Couples Coaching with Natalie Clay

77. Ann & Bruno Feb 09, 2024

Today hear my session with Ann and Bruno, as we talk through how to navigate marriage when someone decides to stop going to church.

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76. Sharon & Jake Feb 02, 2024

Marriage provides such a great opportunity for personal growth. And there are no shortcuts!

Today you’ll hear my discussion with Sharon and Jake as they share their process of growth.

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75. Gabrielle & David Jan 25, 2024

Communication is the number one thing people come to me for help with. Listen in as I coach Gabrielle and David on how to improve communication in their marriage.

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74. Cassandra & Todd Jan 19, 2024

If you ever wonder why the smallest tiff can sometimes turn into a big fight, today's episode is for you.

73. Lynn & Lloyd Jan 11, 2024

It's easy to get caught up in who's right and who's wrong when we encounter a different approach to problem solving. Today you'll learn an easier, more honest approach where you can both be right and still support each other.

72. Marriage Prep May 09, 2023

Hello! It's been far too long! I'm excited to post the conversation I recently had with Jody Moore (Better Than Happy) on her podcast. We had a great talk about my new Marriage Prep course. Hope you tune in!

71. Butter Your Macros Sep 30, 2021

Today I’m excited to introduce you to Heidi Bollard and Natalie DuLaney of Butter Your Macros. I had the privilege of going on their podcast and I’m sharing it here with you today. These incredible women provide coaching for nutrition, weight loss and stress management. They are incredible at what they do and they are all around lovable women! If you’re looking for help with your health, I can’t recommend them enough! Head to www.butteryourmacros.com to learn more!

70. Bonnie & Clyde Sep 23, 2021

In my experience, most people truly desire happiness for their spouse and find that even more fulfilling than getting everything they want. So why do we feel such an intense need to have things our way? Bonnie and Clyde provide us with a key insight to help answer that question.

69. Karen & Kai Sep 02, 2021

Shame and blame are inseperable. But understanding this—and doing the work to eliminate personal feelings of shame—can transform a marriage.

68. Nicole and David Aug 26, 2021

A shared religious faith often helps couples more closely align their values and goals. How does a couple navigate a marriage where one partner no longer believes?

67. Angelina & Brad Aug 19, 2021

It can feel intense to make important decisions that impact our marriage or family. Clarity comes when we remember to keep our personal values front and center.

66. Mandy & Scott Aug 12, 2021

What determines equal contribution in a marriage relationship? And what are the results of trying to sort this out—for the marriage and individually?

65. Christine & John Aug 05, 2021

The way our parents raised us informs the way we raise our own children. Couples often have strong, and markedly different, opinions on how it should be done. Today, I coach Christine and John on this issue.

64. Noelle and Dale Jul 29, 2021

Want to love your spouse more unconditionally but not sure how to get there? The answer may surprise you.

63. A Marriage as Unique as You Jul 22, 2021

We often cause ourselves unnecessary stress and pain trying to mold our marriage to fit unspoken standards of what constitutes a “good” marriage. What if we instead create a marriage that fits the uniqueness of the people in it?

62. Margot & Ryan Jul 15, 2021

In sometimes large, but often small and subtle ways, we set ourselves up to fail when we shame ourselves in an attempt to become who we think we should be.

61. Ann & Tommy Jul 08, 2021

“Love languages” is a term I frequently hear from my clients. Today I speak with Ann and Tommy as they learn how to navigate their differing styles and use this information to best love themselves and each other.

60. Meaghan & Jake Jul 01, 2021

Am I frugal or a spender? What value do I place on each description? Each of us has deep-seated ideas on how money should be made, saved or spent. Today I talk with Meghan and Jake about their different values regarding money.

59. Elle & Jared Rowley Jun 24, 2021

This week I sit down with Elle and Jared Rowley to talk about how they have used the principle of taking care of their own needs to thrive within the demands of a marriage, four children and a successful business.

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58. Shawn and Juliette Jun 17, 2021

What story do you tell yourself about your marriage? Learn how to rework that story and watch your marriage improve!

57. Resisting Emotion Jun 10, 2021

Resisting emotion is the quickest way to go from feeling bad to worse. Today I discuss when to change your thoughts and when to allow yourself time to feel bad.

56. Snap Judgments Jun 03, 2021

We think we know each other so well, but just as often judge wrongly as we do right. But right or wrong, what you believe about your spouse’s character or intentions is what you’ll find.

55. The Obvious Solution That Doesn’t Exist May 27, 2021

We’re great at identifying the simplest solution to disagreement. But when the solution involves molding our spouse’s viewpoint, our easy answer becomes nearly impossible.

54. Sara and Jack May 20, 2021

When things are rocky in our relationships, we can decide that changing ourself to meet our spouse’s expectations will fix things. Does it?

53. Marie and Spencer May 13, 2021

Jobs and kids and the general stresses of life can sometimes make us feel that we are in a business partnership instead of a marriage. Today I coach Marie and Spencer.

