Crystal Paine Show

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104. Sharing Some Good News! Dec 01, 2020

Show notes

I was sitting with a few women recently and we were sharing some heavy things in our lives and big feelings. After a little while, I said, "Does anyone have any good news to share?"

It's so easy to focus on the hard and difficult things. And I think we do need to acknowledge our feelings and not try to stuff down the difficult things, slap on a happy face, and pretend we're okay. But at the same time, I also think it's so good -- and important -- even on hard days and during sad or overwhelming seasons to look for the good, to notice the beautiful, and to practice an attitude of gratitude. Because, as you've heard it said, what you look for is usually what you see.

If you focus on the negative, you can find a lot to complain about. If you focus on the positive, you can find a lot to be grateful for!

In this week's episode, Jesse and I sit down and talk about some positive, fun, beautiful, and good things happening in our lives. We share about milestones, perspective shifts, and lessons we're learning. Plus, we talk about some fun updates and funny happenings. I also discover the history behind the phrase "deader than a doornail" (thanks, Jesse!) and we share what's saving our lives and what books we're reading.

In This Episode:

[00:42] We’re sharing some good news and fun things that have been happening lately.

[01:26] Champ is reunifying with his mom soon and we talk about processing that.

[04:02] Jesse’s Apple iPhone case is saving his life this week.

[07:25] My top 10 baby products are saving my life.

[08:58] Jesse is reading Fortitude by Dan Crenshaw and listening to One Vote Away by Ted Cruz.

[10:17] I’ve been reading Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl.

[13:16] Why we’ve decided to share some good news today.

[15:03] Jesse recounts the wonderful baseball season that they had this year.

[16:52] I’ve turned in the FINAL edits for my new book!

[20:18] Some fun updates on the babies and why we basically never do professional family photos.

[24:22] Jesse had a lot of fun shopping for the babies for the photos.

[25:14] We have a driver at our house -- and both Jesse and I have been teaching her, something I never expected I'd say!

[29:37] How the seminary class I'm taking is really challenging me.

[33:52] Some thoughts on doing your own research, not just going to one source, and what our currently political climate is teaching me.

[36:06] What is your good news right now?

Links and Resources:

Apple iPhone Cases
Top 10 Baby Items
Fortitude by Dan Crenshaw
One Vote Away by Ted Cruz
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl
The Bible Project
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

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103. Forgiving What You Can't Forget (with Lysa TerKeurst) Nov 17, 2020

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Forgiveness is certainly not the easiest topic to cover for anyone, but what if the ultimate betrayal was laid at your feet. How would you react then? For Lysa TerKeurst it led to authoring a book all about using forgiveness to heal and grow after a terrible experience.

Lysa found out several years ago that her husband was being unfaithful. Not just once or twice, but had been repeatedly unfaithful along with having a substance abuse problem. When she found out she was devastated.

The pain was so terrible it would literally stop her in her tracks no matter where she was. She was having panic attacks and anxiety flare ups and she was just lost to the pain. So she made an appointment to see her counselor and from there she truly began to heal.

You see she had a very “little girl” view of how forgiveness works and it hadn’t grown up with her. Not that she thinks that simply forgiving her husband of his faults would have saved them any of the pain that they went through, but if her sense of forgiveness had matured, she may have saved herself from some of that pain.

Listen as she shares her story and how it influenced her need to write her latest book, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget. She’s truly baring it all and sharing how we can use these tactics throughout the holiday season as well. Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. So stop holding yourself back from giving it.

In This Episode:

[01:30] Welcome Lysa TerKeurst to the show and hear more about her and her family.

[03:43] Why she chose to write her most recent book.

[07:18] What caused her extreme sadness and anger and inability to forgive.

[09:24] Learn what her therapist did to help her reach a point that she could forgive.

[13:01] Why forgiveness is a gift that you can receive for yourself.

[14:56] What happens when you stuff pain down and refuse to acknowledge it.

[17:22] Lysa’s first memories of forgiveness.

[20:00] What did she do after acknowledging her pain?

[26:13] Lysa’s advice for the woman who is living in their pain.

[29:29] It doesn’t make you an unforgiving person to draw boundaries.

[30:43] Where she is now after writing this book.

Links and Resources:

Crystal Paine

Crystal Paine on Instagram

crystal@moneysavingmom.com

Money Saving Mom

Money Saving Mom on Facebook

Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group

Forgiving What You Can’t Forget by Lysa TerKeurst

Proverbs 31 Ministries

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

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102. Soul Care During Stressful Seasons Nov 10, 2020

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There is a lot going on in the world right now — and there is a lot going on in our home, too. In the middle of the noise and rush of life, it can be easy for our souls to get neglected.

