Connection Codes

How Pain Became My Compass for Change(144) Dec 17, 2024

Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill, alongside Tera Wages, reflect on years of caregiving, immense responsibility, and the hidden toll of staying too long in life’s boiling pot. As she shares moments of unexpected joy, pain, and tough decisions, Phyllis talks about how recognizing and addressing pain can lead to profound change. Tera joins the conversation, helping frame the journey of shifting from “I can’t” to “I can,” challenging all of us to confront our own boiling water and embrace the courage to pursue a life that truly serves us.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

00:00:00 – Shattering the “I Can’t” Mindset
00:01:05 – Cracking the Code to Connection
00:01:36 – Pain as a Silent Companion
00:03:34 – A Life-Changing Family Call
00:04:43 – The Whisper of Help
00:08:18 – When the Pool Collapsed
00:12:30 – A Breath of New Perspective
00:15:49 – The Joyful Weight of Change
00:20:12 – Confronting the Fear of Letting Go
00:24:56 – Untangling Emotions for a Fresh Start
00:30:16 – A Call to Courage

How to Stay Curious When it Hurts(143) Dec 10, 2024

Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis dive right into the deep emotional impact of hurt and how it shapes our decisions, often leading us to throw out meaningful connections. They discuss the origins of the phrase “throwing the baby out with the bathwater” and share examples where unresolved pain led to disconnection—from friendships to church experiences and even political divides. The Connection Codes team discusses the importance of staying curious, processing emotions like hurt and fear, and choosing connection over isolation. This is a very powerful conversation about making your way through personal and communal hard situations while holding onto what truly matters.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

00:00:00 - The Weight of Hurt Unpacked
00:00:52 - Meet the Voices Behind Connection
00:01:23 - Baby, Bathwater, and a Bigger Problem
00:05:51 - Stories That Still Sting
00:11:55 - Science Meets Hurt: The Brain’s Alarm
00:13:14 - Love in the Time of Pain
00:17:35 - Faith, Hurt, and a Bigger Picture
00:22:28 - When Churches Stop Listening
00:24:45 - Conversations That Change Everything
00:26:33 - Moving Through Pain, Step by Step
00:29:02 - How Pain Creates Growth
00:32:39 - Politics, Curiosity, and Connection
00:35:52 - Healing Starts with Acknowledgment
00:43:11 - A Final Look at Connection

When Emotions Sneak Up On You(142) Dec 03, 2024

Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis talk about the surprising ways emotions can surface and the impact they have on our lives and connections. Phyllis shares a deeply personal moment when a Broadway play unexpectedly brought her to tears, triggering memories and grief she hadn’t felt in years. Tera, Glenn, and Phyllis reflect on the Connection Codes principle that emotions happen to us, often without warning, and how embracing this truth can lead to deeper connection and healing. They also discuss how society often misjudges emotional responses, and why learning to honor and process our feelings—rather than suppress them—can transform relationships and self-understanding. Don’t miss this heartfelt conversation that reminds us how emotion shapes our human experience.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help⁠⁠

Chapters

00:00:00 - The Connection Codes Unveiled
00:01:23 - Phyllis Faces Unexpected Emotions
00:03:02 - A Play That Triggered the Past
00:05:16 - Grief Through the Lens of Broadway
00:08:57 - Supporting Emotions in Real Time
00:15:10 - The Depth of Emotional Pain
00:18:58 - Navigating Intense Emotional Waves
00:22:24 - A Stranger’s Unsettling Encounter
00:24:32 - What Drives Human Behavior
00:27:25 - Exploring the Core Emotion Wheel
00:30:52 - Emotions from New York Adventures
00:36:59 - Wrapping Up with Encouragement

What Fear Can Teach Us About Unity with Sharon McMahon(141) Nov 26, 2024

Tera sits down with Sharon McMahon, widely known as America’s government teacher, to discuss the power of fear as a driver in politics and history. They discuss how emotions influence decision-making, the importance of warm relationships in bridging divides, and the steps individuals can take to create meaningful change in their communities. Sharon shares insights from her journey, highlights from her new book, The Small and the Mighty, and advice for navigating today’s polarized world.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Connect with Sharon McMahon:

Sharon McMahon: https://sharonmcmahon.com
Sharon on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonsaysso
Here’s Where It Gets Interesting Podcast: https://sharonmcmahon.com/podcast
The Small and the Mighty by Sharon McMahon: https://sharonmcmahon.com/book

Chapters

00:00:00 - Meeting Sharon McMahon: America’s Government Teacher
00:01:59 - A Bold Leap into Education and Public Service
00:06:23 - How Fear Shapes History: Lessons We Need Today
00:12:30 - Fear as the Catalyst: Understanding Its Political Grip
00:17:41 - Politics Powered by Fear: Unpacking its Influence
00:27:14 - Uniting in Division: Strategies to Find Common Ground
00:29:08 - Social Media's Role in Isolation and Connection
00:34:08 - Big Impacts, Small Actions: How to Make a Difference
00:39:36 - Building a Legacy in a Digital World
00:40:46 - Stories of Unsung Heroes: Honoring Quiet Courage
00:51:13 - Supporting Roles: The Glue of Great Achievements
00:52:29 - Closing Reflections: Lessons to Take Forward⁠

Why Conflict May Be the Key to Closeness with Jordan and Erika Koop(140) Nov 19, 2024

