to create a harmonious and fulfilling relationship, building a bridge between your past and your future together.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Attend the LIVE Couples Workshop in Arizona on Sept. 10th, 2023:

http://thecouplesworkshop.com/

Find our recomended guides, webclasses, and courses on our main website:

https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

The Relationship Advice Your Friends Won’t Give You: Stop Acting From Your Feelings, Act From Your Commitment: Episode 302 Aug 03, 2023

Having good friendships is critical to your fulfillment in life and plays a big role in your marriage as well. However, not all of your friends will tell you the hard truth and some of the things that you really need to hear if you are to get out of a hard season in your relationship.

It’s also unlikely that your friends are relationship coaches so there is a key piece of advice that you will not hear from any of them, that you really need to hear. This episode is all about how you need to stop acting from how you feel and start acting from your commitment. Listen to this episode so that you can take a stand to turn a hard season around and keep it from any further decline or disconnection.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Attend the LIVE Couples Workshop in Arizona on Sept. 10th, 2023:

http://thecouplesworkshop.com/

Find our recomended guides, webclasses, and courses on our main website:

https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Do a Mid-Year Check-in on Your Life & Marriage Priorities. A Great Conversation Starter From Our Impromptu Staycation! Episode 301 Aug 01, 2023

We went on an impromptu staycation this weekend… just us! And we used some of our time (besides playing, flirting, and relaxing) to have some meaningful conversations. We like to call them “check-ins.” This one in particular happened to be getting on the same page about our life and marriage priorities for the rest of the year.

Do you and your partner feel on the same page about what your priorities are? If you don’t take some time a few times per year, you can just be going about the motions expending energy in two different directions… or nowhere at all, really.

So dive into today’s episode to get some inspiration for a great conversation you can have together!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication. This one starts Aug 1st, 2023 and you get the Family Meeting Guide included.

If you just want the Family Meeting Guide on it's own, you can get it separately here too.

Top 3 Sources of Marriage Dissatisfaction For Men & How to Prevent Them: Episode 300 Jul 25, 2023

This highly anticipated episode is finally here! Today we dive into underlying frustrations and areas of dissatisfaction for men that we want to be mindful of in our relationship.

Remember, these aren’t to blame one person. We both can participate in meeting each other’s needs, preventing frustrations, and talking through the patterns that are interconnected.

After you dive into the episode, be sure to sign-up for the 30-Day Couples Challenge starting August 1st!

Top 3 Sources of Marriage Dissatisfaction For Women & How to Prevent Them: Episode 299 Jul 19, 2023

Getting married and choosing to do life with someone means that you're also saying, “I am going to care about your needs, I am going to care about whether you’re satisfied or not, and I am going to do my best to meet the standards we’ve set for a partnership.”

When this stops happening for various reasons, then the fulfillment and satisfaction for that partner can start to go down. So today’s episode is really about boosting satisfaction in the partnership by understanding the top sources of dissatisfaction for women specifically and how to prevent them.

To go with today’s episode, also get access to our Family Meeting Guide and Templates here:

https://thecouplesexperience.com/family

How to Have a Relationship Check-in That’s Constructive and Time Efficient (Our Updated Family Meeting Process): Episode 298 Jul 09, 2023

All great teams “huddle” often, whether a sports team or a professional team. But how often do you guys check-in? Today’s episode covers how to have a weekly, quarterly, and yearly check-in. This is a major update to our process we shared in 2021, which was a SUPER popular episode. You’ll hear the 5 questions to ask each other every week, what to discuss about your relationship every quarter of the year, and big picture topics to stay on track on a yearly basis.

We promise, these can be accomplished in just a few minutes and will help you prevent miscommunications, tackle issues proactively, and experience more harmony in the relationship!

To go with the episode, get our BRAND NEW Family Meeting Guide & Templates here:

https://thecouplesexperience.com/family

Also from the episode, you can get the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide if you need more guidance on how to repair things that were unresolved.

Learning and Wisdom from Our Personal Life: Updates on Building a Home, Parenting Journey, Selling a Property, Challenges, and Faith: Episode 297 Jul 03, 2023

Life will always have challenges and we believe it’s about how you respond to them as well as how well you learn and grow. This is a huge aspect of maintaining a healthy relationship, how you handle challenges as a team.

Hopefully you know that we are not here to sugar coat anything or give you any advice that is not practical or useful in your daily marriage. So in this episode we share updates from the last 18 months as it was the hardest season we have had as a couple. It is our intent to share these challenges and updates while sharing the lessons and wisdom we have gained (and are still gaining), so that maybe you can learn the lessons without going through it yourself!

A major part of us getting through this hard season, truly united as a team, is how often we checked-in with each other. We always knew where we were each at mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We also knew what actions and patterns we needed to change. We did all this by using our Family Meeting Guide & templates that we now have available for you for ust $19. We hope this can get you back on the same page and kepe you there though any challenge you are facing as a couple!

For the Guide just to go https://thecouplesexperience.com/family

The Difference Between Repair and Resolution After a Conflict: Episode 296 Jun 27, 2023

In this episode we unravel the crucial distinction between repair, finding a solution, and resolution in relationships. Repairing conflicts, rather than simply reducing the frequency of them, is a powerful indicator of a healthy and lasting partnership. You will hear the misconception that finding a solution automatically leads to resolution, and why the emotional aspect of repair is equally vital. By understanding the formula of Repair + Solution = Resolution, we provide you with the tools to navigate conflicts more effectively and create lasting harmony.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Last chance to sign up for the 30-Day Couples Challenge starting July 1st. Join here.
Get the Making Up & Moving Forward guide here.

Better Identify Your Needs Rather Than Just Expressing Your Frustrations: Episode 295 Jun 20, 2023

We all know that relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to expressing our needs. Ever found yourself in a situation where you're feeling frustrated but can't quite put your finger on why? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive into the importance of identifying and expressing your needs within a romantic partnership. We'll explore why simply venting your frustrations isn't enough and how it can lead to misunderstandings and communication breakdowns.

By learning to articulate your needs, you'll unlock a whole new level of understanding and connection. We'll discuss fundamental human needs, drawing inspiration from Maslow's Hierarchy and the 6 Human Needs model, and provide practical examples of physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Join us as we share relatable insights and actionable tips that will empower you to create a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

Join The 30-Day Couples Challenge called “Prioritizing Us” as it starts July 1st HERE

“Read the Room” Navigate Your Responses Based on the Present Mood: Episode 294 Jun 13, 2023

In this episode we tackle a common challenge in relationships: expressing strong emotions to our partners without considering the present mood. We've all been there, feeling the urge to let it all out, only to realize it may not be the best time or could escalate tensions further. That's why we're here to guide you through the art of discerning the mood before speaking up.

By understanding the momentum and direction of the interaction, you can make informed choices that either diffuse the energy or lead to a positive outcome. We'll also explore the importance of nurturing your partner's "Love Account," which acts like a bank account for love and connection. But that's not all! We'll share practical tips on how to approach these situations with empathy and curiosity, asking your partner what they truly need rather than jumping to conclusions.

Sign up for The 30-Day Couples Challenge, which simplifies how to make positive shifts in your relationship with daily prompts/actions directly from us to your phone for 30 days.

https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

Kids Witnessing Your Arguments? 3 Keys to Keep it Healthy and Let Go of the Guilt: Episode 293 Jun 06, 2023

As parents, we know that feeling of guilt from knowing that our kiddos saw or heard the argument. But instead of guilty, we want you to become motivated to focus on the 3 keys in this episode. Make sure they see you:

DE-ESCALATE the rising emotion and conflict
Implement a constructive pause, and not a rupture
Fully REPAIR after an argument

For more detail on these principles, get our 2 popular guides:

De-Escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions guide here:
Making Up & Moving Forward guide here:

Specific Ways That EFFORT Declines in a Marriage and 5 Ways to Step it Up: Episode 292 May 30, 2023

The 30-Day Couples Challenge starts THIS week, so sign up here: https://mycoupleschallenge.com/

In this episode, we dive into the subtle ways that effort can dwindle once we've achieved our goals. Think about athletes reaching their peak or accomplishing a major milestone in your personal life—there's a loss of that initial hunger and drive. The same can happen in your marriage, but it's trickier because there isn't a clear finish line or “scoreboard” to tell us how well we’re doing.

By listening you will get the signs of declining effort, like depleted love accounts, quick and thoughtless communication, fading passion, and that feeling of coasting or routine. But don't worry, we've got you covered with five powerful ways to rekindle that effort. From small love deposits and appreciating conscious choices to thoughtful greetings and setting the right mood, we share practical strategies to feel more prioritized, loved, and connected.

Steps to Work Through a Hard Season in a Marriage: Episode 291 May 23, 2023

You know that conflicts will happen in a marriage, this truth should not be resisted or avoided. However what if that same conflict comes up again and what if that turns into a pattern that shows up over and over again? This is what creates a hard season in marriage. But if this goes on for multiple weeks, months, or even years then you feel as if nothing is going to change and you lose hope in the marriage.

Some people see ending the marriage as the only option, because honestly who would want to continue to expose themselves to the same pain over and over. You need relief… and we agree. But this episode gives you 7 steps to take to get yourself out of this pattern and subsequently out of this hard season in your marriage. It’s not easy, but then again neither is this current situation and neither is a divorce. So really this is the best option for you.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge - the 30 day challenge for couples to simplify how to make positive changes in their marriage and prioritize loving actions and respectful communication.

How Emotional Intimacy Differs For Men and Women: Episode 290 May 17, 2023

The obvious statement is that men and women differ in how they emotionally connect. But the actions one can take to close the gap between how men and women connect is not as practical. Couples get stuck in the trap of “I just don’t connect the same way as my partner”.

In this episode you are going to hear 3 different ways that men feel emotionally connected and 3 different ways for women. No matter how different you think you and your partner are in this area of connection, you can use one of these ways to better connect and be in harmony with your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the "Prioritize Us" Couples Challenge - the 30 day challenge for busy couples to re-prioritize each other and be more connected.

4 Things Couples Forget to Do After Years Together (That Are Crucial to Connection!): Episode 289 May 09, 2023

Do you ever wish that you were back in that infamous "honeymoon" stage of your marriage? Believe us we understdand why we hear this from couples. You want to be in that feeling of newness, optimism, passion, and infinite possibilites with a true partner at your side. There is something to honor about this stage but the reality is that this is not just a short window of time that you cannot get back.

It's just that you were doing a bunch of things unconsciously that were leading to this feeling of marrital bliss. In this episode you will be enlightened hearing these 4 things that you just forget to do after being together for years. In some situations it's not that you even forgot but they you never realized you were doing them in the forst place. But now you can relaize what these actions are and consciously bring them into your life to add to increaes your connection, optimism, and feeling of possibility!

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

NEW DE-ESCALATE CONFLICTS GUIDE: A realistic guide to managing your emotions and keeping simple conversations from escalating into overblown fights. It’s the De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions Guide and it’s also only $19.

Empathy vs Sympathy: Which Are You Looking For From Your Partner?: Episode 288 May 02, 2023

Do you ever feel that your partner just doesn’t understand and that they just don’t empathize with what you are feeling? This is a big topic for many couples. A key element of a great relationship is that you can be going through a difficult time (even if caused by your partner) and you have a partner that can be comforting and compassionate to be on your side as you go through it.

In this episode you will hear the difference between empathy and sympathy so that you can better understand which you are actually needing from them. Then you will hear some of the blocks to showing empathy and sympathy and a few steps to better demonstrate that in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

NEW DE-ESCALATE CONFLICTS GUIDE: A realistic guide to managing your emotions and keeping simple conversations from escalating into overblown fights. It’s the De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions Guide and it’s also only $19.

3 Mistakes That Escalate Conversations into Conflicts (and What to Do Instead): Episode 287 Apr 25, 2023

You can feel so taken off guard and frustrated when a seemingly simple conversation with your partner escalates into a conflict. When this happens both of you tend to say or do things that do more damage to the other. This is even more irritating because it could have been easily avoided in your mind.

This is exactly the point of this episode, the mistakes that escalate conversations into conflicts. In this episode you will hear 3 mistakes so that you can better recognize them and take a more constructive action so that you can de-escalate the emotion, accept it, and still stay on the same team with each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW DE-ESCALATE CONFLICTS GUIDE: A realistic guide to managing your emotions and keeping simple conversations from escalating into overblown fights. It’s the De-escalating Conflicts & Regulating Emotions Guide and it’s only $19.

If you haven't yet got the repair guide to go with it, it's the step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s also only $19!

Understand & Overcome Jealousy: Episode 286 Apr 19, 2023

At first you might not think that you feel any jealousy in your marriage. But jealousy is simply the feeling of unhappiness or anger because someone has something you want. Yet there are others that might feel this emotion more prevalently.

In this episode you will understand more about jealousy and where it can come from. Then you will have 5 steps to take to overcome this feeling in collaboration with your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1) NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

2) Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

3) To find even more resources like webclasses, books, guides and coaching; visit our resources page here https://www.meetthefreemans.com/links

Your Inner Child & Shadow Patterns: Meeting These Parts of Yourselves to Go Beyond Where You Get Stuck: Episode 285 Apr 11, 2023

Understanding the concepts of inner child and shadow patterns is crucial for a healthy marriage. We are not going to sugarcoat this either, it's one of the most difficult yet necessary things to do. In this podcast, you will explore how these two aspects can impact your behavior and dynamic in your relationship. Then you will learn practical strategies for working with these deep rooted patterns, you'll gain valuable tools for integrating these parts of yourself, promoting greater self awareness and ability to break old patterns in your marriage.

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Identifying 5 Root Causes of Conflicts so You Can Finally Resolve Them: Episode 284 Apr 04, 2023

By now you know that repairing after your conflicts with your partner is one of the most critical aspects for a marriage. It might even be the most critical. If you do not repair, you just create more problems later on and you drive an emotional wedge between you. Repair is not an easy thing to do for two reasons that you will hear in this episode.

One of these reasons is the whole purpose of this episode… you do not identify the real root cause of the conflict. Most people just try and move on, but this will only have the problem repeat. In this episode are 5 root causes of conflicts that you need to reflect on in your repair process so that you can actually address and change the actions that are needed in your relationship.

If you want to listen to the replay of the full webclass on this topic, just use this link here: Why Are We Arguing Again Webclass. Then if you are wanting to better use these root causes in your repair process, be sure you get the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide so you can stay on track all the way to resolve your conflicts.

Develop These 4 Crucial (and Unexpected) Traits to Be a Consistently Great Partner: Episode 283 Mar 28, 2023

Is it just random and based on your inherent personality traits whether you are a great spouse and partner? What if it wasn’t so much about your personality traits anyway, as it was other character traits that you could develop along the way? That would feel encouraging and empowering to us, and it should to you as well!

To us it doesn’t matter as much about the personality traits that you come into a relationship with. The fact is everyone is different and that makes every relationship unique in the dynamics that will happen based on your trait differences. However, as you will hear in this episode, there are 4 crucial traits that you can proactively develop that will make you a great partner consistently! No matter what your personality these traits can and should be developed to have a great marriage.

Resources For Your Relationship:

We don't do this often so make sure you attend our FREE LIVE WebClass on March 30th, 2023: Why Are We Arguing Again? a weblcass to identify the real root causes of conflict so you can ultimately resolve them

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Decide What Kind of Couple You’re Going to Be: The Resistant or Resilient Mindset: Episode 282 Mar 21, 2023

We don't do this often so make sure you attend our FREE LIVE WebClass on March 30th, 2023: Why Are We Arguing Again? a weblcass to identify the real root causes of conflict so you can ultimately resolve them

When a challenge comes up in your life or you have a conflict with your partner, do you shrink down to your default responses or rise to the occasion? When you face situations that call for you to change a pattern of behavior or adjust your willingness to have the hard but necessary conversations do you resist or embrace it?

Today’s episode is all about becoming a “Resilient” versus “Resistant” couple. A resistant couple is going to find themselves in the same patterns of conflict, results in life, and attitudes toward each other. To break out of these patterns you need to adopt the mindset of being resilient. You will hear examples of ways to adopt this new mentality so that you can make the real change you desire in your marriage and face life’s challenges as a team!

Ongoing Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Red Flags That Signal a Change is Needed in Your Marriage: Episode 281 Mar 14, 2023

Red flags in regards to relationships are warning signs. But often these warning signs are spoken about as a reflection into the past as a reason to have gotten out of the relationship earlier.

Though this is a fine practice if you are dating or even engaged, when it comes to a committed marriage, these red flags signify something different. These red flags are not reasons for you to leave the marriage at all, these are signs you want to be on the lookout for throughout your years together to help signal you both about the patterns that need to shift in your relationship together.

In this episode you will hear which red flags you should be on the lookout for and then come together to figure out what needs to shift between the two of you. You will get examples of types of changes to make for each red flag so that you are constantly on the same page, growing closer together, and better managing the challenges that arise in life.

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Debriefing Our Own Argument in the Airport to Uncover the Real Root Cause: Episode 280 Mar 07, 2023

At this point you know that arguments are going to happen. It’s not the right goal to try and not have them. It’s all about the repair. Now a big problem that you have likely experienced yourself is that when you try and come back to the conversation, it just escalates and you relive the whole argument. Now you are probably even more angry and frustrated with each other.

So in this episode we take you through an argument we just had 3 days ago while we were at the airport coming back from a trip. This one we did not keep from escalating and disconnecting us for over 24 hours. But then we did debrief our argument to find the root cause and resolve it together. You will authentically hear from us the mistakes even we made, but how you can debrief after an argument so that you too can shorten your argument hangovers and be able to learn the value lessons from an argument and change the patterns for the future!

MAKE SURE YOU GET THE NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Unfair or Unrealistic Expectations to Have in a Marriage: Episode 279 Feb 28, 2023

In a marriage is it right to have expectations or does that just set you up for failure? If the answer is no, is it even the right goal to not have any expectations at all? When it comes down to your practical day to day life with your partner, the fact is you will have expectations, this cannot be avoided. Expectations are also the root cause of all your upsets. So what to do?

In this episode you will hear about the expectations that are unfair and unrealistic to have because they will cause the biggest problems for you. If you can be open enough to communicate these with your partner you will be able to have a much smoother journey in marriage.

There still will be times that conflict comes up from your “local” expectations momentarily. To repair these conflicts quickly, get the step-by-step guide to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

The 5 Vital Elements For Sustaining LOVE Throughout the Years, Trials, and Seasons of Life: Episode 278 Feb 21, 2023

Love can feel simple and effortless in the beginning stages of a relationship, but it's not always easy to maintain that feeling over time. In this episode, we explore the 5 essential parts of love in a marriage that can help couples maintain and even grow their love for each other. We discuss how each part of love plays a crucial role in building a strong and mature relationship, and why neglecting any one of these parts can lead to challenges and struggles.

We dive into the importance of passion and desire, friendship and companionship, safety and trust, shared experiences, and commitment in a marriage. We explore the common mistakes couples make in relationships and provide practical advice on how to nurture each part of love in a way that can strengthen a couple's bond. Whether you're in the early stages of a relationship or have been married for years, this episode will provide insights and tips to help you create a lasting and fulfilling marriage.

Get the Making Up & Moving Forward guide here - get instant access for only $19 and gain trust and safety with your partner to resolve arguments for good!

Couples Who Do This One Thing Repair From Conflicts Faster and More Effectively: Episode 277 Feb 14, 2023

As you now know from listening to this podcast, repairing conflicts is a critical skill to have a great relationship. BUT there is actually a key aspect of “conflict repair” that allows you to repair faster and more effectively. The opposite is actually just as true if not even more so. If you do not get this initial step correct, then it will lead to drawn out argument hangovers, leaving the conflict unresolved, and even resentment building up.

In this episode you will hear about this one critical (initial) step that you must get better at to have a long term healthy, successful, trusting, and loving relationship! Also do not forget to grab your copy of the NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
If you want an immeidate resource to help you repair from a conflict RIGHT NOW, make sure you get the Making Up & Moving Forward guide for just $19! Save yourself hurt and disconnect by repairing fully and quickly.

Giveaway Details:

We also mentioned that we would giveaway our course for free in a drawning. To participcate just email us your 1-2 sentance 'testimony' of how you used the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide. We will do the drawning by the end of Feb 2023. Email the testimony to: connect@newpowercouples.com

Throw Out Your Idea of One Being Right & Wrong Then Your Relationship Will Thrive: Episode 276 Feb 08, 2023

Communication should seek to connect rather than disconnect. When you get to a place of one being right and one wrong then you are just creating the environment of disconnection. This isn’t the feeling you really want in a relationship, and you certainly do not come up with the best ideas for action that best serve the relationship itself.

In this episode, you will learn how to keep yourselves from getting caught in this common dynamic of feeling like one person is right and the other is wrong, which can lead to disconnection and a lack of creativity in solving relationship issues. You will gain insight into the importance of understanding and accepting the impact on the other person before explaining your intent.

The episode will also address why it's difficult in the moment to understand and accept the other person's experience and will provide solutions to help you transform these dynamics in your own relationship. You will discover tips on how to navigate disagreements without causing further damage to your relationship.

A further help from getting caught in this dynamic is the "Making up and Moving Forward Guide" for just $19, which has helped hundreds of couples transform their dynamics and improve how they repair and resolve after an argument.

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

Also visit this page for all our other resources from free webclasses, to our books, and even the communication mastery course!

Coping With Life’s Obstacles and Hardships as a Couple: Episode 275 Jan 31, 2023

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW REPAIR GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to being truly connected as a couple. It’s the Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19.

About the Episode:

You will face obstacles and hardships in your life as a couple. These hardships will show up as external factors in your life whether with your adult children, behavior of young kids, how your in-laws treat you, getting let go from a job, or even difficult medical news. Many things that happen to you are out of your control!

However in this episode you will discover how to cope with hardships as a couple so that you can feel supported and connected with each other. In being able to face these obstacles together you strengthen your own bond and find better solutions.

Couples With Great Communication Do This ONE Thing Differently: Episode 274 Jan 24, 2023

What does it mean to be a truly great communicator in your relationship? There is the idea that this means you will dramatically reduce the amount of tensions or challenges that you face. Relatively speaking that might be true but that is not the ONE thing that couples have in common who are great at communicating!

In this episode you will hear what this one thing is. The fact is that you will have tension and face challenges in your marriage, that is not going away all together. After this episode you will have a better idea of what your goal is for communication and conflict resolution so that you can grow into truly masterful communicators and better stay on the same side with your partner when challenges arise!

Resources For Your Relationship:

NEW CONFLICT GUIDE: A step-by-step guide to repairing after an argument; to ensure it’s resolved for good and get back to the good times. It’s called Making Up & Moving Forward Guide and it’s only $19. It is not available to the public yet, you can be the first to get it right now!

Brutally Honest Feedback For the Wives + Women to Have a Better Relationship: Episode 273 Jan 17, 2023

This episode provides bold reminders for the women to make positive changes in the relationship. It’s easy to find ourselves unconsciously acting in ways that aren’t our best, which can deplete and diminish the love in the relationship. This episode provides you the “tough love” that your friends and family won’t provide for you. We’re all human and so we’re not expecting you to be perfect, but instead to see how you can be even 10-20% better for your relationship.

Tune in for 3 pieces of feedback for the wives and women. Also, make sure you listen to the episode for the husbands and men.

Sign up for the 5 Day Couples Challenges Challenge starting January 22rd, 2023 HERE

Relationship Resources:

1) After that date you can watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

2) Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle

Brutally Honest Feedback For Husband's + Men to Have a Better Relationship: Episode 272 Jan 10, 2023

This episode is a strong invitation for the men to step up and be a leader of the relationship. Being a leader is about acknowledging where you can be a better person and a better partner. It’s about looking at the patterns that you have that are not serving you or the relationship. Then go to work on transforming those patterns first before asking your partner to change their own patterns.

In this episode you will hear 3 pieces of feedback that we have for the men that come from the coaching sessions we have been having most recently. There are common threads that men can be responsible for right now to have an even better relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts on Jan 23rd, 2023.

After that date you can watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle

4 Steps to Forgiveness to Move Forward, Without the Past Holding You Back: Episode 271 Jan 03, 2023

Forgiveness is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. It is usually spoken about as this thing that should be easy to do however. Mainly because it’s accompanied by the statement “just let it go and move past it already!”

But forgiveness isn’t an easy thing to do and just moving on creates an environment for it to just pop up later. Or at the very least it creates an emotional wedge of disconnection with your partner. In this episode you will hear 4 steps you can take to be able to truly forgive and be able to move forward into a new future without bringing anything from the past!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts on Jan 23rd, 2023.

After that date you can watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle

Set Your Marriage Up For Success With 3 Simple Habits: Episode 270 Dec 27, 2022

When you get down to it, your life is not made up of big exciting events, it’s actually all the tiny moments that make up the large majority of your life. That being said, are these moments fun, playful, connected, or intentional? Or do you fall trap to them being mundane, frustrating, disconnected, or checked out?

In this episode you will hear 3 daily, weekly, and monthly habits to put in place so that your relationship can be successful by having all these small moments be meaningful. The small moments can only be mastered by small habits, so we invite you to commit to these as you start your new year! As a bonus, hear our word for the year and talk with your partner about the intention word you both want to set for your new year ahead!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Find all of the best next steps to contionue the growth within your relationship here.

Our 1st Year as Parents: How Our Marriage Has Changed, What’s Felt Hardest, and What Keep Us United: Episode 269 Dec 20, 2022

For those of you that are parents, did that make your marriage more difficult or bring you both together? This could be asked about any challenge that you face as a couple, but parenting is definitely unique, at least it has been for us! We polled parents and found that it often changed their marriage in some common ways: they felt they became roommates, it was hard to make time for each other, more conflicts around different parenting styles, feeling of losing their identity, and the division of labor seemed unequal.

This episode is about us completing our first year as parents since Skye was born on Dec 21st, 2021. This has been the hardest year of our marriage, even though there were other outside forces at work beyond being parents. So in the end of the year fashion where lots of reflection happens; we are sharing about how this first year our parents have changed us, felt difficult, and keeps us united.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50off

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

6 Pieces of Wisdom For an Even Better Marriage & Life Next Year: Episode 268 Dec 13, 2022

The end of the year is always a time for reflection. Typically this is about personal and professional events and how we would have liked them to go differently. This is also a prefect time to reflect on your relationship with your partner. We will all face challenges in life and it is the same in a marriage. Though every challenge is an opportunity, you will never see it if you do not take time to reflect and uncover what that is.

In this episode you will hear our own reflections of this past year and the wisdom we took away from the challenges we faced in our own life and marriage. You will get 6 pieces of wisdom that you can utilize to change your perspective on the challenges that you faced, and how to use it to set a new course into the new year.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $50 off with the code: 50bundle

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Wanting Your Partner to Change VS Accepting Them as They Are: Episode 267 Dec 06, 2022

It’s likely that you have said one of these two things to your partner. “Why don’t you just accept me for who I am” or “I really need you to change this _____”. At some point in your relationship you will find yourselves getting more upset about things that your partner does, says, or ways they show up for you. Of course relationships are about supporting the needs of the other person but a big question arises at this junction… Where is the line of accepting my partner the way they are versus being able to ask for a change to be made.

This is a thin line between resigning yourself to things continuing to not serve you or the relationship and constantly asking your partner to be different. This is especially when it comes to who they are as a person and their base personality traits.

In this episode you will understand where this line is between change and acceptance so that at the end of the day you both are able to feel accepted as the person you are and be on a healthy path to growing into even better people and partners for each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Visit our website here for the best communication and conflict resolution resources! Everything from free webclasses, our book, and the communication mastery course bundle for online video training.

5 Reasons Marriage Feels Hard Sometimes and Positive Changes You Can Make: Episode 266 Nov 29, 2022

The Harm of Hijacking the Conversation to Air Out Your Own Frustrations: Episode 265 Nov 22, 2022

Have you never had that feeling of being perplexed and thrown off guard when you tried to bring something up to your partner? You might have had a recent upset, an event that you were frustrated by, or another emotion that you needed to express to your partner. Within a few seconds your partner dumps all their own upsets and frustrations at you; even going as far as to compare how their pain is worse than yours!

This is an “emotional hijack” that makes the conversation all about them and leaves you feeling stunned, caught off guard, that it’s unfair, and even selfish of them. What makes matters worse is that you had a positive intention to communicate openly and often vulnerably with them. After this, why would you even want to bring up anything in the future?

In this episode you will hear about the reasons this dynamic happens and what is really going on for them to take over your conversation. Then you will hear 2 things that can be done differently so that you do not lose faith and trust in each other to be able to express yourselves without you feeling hijacked!

Resources For Your Relationship:

As a listener get $50 off The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you to be better at both the speaker and listener role, as to not hijack important conversations with your partner! At checkout use the code: 50bundle

Why Marriages Become Bland and How to Keep it Feeling Fresh: Episode 264 Nov 15, 2022

Food that is “bland” isn’t bad or inedible, it just lacks any zest or real flavor. Marriage can take on a similar feeling too, it’s not that anything is a major problem, but you are not feeling any real zest, excitement, or even newness.

As you will hear in this episode, all relationships will find themselves in this type of season for some specific reasons. You will also hear some examples, that might even be happening for you now, that signify that you need to take these steps to bring in some freshness, newness, and intentionally to your zest for life and each other!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument so you reconnect in minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks).
Watch our free webclass on: End the Battle for Fairness to align relationship roles, reduce overwhelm, and be a united team again.
Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training).

Answering 5 of the Best Marriage Questions We’ve Been Asked Lately: Episode 263 Nov 08, 2022

This is a bit of a celebration episode for us personally… Just in the past week this podcast broke into the Top 20 relationship podcasts on Apple, we went over 100,000 followers on Instagram, and we had over 500 couples join the Fight Smarter Weblcass! (by the way if you missed the weblcass you can watch it again with this link)

As you can imagine for us, we are very proud and excited, plus we have been receiving SO many questions from all the new couples in this relationship ecosystem. So this episode is focused on the 5 top questions we have been receiving over DMs and through emails from all this new activity.

We are doing this in part so that the one thing WE KNOW, you can come to know too… That most couples are really dealing with the same kinds of challenges. Though the circumstances and emotional responses might be different, many of the relationship themes are the same. This is so that you know you are not alone in what you go through!

Resources For Your Relationship:

If you missed the Fight Smarter Weblcass you can watch it again with this link.
The best parenting and discipline course we have found is from a good friend Amy McCready called Positive Parenting Solutions.
The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!
Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

“That wasn’t my intention!” The Difference Between Arguing For Intent vs Understanding Impact: Episode 262 Oct 31, 2022

Have you ever tried to validate your position during an argument by saying “Oh but that wasn’t my intention”? Have you noticed how that doesn’t help at all? At least in that moment, because it is not the right time. It shows the need to understand the big difference between intent and impact.

In this episode you will hear about how intention doesn’t matter in these moments and the more you fight for explaining it, the further down you will go into conflict. You will hear how to switch into acknowledging impact, which is the most important, and only thing, to do when your partner has emotion present.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple.

If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

4 Differences We See Between Couples Who Struggle and Those Who Thrive: Episode 261 Oct 25, 2022

Though you, and every other couple, face different challenges in your life and marriage; why do some struggle and some thrive? Struggling doesn’t mean that you are just facing a challenge, because everyone will. Struggle then is the experience you have while facing a challenge.

Of all the couples we talk to and coach, we have seen patterns between those that experience disconnection, anxiety, and tension and those that maintain connection, togetherness and being a team during challenging times.

In this episode you will hear 4 differences that we have seen between couples that “struggle versus those that thrive”. By knowing these differences, you will be able to implement a few simple things to move out of a state of struggling to one of progress and growth.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join our LIVE FREE WebClass on Nov. 3rd, 2022 - Fight Smarter: Prevent Unnecessary Arguments, Deescalate Emotional Triggers, and Repiar Faster as a Couple.

If that date has already passed then watch the replay WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

3 Things Women Need to Work on in Marriage Right Now: Episode 260 Oct 20, 2022

A part of a thriving relationship depends on the work done by each partner to grow individually. You have heard common phrases like your “wealth grows at the extent you grow” and this could be said about your relationship as well. As much as it takes using the right skills and tools as a couple, it all starts with your own willingness to progress on your own individual path of growth.

In this episode you will hear 3 things that women need to work on in marriage right now. This is coming from the most common things we are hearing from couples in our own private coaching every day. Men and women do ‘deal with’ different challenges and even general patterns within a marriage; so get ready to help advance the growth for all women in their respective relationships! Let’s go…

Resources For Your Relationship:

Start your relationship growth now with The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here if that is the next right step for you!

3 Things Men Need to Work on in Marriage Right Now: Episode 259 Oct 18, 2022

A part of a thriving relationship depends on the work done by each partner to grow individually. You have heard common phrases like your “wealth grows at the extent you grow” and this could be said about your relationship as well. As much as it takes using the right skills and tools as a couple, it all starts with your own willingness to progress on your own individual path of growth.

In this episode you will hear 3 things that men need to work on in marriage right now. This is coming from the most common things we are hearing from couples in our own private coaching every day. Men and women do ‘deal with’ different challenges and even general patterns within a marriage; so get ready to help advance the growth for all men in their respective relationships! Let’s go…

Resources For Your Relationship:

Start your relationship growth now with The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here if that is the next right step for you!