52. Belle and Paul Feb 02, 2021

For many of us, small day-to-day life challenges over time can bring more stress to our marriage than major events. Today I coach Belle and Paul—newlyweds who are facing the realities of joining their lives together—and offer them tools that can lessen the stresses of daily life.

51. Emotional Abuse Dec 18, 2020

I often get asked how to differentiate between unkind words and emotional abuse. In today's episode I discuss this with my Psychiatrist, Dr. Karl Martineau, to show how this topic is handled from the coaching and counseling perspectives.

Dr. Martineau runs an adult ADHD clinic with his wife and Life Coach, Kristen Martineau. To learn more about their incredible practice go to https://refocusadhdutah.com. Enjoy!

50. Heartbreak Sep 26, 2020

Whether dating or married, the loss of a relationship can be excruciating. Today I offer some ways to navigate the darkness of heartbreak.

49. Margaret and Robinson Sep 18, 2020

Opposites do attract. But sometimes, after marriage, our differences can feel more challenging than entrancing. Today I coach Margaret and Robinson on how they can effectively navigate a key difference in their marriage.

48. Redefining Romance Sep 11, 2020

The modern view of romance includes a whole lot of entitlement. Ridding ourselves of these expectations will help us develop true romance in our marriage. Let’s discuss.

47. Christian & Janae Sep 04, 2020

I am so excited to welcome you to Season 2 of the podcast!

In this episode I coach Christian and Janae on differences with spending habits, conflict resolution and parenting styles.

46. Victim Mentality Apr 16, 2020

Why do we so often gravitate to the role of victim in our marriage? This week I’ll discuss why this role doesn’t serve anyone and what you can do to get out of it.

45. Mental Disorder Apr 02, 2020

Are you in a relationship impacted by a diagnosed mental disorder (or undiagnosed but suspected)? This week I share experiences I’ve had coaching people in these kinds of relationships and what I’ve learned from them.

44. Uncertainty Mar 26, 2020

This week I offer three tips to help you confront the fears and stresses of this uncertain time.

43. Open Coaching Mar 21, 2020

What a week we’ve all had. I held a free open coaching session this week—a lot of it, unsurprisingly, was about Covid-19 challenges—and thought it could to helpful to post it here for those who weren’t able to attend. Much love to everyone in this difficult time!

42. Asked and Answered Mar 12, 2020

I get hundreds of emails from people asking really interesting questions. It would be impossible to get back with individual answers—as I wish I could—but here’s the next best thing: a new podcast segment where I answer some of these questions using the tools I teach.

41. Marriage Skills Mar 05, 2020

What if a successful marriage is the result of a carefully developed skill set? I think that’s exactly what it is.

40. Believing New Things Feb 27, 2020

Having new beliefs about your marriage is more than simply thinking positive thoughts. Today I discuss how to develop the skill of believing new things—and feeling more love in the process!

39. Improving Your Marriage Individually Feb 20, 2020

Is it possible to improve your marriage if your spouse isn’t open to coaching or to change? Absolutely! The best way to create fast, lasting change in your marriage is to do so as an individual.

38. Being Resigned Feb 13, 2020

Being resigned feels better than being angry or resentful, but the damage can be just as great. Today I teach why we end up resigned and what to do about it.

37. Confidence, Take Two Feb 06, 2020

Self-confidence is so essential to wellbeing in marriage and as an individual that I revisit the topic this week. I’m joined by a very special guest.

36. Confidence Jan 30, 2020

How you feel about yourself has a huge impact on your marriage. Let’s discuss.

35. Boundaries Jan 23, 2020

This week I have a special guest. Jody Moore and I discuss what a boundary actually is and how to establish one from a place of love.

34. Divorce Jan 16, 2020

This week I discuss the process I share with couples who are grappling with the decision of whether or not to divorce.

33. Zach and Darcy Spafford Jan 09, 2020

Pornography is a frequent issue confronting couples that I coach and, statistically, couples across the general population. This week I speak with Zach and Darcy Spafford, who share valuable insights they gained when tackling this issue.

32. Write a New Story Dec 31, 2019

It’s a New Year—time to shed the plot lines of our marriage narratives that don’t serve us and replace them with exciting new ones!

31. Truth Dec 13, 2019

Who’s right? Who’s wrong? This week I discuss truth in marriage.

30. Authenticity Dec 05, 2019

Our desire for a sense of control in our lives can keep us from being authentic. This week I talk about how we can simply be ourselves—and the serenity that comes with it.

29. Identity Nov 23, 2019

Who are you? We each take on an identity as an individual and as a couple. Is the identity you’ve taken on serving you?

28. Selfishness Nov 11, 2019

Today I discuss why you might consider trashing the “selfish” label so you can take care of your own needs in marriage.

27. Opposites Attract Oct 28, 2019

This week I talk about why many of us decide to marry someone quite different from ourselves and how we can learn to approach differences not with irritation, but appreciation.