Erika and Jordan Koop are back with the Connection Codes team to discuss creating meaningful connections within relationships and communities. From their initial struggles with applying Connection Codes to their eventual success in fostering a culture of emotional fluency in their northern Canadian community, their story gives you a look into both the challenges and rewards of building relational resilience. The conversation goes into the impact of vulnerability, the reality of conflict in close relationships, and steps for bringing transformative tools to others. The Koops show how connection can thrive even in the midst of personal and communal challenges.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠

Connect with The Koops:

Erika and Jordan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/questforthecore

Chapters

00:00:00 – The Start of a Connection Revolution
00:00:29 – Meet Jordan and Erica Koop
00:01:27 – A Message from Northern Canada
00:03:42 – The Koops’ Path to Connection Mastery
00:05:35 – Overcoming Barriers to Build Community
00:06:14 – The Key to Group Dynamics Success
00:09:01 – Profound Impacts of Connection Codes
00:16:10 – Personal Growth Through Emotional Challenges
00:27:17 – Navigating Shame and Fear in Relationships
00:28:30 – Exploring Emotional Cycles and the Pit of Despair
00:29:47 – Why Real-Time Emotional Processing Matters
00:31:23 – The Blueprint for a Supportive Community
00:34:33 – Vulnerability’s Role in Deepening Relationships
00:38:57 – Steps to Foster a Culture of Vulnerability
00:40:55 – Tangible Stories of Vulnerability at Work
00:45:12 – Empowering Community Builders with Resources
00:50:31 – Wrapping Up with Encouragement

Why We Ignore Our Own Needs—and How to Stop(139) Nov 12, 2024

Tera Wages and Echo Vetter Hill are discussing the realities of emotional awareness, exploring how emotions show up in our bodies and what they’re really telling us. They talk about the link between sensations and feelings, the purpose behind emotions like anger and sadness, and why we often resist our own needs. Together, they look at how facing pain can lead to real growth and how connecting with our emotions can transform relationships and self-understanding. Tera also guides you through the Core Emotion Wheel, giving you a look at a tool for identifying and processing what’s going on beneath the surface.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: ⁠https://substack.com/@echohillvetter⁠

Echo on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter⁠

Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: ⁠https://calendly.com/echohillvetter⁠

Echo’s LinkTree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

00:00:00 — Start of the journey with Connection Codes
00:00:35 — Discovering needs with Echo Vetter Hill
00:02:42 — Emotions decoded: What do they do?
00:07:16 — Sensations and self-awareness
00:13:02 — Emotions stored in the body
00:19:14 — Differentiating acute and chronic emotional pain
00:27:40 — The surprising strength of anger
00:35:52 — Building connection: The real practice
00:36:35 — Embracing vulnerability with emotion
00:38:30 — Recognizing and managing hurt
00:38:51 — Weighing pain against growth
00:44:38 — Facing sadness and navigating loss
00:47:59 — Loneliness exposed and finding support
00:55:19 — Guilt, shame, and rewriting our actions
00:59:55 — Unlocking the Core Emotion Wheel
01:06:45 — Final reflections and encouragement

Why Changing Beliefs Feels Hard (But Can Be Worth It)(138) Nov 05, 2024

Tera welcomes the co-creator of Connection Codes, Echo Hill Vetter. She’s a trauma informed coach as well as a parenting and lead coach. Today they’re discussing the power of beliefs and how they shape our identities, often keeping us in what Echo calls a "tiny little box." As they talk about the emotional weight of Election Day, they explore why differing perspectives can feel threatening and how fear plays a central role in our reactions. Tera and Echo discuss the impact of generational experiences and challenge you to approach differing beliefs with curiosity rather than judgment. Tera shares her own journey toward openness, encouraging you to stay connected to yourself and others, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter

Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter

Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter

Echo’s LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Election Day Reflections and Emotional Intensity
00:01:58 - Exploring How Beliefs Shape Identity
00:03:22 - The Role of Fear in Feeling Safe
00:04:43 - When Beliefs No Longer Fit
00:08:19 - Echo’s Personal Journey with Shifting Beliefs
00:10:13 - Finding Connection through Curiosity
00:14:58 - Using Emotional Awareness to Bridge Differences
00:20:33 - Discovering Common Ground Through Shared Fears
00:27:15 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Connection
00:30:47 - Final Reflections on Staying Connected

Sex, Shame, and Society’s Messages to Men(137) Oct 29, 2024

The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion, they take a look at the hidden messages men receive about sex and desire—messages that create shame and emotional distance. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share personal experiences and clinical observations on how societal pressures force men to conceal their struggles, while Tera brings a fresh perspective on how these issues affect marriages. Together, they discuss how acknowledging and unpacking these messages can lead to healthier connections and break down emotional barriers.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Starting the Conversation on Male Sexuality
00:00:49 - Listener’s Challenge Sparks a Deep Dive
00:04:01 - Untold Stories and Hidden Experiences
00:05:27 - The Influence of Cultural Messages
00:12:34 - Unpacking Lust and Attraction
00:21:45 - Navigating Purity Culture’s Impact
00:31:54 - Biblical Takes on Lust: A Fresh Look
00:36:59 - Understanding the Greek Roots of Lust
00:38:06 - When Does Lust Become Sin?
00:39:08 - Attraction Stories That Shape Us
00:42:23 - What It Means to Be "Missing" in Marriage
00:45:05 - Surprising Insights from Pre-Marriage Talks
00:50:00 - Honest Conversations in Pre-Marriage Counseling
00:56:08 - How Honesty Reshapes Relationships
01:03:14 - Wrapping Up with Core Emotion Reflections