The Biggest Communication Mistake That Turns Conversations Into Conflicts: Episode 258 Oct 11, 2022

We are just off hosting the Couples Workshop in Arizona yesterday, and this was one of the biggest takeaways from the ½ day in person event. Communication seems easy when you only think of it as “verbalizing what you are thinking”. But this often leads to the biggest communication mistake that turns simple conversations into an argument.

In this episode we will give you the inside look at the most effective communication tool that we teach at the Couples Workshop and in our coaching. By changing your very first sentence to your partner you can stay on the same team together and support each other in fulfilling your relationship needs and wants!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

When Life Is Hitting You With a Lot of Hard Stuff at Once: Episode 257 Oct 06, 2022

Do you feel like life is piling things onto you and your partner right now? There are defintely seasons where a lot of hard things can hit you all at once which really makes it difficult to stay positive and stay connected as a team.

In this solo episode you will hear from Jocelyn to get two things to do in seasons like these. Everything, even challenges, are temporary. But use these two things so you can stay connected until the ride is over!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Why the Past Gets Brought Up Mid-Argument: Episode 256 Oct 04, 2022

Here you are having a slightly tension filled conversation with your partner, then out of nowhere they bring up something from the past! “You did the same thing last week” or “this is exactly what you do, you don’t respect me”.

One of the most common things we hear that escalates things quickly is the past being brought up. This is not just random however, this is an indication of a few things. In this episode we’re going to share FOUR of the most common things this indicates and all 4 could really strike a chord, so be sure to listen all the way to the end!

Resources For Your Relationship:

There are 3 SPOTS for Couples to take the #1 Relationship Assessment in the world and do a Results Analysis Call privately with us. Couples say, “that was the most clarifying 1 hour we’ve spent in a long time.” To snag one of these 3 spots for only $147 (a MAJOR discount), either text or email us before they’re gone.

Text: 602-321-5652 or email connect@newpowercouples.com

If that date is already past then you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

What Men Don’t Understand About Women: Episode 255 Sep 29, 2022

Men, there is something you don’t understand about your female partners… Being completely honest here, this is something that women might forget in the moment as well.

When women don’t understand this about themselves then they don’t communicate in the best way or request what it is they need so that it can be received by their male partners.

Men, without understanding this need that women have, you will easily invalidate them and easily escalate the conversation into a triggering conflict.

In this episode you will (both) understand this need that women have and be able to communicate about it in a healthy way that brings you into more harmony individually and as a couple.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
For those that live in and around Arizona, this is your last opportunity for the in person Couples Workshop event on Sunday Oct 9th. Seats for this live event are limited so check the details and register here!

What Women Don’t Understand About Men: Episode 254 Sep 27, 2022

Women, there is something you don’t understand about your male partners… Being completely honest here, this is something most men don’t even understand about themselves!

When men don’t understand this about themselves then they cannot even communicate or request what it is they need and default to shutting down, being silent, or even leaving the physical space without so much as a word about what is happening.

Women, without understanding this need that men have, you will take it personally and do the opposite actions that are needed to help; pushing your male partner further away or shutting down even more.

In this episode you will (both) understand this need that men have and be able to communicate about it in a healthy way that brings you into more harmony individually and as a couple.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
For those that live in and around Arizona, this is your last opportunity for the in person Couples Workshop event on Sunday Oct 9th. Seats for this live event are limited so check the details and register here!

Establishing Your Family Values and Evaluating Your Priorities Together: Episode 253 Sep 20, 2022

If you have ever felt that you needed to make a difficult decision or that you have been in the same place in your marriage longer than you’ve wanted, you likely need to identify your values and adjust your priorities!

Now this can be a very seasonal thing, even core values can adjust based on the season you are coming out of or wanting to enter into! Sometimes it even involves rearranging your core values to one’s that are more important to you right now. But this can be a hard conversation because it takes getting clarity as well as being willing to ask hard conversions, be honest with yourself, and change some habits.

In this episode you will hear the exercise we use to redefine our values in each season and align our priorities with those values. We are going through that season in our marriage right now and we will share our current values, our new priorities and this exercise that we put up on our frig!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get the Values and Priorities Exercise as a BONUS in The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter! As a listener get $100 off with the code: bundle100

All Challenges Are Temporary But You Decide the Time (lesson from hardest month in my life): Episode 252 Sep 15, 2022

After going through the most challenging month of my life, which of course had a major impact on Jocelyn as we went through it together, this is one of the major lessons I learned. Though you experience different challenges and varying degrees of emotional stress around them, the fact remains that challenges themselves are temporary. This realization was a major turning point during this time.

In this solo episode you will hear about two distinct aspects of circumstantial challenges, you will feel some relief and optimism for any challenge you are currently facing, but also you will understand the decision point that you can make to turn it all around in your favor.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let’s end “The Battle for Fairness” in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership.
If that date is passed then you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Marriage Vows Renewal Exercise (recreating new promises on our anniversary): Episode 251 Sep 13, 2022

Do you remember your wedding vows, could you tell us what they are and more importantly if you have been keeping them? Sorry if that feels like a bold and challenging question, but the point is that many of us have forgotten what we promised our spouse at the start of the marriage!

There are a few reasons this happens, tune into the episode to hear what those are. But the more important thing is to ongoingly remake your promises to each other to be a match to the next season of life together and for the individual people you are becoming.

It was our anniversary this past weekend, and the practice of recreating our promises with each other is something we do each year. In this episode we will share with you the exercise we do and share with you the promises we just made with each other. Then you can do the same with your partner and create the future you truly desire for your marriage!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com Let’s end “The Battle for Fairness” in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership.

If that date is past then you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

End the Battle For “Fairness” Within Your Relationship Roles: Episode 250 Sep 08, 2022

You are familiar with those times where you go to ask for help or share a need you have with your partner. All of a sudden you find yourself keeping score of all the things you do, comparing how much you do, and making sure then see that it’s more than they do. Now you are in a battle for what is fair and where you feel things are out of balance.

In this episdoe you will hear about where this dynamic comes from and the main tips to get our of the cycle. This is a complex dynamic as well so be sure to join the FREE webclass to overcome this battle for good:

Battle For Fairness Marriage WebClass September 15th —> OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com

Let’s end “The Battle for Fairness” in relationship roles, overcoming resentment, and reducing overwhelm in your partnership.

3 Challenges Men Are Dealing with in Marriage Right Now: Episode 249 Sep 06, 2022

The fall season has historically been a time of growing stronger or more strained as a couple. As a followup from last week, we want to cover 3 of the challenges that men are expressing in marriage right now. Does it address “everything” that every single couple is saying to us right now? Of course not. But these are 3 big ones that many are experiencing, so we thought it’d be helpful for you to know.

As mentioned in the episdoe, this all leads to a battle for fairness and balnace in a marriage and leads to additonal tension or conflict. So to better resolve this challenge in your marriage, join the FREE Webclass "End the Battle for Fairness" that is live on Sept 15th.

If the date has already passed, you can book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

The Breakdown is Right Before the Breakthrough: Episode 248 Sep 01, 2022

This episode is a dose of motivation and perspective change for your marriage and life. Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

3 Challenges Women Are Dealing with in Marriage Right Now: Episode 247 Aug 30, 2022

The fall season has historically been a time of growing stronger or more strained as a couple. That’s why we want to cover 3 of the challenges that women are expressing in marriage right now. Does it address “everything” that every single couple is saying to us right now? Of course not. But these are 3 big ones that many are experiencing, so we thought it’d be helpful for you to know.

Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. This is a private 2-on-2 session to overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Read more and pick your slot here.

Do You Become a Smaller or Bigger Person in the Face of a Challenging Season: Episode 246 Aug 23, 2022

Are we the only ones facing some “challenges” in life right now? Let’s talk about the real stuff going on. When you face challenges – whether in your marriage or life circumstances you’re facing – do you become smaller or bigger? “Smaller” meaning: you shrink down, become paralyzed, maybe even a victim mentality. “Bigger” meaning: you rise to the occasion, you get resourceful, you call on support/help, you shift your perspective and get into action.

Today’s episode will cover some personal challenges and how we operate when being big or small people, and how we shift our perspectives day to day.

Also, there are 3 SPOTS for Couples to take the #1 Relationship Assessment in the world and do a Results Analysis Call privately with us. Couples say, “that was the most clarifying 1 hour we’ve spent in a long time.” To snag one of these 3 spots for only $147 (a MAJOR discount), either text or email us before they’re gone.

Text: 602-321-5652 or

Email connect@newpowercouples.com

Real & Lasting Change in Your Marriage Requires These 3 Things: Episode 245 Aug 16, 2022

Have you had the experience of being inspired for a short amount of time, then realize something was missing to actually create the actual change you wanted in your life and marriage? Or how about with your partner... have you been frustrated because they say they are doing to make a change, only to fall back into the same patterns in just a few weeks?

This can be frustrating for both you and your partner, especially when they have said real change was going to happen and it doesn't. You lose a little bit of hope and trust in them. So in this episode you are going to hear about 3 things that your marriage requires to create that real and lasting change that you really want.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the brand new Couples Experience program starting Sept 1st, 2022. Read the details that you heard in the episode and register within the next 2 weeks. Then you can start your relationship assessment, book the ‘results call’ with us, begin the program, and block your calendar for the first community session!

If the date for registration has passed then you can order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

The Pursue-Withdraw Pattern: Why Partners Disengage Rather Than Open Up: Episode 244 Aug 09, 2022

Having hard conversations is a part of being in a marriage. These conversations come up when you feel disconnected, when a past conflict is unresolved, or when you are feeling disconnected and want to get back to connection. Depending on each of your styles of communicating, when you go to have these conversations, you might end up in the “Pursue-Withdraw” pattern.

In this episode you will hear the dynamics of this pattern, where one of you is trying to engage but the other pulls away, as well as the steps to take to get out of this pattern. Once you can navigate this pattern, you will feel confident that you can better handle these hard conversations while being on the same side with each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Register FREE for the LIVE Webclass August 17th, 2022 on: Handling Hard Conversations in Marriage and Creating a Safe Space For All Emotions.

After that date, you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Emotional Agility: How to Better Handle Difficult Moments and Feelings: Episode 243 Aug 02, 2022

‘Emotional Agility’ is your ability to be with and accept your strong emotions while letting them better inform you of the next actions to take in your life. As you can already tell this is not an easy thing or a natural thing when you feel big emotions like fear, worry, anxiety, regret, or resentment.

Typically what would happen when these strong emotions come up, we either: avoid or suppress the emotion and try to just move on, just react and make another bad decision in these stressed states, for others they obsess over the thoughts and the emotions overtake and dibilate them into not doing anything.

Yet in this episode you will hear about “emotional agility” and how you can develop yourself to better handle high emotions to stay connected as a couple and acting toward your best interests.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Book mentioned in podcast, Emotional Agility HERE
Register for the upcoming FREE webclass on "How to Have the Hard Conversations".

Do Your Standards Match Your Goals For Your Marriage and Life? Episode 242 Jul 26, 2022

Before you click away from seeing the overused word “goals”, remember goals are the things you want to achieve in your life and marriage. So they are important, even though this conversation has been talked about so much. But there is a MISSING PIECE to all of this which is identifying your standards!

This is a conversion that we are even going through ourselves as we redefine what we want our next season of life and marriage to be. Goals don’t always get achieved BUT they never will if you don’t realize this key piece about your acceptable standards. This is all a part of being able to live your dream life as well. So make sure you tune into this one. The key terms here also come from the book we have been reading, The Power of One More, by Ed Mylett. That link is below again as well!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

The Power of One More by Ed Mylett

Navigating Your Personality Differences to Prevent Butting Heads: Episode 241 Jul 19, 2022

A funny thing in a relationship is that in the beginning your differences attracted you to your partner. Some time later those differences become points of tension and butting heads. All of a sudden you want them to be less assertive and opinionated, more organized and to remember to put household things in the places you want, you want them to change their tone and sound less accusatory, or you differ on decisions to either go on a trip or to save money.

In this episode you will understand more about where your personality differences come from, but also that you don’t have to seek to change them. You will hear about how our discovery of our differences in personality actually led us to being able to create more understanding, ease, and flow in our relationship. We use a type of personality test called Human Design to give us amazing insights into our natural characteristics, where we are different, but then how to use them to be a better team.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Establishing Boundaries With In-Laws to Prevent Conflict and Create Harmony: Episode 240 Jul 12, 2022

Trips to see your in-laws… these are supposed to be times of fun, connection, and relaxation. Yet many times they can be quite the opposite. You might feel drained, depleted, constrained from being yourself and what you really want to do, and end up ending the trip without it being what you really wanted and would have fulfilled you.

The core reason for this is blurred or crossed boundaries. In this episode you will hear, after we just went on a trip to see our families, the categories of boundaries, why they get crossed, the reasons you do not bring them up, and some tips to create more harmony on your trips to see family.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

These Conflict Mistakes Keep You From Fully Repairing After Arguments: Episode 239 Jul 05, 2022

The most important thing in relationships is repairing and resolving conflicts. Because conflicts WILL happen, it’s not about the amount or even having them.

Now true repair is not necessarily an easy thing, because of the emotion you both have, the different perspectives you have, and the complex dynamics that happen from making a few mistakes.

These mistakes leave you feeling unresolved, that it’s your fault, blamed, or forced to move on and get past it. In all cases you don’t feel understood or confident that anything will change or keep this from happening again.

In this episode you will hear the mistakes that keep you from truly repairing after having arguments, so that you can effectively do the most important thing for your relationship... actually repair from conflicts!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together. Use code: podcast50
Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

“Just Tell Me What You Need Me To Do!” Resentment From Having to Remind or Delegate Responsibilities to Your Partner: Episode 238 Jun 28, 2022

Having frustrations and feelings of resentment over your roles and responsibilities is a common thing we hear. One parter is frustrated about not getting help, then the response they get is: “just tell me what you need me to do” OR “I’m happy to help, just tell me what” OR sometimes “it’s your job, you stay at home, I work, so just get it done".

This is frustrating for both partners, and triggers defensivness and often a conflict. This is because:

For the partner having to remind: it feels like it’s one person’s responsibility to “own” the housework. It can feel like parenting your partner.
For the partner feeling blindsided: I just don’t see those things, I wish you’d tell me before you get so frustrated, they feel like a lot of emotion comes at them suddenly.

In this episode you will hear the main sources of this dynamic and what you can do differently to get back on the same page and feeling supported and loved in the roles and responsibilities you choose.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $50 OFF The Live Couples Workshop which now you can attend from anywhere in the world, to enhance your communication skills together

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

3 Things to Acknowledge Your Partner For More Often (To Prevent Feeling Taken For Granted): Episode 237 Jun 21, 2022

You and your partner both do a lot of things for the relationship and marriage to work. A lot of these things are done each day and are very routine. But it’s easy to feel taken for granted, or even taken advantage of when you do not feel that your partner has acknowledged you for those things.

In this episode you will be reminded to acknowledge your partner more often AND 3 “things” to acknowledge them for that will progressively have them feel more and more acknowledged for. There are things that you would have not thought of!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

Motivational Moment: Failure is a Part of Growth: Episode 236 Jun 16, 2022

Would anyone actually raise their hand and say that they enjoyed failure? If any, it would be a small number for sure because we just don’t like that feeling that comes with failing. But what if failure wasn’t a separate thing from success? What if failure had to happen on the journey to success?

In this motivational moment episode, Aaron goes into the idea he got from his experience traveling to Austin Texas for a crypto conference. Though it was an unlikely place to get an idea for relationships, tune into this episode for a new perspective and motivation around any failure you experience in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

What Makes Positive Changes LAST or NOT: Episode 235 Jun 14, 2022

As you know from listening to this podcast, actually resolving conflict is the most important thing for a healthy relationship. TODAY this topic falls into the next most important thing in a relationship and that is making positive and lasting change toward what you desire in the relationship.

This is not as easy as it sounds as you know that you can learn something from reading a book, listening to a podcast, or going to a seminar and only have the ‘change’ last for a short period of time. So in this episode today you will not only learn what creates lasting change but also get a way to actually make that happen in your life and marriage long term.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

Learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

The Power of One More by Ed Mylett

Motivational Moment: Better Yourself, Better the Marriage: Episode 234 Jun 09, 2022

There are going to be times that you feel ... something. That something might be what you would think of as a "negative emotion". Typically what happens however is that you point the finger at your partner for that emotion and tell them that they need to change.

However this motiviational moment is about looking inward and taking ownership of being a better person first so that the marriage can get better!

Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

5 Ways to Create More Fun and Inspiration in Your Marriage and Life: Episode 233 Jun 07, 2022

You have a lot of life to manage. You have your job, getting kids where they need to go, paying bills and managing finances, scheduling trips and events with family, and on it goes. A part of living life is this management of things but sometimes it can make you feel that they are significant, heavy, or even a burden. This energy of course impacts your relationship, how you communicate with each other, and your general attitude toward one another.

But what we all are innately wired for is play, fun and exploration. Somewhere along the line we forgot that or traded it in for the “adulting. This episode is about 5 ways to bring more fun and inspiration into your day, your life, and your marriage so you can experience more of what you are truly supposed to in your life together as a couple.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

The Power of One More by Ed Mylett

The Untethered Soul Guided Journal by Michael Singer

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner to grow closer together, communicate more effectively, and fight smarter!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Motivational Moment: Be Resilient in Uncertain Times: Episode 232 Jun 02, 2022

It’s pretty clear that world circumstances are making things more difficult right now. For some, maybe more than ever. There are political tensions with countries, a slowing down of the job and economic markets, costs of goods going up, even inequalities that still linger. All of these factors might be having you feel uncertain about the future or even worried or afraid for what might happen next.

Either way sometimes you need s a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of doubt, concern, or worry that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Repairing Resentments- Big or Small, They Need to be Dealt With: Episode 231 May 31, 2022

You probably don’t actively think “I have some resentment building up toward my partner”. Resentment is a little like putting small amounts of sand into a backpack over time. You might not notice the weight of the sand in the beginning. Then as time goes on, you might not even notice that the backpack now weighs 50lbs because you’ve gotten used to it over time.

But resentment is a very unhealthy attitude and feeling toward your partner that will lead to a relationship ending if not dealt with. OK, so even if you are not there yet, the underlying feeling of resentment creates a block to intimacy, fulfillment, and making any progress in your relationship. It can feel like you’ve been wronged, a sense of bitterness, or being checked out.

In this episode you will hear about how to better identify the early signs of resentment building as well as the empowering way to release, let go, and be able to create a new future of connection and being a team.

Resources For Your Relationship:

UNTIL THE 5 SPOTS ARE GONE... You can take your relationship assessment + get a 1 hour results call with us personally! Just message us "I want to do the assessment" to either:

Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

Text: 602-321-5652

IG DM: meet_thefreemans

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How Our Intimate and Sex Life Has Actually Improved Now As Parents: Episode 230 May 24, 2022

This is your last chance to attend the online workshop to “Spice Up Your Sex Life”! Attend this 2 hour life changing one on May 29th, 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you’ll get this as a free bonus HERE.

This brings us to the end of the Spice Up Your Sex Life series, and we want to give you our personal update. Becoming parents we recognized how the allocation of time and energy certainly changed. But we were not going to have that be an excuse for us, we knew we had to get more creative.

We can honestly say that our intimacy and sex life has improved after being parents, but it was not by accident. With the two other podcasts you have heard, here is how we have brought it all together to have our intimacy be even more satisfying, despite time, energy, or sleep changing.

Resources For Your Relationship:

- Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

- Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Motivational Moment: There Are No Wrong Feelings: Episode 229 May 19, 2022

There are going to be times that you feel ... something. That something might be what you would think of as a "negative emotion". But you probably know that thinking more about it, or even judging it, doesn't seem to make it go away!

Tune in for this motivational message about how "there are no wrong feelings" so that you can motivate yourself out of that energy today, and who knows, maybe even positively motivate your partner too!

Relationship Resources:

For this month, get access to the Spice Up Your Intimacy Workshop on May 29th, when you start the Communication Mastery Course Bundle!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How Your Sex Life Can Be Impacted By Hormonal Imbalances & Other Lifestyle Factors Your Doctor Doesn’t Tell You with Dr Sabrina Solt: Episode 228 May 17, 2022

First things first, would you like to attend an online workshop to “Spice Up Your Sex Life”? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022, with the intimacy coach from last episdoe Ashley Jones, by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you’ll get this as a a free bonus HERE.

Now you might not realize the subtle lifestyle choices that could be impacting your hormones, therefore impacting your sex life. Wait a second... are you saying my desire for my partner could be impacted by my hormones? ... YES!

No matter what age range you fall into, you could be experiencing hormonal imbalances but write it off as being “tired” or “not as motivated as before” or “too stressed to want sex.” But you’ll hear Dr Sabrina Solt address the common hormonal imbalances that could also be impacting you. You’ll walk away with specific new lifestyle changes you can make to positively boost your sex life!

After the episode if you know you want more wisdom or specific help from Sabrina, you can learn more and connect with her here:

Web: https://drsabrinasolt.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/drsolt/?hl=en

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Motivational Moment: If You’re Going Through a Rough-Patch in the Relationship: Episode 227 May 12, 2022

There are going to be times that you feel are more challenging in your relationship. This might because of outside circumstances or because of patterns with your partner. There might even by times where it's both.

Tune in for this motivational message around going through a "rough patch" so that you can motivate yourself out of that energy today, and who knows, maybe even positively motivate your partner too!

One thing before you listen.... Would you like to attend an online workshop to “Spice Up Your Sex Life”? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you’ll get this as a a free bonus HERE.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Create More Sexual Desire and Work Through What Blocks Your Pleasure With Intimacy Coach Ashley Jones: Episode 226 May 10, 2022

First of all, would you like to attend an online workshop to “Spice Up Your Sex Life”? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you’ll get this as a a free bonus HERE.

Now pause for a minute to think about this... What level of desire and wanting to be intimate with your partner are you currently experiencing?

If you notice, desire itself is not always and immediately available in your relationship. In different seasons of life it can feel less or more. So where does it go if it’s not as present for each other right now?

This podcast interview is with intimacy coach Ashley Jones, the one we did the intimacy workshop with in Hawaii! This episode will give you a whole new perspective on desire, how to create more of it, and remove what blocks it! We promise that you will be excited about exploring intimacy even more together.

After the episode you can learn and connect more with Ashley here:

Web: https://www.uplevellove.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/uplevellove/?hl=en

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Motivational Moment- Shift Your Mindset From “OR” to “AND” Thinking: Episode 225 May 05, 2022

Limited thinking leaves you feeling as though you have to choose this OR that. Limitless thinking puts you in a creative state to do/be/have this AND that. Tune in for this motivational message that will empower you in any area of life.

All you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

What Legacy Are You Creating as a Couple? Determine Your Life Story and “Hero’s Journey”: Episode 224 May 03, 2022

Have you thought much about legacy? It’s a word with a big meaning behind it we know. Many people don’t think about this until later in life, yet it can be a very impactful thing right here and now. We will take this one layer deeper even… What is the story of your relationship right now? Does it seem like a comedy, tragedy, drama, or mystery? Whichever it is, is this the legacy you want to create?

In this episode you will reframe how you see the current situations in your relationship as well as understand the aspects of the “Hero’s Journey” so that you can create yourself and your partner as the heroes in the story that you are writing and experiencing at the same time!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Motivational Moment - If You’re Feeling Discouraged Right Now: Episode 223 Apr 28, 2022

We know there are times that you feel discouraged in your relationship, and honestly sometimes it’s just about an event in your individual life that isn’t going the way you would like. There might even be times that you just feel a general sense of discouragement when you wake up. This feeling isn’t from anything specific, but some carry over from the previous days or weeks.

Either way all you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

The Myth of “I Shouldn't Have to Tell Them Because it Takes the Romance Out”: Episode 222 Apr 26, 2022

There’s something you wish your partner would do for/with you. Or there’s something you want to receive or experience in your partnership. But you might have thought to yourself, “if I tell them that I want _____, it won’t be as romantic because they didn’t think of it themselves.”

This episode is about rethinking what is really ROMANTIC, and how to set your partner up for success to fulfill your wants and needs….whether it’s a small or big gesture within the partnership.

Relationship Resources:

Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session with us and overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Go Here and Sign-up.
Connect with us on Instagram HERE.

“I Don’t Feel Loved… Well I Don’t Feel Respected.” The Battle For Love + Respect: Episode 221 Apr 19, 2022

A special opportunity for podcast listeners only at this time!

Within the episode you will hear about the 4 Month - Couples Experience Group Workshops and Coaching Program. After you listen, if you are interested to be a part of the live expereince with us and want more detials, message us in 1 of these 3 ways:

Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

Text: 602-321-5652

IG: @Meet_TheFreemans

In This Episode

is a POWERFUL followup to the last episode on arguments: There is a key underlying cycle that happens in every relationship. It is one of the main patterns that cause conflicts and keep them going without you realizing it!

This principle is written about in a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. It’s a very insightful, simple and powerful principle. Personally we listened to the first 3 chapters (on 1.5 speed) and felt we had gotten the point and urgency enough to put it into practice and share with you about it. Without realizing this cycle you will feel as if you are in a trap and can't get out.

Additional Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

“What Are We Really Arguing About?” The 3 Sources and Methods of Arguments: Episode 220 Apr 12, 2022

Register for the FREE Communication WebClass TONIGHT April 12th

If you are in Arizona, or close to, registrations for the in person Couples Workshop in Arizona on May 12th, 2022 is now open!

About the Episode:

You’ve had this thought in the middle of an argument right, “what are we really arguing about right now?” This is a very common feeling about being lost or unclear about what is being fought about or what started it. If you think about it, when you find yourself in a place like this, is it likely you can easily find your way out if you don’t even know what got you here? Likely not!

But this is not just you, arguments have different layers and if you are unclear, like even about what your desired outcome is, how can you expect to be anything but confused and ineffective?!

That’s why in today’s episode you are going to hear our takeaways from the book “Thank you for arguing” and how we even used it to understand more about an argument we had (yes it’s true we have arguments ourselves!). As you will hear though, all relationships have arguments but there is one key that leads to a healthy relationship, or ones that eventually end!

On top of that you are going to hear the 3 sources of arguments as well as the 3 methods of arguments so that you can better navigate arguments in your own relationship and bring them to a win-win resolution to be more connected and understanding of each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

The referenced book for the episode: Thank You For Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

Defensiveness and Shutting Down: Interrupt These Frustrating Patterns: Episode 219 Apr 05, 2022

NEW COMMUNICATION WEBCLASS on April 12th 2022: Don't miss this live weblcass to end frustrating patterns and better understand each other. https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/

Is the following communication pattern at all familiar to you?

Partner A- attempts to share a feeling or need.

Partner B- wasn’t prepared and then gets defensive.

Partner A- gets triggered by the response and feels invalidated.

Partner B- starts shutting down and disengaging.

Partner A- gets reactive and brings up the past or blames.

Partner B- retreats and withdraws their attention, energy and love for a day or even a few.

Imagine if you could finally break this pattern! That is what this episode is all about and you will see a key way to interrupt this pattern to go from disconnection and frustration to connection and understanding.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

This is the Root Cause of 99% of Frustrations and Arguments: Episode 218 Mar 29, 2022

You know those moments when you're frustrated or disappointed in your partnership? Have you thought about what the ROOT cause of the frustration is? Don’t worry, most people we talk to haven’t identified it, which is why we’re covering it on today’s episode.

This principle will be ESPECIALLY helpful if you tend to run into the same thing over and over again or you feel like “we’ll never see eye to eye on this.”

By the end of this episode, you will know exactly what to reflect on personally AND discuss to help eliminate most upsets.

Also, schedule a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. We take you through our powerful expectation process and you will know how to handle things differently together. Read the details and book one of the 5 spots HERE.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

3 Month Parenting Update: What’s Working, Challenges That Come Up, and Most Helpful Resources: Episode 217 Mar 22, 2022

All relationships go through seasons of adjustments when "bigger" life events happen. The goal isn’t to avoid big life events or challenges, or even try to just make it through it. These seasons are the opportunities to grow the most in your relationship. To do that however you will have to be more flexible, proactive in your communication, and have more grace for each other so that you stay together and not have the event create separation.

Our big life event has been having our baby, who is now 3 months old! Many of you are of course interested in our specific parenting updates around what is working well for us, what challenges we have faced, and how we have gotten even closer together. In this episode you will hear just that, but also the tools that we use ourselves so that you too can maintain your connection no matter what life season you find yourself in.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Parenting Resources From Episode:

Dreamland swaddles & blankets - 20% OFF EVERYTHING using code: Freemans15

Go Diaper Free elimination communication book and potty training program

Wonder Weeks - developmental leaps app

Taking Cara Babies newborn programs

Should One Partner Have to Sacrifice a Want/Need to Make The Other Happy or Comfortable? Episode 216 Mar 15, 2022

We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from “NOPE, definitely not” to “Shouldn’t we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves”? So we’re going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question.

We admit that like a few comments, it’s not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run into having to sacrifice but find what is best for the relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Sign-up for the 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

How the Relationship With Your Parents Influences Your Behaviors Today: Episode 215 Mar 08, 2022

Not too many people have the most ideal relationship that they would like. Even if your relationship is going well, you are on the same page about the direction of life, you have the jobs and life that you enjoy and you manage things well together... there is still a place you would like to be even a little better.

It might seem like this has been a sticking place for a longer period of time and it seems like it is difficult to really make that change. The reason is that this is a subconscious pattern driving the same actions and reactions within you.

In this episode you will hear how to initially access this subconscious pattern and then identify where (in your past with your parents) this is coming from.

Resources For Your Relationship:

The nature of this subconscious pattern makes it difficult to identify and change on your own. So if you would like support in this area you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

PS: for a limited time if you review the book on Amazon, you can be entered into a drawing for a free course from our Empowered Couples University!

We Attended an Intimacy Class in Hawaii and Learned These Profound Principles: Episode 214 Mar 02, 2022

Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if you have been listening here for a little while, you know we are big on both emotional intimacy through communication as well as physical intimacy.

For many partners too, if emotional intimacy is missing it’s hard to want to be physically intimate let alone be able to explore and expand this area. We are always learning and open to expand any of our own limits and boundaries in our own relationship

From society you probably think of sex mostly as penetration, or from the purely sexual dynamic. But that’s often rushed without the consideration of the other styles of intimacy.

When the energetics aren’t there often the sex isn’t that satisfying. There is a subtle and critical interplay with the energy between a couple that can quickly deflate an intimate interaction.

In this episdoe you will hear the profound lessons we learned as we went through the practice together during an intimacy/power dynamic sub/dom class on our trip to Hawaii.

Resources For Your Relationship:

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

3 Things Women Are Being Challenged by in Marriage Right Now: Episode 213 Feb 22, 2022

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!

Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.

So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that women feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that women are experiencing in mariages right now!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Things Men Are Being Challenged by in Marriage Right Now: Episode 212 Feb 15, 2022

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!

Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.

So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that men feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that men are experiencing in mariages right now!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Understand Why Your Partner Does Things the Way They Do at a Deeper Level: Episode 211 Feb 01, 2022

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Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON’T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like “I would like you to stop _____ “ or “why can’t you just _____”. In either case you are looking for a change in behavior. When it doesn’t happen, you just get more frustrated.

Todays’ episode will reveal the deeper way to understand their psychology and what drives their choices and actions. Plus, it’ll help you understand yourself more as well and why you even do the things you do (or don’t do)! Think of todays’ episode as the only way you can ever really change a pattern you feel stuck with.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Feeling Rejected by Your Partner When You Share Needs, Feelings or Bring up Certain Topics? Here’s What to Do: Episode 210 Jan 25, 2022

Being rejected by another person is a pretty defeating feeling to have. All of us have experienced that at one point in our lives whether it was dating someone, rejected for a job you wanted, or even by someone that used to be a friend.

You probably don’t think about it too much once you are married because well…you are married to that person and they are not going anywhere! Rejection usually comes with a forced physical separation, that’s why in your relationship, the feeling of being rejected can be even more painful.

Underneath you can feel rejected in your ideas, how you communicate, even in your habits. This feeling can be why you don’t bring up certain topics to your partner or even why you feel tension lingering between you and them.

In this episode you will hear the steps you can take if feeling rejected is a fear that has been creating emotional distance from your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.
Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here, or email us at connect@newpowercouples.com

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

“How Do I Get My Partner to ____”? Steps to Better Influence Your Partner: Episode 209 Jan 18, 2022

It's a part of all relationships, at one point you have said (to yourself or aloud) "how do I get my partner to _____"? There is something that your partner does that makes you feel well... not the most stellar! Because you feel a certain way you want them to change something.

We are all about growth and change, that's what being in a relationship is all about. However there are better ways to "influence" your partner to make changes, that won't put them on the defensive or have them shut you out.

In this episode you will get 2 steps to take that will help you create influence with your partner so that you both see the change that you desire in the relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

5 Small Habits That Make a Big Difference in Our Own Marriage: Episode 208 Jan 11, 2022

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here.

The idea of having good habits is so simple and it probably feels like it’s overly talked about. Every person on social media that jumps in to be an influencer or coach is going to talk about your “habits”. We all have some good habits, and some bad ones… but we would say maybe there are not “bad” just habits that do not serve you any more. There will be many times in your relationship that you will find this to be true as well. There are some habits (whether in communication, roles, financial, or even task management) that do not serve your relationship any longer.

