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How to Make Time with Your Partner a Priority - EP238 Aug 03, 2023

Do you think you’re too busy to spend time with your partner?

Between running our own businesses and the responsibilities of parenting, our schedules are packed. But we still find time to make our relationship a priority.

What does that look like? And why is it so important?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the emotional intimacy that comes from spending time with your partner and describe how making your relationship a priority improves other aspects of your life.

We explain what it means to balance independence with togetherness in a marriage and explore how healing yourself as an individual affects your relationship with your significant other.

Listen in for insight on modeling the kind of relationship you want for your children and learn how to let your partner know they’re worth it by scheduling intentional time together.

Key Takeaways

How building a solid relationship impacts your parenting and business

What it means to balance independence vs. togetherness in your relationship

The danger in relying on your partner to fix your stuff or make you happy

Why it’s crucial to have a shared vision of the future with your partner

What it looks like to make time with your partner a priority and why it’s important

Why you should model the kind of relationship you want for your kids

The value of demonstrating conflict resolution in front of your children

How healing as an individual affects your relationship with your significant other

The emotional intimacy that comes from spending time with your partner

How to let your partner know they’re worth it by scheduling time together

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Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

A New Approach to Resolving Conflict in Your Relationship - EP237 Jul 27, 2023

Conflict is just part of life. You can’t avoid it.

But you can navigate conflict effectively to repair and even grow your relationship.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our approach to resolving conflict in our relationship, describing how our internal battles impact the way we interact with others.

We explain what happens when you allow conflict to fester in your body and why couples get nowhere when we try to resolve conflict in a heightened emotional state.

Listen in for insight on recognizing the patterns of conflict in your relationship and learn how to be curious rather than critical when your partner loses their sh*t.

Key Takeaways

The relationship between conflict and our conditioned beliefs

How we create internal conflict when we blame circumstances or others for our problems

How internal battles impact our health and the way we interact with others

Why it’s only possible to repair conflict in a relationship when your nervous system is regulated

How different people react to conflict differently, e.g.: get angry or shut down

What happens when you allow conflict to fester in your body

Why it’s crucial to repair internal AND external conflict to grow in your relationship

How couples get nowhere when we try to resolve conflict in a heightened emotional state

How to develop an awareness of the patterns of conflict in your relationship

The value in asking your partner what they need when they’re triggered

How to have compassion for yourself when you lose your sh*t

How to be curious rather than critical in your approach to conflict

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Mallory’s Reel on Podcasting with Jeremiah

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Unveiling the Secrets to a Thriving and Lasting Relationship - EP236 Jul 20, 2023

"Holding space and creating that is probably one of the most important things that your partner doesn't know that they need." - Jeremiah Campbell

Have you ever wondered if you are cultivating a thriving and lasting relationship with your partner?

You might think you are, but you might be overlooking some things that could help you more effectively support each other's growth—things your partner doesn't even know they need that could help you uncover unexplored depths of love and connection in your relationship.

Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're sharing some transformative insights from our couple's mastermind work. We'll guide you through thought-provoking questions that will empower you with the tools to have the meaningful conversations that foster true connection.

Jeremiah reveals the crucial element that holds the key to lasting connection and the secret that will transform your partnership. While Mallory shares the sneaky behaviors that create a disconnect and an energy leak in your relationship that can lead to significant distance between you and your partner. Plus, the one thing you aren't asking your partner that could be the key to supporting their self-growth.

Listen in as we explore the significance of open conversations in assessing the current state of your changing roles, the power of small gestures and micro-moments to fortify and deepen your connection, and other tips and insights to enhance your relationship.

This is just a preview of the types of transformative discussions we delve into in our couple’s mastermind. If you want a deeper exploration that will strengthen and support your relationship, our next couple’s mastermind is COMING SOON! Connect with Jeremiah or Mallory on Instagram to learn more, and remember to spread the word to others who might benefit from listening to the show.

Key Takeaways

The secret to captivating social media content

The sneaky behaviors that are stifling your connection

The power of uncomfortable conversations in relationships

The key to supporting your partner's desires

The #1 factor that will help you and your partner unlock LONGTERM relationship success

How to support the evolving roles in your relationship to sustain your love for the long-haul

6 ways to supercharge your relationship and foster personal growth for BOTH partners

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How to Unlock the Power of Boundaries - EP235 Jul 07, 2023

What are boundaries?

Boundaries help you define what you are comfortable with—they reflect your self-awareness and your understanding of what aligns with your values.

Setting boundaries is an essential practice that empowers us to create a safe and healthy environment for ourselves, promoting greater personal well-being and more fulfilling relationships.

But we must be specific and self-aware to establish boundaries that truly serve us.

Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're diving deep into boundaries and shedding light on the importance of setting (and upholding) boundaries that align with our core values and personal well-being.

Mallory provides valuable insights on the various types of boundaries and practical tips for protecting yourself from absorbing negative energy. While Jeremiah shares his perspective on boundaries, specifically in the area of time management and setting clear boundaries to prevent others from encroaching on your valuable time. Plus, how to help your children set boundaries that protect them.

Listen in to discover how boundaries can enhance your self-respect, strengthen your relationships, and help you pave the way for more personal growth and fulfillment.

We'd love to hear from you; connect with Jeremiah or Mallory on Instagram, and remember to spread the word to others who might benefit from listening to the show.

Key Takeaways

How boundaries help define how you want to be treated by others

The 3 crucial elements of setting boundaries

The one thing that hinders boundary setting

The most challenging boundaries to set (hint: this one is essential for personal growth)

How identifying core values can help you make decisions that align with your energy

The most potent boundary setting practice

How setting physical boundaries can help promote autonomy (hint: this is VITAL for your children)

Why it’s vital to your emotional well-being to shield yourself from carrying others' emotional baggage

The most significant benefit of setting time boundaries and limiting your commitments

Getting past the discomfort of communicating your boundaries to break generational patterns

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How Personal Growth Transforms You & Your Relationship - EP234 Jun 29, 2023

When I discovered the book Be: A No-Bullsh*t Guide to Increasing Your Self Worth and Net Worth by Simply Being Yourself, I dreamed of one day going to the author’s agency for a deep dive into my brand.

Two years later, we’re returning from a VIP branding session with Jessica Zweig and her team. And the experience was transformative for me as an individual as well as our relationship.

But what do you do if you’re changing, and it brings up uncomfortable feelings for your partner? Or if your partner’s transformation brings up uncomfortable feelings for you?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss what it looks like when you’re open to receiving a new version of your partner after a personal development retreat or an event like Jessica’s.

We explain what to do if your partner is triggered by your growth and describe the challenge of developing a relationship with your emotions—especially for men.

Listen in for insight on acknowledging your emotions as an indicator that something needs to change and learn how to identify what you need and ask for it rather than avoiding your feelings.

Key Takeaways

How Mallory discovered Jessica Zweig’s branding book Be

Mallory’s dream of going to Jessica’s agency for a branding session

How Mallory got to do an 8-hour VIP branding session with Jessica and her team

Why we acknowledge our relationship as a third entity that’s open to growth and healing

How Mallory’s VIP day impacted her individually and at the relationship level

What it looks like when you’re open to receiving a new version of your partner

What to do if your partner is triggered when you come home from an event

The challenge of developing a relationship with your emotions (especially for men)

The consequences of getting stuck in or avoiding your feelings

How emotions are an indicator that something in your life needs to change

Our advice for men on how to identify what you need and ask for it

How to be present for your partner without trying to fix them

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Be: A No-Bullsh*t Guide to Increasing Your Self Worth and Net Worth by Simply Being Yourself by Jessica Zweig

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Jessica Zweig’s Claim Your Light Retreat

Navigating Our Love-Hate Relationship with Emotions - EP233 Jun 22, 2023

Have you ever found yourself resisting the very essence of what makes us human?

Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're having a candid conversation about the fascinating realm of feelings inside each of us and the love-hate relationship almost all of us have with our own emotions.

We'll share the history of our personal deep-seated fears and the painful emotions we've encountered during the evolution of our emotional state. And we'll discuss the impact of doing this inner work, both separately and together, in helping us learn to regulate our emotions in healthier ways and overcome our fears.

Plus, listen in as Jeremiah shares the personal impact of June 19th on his life and how he's turned tragedy into a mission to change (and save) lives.

We’d love to hear from you; connect with Jeremiah or Mallory on Instagram, and remember to spread the word to others who might benefit from listening to the show.

Key Takeaways

The message Jeremiah’s aunt shared with him and why he’s running drugs out of town in honor of his little brother's 34th Birthday

The purpose of feelings as indicators that something is out of alignment

Why mindset changes alone may not always be effective in achieving emotional well-being

How panic attacks and emotional regulation go together

The importance of releasing judgment of oneself and embracing personal freedom and truth

How to release deep-seated fears and painful emotions from the body through somatic work

The power of a partner who is willing to engage in inner work and self-growth

The impact of learning to regulate emotions in healthier ways to overcome fear

The significance of connecting with your body to understand what it wants to experience each day

How mirroring can be used to help your partner navigate their challenges and fears

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From Triggers to Transformation: Unlocking Emotional Trust in Your Relationship - EP232 Jun 15, 2023

"In order to build proper emotional intimacy, you need to start with emotional trust," - Jeremiah Campbell

What does emotional trust mean to you?

According to Google, "emotional trust refers to the confidence and reliance we have in someone to understand, validate, and respect our emotions. It involves feeling secure and comfortable in expressing our feelings, knowing that the other person will be supportive and empathetic without judgment or interruption."

Emotional trust is essential for building emotional intimacy and involves creating a secure and non-judgmental space for sharing emotions.

Today, on the "Destined To Be" podcast, we're delving deep into the significance of emotional trust, vulnerability, and open communication as essential elements for deepening your relationship.

Jeremiah shares his personal experiences and insights on the role of self-growth in fostering emotional trust. And Mallory reflects on her journey in the relationship, highlighting the challenges women face in expressing themselves and the key components that go into creating a safe space for a deeper connection.

Listen in to embark on a path of trust-building, self-discovery, and open communication to foster a stronger, more fulfilling connection with YOUR partner.

We’d love to hear from you; connect with Jeremiah or Mallory on Instagram, and remember to spread the word to others who might benefit from listening to the show.

Key Takeaways

The vital importance of open communication and verbalizing your needs in your relationship (even if they can't always be met)

The distinction between desires and needs in a relationship

The significance of vulnerability in building connections, whether in friendships or romantic partnerships

How "I" statements help to express feelings without blame

How recognizing and understanding personal triggers and past experiences contribute to healing and growth in relationships

Two things to consider when opening a vulnerable discussion with your significant other

The key things that hinder the level of trust necessary for open emotional expression and how to circumvent them to create a safe space for each partner

How uncovering and addressing past triggers and their influence can lead to greater understanding and healing in relationships

How healing yourself can open the door to more personal growth and transformation in your relationship

The crucial elements needed for building trust (and why they might be different for each of you)

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The Journey Continues Part 5 - From Burnout to Breakthroughs - EP231 Jun 08, 2023

In the past four episodes, we've been taking listeners on a walk through our life journey. You can find the links in the resources section below to listen to Parts 1-4 of our story.

In today's episode, we're candidly sharing the challenges we've faced in multiple mastermind group experiences —including burnout and a lack of substantial progress—and why taking time to reflect on what you learn from these high-level experiences is vital for implementation.

Mallory opens up about her personal journey of discovering her coaching program and the courageous decision to leave pursuits that no longer resonated with her true path, and Jeremiah shares the behind-the-scenes of the once-in-a-lifetime experience he's currently undergoing with the world-famous tattoo artist Fabio "Snake" D'Amato, from Brazil.

Listen in to witness the power of leaving behind what no longer serves your purpose and the keys to personal growth, fearless transformation, and unleashing your true potential. Don't miss this episode as we continue to share our story and provide invaluable insights into living a life of purpose, growth, and meaningful connections.

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Key Takeaways

Why surrounding yourself with game-changers always elevates your growth (regardless of your current status)

How to unlock your personal and professional development by effectively integrating and applying knowledge gained from mastermind groups

Slow Down—why jumping from one group to another only hinders your progress

How to cultivate personal growth through embracing rest and delving into the power of self-care

The power of leaving behind what no longer serves your purpose

How integrating and respecting individual purposes can create thriving and fulfilling relationships

How to embrace the transformative power of presence and navigate your emotions to unleash your true potential

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Part 1- How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227

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Part 2 - How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228

Part 3 - We Didn't Know What We Didn't Know

Part 4 - From Resistance to Reinvention: The Power of Personal Development in Achieving Success

Part 4 - From Resistance to Reinvention: The Power of Personal Development in Achieving Success - EP230 Jun 01, 2023

In the past three episodes, we've been taking listeners on a walk through our journey, from how we met through how we built the soul-level trust we have today and reflecting on our choices and their impact on our lives.

In today's episode, we want to take this journey a step further, recounting the pivotal moments, chance encounters, and conscious decisions that have shaped who we are today, and propelled us forward to finding our true passion in coaching,

Listen in as we delve into the challenges we faced within our families, our foray into the luxury property market, and the career-changing decisions that transformed our trajectory. We'll also candidly discuss our initial resistance towards our current lifestyle and the investment we made in personal development that allowed us to make the right connections and paved the way for remarkable success.

Tune in to find out how discovering your passion and aligning your work with your values fuel purposeful living. We'll also unveil the number one way to unlock endless possibilities in life. Tune in as we explore the impact of pursuing dreams, navigating resistance, the power of intentional decisions, and how our experiences continually influence our present and open up new possibilities for the future.

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Key Takeaways

How mastermind groups and meeting high-level individuals can contribute to your growth and reinvention of your life

The power of serendipity in forming impactful connections

How pivotal moments in life can shape personal growth and transformation

The key to recognizing the significance of individual paths intersecting and diverging

How discovering your passion and aligning work with values fuels purposeful living

The #1 way to unlock possibilities in life

How our journeys continually influence our present and open up new possibilities for the future

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Part 1- How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227

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Part 2 - How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228

Part 3 - We Didn't Know What We Didn't Know

Part 3 - We Didn't Know What We Didn't Know - EP229 May 25, 2023

The past two episodes have been a rewind back in time, offering our listeners an opportunity to get to know us better.

In Part One, we gave you a peek into how we met, and in the last episode, we shared how we started dating and shared some of the volatile moments early on in our relationship and how we worked through those things to build the soul-level trust we have today.

Today, we’re delving deeper and sharing more of our story, reflecting on our personal journey, challenges, and growth.

Jeremiah recounts his triumphant story of overcoming addiction and highlights a recent talk he gave at a 63rd anniversary 12 Step meeting. Mallory opens up about her personal journey through her fitness studio and her battle with postpartum depression.

We'll reflect back on the choices we have made and the profound impact those choices have had on our lives, emphasizing the significance of creating a safe space, trusting the process, the importance of intuition, letting go of attachments, and the role of emotions in highlighting areas that need attention.

Listen in as we explore the impact of our experiences, both positive and negative, and how we’ve gracefully transitioned through the various seasons of life to arrive at where we are today.

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Key Takeaways

The misconception that there is a definitive moment when one becomes an adult and has everything figured out

Mallory’s growth journey from personal training and a successful studio through postpartum depression and competing in bodybuilding shows and the challenges she faced during those times

The importance of discussing postpartum depression openly to help others who may be going through the same experience

The loss of close relationships, including with Mallory's parents, and the difficulty of navigating those situations

The importance of creating a safe space in your relationship

Why boundaries are so crucial to your personal growth

The importance of trusting the process that everything is unfolding as it is meant to

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How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227

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How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228

How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228 May 18, 2023

When we first started dating, Jeremiah was still struggling with addiction.

But we both knew that we had found our person, so there was no other option than to support each other no matter what.

And we gave each other the space to have our own lives while we dated, affording ourselves the autonomy we needed through our late teens and early 20s.

Last week on the podcast, we began the story of us, explaining how we met and found a safe place in each other as friends despite very different upbringings.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how we started dating when Jeremiah was three months sober from his third rehab and describe some of the volatile moments early on in our relationship.

We share our intuitive knowing that we would be together for the long term and how that made us choose each other through Jeremiah’s relapses.

Listen in for insight on the soul level of trust we share—and how it helped Jeremiah get sober once and for all—and learn how to hold space for your partner as you make the deep internal shifts that will take you both to the next level!

Key Takeaways

How they started dating when Jeremiah was 3 months sober from his third rehab and some of the volatile moments they had early in the relationship

Why Mallory didn’t realize Jeremiah had relapsed 5 months into their relationship and how they grew close during that time

Mallory and Jeremiah’s intuitive knowing that they would be together for the long term

Why Mallory’s parents made her choose between dating Jeremiah or living with them

What caused the conflict between Mallory and Jeremiah’s parents shortly before his fifth trip to rehab

How Jeremiah and Mallory gave each other the space to have their own lives while they were dating (and why that was invaluable to Jeremiah’s sobriety)

The soul level of trust Mallory and Jeremiah share and where it comes from

What allows Jeremiah and Mallory to accept and love each other for who they are

How Jeremiah and Mallory hold space for each other to make the deep internal shifts that will take them to the next level

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Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, MD, PhD

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How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227 May 11, 2023

How a flat tire in the driveway led to a 17-year relationship—and a happy marriage.

In this FUN flashback episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, we, Jeremiah and Mallory, share our coming-of-age and coming-together story with our listeners, giving you a BTS peek at our past and a chance to get to know us better.

We'll take you through our different upbringings, struggles with addiction, steps toward sobriety, and how we found a safe place in each other despite our different backgrounds.

From wild teenage parties to nights spent at the bowling alley, we'll walk you through how our past experiences shaped our lives and how we pushed through the setbacks and ultimately fell in love.

In addition to the personal stories and anecdotes, this episode offers inspiration and insights on overcoming challenges and building a successful relationship.

Tune in for our story that is a testament to the power of perseverance and the idea that sometimes, the greatest love stories are born out of the most unexpected circumstances.

If you want to learn more about our NEXT couple's event, reach out to Jeremiah or Mallory TODAY!

Key Takeaways:

How Jeremiah and Mallory's contrasting upbringings and backgrounds helped shape who they are today

Jeremiah shares personal stories about his first love, his parent's divorce, and building an external identity to feel good about himself

Struggles with addiction and attempts at sobriety before finding success

How finding a safe place in each other helped Jeremiah and Mallory to overcome their struggles and grow together

The powerful coaching metaphor about burning bridges and taking risks Jeremiah uses with his clients

The safe place that kept Mallory and Jeremiah out of trouble during their wild teenage years

The nickname that Mallory and her friends gave Jeremiah (and its deeper meaning)

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The Connection Between Resilience & Alignment - EP226 May 04, 2023

Early in our personal development journey, we were all about the grind. Pushing ourselves forward to achieve the goals we set for ourselves, personally and professionally.

But we’ve realized that when we’re in extreme alignment, when our goals support our core values, resilience comes easy.

So, what is the connection between RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT? How does designing goals around your purpose and personal fulfillment help you navigate adversity?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT reinforce each other, helping you stay in momentum and take action to achieve the goals that matter to you.

I describe how to understand the truth of your situation and identify your strengths and weaknesses, sharing examples of what it looks like to assess an area of your business and leverage failure to propel you forward.

Listen in to understand how confidence comes from personal conviction and learn how ALIGNMENT and RESILIENCE work together to move you closer to the life you want!

Key Takeaways

How we define RESILIENCE as the way we navigate challenges or adversity

Why it’s crucial to understand the truth of your situation and identify your strengths and weaknesses

How reframing problems as challenges helps us find solutions

Jeremiah’s assessment of the return on ad spend in his business and why he’s excited (not angry) about increasing its visibility

How to design goals that align with your purpose and personal fulfillment

Why making the wrong choice is better than doing nothing at all

How to make decisions in ALIGNMENT with your core values and why it’s important

What it means to make your failures mean something and leverage them to propel you forward

How RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT reinforce each other and keep us in momentum

How confidence comes from passion and conviction in yourself

The danger in comparing yourself with others and how that impacts your resilience

What Jeremiah does to put his intentions out into the universe

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Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen

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Challenging What the Future Holds - EP225 Apr 27, 2023

If you want to continue to grow and embody the person your creator meant you to be, you can’t keep doing the same thing.

But creating lasting change is not easy.

So, how do you change your relationship with unpredictability and learn to welcome something new? What does it look like to challenge what the future holds?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how to create lasting change by making decisions in the present and why embracing change is necessary for your growth and transformation.

I share my experience with quieting down my thoughts and questioning my subconscious beliefs, challenging you to explore how your thoughts create the resistance that leads to suffering.

Listen in for insight around honoring who you are (even in the face of criticism) and learn how to find the safety you need to challenge what the future holds!

Key Takeaways

How to create peace around the past by changing your perception in the present

How to create lasting change by making decisions in the present moment

What it looks like to quiet down your thoughts and challenge your subconscious beliefs

How our thoughts create the resistance that leads to suffering

What happens when you push too far outside your window of tolerance

How to change your relationship with unpredictability and welcome something new

Why embracing change is necessary for growth and transformation

How anxiety and excitement create the same feelings in your body

The 2 questions that change the way I interact with others and increase my impact

What it looks like to honor who you are in the face of criticism

How stress and anxiety come from avoiding decisions you need to make

The relationship between finding safety and challenging what the future holds

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Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen

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Setting Goals from a Place of Inspiration, Not Desperation - EP224 Apr 20, 2023

We used to pursue goals out of desperation, fighting our way forward to achieve the things we were supposed to.

But in the last couple of years, we made a shift. We’ve started to set goals from a place of inspiration, identifying what it is we really want and moving forward with more ease.

So, how do you go about setting inspired goals?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the value of defining your core values first and then setting inspired goals that align with your purpose.

We explain how grinding toward a goal leads to burnout, describing the stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction that comes from pursuing goals out of desperation.

Listen in to understand how it feels in the body when your goals are in alignment and learn how to foster self-acceptance as you transition from desperation to inspired action!

Key Takeaways

Why we suggest defining your core values first and then setting goals that are in alignment

What differentiates goals that come from a place of inspiration vs. desperation

Why it’s nearly impossible to manifest inspired goals with a heightened nervous system

How pursuing goals from a place of hustle and grind leads to burnout

Why it’s easier to seek external validation than it is to foster self-acceptance

How to distinguish what you really want from what other people think you should be doing

The stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction that comes from pursuing goals out of desperation

What it feels like in your body when you’re pursuing inspired goals

How your life transforms when you tap into your God-given gift or superpower

What it looks like to make decisions from a truthful, soul-connected place

Why we’re EXCITED about the challenges that come with inspired goals (not stressed or worried)

How to hold space for your partner as they shift from goals of desperation to inspiration

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Mallory’s Viral Instagram Post

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Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Thomas E. Kida

Rob Dyrdek

Beyond Positive Thinking: Why Mindset Work Alone May Not Be Enough for Transformation - EP223 Apr 13, 2023

Do you feel stuck? Have you been repeating the same patterns over and over?

Maybe you've been focusing on mindset tools and positive thinking, but you aren't making the progress you would like to.

Sometimes these patterns keep repeating themselves, and they have nowhere to go. They become stuck inside the body and must be expressed verbally or audibly to create a release and move the energy through.

So, how can you intentionally carve out time and create a supportive environment to nurture yourself and find greater balance and harmony?

On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Mallory discusses the importance of finding supportive relationships and community to help you navigate challenging times in your growth journey. She also emphasizes the value of going beyond mindset work and tapping into deeper levels of self to overcome internal misalignments.

Mallory shares her personal experience of going through a challenging time in her own growth journey and the practices she's developed that have helped her break through her blocks.

Listen in as Mallory encourages listeners to embrace stillness and self-care practices, connect with their subconscious and seek out soul-level relationships to help them move through challenges and reach the next level of their growth journey.

If you resonate with this episode and are seeking a soul family or deeper connection, you're not alone; resources and communities are available to support you. Check out my upcoming Level-Up Women's Retreat in northern Michigan in early July, where I will hold space for women to lean into themselves and fully nurture their well-being. Reach out to me via DM on Instagram to learn more and apply for a spot.

Key Takeaways

The challenge of creating a stillness practice (hint, it’s not what you think)

Feeling stuck and repeating the same patterns may be a sign it’s time to explore more in-body practices

Why it's essential to find a community or a person who can hold space for you to express yourself without judgment or giving unsolicited advice

The key to exploring your deeper subconscious self to find what you need

Why it's important to celebrate and acknowledge yourself for the progress you've made in your growth journey

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Achieving Abundance Through Calm: A Deep Dive into the Law of Attraction - EP222 Apr 06, 2023

"The first part of the law of attraction is to calm your ass down, take deep breaths, and slow your roll in order to attract things. When you can do that properly, things will start showing up in your life."

We all want more success, happiness, and abundance, but our stress and an imbalanced nervous system often prevent us from achieving the calm state necessary to manifest our desires.

On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Jeremiah shares powerful insights on how to attract positive outcomes into your life.

Walking us through his own experience and practice, Jeremiah offers practical tips on creating calmness in your life, achieving inner peace, and ultimately manifesting the life you truly desire. Plus, he shares why it’s important to discern who you take advice from and how minimizing negative influences and being present can create space for growth.

Don't forget to take a deep breath, slow your roll, and listen in to Jeremiah's powerful insights on attracting positive outcomes into your life.

Key Takeaways

Why identifying our strengths and weaknesses—including our blind spots—is crucial for personal growth

How to connect with our true selves (and sidestep getting caught up in fears and assumptions)

Why you should only take advice from individuals who are abundant in their personal and spiritual lives

Why the acceptance and releasing of emotions is essential to personal growth (and avoiding destructive behavior)

How being in your body can help you process your emotions so you can create space for something new

How setting small micro-goals leads to lasting change

The #1 step in attracting positive things into your life

The law of attraction is about vibration and frequency and assuming that positive things will happen

The law of assumption is about having faith in one's destiny and being open to opportunities when they arise

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Unpacking Anger: Understanding the Emotion and Regulating Your Response - EP221 Mar 31, 2023

A lot of time, people will say that they are angry—but even when that is the emotion you think you are feeling, it’s often a cover-up for deeper feelings like hurt, sadness, or shame. By identifying and addressing these underlying emotions, you can make progress toward resolving your issues.

So, how can you uncover and address the underlying emotions masked by anger to make progress toward resolving issues and avoid getting stuck in a negative emotional state? On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Jeremiah and Mallory dive deeper into the topic of anger and explore ways to manage and cope with this powerful emotion. They share how the fight, flight, freeze, or fun (appeasing or people-pleasing) responses can arise when one's nervous system becomes dysregulated and how to create the awareness needed to keep from becoming stuck in these reactive states.

Listen in as they discuss the importance of testing boundaries in relationships (while staying within a safe container) and the need for each partner to recognize and regulate their emotions in order to have healthy relationships. Plus, practical tips for supporting your partner when they are in a dysregulated state.

Key Takeaways

The importance of being aware of and regulating our nervous systems to avoid becoming dysregulated

Why anger is often a cover-up emotion for deeper feelings (and why we need to identify and address those underlying emotions)

The role of the ego in keeping us stuck in a negative emotional state (and how our body can help us get unstuck)

How to grow in your relationship in a safe and healthy way for both partners

How to express anger in a healthy way The importance of healthy communication during heated moments in relationships

How to regulate your emotions so you can create space for productive conversations in relationships

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How to Create the Space YOU Need for Alignment and Integration - EP220 Mar 23, 2023

One of the biggest challenges many of us face is identifying our true needs. If you're experiencing burnout and struggling to keep up with everything, it could be a sign that you need to prioritize rest and create more space in your life. This will help you recharge and move forward in your personal growth journey.

So, how can you intentionally carve out time and create a supportive environment to nurture yourself and find greater balance and harmony?

On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Mallory discusses the importance of figuring out what you need in order to move towards greater balance, harmony, and fulfillment. She highlights the challenge of pinpointing our needs, especially when we feel exhausted and drained.

Creating space is key to nurturing your well-being, but it looks different for everyone. Mallory shares her experience of transitioning from the hustle mentality in her career and personal life to creating space in her schedule and physical environment for the true self-care of her soul.

Listen in as Mallory encourages listeners to lean into their intuition and ask themselves what they need in order to find their own sacred space for their well-being for greater balance, harmony, and fulfillment.

Are you interested in diving deeper into this topic? Check out my upcoming Level-Up Women's Retreat in northern Michigan in early July, where I will hold space for women to lean into themselves and fully nurture their well-being. Reach out to me via DM on Instagram to learn more and apply for a spot.

Key Takeaways

Why it's essential to understand how your past experiences affect your present

The key to true alignment (and becoming comfortable with ALL parts of yourself)

How listening to your body can help regulate your nervous system and emotions

How the integration of both masculine and feminine energies leads to balance and productivity

The key component to better understanding precisely what energies you need to balance

How to ask for what you need to create room to recharge

Why "self-care" should go beyond maintenance to get to what your soul needs

How to remove judgment around your need for rest (hint: it takes practice)

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The Transformative Power of Play: How Incorporating Fun and Joy Can Enhance Your Relationship - EP219 Mar 16, 2023

"For a long time, we prioritized our individual pursuits and subscribed to the hustle culture, but we've learned that being present and having fun together can shift our energy and bring us to a whole new level of being. It's not just a nice-to-have; it's a necessity for a thriving relationship."

Many couples fall into the trap of prioritizing individual responsibilities and neglecting the importance of having fun together. In the early years of our relationship, we led very separate lives, focused on our individual businesses and hobbies, and only realized later how much we were missing out on. Now, as we delve deeper into our seasons, spirituality, and witness each other in new ways, we've discovered the transformative power of incorporating play and enjoyment into our relationship. It's a game-changer.

So, how can you infuse more play and joy into your relationship?

On this episode of the “Destined To Be” podcast, Jeremiah and Mallory discuss the significance of play and how they incorporate it into their own lives and relationship. They'll share their secrets, such as focusing on intimate connections, creating a sacred space at home, and setting boundaries on certain activities. Plus, how they make time for each other and their children and create 24-hour experiences that keep the fun alive. Listen in as they share their approach to incorporating fun and play in their lives, taking you through the small steps you can take to bring more joy and laughter into your own routine.

Key Takeaways

How prioritizing fun activities with your partner can strengthen your bond and bring you closer together

The biggest benefits (less stress, more creativity) of incorporating play into your daily life

How small steps towards incorporating play into your routine can have a significant impact on your overall well-being

How simple moments of playful banter can open the door to more connection

How creating a sacred space in your home can promote stillness and spiritual connection for you and your partner

Exploring new activities with your partner can bring you closer than ever before, creating memorable experiences and strengthening your bond

Why it’s important to create boundaries around certain activities to help maintain a sense of safety and comfort in your relationship

How making time for each other, alone and with your children, can help create lasting memories and strengthen your bond

How to make time for fun and play with 24-hour experiences that cultivate intimacy

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How Do You Define Success?—with Kelly Siegel - EP218 Mar 09, 2023

How do you define success?

For our friend Kelly Siegel, what it means to be successful has evolved over time. At the beginning of his personal development journey, success was about getting sober and escaping poverty.

But today, Kelly sees success as the fulfillment of his purpose on this earth.

Kelly is the CEO of National Technology Management and the creator of Harder Than Life, a platform dedicated to helping people develop self-awareness, improve their health and grow their business.

He is also a keynote speaker and author of Harder Than Life: Overcoming Poverty, Addiction and Violence.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing Jeremiah’s conversation with Kelly around the evolution of success from Kelly’s new show, The Harder Than Life Podcast.

Kelly and Jeremiah describe their struggles with substance abuse and how they got sober, discussing what to do if you’re seeking something more—but feel stuck in a certain phase of your life.

Kelly offers advice to those of us who let our ego run our day, walking us through his process for responding to perceived rejection and moving closer to self-love.

Listen in for insight on the myth of work-life balance and learn why success is directly correlated with your ability to be uncomfortable!

Key Takeaways

How Jeremiah defines success as evolving to be better than you were the day before

Kelly & Jeremiah’s respective struggles with substance abuse and how they each got sober

How to build the habit of cutting out the noise and listening to yourself

How Jeremiah leverages the Law of Attraction to show up with confidence and know that what’s out there is his for the taking

What to do if you’re seeking but stuck in a certain phase of your life

Kelly & Jeremiah’s advice to anyone who’s letting their ego run their day

How contrasting attachment styles cause challenges in a marriage

The myth of work-life balance and how self-love improves your relationships and business

Jeremiah’s struggle with being motivated by what other people thought about him

Jeremiah’s universal law of not taking yourself too seriously

What inspired Jeremiah’s charity and how it’s changing the stigma around addiction

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Harder Than Life

Kelly on Instagram

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Resources

Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, MD, PhD

Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday

Rob Dyrdek

Stutz

Living Untethered: Beyond the Human Predicament by Michael A. Singer

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

Attached: Are You Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the Science of Adult Attachment Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der

Marcus Lemonis

Kolk, MD

Jordan Peterson

Mel Robbins

Elevate Your Relationship Through Date Night Experiences - EP217 Mar 02, 2023

Do you want to take your relationship to the next level?

For us, that starts with doing some specific, intentional planning to make our date nights an experience.

But what does it look like to plan meaningful time with your person? And how does curating the time you spend together help you connect on a deeper level?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how to elevate your relationship by planning intentional date nights, challenging you to pay attention and communicate with your partner about what they want from an experience.

We discuss how to make sexy time more fun and fulfilling, describing how to create an environment of escape wherever you are and why physical intimacy impacts the way you show up in other areas of your life.

Listen in for insight on opening up new levels of conversation and communication with your person and learn how to bring a spirit of playfulness to your relationship and show up fully on dates nights with your partner!

Key Takeaways

Why we do specific, intentional planning to make our date nights an experience

How we started challenging some of the traditional roles we take on in our relationship

What it means to curate the time you spend with your partner

How bringing an awareness to your body makes sexy time more fun and fufulling

Why we recommend paying attention and asking your partner what they want as you plan a date night

How prioritizing physical intimacy impacts the way you show up in other areas of your life

Why a special date night doesn't have to be fancy expensive

The tools you can use to open up different levels of conversation and communication with your person

How to create ssan environment of excape at home, in a hotel or on vacation

Why you have to do your own internal work first in order to improve your relationship

The value of bringing a spirit of playfulness intor your reationship

What questions to ask yourself to show up fully on dates with your partner

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Resources

Date Deck

https://www.deeperdating.com/the-book/

Overcoming Fear and Empowering Yourself for Success - EP216 Feb 23, 2023

"Fear is going to be a constant in your life. And if you're not willing to learn how to work with that fear, if you're not willing to learn how to manage that fear, if you're not willing to learn how to utilize that fear to empower you, you're going to be stuck in mediocrity for the rest of your life."

For the longest time, fear held me back from achieving my goals, even though I'd experienced a wide range of emotions, from sadness to joy.

But I was too focused on doing rather than being.

It wasn't until a gift of desperation forced me to confront my fears that I realized how unsafe I felt in my body. Being present in the moment allowed me to internalize some powerful advice that led to significant changes in my life.

When we don't feel safe in our bodies, it can trigger our autonomic responses and prevent us from being present in the moment.

So, how can we overcome our fears and be present in the moment?

In this episode of "Destined to Be," I'll share my recent experiences of connecting deeply with others, cultivating meaningful experiences, and holding space for myself. These elements (which are often sidestepped) have been critical to my growth and evolution.

Giving ourselves grace, compassion, and the ability to breathe is essential, especially when we don't feel safe in our bodies.

In this episode, you'll hear my insights on why feeling safe in our bodies is crucial, how holding space for ourselves can prevent triggers, and why breaking free from fear is the key to living intentionally.

Listen in to understand the impact of unresolved trauma and beliefs and the critical elements necessary to live a fulfilled life.

Key Takeaways

How feeling safe in our bodies can help us be present in the moment

The importance of cultivating meaningful experiences and holding space for ourselves

Why breaking free from fear is the key to living intentionally

The impact of unresolved trauma and beliefs on our lives

The critical elements necessary for growth and evolution

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Resources

The Secret to Growing Closer as a Couple - EP215 Feb 16, 2023

What's the secret to growing closer as a couple?

If you and your partner want to strengthen your bond and heighten the intimacy in your relationship, you have to create space for vulnerability.

But what does that look like in practice?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the relationship between vulnerability and growth, explaining what to do if you don't feel safe being vulnerable with your partner.

We share our experience of going dancing together at the Secrets Moxche Playa del Carmen, discussing the power in offering your partner opportunities to shine-even if it puts you in a vulnerable position.

Listen in for insight on leaning into your fear of vulnerabliity and learn to change the story you're telling yourself, so you can show up fully for your partner and grow even closer as a couple.

Key Takeaways

The Relationship among vulnerability, growth and getting uncomfortable

Why a sense of safety is the prerequisite to vulnerablility

What to do if you don't feel safe being vulnerable with your partner

The power in offering your partner experiences that allow them to shine

How we got on the same page around dropping the labels and surrendering to the experience of going dancing together

How Jeremiah's fear of being in his body informs his feelings about dance

The benefits of the closeness we felt as a couple on the dance floor

How to let go of judgement and change the story you're telling yourself

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Resources

Secrets Resort

Mallory’s Post on Meeting Your Edges

Dude Perfect Cruise

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

Overcoming Your Self-Imposed Obstacles - EP214 Feb 09, 2023

"We can start to move energy through breath, sound, and movement to transform how you show up energetically. This can affect your money blocks, your blocks with relationships, why you're not hitting certain levels because, as we then create more space within our body, we can then hold more."

In what areas of your life would you like to see massive growth this year?

What is the biggest obstacle you must overcome to hit your next level in 2023?

We often want change, but we get in our own way when we set out to transform how we show up in all areas of our lives.

Today I'm bringing you a special episode where I was a guest on the HBIC podcast hosted by Demiree Suanne.

During our conversation, we delve into the biggest obstacles holding people back from reaching the next level in their lives, careers, finances, and relationships.

I share my non-linear journey to becoming a Master Informed Trauma Coach and give you an inside look into my Level Up coaching group, my women's retreats, and our couple's mastermind and how they help individuals transform their lives.

We also discuss the challenges couples face when trying to grow together and how to create a safe space in your relationship to reach the next level.

Listen in as I share 3 key tips to help you shift your energy and change how you show up in 2023. And stick around to hear my answers to Demiree's 10 questions that give you a deeper understanding of who I am.

Ladies, are you ready to become the next version of yourself? On February 21st, my LEVEL UP VIP signature group coaching program (7th round) begins, AND I have special podcast pricing just for "Destined To Be" listeners. So, shoot me a message that says "VIP, I'm ready to join" in the DMs or text me directly at 586-600-8492 so I can send you more information. Also, reach out for information on the Austin retreat.

Key Takeaways

The biggest thing holding most women back

The greatest challenge we face when attempting to break free from our upbringing

How up leveling your circle will catapult you to your next level

How becoming more comfortable in yourself causes more shadow pieces to be revealed

How moving breath, sound, and movement can transform the way you show up

Mallory shares her advice on how couples can create safety in their relationship

How to create the space for your male partner to be vulnerable

How taking radical responsibility for your own stuff will take your new relationship to a new level.

My tips to help you shake things up, shift your energy and change the way you show up in 2023

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Resources

HBIC podcast

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How to Start Over in Your 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and Beyond - EP213 Feb 02, 2023

"I don't care if you are starting over in your 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, or 70s, it doesn't matter. You can choose how you want to show up in this season of life and make a shift in this very moment."

When we embark on a new chapter in our lives, whether it be a new season, job, or personal or relationship growth, we're often led to believe it will be easy and seamless—you know, all rainbows and butterflies.

But we often experience resistance in making the changes we desire, which can manifest itself in various ways, like in our intuition or bodies. No matter how you personally experience it, there's no denying something is going on.

And often, this is where many people get mired in guilt or some emotion that leads them to abandon their next move—never taking the step that could lead them to their next place of purpose.

So, what can you do to break through to reach your next level?

On this episode of "Destined To Be," I share the most important thing you can do to acknowledge the truth of the moment and permit yourself to step out of the guilt and into who you were always meant to be.

I share a powerful tool you can use to weed out the options that aren't right for you and who you are, so you don't get stuck.

Listen in as I walk you through the two things that can happen when you decide to take a step forward and how to find the support you need to navigate the emotions that come up on your path as you launch into the new chapter you are dreaming of.

Ladies, are you ready to become the next version of yourself? On February 21st, my LEVEL UP VIP signature group coaching program (7th round) begins. This is THE PROGRAM that has helped so many phenomenal women find clarity around their next move, AND I have special podcast pricing just for "Destined To Be" listeners. So, shoot me a message that says “VIP, I'm ready to join” in the DMs, or text me directly at 586-600-8492 so I can send you more information.

Key Takeaways

The first thing to do at the beginning of any new chapter

What about guilt

How to permit yourself to embody who you are and what you are feeling in this moment

The filter which you need to run every decision through (this one ALWAYS helps you sift out nos based on who you are)

How to signal to the universe or your higher power that you are ready to level up

Why BIG shifts lead to temporary chaos and disruptions

How aligning with the right support system can reduce the time it takes to achieve your goals (and make more progress) in life

Connect with Mallory

Destined To Be on Instagram

Destined To Be Podcast

Resources

Text LEVEL UP to 586-600-8492

Contact Mallory for the February Round of Level Up VIP

Contact Jeremiah for info on the NEXT Couple's Program

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The REAL Key to Change - EP212 Feb 02, 2023

"The real work gets done when you sit with yourself and connect the dots to integrate what you've learned in the past. You're the only one that can lead you to your actual healing."

We live in a world set up to make you believe the person you are in this moment is not good enough.

Add to that, no matter what you've tried, you can't seem to move past that one thing that is holding you back, whatever it is.

Maybe your one thing is that you've fallen into the pit of being angry all the time - but you're not angry. It's just what you've known for so long.

Or maybe you're anxious all the time because you're modeling behavior shown to you when you were young.

You have this incredible vision of dropping those things and stepping into the real you.

But you're stuck.

Enter the self-help books with covers that shout, “this is what you need to do.”

So, you read the books and try the things, but… you don't gain traction.

So how can you make the changes you want to make?

On this episode of “Destined to Be” Jeremiah, and Mallory are sharing a behind-the-scenes look at how we finally cut through all the debris and got unstuck enough to start making the real and lasting changes we wanted for our lives and our relationship.

We'll walk you through the catalyst that took us from where we were when we started the "Destined to Be" podcast (hey, we don't even recognize those people now) to where we are now (Certified Master Coaches).

Listen in as we share how you can use your inner knowing to step into your true self and make the changes you want to make. Plus, a look ahead to what's in store for podcast listeners in 2023.

If you are a woman who is looking to step forward into your most authentic self and gain some crystal-clear clarity around how you want to show up in this world, Level up VIP, Mallory's signature group coaching program, is launching mid-February with discounts for “Destined to Be” podcast listeners. Interested? Reach out to Mallory on Instagram or text her directly at 586-600-8492.

Key Takeaways

Why NOW is the perfect time to embrace your fresh canvas

How the personal development space hurts more people than it helps

Why some people try ALL the things, and yet they don't gain traction

Why everything you think or believe probably needs to be unwound

How the body protects you from your memories

The mind-body connection that is keeping you from manifesting

How do you know when you are living out of alignment

The secret to putting ALL that self-help knowledge into practice

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Resources

Why You Need to Stop Living for Someday - EP211 Sep 27, 2022

"When I'm constantly in the gap, I can't be in the game."

We have all these amazing ideas of where we want to go, what we want to do, and who we want to become.

We say things like, "when work slows down, I'll finally start working out and get the body I’ve always dreamed of," or "when the kids are older, I'll start that million-dollar business."But when we assign all those things to some date in the future, we end up putting the best of our lives off until 'someday.’

So, how can we step off that 'someday track’ and into the space where we can create the growth and abundance we desire?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I will walk you through how I cut through all the debris to get clear on my 'why' opening the door for more growth in the most important areas of my life.

Listen in to learn techniques to help you step out of your ego so you can make better decisions for a better life. I'll share how setting the right boundaries can next level your ‘why’ so you can stop looking toward tomorrow and start living today in gratitude for the life unfolding before you.

Do you enjoy the Destined to Be Podcast? If so, we'd love to have you share it with your friends!

Is there a topic you'd like to have us cover on a future episode? If so, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out to Jeremiah on Instagram or Mallory on Instagram.

Key Takeaways

Why prioritizing your relationships is the key to clarifying your vision

How my relationship keeps me focused on my true 'why'

How stepping out of your ego can make room for your Creator's bigger plan for your life

Why assigning too much value to the outcome of a situation leads to a negative result

How you can lessen your outcome attachment and learn to take no in stride

The key to stop living a life that feels like a 'free for all'

Why accepting what is opens the door for what is to come

How getting clear about your idea of success sets you on the right course for a BIGGER IMPACT

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Resources

How To Recognize and Deal with Your Anger - EP210 Sep 06, 2022

Sometimes I'm irritated with myself.

Do you ever have those times when you can't stand your own attitude

Sure, we all do. And sometimes, slipping into your comfy clothes, grabbing the remote, shutting yourself off from the world, and diving into NETFLIX is precisely what's needed to see you through that blink in time.

But, sometimes, we are running through a task-list life with a heightened state of anxiety or anger humming inside us each day.

So, what can you do if your anger or anxiety has lasted longer than a season? How can you get back into a season of growth?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through how to recognize your patterns of anger or anxiety. We'll discuss some ways you get in touch with what's going on inside so you can determine if your anger is just a mood or if it's gone on past the expiration date.