From Purity Culture to Sexual Confidence(136) Oct 22, 2024

Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy and vulnerability, reflecting on personal stories of breaking through fear and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, mutual trust, and being adventurous in the bedroom—whether that means trying pole dancing, exploring phone sex, or simply processing long-held fears. This episode challenges listeners to move past societal judgments and find what works for them and their partners, pointing out that every couple’s journey is unique.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction: Girl Time Vibes
00:00:50 Welcome to the Connection Codes
00:01:36 Unveiling a Listener's Email
00:03:26 Phyllis’s U-Haul Truck Adventure
00:05:12 Pushing the Boundaries in Sexual Adventure
00:07:44 Freeing Yourself from Shame and Judgment
00:12:52 Opening Up: Boundaries and Personal Comfort
00:14:10 Why Communication Is the Key to Intimacy
00:18:26 Chair Dancing: Phyllis’s Unexpected Confidence Boost
00:20:27 Staying Intimately Connected Across Distance
00:21:47 Girlfriends Sharing Bold Relationship Tips
00:23:34 Facing Shame and Embracing Vulnerability
00:24:03 The Joy of Fiction: A Surprising Tool for Sexual Exploration
00:26:32 From Theater to Bedroom: Removing Barriers
00:28:19 Self-Awareness: A Pathway to Sexual Exploration
00:31:00 Adventure in the Bedroom at Any Age
00:35:21 Processing Emotions Surrounding Sex
00:42:34 How to Build Safety and Curiosity in Relationships
00:44:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

The Sex Talk Men Never Got with Sam Jolman(135) Oct 15, 2024

Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men’s sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather than performance. The conversation also touches on common challenges in sexual relationships, the importance of open communication, and how better sexual education can lead to deeper emotional connections.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠

Connect with Sam:

Sam Jolman: https://www.samjolman.com/
Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samjolman/
Sam on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samjolmancounseling
Sam’s Substack - the heart of it: https://samjolman.substack.com/
The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/4s7b47pr
Story Formed by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/53sy8amx

Chapters:

00:00:00 – Setting the Stage: Why This Episode Stands Out
00:01:38 – Meet Sam Jolman: A New Voice in Masculine Sexuality
00:03:48 – Redefining Masculine Sexuality Through Personal Stories
00:06:52 – Real-Life Experiences That Shape Our Sexual Identity
00:09:55 – Why Sexual Education Is More Important Than Ever
00:14:03 – Navigating Challenges in Today’s Sexual Relationships
00:20:20 – The Strength in Vulnerability: Opening Up About Sexuality
00:25:01 – How to Clearly Communicate Your Sexual Needs
00:27:29 – Breaking Down Sexual Play and Its Importance in Relationships
00:28:28 – Understanding the Boundaries: Consent and Desire
00:29:37 – The Neurological Basis for Play and Vulnerability
00:32:32 – The Root of Miscommunication in Sexual Relationships
00:34:24 – Overcoming Fear and Embracing Playfulness in Intimacy
00:47:13 – The Hidden Power of Non-Sexual Play in Strengthening Bonds
00:48:37 – Wrapping It Up: Key Takeaways from the Conversation

How Being Right Could Destroy Your Relationship is great(134) Oct 08, 2024

The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconnection. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack the idea of the "courtroom" in relationships, where couples focus on proving who's right instead of understanding each other's emotions. They discuss how this leads to loneliness, especially in areas like sex, and share tools to shift from battling over facts to building deeper emotional connection. Whether it's about resolving conflict or dealing with sexual loneliness, you’ll be offered a path to transforming your relationship.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Opening the Courtroom: How Conflicts Become Trials in Marriage
00:01:21 - Marriage as a Battlefield: The Story Behind the Courtroom Mentality
00:03:05 - The Burden of Being Right: When Winning Means Losing
00:04:21 - Logistics vs. Emotions: The Trap of Disconnected Arguments
00:09:45 - The High Cost of Winning: How Arguments Lead to Disconnection
00:14:36 - Exhaustion and Innocence: Why Proving Your Case Drains You
00:21:36 - The Unseen Toll: Navigating Emotional Chaos
00:22:20 - Sexual Loneliness Unveiled: A Pain Often Ignored
00:23:05 - Connection Through Conversation: How Words Heal
00:24:54 - Validation’s Power: The Key to Emotional Harmony
00:26:37 - Conflict as Connection: Transformative Approaches
00:27:40 - Practical Tools for Lasting Emotional Intimacy
00:29:32 - Reflecting on Past Wounds: Why Emotional Tools Matter
00:33:19 - Emotional Mastery: Building the Right Relationship Toolkit
00:37:15 - Healing Old Wounds: How Emotional Tools Transform Relationships
00:41:48 - Encouragement & Wrap-Up: Moving Forward with Connection

