Courage and Spice

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Ambition and Space Holders with Sammie Fleming Apr 26, 2023

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This episode is a little piece of magic brought to you live from Aotearoa, New Zealand. The day after I landed from the UK, I boarded a Very Tiny Plane in order to spend the day with dear friend and fellow coach, Sammie Fleming.

Sammie’s coaching practice is all about supporting creatives, coaches, space holders, and healers to claim their wholeness, leadership and deep confidence with ease and flow.

Tune in as Sammie and I give you a peek into our time together, including insights on the crossroads between ambition and intuition, accessing your true desires, and holding space in both your client work and everyday life.

You can find Sammie at

https://sammiefleming.com/

https://www.instagram.com/sammiesonjafleming/

If you are ready to deepen your coaching presence and advance your coaching mastery, you are invited to consider the Self-belief Coaching Academy. This evidence-based, trauma-informed, ICF-accredited programme is specifically designed for practitioners whose clients are impacted by self-doubt.

QUOTES FROM SAMMIE

“It's a skillset to be able to be deep in the unknown and hold it without forcing any direction. To navigate your client and really, truly hold them.”

“I’m quite disinterested in holding my clients accountable and nowadays. I'm so much more interested in cultivating a fire so strong that they are going to do the thing anyway.”

“There's no such thing as the ‘good client’. You don't have to perform for me. You don't have to achieve for me. I'm just going to sit and bask in all of you.”

“Abundance comes in many, many, many forms. Including the ability to pot around and drink your coffee slowly. Or be on stage in front of 10,000 people. Or spend an entire month reading all the books you wanted to read all year. Not one of these is more important or valuable than the other.”

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How to go deeper with Coaching Clients Apr 12, 2023

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In this episode, we are addressing a topic that comes up all the time during Supervision sessions and in training coaches in the Self-belief Coaching Academy: how to go 'deeper' with coaching clients.

While the specifics for each of your individual clients will obviously vary, I wanted to spend some time looking at the generalised contexts that tend to be present. And also to know that this is a really, really common question for coaches to ask!

I'm sharing three approaches designed to help you access a deeper space with clients.

I also share why a desire for new approaches is a great sign that you are evolving as a coach. Let's get into it!

Quotes

"As coaches, we can get wedded to our client's goals and we end up coaching around the goal and not the person. We can easily take it as a personal failure if the client doesn’t get to where they want to go. But what if the goal isn’t helpful for the client’s growth? What if the goal changes? What if the client achieves the goal but feels flat and disappointed? When we focus on goals, we can end up solving the wrong problem'."

“The reasons that we have protective, resistant behaviours is no accident. They’ve served important purposes. But at some point, we need support to try new ways of doing things, of getting our needs met.”

“After the first 100 hours or so of client work, you may have taken your foundational coaching skills as far as you can. You are likely to be feeling curious and ready for more.”

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Your presence is your greatest Coaching tool with Kris Sheppard Mar 29, 2023

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Our coach training equips us with incredibly helpful tools, concepts and approaches, and client work provides the real-world experience of supporting actual humans, most professional coaches find that there is still something missing. And no I don't mean a business coach!

We need a different third thing - a learning space that helps us to make sense of everything.

Where we can reflect on our relationship with very specific, three-dimensional, paying clients (not theoretical avatars or other trainee coaches).

Where we can feel supported and frankly, less lonely in this work (it's super tricky when we work from the kitchen table or the spare room!)
And we usually need other resources and choices for supporting clients more effectively (because none of us know what we don't know).

As the coaching industry matures, being in Supervision is now recognised as the standard for coaching excellence. And having been in Supervision for a decade, I honestly don't know how any coach does this work without it.

I'm delighted to welcome Kris Shepard back to the podcast to chat more about Supervision - Kris is a Life Coach and Supervisor who helps coaches show up authentically with their clients and masterfully hone their unique coaching style.

In this episode, we talk through the ins and outs of coaching supervision, and why it should be the first point of call for coaches who are figuring out this beautiful, helpful work.

You can find out more about Kris at

https://www.instagram.com/becometheauthorofyourlife/

https://directory.iccs.co/united-kingdom/london/supervisor/kristina-sheppard

If you’re interested in coaching supervision with me, a Growth Edge Supervision Circle will be beginning in May. You can click here to find out more and join the waitlist: https://selfbelief.school/supervision/

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

Why criticism is so crunchy Mar 01, 2023

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Urgh criticism is The Worst, isn't it? Just the thought of it makes most of us clench up. So let's have a peek at what's actually going on.

In this episode, we'll explore why we are so afraid of criticism, where that 'urgh' reaction comes from, and what we can do to get more comfortable with what other people think.

For this week’s free resource, you can download my recent workshop What will people think?!, which dives even further into how to lovingly detach from other people’s opinions: https://selfbelief.school/podcasts/episode-133/

Have a question about self-doubt that you want me to answer? You can submit a question for the podcast right here: https://selfbelief.school/podcast/#question

QUOTES

“Self-doubt isn't particularly logical or rational. Most of the time we can see that this is not a very healthy belief for me to hold, but somehow, can't go through with an alternative.”