In today’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I talk about how we’re prioritizing soul care during what can feel like a stressful season. We talk about some R&R’s for our soul and challenge you to think of what soul care might look like for you right now.

In addition, we share an update on Champ’s reunification, we talk a little about the election, Jesse shares a strategy he’s implementing in order to get more reading time in, I talk about a book I’m reading, and we talk about soap and Hulu. (Yes, you just never quite know what you’ll get when you tune into the podcast!)

In This Episode:

[00:36] This past week has been a doozy of a week -- both politically and personally.

[03:05] We share an update on Champ.

[04:42] Why we’ve been working hard at helping Champ to form attachments. it [08:15] Jesse shares why he starts books but hates to finish them and what he’s doing to help change this.

[10:10] I’ve been reading The Body Keeps the Score.

[16:44] Why we’ve loved having Hulu.

[18:05] Bath and Body Works Apple Pumpkin soap is saving my life this week.

[19:30] We’re diving into soul care for when life feels stressful.

[21:28] The first of the four “R’s” for the soul is recipes.

[23:45] Jesse shares some of the rhythms that are helping his soul right now.

[25:26] Reading is such an amazing “R” for the soul.

[28:26] Rest is also so important.

Links and Resources:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Bath and Body Works Apple Pumpkin soap
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

101. Honest Confessions of a Control Freak Nov 03, 2020

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Jesse and I have both struggled with being what you could call "control freaks" in our life. I like to have a plan and I like other people to go along with my plan. Jesse's control shows up more in wanting to be able to control decisions other people make or to make sure that everything is always okay with me and our kids -- and when it's not, he feels a lot of stress and like things are spinning out of control.

Fostering has been such a good exercise for us in learning to let go of our neat little plans. Since we don't make almost any of the decisions for him, we've just had to love him as our own on behalf of his mom while also keeping our hands open to whatever God has for him.

It has been easy, but it's been so good -- and it's taught us how much peace there is when we stop clenching our fists and trying to micromanage our lives and instead release our tight grip and trust God fully.

In this episode, we share lessons we are learning, what has helped us let go of our tightly wound control, and how loving on this little boy has completely changed our lives.

We also give some family updates, share about what's helping Jesse drink more water, my favorite eyebrow definer, and two books we've been reading.

In This Episode:

[01:01] Champ recently received hearing aids and it has been an adventure.

[03:58] We are so excited about our Gatlinburg weekend trip and why we voted early.

[06:19] I have a quick update on the No Bake cookies we were talking about several weeks ago.

[07:02] Water and his half-gallon water bottle are saving Jesse’s life.

[11:01] Maybelline Total Temptations Eyebrow Definer is saving my life.

[13:31] Jesse is back to reading his most recent Brad Thor book, Near Dark.

[14:50] I’ve been reading Dare to Lead by Brene Brown.

[17:30] We’re chatting all about being control freaks and what we've been learning.

[20:40] How our experiences as foster parents have shown us our need to release control.

[24:55] Lessons we're learning about control as parents -- and in other areas of our lives.

[27:40] What stress and fear tell me about resting in the Lord.

Links and Resources:

Maybelline Total Temptations Eyebrow Definer
Near Dark by Brad Thor
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown
No-Bake Cookies
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

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100. Raising Worry-Free Girls (with Sissy Goff) Oct 27, 2020

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If you or someone you love -- especially your kids -- struggle with anxiety or worry, you do not want to miss this episode of The Crystal Paine Show. I'm joined by Sissy Goff, the author of Raising Worry-Free Girls.

In our conversation, Sissy talks about how to spot signs of anxiety in our kids, how our approach can help or hurt our kids, what to do if your child is struggling with perfectionistic tendencies or stressing over grades, why anger and frustration in our kids can be a sign of anxiety, and practical tools and steps to help your child break free from incessant anxiety.

This episode is so actionable and important -- especially right now! Don't miss it!

In This Episode:

[00:33] Welcome to our 100th episode and welcome Sissy Goff.

[02:09] Learn more about Sissy and her background.

[03:12] Why did she choose to focus solely on girls versus kids in general?

[04:56] How our anxiety can impact our kids.

[07:24] Why perfectionism is one cause of anxiety and how to address it.

