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I’m NOT the Villain w/ Francesca Farago Feb 02, 2024

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Hey Besties! We’re finally done with the love month where we sat down with known personalities and influencers in the dating and relationship realm as they shared tips, guides, and signs to look out for with your next partner.

Today on Almost Adulting, we welcome model, content creator, businesswoman, and reality TV show Francesca Farago. Violetta and Francesca bares all by talking about Francesca’s truth and how she was portrayed as the ‘villain’, the conflicting relationships that stirred negative reactions from the viewers, and what really happened behind-the-scenes of the hit TV show Too Hot to Handle. More tea is about to spill to stay tuned to find out more!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:32 Are reality shows heavily edited?
02:27 On and off relationship
05:20 Mental health issues in reality shows
06:45 What are commonly asked questions?
09:17 Why was I lied to?
11:17 The secret big player on the show
16:24 Relationship with Dom
27:41 What’s one thing you wish you didn’t do on the show?
30:12 “I thought we were on better terms…”
32:25 I used to drink heavily
35:21 The Kissing Challenge
36:56 Too much honesty can be negative sometimes
40:31 What's up with Damian?
42:28 Watching you and your ex
45:12 It wasn’t just for me
51:47 Taking care of your mental health
54:37 Are you friends now?
59:46 “I’m actually really nice.”
01:01:03 What are you currently working on?

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Why Loneliness is Worse Than Cigarettes w/ Dr. Guy Winch Feb 01, 2024

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Hey Besties! Today, we welcome author, psychologist, and speaker Dr. Guy Winch. Guy specializes in the field of emotional health and well-being. He has gained recognition for his work in advocating for the importance of addressing emotional pain and mental health. He has given popular TED Talks on subjects such as "Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid" and has authored books, including "Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts."

Discover how to handle rejection without becoming your own worst critic and get inspired by Guy's own journey through fourteen years of rejection. From trust issues to self-criticism, we got your back with some real talk on navigating those tough moments. Learn the art of nurturing a supportive inner voice, practicing healthy self-reflection, and building emotional resilience. Plus, explore the fascinating world of emotional hygiene and the tools you need for a more resilient emotional well-being.

Dr. Winch's Recovering from Rejection and Failure program, made in collaboration with Mindbloom, is available now! Make sure to check it and start turning setbacks into wins.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:52 What are the most common emotions we experience when going through rejection?
02:58 Why do we stop trusting ourselves after a rejection?
04:33 Don’t become self critical when you experience rejection
06:11 How do you personally handle rejection and failure?
07:40 Getting through fourteen years of rejection
09:12 Having enough encouragement to keep you going
10:49 How do you nurture a more supportive inner voice?
15:42 What is healthy self-reflection?
18:17 It’s about falling down, it’s about getting back up
21:17 What is emotional hygiene?
24:46 What happens when you don’t practice emotional hygiene?
26:44 The tools you need to build emotional resilience
28:56 Is self-compassion a game changer when it comes to dealing with failure?
31:22 How do emotional wounds show up physically?
34:37 Why do people get stuck in loneliness?
39:28 Mindbloom: ketamine therapy for anxiety and depression
45:05 Common misconceptions of psychedelics
47:37 What are people most curious about psychedelics?
49:16 Change your approach to emotional well-being
50:00 The duration of ketamine treatment
51:10 Is ketamine treatment right for you?
53:26 What we don’t understand about heartbreaks
56:17 Heartbreak is a grief process
01:00:00 If you’re not feeling great, it’s not the best time to go online
01:04:14 Real connection requires slight emotional vulnerability
01:05:57 How can you make yourself happier?
01:09:34 The difference between being alone and chronic loneliness
01:11:12 Our emotional health requires effort
01:15:08 Check-in with yourself periodically

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Exceptions To Let Go In Ur 20’s Jan 30, 2024

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Hey Besties! For another Benson Book CLub session, we are unpacking the fifteen expectations to let go of from the book, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest - a collection of the author’s most beloved pieces of writing. Some of these pieces have never been seen; others have been read by millions of people around the world.