At the end of the day habits are very powerful because the majority of the actions you take in a day, even the thoughts that you think or the emotions that you feel… are just habits. We have found that there are many “habits” we have put in place that are vital to the health and success of our own relationship. In this episode we talk about 5 small habits that we have put in place that now, without even thinking about them, make a big difference in our marriage!

2 Ways to Prevent a Simple Conversation From Turning into a Conflict (that take 5 seconds to do): Episode 207 Jan 04, 2022

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. So you’re having a seemingly simple conversation with your partner or a perfectly normal day, and then BAM things escalate into an unexpected conflict. It’s frustrating when that happens!

Many times that happens because of the way one of you initiates the conversation, and then the way the other person listens. So today’s episode gives you 2 simple ways (that literally take you 5 seconds) to prevent these simple conversations from becoming an unnecessary conflict.

Episode Resources & Links:

Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg HERE

How to Gently Remind Your Partner of Your Wants/Needs, Without Nagging or Attacking: Episode 206 Dec 28, 2021

The “forgetting curve” principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can’t be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders.

But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagram post.

In this episode we distinguish between “nagging” your partner and healthy “assertiveness.”

Assertiveness is empowering, and a skill we all can get better at in a relationship.

To better use this skill in your conflict repair: Watch the FREE WebClass on The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days or Weeks. Register and watch here.

Permission Based Communication: Respecting Each Other’s Boundaries and Bring Up Conversations Without Backlash: Episode 205 Dec 21, 2021

Baby Freeman is HERE! If you’re seeing this episode it means our baby girl was born :) But we recorded these episodes to make sure you have resources while we’re snuggling her. The opposite of “Permission Based Communication” is “Permission-Less Communication”....which is more likely to lead to defensiveness, backlash, or an unintended argument.

The thing is, it’s not respectful to just bring up a topic whenever YOU want to talk about it. Why? Because it’s not respecting and honoring your partner’s boundaries or taking into account if they’re really and open and prepared for it.

And this applies to moments when you want to: ask them to do something, express feelings you have about a certain issue, give them feedback, etc.

Implementing “Permission-Based Communication” will help you two have more constructive conversations, so you’ll love this episode!

Also, make sure you watch the FREE WebClass we recorded for you all:

The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks

Re-Evaluate Your Goals and Priorities as a Couple to Start the Year Focused and Aligned Together: Episode 204 Dec 14, 2021

End the year by having this meaningful conversation together as a couple about your life and relationship goals. Life goes by pretty quickly, so it’s important to pause each year and make sure you’re on track with what’s important to you both.

Plus, you will feel a new sense of partnership and inspiration when you have one or more goals that you’re pursuing together.

Tune in to this episode to hear:

How it benefits your partnership to have goals you pursue together
Step-by-step how to have this conversation about your goals and priorities
3 meaningful questions to ask each other

Resources Mentioned:

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on--> The 5 Steps to Repair After An Argument So You Reconnect in Just Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks
Book called Limitless by Jim Qwik

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Masculine & Feminine Differences in Communication: Episode 203 Dec 07, 2021

Masculine and Feminine energy exists within all of us, and is critical to feeling “in sync” with your partner (rather than resistant). The masculine energy is: action-oriented, discerning, directive, logical. And feminine energy is: feelings-oriented, receptive, intuitive

If you experience resistance, tension, or even a lack of “attraction,” it could be because one or both of you is out of balance in your masculine/feminine energies.

This episode is going to give you an interesting take on your communication and relationship.

Get ready for a powerful reflection!

Resources in this episode:

NEW FREE WebClass: The 5 Steps to Repair After an Argument in Just Minutes HERE
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray HERE
Sacred Relationships book HERE

The Most Critical Step to Repair From Conflicts is Also the Hardest Thing to Do (plus, the surprise resource finally announced!): Episode 202 Nov 30, 2021

A NEW, SURPRISE (and FREE) Resource announced on this episode!

The way you two repair after a conflict will either lead to emotional baggage or emotional healing and bonding. The thing is, it can be hard to set aside the ego and focus on repair, especially when you also feel hurt about some things said and done during the argument.

This episode focuses on the MOST critical step to repair (of the 5 total), which also tends to be the hardest.

But by focusing on this step we share, you WILL resolve things faster, and move towards emotional healing. Tune in for this critical step to take.

Relationship Resources:

YOU GET EARLY ACCESS to our brand new (and free) WebClass on:

The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (instead of hours, days, weeks). GO HERE TO SIGN-UP AND WATCH.

The “Love Account” Principle: One of the Most Critical Actions That’s Easily Forgotten as You Get Busy and Are Together For Years: Episode 201 Nov 23, 2021

Every interaction is either a deposit or withdrawal from your partner’s “love account”. Meaning, every little remark you make or thing you say either deposits love and connection or it takes some away. The thing is, less “love deposits” are made for couples who are together a while or find themselves in busy seasons of life.

Most couples will go through seasons like these where they need to be making more deposits but they are actually making more withdrawals unconsciously. This isn’t just a relational “nice idea” because the level of your love accounts determines how on edge, reactive, and snappy you are to each other. The hardest thing about having a low account is that you are much less willing to do the thing you need, to fill it back up…

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

*It would be an amazing baby gift if you would leave a review for the book. As content creators, that is a huge deposit into our love accounts!*

Closing the Gap Between Where You Are Now and Where You Want to Be Without Feeling Disappointed: Aaron Solo Episode 200 Nov 16, 2021

There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can’t get anywhere if you don’t know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are “not there yet” or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like.

In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that gets created from this thinking, which can cause you to feel more disappointed about the relationship, when really you just need to change a particular focus. You will hear how you can close the gap between where you want to be and where you are now, so that you are not left feeling discouraged about your current relationship or your partner. You will easily gain appreciation and gratitude by making this one small shift.

Episode Resources & Links:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
The Gap and The Gain book by Ben Hardy HERE

How to Be the Happiest Couple You Know by Following 3 Traits of the Happiest People on Earth: Episode 199 Nov 09, 2021

The Danish people have ranked as the “happiest people on earth” for 40 years in a row starting in the 70’s, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn’t dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it’s actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy.

So in today’s episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people. Many of the traits we KNOW are critical to having a happy marriage. Of course just being a happier individual will lead to a happier relationship, but you will be able to know exactly what traits to improve in your relationship, so that your own happiness is intentional and not just based on better life circumstances.

Episode Resources & Links:

If you’re a parent, attend the WebClass taught by parenting expert, Amy McCready, on November 10th. Details and registration HERE.
Read the book we referred to in the podcast, The Danish Way of Parenting HERE
Read our book, The Argument Hangover and claim $200 worth of bonuses HERE.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How We’re Preparing to Parent Consciously With Non-Mainstream Techniques, Emotional Intelligence, and Communication Before She Can Speak: Episode 198 Nov 02, 2021

Episode Resources & Links:

FREE Parenting WebClass with Amy McCready on November 10th HERE
Hypnobabies Program for Natural Birth HERE
Pelvic Floor Birth Program (One Strong Mama) HERE
The Conscious Parent book by Dr Shefali HERE
Video on baby communication sounds HERE
Elimination Communication (Go Diaper Free) HERE

There are many ways to parent a child and even the way of "let's just figure it out as we go". We wanted to take this episode to share with you about our prep for becoming parents this coming December.

As we are so into communication and emotional intelligence between couples, you shouldn't be surprised that we are learning about how to do that with our own daughter.

Of course reading and listening is not the same as the "as lived experience", there are a number of philosophies and parenting guidelines that we are committed to implementing so that we can be truly conscious parents. Being conscious parents will allow us the best opportunity to raise a conscious child.

By no means are we saying we will be perfect or that we are judging any other ways of parenting, we just wanted to be open with you all about our journey and to even see the correlations to being a great partner. We believe that if you want your children to have great relationships, you have to have one yourself!

In this episode, we discuss:

Our preparation for natural birth and helpful programs
Non-mainstream techniques for parenting intentionally
Conscious parenting and raising her to be the best version of herself
Developing “Emotional Intelligence” in our parenting approach (just like our marriage)
What we’ve learned from different cultures (outside the United States) for developing happy human beings

Additional Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Parenting Expert Amy McCready on How to Align on a Parenting Philosophy, Discipline Collaboratively, and Say Good-bye to Your Parenting Struggles: Episode 197 Oct 26, 2021

If you are a parent (or soon to be) you must attend the FREE Webinar with our guest Amy McCready on November 10th at OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com/parenting because she’s takes all the topics today even deeper to the specific how-tos!

As you can already tell we have a guest on this episode and it's none other than nationally renoun parenting expert Amy McCready!

Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, parenting contributor on the TODAY show, best-selling author, and creator of The 7-Step Parenting Success System that has helped over 100,000 parents of toddlers to teens bring peace into their homes.

During this episode you will hear:

What to do if you disagree on your parenting philosophy like authoritative vs her method of Positive Parenting Solutions
What to do if triggered by your kids and preventing an argument with partner and
How to make sure your partnership AND your parenting thrives at the same time.

Don't forget to register for the follow-up FREE Webclass that Amy is doing for our community only at: onlinecouplesworkshops.com/parenting

On the webinar you will get:

The 5 Steps for No-Yelling consequences ALL parents can agree on
How to find common parenting ground — even if it feels like a battlefield
3 action steps you can take TODAY to unite in parenting

Resources For Your Relationship:

If you missed the Nov. 10th webinar...

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

The 6 Human Needs: How They Are Fulfilled in a Relationship and What Happens When They’re Not: Episode 196 Oct 19, 2021

Every one of us humans has needs that need to be fulfilled to have a good life. Part of this search to fulfill these needs is what leads you to get into a relationship in the first place. You might think about survival type needs to begin with like food and shelter, but these are emotional needs that all of us seek to have fulfilled.

Since these 6 needs are emotionally based it can be easy to not pay attention to them which leads to it being easy to let them decline. Though it isn’t immediately obvious, the lack of these needs is what leads us to all our actions. When they are low in a relationship, it can lead to taking small innocent actions that lead to bigger issues of trust and disconnection.

In this episode you will hear the 6 human needs that were made famous by a Tony Robbins TED talk, but you will hear examples of how this places out in your relationship. We give you two actions to take to figure out your top two needs and the way to make sure you are always on top of where your partner’s level of fulfillment is at.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get 50% OFF The On-The-Go Communication Course to enhance your communication skills, even during your busy life, by using the code: PODCAST

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The Danger of Too Much Nit-Picking and Questioning + 2 Ways to Shift to More Acceptance: Episode 195 Oct 13, 2021

Be honest: have you and/or your partner been nit-picking, critiquing or questioning each other more lately? Being real, we have noticed this in our own relationship over the last couple of weeks and it’s something we’re bringing awareness to shifting between us.

We noticed that these additional (and mostly unnecessary) remarks to each other were leaving us feeling unaccepted by each other. Not only that, but also a bit depleted and more on edge around each other at home. Maybe you’ve felt this too?

In this episode we cover:

The bigger “danger” of the build up of nit-picking and questioning each other
2 critical mindset shifts to make within yourself so you’re not doing this to your partner too much
3 simple, but powerful questions to ask yourself in the moment before you make the remark

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)
We talked about knowing what is important in the moment, and our communication audio course has the best skill for you to determine the real level of importance. Check out the Communication Course for yourself!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Improve Your Apology After an Argument & What It Means to Truly Repair: Episode 194 Oct 04, 2021

How many of your past arguments and conflicts actually get fully repaired? Do you feel that from every emotional impact, your partner has fully understood you, that they acknowledge the role they played in you feeling that way, and you believe things will be put in place to make the necessary change for it to not happen again?

These are just some of the points that need to happen to fully repair from a conflict in your relationship. Just saying I’m sorry to move on often doesn’t cut it.

In this episode we will share about a shocking and surprising life event that happened this week and how it shows us that we do not have life to waste being unresolved about conflicts in our marriage. You will feel the same level of urgency to not waste your life being disconnected or resentful toward your partner and have key ways to improve your “apology” so that you truly repair from any challenge and emotional impact in your life!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Questions to Ask Yourself After an Argument: Episode 193 Sep 30, 2021

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here.

There are some misconceptions about resolving conflicts in a relationship. What doesn’t actually resolve anything is trying to jump right to a solution, or distracting yourself long enough where the high level of emotion has subsided. This will only build into resentment or at a minimum, start to seed disconnection and discontent within the relationship.

In today’s podcast episode you’ll hear:

The 3 questions to ask yourself to actually start the repair process and not have lingering emotions get stored up for you to react to later.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Break Destructive Patterns Mid-Conflict to Prevent Arguments From Escalating Further: Episode 192 Sep 28, 2021

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here.

You cannot blame your behavior in the “mid-conflict” stage on your partner! Nope, you must take ownership of your patterns if you’re going to have any chance of changing them. But that’s why we call them patterns….because patterns can be changed and you aren’t stuck a certain way!

In today’s podcast episode you’ll hear:

The importance of humbling yourself and taking ownership of your default patterns during conflict
What happens to your brain when emotion kicks in
Steps to break these destructive patterns in the mid-conflict stage

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Rebuilding Trust After Promises Are Broken (Small or Big): Episode 191 Sep 14, 2021

Trust can be broken or weakened by both the big things and the build up of many smaller broken promises. Trust is such a foundational aspect of a relationship that without it, it’s harder to have respect, love, and passion for your partner.

In this episode we go deeper into rebuilding trust, whether you are the partner that doesn’t trust, or if you realize that you are the one that has contributed to the decline of trust. We were asked to take this topic deeper from a listener of the podcast that emailed us, because she was experiencing unreliability on the side of her partner. (We so appreciate you for requesting topics to cover!)

Today you will hear about the small things that lead a partner to not “count on” the other, what the real source is of broken promises, and 3 steps to take to rebuild trust as a team.

Resources For Your Relationship:

If you’re in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021.

If outside AZ, you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Why You Both Need to Have Time With Friends Outside the Relationship (But Certain Types of Friends): Episode 190 Sep 09, 2021

When men spend time with other men, it boosts their testosterone (super important), and when women spend time with other women, it boosts their estrogen (super important). Biologically and emotionally, you and your partner NEED time with friends outside of the relationship.

If you don’t, it can have a real impact on your happiness as individuals and how you show up for each other. However, it’s not time with just any type of friends...it’s got to be friends that raise your energy and remind you to be the best version of yourself.

Listen to today’s episode for more on this important topic and what types of friends to prioritize as individuals and as a couple.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How to Create “Emotional Safety” So Any Topic Can Be Brought Up: Episode 189 Sep 07, 2021

Are there any topics left in your relationship that you feel you can’t talk about? Perhaps you no longer attempt certain topics or expressing your emotion on certain things because your partner's reaction makes you feel "emotionally unsafe."

Being in a truly healthy and empowered relationship means that you should always feel safe to talk about any topic. Of course saying “talk about any topic” really means “talk about any emotion you are having”.

In this episode you will hear:

The critical mistake you yourself are making that has you feel unsafe
The goal of being able to share your true emotions with each other
4 ways to create emotional safety

Resources For Your Relationship:

Couples in the Arizona area: save your seats for the Sept 26th in person Couples Workshop. Last months' workshop sold out and this will be the last of 2021!
Couples outisde of Arizona: get $30 OFF The Couples Workshop: Home Edition to enhance your communication skills together no matter where you live!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Underrated Traits of a Great Partner: Episode 188 Sep 02, 2021

Do you want to be a GREAT partner? It can be easy to show up less than our best as the months and years pass, so today’s episode is a great reminder that will motivate you to be the best partner you can be! We dive into 3 traits that are underrated and truly make such a difference for your partnership.

Resources For Your Relationship:

If you’re in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021.

If you’ve haven’t read it yet, grab your copy of The Argument Hangover.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Deeper Reasons Marriages Lose Fulfillment or Fail and Ways to Prevent Them From Happening: Episode 187 Aug 31, 2021

Are you in one of these 3 places: feel less fulfilled in your marriage, you are thinking that the relationship should end, or you are active in keeping your fulfillment high by preventing anything from lowering it?

Whichever place you find yourself this episode is about exploring the main reasons we see couples struggle that lead to lower levels of satisfaction and fulfillment in their relationships. This is a new style episode where we each write down our own lists from what we have seen in couple’s relationship assessments, our personal coaching, and the live workshops we have done.

In this episode you will hear each of us share our list of top reasons why relationships fall into these seasons, and we won’t know what the other had on their list. After listening to this episode you will be able to bring each of these reasons into your awareness and have a simple action to take to prevent that reason from continuing. All so that you can raise and maintain your fulfillment in your relationship, no matter the time you have been together or the challenge you face.

Resources For Your Relationship:

There are ONLY 3 spots to take your relationship assessment and do a results call with us. To secure ONE of these spots either:

Text: 602-321-5652
Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

ALSO, Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How We Literally Never Bicker or Get Frustrated About Household Tasks/Chores (A Simple System): Jocelyn Solo Episode 186 Aug 26, 2021

On a importance scale from 1-10, how important is sharing household chores and responsibilities? On the spectrum of things you can be focusing on in your life and relationship, how often are you getting frustrated or do you bicker with your partner over this simple area?

Now any place in your relationship that you have a recurring upset and causes you to be disconnected from your partner, is an important area to change.

After the Couples Workshop this week, we realized that this is an area that we never bicker over or even have to think about. In this episode you will hear from Jocelyn a simple process that we use so that you can feel balance and freedom and never have to have conversations about the household being something that causes an upset!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Better Ways to Respond Instead of React When Your Partner Says Something That’s Hard to Hear: Episode 185 Aug 24, 2021

When your partner says something that’s harder to hear, do you find yourself unconsciously reacting or consciously responding? You see, a solid partnership is where both people are safe to open up about things, even if it’s hard to hear sometimes.

So if you’re committed to being the best partner you can be, then you want to master the difference between reacting and responding.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

The exact difference between reacting and responding
The deeper source of why you react to your partner when you don’t love what they’re saying
6 examples of better ways to respond to your partner, so the conversation stay constructive rather than destructive

Relationship Resources:

Schedule a Couple’s Session with us HERE. You will finally overcome that recurring challenge in your relationship, so you can experience more joy and less frustration.
Read our newest book, The Argument Hangover

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

What Are You Actually Committed to in Your Relationship? Episode 184 Aug 19, 2021

When was the last time you reviewed what you’re committed to in your relationship? Was it on your wedding day when exchanging vows? There is a big difference between what you said you were committed to in the past versus what you are committed to now, even right in this moment.

In this motivational episode you will get a love gut punch to be honest about what you are actually committed to, as a reflection in your actions toward your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

5 Areas Where You Must Do Your Own “Inner Work” to Sustain a Fulfilling Relationship: Episode 183 Aug 17, 2021

“Inner-Work”: looking within to see where you can grow and evolve (ie. what needs to be healed from your past, which patterns need to be unlearned, and realizing that you recreate experiences when you didn’t get the lesson).

Doing this “inner work” is absolutely imperative to cultivate your desired partnership. Most importantly you, and ideally your partner, must be willing to do this inner-work in some shape or form. Why? Because otherwise you will recreate patterns that do not serve your current relationship.

This inner-work doesn’t have to be overwhelming and we promise it can be an empowering experience! It is actually how you can become the very best version of yourself and express your inherent gifts as a human being. That’s why you’ll love this episode! You will hear:

What happens if you don’t embrace the “inner work” needed for your relationship
5 areas within yourself to do the inner-work
3 helpful tools to consider as part of your journey individually and as a couple

Resources For Your Relationship:

Schedule an introductory Couple’s Session with us to overcome any challenge and become the best team you can be HERE.
Order The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

2 Simple Questions to Ask Your Partner Each Day to Eliminate Assumptions and Create Ease: Jocelyn Solo Episode 182 Aug 12, 2021

You can eliminate many moments of frustration and feeling like you’re on different pages with two simple questions. You will ask one of these questions in the morning to start the day with ease and synergy--and it will be especially helpful if you have kids, busy careers, and lots of moving parts to your schedule.

The second question is great for the evening to make sure you’re on the same page and so both of you get your needs met and feel like you can recharge your batteries in a mutually fulfilling way. Go ahead and tune in for these 2 simple (but super helpful) questions!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session with us here.
Make sure you’ve read our book, The Argument Hangover.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How to Keep The Experience of LOVE Alive Through Good + Challenging Seasons: Episode 181 Aug 10, 2021

Of course you ‘love’ your partner, but what level of love and connection do you feel right now? You might “know that you love them,” but right now, you can feel disconnected and experience a mediocre or even low level of love.

You do not want to assume that love will automatically be there in a long-term relationship. Sure, you can say “I love you” to each other all day long, yet still not FEEL an overwhelming sense of love in the partnership.

For many of us, we have mostly experienced love that is conditional or based on fleeting feelings. So how do you keep the experience of LOVE alive, even during challenging seasons?

In this episode you will hear:

What love should not be based on
The real foundation from where your love comes from
How you can keep that experience of love alive, no matter the challenge or season that you are in.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Daily Habits for Couples to Experience More Happiness: Episode 180 Aug 05, 2021

We all want to be happy both in our lives and relationships. Yet at a certain point in a relationship it can feel as if your happiness is based more upon your partner. This could be based on their own mood or whether they are “doing the things you want them to do”.

Happiness cannot be a pursuit if it leads you to be conditional to any outside circumstances. It needs to be generated from within first. By doing that, you will automatically influence your partner to be happy just by the nature of your own happiness and joyful way of being!

In this motivational Thursday episode you will hear 3 habits to implement daily, to begin to generate your own happiness first, to create more happiness as a couple!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

6 Questions to Ask Each Other to Emotionally Connect (On a Date or End of the Day): Episode 179 Aug 03, 2021

The quality of your conversation comes from the quality of your questions! No matter how much you love each other, your conversations can feel routine if you’re asking the same ol’ questions (especially if you are a ‘busy’ couple or have been together for years).

Truthfully, it’s natural to crave more emotional depth in your relationship, which comes from being able to ask more meaningful questions in a state of curiosity and intention. There is nothing 'wrong' with having this desire!

At times you might not know just what questions to ask, or you fear a negative response from them. So in this episode you’ll hear 6 questions that you can ask to open up more emotional connection.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

* We would so appreciate it if you left a review as a way to indirectly contribute to another couple getting their own copy!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

This One Thing Causes You Suffering, That You Can Now Be Free From: Aaron Solo Episode 178 Jul 29, 2021

There is one big thing in your life that disconnects you and keeps you from fully enjoying your life and relationship, and that is 'suffering'!

Though ‘suffering’ sounds like a very strong word, this experience happens whenever something is happening that you do not want to be happening. This leads to moments of discouragement and discontentment, and over time will lead to a feeling of “things not being good”.

In this solo episode today with Aaron, you will hear the one main thing that causes you suffering, and the way to totally be free from it.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Reliability + Follow-Through: 3 Ways to Cultivate These Traits in Your Marriage: Episode 177 Jul 27, 2021

The most attractive trait in a partner is reliability! So what is reliability really? Well, can your partner count on you to follow through, or do you make promises and then have excuses for why it didn't happen?

The thing is, how reliable you are in your partnership directly impacts how much they can TRUST you. Now you might think we're just speaking about the "big" things...but actually, it's also about the small promises that you make that really add up to their perception of you.

In this episode you will hear:

The importance of reliability and follow-through in a relationship
5 different areas where you need to be reliable
The 3 ways to cultivate these traits in your partnership
What do do if your partner hasn’t been following through

Resources For Your Relationship:

The In-Person Couples Workshop in Arizona August 22nd is linked here: http://thecouplesworkshop.com/
For the recorded version, you can get 50% off this week only using the code (july2021) here: https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/recording

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How to Empathize With Your Partner, Even When You Don’t Agree: Jocelyn Solo Episode 176 Jul 22, 2021

Coming off of last night’s webclass on “Communication Mastery”, many people were intent to bring more empathy into their relationship. The very next feeling however was “being empathetic is not easy when I don’t agree with my partner.”

This most likely is the case for you as well. Though being empathetic to our partner’s experience is a true expression of love, it isn’t easy especially when you haven’t practiced it.

In this one-on-one episode with Jocelyn, you will hear how to bring more empathy to your partner so that you can be that true expression of love and be that example of a truly empowered couple!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Discussing Boundaries in a Way That is Freeing, Not Controlling: Episode 175 Jul 20, 2021

Establishing boundaries as a couple can sometimes be a point of tension. It can feel like a battle between wanting to feel security, but also not feeling controlled by the other. The thing is, boundaries are critical to agree upon, so you both feel respected, loved, and also fulfilled.

Most couples discuss boundaries as: expressing commands, arguing repeatedly, a resistance to feeling controlled. Yet, they can be discussed in a loving, respectful way that feels like a win-win agreement for you both to create a more connected and collaborative relationship.

In this episode you will hear some areas in which boundaries are important to establish, plus gain the steps to discuss boundaries in a way that is freeing, not controlling.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Make sure you’re registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya’ll are registered already and we can’t wait!

After July 20th: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Our Pregnancy Journey Update + How We’re Preparing For Parenthood: Jocelyn Solo Episode 174 Jul 15, 2021

We wanted to give you an update on our pregnancy journey and how we’re preparing for parenthood...intentionally. For us, it’s important to prepare together for a natural birth AND to get our marriage prepared for parenthood.

Because we talk to couples all day every day (with many being parents), we get to see the behind the scenes challenges that come up with marriage and parenthood. So we’ve been taking those insights into our conversations and we wanted to share what’s been coming up for us in case it inspires you!

Also, make sure you’re registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya’ll are registered already and we can’t wait!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

What to do When You Disagree on a BIG Decision: Episode 173 Jul 13, 2021

It can feel frustrating or unsettling when you and your partner disagree on a big decision. For some couples, this can lead to making no decision and staying in a standstill for a while, which is also not ideal for you.

For others, it can lead to tense conversations, full blown arguments, and feeling like you’re limited by the other person. But it doesn’t have to go that way…

Whether it’s parenting styles, financial decisions, where to move, when to have kids, which job offer to take, etc….you CAN make decisions in a way that feels better and leads to an even better outcome than you imagined.

In today’s episode, you’ll hear 6 Key Elements to Making a Big Decision Together. Dive in and you might want to take notes :)

Resources For Your Relationship:

Also, make sure you’re registered for the ONE-TIME FREE WEBCLASS on July 20th (next week). It’s called: Communication Mastery--4 Skills You Must Learn to Understand Each Other’s Needs, Create Win-Win Solutions, and Deepen Your Emotional Intimacy. Save your seat here.

* Mentioned in the podcast *

The Arizona in-person events, Couples Workshop, is coming back on August 22nd, 2021. If you are interested, just link the link for details.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The Danger of Being Overly Considerate Towards Your Partner: Aaron Solo Episode 172 Jul 08, 2021

It’s a great personal trait to be considerate of your partner (especially of their needs from the last episode). However there is a danger of being overly considerate or overly pleasing in your relationship.

You might not have ever considered this or realized that it was happening to you, but the effect can be very disruptive. It can make you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, and even disengaged from your partner.

In this solo episode with Aaron, you will be able to recognize this pattern so you can show up even better for yourself and consequently as an even better partner!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here.
After that date passes, order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Have Conflicting Needs? 5 Principles to Work Through This Together: Episode 171 Jul 06, 2021

Of course you know that you and your partner are not exactly the same. Yet, how often do you expect them to fulfill all of your needs? Or even how often you assume that they should just know or desire to meet your needs?

When you get to a place where you have conflicting needs, this can feel as if you have to sacrifice or be discouraged that your needs won’t be met. When we asked on IG what some of the common conflicting needs for you were, we heard back:

Togetherness vs separateness
Physical touch vs quality time
Time to talk and connect at the end of the day vs quiet time to decompress after working a long day.
Working vs leading the kids and home

But there are ways, in this case you will hear 5 principles, so that you can work through your conflicting needs together and be sure that you do not have to sacrifice or give up on having your most important needs met in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here.
After that date passes, order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Justifying v Explaining Yourself When Your Partner Misunderstands You: Episode 170 Jul 01, 2021

We received this question privately after the last podcast: “What is the difference between justifying and explaining, when you feel like your partner misread your intentions? Sometimes I feel like we’re fighting over a version of me that doesn’t feel true, and I can’t tell if that’s just me being defensive.”

In this episode you will hear:

The subtle difference between justifying and explaining
The major difference between Intent vs Impact
4 steps to explain yourself in a way that your partner can receive it

Resources For Your Relationship:

1) Take the Relationship Assessment and do the results call with us. There are 2 spots discounted from the $1000 course to just $147. To snag one of those spots either:

Text: 602-321-5652
Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Defensive Behavior: How to Overcome this Pattern in Your Relationship: Episode 169 Jun 29, 2021

Defensiveness is a learned behavior to compensate for something going on beneath the surface.

A few common sources of defensiveness in relationship:

A lack of feeling emotionally safe because they often feel invalidated
Taking something personally (and making it mean something different than what was said)
Fear of being judged, not loved, abandoned, or punished
An attachment to a certain perspective about themselves or the situation

Here’s the thing...if you and your partner perpetually react with defensiveness, you will leave conversations unresolved, build up more and more tension, and/or get to the point where you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

So today’s podcast episode goes deeper into understanding why defensiveness shows up in your relationship PLUS how to break this pattern, so you communicate openly and constructively.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Book a private Couples Session with us. The first one is discounted so you can get a sense that our style WORKS! Read testimonials, details, and schedule one here.
Read our newest book, The Argument Hangover. Get $200 of bonus resources, including a course and workbook. HERE

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Please leave a Review of the Show if you have not, it helps us reach even more couples!

How to Have a Weekly “Family Meeting” to Stay to on Track in Your Relationship: Episode 168 Jun 22, 2021

Do you and your partner feel perfectly aligned and on the same page? Do you ever feel caught off guard by a comment your partner makes about being dissatisfied somewhere in your relationship? If so, it's time for a Family Meeting Check-in! We define a"Family Meeting" as: a designated time to have an intentional, judgment-free conversation together as you discuss your relationship + life. You each get to share your satisfaction in the 9 core areas of your relationship/life, and openly listen to each other. A few critical benefits of these "Family Meetings":

it eliminates that frustrating moments where you blindside each other throughout the week to discuss things when it's not the best time
you can address challenges or areas of lower satisfaction before it BUILDS up into resentment
you ensure you're on the same page as a couple and feel like a team
it creates emotional safety and intimacy

But here's what a weekly Family Meeting is NOT: a time to defend yourselves, point fingers, complain, or start a fight.

In this episode you will hear us go through our own family meeting, so that you have the tools to communicate with each other to be even more on the same page.

Resources For Your Relationship:

1) To get your Family Meeting Worksheet either:

DM us on IG @Meet_TheFreemans or

Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Different Sex Drives and Compatibility in the Bedroom: Xander and Vanessa Marin Episode 167 Jun 17, 2021

No matter the stage of relationship you are in, it can seem like you and your partner have different sex drives. Often we think this means frequency, but in this episode we interview Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander who collaborates with her on content, to discover just what sex drive and compatability means.

In this episode you will realize the different forms and types of intimacy, how to raise your satisfaction in your sex life, and most imprtantly how to bring up this conversation with your partner. No matter where your satisfaction is now or how compatibility you feel, you will be able to take the steps to having a more open and pleasurable sex life and drive together.

Questions Asked in this Interview:

It would be easy to assume that “sex drive” is just the level of desire and freqency for sex. But what does it really mean?
Do you see that most couple of the same or different sex drives?
Is it biologically true that your sex drive diminishes with age (for women)? Or what are things that get in the way of sexual satisfaction?
Do you think people should say “YES” to their partner’s attempt to have sex (if they don’t feel like it)?
What should a partner say if they aren’t enjoying (or are just bored with) certain things in the bedroom without hurting their partner?
What are two new questions a couple can ask each other to take the next steps to a more understanding and satisfying sex life?

Connect More With the Vanessa:

Instagram: @Vanessamarintherapy

Learn more about her courses and sex drive guides: vmtherapy.com

Resources For Your Relationship:

The last opportunity for the 5 spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us. This assessment (paired with the call with us) is literally the most impactful thing you can do for your relationship and it’s discounted from $1000 to just $147. To snag one of those 5 spots, either text or email us:

Text: 602-321-5652

Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

The 4 Keys to Unlock Emotional Intimacy: Episode 166 Jun 15, 2021

What’s the main difference between being just “roommates” with someone vs romantic partners? The answer: the depth of emotional intimacy.

Of course you’ve heard us say that a relationship requires all the functional things (the to-do list, things around the house, errands, etc)...but that can easily consume your attention and diminish your emotional intimacy.

In fact, we received a private message yesterday saying, “how do I create more emotional intimacy with my wife?” Which shows that many people don’t know what actually builds emotional intimacy. So we’re answering that question in today’s podcast episode.

Tune in to hear 4 Keys to Unlock Emotional Intimacy...that can be implemented no matter how busy you two are in life (or the current level of relationship you are at)!

Resources For Your Relationship:

The 5 discounted spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us went SO fast last episode, that we decided to offer 5 more. Why? Because this assessment (paired with the call with us) is literally the most impactful thing you can do for your relationship and it’s discounted from $1000 to just $147. To snag one of those 5 spots, either text or email us:

Text: 602-321-5652

Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Rebuilding Trust After Boundaries Have Been Crossed: Joy + Peter Harrington Episode 165 Jun 10, 2021

Are you working to rebuild trust in your relationship? Perhaps a lie was told, or a boundary was crossed….but you’re committed to repairing it and not ending the relationship.

