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Sugar is Evil, Getting Intimacy Back, Gender Labels on Toys – Dudes To Dads Ep 34 Oct 27, 2015

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Welcoming new listeners from Japan, Cambodia, Norway, South Africa, and more, Jason and Alan kick off Episode 34. The episode begins with the topic of sugar and desserts for The Battlefield. In Jason’s family, they have established that desserts are for weekends. They also do “good food before bad.” We don’t want to completely deprive our kids or they will go crazy with it. Also consider healthy desserts like fruit. For the mailbag, listener Grant writes: “My wife and I had a first child 4 months ago. Intimacy is pretty much gone. What can I do?” Jason goes on to discuss some of the difficulties during this time. The focus needs to be on being supportive, giving the woman a break, and most importantly make time for date night to be with each other. His desire for intimacy is valid but he is going t need to be very mindful of his approach. In SuperCharge, we introduce the Fred & Friends DINNER WINNER Kids’ Dinner Tray which is food tray that divides food into eight portions, with an extra covered portion for dessert. It provides positive statements for each bite that the child finishes. We then get into Dad’s Debate to discuss gender labels on toys. Jason mention this NY Times Article. Target announced no labels for boys or girls, Amazon no longer uses gender based categories for toys, and athletic wear has blurred lines of gender. We finishe the episode with 2 Quotes of the Day from someecards: “You’re making it difficult for me to be the parent I always imagined I would be” and “When my kids grow up, I’m going to their house to break their stuff, eat all their food, make a huge mess, say I’m bored & then just leave!” SEGMENTS Welcome & Intros …

Sugar is Evil, Getting Intimacy Back, Gender Labels on Toys – Ep 34 Oct 27, 2015

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Bike Tracks, Punishment Debate, Telling The Truth – Ep 33 Oct 20, 2015

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Alan and Jason start episode 33 with Stuff to Do by discussing the creation of a bike track. While many people live in areas where this may not be possible, Jason lives in a culdesac so it allowed to keep the kids entertained but also close by. As a result of having difficulty making the track with the chalk, SuperCharge introduces the Bike Chalk Trail Kit which makes it much easier to make a bike track with chalk. The Mailbag is an email about punishment of kids and also transitions us into the Dad’s Debate. The debate is about whether punishment is effective in getting the behavior you desire. Our thoughts are that making your child suffer so he does what you want will later backfire. Our role is to coach and guide them. They learn faster when they aren’t punished. The Light Her Fire segment talks about how re-enforcing the truth is more important than punishment. All of this discussion about punishment shapes Dad’s Homework which is to not punish your child when they do something wrong. We finished the episode with the Quote of the Day by Dr. Laura Markham: Sure, kids need “discipline.” But the verb “to discipline” means “to guide.” There is absolutely no reason why our guidance needs to be punitive. In fact, punishment backfires. We can’t really control another person. All we really have to work with is influence. And punishment erodes that influence. If we want kids to accept our guidance, we need to maintain a positive relationship with them. SEGMENTS Welcome & Intros (0:00) – Energetic water, sitting up straight, and ready for the episode Stuff To Do (4:29) – Create a bike track SuperCharge (8:39) – Bike Chalk Trail Kit Mailbag (10:40) – How to punish kids when they do …

Bike Tracks, Punishment Debate, Telling The Truth – Dudes To Dads Ep 33 Oct 20, 2015

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What Do You Do When Your Child Has a Disease, Ailment, or Disorder? – Dudes To Dads Ep 32 Oct 14, 2015

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In this episode we wanted to discuss how serious situations with our children effect us, how we can better handle them, and how to move forward. Jason’s friend Kevin joins the podcast again, but this time to talk about what his daughter and his family have dealt over the last few years. His daughter was diagnosed with Children’s Arthritis. This is something that effects the entire family, the circle of friends, and more. Kevin really opens up about the initial stages of determining what was wrong, some of the social aspects of dealing with a disease and provides some valuable tips for dealing with it along the way. You don’t need to feel alone. You do need to get yourself informed and take action on what you need to. Kevin’s insight on his own family’s journey will hopefully help and inspire others. Kevin also wanted to share some great resources for those dealing with Children’s Arthritis: Arthritis Foundation Facebook Page Kids Get Arthritis Too – Website Kids Get Arthritis Too – Facebook Page Living with Juvenile Arthritis: A Parent’s Guide…

What Do You Do When Your Child Has a Disease, Ailment, or Disorder? – Ep 32 Oct 14, 2015

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How Can Dads Communicate With Their Kids – LIVE Blab – Dudes To Dads Ep 31 Oct 07, 2015

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We once again record this episode while being live on Blab.im. If you want to learn how to communicate, you better first learn how to listen. Communication starts with listening! Talking with your kids is not a lecture, it’s two way discussion. Jason mentioned some great tips from an article by Dr. Laura Markham on How to get your child to listen: 1. Don’t start talking until you have your child’s attention. We spoke about GEMs last week. 2. Don’t repeat yourself. Go back to step 1 if needed. 3. Use fewer words. 4. See it from their point of view. 5. Engage cooperation – Give choices. 6. Stay calm. Take a deep breath. 7. Set up routines. 8. Listen. (role model the bahavior) From the parent’s side, the ability to listen responsibly: Involves: Being silent-listening intently to an entire explanation Does Not Involve: Interrupting or formulating your response while the other person is talking (ie. not truly listening) Involves: Creating a warm atmosphere for talk. Choosing a good time to share. Does Not Involve: Insisting on a talk when the time is in-appropriate either for you or your child Involves: Relaxing-responding to your child as an intimate friend Does Not Involve: Displaying tension, disapproval, or hostility in facial or body expressions Involves: Drawing out solutions from your child Does Not Involve: Moralizing, fixing, converting, advising and lecturing Involves: Allowing for complete expression of feeling Does Not Involve: Denial, not permitting certain feelings to be expressed National Center for Fathering – article on dads and sons communicating To get Your Son to talk, don’t try to get him to talk – work on a project or do something fun Watch for cues that he’s ready to talk. Be available – no matter what time Affirm him verbally. I love …

How Can Dads Communicate With Their Kids – LIVE Blab – Ep 31 Oct 07, 2015

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How Can Dads Connect With Their Kids – LIVE Recording On Blab – Ep 30 Sep 29, 2015

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This is a special episode as we recorded live on Blab.im. It allows us to be seen on video while guests are able to interact live with us by chatting. This episode is all about connecting. Everyone, especially children, want to feel connected. When they don’t feel connected at home, school, or within the community, they will find connection through bad behavior including sex, drugs, gangs, etc. This is why kids engage in this kind of behavior is that they want to feel connected. Jason mentions having dinner together and how doing that 3 times a week or more can reduce alcohol and drug use by half. It’s not just about the meal but it provides a time to talk and find out about their day or what they are doing. One of the most important things to learn is empathy. Having empathy for your children allows them to feel understood and therefore connected. We cover more on empathy in Episode 18. We then discuss a Huffington Post Article written by Author/Speaker which offers 5 ways to connect: 1) Ask them questions about their life – most parents have no clue what is going on – If they don’t want to talk, it may mean they feel disconnected 2) Hug, touch, or sit near them – We all need touch and kids really like it 3) Figure out what they like and learn about it – Showing an interest in what they do or like makes them feel connected 4) Have technology-free times and places – If you are on the phone or computer you may as well not even be there 5) Play and do activities with them – not everyone likes to talk. Whether its a game, sport, and craft, kids all have something they like.…

How Can Dads Connect With Their Kids – LIVE Recording On Blab – Dudes To Dads Ep 30 Sep 29, 2015

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