This week, we're shedding the weight of unrealistic expectations and embracing the beauty of imperfection. From the myth of being meant for extraordinary things to the revelation that faults can be forgivable and attributes exceptional, Violetta breaks down the barriers that hold us back. Learn why the right person doesn't always come at the right time and why postponing your happiness is a recipe for dissatisfaction. It's time to let go, embrace the now, and set goals that truly align with your happiness!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:40 Fifteen expectation to let go of to live a good life
02:14 #1: You are mean to be extraordinary
03:11 #2: Your faults are more forgivable and your attributes are more exceptional
03:54 #3: You can outsmart pain
04:15 #4: You must let go of the expectation that love is something other people give you
04:57 #5: Feeling something deeply means that it’s meant to be
06:01 #6: If you work on yourself enough then you will not struggle anymore
06:13 #7: The idea that you can control what people think of you
07:56 #8: Hard work guarantees success
08:23 #9: The idea that your thoughts will change themselves when your circumstances change
09:03 #10: The belief that other people are responsible for your feelings
10:00 #11: Emotional intelligence is infallible composure
10:44 #12: The idea that the right person will come at the right time
11:21 #13: The idea that you can postpone your happiness or save it up
11:59 #14: Anxiety and negative thinking are just pesky irritants that you have to learn to avoid
12:33 #15: Focusing slowly on your own needs will make you the happiest
13:20 Good goals to set to enjoy what you have than chase what you don’t have

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Narcissists & Boundaries Jan 25, 2024

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Hey Besties! Welcome to the second week of Benson Bootcamp, a boot camp specifically designed to help you become the best version of yourself, no matter how bad it hurts. It’s called BOOTCAMP for a reason, duh!

This week on Almost Adulting we’re having the difficult discussion about boundary setting. Though it may be hard, these realizations will not only be long-lasting, but also help you love yourself a little more. Violet tells an in depth story about her friend who possesses the fatal victim mentality flaw. Ya know, that kind of friend who never fails to make EVERYTHING about themselves, and when you finally cut them off your life becomes inexplicably better? Yeah, that type. But that’s what setting boundaries can do. It aids you in protecting your mental health, having inner peace, and taking control of your own emotions and thoughts even when you don’t have control over other people’s words and actions. Besties, if there’s one thing you take from this please let it be that you are NEVER selfish for setting boundaries and prioritizing yourself. You are your biggest advocate and supporter, now act like it!

What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
00:53 Let’s call my friend Nicole
15:51 The main issue is my lack of boundaries
19:41 Everyone gets tired of pretending
21:00 When you start setting boundaries for yourself
25:09 “We never really know why people do what they do.”
27:13 We can choose to not be a victim

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TAP INTO YOUR DIVINE FEMININE Jan 23, 2024

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Hey Besties! It is the fourth and final installation of Benson Bootcamp, and we’re ending on a note to set you up perfectly for the month of love coming up!

This week on Almost Adulting, you and Violet are diving into your divine femininity. What does this mean you ask? The divine feminine is the feminine aspect of the divine power that connects and binds the earth together. It is something we all have within us, and something that if channeled correctly, can open us up to so many things we are unknowingly evading ourselves from. While both masculine and feminine energy are present and necessary in all people, tapping into one's feminine energy can help further receptivity, openness, and vulnerability. In this episode Violet will discuss the pros of unleashing the various types of femininity and how leaning into their presence can assist you throughout your life. By the way, this is not to be confused with old school gender roles, or doing things just to attract a partner, but rather tap into an intimate side that is already within you. Enjoy the journey, Besties.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
04:14 We all have masculine and feminine energy
07:48 What you want is not what you attract
13:55 Be in your feminine divine energy
18:44 Your dark, seductive feminine energy
22:05 Your light, innocent feminine energy
25:43 Trusting the process of dating
26:08 Set standards and stick by them
29:43 They always see your worth

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Did Brooke Schofield Get Matt Rifed? Jan 18, 2024

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In today's episode, we throw it back to when Violetta got real with Brooke Schofield, co-host of Cancelled with Tana Mongeau. They spill the tea on Matt Rife's questionable dating tactics (seriously, bro?), but the conversation takes a deep turn as Brooke opens up about her challenging childhood with two drug-addicted racist parents. Brooke shares her journey dealing with borderline personality disorder, revealing the power of self-healing and finding stability through medication. It's a rollercoaster of real talk and genuine connection—tune in, Besties!