From Childhood Trauma to Adult Dysfunction: Breaking the Cycle(133) Oct 01, 2024

We explore the impacts of unprocessed emotions on mental health, from childhood trauma to adult struggles like OCD and anxiety. The team discusses how society’s tendency to label people, rather than understand them, leads to deeper psychological challenges. They discuss the importance of emotional regulation and use simple tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help both adults and children process their feelings. By addressing these issues early on, we can improve emotional health and break harmful cycles across generations.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Unveiling the Spectrum of Psyche Disorders: A Journey Begins
00:02:06 - Navigating the Human Condition: What Shapes Us?
00:03:28 - Unprocessed Emotions: Silent Disruptors of Our Lives
00:06:45 - Real Stories, Real Struggles: Humanity in Motion
00:09:31 - Childhood Memories: How Early Trauma Echoes in Adulthood
00:12:27 - Cultural Shifts and the Rise of Pathologizing Human Experience
00:16:02 - Living with OCD: A Deep Dive into Personal Insights
00:24:57 - Parenting in the Face of Emotional Health Challenges
00:31:26 - Parenting Misunderstandings: The Unspoken Burdens
00:33:53 - Childhood Anxiety: Recognizing and Addressing It Early
00:36:35 - A Neighborhood Incident: Society’s Quick Judgments Exposed
00:40:24 - The Vital Role of Emotional Regulation in Everyday Life
00:47:55 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Game-Changer for All Ages
00:54:14 - Personal Reflections: Processing the Emotional Journey
01:00:38 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement for the Road Ahead

Are You Weaponizing Your Emotions? How to Avoid Emotional Harm in Parenting (132) Sep 24, 2024

The Connection Codes crew is taking on a listener's question about how parents can express emotions without making their kids feel like they need to earn love or approval. They explore how parents can balance showing real emotions while avoiding guilt-tripping or creating unnecessary pressure. From discussing parental guilt to finding joy in everyday moments, this episode offers you tools for maintaining emotional connection with your kids, even during tough times. Whether you're navigating emotional transparency or trying to create safe spaces for your children, this conversation offers insights on building strong, lasting family bonds. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠ To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome to Connection Codes: Exploring Emotional Safety in Parenting 00:01:14 - Personal Reflections: Updates from Life and Gratitude 00:03:43 - Unpacking Emotions with the Connection Codes Tool 00:06:43 - Listener Q&A: Navigating Emotional Parenting 00:11:49 - Striking the Balance: Emotion and Authenticity with Your Kids 00:21:18 - Parenting Guilt: Tackling the Internal Tug of War 00:22:52 - Finding Balance: Emotional Regulation in Parenting 00:24:38 - Prioritizing Connection: The Core of Parenting Success 00:26:54 - Teaching Emotional Awareness: Why It’s Crucial for Kids 00:30:01 - The Healing Power of Processing Emotions as a Family 00:31:57 - Building Long-Term Connections: Creating Safe Spaces for Kids 00:36:51 - Joy in Parenting: Why It Matters More Than You Think 00:39:26 - Listener Love: How You’re Helping Shape Our Conversations

He Wanted to Quit: The Key to Turning Our Marriage Around(131) Sep 17, 2024

Tera and Wes open up about going through an emotional disconnect and how they rebuilt their relationship using the Connection Codes method. They discuss their struggles with loneliness, guilt, and fear, and how these emotions impacted their marriage and family life. Tera and Wes also explore how learning to process emotions in the moment has helped them break old patterns of conflict, ultimately leading to a stronger, more connected partnership. This episode shows us how slowing down and creating emotional safety can transform a relationship.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠
Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters

00:00:00 - The Start of Our Connection Codes Journey
00:02:35 - How Our Journey Began During COVID
00:04:22 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Life-Changing Tool
00:05:07 - Real-Time Emotion Wheel: An Unfiltered Demo
00:09:07 - Wes Opens Up: His Path to Emotional Awareness
00:12:08 - Tara’s Reflection on Connection and Communication
00:13:51 - The Tough Stuff: Breaking Through Emotional Barriers
00:19:34 - Parenting with Emotional Awareness: The Real Impact
00:25:23 - Emotional Anchoring: How to Stay Grounded in the Chaos
00:26:06 - Reflecting on Old Conflicts and New Growth
00:27:05 - Sticking with It: Committing to Emotional Growth
00:28:24 - Real-Life Transformation: What It Looks Like
00:30:42 - Processing Emotions in Real Time: No More Bottling It Up
00:37:04 - Creating a Safe Space: The Key to Emotional Healing
00:41:30 - The Challenges of Holding Space for Each Other
00:45:45 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Family, Trauma, and Survival: Why You Disassociate and How to Stop(130) Sep 10, 2024

In this episode, the team is diving into the challenges of dealing with difficult family dynamics, focusing on the difference between disassociation and stunt doubling. The hosts share stories about how overwhelming situations, especially with family, can lead to shutting down emotionally or "faking it" just to get through. They explain how disassociation can protect us in moments of stress but can also lead to deeper problems, while stunt doubling is a conscious choice to stay present without fully opening up. They are letting you in on ways to get through these tough moments, helping you find balance between staying true to yourselves and protecting their mental well-being.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters 00:00:00 - When to Show Up or Fake It: Intro to Stunt Doubling vs. Disassociation 00:01:13 - Panic on the Road: How Family Stress Can Lead to Disassociation 00:02:42 - Disassociation: The Mind’s Escape Hatch We All Use 00:04:15 - Driving Blind: Personal Stories of Emotional Shut Down 00:07:59 - Stunt Doubling: Why Pretending Might Save Your Relationships 00:11:08 - The Battle Between Authenticity and Survival 00:15:16 - Culture and Disassociation: Are We All Just Numb? 00:18:18 - Stunt Doubling: A Strategy for Emotional Survival 00:21:42 - Finding Safety: A Client’s Journey Through Stunt Doubling 00:23:51 - How to Stunt Double Without Losing Yourself 00:26:34 - Navigating Life’s Stressful Moments: When to Stunt Double vs. Disassociate 00:31:18 - Core Emotion Wheel: The Tool That Keeps You Grounded 00:34:50 - Wrapping Up: Tools and Insights for Navigating Family Dynamics