[08:58] How can parents navigate the internal criticism that perfectionist girls tend to live with?

[11:25] Is there a way to help perfectionistic children to branch out and try new things?

[13:17] Ways that you can recognize anxiety versus normal behavior.

[18:42] What to do once you recognize that your child is suffering from anxiety.

[22:45] Don’t forget to name the worry to remove the fear associated with the voice in their head.

[25:51] It’s so important to do preventative breathing.

[27:39] Why you need to let your kids go through the experiences and not save them.

[31:15] Go out and grab a copy of Raising Worry-Free Girls by Sissy Goff, these tactics work with boys as well!

Links and Resources:

Raising Worry-Free Girls by Sissy Goff
Raising Boys and Girls
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

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99. Answering Your Burning Questions Oct 20, 2020

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It’s been a while since we’ve answered your burning questions and this is one of your favorite types of episodes! So Jesse and I had fun answering another batch of questions you all have submitted recently.

In this episode, we talk about how old we are, how long Champ will be with us, what to do if you want to have kids and your spouse doesn't, when we start talking about the birds and the bees with our kids and how we approach it, how school is going for our kids, plans for international travel, saving for our kids' college tuition, how we got involved in youth group ministry at our church, and our favorite part of having big kids.

In This Episode:

[00:36] Welcome back and welcome Autumn. I recently read a holiday-themed novel -- A Very Bavarian Christmas!

[02:01] Oatmeal and milk (turned into no-bake cookies) are saving my life these days.

[04:37] We are answering some burning questions today!

[06:06] Jesse is now the big 4-0. SO much older that Crystal. ;)

[06:47] We’re sharing how much longer we think may have Champ.

[09:38] How do you proceed when you’re ready for kids but your spouse isn’t?

[14:56] What age is appropriate for the birds and the bees talk with your kids?

[19:59] Any plans to travel internationally?

[21:56] Are we saving for the kid’s college tuition?

[25:44] What is our favorite part of having “big” kids?

[26:47] How is school going this year?

[28:27] How we got involved in the youth group ministry at our church.

Links and Resources:

A Very Bavarian Christmas by Katie M. Reid
No-Bake Cookies
Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

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98. Staying Calm in the Midst of a Volatile Election Season Oct 13, 2020

Show notes

I’m a big fan of doing our civic duty and voting. But you know what can make a bigger difference? How we live our every day lives.

I’ve seen a lot of pundits and talking heads putting a lot of blame for problems on politicians. While elected officials can and should be held responsible for their choices and actions, we also have a responsibility as individual citizens to be a part of the solution.

If we say we are pro XYZ, what are we actually doing in our every day real lives to make a difference in that area? I’m not talking about posting something on social media or having a heated argument to try to convince a co-worker you are right.

I’m talking about making sacrifices of time and effort. I’m talking about showing up and breaking a sweat. I’m talking about building that relationship, walking alongside that person, opening up our home, volunteering for that organization, starting that non-profit, giving to that cause we believe in, having the hard conversations, stepping outside our safe and comfortable bubble — even when it costs a lot.

Let’s stop waiting for change to happen at the mayor’s office or our state senate or in Congress... and let’s start being the change in people’s lives.

In this week's episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I have a conversation on how to stay calm in the midst of a volatile election season and some thoughts on how we're approaching conversations around the elections.

In This Episode:

[01:57] An update on Champ's surgery.

[04:45] Amazon Prime Day + how to get the best deals this holiday season

[07:08] We’re jumping right into voting and volatile election seasons.

[08:24] Choose people over politics.

[10:27] Everyone comes to the table with a different perspective and their own baggage.

[12:21] Don’t live in an echo chamber.

[15:53] Live with perspective.

[17:56] How do we walk in faith instead of living in fear?

[20:36] Finally, let's vote with how we live our lives.

Links and Resources:

Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

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97. How We Chose Our Kids' Names Oct 06, 2020

Show notes

After a few heavier/deep topics on the last few episodes, we had fun doing a more lighthearted podcast episode this week! So many people have asked how we chose our kids' names, so Jesse and I had fun sharing some of the stories behind their names in this podcast episode.

Plus, we also share about Jesse subbing at the kids' school, our recent sleep struggles, a book I recently read and found fascinating, a book Jesse is reading, plus some electrolytes I've been loving.

In This Episode:

[00:36] Why Jesse ended up being a substitute teacher at one of the schools in our area.

