Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Latest Episodes:

Unplugging Childhood (Less Scrolling, More Living) — with Jean Twenge Oct 28, 2025

Show notes

What happens when our kids spend nine hours a day on screens? Dr Justin Coulson sits down with world-leading researcher Professor Jean Twenge (author of Ten Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World) to unpack the hidden costs of our always-online culture — and how parents can reclaim calm, connection and control. From brain changes to “go touch grass” moments, Jean shares the science behind tech overload and practical rules that actually work.

KEY POINTS:

Why social media under 16 is a terrible idea — and why government regulation matters
The shocking truth about teens’ 9-hour daily screen time
How smartphones reshape childhood: less sleep, less play, less joy
The “basic phone” revolution — why dumb phones might just save your child’s brain
How to set firm rules (without becoming the enemy)
Real-world freedom: why outdoor play is safer than scrolling
The single biggest rule every parent should enforce tonight

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:

“In ten years we’ll look back at giving kids smartphones at age eleven and think — what were we thinking?” — Professor Jean Twenge

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Ten Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World — Professor Jean Twenge
Heads Up Alliance (Australia)
Beginner Phones for Tweens & Teens [Free PDF from Rebecca Sparrow]
Wait Until 8th Movement
The Light Phone
Unplugged Parenthood

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

No phones in bedrooms. Ever.
Delay social media until at least 16 — ideally later.
Swap smartphones for basic phones to keep kids connected, not consumed.
Model healthy tech habits — your kids are watching.
Encourage real-world independence — let them walk, play, and explore offline.

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Raising Kids Who Don’t Need to Win to Feel Worthy Oct 27, 2025

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When your child has to come first—whether it’s up the stairs or at bedtime—it can drive the whole family mad. But there’s more behind that competitiveness than you might think. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on when kids can’t handle losing, and how to guide them toward healthy confidence instead of constant comparison.

KEY POINTS:

Why competition and young kids don’t mix
The developmental stages that make “winning” feel like a need, not a want
How competence and self-worth get tangled together
Simple strategies to help kids lose gracefully—and win kindly
Why home should be a safe space to “win” without pressure

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:

“For me to feel good, I shouldn’t have to make you feel bad. That’s the problem with competition for young kids.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson
10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know by Dr Justin Coulson

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

Relax—it’s normal for young kids to want to win.
Play low-stakes games to help them practise losing.
Model losing (and winning) with grace.Teach them to find joy in helping others shine.
Let life be the teacher—your job is to provide a soft landing.

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Inside the New Social Media Ban for Aussie Kids [with Julie Inman Grant] Oct 26, 2025

Show notes

A world-first law is about to change how Aussie kids use social media — forever.
From December 10, children 16 and under will be banned from holding social accounts. But what does that really mean for families?

In this special extended episode, Dr Justin Coulson speaks with Julie Inman Grant, Australia’s eSafety Commissioner, about the new age-limit legislation — who it covers, how it will work, what fines apply, and what parents must do now to prepare.

This is the definitive guide for every parent trying to navigate the online world — with calm, clarity, and confidence.

KEY POINTS

What the new under-16 social media ban actually includes (and who’s exempt)
How eSafety will enforce compliance — and why parents won’t be penalised
The five-step “layered safety” approach every platform must follow
What’s being done to restrict online porn and explicit content
The truth about “nudifying” apps and how schools can respond
Simple ways to help your child transition off social media safely

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Parents shouldn’t have to fight billion-dollar companies to keep their kids safe online — the responsibility belongs with the platforms.” — Julie Inman Grant

RESOURCES MENTIONED

eSafety Commissioner resources & webinars
Deep-fake & image-based-abuse school toolkit
Beyond Blue, Headspace, Reach Out, Kids Helpline

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Talk with your child about the upcoming change — and why it matters.
Help them download photos or memories they want to keep before Dec 10.
Set up approved messaging groups to stay connected safely.
Bookmark trusted influencers or sites they can follow directly.
Visit esafety.gov.au for family checklists and guides.

