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276 | Taking Leadership in Your Home, Parenting by Faith, and Unlocking Blessings Through Forgiveness (Deborah Porter) May 04, 2023

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As a mom to three adult children, Deborah Porter knows that small moments of intentionality can have a lifelong impact on children. In this episode, Deborah equips fathers with real-life examples and ideas to trust God, take leadership, and pursue work/life balance.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

Insert your presence into your family as much as possible, even if you're not physically there.
If there is a riff between you and your child, be the one to reach out first.
You never know what you'll unlock when you willingly choose to forgive.
Dads can take leadership in three key areas: fun, prayer, and household chores.
Acknowledge your fear, but don't parent out of fear.

Deborah Porter

Deborah Porter is an influential voice and media contributor on parenting and motherhood. She and her husband, Clif, have been married for nearly 34 years and have three adult children. Deborah provides resources and coaching focused on the intersectionality of work, life, and family.

Key Quotes

6:49 - "There are always going to be things that are going to want to pull you from your commitment from where your heart really wants to be. Just be really intentional of protecting what's really special."
17:16 - "We oftentimes don't know what we unlock when we willingly choose to forgive... So many times just the act of obedience just unlocks so much more that God has for us."

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275 | Speaking Blessings Over Your Kids, Having a 10-Year-Old Adventure, and Fasting for Breakthroughs (Justin Hanneken) Apr 27, 2023

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The words you say to your children have power. In this episode, Justin Hanneken shares how and why to speak blessings over your children. He also shares strategies for modeling missions to your family, pressing into prayer, and fasting for a breakthrough.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

Take your children on a 10-Year-Old Adventure so they can live their faith outside the walls of the church.
The words "always" and "never" become curses when you speak them negatively toward your children.
You can ask your spiritual father for his blessing over you.
When your children come to you with hurt or challenges, seize the moment to speak life into them.
Physical hunger can reveal spiritual hunger for believers of all ages.

Justin Hanneken

Justin Hanneken and his wife, Karena, have been married for 18 years and have 5 children. Justin serves as the executive director of Ends of the Earth Cycling, which has hosted 34 Christ-centered cycling tours that have raised over $1 million for global youth ministry.

Key Quotes

29:09 - "Prayer is our first work. So basically, as Christians, we want to serve the Lord, we want to do things for God. But a lot of times we just jump right into those things and we haven't spent time in prayer. And so for dads that are listening, I just want to encourage you, pray for your family daily, pray for your your family by name."
34:30 - "If you're a follower of Jesus, he says in the New Testament, when you fast and then He talks about what we should do. It's not if you fast, it's basically assume that if you're Christian, fasting is going to be part of what you do."

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274 | Being a Present Dad in Four Areas, Honoring Others, and Fighting Fatherlessness (David Hirsch) Apr 20, 2023

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David Hirsch has spent over 28 years creating intentional resources for fathers. As he shares his story, he'll inspire you to be present with your children physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

Be as actively involved in your child's education as you can be.
Instead of lamenting that a biological father can't be involved with his children, help bridge the gap through mentoring or coaching.
"Who you are speaks so loudly, I cannot hear what you're saying." — Ralph Waldo Emerson
The most important thing a dad can do is be present physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

David Hirsch

David Hirsch and his wife, Peggy, have been married for 39 years and have five adult children. David helped found the Illinois Fatherhood Initiative in 1997 and the 21st Century Dads Foundation in 2015. He is also a wealth manager, author, speaker, and host of the Special Fathers Network's Dad to Dad Podcast.

Key Quotes

4:49 - "When dads are involved in the educational lives of their kids, all the other stuff seems to take care of itself. So if there's one thing that I would suggest to any dad who might be listening is, especially dads of young kids, roll up your sleeves, be as actively involved in your child's education as you possibly can be."
29:05 - "What kids need and what they would benefit most from, is a father being present physically, in their lives, emotionally, which is meaning, don't be the stoic dad of yesteryear, but letting your sons and daughters know that, hey, dads have emotions, too."

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273 | Saying Yes to Foster Care, Embracing Adoption, and Changing Generations (Stephen Hogue) Apr 13, 2023

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Stephen Hogue and his wife adopted ten children within ten years, and they cared for many more children in foster care along the way. In this episode, Stephen will encourage you to look at adoption—and your identity in Christ—in a new way.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

There is power in one family saying "yes" to a child who needs a home, whether temporarily or permanently.
The legal aspect of adoption is a picture of salvation.
The most important role of a father is affirmation.
If you know who you are in Christ, nothing and no one can take away your joy or identity.

Stephen Hogue

Stephen Hogue is the executive director of OneFamily, a ministry that equips and empowers foster families through wholehearted community support. He and his wife, Sandra, have been married for 25 years and are adoptive parents to 10 children.