“Anyone's opinion of you is first filtered through their own perspective. We have to be discerning about whose criticism is worth listening to”

"Every quality is neutral. There is no inherent best or right way; it's all in the context and the nuance between the two poles."

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

Places, Poetry and Photos with Sophie Howarth Feb 15, 2023

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This week my guest Sophie Howarth and I are diving into what it really means to create your own pace in a culture that prioritises faster and more.

Sophie is an artist, writer and teacher, whose work is about deepening connection to ourselves, one another and the wider web of life.

We talk thorough ways to tune into your surroundings and get comfortable with going slow, and how Sophie includes and promotes this practice in her own work.

Tune in to see just how much you can discover on a pilgrimage within the fabric of your own life!

About Sophie

Across an eclectic career spanning the arts, activism, social enterprise and government, Sophie has been committed to developing more imaginative responses to our most urgent concerns.

Best known as the Co-Founder and first Director of The School of Life, Sophie has also been Curator of Public Programmes at Tate Modern, Faculty Lead at Year Here, Head of Education and Research at iniva, and a Special Advisor on Social Action in the Number 10 Policy Unit.

She is also the author of several books including The Mindful Photographer, Street Photography Now and Family Photography Now.

You can find out more about Sophie here:
https://www.sophiehowarth.com/
https://poetrypharmacy.co.uk/the-distillery/online/

Interested in Self-belief School? Here’s all the info: https://selfbelief.school/enrol/

References

“Ode” by Zoe Higgins (poem)

“I thank you god for this most amazing day”, E E Cummings (poem)

If Women Rose Rooted, Sharon Blackie (book)

Quotes

“Tuning ourselves into noticing brings so much depth, but it can't be done in a hurry. You just can't do it if you're busy getting from A to B in a race.”

“Sometimes making peace with all the things undone, all the people that we failed to get back to, all the ambitions that we're not pursuing, allows for this really loving space of just being with what is.”

“With that privacy attention, these things that happen without an audience, that aren't shared, that aren't for anyone else except our ourselves and our beloveds. These are the really precious resources that we have.”

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

Recalibrating to life in third gear Feb 02, 2023

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A huge 2023 welcome back to Courage and Spice! I took some time to reset over the Christmas holiday, a much needed step back that made me realise just want it means to fully commit to rest and rejuvenation instead of just stopping work.

As I make plans for the new year, I’m realising that there’s no reason for the spaciousness that I felt to disappear. Which is why I’m focusing this episode on how to stay in a gear that honours your energy and creativity.

I’m also making some changes to how our episodes are going to be released, which means that every solo episode will come with a free resource to help you put everything we talked about to action!

Click here for this week’s Guide to Uncovering Courage Based Goals: https://selfbelief.school/courage-spice-resources/

Signups for Self-belief School are now open! Click here for more info: https://selfbelief.school/enrol

QUOTES

“There's so much emphasis on growing and getting bigger and more audiences, and my fire has just gone out for that kind of stuff. I'm already connected to the most amazing folks”

“When you just let your mind wander with no fixed destination or idea for what should happen, it's going to give you a breadcrumb trail that's worth following.”

“A goal is just a temporary state: we are learning some stuff about ourselves, trying to achieve something or part of something. And at the end of that, we can go :what really worked? What do I want to do more of? What's the next 30 day goal?”

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

A Surprising Source of Business & Personal Growth Dec 07, 2022

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For my last episode of 2022, I’m talking about the number one action that I’ve taken to grow my business. Now stay with me, because I know this can come with a lot of feelings… that action is asking for feedback!

We tend to avoid feedback because many of us equate it with criticism. The secret is that the benefits of getting that feedback far outweigh the fear around it. This means building the courage to ask is one of the best things you can do for your work, business and personal growth.

So what’s this episode really about?

I’m breaking down how feedback can really benefit you in order to challenge the fears around it and be able to use it as a strength! There are a few different angles to this:

Feedback is the intel that will make ‘that thing’ that you’re trying to do the most impactful it can be, because it’ll speak specifically to those you’re trying to help.
Conflicting feedback can strengthen your self-trust, as different perspectives put you in touch with your own.
If you’re a perfectionist, practicing asking for feedback can take the pressure off feeling you need to be the expert on everything.

Tune in for more on how to get comfortable with the how’s, when’s and why’s of asking for feedback, and then using it to take action!

Connect with Sas Petherick:

Website: https://selfbelief.school/class/
And if you heard my introduction and are interested in coaching supervision, you can sign up for Growth Edge Circle here: https://selfbelief.school/supervision

You can quote me on that…

“Asking for feedback before you've made your thing, or completed it, is a great way of adding in your client's voice to whatever it is that you are creating on their behalf.”