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Rupture, Repair, Repeat — The Real Parenting Cycle Oct 23, 2025

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Even parenting experts don’t always nail it. In this heartfelt “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow” episode, Justin and Kylie open up about those moments when good intentions go sideways — and what it really takes to repair connection with your kids. From tearful teenage meltdowns to awkward dinner-table confessions, this is an honest, hope-filled reminder that your love matters more than your mistakes.

KEY POINTS:

Why even the best parents get it wrong sometimes — and why that’s okay
How to apologise with authenticity (without making excuses)
The power of “creating a culture” of open, honest conversation
Why repair matters more than perfection
How strong family relationships let kids talk about anything
Teaching teens accountability and empathy through your own example

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:

“My love for you is bigger than all the walkouts in the world.” — Dr Justin Coulson

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

When conflict happens, pause — don’t react.
Say sorry sincerely when you’ve messed up.
Focus on rebuilding connection, not being right.
Create safe spaces for tricky or blush-worthy conversations.
Keep reminding your kids: your love is unconditional.

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What “Addicted to Screens” Really Means for Your Family Oct 22, 2025

Show notes

A new study is making headlines — not because kids are on screens too much, but because many can’t stop. Dr Justin Coulson unpacks fresh research linking addictive screen use (not screen time itself) with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts in teens. Learn what “addiction” really means, why it’s not an official diagnosis, and how to protect your child without constant conflict.

KEY POINTS

The latest data from the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development Study shows addictive patterns of screen use — not hours online — are tied to poorer mental health.
“Addictive” use means kids feel distress when not online, use screens to regulate emotions, or can’t stop even when it causes problems.
There’s no official “screen addiction” diagnosis, but the behaviour patterns are real — and concerning.
Justin shares practical strategies using the Three E’s of Effective Discipline to reduce conflict and foster healthy habits.
Real-life example: how the Coulson family handled screen boundaries with collaboration, not control.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Time on a device isn’t the problem. It’s when kids can’t stop that their mental health starts to suffer.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development (ABCD) Study, JAMA Psychiatry, June 2024
Screen "addiction" and mental Health - Technosapiens
Tools: Freedom App, Forest App, Brick, Unplug Childhood
Framework: The Three E’s of Effective Discipline (Explore, Explain, Empower)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Have a calm conversation about how and why your child uses screens.
Model mindful use — show your own limits and honesty about the struggle.
Create structure, not punishment — consistent times, agreed limits.
Watch for red flags like irritability, secrecy, or big emotions when screens are removed.
Offer alternatives — list 10+ enjoyable non-screen activities your child can choose from.

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When “Mummy Wine Time” Stops Being Funny [with Victoria Vanstone] Oct 21, 2025

Show notes

It starts as a joke — “Mummy needs wine!” — but for many parents, that glass at the end of the day becomes more than just a meme. In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Dr Justin Coulson talks with author and “Sober Awkward” podcast host Victoria Vanstone about her journey from party girl to sober mum — and how she broke free from the culture that told her alcohol was the answer. This episode will challenge how you see drinking, motherhood, and what self-care really means.

KEY POINTS:

How alcohol became part of Victoria’s identity — and why it took motherhood to question it
The emotional and social pressures behind “Mummy Wine Time” culture
Why drinking in front of kids sends powerful hidden messages
The quiet shame of “normal” drinking habits — and what to do if you’re starting to question yours
The rise of “sober curious” parenting and what it looks like in real life

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“It’s not really about alcohol. It’s about who you were before it — and who comes after it.” — Victoria Vanstone

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

A Thousand Wasted Sundays by Victoria Vanstone
Mumming by Victoria Vanstone
Podcast: Sober Awkward

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

Reflect on the messages your kids receive when they see you drinking or joking about it.
If you’re curious about cutting back, start with a “sober curious” mindset — it’s about questioning, not quitting.
Talk to your partner or a trusted friend about how alcohol fits (or doesn’t fit) in your family life.
Explore support options — books, podcasts, therapy, or sober communities — if alcohol feels like it’s taking more than it gives.

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From Awkward to Awesome: How to Talk About Anything With Your Kids Oct 20, 2025

Show notes

Ever wish you could talk to your kids about the big stuff — without it feeling awkward or heavy? In this episode, Justin and Kylie show you how to make tricky conversations a normal (and even fun) part of family life. From friendship dramas to body safety, honesty, and screens, discover how to help your kids open up, think deeply, and learn to navigate life with confidence.