Signs of Living in Emotional Pain (129) Sep 03, 2024

In this episode, the Connection Codes team is discussing the impact of emotional and physical pain on our daily lives and relationships. They share personal stories about how unprocessed emotions can show up physically as chronic pain and stress, affecting our ability to experience joy and connection. They also give advice on how to recognize and address these emotions so we can break free from the cycle of pain and live a more fulfilled life.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul:⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠
To download the Core Emotion Wheel:⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠
Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

00:00:00 - Joyful Reunion: Reconnecting and New Beginnings
00:00:36 - Diving Deep: The Reality of Pain and Chronic Pain
00:01:27 - Welcome: Exploring Human Connection on the Connection Codes Podcast
00:02:01 - A Fresh Start: New Studio and a Surprise Reveal
00:04:21 - Why Core Emotions Matter: Understanding the Foundation
00:05:18 - Choosing Favorites: The Core Emotions That Drive Us
00:08:36 - Productivity vs. Emotions: The Unseen Connection
00:13:17 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Practical Exercise for Daily Life
00:18:45 - Unpacking the Layers: Emotional Triggers and Responses
00:23:53 - The Power of Connection: Transforming Relationships and Lives
00:25:57 - Certified Coaching Program: Empowering Others to Spread the Word
00:26:32 - Living in Pain: The Interplay Between Emotional and Physical Suffering
00:28:00 - Unprocessed Emotions: The Hidden Impact on Your Well-Being
00:30:36 - Stories of Pain: Personal Accounts and Shared Experiences
00:35:01 - Processing Emotions: Why It’s Crucial for Health and Happiness
00:40:07 - Practical Tips: Strategies for Maintaining Emotional Health
00:48:53 - Final Thoughts and Resources: Tools for Your Journey

The Silent Killer of Your Productivity and Success(128) Aug 27, 2024

We confront the overwhelming pressures that come with balancing personal and professional lives, and how unprocessed emotions can drastically reduce productivity and cloud decision-making. The Connection Codes team shares powerful strategies for managing these emotions, helping you break free from the mental blocks that keep you from reaching your full potential. You'll walk away with insights into how emotional intelligence directly impacts your success and learn practical tools to regain control and clarity, both at home and in the workplace.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Drowning in Overwhelm: A Personal Story of Feeling Stuck
00:01:08 - The Connection Codes Podcast: Reconnecting with Yourself and Others
00:01:56 - Overwhelm: The Hidden Impact of Emotions
00:05:11 - Why Emotions Are Sabotaging Your Productivity
00:07:23 - The Overlooked Side of Work-Life Balance: Your Emotional State
00:11:26 - Raw Vulnerability: Personal Experiences That Shape Us
00:20:04 - Your Body Knows Best: Listening to Physical and Emotional Cues
00:22:22 - When Overwhelm Takes Over: Strategies for Emotional Processing
00:23:10 - Finding Solutions: The Importance of Support in Overcoming Overwhelm
00:24:04 - Mastering Overwhelm: Techniques to Regain Control
00:25:21 - Coaching Insights: Navigating Through Overwhelm with Professional Guidance
00:28:53 - Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: The Key to Personal and Professional Growth
00:35:04 - Practical Tools You Can Use Today for Emotional Resilience
00:41:10 - Final Encouragement: Moving Forward with Confidence and Clarity

What safety in a relationship looks like-- and how to get it (127) Aug 20, 2024

Replay Episode. (We will be back next week with something brand new! But this is one of our most popular episodes that is worth revisiting 🙌🏻)

Dr Glenn & Phyllis dive into a moment where they were both filled with emotion. They break down how they kept it from becoming a disconnect & share how they worked through it without causing any more damage. A painful moment connected them further. Listen to learn how to build the safety in your relationship that your partner craves.

Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠ To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠ Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠ (If links aren't working, please copy and paste.)