Today you’ll meet Joy and Peter Harrington who share very candidly about repairing broken trust after his long term use of porn. They share some radically true things about whether porn use is healthy in a relationship and what to do if your partner denies crossing a boundary.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can connect with Joy and Peter Harrington here on Instagram

To schedule a private coaching session to rebuild trust, go here

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

4 Reasons Couples Grow Apart Emotionally and the 4 Levels of a Relationship: Episode 164 Jun 08, 2021

A male client was vulnerable last week and said, "we've been together 10 years, have 3 beautiful children, and have great careers. And while I think we should be closer than ever, I feel more distant than ever."

This powerfully shows that being emotionally connected does not have to do with time or reaching life milestones together. In fact, couples grow apart emotionally from 4 subtle behaviors that build up over time. We go into these deeper reasons, as well as the 4 levels of a relationship so you can start to notice which level you are at, and how to progress to the next within your own relationship!

Resources For Your Relationship:

This month we are giving 5 spots to do Relationship assessment + call with us. Normally you can only take the assessment in our $1000 program. We’re opening up these 5 spots for only $147. To snag one of those spots, either:

Text us: 602-321-5652
Message us on IG: @meet_thefreemans
Email us at: connect@newpowercouples.com

After June 2021: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

What Kind of Sex Are You in the Mood For & Becoming More Expressive With Your Partner: Seth + Melanie Studley Episode 163 Jun 03, 2021

Maybe this is a question you have never thought of! Have you ever taken the time to think about the different types of sex you might be in the mood for? For most the answer is, no… Taking this question one step further, depending on your mood on a certain day of week, you might be more or less open to certain types of sex with your partner.

Ok that was a great thing to think about, but now the next part is to express this whole new world to your partner. Given this area of sex and intimacy often is uncomfotable and vulnerable, you can find it dificult to be fully expressed with your partner without some pushback or defensiveness. So what to do?

This episode is the first of three episodes around sex and intimacy that we will be interviewing other relationship experts. In today’s episode you will meet Seth and Melanie Studley who have been married for 16 years and have three kids. Seth is a licensed marriage and family therapist and together they are the hosts of the “Anatomy of Marriage, Family, and Sex” podcast, along with their “Anatomy of Marriage” app!

From them you will realize that there are different types of sex energy and moods, and on your journey of marriage, you will have the tools to express this desires as they come up in different seasons.

Get to Know the Studleys:

Anatomy of Marriage App
Anatomy of Marriage, Family, Sex Podcast

Questions Asked in the Interview:

What has your journey been as a couple in getting more comfortable and exploratory with sex and intimacy?
You mentioned that there are different kinds of sex based on the mood...can you describe the types? How should a partner communicate about the energy they are in the mood for?
How do you suggest couples talk about this with each other?
How should these conversations be approached when you have kids? How and when do you have these conversations with or around them?

Guest Quotes:

"Connection & pleasure is the goal, expression can be different based on energy mood"

"Clarity is Kindness"

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Logic vs Emotion: How to Balance Both in Communication: Episode 162 Jun 01, 2021

You know those moments when you're sharing your emotion, and your partner responds with logic? They might say “that’s not how that happened, that doesn’t make sense, or that wasn’t my intention.”

It can make you feel invalidated and misunderstood, which hurts because your partner is the one you should feel most understood by, right? You might feel that they don’t listen to you and certainly that they don’t understand you. Or even to the point where you feel that you just aren’t on the same page.

Logic and emotion are both important in relationships and communication....but often at different times! It's important that you two discover how to balance both of them, and know when logic is needed vs emotional understanding.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How to Keep the Past From Impacting Your Present: Episode 161 May 27, 2021

Why can’t the past just stay back in the past?! How often in your relationship do you feel that you resolved an issue, only to have it come back up again later? What about making a decision together about a big life event, only to doubt it (or your partner) later?

This “past thing” is a block for many couples that keep them feeling in the same place and not making the progress they really want. In this motivational episode we will cover how to keep your past events from impacting your present.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for one of the few monthly available 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Sessions here
Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Mistakes Couples Make After an Argument That Keep the Issue Unresolved: Episode 160 May 25, 2021

How do you two tend to act after an argument? If you don’t have a solid repair process, you likely are keeping the issue lingering and unresolved. When this happens you can lose trust in each other, erode love and connection, and just turn this into an emotional trigger for the future.

In today’s episode, we’ll cover 3 mistakes that couples make after an argument, and you’ll likely find that you have done all 3! But we also share what you need to do INSTEAD to truly close the loop on the conversation.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

“Should I Bring This Up Now?” Picking the Right Time For Important Conversations: Episode 159 May 20, 2021

Is this something you have ever said to yourself “should I bring this conversation up to my partner right now?” We know the answer is almost certainly YES, we all have thought this. Most of the time it’s when we have an important topic that we want to talk about, or we think it will potentially cause a conflict.

HOWEVER conflicts are not always from the subject of a conversation, but how and when it is brought up. It can turn out to be a conversation that you were excited to have, and all of a sudden it turns into a disagreement. How can this be?

Today we talk about just that! In this episode you will hear 3 parts to a conversation that you must add, so that conversations can be had at the right time… for both of you!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here
Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How to Overcome Any Relationship Challenge: Episode 158 May 18, 2021

Last chance to sign-up for the FREE WebClass on May 18th and 20th. One is on Communication and one is on Conflict Repair

When a challenge shows up in your relationship, how do you two handle it? Do you resist it and just hope it goes away? Or perhaps you talk about it over and over again but never get to a mutual place of understanding?

Either way, most couples we talk to are seeking specific ways to BETTER handle challenges as a TEAM. Today’s episode will show you how working through the challenge can actually bring you closer, rather than tear you apart.

In this episode you’ll hear:

How challenges can actually bring you closer
5 steps to overcome the challenge as a team
Why you must become a resilient partner for a relationship in modern times

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Ever Frustrated With Your Partner? 2 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Bring it Up: Jocelyn Solo episode 157 May 13, 2021

Register for 2 FREE WebClasses on May 18th and 20th 2021 on Communication + Conflict HERE

Ever feel frustrated with your partner? Yea, most human beings have those moments. Today’s episode is important because it will provide you with 2 questions you MUST ask yourself before you bring it up to your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

5 Common Sources of Conflict (So You Can Prevent Them): Episode 156 May 11, 2021

Relationships cannot be about avoiding conflict, because that only builds resentment in the long term. However, by knowing the common sources of conflict, you can take the actions to keep those topics from causing hurt and disconnection!

That is exactly what you will hear in this episode, the 5 common sources of conflict. Then you can help prevent conflicts when you see them coming, as well as repair from your argument hangovers faster!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You don’t want to miss these 2 FREE Webclass on May 18th & May 20th. Register for both of them here. The first is “3 Communication Skills to Overcome Any Relationship Challenge”. The second one is “End Argument Hangovers: How to Fully Repair & Reconnect After a Fight”.

For listening after the free webclass dates: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Why Would Bill Gates & Melinda Get Divorced? (what keeps love and connection alive in a relationship): Aaron Solo Episode 155 May 06, 2021

Is it at all surprising to you that Bill & Melinda Gates would choose to divorce? It might not be surprising that it happens to very prominent and wealthy couples, because it has been happening often (Jeff & MacKenzie Bezos, Kim & Kanye West, J-Lo & ARod). It would seem that when areas like finances, significance, and contribution are at such a high level, that relationships would work even better!

But that is just not the case because there is a fundamental principle of relationships that is required to continuously have connection, understanding, and love be present in a relationship. This principle is completely independent of money, fame, and significance; which is clearly what is being shown in society today.

In this episode Aaron will dive into just what this principle is so that you can raise your level of connection and love in your own relationship. On top of that, you will know that love and connection is not something that just happens or doesn’t happen based on circumstances. By knowing this principle, you will be able to consciously bring more love and connection into your relationship with your partner, no matter what season you are in or the challenge that you face!

Resources For Your Relationship:

You don’t want to miss these 2 FREE Webclasses on May 18th & May 20th. Register for both of them here.

The first is “3 Communication Skills to Overcome Any Relationship Challenge”.
The second one is “End Argument Hangovers: How to Fully Repair & Reconnect After a Fight”.

3 Ways to Be a Better Listener: Episode 154 May 04, 2021

Listening is one of the most important skills in a relationship, and is fundamental to improving your communication!

The problem is we think listening is easy, but truly listening to your partner does NOT just automatically happen, and it’s not a “passive” activity.

Truly listening takes effort and intention. The thing is, how you listen to your partner determines how much they feel understood, which then directly impacts your level of connection!

In this episode, we cover:

The most common mistakes people make when "listening" to their partners
3 ways to be a better listener

Resources For Your Relationship:

Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Q&A- Answering Your Q’s on Communication Challenges: Episode 153 Apr 29, 2021

In this episode we’re answering your specific questions submitted from Instagram. What was the topic for these questions? … Communication! This Q&A session is all about communicating better for the specific challenges that were submitted.

The questions we answer today are:

When I have an emotional low, my wife tends to be dismissive...especially if it has to do with her. What can I do differently?
Please explain why transparency/openness/honesty is so important.
Suggestions to stop getting defensive immediately when someone brings up an issue?
Currently I have trouble with my partner opening up to me, but he’ll confide in his friends/coworkers. suggestions?

We Are Asking For Your Help:

In the episode we asked for authentic reviews for, The Argument Hangover.

If you have not gotten a copy you can get yours, and a free course on being better fighters, with this link.

Then to help us with our publisher, please leave a review with the retailer you purchased from!

Thank you so much, it really helps these principles get in the hands of more couples!

Vague Communication Creates Upsets in Your Relationship + How to Now Be Crystal Clear: Episode 152 Apr 27, 2021

Gut check time for a few of you… just because you talk often doesn’t mean you are being clear. Have you ever said to your partner out of disappointment, “I already told you multiple times”? Of course this can be frustrating to both you and your partner.

If this keeps coming up, it is possible that you are being too vague in your communication, even if you are more assertive! Have you ever said anything like this to your partner:

“I want you to help more around the house.”

“I want us to work on our intimacy.”

“I need to feel like you care more.”

“I will do more of what I say I will”

If so, your upsets might be coming from you being too vague in your communication. In this episode, you will hear how to become crystal clear in your communications to keep common upsets from happening.

Resources For Your Relationship:

You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

True Intimacy Happens Outside of Your Comfort Zone: Jocelyn Solo Episode 151 Apr 22, 2021

Not to be dramatic, but this episode will crack open your heart and radically transform your mind. Especially with how you see challenges or blocks around increasing intimacy in your relationship.

If you’re going through a rough patch or you just want to connect at a deeper level, this episode is for you! You will hear how true intimcy is going to be found outside or where you are currently looking... outside your comfort zone!

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen, sign-up for the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th! (hurry before it passes!)
You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Couple’s Session here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How to Hold Space For Your Partner When Emotions Are High: Episode 150 Apr 20, 2021

If you have been listening to this podcast, you now know that escalating conflicts and argument hangovers are not from what started the disagreement, but what you said or did after that. It’s when you think to yourself “I don’t even remember what started this!” Part of why this happens is because we are not great at “Holding Space” for our partners when they have high emotions or are emotionally triggered.

For some this might be a new term, holding space. In this episode you will hear about what this really means and then you will get 5 things to do so that you can hold space for your partner. By doing this, you allow for an environment of acceptance and love for you and your partner to have emotions and not make that wrong. It’s a powerful opportunity to connect deeper and develop emotional intimacy… when you appropriately hold space for the emotions they are having.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

How to Hold Yourself and Your Partner Accountable, Without Being too Critical: Episode 149 Apr 15, 2021

After the last episdoe you now think "ok great, I'm doing my part, but what about my partner"? We asked many of you how your partner normally responds when you hold them accountable, and the answers were versions of: denial, defensiveness, withdrawing, being rude, or dismissive.

If you don’t have an agreement about how you will hold each other accountable, it can feel like being micro-managed or controlled. This leads to tension, and even feeling “parented” by each other. So instead of that frustration, tune in to this episode for specific ways to hold yourself and your partner accountable to making real progress.

And while you’re listening, sign-up for the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th!

Personal Accountability: 5 Things You Need to Take Ownership of For a True Partnership: Episode 148 Apr 13, 2021

Have you realized that you can be in a relationship, yet not be in a true partnership? It might seem like a simple word change but the experience can be radically different. You can be in a relationship yet still feel like a victim to your circumstances and your partner’s responses day to day.

A true partnership is made up of two people who are accountable for how they are showing up. More specifically these 5 specific things that we cover in this episode. In this type of partnership you will feel empowered to create and direct your life and relationship, regardless of the circumstances that show up!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts April 26th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Needs Women Have But Are Often Misunderstood Episode 147 Apr 06, 2021

You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn’t always happen right? Especially when a woman's needs are not being met.

Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of women are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you as a partner, because at times these needs are not clearly understood and can be shared in a way that causes defensiveness. So what to do?

Well, listen to this podcast episode where you will hear what the 3 needs are of women that are misunderstood. Then once you know these needs, you can have the conversations needed for your partner to truly feel loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

I Realized My Underwear is 5 Years Old. What ‘Old Energy’ Needs to be Removed From Your Relationship?: Jocelyn Solo Episode 146 Apr 01, 2021

This episode might make you laugh out loud, but will also get you fired up to get rid of OLD energy in your life. It’s critical that you clear out energetic clutter in your environment, in your relationship, and in your habits. If you want to invite in anything NEW (more intimacy, more fun, more connection), you need to make space for it.

Tune in to this episode where Jocelyn dives into specific ways you can clear out old energy. And that includes old underwear (I just threw out a bunch and ordered more)

Also, make sure to save your seats for The Couples Workshop on April 11th. We might not host another one online, so now is your chance!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Signs of Complacency + 3 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Vibrant: Episode 145 Mar 30, 2021

Complacency is that feeling of low energy and lack of engagement in a relationship. Do you or your partner ever have that sense in your marriage? This one will be a bit of a “gut check” for how you’ve been showing up for each other. Complacency can lead to feeling like "roommates" or just a general lack of aliveness and joy within the relationship. If complacency becomes the norm in your relationship, it can degrade your happiness.

But realizing this is happening is what allows you to improve it. In this episode you will get 3 signs of complacency, then you’ll be encouraged by 3 easy ways to keep things vibrant and alive, even as the years pass.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Save your seats for the next Couples Workshop here. Message us on IG: @meet_thefreemans to get a code for $25 off the April 11th Couples Workshop online event.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If Your Partner Has the Reserved/Flexible “Communication Personality Type” : Episode 144 Mar 23, 2021

We’re sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"!

But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner.

[Side note- if you haven’t taken the Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type,” take that FREE QUIZ HERE]

By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them….so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements.

In this episode you will get:

The traits of the Reserved/Flexible partner
Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication
Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them
What you can do differently
How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months

Resources For Your Relationship:

Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type”
Use the coupon code [podcast25] to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If Your Partner Has the Reserved/Inflexible “Communication Personality Type” : Episode 143 Mar 23, 2021

We’re sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"!

But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner.

[Side note- if you haven’t taken the Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type,” take that FREE QUIZ HERE]

By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them….so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements.

In this episode you will get:

The traits of the Reserved/Inflexible partner
Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication
Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them
What you can do differently
How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months

Resources For Your Relationship:

Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type”
Use the coupon code [podcast25] to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If Your Partner Has the Assertive/Flexible “Communication Personality Type” : Episode 142 Mar 22, 2021

We’re sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"!

But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner.

[Side note- if you haven’t taken the Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type,” take that FREE QUIZ HERE]

By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them….so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements.

In this episode you will get:

The traits of the Assertive/Flexible partner
Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication
Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them
What you can do differently
How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months

Resources For Your Relationship:

Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type”
Use the coupon code [podcast25] to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If Your Partner Has the Assertive/Inflexible “Communication Personality Type” : Episode 141 Mar 22, 2021

We’re sure you've had moments that you are not communicating well with your partner. All of us have then thought to ourselves, "why can't you communicate like I do"!

But communication is not one-size-fits-all and you might have a different "Communication Personality Type" than your partner.

Side note: if you haven’t taken the Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type,” take that FREE QUIZ HERE

By knowing your partner's type, you will better understand how they communicate and how you can better interact with them, so you can prevent unnecessary tension and disagreements.

In this episode you will get:

The traits of the Assertive/Inflexible partner
Mistakes they can unconsciously and unintentionally make in their communication
Mistakes you can make in trying to communicate with them
What you can do differently
How to communicate better in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months

Resources For Your Relationship:

Take the Couples Quiz to find out your partner’s “Communication Personality Type”
Use the coupon code "podcast25" to get $25 off your seats for the next Couples Workshop here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Behind the Scenes - Writing The Argument Hangover Book Together: Episode 140 Mar 18, 2021

The Argument Hangover book was released this week! Do you think you could write a book with your partner, what would that even take? Well let's dive into the behind the scenes of how we wrote this book together, where the ideas came from, who wrote each chapter, and any challenges that came up!

The intention is to have some fun hearing about how this process went and some interesting things that you would otherwise never hear about.

All for the bigger purpose of having you ... (well you will have to listen in for the purpose we are setting out for you and your partner!)

If you have not gotten your own copy of The Argument Hangover, order it now as it's the last week to get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)!

5 Root Causes of Most Relationship Challenges: Episode 139 Mar 16, 2021

Challenges arise in every relationship and this is not something you have to try and change. It’s about whether you approach the challenges as a team or against each other. To have the best shot at staying on the same team, you need to be prepared before they show up. Then you will respond rather than react to them.

Today’s podcast goes into 5 Root Causes of Most Relationship Challenges. Of course there are others, but these are some of the most common ones we see. By knowing these 5 challenges, you will be able to prepare yourself in advance and handle the challenge as a true team when you notice it comes up in your relationship.

Interestingly, a lack of love is not one of the 5 common challenges by the way. We talk to couples every single day who love each other deeply, yet still feel discouraged because they haven’t identified the ROOT cause of their challenges.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves TODAY, and get over $200 of free bonuses (like the mini course and a 90 minute training). This is the last week these will be available for free.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The Silliest Things That Have Caused Arguments (from your IG DM’s): Jocelyn Solo Episode 138 Mar 11, 2021

Toilet paper, the cost of rice, who changes the water dispenser more. These are just a few of the submissions we received from you all on IG about: the silliest things that have caused arguments.

This will be an episode that you just chuckle and realize that we’re all human in relationships. We all have those moments where we’re fighting like it matters to us a lot, but isn’t life altering in hindsight.

As you listen to the episode, make sure you order The Argument Hangover book! It’s shipping to you all in just a few days. And participate in the social media contest to win a FB Portal! It will be the last week for the $200 of bonus trainings that go with ordering the book!

Managing Your Emotions to Shorten Your Argument Hangovers: Episode 137 Mar 09, 2021

How good are you at managing your emotions as an argument begins? Do you recognize the emotion that you’re feeling, but still choose your words and actions consciously? Or do you find that your emotions (anger, sadness, etc) drive your words and actions that lead to disagreements escalating to the point of hurting your partner and the relationship?

The thing is, it’s absolutely OKAY whatever emotion you’re feeling. The goal isn’t to get to a place where NO emotion comes up for you in argument (that’s not realistic, nor is that life)! Instead, the goal is to become so self-aware that you notice the emotion arising AND you still choose your next words and actions that allow the other to understand you even more. In this podcast episode you will hear:

How emotional awareness can help shorten the argument hangover period
The 3 personal aspects to better manage your emotions
Specific constructive actions you can take in those moments of anger, sadness, frustration, etc

This is such a critical topic that we have two VERY helpful resources:

Our newest book, The Argument Hangover, officially hits shelves and ships in ONE WEEK! This will be the most relatable and actionable book you’ve ever read--covering communication and conflict. If you didn’t know, you can actually get $200 of pre-order bonus resources (a conflict and communication course + workbook) if you order it before March 17th. Grab your copy and claim your bonuses here
This podcast! So hit play and subscribe for future episodes.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The Miraculous Story About How We Got This Book Deal, and It’s Powerful Life Lesson: Episode 136 Mar 04, 2021

Life is on your side, even if you don’t always feel that way! We wanted to take 10 minutes to share the crazy, unexpected, miraculous story about how we got this book deal. Why? Because it provided a life lesson that we think will inspire you in any season.

P.S. Did you order your copy of The Argument Hangover yet? It’s shipping in just a few days, and you can claim $200 of bonus resources HERE

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

3 Needs Men Have, But Rarely Vocalize to Their Partner: Episode 135 Mar 02, 2021

You got into your relationship for one big reason… LOVE. More specifically to have the experience of being loved unconditionally by your partner. Yet this doesn’t always happen right? Especially for men to show up as, and express, unconditional love.

Now does this mean something is wrong? No not at all. BUT it is a sign that one of 3 major needs of men are not being met. This is not to put pressure on you, the partner of a man, because often men do not even realize, let alone vocalize, any of these needs to you as their partner. So what to do?

Well, listen to this podcast episode! In this episode you will hear what the 3 needs are that are critical for men, that often are not even expressed. Then once you know and can have these conversations, men (either you or your partner) will be able to feel that you can give all the love to your partner that they need, even unconditionally!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves March 16th, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

“What’s Wrong?” Why You Never Want to Ask This Question and What to Say Instead if Your Partner Seems Off: Jocelyn Solo Episode 134 Feb 25, 2021

When your partner seems off somehow, do you ask them, “what’s wrong?” I know your desire is that they express themselves, but asking this question can only make them shut down more. Odd, right? So in today’s quick episode, I’ll chat with you about:

Why asking “what’s wrong” has the opposite effect on your partner
What to ask them instead if they seem “off”
And what to do if they keep saying “I’m fine,” but you feel like they’re really not

Also, make sure to CLAIM YOUR BONUSES for pre-ordering The Argument Hangover. It’s coming March 16th 2021 and you don’t want to miss out on $200 worth of bonus courses and the Debrief After an Argument Workbook.

Express Yourself But Make Sure You’re Not Relying on Your Partner For THIS: Episode 133 Feb 23, 2021

Being able to fully express yourself is one of the most important aspects of being in a relationship. This is what allows you to be known by and connected with your partner! This is what leads to a healthy and loving relationship.

However there is one thing to this, that could have you be dependent on them for. It will also lead to diminishing your own ability to self-sooth and self-regulate your emotions.

On the other hand, by not relying on your partner for this one thing, you will feel more freedom, emotionally steady, and safe for your partner to more vulnerably express themselves to you!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The ONE Thing That Could Be Blocking Your Connection: Episode 132 Feb 18, 2021

The Couples Workshop is coming up on February 21st, 2021. Save your seats before it passes. To get a bonus copy of The Argument Hangover with it, enter this code when you check out: podcast2021

Your relationship is meant to be about experiencing love and connection. As time passes, there is a subtle and sneaky thing that arises that blocks you from feeling connected to your partner.

This is a short "check yo' self" motivational episode so that you can be aware of this one thing that is sure to create disconnection in your relationship (and it's all on you!)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves March 2021, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Signs You Could Use Some Alone Time and How to Bring it Up Without Hurting Your Partner’s Feelings: Episode 131 Feb 16, 2021

Healthy relationships consist of both time together and time apart. Which of course can feel much harder (and even more necessary) right now. Perhaps you’ve been needing some “alone time,” but haven’t expressed it to your partner. Or, you’ve mentioned it before, but no action was put in place so it’s a point of tension between you two now.

In today’s episode, we’ll discuss:

Signs that alone time would be helpful for your relationship
How much alone time is healthy
How to bring it up to your partner so it doesn't hurt their feelings
Examples of what alone time can look like, even during quarantine times, or if you have kids

Resources For Your Relationship:

Also, make sure you read about The LIVE Couples Workshop on Sunday February 21st. You will communicate better and resolve conflicts faster...in just 5 hours, instead of 5 months.

Those that register will get a FREE copy of the new book The Argument Hangover! Use the code: podcast 2021

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If You’re Really Trying to Grow in the Relationship But Your Partner Doesn’t Take as Much Initiative: Jocelyn Solo Episode 130 Feb 11, 2021

Don’t get discouraged if your partner isn’t taking as much initiative. Or if you’re still running into challenges, even though you’re really trying to 'work on things'. This episode will give you the dose of perspective and the encouragement you need to keep staying on track in your relationship.

Real quick, did you check out the 5 Day Couples Challenge that’s starting February 15th?

We don’t want you to miss out on this time to be more intentional in your partnership, overcome communication pitfalls, and connect deeper. Read all about it and save your spots before you miss the opportunity!

The Seemingly Innocent Things That You Should Never Say to Your Partner (and what to say instead): Episode 129 Feb 09, 2021

“You are being too sensitive, just get over it, that’s not what happened.”...

Have you caught yourself or your partner saying things like that to each other? While you might say these from a seemingly innocent place, they do NOT lead to your partner feeling good, connected, or even validated.

In this episode you will get:

6 phrases to never say to your partner
The negative impact they can have (especially if said repeatedly over time)
5 phrases to say instead, that respect & honor each other

Also, make sure that you’ve signed up for The 5 Day Couples Challenge starting February 15th. We don’t want you to miss this guided experience to deepen your connection and overcome communication pitfalls. SIGN-UP here

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Your Past is Not Fixed, You Can Change It: ADVANCED Aaron Solo Episode 128 Feb 04, 2021

You have heard it said that your past is in the past, or some version of don't cry over spilled milk. So of course that means there is nothing you can do about it right?

What if we told you that your past is not fixed? What if you could actually change your past?

In relationships, it is the things that happen in the past (what your partner said or did) that we find hard to let go of. These keep you feeling disconnected, angry, or disappointed. This of course does not lead to more love, connection, and happiness within your relationship.

In this episode you will learn how to change your own past so that you do not stay stuck in a place of disconnection or even mediocrity in your life with your partner.

DISCLAIMER: this is an advanced skill!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge, that starts February 15th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily trainings of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

You’re Not Upset For the Reason You Think You Are: Episode 127 Feb 02, 2021

Small things in your relationship can be what build up and cause you to feel disconnected or upset with your partner. Of course when this happens there isn’t room for the love, connection, and happiness that you desire to experience. It could be things you say to yourself like:

“Ugh, if they’d only pick up their socks, if only they’d stop being on their phone at night, if only they would eat healthier with me.”

Though it might seem that these little things are the way they are and you wish your partner’s actions would change so that you could feel better. HOWEVER in this episode you will discover that you are not actually upset for the reason you think you are! We will invite you into a different way to look at these small upsets in your relationship so that you will be empowered by seeing the real reason! (What could that reason be?!)

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge, that starts February 15th, 2021. Connect with other couples as we go through daily trainings of the 5 C's for a strong relationship, get a FREE book, and win challenge giveaways!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Our Daily and Weekly Mindset Habits So We Can Show Up Better For Each Other: Jocelyn Solo Episode 126 Jan 28, 2021

Our happiness and motivation can’t be reliant on outside circumstances. Yes, times are crazy. But we have the ability to shift our focus and mood by our daily and weekly habits.

In this episode with Jocelyn, you’ll hear:

A story she’s barely ever told about breaking her back and spiraling down to depression
Our daily and weekly habits we’ve been doing for years
How these will lead you to taking control of your mood and how you show up for yourself and your partner

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The 4 Communication Personality Types and Understanding Your Dynamic as a Couple: Episode 125 Jan 26, 2021

Communication is not “one size fits all” and your partner might never communicate EXACTLY like you do. So you can stop trying to get them too! You can either fight against it when you get frustrated or you learn to flow with it for even more effective and connecting ways of communicating (no matter what circumstances or emotions come up).

But guess what...your communication can significantly improve as you understand the “4 Communication Personality Types” and by determining which type represents you and your partner.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

What the 4 Communication Personality Types are and the traits that describe each of them
How tension and miscommunication can be significantly reduced by understanding your partner’s type
The 2 most important things to be aware of for yourself so you can be a better communicator
How to get access to the self-assessment to determine which of the 4 types you fall into

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

If You've Felt Discouraged Lately, Listen to This One to Feel Different: Episode 124 Jan 21, 2021

Can this be true, do you really feel discouragement or difficulty in life and within your relationship? Absolutely. If you have listened to this podcast before, you know that the point is not to avoid these types of feelings or even talking about them with your partner.

But it can feel difficult to shift out of this state even as an individual. Plus there are a lot of outside factors that contribute to life feeling hard. So is the goal to try and wait it out and hope that things get better? NO!

In this 10 minute motivational podcast you will get the one way to shift from this feeling of discouragement or difficulty. Once you start to feel positive momentum, it will be even easier to positively impact your partner and your relationship. But it does start with you, and that’s what this episode is for!

P.S.

Our new book, The Argument Hangover is about to hit shelves on Feb 23rd, 2021. So did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a “debrief after an argument” workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

When Your Partner Gets Triggered: The Do’s and Don’ts Episode 123 Jan 19, 2021

When your partner gets triggered, what do you do?...

#1: Do you react back, get defensive, and it triggers an argument?

#2: Or do you lovingly hold space and help them process what came up for them?

Don’t feel guilty if you fell into the first category, as that is where most people fall into.

We weren’t taught how to recognize and SUPPORT someone while they’re triggered, especially in a romantic relationship. And instead of it bringing healing, they often create arguments and emotional distance.

In this episode, we cover:

How triggers can be a “good” thing for the relationship
The things you DON’T want to say or do when they are triggered
The things that you DO want to say or do so that it is more constructive for your relationship

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 23rd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

I'm an ‘Assertive’ Woman With a ‘Reserved’ Partner: How I Learned to Not Make Him Feel Dominated: Jocelyn Solo Episode 122 Jan 14, 2021

I’m an assertive woman and Aaron tends to be more reserved. This used to lead to him feeling dominated or overpowered when communicating, even about seemingly simple matters. In this episode, I share simple but massively helpful shifts I made to still be myself (assertive), but to better work with his Communication Personality Type….a framework we breakdown in our new book, The Argument Hangover.

Did you claim your $200 of pre-order bonuses, including 2 communication and conflict trainings and a “debrief after an argument” workbook? You get them by entering your receipt # here: The Argument Hangover

How to Bring Up Challenging Conversations Without Triggering an Argument or Defensiveness: Episode 121 Jan 12, 2021

When you bring up a challenging/hard conversation, does it tend to trigger defensiveness and lead to an unintended argument?

You could have every intention of just trying to share how you feel and get to a positive solution, and STILL have it lead to a massive misunderstanding.

You're not alone if this tends to happen in your relationship.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

Ways to initiate the challenging topic so that it doesn't spark into an argument
How to handle times your partner gets defensive
5 simple things you can do so that challenging topics end up strengthening your relationship, instead of creating unnecessary tension

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

4 Steps to Help Men Identify What They’re Feeling and Be Comfortable to Share It: Aaron Solo Episode 120 Jan 07, 2021

Is there any place in your relationship that you shutdown and isolate from your partner by saying nothing or getting away from them? Are you even on the other side of things where you lash out at your partner to get them off your back?

In either case this is probably because you are not "good with emotions". Which is not something to feel bad about because not many of us start out with the ability to even identify exactly what we are feeling to even be able to articulate it.

This episode is all about starting the process of building both of the skills to identify what emotion you are feeling and then be able to share it with your partner. This will allow you to know even more about yourself and about each other. Tune in for 4 steps to go from not knowing what to say at all, to having even more connected conversations with your partner.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

The 4 Elements of True Love (They’re Not What You Think): Episode 119 Jan 05, 2021

Love is kind of the point of a relationship right? We know that you felt a lot of love for your partner early in your relationship and now that love probably feels different or maybe less. As you progress through your relationship your feeling of love will be different as you have more trust and comfort with each other. Maybe some of the challenges in your relationship have led you to a place of currently not feeling as much love. So how do you keep love not only alive but growing?

You should notice that in either case above, love is often based on outside conditions and how happy you currently feel. Whether it's about financial security, how your partner has been talking to you, or feeling too routine in your day to day life all of these are conditional feelings of love. In this podcast you will learn the 4 elements of love that allow for a truly unconditional love to be alive in your relationship. Then knowing these 4 elements, when you do feel less love between you and your partner, you will know the exact way to generate it.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, that hits shelves Feb 2nd, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

Differentiate What Your Partner is Saying vs What They Actually Need: Episode 118 Dec 29, 2020

Let’s be honest, we all have said to our partners one of these statements: “that’s not what I said, that's not what actually happened, what you are saying doesn’t make sense”. Especially for those partners (like Aaron) that are logical left brained people. As soon as this happens the predictable next sequence will be an argument or conflict, or at least not feeling like your partner is on your side.

Though this can feel like one of those areas where you and your partner are just different (male vs female or masculine vs feminine differences), the real culprit here is not making the differentiation between what your partner is saying versus what they need.

In this episode we cover this big difference between the actual words that you or your partner use and what the missing need or deeper desire really is. You will get questions to ask your partner that lead to more connection and understanding than the typical difference of opinion, recurring conflict, or simple disconnections in your day to day life. This will elevate you and your listening skills in your relationship.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Give a gift to your relationship that will impact the rest of your year! Join the next Couples Workshop - Live Steam with us right from home and take your communication skills to a deeper level. (Live interaction with us as we take you through the communication exercises and help with any conversation where you get stuck.)
Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved

Our Ritual for Reviewing Life and Creating New Aligned Goals Before Starting the New Year Episode 117 Dec 22, 2020

Whether you can’t wait to end this year or you are just excited to keep the momentum you have going, this is the episode for you. The end of the year just so happens to be a “made up” time that you can truly reset and refocus. For some you don’t want the next year to be like this past year. For others, you realize you just want to experience life and your relationship newly. Either way it comes down to a lot more than just setting new goals like most everyone talks about at the end of each year.