[03:36] Sleep is saving Jesse’s life right now. :)

[06:01] It’s so hard to go to bed when the babies go down, because it’s usually the first time in the day that we’ve had time to do the things we want to do.

[06:56] Ultima Electrolytes are saving my life this week because they taste better than Nuun.

[09:47] I have been reading Five Days in November by Clint Hill.

[12:30] Jesse is reading 100 Deadly Skills by Clint Emerson.

[14:24] Why we chose our kid’s names.

[15:45] Learn how Kathrynne’s name came about, and what our original choice was.

[18:43] Up next is Kaitlynn and for some reason we were sure that she was going to be a boy.

[21:24] Why we didn't choose a K name for Silas.

[23:36] When Kierstyn came along, the girls wanted her to have a K name with a unique spelling.

[27:02] Why Kierstyn's middle name is especially appropriate.

Links and Resources:

Links and Resources:

Ultima Electrolytes
Nuun Electrolytes
Five Days in November by Clint Hill
Libby App
100 Deadly Skills by Clint Emerson
MoneySavingMom.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show

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96. Standing Strong (with Alli Worthington) Sep 29, 2020

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You aren’t enough — in your own strength. But, in Christ, you can do ALL things!

As Alli Worthington says in her new book, Standing Strong, “You may not feel able to stand strong. You may be filled with self-doubt. When you hear others talk about great women of God, you may say, ‘Oh, that’s not me.’

“But friend, it is you. You are more than you think you are.

“A superpower exists inside you. If you are a believer, the Holy Spirit lives in you. We can’t keep walking around feeling powerless like life is happening to us, like we are victims. The Spirit of God lives inside us, empowering us for greatness. We just have to tap into it.”

Need some encouragement to live this truth out? To rest in God’s strength? To face adversity and hard things empowered by the strength of the Lord?

Want to know how to practically lean into that Superpower and live in confidence in Christ? Be sure to listen to today’s episode of The Crystal Paine show — it’s just 28 minutes and will infuse you with courage, confidence, and clarity to step out in faith and live into the callings God has given you.

In This Episode:

[01:59] Alli shares about her family and her business.

[03:06] What inspired her to write this book?

[06:00] I ask Alli about her perspective on what a woman's place is.

[09:10] How do we know what God is calling us to?

[11:45] Does one's calling ever change? How do you know if it does?

[14:58] How there is so much rest and joy when we follow God's leading in our life.

[16:34] Has Alli found that she experiences more spiritual attacks because of writing this book?

[20:02] Holding yourself back and playing small is not humility.

[21:40] What does it look like to focus on the God who can?

[24:51] Some words for women who feel weary and worn down.

Links and Resources:

Standing Strong by Alli Worthington
Alli’s Website
MoneySavingMom.com
YourBloggingMentor.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

95. Our Rules for Kids & Phones Sep 22, 2020

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"Do you let your kids have phones? If so, how do you protect your kids and what kinds of apps or parental controls do you have in place?"

I get some kind of variation on this question multiple times every week. Since this topic is one that really depends so much on the family and the situation and each individual child, I was hesitant to share what we do at our house. However, after we continued to get so many questions on this, Jesse and I decided to delve into this topic on this week's episode of The Crystal Paine Show.

We share the guidelines we have, why we have them, and some thoughts on when we choose to give our kids phones and what the stipulations are for having a phone at our house.

We also share a recipe we've been loving, a funny anecdote about why we got 3 or 4 crockpots as wedding gifts, and what Jesse and I are reading right now.

In This Episode:

[01:32] Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Muffins are saving my life

[02:31] Our crockpot is saving Jesse’s life.

[04:32] Why I've been using the Eat at Home menu plan this week.

[06:30] How we ended up with multiple crock pots as wedding gifts.

[08:08] Learn what Jesse and I have been reading.

[10:37] Why we have to refill our cup with more than just rest.

[13:06] Our rules for kids and phones… but first, a caveat.

[14:23] Out guidelines for when we give our kids a phone.

[17:00] Why have a phone is a privilege, not a right.

[21:55] A discussion on how we talk to our kids about the dangers of the internet and technology.

[26:29] How we strive to teach personal responsibility and wise decision making.

[31:49] You will make mistakes, keep pushing forward and walk in faith.

Links and Resources:

Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Muffins
Eat at Home
Goodreads
Rhythms For Life Planner and Journal by Rebekah Lyons
MoneySavingMom.com
YourBloggingMentor.com
My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com