Key Quotes

22:03 - "The spirit of adoption, the legal aspect of adoption is a picture of salvation. And so believe it or not, if you think about it, Jesus went to court, stood before the Judge of the universe and said, Here's an orphaned planet that I want to adopt."
33:04 - "I see insecure, easily triggered, not confident men. And what God's calling us to be as men is not arrogant, I heard this word, Godfident, it's confident in who God made you to be and secure. Secure is I don't even need my wife to be who He is and that's the principle that has changed me. I don't need anybody. not a president, not a politician, not my wife, not my kids, not my pastor, no one to be who He is. If I'm good with Him and I know who I am and who He says I am, no matter what you do to me, it's not going to take my joy because I'm already good."

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272 | One Second of Strength, Being Present, and 5 Books Every Parent Should Read (Tanner Clark) Apr 06, 2023

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A few years ago, Tanner Clark had a clear impression that he needed to focus on helping teenagers. He's now a motivational speaker who teaches teenagers how to know their worth and reach their full potential. Tanner wants to help fathers do the same with the help of a simple but powerful tool.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

The One Second of Strength is an opportunity to hack your brain and take the best actions for your life and personal growth.
If you're not present in your child's life when they're young, don't expect them to allow you into their presence when they're older.
Give yourself grace when you fall short because your kids aren't holding on to your faults.
Five books every parent should read

Tanner Clark

Tanner Clark is a motivational speaker deeply passionate about helping teens be happy and reach their potential. He and his wife, Dani, live in Utah with their four children.

Key Quotes

9:02 - "There are so many things that are standing between us and who we want to become. And the path forward is by recognizing what are the things that are holding us back, acknowledging them, and then being very intentional about moving forward beyond that. I call it finding your one second of strength. I believe that that there is a moment and if you look back at your life and all the great things that you've done there was a decision point. And in that decision point, one second of strength, is the opportunity to hack your brain, to do the thing that is going to be the best for you and give you that the the growth that you need."
28:56 - "You find that second of strength every time and you turn and kick to the side. Run away from those waters, get out of those waters, your life changes when you decide that you are that you are important enough to kick to the side. That's when life changes, when you recognize your value, when you recognize how important you are to this world, to other people, to the future people that you don't even know yet. When you recognize your value, it will compel you to turn and kick to the side so that you can become the person that you want to become because you need to be that person. And someone else needs you to be that person. That's the difference.

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271 | Building Trust, Picking Your Battles, and Auditing Your Fatherhood Performance (John Wyatt) Mar 30, 2023

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John Wyatt recently became an empty nester, but that doesn't mean he's forgotten any of the knowledge he learned as a dad to two daughters. In this episode, he's sharing all the things he wants others (including his future sons-in-law!) to know about fatherhood.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

Will you choose to be right or choose the relationship?
Being present for your children leads to trust and open communication.
Teaching your kids to listen to God and honor their parents is a worthwhile battle.
Audit your performance as a father with these three questions: Are my kids communicating with me? Are they spending time with me? Do they feel prioritized?

John Wyatt

John Wyatt and his wife, Carrie, are newly empty nesters living in Jacksonville, Florida. They have been married for 25 years and successfully launched their two daughters into the world. John is an Associate Executive Pastor at Celebration Church.

Key Quotes

3:13 - "You can't control them, they control themselves. So it's very difficult letting them be young adults and maybe they're making choices, whereas 25 years down the road you're like, that's not a very good decision. But you have to let them decide for themselves and love them through it."
4:51 - "We try to just love our kids through stuff. And the most important thing is relationship. You know, you can be right or you can have a relationship. So instead of trying to be right all the time and defend your decisions or defend, you need to do this, and here's why, because I know what I'm talking about. We didn't find that that worked very well with our kids."

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270 | Expecting Miracles, Embracing Mentorship, and Trusting God for Healing (Josh Taylor) Mar 23, 2023

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At 27 years old, Josh Taylor sat in a hospital room as his wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. In an instant, their plans for the future came crashing down. But God showed up in miraculous ways to teach Josh the importance of trusting in His plan, even when you can't see the full picture.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

The things you're facing now will prepare you for challenges decades in the future.
You have to trust that God sees the whole picture of your life.
Mentorship and discipleship is someone saying, "You're about to go through what I've already been through, and I am unwilling to let you get hurt worse than me."
In the midst of turmoil, things become very simple, and God uses that simplicity.
Just because you're imperfect does not mean you're disqualified from leading.

Josh Taylor

Josh Taylor is a mentor, serial entrepreneur, and father to four daughters. He and his wife, Aly, have been married for 16 years. Despite facing cancer and infertility, they have experienced countless miracles and continue to walk in faith for God's healing.

Key Quotes

18:01 - "You always look back and ten years removed from anything it looks way more planned out than when you're in the middle of it. And the truth is whether or not I liked what happened to me, what happened to me forced me to be a man, to be more of a man, to do what God had me do. And that then sets me up for ten years down the road that I don't know about.
33:27 - "In some of our darkest moments, I've had more clarity on what I was supposed to do because I didn't have a ton of options. So in the worst of moments, I simply had to beg God to help and just say, God, I'm not this big, I'm not smart enough, I need you so bad that when I felt those moments, it actually gets very simple."