Listen in for Jeremiah's soul-changing experience that took him out of his anger patterns and into a more centered life. Plus, tools and insight into how to set yourself up for success in shifting out of your own patterns of anger and anxiety.

Is there a topic you'd like us to cover on the Destined to Be Podcast? Do you want to apply and join the waitlist for our Couples Mastermind? We'd love to hear from you. Reach out to Jeremiah on Instagram or Mallory on Instagram.

Key Takeaways

What are some things to be aware of to determine if you are in a perpetual anger state

Jeremiah shares the anger issue from a male point of view

Why our anger issues are a response to our attachment styles

Why you can't change a problem from the same level you created it

How do you ascertain if where your attitude resides needs to change

How to use breathing and dropping into your body to step out of your hypervigilant state (anger or anxiety)

How to use reminders of the vision of who you want to be shift out of your anger

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Families Against Narcotics (FAN)

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Resources

How to Expand Your Window of Tolerance - EP209 Aug 16, 2022

"Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons."- Denzel Washington

We're often expected to engage with people who hold views that differ vastly from our own. Or we are forced into circumstances where we need to reunite with old friends or family members who know (and hold tightly to) a different version of us than the one that exists today.

These situations can test you, but they can also offer an opportunity to expand our window of tolerance.

So, how can you effectively manage situations where you are tolerated, not celebrated?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through how to handle situations with people who see you as the villain in their victim triangle.

We'll discuss some ‌of the biggest lessons you can learn from putting yourself in situations that widen your window of tolerance.

Plus, we share some ‌tools and techniques you can use to navigate interactions with people who don't share your views.

Listen in for insight into how to break out of someone else's story and instead elevate yourself so you can stay in your own power and walk into any event like you own it.

Key Takeaways

The biggest lessons we can learn from situations that test us

The anxiety free way to navigate interactions with people with differing views

How to use tools like venting and journaling to reclaim your power in any situation

How to keep from being cast as the villain in someone else's story

How to stay immune to other's perceptions of who you are

How to use the power of forgiveness to live in peace in your life

How to love people without sacrificing your own self-growth

The exit strategy you can use to stay in your strength no matter the situation

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Resources

How to Make the Shift and be at Peace with Your Life - EP208 Aug 02, 2022

"Every one of you has met somebody that has this aura about them that brings other people joy and excitement just because of their presence."

I used to think that being at peace with your life, no matter the outside circumstances, was just for those afraid to challenge themselves to the next level.

Now, I know that's not true.

But when is it time to stop digging for more in your personal development and just allow yourself to be?

And how can you create that space inside that allows you to be truly authentic, in alignment, abundant, and at peace no matter what happens in the outside world?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm challenging you to give up the emotions around the challenges in your life that are stealing your peace as a catalyst to move forward in growth.

We'll talk about how to internally shift the stories inside of you so you can step out of yourself for new levels of accomplishment for yourself and others.

Listen in to learn more about dropping the doubt, surrendering to the moment, and letting life come as it does for more opportunities for attraction, quantum leaps, and a sense of unshakable peace inside for true abundance in full.

If you listened to this episode and something resonated with you, DM me. I'd love to hear from you!

Key Takeaways

Why Jeremiah's move into a place of peace led his EMDR therapist to fire him

Why comprehending the science behind the inner work helps Jeremiah make more of an impact

Why we learn more about ourselves when we’re openly exposed in our deepest relationships

How REM sleep allows you to go deeper into conscious awareness

Why adding more strategies to your arsenal in personal development isn't always the answer

How a radical shift in mindset can help you complete a 10-year plan in six months

Why visualization is the key to quelling doubt and attracting and creating more abundance

How to create more expansiveness in your life through surrendering your stories

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Resources

The Surrender Experiment

From Addict to a Life of Abundance - EP207 Jul 26, 2022

There was a time when I couldn’t keep a needle out of my arm, and Mallory had to stop and buy me a carton of cigarettes on the drive to rehab.

I came from nothing. I've lost everything I've had, built it back up, lost it again, and then built it again.

But it hasn't always been easy or conflict-free—Mallory and I constantly remind each other that the problems we worry about today are problems the old versions of ourselves would have died for.

So, how can you build the life of abundance and love that you dream of?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm challenging you to think bigger! To step out of your ego and forget what you know so you can FINALLY open the door to learning and understanding more.

We'll talk about how to step out of yourself and allow a Higher Power to take you to new levels. I'll share some of my personal stories of how I got from rehab to where I am today that will inspire you to take the needed steps to build the life you've dreamed of.

Listen in to learn more about how to stop standing in the way of the life that is more than you ever imagined.

Are you ready to experience something new in your life, and you want to share it with your partner? We have a limited number of spaces in our couple's mastermind coming in October. Reach out to Jeremiah or Mallory for an application TODAY!

Key Takeaways

Why I have such a connection to Austin, Texas, and the role it played in my inner healing

Why surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals will help you do the amazing things you dream of

Why the key to fulfillment is to get absent of self to allow more of God in

Why the most growth is found in partnerships with people who are vibrating on a higher level

How being around people who see you on a different level raises your vibrational energy

Why it's our job to raise the consciousness of our communities to help others prepare for the things that are happening in our world

What it means to be in vibrational alignment with God or a Higher Power

Why it's vital for self-growth to be a seeker on a trek

How to find lasting change that won't allow you to revert to your old self

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Resources

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The Map of Consciousness Explained: A Proven Energy Scale to Actualize Your Ultimate Potential

Think and Grow Rich

Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

How to Complete Household Projects Without Eroding Your Marriage - EP206 Jul 19, 2022

Running a household includes childcare, cleaning, cooking, home maintenance, and more.

But each of us brings different skill levels and our own frustrations to these projects when they don't proceed as we expect.

So how can we set aside our reactive behaviors in order to see our household projects through to completion?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we'll walk you through how our old stories come up when we work on projects, causing overwhelm that can be bigger than the task at hand. Plus, how your self-criticalness and perfectionism tendencies can trigger your partner's negative energy.

We'll talk about how to recognize and avoid your triggers, so you and your partner can sidestep the common conflicts when completing household honey-do lists.

Listen in for some strategies to avoid overwhelm, stop the arguing, lighten the mood, and apply Rule 62, so you and your partner can successfully complete your couple's DIY projects.

Are you ready for a more meaningful partnership with your significant other? We have a limited number of spaces in our couple's mastermind coming in October. Reach out to Jeremiah, or Mallory for an application TODAY!

Key Takeaways

How multi-tasking taxes the body's nervous system

Why frame of mind is everything when it comes to starting a project with your significant other

Why it's vital to know what triggers push you out of the zone of your tolerance

The different ways males and females respond during high-stress situations

How to use Rule 62 to give yourself a reality check during a challenging project

How to return to non-violent communication when things get elevated

How our over-critical nature and perfectionist tendencies trigger our partner's negative energies

Why an adult time-out is the key to tamping down conflict during couple’s DIY projects

How to set yourself up for success in projects that require immediate completion

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The Relationship Between Emotional Mastery and Your Ego - EP205 Jul 12, 2022

Scientifically speaking, by the time you're 35 years old, 95% of your life has automatic habits or things you're just repeating over and over again.

Traumas in childhood and beyond can lead to us being triggered throughout the rest of our lives, causing our body to react in a certain way because our body will always remember what our mind forgets.

But you cannot achieve emotional mastery when you’re constantly being triggered by your thoughts, feelings, or emotions.

So how can you learn to identify and manage your emotions, lower your ego, and break out of the trauma trigger cycle?

Today, I'll take you through some of the methods I have used to improve my physical response and take hold of my emotions when I’m triggered.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I walk you through why learning to process your emotions is the key to stepping out of the victim triangle.

Listen in for insight into how to expand your window of tolerance. Plus, the secret of giving yourself grace so you can show up better than yesterday for better communication with everyone in your sphere of influence and a more meaningful life.

Are you ready to go deeper with your significant other for better communication and a more meaningful partnership? We have a limited number of spaces in our couple's mastermind coming in October. Reach out to me, Jeremiah, or Mallory for an application TODAY!

Key Takeaways

How childhood trauma can affect your ability to regulate your emotions later in life

Why your ego creates defense mechanisms to help keep you safe

How understanding your personal attachment style can help you uncover your trauma triggers

How trauma can make you less emotionally available to those you love

Why giving yourself grace is the catalyst for acting differently in the future

Why your negative thoughts are causing you to manifest what you don't want

How expanding your window of tolerance helps you more ably handle triggering situations

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Jordan Peterson

Are You Ready to Reframe Your Story? - EP204 Jul 05, 2022

We ALL have stories around literally everything—money, relationships, our parenting.

They can be as simple as we listen to this music, not that music, because it's what we listened to growing up.

Or they can be deeply entrenched, activating anxiety or some other response when we are triggered.

Those are the stories we need to shift to grow, and that's when things can become uncomfortable.

So, how can we open ourselves up to seeing our stories for what they are so we can reframe them?

Today, I'm digging deep into getting in tune with your stories. I'll walk you through some of my personal stories and how they affected my life and kept me stuck and how I reframed them.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I share some questions you can ask yourself and some techniques you can use to move past the 'this is just how I am' victim mentality and into more understanding of yourself and your story.

Listen in for insight into ways to step outside of the noise and get in touch with what's coming up for you and why, so you can look at those pieces of yourself head-on and challenge what's no longer working for you.

Are you ready to move away from the stories that no longer serve you? Jeremiah and I would love to support you on your journey. If you are seeking personal one-on-one coaching, we both have openings! Or, if you want to go deeper with your significant other, we have a limited number of spaces in our couple's mastermind coming this Fall! Reach out to me, Mallory, or Jeremiah for an application TODAY!

Key Takeaways

Why an activated state of anxiety is NOT normal

How internal anxiety manifests itself

How to look at your stress stories from a different perspective

Why it's vital to have hard conversations with people who will point out your blind spots

The one question you need to ask yourself if you want to reframe your story

What to do with your internal clutter

How to determine if you are meeting YOUR true needs

How to create the space to acknowledge your journey and still find joy in the moment

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Resources

The Key to Building REAL Trust in Your Relationship - EP203 Jun 28, 2022

We all have stories that affect every decision we make and how we live out our lives on a day-to-day basis. From the track playing in our minds that tells us we don't deserve rest even when we’re not feeling our best, to tying our self-worth to the wrong career or relationship.

But how can we tell the difference between the stories we tell ourselves and what's real?

Today, we're digging deep into how open your awareness to the narratives that play inside so you can let go of the longtime labels and separate yourself from the" story" that's no longer serving you.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the conversation you need to have with your partner in order create a safe space for yourself to be vulnerable.

We describe the level of trust you need in your relationship so you can ‌grow to support your partner in what they need without allowing those old stories to play out.

Listen in for insight into how to communicate for an intimate level of trust so you can evolve into who you are meant to be as a couple.

Do you want to build a life with your significant other on a deeper level? We're launching our Couple's Mastermind in October, but space is limited. Reach out to Jeremiah or Mallory for the application TODAY!

Key Takeaways

The 2 questions you need to ask yourself to determine if the story you attached to yourself is true

How bringing awareness to your internal narratives helps you free yourself from the negative "labels"

Why it's important to discard the generational stereotypes about how things are "supposed" to be

Why rest and digest is the fastest way to get where you want to go in life

How shame keeps us stuck in our stories

Why being curious rather than critical is the key to changing your relationship

Why feminine energy cannot be forced

How to set aside the internal judgment so you support each other in reality

The key conversation you need to have with your partner to open the next level of trust

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Recognizing the Pain Body in Relationships | Eckhart Tolle

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Proof of Mind Over Matter - The Double Slit Experiment - Physics, Dr Quantum

How to Intuitively Balance Your Energy Every Day - EP202 Jun 21, 2022

Do you find yourself so focused on your regime and achievements you feel like a failure if you take a day off or get up an hour later?

Or are you in the flow, with tons of creative ideas, but you accomplish nothing because you’re all over the place?

There is a better way!

Today on the Destined to Be podcast, Brooke Rozzie of The Power of a Woman podcast joins Mallory to talk about how you can balance your masculine and feminine sides so you can own your energy for every cycle and season in all aspects of your life.

Brooke and Mallory discuss how everything from what we eat to how we sleep to where we are in our cycle plays a part in our energetics and how to harness that power.

We explain how to drop out of the cycle of hating your body so you can transition into listening intuitively to yourself as a woman.

Listen in for insight into how to stop self-sabotaging and let go of the practices that no longer work in your current stage of life so you can make room for the flow in your current season.

Want more tips, tools, and tricks for managing your hormones for energy? Join Mallory and Brooke for our 3-DAY ENERGY + HORMONE MASTER CLASS. Click Here!

Key Takeaways

The influence of our behaviors and habits on our hormones

Why what worked for you at 20 doesn’t work now

The 2 ways the distorted all-or-nothing mentality leads to burnout

The identifying characteristics of masculine and feminine energy

The 2 major energy systems of mindfulness

What happens in your brain and body when you lean too hard into your masculine energy

How to intuitively listen to your body to balance your feminine and masculine energy

When should a woman lean into her masculine side for more of an advantage

The key to understanding the deeply entrenched emotions that keep us stuck in unhealthy energy cycles

The 2-step action process to shift your mindset

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The Power of a Woman podcast

Brooke Rozzie on Instagram

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3-DAY ENERGY + HORMONE MASTER CLASS! July 11, 12, 13, 2022

Resources

Owning Your Hormonal Energy

What is Secret Sauce for Personal Development? - EP201 Jun 14, 2022

Is there a one-size-fits-all formula for personal development?

We're all human beings living different lives, which likely means we want very different things depending upon the stage of our journey.

Some people want to build a business, some want to develop their self-esteem, and others might be somewhere in between.

When people first dip their toe into personal development, they often try everything, exploring practices they think will move the needle but only giving each thing a half-hearted attempt like they are just going down a checklist.

Actual change requires more of an investment than checking off boxes.

So, how can you create a personal development plan that will work for YOU?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the one thing you need to determine before you can find a personal development routine that will work for you. Jeremiah shares the five different things he does in his morning routine to stay in the zone, while Mallory offers insight into how the seasons of her life have impacted her and her work.

Listen in to discover how to match your season to the right practices to create a bigger impact. We'll walk you through a crucial tracking system for all aspects of your life so you can move the hurdles in your way. Plus, where the most significant breakthroughs in personal development happen.

If you're tired of living like ignorance on fire and are ready to fast-track your life, reach out to Jeremiah or Register for Mallory's Fall Level Up Wait List.

Key Takeaways

The first thing you need to determine before embarking on a personal development plan

Why hearing other people's stories of change is so transformational

Why listening to the signals your body is sending can help you determine what you need right now

The only way to break through a plateau

How ideas plus action create the power to move the needle

What's the next step after mindset work to make the shift

Why it's crucial to track where you are in ALL aspects of your life to determine your next steps

The most significant piece of the self-development puzzle you may be overlooking

Why you should never hire a coach who doesn't have a coach

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How to Work Through Childhood Trauma TOGETHER - EP200 Jun 07, 2022

Childhood trauma can impact a person's emotional and physical health and personal relationships even when they're an adult, causing issues like addiction and co-dependency. Recently we sat down for an interview with Andrea Ashley on the Adult Child podcast, and today for our very special 200th episode; we're sharing that interview with you right here!

We're going deep and sharing the back story from our troubled teen years to what happened that flipped the switch to bring forth our childhood traumas and how that has impacted our marriage.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the moment that almost shattered our relationship, the work we've done to overcome co-dependency in our marriage, and what we are doing to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma with our own children.

Listen in for insight into EMDR therapy, Imago Dialogue, and using breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows. Plus, we share some great resources that examine the cause and effect of childhood trauma on adults.

Key Takeaways

How Jeremiah's childhood trauma led to a pattern of addictive behaviors and a 'never enough' mentality

How Mallory's childhood trauma led to her abandonment issues

The break with Mallory's family that flipped the switch to shine the light on our individual childhood traumas

What happened in June 2021 that almost broke us as a couple

The shift that created a perfect storm and a runway for realness in our marriage

How childhood traumas express themselves in adulthood

How adult child work can help you return to who you were meant to be

How to use Imago Dialogue to help each partner feel seen, heard, and validated

How to use breath, sound, and movement to release untreated shadows

How to break the childhood trauma cycle

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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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Resources

Adult Child Podcast

The Laundry List: The ACoA Experience

Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families

How Your Worst-Case Scenario Thoughts are Stunting Your Growth - EP199 May 31, 2022

Have you ever read a text from somebody that said, "we need to talk," and automatically, your mind started spinning?

Your body reacts, and BOOM, it's off to the races. You begin spiraling out. Envisioning scenarios of losing everything, being homeless, your life as you know it destroyed. All these images were conjured up from just a few words on a screen and now, in your mind, you're living out your worst-case scenario.

You've been triggered!

Your body may react with adrenaline spikes and be ready to pounce, or maybe you go down the anxiety trail and panic or shut down.

Either way, you're caught in a spiral cycle, with your body reacting in a way that's meant to keep you safe. But it’s just keeping you stuck.

So, what can you do?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through where these reactions originate from and how they can cause energy blocks that can keep you from growth.

We'll discuss how you might unintentionally be reinforcing the story that you're stuck. And we'll talk about how you might be projecting your triggered thoughts onto your partner.

Listen in for insight on how you can bring awareness into the moment instead of falling into your old patterns of numbing out. Plus, we’ll look at how you can gain the tools and resources you need to stop spiraling.

Key Takeaways

What is contempt prior to investigation, and why do we manufacture it when we're triggered

What are you signaling to your inner self when you say, "that's just the way I am"

How your most significant challenges can also be the biggest support for your inner work

How we use justifiable dopamine behaviors to avoid dealing with our triggering feelings

Why deep breathing doesn't always work to move you from your triggers

Why how we expect our partner to react and the stories we tell each other may be keeping us stuck

How a support team can help you formulate the tools to step out of the victim mentality

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How Energy Enters Our Body to Trigger Us - EP198 May 24, 2022

Did you know that 95% of how you show up, your attitudes, actions, beliefs, essence, and the beauty of the person you are is ingrained by the time you're 35 years old? The question then becomes, who created the person I am today?

The way you evolve and grow in the future will be determined by how you answer that question.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm sharing the paradigm shift that happens when we open ourselves up to expanding our consciousness and commit to doing the inner work around the emotions and behaviors that keep us stuck in our stories and maintaining the status quo.

I'll explain why you get that gut-wrenching feeling when you're out and about and something triggers you. And why, even though you are sure you are long over what happened your body still reacts.

Listen in for insight into your ego and how it and your brain function in your life to keep you safe. I'll walk you through how you can connect to what is causing your personal triggers, and I'll share some techniques for working through those emotions to get back to center.

Key Takeaways

The AHA moment I had at the gym with a listener

Why what your mind forgets, your body will always remember

How our brain sorts through our everyday experiences

What is the ego responsible for

The difference between your mind and your ego

The 2 ways energies enter our bodies and trigger us

How to use your breathing to return to your safe place when you’re triggered

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Going Deeper than Mindset - EP197 May 17, 2022

I love affirmations. But if you haven't done the necessary internal work, it can be like slapping a band aid on an injury you need to go to the doctor's office for. It's just covering up the wound instead of healing it from the inside out.

I started my coaching journey as a mindset coach. That's what I knew. But it only took me so far. You may find the same thing on your growth journey. Mindset tools will get you to a new place, but you might stall or find that old blocks begin to reappear. You might even return to your old coping behaviors like social media, shopping, sex, food, etc.

So, what can you do to finally break away from those old patterns to fully embody your new outlook and move into a new season?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss why when we stop looking at things on the external level and begin looking at the internal, we often unearth old turmoil that may come out as anxiety.

I explain why the more inner work you do the more you will need new tools to help you take the steps to make BIG internal shifts.

I discuss what to do when your affirmations don't align with the stories that are true for you.

Listen in to understand how to use movement, music, and breathing to move past the response patterns that are no longer serving you.

Jeremiah and I would love to walk along with you on your growth journey. If you're ready to join my VIP women's program that starts in mid-June, or you are interested in our couple's mastermind coming this fall, please drop into my DMs so I can send you more information.

Key Takeaways

Why mindset will only take you so far

How your body reacts when your affirmations don't align with the stories that are true for you

How acknowledging your true stories can help you change your negative response patterns Why are brain makes us forget trauma

What it means to get out of your head and into your body

How to use movement, music, and breathing to out of your head

Why having both the tools and a support team is vital as past experiences show themselves in the body

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Resources

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When to Push Yourself and When to Just Be Present - EP196 May 10, 2022

There's a time to push yourself in life, and there's a time to let yourself off the hook and just be.

The challenge comes in determining when to do each. It can be difficult to step back and allow things to proceed as they are meant to. So often we get stuck in a pattern of charging ahead, injecting ourselves into whatever situation we are facing instead of receiving what the universe is creating.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our personal stories of situations where each of us was faced with the challenge of deciding whether the occasion called for us to "gut it out" or to step back and give ourselves grace based on the energy we had for that moment in our lives.

We’ll take a look at the fine line between pushing yourself too hard and when you might be giving up because you're getting lazy.

Listen in for insight into how you can lean into more awareness around what you are trying to accomplish in your life and what each moment is calling for you to do—push forward, or just be. Plus, we’ll go deeper into ways to avoid creating an all-or-nothing mindset so you can gain clarity around when to push yourself and when to let things go based on your energy or evolve as they are meant to.

Key Takeaways

What does it really take to build a new habit

How to avoid creating an all-or-nothing mindset

How to operate within your energy instead of doing things "just because"

What to do when the inner work becomes uncomfortable

How to channel your inner "zen" while still pushing yourself to reach your next level

When to call yourself out on your BS and when to give yourself grace

How to live true to the energy you have for what you are trying to accomplish for the day

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Resources

How to Live in the Power of the Present - EP195 May 03, 2022

The thoughts are the language of the mind. Feelings are the emotions and expressions of the body.

With our schedules and never-ending to-do lists, many of us find ourselves living in the past, contemplating decisions we made or things we said while forgoing what’s happening today to look toward the future.

Living this way can leave us feeling worn out, out of touch with ourselves, and even out of control in our lives. Recently, I’ve instituted a few practices designed to help me let go of my past and future living so I can live in the power of the present moment.

Today, I am sharing how those practices have been pivotal in helping me show up better, even through some insane changes that have happened in my life recently.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I share a personal story of something that happened at work that I didn’t expect, and how I handled it by expressing my feelings without trying to fix them as I would have done in the past all by living in the power of the present.

Listen in for insight on how I was able get out of my own way by stepping out of the fear of living in the moment. I’ll share some practices I used to finally get free of the things that were blocking me so I could move to the next level where my true self and the universe were waiting to help me move forward.

Key Takeaways

What happens inside when you reframe your feelings instead of actually feeling them

How to express your feelings without fixing how you feel

Why you can’t solve a problem from the same level of thinking that created it

How to use the personal strengths you’ve learned to benefit your business

The 1 habit that helped me get inside my body and be in the present moment

How the universe participates in true transformation

How being present helps you live like a person with a purpose and on a mission

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How to Show Up on Social Media Without Losing Your Mind - EP194 Apr 26, 2022

Social media is one of the biggest pain points for people today.

We hear things like, “I get so nervous when I show up online,” or “I have to retake the same video 25 times before I actually share it,” or “I stumble over my words.”

Maybe you hear yourself in some of those statements? We’ve all been there. On this episode of Destined to Be, we share Jeremiah’s own story of why he didn’t enjoy showing up online, and how being vulnerable in his feed flipped the switch for him. Plus, Mallory shares one social media secret you might not know that could be the thing keeping you stuck, especially if you’ve been vocal about hating social media in the past. We’ve got a great episode filled with advice on how to change your feed from triggering to inspiring, insight on who to follow, and what people really wish you would share. We’ll also discuss some of the underlying reasons people have for not wanting to show up on social media and trust us, it goes deeper than, ‘I just don’t like it.’ Social media is here to stay. Listen in to learn what you need to know to make it serve you, so you can alleviate your fear of posting and start building your brand.

Key Takeaways

How to recognize unhealthy patterns and triggers around your social media so you can stop them

How to find the inspiration for your next popular post right in your feed

The 2 key players for growth on social media right NOW

How you can use your negative experiences to shine a positive light into the lives of others

The 1 question to ask yourself before you press ‘post’

The real reason why posting ‘no filters’, random topics, and the BTS of your life creates more social media engagement

The key found in the comments section that determines the true quality of the content you’re sharing

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Grant Cardone on Instagram

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Resources

Gary Vee on Instagram

How to Communicate Healthy Expectations in Your Relationship - EP193 Apr 19, 2022

It’s important to have healthy expectations in a relationship. In a healthy relationship, you are each getting your needs met and meeting the needs of the person you love and trust the most. But it can be challenging to express your needs effectively. Especially in that initial conversation with your partner. Sometimes the verbiage we use can trigger the other person leaving them feeling attacked instead of inspired. And things can get even more muddled if you don’t know what your expectations for your life or your life together even look like.

So, how can you effectively communicate your wants and needs to your partner in a healthy way? And what can you do when expectations are not being met or are no longer realistic for you as a person or a couple?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through some different options for determining your needs in life, and your relationship. Then we offer some guidance on how to communicate those needs effectively, so you can alleviate triggers and inspire growth and trust on both sides of your relationship.

We describe ways you can build your self-esteem so you can communicate your needs from a place of value. We’ll also discuss how working with a professional through these conversations can be both eye-opening and life-changing for both you and your partner.

Listen in for insight on how to communicate so you can create the safety you need in your life to grow and allow for the growth of your partner and your relationship, too.

Key Takeaways

How to support your partner through change and be their biggest cheerleader

How to use verbiage that will make your partner feel valued instead of attacked

Why judgment in a relationship leads to holding back

Why unrealistic expectations lead to resentment, and how to communicate effectively so everyone wins

How moving through shame and unworthiness will help you discover your value in the relationship

How to determine your triggers for personal change

The difference between a coach, counselor, and therapist and what a coach does ‌the others do not

How getting clear on what you want will help you communicate (and live) your truth

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Resources

Jordan Peterson

How to Relax, Disconnect, and Live a More Authentic Life - EP192 Apr 12, 2022

We all need a break. Generally, as a society, we’re tired and overworked.

But with all this stress in our lives, it can feel impossible to let go long enough to find a way to recharge.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the importance of being able to disconnect from stress and how to find true relaxation.

We share our experiences struggling to relax on vacation, finding time to unwind as a family, and how our human design types show up in our quests for disconnection from work and business life.

Listen in to hear more about how to live your most authentic life by relinquishing control, focusing on yourself rather than others, and never taking yourself too seriously.

Key Takeaways

How we struggled to relax during a past vacation as we were preoccupied with our lives back home

Why society wants you to be wrapped up in what other people are doing, rather than living in your own moment

Why you must disconnect from outer circumstances to fully achieve relaxation

What our human design types are and how they influence how we show up in our lives

How we soak up energy from our surroundings and how we respond to the need to release that energy

Why it is never too late to right your wrongs with the people in your life

Why we need to let loose and stop taking things too seriously

How the internal safety measures we create to keep control of our lives can lead to us missing out on living authentic lives

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Resources

Elementum Coaching Institute on Instagram

Episode 191: How to Ditch Toxic Positivity to Live a More Present Life

How to Ditch Toxic Positivity to Live a More Present Life - EP191 Apr 05, 2022

Just because we have grown in certain areas of our lives, doesn’t mean we will always react perfectly to things happening around us.

We must practice holding space. This is where we are able to be present and aware of how we are allowing our emotions to show up in conflict.

On this episode of Destined To Be, I’m here for another solo episode where I share my strategies for acting, thinking, and feeling in congruence, and how that allows me to understand the true motives behind my emotions.

I share the neurological responses of fight, flight, freeze, and the one that is typically unknown, fawn.

Listen in to hear more about how I prioritize being present enough to reflect on my past, which allows me to live a better life in the future.

Key Takeaways

Why I constantly believe that the universe is transpiring in my favor

How I have suffered from using “toxic positivity” as a coping mechanism

What I refer to as “holding space” and why I want to spend my life being present and aware of my emotions

Why I encourage others to constantly self-audit and check in with their own emotions

Why the real abundance of self-growth will only happen once we’re in a present position of calmness and awareness

Why you need to continually ask yourself deeper questions in order to unlock your true self

The differences between fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses to conflict or unwanted situations

The nuances of the fawn response and why it forces people to internalize their issues and convinces them that they are wrong

Why acting, thinking, and feeling in congruence allow me to be the person I am destined to be

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Elementum Coaching Institute on Instagram

The Backwards Brain Bicycle - Smarter Every Day

Episode 190: Understanding Your Unwanted Actions To Change Your Life

Understanding Your Unwanted Actions to Change Your Life - EP190 Mar 29, 2022

“As easy as riding a bike.” That’s the saying. But what if the way you rode the bike changed? Would you be able to unlearn the thing you’ve known since you were a kid?

In the Youtube video, The Backwards Brain Bicycle, Destin from the SmarterEveryDay channel changes the gears on his bicycle, so when he turns the handlebars one way, the bicycle goes the opposite way. It took him eight months to learn how to ride it.

On this episode of Destined To Be, I talk about this video and how it changed the way I think about my subconscious habits.

I share my thoughts on why we feel unsafe when we start experimenting with new habits or ways of doing things, as our autonomic habits subconsciously dictate our lives.

Listen in as I discuss the difference between knowledge and understanding, the importance of transitional periods in our lives, and how to shift your internal dialogue to focus on your unwanted feelings and behaviors in order to change them into the way you wish to show up in the world.

Key Takeaways

My takeaways from the Backwards Brain Bicycle Youtube video

How your autonomic habits subconsciously dictate your life

Why knowledge is different than understanding

Why people often feel unsafe when starting new habits or doing things differently

The importance of pushing against the norm to do good things that are uncomfortable and unfamiliar

How to change the way you show up in the world by bringing your awareness to your unwanted thoughts, feelings, and behaviors

The importance of perseverance through transitional periods in your life to improve yourself and live the life you want

Why human beings would not learn how to make massive shifts and changes without suffering

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Resources

Elementum Coaching Institute on Instagram

The Backwards Brain Bicycle - Smarter Every Day

How to Stop Feeling Victimized by Other People’s Judgments - EP189 Mar 22, 2022

The fear of being judged can drive us to live our lives inauthentically.

When we worry about what others think, it can feel safer to show up as who we think people want us to be, rather than who we are.

But it’s important to know that other people will never be able to see you the way you truly are. It’s impossible. They can only see you through their own biases and judgments.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss why our public perceptions can be complicated and how to change the way we react to judgment.

We share our thoughts on our own online presences, why Jeremy feels he is underrepresenting himself online, and how to stop feeling victimized by others’ perceptions of you.

Key Takeaways

Why it can be problematic to rely on social media pages to get to know someone

The high stakes of being visible on social media and why Jeremy feels he is underrepresenting himself online

Why it’s important to reflect on ourselves instead of judging other people

Why it is impossible for others to see you for who you truly are

How teaching something helps you understand that subject better than when you first learned it

How to stop feeling victimized by other people's perceptions of you and change the way you react to judgment

Why people are quick to judge others who are different from them

How we are quick to use our past accomplishments to justify where we are today

Our fear of being judged and how to fight past it to show up the way we truly want to

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Resources

Metro Detroit Entrepreneurs on Instagram

How to Stop Apologizing for Being Your True Self - EP188 Mar 15, 2022

How many times have you worried about how others perceive you? Maybe you’ve worried people will judge you for getting your nails or hair done too much. Maybe you’ve come back from a night out completely paranoid about every little thing you said.

Life is exhausting. Let’s not make it harder on ourselves. As life goes on, we evolve. There should be no apologizing for that. And we can’t let others dictate how we choose to show up in our own lives. They’re OUR lives, not anybody else’s.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss my experience second-guessing myself and how I have been able to transform into my most authentic self by prioritizing my own needs.

I share the reasons why it is crucial to honor your own boundaries by doing work to better yourself, rather than spend your time serving others.

Listen in to learn more about how to take control of your life and stop apologizing for living your truth.

Key Takeaways

Mallory’s experience second guessing herself at speaking engagements and how she learned to navigate her truest self

Why you should never apologize for showing up as your authentic self

The negative implications of living up to other peoples’ expectations, rather than your own

How to honor your own boundaries by prioritizing your needs

How people often seek validation from others in order to feel good about themselves

Why it’s good to leave relationships and friendships in the past after you have outgrown them

Why it is helpful to learn to let go of other people’s opinions

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Resources

Metro Detroit Entrepreneurs on Instagram

Why Our Triggers Are the Keys to Understanding Ourselves - EP187 Mar 08, 2022

We all know the feeling of being bothered by someone so much that we can barely stand it. But what does that insinuate for ourselves and our mental well being?

Why is that particular thing so triggering? Why are we so worried about what someone else is doing?

We know that oftentimes, our triggers are a reflection of something we need to work on in our own lives.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Jeremy shares his experience battling with his hatred for hypocrites and what that means for himself internally.

Listen in as we discuss how being curious can answer those internal questions in a non-judgmental way. It is important to remember, when you’re curious about something, you can’t be critical.

Key Takeaways

Why Jeremy is triggered by hypocrisy

The importance of practicing what you teach and living in congruence with your life values

Why life coaches need to do the work behind the scenes to better themselves in order to be able to effectively coach others

How to identify when you are too worried about what other people are doing

When something is bothering us, it means we need to look within to understand what we need to work on within ourselves to find peace

How we can show up with more integrity in our lives to find gratitude

How to listen to your pain and suffering with curiosity, rather than judgment

How praying for someone and wishing them well makes it much harder to be bothered by them

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How Perfectionism Hold You Back From Achieving Your Goals - EP186 Mar 01, 2022

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are. I don’t say this to mean that you don’t have a great impact on people, but we often hold ourselves back because we think people will notice we aren’t perfect.

You might not launch your business because your site isn’t perfect, or not go to the gym because your outfit doesn’t match. Hint: nobody cares.

It’s taken me a long time to realize this, so on this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss some of those problematic ways of thinking that hold us back.

Oftentimes, we just need to become aware of our negative energy, how we’re acting and responding to things, and then we are able to move out of that headspace quicker.

Listen in as I go through the things that typically hold us back and what you can do to make sure you are empowered to live your best life.

Key Takeaways

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What ultimately holds us back from reaching our next level

Mallory’s experience with moving on from things too quickly and not celebrating her victories

Becoming aware of our negative energy can shorten the lifespan of that energy

The importance of honoring your feelings by allowing yourself to sit in them

People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are

Perfection will hold you back almost every time

We don’t know other peoples’ stories and circumstances, so comparing yourself to others is unfair to you

How to tap into your own energy, negative or positive

How determining what the energy is behind what we’re trying to accomplish leads us to make empowered decisions

If something is triggering you, it’s probably because it’s something you need to work on.

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Last week’s episode of Destined to Be

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How to Prioritize a Challenging Personal Growth Program - EP185 Feb 23, 2022

In March, we’re starting an intensive, nine-month master coaching certification program. A program we know will challenge us mentally and emotionally.

How are we setting ourselves up for success? What are we doing to prioritize the program around parenting and the multiple businesses we run?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how we each approach a program we know will test our time and attention, describing how to make decisions around what’s possible from a ‘window of tolerance’ or neutral place.

We discuss what the DiSC assessment can tell you about your behavior and explore how to work with someone with a very different decision-making process.

Listen in for insight on the pros and cons of being hyper-aware and learn how to show up with intentionality as you start any challenging new personal development program!

Key Takeaways

The intensive master coaching certification program we’re starting in March

What we’re doing to prioritize this coaching program and set ourselves up for success

How to approach a program you know will test your time and attention

Why Mallory can’t make decisions from a high or low place

The concept of a window of tolerance or neutral space from which you can make a level-headed decision

Jeremiah’s ability to make decisions quickly and thrive in a stressful environment

What the DiSC assessment uncovers about your behavior and how to work with someone with a very different personality and decision-making process

The pros and cons of being hyper-aware

Why it’s crucial to process and use the tools of personal development vs. just moving on to the next program

How we define wealth as having true ownership of your time

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Resources

Breaking Down Fear to Live a Fuller Life on Destined to Be EP184

Somatic Coaching

DiSC Assessment

EMDR Therapy

The Psychology of Wealth: Understand Your Relationship with Money and Achieve Prosperity by Charles Richards

Breaking Down Fear to Live a Fuller Life - EP184 Feb 15, 2022

We spend a lot of our time in the comfort zone. We know what we like and continue our routines in our careers, with friends, and even the small things like a coffee order.

But what if your preferences are blocking your possibilities?

It’s easy to decide your fate before you’ve even had the chance to explore your options. We often find ourselves being fearful of the bad things that could happen in our lives, instead of embracing the endless opportunities.

It’s me, Mallory, and I am back with another solo episode of Destined to Be, where I discuss the importance of breaking down your fears of what might happen in order to unlock your full potential.

Listen in for more insight on how asking yourself important questions about what you truly desire leads to breaking down barriers and living a fuller life.

Key Takeaways

Why it’s crucial to ask yourself why you’re operating the way you are and challenge your own routine
How letting your guard down with yourself allows you to break your own pattern to become more open with other people
The challenging, but rewarding process of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy
How focusing too much on worst case scenarios takes you away from what is actually possible in your life
Why figuring out how to evolve in your life can open up opportunities better than you ever imagined
How to tapinto the pureness of curiosity in order to grow as a person

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The Ugly Side of Personal Growth on Destined to Be EP183

The Ugly Side of Personal Growth - EP183 Feb 08, 2022

In every area of life, to move forward, we must look back and address certain parts of ourselves. This can be one of the hardest and scariest things to do, but we don’t have to go through it alone.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the ugly side of growth and why it’s not always sunshine and rainbows like everyone online makes it seem. We explore how we have dealt with the many struggles that come with stepping outside our comfort zone and confront many truths that can be hard to swallow.

We discuss the importance of confronting your past, how to deal with fear, and the impact that having a good coach can have on your growth journey.

Listen in for insight on what comes with growth and how to persevere through the growing pains to reach your next level of success!

Key Takeaways

Jeremiah’s insight on what the ugly side of growth looks like for him

How social media distorts our reality and what growth really looks like

The importance of internal work

Jeremiah on how to get past the comparison trap

How importance of having a coach or mentor

Why staying busy isn’t enough

Mallory’s insight on what a surface level existence looks like and how to break the pattern

Jeremiah’s experience with getting past his own fears and discomfort

Where to look for support in your growth journey

The most crucial step you have to take before you can move forward

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Empathy & Compassion in Relationships - EP182 Feb 01, 2022

Going into any situation, whether it’s with a loved one or a coworker, it can be so easy to put the blame on others for how we feel. “You should have helped me.” “You don’t care about me.” But what’s really going on inside for us to feel these things so deeply?

Is it childhood trauma, built up resentment from lack of communication, or an insecurity that has been pushed down for years?

How can we deal with these beliefs and make it easier to have empathy and compassion in our relationships?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss what having empathy and compassion can look like in a relationship and the subconscious beliefs that may be getting in the way from growing in this area. We explore how Jeremiah and Mallory model empathy and compassion around their relationship and work to continue to evolve.

We discuss how deeply important it is to incorporate somatic work in your life to neurologically reset your body, improving your relationships and overall state of being.

Listen in for insight on how to work past belief systems and apply these practices to gain more compassion in your intimate and platonic relationships.

Key Takeaways

A Level Up client’s experience with subconscious beliefs regarding compassion in relationships

The importance of inner work and where it stands in your life and business

How Jeremiah and Mallory have learned to grow in communication and compassion

Where belief systems usually stem from

Jeremiah’s insight on how communication can help prevent emotion-based reactions and assumptions

Jeremiah and Mallory’s insight on compassion in regards to a significant other vs a stranger

What a mental spiral is and how it keeps you from thinking rationally

The belief system process involved in the Level Up programs

Jeremiah and Mallory’s experience dealing with their oldest son’s belief systems

How Jeremiah and Mallory’s work through these challenges in their relationship

How Mallory works through a spinout

Why most people don’t get past their subconscious beliefs

The importance in having a dialogue around compassion and what it looks like for you and your partner

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Simplifying Your Life to Do What Matters - EP181 Jan 25, 2022

With the new year we tend to have unrealistic expectations for ourselves that cause us to hit a wall, throwing all our resolutions out the window.

What if instead of adding, adding, adding to our lists, we simplified our lives to be able to fit in more of the things that really matter?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I, Mallory, explores the idea that we need to shift from the new year, new me hustle mentality with a more simplistic and joyful mindset, describing ways we can create a space that feels good and show up for ourselves in healthy ways that doesn’t lead to burnout.

I explain how finding an in between the all or nothing mentality can allow you to do more without overcommitting, and how important it is to find community and accountability that will keep you on this healthy course.

Listen in for insight on how the hustle mentality holds you back more than it propels you and learn how to create more flow in your life, being able to show up more for yourself and others!

Key Takeaways

The Level Up Program and how it is transforming lives

The common theme of the new year

Why you might be feeling burned out already

Mallory’s insight on the “new year, new me” mentality

Tapping more into the joy of each moment instead of seeing tasks as a burden

Finding an in between the all or nothing mindset

The importance of finding community and accountability that adds to your life and doesn’t drain you

Questions to ask yourself to elevate your 2022

Mallory’s habit stacking tip

The exclusive Level Up VIP offer

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Resources

Level Up VIP

Living in Alignment with Your Definition of Success - EP180 Jan 18, 2022

Most people grow up with the end goal to become successful. Though what does success even mean?

What if instead of striving to be successful based on what others are doing or to be looked at as successful by others, you got real with yourself with what success really means to you?

How can you live in alignment with your idea of success and continue to redefine it as you continue to evolve?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how the definition of success is subjective and why it’s so important to not compare yourself to others’ definition. We explore Jeremiah’s and Mallory’s ideas of success starting at a young age to now, and how it has evolved over time.

We discuss how to live in alignment with your idea of success, addressing the importance of having the right network, mentors, routines, and fulfilling goals.

Listen in for insight on how you can get clear on your definition of success in all areas of life, reflect it in your day to day, and adjust along the way.

Key Takeaways

Getting trapped in the comparison trap when it comes to success

How Jeremiah used to think of success and how that has evolved in every season of his life

How Mallory used to think of success and when that idea shifted

How having entrepreneurship parents made Mallory’s idea of success much different compared to Jeremiah’s

Success continues to evolve and change

Why it’s important to have a network that matches your idea of success/what you’re working towards

The limited beliefs that Jeremiah has struggled with when working to evolve

The importance of knowing what will really fulfill you

How having a mentor has affected Mallory’s success journey

Learning to redefine success as you grow

How Jeremiah and Mallory gage success now

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What We Learned About Success & Slowing Down in 2021 - EP179 Jan 11, 2022

2021 was a transformative year for us. Jeremiah’s spiritual awakening in June had a ripple effect, shifting the way we think about think success and forcing us to prioritize what matters most.

We had the most rewarding year of our lives financially and deepened our relationship as a couple. And yes, we did fun things like buy Jeremiah’s dream car and install a pool in our backyard.

But we also realized that having things doesn’t matter much if you’re carrying trauma in your body, trying to outrun your pain. If you’re measuring yourself against an ideal and never taking the time to BE.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we reflect on what we’ve accomplished in the last 12 months, personally and professionally, explaining why we focused on energy, alignment and slowing down in 2021.

We share what we learned about not taking things personally, making decisions from a place of faith and holding space for ourselves, each other and our children.

Listen in to understand why we’re focused on ‘living in the game’ in 2022 and learn how to be happier NOW by measuring your success through the gain, not the gap!

Key Takeaways

Why we focused on energy, alignment and slowing down in 2021

Our biggest personal and professional accomplishments in the last 12 months

How Jeremiah’s team rallied around him through his spiritual awakening

Why you can have everything you want and still be unhappy

How we think about not taking it personally when people resist our growth

How Jeremiah’s beliefs around rest and success changed in 2021

What inspired Jeremiah’s focus on ‘living in the game’ in 2022

How trauma impacts our bodies and brains—and what to do about it

What it looks like to hold space for yourself and other people

Why it's crucial to have a relationship with your numbers (especially in business)

What Mallory learned in 2021 about working with her feminine energy

Dan Sullivan’s theory of measuring success by the gain vs. the gap

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Resources

Adam Grant on Introversion

Jim Fortin’s Free Trainings

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

Kyle Depiesse on Destined to Be EP175

Jake Woodard on Masculine and Feminine Energy

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

Strategic Coach

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Dan Sullivan on Gap vs. Gain

Helping Men Level Up & Become the Leaders They Want to Be - EP178 Jan 04, 2022

While there are a lot of personal development groups for women, it’s harder to find programs that help men deepen their relationships with themselves and become the leaders they want to be.

And that’s why we’re launching Men’s Level Up VIP, a three-week Facebook Live training experience designed to help men decide what they really want and transform their lives.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re back from our holiday hiatus to discuss the programs we’re offering in the new year and share our commitment to providing transformational coaching experiences.

We describe how men will benefit from Level Up VIP, explaining how it’s designed to help them take the first steps toward a life of purpose and impact.

Listen in for insight around the ‘all or nothing’ mindset that keeps you from achieving your goals and find out how to be a part of our supportive community of men and women committed to leveling up our personal and professional lives!