The Truth About 'The One' - The Key to Lasting Relationships(126) Aug 13, 2024

In this episode, the Connection Codes team talks about the realities of love and marriage, pushing back against the lie that relationships are only about finding "The One." They discuss how feelings of love change over time, as well as the importance of safety and connection in maintaining a healthy relationship. They also go into the science behind emotions, experiences, and the impact of life stages like early parenthood on a couple’s bond. Tune in to hear a fresh perspective on what it takes to keep love alive and thriving through the ups and downs of married life. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach (If links aren't working, please copy and paste.) Chapters 00:00:00 - Kicking Off: Do Feelings Really Change After Marriage? 00:01:28 - The Quest for 'The One': Unpacking the Myth 00:03:47 - From Love to Lows: Understanding Emotional Shifts 00:07:38 - The Chemistry of Love: What Science Says About Emotions 00:12:45 - True Tales: Navigating Love's Complex Journeys 00:16:00 - The Impact of Cultural Differences on the Concept of Love 00:19:15 - Unprocessed Pain in Relationships: A Silent Barrier to Love 00:21:10 - Understanding Emotional Disconnect and Reconnecting 00:26:33 - Joy Interrupted: When Happiness Fades in Relationships 00:28:51 - Reviving Joy: How to Bring Fun Back into Marriage 00:30:30 - Counseling Power: A Lifeline for Troubled Times 00:33:30 - Staying Intentional: Keys to Thriving Together 00:36:20 - Adventures Await: Facing Fears, Finding Joy 00:39:52 - Pain and Joy: How Acknowledging Hurt Leads to Happiness 00:43:57 - Emotional Tools: Discovering the Core Emotion Wheel 00:51:12 - Closing Thoughts: Encouragement for the Journey Ahead

How to Ask A Question Without Triggering Your Partner(125) Aug 06, 2024

In this episode the Connection Codes team is talking about the subtle yet powerful impact of words and emotions in relationships. They explore how seemingly simple questions can carry deeper meanings and trigger unexpected responses, often rooted in past experiences and fears. They discuss how leading with emotions like joy and fear can foster genuine connections and reduce misunderstandings. The conversation addresses the importance of authentic communication, and how sharing true emotions can strengthen bonds and create more meaningful interactions. You’ll leave this episode with a fresh perspective on the science of connection and the effect of emotional honesty in everyday life.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

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Chapters

00:00:00 - Unlocking Emotional Insights: Podcast Kickoff
00:01:31 - Client Epiphany: A Moment of Clarity
00:03:00 - Words That Change Relationships
00:04:26 - The Science of Emotional Connection
00:06:28 - Real-Life Examples of Emotional Communication
00:10:41 - Navigating Misunderstandings and Challenges
00:15:34 - Personal Stories: From Theory to Practice
00:22:19 - Respecting Personal Preferences in Relationships
00:23:11 - Embracing Emotional Vulnerability
00:24:20 - Harnessing the Power of Emotional Language
00:25:04 - Guiding Emotional Conversations
00:26:48 - The Art of Asking the Right Questions
00:27:45 - Understanding the Core Emotion Wheel
00:30:01 - Facing Real-Life Emotional Struggles
00:39:50 - The Continuous Journey of Connection
00:41:35 - Final Thoughts and Words of Encouragement

Why Pain Management Is Not Enough(124) Jul 30, 2024

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share their unforgettable engagement story, marked by an unexpected fireworks mishap. They open up about the challenges and rewards of maintaining a long-term relationship, discussing the importance of addressing and processing emotional pain rather than suppressing it. They provide insights into the tools and practices that help couples connect on a deeper level, revealing how consistent effort and communication can lead to personal and relational growth. Join them as they unpack the complexities of emotional weight, the significance of the core emotion wheel, and the journey towards authentic connection!

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

00:00:00 - The Painful Path to Progress
00:01:04 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast
00:01:40 - Celebrating 42 Years: Engagement Story
00:03:00 - The Explosive Proposal: Fireworks and Chaos
00:09:44 - Commitment and Connection: Staying Together
00:13:11 - Understanding and Managing Pain
00:17:34 - The Hard Work of Emotional Healing
00:22:37 - Understanding Human Emotions
00:26:21 - Processing Anger and Emotions
00:27:06 - The Core Emotion Wheel
00:33:15 - Acknowledging and Addressing Loneliness
00:38:45 - The Overwhelm Overhaul Program
00:39:34 - Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Is Forgiveness Enough?(123) Jul 23, 2024

This discussion centers around the issue of how past emotional wounds resurface and affect our current relationships. Tune in to hear about the misconceptions surrounding forgiveness and explore why old pains often feel as fresh as when they first happened. The team also talks about the importance of recognizing and processing these emotions rather than dismissing them, offering tools and techniques to address these lingering hurts, leading to deeper emotional understanding and connection with your partner.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast
Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Setting the Stage for Emotional Exploration
00:00:42 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast: Meet Your Hosts and Guides
00:01:20 - Community Check-Ins and Global Reach
00:05:17 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Identifying and Processing Emotions
00:08:57 - Processing Emotions and Family Dynamics
00:14:37 - Listener Question: Handling Past Wounds: Strategies and Insights
00:17:25 - Revisiting Old Wounds: The Brain’s Response to Emotional Pain
00:19:48 - Breaking the Cycle: Moving Beyond the Need for Justice
00:22:15 - The Role of Therapy: Enhancing Emotional Understanding
00:27:44 - Understanding Emotional Pain: Why Old Wounds Still Hurt
00:29:52 - Processing Pain and Emotions: A Deeper Dive into Healing
00:31:43 - The Importance of Telling Our Stories: Sharing and Healing Together
00:33:32 - Forgiveness and Emotional Memory: Debunking Myths and Misconceptions
00:35:36 - Redefining Forgiveness: What It Really Means to Let Go
00:38:02 - Navigating Relationships and Boundaries: Protecting Your Emotional Health
00:40:14 - Practical Tools for Emotional Connection: Techniques You Can Use Today
00:50:40 - Final Thoughts and Call to Action: Join Us in the Journey to Emotional Wellness

