Daddy Issues with Violet Benson

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I Thought About Him… Then He Appeared. May 29, 2025

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One random act of kindness, a stranger on the freeway, and a moment that changed everything.

Listen to this to restore your faith in humanity and discover how a split-second decision can reveal the goodness still left in the world

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So Your Mum’s a Narcissist? Let’s Talk May 22, 2025

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Welcome back to Benson Book Club! Today we’re diving into Chapter 4 of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson—aka the one that explains why you can’t trust, love, or text back without spiraling.

Think your mom’s a narcissist? You might be onto something. Convinced your dad’s emotional unavailability ruined your love life? You’re not wrong. This episode is your Roman Empire. If you’ve ever felt unloved, emotionally starved, or like you sabotage every relationship—this might explain why. Let’s get into the trauma tea.

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GET HIM OBSESSED - GEMINI May 19, 2025

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This May, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Gemini man obsessed with YOU.

Get ready to uncover:

🔥 The secrets behind his charm and dual nature—and how to make them work in your favor.

🔥 Proven tips to spark his curiosity and keep him endlessly intrigued by you.

🔥 What excites him most in a relationship (and what will make him lose interest).

🔥 The telltale signs he’s getting bored—and how to pull him back in.

🔥 How to win him back if he’s already moved on to the next big thing.

Whether you’re drawn to his wit and energy, already dating him, or trying to rekindle the flame, this episode will teach you how to keep a Gemini man obsessed with you.

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Surviving Friendship Breakups with Unbothered Podcast May 15, 2025

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Ever lost four teeth and exposed your tampon string on a first date? Chloe has. But guess what hurts even more? Friendship breakups. Today, joined by Alexa & Chloe from the Unbothered Podcast, we’re getting real about the friends who ghosted us, the emotional vampires, moving on without closure, and the painful truth that sometimes friendships end because someone stopped pretending.

At what point do you stop performing for someone who’s not even clapping? Tune in for some unhinged, hilarious, and surprisingly healing conversations—together we'll laugh, cringe, and feel a little less alone.

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He Thinks It's Love. It's Strategy. May 09, 2025

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Wanna get spoiled and stay in charge?

This week, I’m breaking down how to play the game like a princess with a PhD in power. You’ll learn how to make him think he’s leading—while you’re actually driving the damn car.

Tap for the cheat code to his ego.

The secret sauce? Tune in. I’m not giving it all away here, babe.

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Is Your Toxic Relationship Making You Sick? May 01, 2025

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Listen bestie, you know that tight feeling in your chest, the unexplained fatigue, the random headaches and sleepless nights? That’s your body screaming: this relationship is toxic!! RUN. (We're talking, romantic, platonic, or family—no one gets a free pass.)

Today, Violetta reveals the science-backed truth about how emotional stress from toxic relationships physically destroys your health—think cortisol chaos, immune system crashes, and gut meltdowns. If you have ADHD, trauma, or an anxious attachment style, congrats—you’re 10x more sensitive to this damage.

Tune in for:

The chilling Bluebeard story about ignoring your gut instincts (never again, babe!).
A powerful checklist to instantly spot red flags.
Clear, science-backed insights into exactly what's happening in your body.
A no-BS, 3-step call to action to reclaim your life ASAP.

Because here's the deal:

You can’t heal in the same environment that made you sick.

So today, we're choosing YOU.

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The Anxious Avoidant TRAP Apr 25, 2025

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Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you’ll finally find out.

If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.

Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.

Bonus: Don’t miss the quiz at the end—It’ll help you decode your partner’s attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you’re done guessing and ready to know who you’re really dealing with.

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How to Detach from a Love Bomber Apr 18, 2025

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Think he was your soulmate? wrong. He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi.

This isn’t another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who’s done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.”

In this short, savage 5 step guide, I’m breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop romanticizing the inconsistency of A LOVEBOMBER. Because love bombing isn’t love—it’s manipulation with good marketing.

You’re not crazy. You’re just waking up.

It’s time to stop making chaos feel like home.

And no, babe, he doesn’t get access to this version of you anymore.

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Doing the Most for the Bare Minimum Apr 12, 2025

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Second week of the month? You know what that means—it’s time for Dear Violet - where you call, text, or email me your BURNING questions and I give you the best advice that you need to hear.

From pooping in front of him (WHY) to co-signing car loans in the talking stage—On today's episode, I’m breaking down the dumbest sh*t we’ve all done for men who didn’t deserve it. Plus: navigating ex drama, toxic friends, and how to actually move on from heartbreak when therapy, shrooms, and silent retreats aren’t cutting it.

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Give Me 21 Days and I’ll Change Your Life Apr 03, 2025

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If you’re tired of feeling stuck, this is your wake-up call.

In 21 days, you can reset your mind, body, and soul—and completely shift the trajectory of your life. No fluff. No waiting. Just the mindset, the energy, and the exact steps to become her. This is the sign you've been looking for!! Your future self is begging you to press play :)

P.S. Make sure to tune in to the 3 call to action steps at the end.

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