Key Takeaways

How and why the premise of Destined to Be evolved in the second half of 2021

Why we’re offering a Men’s version of the Level Up VIP program

Why we recommend doing personal development in a small, intimate group

Why there’s such a stigma for men around vulnerability as weakness

How the Men’s Level Up VIP program will help you know yourself at a deeper level and become the leader you want to be

How the ‘all or nothing’ mindset keeps us from reaching our goals (and what to do about it)

Our commitment to providing transformational experiences where you embody the ideas we’re teaching

The value in joining a community where you’re not judged for your BIG dreams

How to overcome the money story that you can have time or money—not both

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Resources

Jim Kwik

To Drink, Or Not to Drink - EP177 Oct 07, 2021

We’re on vacation at an all-inclusive resort right now, surrounded by overindulgence. And when other people find out that we don’t drink, they often justify the fact that they’re making a different choice.

But here’s the thing: You’re an adult, and you don’t need our permission. If you’re happy with your decision to have an adult beverage or two, more power to you.

If, on the other hand, you’re unhappy with the way you feel when you drink or you’re curious what life would be like without alcohol, you can change the story you’re telling yourself and replace drinking with a healthier habit.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore what it looks like to temporarily push down the feelings you don’t want to deal with by drinking, overeating, scrolling the internet—or any other unhealthy habit.

We describe how the people you surround yourself with influence your behavior and explain how to eliminate the scarcity mindset that leads to overindulgence.

Listen in for insight on deciding whether your current habits support the person you want to become and learn how to get clear on what you want out of life and replace the habits that are holding you back!

Key Takeaways

Why you don’t have to justify your decision to drink (provided you’re happy with that choice)

Why we bring our healthy habits with us on vacation

How to eliminate the scarcity mindset that leads to overindulgence

How the people you surround yourself with influence your behavior

What it looks like to push down the feelings you don’t want to deal with via alcohol, overeating, etc.

How the 12-Step Program served as Jeremiah’s introduction to personal development

What to do if you’re struggling with alcohol or curious what life would be like without it

How to decide if your current habits support the person you want to become and replace the habits that are holding you back

Why it’s challenging to get clear on what you want when your mind is fuzzy

How you can’t get to the next level by doing the same sh*t over and over

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Move Past Addiction, Change Your Thoughts & Transform Your Life on Destined to Be EP008

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Resources

Addiction: Obsessions of the Mind That Overpower the Body on Destined to Be EP054

Choose Compassion Over the Stigma of Addiction on Destined to Be EP167

Exploring the Way Trauma Shapes Us on Destined to Be EP175

The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

Mallory’s Level Up VIP Program

A Strong Man’s Guide to Supporting a Successful Woman - EP176 Sep 30, 2021

My powerhouse wife, Mallory, just keeps achieving higher levels of success. And before my awakening this past summer, that success scared me.

I saw her growing independence as a threat. If I wasn’t the provider in our marriage, where did my worth come from?

Patrick Kennedy, Johnny Elsasser and Mark Gustafson are all in committed relationships with extremely successful women entrepreneurs. So, how are they growing stronger as men while they support their partners’ dreams?

On this episode of Destined to Be, Pat, Johnny and Mark join me to discuss the difference between being a provider and being of service to your significant other, describing how a true king provides his partner with a sense of safety—regardless of who brings in more money.

We explain what differentiates codependency from an interdependent relationship, sharing what it looks like to hold space for your partner and how to respond when she puts her work first.

Listen in for insight on navigating the masculine energy of a powerful woman and learn how to do the inner work it takes to stay connected with your partner and grow together.

Key Takeaways

The AHA moment when Pat realized he needed to grow to stay connected with his wife

What women can do to introduce their partners to personal development

The difference between being a provider and being of service to your partner

How a true king provides his partner with a sense of safety (regardless of who makes more money)

Johnny’s insight on navigating the masculine energy of a powerful woman

What differentiates codependency from an interdependent relationship

Mark’s advice on not taking it personally when your partner puts her work first

Johnny’s challenge to men to do the inner work and evolve to support your partner’s dreams

Pat’s insight on what it looks like to hold space for your partner

The 3 questions Mark asks himself before he speaks up (i.e.: his verbal ‘unsend’ button)

Connect with Pat

Pat on Instagram

The House Kennedy on Instagram

The Path of Curiosity Podcast

Connect with Johnny

Johnny on Instagram

Johnny’s Website

The Art of Masculinity Podcast

Connect with Mark

Mark on Instagram

Samantha on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah

Patrick & Jenn Kennedy on Destined to Be EP087

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Resources

Johnny Elsasser & Taylor Simpson on Destined to Be EP079

The Wild Man Experience

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

In the Flo by Alisa Vitti

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

Exploring the Way Trauma Shapes Us—with Kyle Depiesse - EP175 Sep 23, 2021

More people struggle with trauma than we realize. And we all cope with it in different ways.

For me, the pain of feeling like I wasn’t enough made me a troublemaker in school. Later, I turned to drugs and alcohol to fill the void. And most recently, I used achievement and expensive toys to prove myself to the world.

So, what does it look like to explore the way trauma has shaped you? And what can you do to stop hiding from the pain and start working through it?

Kyle Depiesse is the Adventure & Fulfillment Coach behind The Reaching Beyond Experience. He creates one-of-a-kind men’s experiences for high-level entrepreneurs.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I’m sharing my conversation with Kyle on the Reaching Beyond podcast, where we discuss my journey through addiction and why I used drugs so people wouldn’t find out who I really was.

I get honest about the irrational way of coping with emotions I developed in childhood and the trauma that brought on my recent nervous breakdown, challenging you to consider that building a relationship with your Creator is our true purpose on this earth.

Listen in for insight on making play an important part of your life and find out why you can’t afford NOT to invest in yourself!

Key Takeaways

How we use hope, achievements and significance to hide from pain

My take on how the way you do one thing is the way you do everything

The irrational way of coping with emotions I developed in childhood

My journey through addiction and why I used drugs so people wouldn’t find out who I really was

How Mallory saw something in me I didn’t see in myself when we started dating

The trauma that brought on my nervous breakdown (and the therapies I’m using to work through it)

Why building a relationship with our Creator is our true purpose

Our social conditioning around alcohol and what to ask yourself re: how it impacts your life

What play looks like for me and how I see work and exercise as forms of play

Why I can’t afford NOT to invest in myself and how it benefits me in terms of time and expertise

The vulnerability and authenticity that differentiates Kyle’s groups

Connect with Kyle

The Reaching Beyond Experience

Reaching Beyond—The Podcast

Kyle on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

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Resources

Audible

Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by David R. Hawkins

Dr. Wayne Dyer

EMDR Therapy

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Battle

Transitioning Into a New Season, Part 3 - EP174 Sep 16, 2021

Last week, we talked about making a smooth transition from one season to the next, celebrating the previous season for what it was and building the habits you need to succeed in the new one.

But what else do you need to consider as you enter a new season of life?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how to determine who you need to connect with in a new season, describing how to set boundaries around the friendships that no longer serve you and find the supportive people who can help you get where you want to go.

We challenge you to define the vision you are working toward in this new season and weigh in on what it looks like to embody the feelings that align with that vision.

Listen in for insight on the relationship among self-esteem, identity and the choices you make—and learn where to go for support as you move into the next season of your life.

Key Takeaways

The 2 different kinds of seasons you might be transitioning through

How to determine who you need to connect with in a new season of life

How to set boundaries around the friendships that no longer serve you

How to approach messaging an influencer you want to connect with online

The value of investing in a mastermind or coaching program

Why it’s crucial to create a vision to work toward in each new season

What it looks like to embody the feelings that align with your vision

Why accepting that you are enough is the first step in realizing your vision

How we know when someone is in pain related to a previous trauma

The relationship among self-esteem, identity and the choices we make

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Resources

EO Accelerator

Transitioning Into a New Season, Part 2 - EP173 Sep 09, 2021

There are two different kinds of seasons. There are the actual seasons of the year—spring, summer, fall and winter.

And then there are the seasons where we move into the next phase of our lives, like when our kids start school or we shift from one career to another.

Either way, moving into a new season is emotional and can pull us off track if we’re not careful. So, what steps can we take to create a smooth transition from one season to the next?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain why it’s important to honor the last season as you move into the next and challenge you to set the intention for what you want your days, weeks and months to look like now.

I discuss how to embrace a new season, describing how to focus on the possibilities of what you could accomplish and set yourself up for success.

Listen in for insight on adopting the tendencies of a person in the role you’re working toward and learn how to build the habits you need to support you in this new season of life!

Key Takeaways

The 2 different kinds of seasons we transition in and out of

Why it’s important to honor the last season as you move into the next

How to set the intention for what you want your days to look like in a new season

Why I prefer a physical planner to map out my days, weeks and months

What it looks like to schedule your non-negotiables (e.g.: workouts, meal plan, etc.)

How to embrace a new season by considering the possibilities

How to build the new habits you need to support you in each new season

What it looks like to assume the habits of a person in the role you want

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Resources

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Passion Planner

Transitioning Into a New Season, Part 1 - EP172 Sep 02, 2021

If you’re transitioning into a new season of life, it’s normal to feel some stress, fear and overwhelm.

But if you don’t have the right habits in place, it’s easy to shut down in tough times and backslide on all the progress you’ve made.

So, how do you navigate the challenges of moving into a new season?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss the support you need to transition into a new season of life, describing the emotional week I am having and the healthy habits that are keeping me on track.

I explain why pouring into yourself is a necessity, especially during difficult times, and challenge you to surround yourself with a judgement-free group of people who support where you want to go.

Listen in to understand why accountability is more important than ever in seasons of transition and find out if the sisterhood and support of Level Up VIP is right for you (or someone you love)!

Key Takeaways

The benefit of having healthy habits in place during an emotional week

Why I don’t want to replicate the response to anxiety and overwhelm I grew up with

How pouring into yourself is a necessity (especially in tough times)

Why accountability is more important than ever in the craziest seasons

How Level Up VIP gives you the space to share difficult feelings and get judgement-free feedback

Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who support where you want to go

The sisterhood and support that gives Level Up VIP a special energy

Connect with Mallory

Resources

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Unlearning the Behaviors That Don’t Serve You - EP171 Aug 24, 2021

“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything.

Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you,

so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.”

--Paulo Coelho

Personal development is often about adding things to your life. Another program. A new routine. A next-level experience.

But the most impactful work we’ve done so far has been about taking things away. Exploring why we react the way we do and un-learning the behaviors that don’t serve us.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share the work we’re doing to uncover childhood traumas and reshape our belief systems, describing how the coping mechanisms we use as kids turn into character defects later on.

We explain how behaviors that were ‘normal’ to us growing up are not serving us now and get vulnerable about the challenge of replacing our automatic, unhealthy responses with new ones.

Listen in to understand how your thought patterns program your body to react and learn how un-becoming what isn’t really you makes space for who you were always meant to be.

Key Takeaways

The work we’re doing now to work through deep childhood traumas

What it looks like to reshape your belief systems

How childhood coping mechanisms turn into character defects

What it means to reach the next level emotionally and intellectually

The challenge of replacing automatic responses with new behaviors

How behaviors that were ‘normal’ to us growing may not be serving us now

Why sitting in your feelings is the hardest part of unlearning

How inner dis-ease creates external problems

The danger in suppressing emotion vs. getting it out of your body

What it means to be codependent in a relationship

Why cultivating more love is our true purpose in life

How our bodies are programmed to react by our thought patterns

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Resources

Mallory’s Website

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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

How to Plan a High-Vibe Date Night Experience - EP170 Aug 17, 2021

If you don’t date your significant other, someone else will.

To keep your relationship strong, it’s crucial to make time to be together—just the two of you. In fact, we recommend dating your partner AT LEAST twice a month.

So, how do you create a date night experience that makes you both feel your best? And how can you leverage date night to deepen your connection and grow together?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why our date night plans fell apart last Thursday, describing what we do when our energies are out of sync and how the painful experience brought us closer.

We discuss what we did differently Saturday to shake up our date night, sharing the apps we use to plan an epic experience and challenging you to set an intention for your time together.

Listen in to understand how limiting distractions lets your partner know they’re important to you and learn how to initiate a meaningful conversation with your significant other on date night!

Key Takeaways

Why our date night plans fell apart last Thursday

What to do when you and your partner’s energies are out of sync

Why painful experiences are necessary for growth

What we did differently on Saturday to shake up our date night

The apps we use to plan an epic date night experience

How often we recommend having date night with your spouse

Why we suggest setting an intention for your date

How we make choices around where to eat so we feel our best

How limiting distractions lets your partner know they’re important to you

How to start a meaningful conversation on a date

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Resources

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How to Go All-In on Personal Growth - EP169 Aug 12, 2021

So, you’ve listened to a few podcasts and read a book or two on personal development.

And now, you’re ready to take that commitment to the next level.

What can you do to show you’re ALL-IN on personal growth?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we describe the power of traveling solo to be in the same room with other elite individuals committed to next-level growth.

We share the details of the Vibe Higher Retreat coming to Austin, Texas, this November, discussing who is eligible to attend and previewing the diverse group of top guest speakers presenting at the event.

Listen in to understand why you deserve to be part of a group like this and find out how attending the Vibe Higher Retreat will make you a better human.

Key Takeaways

The power of being in a room with other people who are all-in on personal growth

What you need to know about Mallory’s Vibe Higher Retreat in Austin this November

The diverse group of elite guest speakers presenting at Vibe Higher

Who is eligible to attend the Vibe Higher Retreat

How investing in masterminds gives you access to people you never thought possible

What we’ve learned from belonging to elite groups

The lifelong friendships we’ve formed through investing in group coaching

How taking time for yourself makes you a better partner and parent

What to do if you feel like you don’t deserve to be a part of an elite group like this

How the Vibe Higher Retreat will give you momentum to get to the next level

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Choose Compassion Over the Stigma of Addiction on Destined to Be EP169

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Resources

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Organifi

Is It Time to Invest in Yourself? - 168 Aug 10, 2021

What does it mean to invest in yourself?

You have to pour into yourself to show up for other people. And it you keep putting it off, waiting until you get through the next season, the time will never come.

You will never put yourself first. You will never get out of your own way. And you will never have the life you want.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the upcoming round of the 3-month Level Up VIP small group coaching program, explaining how it cultivates an environment of transformation where women truly want what’s best for each other.

We describe how Level Up VIP is customized to what you’re going through, who should sign up for the program and how it provides accountability and ongoing support.

Listen in for insight on building close friendships through a group like this and find out what to do if your partner is resistant to you investing in personal development.

Key Takeaways

The structure of the Level Up VIP small group coaching program for women

What you will get out of joining Level Up VIP

How Level Up VIP cultivates an environment of transformation

How the women in the program truly want what’s best for each other

How the Level Up Hype Squads provide accountability and ongoing support

What it means to invest in yourself (and why it’s crucial)

How the program is customized to what you’re going through

Who should sign up for the Level Up VIP program

How being part of a group like this helps you network and build close friendships

What to do if you’re partner is resistant to you joining Level Up

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Resources

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Choose Compassion Over the Stigma of Addiction - EP167 Aug 05, 2021

Many families try to hide the fact that they are struggling with addiction. But the only way to overcome drug abuse and alcoholism is to bring it into the light.

As of July 26, 2021, Jeremiah has 14 years of continuous sobriety. So, what did that journey look like? And how do you navigate being in a relationship with an addict?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our journey through addiction, explaining why Jeremiah’s first four trips to rehab were unsuccessful and how connecting with others in AA helped him quit for good.

We offer advice for people in relationships with addicts, describing why you can't change an addict unless they want it for themselves, but you CAN set boundaries to stop enabling their behavior.

Listen in for insight around the best resources for addicts and their loved ones and find out how you can support Families Against Narcotics (FAN) and further their mission to promote compassion over the stigma of addiction.

Key Takeaways 

How drinking and doing drugs made Jeremiah feel significant

When Jeremiah’s addiction became unmanageable

Why Jeremiah’s first 4 trips to rehab were unsuccessful

How relapse gave Jeremiah a new understanding of the disease of addiction

Why it’s not your fault if you didn’t realize someone you love is using

Why you can’t change an addict unless they want it for themselves

What makes drug abuse and alcoholism a spiritual disease

The best resources for people struggling with addiction and their loved ones

How to set boundaries with an addict and stop enabling their behavior

FAN’s mission to promote compassion > the stigma of addiction

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Resources

The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

Alcoholics Anonymous

Al-Anon

Brene Brown

The 6 Absolutes of the Oxford Group

How to Handle Energy Vampires - EP166 Aug 03, 2021

Do you have people in your life that you’ve outgrown? People who weigh you down with negativity and steal your energy?

What can you do to neutralize these energy vampires—even if you can’t cut them out of your life entirely?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how to handle energy vampires, explaining how to change the direction of a negative conversation and why staying quiet gives people permission to gossip to you.

We weigh in on the power of noticing how people make you feel and describe how energy vampires can turn on you when you’re no longer willing to cosign their negativity.

Listen in to understand how you give negative people the permission to deplete you and learn to set boundaries in a way that reduces the amount of time you spend with energy vampires!

Key Takeaways

How positivity makes energy vampires very uncomfortable

How to change the direction of a negative conversation with a pattern interrupter

Why not saying anything still gives people permission to gossip to you

The power in being aware of how certain people make you feel

Why nobody talks sh*t about somebody and feels good after

How to counteract energy vampires by coming at them with a passion for life

Why energy vampires turn on you when you don’t cosign their negativity

What it looks like to invite the people you love to be part of your personal development journey

How to create a boundary to reduce the amount of time you spend with energy vampires

How YOU give energy vampires permission to deplete you

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Weird But True Book Series

Resources

The Reality Of Having Balance - EP165 Jul 29, 2021

With many people, there is a hype around finding a sense of balance between all areas of life. Though, true balance isn’t super attainable.

Tim Grover talks about how when there is perfect balance, the scale says 0.0 which is basically nothing, so the reality of true balance is just an illusion.

What does working for a balanced life look like in an attainable aspect?

What actually makes sense for your specific life and your lifestyle?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the idea of “balance” and what it looks like to find balance within, to set yourself up for success in each unique season of your life.

We touch on the importance of being in tune with your energy and give different aspects of finding your own balance, increasing the overall quality of you and your family’s lives.

Listen in for insight on how to make sure your view of balance is attainable in your day to day life and what that might look like for you!

Key Takeaways

What true balance really means

How balance is to each their own

The importance of finding a sense of balance internally

What conversations that need to be happening within ourselves and with the people we love

How Jeremiah finds reflection helpful in setting himself up for balance in his day to day life

What we have learned on the importance of creating boundaries around balance, especially with family

Mallory’s exercise on how to decrease busy work

The importance of knowing what season of life we’re in, so we can communicate better and be more prepared

The quarterly exercise Jeremiah and Mallory do that saves them time

Why time is so important to make good use of

Prioritizing what is fulfilling and contributing to someone else’s life around you in a positive way

Going with the flow in every season of life

Focusing on our energy in those seasons

Jemermiah’s shift from reactive to proactive to deal with the unexpected

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Amy Ledin’s Daily Agreement Cards

Resources

Tim Grover Conference

Andy Frisella’s Power List

The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer

How to Keep Intimacy Alive in Your Relationship After Kids - EP164 Jul 27, 2021

Intimacy is more than sex. It’s about connecting on a soul level.

And it’s challenging enough to build true intimacy with your partner at the beginning of a relationship. But once you’ve had kids, making the time to prioritize your marriage can be even more difficult.

So, how do you create a deep level of intimacy with your person? And what can you do to keep that intimacy alive in your relationship after you’ve had kids?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we walk you through the five levels of emotional intimacy, explaining how to establish safe communication with your partner and feel comfortable sharing your opinions and beliefs.

We describe the level of trust you need to expose your feelings, experiences, needs and desires with your significant other, exploring how you unlock more sexual potential the deeper you get on the intimacy scale.

Listen in for insight on understanding how your partner needs to be loved and get our top tips for keeping intimacy alive in your relationship after kids.

Key Takeaways

How intimacy is defined as deeply knowing another person and connecting on a soul level

What differentiates intimacy from sex or romance

The 5 levels of emotional intimacy

Safe communication
Opinions and beliefs of others
Personal opinions and beliefs
Your feelings and experiences
Your needs, emotions and desires

How keeping our traumas in the dark makes us sicker

The shift from needing your partner’s love to desiring it

Why it’s crucial to make time alone to connect with your significant other

What to do if you and your partner lack a foundation of trust

How you unlock more sexual potential the deeper you get on the intimacy scale

Why knowing your partner’s love language is a good starting point for creating intimacy

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Brene Brown’s Netflix Special: The Call to Courage

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Resources

Love Language Quiz

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

The Shift from External Goals to Turning Inward - EP163 Jul 22, 2021

Goal-setting seems pretty straight forward. You build a vision around what you want and then you take action.

But what if you’re achieving goal after goal after goal so you don’t have to feel? And what happens when you finally wake up to the trauma you’ve been repressing for years?

How do you approach goal-setting in a new way? How do you set intentions and stay fully present?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss why it’s easy to set external goals but challenging to turn inward, describing the value of checking in with yourself often and ask if what you’re working toward still feels good.

We explain why you can’t experience true transformation until you start processing your repressed feelings and share what we’re learning about seeing vulnerability as a strength.

Listen in for insight on what to do if your partner lacks empathy, compassion and kindness—and learn how to navigate goal-setting and embrace rest while you’re unraveling trauma.

Key Takeaways

How Jeremiah’s approach to goals has shifted since his spiritual awakening

Why it’s easy to set external goals but more challenging to turn inward

Mallory’s advice on checking in with yourself often to ask if what you’re working toward still feels good

Why we can’t set goals from a low vibration or mindset of lack

How Jeremiah couldn’t experience true transformation until he started processing his repressed feelings

How men and women experience and respond to feelings differently

Why it’s crucial to listen and receive your partner’s needs

What to do if your significant other lacks empathy, compassion and kindness

What we’re learning about how empathy is the antidote to shame

What it looks like when a man is operating at the highest levels of masculine energy

Why vulnerability is a strength (despite what society teaches us)

How our relationship is thriving now that we’re both willing to be vulnerable

How it’s okay to not know your purpose and explore what lights you up

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Brene Brown’s Netflix Special: The Call to Courage

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Resources

Brene Brown’s TED Talk: The Power of Vulnerability

How to Navigate Pain and Still Show Up for Your Partner - EP162 Jul 20, 2021

So, you’re working through trauma. But you still want to be there for your significant other.

How do you initiate important conversations around the pain you’re experiencing? And what do you do if your partner’s evolution means they don’t show up the way you expected?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how a shift in beliefs changes the way you show up in the world, discussing the challenge we’re facing in predicting each other’s reactions through this season of awakening.

We share the inner work we’re doing right now, describing how to find middle ground when you’ve always been all-or-nothing and what you can do to release the energy of resentment when your partner doesn’t meet your expectations.

Listen in to understand the difference between codependency and a relationship where you both have space to grow and learn how to navigate pain—but still show up in a healthy way for your partner.

Key Takeaways

How a shift in beliefs changes the way you show up in the world

The difference between meditating on a vision vs. meditating to achieve inner stillness

Why we have to slow down in order to process painful trauma

The challenge we’re facing around predicting each other’s reactions in this season of change

Mallory’s work around saying how she feels about things

How Jeremiah’s focus has shifted away from externals as he learns to process emotions in a new way

The process of finding middle ground when you’ve been all-or-nothing

How to release the energy of resentment from your body

How to negotiate with your partner in a way that benefits you both

What to do if your partner isn’t in a place to receive feedback

What differentiates codependency from a relationship where both have space to grow

How to initiate deep, meaningful conversations with your partner

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

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Resources

5 Love Languages

The 4 Agreements

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattle

Process Your Emotions, Deepen Your Relationships - EP161 Jul 13, 2021

Is your ego keeping you from truly feeling your emotions?

Processing your trauma is a MUST if you want to grow to the next level. And if you have the tools to work through an awakening of this kind, it can serve to deepen your long-term relationships and cultivate a new kind of presence in your life.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we get real about how Jeremiah’s awakening has shifted the way he expresses compassion, describing how listening to fix someone differs from truly honoring where a person’s at.

We discuss what it looks like when a significant other is threatened by the changes you’re making, challenging you to keep the lines of communication open and be open to your partner’s evolution.

Listen in to understand how we’re socialized to view emotional expression as weakness and learn what it really means to be present—acting from a place of kindness and love.

Key Takeaways

How listening to fix someone differs from honoring where they’re at

The benefit of having the tools to process feelings of trauma

How the way Jeremiah expresses compassion has shifted through his awakening

Jeremiah’s new understanding of what it means to be present

How we’re conditioned to expect the people closest to us to react in a certain way (and what happens when that changes)

What it looks like when your significant other is threatened by change

Why we recommend you BE the change rather vs. try to sell your partner on it

How our relationship has improved by keeping the lines of communication open through this process

How men are socialized to view emotional expression as weakness

Jeremiah’s focus on BEING and acting out of love and kindness

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

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Resources

MUD\WTR

Join Us on a Journey of Self-Discovery on Destined to Be EP159

Overcoming Hardship to Become Your Best Self on Destined to Be EP160

‘Paint Me a Birmingham’ by Tracy Lawrence

Overcoming Hardship to Become Your Best Self - EP160 Jul 06, 2021

What if having difficult conversations with yourself and your loved ones is the only way to work towards becoming the best version of yourself?

How can childhood trauma shape the way that we live our lives, and addressing it be the only way that we can wake up and truly understand how to grow towards our best selves?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how anyone can start the path to evolve into the best versions of themselves. We explore Jeremiah's experience as he learns to face the difficulties of truly being present and feeling his emotions.

We explain how vital it is to sit with one's emotions. We also address how navigating the path to feeling those emotions is difficult but necessary for not only Jeremiah as an individual, but for his role in his partnership with Mallory and as a role model for his children.

We discuss the manifestation of childhood trauma in adult life and how it shapes the way that you respond to situations, relationships, and emotions throughout your life.

Listen in to understand how taking the steps towards being your best self is a difficult but necessary life journey and how you can begin to navigate this path to overcome trauma and truly be present in your life.

Key Takeaways

Further understanding the emotional experience Jeremiah is going through

How Jeremiah and Mallory are taking steps in their relationship to navigate each other's growth

Why having difficult conversations and stumbles along the path are necessary to get to your higher self

Why we turn to outside sources to avoid sitting with ourselves

How we distract ourselves with fantasy, work, or entertainment

The importance of speaking with a therapist/coach to further understand your self-discovery

Why being present is so difficult, but important to create individual emotions and connections

What childhood trauma can look like and manifest itself into in your adult life

How we can pass these lessons on to our partners, kids, and families

How everyone can start their journey to self-discovery by asking themselves what they truly want out of life

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Resources

Join Us on a Journey of Self-Discovery - EP159 Jul 01, 2021

It’s easy to see weakness in people who sit in their emotions.

But what if cracking at the soul level is what it takes to process the trauma you’ve been carrying? What if it’s not just okay but necessary to sit in your feelings?

What if allowing yourself to be vulnerable is the only way to grow and achieve new levels of intimacy, love and respect with your partner?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we describe what it looks and feels like to experience a panic attack, exploring how feeling exposed can create a sense of fear and anxiety that won’t go away.

We explain how our roles have reversed as Jeremiah navigates strong, unfamiliar emotions and discuss the benefit of getting support from a therapist or coach through such a journey of self-discovery.

Listen in to understand what happens when the illusion of control shatters and find out what to do if you or your partner are experiencing a similar soul awakening.

Key Takeaways

Our ongoing commitment to grow in our relationship together

The physical symptoms Jeremiah experienced during his first ever panic attack

Why Jeremiah feels vulnerable and exposed (and the fear and anxiety that’s creating)

How our roles have reversed as Jeremiah navigates strong, unfamiliar emotions

What it looks and feels like when trauma is leaving your body

The benefit of getting support from a therapist/coach through a journey of self-discovery

How real growth happens when you let go of the illusion of control

What it looks like to support a partner who’s having this kind of awakening

Why it’s challenging for men to talk about experiences like this

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Resources

Faced with a BIG Decision? Ask Yourself This! - EP158 Jun 29, 2021

How do you make a life-changing decision?

Yes, you want to make the right choice. But fear often rears its ugly head, and you find ways to avoid making the decision one way or the other. Or worse, you say no to yourself from a place of unworthiness.

So, how do you move through the uncertainty and get clear on what you want to do?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I share five questions to ask yourself before making a BIG decision, explaining how to make choices around the vision you have for your life.

I challenge you to consider the risks of saying YES and the risks of saying NO, putting pen to paper as you weigh the pros and cons of moving forward.

Listen in for insight on getting real about what you’re afraid of and learn my strategy for asking your Future Self how they feel about the decision you’re making!

Key Takeaways

5 questions to ask before making a life-changing decision

How long have you been thinking about this?
Does this bring you closer to your long-term goals?
What are the risks if you say YES? What are the risks if you say NO?
What are you afraid of?
Who are you doing this for?

How to give yourself time and space to reflect on a BIG decision

Why it’s crucial to make decisions around the vision you have for your life

The benefit of using pen and paper to weigh the risks and rewards

How fear (of success or failure) leads to self-sabotage

What it looks like when we distract ourselves to avoid making a decision

Why it’s important to make sure your own needs are met

My strategy of asking your Future Self about the decision

Connect with Mallory

‘5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Making a Big Decision’ by Gina Lucia

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Resources

There’s No Time Like the Present to Get Your Sh*t Together - EP157 Jun 24, 2021

Are you waiting until life settles down to get your sh*t together?

Do you catch yourself saying that you’ll start doing the thing you want after the kids get out of school or when things slow down at work or once the holidays are over?

The problem is that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. And if you’re not doing the things you say you want now, when will you EVER do them?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain why there’s no time like the present to go after what you want, describing how we cosign our own crap when we’re afraid of the discomfort required to change.

I challenge you to stop waiting for the next season to get your sh*t together, describing how good it feels to take the first step toward your goals.

Listen in for insight on assessing whether to sit in your current circumstances OR enforce a no-more-excuses policy and decide that NOW is the time to embody the bad*ss you’re destined to be!

Key Takeaways

Why there’s no time like the present to get your sh*t together

The danger in saying you’ll start working toward your goals in the next season of life

Why you can’t put what you want on hold for others

How we end up cosigning our own crap because we don’t want to put forth the effort

Why it isn’t your place to discredit someone else’s challenge

How to assess whether you need to sit in the current season or enforce a no-more-excuses policy

What it looks like to decide that your time is NOW

How good it feels to take the first step toward your goals

Why sitting in a little discomfort is the prerequisite for change

Connect with Mallory

The Nine Enneagram Type Descriptions

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Resources

The Power of Community to Get Where You Want Quicker - EP156 Jun 22, 2021

The fact is, it’s challenging to get where you want to go without support. We simply don’t show up for ourselves the same way we do for other people.

But what if you had a community to cheer you on?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I describe the power of community to get where you want quicker, explaining how Level Up VIP holds women accountable for their growth.

I walk you through what’s included in the Level Up VIP 12-week program and discuss how the Level Up Collective membership serves VIP alumni.

Listen in for insight on the power of investing in yourself to shortcut your growth and find out YOU can be a part of my judgement-free Level Up community!

Key Takeaways

My mission to help women get where they want to go in community

How Level Up VIP holds women accountable for their growth

Why I break the group into 5-member hype squads who check in with each other daily

What’s included in the Level Up VIP 3-month program

How the Level Up VIP community shows up for each other and offers a different perspective on what you’re going through

How the way you think or talk about yourself keeps you from achieving your goals

Why we don’t show up for ourselves the same way we do in community

The power of investing in yourself to shortcut your outcomes by months or even years

How my Level Up Collective monthly membership serves VIP alumni

The judgement-free culture of support in the Level Up community

Connect with Mallory

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Resources

All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147

Reclaiming Your Identity After Kids on Destined to Be EP151

Comparison Is Stealing MORE Than Your Joy - EP155 Jun 17, 2021

You’ve no doubt heard the saying, ‘Comparison is the thief of joy.’ But I would argue that comparison steals a lot more than just our joy.

Judging ourselves as less-than spikes emotions of anxiety and fear. And if we don’t have the tools to come back from those negative thoughts, comparison attacks who we are at a soul level and prevents us from showing up as the person we’re meant to be.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I discuss what makes comparison so debilitating, sharing how my self-worth took a hit this week and what strategies I am using to ease the stress on my heart.

I explain why it’s crucial to keep your eyes on your own purposeful path and focus on progress as opposed to perfection (which is not a thing).

Listen in for insight on celebrating others and practicing gratitude to shift your energy and learn to release the negative emotions that come from comparing yourself to others!

Key Takeaways

How comparison keeps us from showing up as the person we’re meant to be

How my self-worth took a hit this week and caused me to show up less-than

The tools you can use to come back from negative thoughts

Why it’s crucial to keep your eyes on your own purposeful path

How celebrating others fills YOU up when you’re feeling down

The value in focusing on progress vs. perfection (which is not a thing)

How sitting in gratitude reduces the stress and anxiety on your heart

My top strategies for releasing the negative emotions that come from comparison

Why we can’t create from an energy of feeling not-good-enough

Connect with Mallory

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Resources

Soul CBD

3 Ways to Propel Yourself to the Next Level (Even in Tough Times) - EP154 Jun 15, 2021

2020 was rough.

But when bad things happen, you have a choice. You can either let the situation defeat you or figure out how it can serve you.

In fact, I had the best year of my life despite the circumstances.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I share the three things I did to propel myself to the next level in 2020, explaining why I recommend hiring a coach to push you in ways you won’t push yourself.

I discuss the value in following your gut when it tells you you’re out of alignment, describing how our self-worth impacts everything we do and the power we have to change those beliefs.

Listen in for insight on taking messy action toward what you want and learn how YOU can persevere through the stuff that sucks and build the life you want.

Key Takeaways

How our perspective determines whether challenging circumstances serve us or defeat us

Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who fit the mold of where you’re going (not where you’ve been)

The 3 things I did that propelled me forward through 2020

Why I recommend hiring a coach that you can work with 1:1 or in a small group program

How a coach pushes you in ways you won’t push yourself

The value in following your gut when it tells you you’re out of alignment

How our self-worth impacts everything we do and the power we have to change those beliefs

Why you can’t do the same thing over and over again and expect different results

What it looks like to take messy action toward what you want

Connect with Mallory

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Resources

Reclaiming Your Identity After Kids on Destined to Be EP151

Enneagram Type Descriptions

Shipt

Instacart

Nothing Has Meaning—Except the Meaning YOU Give It - EP153 Jun 10, 2021

We create our own reality.

The stories we tell ourselves become true in our minds. And we assign meaning about our own value by comparing ourselves with others.

So, how can we flip the script when the meaning we’re giving our current circumstances doesn’t serve us? How can we get from WOE IS ME to NOW WHAT?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how we place meaning on events based on the values others gave us, describing what to do when you’re stuck in a victim mentality and why it’s so important to eliminate energy wasters from your life.

We weigh in on why so many people struggle to express emotion, challenging you to identify the societal conditioning that’s behind your fear of judgement and make your own choices.

Listen in for insight on how counterproductive it is to worry about things you don’t want to happen and learn to identify when a thought isn’t serving you and break the cycle, shifting away from a feeling of lack and into an abundance mindset!

Key Takeaways

How we place meaning on events based on the values others gave us (e.g.: death, divorce)

What to do when you’re caught in a victim mentality

How we create our own reality around the stories we tell ourselves

Why it’s crucial to be aware of energy wasters and do things that fill you up

Why we struggle to express our emotions and how freeing it is to get past that fear of judgement

How our PREFERENCES block us from our POSSIBILITIES

The liberation of identifying societal conditioning and making your own choices

How counterproductive it is to worry about something that you don’t want to happen

How to shift from a scarcity to an abundance mindset

The meaning we make about our own worth when we compare ourselves to others

How to identify when a thought isn’t serving you and break the cycle

The relationship between judging others and judging ourselves

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Resources

The Quantum Effect Series on Gaia

10 Years of Personal Growth on Destined to Be EP152

Reclaiming Your Identity After Kids EP151

10 Years of Personal Growth - EP152 Jun 08, 2021

Ten years ago, we honeymooned in Cancun. And today, we’re back in the beautiful Mexican city on vacation, reflecting on how we’ve grown in the last decade.

So, how have our lives changed since 2011?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how we’ve evolved since the year we were married, describing the freedom our current careers afford us to be fully present when we travel and set intentions around the experience we want to create.

We discuss how little we knew about personal development on our first trip to Cancun and share what we’ve learned about optimizing our health (physical and mental) and making a commitment to spiritual growth.

Listen in to understand how we went from living the life our family wanted to making our own rules and learn how YOU can shortcut your growth by investing in yourself!

Key Takeaways

How we set intentions re: what we want out of a vacation and the experience we want to create

The freedom our careers afford us to be fully present when we travel

How little we knew about personal development on our first trip to Cancun

The free information available to us all to educate ourselves and build the life we want

What we’ve learned in the last decade about our physical and mental health

How what you eat and how you train impacts your energy level and the way you feel about yourself

How we’ve gone from living the life our family wanted to making our own rules

Why you shouldn’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with

Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who give you energy

How our spiritual life has evolved over the last ten years to include an understanding of energy

How to make circumstances serve you (even when they suck)

Why we’re committed to investing in ourselves to shortcut our growth

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Mallory’s ‘Keep Going’ Reel

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Resources

NIZUC Resort & Spa

All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147

The Road Less Stupid by Keith J. Cunningham

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Brendon Burchard’s Courses

School of Greatness Podcast

Reclaiming Your Identity After Kids - EP151 Jun 03, 2021

If you’re becoming a mom for the first time, it’s okay to feel lost. Rest assured that you are not alone.

And while we’re conditioned to believe that once we have children, we should live for them (at the expense of our own identity), I’m here to tell you that you CAN fill multiple roles without feeling guilty about it.

But how do you navigate all the feelings that come with having kids? And how can you be a great mom without losing yourself along the way?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how my image of who I was changed dramatically when I had kids, describing the physical, mental and emotional shifts that come with childbirth and challenging you to be honest about what you’re feeling through the process.

I get real about the disconnection and guilt I felt after having my first baby and share what I did to lift myself out of postpartum depression and get closer to who I was pre-kids.

Listen in for insight on how children change you for the better and learn my YES, AND approach to being both a mom and a successful entrepreneur!

Key Takeaways

How my image of who I was changed dramatically when I had kids

Why it’s dangerous to discredit your own feelings because ‘someone else has it worse’

The physical, mental and emotional shifts your body experiences through childbirth

The disconnection and guilt I felt after having my first baby

How we’re conditioned to believe that once we have kids that’s who we are

What I did to lift myself out of postpartum depression and get closer to who I was pre-kids

Why it’s crucial to be honest about what you’re feeling after giving birth

The value in sharing what you’re going through with a close friend, counselor or support group

My YES, AND approach to being a mom and a successful entrepreneur

Why I intentionally show my kiddos what I do as a business owner

How children change us for the better when we own ALL of who we are

Connect with Mallory

All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147

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Resources

6 Journal Prompts to Reach Next-Level Success - EP150 Jun 01, 2021

When it comes to journaling, I struggle with consistency. And yet, when I DO make the time to sit down and respond to difficult questions, my writing reveals the things I need to do to get to the next level.

So, where do you find journal prompts specific to what you’re going through right now? And how do you make journaling a consistent habit?

On this episode of the podcast, I share six journal prompts you can use to grow into the person you’re destined to be, describing how journaling in the morning sets your day up for success.

I challenge you to consider (and physically write down) what’s holding you back from reaching the next level, where you’re not following through, and how you can be more energetically aligned with what you want in your life.

Listen in for insight on adding ‘vibe higher’ habits into your daily routine and learn how to leverage journaling to be present in the moment and achieve next-level success!

Key Takeaways

Where to find journal prompts specific to what you’re going through right now

Why I suggest journaling in the morning to set your day up for success

Why you need to physically write out your responses—not just think about it

My 6 journal prompts for growing into the person you’re destined to be

What is holding you back from the next level of success?
Where are you not following through in your life?
How can you be more of a magnet to what you want in your life?
How can you be more energetically aligned to what you want to attract?
What ‘vibe higher’ habits can you add into your life?
How can you be more present in the moment today?

How a victim mentality gets in the way of making progress on our goals

The challenge of accepting who you are right now AND being a work in progress

How to eliminate an energy-sucking habit and replace it with something else

Why you should start with 1 new habit rather than doing all the things at once

What it looks like to sit in the now (and why it’s challenging for me)

Connect with Mallory

All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come on Destined to Be EP147

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Resources

The Five-Minute Journal

Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Gabrielle Bernstein

Books by Gabrielle Bernstein

How to Do the Work on Destined to Be EP149

How to Do the Work - EP149 May 27, 2021

To live a more joyful, fulfilling life, you’ve got to do the work.

But what does that really mean?

The same way championships are won when nobody’s looking, personal growth comes from consistent self-reflection. From figuring out what you need to work on INSIDE, so that what happens OUTSIDE doesn’t dictate how you feel.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share what it looks like to do the work, challenging you to take a minute before you respond to criticism and understand how fear is triggering your fight, flight or freeze response.

We explain why you can’t take things personally if you want a better life and describe how to ask better questions before you make assumptions.

Listen in for advice on getting clear on your boundaries (and negotiating that with your partner) and learn how to manifest peak experiences through a commitment to self-care!

Key Takeaways

The benefit of taking a minute before you respond to criticism or a trigger

Why you can’t take things personally if you want a better life

What it looks like to ask better questions before you make an assumption

How fear triggers our fight, flight or freeze response and initiates a cortisol hangover

Why you need to get really clear on your needs, desires and boundaries

Why it’s crucial to present a united front with your partner

How to negotiate boundaries with your partner as you continue to evolve

How peak experiences manifest in your life when you commit to self-care

The value in giving others grace and remembering that no one’s perfect

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Resources

Stacy Crown on Destined to Be EP148

Own Your Story—with Stacy Crown - EP148 May 25, 2021

It’s fun to share your before and after. But no one talks about the messy middle. The times you struggled and seriously considered giving up.

And yet, the challenging times make you who you are.

And there is power in your story. In looking back and connecting the dots. In finding gratitude for what you’ve made it through.

Stacy Crown is the high-performance coach behind Hotmess to Success, a practice designed to help driven women embrace the chaos and achieve massive success. She is also a leader in the network marketing space and the mother of three young children!

On this episode of Destined to Be, Stacy joins us to discuss the power in owning where you’ve been, describing how our identity is shaped by what we’ve survived.

Stacy shares what her days look like as a mom, coach and network marketing leader, offering advice on how to build a consistent routine, be intentional with your time and add good habits to your life one at a time.

Listen in for insight on embodying the person you want to become and learn how to find the purpose in your pain by sharing the story of what you’ve been through with the world.

Key Takeaways

The power in owning where you’ve been and what you’ve been through

How our identity is shaped by what we’ve survived

Why where you’re standing now is temporary (if you want it to be)

What Stacy’s days look like as a mom, coach and network marketing leader

How to build a consistent routine that works for you

Stacy’s tips on being intentional with your time and outsourcing as much as possible

Why it’s crucial to build good habits one at a time vs. all at once

What it looks like to BE until you BECOME who you want to be

How we don’t talk about our struggles or celebrate our accomplishments enough

Why your past will hold you back until you can share your version of the story

How self-reflection helped Alison navigate the end of her marriage

Connect with Stacy

Stacy on Instagram

Hotmess Success Facebook Group

Connect with Mallory & Alison

Alison on Instagram

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Resources

All the Feels for How Far You’ve Come - EP147 May 20, 2021

Feel like what you’re doing now isn’t for you anymore?

It’s tough to walk away from something you’ve put your heart and soul into, and you may feel totally lost for a while. But it’s these moments of struggle that make you who you are. It IS possible to keep going.

And your identity will continue to evolve each time you level up.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how what you do can become who you are, describing the pivotal moment when I walked away from the fitness studio I’d co-owned for seven years and how that affected my identity.

I discuss how I responded the second time I realized it was time to make a career change, challenging you to lean into the gut feeling that something’s not right and see where it takes you (rather than trying to mask it).

Listen in for insight on how the work I do now as a mindset coach is informed by my experiences in fitness and network marketing and learn to reflect on how far you’ve come and find gratitude for how each experience served you in that season of life!

Key Takeaways

My background in personal training and dance fitness and how what you do can become who you are

The challenge I faced in pursuing both network marketing and a career in fitness

The pivotal moment I decided to walk away from the studio I’d owned for 7 years (and how that shift affected my identity and ego)

How I responded the second time I realized it was time to make a career change

Why you should lean into the gut feeling that something’s not right and see where it takes you rather than trying to mask it

How to look back in gratitude and reflect on how your experiences served you in that season

How what I do now as a mindset and transformation coach is informed by my experiences in fitness and network marketing

How it’s your moments of struggle that got you where you are today

The value in reflecting on how far you’ve come and exploring how your identity evolves each time you level up

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Resources

Mallory’s Instagram Post on Matcha

National Personal Training Institute

Saying No Is Self-Care - EP146 May 18, 2021

When you decide to say YES to yourself and the person you want to become, you have to say NO to other things.

And if you’re used to being a people pleaser, this can be a real challenge.

But if you’re appeasing other people at the cost of your own happiness, it’s time to learn how to set some healthy boundaries and normalize saying NO THANK YOU to the things that don’t serve you.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why saying no is self-care, describing the anxiety, exhaustion and overwhelm that result when you don’t make space for what you need.

We discuss the danger empaths face in taking on other people’s problems as their own and challenge you to set boundaries with yourself in order to overcome bad habits and limiting beliefs.

Listen in for insight on why it makes others uncomfortable when you decide to change and learn how to enjoy the freedom of saying NO without explaining yourself or feeling guilty about it.