“If you ask a range of different people for feedback, you're probably going to get different perspectives, and sometimes they will be in conflict with each other. It’s a really great opportunity to just sink into your own discernment.”

“My protective self-doubt is always telling me to wait until everything is right, to be afraid of risking criticism and rejection. And then I sit with the question, what else could be true? And I find that there's almost never a really good reason to wait.”

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We are Stardust with Agnes Becker Nov 24, 2022

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Today, we are visiting our guest, Agnes Becker’s world.
This is the world of we are stardust - a place where art and science collide to enrich your experience of and relationship with our messy, beautiful universe.
So what’s this episode really about?
Agnes creates artwork that inspires connection with the more-than-human world and online adventures that encourage you to rewild your soul.
We talk about wonder, and hidden worlds, and finding both by slowing down and really looking. Agnes' invitation is to engage our senses and notice - and we'll be rewarded with the gift of opening our perception of ourselves and the way we experience the world.
There is so much wonder in Agnes’ work. If you feel like you’re rushing around but you’re aware that something else is going on beyond that, in nature and in some deeper part of you, our conversation will help you find your way to your wild and beautiful soul.
We discuss the attention economy, that first spring of COVID-19, how to let go of urgency and the grief that can come up when we reconnect with the natural world. She talks about how she navigated her way to a place where she weaves art and science together, and how We are Stardust is her place to belong in the world.
If you’d like to connect to the more-than-human world, Agnes offers a portal.
LINKS
Rewild Your Soul Workshop / Autumn Leaf Painting Workshop
Braiding Sweetgrass - Robin Wall Kimmerer
Sophie Strand
Alan Watts quote / Ram Dass quote / Finding meteorite impacts in Aboriginal oral tradition
Connect with Agnes Becker:
Website: https://wearestardust.uk/
Instagram: @wearestardustuk
You can quote me on that…
“We are creatures not computers.” - Sas Petherick
“That tiny moment, to look at that one leaf, it can change the perception of yourself, and change the way you’re thinking about the world and your life.” - Agnes Becker
“What I love is the learning. Not just through the science but through the experience and observation and attention that art invites you to cultivate.” - Agnes Becker
Like what you hear?
Why not help me reach more ears (and give my self-belief a boost) with a 5-star rating?
Sign up for SBCA 2023 here:
https://selfbelief.school/sbca

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

Expectations and Unconditional Love Nov 16, 2022

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If you notice there are stories you are telling yourself like “If my partner was different, I would feel loved” or “If my boss was a whole other human being, I would enjoy my work so much more” then this episode is for you!
I'm sharing how to become aware of the expectations we carry around and the steps to take to make the shift from expectations to unconditional love. This process has dramatically transformed every single one of my relationships.
What if no one needs to change for you to feel ok? What if the people you don't like, can be your greatest teachers? What if unconditional love is entirely possible for you to access?
This episode is about relationships and the way we can show up to them from our healthy adult selves.
You can quote me on that…
“When we put our happiness in the hands of another human, we set both of us up to fail.” - Sas Petherick
“Other people do and say things and we interpret what they do and say. That interpretation creates some kind of meaning that feeds into our beliefs. It’s what we believe that creates our feelings.” - Sas Petherick
“When we’re willing to take responsibility for how we’re interpreting anyone else’s actions when we’re willing to take responsibility for what we believe, we crack a new level of adulthood.” - Sas Petherick
Like what you hear?
Why not help me reach more ears (and give my self-belief a boost)
Sign up for SBCA 2023 here:
https://selfbelief.school/sbca

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

Every story has three narratives Nov 09, 2022

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I’m really excited to chat with you today about a concept that has been brewing for me over the last few months - that every single story we tell about ourselves, has three different narratives.
In this episode I discuss these three layers as I see them, and explain how going into the third layer is where we get to really understand something new about who we are.
It's no accident that this is coming up for me right now, as I am currently in an in-depth training programme to certify as a Coaching Supervisor. In supervision what we’re trying to do is look at a bigger (super) perspective (vision) of our work as coaches. It's a big old soup of (sometimes uncomfortable) reflection!
So do listen in:
If you’re trying to figure out what’s happening for you in an area of your life that feels unsatisfying or confusing.
If you’re a coach that’s curious about supervision practice, you might enjoy hearing more about my experience of it.
And if you’re a human experiencing self-doubt, this approach to storytelling and meaning-making is likely to support you!
LINKS
Website: https://selfbelief.school/class/
Insta: @saspetherick
You can quote me on that…
“When we get into a reflective practice of some sort, we get to unearth an expanded narrative.” - Sas Petherick
“Asking ‘what else could be true?’ brings in complexity, and also possibility. If we allow ourselves to really sit with that question we can start to see that the meaning-making we’ve drawn is specific to that story. It may not be a universal truth.” - Sas Petherick
Like what you hear?
Why not help me reach more ears (and give my self-belief a boost) with a 5-star rating?

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

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