In this episode you will get the 5 questions you MUST reflect on and ask each other so you can complete this past year, and keep it from impacting your next year. Doing this as a couple is VITAL to not hitting bumps and road blocks a few months in. Once you establish this type of “blank slate” to work from, you will get the 5 ways to create what it is you desire together for the coming year.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Give a gift that will impact the rest of your year! Get access to The Couples Workshop - Home Edition, and take your communication and listening skills to a deeper level.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

I Used to Hate My Body and it Impacted My Relationship - Here’s How I Became Confident: Jocelyn Solo Episode 116 Dec 17, 2020

You aren’t alone if you’ve dealt with body image challenges. In this episode, I share the vulnerable truth about my relationship to my body growing up, and specifically how it negatively impacted my romantic relationships.

You will hear the 6 things I did to start loving myself (inside and out) so that I could show up as an authentically confident partner. Feel free to steal any one of them for yourself so you can show up more confident in your own relationship.

Resources For You:

After you listen to the episode, snag one of the two spots we’ve opened up for a Relationship Breakthrough Session. These sessions can be either 2-on-2 including your partner or 1-on-1 if you want to do it solo. Sign up for one here.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

“I Don’t Feel Desire For My Partner These Days, What Does This Mean?” Episode 115 Dec 15, 2020

It can be a hard thing to admit to yourself, let alone your partner, that you are not feeling the desire for them. This can feel like a very significant, lonely, and discouraging place to be. It can even bring up a feeling of doubt about the relationship as you might think this is a feeling you cannot come back from. Because, what is there to really do as this is just what you feel right?

In this episode you will hear the two central causes for this feeling as well as what to do depending on the category you find yourself in. Just by seeing these causes as something that all couples will face at some point in their relationship, you will feel a sense of ease and encouragement that you can move back to a state of connection, desire, passion, and sexual attraction.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and the 90 minute training from Dec 9th!)
Sign-up for a 1-on-1 or 2-on-2 session with Jocelyn or Aaron here. There are only 2 spots open in December for this, so snag one HERE.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The One Thing You Can’t Sit Back and Wait to Happen in Your Relationship: Aaron Solo Episode 114 Dec 10, 2020

There is one particular area that we all are guilty of sitting back and waiting to happen. When this takes place in your relationship it can lead to discouragement and staying relatively in the same place for years.

Listen in to this solo episode with Aaron to find out what this one thing is so you don't get caught in the waiting game for your relationship to become what it can be!

Resources For Your Relationship:

As mentioned in the episode you can access The Argument Hangover 90 minute training that we did live when you pre-order the book, The Argument Hangover. This will be with the other $200 worth of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Do You Try to Change Your Partner? When to Speak Your Mind vs Keep it to Yourself Episode 113 Dec 08, 2020

How many times have you thought to yourself “should I bring this up to my partner now, or should I just keep it to myself?” It’s almost a certainty that you have even more than once because all partners will ask themselves this question at one time or another.

The biggest issue here is that if you bring it up it can cause an argument in which you both end up getting upset and can get into an Argument Hangover. On the other side if you don’t say anything it can feel like you have to suppress yourself and ultimately end up feeling resentful. So what is the real answer here when it can feel like a lose-lose situation?

In this episode we will give you 5 steps to take to be able to answer this question as well as empower both of you to become even better partners to each other.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Make sure to register for the ONE-TIME Couples Event/Training we’re hosting December 9th. You get a copy of our newest book, The Argument Hangover + access to the 90 min training with content that’s never been publicly taught before. Save your seats here
After Dec 9th you can pre-order the book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Being Cheated On By My Ex Made Me a Better Wife Today--Here's Why: Jocelyn Episode 112 Dec 03, 2020

I actually had several exes cheat on me. It might sound odd to say, but I’m grateful that it happened because of who I am today as a wife. There’s a deeper gift that came from that experience, so dive in to this episode and send it to ANY friend that’s been cheated on before.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Make sure to register for the ONE-TIME Couples Event/Training we’re hosting December 9th. You get a copy of our newest book, The Argument Hangover + access to the 90 min training with content that’s never been publicly taught before. Save your seats here
Sign-up for a 1-on-1 or 2-on-2 session with Jocelyn or Aaron here. There are only 2 spots open in December for this, so snag one HERE.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

5 Behaviors That Push Your Partner Away That You Don’t Realize You’re Doing Episode 111 Dec 01, 2020

There usually isn’t just one big event that ends a relationship. It's an ‘eroding’ slowly over time. It's the result of frequent behaviors like chronic defensiveness, small criticisms, and not prioritizing them.

We are not even saying that you are necessarily at the place of ending the relationship, and we never want you to be. Hence why we are giving you the 5 behaviors that we see, that you might not notice, that will over time have you be in a place where you say “how did we get here?”

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Get access to the Free Couples Training - Dec 9th 2020!

The 4 Keys to Know That You Are in the Right Relationship: Aaron Episode 110 Nov 26, 2020

There are particular seasons within a relationship where you will ask yourself “is this the right relationship?”. There is nothing wrong with this question at all. You might be trying to decide to propose to your partner, having a tough week or month, or even deciding to stay in the marriage.

No matter the place you find yourself, the next real question is “how do I really determine this?” Most people default to their recent mood, attitude, or level of love or happiness now. But this is very conditional and conceptual.

In this episode you will get the 4 Key Foundations to accurately measure whether you are in the right relationship and will inspire you when you can solidify each of these 4 keys.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Get access to The Couples Workshop - Home Edition!

Resist or Accept: Do You Understand Your Partner’s Emotional Triggers Episode 109 Nov 24, 2020

If you haven’t said this yourself, you’ve at least seen these “love” posts go around: “I accept all of you” or “there is nothing you could do for me to stop loving you”! While this is a great sentiment, the majority of people only know what half of this declaration really means.

Of course this is a great intent to accept your partner, but there is one major area that, if you are not prepared for, will come as a huge disappointment and upset for you in the future.

There are easier areas to accept about your partner because you can see them now, however Emotional Triggers of your partner are aspects that you MUST accept about your partner if you want to face challenges as a team. These individual and unique triggers are not something you see in the beginning, so they can catch you off guard if you are not prepared to accept them too.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

When You're the One Trying to Get THEM to “Work” on the Relationship: Jocelyn Episode 108 Nov 19, 2020

There's that feeling of trying to pull or "drag" your partner along when you want to grow and strengthen your own relationship. Here you are with good intentions to make certain areas of your relationship even better... but it's almost like you are doing it on your own or that you are literally forcing your partner to participate.

This can feel so draining and frustrating when your positive intention is met with resistance, push back, or even resentment. Almost like trying to get a child to eat his peas!

But does this mean that you have hit the ceiling of where your relationship growth can go? Or that your partner will never be open to the kind of growth you are? NO.. but you do need to take this different approach that Jocelyn herself covers in this episode.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session (only $97 to hold your spot)

What Healthy vs. Unhealthy Expectations Are In Your Relationship Episode 107 Nov 17, 2020

If you are in a relationship, you have been disappointed at some point. If you are a human being even, you have been disappointed at some point in your life. Any disappointment in a relationship comes from a certain expectation that you had of your partner to do something, act or be a certain way. So is it bad to have expectations in your relationship, is this just a path to an unhealthy relationship?

Well not necessarily… you will ALWAYS have expectations while you are alive as a human being and especially inside of your relationship. It's all in how you relate to and communicate about them that will have it be a healthy expectation or an unhealthy one.

In this episode we will cover how you take any expectation and make it a healthy part of your relationship that leads to growth and connection rather than one that leads to disappointment and disconnection.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Get access to The Couples Workshop - Home Edition!

The Argument Hangover: How to Shorten the Time You Feel Disconnected After a Fight Episode 106 Nov 10, 2020

You have been in an argument before right? You have also had a food or alcohol hangover at some point in your life too right? Well, put these two together and you have the term for how you feel in that period of time after you have a fight with your partner until you reconnect together. You might feel resentful of them, low energy, angry, hurt, or even not wanting to be around them. Whatever the emotion, how long does this last? It can be hours, days, weeks, or even years.

The goal in relationships is not to avoid conflicts however, because they are actually necessary. But you can learn (and should aim) to shorten this period of disconnection from your partner as well as keep arguments from escalating to the point they do damage to your partner. Today we will give you examples of how you can make arguments worse, then give you 2 ways to shorten your Argument Hangovers and get reconnected faster!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

Why Saying “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough and What to Say or Do Instead Episode 105 Nov 03, 2020

“I said I’m sorry, can’t we just move past this?” Is this a statement that you hear from your partner, or even one that you have said to them before? It most likely is and for some reason saying “I’m sorry” just doesn’t seem to cut it to resolve a conflict all the way and reconnect you both. Any idea why this is or what you can say (or do) instead?

Well that is exactly what we are going to cover this episode today, as “I’m sorry” on its own is just not enough. During this episode you will hear the 7 reasons why it’s not enough, we will share our story of moving (yes we are still waiting on the trucking company over a week later) and how “sorry” was not enough for us, and then the first two steps of the “5 R Process” to being to reconcile and connect with your partner.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session (only $97 to hold your spot)

It’s Moving Week! How We Make Big Decisions Together And Why We Chose To Sell Our House And Move Across The Country Episode 104 Oct 27, 2020

Would you be willing to sell your house in 24 hours, and move across the country in under 3 weeks? Well we are, and we did! Whether that is something that you even thought about or not, the point is about being able to make BOLD decisions together, even during uncertainty, that will ultimately benefit your life and relationship.

Often there are many decisions that go into a BIG decision, and maybe you feel that you are good at coming up with ideas, but get stuck in taking that leap of faith.

In today’s episode we want to share with you (because we are very excited and want you to be a part of this journey with us too) about how we came to this decision to sell everything and make a big change in our lives. All so that you can get some of the principles so that you can make beneficial decisions faster and with more confidence together that will ultimately better serve your relationship. Even if it still scares you!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Also follow along the journey this week as we road trip it from Phoenix Arizona to Charlotte North Carolina! We will be making a number of stops along the way!

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

The Art Of Giving Appreciation And Being Able To Let Yourself Receive Appreciation From Your Partner Episode 103 Oct 20, 2020

Yes we know that when you see the word Gratitude or Appreciation you think “I’ve heard that a thousand times”! Yet giving and showing your partner appreciation is one of the secret ingredients to a truly happy and connected relationship, one that barely gets it’s deserved air time. The reason being it’s never taken far enough. Appreciation is actually an art to be given so that it has a real impact and it’s just as important that you allow yourself to receive appreciation from your partner!

In today’s episode you will learn:

Why appreciation is so important and why it’s so easily forgotten about.
The art to delivering appreciation in a way that will be more meaningful to your partner (which is not just appreciating what they DO)
That you might actually be blocking appreciation and the feeling or connection because you are unable to receive it (either from your past, or from a belief you have about yourself)

Best Quote:

“You cannot receive what you do not believe about yourself” - The Freemans

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Get access to The Couples Workshop - studio recording from the Oct 10th live event!

Why You Would Have An Adult Temper Tantrum Rather Than Consciously Self-Express Episode 102 Oct 13, 2020

Your immediate reaction to this episode might be “yes my partner definitely has some adult temper tantrums”. Which is probably true at times, so we will of course go more into how you can HELP and SUPPORT them, rather than avoiding or getting mad at them yourself.

BUT if you were really being honest, you might see that you yourself have your own tantrums sometimes. These are places that you just don’t know how else to express yourself or realize what it is you really want and need. Many of us do this (act like hurt or wounded kids) because we just do not know and were not taught any other way.

Maybe this is ok at work or with friends, but when it comes to a healthy, connected, and lasting romantic relationship… you will just do more damage than good. All because you haven’t learned these simple skills.

In today’s episode you will learn:

Why you, or your partner, express yourself like your child-self when you are feeling hurt or misunderstood.
How to best support and communicate with your partner during these times.
The tools to move into conscious self-expression and communication.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Get access to The Couples Workshop - studio recording from the Oct 10th live event!

Feeling a Bit Like Roommates With Your Partner? Implement These 3 Things Episode 101 Oct 06, 2020

Of course this seems like something that could never happen, but being honest, do you feel like you and your partner are just high functioning roommates? We are not talking about your actual college roommates, but at some point the experience of aliveness, passion, and being prioritized was overtaken by getting things done, having half conversations, and even disconnection.

This is happening for a lot of couples in the season however, as even mentioned by Chris Rock this week on SNL (eluding to the 34% rise in divorce rates over last year). Couples like you are finding themselves in difficult places and reevaluating the relationship.

In this episode we give you 3 things to focus on and implement so that you get out of just feeling like roommates and get back to co-creating your life together that doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s relationship, or how your relationship was in the past.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register! (message us for code)
Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

Love Is Not Enough: 3 Skills You Must Have As A Couple For Lasting Love Episode 100 Sep 29, 2020

It’s shocking and contradictory from what you’ve heard (or even believe), but LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. You might ask: enough for what exactly? It’s not enough for love to last or deepen within your relationship.

Ok, be at ease, love is certainly a requirement for a great relationship and marriage, but what you need for it to last and for you to be a truly empowered couple is learning and implementing relationship skills!

In this 100th episode we explore this topic that we love and give you 3 reasons why love is not enough and then the 3 skills every couple must have to keep love alive. By implementing these skills you will be able to bring love back in any moment that is not feeling as connected or loved by your partner. You will learn that love is not conditional but an experience you always have control over. That’s a truly unconditional, empowered relationship!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE on October 10th. Last chance to register!
Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!

You Will Communicate Better In Just 5 Hours At The Couples Workshop Episode 99 Sep 24, 2020

Hey friends, a special episode to give you straight-talk to get into action around your patterns, challenges, or pain points in your relationship. (Especially if you have already tried to have important conversations with you partner, and it doesn't go anywhere.)

The Couples Workshop event is coming up LIVE on October 10th, but can be watched from your own home!

Here is the website to read more and save your seats

The promise of this workshop is that You Will Communicate Better & Resolve Conflicts Faster, in 5 Hours Instead of 5 Months!

We’re coming to you live from a super high tech studio that literally will feel like you’re in person with us, yet you’re in the privacy of your own home. This is NOT going to be full of cliches like “communication is the key to a relationship.” Everyone knows that!

It will provide you with step-by-step exercises to FINALLY feel understood, and resolve those same 2 or 3 disagreements that keep coming up over and over.

Save your seats here!

Surprise! A $40 off coupon code that’s only good for 48 hours (till midnight on Sept 25th). Enter code: workshop40

How Do You Deal With a Partner Who Shuts Down When They’re Mad? Episode 98 Sep 22, 2020

So here you are having a conversation with your partner, then with the slightest hint of emotion arising, they shutdown. They might stop talking altogether or say “I’m not talking about this, move on” or even “get off my back". This could be because you are trying to have an important conversation with them or it can be out of the blue.

Either way, when your partner shuts down, you feel isolated, left out in the cold, or controlled because they are dictating when certain topics can be talked about. When this happens a few times you get frustrated because nothing seems to change and you are unable to make any progress together when your partner is totally unwilling to open up and let you in.

Hope is not lost (Aaron can vouch for that)! In this episode you will understand why this happens for your partner, as well as 3 things you can do differently to keep this pattern from happening. If you use these 3 things you will feel you can actually make progress in the relationship and understand more about each other’s needs.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course)!
Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE event streamed right to your home

Keep Your Upbringing or Past Relationships From Sabotaging Your Relationship Now Episode 97 Sep 15, 2020

Ever have those times in your relationship where things are going great, and then BAM... something sabotages it. You might not have identified it as sabotage, but that’s often what it is and it shows up as a pattern from your past!

Sabotaging behaviors keep you and your partner from experiencing: more love, more joy, more connection, more intimacy and more fulfillment together. So yea, sabotage is no fun.

In this episode, we dive into how emotional events from either your upbringing or past relationships can/is impacting your relationship now.

But here’s what’s taking this to the next level….we also dive into how those past events lead to subtle forms of sabotaging behavior. Before you think, “oh, I don’t do anything sabotaging,” take a listen and hear some behaviors that you might not have noticed before, that could be keeping your relationship in the same place rather than growing.

This is a powerful episode for you to reflect on individually and discuss together. Plus you will get a process to identify what these patterns are, where they come from, and what to do to change them.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Join the 21 Day Relationship Upgrade starting next week! All you have to do is order a FREE hard copy of our book, then you get access to the private group with the 21 day group and activities coming up.
Register for The Couples Workshop- LIVE-streamed to your home

We Talked About Ending Our Relationship This Weekend Episode 96 Sep 08, 2020

Real talk....we had a 3 hour conversation this weekend about the possibility of ending our partnership.

Not because we haven't been "happy" or that we don't love each other anymore... but because we haven't been living in our full potential as individuals or as a couple. We have high standards for what kind of partnership we're capable of and that's what we invite you into.

So we shared openly and candidly with each other about our disappointments, frustrations, and doubts.

We used our skills to listen and hold space for each other. Which led to a MASSIVE triumph and feeling more connected and loved than ever.

There's too much to tell about this here, so we recorded an entire podcast episode on it. Not only do we share transparently about this deep and vulnerable conversation, but we share with you a COMPLETELY different way of "ending" the relationship so you can truly evolve as a couple.

It's something you never will have heard before and many couples never do...

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $40 OFF Early Bird tickets for the LIVE Couples Workshop on Oct 10th, 2020 (only lasts until Sept 11th, 2020 - our anniversary!) Use code: “podcast40” at checkout.

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts.

My Parents Are Still Married, Jocelyn’s Got Divorced: How Both Upbringings Impact Our Marriage Now Episode 95 Sep 01, 2020

If you are like Aaron and had a loving upbringing with lots of support from your parents, that means you would be better set up for a strong relationship rather than if you were like Jocelyn and had your parents go through a divorce or tough upbringing right? NOPE! Did you ever think that whatever your past upbringing, it could be what is causing any hiccups in your current relationship?

In this episode will hear each of our stories about how we grew up and how Aaron was limited in being able to express and feel love by not seeing examples of emotion and how to handle any conflicts growing up. While Jocelyn’s story is one about feeling she had to be the rescuer and felt there needed to be drama to feel that her partner cared about her.

Whatever your past upbringing, you are not just interacting with who your partner is right now today, but you are being influenced by your own past examples that are most likely not in the best service of your relationship. This episode is about you bringing awareness into just what that unconscious behavior and impact might be.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get $40 OFF Early Bird tickets for the LIVE Couples Workshop on Oct 10th, 2020 (only lasts until Sept 11th, 2020 - our anniversary!) Use code: “podcast40” at checkout.

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts.

You Will Never Positively Influence Your Partner While Having a Bad Attitude Episode 94 Aug 25, 2020

You can’t get ‘down’ enough or have a bad enough attitude to positively influence your partner. You just can’t; and we prove it to you today! This episode will light a fire in YOU, and shift a destructive belief you might have about how to truly influence your partner to change.

Sure, you could get your partner to be “compliant” because of your bad attitude and they just want to succumb to make you happy or get you off their back. But that’s not a recipe for lasting love and connection. Instead, you’re going to hear a powerful, counterintuitive approach to motivating and positively influencing your partner to shift their attitude or behavior.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources for you:

Pre-order The Argument Hangover and get $200 of bonus gifts, including a conflict resolution course
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Take Control Of Your Own Emotions & Mental Health, So You Don’t Rely On Your Partner To Feel Better Episode 93 Aug 18, 2020

This is one of the truest quotes we've ever heard: "There isn’t anything that anyone wants for any other reason than they believe that they will feel better in the having of it." So everything you do in life is all for this one reason-- to feel better!

The problem is that this puts your experience of life based on things you don’t have 100% control over. It gets even worse for your relationship if you rely on your partner's mood, energy, or actions to make you feel good. This puts pressure, stress, and overwhelm on your partner as well as you in a passive and reactive state within your relationship. Nothing good comes from that!

In this episode you get the proactive and active (in the moment) ways to take control of your emotional and mental health. This way you don't rely on your partner but be able to positively influence each other and support the health of your relationship!

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts. The NOW available free mini course will

Transform your conflicts
Give you power over emotional triggers
Set you up to fight smarter
Allow you to repair from conflicts faster

Listening To Your Partner From Ego Vs Your Heart Episode 92 Aug 11, 2020

Listening is not a passive action! Listening is actually an intentional action. You might not recognize the difference between when you’re listening from your EGO vs your HEART.

In this podcast, we’re going to break down the difference- how it sounds, how it feels to you, and how it feels to your partner.

None of us were really taught how to LISTEN, which can leave your partner not feeling truly understood. Sure, you might have HEARD them, but did you TRULY listen. You’ll find out how to know.

This episode is critical for all couples to listen to and will help you connect at deeper, more profound levels than you’ve ever imagined.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Pre-order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts.

To learn more about the last 2 spots for the group coaching journey starting soon, Upgrade Your Partnership, DM us on Instagram.

Being Passive Aggressive Means THIS is Missing In Your Marriage Episode 91 Aug 04, 2020

Have you ever found yourself or your partner avoiding direct or clear communication, evading problems, fearing intimacy or competition, making excuses, blaming, playing the victim, feigning compliance with requests, being sarcastic, or hiding anger?

All of these behaviors describe being passive aggressive! You might not have thought of this at first, but there are many couples that are experiencing this right now in their marriage.

This topic even comes from patterns we saw in our couples group, so we put up a poll, and this topic was voted on to be this week's topic.

In this episode you will take away:

How to recognize the passive aggressive patterns
The 3 reasons why this happens within a relationship
4 things that could be missing so that you do not do not have this pattern start or continue in your own marriage.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (Home Edition) to enhance your communication skills together.
Subscribe and watch The Empowered Couples Show Live on YouTube
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Feeling Disconnected Right Now? Here’s What To Do Episode 90 Jul 28, 2020

Do you find that you are physically together with your partner more than ever, yet still feeling disconnected? How could this be right? Well, connection isn’t just about proximity. Connection also isn’t something that you can just count on always being there. It takes attention and intention just like anything in life that you want to grow.

Today’s topic came from multiple messages that we received within one hour. One of the questions saying: “What to do when you get disconnected? We are really intense, when we are close we are best friends. But sometimes we get into a cycle of and it’s hard to get out of being disconnected. It gets bad enough that we feel like pushing the wedding away...this is not what we want, we want to be partners and make it work”

We also did the drawing for the podcast reviews and the winner is…. Betty on Instagram. So Betty please message us on IG so we can get your address to send your gift!

In this podcast episode you will take away:

What really fuels the feeling of connection in your relationship
What is missing when you feel disconnected
4 ways to grow and deepen your connection

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

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Rebuilding Trust After Broken Promises (whether big or small) Episode 89 Jul 21, 2020

Trust is the feeling of: “you have my back”. When trust is high in any relationship you can feel that you can fly, fail, and yet still be accepted and loved by your partner. This is so foundational for a healthy, happy relationship that wants to be able to grow. When trust has been broken, whether from a big or small event, it harbors doubt, resentment, and suspicion in the relationship.

Today’s topic came from several DM’s and IG poll votes, plus a financial trust question from Teresa: “After repeat offenses running the gamut of petty to severe in nature on occasion; how do you rebuild trust in a real way? I am between being codependent in needing to trust deeply and frustrated because I feel like I never can 100% trust because of the continued offenses and boundary crossing.”

One other question was: “It was about a promise of not doing something, then doing it and lying about it to my face….multiple times. So broken promises/outright lies/secrets. How to make amends and be consistent with everything?” Thank you everyone for the questions and even Alicia from the book club, being honest about wanting to rebuild trust.

Today from this episode you’ll takeaway:

What trust really means within your relationship
The major effects a lack of trust can have
Why you or your partner would break a promise or even lie
4 ways to rebuild trust in your partner and the relationship.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Resources For Your Relationship:

Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (Home Edition) to enhance your communication skills together
Subscribe and watch The Empowered Couples Show Live on YouTube
Follow us on Instagram

Reconnecting After A Big Fight (The Do’s And Don’ts) Episode 88 Jul 14, 2020

So you have had a fight in your relationship, now what…? Right after you might feel angry or sad, certainty disconnected, or even that you do not want to be around them. This is a tough place to be in for your relationship; HOWEVER this is not the part you need to be worried about initially. It's about how long are you going to be in this period of being disconnected! This episode is all about how to reconnect after you have had a fight or disagreement.

Today’s topic came from a question on a DM from Isha on saying: “Can you include in your podcast about how to talk after a fight? How to listen and accept each other’s perspectives regarding a situation that has led to a fight?” Thank you for the question Isha as this is a topic we have gotten many questions about too.

Today from this episode you’ll takeaway:

The 3 “Don’ts” for after a big fight
For example the action that has you sweep things under the rug
Then the 3 things to “Do” after a fight to reconnect together.
For example how to get to the real root cause (and not what you “think” the argument is really about)

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.
Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (Home Edition) to enhance your communication skills together
Subscribe and watch The Empowered Couples Show Live on YouTube
Follow us on Instagram

Differences in Personalities? How To Have Both of Your Needs Met Episode 87 Jul 07, 2020

All of a sudden the personality differences that attracted you to your partner earlier in the relationship, become the things that frustrate you and cause tension! How can this be? Once you find yourself in this place it can feel like your own needs are not getting met. For example maybe you are naturally more spontaneous and playful than your partner who ‘makes decisions slower’ and likes to structure and plan things out.

Today’s topic came from Heather’s question on Instagram that said: “My partner and I realized a key difference in the way we both operate. I have a need for spontaneity and often throw ideas out and expect him to roll with it. He has a need, however, to think things through and plan things out well in advance. How can we both be sensitive to each other’s needs while still feeling our own needs are met?”

Form today’s episode you’ll takeaway:

Why this dynamic of tension happens in your relationship
How you can bring awareness to your differences first to leverage them as a team rather than have them be things you try to change in your partner
Two tips you can implement right now to be sure both of your needs get met and you both feel balanced in your decision making together as a true team.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.
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How To Take Feedback Better To Not Get Defensive + The Major Difference Between Criticism and Giving Feedback Episode 86 Jun 30, 2020

Swinging for the fence right from the start here… criticism in your relationship in one of the top four things that lead to disconnection and divorce (*The Gottman Institute). Even besides that fact, being criticized by your partner just sucks! It leads to arguments, conflicts, and a loss of connection at best.

Though it may seem like a topic that you want to tell your partner to listen to, because this is something that THEY need to work on, there are key things that you BOTH can work on to better receive feedback, give feedback, and the major difference between criticism. With this you will be able to use feedback in your relationship at the right time and to evolve your relationship to be even better!

This topic came up from the question that Aaron G submitted in the Power Couple Book Club. He asked: "how can I take criticism better? I tend to get defensive, then nothing is solved and things are weird for a few days.”

From this episode you’ll:

Know the difference between criticism and feedback
How to take feedback without getting defensive
How to both give and receive feedback in your relationship to become stronger together

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.
Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay shipping)
Follow us on Instagram

Invalidating Each Other’s Feelings - The Sneaky Ways You Do This To Each Other & How To Stop Episode 85 Jun 23, 2020

So here you are, trying to share with your partner something that is important to you and something that you feel emotion around… Then they say something like: “you are overreacting, it’s not that big of a deal”, or even “that doesn’t make sense!”

You immediately feel invalidated and maybe that your feelings don’t matter, right? This causes many upsets and conflicts for couples and at the very least, disconnects you from love and understanding from your partner.

Today’s topic came from a coaching session we had this week, in which we then posted this question to our couples community: “Do you ever notice that you feel your emotions are invalidated by your partner, what has you feel that way?” There were many replies and great examples of the words and actions that caused people to feel invalidated (we will cover a number of them).

From this episode you’ll take away:

What causes you to feel invalidated
The 3 reasons why this is used as a defensive mechanism
The new actions to take to keep from invalidating each other’s emotions

Quotes:

“Yes there are universal truths, but there are also personal truths, for both you and your partner. What you BOTH are feeling right now are both true for YOU!” - Aaron

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.
Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay shipping)
Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (online home edition) to practice communication skills, resolve recurring disagreements, and connect more than ever!
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Your Emotional Triggers - When Your Partner Triggers You Take These Steps To Reflect & Reconnect Episode 84 Jun 16, 2020

You know those things your partner says or does that TRIGGER you? YES trigger, meaning you have an automatic emotion that comes up that then causes you to get upset. Then from there you may both do things that hurt and keep you disconnected for hours, days, or even weeks!

You’re not alone, we received hundreds of comments when we asked the community what triggers them in their relationship. This episode comes directly from a post on FB and Instagram about “what does your partner do that triggers you?”

We share what many of those responses were PLUS:

The root cause of your personal triggers
3 things you can do differently when you do get triggered
And how to talk calmly to your partner about triggers so they can support you

Quotes:

“It’s not your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around your emotional triggers. It is your opportunity to identify them, heal them and then ask them to support you.” - Jocelyn

“Become aware, then share!” - Aaron

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.
Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay shipping)
Get 50% OFF The Couples Workshop (online home edition) to practice communication skills, resolve recurring disagreements, and connect more than ever!
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How Do We Release Resentment Or Get Past Old Hurts? Episode 83 Jun 02, 2020

Avoiding conflicts in the short term only lead to resentment building in the long term! Though you may have adapted the philosophy of avoiding conflicts from other examples that you saw, or your own past experiences. It hurts your relationship by turning into resentment. You can even be a happy and growth focused couple but can start to build a rift in just a few days time.

So we took this topic of releasing resentment or getting past old hurts from Andrew on Instagram and Teresa on Facebook. They both essentially asked: “How do I let go of resentments or past hurts in my relationship now?”

So in this episode today you’ll takeaway:

Why and how resentments build up from avoiding conflicts and withholding communications
The steps to take to release any past hurts or resentments
How to use the steps to ‘close the circle’ on future arguments, so that they don’t repeat themselves in the future and turn into resentment later on.

From listening you will feel free from keeping things held inside and clear about what you can do next to create connection out of conflict.

About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram

Resources For Your Relationship:

As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved!
Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)
Start your on-the-go Communication Course For Couples

Is Now A Good Time To Start Or Grow A Business As A Couple? : Chris + Lori Harder May 27, 2020

Facing any time of challenge let alone a global down economy can have you wondering and doubting if you can pursue your passion. You may be wondering is this really the time to start or even grow a business (especially as a couple)?

You are about to find the answer to that and much more as Chris and Lori Harder share how they went from humiliation in the 2008 crash to building the foundation of the multiple million dollar companies they run TOGETHER.

You will hear how the requirements to be successful especially when you back is against a wall, you pivot, and reinvent yourself individually and as a couple! Learn how even having a good economy is the enemy to a great business! Plus how being business partners will take your romantic relationship to levels other couples won’t ever reach.

Questions Ask In The Interview:

You two started a business together in the 2008 crash when you were laid off from what many would say is a steady job. How did you get resourceful rather than victims?
Can you really pursue what you are passionate about or do you have to do the thing that pays the bills?
Do you think now is a good time to start or grow a business as a couple? Or at least be thinking about additional income streams?
What challenge did you two encounter in your relationship because you also become business partners?
How do you make financial decisions when you don’t necessarily agree with each other, and what about if that turns into a fight?
How do you start to repair any broken trust that comes up whether in your romantic or business relationship?

Quotes:

“Good is the enemy of great!” - Chris Harder

“You are ever only one conversation away from your desired outcome” - Lori Harder

Resources From The Freemans:

Apply to Become a Certified Relationship Coach & start a coaching business
Get a FREE hard copy of the book 📚 The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)
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About The Guests:

Lori & Chris Harder aren’t your average couple, they are truly a power couple for their strengths as individuals and as a couple. Lori Harder is a best selling author, Forbes Top Rated podcast host, founder of ‘Lite Pink’ and ‘The Bliss Project’.

Chris Harder is an entrepreneur, investor, avid philanthropist, and podcaster. After an 11-year career as an executive and partner in the banking industry, he retired from banking in 2011 and partnered with his wife, Lori, to start and scale four different multi-million dollar businesses, along with investing in several other successful startups.

Connect More With The Guests:

Apply for their grant for entrepreneurs
Chris Harder’s Instagram
Lori Harder’s Instagram

How To Deal With Unexpected Situations Without Getting Frustrated May 20, 2020

Ever have those moments that don’t feel like they’re going your way? It could be that you suddenly got into a disagreement on a seemingly great day, your kids aren’t acting like you want them to, maybe one of you lost your job during the quarantine period…..or maybe your dog stepped on a cactus early in the morning (like our story)

This episode is all about how to let go of RESISTING the present moment and what is HAPPENING. When you’re resisting what’s happening, you can get frustrated and not have a great attitude.

We’ll share a relatable story from how our day did not go as we expected this week, but how we switched our attitude about it quickly!

Connect More With Us:

As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

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How To Weather A Financial Downturn Without It Hurting Your Marriage: Elena Cardone May 11, 2020

Things have absolutely changed in the world and in your life from this pandemic. You probably experience a change in your relationship roles (including taking on additional roles you never thought you would have to) and the amount of time you are in your home and around your partner. Plus, no matter what type of job, career, or business you are in; you probably have felt an impact in your finances!