Key Takeaways

The anxiety, exhaustion and overwhelm that happen when you can’t say no

How saying YES to your priorities means saying NO to other things

The danger empaths face in taking on other people’s problems as their own

Alison’s journey to making herself a priority

Why it’s challenging for Mallory to say no to herself when it comes to work

How to set boundaries with yourself to shift bad habits and limiting beliefs

Why you don’t have to explain yourself when you say no

Why it’s crucial to practice saying no (without feeling guilty about it)

How freeing it is once you get past the discomfort of saying no

Why it makes others self-conscious and uncomfortable when you change

Connect with Mallory & Alison

Alison on Instagram

Mallory’s Reel on Saying No as Self-Care

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Resources

Thoughts Create Things - EP145 May 13, 2021

Did you know that thoughts become things?

The truth is, we create our own reality. And we’re limited only by what we BELIEVE is possible for us.

On this episode of Destined to Be, I’m sharing the idea that we create our own destiny through our thoughts, explaining how the universe acts in our favor when we align with the frequency we’re trying to become.

I weigh in on how to show your Creator you’re taking the time to BE and describe how to embody the feelings you want in order to attract your Future Self.

Listen in to understand the role emotional intelligence plays in your ability to co-create with the universe and learn how to leverage the principle that thoughts become things to live a life of your own design!

Key Takeaways

The idea that you create your own destiny through your thoughts

How believing we’re the victims of circumstance justifies inaction

Why real growth comes from leaning into the unknown

The power in aligning with the frequency of what we’re trying to become

How the universe acts in your favor when you get out of the way

How the possibilities available to you are the possibilities you BELIEVE to be true

Why I suggest meditation to show your Creator you’re taking time to BE

How to embody the feelings you want to attract your Future Self

How wisdom is defined as thought without emotional charge

The role emotional intelligence plays in being in creation with the universe

Why the present moment is all we really have

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Resources

Law of Attraction

A Burning Desire by Kevin Griffin

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Overcome Imposter Syndrome & DO THE THING - EP144 May 11, 2021

So, something tells you that you’re meant for more. And you have an idea for the life you want to create.

But then you wonder, ‘Who am I to try this new thing?’ You second guess your savvy and start to believe that you’re not good enough.

You’ve got a bad case of imposter syndrome, and it’s got you stuck.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we offer insight on overcoming imposter syndrome, challenging you to explore the evidence that you ARE competent and capable and shift from considering worst-case scenarios to asking, ‘What’s the BEST that could happen?’

We weigh in on what it looks like to trust the plan your Creator has for you and move forward on your dreams, knowing that things will work out in your favor.

Listen in to understand why other people’s opinions of you are less important than you think and learn how to trust yourself, jump in and DO THE THING that’s on your heart.

Key Takeaways

How imposter syndrome is defined as an inability to internalize our accomplishments

The connection between not celebrating the good stuff and feeling like a fraud

Why we look for external validation when we’re thinking about trying something new

Alison’s experience with not believing she’s good enough to do what she wants

How to overcome imposter syndrome by exploring the evidence that you are competent and capable

How to shift from considering the worst-case scenario to reflecting on the BEST that could happen

What it looks like to trust in the plan that your Creator has for you and move forward knowing that things will work out

How to reframe what you might lose to what you might learn from taking a leap

How imposter syndrome stems from other people’s opinions of you (and how to get past that)

Our advice on listening to the voice inside that says there’s something bigger for you

Why you should trust yourself, jump in and DO THE THING that’s on your heart

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Alison on Instagram

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Resources

Rachel Hollis

Quick Hacks to Stay Healthy - EP143 May 06, 2021

Taking care of your body is key in becoming the person you’re destined to be. And if you’re struggling to eat healthy, get enough sleep or keep a regular workout schedule, you know you’re not showing up as your best self.

But how do you start implementing healthy habits in your life?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our favorite hacks for staying healthy, walking you through our go-to prepared meals and challenging you to outsource healthy grocery shopping if you can’t make time to do it yourself.

We weigh in on what to drink, describing how much water we consume on a daily basis and what we recommend as alternatives to coffee.

Listen in for insight on making exercise a non-negotiable, determining what optimal sleep looks like for you and taking the right supplements to feel on top of your game!

Key Takeaways

Why it’s crucial to leave the house with enough food to get through the day

How much water we drink on a daily basis

Our go-to prepared meal of vegetable, chicken and rice or pasta

How we stock our refrigerator with fresh juices

Why you should outsource healthy meal prep and/or grocery shopping if you can’t make time

Why working out is a non-negotiable for us (and when we rest and recover)

How sleep is the #1 thing you can do for you physical and mental health

How to determine what optimal sleep looks like for you

The Amare supplements we take to feel on top of our game

Our favorite alternatives to coffee, i.e.: Matcha or MUD\WTR

Why we recommend adding one new habit at a time to see how you feel

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BOTTLED JOY 1 Gallon Water Bottle

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Resources

HydroJug

Frank’s RedHot Buffalo Sauce

Beyond Juicery + Eatery

ICON Meals

Ben’s Original Ready Rice Jasmine Rice

Liquid Modere Collagen

3 (More) Things You Don’t Need to Apologize For - EP142 May 04, 2021

If you make a mistake, you should make amends. But all too often, we apologize in situations where we’ve done nothing wrong.

We say we’re sorry for prioritizing ourselves and our goals. And we feel like we have to justify our choices.

So, how do you learn to value yourself enough to stop apologizing when it’s just not necessary?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we follow up on last week’s show and share three more things you don’t need to apologize for, reminding you that changing your mind is a natural part of growing as a person.

We discuss the importance of taking time for yourself, describing how personal development gives you the courage to communicate your needs to the people in your life.

Listen in for insight on saying no without apology or justification and learn how to set clear boundaries and build the life you want—without feeling guilty about it!

Key Takeaways

6 things you don’t need to apologize for

Your life choices
Putting your own needs first
Standing up for yourself and your beliefs
Changing your mind
Taking time for yourself
Saying no

The difference between apologizing and making amends

How to overcome the tendency to apologize when you ask for something

Why spouse shaming is a bad idea (and what you can do instead)

How changing your mind is inevitable as you continue to learn and grow

How to communicate your needs to the people in your life

Why you shouldn’t feel guilty for building the life you want

The freedom that comes from setting clear boundaries

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Mallory’s Level Up VIP Group Coaching

3 Things You Don’t Need to Apologize For - EP141 Apr 29, 2021

Everybody has an opinion. And if you’re just getting started with personal development, the people around you may have a lot to say about it.

But your ambition to change your life for the better is not hurting anybody, and you don’t need to feel guilty about it.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share three things you absolutely DO NOT need to apologize for, explaining why you don’t have to justify your life choices and how to build the confidence to own where you are.

We weigh in on putting your own needs first, describing how we prioritize our health and wellness and why we don’t take advice from anyone we wouldn’t trade places with.

Listen in for insight on standing up for your beliefs and learn how to make your own decisions, stand by them and move forward with your life!

Key Takeaways

3 things you don’t need to apologize for

Your life choices
Putting your own needs first
Standing up for yourself and your beliefs

How to build the confidence to stand by your choices without feeling guilty

Why you SHOULD apologize when you’re wrong or if you make a mistake

Why it makes others uncomfortable when you have the ambition to change your life

Why it’s crucial to surround yourself people who support your personal growth

How we put ourselves first by prioritizing our health and wellness

The trips we take to recharge and put our needs first

Why you shouldn’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with

How it impacts your life when you’re continually defending your opinion

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Mallory’s Level Up VIP Group Coaching

Resources

Elevate Your Energy & Grow Together in Community- EP140 Apr 27, 2021

Know you want MORE for your life—but the people around you just don’t get it? Then it’s time to find a community that supports you in growing to the next level. A group of people who elevate your energy and want to stay connected for the long term.

So, how do you attract the kind of people you need to get the results you want?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why it’s crucial to be part of a group that raises your vibration in the physical sense, discussing what you can manifest in a community with likeminded individuals who ‘get it.’

We share the details of our recent Level Up VIP in-person event, inviting our dear friend Allison to weigh in on how the first round of the program changed her life for the better and describe the transformations she observed as a mini-mentor in the second round.

Listen in for insight on adding value to any kind of personal development group and learn how to attract and stay connected with the people who will elevate your energy and help you grow into a better version of yourself!

Key Takeaways

Why it’s crucial to be in a group of people who elevate your energy in the physical sense

How the first round of Level Up VIP changed Allison’s life for the better and what she observed as a mentor in the second round

The power in having access to likeminded women who can relate but won’t judge you

What you can manifest in your life using the small-group mastermind formula

How being part of a community helps you transcend into a better version of yourself

The value in getting in person with a mentor or coach who’s living the life you want

Why people want to stay connected once they find a group that really works for them

How old habits come back in the absence of accountability

How the MVP of this round of Level Up VIP added value to the group

Why you get more from group coaching when you’re willing to be vulnerable

Why the Level Up VIP or forthcoming online course is a prerequisite to Mallory’s new Level Up Collective membership program

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Allison on Destined to Be EP100

Resources

Mallory’s Level Up VIP Group Coaching

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

The 2 Traits You Need to Start Seeing Success - EP139 Apr 22, 2021

In a world where we can get just about anything we want delivered in 24 hours or less, it’s tough to remember that achieving big goals doesn’t work the same way.

You can’t build a business or transform your health by clicking a button and waiting on the Amazon truck.

But there are two key traits that you can cultivate to build success in any area of your life.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the characteristics you need to be successful—consistency and patience.

We explain why it’s easy to forget that everyone has bad days, challenging you to show up even when you don’t want to and remember that small, consistent steps repeated over time yield big results.

Listen in for insight on developing patience (with yourself and others) and learn how to take ownership of where you are now and keep working toward the goals that are going to take time.

Key Takeaways

The two traits you need to be successful in any area of your life

Consistency
Patience

Why we struggle with patience in a world where we can get things on demand

Sam Walton’s Sundown Rule for taking action today

The challenge of being patient when you’re counting on other people to move the ball forward

How it’s our responsibility to take advantage when a door opens and walk through

Why it’s easy to forget that everyone has self-doubt and bad days

The danger in comparing yourself to influencers on social media

How consistency is built by showing up even when you don’t want to

How BIG results come from small, consistent habits that are repeated over time

How a clear vision helps us stay consistent in our decision-making

Why it’s futile to spend the day worried or stressed about past or future events

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Sam Walton’s Sundown Rule

Resources

How Do You Use the Word TRY? - EP138 Apr 20, 2021

There are two ways to look at the word ‘try.’

Most of us use it when something’s not really a priority. We’ll ‘try’ to get to the gym today… But if we don’t make it, no big deal.

But what if you ONLY used the word ‘try’ in the context of trying again and again—until you reach your goal?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how we use the word ‘try’ as an excuse to show up less-than what we’re really capable of.

We explain why you shouldn’t give up on a goal when one tactic doesn’t work and encourage you to think through the consequences of breaking a commitment before you let yourself off the hook.

Listen in for insight on measuring your progress toward a goal and take on our challenge to remove the word ‘try’ from your vocabulary for a day and see what shifts.

Key Takeaways

The two very different ways we use the word ‘try’

How thinking through the consequences of giving up keeps us on track

How TRY is an excuse to show up less-than what we’re really capable of

The benefits of measuring your progress toward a goal

Why you shouldn’t give up on goal when one method doesn’t work

How temporary setbacks are just part of the process

How what you think on the inside influences what you create on the outside

How to approach a weight loss goal one workout or meal at a time

Mel Robbins’ 5 second rule for acting on a commitment

Our challenge to remove ‘try’ from your vocabulary

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Mallory’s Instagram Post on the Word ‘Try’

Resources

Mallory’s Wait for It… Post on Instagram

Napoleon Hill

Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule

The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins

How to Handle Overwhelm Without Giving Up - EP137 Apr 15, 2021

If your goals are big enough, you’re going to feel frustration and overwhelm.

So, how do you handle those moments without giving up?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our best strategies for persevering through challenging times, describing the benefit of getting into meditation when you feel like you’re in over your head.

We explain how to recognize when you’re in grind season and keep pushing—even when a new venture isn’t all that much fun.

Listen in to understand how growth comes from getting uncomfortable and learn how YOU can accomplish unbelievably BIG things by taking the next small step!

Key Takeaways

How having friends who call you out when you slip helps you keep going

The one-bite-at-a-time approach to overcoming overwhelm

How we use the Ninety.io system to keep track of to-dos

The benefit of getting into meditation when you feel frustration or overwhelm

How to recognize you’re in grind season and persevere (even when a new venture is not fun)

Why your goals aren’t big enough if you don’t feel challenged

How growth comes from getting uncomfortable and having hard conversations

The advantage of having a mentor who’s done what you want to do

How to draw on the emotions you feel when you exceed expectations to keep pushing

What it feels like to give up on yourself and have to start over

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Dan Sullivan Strategic Coach

Resources

Ninety.io

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

True Underdog Podcast

Robert Waldinger’s TED Talk on Happiness

3 Simple Rules in Life - EP136 Apr 13, 2021

Are you struggling to make progress on your big dreams?

Is it because you’re waiting for a more convenient time to get started? Or because you don’t want to ask for help?

Or maybe you’re telling yourself it’s easier to just to keep doing what you’re doing.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share three simple rules in life that will propel you to go after what you want right now—and keep moving forward no matter what hurdles you face.

We explain why it’s NOT a badge of honor to try and do it all yourself, describing how we delegate the things we don’t enjoy, don’t have time for or that don’t require our skill set.

Listen in for insight on leveraging extreme accountability to follow through on your big goals and get inspired to take the next step that will take YOUR life to the next level!

Key Takeaways

Our 3 simple rules in life

If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it
If you don’t ask, the answer is always NO
If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place

Why you can’t wait to go after the big things on your heart

Why the process of going after your dreams is more important than the end goal

How to keep moving forward no matter what hurdles you face

Why it’s NOT a badge of honor to try and do it all yourself

How we delegate things we don’t enjoy, don’t have time for or that don’t require our skill set

Why successful people don’t ask how but WHO

The EOS exercise for shifting your daily activities into your zone of genius

Why there’s no such thing as being too busy

How you’re only one ask away from getting to the next level

How extreme accountability helps us follow through on our big goals

The indescribable feeling that comes with peak experiences

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Resources

All I Do Is Win - EP135 Apr 08, 2021

You can’t win ‘em all.

But you can change the way you think about losing. In fact, you can frame up your failures in a way that builds a new reality. A reality of winning for the long term.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how to let go of failure rather than letting it fester, describing the role daily habits play in cultivating a winning mentality.

We explain how small, consistent wins give you the confidence to tackle BIG stuff down the road and challenge you to set intentions so that simple things turn into WINS.

Listen in for insight on identifying what winning looks like for YOU (without getting derailed by shiny stuff) and learn how to change your perception of failure so you can win, win, win—no matter what!

Key Takeaways

How to let go of failure rather than letting it fester (and dragging others down in the process)

How we reframe failure as a lesson that helps us move forward

How your perception of failure creates your personal reality

The role daily habits, behaviors and routines play in cultivating a winning mentality

Why setting an intention must be followed up with ACTION

How to decide what winning looks like for YOU vs. getting derailed by the shiny stuff

How small daily wins give you the confidence to tackle BIG stuff down the road

How to recalibrate your emotions when you’re in an uncomfortable situation and push through

How to set an intention so that simple things become WINS

The momentum we build from consistently feeling like a winner

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires by Esther and Jerry Hicks

Esther Hicks

Your Next-Level Life Demands a Different Version of You on Destined To Be EP134

Lewis Howes

Your Next-Level Life Demands a Different Version of You - EP134 Apr 06, 2021

Are you ready to take your life to the next level? Then you have to be willing to grow as a person.

Otherwise, you’ll be living the same year over and over and over again.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why getting to the next level of your life demands a different version of you, exploring how the journey (and who you become in the process) is even more important than reaching a certain goal.

We describe how to be aware of who has power over your thinking, take ownership of who you share your biggest dreams with and elevate your friend circle as necessary.

Listen in for insight on changing your habits as well as your thinking and learn how to leverage the compound effect of improving by 1% every day as you grow into your Better Self.

Key Takeaways

Why getting to the next level demands a different version of you

Why the first step in showing up as your better self is knowing what you want

How GOOD can become the enemy of GREAT

Why the journey is more important than achieving your goals

What it looks like to build emotional intelligence

How to take ownership of who you share your biggest goals and dreams with (and change your friend circle if necessary)

Why we need to be aware of the people who have power over our thinking

How to change your thinking by changing what you watch or listen to

The compound effect of changing your habits by 1% every day

Why it’s crucial to make time for exercise and other healthy habits

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Matthew McConaughey’s Oscar Speech

Resources

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

How to Deal with People Who Have a Different Opinion - EP133 Apr 01, 2021

Yes, it’s important to stand up for what you believe in. But when you’re triggered by someone who has a different opinion and you get combative, you’re creating turbulence that doesn’t serve anyone.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore how to deal with people we disagree with, explaining how we adapt our own opinions as truth based on the information we have.

We discuss why we make an effort to respect other people’s opinions (as long as they can back them up with reasons) and what we can learn from listening to voices on both sides of an issue.

Listen in to understand how you’re creating internal resistance when you come at people with anger and learn how to take responsibility for your emotions and put positive energy out into the universe, even in situations where you disagree.

Key Takeaways

How we adapt our opinions as truth based on the information we have

How the ‘facts’ we’re presented with online differ based on our political beliefs

Why we make an effort to respect other people’s opinions (as long as they can back them up with reasons)

What it means to be brainwashed and refuse to consider any other point of view

How you create internal resistance by being combative and how that negative energy impacts your health

What it looks like to take responsibility for your emotions and put positive energy out into the universe

How NOT to get triggered by other people’s opinions

The power in reminding yourself that life is abundant and there is nothing to fear

What you can learn from listening to people on both sides of an issue

The danger in coming at people who disagree with anger and disrespect

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

How to Choose Happiness in Your Life - EP132 Mar 30, 2021

Most people think that happiness is something that happens TO us when things work out just right.

But the truth is, happiness is a CHOICE. And it’s up to YOU to opt in. But how, exactly, do you cultivate a sense of joy and fulfillment?

How do you choose happy?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the relationship between gratitude and fulfillment, explaining how to avoid getting sucked into victim mentality and operate from a place of abundance.

We describe how gratitude requires us to be present in the moment, cautioning you against postponing joy while you wait for something better to come along.

Listen in for insight on practicing gratitude on the daily and learn how to leverage what you’re grateful for as fuel for making power moves in your life!

Key Takeaways

How gratitude requires us to be present in the moment

The relationship between embodying gratitude and being happy

How to bring yourself back to gratitude when you have a negative emotional reaction to a situation

Why you can’t be a VICTIM and in gratitude at the same time

The danger in postponing joy while you wait for something different/better to come along

Why we’re relentless about chasing peak experiences

How to avoid getting sucked into victim mentality and operate from gratitude

How gratitude gives us the courage to make power moves

Our challenge to practice gratitude by saying it out loud or writing it down

How to identify what it feels like to be in gratitude

Why giving to others deepens your own sense of gratitude

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

TED Talk: Want to Be Happy? Be Grateful

Resources

Bad Situation? Or Best Thing That Ever Happened? - EP131 Mar 25, 2021

When you’re navigating trauma, it feels like the worst thing in the world.

But time after time in our lives, bad situations have turned out to be some of the best things that ever happened to us.

And the most difficult circumstances taught us to be more intentional about the life we want to create and put us on the trajectory to build Destined to Be.

On this episode, we’re sharing our conversation with dear friend Aaron Opalewski who interviewed us on his Scale Your Life Podcast a few months back.

We start from the very beginning of our journey, discussing how we became a couple and each built our own successful businesses—and how things changed when we had our first child.

Aaron asks what we do to instill our core values in our kids, and we describe our commitment to being fully present with our children and lifting each other up.

Listen in for insight on what inspired us to start Destined to Be TOGETHER and get our top advice for keeping a positive mindset no matter what’s going on in the world!

Key Takeaways

Our journey from high school friendship to becoming a couple

How we each built our own successful businesses in the fitness and masonry space

How our lives changed when we had our first child

The traumatic experience that taught us to be intentional about the life we want to create

How to flip the script and make a seemingly bad situation serve you

What we do to instill our core values in our kids

How to evaluate the advice someone gives you and choose whether to follow it

Why we’re committed to being present with our children

How to pull your partner up to a higher vibration when they’re not operating as their best self

What inspired us to start our business partnership and couples brand

Our insight on keeping a positive mindset through difficult times

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Scale Your Life Podcast with Aaron Opalewski

Resources

Aaron Opalewski on Destined to Be EP093

The Twelve Steps

Can You Compete and Create at the Same Time? - EP130 Mar 23, 2021

When we compete, only one person can win.

And while this is fine for games, sports and other kinds of contests, it’s not the best approach to business or life.

So, how do we shift out of competition mode? And what can we do to cultivate the positive energy of creation?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain why you can’t compete and create at the same time, describing how competition fuels comparison and generates hostile energy.

We explore the pros and cons of using comparison as fuel, discussing why you don’t need to be in competition with others if you’re truly living your purpose.

Listen in for insight around being happy for people you’re competing with and learn how to approach life from a place of creation and embody your higher self!

Key Takeaways

How competition implies that only one person can win

Why you shouldn’t be in competition if you’re truly doing what you’re supposed to do

How competition fuels comparison and stifles creativity

Why you can’t compete and create at the same time

The pros and cons of using comparison with others as fuel to give you an edge

Why real growth only comes from a place of creation

How we feel when we’re in competition as opposed to creation

The next-level energy you create when you can be happy for the people you’re competing with

The hostile energy and resistance we generate by forming negative opinions

How to mindfully decide whether to voice your opinion

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

The Twelve Steps

Chattanooga Viral Video

Why We Perceive Ourselves as Less-Than (and How to Change It) - EP129 Mar 18, 2021

How is it possible to have $100M and still feel middle class?

Most of us have a hard time perceiving the truth of how far we’ve come or what we’re capable of. We forget that we’ve already beaten the odds, simply by being alive. And we waste time wishing for what other people have and questioning their qualifications.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the role comparison plays in perceiving ourselves as less than we actually are.

We explain how to build new beliefs by thinking through what you’ve already done, challenging you to break the habit of comparing yourself to what other people are doing.

Listen in to understand why people question and attack others when they’re hurting and learn what to do if your current self-perception isn’t helping you grow!

Key Takeaways

What the 75-year study on happiness reveals about how our perception shifts over time

The role comparison plays in perceiving ourselves as less than we actually are

How to build new beliefs by thinking through what you’ve already done

Why we don’t need to compare ourselves to anyone else

Why it’s okay to mute certain accounts on social media if they tempt you to compare

How we get upset about what others are doing when we envy what they’ve achieved

The challenge around not feeling personally attacked when someone says you’re not qualified

The danger in tying your value as a person to how much money you have

How to change your perception by reflecting on how far you’ve come

What to do if your current perception of yourself isn’t helping you grow

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Harvard Second Generation Study

Robert Waldinger’s TED Talk on Happiness

The Four Agreements

Matthew McConaughey’s Oscar Speech

Compassion on Destined to Be EP129

Jeremiah on ProjectME with Tiffany Carter EP151

Why Compassion Is Crucial to Your Success - EP128 Mar 16, 2021

Without passion, nothing happens. Without compassion, the wrong things happen.

In the memoir Into the Magic Shop, neurosurgeon and Stanford professor Dr. James Doty shares his story of learning to harness the power of both the brain and heart. And he contends that we cannot enjoy true wealth or live our best lives in the absence of compassion.

But what does it look like to practice compassion in our daily lives?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the idea that the only thing we really need to be successful is compassion, describing how mindfulness can turn us into monsters if we don’t have empathy for others.

We explain how pouring into other people makes our business life and friendships more valuable, introducing you to the science around how strong, authentic relationships are the #1 contributor to longevity.

Listen in for insight on how a lack of empathy holds you back and learn how cultivating compassion for yourself and others leads to a happier, more fulfilling life!

Key Takeaways

The idea that the only thing you really need to be successful is compassion

How mindfulness can turn us into monsters if we don’t have empathy for others

Mallory’s focus on raising kind and compassionate kids

Why Jeremiah fights feeling compassion for others and how that holds him back

The distinction between having compassion and holding people to a high standard

How pouring into other people makes our relationships more valuable

The relationship between passion and compassion

The science behind how strong, authentic relationships are the #1 contributor to longevity

How compassion helps us shift negative thoughts about other people

Why self-compassion is a prerequisite for showing compassion to others

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart by James R. Doty, MD

Resources

Into the Magic Shop

Robert Waldinger’s TED Talk on Happiness

Get Uncomfortable & Work Through Overwhelm - EP127 Mar 11, 2021

When you’re overwhelmed, do you work through it? Or do you push it down and tell your partner you’re fine?

It’s scary to be vulnerable and communicate what you’re really feeling. But it’s absolutely necessary if you want to find solutions.

And if your partner has your back, it’s much easier to navigate overwhelm (or any other negative emotion) and come out better on the other side.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the challenge of articulating why you’re overwhelmed, encouraging you to get present and express those uncomfortable emotions to your partner.

We explain why it’s crucial to be around people who help us overcome conditioning and give us permission to show how we really feel.

Listen in for insight on pushing just 4% past your comfort zone and learn how to create a culture of support in your relationship that allows you to communicate overwhelm—and find solutions together.

Key Takeaways

The power in creating a culture of support in your relationship with your significant other

How our couples weekend serves as a container to sit down with your partner and put your vision on paper

The challenge of articulating why you’re feeling overwhelmed (and how to overcome it)

Why it’s crucial to be around people who help us overcome conditioning and give us permission to express our emotions

Why you shouldn’t ignore the pull to level up—even if it makes you uncomfortable

How knowing your partner has your back can help you navigate overwhelm

How growing together inspires action you might not take for yourself

How to push 4% past your comfort zone and share what you’re really feeling vs. defaulting to I’m fine

What it looks like to vocalize overwhelm with your partner and find solutions together

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend [Discount Code COUPLES]

Raise Your Standards, Change Your Life - EP126 Mar 09, 2021

Tony Robbins reminds us that if you want to change your life, you have to raise your standards.

But how, exactly, do you set the bar higher? And how do you follow through and live up to these new standards you set for yourself?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the value in surrounding yourself with people who will push you to the next level, explaining how couples can serve as extreme accountability partners and hold each other to a higher standard.

We explore how creating a vision for the future helps you raise your expectations and what to do if you’re not living up to the standards you set for yourself.

Listen in for insight on raising the standards for your relationships and learn how to build a new standard of belief in your own worthiness.

Key Takeaways

Why it’s crucial to communicate your standards to others so they know what you expect

The value in surrounding yourself with people who will push you to a higher standard

Why it’s more effective to focus on how to solve a problem rather than who’s to blame

How to set standards for relationships around a potential partner’s lifestyle choices (and whether those choices align with your core values)

How couples can serve as each other’s extreme accountability partner

Why whatever consumes your mind the most is your higher power

The challenge around setting high standards for how you show up as a parent

How to set the standard of having a clear vision for the future

What to do if you’re not living up to the standards you set for yourself

How to leverage repetition to create new standards and beliefs, e.g.: I am worthy

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend [Discount Code COUPLES]

Awaken with JP on Instagram

The Four Agreements

What I Wanted to Be ‘When I Grow Up’ - EP125 Mar 04, 2021

We hope you never figure out what you want to be when you grow up.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t get clear on what you want to be NEXT. Vision is key in manifesting the life you want.

But we hope you never stop growing up. That you keep striving for the next thing and evolving into a better person than you are now.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re explaining why it’s crucial to set an intention for what you want to do next, challenging you to STOP living on autopilot and START pushing out of your comfort zone.

We discuss how the information age allows us to keep learning, growing and checking our beliefs and describe how getting stuck in conditioning guarantees a mediocre life.

Listen in for insight on growing into the next version of yourself and learn how to set an intention on the feelings you want to have—and then allow the universe to respond!

Key Takeaways

Why it’s crucial to set an intention for what you want to do next vs. live on autopilot

The challenge in giving yourself permission to do what you want (when what you’ve been conditioned to do isn’t serving you anymore)

How the internet has changed our ideology around staying in the same career long term

Why never pushing out of your comfort zone guarantees mediocrity

How we define wisdom a memory of the past without emotional charge

Why we surround ourselves with people who are constantly reading, learning and checking their beliefs

How to put an intention on the feelings you want to have and then allow the universe to respond

How we use Sex Magic to focus our intention on the same goal

Why we hope you never figure out what you want to be when you grow up

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend

Resources

Dr. Oz on On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Jay Shetty on The Dr. Oz Podcast

Sex Magic

Matthew McConaughey on the Hero in Your Future Self

How to Build High-Vibe Relationships - EP124 Mar 02, 2021

In a perfect world, we would only go where we’re celebrated—not tolerated.

But sometimes we can’t avoid being around people who gossip, judge or complain. People with the potential to bring us down.

So, how do you keep your vibe high in that situation? And what can you do to spend LESS time with Debbie Downers and MORE time with people who lift you up?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to build high-vibe relationships, explaining what you can do to attract elite-level people into your life.

We describe how to handle a Negative Nancy, challenging you to cultivate peak experiences and show up with HIGH energy to protect yourself from their low vibe.

Listen in for insight on adding value to other’s lives and learn how move past mediocre and start living a high-vibe life of abundance!

Key Takeaways

Why we choose to go where we’re celebrated, not tolerated

What to do when you’re faced with a Negative Nancy

How showing up with high energy protects you from people with a low vibe

The value in surrounding yourself with people who make peak moves

How to attract more elite-level people into your life

Why you can’t create if you’re not consistent in doing things that are good for you

The relationship between abundance and success

Why you shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting more than a mediocre life

How to flip it on them when a Debbie Downer starts complaining

Why you can’t get stuck in how it’s always been done

How to influence people to work harder by investing in them

Why it’s crucial to add value to your friends’ lives (and how to do it)

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

The ONE Thing

Young Presidents’ Organization

EO Accelerator

The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles

The 3 C’s of Relationships, Part 3: Commitment - EP123 Feb 25, 2021

To have a healthy relationship, you need to communicate your wants and needs and then make compromises to support each other’s growth.

But most importantly, a fulfilling partnership requires dedication. It’s about working through challenges and making time to work on your relationship. It’s about growing together.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring the third and final C of a strong relationship, commitment.

We explain how a commitment to your own personal growth serves as the foundation for a commitment to your relationship, challenging you to put those commitments in writing and discuss what’s important to you with your partner.

Listen in for insight on making time to follow through on your commitments (both to yourself and each other) and learn how to show up for your relationship with an energy of abundance and opportunity!

Key Takeaways

The 3 C’s of relationships

Communication
Compromise
Commitment

How our Level Up Couples weekend demonstrates a commitment to your relationship

The paradigm shift around the role of women in society

Why it’s crucial to bring your feelings to light and communicate them to your significant other

How your commitment to yourself serves as the foundation for your commitment to your partner

The value of writing a list of what you’re committed to in your own life and in your relationship and comparing it with your partner

How to pick something your partner is committed to and help them get there faster

How we use the love languages to demonstrate our commitment to each other

How to reframe commitment as dedication rather than obligation

The power in committing your time to the things that are important to you

How we use sex magic to manifest abundance in the world

Why you cannot receive opportunity from a place of victimization, fear, anxiety or lack

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend

Resources

The 3 C’s of Relationships, Part 2: Compromise - EP122 Feb 23, 2021

We tend to see compromise in a relationship as a bad thing. It makes us think of giving something up and feeling resentful toward our partner as a result.

But what if compromise in a relationship isn’t about winning or losing? What if you can BOTH benefit from supporting each other through individual seasons of growth?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring the second C of a strong relationship, compromise.

We discuss the victim mentality at the source of most conflict in a relationship, challenging you to shift away from keeping score to building mutual respect with your significant other.

Listen in for insight on persuading your partner through attraction rather than promotion and learn how to communicate the benefits of what you want to do in a way that inspires healthy compromise.

Key Takeaways

The 3 C’s of relationships

Communication
Compromise
Commitment

How a healthy couple leverages setbacks to make the relationship stronger

The victim mentality at the source of most conflict between partners

Why we tend to see compromise as the act of giving something up and how to reframe it in terms of seasons of growth

How to shift away from competing or keeping score to building mutual respect with your partner

How fear and resentment blind us to the opportunities to create solutions

Why it’s crucial to communicate WHY you want to do something and how it will benefit your family as a whole

How compromise is much easier when a couple practices judgement-free communication

Why we’re more persuasive when we use attraction rather than promotion

The power in explaining why investing in your relationship is important to you and defining what you’re willing to do in return

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Jeremiah & Mallory’s Couples Level Up Weekend

Resources

Mallory’s Valentine’s Day Instagram Post

Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz

Chris Harder’s Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind

The 3 C’s of Relationships, Part 1: Communication - EP121 Feb 18, 2021

A strong relationship requires communication, compromise and commitment. But what does that look like in practice?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring the first C of a strong relationship, communication.

We discuss the power in knowing your partner’s love language and showing them love in that way, challenging you to identify what you are feeling and clearly communicate what you need in the relationship.

Listen in for insight on reading your partner’s unspoken or nonverbal communication and learn to leverage meditation to facilitate better communication with your better half!

Key Takeaways

The 3 C’s of relationships

Communication
Compromise
Commitment

How we think about the difference between romance and sex—and why you have to clearly communicate your needs to your partner

The power in knowing your partner’s love language and showing them love in that way

How to avoid resentment when your partner doesn’t acknowledge your acts of service

How to communicate when you need time for yourself (and not feel guilty or anxious about taking that time)

Why so many of us fall back on anger when we’re afraid of being rejected

Why it’s crucial to learn to identify your feelings

How identifying what you want is the first step in communicating with your partner

How quieting your mind through meditation facilitates better communication in a relationship

The danger in modeling your parents or other cultural models of relationships rather than figuring out what serves you

Why you shouldn’t communicate every thought that crosses your mind

How much of our communication is unspoken or nonverbal

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Lou Holtz

How to Read a Person Like a Book by Gerard I. Nierenberg and Henry H. Calero

Failure to Launch - EP120 Feb 16, 2021

Why do so few of us follow through on what we say we’re going to do? What’s getting in our way?

Are you worried that no one will want what you have to offer? Or that you’re not 100% ready to move forward?

What’s behind this failure to launch?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re inspiring you to take action on your dreams, explaining how imposter syndrome keeps so many of us spinning our wheels and what you can do to overcome it.

We introduce you to the idea that if it’s IN you, it’s FOR you and challenge you to make the ONE connection you need to take the next step toward your goal.

Listen in for insight on reframing failure as a learning experience and learn to stop waiting for the ideal time to begin and start taking action NOW.

Key Takeaways

The power in making the decision to take action

How imposter syndrome is defined as a pattern of doubting our skills, talents and accomplishments and why we ALL go through it

How pushing ourselves to have peak experiences leads to bullet-proof confidence

How two people with similar backgrounds and experiences can have wildly different views of the world

Why you can’t believe everything you think

The idea that if it’s IN you, it’s FOR you

How you’re just one connection away from taking the next step

Why it’s most important to focus on your WHY

How to become a subject matter expert in any industry

How to reframe failure as a learning experience that will propel you to the next level

Why there is no ideal time to start a new business or launch a new program

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

How to Be a Great Boss by Gino Wickman and Rene Boer

Stress Management for the Ambitious Entrepreneur—with Courtney Peacock - EP119 Feb 11, 2021

A lot of ambitious entrepreneurs are all about the hustle. But the truth is, that kind of grind is not sustainable for the long term. So, what can we do to manage stress before it becomes an issue? How do we build a wildly successful business but avoid burnout?

Courtney Peacock is the Founder and CEO of Pinecone, a coaching practice designed to help entrepreneurs ditch overwhelm and create a business that’s built to last. Courtney’s signature process combines her expertise in health, evidence-based methods for optimizing performance and powerful perspective shifts to support clients in reaching their potential and improving their wellbeing.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Courtney joins us to discuss her preemptive approach to stress management, explaining how it helps entrepreneurs avoid anxiety and overwhelm in the first place. She offers advice around setting boundaries, challenging us to communicate our needs and live in alignment with our core values. Listen in for Courtney’s insight on building a vision around the lifestyle you want and learn how to build a sustainable business and grow your impact—without burning out!

Key Takeaways

Courtney’s evolution from personal trainer to high-performance coach

How Courtney’s preemptive approach to stress management helps entrepreneurs avoid overwhelm and burnout in the first place

How communication and boundaries serve as the foundation of stress management

Why Courtney works with new and established business owners

How Courtney designs a personalized program around processes, priorities and perspective

How anxiety comes from not living in alignment with our values

What Courtney does to help her clients uncover their core values

How Courtney helps people create a vision around the lifestyle they want

The significance of being willing to say YES to the opportunity in front of you

Courtney’s service-first approach to providing value (whether or not the person chooses to hire her)

Courtney’s advice on being transparent and using the urgent-important matrix to set clear boundaries

How Courtney leverages guided and active meditation to be present

Connect with Courtney

We Are Pinecone

Pinecone: The Podcast

Courtney on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

The Four Agreements

The Twelve Steps

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

Urgent-Important Matrix

Give the Gift of Growing Together as a Couple - EP118 Feb 09, 2021

Want to give your partner something truly meaningful this Valentine’s Day? How about the gift of growing together as a couple?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share what inspired us to build our upcoming virtual event for couples, explaining why it’s crucial to make time to reconnect and put your relationship first.

We describe what you will learn about our communication process, discussing how our event will help you connect with likeminded couples, break through limiting beliefs and remember WHY you’re together.

And we explore how sex gets better when you build a strong emotion connection with each other.

Listen in for insight on introducing the idea of attending to a partner who’s reluctant and learn how our event will help you become a better version of yourselves—as a couple!

Key Takeaways

What inspired us to build a virtual event for couples in a committed relationship

How to make our online event an EXPERIENCE

What you will learn about our communication process and how it’s improved over time

Our mission to help attendees become a better version of themselves as a couple

Why growing together as a couple is a perfect Valentine’s Day gift

How to introduce the idea to a partner who’s reluctant

Why it’s crucial to reconnect and put your relationship first

How sex improves with emotional connection

How our virtual event will help you break through limiting beliefs and remember WHY you’re together

Why you should make the time to sit with your feelings (especially if it’s triggering)

The power of connecting with likeminded couples

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Invest in Real Estate, Build True Wealth—with Brandon Thompson - EP117 Feb 04, 2021

Think you have to be rich to invest in real estate? Think again. No matter how much money you have (or don’t have), there is an investing strategy for you. And owning tangible assets like real estate is the BEST way to build true wealth for yourself, your family and future generations.

Brandon Thompson is the Real Estate Investor and Coach behind REI Society, the education platform and podcast that helps ambitious people start and scale their own real estate investing business. With nearly two decades of experience, Brandon has bought and sold more than 1,500 properties and managed $25M in private capital from all over the globe. Today, Brandon is 38 years old, and his portfolio earns $1M per year in residual income.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Brandon joins us to share his journey in real estate, explaining how he acquired 20 rentals by the age of 22 and what he learned from losing it all in the crash of 2008. He walks us through the four real estate strategies he teaches, discussing how to decide whether wholesaling, flipping, long-term or vacation rentals is right for you. Listen in for insight on the freedom that comes with owning tangible assets and get Brandon’s advice on building the kind of wealth that will weather any economic cycle.

Key Takeaways

Brandon’s journey from flipping pizzas to flipping houses

How Brandon acquired 20 rentals by the age of 22

What Brandon learned from the crash of ’08 about preparing for economic cycles

Why Brandon recommends saving at least 25% of your net worth

The connection between taking real pride in your work and having a fulfilling life

Brandon’s advice on buying assets (e.g.: businesses, real estate or IPOs)

The freedom that comes with owning tangible assets

How to decide whether wholesaling, flipping, long- or short-term rentals is the right real estate strategy for your current circumstances

Why the decision to buy or lease your home depends on the market where you live

Brandon’s insight on the tax advantages of investing in real estate

The creative real estate projects Brandon is working on now

How Brandon thinks about failure as part of the journey

Connect with Brandon

REI Society

REI Society Podcast

Brandon on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Multiple Streams of Income: How to Generate a Lifetime of Unlimited Wealth by Robert G. Allen

Robert Kiyosaki

Kevin Trudeau

Jake and Gino’s Real Estate Courses

Why Meditation Is Worth It (Even When It’s Hard) - EP116 Feb 02, 2021

Have you given up on meditation because you just can’t shut your brain off?

What if meditation is NOT about turning off your thoughts but letting them pass without judgement?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how meditation helps us cultivate the emotions associated with achieving our goals and attract the things we want in life.

We discuss why it’s so challenging to sit without yourself and describe how a guided meditation reminds you to bring your awareness back to the present.

Listen in for insight around the connection between brain cohesion and your health—and learn how retraining your brain to focus in the present can improve every area of your life.

Key Takeaways

The misconception that meditation means being able to shut your brain off

How meditation serves to help us slow down and be present

The resource we recommend for learning the science behind why meditation is important

Why it’s referred to as a meditation practice

How a guided meditation in reminds you to bring your awareness back to the present

What it looks like to let your thoughts pass without judgement

How retraining your brain to focus in the moment improves other areas of your life

Why heart-to-brain cohesion is the ultimate goal of meditation

What makes it so challenging and uncomfortable to sit with yourself

How to cultivate the emotions associated with achieving your goals to attract the things you want in your life

How the brain cohesion achieved through transcendental meditation cures illness and disease

Why you can’t wait for the perfect time and place to meditate

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Rewired Series

What the Bleep Do We Know?

Tom Bilyeu

Transcendental Meditation

Things We Know for Sure in 2021 - EP115 Jan 28, 2021

One of the few things we’re guaranteed in this world is change. But it’s up to us how we respond.

And while we can’t predict how things might unfold in 2021, there are things we DO have control over. Things that have helped us level up and take action to create a life we love.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share the things we know for sure in 2021, beginning with our hunger to keep growing and commitment to follow through on new ideas—to take the first hard step and then figure the rest out as we go.

We discuss what we know for sure about surrounding yourself with the right community, challenging you to make conscious choices around who you spend your time with but remember that it’s ultimately on YOU to do the hard work of changing your life.

Listen in for insight around how to get clear on exactly what you want and find out what you can do TODAY to attract more abundance, joy and fulfillment into your life!

Key Takeaways

What makes it challenging to get clear on exactly what you want

How we leverage pattern interrupters to change destructive habits

What it looks like when you’re truly hungry to improve your life

Our advice on taking the first hard step and figuring the rest out as you go

The value of surrounding yourself with a community that will help you level up

Why it’s on YOU to do the hard work of changing your life

The choice we have to see the world as friendly or hostile

How we make choices around who to spend our time with

What couples can do to get perspective on what’s important and grow together

The importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing YOUR goals

Why it’s crucial to build a clear plan and take massive action

What you can do TODAY to attract abundance, joy and fulfillment

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Patrick Bet-David on the #1 Quality of Hungry Entrepreneurs

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear

The Compound Effect: Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success by Darren Hardy

Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey

Jim Rohn

Throw Pillows on Destined to Be EP026

Resolutions vs. SMART Goals on Destined to Be EP107

Productivity Planner

The Law of Attraction

Jocelyn & Aaron on Instagram

Gaia on YouTube

The Secret to a Strong, Long-Lasting Marriage—with Jocelyn & Aaron Freeman - EP114 Jan 26, 2021

As anyone in a relationship knows, there’s always room to communicate better, fight better and be better connected in any season of life. So, what is the secret to a strong, long-lasting marriage? What can couples do to initiate more productive conversations, build a stronger connection and grow into the people they’re destined to be together?

Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman are the sought-after relationship coaches behind Empowered Couples University, an online training platform designed to help busy couples unlearn unhealthy patterns and gain modern relationship skills. The Freemans are also the authors of The New Power Couple: Designing an Abundant Life and Relationship That Lasts Forever and the forthcoming release The Argument Hangover: Empowering Couples to Fight Smarter and Overcome Communication Pitfalls.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Jocelyn and Aaron join us to explain what makes marriage the best place to grow into the person you’re destined to be, challenging couples to build a shared vision for their relationship. They discuss what to do if your partner is resistant to self-development and explore how to initiate challenging conversations around your significant other’s communication personality type. Listen in for Jocelyn and Aaron’s insight on the secret to a happy, long-lasting marriage and learn how to set your relationship up for success by being radically open!

Key Takeaways

What inspired Jocelyn and Aaron to create couples-focused self-development resources

What makes marriage the best place to grow into the person you’re destined to be

How to stay on the same side with your partner while standing in your own truth

Why it’s crucial to share the deeper WHY behind your self-development journey with your partner

The value in building a shared vision for your marriage that guides your actions

How to invite your partner into creating a vision for your relationship (rather than try to convince them)

Why your significant other’s self-development journey needs to be inspired by what’s important to THEM

The benefit of understanding your partner’s communication personality type

How to initiate a difficult conversation by connecting it with your shared vision

The difference between fantasy love and true, healthy love

How to set your partner (and your relationship) up for success by being radically open

How we perceive rejection when we don’t clarify our expectations

Why it’s important to recognize and turn toward our partner’s bids to connect

Connect with Jocelyn & Aaron

The Argument Hangover

Meet the Freemans

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Destined to Be Podcast on Instagram

The New Power Couple: Designing an Abundant Life and Relationship That Lasts Forever by Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman

Resources

The Argument Hangover: Empowering Couples to Fight Smarter and Overcome Communication Pitfalls by Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman

Empowered Couples University

How Happy Couples Argue, Part 1 on Destined to Be EP104

How Happy Couples Argue, Part 2 on Destined to Be EP105

The 4 Agreements

The Gottman Institute

Bids for Connection

Chasing a Dopamine Rush? Do THIS to Get Grounded! - EP113 Jan 21, 2021

When you expect a reward, your brain releases a chemical called dopamine. It’s the thing that makes us feel good when we eat food we’re craving or check for likes on social media.