Healing Childhood Trauma and Discovering Yourself(122) Jul 16, 2024

Dr. Glenn shares his deeply personal journey, discussing the impact of his childhood trauma and the pressures that led him to adopt a false persona. He talks about the emotional toll of losing both parents at a young age, the survival mechanisms he developed, and the eventual realization of how these experiences influenced his relationships and self-identity. They discuss how complex authenticity really is, the importance of creating safe spaces for genuine connections, and challenging the societal norms that encourage us to hide our true selves. This powerful conversation will provide you guidance to overcome past pain and build meaningful relationships based on honesty and vulnerability.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

00:00:00 - Welcome Back! Dive into Part Two of Our Identity Series
00:00:23 - Dr. Glenn's Raw Confession: Unveiling His Personal Journey
00:01:47 - From Trauma to Triumph: Childhood Scars and Their Lifelong Impact
00:02:25 - Formative Years: Coping Mechanisms That Shaped Glenn's Youth
00:03:24 - Finding Self: Glenn’s Struggle for Identity Amidst Chaos
00:04:36 - Family Dynamics: Emotional Suppression in a Turbulent Household
00:05:23 - Survival Instincts: Developing Self-Reliance at a Young Age
00:08:45 - Lost and Found: The Pain of Losing Both Parents and Siblings
00:13:56 - Musical Dreams: Early Independence and Aspirations in Music
00:18:45 - Behind the Scenes: The High-Pressure World of Stunt Doubling
00:22:36 - Authenticity Over Appearance: The Need for Real Connections
00:28:15 - Facing Fears: Overcoming Anxiety and Finding True Identity
00:31:42 - A Little Girl’s Confidence: Learning From the Innocence of Youth
00:33:22 - Dating Woes: The Problem with Inauthentic Relationships
00:35:09 - Safe Havens: Creating Spaces for Genuine Vulnerability
00:39:33 - Church and Stunts: Balancing Spirituality with High-Octane Careers
00:44:19 - True Connection: The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships
00:50:10 - Power of Stories: How Sharing Experiences Transforms Lives
00:55:45 - Transformational Moments: The Impact of Vulnerable Storytelling
01:01:29 - Growth Mindset: Investing in Personal Development
01:04:33 - Final Thoughts: Embracing Authenticity in Every Aspect of Life

How Memories Shape Our Identity from Childhood to Adulthood(121) Jul 09, 2024

Tera, Dr. Glenn, and Phyllis take on the relationship between identity and core emotions. They use "Inside Out 2" as a springboard to discuss how early experiences and memories shape our sense of self. They provide tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help you process your emotions in real-time and build stronger connections in your relationships. By unpacking how identity influences the way we interact with each other and the importance of safe emotional spaces, this conversation opens the door for understanding and improving emotional health.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Identity Unveiled: The Core of Connection Codes

00:00:45 - Welcome to Connection Codes

00:01:18 - Inside Out 2: A Cinematic Exploration of Identity

00:03:45 - Core Emotion Wheel Exercise: Practical Application

00:07:29 - Emotions Decoded: A Deep Dive into Core Emotions

00:10:19 - Identity in Relationships: A Delicate Dance

00:15:41 - The Shadows of Childhood Memories

00:18:50 - Real-Time Emotional Processing: A Crucial Skill

00:24:00 - The Role of Trust in Emotional Sharing

00:27:34 - Creating Safe Spaces: Essential for Emotional Growth

00:32:28 - Conclusion and Next Steps: Journey Towards Self-Awareness

Understand Anxiety to Reduce it(120) Jul 02, 2024

Dr. Glenn, Phyllis, and Tera are diving into the complicatedness of emotions brought to light by the movie Inside Out 2. They discuss how core emotions like joy, sadness, and anxiety influence our daily lives and relationships. They talk about the impact of suppressing these emotions and share information about how to bring them back to the forefront to nurture genuine human connections. Tune in to hear these great conversations about understanding and processing our emotions for a healthier, more connected life. Reclaim control over your emotional well-being and build deeper connections with those around you starting today!

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast
00:02:48 - Emotional Rollercoaster: Cancer Journey Insights
00:04:34 - Post-Vacation Struggles and Guilt
00:05:09 - Relationship Anger and Frustration Unpacked
00:10:28 - Inside Out 2: Exploring Deep Emotional Insights
00:13:45 - Pixar’s Research on Core Emotions
00:18:10 - Overcoming Emotional Blocks
00:20:32 - Understanding Core Emotions and Anxiety's Role
00:23:08 - Symbolism and Imagery in Inside Out 2
00:26:07 - Anxiety's Grip and Its Consequences
00:27:21 - Processing Emotions and Seeking Help
00:29:20 - The Importance of Community and Support Systems
00:38:21 - Final Reflections and Available Resources

Engaging Respectfully in Tough Conversations with Justin Jones-Fosu(119) Jun 25, 2024

Tera welcomes author and speaker Justin Jones-Fosu to discuss the often challenging topic of conflict in our personal and societal relationships. With election season ramping up, conflict is more prevalent than ever. Justin shares tips and frameworks to foster curiosity and empathy, encouraging listeners to see beyond their own experiences. By discussing the importance of challenging perspectives and seeking understanding, this episode offers great insights on maintaining respectful and productive conversations even amidst deep disagreements. Don't miss this powerful discussion that can help you improve your relationships and communication skills in these polarized times!

