Stay ConnectedI am Jai The Gentleman and this Dear Black Gay Men Podcast.
It’s a short, bullshit-free step out of our comfort zone to talk about all the emotional ups-and-downs along the journey to happiness. Hopefully, this is our weekly reminder of how dope it is to be Black gay men who love Black gay men.
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I advocate for the single life because a purposeful single life leads to purposeful, fulfilling relationships. I learned that lesson from a whole host of failed dating attempts. These are the nuggets I picked up along the way.
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If nothing else, I am consistent. Stood up for a date so I started a podcast. Stood up again by the same dude, must mean season 2. Another failed dating attempt, must mean it's time to get back to work. Thanks universe.
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It was an ass appointment that reminded me of a preacher with a Jheri curl. Long story, but a good lesson.
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If you’ve ever been ghosted, it can be hard to pick up the pieces especially if you were really cutting for this man. When I got ghosted, luckily, I knew it was his loss, but it still hurt. This is my story. Hopefully you can relate.
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I’ve dated men who were EXCITING and that made me EXCITED to be around them. Then I dated men who were just a date. Because I’ve been on both ends of the excited-ness spectrum, I’m pretty good at pulling out some hallmarks to know when he’s actually excited about you, or if it’s just a show.
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Even though I’m healed now, I’m guilty as anyone else of hurting people in my past. This episode is my story of figuring out what gaslighting is, how I gaslit my ex, and what I did to overcome it—my healing process.
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After recording this one, I've realized that I dedicated a lot of energy to "Joe" for one reason. This episode, I'm talking through how I learned that it's way past time to move on.
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Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.
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I be quitting shit. Quitting people, quitting projects, quitting everything I've set my mind to. Well, not everything, but a lot of stuff. So I'm talking about how I'm not quitting this season and the lessons I'm learning by persevering.
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Our purpose is to be the voice of our culture: talking to Black gay men, about Black gay men and for Black gay men in ways that thinks us forward.
I had an ex, Terry, who taught me the most valuable lesson of all: cheating has nothing to do with sex. This is the story.
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The most random conversation in the DMs gave me two HUGE insights on my own dating life and our culture. Spoiler Alert: you may want to stay out my DMs. #SingleLife #Identification #RepresentationMatters #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate
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Glory holes have intention behind them--not just the people that use them. There's a lesson there if you allow it. #hookups #entanglements #anon #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate
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Why do we end up doing the "so what's up" tango when we hook-up? I got a huge aha about our interests and attractions on my last entanglement. #Hookups #SingleLife #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate
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Break ups suck, no matter who you are and who initiated. It takes time and work to get back to yourself “with full mobility”. These are 5 benchmarks along the journey. #BreakUps #DatingAdvice #SingleAdvocate
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This video is your secret guidebook to understanding what kind of versatile you are, what kind of versatile he is, and how y’all can make magic together. #datingadvice #sexcoach
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I’ve pursued deeply unavailable men for the my whole life as an out, Black gay man. Giving too much, compensating for their disinterest and releasing all my agency. These are some critical life lessons I picked up along my journey to happiness. Thanks @Case Kenny #relationshipadvice #podcast #blackgaymen
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Can we ever stop overthinking? Is that ever a good thing? Is there a such thing as Virgo seduction? This week, we ring in a new astrological season as I discuss what to your virgo won’t stop virgo-ing.
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If you’ve ever had boring online conversations with potentials, it’s probably because of one of these reasons
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In this episode, I talk about how I protect my emotions when I'm engaging, and why it's holding some of us back from true connection.
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In this episode, I talk about the epidemic of asking for things we're really not ready for and how I overcame my lack of emotional and sexual preparedness.
But then I also talk about why bottoms are the cornerstone of our culture.
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In this episode, I talk about why getting out of other folks' business is so much more than just gossiping and it actually will unlock your (and others') blessings.
ha-ya-bo-ho-ko-shah...
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Encanto had me in the full ugly cry because I realized I'm Bruno with a Mirabel twist.
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I'm taking a break from my "Joe Chronicles" to talk about my last time going to the s*x house...and what I learned from it.
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My best friend Maquan (@TruthfullyLoyal on IG) gave me maybe the best relationship advice I've ever gotten as the dating saga with Joe continues.
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Jerrod Carmichael bravely talks about what it means to live with a lie and the hard journey someone close to him had to take to overcome it. Oh...and he came out as gay.
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I was on a cabin trip...but not one of "those kind" of gay cabin trips and somebody asked me the best question about relationships. I didn't have an answer then, but I got one now.
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I hated on Durand Bernarr so bad. Yes, I'm a hating @ssed n*gga. But I'm overcoming and evolving. You know what I call that?
Growth
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I'm watching this White gay couple live off the grid, and I'm thinking, "Do we do stuff like that?" "Do we even want to?" I'm ready to argue, cuz I can feel it coming.
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When Jhené Aiko said that, I felt that shit. This episode is me realizing I aint' where I want to be, but I'm definitely not where I used to be.
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We've traveled down the road and back again. Joe wants to be my friend.
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"I was expressing a relationship" was probably the biggest epiphany I had. "When he walks away from me, I want that n*gga to feel that sh*t."
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It's me. I'm n*ggas. I'm excited to be back to the podcast. Being on this side of this question makes sure I never have to give any answers.
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I talked to Lamont White of Better Way to Meet for my YouTube channel and he told me it's okay to be single. So blame him when I say, "F*ck y'all's Valentines". #SorryNotSorry
I thought I was going to brunch, but I learned what my type is, how I want that nigga to treat me, and why my sister is not the be f*cked with. I need another mimosa...
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You ever wanted to holler at somebody, but his resting bitch face put you off? That was me until I got this big lesson
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In this episode, I talk about the time someone slid in my DMs but didn't want nothing. This dating life is frustrating.
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In this episode, I talk about Joe. Joe wanted to "check the vibe" with me. I guess the vibe I was giving isn't what he intended. His bad...
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In this episode, I talk about how a 5-minute conversation with my cousin totally changed my approach to dating.
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In this episode, I talk about a couple simple words can change another Black gay man's day.
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In this episode, I want to unpack a new definition of cheating, specialized for Black gay foolishness.
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In this episode, I talk about my grandmama's whooping with a switch can help us all through our dating lives.
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In this episode, I talk about how dating Geminis who I thought were f*cked, only revealed my own f*cked-upness.
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In this episode, I talk about how a trip to the hospital drastically changed how I see friendships, family, and relationships.
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In this episode, I talk about why I've been insecure, and how, this birthday, I'm deciding to overcome it.
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In this episode, I talk about how it's okay--actually, important--to get excited about the guy who slid in your DMs, even if it doesn't pan out the way you'd hoped.
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