But what if you find yourself constantly chasing a dopamine rush? What if you can’t feel good without help from this feel-good neurotransmitter?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we describe what it looks like to chase a dopamine rush, explaining how binging on food or buying new things delivers a chemical reward and why it’s dangerous if you can’t be content without it.

We explore how to get grounded again in the midst of dopamine overload by reconnecting with the vision of who you want to become and reminding yourself that a little discomfort is necessary to make it to the next level.

Listen in for insight on introducing a pattern interrupter to break unconscious habits and learn how to emerge from a dopamine fog by getting grounded in a place where everything has always been, is now and will always be okay.

Key Takeaways

What brought on Jeremiah’s recent challenges around dopamine overload

The chemicals that get released in our brain when we expect a reward

How binging on food and buying things delivers a dopamine hit

Why it’s dangerous if you can’t be content unless you’re chasing a dopamine rush

How discipline (not motivation) builds the confidence you need to level up

How to induce a flow state by pushing 4% past your comfort zone

How to reconnect with the vision of who you want to become and make a different choice

The power of introducing a pattern interrupter to break your unconscious habits

Why it’s challenging to keep growing once you’ve reached a certain level of success

How to emerge from a dopamine fog by checking in with your Higher Power

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Brittney Nichole Connor-Savarda

Ed Mylett on Blissful Dissatisfaction

Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Change Meditation

Jim Kwik

Practical Ways to Get Out of Your Own Head - EP112 Jan 19, 2021

We all have self-defeating thoughts. But it’s up to YOU to decide how to respond.

Are you going to let those thoughts rule your life? Or are you going to get out of your own head and shift your perspective on the bad things that happened in the past—or could happen in the future?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our top strategies for getting out of your own head, explaining how having a clearly defined vision of the future can shift your perspective on things that happened in the past (versus getting stuck reliving them).

We explore the power of active meditation, describing how being present in whatever you are doing eliminates the fear and overwhelm attached to our automatic negative thoughts or ANTs.

Listen in for insight on getting into a state of gratitude and learn how to make your problems smaller by helping someone else with theirs!

Key Takeaways

How we judge ourselves based on the standards set by someone else

How we allow things that happened days, months or years ago to scar us

Why it’s important to process our emotions vs. push them under the rug

The danger in reliving traumatic experiences over and over again

Why you are NOT your thoughts

How to watch your automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) go by rather than attaching meaning to them

How you CAN change the way you think (with time and conscious energy)

Our top 3 strategies for getting out of your own head

Have a clearly defined vision of the future
Practice being present in whatever you’re doing
Get into a state of gratitude

Why it’s crucial to ask if your thoughts are true and then shift your perspective to see that things are happening FOR you, not TO you

How to release judgement of yourself and other people

Why fear cannot exist in the present

How to make your problems smaller by helping others with theirs

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Dr. Joe on Why You’re Not Happy

Building Confidence on Destined to Be EP111

How to Build Confidence & Use It to Propel You Forward - EP111 Jan 14, 2021

You need a sense of confidence in order to show up consistently and work toward your goals.

But you don’t have to be born with it. You can build confidence in yourself (and others), and use that belief to catapult you to where you want to go.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how successful people develop the confidence to pursue their goals, focusing on WHY rather than HOW and knowing that failure doesn’t define them.

We explore the process of creating a new belief when you do something for the first time, describing how EVERYONE feels unsure sometimes and explaining how to build confidence by following through on what you say you’re going to do.

Listen in for insight on the role gratitude plays in growing your confidence and learn how to develop confidence in the knowledge that things happen for a reason!

Key Takeaways

What it looks like to show up and carry yourself with confidence

The ability we have to feel confidence in ourselves and other people

How successful people develop the confidence to pursue their goals

Don’t look at HOW but focus on WHY
Know that failure doesn’t define them

How confidence is defined as the conviction to meet life’s challenges and succeed

The process of creating a new belief when you start something new

How EVERYONE feels unsure and like they don’t belong sometimes

How to counter uncertainty by focusing on what you know

How doing what you say you’re going to do builds your confidence

Why it’s crucial to have confidence that things happen for a reason

How to foster the willingness to accept change

The role gratitude plays in developing the confidence to achieve

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

The 7 Characteristics of an Effective Leader - EP110 Jan 12, 2021

You don’t need a fancy title or a huge following on social to be a leader.

In fact, every one of us has an impact on someone’s life. And we can set a good example and even grow our influence by developing our skills in 7 key areas.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the characteristics of an effective leader, describing how they prioritize learning and focus on developing others.

We explore what strong leaders do to inspire trust and motivate their teams, working to lead by example and demonstrate integrity and competence on the daily.

Listen in for insight on what good communication looks like in a leader and learn how to encourage strategic thinking, innovation and action in the people you want to impact!

Key Takeaways

Why EVERYONE is a leader regardless of their title or number of followers

The characteristics of an effective leader

Prioritize personal development, always learning
Focus on developing others
Lead by example
Inspire trust and motivate others
Encourage strategic thinking, innovation and action
Demonstrate integrity, character and competence
Good communicator

How your success is directly related to helping other people reach their goals

Why habits are caught not taught (especially when it comes to parenting)

How legacy thinking hinders a leader’s ability to grow

Why leaders need to follow through on what they say they’re going to do

How to motivate your team and hold them accountable to their goals

The role metrics play in developing a plan of action

Why leaders need to know what motivates the people on their team

What a competent leader looks like and how they approach sales

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy

Resources

Richard Branson

John Maxwell

Productivity Planner

Top Insights from a Year of Recording Destined to Be - EP109 Jan 07, 2021

It’s been a full year since we started recording Destined to Be, and we have learned a lot along the way. We’ve discovered new things about ourselves and grown both as individuals and as a couple.

So, what are our top takeaways from 12 months of podcasting together? What have we learned from the process of showing up every week? And what are our greatest challenges moving forward?

On this episode, we look back on our journey in podcasting so far, explaining what inspired us to build our relationship and a business together through Destined to Be.

We get real about the limiting beliefs we’ve had to overcome and weigh in on what we’ve learned about getting present when the mics are on—no matter what else is going on in our lives at the time.

Listen in for insight around the challenges we face in deciding what to share on this platform, the key takeaways we’ve learned from some of our favorite guests, and the value in aligning yourself with the opportunity to say YES.

Key Takeaways

The imposter syndrome Mallory experienced early on in cohosting the podcast

What to do when you run into limiting beliefs so they don’t continue to control your behavior

Why it’s crucial to align yourself with the opportunity to say YES

What inspired us to build our relationship and a business together

The top insights we’ve learned in recording this podcast over the last year

How to create space between having a feeling and reacting to it

How the show forces Jeremiah to slow down, get present and become a student

Why we see the world as we are (not as it is)

Why you have to plan ahead in order to be in the moment with others (and how to do it)

The danger in comparing yourself with other people vs. focusing on your own progress

How we struggle with deciding how much to speak our mind on this platform

Our biggest challenges in producing the podcast moving forward

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Mallory’s Instagram Post on Alignment

Resources

Brooke & Brett Thomas

Brittney Connor-Savarda on Destined to Be EP061

Brittney Connor-Savarda on Destined to Be EP097

Mike Metcalf & Shaun Peet on Destined to Be EP095

Christina Lecuyer on Destined to Be EP039

Are Your Dreams Big Enough? - EP108 Jan 05, 2021

Do your goals for 2021 scare you?

If your vision for the new year doesn’t make your heart beat faster, you’re not dreaming big enough.

But how do you push the boundaries of what’s possible in your life and start setting Big Hairy Audacious Goals?

pisode of Destined to Be, we challenge you to dream bigger, explaining how to break a big dream into smaller goals and why it’s helpful to share your vision of the future with someone close to you.

We offer advice for people who are struggling to figure out what they want, encouraging you to set big goals for your career, family, relationships, finances and health—and then prioritize what’s most important to do right now.

Listen in for insight on investing in a coach or expert if you’re stuck and learn to leverage the say it/see it method to fuel your big dreams and step into the next-level version of yourself!

Key Takeaways

Why your dreams should be big enough to scare you

Our advice for people who are struggling to figure out what they want

How to identify what you want by starting with what you DON’T want

The process of creating goals for your career, family, relationships, finance, health, etc.

How to decide what dreams are most important and start TODAY with one small step

Why changing your identity from the inside-out is crucial to achieving your BIG dreams

How to find people who’ve done what you want to do and apply what they’ve learned

Why it’s helpful to share your goals with someone close to you

How to break a big dream into smaller goals

The value in surrounding yourself with people who want you to succeed

Why you can’t afford NOT to invest in a coach/expert if you’re stuck

The say it/see it method of fueling your big dreams

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

The Law of Attraction

The Abundance Code

The Ed Mylett Show: It’s Separation Season

New Year’s Resolutions vs. SMART Goals - EP107 Dec 31, 2020

Only 8% of Americans who set New Year’s resolutions keep them all year. And a staggering 80% fail by the start of February!

Why do so many people struggle to keep their resolutions and find themselves setting the same goals year after year after year?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re making the distinction between a resolution and a SMART goal, explaining why it’s useful to think about resolutions as a first step to create the big picture for what you want to achieve this year.

We describe how to turn a resolution into a tangible goal, challenging you to decide you’re worth it NOW and reverse engineer your vision into a monthly, weekly and daily plan of action.

Listen in for insight on shifting away from an all-or-nothing mentality and learn to set realistic expectations and take small steps every day to achieve your dreams in 2021!

Key Takeaways

Why people get stuck setting the same New Year’s resolution year after year

The distinction between a resolution and a goal

How to turn a resolution into a tangible goal with a plan to take realistic action

The statistics around how few Americans follow through on their New Year’s resolutions

Why it’s useful to think about resolutions as the vision or big picture for your year

How it’s become a social norm to wait until January 1st to start on your goals and why it’s better to decide you’re worth it NOW

Why you have to get uncomfortable to get to the next level

Our top hack for getting back on track if you get caught up in holiday snacking

The all-or-nothing mentality that sets you up for failure

How to start with small steps toward your goal (vs. setting unrealistic expectations)

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Ed Mylett Show: It’s Separation Season

Resources

SMART Goals

Passion Planner

Jack Boland’s Master Mind Journal

Wayne Dyer

Dave Ramsey’s Debt Snowball

Productivity Planner

Mallory’s Instagram Post on Dreaming Big

Use 2020 to Serve You for a Better New Year - EP106 Dec 29, 2020

Are you cursing 2020 because it didn’t go the way you wanted?

Yes, it sucks to experience loss, hurt or betrayal. But what if those so-called bad things are helping you grow into the person you’re truly destined to be?

How do you leave behind the mess of the last year and move into 2021 with a new perspective?

On this episode of the podcast, we’re sharing how we used 2020 to serve us and what we’re doing to improve in the new year.

We explain how setbacks help us get to where we’re supposed to be, challenging you to reframe the last 12 months as an opportunity to identify what matters and take small steps NOW to improve your situation.

Listen in for insight on surrounding yourself with the right people, prioritizing the big rocks over the sand and setting BIG goals for 2021.

Key Takeaways

How to make ANY circumstance serve you (even if it seems like a bad thing)

Why fear and faith can’t exist together

How setbacks help get us to where we’re supposed to be

How 2020 exposed what was already going on and how that can serve you

Why your situation won’t change in 2021 unless you take action NOW

The value in reflecting on what you did well in 2020 and how you want to improve

Why it’s useful to ask people close to you what they see for you next year

The connection between how quickly you adapt to change and how successful you are

How stress and fear impact your immune system

How to decide who you want to surround yourself with in 2021

Why you can’t tap into your creative side when you’re in a state of anxiety

The power in prioritizing the big rocks in your business and life

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Vision/Traction Organizer

Resources

Alyssa Nobriga

Functional Training

Lori Harder

Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki

Robert Kiyosaki

Stephen Covey’s Big Rocks of Life

How Happy Couples Argue, Part 2 - EP105 Dec 24, 2020

Last week on Destined to Be, we described how happy couples approach arguments with the intention of finding a solution.

But that’s easier said than done. When conflict arises in any relationship, emotions are heightened. And it’s easy to get caught up in your feelings and lose sight of what matters.

So, how do you bring your best self to an argument and work together to solve the problem?

On this episode of the podcast, we’re sharing five tips for having constructive arguments with your partner, explaining why WHAT you say is much less important than HOW you say it.

We offer an advice on what to do when your emotions are getting the best of you, challenging you to acknowledge your partner’s feelings and develop the emotional intelligence to see their point of view.

Listen in for insight on keeping your insecurities in check and learn how to give your partner the benefit of the doubt when you’re having a difficult conversation.

Key Takeaways

Our 5 tips for having constructive arguments with your partner

Don’t run from conflict
Watch your tone
Keep your cool
Acknowledge each other’s feelings
Keep your insecurities in check

How to start a difficult conversation in a respectful, calm way

Why WHAT you say is less important than HOW you say it

How to give yourself space and switch the focus when your emotions are getting the best of you

The challenge of accepting another person’s truth

How to develop the emotional intelligence to see someone else’s point of view

Why it’s crucial to do your own research on stories in the news

How to give your partner the benefit of the doubt (rather than assume the worst)

Having the humility to admit when you’ve made an error in judgement

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

How Happy Couples Argue, Part 1 on Destined to Be EP104

Resources

Kary B. Mullis

OSHA

How Happy Couples Argue, Part 1 - EP104 Dec 22, 2020

Research shows that happy couples argue about the same things as everyone else. Things like children, money, in-laws and intimacy.

What sets them apart is not WHAT they fight about but HOW they approach an argument. So, what do happy couples do differently?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how happy couples handle conflict in their relationships and why it’s better to address an issue in the moment rather than run away.

We explain why it’s crucial to take time to do things for yourself and communicate those needs to your partner, exploring why you can’t expect your spouse to fulfill you if you’re not clear on what you want.

Listen in for insight on setting goals together (with a mindset of mutual growth) and learn how YOU benefit from a partner who feels joyful and fulfilled!

Key Takeaways

How happy couples leverage a solution-oriented approach to conflict

What happy couples do to push each other forward

Why it’s better to address conflict in the moment rather than run away

Why it’s crucial to take time to do things for yourself (and communicate those needs to your partner)

Why we choose quality time with our kids over quantity

How to express your expectations or intentions with your partner

Why you can’t expect your partner to fulfill you if you don’t know what you want

The value in setting goals together with a mindset of mutual growth

How your partner’s fulfillment and joy elevate YOU

How happy couples reserve their arguments for things that matter

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

6 Ways to Be Better in 2021, Part 2 - EP103 Dec 17, 2020

Do you want to show up in 2021 as a better version of yourself?

What if you could feel less depleted and more fulfilled? Less distracted and more present?

What if you could spend more of your time in an optimal state of consciousness—a place where you feel and perform at your best?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing three more strategies for living your best life, challenging you to uncover what fulfills you and do more of THAT!

We discuss the importance of giving yourself what you need and explain why it’s crucial to ask for help when you’re overwhelmed.

Listen in for insight on quieting your mind and learn our top strategies for getting into a state of flow.

Key Takeaways

6 ways to be better in 2021

Improve your relationship with yourself
Be willing to fail and fail forward
Appreciate what you have
Do more of what fulfills you
Give yourself what you need
Quiet your mind and spend time in flow

How acts of service lead to joy and fulfillment

Our exercise for identifying what lights you up

How distractions keep us from feeling fulfilled

Why it’s crucial to ask for help when you’re running on fumes

Why it’s up to you to define what it means to be a ‘good parent’

How to create worthwhile connections by providing value

What it looks like to be in a state of flow

What we do to get back to a natural state of consciousness

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Deep: Freediving, Renegade Science, and What the Ocean Tells Us About Ourselves by James Nestor

Mallory’s Instagram Post on Living Your Best Life

6 Ways to Be Better in 2021, Part 1 - EP102 Dec 15, 2020

We all want to live our best life. The real question is, are you willing to do what it takes to make that happen?

Yes, you want to grow. You also want to be comfortable. But you can’t have it both ways!

So, what steps can you take stretch beyond what’s easy and be a better YOU in 2021?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our first three strategies for living your best life, describing our BE until you BECOME approach to changing for the better.

We challenge you to look inward, offering examples of questions you might ask to improve your self-awareness and get clarity on what you want out of life.

Listen in for insight on reframing failure as a lesson (not defeat) and learn how to leverage gratitude to ease feelings of overwhelm and manifest a better self in 2021.

Key Takeaways

Our BE until you BECOME approach to changing for the better

The tension between wanting to be comfortable and wanting to grow

How investing in a coach helps you reach goals faster and with more confidence

3 ways to be better in 2021

Turn inward + ask better questions
Be willing to fail
Appreciate what you have

Why it’s best to pick ONE thing to add to your life and start there

How to reframe failure as a lesson vs. playing the victim and giving up

How the fear of failure keeps us from achieving greatness

The gratitude practice we use to ease feelings of overwhelm

How to cultivate faith that what you want is already there

What you can do to show genuine appreciation to the people around you

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Jim Rohn

The Quantum Leap Advantage Podcast

Dan Peña

Mallory’s Instagram Post on Living Your Best Life

Creating the Vision for Your Epic Life - EP101 Dec 10, 2020

The first step in creating an epic life is visualizing what you want. And we don’t mean daydreaming about it from time to time.

We’re talking about putting together a collection of pictures, videos and music that you revisit every day. A fully immersive experience to help you manifest your big dreams.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the power of visualization, describing how we use vision boards and mind movies to attract the things we want in life.

We explain why it’s crucial to feel the emotions that go with achieving your vision and talk about your dreams as if they’ve already transpired.

Listen in for insight on making visualization a part of your daily routine and learn how to design a plan to reach the goals you have pictured!

Key Takeaways

How to create a vision board (analog or digital) of the things you want in your life

Why it’s crucial to feel the emotions that go with achieving your vision

What makes visualization the essence of the Law of Attraction

The say it/see it strategy of visualizing goals as if they’ve already transpired

What holds us back from reaching the next level in our lives

The mental and physical preparation necessary to show up as the person you want to be

How to design a plan to achieve the goals pictured on your vision board

How a Mind Movie serves as a fully immersive vision board

The categories of life to consider in building your Mind Movie (e.g.: fitness, family, finances, etc.)

How our thoughts and feelings work to help us manifest the things we want

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Text MIND MOVIE to (586) 600-8492

Mind Movies 4.0 Creation Kit

Dr. Masaru Emoto’s Water Experiments

‘Come Alive’ from The Greatest Showman

‘A Whole New World’ from Aladdin

Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Kaleidoscope Meditation

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

Living Your Wildest “Would It Be Cool Ifs”—with Jeremiah & Mallory Campbell - EP100 Dec 08, 2020

What do we admire most about each other? What’s behind our drive to help other people? What are our BIG dreams for the future?

In celebration of the 100th episode of Destined to Be, our dear friend Allison is turning the tables and asking US the questions. She asks who we would want to interview if we could pick anyone in the world (alive or dead) and what we’d like to go back and tell the younger version of ourselves.

We explain why mindset matters more than the circumstances we’re dealt, describing what situations drain our energy the most—and how we either avoid those things or shift our thinking in the moment.

Listen in for insight on the abundance mindset that inspires our desire to help others and build a lasting legacy and learn how being present can help you overcome fear and start living YOUR wildest wouldn’t it be cool ifs!

Key Takeaways

Who we would each want to interview if we could pick anyone (alive or dead)

What we would to tell the younger version of ourselves about being present

The abundance mindset behind our desire to help other people

What situations/people drain our energy the most and how we come back from those things

The characteristics we admire most in each other (and wish we had)

Our wildest wouldn’t it be cool ifs and how we’re working toward building a legacy

Why your mindset matters more than the circumstances you’re dealt

What’s next for our family moving into 2021 + what we’re working on as a couple

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

5 Things We’d Tell Our Younger Selves on DTB EP062

Resources

5 More Things We’d Tell Our Younger Selves on DTB EP064

Brittney Connor-Savarda on DTB EP097

The Gold Standard: Rules to Rule By by Ari Gold

Entrepreneur’s Organization

Tracy O’Malley

Emotional Agility on The Ed Mylett Show

Finding Joe

Ultimate Longevity

How to Keep Your Vibe High This Holiday Season - EP099 Dec 03, 2020

Yes, 2020 has been a rolling dumpster fire for a lot of people. But if you want to keep your energy high this holiday season, you have to get intentional about the way you show up and be aware of the vibrations you’re sending out into the world.

So, what can you do to bring positive energy to holiday events? To get through the season with grace and dignity?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing five strategies for keeping your vibe high over the holidays, describing the role vision plays in helping us show up as our best selves and connect with family and friends on a deeper level.

We discuss the value of positive self-talk in keeping your vibration high, challenging you to avoid words that carry a connotation of powerlessness—like can’t, shouldn’t and won’t.

Listen in for insight on resisting gossip and complaining at holiday gatherings and learn how the way you act, think and feel about OTHERS impacts what happens in YOUR life!

Key Takeaways

How vibration is defined as an emotional state, atmosphere of a place, or association of an object as communicated to or felt by others

How to set the intention and identify what you need to do to go into the holidays with positive energy

Why you shouldn’t take advice from someone who won’t listen to your point of view

How anger is a punishment we give ourselves for someone else’s mistake

The role vision plays in helping us raise our vibration

How to leverage mirroring techniques to make people feel seen and heard at holiday gatherings

5 strategies for keeping your vibe high over the holidays

Practice positive self-talk
Resist gossip
Be careful who you surround yourself with
Stop complaining + avoid negative words (i.e.: can’t, shouldn’t, won’t, try)
Dress the part

How to introduce a pattern interrupter when people are engaging in gossip

How the way you act, think and feel about others impacts YOUR life

Why wearing something that makes you feel good helps you carry yourself differently

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

What the Bleep Do We Know!?

The Secret

5 Steps to Help You Get Back on Track - EP098 Dec 01, 2020

We ALL fall off track from time to time.

Your kids wake up early and disrupt your morning routine. The Little Cesar’s breadsticks are too good to pass up. Or your partner leaves the cereal bowl on the counter and your anger gets in the way of accomplishing what you had planned.

So, what can you do to turn it around fast and get back to honoring the commitments you’ve made to yourself?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our five-step process for getting back on track, explaining why it’s important to identify what got you off course and process the negative emotions you’re feeling.

We challenge you to welcome the lesson in falling off course, asking yourself how the situation might serve you and trying a different approach when you need to.

Listen in for insight on overcoming self-defeating thoughts and learn how to create a plan to get back on track ASAP!

Key Takeaways

How to do the things you know make you feel better (when it’s easier not to)

The choice you have to be frustrated or not when your schedule is disrupted

Why it’s crucial to get crystal clear on your goals and build a plan to achieve them

The BIG impact of a consistent effort to make small, incremental changes

Our 5-step process for getting back on track

Identify what got you off track
Let yourself feel the emotion
Welcome the lesson
Determine your next steps
Believe you’re capable

How to identify the real issue behind your negative emotions and express those feelings calmly

Why we try to switch the focus instead of fully processing our emotions

The value in asking how the situation can serve you and trying a different approach

Why you might need to hire a coach to help you stay on track

How affirmations or a journal practice can help you overcome self-defeating thoughts

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Dr. Susan David on The Ed Mylett Show

Resources

Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David, PhD

Living & Leading with Emotional Intelligence Podcast

To Ease Anxiety, Boost Your EQ—with Brittney Connor-Savarda - EP097 Nov 26, 2020

Are you feeling anxious this holiday season? Have you taken the time to explore WHY you feel this way?

If you’re going into family get-togethers with a sense of dread, practicing emotional intelligence (also referred to as emotional quotient or EQ) can help you stay in control when family members criticize your choices and approach difficult conversations from a place of empathy.

Brittney Connor-Savarda is the emotional intelligence expert behind The Catalyst for Change, a coaching practice that helps high-achieving entrepreneurs and executive leaders remove the obstacles that are getting in the way of their personal fulfillment. She is also the host of Living and Leading with Emotional Intelligence and the author of The EQ Deficiency: How Emotional Intelligence and Compassion Can Cure an Emotional Pandemic, Solve Our People Problems and Be a Catalyst for Positive Change.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Brittney joins us to explain how a lack of emotional intelligence is at the root of the problems we face and offer strategies for developing our personal EQ. She explores what to do if your partner’s standard for 100% is significantly different from your own, discussing why it’s crucial to approach difficult conversations with a sincere desire to understand and correct yourself immediately when you say something you regret. Listen in for Brittney’s insight on finding fulfillment inside yourself and learn how to navigate holiday anxiety with compassion for yourself and your family.

Key Takeaways

How a lack of emotional intelligence is at the root of the problems we face

The strategies for developing EQ outlined in Brittney’s book

How Brittney defines emotional intelligence as the awareness and management of our feelings

The self-compassion and patience it takes to examine our own emotions

Brittney’s work coaching parents and caregivers to model EQ for children

Brittney’s advice for those of us going into the holidays with anxiety

How to set boundaries with critical family members and navigate the guilt of not being able to please everyone

How to identify the NEED behind the emotion you’re feeling/receiving

Why it’s crucial to approach difficult conversations with a sincere desire to understand

Why Brittney suggests correcting yourself immediately when you say something you shouldn’t have

How emotional intelligence can help us mitigate disturbing thoughts

What to do if your partner’s standard for 100% is significantly different from yours

Why fulfillment has to come from inside yourself, not external factors

Connect with Brittney

The Catalyst 4 Change

Brittney on YouTube

Brittney on Facebook

Brittney on Instagram

The EQ Deficiency Podcast

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The EQ Deficiency: How Emotional Intelligence and Compassion Can Cure an Emotional Pandemic, Solve Our People Problems and Be a Catalyst for Positive Change by Brittney-Nichole Connor-Savarda

Resources

Brittney on Destined to Be EP061

Marc Brackett

Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive by Marc Brackett, PhD

Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence

The Joe Rogan Experience

‘I Failed the Covington Catholic Test’ in The Atlantic

Julie Irwin Zimmerman

How to Get Out of a Relationship Rut - EP096 Nov 24, 2020

Feel like your relationship is in a rut?

Yes, a date night can help spice things up. But if you’re unhappy with yourself, a night out with your significant other can’t fix that. To grow as a couple, both partners need to look inward and bring the best version of themselves to the relationship.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to get out of a relationship rut, explaining what we do to take stock of what’s working in our marriage and what isn’t and how we communicate our expectations to each other.

We challenge you to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good and doing things to make them feel special—and owning it when you fall short.

Listen in for insight on why you can’t show up for your partner when you don’t feel good about yourself and learn how to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple that honors your individual and collective growth.

Key Takeaways

What it looks like to be in a relationship rut

Why it’s crucial to take stock of what’s working in your relationship and what isn’t

How to develop an awareness of your expectations and communicate them to your partner

What we do to assess where we fall short for each other

Why you can’t show up better for your partner when you don’t feel good about yourself

How to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple

The distinction between intimacy and sex

How doing things to make your partner feel special can make you feel good

Why both partners need to adopt a growth mindset (though they may grow at different paces)

How to spice things up in your relationship with a date night

How to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

Resources

Darren Hardy

Throw Pillows on Destined to Be EP026

12 Steps

Dr. Alex Spinoso on Destined to Be EP067

How to Build a High-Performance Team—with Mike Metcalf & Shaun Peet - EP095 Nov 19, 2020

More than 50% of American workers would trust a complete stranger over their boss. Heart attack rates are highest on Monday mornings. And more than 2/3 of US employees experience a lack of connection or inspiration in the workplace. So, how do we make our work environments more fulfilling and inspire people to show up as the best version of themselves? What is the secret to building a high-performance team?

Shaun Peet and Mike Metcalf are the head pit crew coaches for Chip Ganassi Racing and the cofounders of DECK Leadership, a business consulting firm that applies NASCAR pit crew performance strategies to the modern workplace, inspiring business leaders and their teams to discover authentic opportunities for diversity, efficiency, culture and kindness. Shaun and Mike are also the coauthors of 12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough?

On this episode of Destined to Be, Shaun and Mike join us to explain why culture is key to their success as pit crew coaches and explain how the principles they use to build teams translate to the corporate space. They explore why mindset has such a profound impact on the way we live our lives and share their intentional, standards-based approach to bringing on new team members at Chip Ganassi Racing. Listen in for insight on seeing your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive and learn how to show people you truly care about them—beyond what they can do for you.

Key Takeaways

Why Mike & Shaun credit their success as pit crew coaches to culture

How Mike & Shaun’s team building principles translate to the corporate space

How thoughts have a profound impact on the way we live our lives

The arrival mindset that helps Mike & Shaun’s team show up as the best version of themselves

How perspective motivates us and helps us focus on the right things

Mike & Shaun’s intentional approach to bringing on new team members

How to prepare your children for life’s inevitable challenges

How to leverage your gifts to make a difference in the world

Why you can’t pour into others if you haven’t poured into yourself

How to reframe your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive

Why standards move the needle more than goals do

How to show people you care about them beyond what they can do for you

Connect with Mike & Shaun

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough? by Mike Metcalf and Shaun Peet with Stephen Copeland

Resources

Barium Springs Home for Children

Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek

‘Make Your Values Mean Something’ in HBR

4 Tips for Navigating Family Holiday Events - EP094 Nov 17, 2020

The holidays are supposed to be joyful. A time when we can slow down and connect with our family and friends.

And yet, many of us are anxious about the holiday season. We’re stressed about running to multiple events in a single day or being triggered by Aunt Cindy’s politics.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events, challenging you to go where you’re celebrated, not tolerated, and offering insight on what to say if you chose not to attend a family event.

We explain how to adjust your attitude before you see family and set realistic expectations, describing why it may be difficult for people to understand your personal development journey and how to take the high road if Uncle John throws shade your way.

Listen in for advice on controlling your reaction when triggers arise and learn to leverage the vision of who you want to become to connect with family and friends this holiday season—whether or not you share the same views!

Key Takeaways

Why we choose to go where we’re celebrated, not tolerated

What to say if you decide NOT to attend a particular family event

How to develop an awareness of WHY you’re avoiding a situation

How we miss out on authentic connections when we’re running from one event to another

Our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events

Adjust your attitude before you go and set realistic expectations
Be mindful of triggers and continue to be the light
Accept that the only thing you can control is your reaction
Limit your alcohol consumption

Why it may be difficult for friends and family to understand your personal development journey

How to show respect and take the high road when your family provokes you

What to do if you’re still feeling anxious after a holiday gathering

How to set the intention to connect with family and friends (even those who hold very different beliefs)

How to leverage the vision of who you want to become to have a happy holiday

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

75 Hard: A Tactical Guide to Winning the War with Yourself by Andy Frisella

Work Through Fear, Fulfill Your Vision—with Aaron Opalewski - EP093 Nov 12, 2020

Are you afraid to take the next step toward your vision for the future? Even the most successful people deal with fear on the daily. So, what separates the successful from the stuck? How do you learn to run toward conflict and face your fears head on?

Aaron Opalewski is the Founder and CEO of Spark Talent Acquisition, a staffing and recruiting agency out of Sterling Heights, Michigan. Since he started the company in 2013, Spark has grown from a team of five in a single office to an 18-state operation that will provide 3,000 opportunities this year alone. A driven entrepreneur with 13 years of experience in the recruiting industry, Aaron has impacted the performance and profitability of hundreds of businesses and thousands of people.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Aaron joins us to share his journey from personal training to entrepreneurship, describing what fuels him to work harder than everyone else and overdeliver. He explores what it takes to be wildly successful in your business and family life, explaining the relationship between being present and being effective with your time. Listen in for Aaron’s insight on making decisions based on your values and learn how to navigate fear as you work toward your own bold vision for the future.

Key Takeaways

The lack of confidence that led Aaron to make poor decisions and get in trouble as a young man

Aaron’s challenging transition from personal training to a sales role with a recruiting company

How being an undersized athlete fueled Aaron’s drive to work harder than anyone else and overdeliver

The experience that taught Aaron he could learn anything he put his mind to

Aaron’s insight around processes as the secret to scaling a business to multiple states

The role Aaron’s relationship with God plays in his work

Why Aaron walked away from a successful multimillion-dollar company to start Spark Talent

How Aaron navigates the fear of working through each new level of uncertainty in his life

How Aaron makes decisions based on his vision and values

How Aaron’s morning routine has pivoted through COVID

Why Aaron books time to work out and be present with his family on his calendar

What it takes to be wildly successful in your business and family life

The relationship between being present and maximizing the effectiveness of your time

Connect with Aaron

Spark Talent Acquisition

Aaron on LinkedIn

Aaron on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

EOS Vision/Traction Organizer

Principles: Life and Work by Ray Dalio

The Ed Mylett Show

Ray Dalio’s Principles in Action App

6 Secrets to Feeling Satisfied in Your Relationship, Part 2 - EP092 Nov 10, 2020

Conflict in relationships is unavoidable. The sign of a good relationship is not the absence of conflict but the ability to resolve disagreements as they come up.

So, what can you do to navigate conflict without tearing each other down? How do you cast a vision for a shared future that honors both partners’ hopes and dreams?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing 3 more secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship, discussing how to respect others even when you disagree and describing some of the things we do to demonstrate respect to ourselves and each other.

We challenge you to give up the need to be right, explaining why no one ever really wins an argument and how to empathize with someone who holds a very different point of view.

Listen in for insight on checking in with yourself first and then communicating your dreams and aspirations and learn how to create an intentional plan for achieving your individual and shared goals.

Key Takeaways

6 secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship

Practice gratitude
Start with you
Be a great listener
Respect each other
Give up the need to be right
Check in + communicate

How to respect another person even if you disagree

Why we don’t call each other out in public

What you can do to demonstrate respect to your partner

The link between self-respect and respect from others

Why nobody really ever wins an argument

How to empathize with someone you disagree with

Why you don’t have to react when someone attacks

Why it’s crucial to check in with yourself first

How to communicate expectations with your partner

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray

Resources

Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz

6 Secrets to Feeling Satisfied in Your Relationship, Part 1 on Destined to Be EP090

Coaching Your Squad to ‘Touch the Line’—with Tanci Spencer - EP091 Nov 05, 2020

We think that people don’t want to be pushed. That they don’t want to be called out when they’re giving less than their best. But what if most people really DO want to be challenged? How do you coach a community to do MORE than they thought they were capable of—and celebrate each other along the way?

Tanci Spencer is the Founder and CEO of Turn Up, a dance fitness platform that helps women evolve unapologetically, dance ruthlessly and live out loud. More than a workout program, Turn Up is a movement of 1,000 women who empower each other to stop playing small and live the lives they desire. Tanci leverages her background as a college basketball player, high school teacher and coach to inspire her squad to push the limits they have set for themselves and step into their power.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Tanci joins us to discuss what inspired her to leave her marriage, quit her job as a teacher and coach, and move back to Michigan. She describes the Insta story that launched Turn Up, sharing the greatest challenges she’s faced in building the community and the energy that comes from a group of women who celebrate each other. Listen in for Tanci’s insight on coaching people to ‘touch the line’ and learn how YOU can be a part of the transformative Turn Up Squad!

Key Takeaways

Tanci’s background as a college basketball player and how that role became her identity

How network marketing taught Tanci to be resourceful and question what she thought she wanted for her life

What inspired Tanci to leave her marriage, quit her job as a teacher/coach and move back to Michigan

Tanci’s insight on how the chapter you’re in now is preparing you for the next thing

The Instagram story that launched Turn Up Dance Fitness

The energy behind the Turn Up community and how the women celebrate each other

The poor decisions Tanci was making in college before she woke up to her greatness

Tanci’s dedication to a consistent morning routine

How to call yourself out without beating yourself up

How being vulnerable on social has helped Tanci grow a squad of 1K women

The greatest challenges Tanci has faced in building Turn Up

Tanci’s advice on coaching people to ‘touch the line’

Why the best leaders are comfortable with making people uncomfortable and skilled in creating a safe environment where people can make mistakes

Connect with Tanci

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Turn Up Instructor Training

Resources

The MFCEO Project Podcast

For the Love of Money Podcast

Jeremiah on For the Love of Money EP232

Key Performance Indicators for Dummies by Bernard Marr

3 Secrets to Feeling Satisfied in Your Relationship - EP090 Nov 03, 2020

Satisfying relationships don’t happen by chance. Even the most compatible couples have to work at keeping their connection strong.

So, what can you do to improve your existing relationships? To feel closer to the people you care about and more fulfilled?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our first 3 secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship, challenging you to focus on the things about your partner that you are grateful for and write them down in a Thanksgiving List.

We remind you that while you can’t control your partner, you do have control of your own response in triggering situations—and encourage you to seek guidance about your relationship from a therapist or coach.

Listen in for insight on preventing arguments by clearly communicating your needs and learn the active listening strategies we use to deepen our relationship and strengthen our bond as a married couple.

Key Takeaways

3 secrets to feeling satisfied in your relationship

Practice gratitude
Start with you
Be a great listener

How to shift your focus from what you DON’T have to what you DO have

The practice of writing a daily Thanksgiving List about your partner

Why it’s crucial for you and your spouse to have core values that align

How to develop an awareness of your emotions and control your response in triggering situations

The value in getting guidance about your relationship from a therapist or coach

How to prevent arguments by having a conversation about your needs

The active listening strategies you can use to improve communication in your relationship

How genuine interest and concern translates to better communication

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Brendon Burchard

To Find Fulfillment, Live Your Purpose—with Emily Eliza Moyer - EP089 Oct 29, 2020

We’re told to follow our passion. But is that really the key to fulfillment? Emily Eliza Moyer believes that it goes a little deeper than that. She contends that fulfillment comes from connecting the dots between your PURPOSE and what you do every day.

Emily is an intuitive career strategist focused on helping ambitious women overcome their limiting beliefs, uncover their purpose and craft strategic plans to build careers they absolutely love. Prior to becoming an entrepreneur, Emily served as the head of sales and marketing for a VC-backed travel startup, leading a team of 30 remote workers from all around the world.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Emily joins us to discuss why people have such a hard time figuring out what we want and share her strategies for reconnecting with our intuitive voice. She makes the distinction between passion and purpose, explaining why you don’t necessarily have to live your purpose through your 9-to-5 job. Listen in for Emily’s insight on growing into a new expression of your calling as your identity shifts and learn the three areas of self-study you can explore to uncover YOUR path to purpose.

Key Takeaways

Emily’s mission to help people find the thing that lights them up and connect it back to the work they do every day

Why people have a hard time figuring out exactly what they want

How our intuitive voice gets drowned out by other people’s voices

Emily’s strategies for reconnecting with yourself and trusting your intuitive voice

The distinction between passion and purpose and why you don’t necessarily have to live your purpose through your work

Why it’s easier to persevere through challenges when they’re in service to a bigger purpose

Emily’s insight on growing into a new expression of your purpose as your identity shifts

The three areas of self-study Emily explores to help clients uncover their purpose

Joy
Contribution
Obstacles

Emily’s personal process of identifying her calling and making choices in alignment with that purpose

Connect with Emily

Emily’s Website

Emily on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Emily’s Path to Purpose Signature Program

Resources

Transcendental Meditation (TM)

Teach for America

Conquer Limiting Beliefs & Lead an Epic Life - EP088 Oct 27, 2020

Feel like you can’t do something epic because you’re not qualified or somehow unworthy? Because you can’t have your cake and eat it too?

What if these limits we’re placing on our lives are only real because we happen to believe they’re true? What if you could tell yourself a new story? Leave your limiting beliefs behind and grow into a new identity?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our definition of limiting beliefs, explaining how they impact our lives in a negative way and drive us to energy-burning emotions like jealousy and judgment.

We discuss some of the most common limiting beliefs, describing how feelings of not-good-enough diminish our ability to make positive change or grow the confidence we need to reach our potential.

Listen in for insight on letting go of an identity other people put on you and learn how to leverage journaling to expose your own limiting beliefs and discover a new way of seeing the world.

Key Takeaways

How limiting beliefs are defined as a state of mind or conviction that holds you back from what you want to do

The limiting belief many hold around not being worthy/good enough

How our limiting narratives make us emotionally unintelligent and resistant to change

How we can use an awareness of our limiting beliefs to open up the way we see the world

Why we don’t see the world as it is but as we are

The journaling process you can use to identify your limiting beliefs and explore your Future Self

Why being judgmental, jealous, comparing yourself to others and gossiping are irresponsible ways to use your energy

The relationship between making power moves and living an epic life

How overcoming limiting beliefs allows us to ‘have our cake and eat it too’

Why you no longer have to carry the identity other people put on you (i.e.: the shy one, the loud one, the fat one, etc.)

How negative self-talk diminishes our ability to make positive change and grow the confidence to reach our potential

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Jeremiah’s Instagram Post on Limiting Beliefs

Resources

Brittney Connor on Destined to Be EP061

Living with Intention for a Shared Vision—with Patrick & Jenn Kennedy - EP087 Oct 22, 2020

Are you satisfied with mediocracy? Or do you want to grow?

Getting to the next level requires intentional living. It’s about deciding what you want your life to look like and making decisions around that vision.

Jenn Kennedy is the business mentor behind Impact to Income, a program that helps online entrepreneurs grow their impact and scale their income to six figures and beyond. Jenn’s husband, Patrick, spent the last seven years in a prestigious job as a buyer for Boyne Mountain Resorts before making the decision to leave his W-2 and join Jenn, working in her business as a full-time entrepreneur.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Jenn and Pat join us to discuss the tragedy that helped them get clear on a shared vision, explaining how they approach challenges as Team Kennedy. They offer insight on navigating difficult conversations, challenging us to explore our feelings before we react in anger. Listen in as Jenn and Pat share why it’s crucial to support your spouse’s investment in themselves and learn how living with intention helps the couple grow together and enhance their collective impact.

Key Takeaways

Jenn’s journey from elementary school teacher to online business mentor

Why Pat left a prestigious job with a mountain resort to work with Jenn

The tragedy that helped Pat and Jenn get clear on their shared vision

How Pat and Jenn approach challenges through the lens of Team Kennedy

What it looks like to live intentionally vs. stay safe, comfortable and stuck

How Pat worked through his initial resistance to stepping into Jenn’s business

Pat and Jenn’s plans to work and live together in a RV + how they want the experience to look and feel

How Pat and Jenn navigate difficult conversations about money

Pat’s insight on exploring your feelings and where they come from before you react

Why it’s crucial for your spouse to support the investments you make in your vision

How connecting on a deeper level improves ALL aspects of Pat and Jenn’s life

Connect with Pat & Jenn

Impact to Income

Pat on Instagram

Jenn on Instagram

The House Kennedy on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Johnny Elsasser & Taylor Simpson on Destined to Be EP079

Resources

Limitless: Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, and Unlock Your Exceptional Life by Jim Kwik

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

Keep Going - EP086 Oct 20, 2020

The last few months have left a lot of people feeling defeated. But our mastermind group is not like most people.

We ALL found a way to adapt and KEEP GOING, despite the circumstances. And some of us even made the situation serve us, thriving in a time when the rest of the world has come to a standstill.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our experience at Chris Harder’s recent Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind event, explaining how we benefitted from getting out of our comfort zone for a weekend of glamping in Arizona.

We describe what a mastermind group looks like, discussing why we choose to surround ourselves with other growth-minded individuals who rise to the occasion and keep going—no matter how challenging the circumstances.

Listen in for insight on letting go of worry, fear and anger to appreciate the magic in the present moment and consider what YOU can do to be twice as happy and make twice as much money as you do right now!

Key Takeaways

How a mastermind brings together a group of likeminded individuals for peer-to-peer mentorship

Why we surround ourselves with growth-minded people who don’t accept the status quo

The choice we have to either rise to the occasion or succumb to challenging circumstances

Our experience at Chris Harder’s recent Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind event in Arizona

How we benefitted from getting out of our comfort zone for a weekend of glamping

The questions we were asked to reflect on at the mastermind event

What can I do to be two times as happy as I am now?
What can I do to make two times as much money?

How acknowledging the vastness of the universe helps us let go of worry, fear and anger to appreciate the magic in the present moment

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Chris Harder’s Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind

The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill

The Joy Activation Process

Enchantment Resort

Under Canvas

The Joy Activation Process—with Maryl Petreccia - EP085 Oct 15, 2020

We have all known the devastation of loss. And how hard it can be to get back on track in the aftermath of difficult circumstances.

But you CAN find joy again. In fact, there is a process for exploring what lights you up and choosing joy over suffering as you build a new life.

Maryl Petreccia is the resilience expert and high-performance coach behind The Joy Activation Process, a platform designed to help women take control of their biggest transitions and toughest losses—and find their way back to joy. She is also the bestselling author of GPS to Joy: Navigate Life’s Turbulence and Toughest Transitions to Find Your New Direction.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Maryl joins us to share her story of loss, explaining what she did to stay present and appreciate each day during her husband’s battle with brain cancer. She describes how doing for others can take us out of our own pain and suffering, challenging us to act from the high vibration of love (even for those we disagree with most). Listen in for insight into Maryl’s five-step Joy Activation Process and learn how to spark your very own journey to JOY!