KEY POINTS:

How to start having “tricky talks” — even with 5- and 7-year-olds
Why weekly conversations build trust and emotional safety
Conversation starters that aren’t awkward or forced
Turning everyday moments into teachable moments
The ultimate question every parent should ask their child

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:

“Let your kids know there’s no topic that’s off limits. When they trust you with the little things, they’ll come to you with the big ones.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Relationship Rules and What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson
Have a tricky parenting question? Ask us here.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

Schedule a weekly 15-minute “tricky talk” with your kids.
Start light — use silly “would you rather” questions to build comfort.
Gradually introduce deeper topics like kindness, honesty, or friendship.
Ask your child what they think before you give advice.
Try a “parent performance appraisal” — ask your kids how loved and understood they feel.

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When Kids Break Stuff: Teaching Accountability Without Shame or Punishment Oct 19, 2025

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Your child smashes a TV. Or floods the bathroom. Or writes off the car. What now?

In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack one of parenting’s trickiest questions: should our kids pay for the damage they cause? You’ll hear real family stories, a breakdown of natural vs logical consequences, and a powerful mindset shift that helps kids take ownership without shame — and keeps relationships intact.

KEY POINTS

Why “natural consequences” aren’t the same as punishment
How to teach accountability without blame, guilt, or control
The “OAR vs BED” principle: helping kids own mistakes and grow from them
When (and how) to talk about reparations or paying for damages
How to balance compassion, responsibility, and fairness

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Discipline isn’t about punishment. It’s about problem solving — together.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Happy Families Membership
10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know by Dr Justin Coulson
Entitled [Upcoming Live Webinar]

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

When something breaks, pause before reacting.
Ask: “What does my child need right now?” — not “What consequence fits this?”
Guide your child toward ownership, accountability, and reparation.
Keep the relationship more important than the thing.

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Keep Calm and Curry On — The Sweet Taste of Failure Oct 16, 2025

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What happens when you pour condensed milk instead of coconut milk into your family curry? Justin’s kitchen disaster could’ve ended in chaos—but instead, it became a story of laughter, grace, and doing better tomorrow.

In this heartwarming (and hilarious) episode, Justin and Kylie share their biggest parenting fails—from theme park terrors to dinner gone wrong—and reveal the secret ingredient that makes family life truly happy.

KEY POINTS

Why laughter is essential for a happy home
How to turn small failures into powerful family memories
The psychology of fear (and what a rollercoaster taught Kylie about courage)
Justin’s sweet-but-sour curry disaster: a lesson in humility and humour
The real reason “doing better tomorrow” matters more than getting it right today

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“If you want to have a happy family, you’ve got to laugh. Laughter makes family life happy.” — Dr Justin Coulson

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Happy Families Podcast: Why Exam Results Don’t Define Your Child — or Their Future
Article: The Exam Pressure Trap: How to Help Your Teen Without Adding to Their Stress
Justin Coulson’s Book: 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Find the funny — When family life feels messy, look for a reason to laugh.
Model grace — Mistakes are moments to connect, not criticise.
Try again tomorrow — The best families aren’t perfect; they just keep showing up.

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How to Feel Like You Have More Time (Even When You Don’t) Oct 15, 2025

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If you ever feel like there’s never enough time — this episode is your deep breath. Justin and Kylie unpack the idea of “time abundance” — how to slow life down when the to-do list never ends. From the psychology of feeling rushed to practical ways to reclaim calm, this is your permission slip to stop racing and start living with more space, energy, and joy.

KEY POINTS

Most of us undervalue our time — we tick off easy tasks instead of what truly matters.
Protecting your time doesn’t mean saying no to family; it means saying yes intentionally.
Feeling time-rich comes from being mindful in the moment, not just managing the clock.
Giving your time to others actually makes you feel like you have more time.
Buy yourself back time when you can — small choices (like grocery delivery or help with chores) reduce pressure and create calm.
Scrolling isn’t rest. True breaks come from presence, connection, and purpose.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“You don’t build a relationship watching the clock.” — Dr Justin Coulson

RESOURCES MENTIONED