Of course this has always been a top stressor on marriages, but now it can be glaring at you in the face, having you feel a lot of fear and uncertainty. This can bring up additional tension and pressure in your relationship together causing you to fight against each other.

So get ready to hear from iconic Elena Cardone, as her and her husband Grant are no strangers to challenges, financial downturns, and crashes. What you are going to know from Elena is that marriage is what makes you a better individual and how you can handle financial downturns. You are going to have the ways to stop fighting about ‘small things’ when you envision, create, and defend your vision and empire together (whatever size it might be). Plus the ways to leverage your individual strengths and weaknesses. So you will feel complete trust, support, and confidence to lay the groundwork to fulfilling your dreams together, no matter what challenges arise.

Questions Asked In This Interview:

You two had started your relationship 3 years before the 2008 crash. So while many people still feel the impact of that time what was your mindset and belief during those times, that positioned you to be here now?
What can couples do (including believing) to keep from panicking and weather a financial downturn together without letting money hurt their marriage?
In your book as well as personally in the media, you talk about “guarding your empire”-- what does that look like for couples right now?
Many of the pressures on marriages come from forced change in relationship roles. What are some of your strategies for balancing parenting, business, and your vision as a couple?
Have you and Grant been getting any couples time or huddle together during the quarantine to always be on the same page?
What are ways that couples can come out stronger after this season?

Quotes:

“When you are attacking your partner, you are playing at a very small level and a small game. You need to have goals and visions that are big enough and exciting enough and know who it is you want to be as a couple.”

“It’s not about male or female, it's about your strengths and weaknesses and who does what best within the relationship. Do what you need to do and have 100% trust in your partner”

“Its vital to be able to change and not be fixed on ideas about the way things are supposed to be.”

- Elena Cardone

Other Resources From The Freemans:

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More About The Guests Elena & Grant Cardone:

They are a truly iconic couple that is building an empire. First for their family as they have been married for 15 years and are loving parents to two children (one of which you will even hear join at the end!)

Then second for other families as they are both best-selling authors, host the 10X Growth Conference, one of the largest for thousands of entrepreneurs, and run one of the largest real-estate empires (Cardone Capital) in the world, valued at $800 M. With this they have been able to raise hundreds of millions for charities. As you will hear from Elena, she passionately wants to empower women partners and help make marriage cool again!

Order Elena’s book Build An Empire HERE

How To Stay Positive & Productive As A Couple During Challenging Times: Jasmine Star Apr 29, 2020

During these times of uncertainty with the coronavirus, do you find yourself torn between wanting to be really productive and taking time out to relax and just slow down? Or do you see many other people talking about finding the opportunity in these times to serve more people and grow your own influence and impact; and feel pressure to try and do the same?

Many couples are finding themselves in this dichotomy, which is putting even more pressure on the relationship, especially when each partner feels differently about this time.

So where is the balance between being productive and rejuvenating or even being able to just stay positive when you have emotions of uncertainty, fear, disconnection from your partner, or just not being on the same page?

In this episode with brilliant, courageous, and inspirational entrepreneur Jasmine Star, you will be able to find your balance, get clarity on what truly inspires you during this time, how to stay on the same page with your partner and be positive and productive during any challenging time!

Questions Asked In This Interview:

During this quarantine, what practices do you have as a couple to stay positive and productive?
How do you two give each other appropriate feedback that doesn’t trigger defensiveness?
Adopting/being parents and being entrepreneurs, how is it going so far getting self-care time, biz time, parenting time and relationship time?
As both entrepreneurs and spouses, what kinds of challenges come up and how do you handle them?
For couples thinking about starting a business during these times, what would you say?

Quotes:

"Within the projects of our lives we call it the 51-49. There is always one of us that has 51% ownership to make that final decision. This has saved us time, money, and even therapy."

"Many think they will have the support of their partners, but you will never get them to complete assignments or projects when you want it, if you do not have their complete buy-in." - Jasmine Star

Connect More With Us:

On Instagram (and tell us what you took away from this episode) ✅
Get instant access to ‘The Couples Workshop’ HERE (right to your home) 🖥

More About The Guest:

Jasmine Star, in partnership with her husband JD, is a Photographer & Business Strategist who empowers entrepreneurs to build a brand, market it on social media, and create a life they love. After leaving a scholarship to UCLA law school, she picked up a camera, pursued curiosity, and built the business of her dreams. A decade later, she is educating entrepreneurs on how to do the same! They even just adapted a brand new child into their life right has the quarantine was taking effect. So with being new parents, romantic partners, business partners, and influencers; she is the perfect person to help you stay positive and productive as a couple during challenging times.

Connect with Jasmine at: jasminestar.com

For all the entrepreneurs and personal brands learn about having your social media curated for you at: socialcurator.com

3 Ways To Strengthen Your Relationship Instead of Strain It (During The Quarantine): The Freemans Apr 15, 2020

Start your day off with a dose of laughter + power-packed content! This episode is your moment to gain 3 ways you become Stronger Than Ever during these tough times.

If you follow us on social media, you’ve heard us say, “this time will either strengthen your relationship or strain it…..all based on your skills, actions and choices!”

Since you’re listening to this podcast, you obviously are committed to it STRENGTHENING.

So grab a cup of tea or head on a run to enjoy this episode giving you 3 practical ways to do just that!

PLUS, we’re also including 3 clips from our ‘Couples Workshop’ (recorded home edition) so you can get a sneak peek into why couples are BUZZING around the world talking about how they are more connected than ever!

Connect More With Us:

On Instagram (and tell us what you took away from this episode) ✅
Get instant access to ‘The Couples Workshop’ HERE (right to your home) 🖥

Partner Expectations - What You Need & What You Want: Patrick + Carrie Apr 01, 2020

In this episode you will know that expectations are the cause of any and all disappointments that have come up, or will come up in your relationship. But this is not a problem at all once you know that it’s from the unexpressed or unknown expectations. You will always have expectations whether from the past that you are becoming aware of, or if you are growing and evolving as people and as a couple, there will always be new ones you discover.

From this interview with Patrick and Carrie Antrim, you will have the way to uncover as well as express any and all disappointments (whether from the past or ones still to come as you grow together) with your partner. So that you will both feel understood, on the same page, connected, and ready to become the best partners you can be no matter what challenges arise!

Questions asked in this interview:

What are expectations you each now realize you had in the beginning of the relationship?
Looking back, what was the impact of any of these unknown or unexpressed expectations?
What are some basic needs and wants you have for the relationship?
What are some aspirational needs and wants you have?
Did you two talk about your needs and wants proactively or did you discover them over time from challenges coming up?
What is the best way for you to share new expectations of your needs and wants with your partner that you are bound to have as you grow as an individual, a couple, and business partners?

Quotes:

“Being with someone that is ok with designing a life, verses living a life they are just reacting to.” - Patrick Antrim

Connect More With Us:

Follow us on Instagram ✅
Attend the LIVE Online Couples Workshop (right to your home) 🖥
Get a FREE hardcopy of The New Power Couple book (just pay for shipping)📚

Connect More With The Guests:

Patrick and Carrie Antrim are media entrepreneurs that help brands tell great stories and scale their business with video. They are Knowledge Business Coaches that produce high level events and masterminds. Including their own Multi Family business and yearly summit and women's event. They do all of this while being a blended family with 4 kids!

Connect with the Multi Family Leadership brand
Attend the Multi Family Summit event live or online

The Skills Needed For A Healthy Romantic Relationship: The Freemans Mar 25, 2020

This episode is all about the ‘Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships’! No matter what you have heard from songs, movies, or people in general LOVE ISN’T actually enough. Loving each other doesn’t guarantee that you’ll have a truly healthy relationship. Believe it right now or not what you need are the skills and corresponding habits to have a long term healthy relationship!

In this episode, from our “Empowered Couples Show” on YouTube, you will have 2 skills that lead to healthy relationships and reduce the patterns that lead to unhealthy ones using evidenced based tools for couples! You’ll leave feeling confident that you DO HAVE everything you need to have love be the foundation of your healthy romantic relationship!

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Creating The Right Environment For A Successful Relationship: Rono + Sierra Mar 18, 2020

In this episode you will know the most important factor for a healthy relationship: creating the right environment! You may think that sounds like focusing on your home life, yet you will have the 4 areas that create your total environment: home, relationships with other couples, geographical location, between you and your partner.

You will have a pattern interrupt method, activities to do on the weekend to keep the environment of love & passion between the two of you going, how lifestyle design can be incorporated to have a great relationship, and even a game you can play with each other that will spark playfulness, intimacy, creativity, and allow you to communicate anything that you have been afraid or hesitate to tell your partner.

All of this will leave you feeling the ease and clarity in which you can use this most important aspect of your life, to support you and your spouse having a truly successful relationship.

Questions asked in this interview:

What is the most important factor for creating a successful and happy relationship?
What is the importance of having a community around you, and the couples you spend time with?
What are the challenges when you don’t have this community?
Define the term ‘Coupledom’ and why it’s important to focus on as a couple?
What should you look for in other couples to hangout with that will support you?
What are some of your activities on the weekends that keep you two in love and the passion alive?
What are some tangible benefits to switching up where you live?

Other resources:

1) Follow us on Instagram

2) Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)

Connect More With The Guests:

Rono & Sierra are a dynamic duo who have dedicated their life’s work to supporting couples in awakening to their highest potential and realigning their north star to create powerful evolutions in life, love and spirituality.

Sharing over 35 years of adventure together first as friends, then business partners, then lovers, and then husband and wife; they focus being ceremony facilitators, pleasure provocateurs, and ambassadors of fun.

All to create extraordinary retreat experiences and powerful containers for couples to catalyze their dreams and desires. They bring together high frequency, conscious people who seek playful and profound experiences to enrich their lives through the creation of Eden Rising… a first of its kind, “restival” and private sanctuary for couples to evolve their relationship.

See more about the Eden Is Rising Retreat and apply to be a part of the event!

3 Ways To Guard Your Family From Worry & Stress: The Freemans Mini Chat Mar 11, 2020

Don’t feed into the FEAR in the world right now or let it impact your family life. As you can see, the news is pumping out scare based tactics and it can be hard to compartmentalize that and keep it outside the home.

The last thing you want is for outside fears (global sickness, financial economy, political future) to start to create tension and arguments between you and your spouse. What you allow to influence you, will be how you respond and interact with your partner and your family. You will start to talk about the things you are fearful of… work, kids future, your health, a family member, your own financial future. Even to the point of seeing what you fear within your own partner.

So in today’s episode you’ll:

Know: The most important thing to focus on during stressful times

Have: 3 ways to guard your family from worry and stress

Feel: a sense of power for what you can control in your life

Other resources:

SUBSCRIBE to the new web show
Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just cover shipping) and join the Power Couple Book Club!
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He Wants to Save Money, She Wants to Spend Money: Garrett + Chelsea (He-Said/ She-Said On Money) Mar 04, 2020

Welcome to this new game show type episode called “HE Said/SHE Said”! In this type of episode, on the Empowered Couples podcast, you will laugh, be entertained, and relate to this couple as they find out how they see things differently in their marriage even when they love each other, live together, and have been together for years.

No matter how well you think you know your partner, you can see things differently AND often don’t even realize! (remember the newlywed game, yup it’s going to be like that!)

In this episode you will know that no matter how long you have been together you are still going to see things differently (especially when it comes to money), but these differences can be turned into real strengths of your relationship. You are going to have questions to ask your partner to be more on the same page with money PLUS one powerful action to implement this week. Listening to this episode you will feel more aware and connected with your partner when it comes to your money habits.

Press play and enjoy this 100% relatable conversation!

He-Said/She-Said Questions Asked:

Would you say your partner is more of a saver or spender?
Would you say you are more of a saver or spender?
Who gets more frustrated about money?
What can frustrate you about the way your partner handles money?
If you were left to your own devices, how do you think you’d handle money yourself?
If you all of a sudden earned 10,000 today, what would you do with the majority of it (be honest)?

Other resources:

1) Schedule your Relationship Breakthrough Session mentioned in this episode. Scroll ½ way down the home page for the link and details to schedule.

2) Follow us on Instagram

About The Guests:

Today you will meet Garrett & Chelsea who live in Alberta Canada and recently got married and are creating a blended family! They wanted to talk about their different perspectives about MONEY! Anyone else out there have the saver/spender patterns in the relationship?

Also, be sure to connect to them on social media! They are certified relationship coaches of Empowered Couples University and building a relationship coaching business to support other blended families on their journey of connection, trust, and love.

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The #1 Thing You Must Stop Doing To Be A Power Couple: The Freemans Feb 26, 2020

In this episode you will know that there is ONE MAJOR thing that you must stop doing in order to experience yourselves as a power couple. In this sense, it's your own version of being a power couple where you are able to approach any challenge with the skills to stay on the same team, communicate your needs and desires effectively, and pursue your purpose together.

Yet if you are doing just this one small thing… it will be impossible for you to become that power couple. When this keeps happening in a relationship it is the core reason that couples feel they are “unable to make the marriage work any longer”!

Tune into this short episode to make sure you stop this habit and put yourself on the path to being and maintaining the power couple you know you are meant to be.

Other resources:

1) Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping). Then join the “POWER COUPLE Book Club”

2) Follow us on Instagram (and let us know if you would like us to bring the Couples Workshop to your city!)

3) Join the Online Couples Workshop

Be Sexually Satisfied Even When Busy Or Married For Years: Tony + Alisa Feb 19, 2020

Have you ever had thoughts that: “The sex we had in the beginning of our relationship was the best we will have”, or even “I can’t talk about what I want more in our sex life because my partner will be uncomfortable or unwilling to talk”?

Well if you fall into that category, you are like many other couples out there. But just because you have a lot of company, this is not a place you want to continue to stay in. Imagine that no matter how busy you are, no matter how long you have been married, and no matter how open you or your partner have been to talking about your sex life… You can raise your sexual satisfaction starting right here in this episode!

In this episode you will know that no matter the season of marriage you are in now, your sexual future doesn’t have to be predictable but can be extraordinary. You will have ways to initiate sex more frequently and have it be balanced between you both, the challenges that face both men and women, and ways to communicate your most current needs. So you will feel more at ease and confident to explore your sexual intimacy with your partner and have your satisfaction be higher than it has in years!

Questions asked in this interview:

Do you ever have times you’re dissatisfied with your intimacy and how do you bring it up to your partner?
What are the biggest challenges that partners (even men specifically) are dealing with that keep them from bringing up the conversations about sex?
In the beginning of a relationship, intimacy seems to be more about passion and physical excitement. Does intimacy change to mean something different the longer you are in a relationship?
What is it that actually makes your sex life “better” over time, rather than fading?
What are the 5 types of intimacy?
Is there a real stereotype on men and women for what sexual intimacy means to each of them? (ex. Frequency vs being romanced)
In a season where a couple is upset and disconnected from each other, they wait to feel like having sex. Does a couple need to wait to “feel like it” to have sex or can having sex first be what brings that feeling back?
What is a practical way couples can practice initiating sex to have it be balanced?

Other resources:

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Book your Relationship Breakthrough Session with us for $97, with 100% guarantee you have a breakthrough in your relationship. (Scroll 3/4 down the page)

Connect with guests Tony & Alisa here:

As founders of ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast and ONE Marriage Conference as well as being married 25 years; Tony & Alisa believe that a healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together.

It is through this lens that they help time-crunched couples become intentional about their lives and create the marriage that they desire. They are experienced marriage coaches, podcasters, and the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, 7 Days of Sex Challenge.

Website: One Extraordinary Marriage

Podcast: “One Extraordinary Marriage Show”

FREE Resource from the show: 19 Questions to Amazing Sex

3 Essential Traits For Being A Great Spouse : The Freemans Mini Chat Feb 12, 2020

You desire to be a GREAT partner, not just an okay partner! But in the modern world, there are a lot of pressures and stressors that can distract you from the most essential ingredients to being a great spouse. That’s why this episode includes just THREE that you can focus on mastering for the coming months….so that you can step UP your game as a partner!

Today you will hear how to be an even better partner through developing these essential traits:

Follow-through (doing what you say you will)
Emotional Intelligence (taking responsibility for your emotions)
Listening for the positive intent (set aside your filter)

Other resources:

Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just cover shipping) and join the Power Couple Book Club!

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He Wants To Arrive Early, While She’s Running Late: Cory + Jessica (He Said/She Said On Time Management) Feb 05, 2020

Welcome to this new game show type episode called “He Said/She Said”! In this type of episode, on the Empowered Couples podcast, you will laugh, be entertained, and relate to this couple as they find out how they see things differently in their marriage even when they love each other, live together, and have been together for years.

No matter how well you think you know your partner, you can see things differently AND often don’t even realize! (remember the newlywed game, yup it’s going to be like that!)

In this “Game Show” episode you will learn from the answers this couple gives on the area of ‘Time Management’. You will know that some places where your partner experiences anxiety are from not wanting to disappoint you. And that though you have different behaviors (like around time management) you can still have the same experiences. You will have ways to change your perception of time for yourself and your partner. You will feel inspired by your differences and that time is limitless.

Individual Game Show Questions Asked:

Who would you say cares more about being on time?
As soon as you feel you might be late, how do you feel?
What do you think is the most appropriate or best time to arrive at a place which has a scheduled start time?
Who is more organized and the better planner?
What’s a personality trait they have different than you, that you’re most attracted to?
What personality trait of theirs makes you the most frustrated?

Other Resources:

1) Get $50 OFF the Communication Course for Couples that you can listen to on-the go. Use coupon code: PODCAST

2) Follow us on Instagram

About The Guests:

1) Attend a virtual Breath-Work event

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In this episode you will meet Cory and Jessica (The Healing Couple) from San Diego who have been together for 3 years. He is a naturopathic doctor, she is an influential yoga teacher, and together they are certified breath-work coaches who help people by the hundreds reduce stress, feel more calm, confident, and clear. They have elected to explore the area of “Mindset” as it pertains to ‘Time Management’ as this is an area of their relationship that can still cause upsets, disagreements, and disconnection. They are willing to individually be asked the same questions around time management to then be surprised by how each answered these questions whether it be the same or surprisingly different.

Why Saying Nothing Hurts As Much As Yelling When You Get Mad At Your Partner: Aaron Freeman Jan 29, 2020

In this episode you will learn just why holding a frustration in by saying nothing, hurts just as much (or even more in the long run) as reacting and getting angry at your partner. This short episode by Aaron is specifically in those moments when men ‘shut down’, hold emotion in, and withdraw; without saying anything to their partner, when they get angry.

WOMEN: in moments like these you feel isolated, shut out, you don’t know what is going on with your partner. Plus even when there is not an argument happening, this has you feel like you just don’t know as much about what’s happening internally for your spouse. You want to know more about them as you live your life and relationships together, and you feel you just can’t break into truly knowing them.

MEN: This is such a pattern that we all default to, and we even think ‘is for the best’. Of course when you think of it, not saying anything when you get mad, certainly is better than the alternative of yelling in anger. Sometimes you may even want them to thank you for this ‘gift’ you are giving your spouse.

The truth is in both cases for men and women, holding thoughts and emotions inside, even the ones that can be hurtful or cause an argument (even make it worse) is the wrong approach. This episode goes into WHY and WHAT to do instead when you find yourselves in either one of these situations.

Other resources:

1) Schedule your Relationship Breakthrough Session mentioned in this episode. Scroll ½ way down the page for the link and details to schedule.

2) Follow us on Instagram

Driven Couples! Keep From Bulldozing Each Other & Modernize Your Relationship Roles: Angie Lee + Clay Jan 22, 2020

Every couple needs to hear this in 2020. Why you might ask? Well you are a modern, driven couple and with that drive it’s so easy to ‘bulldoze’ your partner with your ideas, energy, decision making, and just being a boss in your own life. Yet that doesn’t always lead to a collaborative relationship.

Today you’ll meet Angie Lee & Clay Hebert. These two not only have modern relationship wisdom to share, but they also are powerhouses in their own respective business! Their stories will show you how you can be powerful and driven in your profession/business AND be a supportive, encouraging, and present partner when that’s what the relationship calls for!

In this episode you will:

Know ways to not bulldoze each other or get into power struggles.

Have the most effective and modern ways to communicate, bring humor, lead, and look at relationship roles to best serve the relationship in any situation.

Feel ready and confident to take on the world as a POWER COUPLE!

Questions Asked In this Interview:

Both of you individually are successful in starting a business and running a company. What principles or mindset has made you successful in business that you see will have the relationship also be successful?
How do you switch from a dominant leadership role energy to softening into a supportive and open state when your partner needs it? (And not just bulldoze them)
That’s such a great point you make so can you talk more about leading within the relationship and the roles of Provider/Protector and Supporter/Enhancer?
What else do you see is needed for really effective and smooth communication within the relationship?
For women if safety and appreciation is the foundation for physical intimacy, how do you have your female partners continue to feel safe and appreciated?
How do you keep from feeling guilty or your partner feeling neglected when you want to focus more on your business and your impact?

Quotes:

“Consistency in a successful business and in a relationship is the same, it's a choice” - Angie Lee

“When you take care of yourself (your own health and energy) the partnership just explodes.” - Angie Lee

“One thing most men never get taught is that most women have to walk through the world a little on the defensive for their safety. Most men don’t ever have to think of that.” - Clay

About The Guests:

Angie Lee is a Podcaster (of Forbes top rated podcast: The Angie Lee show with over 7 million downloads), Creator, Owner of Soul DBC, Speaker, and Entrepreneur Marketer for Women to not suck at sales! Imagine if somehow Tony Robbins, Gary V, and Ellen had a baby… it would be Angie Lee.

Her partner Clay Hebert is the Merlin of Marketing and founder of The Perfect Brand Workshop and The Perfect Introduction. He helps leaders, entrepreneurs, and brands get clarity, tell their story, and fund their dreams!

Other resources:

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Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just cover shipping) and join the Power Couple Book Club!

ATTEND Angie’s ‘Pays To Be Brave’ Women’s Conference here:

https://www.angielee.com/PTBB2020

4 Money Must-Do’s For The Most Abundant 2020 As A Couple: The Freemans Mini Chat Jan 15, 2020

This new year of 2020 is your year to have a breakthrough financially- both in your mindset AND wealth created as a couple! In this chat with The Freemans, you will hear some real-talk and real examples of how you can generate money out of thin air, create space for money to circulate to you, and know that you don’t have to just rely on one or two income streams anymore! The times are changing with money, so you’ll want to hear this episode and what you can do as a couple.

In this episode, you will:

Know: why it’s important to think differently about money in 2020

Have: 4 must-do’s for your money this year

Feel: fired up for a breakthrough and new energy around money!

Other resources:

1) Get $50 OFF the Money Course for Couples that you can listen to on-the go. Use coupon code: money2020 (all together)

2) Follow us on Instagram

He Wants Time To Process, She Wants To Talk About It Now: Gretchen + Mike "He Said/ She Said On Communication" Jan 08, 2020

Welcome to this new game show type episode called “HE Said/SHE Said”! In this type of episode, on the Empowered Couples podcast, you will laugh, be entertained, and relate to this couple as they find out how they see things differently in their marriage even when they love each other, live together, and have been together for years.

No matter how well you think you know your partner, you can see things differently AND often don’t even realize! (remember the newlywed game, yup it’s going to be like that!)

In This Episode:

You will meet Gretchen and Mike from Minnesota, who have been married for 13 years. They have decided to explore the area of communication within their relationship, as it’s an area that they experience having bigger differences. They are willing to individually be asked the same questions around communication to then be surprised by how each answered these questions whether it be the same or surprisingly different. Welcome to the show “He Said/She Said”!

**Disclaimer: we by no means intend to exclude any type of relationship with the title, He Said/She Said. We just thought it was a fun, catchy name. Please include yourself no matter what type of a relationship you choose. Much love, The Freemans**

Game Show Questions Asked:

Each individually answer:

Who would you say is a better communicator?
Who do you think your partner would say is a better communicator?
What about communication feels challenging?
Is communication more about talking or listening?
Does either one of you dominate conversations?
Who initiates having difficult conversations more often?
Who is better at reconciling & repairing from a conflict?
Where or from whom do you feel you learned relationship communication skills?

Quotes:

“If it’s something I realize will help him, and not actually hurt me, I’m becoming more open to any of his requests” - Gretchen.

“We got into a fight, and looking back all I needed to do was say that this wasn’t a good time right now and ask for a different time later on when I could really receive what she was saying.” - Mike

Other Resources:

1) Learn more about the Assessment and Self-Paced Relationship Course AND get $100 OFF with coupon code: podcast

2) Follow us on Instagram

3 Types Of Goals To Set For An Epic Year As A Power Couple: Freemans Mini Episode 64 Dec 25, 2019

**This will be one of the most important podcast episodes you ever listen to as a couple**

This year can either be an average year or an extraordinary year, depending on how aligned and focused you are as a couple!

You may find the holiday season stressful, routine, an obligation, or maybe exciting and new.

But we encourage you to set aside some time together to implement the 3 types of goals we’re suggesting in this episode to get aligned for the year.

Here is a way to look at goals differently AND have them be things that actually inspire you as a couple!

In this episode you will:

Know- 3 ‘new’ types of goals to set as a couple to get an “R.O.I”

Have- prompting questions to get you two talking and getting on the same page.

Feel- focused and inspired so it can be the best year and decade of your lives!

Other Resources:

Register for the ONLINE COUPLES WORKSHOP!
FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping). Then join the “POWER COUPLE Book Club”
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Creating Healthy Social Media And Technology Boundaries In A Modern Relationship: Bud + Sarah Dunn Dec 11, 2019

In this special episode, you will get to hear us being interviewed on the “Confident Couples Podcast” hosted by Bud and Sara Dunn. This was such a fun, humorous, and much needed topic about the impact that technology and social media has on modern day relationships (who doesn’t experience this right?!) Both sides of the positive impact and some of the areas that there may be ‘negative’ impacts on your connection, both of which you will even be surprised by!

In this episode you will know some of the positive and negative impacts of social media (that you wouldn’t normally think about) on modern relationships. You will then be able to make new agreements, set healthy boundaries, release the hold onto some assumptions you may have about your partner, and maintain (even restore) trust and connection within the relationship. With all this said, you will be able to use social media and technology within your relationship to continuously be even more connected and on the same page with your vision!

Questions asked in this interview

What are the things you see that are impacting and challenging modern couples with social media and technology?
You say a big takeaway for couples is to make agreements around using technology, what are some examples?
How can couples use social media and technology productively within their relationship?
What advice is there for one partner when they do not agree with the type of content their partner looks at and consumes?
How can a couple recover from a “trust breaking event” as it pertains to social media and what they look at?
Is it necessary to make these grand public professions of love for our partners for every single life event? If I don’t, does that mean I’m not being the best partner I can be?

Quotes:

“Most couples are just holding on to assumptions about their partners, when what they really need is agreements. This makes all the difference in your trust and connection”. - Jocelyn

Connect More With The Guests:

Connect with “Confident Couples” and Bud & Sarah more at: 1)Website: https://budandsara.com/

2) Instagram: @BudandSara

Other Resources:

1) Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping). Then join the “POWER COUPLE Book Club”

2) Follow us on Instagram

3 Ways To Keep The Spark Alive Even When You’re Busy: The Freemans Episode 62 Nov 27, 2019

If you’re alive in 2019/2020, then you’re likely ‘busy.’ We know you’re alive because you’re reading this ;-) But just because the two of you are busy with kids, career, to-do lists, etc...doesn’t mean you can’t also keep the SPARK alive in your relationship year after year.

A part of having a truly happy, thriving, connected relationship is being able to keep the spark of passion, excitement, and newness alive.

In this episode you will:

KNOW: that no matter how busy you are, you can prioritize having a passionate relationship

HAVE: 3 practical ways to ignite that spark in your busy life

FEEL: surprised, ready and eager to see your partner and take action!

Quotes:

“Don’t wait until you feel like it to make an attempt for intimacy, take action, and then you will feel it!” - Jocelyn

Other Resources:

Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping). Then you can join the “POWER COUPLE Book Club”!

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Gaining Your Spouse's Support For Your Goals While Effectively Supporting Theirs: Amanda + Nicholas Episode 61 Nov 13, 2019

Hello friends, get ready to meet Nicholas and Amanda Bayerle! They are the CEO and COO respectively of the 7- figure lifestyle brand for businessmen, Billion Dollar Body and the community the Billion Dollar Brotherhood. Where men can achieve their highest potential in both their business and their health.

Both have been featured in media like Forbes, Oxygen, Huffington Post, and featured in top podcasts. Nicholas is also the host of their own Billion Dollar Body podcast which has over 300,000 downloads, as well as an international speaker and author of the new book Modern Day Businessman: Success Without Sacrifice.

They are passionate not only about people having healthy bodies, but healthy relationships and truly achieving their dreams in life. And welcoming their first child in January 2020. They believe anyone’s network is what determines their net-worth!

In this episode you will learn:

There is no need to sacrifice your own personal goals within your relationship. And it’s even by focusing on striving to be the best person you can be, that will be your invitation to your partner to strive to be the best they can be.

You will hear 2 activities and conversations that you can have with your partner today, so that you can feel the most collaborative and supportive of each other (and your relationship goals) that you have ever been. This will put you on the path of achieving the most you ever have together.

Questions asked in this interview

How do you balance both holding your partner accountable to their goals (both individually and business), but also being their caring spouses and confidant?
Is there a certain way you have to approach conversations to not trigger the other, when you want to invite them up (in either their performance or mindset)?
Do you hear from men in your group that they don’t really know how to gain their spouses support? What’s your advice for how to communicate their goal to their spouse?
Do you think men today are at all intimidated by a powerful female partner?
What do you wish you knew about healthy relationships growing up?

Quotes:

"Always focus on what is good about them, you do not need to try to change them, you wouldn't even want an exact version of yourself" -Amanda

"It may sound like a scary question to ask, but ask how you can be a better partner. The answer will surprise you (in a good way)" -Nicholas

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram
Book your Relationship Breakthrough Session here that was mentioned in the episode

PS. Because of demand there is a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

Connect More With The Guests:

Get a copy of the book Modern Day Businessman: Success Without Sacrifice.

How Do I Get My Spouse On Board With Personal Development?: The Freemans Mini Episode 60 Oct 30, 2019

Welcome to another ‘Mini Chat with The Freemans’. This time we are talking about this subject of personal development, but as a couple. How do you get your partner on board with first growing as an individual AND THEN doing it together as a couple? Of course without them getting defensive, feeling something is wrong, or thinking you need counseling.

That is exactly what we’ll cover, and by tuning into this episode you will learn that progress = happiness, and growing (getting better at anything) is the most fundamental and natural thing in life. You will have 3 steps to actually bringing up this kind of conversation with your partner, in a way that has them feel open and curious about how you can both make positive progress in any area of your life together. Which will have you feeling at ease and a contribution to both your partner and the direction of your relationship. This is the path of happiness and fulfillment throughout your life!

Summary of The Steps To Have The Conversation:

Work on your delivery
Lead by example
Get curious about them

Other resources:

Get a FREE hard copy of the book The New Power Couple (just pay for shipping)

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How To Balance Being A Parent And A Strong Spouse: Figs + Teale O’Sullivan Episode 59 Oct 16, 2019

For all the parents out there! Have you ever thought it was too difficult to balance being a great parent and a great partner to your spouse? Do you feel this is a season that you have to sacrifice some areas of your own life or relationship to ‘make it all work’?

If so this is THE episode for you as you introduce you to Figs and Teale O’Sullivan are a powerful couple, both of whom are marriage and family EFT certified therapists from SF, CA. They are the founders of Empathi, a company that provides affordable and convenient relationship support for both individuals and couples. Empathi offers online courses as well as live support from a whole team of licensed and certified therapists; through fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting, stop suffering, and snuggle more. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life. So all couples can “Love better with Empathi”!

In this episode you will:

know that even as you enter into more demanding seasons of life as a parent, that you can truly be a strong individual and strong spouse. You will have ways to create intentional time for you and your spouse, no matter how little time you really have and tools to have arguments in a way that actually benefits your own kids. So that you can feel connection, compassion, and empathy in your relationship no matter how busy (or dirty with kids) your life feels.

Questions asked in this interview

What is the biggest challenge for couples to maintain connection and a strong relationship with each other when they are raising kids?
1. Is any parenting season more difficult than others?
Have you found that most couples experience being limited in their time and focus toward each other, or to things they want to experience, when they are parents?
Since family dynamics have evolved and many more women are working or starting businesses AND wanting to be a mother, are you noticing any new levels of ‘overwhelm’? And what can do about that
What are some ways couples can still connect when they have young children?
Should a couple argue in front of their kids or shelter them from disagreements?
Traditional parenting roles were seen in a hierarchy (patriarchy) model. In modern parenting, is there a better model to follow that empowers the entire family to contribute?
Why is it important to have empathy and what is it in practice anyway?
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy and how can parents best use it to lead and connect with both their spouse and children?

Connect More With The Guests:

As mentioned in the episode, you can take your own Relationship Empathi Quiz Here

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram

Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us

PS. Because of demand the call is a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

How To Communicate Your Needs To Your Partner Without Rocking The Boat: The Freemans Mini Episode 58 Oct 02, 2019

We received a message last week on instagram that powerfully portrayed how many of you might feel about expressing your needs to your spouse. The question said, ‘how do I tell my partner I really want (and need) for us to proactively work on our communication and that I want to start working on us more? I don’t want to upset her.’