Key Takeaways

What Maryl learned about relationships from her first marriage

How Maryl’s life was ‘perfect’ until she experienced a series of losses

How Maryl navigated the emotion of her second husband’s battle with brain cancer

What Maryl did to stay present + appreciate each day during her husband’s decline

How doing for others takes us out of our own pain and suffering

The vow to her husband that sparked Maryl’s journey to joy

Maryl’s five-step Joy Activation Process

Awaken
Acknowledge
Act
Adapt
Affirm

The danger in basing your value on what you do (rather than who you are)

Maryl’s take on seeing the person you disagree with most as the one who can move your mission forward

Maryl’s challenge to act from the high vibration of LOVE

Connect with Maryl

Maryl on Facebook

Maryl on Instagram

Maryl on LinkedIn

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

GPS to Joy: Navigate Life’s Turbulence and Toughest Transitions to Find Your New Direction by Maryl Petreccia

Resources

Women’s Business Momentum Center

Moms Across America

How to Boost Your Mood in 5 Minutes or Less, Part 2 - EP084 Oct 13, 2020

Feeling a little meh?

You can feel a whole lot better without spending a whole lot of time—by doing little things that spark joy and put you back in the present moment.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re revisiting the mood boosters we discussed last week and sharing a few new ones, challenging you to make plans to do something fun each day and give yourself something to look forward to.

We explain the connection between practicing gratitude and manifesting what you want, challenging you to assume the emotions and feelings as if the event has already taken place.

Listen in for insight on the benefits of breathwork and meditation (and where to go to start your own practice) and learn how spending time outside connects you with the earth’s natural healing energy!

Key Takeaways

Our top 10 strategies for boosting your mood right now

Move your body
Take a break from your phone
Drink some water
Put on your favorite music
Declutter your space
Do something for someone else
Make plans to have fun
Practice gratitude
Breathwork and meditation
Get out in nature

How doing cool shit on a regular basis builds confidence

Why you need to FEEL as if an event has already taken place to manifest what you want

The benefits of conscious breathing techniques like Wim Hof

How meditation teaches us to let our thoughts go by without grabbing ahold of them

How grounding connects us with the earth’s natural healing energy

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Cindy Lauper ‘Time After Time’

Resources

Crosby, Stills & Nash

Machine Gun Kelly ‘Rehab’

Transcendental Meditation

Vishen Lakhiani’s 6 Phase Meditation

Mindvalley

Dr. Joe Dispenza on YouTube

Gregg Braden on YouTube

Bruce Lipton on YouTube

OOLER Sleep System

Quantum Shields

Bringing Respect Back to the Trades—with Andrew Aranda - EP083 Oct 08, 2020

Go to college, they said. It’s the only way to be successful, they said.

But what if you can totally live the American dream without a degree? What if you can make six figures working in the trades, performing essential services that most people aren’t willing to do?

Andrew Aranda is the Founder and CEO of Pure Plumbing, an award-winning business that started in his garage. A fourth-generation plumber, Andrew has 20 years of experience in the construction industry and has developed a particular expertise in the residential plumbing sector. He is also the creator of Modern Day Tradesman, a platform dedicated to bringing respect back to the trades.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Andrew joins us to discuss the income potential of working in an essential service trade, explaining how he built a successful plumbing business in Las Vegas by answering every call and being true to his word. He shares his focus on customer service, describing how he trains his employees to make customers feel comfortable and builds a culture of honesty with his team. Listen in for insight on what Andrew is doing to build awareness around the trades and find out how you can get involved in his new Modern Day Tradesman initiative.

Key Takeaways

Andrew’s upbringing in a family business environment

The income potential of working in an essential service trade like plumbing (that most people won’t do)

How Andrew learned about other trades doing construction rehab projects and ground-up development

Andrew’s focus on customer service and delivering a good experience

Why it’s crucial to get in the trenches with the people you lead

How Andrew trains his employees to make customers feel comfortable

The challenge around training employees quickly enough to uphold the reputation you’ve developed

How Andrew built a reputation by answering every call

What it takes to transition from a one-man show to a successful company

How Andrew creates a culture of honesty and builds connection with his employees

Why Andrew is creating Modern Day Tradesman to build awareness around the trades

How Andrew sees sales as doing something FOR a customer—not TO them

Connect with Andrew

Pure Plumbing

The Modern Day Tradesman

Modern Day Tradesman on Instagram

Modern Day Tradesman on Facebook

Modern Day Tradesman on YouTube

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Dirty Jobs

Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi

Books by Zig Ziglar

How to Boost Your Mood in 5 Minutes or Less - EP082 Oct 06, 2020

Do you need a mood booster?

If you’re feeling low on energy or down in the dumps, you aren’t showing up as the best version of yourself. But there are easy ways to turn it around and elevate your emotions RIGHT NOW, taking you from *blah* to upbeat in five minutes or less.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing six strategies for boosting your mood, explaining how taking a break from your phone and decluttering your space can make you feel better instantly.

We describe how moving your body and staying hydrated improves your brain function and share some of the music on our playlist for evoking positive emotions.

Listen in to understand why you make better decisions when your vibe is high and get inspired to do something kind for someone else to boost your mood—and make their day!

Key Takeaways

Our top 6 strategies for boosting your mood right now

Move your body
Take a break from your phone
Drink some water
Put on your favorite music
Declutter your space
Do something for someone else

The benefit of regular emotional check-ins to build awareness around how you feel

How staying hydrated improves your brain function

The songs we listen to in order to provoke positive emotions

Why we make better decisions when our vibe is high

Mallory’s Fall Overhaul approach to decluttering your space a little at a time

Jeremiah’s challenge to go out of your way to be kind to someone else

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Backstreet Boys ‘I Want It That Way’

Post Malone

From Impossible to I’m Possible—with Meridith Alexander - EP081 Oct 01, 2020

How do you respond when tragedy strikes? Do you feel powerless and focus on the impossibilities?

What if you made a different choice? What if you decided that miracles DO happen and started looking for the gift in your challenges?

Meridith Alexander is a mindset expert, motivational speaker and transformational coach on a mission to support entrepreneurs and professionals in tapping into their grit, resilience and fearlessness. She is also the bestselling author of The Sky Is the Limit: Sometimes the Limit Is Just the Beginning and the creator of the GRIT Mindset Academy, a program designed to help leaders reimagine the things that are keeping them stuck and emerge as the best version of themselves.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Meridith joins us to share the story of her daughter’s accident and explain how her training in the inner game empowered her to show up in that moment. She explores how we are limited by the boundaries we place on ourselves, describing how she made the choice to expect the I’M POSSIBLE rather than the impossible as her daughter recovered. Listen in for Meridith’s insight on identifying the gift in what seems like a struggle and learn her three-step process for finding fulfillment and joy in your life!

Key Takeaways

How Meridith’s training in the inner game helped her navigate her daughter’s accident

Meridith’s choice to expect the I’M POSSIBLE instead of the impossible

How Meridith’s belief in miracles empowered the medical team that treated her daughter

The AHA moment when Meridith saw her past pain as a gift

The power in owning the beauty of your humanity

The GRIT state required to initiate real change

Greatness
Resilience
Intuition
Transformation

Meridith’s three steps to finding fulfillment

Identification
Reboot
Unleash

Why we are only limited by the boundaries we place on ourselves

Meridith’s core desire to help people find their joy and achieve their potential

Why we need struggles to inspire us to ask new questions

Connect with Meridith

Meridith’s Website

Meridith on LinkedIn

Meridith on Facebook

Email meridith@gritmindsetacademy.com

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Sky Is the Limit: Sometimes the Limit Is Just the Beginning by Meridith Hankenson Alexander

Resources

GRIT Mindset Academy

3 (More!) Hacks to Supercharge Your Personal Growth, Part 2 - EP080 Sep 29, 2020

Are you ready to fast-track your personal growth?

Last week, we walked you through three of our top strategies for building momentum on the journey to success and fulfillment. And today, we’re coming at you with more actionable advice on growing into the person you’re destined to be.

On this episode, we’re sharing three MORE of our favorite hacks to SUPERCHARGE your personal growth, describing the virtuous cycle of confidence, perspective and joy that starts with learning something new.

We weigh in on the significance of finding your tribe, explaining what we do to attract likeminded people and build our community based on an even exchange of value.

Listen in for insight on creating an extraordinary life by doing what other people won’t and learn how to turn anxiety into faith as you push through the challenging times—in pursuit of the best version of yourself.

Key Takeaways

Our 6 hacks for supercharging your personal growth

Plan BIG
Make you + your health a priority
Get uncomfortable
Learn something new
Find your people
Do what other people won’t

Why genuine curiosity is necessary for growth

How to set boundaries based on an even value exchange

What we do to attract better people in our lives

Why it’s crucial to push through challenges

How to leverage the gift of desperation to initiate change

How to build momentum by turning anxiety into faith

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

3 Hacks to Supercharge Your Personal Growth, Part 1 on Destined to Be EP078

Resources

The Arete Syndicate

Business Network International

The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason

EO Accelerator

Raise the Energy in Your Relationship—with Johnny Elsasser & Taylor Simpson - EP079 Sep 24, 2020

How do you react to your spouse or partner’s strong negative emotions? Do you get sucked in and start to mirror their energy?

What if there is a better way to navigate those moments? What if you have the power to keep your energetic level high—and raise their vibration in the process?

Taylor Simpson is a manifestation coach who combines science and spirituality to help women overcome limiting beliefs and become a magnet for everything abundant. She also serves as the host of the podcast A Taylored Adventure to Happiness. Her husband, Johnny Elsasser, is the Special Ops veteran behind The Wild Man Experience and The Art of Masculinity, a platform and podcast designed to help men build a strong foundation in authentic masculinity.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Johnny and Taylor join us to discuss masculine and feminine energy, explaining why we need a balance of both to be successful in business and how to shift out of work mode when it’s time to be present with your partner. They weigh in on spiritual bypassing, describing how to recognize when you’re triggered by childhood wounds and make the connection between your actions and emotions. Listen in for insight on navigating your partner’s strong feelings and learn what you can do to raise their vibe in a bad moment!

Key Takeaways

How we are empowered to flourish when our partner is supportive

How subconscious childhood wounds keep us from showing up and taking risks

Taylor’s insight around balancing feminine and masculine energy in business

How to shift your energy out of work mode to improve your relationship

Johnny’s advice on navigating your partner’s strong emotion in a bad moment

Release judgement (not personal attack)
Mind tone + body language in response

How to identify your partner’s vibration and help them raise it

The connection between micromanaging your thoughts and living your best life

How to recognize when you’re spiritual bypassing and make a different choice

Johnny’s strategy for making the connection between emotions and actions

Why the ego isn’t always a bad thing and how it functions to protect us

Connect with Johnny & Taylor

The Art of Masculinity

The Art of Masculinity Podcast

Johnny on Instagram

Taylor’s Website

A Taylored Adventure to Happiness

Taylor on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Jeremiah on The Art of Masculinity EP080

Resources

The Wild Man Experience

Jeremiah on A Taylored Adventure to Happiness EP192

Fit Body Boot Camp

Brendon Burchard

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One by Dr. Joe Dispenza

The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins

3 Hacks to Supercharge Your Personal Growth, Part 1 - EP078 Sep 22, 2020

Have you hit a lull in your personal development journey?

If you were ALL-IN early on, and you want to get back to that place of supercharged growth, we have a few simple strategies you can use to fast-track your success and start showing up as a better version of yourself.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing three of our favorite hacks to SUPERCHARGE your personal growth, explaining how growth happens when things aren’t easy and what to do on the days when you’re not functioning at 100%.

We go on to share the power in planning BIG, making the distinction between a dream and a goal and encouraging you to get support to achieve your vision.

Listen in to understand why it’s crucial to make your health a priority on your path to personal growth and learn how to embrace the uncomfortable and enjoy the process—even when it’s hard!

Key Takeaways

What to do when you’re not functioning at 100%

Our 3 hacks for supercharging your personal growth

Plan BIG
Make you + your health a priority
Get uncomfortable

The difference between a dream and a goal

Why it’s crucial to get support to achieve your vision

The futility in being the ‘richest man in the cemetery’

How to push past discomfort to see results

How to enjoy the process—even when it’s hard

The value in committing time to meditation/prayer

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

Resources

EOS Model

Lindsey & Elliot Schwartz on Destined to Be EP069

Lindsey Schwartz

‘Societal Violence and Collective Consciousness’ in SAGE Open

Wim Hof Method Mobile App

How to Sell Without Being ‘Salesy’—with Jillian Murphy - EP077 Sep 17, 2020

Do you feel like sales is a bad word?

Jillian Murphy will set you straight. The fact is, you CAN be a closer without sending those annoying ‘Hey girl’ DMs. And she has a simple strategy for selling without being ‘salesy.’

Jillian is the creator of the REAL Girl Sales, a signature program designed to help REAL girls with REAL goals create REAL income through simple and consistent sales strategies. She has 20-plus years of experience in corporate sales, and that expertise allowed her to become a leader in her network marketing company in just six months—and reach her highest rank during the pandemic! Now, Jillian is on a mission to help other female entrepreneurs break the fear of being ‘salesy’ and close with confidence.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Jillian joins us to share the principles of her REAL Girl Sales program, explaining how solution-based selling allows us to close without being ‘salesy.’ She describes the experience of losing her six-figure corporate sales job two months ago and the mindset she adopted to recover quickly and move forward. Listen in for Jillian’s insight on taking messy action and learn how to show up as your authentic self and attract your ideal clients online!

Key Takeaways

How Jillian teaches women to be unapologetically strong and confident in sales

Jillian’s experience of losing her six-figure corporate sales job during the pandemic and how she recovered so quickly

How to leverage solution-based selling to close without being ‘salesy’

The four pillars of Jillian’s REAL Girl Sales program

Relatable
Educational
Assertive
Leverage to scale

Why Jillian welcomes objections in the sales process

How Jillian’s course incorporates role play to help students create flow in the real world

Jillian’s advice on being authentic online to attract your people and taking messy action

The direct connection between active listening and closing a sale

How network marketing serves as the catalyst for many successful entrepreneurs and business owners

The importance of being in community with likeminded people

Connect with Jillian

Jillian on Instagram

Good 2 Gold Sales Facebook Group

Jillian’s REAL Simple Sales Course Wait List

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Jillian Murphy on Destined to Be EP017

Resources

Fast Foundations Mastermind

Boiler Room

5 Ways to Navigate Disagreements - EP076 Sep 15, 2020

Disagreements are an inevitable part of any relationship.

So, what is the best way to talk through our differences of opinion without letting them grow into full-blown arguments?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our top five strategies for navigating disagreements in any relationship, challenging you to get really direct and set expectations around what you want from the other person—and what they can expect from you.

We go on to discuss the power of active listening, describing how to be present with the people in your life and make an effort to see their perspective (whether or not you happen to agree). Listen in for insight on the danger in making assumptions and learn how to pick your battles, using your energy to communicate openly when it matters most.

Key Takeaways

Our top 5 strategies for navigating disagreements in any relationship

Get really direct
Don’t assume + keep lines of communication open
Practice active listening
See other person’s perspective (empathy)
Pick your battles

Why setting expectations is crucial to the success of any relationship

How to use the Love Languages tool to better understand how your partner thinks

What active listening looks and sounds like (i.e.: paraphrasing, perception checks)

Why we set goals together and how we demonstrate respect for each other and our family

The value in having time away from your partner to exercise your individuality

Why it’s up to you whether to you waste your energy arguing or use it for something better

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

Love and Tolerance: The Code of AA

‘10 Tips for Solving Relationship Conflicts’ in Psychology Today

Throw Pillows on Destined to Be EP026

Goodman Coaching

The #1 Business-Building Tool—with Scott Aaron - EP075 Sep 10, 2020

What is the secret to building a successful business online?

Is it about finding the right posting platform? Having a killer website? Or spending hours on social media?

Scott Aaron contends that none of those things matter in the absence of relationships. In fact, he believes that the #1 business-building tool is our ability to create organic human connection with other people.

Scott is the award-winning network marketer, bestselling author and podcast host behind Linked Leads Generation, a system for converting traffic, establishing connections and creating residual income through social media marketing. He began his entrepreneurial journey in the fitness industry, running a series of health clubs and serving as a personal trainer and sports nutritionist before transitioning to business coaching and brand building. His latest book, The Marketing Workbook for LinkedIn, is the #1 New Release in 90-Minute Business & Money Short Reads on Amazon.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Scott joins us to share his history of overcoming obstacles and demonstrating resilience in the face of adversity. He describes the AHA moment when he decided to use social media to connect with other professionals in the health and wellness space and introduces us to his blueprint for generating revenue through LinkedIn. Listen in for Scott’s insight on showing up as the best version of yourself and learn how his resources can help you leverage human connection to build YOUR business online.

Key Takeaways

Scott’s history of overcoming obstacles and showing resilience in the face of adversity

What inspired Scott to build out a network marketing business for an additional stream of income

The AHA moment when Scott decided to use LinkedIn to connect with other business-minded people in the health and wellness space

How Scott’s LinkedIn system follows the 4-step process for generating revenue in any business

Scott’s challenging decision to give up his dad’s dream and step into his own power

Why self-care is critical in showing up for others as the best version of yourself

How to develop the discipline to follow a proven blueprint for success

How BYOB Agency addresses the pain points entrepreneurs face in marketing on social media

Why organic human connection will always be the #1 business-building tool

Connect with Scott

Scott’s Website

Scott on Instagram

Scott on LinkedIn

Scott’s Network Marketing Leads for Life Facebook Group

Scott’s Network Marketing Made Simple Podcast

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The LinkedIn Book for Network Marketing by Scott Aaron

Resources

The Marketing Workbook for LinkedIn by Scott Aaron

Books by Scott Aaron

The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale

Bob Proctor

Billy Jean is Marketing

BYOB Agency

Google My Business

How to Talk Yourself Off a Mental Ledge - EP074 Sep 08, 2020

Are you stressed and anxious? Feel like you’re about to break?

We’ve all experienced that kind of overwhelm, and it doesn’t bring out the best in us. So, what can we do, in that moment, to bring ourselves back to a place where we feel calm and capable?

How do you talk yourself off a mental ledge?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing what we do when we experience mental overload, discussing what it feels like in your body when you’re anxious and why it’s impossible to be creative or make effective decisions when you’re under stress.

We go on to explain why your vision of the future must be stronger than the emotions of the past and how long we typically sit in our feelings before asking, ‘How can I make this serve me?’ Listen in for insight on combating overwhelm by taking a deep breath or moving your body and learn how to leverage gratitude and kindness to talk yourself off a mental ledge.

Key Takeaways

How to make decisions when you’re experiencing mental overload

Why we can’t perform or be creative when we’re under stress

Why your vision of the future must be stronger than the emotions of the past

How to change the beliefs behind your subconscious thoughts through imagination

How to address feelings of overwhelm with a focus on gratitude

What it feels like in your body when you start to feel anxious

How long we sit in our feelings before asking, ‘How can I make this serve me?’

How to combat overwhelm by taking a deep breath or moving your body

How being kind to others can shift feelings of stress and overwhelm

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Complete Works of Florence Shinn by Florence Scovel Shinn

Resources

Dave Ramsey

International Overdose Awareness Day

Becoming the Best Version of Yourself—with Philip Sessions - EP073 Sep 03, 2020

Most people are content to make pretty good money at a 9-to-5 and live an average life. But Philip Sessions is not most people.

So, what is he doing to build his own dream business opportunity? And how does Philip’s desire to help others play into his becoming the best version of himself?

Philip works full-time as a Systems Specialist for BMW. But he is also the creator of Healthy Living Sessions, a business dedicated to teaching men, specifically entrepreneurs and business owners, how to reach their peak physical and mental performance. Philip has 10-plus years of experience in the realm of health and wellness, and he is on a mission to help clients fast-track their fitness and grow into the best version of themselves.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Philip joins us to explain how he is building an online personal training business alongside his 9-to-5, discussing how he is using social media to build a brand and how niching down has helped him attract more attention. He opens up about his resistance to the frou-frou aspects of personal development and describes why he is committed to creating a more-than-average life. Listen in for Philip’s insight on the compounding effect of showing up every day and learn how healthy habits can help YOU become the best version of yourself!

Key Takeaways

How Philip is building an online personal training business alongside his 9-to-5

Philip’s commitment to helping clients become a better version of themselves

The power of social media to engage, teach and build a brand

When Philip developed a passion for health and fitness

How niching down to serve entrepreneurs has helped Philip attract more attention

Why Philip wants to help entrepreneurs build healthy habits

How Philip divides his time among his W-2, working out, spending time with his wife and building his own business

What made Philip realize he wanted more than an average life

Philip’s insight on the compounding effect of creating consistent content + showing up every day

The challenge around promoting personal development to your partner

Philip’s commitment to being more open-minded about the frou-frou aspects of personal development

Connect with Philip

Healthy Living Sessions

Healthy Living Sessions Podcast

Philip on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki

Resources

Ryan Stewman on The Force of Average

Debt Cures ‘They’ Don’t Want You to Know About by Kevin Trudeau

Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Defining Intention YouTube Video

Gregg Braden

Gregg Braden on YouTube

Bruce Lipton

Bruce Lipton on YouTube

Don’t Let Comparison Take You Down! - EP072 Sep 01, 2020

When you’re scrolling Instagram to see what other people are doing, does it motivate you to get into action? Or does it paralyze you?

Comparison isn’t always a bad thing. Unless you’re wasting time and energy wondering why you don’t measure up when you could be taking action toward your own dreams.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring how comparison can motivate and inspire us OR get in our way, explaining why it’s crucial to get clear on what YOU want versus trying to live up to someone else’s standards.

We go on to discuss how to develop an awareness of when you’re caught up in comparison and identify what triggers your negative self-talk. Listen in for insight on enjoying the process of growing into Future You and learn how to get hyper-focused on your own goals—so you don’t have time to worry about anyone else!

Key Takeaways

Why humans have a tendency to compare ourselves with others

How comparison becomes a problem when it prevents us from taking action

Why it’s crucial to get clear on what YOU want rather than trying to live up to someone else’s standards

How comparison can motivate and inspire us OR get in our way

The value in enjoying the process of becoming who you want to be vs. comparing yourself to Future You

How to develop an awareness of when you’re caught up in comparison

The process of identifying what triggers your negative self-talk

Why people who are doing well stop comparing themselves to others

How having a clear WHY keeps us making progress toward the person we’re meant to be

How to get hyper-focused on your own goals so you don’t have time to worry about others

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Turn Your Side Hustle Into Your Main Gig on Destined to Be EP068

Resources

Books by Gregg Braden

Finding Opportunity in ‘Bad Luck’—with Bryce Wilson - EP071 Aug 27, 2020

If the pandemic shut down your multimillion-dollar business, no one would blame you for having a meltdown. But Bryce Wilson allowed himself only two minutes of wallowing before he started looking for the opportunity in his circumstances.

Today, Bryce is traveling the country in an RV with his girlfriend and building a second successful business, creating a new reality that is even better than pre-COVID times.

Bryce is the 24-year-old Founder and CEO of Ticket Rescue and TRT Virtual, two online startups that are shaking up their respective industries. He started Ticket Rescue as a college junior, and three years later, it had grown into a multimillion-dollar company. When the coronavirus paused that business, Bryce created TRT Virtual to help personal brands generate high-quality leads and grow their following on Instagram.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Bryce joins us to share his accidental journey to becoming an entrepreneur and explain what inspired him to build his businesses. He walks us through his thought process when the pandemic shut down the events industry, describing how he made the mindset shift (very quickly!) from pity party to opportunity. Listen in for Bryce’s insight on taking a disciplined but not structured approach to building good habits and learn how you can STOP blaming back luck and START creating a new reality for your life.

Key Takeaways

Bryce’s journey to entrepreneurship and what he likes about being his own boss

The concept behind Ticket Rescue and how it differs from StubHub

How TRT Virtual helps influencers spread their message on Instagram

What inspired Bryce to travel the country in an RV

How Bryce fell into entrepreneurship by identifying a need in the market

Bryce’s thought process when COVID-19 shut down the events industry

Bryce’s decision to see the pandemic as an opportunity to make his life better

Why it’s easier to blame bad luck than it is to take responsibility for what’s happening in our lives

Bryce’s disciplined (but not structured) approach to daily habits like meditation, exercise and reading

How we attract what we want in our lives with our subconscious thoughts

The danger in comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle

Connect with Bryce

Ticket Rescue

TRT Virtual

Bryce on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice from the Best in the World by Tim Ferriss

Shameless

Tom Bilyeu on Thinkitation

Thomas Edison and the Hypnagogic State

Matt Tamas on Destined to Be EP059

Jesse Itzler

How to Influence Through Self-Talk, Story and Strategy - EP070 Aug 25, 2020

So, you want to be an influencer.

But how do you build a following that rallies behind you? How do you create a community (either online or in person) that trusts you and values your opinion?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing what it takes to be a true influencer and make a positive impact in your community, explaining how a willingness to be vulnerable and share your story leads to greater connection with others.

We go on to explore the relationship between self-talk and the ability to influence, describing how little things like getting up with your alarm tell your mind you’re worth it and help build your confidence. Listen in for insight on designing a strategy to build influence and learn to how create a clear vision of where you’re going—and a plan for how to get there.

Key Takeaways

What it means to be a true influencer and make a positive impact in your community

How a willingness to be vulnerable leads to greater connection with others

How to earn trust by sharing your story and demonstrating genuine care for others

The relationship between positive self-talk and the ability to build influence

How we build confidence by doing the little things (e.g.: making your bed)

How to attract people who enjoy your successes as much as you do

What we can do to prevent off moments from growing into off days

Why strategy starts with a clear vision of where you’re going and a plan for how to get there

How to set priorities based on the kind of legacy you want to leave

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Brooke Thomas on Destined to Be EP065

Resources

Johnny Elsasser on Destined to Be EP019

Relentless Growth with Chris Goodman

The Secret Sauce for a Strong Relationship—with Elliot & Lindsey Schwartz - EP069 Aug 20, 2020

What is the secret sauce to building a strong relationship?

For Lindsey and Elliot Schwartz, it starts with sharing your fears (no matter how irrational) and communicating the support you need.

But how do you develop the self-awareness to know where those fears are coming from and confront them head on together?

Lindsey is the wellness entrepreneur, bestselling author, and podcast host behind Powerhouse Women, a platform that helps women get out of their own way and into action around their big ideas. Her husband, Elliot, is a top medical sales rep and trainer with Covidian and self-described Ambassador of Contribution. Together, they are unstoppable.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Elliot and Lindsey join us to explain how personal development helped them learn to communicate early on in their marriage and how sharing their fears is a big part of their secret to staying happy together. Lindsey walks us through her journey to building the Powerhouse Women community, and Elliot offers insight on what it looks like to support your partner and buy into their vision. Listen in as Elliot and Lindsey discuss the daily habits that set them up for success and learn how to diffuse your fears and say YES to achieving your full potential.

Key Takeaways

How personal development helped Elliot and Lindsey learn to communicate early in their marriage

What sports taught Elliot about what it takes to compete at a high level

The experience that inspired Lindsey to stretch beyond her comfort zone + build Powerhouse Women

Why Lindsey resisted writing Powerhouse Woman and what inspired her to see it through

Lindsey’s mission to help women get into action around their big ideas

The true spirit of support and collaboration that characterizes Lindsey’s community

Elliot’s insight on what it looks like to support a Powerhouse Woman as she pursues her vision

Why it’s crucial to communicate your fears with your partner and confront them head on

The self-awareness that comes from taking 100% responsibility for your emotional experiences

Elliot and Lindsey’s advice on what to do if it doesn’t seem like your partner supports you

Check expectations of what support looks like
Communicate what kind of support you need
Get outside help if it’s an unhealthy situation

The daily spiritual practice and workout rituals that set Elliot and Lindsey up for success

Connect with Elliot & Lindsey

Powerhouse Women

Powerhouse Women Podcast

Powerhouse Women Virtual Event

Powerhouse Women on Instagram

Lindsey on Instagram

Elliot on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Powerhouse Woman: How to Get Out of Your Own Way, Fulfill Your Unique Purpose, and Live a Powerful Life by Lindsey Schwartz

Resources

Extreme Ownership: How US Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

Landmark Forum

EOS Worldwide

The Dichotomy of Leadership: Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership to Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

Turn Your Side Hustle into Your Main Gig - EP068 Aug 18, 2020

45% of Americans have a side hustle, something they do outside their 9-to-5 that generates an additional stream of income.

But what if you want to turn that side hustle into your main gig? When is the right time to walk away from your W-2 and become your own boss? What does it take to be a successful entrepreneur or business owner?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the how to make your side hustle your main focus. We explain how to break away from legacy thinking and pursue work you truly love, describing how to reframe your fear of failure and take a risk on yourself.

We go on to explore why believing in yourself and having a community of support are the most important predictors of success, walking you through the 6 human needs—and how they apply to being an entrepreneur. Listen in for insight on finding a network marketing company that connects with YOU and learn how to prepare for the responsibility that comes with being your own boss!

Key Takeaways

The benefit of having a side hustle to provide another stream of income

What makes network marketing the side hustle with the lowest barrier to entry

How to break away from legacy thinking and pursue work you truly love

Why believing you can do it is the most important predictor of success

How to reframe your fear of failure and take a risk on yourself

Why it’s crucial to choose an emerging market that’s about to be hot

How to find a network marketing company that really connects with YOU

The sense of belonging that comes from a community that supports what you’re doing

Tony Robbins’ 6 human needs

Certainty and comfort
Uncertainty and variety
Significance
Love and connection
Growth
Contribution

How to prepare for the added stress and anxiety of being your own boss

The mundane action steps that build success over time (that we don’t see on social)

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

What Success Means on Destined to Be EP051

Grit vs. Intelligence on Destined to Be EP049

Tony Robbins’ 6 Human Needs

Matt Tamas

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

10 Universal Laws

Success Habits of an M.D. Entrepreneur—with Dr. Alex Spinoso - EP067 Aug 14, 2020

Do you have a successful career, but it doesn’t feel like enough?

Do you feel like you’ve stopped growing? Like you’ve gotten complacent, and now it’s time to build something that will challenge you—and make a bigger impact?

What does it look like to walk away from an established career (and good money) to be your own boss? And what habits do you need to be successful?

Dr. Alex Spinoso is the CEO of CellSpark Regenerative Centers, the Co-Owner of Genesis Lifestyle Medicine and the Cofounder of PC THREDZ. He served as an ER and urgent care doctor and was a physician in the California prison system before becoming a doctor-entrepreneur. Today, he owns and operates eight clinics that specialize in anti-aging, hormone replacement and stem cell therapy, and he is opening six more locations in the next six months!

On this episode of Destined to Be, Alex joins us to share the anchoring habits he uses to stay committed to his goals and envision what he wants to build next. He explains why he left a lucrative career as a doctor and turned his family’s life upside down to become an entrepreneur, describing his drive to be remembered and ‘make people better’ through his clinics. Listen in to understand what Alex does to create balance in his day and learn how to stay centered when YOUR day doesn’t go as planned!

Key Takeaways

Why Alex left a lucrative career as a doctor to become an entrepreneur

How Alex turned his family’s life upside down to save money for his first clinic

The experiences abroad that gave Alex a different perspective on medicine

Alex’s mission to make people better through his anti-aging, hormone therapy and stem cell clinics

How Alex defines biohacking as manipulating the body to think it’s in a different situation than it really is

How working out and meditating serve as the anchors of Alex’s high-level discipline

Alex’s drive to be remembered and pass his knowledge on to the next generation

The practices Alex leverages to create balance in his day

Put phone away for focused time with wife
Break day into mini-days
Build in time to take care of self

How Alex envisions a perfect day and what he wants to build next every morning

Why Alex uses a travel alarm clock rather than his smartphone

What Alex does to stay centered when his day doesn’t go as planned

Breathing techniques to lower heartrate + clear mind
Create culture of good people who lift each other up

Connect with Alex

Alex’s Website

Alex on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Arete Syndicate Mastermind

Resources

Ong-Bak: The Thai Warrior

Amref Health Africa

Personality Isn’t Permanent by Benjamin Hardy, PhD

Navy SEAL Breathing Technique

Wim Hof Breathing Method

The Power of Visualization - EP066 Aug 11, 2020

Growing into the highest version of yourself starts with visualizing who you want to be and what you want your life to look like.

But you have to go beyond just dreaming about something once and then doing what you’ve always done. So, how can you harness the full power of visualization to build your best life?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the power of visualization, describing how the universe responds to bold declarations and what role emotions play in casting a vision. We explain why it’s crucial to have gratitude for what you want as if it’s already taken place and weigh in on the difference between wishing for something and working toward your vision.

We go on to challenge you to dream BIG and develop the self-awareness to know exactly what you want your life to look like. Listen in for insight into the wouldn’t-it-be-cool-if approach to creating audacious goals and learn what YOU can do to visualize an abundant future and set yourself up to make it happen!

Key Takeaways

Why so many of us limit our goals to what we think we can have

How we define vision as putting yourself in shoes that could be yours if you choose to achieve

Why it’s crucial to have gratitude for what you want as if it’s already taken place

How the universe responds to bold declarations

The role emotions play in casting a vision

The multisensory approach to visualization Mallory used to win first place in her last fitness competition

The difference between wishing and working toward your vision

The wouldn’t-it-be-cool-if approach to dreaming BIG

Why you have to release judgement + physically write down your vision

The questions to ask as you develop a vision of the future

What makes you happy?
What do you want your life to look like?

The significance of having your vision live alongside of you and fully expecting it to happen

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Matt Tamas on Destined to Be EP059

Secrets of a High-Performing Power Couple—with Brooke & Brett Thomas - EP065 Aug 06, 2020

A year ago, Brooke and Brett Thomas literally packed up their entire lives to follow their dreams. But moving across the country and then working together on a business was not without its challenges.

No matter how much you love your spouse, spending all day, every day together is an adjustment. So, how did this power couple learn to navigate their new business partnership? And what habits have kept them mentally and physically strong through the transition?

Brooke and Brett are the faith-filled, mindset warriors behind the Live Out Loud community. Brett enjoyed a 25-year career as a leader in medical device sales and built a six-figure side hustle before leaving the corporate world to partner with his wife as the CFO of their own business. Brooke has a decade of experience running elite-level masterminds, live events and group coaching programs that support women in pursuing their purpose with confidence.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Brooke and Brett join us to discuss what inspired their move from an established life in North Carolina to pursue their dream of working together and living in Southern California. Brooke explains how she turned her gift of wanting other women to WIN into a successful career, and Brett weighs in on the challenges of working with your spouse when you’re both used to being the boss. Listen in for insight around the role mental wellness plays in feeling your best and learn the three habits that make Brooke and Brett a happy, healthy, high-performing power couple!

Key Takeaways

How a cancer diagnosis inspired Brooke’s shift from the corporate track to entrepreneurship

Why it’s crucial to have a partner who supports you in whatever you choose to do

What inspired Brett to leave a successful corporate career and start working with Brooke

How moving across the country and working together wasn’t the fairy tale Brooke + Brett expected

Why Brooke + Brett made the decision to leave an established life in North Carolina for SoCal

How Brooke turned her gift of wanting other women to WIN into a successful coaching career

Brooke’s commitment to make her faith an integral part of her business

The three habits that Brooke + Brett credit for their strong mental wellness

Power Hour (morning routine)
Date night
Bike rides

How Brooke + Brett leverage the Amare Global supplements to feel their best

Brett’s insight on the connection between mental wellness and peak physical performance

Connect with Brooke & Brett

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Brooke’s Podcast: The Live Out Loud Show

No Kid Hungry

5 More Things We’d Tell Our Younger Selves - EP064 Aug 04, 2020

You live and learn. And if you’re smart, you take the advice of people who’ve been where you want to go and learn from their mistakes, too.

So, what have we learned in the last decade that can help you accelerate your growth and reach your goals a little faster?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re continuing the discussion from last week and sharing five MORE things we wish we’d known 10 years ago. We explore the value of investing in yourself, describing the clarity that comes from working with a coach or joining a personal development community.

We challenge you to have uncomfortable conversations sooner rather than later and surround yourself with the right kind of people. Listen in for insight on talking yourself into a better mood and learn how to overcome the fear of failure and start making bold power moves!

Key Takeaways

5 more things we’d tell our younger selves if we could go back 10 years

Invest in yourself and pay yourself first
Don’t put off uncomfortable conversations
Be careful who you surround yourself with
You can talk yourself into a better mood
Don’t be afraid to fail, just fail forward

The clarity that comes from hiring a coach or joining a mastermind

How to break the ice leading into a difficult conversation

The value in having a friend who helps you see both sides of a situation

Our advice on going where you’re celebrated, not tolerated

How to recognize when an emotion doesn’t serve you + switch the focus

How to identify the anchors that shift you from primal to powerful

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

Want to Stand Out Online? Share Your Story!—with Kellsie Moore - EP063 Jul 30, 2020

What’s stopping YOU from sharing your story?

Yes, it takes courage to own what you’ve been through and share it with the world. But think about it this way: How many people are waiting to hear your story so that they can be set free?

Kellsie Moore is the professional actor, business strategist and video presence coach behind Be Marvelous You, a platform designed to help entrepreneurs and business professionals connect through video and build an audience online. She empowers clients to craft their story and share it on video, teaching them to step into their CEO Self so that they look, sound and feel great on camera.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Kellsie joins us to share her experiences working at a community corrections facility and describe the AHA moment when she committed to choosing a different life. Kellsie walks us through the steps she took to pursue the things that make her feel good, explaining how her current business merges her love of acting, online business and personal development. Listen in for Kellsie’s insight into why YOUR story matters and how it can become a guide for others—if you’re willing to share!

Key Takeaways

Kellsie’s experiences working as a teacher and administrator in a community corrections facility

The AHA moment when Kellsie committed to doing the things that make her feel good

What steps Kellsie took to intentionally design and choose her life

Why it’s our responsibility to show up as our brilliant selves and use the gifts we have to offer

Why your story matters and how it can become a guide for others

How Kellsie’s business merges her love of acting, online business and personal development

How Kellsie serves soulful, purpose-driven entrepreneurs through Be Marvelous You

Kellsie’s strategies for helping people overcome the idea that their story isn’t important

How Kellsie leverages the BE-DO-HAVE approach to feel more marvelous more of the time

How Kellsie helps clients look, sound and feel great on camera

Connect with Kellsie

Be Marvelous You

Kellsie on Instagram

Kellsie on YouTube

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Entrepreneur’s On-Camera CURE

Resources

Kellsie’s Captivate on Camera Course

Casa Bonita Episode of South Park

Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi

The Underdog Advantage: Rewrite Your Future by Turning Your Disadvantages into Superpowers by Dean Graziosi

The Jim Fortin Podcast: Transform Your Life from the Inside Out

James Wedmore

5 Things We’d Tell Our Younger Selves - EP062 Jul 28, 2020

We’ve learned a lot of lessons in our ongoing journey to become the best version of ourselves. Lessons that have helped us get a little closer to becoming who we’re destined to be.

And while we don’t regret the missteps or frustrations we’ve faced along the way, there are a few things we’d like to go back and tell our younger selves if we could. Things that might have accelerated our progress and can help you get further, faster.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing five of the things we wish we’d known 10 years ago. We explain why haters can be a good thing, describing how the criticism you face usually comes from a place of fear and encouraging you to focus on the people who already like you versus trying to please everyone.

We go on to explore how nearly everyone suffers from imposter syndrome and challenge you to move past self-doubt by remembering that someone out there needs what you have. Listen in for insight on leveraging the power of gratitude to manifest abundance and learn how to build your confidence exponentially—simply by keeping the promises you make to yourself!

Key Takeaways

5 things we’d tell our younger selves if we could go back 10 years

Haters are a good thing
Everyone suffers from imposter syndrome
You can’t please everyone
The power of gratitude
Keep promises to yourself

How criticism and judgement come from a place of fear

How to overcome self-doubt by remembering that someone needs what you have

Why it’s better to focus on the people who like you vs. trying to please everyone

How to come from a place of abundance rather than lack

How our confidence grows when we keep promises to ourselves

Why it’s crucial to set SMART goals that can be tracked

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Why You Should Want More Haters on Destined to BE EP016

Katt Williams

Amy Ledin on Destined to Be EP005

Go Where You’re Celebrated, Not Tolerated on Destined to Be EP050

Emotional Intelligence Is the Catalyst for Change—with Brittney Connor-Savarda - EP061 Jul 23, 2020

Do your emotions ever get the best of you?

According to Brittney Connor-Savarda, emotions are energy in motion. If we learn to channel them properly, they can be a force for good. But if we don’t, the emotional shrapnel can harm us—and anyone else in the line of fire.

So, how do we develop the emotional intelligence we need to be less reactive and build a more fulfilling life?

Known as the People Whisperer, Brittney is the emotional intelligence, human behavior and communications expert behind The Catalyst 4 Change, a consultancy and coaching practice that helps tech entrepreneurs and executives find balance in business and life. She is also the creator of Generation EQ, a platform that helps parents teach their children the skills of emotional self-regulation. Her forthcoming book, The EQ Deficiency is due out in September.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Brittney joins us to explain how the struggle to deal with her own emotions ignited her purpose in helping others learn to self-regulate. She introduces us to the five elements of emotional intelligence, discussing how a focus on EQ benefits businesses and what parents can do to help their kids navigate strong emotions. Listen in for Brittney’s insight on leveraging mindfulness to ease anxiety and learn how YOU can hone your emotional intelligence to change your thoughts—and improve your life!

Key Takeaways

How Brittney’s struggle to deal with her own emotions led her to her purpose

How mindfulness helped Brittney learn to control her response in stressful situations

The benefit for businesses that focus on emotional intelligence

The five elements of emotional intelligence

Self-awareness
Regulation
Intrinsic motivation
Social awareness
Empathy

How Brittney works with tech execs + entrepreneurs to make EQ the foundation for business

Brittney’s work supporting families and children in developing the skills of self-regulation

Brittney’s insight on how to deal with a young child in the middle of a tantrum

How establishing boundaries and giving kids choices helps us avoid a battle of control

How Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) can be used to reduce the intensity of chronic pain

Brittney’s explanation of mindfulness as an awareness of self and surroundings

Connect with Brittney

The Catalyst 4 Change

Brittney on YouTube

Brittney on Facebook

Brittney on Instagram

Email brittney-nichole@thecatalyst4change.com

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Peter Salovey

John D. Mayer

Daniel Goleman

Books by Daniel Goleman

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

The Emotion Code: How to Release Your Trapped Emotions for Abundant Health, Love and Happiness by Dr. Bradley Nelson

Gregg Brayden on YouTube

Bruce Lipton on YouTube

Gregg Brayden & Bruce Lipton on COVID-19

The Joe Rogan Experience

Invest in Yourself on Destined to Be EP060

Grit vs. Intelligence on Destined to Be EP049

Invest in Yourself (Regardless of Your Budget) - EP060 Jul 21, 2020

Feel like you can’t afford to invest in yourself?

If money is what’s holding you back, know that you can take steps TODAY to pour into yourself and start making changes for the better—on any budget.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to invest in yourself—regardless of your financial situation. We explain how to use your smartphone as a mobile university, describing the free and affordable resources available to us all online.

We go on to explore how investing in our health improves our quality of life in every area and challenge you to join a community of people who will celebrate your success. Listen in for insight on what we look for in a coach or mastermind program and learn how YOU can pour into yourself and get where you want to go faster—with a lot less resistance!

Key Takeaways

How to use your smartphone as a mobile university

The free and affordable resources available to us all

Podcasts and books
Meditation apps
Tracking apps
Online communities
YouTube

How we leverage subconscious reprogramming to solve problems

Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with people who are where you want to be

How investing in your health extends to every other area of life

Why so many of us think it’s normal to feel like garbage

What we look for in a coach or mastermind program

The value of a community that celebrates your success

Why other people believe in you only when you believe in yourself

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Johnny Elsasser on Destined to Be EP019

Resources

The Art of Masculinity

Better Sleep for Men Facebook Group

Living the Path That Was Chosen for YOU—with Matt Tamas - EP059 Jul 16, 2020

Are you stuck in wanting a different life but afraid to take action?

If you’re ready to listen to your inner voice and start taking steps toward a new vision, it begins with the decision to rewrite the story you’re telling yourself.

So, how do you shift to an abundance mindset and start living the path that was chosen for YOU?

Matt Tamas is the Founder and CEO of Alpha Vezeto, an elite brotherhood of men who are evolving, inspiring and impacting the world. Matt began his career as a Strength and Conditioning Coach before shifting his focus to personal development and mindset training, and today, he is a multi-seven figure entrepreneur with 24 years of experience as a High-Performance Coach and three books to his credit: Reinvent Your Personal Safety, Quantum Success and High Performance Life.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Matt joins us to discuss how he learned to follow his inner voice and take decisive action on that vision of the future. He explains how to shift the stories you are telling yourself, describing what he did to stop playing the victim and start creating a new reality. Listen in to understand the five pillars of Matt’s Alpha Vezeto program and learn how to live the path that was chosen for YOU—and make the greatest impact!

Key Takeaways

How Matt followed his inner voice to the University of Wyoming

What Matt did to put himself out there throughout his college career

How to listen to your inner voice and take decisive action

Why Matt prefers creating a vision over setting goals

How Matt’s definition of success shifted from making money to following your calling

Matt’s advice on changing your environment and the media you consume

Why Matt believes it’s okay to be selfish and invest in yourself

How to change the stories you tell yourself to serve you better

Matt’s insight on causing the world to respond to you vs. living in a reactive state

The five pillars of Matt’s Alpha Vezeto program

Mindset
Leadership
Personal safety
Strength + conditioning
Nutrition

Connect with Matt

Alpha Vezeto

Matt on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Debt Cures ‘They’ Don’t Want You to Know About by Kevin Trudeau

Resources

Mike Boyle

3 Lies You Need to Stop Telling Yourself - EP058 Jul 14, 2020

What determines whether or not you achieve your dreams? Many believe that their circumstances are what’s holding them back, but the truth is, the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves have MUCH more to do with our success (or lack thereof) than the situation we happen to be in.