26. Getting Out of the Blame Trap Oct 16, 2019

Do you feel like you are always in trouble in your marriage relationship? Today I talk about how to get free of that oppressive feeling and replace it with love.

25. Looking for Judgement Oct 04, 2019

Many of us are on 24-hour alert trying to spot the judgement we’re certain others feel toward us. This week I discuss what steps will quiet our primitive brains and remove this unnecessary pain from our lives.

24. One of Those Weeks Sep 30, 2019

Do you ever have a week where every effort you make seems wasted? Where the simplest task feels like pushing a boulder uphill? Welcome to my week. Today I share a couple of ideas on how you can face a week like this.

23. Three Simple Things to Increase Connection Sep 20, 2019

This week I share three techniques that will increase the connection you feel with your spouse—even if your spouse doesn’t change a bit!

22. How to Feel Terrible Sep 13, 2019

Feeling bad is a necessary part of the human experience. Today I discuss ways you can embrace the bad feelings that come in order to keep them from being bad for you.

21. Getting Out of the Past Sep 05, 2019

Does our view of our past lead us to self-compassion or victimhood? The perspective we choose will impact our relationships going forward.

20. The Primitive Brain Aug 29, 2019

Today I talk about why our brains give negative emotions the same gravity as death — and what we can do about it.

19. User Manual Aug 22, 2019

Just like a user manual for a car or a phone, many of us carry around a mental user manual complete with the features we expect our spouse to have and how we think he or she should operate.

18. What is the Headline for Your Marriage? Aug 15, 2019

This week I discuss why we often cling to the “headline” we’ve written for our marriage—even if it doesn’t increase our happiness—and how we can write a more useful one.

17. Good Guys and Bad Guys Aug 08, 2019

Parents apply simple labels like “good guys” and “bad guys”—terms that young minds can understand—to protect their children. A surprising number of us, unfortunately, carry these labels into marriage and waste time and energy trying to decide if we have a “good” spouse or a “bad” spouse.

16. Diana and Dan Swillinger Aug 02, 2019

All marriages have struggles! Guests Diana and Dan Swillinger share how they’ve worked to overcome some of the challenges encountered in theirs.

15. Beliefs in Marriage Jul 26, 2019

You’ve been married long enough to draw firm conclusions about your spouse. These convictions make logical sense and seem to be confirmed over and over by your marriage experience. Today I discuss why we should be very skeptical of our conclusions.

14. Transferring Emotion Jul 18, 2019

This week I draw attention to a behavior that many of us exhibit, which, left unchecked, has the power to make us feel that we’re victims and our spouses are villains.

12. Trust After Indiscretion Jul 05, 2019

Whenever I work with a client who has been cheated on by their spouse, the question I’m always asked is “How can I ever trust him/her again?” This week I demystify the nature of trust to help empower you to move your marriage forward in the way YOU want.

11. Things I Wish I Knew Before Marrying Jun 28, 2019

This week I share tips to help all the soon-to-be-marrieds hit the ground running with healthy and happy marriages!

10. Quieting the “Shoulds” Jun 20, 2019

If our thoughts are filled with “shoulds,” we make decisions from fear. This week I talk about how you can take back the authority to make decisions on your terms.

9. How to Argue Productively Jun 13, 2019

Today I discuss a healthy step-by-step approach to navigating the difficult and sometimes long-lasting disagreements that can spring up in marriage—and how you can come out closer as a couple on the other side!

8. Resentment Jun 06, 2019

Resentment feels terrible. And if we’re not careful, resentment can color our feelings toward our spouse and harm our marriage. Today I’ll talk about the source of resentment and how you can take steps to get it out of your life.

7. Roles in Marriage May 30, 2019

Do we view our roles in our marriage as decisions we make or as responsibilities thrust upon us? Today I’ll share a few ideas on how you and your spouse can navigate ever-changing roles and draw closer together!

6. Sex and Intimacy May 23, 2019

Each of us decides whether sex leads to intimacy in our marriage or to disconnection and resentment. Today I'll share some simple ideas on how to choose intimacy.

5. Attraction Outside Marriage May 16, 2019

Our brains are biologically wired to desire human connection and pleasure. Today I’ll share some insights to keep in mind if you are faced with the decision of whether or not to seek connection outside your marriage.

4. The Real Problem May 09, 2019

The circumstances of our marriage (or our life) determine our experience with it, right? Today we'll talk about the real problem behind our "real" problems.

3. Why See Eye to Eye? May 02, 2019

Should the goal of a "good" marriage be to always understand each other? Does this lead to harmony and help us avoid disappointment?

2. Pessimistic or Positive? Apr 25, 2019

How do you view your married-life past? Our attitude toward the past profoundly impacts our future!

1. Welcome to Couples Coaching! Apr 16, 2019

So excited to begin the Couples Coaching journey with you!

In this episode I'll take a brief look at some of the differences between couples counseling and couples coaching and will introduce you to my husband—the person I get to practice all these powerful tools with!

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