Now the content of what you want to say or ask of your partner might be different, the context is likely similar: you want to share something important to your partner without rocking the boat. So this episode will dive into ways that we bring up these subjects with each other:

In this episode you will:

Know the 3 easy to make mistakes you might be making when trying to communicate your needs to your partner now.

Have 3 game changing ways to better communicate your needs so that keep you both on the 'same team'.

So that you feel empowered to make requests to each other that have you be the best partners you can be!

Quotes:

"The goal of a relationship is to grow, and to grow you need to have tension (just like lifting weights)" - Jocelyn

Other Resources:

Follow us on Instagram

Book a Relationship Breakthrough Call with us

P.S. The Family Meeting Worksheet mentioned in the episode can be given to you on the coaching call, scheduled with the link above. Because of demand, the call is now a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

The Benefits Of Having Conflicts And How To Fight Right: CrisMarie + Susan Episode 57 Sep 18, 2019

Let’s all be honest about something, we are all friends here… How many have you heard other people say (or even heard yourself saying), “it would be better if we argued less” or even “things are going so well lately as we have not argued at all”?

However is this really the goal, should relationships be about NOT getting into disagreement, arguments or conflicts? Well NOT to this couple.

In this episode we interview life and business partners CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke, co-founders of Thrive Inc. They’ve spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They’ve written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples. They do workshops on conflict resolution, communication, and teamwork at Fortune 100 companies like Microsoft and the Gates Foundation.

In this episode you will learn that avoiding conflict or not having conflict at all is NOT the goal as conflict can be beautiful, have you be more connected, and be your true self! You will have their powerful 5-5-5 rules for conflicts as well as the most effective ways to have your conflicts better your relationship before, during, and after. All leaving you feeling confident and at ease about any conflict that arises in your relationship, because you will have the tools to use it to your advantage.

Questions asked in this interview

In your book, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples, you argue that the key to a lasting relationship isn’t romance - it’s conflict. Tell us more about that.
How do you define conflict, what is it really?
What would you say to a couples that says “we never argue or fight?”
What are the unhealthy ways to be in a conflict?
In your book, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples, you mention that many of the women you’ve worked with have worried that they’ve married the wrong person. What has them say that and how do you respond?
What do you do to forgive yourself in the heat of a conflict?

Quotes:

“Conflict isn’t something to fear or avoid. When handled the right way, conflict can unlock fresh ideas, build team trust, and create great results.”

“The more you are you, the juicer the relationship will be”

Connect More With The Guests:

Thrive Coaching & Consulting

Free chapter of their book: The Beauty of Conflict for Couples

Empowered Couples resources:

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Tour the Empowered Couples University:

8 Powerful Habits For Power Couples (for the 8 core areas of your relationship): The Freemans Mini Episode 56 Sep 04, 2019

Brief description:

Chemistry is what brings you together, your habits are what keep you together (or not).

Can we be real for a second? Every week we meet couples who are wondering why they’re not experiencing connection, passion, joy in their relationship. They love each other a lot, but something isn’t quite working like they want it to.

Well in this episode, we’re going to demystify why that happens by going into the HABITS you must maintain in your relationship to become & stay a power couple.

In this episode you will:

KNOW: Why your habits are so impactful in either positive or negative ways for your relationship

HAVE: 8 Powerful Habits for Power Couples covering--->

Mindset/Emotions
Physical/Sexual
Professional
Communication
Spiritual
Financial
Social
Family

FEEL: Motivated to implement new habits as a couple that create connection & passion

Quotes:

“Chemistry is what brings you together, your habits are what keep you together (or not).”

Other resources:

Get a free 2-on-2 couples coaching call with The Freemans

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Habits To Be The Best Teammate You Can Be: Mike + Cari Skrdla Episode 55 Aug 21, 2019

Meet Mike & Cari Skrdla from right here in Gilbert AZ. Both of them started the company “LifeBack” which is about helping you make the necessary changes to live a life you love living. Any challenges with career, relationships, and happiness are not supposed to be a constant state. So LifeBack aids as a lifeline of professional support, providing methods and empowerment to assist you with creating a life of your choosing. This is through coaching and live events like the Genius Bootcamp. Along with that mission, Mike runs 2 other business investing into real estate and CBD.

Aside from what they do, they are both very close friends of ours that have always been there for us in our own spiritual journey, starting our own relationship, and listening & providing advice whenever we have needed it in our personal and professional life.

In this episode you will learn the habits they implement to function as a true team and to support each others dreams while fulfilling on the vision for your own relationship.

Questions asked in this interview:

How do you create your partner newly each day?
What does being a team really mean to you?
How does having an agreement of time to allow yourself ‘to be down’, actually change your state faster?
What habits bring you together when you feel you’re going in different directions?
How are you able to ‘listen’ to your partner with such curiosity and support when they are sharing things they fear, are afraid of, and have concerns about?
How do you keep past relationship habits from affecting your current marriage?
With everything that you are both up to, how do you keep from being overwhelmed or too busy for each other?

Quotes:

“Im not here to get in the way, but to support my husband in anything he wants to pursue.”

“The world you live in with your spouse is all your doing and all your creation”

Connect More With The Guests:

Learn more about the transformational work with LifeBack

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram

Access the Empowered Couples University communication audio course, and get your second one free from listening to the episode

3 Challenges Modern-day Couples Face & How to Breakthrough Them: Freemans Mini Episode 54 Aug 07, 2019

Welcome to the next Mini Chat with the Freemans!

This episode is all about MODERN marriage & the challenges that we all face in today’s world. Now let’s be real, life looks quite a bit different today than even 10 years ago, 20, and definitely 50. You face new challenges that most people don’t address because it seems like it just ‘is’ that way….BUT we have solutions for you. Meaning, ways you can breakthrough these modern challenges you face as a couple. We promise, this will be relatable, practical solutions you’ll want to implement right away!

The 3 modern challenges addressed (and their solutions) in this episode:

1) The pressure to play so many different roles

Solution - talk through any unspoken expectations you have of yourselves and each other.

2) Feeling too busy and tired (yet craving more joy and fulfillment)

Solution - Prioritize a bonding activity every weekend BEFORE chores and to-do lists. Plus refer to your Couples Vision Statement?

3) Repeating yourselves from communication getting shortened into quick micro conversations

Solution - Block time to have authentic family meetings and truly talk about how you’re doing

Quotes:

“Don’t just fill your calendar, make sure you fill your cup together” - Aaron

Other resources:

FREE in a 1 hour coaching call with us --->Relationship Coaching Call

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5 Money Habits of Empowered Couples: Freemans Mini Episode 53 Jul 17, 2019

Welcome to the next Mini Chat with the Freemans! This episode is all about MONEY and the 5 most impactful habits that truly Empowered Couples implement to not only earn more money but experience more freedom, security, and unlimited options for their life together as a couple!

In this episode:

You will know how to breakthrough financial barriers you run into through establishing the right habits, those by other power couples. You will have the 5 Money Habits of Empowered Couples that you can utilize in your own relationship today. Leaving you feeling more peace and feel there are more options for you as a couple

The 5 habits that are covered:

Knowing your “Top Driver” for money.
Only talk about money in pre-scheduled, calm times. (not in passing conversations)
Invest In Yourselves.
Diversify (don’t just rely on your paychecks, don’t spend it all on expenses, take a portion and invest outside of your 401k)
Change to “We make” this much rather than “I make this much”.

Quotes:

“Once you invest in and grow your money mindset, story, and belief, that is when you change your actions and your results with money” - Jocelyn

Other resources:

Join the mentioned Relationship Course from the episode ----> Couples Goals Accelerator

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4 Tips For Effectively Communicating In The Middle Of A Fight: Raj + Gaby Sundra Episode 52 Jul 03, 2019

Join us on this unique episode, where we were interviewed on an internet show by Raj and Gaby Sundra. They are the founders of “Relationship Fun and Games” and are on their 12th season of their “Fights Clean & Sex Dirty” show, that provides couples the resources to have better communication skills when they get into fights as well as spicing up their intimacy in new and fun ways!

This business of theirs was born out of the necessity to become better partners themselves early on in their marriage when Raj was busy in business development consulting and their were starting their life in a new place. Now they are passionate to give the resources for others to ongoingly grow and strengthen their own relationship. For them relationships are at the heart of living your best life!

In this episode you will:

Know that getting into fights and arguments is not a problem in your relationship when you are able to “fight clean”. You will have 4 tips on just what to do in the heat of a fight so you can feel you are always on the same page and confident that challenges lead you to being even more connected.

Quotes:

“Don’t just compromise, create!”

“An awesome relationship is your access to an awesome life”

Connect More With The Guests:

Access all of their “Fights Clean & Sex Dirty” show episodes here. Choose either category for how to fight clean with better communication or how to spice up your intimacy! https://relationshipfunandgames.com/

Other resources:

Follow us on Instagram

Attend the FREE “Communication Gap Masterclass” mentioned in this episode

How The Relationship With Yourself Benefits (or Hurts) Your Relationship With Your Partner : Jocelyn Freeman Episode 51 Jun 13, 2019

This episode is one of the most vulnerable episodes from Jocelyn, as Aaron interviews her about her upbringing and her path to finally loving and appreciating herself.

You’ll hear the critical ways you can either strengthen or hurt the connection in your partnership from the quality of your relationship to yourself.

You’ll also hear practical ways you can develop a healthier relationship to yourself no matter how busy life gets.

Quotes:

“Building relationship with yourself brings more presence. Having the ability to be more present with your partner is what allows for more romance.” - Jocelyn Freeman

Questions asked in this interview:

Why did you want to bring up the subject (the importance) of the relationship to yourself?
What unhealthy things can show up in a relationship if someone isn’t looking inside themselves?
What was your personal story of starting to work on your relationship to yourself?
How does deepening relationship to oneself deepen the relationship to their partners?
What are some ways to build a stronger relationship to yourself?

Actions to build a stronger relationship with yourself:

Block personal (quiet) time each day (set intentions/meditate)
Ask meaningful questions: how have I been showing up in life? How am I feeling? Is there anything I’m thinking that isn’t serving me?
Start to question your beliefs
Taking care of your health
Focus on the amazing things about yourself (what are you focused on now?)

Other resources:

1)Grab one of the 5 Free Couples Vision Calls with The Freemans and create your Couples Vision Statement

2)Follow us on Instagram

Handling Seasons of Marriage When You Want Different Things: Vanessa + Robert Shaw Episode 50 May 30, 2019

It is much less a question of if, but when, you will hit a season in your relationship that you both want different things. If you are currently in this season, it can look many different ways, maybe its about where you live, what you do as a profession, kids, lifestyle, or even an overall change in life. You do not need to avoid this season, as you are about to hear from our great guests, Robert & Vanessa Shaw, but have the right tools to handle a season of your relationship in which you find yourselves wanting different things.

In this episode you will:

Hear from top business strategist and speaker Vanessa Shaw and her husband Robert, who runs the high level coaching and speaking business to seasoned entrepreneurs and large organization executives. You will know that seasons of wanting different things will arise in your relationship and can even be expected. You will have the practical tools and ways to shift your mindsets together to approach and handle these seasons so that you can feel closer, more on the same page, and even stronger together by going through these seasons.

Listen in and meet Robert & Vanessa who share their story of living in Switzerland, being a diplomat for the UN, having major challenges arise with their son, Vanessa needing a change in her life, moving to America first on her own, and the incredible journey they have been on to create a massive coaching and speaking business, all while becoming even more connected over their now 24 years of marriage.

Questions asked in this interview

Can you have everything you want in life, all at once?
How do you integrate everything you desire and have it thrive all in one season?
How do you best leverage each other’s differences and strengths?
What allows you to approach these seasons of life from a “we” perspective?
What were the steps to invite your partner into personal growth, when they had never even heard of the term before?

Quotes:

“The ability to reinvent yourself is the most incredible and exciting opportunity you have in this life”

“When you have deep respect for each other’s differences, you are able to approach any life circumstance as a “WE” and not just an “I”.

Connect More With The Guests:

View upcoming events and business coaching options at: https://vanessashaw.com/

Other resources:

The FREE Communication Gap Masterclass: 3 Critical Mistakes That Even High Achieving Couples Make That Hurt Their Connection & Intimacy

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Why You Take 1 Step Forward & 2 Steps Back As A Couple: Aaron Freeman Episode 49 May 20, 2019

Ever feel like you start to take steps forward as a couple, but then start to take 2 steps backwards?

For example, you start to communicate well, and then something happens and you start to regress in your communication. Or the two of you start making more money and suddenly you get stalled financially or even lose money.

This is a common pattern for so many couples and this episode will help you interrupt this pattern and keep your positive momentum in the direction you want to go.

Join in as Jocelyn Freeman interviews special guest Aaron Freeman so that

In this episode you will:

KNOW: Why you feel like you make progress, and then regress

HAVE: The 5 steps to keep momentum in a forward direction as a couple, and ultimately ‘manifest’ what you want in your relationship

FEEL: relieved and inspired by both the ‘wins’ and the ‘challenges’ in your relationship

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

NEW MASTERCLASS (FREE) this week: HERE

Topic---> The 3 Biggest Mistakes Even High-Achieving Couples Make That Hurt Connection & Intimacy

A Connection Activity With A New Twist On Your Bucket List As A Couple: Freemans Mini Episode 48 May 01, 2019

You didn’t get into a relationship to just ‘get by’ through the routine of work during the week or have the weekends be just for catching up on tasks and errands. No, you want to create, have fun as a couple, and explore life! Then even have your relationship itself become the legacy that you leave behind for future generations!

This is precisely why this was such a popular topic at our Couples Brunch and wanted to make it podcast episode. (For all of you that can’t be at the couples brunch in Arizona)

—> Download this fun, one page exercise to do as a couple to create your new bucket list activities and desires here.

In this episode you will:

Know what is the ‘new twist’ on a bucket list and why it will bond you as a couple though connection and inspiration.

You will have the link to the new bucket list worksheet activity to do as a couple, and get new ideas on just what you would love to experience together.

All leaving you feeling creative and connected, learning new things about each other.

Resources:

Join the next Couples Goals Accelerator group starting May 21, 2019 it only opens as the live program a few times per year.

Marriage Mythbusting & Leveraging Your Differences: Lindsey + Elliot Schwartz Episode 47 Apr 22, 2019

There are a number of things that couples make assumptions on that have been passed on over the years and have now become more myth that fact. We are a new generation, always innovating in industry, tech, and reinventing who we are as individuals. In that environment wouldn’t relationships have to evolve as well? YES! But most see marriage as a fixed thing.

In this episode we are LIVE in the home of Lindsey and Elliot, to explore how their own relationship has evolved as they have and how they see marriages as a whole transformed and what myths can now be BUSTED! As well as the idea that having major differences as individuals is something to overcome or change about the other person. When they can be leveraged to grow you even more!

Bio of guest:

Lindsey & Elliot Schwartz have been married for 8 years. Elliot is in medical device sales and responsible for the Southwest region. He is so effective that he is #1 on his team because of his authentic approach to sales that support the nursing staff as the heroes they are.

Lindsey is the author of “Powerhouse Woman”, coach and founder of the influencer brand of the same name. She hosts the Powerhouse Women’s annual event that draws 200 plus women to come together, support each other’s genius and create a network of empowered women to pursue their passions.

Together they have built and run a health and wellness business, and volunteer their time coaching kids basketball leagues and mentoring young girls through JR high and High school to grow into the women they were meant to be.

Questions asked in this interview

Myths to bust:

Man is head of household.
You will have to sacrifice connection/fulfillment at some point (for career and supporting family, health, kids, travel ect)
Have to agree on every decision.
There is a honeymoon phase and it will always fade.

Leverage Differences:

What is really different about each other?
How to you leverage that rather than trying to avoid or change the other?

Quotes:

“Go into every situation assuming your partner has the best intentions, you will be able to better understand what they really have going on internally”. - Lindsey

"I have a short memory, that's why I have such a big heart" - Elliot

Connect More With The Guests:

Get your "Early Bird" ticket through May for the Sept 7th event!

PowerHouse Women’s Event: https://www.lindseyschwartz.com/

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

Why Arguing With Logic Won’t Make Your Partner Feel Better When They’re Emotional: Freemans Mini Episode 46 Apr 03, 2019

Welcome to the next "Mini Chat With The Freemans"! How often have you found yourself trying to make your partner (or really yourself) feel better by being logical? Yeah how well did that work!? So what is the other option, how do you actually help your partner feel better and get back to a connected place together when one of you is really feeling frustration, doubt, or just upset?

In this episode you will:

Know that leaning on logic to help your partner feel better emotionally, will never work. It will even have your partner feel worse. You will have the 2 reasons and examples why this logic doesn’t help your partner, as well as 2 new things to try that will support your partner the most when they are experiencing high emotion. Which will leave you feeling confidence in your ability to be with any emotion that your partner is feeling without making it personal and be the best partner you can be to support them in moving past emotion so you can reconnect as a couple.

Quotes:

“Rather than feeling you are two separate people and identities, you will feel you’re experiencing this emotion as one unit, called your relationship”

Resources:

Follow Jocelyn & Aaron on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

This episode offered 5 limited gifts of a "Couples Vision Call". To schedule 1 of the 5 for you and your partner go to: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/call

Prioritizing Connection With Your Partner During The Stressful Seasons Of Family & Life: Poorak + Manasi Episode 45 Mar 20, 2019

Things in life happen don't they? All of a sudden one day you feel that all you are doing is fighting fires, trying to stay on top of the task list to complete, stressing out about how to run your business and take care of the family at the same time.

With of of your attention on "life happening", what happened to your connection and passion with your partner? It's non-existent! Now it was't intention but it is essential for your fulfillment in your life... to prioritize your connection with your partner no matter what shows up in your life.

In this episode you will:

Know that you can prioritize the connection with your partner, with no excuses and no sacrifices. Have new ways to connect with your partner when you have young kids, when you are starting and growing a business and family at the same time, and a new shift to the way you see stress and “busyness” in your life and your family. Leaving you feeling secure and confident that no matter what is going on in your life, prioritizing your connection with your partner is always the best solution!

Guest Bio:

Meet Manasi & Poorak! They are Certified Empowered Couples Coaches, Speakers and Entrepreneurs.

They have trained and coached couples to feel peaceful and abundant in their relationships and businesses for over 10 years. Manasi is a contributor to the Lake Country Mom Blog where she writes about creating thriving relationships.

Their passion is to help multicultural couples and parents prioritize their connection regardless of what challenges life throws at them through their “Connected Couples” Coaching Business.

Questions asked in this interview:

Did you have a particular season in your relationship where you felt the “busyness or stress”, take priority over your connection?
1. Did it just happen unconsciously?
2. What caused you to realize you had sacrificed your connection?
3. How did you shift back and what difference did that make?
What is your mindset around starting a family and a business at the same time? How do you not keep yourself from thinking you can only do one or the other?
How do you both get creative with time so you both can fill your own cups?
Have the opinions of other family members ever gotten in between you two? Especially coming from a culture that has some specific traditions around marriage?
What is your philosophy about masculine and feminine roles in a co-leading household?
What do you mean by a “Connected Couple”
Tell us your experience of being a part of the Empowered Couples Community? And how does it feel to be certified coaches now ready to help other couples?

Quotes:

"The best thing you can do for your kids, is show them how you face challenges that come up and that you are striving for creating bigger things in your own life"

"You can't be afraid to ask for help, even to create a support network"

Connect More With The Guests:

Schedule your Vision Call to be an even more connected couple: https://www.themodys.com/

Follow Connected Couples on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connected_couples/

Other resources:

Follow The Freemans on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

Ask The Freemans Anything Instagram Q&A: Switching From Work Mode to Home Life Episode 44 Mar 06, 2019

What do you do to ‘turn off’ the business relationship and turn on the the partner side?” This is a question we received on Instagram from @jessgoeseverywhere in our new style of episode “Ask The Freemans Anything” where we answer ANY relationship question. This is a way to connect us all as the tribe of high achieving empowered couples to continue to grow into the best partners we can be!

In this episode...

You will know: That a lot of disconnection and feeling of routine in your relationship come from not transitioning out of your work mode back into home life. You will have 3 specific ways to effectively transition back into connect through eliminating distractions, having meaningful questions to ask, and creating a transition activity to circulate energy. You will leave feeling confident that you can be even more connected and present with your partner and consistently learning new things about them each day!

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

How To Influence Your Partner When They Feel Differently Than You: The Freemans Episode 43 Feb 20, 2019

Today’s mini chat with The Freemans is all about influencing your partner. Yes you could say “get them to do what you want”. Maybe you want them to change their mind about something or even more powerful, you want them to change their current state (maybe from one of stress or anxiety to one of peace or ease) Of course you are a team (possibly have your vision statement if you have done a vision statement creation call with us) so you are not intending anything less than what you feel would benefit them, they just are “stuck in their way” in this area.

So what happens when you deeply want them to something that you already know they will enjoy and get value from, yet they just don’t want to do it? Then multiple times a week you now feel you are trying to convince them or even trick them into changing their minds or getting them to change their emotional state.

In this episode...

You will know: Influencing your partner starts with you being the example first

You will have: 3 new actions to take for yourself within these conversations with your partner

You will feel: More emotionally steady certain no matter how long it takes them to change their mind (if ever!)

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

Building Trust In Your Partner To Make The Big, Risky Decisions Together: Mike + Hannah Episode 42 Feb 06, 2019

Today you will meet, hear from, and be inspired by Mike and Hannah Place. Not just for what they do as entrepreneur strategists and performance coaches, but by how they got to this place and the level of trust and playfulness they now have through that process. A process that you will be able to implement as in this episode you will know that your relationship is meant for you to learn and grow and an individual and that together, faith and trust are your foundations to creating your life and marriage. You will have the ways to reduce the significance in big decision making and the tips to stay connected even when your purpose calls you to be away from each other. You will end feeling a greater sense of trust and confidence in yourself and in your partner that you are making the best decisions for your future together.

Questions Asked In This Episode:

Rapid Fire Round: Where is home for you? How long have you been married? How did you first meet? Was it love at first sight? What is something your partner can do to always make you laugh?1) Was your commitment to making relationship connection attempts natural or more intentional?

2) What is an example of where you needed to use the code word to bring you back together?

3) Do you always need to find the middle ground or do you let the other take the lead in decision making?

4) Hannah, how do you balance the graceful and the gladiator energy as a female and as a wife?

5) Mike, what was it like to start to experience more of the g la di ator energy from Hannah?

6) What was it like to move to a completely new state, and how did you make that big decision?

7) With your traveling lifestyle, many times traveling apart, how do you stay connected?

8) What are separate ways you both make deposits into the love bank account?

9) How to you keep play alive and not have things be taken so seriously?

Quotes:"Don't assume your partner knows you love them, show & tell them, then there is no question durning those difficult moments"!

"An empowered couple isn't a perfect couple, it's a couple who commits to growth!"

Guest Resources:

Women take your Gladiator Quiz here: hannahplace.com

- "Graceful Gladiator Podcast"- new episode every Tuesday on iTunes and all other podcast apps.

- Amplify Your Purpose academy: amplifyyourpurposenow.com

Find the topics Mike speaks here: mikeplace.com

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/ecu

Designing An Abundant Life & Relationship: The Freeman’s Interview From “Be That 1% Podcast” Episode 41 Jan 23, 2019

First things first, listen into this episode to gain even more clarity on how to design an abundant life and relationship and what that authentically means for you and your partner!

Second, this is actually an interview of us from the "Be That 1% Podcast" that reaches 75 countries! Listen into our answers to the powerful questions from host Amanda Silvas, that are noted below.

It dives into their story of how we turned the almost break-up into a truly powerful partnership, changed career paths, created a successful business where we now empower couples to fulfill life, business, and relationship goals together!

Topics Discussed:

-Moving past fear in relationships

-Definition of the new power couple

-Co-Creation is the purpose of life

-Turning desires into something physical

-Vision vs Goals

-Relationship vs partnership

-Make personal development a priority

-Top Book recommendations

-Power of the proximity principle

-Building money habits and a healthy money mindset

-Meaningful questions to bolster relationships

Books Discussed:

- Happy Pocket Full of Money

- Power of Intention

- Secrets of a Millionaire Mind

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

Ask The Freemans Anything Instagram Q&A: The Best Marriage Resources Episode 40 Jan 16, 2019

Today we are answering Couples Community Questions from our instagram stories posts.

Every month we’ll have a fun, casual, authentic conversation answering ANY question you have about intimacy, communication, money, business building, anything!

Questions Asked From Couples:

Q&A submitted by @americanwanderlove:

1) What do you do in energy shifts with your partner, how to hold space while still being productive myself?

Q&A submitted by @connectedcouples:

2) What books/audios do you consume to grow your marriage and business?

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

Be That 1% in Your Marriage & Life: James + Amanda Episode 39 Jan 09, 2019

Meet James & Amanda Silvas, they college sweethearts turned lifestyle entrepreneurs and business partners. Together they created Be That 1%, a brand and movement that believes in shattering ceilings, doing things differently, creating purpose driven work, and fully living not just existing.

Be That 1% was born out of James as a ‘mantra’ to help him persevere through the limiting beliefs that come with starting a business. Together they built Be That 1% from zero to six-figures by helping people take action on leveling up their mindsets on what is possible. They host multiple events, coaching programs, and a podcast experience that has reached 75 countries.

In This Episode:

You will know what it means to “Be That 1%” as an individual, and how to bring that into creating a “Be That 1%” type of marriage.

You will have the powerful ways to begin your day with intention as to respond to your partner and not just react, you will hear the two foundational principles of co-creating a strong marriage, and the most honest ways to deepen your own self love to expand the love between you and your partner.

This will leave you feeling courageous and certain within yourself that you can co-create anything you desire with your partner and always feel supported.

Questions Asked In This Episode:

Tell us more about what you mean by “Be that 1%” and how does that drive you in life and marriage?
What do you do when you wake up and don’t feel like Being That 1% or you feel out of alignment personally?
What does your morning routine look like to get in a state of Being That 1%?
How would you describe what it means to have a 1% Marriage?
How do you find balance in growing as an individual and also making sure you’re growing with your partner?
What did you learn while traveling solo about your relationship and what you appreciate about each other?
What constitutes love and deepening love in a marriage?
How did you discover self-love and acceptance so you can truly love and accept each other?
What is your final tip to motivated couples?

Quotes:

“You are meant to live, not just exist” - James

“Do It Like You” - Amanda

“I first consciously see her as a Queen, so I in-turn treat her that way.” - James

Connect More with the Guests:

Are you ready to get yourself in with the 1%, so that you create a 1% marriage? Get James & Amanda’s 3 powerful and free resources to get you started: https://bethatonepercent.com/

If you love their certainty and energy then inquire about their coaching to make sure that your desires become a reality!

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

It’s OPEN! The Empowered Couples University has launched and you can now enroll in courses: http://meetthefreemans.com/ecu

Can Lack of Sex Be Causing Underlying Frustration Between You? : The Freemans Dec 26, 2018

Today’s mini chat with The Freemans is all about the possibility of lack of sex or sexual satisfaction underlying frustration and arguments between you both.

We decided to have this chat today because this actually showed up for us in our marriage TODAY.

In this episode...

You will know: The importance of frequently checking in with each other about your level of satisfaction, yes in all areas, but especially in your intimacy.

You will have: The 2 solutions for keeping your emotional and sexual connection strong, including balancing your own masculine & feminine energy within you.

You will feel: More present with each other and certain that you can be fully fulfilled in your sex life.

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Tour the Empowered Couples University: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/empowered-couples-university

Building a Family Business With Social Media & Video Marketing: John + Nadya Dec 12, 2018

Meet Nadya & John Melton, a couple thriving in business, family and romance. They will share all things about building a multi-million dollar online business AND a joyful, connected family.

They are entrepreneurs, public speakers, branding strategists, online marketing coaches, and dedicated believers in the empowerment of all people to discover their unique voice and share their message with the world!

Together, they have built a multi-million dollar online business through their Video Marketing Academy and have complete time and financial freedom living in Baltimore, MD with their 2 beautiful children — Dylan and Kristina. As they describe each other in their relationship, business, and home life “John is the “wow” and Nadya is the “how”.

You are about to experience the fun, laughter and joy of this couple and learn for yourself how to build a family and a business with social media & video marketing, all while enjoying life to the fullest.

Questions asked in this episode:

How and when did you decide to build an online business and had you then brand yourselves?
How do you work together, being 2 alphas in the relationship?
You said that “John is the wow, and Nadya is the how” what does that look like in both home life and business life?
How does a day in the Melton residence look like?
What keeps you motivated when you're feeling down?
If you had to attribute your current success to one strategy, what would that be?
What was the toughest moment you've had when working together?
What advice do you have for couples who are just starting their business together?
BONUS - Do you agree with "There is no bad decision except the one you look back and question"?

Quote from the episode:

“Don’t get caught up comparing your chapter 2, with someone else’s chapter 17. You have to build social equity.”

Connect more with the guests:

There isn’t a better way to get started today than downloading their free step by step guide on how to expanding your brand with video, just go to https://mylifestyleacademy.com/guide

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

It’s OPEN! The Empowered Couples University has launched and you can now enroll in courses: http://meetthefreemans.com/ecu

The Illusions of Creating Multiple Income Streams as a Couple: The Freemans Episode 36 Nov 28, 2018

Today’s mini chat with The Freemans is all about...MONEY!

Couples ask us all the time, ‘how do you create multiple income streams,’ ‘how can we learn to invest?’ And so today we actually dive into the ILLUSIONS of creating multiple income streams with the goal of dispelling the false ideas of what it takes to create multiple ways of making money.

In this episode...

You will know: The two important illusions about income streams you MUST know

You will have: The truth about what you must UPGRADE in your life to be able to make more money

You will feel: Excited to create income streams that align with your values as a couple

Other resources:

Join the next Couples Goals Accelerator:

https://www.meetthefreemans.com/goals

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Accelerate Your Results Together By Slowing Down & Breathing: Cory + Jessica Nov 14, 2018

Meet Cory & Jessica - The Healing Couple. Dr. Cory Ostroot is a Naturopathic Physician whose passion for medicine began when his mother fell ill and western medicine failed to provide answers.

His partner, Jessica Waala, a yoga and Breathwork teacher and self-love coach, will crack your heart open to who you really are. She brings together personal development and spiritual tools to guide you to self-love so that together we can heal the world.

Together they have supported thousands of lives globally through her classes, coaching, and events. Known as the The Healing Couple, joining forces with the love of her life to help others connect to their mind, body, and soul. They are committed to "walking the talk" every day, giving the best hugs, and inspiring others to live a life they love.

In this episode you will hear them answer:

What makes you two unique as a couple? How did you two know you wanted to come together to do this healing work?
What is Breath-work and why is it so powerful?
How does practicing Breath-work impact your relationship? And how can couples practice this work?
Should couples pause in the middle of a conflict to do breath-work?
What’s a recent experience between you two where old emotion came up?
How can slowing down and breathing actually accelerate your goals?
Is being ‘busy’ an illusion? And why do people see themselves so busy?
How can couples fit breath-work into their ‘full and busy’ lives?
What kind of a unique lifestyle are you starting to create for the next year?
What fears come up when you think of taking the leap and living a nomadic lifestyle?

Connect more with the guests:

Join the Online Breathwork Circle on December 2 @ 5pm PST

And experience a private couples breathwork session @

Thehealingcouple.com

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

It’s OPEN! The Empowered Couples University has launched and you can now enroll in courses: http://meetthefreemans.com/ecu

See you on the next episode!

What To Do In Moments Of Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner: The Freemans Oct 31, 2018

In this mini chat with The Freemans we’re diving into how to shift feeling disconnected to connected in just a few minutes. It’s much simpler than you think and it just takes this intentional practice each day.

In this episode-

You will know: How disconnection can be upgraded to connection

You will have: A simple exercise you can do right NOW to feel connected to your partner

You will feel: A sense of romance and gratitude for each other

YOU MUST SEE:

You now can register for the LAST Couples Goals Accelerator group program of 2018. End the year with MORE momentum in your financial goals, family goals and relationship goals. Join the group starting November 6th here: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/couples-goals-accelerator-online-group-program

See you on the next episode!

Sharing Your Sexual Desires With Your Partner Without Being Embarrassed: Miss Jaiya + Ian Oct 17, 2018

Meet this powerful couple, Jaiya and Ian Ferguson. You won’t hear this conversation at your average dinner party.

Would you like even BETTER intimacy & sex with your partner? Would you like to know more about your partners preferences and your own with physical pleasure? What if you had a common language to express your sexual needs and desires openly, without feeling embarrassed, with your partner. What if you really could magnify your love life and experience more pleasure and ecstasy with your partner? Are you in?

If so, you’ll love today’s episode:

Known as Miss Jaiya, she is the Internationally recognized, award-winning sexologist and best selling author of (Red Hot Touch), she is also the creator of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ and the Erotic Blueprint™ Quiz. Over more than two decades of client observation and clinical research she discovered a map of arousal that reveals your specific erotic language of arousal. She has been so effective at creating this breakthrough for people, that she personally works with Tony Robbins and his platinum partners at his own events.