So, what lies do you need to stop telling yourself to get where you want to be?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing the top three lies you need to stop telling yourself in order to live the life you want. We discuss the first steps in overcoming the lie of unworthiness, challenging you to follow through on your commitments to yourself and others to build a feeling of self-worth over time.

We go on to explore the lie that there just isn’t enough time to go after what you want, describing how to prioritize your time based on the things you value most. Listen in for insight on reframing the excuses you use to explain why you can’t change and learn what you can do TODAY to shift your circumstances and take action toward the life you’re destined to live!

Key Takeaways

Why it’s crucial to take extreme ownership of getting where you want to be

The relationship between fulfillment and living in alignment with your core values

The top 3 lies you need to stop telling yourself

I’m not worthy
If I had more time, I would…
I would change, but I can’t because…

The first steps to overcoming the lie of unworthiness

How gratitude serves as the ultimate form of receivership

How to prioritize your time based on the things you value most

How two people up against the SAME circumstances can have wildly different results

Why it’s more challenging to change when we’re comfortable in our misery

What you can do today to take action toward getting the life you want

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

How to Transform Your Money Mindset—with Kara Ayala - EP057 Jul 09, 2020

What is your money story?

Many of us were raised to believe that there are only to ways to achieve financial freedom: You’re either born with money or you have a crazy idea that changes the world.

But what if we are ALL capable of building wealth as long as we know how money works?

Kara Ayala and her husband, Mike, are real estate investors who own multiple construction and property management companies. She is also a money mindset coach with a passion for empowering women to create multiple streams of income, giving them the freedom to invest in what matters most.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Kara joins us to explain why most people don’t achieve financial success, exploring what shapes our beliefs around business and money. She walks us through the ups and downs of her entrepreneurial journey, discussing when she and Mike went all-in on real estate and how they navigate the challenges of working together as a husband-wife team. Listen in for Kara’s top strategies for teaching kids about money and learn what YOU can do to shift your mindset and get your money to work for you!

Key Takeaways

How lack of education + limiting beliefs keep people from achieving financial success

Kara’s top strategies for teaching her kids about money

How Kara thinks about raising kids in abundance without them feeling entitled

How Kara’s childhood informed her beliefs around business and money

What inspired Kara and her husband to start their own plumbing + HVAC company

The major business setback Kara’s family faced when a client filed for bankruptcy

When Kara and Mike decided to go all-in on real estate

How to navigate the challenge of working with your spouse by staying in your own lane

Kara’s advice on setting aside money to invest every month

How Kara and Mike got into investing in trailer parks with the help of an unpaid mentor

Why it’s crucial for women to get educated on how money works

Connect with Kara

Kara on Instagram

Email kara@karaayala.com

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Outwitting the Devil: The Secret to Freedom and Success by Napoleon Hill

Resources

Dave Ramsey

The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM) by Hal Elrod

Imposter Syndrome: Overcoming What Holds You Back - EP056 Jul 07, 2020

Do you downplay your achievements? Have you ever felt unworthy of a promotion or new position?

It’s easy to get caught up in feelings of self-doubt. So how can we stop these feelings from getting in the way of our personal and professional development? How can we take ownership of our success and feel confident in any room?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring imposter syndrome, the feeling that you are not worthy of a title, position, or praise. We explain what it really means to be an ‘imposter’ and why most people are actually just ‘rookies’ who need to be more confident.

We go on to discuss the difference between facts and feelings and why it’s necessary to visualize the person you want to become in order to actualize your goals. We also explore what it means to be a professional and why you don’t need to be an expert in order to own that title. Listen in for our insight on overcoming imposter syndrome and learn to reach your full potential by shifting your mind away from feelings of unworthiness!

Key Takeaways

How we define imposter syndrome as a feeling of doubt and unworthiness

Why everyone feels like an imposter at some point in their lives

Why today’s culture of instant gratification is plays a key role in imposter syndrome

The difference between an imposter and a rookie

Why it’s important to take things slow and make gradual changes or pivots

What to tell yourself when you start to feel like an imposter

How to shift your mind away from feelings of self-doubt

What it means to be a professional and why you should take yourself seriously

How to become aware of the feelings that aren’t serving you

Owning your achievements instead of downplaying them

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Book a 15-Minute Discovery Call with Jeremiah or Mallory

Resources

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The Angie Lee Show

They're Not for You, and That's Okay - EP055 Jul 02, 2020

Here’s the truth: you’re not going to be able to please everyone. That’s OKAY. There are people in our lives and on our social media accounts who are not FOR us and will never be. So why do we spend so much time obsessing over the way other people view us? Why do we second-guess sharing an opinion because someone else might not like it?

It’s so easy to get caught up in the opinions of people who don’t matter. So, what steps can you take to cut out the people who aren’t going to support and inspire you?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing people-pleasing and how it holds us back from achieving our goals. We focus on identifying the people who aren’t FOR you and cutting them out. We offer examples of our own experiences with people-pleasing and how we’ve learned to avoid it.

We go on to explore how we’re each conditioned to want approval from our family and friends, and how we carry that need for acceptance with us. We also weigh in on the importance of taking a stand and not letting fear stop you from sharing your beliefs. Listen in for insight on how to block out the people who aren’t helping you achieve your goals.

Key Takeaways

How to build your community with people who will actually support you

Why it’s important to avoid prolonging negative relationships

Sharing your story instead of hiding behind something for the sake of others

How to ignore those two or three people who don’t like you

Using positive affirmations to bring your goals back into focus

Changing your subconscious to change your perceptions and your life

Focusing on the good messages instead of the bad messages

How to identify who does and does not inspire you in your life

Why you need to unfollow and unfriend people who make you second-guess yourself

The importance of taking a stand for something you believe in

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Book a 15-Minute Discovery Call with Jeremiah or Mallory

Resources

Gregg Braden

Charles Darwin

8 Mile

Addiction: Obsessions of the Mind That Overpower the Body - EP054 Jun 30, 2020

What comes to mind when you hear the world ADDICTION? Drug and alcohol abuse? Food? Gambling? Sex?

We believe that there are many more very common obsessions that stop us from reaching our goals, but most of those behaviors aren’t seen as addictions because they’re socially accepted. So, what addictions are limiting YOU from living the life you really want? And is there such a thing as a healthy addiction?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring addiction, any obsession of the mind that overpowers the body. We explain the difference between a chemical and a behavioral addiction, describing how judgement, comparison and overreacting qualify as addictions and what we can do to recognize our own craving for drama.

We go on to discuss the danger in addictive behaviors that lack immediate repercussions and reflect on how an obsession can keep us from becoming the person we’re destined to be. Listen in for insight on striving for integrated living over so-called balance and get addicted to becoming a better version of yourself!

Key Takeaways

How we define addiction as an obsession of the mind that overpowers the body

How judgement and comparison qualify as addictions

How burying our emotions with food can lead to an addiction

What differentiates a chemical addiction from a behavioral addiction

How overreacting and catastrophizing can become an addiction

The danger in addictions that lack immediate repercussions

How addictions keep us from achieving our goals + becoming who we’re destined to be

The idea of a healthy addiction to progress and self-improvement

How any obsessions can easily turn negative

Why it’s better to strive for integrated living over balance

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Move Past Addiction on DTB EP008

Jeremiah on The Way Out Podcast EP160

Enneagram Institute

Todd Palmer on Integrated Living

Get Turned On to a Fulfilling Life—with David Norrie - EP053 Jun 25, 2020

Is your life on cruise control?

If you feel like you’re just going through the motions every day and leaning on technology to zone out, it’s time to get ‘turned on.’ To wake up and start living the life God has planned for you.

David Norrie is the bestselling author of Turned On: Tuning In, In a Tuned Out World and the cofounder of Turned On, a platform committed to preserving the lost art of face-to-face connection at home, at work and in our faith communities. David and his wife, Angelike, also cohost the Turned On Podcast, a show designed to help listeners embrace the communication age without losing our connection with each other.

On this episode of Destined to Be, David joins us to explain the difference between living on cruise control and getting ‘turned on.’ He describes how to stop white knuckling life and surrender to God’s plan in the four hallways—faith, health, business and family. Listen in to understand how David uses network marketing as a vehicle to pursue other interests and learn what YOU can do pivot into a fulfilling life that makes you happy and makes use of your gifts!

Key Takeaways

What inspired David to make Jesus the headline in his business

How meeting his wife taught David what real faith is

The difference between living on cruise control and getting ‘turned on’

How to stop white knuckling life and surrender to God’s plan

How everything we do in life prepares us for the future

David’s four hallways of faith, health, business and home team

How to choose ONE easy thing to do today that will initiate a pivot in your life

The financial benefit of doing what you love and have a gift for

David’s transition out of medical device sales and into network marketing

How to use network marketing as a vehicle to pursue other interests

Connect with David

Turned On

David on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Turned On: Tuning In, In a Tuned Out World by David Norrie

Resources

The Turned On Method Course

Isaac Pitre Ministries

Trey Knight of Navan Global

Breaking Up with Your Bad Habits - EP052 Jun 23, 2020

‘It’s been a tough day, so I need a glass of wine to unwind.’

We’re all guilty of justifying a poor choice like this. And if it only happens once in a while, fine. But if a bad habit is starting to become routine, it’s time for a change.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing what you can do to break up with your bad habits. We share our definition of a habit as something we do automatically and describe how poor choices serve as temporary distractions to make us feel better in the moment.

We go on to explain why awareness is the first step in changing a bad habit, challenging you to recognize what’s triggering your behavior and replace it with something better. Listen in for insight on how small wins build your confidence and learn how to end your relationship with the habits that don’t serve you.

Key Takeaways

What we do to justify a bad choice and how it eventually turns into a habit

How we define a habit as something we do without actively thinking about it

How bad habits serve as temporary distractions to make us feel better in the moment

Why it’s more challenging to change a habit the longer it goes on

How awareness is the first step in changing a bad habit

Why it’s crucial to have accountability for where we are in life

How to recognize the emotion that’s triggering a bad habit

What you can do to replace a bad habit with something better

How celebrating small wins builds confidence + leads to better choices through the day

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Ray Dalio

Destined to Be EP050

What Success Means + How to Achieve It - EP051 Jun 18, 2020

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”

—Maya Angelou

What is YOUR definition of success? Are you taking steps in that direction every day?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing what success means and how to achieve it. We describe how success means different things to different people and explore how health, relationships and money (and the freedom it provides) factor into our definition of success.

We go on to explain why it’s a problem to wait until you’ve reached a certain goal to be happy and challenge you to start living with intent and keeping small promises to yourself. Listen in for insight on developing a vision that’s stronger than the emotions of the past and learn how putting other people first can take YOU to the next level of success.

Key Takeaways

Why success means different things to different people

How money (and the freedom it provides) factors into our definition of success

Maya Angelou’s definition of success as liking yourself, what you do and how you do it

How being there for our kids plays a role in our definition of success

The danger in waiting until you reach a particular goal to be happy or fulfilled

How putting other people first attracts the next level of success

How health and nutrition impacts every other area of our lives

Why success starts with keeping small promises to yourself

Why it’s crucial to develop a vision stronger than the emotions of the past

How caring about the people you work with leads to success in business

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams & Reaching Your Destiny by Robin Sharma

Resources

Dr. Maya Angelou

Go Where You’re Celebrated, Not Tolerated - EP050 Jun 16, 2020

As you move forward on your self-development journey, you’re going to outgrow some friendships. And you may even have to cut ties with family members who don’t understand the way you’re living your life now.

But how do you let go of the toxic people who don’t support you? And where do you find real friends who celebrate your wins and want to level up with you?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to cut toxic relationships out of your life. We explain how to gain an awareness of the energy people carry and look for friends who respect your goals and want to grow with you.

We go on to explore where to find people in alignment with where you’re going and offer advice on choosing what events to attend (and when to flex your NO muscle). Listen in for insight on attracting successful, happy people into your life and learn how to build relationships with adult friends who’ve got your back—and how to walk away from the ones who don’t.

Key Takeaways

How to gain an awareness of the energy people carry

The signs that it may be time to cut a toxic person out of your life

Why it’s challenging to walk away from close friends and family

The value in finding friends who want to grow with you

Why people who don’t respect your goals are not your people

How to surround yourself with people who celebrate your wins

Why spending time with friends should lift you up

Where to find friends in alignment with where you want to go

How to choose what events to attend and flex your NO muscle as necessary

What you can do to change the energy in a room

The best way to attract happy, successful people into your life

The questions to help you identify who really has your back

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

SMART Goals

Tai Lopez

Why Grit Is More Important Than Intelligence - EP049 Jun 11, 2020

We’re all familiar with using the Law of Attraction to manifest the life we want. But on its own, the Law of Attraction is not enough.

To achieve success, you need to add the Law of Action. To believe that you deserve to reach your goals and keep taking steps forward, no matter what happens.

You need GRIT.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re explaining why grit is more important than intelligence in achieving success. We weigh in on why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work without the Law of Action and walk you through the characteristics shared by people who have grit.

We go on to explore why you can be too smart to be successful (but you can’t be too dumb!) and challenge you to worry more about WHY you’re pursuing a goal than HOW you’re going to achieve it. Listen in for insight on building grit through your daily habits and learn how to leverage the laws of the universe to overcome resistance and act on your vision of the future!

Key Takeaways

Why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work without the Law of Action

How success requires both grit and a higher vision for your life

The role preparation and daily habits play in building grit

The top five characteristics shared by people who have grit

Why you can be too smart to be successful (but you can’t be too dumb)

Why it’s crucial to engage in actions that are in harmony with your dreams

How your mindset around failure influences your grit

Our insight on worrying more about the WHY behind our goals than the HOW

The ‘trading places’ test for taking advice from others

Why resistance usually means you’re doing something right

How to reframe setbacks by asking, ‘How can I make this serve me?’

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia by Elizabeth Gilbert

Andy Frisella’s Power List on MFCEO EP107

Books on the Teachings of Abraham Hicks

The Secret

The Law of Action on Weebly

Double-Slit Theory

Napoleon Hill

Jim Fortin’s Transformational Coaching Program (TCP)

Change Your Perception, Change Your Reality - EP048 Jun 09, 2020

As the media shifts its attention away from COVID-19, public perception follows. We have something new to fear now, so the virus seems to have fallen off our worry list.

And yet, the only thing that REALLY changed was our focus.

So, what if you could leverage this idea to achieve your goals and attract the life you really want? What if changing your perception is the first step in changing your reality?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re explaining the science behind how our perception shapes reality. We reflect on the dramatic shift in public perception around the Coronavirus in recent days, discussing how we choose faith over fear and what you can do to find joy in this moment—no matter what’s going on in the world around you.

We go on to explore how fear functions to control a group of people, challenging you to see current circumstances as an opportunity for awakening. Listen in for insight on shifting your perception by asking who you have to be to achieve your goals and learn how to stop blaming others and take responsibility for your life.

Key Takeaways

How we choose faith over fear in every area of our lives

What happens when you decide something is going to be difficult + how that shapes your reality

Why it’s crucial to take action in THIS moment to produce a better outcome than you had in the past

How fear functions to control a group of people

Why we see the current circumstances as a great awakening

How recent events have inspired us to prioritize voting

How to find joy no matter what’s going on in the world around you (and share it with others)

The dramatic shift in perception around COVID-19 in the last week

How to shift your perception by asking, ‘Who do I have to be to get where I want to go?’

The sales concept of attraction vs. promotion

Why it’s easier to blame others than take responsibility for your life

How to look at money as a form of energy that comes from the universe

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

WhoNotHow by Dan Sullivan

Resources

Charlie Rocket

Charlie on Instagram

How to Improve Your Focus & Avoid Distrac—Squirrel! - EP047 Jun 05, 2020

Do you have a hard time finishing what you start? Are you overwhelmed with trying to do all the things and struggling to focus on the one most important thing right now?

We live in a world filled with distractions. Distractions that pull our attention away from our goals and take us to a negative place.

So, what can we do to get our priorities straight and stay on track?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the relationship between energy and focus, describing what happens when we give our attention to negativity. We explain why we have to fix what’s on the inside before we can be of service to others and offer tips on avoiding distractions like clutter or mindless scrolling on social media.

We go on to share how other things have taken a backseat while we focused on finishing our house, challenging you to be honest with yourself about what you can accomplish and prioritize accordingly. Listen in for insight on going into every situation with intention on the outcome and learn how you can improve your focus—and take your life to the next level!

Key Takeaways

The relationship between what we’re focused on and where our energy flows

How we get distracted by mindless scrolling on social media

The danger in giving our attention to the negative + why that’s easier for us than positivity

Why we have to fix what’s on the inside before we can be of service to others

How some things have taken a backseat while we focused on finishing our house

How to be honest with yourself about what you can realistically accomplish and prioritize accordingly

What it means to pivot and when making a change is (or isn’t) a good idea

The benefit of going into every situation with a focus on the outcome

Our top four tips for avoiding distractions and improving your focus

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Entrepreneurial Operating System (EOS)

Resources

‘No Politicking’ on the EOS Blog

Change is Inevitable - EP046 Jun 02, 2020

The only constant in our lives is change. And yet, many of us resist it with everything we’ve got.

But if you really want a better life, change is mandatory.

So, what can you do to get comfortable with change? How can you learn to get past the anxiety, take action and adapt?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re talking about change, explaining what happens when we fight change rather than responding to it. We discuss the connection between success and our willingness to be uncomfortable, challenging you to keep moving forward regardless of what other people think.

We go on to explore the evolution of our personal friendships, describing how we choose relationships based on value and why it’s crucial to go into every situation with a strong intention. Listen in for insight on the IDS approach to navigating setbacks and learn how to make the Law of Attraction work for YOU by getting into ACTION.

Key Takeaways

The relationship between success and our willingness to be uncomfortable

What happens when we fight change rather than adapting to it

Why we can’t stop progressing because it makes other people uncomfortable

How we create anxiety by putting off uncomfortable conversations

How to focus on friendships that will take you to the next level

Why we have to develop new skills in order to change for the better

How levelling up looks different depending on what season you’re in

Why it’s crucial to go into every situation with a strong intention

Our strategy for re-engaging rational thought when we’re in fight-or-flight

The IDS approach to navigating setbacks

Why the Law of Attraction only works when we take ACTION

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Entrepreneurial Operating System (EOS)

Resources

Rachel Hollis

Dan Peña

Double-Slit Theory

The IDS Issues Solving Track

Taking Action: The Law of Attraction is More Than a Mindset

The Stories We Tell Ourselves - EP045 May 29, 2020

How do you talk to yourself? Are you kind and encouraging? Or judgmental and mean? Would you allow someone else speak to you that way?

The stories we tell ourselves create fences in our mind. And more often than not, they hold us back from becoming the person we’re truly destined to be.

So, how do we reprogram those subconscious beliefs and choose a different way to live?

On this episode of the podcast, we’re discussing the stories we tell ourselves and explaining why you DON’T have to live with your conditioned beliefs. We challenge you to surround yourself with people who will elevate you and make decisions based on your vision of the future, not the way things have always been.

We explore some of the common stories we tell ourselves around money, work and coping with difficult situations and introduce you to strategies for becoming aware of those subconscious beliefs. Listen in for insight on reframing problems as opportunities and learn how YOU can transform the way you talk to yourself and live with more joy!

Key Takeaways

Why you DON’T have to live with your conditioned beliefs

The value in surrounding yourself with people who elevate you

How to make decisions based on your vision of the future

The stories we tell ourselves around deserving money

The common story re: joy and work being mutually exclusive

How to shift the way you cope with difficult feelings

The idea that money is an exchange of energy

How to develop self-awareness when you perpetuate anxiety

How to transform the way you talk to yourself and get your subconscious mind to work FOR you

What we do to reframe problems as opportunities

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

Resources

Invest in Yourself - EP044 May 26, 2020

Success looks effortless from the outside. But what you don’t see is the time and money top performers invested in honing their skills. The hours and hours of daily practice they dedicated to becoming the best possible version of themselves.

So, what can steps can you take NOW to be greater LATER?

What can you do TODAY to invest in your personal growth—that will pay off in the long term?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring what it means to invest in yourself. We explain what it means to us to ‘pay yourself first,’ offering advice on putting MONEY in a retirement account and investing TIME in habits that will move you forward.

We share simple strategies for investing in your health, your relationships, and your education—and then applying what you learn. Listen in for insight on investing in a side hustle that lights you up and learn how YOU can grow into a better version of yourself with the help of a coach or community that is invested in your success!

Key Takeaways

What it means to us to ‘pay yourself first’

Jeremiah’s advice on putting money in a Roth IRA or hiring a fiduciary

Mallory’s insight around investing TIME in habits that will move you forward

Simple ways to invest in relationships

How to invest in your education + apply what you learn

The importance of investing in your health with proper self-care

Why it’s crucial to invest in a side hustle that lights you up

How we define an investment as a short-term inconvenience that leads to a long-term payoff

The value in investing in a coach or mastermind when you’re stuck

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Book a 15-Minute Discovery Call with Jeremiah or Mallory

TED Talks

The Complete Works of Florence Shinn by Florence Scovel Shinn

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

Books Based on the Teachings of Abraham Hicks

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Want to Change Your Life? Raise Your Standards! - EP043 May 21, 2020

If you want to level up your life, you have to set the bar high.

But when you raise your standards, you run the risk of being disappointed when others don’t live up to those expectations.

So, how do you challenge yourself and the people you’re leading to aim high—without letting it steal your joy if they fall short?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re exploring Tony Robbins’ idea that if you want to change your life, you have to raise your standards. We explain how you teach people how to treat you based on what you’re willing to tolerate and discuss how to make decisions based on where you want to go and then build your standards around that vision.

We weigh in on why you don’t have to feel bad for refusing to accept less than you deserve, describing how to set boundaries based on the avatar you have defined for that particular area of your life. Listen in for insight around what to do when people fail to meet your expectations and learn how to accept people for who they are—without apologizing for your own high standards.

Key Takeaways

The definition of a standard as a level of quality used as a measure to compare

How most people do the minimum to get by rather than living to their potential

Why changing your life begins with raising your standards

How you teach people how to treat you based on what you’re willing to tolerate

How to make decisions based on where you want to go and build your standards around that vision

Why you don’t have to feel bad for refusing to accept less than you deserve

The value in building an avatar for each area of your life

How turning your SHOULD into a MUST allows you to take control of your quality of life

What to do when people don’t meet your expectations

How to accept people for who they are without apologizing for your own high standards

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Dr. Josh Henk on Destined to Be EP025

Amy Ledin on Instagram

Charlie ‘Rocket’ Jabaley

What to Do When You’re Feeling Down - EP042 May 19, 2020

Is the garbage weather and ongoing quarantine making you feel down?

Are you waking up with ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) and blaming your circumstances for the way you feel?

What if you could simply CHOOSE to feel good right now?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re offering advice on what to do when you’re feeling down. We explain why a vision for the future is crucial in keeping a positive attitude and describe how mantras and an intentional morning routine can help you shift out of a bad mood.

We go on share six questions to identify what is making you feel poorly and challenge you to leverage presence to feel more joy and abundance right now. Listen in for insight around what’s wrong with looking for fulfillment in externals and learn how to get out of victim mentality and take small steps each day toward a happier, healthier YOU!

Key Takeaways

Why a vision for the future is crucial in keeping a positive attitude

The problem with looking for fulfillment in externals

How to identify why you’re feeling down + leverage mantras to shift your feelings

The power of starting your day with an intentional morning routine

Mallory’s 6 questions to identify what’s making you feel poorly

Why we make bad decisions when we don’t feel good

How change is only possible when we get uncomfortable and do something different

The idea of FEAR as False Evidence Appearing Real

How being present helps us feel more joyful and abundant

How to get out of victim mentality + take daily steps toward your dream

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM) by Hal Elrod

Resources

The Miracle Morning for Network Marketers: Grow Yourself FIRST to Grow Your Business FAST by Hal Elrod and Pat Petrini with Honoree Corder

Morning Routines on Destined to Be EP006

Lori Harder

Evening Routines on Destined to Be EP012

Do Nothing & Be a Better Human—with Rob Dubé - EP041 May 14, 2020

Think you’re too high-strung to meditate?

The truth is, meditation is not about calming the mind or finding your Zen. But it can help you make better, more conscious decisions in your day-to-day. And be a kinder, more present human in general.

Rob Dubé is the Cofounder and President of imageOne, one of the Forbes Best Small Companies in America in 2017. He has also been an avid meditator for the last 13 years and founded Do Nothing to teach other leaders the business benefits of practicing mindfulness. Rob’s writing has been featured in Forbes, Thrive Global and EO Octane, and he is the author of Do Nothing: The Most Rewarding Leadership Challenge You’ll Ever Take.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Rob joins us to explain why he turned to meditation to ease his anxiety and how his mindfulness practice informs the way he runs his business. He offers insight into the misconception that meditation is about ‘getting away from it all,’ describing how the practice involves observing our thoughts—and then returning to the breath. Listen in as Rob shares his experience at extended silent retreats and learn what YOU can do to be truly present for your family, your team and yourself!

Key Takeaways

Why Rob turned to meditation to ease his constant anxiety

What inspired Rob to write Do Nothing about his experience at silent retreats

How Rob leads his business with kindness, compassion and love

How what’s going on in our minds + bodies doesn’t always align with the way we present ourselves

Rob’s response for people who say they’re too high-strung to meditate

The misconception that meditation is about ‘getting away from it all’

How meditation is a practice of recognizing our thoughts and then returning to the breath

Why the goal of meditation is not to be perfect but to be self-aware

Rob’s take on what it means to be truly present for another person

The value in taking extended silent retreats to practice meditation for longer periods of time

How our intuition gets stronger when we slow down

How ALL of our emotions are here to serve us—not just the positive ones

Rob’s insight on setting goals without being tied to the outcome

Connect with Rob

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Do Nothing: The Most Rewarding Leadership Challenge You’ll Ever Take by Rob Dubé

Resources

Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman

imageOne

EOS Worldwide

Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu

Lewis Howes

How to Level Up Your Crew- EP040 May 12, 2020

As Jim Rohn famously said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

So, is the crew you hang out with now helping you get to the next level?

If you want to improve your life, you have to start building relationships with people who are where you want to be. But how do you make those connections?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re introducing the idea that you are a product of your environment and explaining how to build a next-level community online by making intentional choices around who to follow and friend. We explain how to build relationships with successful people by way of relationship equity and offer suggestions for simple things you can do right now to provide value for others, both online and IRL.

We go on to discuss the value in asking where you want to be in year and then assessing whether your current actions and relationships reflect that vision. Listen in to understand how the energy you put into the universe comes back tenfold and learn what you can do right now to lift people up—and level up your crew!

Key Takeaways

The idea that you are the product of your environment

How to build a positive community online by making conscious choices about who you follow or friend

How to build relationships with successful people by providing value

What you can do to provide value on social and IRL

Why it’s crucial to uncover what brings you joy and do more of THAT

The value in asking where you want to be in a year and whether your current actions reflect that vision

What you can do to fill people up when you talk to them

How the energy you put into the universe comes back to you tenfold

How you can be a part of our Revolution Wellness crew

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Jim Rohn

Lewis Howes

Showing Up in the Shutdown #WorthyAF—with Christina Lecuyer - EP039 May 08, 2020

Have you put your life on pause during the COVID-19 shutdown? Are you waiting until the pandemic is over to become the best version of yourself?

The problem is, you are not getting this time back. So, what if you started living fully TODAY? What if you stopped playing the victim and started living your purpose, showing up to serve at your highest potential? What if you came out of this BETTER than you were going in?

What if it’s okay to be okay right now?

Christina Lecuyer is a former professional golfer, mindset coach and motivational speaker on a mission to help women gain confidence, find their purpose and design a life they truly love. Christina is best known for her signature immersive events, the popular Women with CLASS Mastermind and Decide It’s Your Turn: Women’s Weekend. She also hosts golf events for Forbes list CEOs, Wall Street execs, and a number of global charities.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Christina joins us to explain how she shifted her thinking around the Coronavirus pandemic, challenging us to reframe the shutdown as something that’s happening FOR us, not TO us. She shares some of the resources that helped her get from never-good-enough to #WorthyAF and describes the rock-solid routine that helps her show up each day as the best version of herself. Listen in to understand why it’s irresponsible NOT to take action on your God-given purpose and learn how YOU can attract abundance in your life right now by investing in yourself and serving others.

Key Takeaways

Christina’s transition from the life people told her to live to living with purpose

How Christina shifted her thinking around the Coronavirus pandemic

How to leverage a rock-solid routine built around becoming the best version of yourself

Christina’s advice on how to thrive through the COVID-19 shutdown

The resources that took Christina from never-good-enough to #WorthyAF

Why it’s irresponsible NOT to take action on your purpose

The value in having a coach to give you an outside perspective

How Christina defines confidence as the willingness to show up and serve others

The origin story around Christina’s live event Decide It’s Your Turn

How to reframe circumstances as happening FOR us rather than TO us

How to demonstrate trust in the universe by investing more right now

Why we can’t attract more of what we want with a scarcity mindset

How Christina thinks about sales as a long game founded on service to others

Connect with Christina

Christina’s Website

Christina on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Women with CLASS Mastermind

Resources

Decide It’s Your Turn

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown

You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

Dan Sullivan

Sell it Like Serhant: How to Sell More, Earn More, and Become the Ultimate Sales Machine by Ryan Serhant

From Mindless to Mindful: Living with Intention - EP038 May 06, 2020

Do you want to come out of the COVID-19 pandemic better than you were going in?

Then you need to be awake to your actions, thoughts and feelings. You need to stop moving through your days mindlessly and start living with intention.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re challenging you to examine what’s on autopilot in your life and start making mindful choices. We discuss how to build an awareness of why you’re doing what you’re doing and explain why creating new habits requires a shift in your attention.

We go on to introduce the question, ‘Is this serving the person I want to be?’ and share the value in having a clear idea of where you want to go. Listen in for insight on taking ownership as a leader when people don’t meet your expectations and learn how to shift out of victim mode, get present and live with intention.

Key Takeaways

Our challenge to examine what’s on autopilot in your life

Why the most powerful place to be on the planet is PRESENT

How to build an awareness of why you’re doing what you’re doing

The value in getting clear on where you want to go

Why creating new habits requires a shift in our attention

The power of asking, ‘Is this serving the person I want to be?’

How to shift out of victim mode by centering yourself in gratitude

What you can do to change the outcome of your life

How to take ownership when people don’t meet your expectations

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Myth of Multitasking on DTB EP003

Resources

Double Slit Theory

Extreme Ownership: How US Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

Designing a New Normal Around Who You Want to Be - EP037 Apr 30, 2020

“In the rush to return to normal, use this time to consider which parts of normal are worth rushing back to.”

—Dave Hollis

Have you been living on autopilot? Doing things because you feel like you have to? Or because that’s what you’ve always done?

As many states begin Phase 1 of the plan to reopen after the Coronavirus quarantine, we have a unique opportunity to make decisions about the way we want to show up moving forward and who we want to surround ourselves with.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re challenging you to make conscious choices around what activities you go back to and flex your NO muscle if something doesn’t align with your growth. We discuss the danger of getting caught up in legacy thinking and open up about the challenge of getting intentional about what you want your family to look like.

We go on to explain why letting your emotions control your actions can get you in a lot of trouble and share the power in surrounding yourself with people who fill you up. Listen in for insight on choosing relationships based on an equal energy exchange and learn how YOU can design a new normal around the person you’re truly destined to be!

Key Takeaways

The opportunity to pick and choose how you show up and who you go back to

How to flex your NO muscle when something doesn’t align with your growth

How our biology changes when we gossip or judge other people

The danger of getting caught in legacy thinking (we always…, we have to…)

How we separated from old beliefs + got intentional about what we want our family to look like

Why letting your emotions control your actions can get you in a lot of trouble

How to make decisions around what events/activities you return to

The power in unfollowing people who trigger you on social media

How to choose relationships based on an equal energy exchange + mutual growth

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Dr. Josh Henk on Destined to Be EP025

Resources

Rachel & Dave Hollis

Dave Hollis on Instagram

Julia Crozier on Destined to Be EP015

How to Grow Your Mental Fitness (Every Day of the Week!) - EP036 Apr 28, 2020

As we move into the month of May, several states are beginning the process of reopening businesses. But there is still a lot of concern around the ongoing spread of COVID-19, and we don’t know what the new normal will look like. In the face of all this uncertainty, there has never been a better time to grow our mental fitness. And that’s why we are declaring May as Mental Fitness Month for our community!

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re walking you through the daily mental fitness themes for our REVOLUTION WELLNESS Facebook Group in the month of May. We discuss Mindful Monday and Takeaway Tips Tuesday, introducing the meditation and manifestation practices and actionable advice we’ll be sharing with our community.

We go on to explain the specifics of Wellness Wednesday, Thoughtful Thursday and Feel Good Friday, describing how doing something kind for someone else benefits YOU and offering ideas for simple things you can do to serve the people around you. Listen in for insight on Spotlight Saturday and Super-Gratitude Sunday and learn how you can attract more good in your life by building your mental fitness with us!

Key Takeaways

Our daily mental fitness themes for REVOLUTION WELLNESS in May

Mindful Monday
Takeaway Tips Tuesday
Wellness Wednesday
Thoughtful Thursday
Feel Good Friday
Spotlight Saturday
Super-Gratitude Sunday

How to manifest abundance through meditation + mindfulness

Jeremiah’s take on mental wellness as Personal Development 2.0

How doing something kind for someone else makes us feel good

The power of music and movement to change our biology

Why we have to be grateful to attract more good into our lives

How reality is created by our perception of the circumstances

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Love and Clarity on Instagram

Replace Your Fear with Peace & Abundance—with Megan Everett - EP035 Apr 23, 2020

The current health crisis has many of us operating from a place of fear. We’re worried about losing money and some of us are losing our confidence, too. But what if we could shift from a mindset of scarcity to one of abundance? What if we could replace our anxiety with a sense peace and move forward in faith, knowing that whatever happens, we are going to be okay?

Megan Everett is the Founder and CEO of Perfrm, a software platform that helps sales professionals and teams meet their goals through data analysis and sales education. Megan launched the business in April of 2018, and within 18 months, she had grown Perfrm into a $27M company. She is also the mastermind behind Love and Clarity, a community dedicated to providing people with free resources and business strategy calls through the Coronavirus crisis.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Megan joins us to share her journey to building Perfrm, walking us through her bold moves from healthcare admin to commission-only sales to starting her own company. She offers her take on the pros and cons of the body positivity movement, challenging us to take care of the bodies we have—whatever size they may be. Listen in to understand how Megan is stepping up as a leader during COVID-19 and learn how YOU can replace fear with peace by joining her Love and Clarity Movement.

Key Takeaways

Megan’s bold career move from healthcare admin to commission-only sales

How selling door-to-door helped Megan develop the ability to handle a NO

How Megan came to start her own software company

The fundamentals of the Perfrm sales forecasting + quota tracking platform

Megan’s superpower in building relationships and connecting people

Megan’s take on the pros and cons of the body positivity movement

What inspired Megan to initiate the Love and Clarity Movement

Love and Clarity’s aim to replace the current climate of fear with one of peace

The responsibility we have as leaders to give back through the Coronavirus crisis

How Megan’s faith and abundance mindset fuel her confidence

Connect with Megan

Perfrm

Megan on Instagram

Love and Clarity

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Dr. Quantum Double Slit Experiment

Resources

Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes

Revolution Wellness Q&A Part II - EP034 Apr 21, 2020

Like it or not, life is going to look different on the other side of COVID-19. So, what can we do to take care of our mental wellness now and show up as a better version of ourselves once the stay-at-home orders are lifted? How can we combat our negative thoughts and channel our energy into the things that lift us up?

On this episode of the podcast, we’re answering a few more questions from our Revolution Wellness Facebook Group around their greatest challenges through the current health crisis. We discuss negative self-talk, explaining how to make the shift from primal to powerful and choose a NEW thought—

and encouraging you to give yourselves a little grace during this time.

We go on to offer advice for those of you who are struggling to relax, challenging our community to assess what’s important to us (and what isn’t) and make decisions accordingly. Listen in for insight on building business around what you’re good at and what the market needs versus what you’re passionate about or what other people think.

Key Takeaways

The misconception that our negative self-talk is real

How to squash Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) by asking, ‘Is this serving me?’

Why it’s important to give yourself grace when things aren’t perfect

Our advice for people who are struggling to slow down and relax

Why it’s crucial to assess what’s important to you and make decisions accordingly

How to channel energy into the things that fill you up

The value in creating a Not-To-Do list

How to build a side hustle around what you’re good at and what the market needs

Our insight on being unapologetic about pivoting to a new business

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

David Bayer

Church Boy to Millionaire: How to Find Personal Freedom and Liberate Your Millionaire Mindset for Massive Impact by Doug Wood

Todd Palmer on DTB EP003

Tracy O’Malley

Compassion International

PBS

Put Work Last & Grow Your Business—with James Patrick - EP033 Apr 16, 2020

Are you building your business backwards?

Are you putting your work first, at the expense of your physical and mental health? Spending little time with your family because you’re ‘too busy’? And hoping that the money you make will somehow fix it all?

What if you could put your health and relationships first—and STILL grow a successful business? What if a strong body and mind is actually the FOUNDATION for a high-performing entrepreneur?

James Patrick is an award-winning photographer (with 500+ covers on his resumé!), keynote speaker and business coach out of Phoenix, Arizona. He hosts the Beyond the Image podcast and serves as founder of FITposium, a conference designed to help fitness entrepreneurs grow their brands. James is also the bestselling author of Fit Business Guide: The Workout Plan for Your Brand, and he is on a mission to create art and opportunity for others.

On this episode of Destined to Be, James joins us to explain how niching down helped his business take off, discussing how he builds rapport with the athletes he photographs and what he does to get his work in front of the right audience. He shares his take on why good timing and luck aren’t enough to be successful, describing how someone else will win if you don’t take action. Listen in for James’ insight around prioritizing the health of your mind, body and relationships and learn how putting your business last can ultimately help it grow!

Key Takeaways

Why James initially tried to avoid becoming a photographer

How niching down helped James’ business take off despite being in a recession

How James builds rapport with the athletes he photographs

How James thinks about capitalizing on timing by putting in the reps

The mistake entrepreneurs make in not campaigning our work

James’ unapologetic pursuit of getting in front of the right audience

How having someone else win because he didn’t take action motivates James to do the work

What inspired James to start the FITposium conference

How putting work last ultimately helped James grow his business

James’ insight into why success + fulfillment can’t be conditional

Connect with James

James’ Website

James on Instagram

Beyond the Image Podcast

FITposium

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Fit Business Guide: The Workout Plan for Your Brand by James Patrick

Resources

A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future by Daniel H. Pink

Revolution Wellness Q&A Part I - EP032 Apr 14, 2020

Being quarantined is a big adjustment. Our days look very different now that we’re doing just about everything from home. So, what are you struggling with the most right now?

Are you having a hard time avoiding cookies and ice cream? Is it tough to stay focused on work with kids in the house? Or maybe you’re not inspired to work out by yourself?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing questions from our Revolution Wellness Facebook Group around their biggest challenges during the Coronavirus quarantine. We address stress eating, discussing what to ask yourself before you consume something unhealthy and how to forgive yourself if you do eat the rest of the Oreos—but make a better choice in the next moment.

We go on to offer advice on staying focused on work despite the distractions of kids and housework, explaining how to create the space and time to be productive (knowing that it’s not going to be perfect right now). Listen in for insight on getting motivated to work out at home and learn to leverage your WHY to show up and push yourself when going to the gym is not an option.

Key Takeaways

The questions to ask yourself before you consume unhealthy food

How to forgive yourself for stress eating but make a better choice in the next moment

Our advice on limiting poor food choices by drinking a lot of water + keeping fresh/frozen fruit on hand

How to create the space to be alone and work with kids at home

Why it’s important to set up a daily schedule knowing it won’t be perfect

How to focus on the quality of your work when the quantity is limited

Why it’s crucial to communicate with your partner about escaping to work out

How to frame our workouts around health vs. appearance

The value of working out with a WHY in mind to give it your all

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Kareen Walsh on DTB EP027

Resources

Lewis Howes on Instagram

A Value-First Approach to Building Community—with Tony Whatley - EP031 Apr 09, 2020

Are you living up to your full potential? Serving the number of people you could—if you were willing to put yourself out there? Tony Whatley believes that you can make a big difference and make money, if you focus FIRST on providing value for the community you’re building.

Tony is the Business Mentor and Keynote Speaker behind 365 Driven, a community that provides entrepreneurs with education, support, mentoring and accountability. He spent 15-plus years simultaneously working full-time in the oil and gas industry and building multimillion-dollar businesses on the side. Today, Tony is on a mission to help thought leaders fulfill their potential through his coaching program, Top-100 Ranked Podcast and Amazon #1 bestselling book, Side Hustle Millionaire.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Tony joins us to explain why he calls himself a business mentor rather than a business coach, walking us through his shift from an employee to business owner mindset. He discusses his first successful side hustle building an online automotive community and shares what inspired him to leave the corporate world altogether to found 365 Driven. Listen in to understand how Tony developed a willingness to STAND OUT and learn how YOU can make a true impact by focusing on service first.

Key Takeaways

Why Tony calls himself a business mentor rather than a business coach

How Tony learned discipline from his blue-collar parents

The steps Tony took to learn how to engage an audience

Tony’s first successful side hustle building an online community for GM performance cars

How Tony shifted from an employee mindset to a business owner mindset

What inspired Tony to leave the corporate world to create 365 Driven

The connection between making a true impact and being willing to stand out

The car accident that made Tony realize he wasn’t doing enough with his life

Tony’s superpowers in building community + identifying potential in others

Why Tony focuses on providing value vs. making money

Connect with Tony

365 Driven

365 Driven on Instagram

365 Driven on Facebook

Tony on LinkedIn

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Side Hustle Millionaire: How to Build a Side Business That Creates Financial Freedom by Tony Whatley

Resources

365 Driven Podcast

Arete Syndicate Mastermind

Toastmasters

STOP Playing the Victim - EP030 Apr 07, 2020

Are you sitting around in your pajamas, watching Netflix and waiting for the world to get back to normal? Breaking news: Things are never going to be normal again.

But YOU get to choose whether that’s good or bad.

Will you choose to blame others for the pandemic and play the victim? Or will you choose to see the disruption as an opportunity? Will you give your power away? Or take it back and move forward in love and gratitude?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the negative energy at play in the world right now, challenging you to STOP playing the victim and START raising your vibration. We explain how destructive thoughts cause disease in the body and why we’re focused on developing a willingness to be uncomfortable through the current uncertainty.

We go on to describe how we become more of what we already are in a crisis, encouraging to you limit your exposure to negative media—social or otherwise—through this challenging time. Listen in for insight on how the changes you’re experiencing now leave you with a choice: 1) To play the victim, or 2) To learn, grow and build a better life.

Key Takeaways

How negative thoughts impact the chemicals in our body

Why we should be asking what lessons we can learn from this moment in time

How we become more of what we already are in a crisis

The opportunity we have to deepen connections in spite of social distancing

How YOU can choose whether to be a victim or victor

Why we recommend limiting your news intake to 5 minutes/day

The low vibration at work right now and how it creates disease in the body

What you can do to raise your vibration TODAY

How success directly correlates with our willingness to be uncomfortable

How to use this experience as a wakeup call to build a second income

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Japanese Water Experiment

Integrating Spirit in Our Human Experience—with Jordan Sanchez - EP029 Apr 02, 2020

If the uncertainty of this moment in time has you fearful, now is the perfect to time to connect with Source energy. To remember the pure essence of who you are. To integrate your spirituality into this messy, beautiful human experience.

Jordan Sanchez is a Spiritual Teacher and Divine Channel, supporting people in recognizing their highest self and starting to live from that space. Miss Jordan is committed to helping humanity awaken to an elevated way of being through connection, understanding and inner truth. Her superpower is awakening the dormant DNA in our body, which allows us to operate from a higher frequency.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Miss Jordan joins us to discuss how she discovered (and then rediscovered) her ability to connect with Source energy, explaining how she helps others remember who they are and heal themselves. She explains why it’s crucial for us to honor the ego’s intention to protect us AND integrate our spirituality into that human experience. Listen in for Miss Jordan’s insight on how we each experience divinity differently and learn how to activate YOUR dormant DNA and cultivate a pure connection to Source.

Key Takeaways

When Miss Jordan discovered her ability to help people connect with source energy

Miss Jordan’s process of remembering who she was on a soul-essence level

How Miss Jordan helps other show up in their truth by BEING rather than DOING

How Miss Jordan serves as a conduit to help people heal themselves

Why we need to honor the ego and integrate spirituality into our human experience

What it means to activate and integrate our dormant DNA

The beauty in cultivating our purest connection to source

Miss Jordan’s sun analogy around how we each experience divinity differently

Miss Jordan’s insight on fostering a balance of masculine and feminine energies

Connect with Miss Jordan

The Miss Jordan

Miss Jordan on Facebook

Miss Jordan on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Miss Jordan on Your Badass Journey EP057

Resources

Gregg Braden

Bruce Lipton

Miss Jordan’s Rising Queen Community

The Queen’s Code by Alison Armstrong

Neale Donald Walsch’s Conversations with God Series

This is Temporary - EP028 Mar 31, 2020

Have you been going through life on autopilot, spending each day DOING what you think is necessary to HAVE the life you want?