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Recreate Yourself in 3 Steps Jan 16, 2024

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Hey Besties! Ever wondered how to turn your life around when you're feeling rock bottom? Need a boost when it all seems bleak? Well, it's Benson Book Club time, and today, we're delving into Robert Greene's "The 48 Laws of Power," specifically Law #25 – Recreate Yourself. Violetta kicks off by reading the juicy core of the chapter, then dives into why it's perfectly okay to hit the reset button when everything feels stuck. Spoiler alert: You're totally allowed to shake things up, start anew, and recreate yourself for a better, more badass version of you! Tune in for the inspiration you didn't know you needed.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:41 The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
02:37 Law #25: Recreate Yourself
15:25 You are allowed to start over if you feel like it
18:19 Recreating yourself at the lowest moments is usually the most pivotal moment

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The Psychology Behind a Man's Mind in Dating Jan 11, 2024

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WHY DO MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!?! whether beginning, middle, or end, it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta did all the research written by men, re-read "Why Men Don't Love Women Like You" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" so you don't have to, TO GIVE YOU THE ANSWER YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR.

Today, Violetta is set on discussing the psychology behind a man's mind, the three steps to deal with the situation when a man pulls away, and how dating can be beautiful and perfect but it’s all rainbows and butterflies. It often comes with some form of conflict.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
00:46 I booked my parents a trip to Israel
03:05 When a man pulls away, it feels like a bad romcom
05:38 Reason 1: When they feel overwhelmed or uncertain about their feelings
06:26 Reason 2: Some men need space
07:18 Reason 3: They are unsure of the relationship
08:12 Reason 4: The woman is more invested in the relationship
09:41 Step #1: Do not go Britney Spears on him
13:53 Step #2: Do not chase him
15:01 Men and women do things differently
15:40 Imagine that your partner is like a stretched rubberband
18:20 Punishing a man when he pulls away is not the right approach
23:20 Step #3: Focus on yourself
33:17 Dating works but it always comes with some form of conflict

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Why We Love Difficult People Jan 09, 2024

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In the 3rd installation of Benson Bootcamp, Violet covers a topic that we often avoid. Why do we love difficult people? This discussion is difficult because it often forces us to look inwardly, and see what unresolved issues we have - that are allowing us to believe that allowing these people to stay in our lives is okay. But it’s okay Besties, we’re gonna get through it together, because we’ve ALL been there.

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet starts off with the reasons why we likely fall for the wrong person, armed with a huge ego and a wounded inner child he never knew existed within him. That guy who gives you mixed signals and then leaves you hanging when they have their fun. While difficult people can be frustrating and draining, they also have the ability to help us become better versions of ourselves. And this is possible when we start to love ourselves a little more, see our own value, understand what we truly desire in life. Bestie, it’s finally time to drop that toxic relationship, friendship, or whatever it is. Do it NOW - you will only thank yourself later.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
02:38 Why do we love difficult people?
05:07 When we feel the lack of spark
08:27 The reasons why we’re attracted to the wrong person
11:59 Guys with daddy issues
18:56 The second boyfriend: a toxic guy
25:39 I thought love had to be achieved
28:00 Daddy Issues
35:06 Start loving yourself

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Manifest MONEY & SUCCESS with Hot High Priestess Jan 04, 2024

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Hey Besties! Ready to level up and manifest some serious abundance this year? Violetta's got you covered as she dives into the magical world of manifestation, joined by the incredible Sarah Perl, aka @hothighpriestess on TikTok.

In this episode, they unravel the secrets of successful manifestation, exploring different methods and powerful mantras that can pave the way to your riches. Sarah, the poetic genius behind "From Within," shares her wisdom on turning your life around by reshaping your self-view and envisioning the future you truly desire. To sprinkle some extra magic, they wrap things up with a tarot reading for 2024, using three enchanting crystals. Grab your manifesting notebook, soak in those good vibes, and make 2024 your year of financial independence!

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