Ian Ferguson had his own business in custom cabinetry serving hollywood actors and producers in creating luxury lifestyles, for 15 years. He is now fully involved with developing the Erotic Blueprints with Jaiya and expanding the message to allow people to become sexually satisfied and erotically free in their relationship.

What You Will Hear:

You will now hear about this revolutionary framework to create deeper connection and sexual satisfaction with you and your partner!

Why you both need to know each other’s “erotic blueprint” to bring even more pleasure into your relationship.
How intimacy actually impacts your ability to create and manifest.
Why sex and intimacy is a topic that couples are often embarrassed to talk about and how to make it more comfortable.
Are there any ‘erotic blueprint types’ that are incompatible? Or can a couple be compatible sexually with different types?
And so much more about how to bring more pleasure and intimacy into your relationship.

Take Your Erotic Blueprint Quiz Here:

https://www.eroticbreakthrough.com/freemans

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

It’s OPEN! The Empowered Couples University has launched and you can now enroll in courses: http://meetthefreemans.com/ecu

Be Unshakeable As A Couple With These 3 Pillars Oct 03, 2018

The “brief chat “ with The Freemans today comes from a live speech we gave at the Arizona Couples Brunch. How to be Unshakable as a couple no matter what comes up in your relationship by utilizing and focusing on these 3 pillars: Your State, Your Alignment to your Vision, and Your Time!

In this episode you will:

Know: That being unshakable means having the ability to respond to live rather than react.

Have: 3 Pillars to focus on to increase your capacity to respond powerfully to any challenge.

Feel: Unshakable in your direction and connection together.

Topics Covered In This Speech:

What would being unshakable mean for you in your relationship
How being unshakeable allows you to accomplish in life
What is the purpose of life and the purpose of your relationship
How to not take on the energy of your partner when they are upset
How many of you have a vision statement for your relationship and have looked at this week?
Owning your time by proactively scheduling your week as a couple
How many of you find it difficult to say “NO” to things?

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

It’s OPEN! The Empowered Couples University has launched and you can now enroll in courses: http://meetthefreemans.com/ecu

See you on the next episode!

Using Effective Communication To Turn What You Love Into A Living: Brandon + Brandi Sep 19, 2018

These college sweethearts are a happily married couple sustained by faith as the foundation for their love and business. With Brandi being the Creative and Brandon being the Analytic, their celebrated differences are exactly what make this partnership extraordinary.

Together Brandon & Brandi Carson have formed and run the wedding planning business Posh & Private. Their unique love story provides both the synergy and inspiration their clients rely on, when seeking wedding planning expertise. You too will gain so much wisdom from them today on how through effective communication you can to turn what you love into a living!

From this episode you will learn:

The unexpected way to balance business & romance
How to discover the best roles for you to each play in your relationship
The essentials to communicating authentically as a couple
The must-knows when planning your wedding

Questions asked in this interview:

Rapid fire: Where is home for you? How long have you been married? How did you first meet? Was it love at first sight?
How long were you married before starting a business together?
What inspired you to start Posh & Private?
What do you believe is essential for couples to know when starting to plan their wedding?
What’s in the way of couples communicating honestly with each other?
What do you believe is essential for couples to know when starting to plan their life after the wedding?
How has Faith played a role in your relationship?
How do you “balance” business and romance? Or do you believe that balance is more of a myth as its about integration?
What’s a challenge you have run into being in business together that you didn’t expect?
How do you celebrate in life after focused periods/phases in your business?

Connect with The Carsons:

http://www.poshandprivate.com

As budding innovators in the Wedding & Event Industry, their company, Posh & Private, is a collaboration of their love, passions and professional experiences.

Other resources from The Freemans:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Join the next Couples Goals Accelerator, the Online Live Group Program for Couples: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/couples-goals-accelerator-online-group-program

See you on the next episode!

How to Handle High Stress Times as a Couple: The Freemans Episode 30 Sep 05, 2018

Real talk for a minute, did you know that stress is linked to the top 5 causes of death? Obviously stress has an impact on your quality of life, and on how long you may even be around. The worst part about that is much of that stress is coming right from your relationship! Something that was originally meant to give support, love and compassion, vitality and LIFE!

On a lighter and more daily note, what if you could handle stress effective and feel ease, peace, play and creativity.

It’s time to no longer let money, work, outside circumstances become more powerful than the two of you as a team.

In this episode you will:

Know: the root source of stress and what keeps you stuck in it longer

Have: 3 ways to handle stress together and keep momentum going

Feel: Calm & Unstoppable (like superheros) no matter what shows up in your relationship

Other resources:

Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Meet_TheFreemans/

Join the next Couples Goals Accelerator, the Online Live Group Program for Couples: https://www.meetthefreemans.com/couples-goals-accelerator-online-group-program

Being a SoulFully Connected Couple : Jim + Ruth Sharon Aug 24, 2018

Meet this Soulful Couple, Jim & Ruth Sharon.

They work together as licensed therapists turned relationship coaches.

Yes, they have a ton of credibility but they have even MORE wisdom and love.

You will definitely love their book, Soulful Marriage as well as what they share in this interview.

What you will learn:

The key elements to a relationship lasting for 5 decades!
What it means to be a SoulFul couple
How to fill your cup individually to be a better partner for each other
How to handle disagreements in a healthy and empowering way
How you can keep the energy fresh and exciting after many years together
And more!

Questions asked in this interview:

Rapid Fire: How meet, how long married, where do you live, word to describe marriage?

How has marriage changed for you from the first 10 years, to 4 and 5 decades?
How did you develop healthy communication habits early on?
How do you keep the energy fresh with the same person for that long?
Do you prioritize your relationship connection over activities, to-do’s, business, etc?
What are your spiritual practices each day? And do you practice together or separately?
Do you believe there is only 1 Soulmate for each person?
Do people still have major challenges even when they are with their soulmate?
What does being a SoulFul Couple mean to you?
Do you have certain agreements with each other for arguments? Aka- agreements around yelling or cursing?
Have you noticed relationship dynamics change over the last few decades with technology? Do you see a correlation between technology and relationships changing?
What have you learned by being in business together?
What is one of the biggest things you hear couples in general struggle with?

About Guest Jim & Ruth:

From SoulFul Couples, married 48 year, Dr. Jim Sharon is a licensed psychologist and coach for committed couples seeking to evolve their love relationship. Jim has over 40 years of professional experience serving thousands of couples in counseling, relationship coaching, seminars, and retreats. He and his wife Ruth are the authors of Secrets of a Soulful Marriage: Creating & Sustaining a Loving, Sacred Relationship. Dr. Sharon is a Global member of the International Coaching Federation and the Colorado Chapter of ICF, where he served as a board member last year.

Learn more about them here: https://www.soulfulcouples.com

Additional Resources:

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3 Morning Habits to do with Your Partner to Have a Powerful Day: The Freemans Episode 28 Aug 08, 2018

Do you start your morning connected, peaceful and inspired?

Or do you start in a rush...hurrying to your phone, to get to a meeting, and barely have a chance to ask your partner what they are doing that day?

A common question we receive from couples is about how to start the morning, how to set daily intentions TOGETHER and how to do this in a short period of time, even 10 minutes.

Tune in to this mini podcast episode here on iTunes: 3 Morning Habits to do with Your Partner to Have a Powerful Day

Whether you have an hour, 10 mins or 30 mins...in this episode you will:

Know: the key difference between reacting or responding to life as a couple.

Have: 3 ways to proactively start your morning as a couple to be effective, productive and high vibe.

Feel: Peaceful and empowered to start your day together.

Other resources:

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See you on the next episode!

The Saver and The Spender in a Marriage: Michael + Kelsa Jul 25, 2018

Meet Kelsa & Michael Dickey, incredible people, and owners of one of the largest financial coaching company in Arizona. Michael is a self-proclaimed “spender” in the relationship, while Kelsa is a self-proclaimed “saver”. They share so openly and authentically about the lessons they’ve learned in marriage and in business together.

You will know just how to handle one person being a saver and one being a spender to have your money work for you. You will have powerful stories and principles about money, parenting and marriage; leaving you feeling peace and connection with your partner as you go on this journey of marriage together.

Questions Asked In This Interview:

Kelsa, What held you back from asking Michael for help in the business and with family?
Michael, how did you feel when she asked you for full-time help in the business?
How can couples have an easier transition into going into business together?
How can couples be more open and transparent with the roles at home?
What challenges do most couples run into with money?
Where does the “wing-it” syndrome with money come from?
Do money patterns come from inheriting them from our family or parents?
Is it ok to have one partner in a marriage be the spender and one the saver? If not, causes too much conflict, how do they overcome this money mentality?
We’ve talked to some couples who get advice from their parents about money, but times have also changed? Do you see that couples have different money management options that their parents didn’t have?
When is the “right” time to merge money together?

Quotes:

“The biggest hindrance is the 'good enough syndrome'....

well it's good enough, well we're not bad, but we're not

feeling in control or on the same page

with our money.”

About Them:

Michael is a self proclaimed spender and is the director of corporate training at Fiscal Fitness Phoenix. He was able to join his wife Kelsa in her financial coaching business full time two years ago and loves working together as a couple. Kelsa is the saver of the relationship. She grew up seeing her single mother constantly stressed over money and new that she wanted to help people never feel the same stress her mother felt. In addition to running Fiscal Fitness together, they are committed parents and incredible partners to each other.

Resources:

After the interview, also connect with them more at www.fiscalfitnessphx.com.

You will love this interview and the principles around money they share.

Connect with them today: www.fiscalfitnessphx.com and www.financialcoachacademy.com

Turn Jealousy Into Trust: The Freemans Jul 11, 2018

The last couple of weeks, several beautiful and smart women shared with us that they feel jealousy when they see their partner talk or text with another female, even if it’s for business or friendship. They shared that the jealousy even turns to resentment and starts to create a pattern of “checking up” on their partner and arguments and disconnection.

Whether you’re a male or female, or you’re the jealous one or partnered with someone is jealous; this short episode chat with The Freemans will give you the opportunity to turn that jealousy into trust and become even more connected with your partner.

You will hear in this episode:

3 sources of jealousy
3 ways to shift jealousy into trust
How to have your partner support you in transforming your jealousy

Quote:

“Jealousy is often coming from a past experience that's impacting you now.....but you can release that emotion & move into trust.”

Leverage Your Different Skills & Work Together Effectively: Jonathan + Dulcie Jun 27, 2018

How is it that a couple would make it on the UK list of top 10 most empowered couple? In this episode you will find out that is exactly what Johnathan and Dulcie have done, as they brought together their lives and business, to run the thriving Fen Dairy Farm in Bungay, U.K.

All of their business & relationship success, happiness and connection came from combining their individual and unique talents together to serve a bigger purpose. This is the mark of a power couple. Listen in to discover how you can leverage your different skills to work, play and live together effectively and successfully.

Questions asked in this interview

How did you combine your goals and decide to work together?
Are you able to balance business and romance or do they blend together?
How did you two become one of the top 10 Power Couples in the U.K.?
How do you keep fun and play alive in your relationship while also building the business?

In this episode you will learn:

How to leverage your different skills and talents in work but still work well together
How to reconnect to the reason you’re together after times of being disconnected
Why making family travel time a priority is so important
The power of having a vision as a couple, that is separate from your business vision.
The importance of having a diverse group of couples friends.
The power of emotional awareness and a hug during tough times.
How to make your partner a priority and making sure you have their back.

Quotes:

“It’s not just about sharing the good times. It’s also about sharing the work and having their back.”

Bio of guest:

Meet Jonathan & Dulcie Crickmore, living in Bungay, in the U.K. and they work and live on a farm that’s been in the family for 80 years. They have been named one of the U.K.’s top 10 empowered couples, and grown the business through leveraging their different skill-sets: Jonathan working more with his hands and with the animals, and Dulie focuses on marketing and branding for the farm. They are parents of two kids and have a passion for travel, and they make sure to travel for weeks out of every year.

Resources:

Guest resources: Connect more with this incredible guest here:http://fenfarmdairy.co.uk/

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Living The New American Dream Together: The Freemans Mar 27, 2018

The "American Dream" has always been to live in America as the land of opportunity. It was about the ability to have a family you love, move into a great house, drive a nice car, be friends with you neighbor and raise a family.

Is this still your American Dream or is this an "inherited dream" passed along to you by someone else? In this episode the Freemans explore what it really means to live the American Dream and to create a future for you and your relationship that is created by you and not just given to you.

Questions asked in this interview

1) What is your version of the American Dream?

2) Do you have a vision for your life and your relationship that is much bigger than material possessions and even yourself?

In this episode you will learn:

We are all meant to be creators of our own unique experience of life.

We do not just react to life's circumstances but we use the events in life to create our own vision when we have clarity on our relationship purpose.

Quotes:

"It is not about the creation, but about the creating in life."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Can A Relationship Work With Different Spiritual Beliefs?: The Freemans Mar 22, 2018

Getting to know one's spiritual beliefs usually happens pretty early on in a relationship. Its one of those foundations of a relationship where most feel their beliefs must match a potential partner.

There are times in established relationships, where an individuals spiritual beliefs change and now may be different from their partners. This can seem difficult to navigate as it seems to people as something that must be "overcome".

In this episode the Freemans dive into how to have a relationship continue and to thrive even when spiritual beliefs may not be the same.

Questions asked in this interview

1) Can you, as a finite human being, truly and fully understand the infinite?

2) Do you fully understand how even a blade of grass works in its entirety? If not is it possible that even your own beliefs of spirituality are not completely understood or necessarily right or wrong?

In this episode you will learn:

None of us completely know or experience God, Source or the infinite, so its not about having to have the same exact view as your partner.

Its more about seeing your spiritual differences as a way to more deeply know each other and have an even more complete experience of spirituality through conversations with your partner.

Quotes:

"Do you fully understand how even a blade of grass works in its entirety?"

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

How To Create Shared Friends In Your Relationship: The Freemans Mar 19, 2018

When you first enter into a relationship, isnt one for the first obstacles how to create your combined friends together? Each individual has their friendships coming into a relationship and sometimes deciding how to merge the two, or which ones to spend time with becomes a significant question for the growth of a relationship.

In this episode the Freemans cover the Social aspect of a relationship and how to create a group of friends that support the grow of your relationship vision and have a community that supports both of you!

Questions asked in this interview

1) Do we try and merge our individual groups of friends together into one group?

2) What if I do not like some of the friends my partner has?

In this episode you will learn:

How to create a balanced social life together as you form your relationship.

How to assess and determine the types of friendships that will best support the growth of your relationship and not be a hindrance.

Quotes:

"Your friendships are like your fourth grade teacher. There are times when you have learned what there is to learn, and you graduate to your next teacher."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

How The "Honeymoon Phase" Can Last Forever : The Freemans Mar 15, 2018

Does the honeymoon phase just go away after some period of time? Is that only in the beginning? Is that only in dating? Is that only when you first get married or is there something we can shift? Is it something we can have the experience of, dare I say for our whole relationship?

Together the Freemans dive into the conversation around experiencing the excitement and joy of being in a relationship as the new normal!

Questions asked in this interview

What really is the experience of the "honeymoon phase" in a relationship?

In this episode you will learn:

1) The honeymoon phase is just the level of uncertainty within your relationship. That you can intentionally elevate all throughout your relationship together.

2) The honeymoon phase is not anything that just fades on its own, its when you stop creating and allow your relationship to be a part of your routine.

Quotes:

"As human beings we are program to survive, so being in a relationship for a certain period of time becomes a default part of our life."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Only 69% Of People Have More Than $1000 Savings: The Freemans Mar 13, 2018

I was taught that I was supposed to save as much as I could and that brought me security. Hence why we talk about what is your meaning of money as a couple, as a couple, but even as an individual inside of your relationship. Is it for security? Is it for status as a for enjoyment or control, and for me, I went to my engineering job, I earned a salary and it was all about stockpiling. It was about making that savings account as big as possible because it brought me a sense of security and can I say that I had a lot of enjoyment around money? No, not really at all. And when I went to purchase by invest into things like clothes or shoes, it was very difficult for me to actually kind of let go actually as I think about this. Contributing and giving to other people was very difficult because now with my mindset stockpiling for security, I always saw items from myself or giving to others as reducing what I had.

Questions asked in this interview

What does money really mean to you?

Are you thinking too short term about money and what you want to experience?

In this episode you will learn:

Setting up money buckets

How to shift your mindset around money to attract more.

Quotes:

"Saving and enjoying money happen at the same time!"

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Challenging Your Partner To Grow Outside Their Comfort Zone: Lon + Sandy Mar 06, 2018

What an honor it is to connect with Sandy and Lon in this episode, as not only have they committed themselves to a 54 year marriage, but they have given their past 15 years to helping couples design their own relationship.

Relationships are all about growth as individuals and as a couple, so join us as Sandy and Lon share about how to "challenge" your partner to grow outside their comfort zone.

Questions asked in this interview

What would you say is the purpose of a romantic relationship?
What do you see is one of the biggest challenges in the current idea of relationships?
If a couple feels their life is far off from their ideal design, where can they begin?
How can you challenge your partner to grow, when uncomfortable or reach any limitation?
How do you handle tense conversations or disagreements? Does it get easier over time?
Is there anything you wish you could go back and tell yourselves 20 years ago?

In this episode you will learn:

What the highest level intention is for your relationship.
How to "challenge" your partner to grow beyond their comfort zone to strengthen your relationship.

Quotes:

"Previously, relationships were seen as a way to get something, that otherwise you wouldn't obtain"

Bio of guest:

Joining us today is Lon and Sandy Golnick, co-founders of Relationship By Design, together they have been leading workshops, seminars and trainings in the fields of relationships, families and business relations for over 40 years. They bring 53 years of marriage, plus their experience as parents of two daughters and six grandchildren.

Lon and Sandy have the unique skill to listen intently and compassionately to engage people in being full partners to generate new opportunities in their relationships. They are dedicated to you experiencing being intimately related, appreciated and fulfilled. Lets jump right in to hearing from them how to Challenge Your Partner To Grow Outside Their Comfort Zone!

Resources:

Connect more with this incredible guest here: http://relationshipbydesign.com

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Bring Play & Intimacy Into Your Relationship: Anaiya + Pete Jan 19, 2018

This interview is one-of-a-kind with an incredible couple who shares about creating a “New Paradigm” partnership in practical ways.

Meet an incredible couple, Anaiya & Pete, living primarily in the South of France.

They share about pure miracles in their partnership, including how Pete LITERALLY showed up at Anaiya’s doorstep when she was convinced she would be single.

Questions asked in this interview:

How did you two meet?
Why do you believe people pursue relationship? Why do they want them?
Share a little more about what a “new paradigm” partnership is vs an “old paradigm partnership.”
How do you know when to just laugh something off or “keep it light” vs when do dive deep into a conversation together?
Is there a way you ask each other when you have permission to go deeper into a trigger point or “wound”?
What are some ways you keep it fun and light when it could have instead turned into a serious moment?
Pete, you said your favorite thing about partnership is “presence,” what does presence look like to you within a sacred union?
Pete, would you share with the group about what guided you to feel your previous divorce “completion” was in alignment?
Anaiya, did you write your book “Sacred Relationships” while you were with Pete?
How do you two play together?

In this episode you will learn:

How Anaiya met Pete literally at her doorstep when she lived in the middle of nowhere (miracles are real).
What is a “Sacred Relationship.”
How to balance fun/play and deep transformation work together as a couple.
Some practical masculine and feminine differences.
Exercises you can implement in the moment of “tension” to bring light energy to the situation.
Why it’s important to have an “inner marriage” within yourself as well as the “outer marriage” with your partner.
How to have compassion for your past partners (even past marriages) supports your current partnership
And so much more about the “new paradigm” of relationships

Bio of guest:

Anaiya Sophia is an independent mystic of an almost forgotten faith and a teacher of Kundalini Yoga. She carries an Oral Transmission from the Sacred Feminine Mysteries which she weaves into all her gatherings. She co-authored several incredible books, including our personal favorite: Sacred Relationships (a must read).

Pete is nobody’s fool first-three-Chakras-up man from a man’s background as a soldier, a climber, a divorcee but believer in the truth of loving Sacred Union, which as he sees it is The Work of Love. He brings to relating the ever-deepening quest for personal truth, integrity with courage and the determination it takes to face his own Shadows as the only true route through which he and we can open to the Light and Mystery of Love.

Together they run a beautiful and sacred bed & breakfast in the South of France.

Their favorite thing about partnership:

Anaiya- Impeccability

Pete- Presence

Resources:

Guest resources: Connect more with this incredible guest here: https://anaiyasophia.com

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

What If My Partner & I Want Different Things? : The Freemans Dec 20, 2017

It is on our hearts to speak on this topic about "What if my partner and I want different things?" as we have heard this from a number of the couples that we have mentored in the last few months.

This may seem like a depressing question to have come up, as it gives the feeling of "SHOOT" are we not on the same page? This can even lead to the thought of: "is this not the right relationship for me?"

Have no fear or dismay, at some point we think most couples will ask this question, as its just a natural function of life... expansion and growth. We are not the same people form year to year so why would your relationship stay the same? This question just points to that its time to revisit and clarify what you both desire and how that fits into your vision together.

Questions asked in this interview:

1) What is your Partnership Vision Statement?

2) What would you like more of in your relationship?

In this episode you will learn:

1) Its about asking better questions

2) The importance of clarity around your vision together

3) If something doesn't seem to be working, go more general

4) Its all about growth, so find out what area in life your partner is interested in growing themselves. This can be anything!

Quotes:

"Trade expectation for appreciation."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

Are Women Expecting Too Much From Men? : Jocelyn Freeman Nov 22, 2017

I felt guided to talk today about a question I've received from several women this week (funny enough how it's shown up so much recently) from both single women AND women in relationships: "Am I expecting too much from him?"

I love this question because I have had it come up many times. In my marriage sometimes I catch myself asking if I have unrealistic expectations. In this episode I offer you two different questions to ask yourself to find out if you are expecting too much from him AND what you can do about it. Enjoy!

Questions asked in this interview:

How do I know if I am expecting too much from him?

Are my expectations really just requests I haven’t vocalized yet?

In this episode you will learn:

How to fulfill your needs so you are 100% fulfilled and everything he offers is a BONUS.
How to communicate your requests to him

Quotes:

“When I fill my cup completely and love myself, everything he offers is a bonus on top of it.”

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow them on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

I Was Convinced I Would Be Single Forever : Aaron Freeman Nov 15, 2017

A friend asked me recently, "I know you are about having other couples fulfill their dreams together. But why are relationships so important to you?" This question made me travel back in time and look over my life as to what relationships meant to me back in grade school and through college.

What I ended up rediscovering is that I honestly believed at one point that not only would I probably never get married, but I would be single forever. My specific religious upbringing rooted fear around premarital sex and with so much evidence that I wasn't desired (being broken up with, cheated on and in one moment, feeling I had no support from my parents) gave me the belief that I was all alone in a dangerous world.

Questions asked in this interview:

1) What beliefs have been limiting you from creating the relationship that fulfills both of your dreams together?

In this episode you will learn:

Thankfully, none of us are products of the circumstances that have come up in our lives. However there are many things that may have happened to you in the past that have created beliefs about yourself that are totally false. However they have been running your life like they are the reality. This may even be currently running in your relationship now.

Quotes:

"I was sure I'd be single forever. Until..."

Resources:

Connect more with The Freemans at www.MeetTheFreemans.com and follow on instagram: @meet_thefreemans

How Everyday Life Is An Adventure : Scotty King + Leslie Melody Jul 11, 2017

Scotty King & Leslie Medley see everyday life in a whole new way!

Adventure is their fuel for their life and partnership. Scotty & Leslie are an inspiring couple who are truly designing their dream life: travel and contribution. This EmPowered Couple travelled all over the world for six months this year and shared their adventures in a beautiful and thought proving BLOG/VLOG called American Wanderlove.

You can see that they are not open to living a life inside any boundaries--they create a freedom lifestyle.

In this podcast you will hear:

-How they stayed connected while dating long distance (in really creative ways)

-How timing in life was a major factor for their relationship being successful. They don’t think they would have worked if they started dating years before they did.

-Some of their favorite personal development books

-How they were able to travel in Asia for 6 months this last year and come right back to jobs

AND MORE.

How To Master Marriage & Parenting : Egbert + Joy Savvadra Jun 25, 2017

Egbert and Joy live in Tucson AZ and have been married for 17 years with two children, ages 9 and 6 years old. Eggbert is a top retina surgeon and investor while Joy is a miraculous mom, angel investor and has a network marketing business. They love to travel with our family and experience other cultures. It is important to them that their children grow up having compassion, love and empathy for others.

This is reflected in the way they interact and communicate with people and shows their mentality around how they raise their children. They feel that a key component to the success of our marriage is open communication. They give us all keys to Mastering Marriage and Parenting.

What It Really Means To Be A Man in the Relationship : Aaron Freeman Jun 01, 2017

Join Aaron in this episode to hear about what it means to "Be a Man" in relationships today. Being the man in a relationship used to mean that men were expected to act a certain way in a relationship. Well there is a shift happening as that old paradigm is not working anymore. Maybe it never really has.

Guys, here are 4 values and keys to the new way of "being a man" in a relationship, one that leaves you with more peace, satisfaction and to create an extraordinary relationship.

Women, its time men showed up differently, not only so that you can fly and discover your purpose but that relationships can truly be thriving!

Become Unstoppable & Never Settle On Your Dreams : Nyraine + Ymane Mar 28, 2017

Tune in to hear this couple, Mr & Mrs Unstoppable.

These two radiate the term, "Never settle" because they truly believe that everyone can really partner with someone who brings out their greatness.

Hear this couple share about their experience with ending previous marriages and the lessons that changed their perspective on relationships in a beautiful way.

They share one of the most empowering views on divorce we have ever heard.Also hear from them about becoming best selling authors on Amazon & their mission with their book, The Poetry of Relationships.

These two are making a massive difference and we can see why they are called, Mr & Mrs Unstoppable.

Learn more about this couple on their website: www.MrAndMrsUnstoppable. And to connect more with The Freemans, you can find them on Instagram & FB @Meet_TheFreemans and www.newpowercouples.com

Experience Love At Second Sight: Deric + Tiffany Czarapata Mar 14, 2017

These two represent individual strength & an unbreakable bond together. Tune in to hear Tiffany & Deric share about their commitment to personal development & how they believe that is KEY to a strong marriage. These two participate in seminars, read books, work with a life coach--all to continuously keep building themselves up and live a phenomenal life. They believe that is what also allows them to work together in business. They thrive in their strengths and their differences and truly love working in a family business.

Deric is generous in his sharing about previous barriers that they both worked through in his perception of partnership. This couple is so authentic and fun-loving.

You will love to hear their values & their story.

You can also find their local business, Pop-A-Lock servicing all over Arizona. popalock.com

Reigniting Your Connection In Your Relationship: The Freemans Feb 15, 2017

Ignite Your Connection To Your Partner! Tune in to this weeks podcast where we talk about a FAIL-PROOF way to notice when you feel disconnected from your partner & how to re-ignite that deep connection. It starts at the level of communication, where are we holding back what we truly desire to say, and how does that create an experience of disconnection. Hear genuine stories that explain how this applies to ALL relationships at some point or another. These principles can also be applied to friendships and family! See link in bio. And when you enjoy the podcast, please write a review. #PurposefulPartnership #PurposefulLiving

Being In It To Win It, Not Just For A Minute : Andrew Annacone + Bela Gandhi Dec 21, 2016

Andrew & Bela say, “we aren’t in it for a minute, we are in it to win it.” Tune in to hear this dynamic couple share about shifting their friendship into a romantic partnership. These two are powerful in their careers: Bela is the Founder of Smart Dating Academy & regularly featured on national media like the Steve Harvey show for her relationship & matchmaking expertise; and Andrew has helped large organizations with powerful strategic planning. AND at the same time, they also balance a beautiful family with two children and 19 years of marriage.

Tune in to hear how they use “de-escalation” as a method to break up the energy in arguments; how to facilitate conversations about money; and balancing business & personal life.

You won’t want to miss this interview!

How Unexpected Partnership Lead To Unexpected Fame : Rob + Allison Dubois Nov 30, 2016

Meet Joe + Allison DuBois.

While their story inspired the famous Television series, The Medium, their partnership began long before the show. They met 13 years before this television show shifted their life. Tune in to hear more about this unique couple. Not only are they incredible to hear from because they've been a part of the creation of The Amber Alert in Arizona, working with the District Attorney's Office in the Homicide Department, but also because they balance their careers beautifully with their family life. They are known and respected (both in real life and their television depiction) for parenting three incredible young women & having a thriving relationship. In this episode you will get: 1)The secrets behind a 23 year marriage and still having fun & keeping play alive. 2)Adapting in relationships, especially when you experience fame overnight & keeping your partnership a priority. 3)Attracting wealth & keeping your priorities in alignment. 4)Keeping the mindset of "YES" in life & partnership.

Grow Your Biz While Growing Your Partnership: Chris + Lori Harder Nov 10, 2016

Chris & Lori Harder live in Santa Monica, CA and are all about growing a business (in their case multiple businesses), creating a huge impact & having fun all while keeping personal boundaries.

They have built a massive 7 figure business around physical health and wellness through nutrition, tailored workouts and creating a tribe of happy people.

Though this journey they have launched their own podcasts with over a million downloads each, written books, invested into socially conscious businesses and shown so many others how to do the same. All of this happens while keeping their marriage and relationship thriving. How do they do it all?

You will LOVE this interview with this beautiful couple, Lori & Chris. In this episode you will get: 1. How to make sure YOU are taken care of (even while busy) 2. The mindset behind growing together through it all. 3. The way to thrive in your business, especially Network Marketing. 4. The power in finding out what you're "not good at." 5. How to keep romance & fun in your relationship after years! This interview is not to be missed! You'll listen to this and feel freakin buzzing. Resources: For The Love Of Money Podcast - Chris Harder: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/for-love-money-podcast-business-philanthropy-entrepreneur/id1215523596?mt=2 Earn Your Happy Podcast - Lori Harder: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/earn-your-happy-podcast-motivation-self-love-entrepreneurship/id1087926635?mt=2

From Creating Your Vision To Making It Reality: Rob Berkley + Debbie Phillips Oct 26, 2016

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I have such a big dream for my life and I just don't know how to make it happen"? We have that exact answer for you in this vision driven interview with Rob and Debbie.

This powerful duo will provide you with powerful and and actionable "nuggets" of inspiration that will give you and your partner CLARITY & peace of mind about your future. You'll want to hear from this #NewPowerCouple

Debbie is the former deputy press secretary for U.S. Senator John Glenn and founder of “Women on Fire”, a top woman's community for inspiration, strategies and support to live the life of your dreams. She uses her gift to see and nurture other's strengths and talents.

Rob is one of the highest ranking Master Certified Coaches with the ICF and has helped thousands of entrepreneurs, executives, couples and corporate teams articulate their mission and strategic direction. He has been described as a cross between Yoda, Gandhi and Perry Mason for the touch of “The Force” he brings to his work.

Break The Limits On Your Relationship By Overcoming Fear: The Freemans Oct 11, 2016

Join us on this episode where we break through that which holds us all back in life and in relationships.... FEAR. Whether you are dating, recently married or have been married for years, let this episode take your relationship to new heights.

Healing Thru Words: Arnaud St. Paul + Roxana Jones Sep 12, 2016

As authors and leaders of an international community, this Power Couple will open your eyes to another level of being partners in business and in life together.

Roxana & Arnaud dive right into their spiritual growth as individuals and in their relationship. Find out how "heartfulness" can elevate your mental, emotional, and spiritual freedom. You might have heard the term "mindfulness," now learn the power of moving from your head and into your heart.

Tune in and hear what's possible when two extraordinary people come together with a common vision.

Unifying Family, Business & Community : Doug Saunders + Catherine Anaya Sep 12, 2016

After believing they would never be open to love again, Catherine & Doug share their keys to overcoming fears and unifying family. Many people know Catherine for her media career as a TV host and her contributions in the community, and Doug for being a highly successful business owner and charisma--but these two share how you can truly thrive in your career AND partnership. Tune in for this genuine, raw and fun conversation.

Living A Rock Star Life & Leaving A Legacy From Faith: Alice + Sheryl Cooper Sep 12, 2016

Rock & Roll Legend Alice Cooper and his Wife Sheryl have lived with the high demand of traveling the world and experiencing celebrity for over 40 years! Many of those years were living in the rock & roll party world of (yes you guessed it.... Sex, Drugs, Rock & Roll).

Sheryl was trained in classic ballet and met Alice when she was 18 years old and selected to be in one of his shows. She barely knew about rock and roll at the time. She continued to dance with his tour for a year and then they married in 1976 in Mexico.

In 2011 Alice was inducted into rock and roll hall of fame and they are both proud of how they "married" classical broadway and rock together. They have 3 kids and live in Arizona. They now have a non-profit Solid Rock Teen Center, that serves inner-city teens in AZ. The Teen Center gives kids a safe place to gather, feel safe and explore their music talents when that would otherwise not be available.

Through all of those years this power couple has a strong relationship of love that all comes from a simple "Solid Rock" foundation of faith in God, which Alice says is what saved is life.

In this episode you will get:

1) Their life experience of marriage, trust, faith and where commitment truly comes from.

Quotes:

“Never waste a good crisis”

Resources:

Alice Cooper's Solid Rock Teen Center: https://www.alicecoopersolidrock.com