If you’re anything like us, the order to stop DOING and stay home flipped your world upside down. But what if we reframe this experience as an opportunity to reset? To have a go at BEING instead of all the nonstop DOING? To take an inventory of how we’re spending our time and make new choices about how we show up in the world?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how we got caught up in fear and anxiety during our first week of quarantine and how we changed our perception with the question, ‘How can I make this serve me?’ We challenge you to raise the consciousness of your community right now (rather than peddling mass hysteria) and offer advice on unfollowing or muting the social media accounts that don’t serve you in this moment.

We go on to explain why it’s crucial to communicate with your partner about what you need to stay sane and encourage you to build new routines and habits around who you want to be in the weeks to come. Listen in for insight on the BE-DO-HAVE approach to a life of abundance and learn what you can do to choose BEING over DOING—and find a sense of self beyond the work you do every day.

Key Takeaways

The fast we’ve been on leading into the quarantine order in Michigan

How we were gripped by anxiety + fear in the first few days of isolation

How we changed our perception by asking, ‘How can I make this serve me?’

What we can do to raise the consciousness of our community in this time

Mallory’s advice on unfollowing or muting accounts that don’t serve you

The BE-DO-HAVE approach to a life of abundance

What we are doing to choose BEING over DOING

How to temper fear by pouring into what you’re certain of

Why it’s crucial to communicate with your partner re: what you need

How we’ve rediscovered the things that really light us up this week

How to build a quarantine plan around what you want life to look like

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Dr. Josh Henk on Destined to Be EP025

Resources

Jim Fortin’s Transformational Coaching Program

Kareen Walsh on Destined to Be EP027

‘Overcomer’ by Mandisa

Take Our Free Mental Wellness Assessment

How to Find Certainty in Uncertain Times—with Kareen Walsh - EP027 Mar 26, 2020

The ongoing global health crisis means that many of us are working from home. Our personal and professional roles (that used to be so separate and clearly defined) have begun to blend in this time of what Kareen Walsh calls work-life integration. What practical things can we do set up processes for working remotely? How can we stay connected and keep our vibe high during this period of isolation? And what can we do to find a little certainty, even in such an uncertain time?

Kareen is the Growth Strategist and Business Coach behind Revampologist, a consulting firm that works with executives and entrepreneurs on how to define a clear vision and achieve their goals with ease. She has worked in a range of industries, and her client roster includes BlackRock, Illuminent and Oppenheimer Funds. Kareen is also the host of Your Badass Journey, a podcast focused on helping you integrate what you love with what you do—daily!

On this episode of Destined to Be, Kareen joins us to share her expertise in working in remote environments, offering advice on setting up a designated space and time for work in your home. She explains why it’s crucial to give yourself 30 minutes to recharge every day during this period of isolation, challenging us to use this time to cultivate an appreciation for the life we have. Listen in for Kareen’s NOT TODAY practice for flipping fear on its head and learn how to leverage your resourcefulness in this uncertain time.

Key Takeaways

Kareen’s background + experience working in remote environments

Why it’s crucial to designate separate space and time for work and learning at home

Kareen’s insight on creating a screen-free recharging station to clear your mind

How to lean into certainty in uncertain times to become resourceful + strategic

Why Kareen is choosing to lean into resourcefulness and generosity in her business

How we can use this time to cultivate an appreciation for the life we have

Kareen’s NOT TODAY practice of flipping fear on its head

Kareen’s advice on taking a deep breath to pause before we react to triggers

Connect with Kareen

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Kareen’s 30-Minute Acute Care Call

Resources

Kareen’s Work from Home Framework

Kareen’s High-Vibe Tribe Challenge

Being Peace by Thich Nhat Hanh

Side Hustle: From Idea to Income in 27 Days by Chris Guillebeau

Throw Pillows - EP026 Mar 24, 2020

A good friend of ours got a divorce over throw pillows.

Of course, the real reasons likely ran much deeper, but throw pillows started the argument that set the breakup in motion.

And while it’s easy to judge and say, “Why would you argue about throw pillows?” the fact is that most of you are going to be spending a lot more time with your partner than usual over the next few weeks, and it may be challenging to keep perspective on what really matters.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to remember what’s really important to you and identify what’s underneath any resentments you may feel toward your partner during the Coronavirus disruption. We explain how we’ve gone about becoming aware of our strengths and weaknesses and trusting each other to make decisions in the areas we’re best at.

We go on to challenge you to find ways to serve others during this difficult time and describe how the energy we reflect on others comes back to us. Listen in for insight on surrounding yourself with a community that lifts you up and learn how to keep your relationships strong—even when life throws a curveball.

Key Takeaways

The concept of decision fatigue

How to develop trust in your partner to make decisions

The value in knowing your strengths and weaknesses

Why it’s best to make a decision fast but be willing to change

How to handle judgement when your life is not ‘normal’

How to define what’s REALLY important while you’re sheltering in place

Why it’s crucial to communicate any resentment you’re feeling

How the energy we reflect on others comes back to us

The importance of a community that lifts us up

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Article on Bezos’ 3 Decisions

Resources

The Power That Made the Body Heals the Body—with Dr. Josh Henk - EP025 Mar 19, 2020

Most of us were raised to trust doctors unconditionally and subscribe to the replacements for healing Western medicine has to offer. But Dr. Josh Henk believes that the power that made the body heals the body. And if we remove the physical and mental barriers that are getting in our way, the body will restore itself.

Dr. Josh is the founder of Transcendence Family Wellness Center, a practice designed to help families transcend the modern healthcare paradigm by demonstrating that health comes from within. Dr. Josh holds a Doctoral Degree in Chiropractic and a Master’s in Human Nutrition and Performance, and his holistic approach unites ancient philosophies with modern science, supporting patients with terminal and chronic health conditions who have not been successfully cured through traditional medicine.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Dr. Josh joins us to explain what called him to the work he does at Transcendence Family Wellness Center and how he replicates natural processes in his practice. He describes how he removes interference so that the body can heal itself, discussing the power of chiropractic to open up the light within and foster harmony among mind, body and spirit. Listen in to understand how getting his own spine in alignment allowed Dr. Josh to step into his destiny and find out what you can do TODAY to improve your physical and mental wellness.

Key Takeaways

What called Dr. Josh to his work at Transcendence Family Wellness Center

The idea that the power that made the body heals the body

Dr. Josh’s river analogy for removing interference so the body can heal itself

Why healthcare should NOT be an industry designed for profit

The power of chiropractic to open up the light within the body

How Dr. Josh uses philosophies that have been around since Biblical times

When we DO need the interventions of traditional medicine

How Dr. Josh thinks about pain as information

How getting his spine in alignment allowed Dr. Josh to step into his destiny

Dr. Josh’s insight on how our spirit speaks in energy

Dr. Josh’s practical advice on how to start taking care of yourself

Connect with Dr. Josh

Transcendence Family Wellness Center

Dr. Josh on Facebook

Call (586) 943-0584

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Longevity Project: Surprising Discoveries for Health and Long Life from the Landmark Eight-Decade Study by Howard S. Friedman and Leslie R. Martin

Resources

Dr. B.J. Palmer

Hippocrates

Dr. Eddie Weller

Get Your Side-Hustle On - EP024 Mar 17, 2020

How much are you worth?

If you trade your time for money at a traditional 9-to-5, your income is capped by the number of hours you’re willing to sell. But what if you opened up a second income stream? A side hustle where the money isn’t limited by how much time you put into it?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the importance of establishing multiple streams of income. We call BS on the popular excuse that you ‘don’t have time’ and share Mallory’s first experience with building a network marketing business—while she was running her fitness studio.

We also offer insight around what we’ve done to establish four different income streams, describing the importance of choosing something that resonates with you and aligns with your values. Listen in for advice on what to consider as you take on a side hustle and learn how to get past other’s expectations and get started TODAY!

Key Takeaways

How we MAKE time for the things that are really important to us

Mallory’s first experience building a network marketing business

The value in building a community of likeminded people

What we’ve done to establish multiple streams of income

The connection between success and having some sort of passion for what you do

How our energy goes where our attention is

Our top strategy for calling yourself on your own BS

What to consider when you’re choosing a side hustle

Why your lifestyle should never outgrow your smallest income stream

How to get past other’s expectations + start a side hustle NOW

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Amy Ledin on Destined to Be EP005

Marie Forleo

Ryan Stewman

Invest in Yourself & Manifest the Life You Want—with Samantha Kozuch - EP023 Mar 12, 2020

Are you hesitant to spend money on a coach or mastermind program? What if you thought of it not as an expense, but as an investment in yourself? And what if writing that check could accelerate your success and help you manifest the life you really want?

Samantha Kozuch is a social media expert and business coach for entrepreneurs. She is also the Cofounder of the Transformational Leadership Program (TLP) Mastermind, a unique platform that combines deep self-development with sales, strategies and systems for the ultimate personal and professional transformation. Samantha’s work has appeared on Oxygen, Inside Fitness and VH1, among many other media outlets.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Samantha joins us to explain how she got her start as a fitness influencer and what inspired her pivot to social media business coaching. She weighs in on The Law of Attraction, walking us through her manuscripting technique for manifesting what you want. Listen in to understand the benefits of being in a room with other high performers and learn how investing in yourself can take your business (and life) to the next level!

Key Takeaways

How Samantha got her start as a fitness influencer

Samantha’s pivot from fitness to the personal development space

Why monetizing your passion may NOT be a good idea

What inspired Samantha to shut down her lucrative video production company

Samantha’s manuscripting technique for manifesting what you want

Why Samantha has always had an attitude of gratitude

The benefits of being in a room with other high performers

How Samantha’s TLP Mastermind is structured

Samantha’s insight on the value of investing in a coach

Connect with Samantha

TLP Mastermind

Samantha on Instagram

Samantha on YouTube

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

How We Built Our Business & Balance It All - EP022 Mar 10, 2020

How do you grow a thriving business AND make time for your family?

What does it take to be a successful entrepreneur, living life on your own terms? And be the kind of partner and parent you can be proud of?

Is work-life balance a real thing?

On this episode, we’re discussing how we built our original masonry restoration business, walking you through what our lives looked like in the early days of our entrepreneurial journey. (Spoiler alert: We didn’t see each other much!) We explain the difference between a sustainable business and a job and describe the grit it took to keep Brickworks Property Restoration going and growing for the first several years.

We also weigh in on the value of a partner who supports the business by making sure things run smoothly at home and open up about the judgement we receive from our family and community around living an unconventional life. Listen in for insight on how our relationship, businesses and family life work together and learn why we focus on the quality of the time we spend together rather than the quantity.

Key Takeaways

Why Jeremiah didn’t take his masonry business seriously in the early days

How we lived separate lives in the beginning of our entrepreneurial journey

Why it’s crucial to spend less than you make and plan for emergencies

The difference between a sustainable business and a job

How Mallory supports the masonry business by making things run smoothly at home

The judgement we received from family + community around living an unconventional life

How GRIT was key in keeping the masonry business going for the first several years

Why quality is more important than quantity when it comes to time spent with our kids

Why you have to be obsessed with being successful

Why we go where we’re celebrated rather than just tolerated

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Napoleon Hill

The Mindset Shift to Make Lasting Change—with Elizabeth Benton - EP021 Mar 05, 2020

Have you been struggling with the same issue for years? Have you tried every available solution, but nothing seems to stick? If so, the problem is less about skill set and more about mindset. What if you let go of those past failures and started fresh in this moment? Do you have ONE good choice in you right now?

Elizabeth Benton is the author of Chasing Cupcakes: How One Broke, Fat Girl Transformed Her Life (And How You Can, Too) and the creator of Primal Potential, a platform designed to help people make lasting change and live more fulfilled lives. Elizabeth’s podcast, coaching program and live events focus on making the mindset shift necessary to get out of your own way and get results.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Elizabeth joins us to share the AHA moment when she realized that mindset was at the root of her struggle with food and weight, discussing the small steps she took to make one slight improvement at a time. She explains her past-is-NOT-prologue approach to overcoming the stories we tell ourselves and challenges us to conquer the false belief that we lack self-control. Listen in for insight into how Elizabeth has maintained her health in the face of challenging circumstances and get her top 3 tools for navigating a high-performance life!

Key Takeaways

Why Elizabeth wrote Chasing Cupcakes to help people make lasting change

The AHA moment Elizabeth realized that mindset was at the root of her struggle with food + weight

The first step Elizabeth took to make one slight improvement in her health

Elizabeth’s past-is-NOT-prologue approach to overcoming the stories we tell ourselves

The false beliefs we have around lacking control

How Elizabeth has maintained a healthy lifestyle by recognizing periods of push and patience

Elizabeth’s top 3 self-care modalities for navigating a high-performance life

Questions
Journaling
Meditation

How the desire to tell her story inspired Elizabeth to create Primal Potential

Connect with Elizabeth

Primal Potential

Primal Potential Podcast

Elizabeth on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Chasing Cupcakes: How One Broke, Fat Girl Transformed Her Life (and How You Can, Too) by Elizabeth Benton

Resources

12 Weeks to Transformation

Nutrition Fundamentals

Primal Potential Events

End the ISH - EP020 Mar 03, 2020

We’re three months into the new year. How are you doing on your goals?

If you aren’t making the progress you’d hoped, there are steps you can take to get back on the right path. But you’ve got to stop playing the victim and settling for the status quo. You’ve got to cut the ISH and start making changes NOW.

On this episode, we’re sharing the three choices we have when we fall off track on our goals. We explain why it’s easy to fall into victim mentality and blame our circumstances for a lack of progress, discussing how childhood experiences influence our beliefs about who we are and what we’re capable of.

We go on to explore why so many of us simply ignore our goals when we get off track and what we can do to forgive ourselves and make the next best choice to feel better. Listen in for insight around showing up as the person you want to be (even when you don’t feel like it) and learn to get present, cut the ISH and push forward on your goals!

Key Takeaways

The three choices we have when we fall off track on our goals

Sink into victim mentality
Ignore your goals because it’s easier
Cut the ISH and make changes

How to forgive ourselves and make the next choice to feel better

How Jeremiah’s fitness ‘phases’ relate to his childhood beliefs

Developing an awareness of why we anticipate a negative future scenario

The value in showing up even when we can’t give 100%

How living in congruence with who we’re destined to be impacts our physical health

Why it’s crucial to have an accountability partner who keeps us on track

Why being present is key in creating what we want in the world

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Mallory’s Post on Falling Off Track

Resources

Eric Thomas

Chris Harder’s Podcast

The Art of Masculinity on Facebook

Mastering the Art of Masculinity—with Johnny Elsasser - EP019 Feb 27, 2020

There is no one right way to be a man.

And yet, too many of us walk through life with a fake façade, thinking we have to conform to society’s prescription of masculinity. We take on the role of the alpha male and lose our authenticity.

But what if masculinity is much more fluid than that? What if being a man is really about showing up as a positive light and growing into the best version of ourselves?

Johnny Elsasser is a veteran of the US Army with four years of service in Special Operations with the elite 75th Ranger Regiment, performing four combat tours in Iraq and Afghanistan and spending an additional five years protecting the US Ambassador to Iraq. Today, Johnny serves as a self-development expert and host of The Art of Masculinity podcast.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Johnny joins us to share his journey from hiding behind his bravado to embracing his authentic self. He explains how the way we treat others is a projection of what’s going on inside us, describing his top strategies for shifting your perspective when anger arises and showing up as your best self. Listen in for Johnny’s advice around being a supportive partner and learn why the only RIGHT way to be a man is the one that makes YOU feel confident and in tune with who you are.

Key Takeaways

How Johnny helps men shed their fake façade + show up with authenticity

Johnny’s shift from hiding behind his ego to promoting self-development

How his military buddies’ struggles inspired The Art of Masculinity podcast

Why the way we treat others is a projection of what’s going on inside us

The Door Handle Check strategy for showing up as your best self

How Johnny shifts his perspective when anger comes up

Johnny’s tactics for communicating with your partner and giving each other grace

Johnny’s advice for men who are uncomfortable with their partner making more money

The value in keeping a shared gratitude journal with your partner

Connect with Johnny

The Art of Masculinity

Johnny on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Excuses Begone! How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Resources

The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins

Neil deGrasse Tyson

From Mental Illness to Mental Wellness - EP018 Feb 25, 2020

Do you suffer from long-lasting sadness or irritability? Extremely high or low moods? Excessive fear, worry or anxiety? Have you experienced dramatic changes in your eating or sleeping habits? Or periods of social withdrawal?

Have you always assumed that what you’re feeling is normal?

The truth is, if you answered YES to any of those questions, you’re exhibiting signs of mental illness. So, what can we do TODAY to take inventory of our mental health, become aware of what triggers us, and move the needle toward mental wellness?

On this episode, we’re sharing the five signs of mental illness—and why we don’t talk about it. We discuss the experience of feeling anxiety when a situation is out of our control and explain how blame and judgement attract even more toxic energy.

We go on to introduce the formal definition of mental wellness, describing how it involves being part of and bringing value to a community. Listen in for insight into designing your life around the things that bring you joy and learn to make ONE better choice in THIS moment to improve your mental health!

Key Takeaways

The five signs of mental illness and why we don’t talk about it

Jeremiah’s experience of getting anxious when he can’t control a situation

How mental wellness involves being part of + bringing value to a community

How to develop an awareness of what triggers your anxiety

The statistics around mental illness, addiction and access to treatment

Mallory’s advice on making ONE better choice in THIS moment

How blame and judgement attract more toxic energy

Jeremiah’s greatest challenge around not taking things personally

How to design your life to build in the things that bring you JOY

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

Resources

Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia by Elizabeth Gilbert

The Choice to Be a Cancer Survivor—with Jillian Murphy - EP017 Feb 20, 2020

Jillian Murphy was diagnosed with cancer at the age of five. During treatment, she overheard a doctor say that children who have positive attitudes do much better through the chemotherapy process. And she made the choice to be a survivor.

Jillian is a proud mother, three-time cancer survivor, weight loss transformation coach and professional fitness model. She also serves as the Director of Sales in the Health & Wellness Division at Lipari Foods. Jillian is passionate about sharing her understanding of the gut microbiome and its impact on mental wellness.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Jillian joins us to discuss her experience with childhood leukemia and explain how surviving cancer shaped her life. She describes the all-or-nothing attitude she leveraged to lose 70 pounds and earn her pro card as a fitness competitor. Listen in for Jillian’s insight on how mental wellness impacts every aspect of our health and learn how the right outlook can help you level up and create a better life!

Key Takeaways

Jillian’s experience with childhood leukemia and how it shaped her life

How Jillian thinks about modern medicine and when to question your doctors

How Jillian lost 70 pounds and started doing fitness competitions

How Jillian is finding happiness now in exercising because she loves it

How what lights us up can change over time

Jillian’s role in the Health & Wellness Division at Lipari Foods

How mental wellness impacts every aspect of our lives

Why Jillian dedicates her time to helping others level up + create a better life

Connect with Jillian

Jillian on Instagram

Jillian on Facebook

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Lipari Foods

Why You Should Want MORE Haters - EP016 Feb 18, 2020

How many haters do you have? If you only have ten, you should be striving for ten more.

Why? Well, haters don’t hate on AVERAGE people. The haters come out when you start voicing your big dreams. When you’re making an impact. When you’re living a life of abundance.

But how do you learn to live with people sippin’ on the Haterade WITHOUT taking it personally?

On this episode, we’re discussing why it makes people uncomfortable when we break out of mediocrity and become person we’re destined to be. We weigh in on how to admit that you do care about what the haters think—without letting it stop you or change the way you feel about yourself.

We also share our process for deciding how to respond when haters voice a negative opinion, sharing the question we ask ourselves and the reason why our egos are addicted to judgement and negativity. Listen in to understand why AVERAGE is the ENEMY and learn to be okay with it when people don’t understand what you’re doing.

Key Takeaways

The definition of a hater + how most haters want what you have

Why it makes people uncomfortable when we break out of mediocrity

How to admit that you do care without letting the haters stop you

Our choices for how respond to people who voice a negative opinion

Why our egos are addicted to negativity and judgement

How our scars help us become the person we’re destined to be

Why haters don’t hate on AVERAGE people

How to be okay with not everyone understanding what you’re doing

Why it’s crucial to keep showing up vs. putting a zero on the board

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Transform Your Gut Health for Optimal Performance—with Julia Crozier - EP015 Feb 13, 2020

We’re conditioned to respect the medical community and follow our doctor’s advice. But when Julia Crozier was prescribed a drug that didn’t address the cause of her inflammation (and only offered a 0.1% improvement in masking her symptoms), she knew there had to be a better way. Julia did her own research and healed from the inside out, leveraging an understanding of nutrition to transform her gut health.

Julia has a master’s degree in molecular biology with a concentration in stem cell research from Oakland University, and she is working toward a Holistic Nutrition Consultant certification. She also serves as a Research Assistant at Karmanos Cancer Institute where she is involved in ovarian cancer research. In light of her own experience, Julia is committed to helping others improve their gut health to achieve optimal performance.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Julia joins us to share her struggle with bloating, acne and inflammation, discussing what inspired her to look for answers beyond what the doctors told her. She walks us through the process of using an elimination diet to identify food sensitivities and transform your gut health, explaining how the human body was designed to eat mostly greens—despite what we’ve been conditioned to believe! Listen in for Julia’s insight on the link between a strong microbiome and an effective immune system and learn what simple steps you can take TODAY to improve your gut health.

Key Takeaways

Julia’s background in molecular biology, stem cells and holistic nutrition

How Julia struggled with bloating, acne and inflammation

What inspired Julia to look for answers beyond what the doctors told her

The difference between functional/holistic and western medicine

Julia’s surprise that doctors are not required to take a single nutrition course

How the elimination diet works to identify food sensitivities + transform gut health

How to develop an abundance mindset around starting a plant-based diet

Julia’s insight on how the human body evolved to eat mostly greens

The steps you can take NOW to improve your gut health

Add one serving of fruit or greens to meal
Start with one liter of water per day
Address sugar addiction with baby steps

How the skin functions as our biggest organ of elimination

The link between a strong microbiome and an effective immune system

Connect with Julia

Julia on LinkedIn

Julia on Instagram

Julia on Facebook

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

PubMed

Google Scholar

Get Uncomfortable & Make Progress Toward Your Dreams - EP014 Feb 11, 2020

If you’re not taking steps to make your dreams a reality, what are you waiting for?

If you’re not living up to your full potential and you feel stuck, it’s way past time to get uncomfortable and start doing the little things that will move you toward your goals. Because, seriously, if not NOW, when?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing the relationship between success and a willingness to get uncomfortable. We explain why setting up good habits is crucial in achieving our goals, describing how the little things we do every day build our confidence and lead to meaningful progress over time.

We also cover the danger of playing the comparison game, offering insight on how to design your life around what gives YOU energy and be present in everything you do. Listen in to understand why discipline is more important than motivation and learn to appreciate the PROCESS as you work to become the person you’re destined to be.

Key Takeaways

The connection between success + a willingness to get uncomfortable

Why we fall back on our habits (good or bad) when things get tough

How the little things we do every day build our trust in ourselves

Mallory’s insight on why discipline is more important than motivation

Jeremiah’s take on why PROGRESS is crucial to FULFILLMENT

The danger in comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle

Why couples must be willing to have uncomfortable conversations

The value in the PROCESS of working toward our goals

How to design your life around your unique strengths and priorities

How to push into your mission when you lack confidence

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Action Closer on Instagram

Serving Others Through Sales—with Jason Howland - EP013 Feb 06, 2020

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” --Zig Ziglar

Are you curious about network marketing but don’t see yourself as a salesperson? What if I told you that sales isn’t about pressuring people into buying something, but serving others by providing them with what they need? What if, by learning to sell (and helping others do the same), you could offer big-time value, make the world a better place AND get everything you want out of life in the process?

Jason Howland is the sales coach, speaker and business consultant behind Action Closer. He supports hard-working contractors stuck between doing the work and marketing it, teaching them the sales skills necessary to grow their businesses. Jason is also the author of the forthcoming book Becoming an Action Closer.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Jason joins us to share his definition of sales and explain how believing in the product and having fun contribute to what he calls sales-esteem. He weighs in on the difference between a salesperson and a closer, walking us through the four yeses you need to ask for the sale. Listen in for Jason’s insight around trading time for money versus providing value and learn how YOU can scale your impact by helping others reach their goals.

Key Takeaways

Jason’s definition of sales as SERVICE

How believing in the product and having fun contribute to sales-esteem

Jason’s tips for getting over your fear of selling

The difference between a closer and a salesperson

The 4 yeses you need to ask for the sale

Company
Product
Guarantee
Me

Why the objection you would give is the hardest for you to overcome

Jason’s take on trading time for money vs. the commission structure

Jason’s insight around the science of selling

The opportunity for entrepreneurs to scale their impact

How anyone willing to get out of their comfort zone can learn sales

Jason’s advice for practicing sales skills as a side hustle

Why anything you have to trick people into buying is not worth selling

Connect with Jason

Action Closer

Jason on Facebook

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Sell or Be Sold: How to Get Your Way in Business and in Life by Grant Cardone

Resources

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

Zig Ziglar

Facebook Marketplace

How to Take Inventory and Set Intentions with an Evening Routine - EP012 Feb 04, 2020

Morning routines get a lot of love for helping successful people start the day in their power. But the truth is, your morning routine is only as good as the preparation you do the night before. To wake up in a proactive state, you have to set intentions the evening prior. So, what does a purposeful nighttime routine look like?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our evening routine, discussing the technology we use to track the duration and quality of our sleep and the breathing exercises we use to reset the autonomic nervous system. We discuss our practice of praying out loud together at night and describe how we take inventory of the day and set expectations for tomorrow.

We also weigh in on how to process and reassign meaning to challenging events, reframing ourselves as victors rather than victims in any given situation. Listen in for insight on creating an effective Mind Movie to incorporate in your own evening routine (without getting distracted by your smartphone) and learn how to access your subconscious mind for solutions while you sleep!

Key Takeaways

How preparing the night before helps us wake up in a proactive state

The technology we use to track the duration and quality of our sleep

Leveraging breathing exercises to reset the autonomic nervous system

Our practice of praying out loud together before we go to bed

How to take inventory of your day and set expectations for tomorrow

How to reassign meaning to an event as a victor rather than victim

Why Jeremiah likes to process catastrophic events in writing

How we incorporate the Mind Movie as part of our evening routine

How + why we minimize the time spent on our smartphones at night

How to access your subconscious mind for solutions while you sleep

Mallory’s advice on doing a brain dump of ‘things to do’ before bed

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Morning Routine on DTB EP006

Calm App

Pavlok

Beautyrest Sleeptracker

Amy Ledin on DTB EP005

Are You Chasing Money or Fulfillment?—with Michael Dash - EP011 Jan 30, 2020

Michael Dash was successful in the conventional sense of the word. He was making a lot of money running a staffing business, but he was a miserable human. He started every day by popping an Adderall, and he felt like his company was running him—instead of the other way around. And though he was cynical about self-development, he couldn’t help but ask, ‘Would it be so bad to life a different way?’

Michael is the seasoned entrepreneur behind MD Coaching and Mentoring, a practice dedicated to helping business owners take their revenue to the next level. He is also the bestselling author of Chasing the High: An Entrepreneur’s Mindset Through Addiction, Lawsuits, and His Journey to the Edge and the creator of FATE (From Addict to Entrepreneur), a program designed to help people take control of their compulsive behaviors and step into the leader they were born to be.

On this episode of the podcast, Michael joins us to share his experience with a gambling addiction and his journey as an entrepreneur, explaining why multiple seven-figure success in the recruiting industry did not bring him fulfillment. He discusses how we’re programmed by societal norms to follow a certain path and why he was skeptical about self-development concepts like manifesting, flow and intuition. Listen in for insight on Michael’s four-step process for getting aligned with your true purpose—from self-recognition to curiosity to action to community.

Key Takeaways

How Michael developed a gambling addiction at the age of 11

Michael’s first foray into entrepreneurship as a bookie + drug dealer

Michael’s success building a company in the recruiting industry

How Michael separated gambling and drug use from his career

The surprising reason Michael attended his first Gamblers Anonymous meeting

How Michael’s side hustle hiring reps for E*TRADE Financial grew into a new business

How to break free of the societal norms that program us to follow a certain path

Michael’s introduction to the ideas of flow, manifesting and intuitive energy

How self-development work helped Michael shift the way he makes decisions

How money proved to be Michael’s biggest addiction of all

Michael’s 4-step process for getting aligned with your true purpose

Connect with Michael

Michael’s Website

Michael on Facebook

Michael on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Chasing the High: An Entrepreneur’s Mindset Through Addiction, Lawsuits, and His Journey to the Edge by Michael G. Dash

Resources

Leveraging Challenges to Create a New Vision for Your Life - EP010 Jan 28, 2020

When you’re in the middle of a challenging situation, it can feel like your life is over. But in retrospect, those difficulties—and how we respond to them—can help us get closer to who we’re destined to be. And if you’re doing it right, the tough times will deepen your bonds with the people who really matter and give rise to a new vision for your life.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing Mallory’s journey as an entrepreneur, wife and mother, describing how each of her businesses have focused on helping people change their lives for the better. You’ll find out about her upper-middle-class upbringing in a close-knit, entrepreneurial family and discover how her childhood shaped her identity as an overachiever.

We also explore what inspired Mallory to help women succeed, first as a certified personal trainer and then as a leader in the world of network marketing. Listen in as Mallory gets real about her difficult experience with pregnancy and postpartum depression and learn how we design our own destiny as a couple, leveraging challenges to strengthen our connection and build a vision for the future.

Key Takeaways

Mallory’s upper-middle-class upbringing in an entrepreneurial family

How Mallory’s childhood shaped her identity as an overachiever

How Mallory’s DUI turned into the best thing to happen to her

What inspired Mallory to become a certified personal trainer

How Mallory’s Zumba studio became such a big part of her identity

Mallory’s difficult experience with pregnancy + postpartum depression

Why Mallory decided to start doing fitness competitions

When we started to design our own destiny as a couple and family

Mallory’s insight on leveraging challenges to create connection + vision

Why you don’t have to internalize what other people think of you

How Mallory helped women succeed as a leader in network marketing

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams MD

Resources

Books by Gabrielle Bernstein

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

Leverage the Enneagram as a Roadmap for Growth—with Tracy O’Malley - EP009 Jan 23, 2020

When unhealthy behaviors rear their ugly head, do you beat yourself up about it? What if you understood WHY those behaviors show up when you’re triggered? What if you were self-aware enough to have compassion for ALL the parts of yourself, good and bad? The Enneagram test offers us a way to understand our core motivations, identify a vision of our best selves, and get on the path to healthy growth.

Tracy O’Malley is a world-renowned business coach who helps women ignite their purpose and build a legacy. A thought leader in the network marketing space, Tracy made her first million within two years of launching her business. Since then, she has helped thousands of others demolish negative patterns and get unstuck, doing what it takes to live their most prosperous life. Part of Tracy’s secret is her expertise in the Enneagram, the personality test she uses to help people accelerate transformation and create sustainable and lasting change.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Tracy joins us to explain what the Enneagram can tell you about your temperament and how it provides a roadmap for growth. She discusses where to find the test and how to interpret the results by focusing on the healthiest parts of you first. Listen in for Tracy’s insight on the relentless commitment it takes to honor ALL the parts of ourselves and learn how you can use the Enneagram to gain self-awareness and serve others for the greatest good.

Key Takeaways

What the Enneagram personality test can tell you about yourself

How being introduced to the Enneagram in rehab gave Tracy a roadmap for growth

How the Enneagram transformed Tracy’s relationship with her kids

How knowing her type gave Tracy compassion for her unhealthy behaviors

Where to find the Enneagram test + how to interpret the results

How to use unhealthy behaviors as a heads up that you’re off course

Tracy’s take on people who don’t want to do the work

The relentless commitment it takes to respect ALL the parts of yourself

Tracy’s high involvement, no attachment approach to serving others

How to use the Enneagram better understand and serve other people

Connect with Tracy

Tracy’s Website

Tracy on Instagram

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Move Past Addiction, Change Your Thoughts & Transform Your Life - EP008 Jan 21, 2020

We ALL struggle with addiction. For some of us, it’s substance abuse. Others have a weakness for food or shopping or scrolling Instagram. Most of us are addicted to negative thoughts. The voice in our head that tells us the world is against us. That life isn’t fair. That we’re not good enough. So, how can we learn to move past our addictions, change our thoughts, and attract the life we want?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing the story behind our mission to inspire people when they feel stuck. You’ll find out about Jeremiah’s middle-class upbringing in Detroit and learn how his parents’ divorce led to his struggle with drug and alcohol addiction and multiple trips to rehab.

We also discuss how Jeremiah was introduced to personal development through the 12 Step Program and how he came to build a masonry restoration business that serves as a safe place to work for people in recovery. Listen in for insight around how small, practical actions lead to big changes and learn to attract what you want by transforming the way you think AND feel.

Key Takeaways

Our mission to pour into other people who feel stuck

Jeremiah’s middle-class upbringing in Detroit, MI

How his parents’ divorce changed the course of Jeremiah’s life

The drug/alcohol addiction that had Jeremiah in and out of rehab

How Jeremiah got into masonry restoration work

How Jeremiah’s business employs people in recovery

Jeremiah’s introduction to personal development

The resilient mindset that allows Jeremiah to see the hope

Why the key to success is to ‘give a shit’

How change begins with small, practical actions

How to attract what you want with thoughts AND emotions

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

WhoNotHow by Dan Sullivan

Resources

Jim Kwik Book Recommendations

The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear

The Path Made Clear: Discovering Your Life’s Direction and Purpose by Oprah Winfrey

Chris Harder Mastermind

Building a Brand Around Your WHY with Joey Speers - EP007 Jan 16, 2020

What attracts consumers or clients to one brand over another? What it is about Apple’s marketing that inspires fierce brand loyalty (and generates three times as much revenue as HP)? The most successful companies in the world don’t sell, they brand. So, how can we leverage the same principles to build a successful personal brand?

Joey Speers is the founder of JS Media, a creative agency that believes every business deserves customized solutions. His team of photographers, filmmakers, branding experts and social media marketing professionals is based in Ontario, Canada. Joey is also the creator of The Creative Rise Mastermind, a coaching platform that serves creatives in building successful businesses.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Joey joins us to explain why a brand is more than its external characteristics and how it encompasses the whole of what we experience as consumers. He discusses why Apple’s marketing appeals to both sides of our brain, describing how we can leverage an understanding of human behavior to connect with ideal clients and build loyalty around our own brand. Listen in for Joey’s insight on identifying different WHYs for different aspects of your life and learn how to start proactively creating a personal brand based on what you believe about the world.

Key Takeaways

What inspired Joey’s EARLY entry to entrepreneurship

How Joey defines a brand as what’s experienced

How brand health is dictated by the execution of brand identity

Why it’s crucial to understand human behavior to excel in business

How Apple’s marketing appeals to BOTH sides of the brain

How to uncover the WHY behind your I help… statement

How leading with WHY connects you with ideal clients + builds brand loyalty

The Golden Circle approach to marketing your brand

The benefit of identifying different WHYs for different parts of your life

Joey’s actionable advice for starting to build a personal brand

Connect with Joey

JS Media

The Creative Rise Mastermind

Joey on Instagram

Joey on YouTube

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Joey Speers Brand Therapy

Resources

Start with WHY: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek

Find Your WHY: A Practical Guide for Discovering Purpose for You and Your Team by Simon Sinek, David Mead and Peter Docker

Brendon Burchard

The Power of an Intentional Morning Routine - EP006 Jan 14, 2020

Good days start with intentional mornings. Get your mindset right first thing, and you show up throughout the day as a proactive, more creative version of yourself. Start the day with the snooze button or your smartphone notifications, and you spend the day reacting to what someone else thinks is important.

So, why wouldn’t you set yourself up for success by starting each day with a purposeful morning routine?

On this episode, we’re sharing our nighttime and morning routines, walking you through our practices for becoming the people (and the couple) we’re destined to be. We explain how what you do before bed impacts the way you feel in the morning and describe the mantras we use to cultivate positive thoughts. Listen in for insight around tracking your sleep cycles and learn the benefits of starting each day with a commitment to learning, honoring your body, and becoming the best version of yourself!

Key Takeaways

How your nighttime habits impact the way you wake up

Why it’s crucial to avoid blue light before you go to bed

How Jeremiah uses the Pavlok to track his sleep habits

The benefits of being a member of the 4AM Club

The danger around checking your phone in the morning

Some of the top mantras for changing your thoughts

How sleep cycles affect the way you feel in the morning

How hitting snooze sets a negative tone for your day

How a gratitude practice can shift your frame of mind

Why we listen to podcasts/audiobooks during cardio

Our meditation practice for becoming our best selves

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Pavlok

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

Zig Ziglar

Mel Robbins

The Miracle Morning for Real Estate Agents by Hal Elrod, Michael J. Maher, Michael Reese, Jay Kinder and Honoree Corder

The Miracle Morning for Network Marketers by Hal Elrod, Pat Petrini, Honoree Corder and Ray Higdon

Earn Your Happy Podcast

Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday Podcast

The Skinny Confidential

Power List

Train Your Brain to Become Your Best Self with Amy Ledin - EP005 Jan 09, 2020

Tired of breaking promises to yourself? Wish you had the discipline to grow into the best possible version of you? The truth is, you can change. You can choose how you show up in the world. And it starts with training your brain to do the work. Making choices that build your confidence every day.

Amy Ledin is a cancer survivor, high-performance coach, and co-owner of Lead Bodies Consulting, a coaching program that offers customized weight training, cardiovascular exercise, and nutrition programs to help clients achieve their health and fitness goals. Amy also happens to be a Rockstar in the realm of training your brain to get the results you want, and her anchoring techniques and intention-setting systems are designed to support people in showing up as their best selves.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Amy joins us to explain how overcoming cancer led her to the personal development space and share the specific anchoring techniques she uses to CHOOSE the way she wants to feel. She introduces us to her process for defining your core values and best-self characters, describing the power of returning to your WHY when motivation runs out. Listen in to understand the value of investing in your own personal growth and learn Amy’s Daily Agreement Card method for setting intentions that embody the best version of yourself.

Key Takeaways

How overcoming cancer led Amy to the personal development space

The anchoring techniques Amy uses to choose the way she feels

The power of future-self visioning to embody a better version of you

Amy’s process for defining your core values + best-self characters

How Amy’s Daily Agreement Cards cultivate self-discipline

Why picking intentions that are hard help build our confidence

The connection between clear vision and a deep, meaningful WHY

Amy’s insight around the value of keeping your word

How the ability to delay gratification extends to every area of life

Why investing in personal growth is the highest form of commitment

Connect with Amy

Amy on Instagram

Lean Bodies Consulting

LBC Facebook Group

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Resources

Books by Dean Graziosi

Elizabeth Benton

Stanford’s Marshmallow Experiment

75HARD

How to Set AND Achieve BIG Goals for 2020- EP004 Jan 07, 2020

If your goals don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.

The only way to lead a truly exceptional life is to break out of the box you’ve put yourself in and set some audacious goals for the new decade. But how do you move from dreaming to doing? How do you create an action plan to achieve those big goals? And how do you stay motivated on the days it gets hard?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re challenging you to stop thinking small and start setting goals that make you uncomfortable. We explain why it’s crucial to know the WHY behind your goals and describe how to build a time-bound, actionable plan around each of your aspirations. Listen in to understand the value of physically writing your goals on paper and learn to leverage strategies like the Power List to take small steps toward your big dreams each and every day!

Key Takeaways

Why it’s crucial to have a clear vision before you set goals

The value of knowing the WHY/emotion behind each goal

Why every goal needs a time frame + an actionable plan

Our challenge to think BIG and set goals that scare you

The benefit of writing your goals down with pen + paper

The dopamine hit we get from crossing items off a notecard

Leveraging your reticular activator system to reach goals

How to prioritize + cut out things that are a waste of time

The power of starting your goals with the phrase I will/am

How to use Andy Frisella’s Power List to win your day

How to create a virtual vision board using Mind Movies 4.0

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

No-Limits Vision on Destined to Be EP002

Resources

Power List on MFCEO Project EP107

EOS Tools for SMART Goals

Give Up Multitasking & Get Fully Present—with Todd Palmer- EP003 Dec 31, 2019

Think you’re a Rockstar at multitasking? As Todd Palmer explains, it’s scientifically impossible to do two things at once. When you’re simultaneously responding to a work email and talking to your partner, your brain is moving back and forth and back and forth and back and forth… And you’re not fully present in either pursuit.

Todd is the Founder and Chief Rulebreaker at Extraordinary Advisors, a coaching firm that helps CEOs, entrepreneurs and executive leadership teams turnaround or scale their businesses. Prior to Extraordinary Advisors, he spent 25 years at the helm of Diversified Industrial Staffing, a recruiting company that specializes in representing and placing skilled trade professionals and high-end machinists. Todd is committed improving lives and approaching each day with authenticity, transparency and vulnerability.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Todd joins us to explain how a coach helped him save his recruiting business, taking it from $600K in the red to the Inc. 5000 list of fastest-growing companies (six times!). He introduces us to the idea of trading temporary happiness for a sustainable sense of satisfaction and shares how he achieved work-life integration as a single dad and entrepreneur. Listen in for Todd’s insight around being fully present and listening to absorb—and learn to manage your time according to what’s really important to you!

Key Takeaways

How a coach helped Todd go from $600K in debt to the Inc. 5000

The value of a coach who is actively engaged in lifelong learning

Why happiness is impossible to maintain but satisfaction is doable

Todd’s and/both vs. either/or approach to work-life integration

How Todd responds to people who feel like they don’t have time

Why the ability to multitask is scientifically impossible

How to manage your time according to what’s important to you

The reframe of success as doing what you want when you want

Todd’s strategies for listening to absorb and be fully present

How Todd works to be authentic, transparent and vulnerable

Connect with Todd

Extraordinary Advisors

Connect with Jeremiah & Mallory

Diversified Industrial Staffing

Resources

SuperSmartHealth

Creating (and Manifesting) a No-Limits Vision for 2020 - EP002 Dec 31, 2019

Wouldn’t it be cool if…?

We’ve all dreamed about winning the lottery. It’s fun to think about what we might do with all that money—and the time it would free up. But what if you didn’t have to play Powerball to live that life? What if you stopped setting boundaries for what is possible and started working toward a LIMITLESS vision of the future?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re taking you through the first steps of creating a no-limits vision for 2020. We discuss the crucial questions to ask yourself, explaining why it’s important to get super-specific about 1) where you want to go, and 2) the kind of person you want to be. Listen in for insight on aligning your WHY with your VISION and learn how to stretch your imagination to manifest the kind of life you really want!

Key Takeaways

How vision is defined as a no-limits way to think about the future

The crucial questions to ask yourself in crafting a vision for 2020

Where do I want to go?
Who do I want to be?

Mallory’s story of visualizing taking first place in a competition

Why it’s crucial that your WHY and your VISION go together

How to stretch your imagination by asking, “Wouldn’t it be cool if…”

Why it’s okay to pivot as long as you move forward on your vision

The value of getting granular about what you want life to look like

Jeremiah’s ‘pour into the people' vision for his masonry company

How the Law of Reciprocity impacts how your vision comes to life

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Resources

Dr. Oz on On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Forbes Article on Visualization

Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable by Tim S. Grover

Leverage Self-Development to Become Who You’re Destined to Be - EP001 Dec 31, 2019

It’s not enough to know. You have to know HOW.

If you’re obsessed with self-development the way we are, you know that there is a TON of great information out there. The problem is figuring out how to digest and internalize that information. How do you sort through all the data and actually APPLY the best ideas in your day-to-day life?

On the inaugural episode of Destined to Be, we’re introducing you to the idea behind our podcast: To offer you a practical way to process the personal growth info that’s out there and USE it to become a better version of yourself. We discuss the challenge of overcoming the limiting beliefs we’re all raised with, the value in surrounding ourselves with extraordinary people, and the potential for each and every one of us to be happy—regardless of our circumstances. Listen in for insight around what to expect in upcoming episodes and join us in the pursuit of becoming who you are destined to be!

Key Takeaways

The challenge of overcoming the limiting beliefs we’re raised with

Who you can expect as guests on the Destined to Be Podcast

How imposter syndrome holds us back from getting started

How we leverage intention to live a life by design

How it’s possible to be happy regardless of your circumstances

Why it’s crucial to surround yourself with extraordinary people

What to ask yourself before taking someone’s advice

Our aim to help you digest + apply information in your daily life

Why full understanding is a prerequisite to teaching someone else

What to expect in upcoming episodes on success + happiness

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Debt Cures ‘They’ Don’t Want You to Know About by Kevin Trudeau

Resources

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Gabby Bernstein’s Choose Again Method

Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Gabby Bernstein

Jim Kwik

Destined To Be Podcast Trailer Dec 24, 2019

Is there an area of your life where you feel stuck? Ready to make a change?

We live in a challenging world. A world where it’s easy to feel like your messy life will never be Instagram-worthy. And those feelings of not-good-enough are what keep you from achieving your full potential.

That’s why we’re here. Every week on the podcast, we bring you tangible takeaways to get un-stuck and live with intention. To overcome your limiting beliefs and show up as the person you’re destined to be. To get out of your head and into your heart.

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