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Full Transcript of the Conversation
Josh & Aly's Website
Radical Mentoring
Book: Aly's Fight
Book: How Cancer Made Me A Mommy
Book: How My Wife's Cancer Healed Me
Episode 76 with Regi Campbell (Founder of Radical Mentoring)
Instagram: @alysfight

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269 | Nurturing Connections, Empowering Children, and Creating Family Feedback Loops (Danny Silk: Part 2) Mar 16, 2023

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Power isn't about fighting for what you want. It's about adjusting your actions to protect the heart-to-heart connections with your family instead. Your relationship with your children should empower them like your relationship with Christ empowers you. Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

If you want to be a control freak, control your freaking self.
One-way communication is the trademark of tyranny. Your family needs feedback loops.
You've been empowered in your relationship with Jesus to speak with Him, share your complaints, be responsible, and have dreams. Empower your children to do the same with you.
A wise and powerful man adjusts his actions to protect heart connections rather than fighting for his right to do what he wants.

Danny Silk

Danny Silk is a speaker and author of nine books who draws on decades of experience as a counselor, social worker, husband, parent, grandparent, and more. He is the President and Co-Founder of Loving on Purpose, a ministry to families and communities worldwide.

Key Quotes

9:13 - "God is more interested in a connection to a son or daughter. The whole purpose of the New Covenant is that connection. That's what it's for. That's the goal. The goal is access to my Father. So I have to decide, do I come into the presence of a loving father who wants to reconnect with me through repentance? Or do I come into the presence of a judge who sees a criminal?"
11:42 - "People that are trapped in a tyranny, it's one way communication. There's one person, one power source, and everyone else is under the command or in the threat of punishment, that's the culture. Tyranny is we bark out commands, you obey or suffer the consequence. But when you actually empower people and honor people and a culture of honor is two powerful people, in a relationship, working out the needs of each other and the needs of the situation or the environment."

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268 | Developing Self-Control, Designing a Family Culture, and Prioritizing Connection with Your Kids (Danny Silk: Part 1) Mar 09, 2023

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The key to self-control is to pick the right target and say "yes" with all your heart. It sets you on the path to being the best man you can be. And when you're in control of yourself, you can prioritize connection with your kids over intimidation and control.

Full SHOW NOTES for today's conversation Key Takeaways

Self-control isn't saying "no" to all the bad things; it's picking a target and saying "yes" with all your heart.
When you're a young man, you think a lot about the responsibility to your children and family, but as you age, you'll think more about your responsibility towards your grandchildren's success.
Every family has a culture. Be intentional about how you design yours by setting standards for respect, responsibility, and connection.
If the most-used tool in your fatherhood toolbox is some form of intimidation or the threat of punishment, then you have created a culture in your home that does not resemble Heaven.
Your Father is much more concerned about your heart connection to Him than he is about controlling you.

Danny Silk

Key Quotes

6:26 - "The power that is in self-control. I mean, when we nail that, when a man nails that, he basically has one job. You basically have one job, tell yourself what to do and do it. If you will just do what you tell yourself to do and then point yourself at a smart target, you are going to rock life."
7:14 - "You have been given the mind of Christ. You have that ability. Self-control is not saying no to porn, no to alcohol, no to pot, no to lust, that's not self-control. Self-control is pick a target and say yes with all your heart. Just say yes with all your heart and you've automatically said no to the stupid stuff because you have lined yourself up with the genius stuff."

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Loving on Purpose's Website
Watch the video of Episode 268

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267 | Becoming Spiritually Courageous, Emulating Christ's Honor, and Passing the Torch to Your Children (Tony Rorie) Mar 02, 2023

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Honor changes everything. It can take you from distant to present, from indifferent to significant, and from passive to passionate. In today's episode, Tony Rorie shares the practical steps you can take to become a man of honor and transform your family.

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Key Takeaways

Take the dare to have a weekly devotional with your family where you pray, worship, and read scripture together.
First thing in the morning, do the thing you're most afraid to do.
Biblical instruction and modeling Christlike manhood will transform children.
Honor changes everything. It can take you from distant to present, from indifferent to significant, and from passive to passionate.

Tony Rorie

Tony Rorie is the founder of the award-winning Men of Honor character education program used in schools, churches, and recreation centers across the U.S. and the world. He and his wife, Melissa, have been married for 32 years and have four adult children.

Key Quotes

4:46 - "The most important thing that I would dare you to do is have a have a weekly devotional with your family, separate from your church experience, where you get together and read the word of God and pray for one another and worship together. And I know for for many men, praying even with their wives, seems like a daunting task, and they feel intimidated with doing it. But man, I dare you just to just start a family devotional, be the spiritual architect and leader in your home and start out simple."
5:56 - "I dare you to go go overboard in your affirmation of your kids, you know, of the great things that you see and want to see. The Bible says that that God inhabits the praises of His people. So as we praise our kids and praise our wife and just spend time just giving them affirmation, I promise you, you cannot give them enough affirmation from what the world will take out of them."

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