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Justin on LinkedIn
Justin on Instagram
Justin’s LinkTree
Justin on X / Twitter
iworkmeaningful YouTube
Work. Meaningful. Foundation
The Inclusive Mindset by Justin Jones-Fosu
Your Why Matters Now by Justin Jones-Fosu
Work. Meaningful.

Chapters: 00:00:00 - Unpacking Conflict: A Deep Dive into Tensions in Today's Society 00:01:30 - Introducing Justin Jones-Fosu: Insights on Bridging Divides 00:03:52 - Justin Jones-Fosu: From Air Force Brat to Diversity Advocate 00:06:30 - Taking the Exit: Why We Avoid Tough Conversations 00:09:33 - Shifting Perspectives: The Art of Cultivating Curiosity 00:12:00 - The Power of Three: Deepening Conversations with More Questions 00:15:02 - Empathy 101: Understanding Views Different from Our Own 00:18:00 - Challenging Perspectives: The Impact of Understanding Different Viewpoints 00:21:00 - Real-Life Examples: Transformative Six-Month Challenges 00:24:02 - Embracing Growth: Moving Beyond Fixed Mindsets 00:26:30 - Curiosity in Relationships: Keeping the Spark Alive 00:28:43 - Lessons from an 8-Year-Old on a Plane: Courageous Curiosity and Authentic Listening 00:33:26 - The Dotted Line Dilemma: Avoiding Assumptions in Conversations 00:34:04 - Respect and Forgiveness: Planting Seeds of Change 00:38:12 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Processing Emotions 00:42:00 - Practicing Vulnerability: Sharing Core Emotions for Better Connections 00:45:06 - Final Thoughts: Resources and Ways to Stay Connected

Reaching Health Goals Starts Here with Elijah Runyan (118) Jun 18, 2024

Elijah Runyan is back to discuss the link between our emotional and physical health. Elijah shares his personal transformation story, explaining how important it is to address emotional walls to achieve true wellness. There’s also an update on Meg's courageous battle with cancer and exploring tools like the Core Emotion Wheel and breathing exercises that can help you manage stress and enhance overall health. Tune in to hear how you can live a healthier and more balanced life! Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com/

Access Elijah's guide for using the CEW for your health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com/cewforhealth

Chapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome to Today's Episode: Introduction with Elijah Runyan 00:01:00 - Personal Update: Meg’s Cancer Journey and Support 00:03:00 - Elijah's Insights on Cancer and the Immune System 00:06:00 - Phyllis' Emotional Update and Preparing for a Journey 00:08:00 - Tera’s Disney Trip: Joy and Challenges 00:10:00 - Exploring the Impact of Disconnection in Relationships 00:13:00 - Elijah’s Health Journey: From Pain to Transformation 00:16:00 - Addressing the Emotional Roots of Health Issues 00:20:00 - Phyllis on Stress and Physical Pain 00:23:00 - The Challenge of Finding and Addressing Emotional Pain 00:25:00 - The Importance of Breath in Managing Stress and Pain 00:28:00 - Techniques for Breathing and Relaxation 00:30:00 - Understanding the Parasympathetic State for Healing 00:34:00 - How Emotions Affect Body Composition and Weight 00:36:00 - Practical Steps to Improve Health Through Emotional Awareness 00:38:00 - Building Mindfulness Around Eating and Lifestyle Choices 00:40:00 - Dr. Glenn’s Popcorn Story: A Lesson in Emotional Eating 00:44:00 - Connecting with Yourself: The First Step to Better Health 00:45:00 - How to Reach Elijah Runyan for Health Coaching 00:46:00 - Conclusion: You Are Worthy of a Healthy, Joyful Life

The Shocking Benefits of Emotional Vulnerability with Jordan and Erika Koop(117) Jun 11, 2024

Jordan and Erika Koop are back to discuss their journey from conflict-ridden interactions to powerful emotional connection. Jordan and Erika share how the Connection Codes framework helped them manage marital struggles, open up emotionally, and create a deeply fulfilling relationship. This episode is about the power of emotional fluency and the unexpected paths to intimacy. If you’re seeking to improve your relationships and personal growth, you don’t want to miss this one! Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Watch 'When Internship Turns Into Family' with Jordan and Erika Koop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=prHdJnhp4d8 Jordan and Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/questforthecore/ Quest for the Core: https://www.questforthecore.com/ ---------------------------- Chapters 00:00:00 - Meet Erika and Jordan Koop: Our Story Begins 00:01:56 - Battling the Storm: Overcoming Our Initial Struggles 00:03:20 - Life-Changing Discovery: Unveiling the Connection Codes 00:06:24 - Emotional Blueprint: First Steps with the Core Emotion Wheel 00:10:40 - Spreading Connection: Bringing the Codes to Our Community 00:13:48 - From Students to Teachers: Our Certification Journey 00:19:58 - Dreaming Big: Personal Growth and Future Plans 00:22:43 - Erika’s Awakening: Deep Emotional Insights 00:23:48 - Newfound Strength: Energy, Confidence, and Creativity Unleashed 00:24:39 - Walking the Path: Reflecting on Our Connection Codes Journey 00:28:44 - Coaching Breakthroughs: Personal Growth and Transformation 00:29:41 - Safe Spaces: The Importance of Feeling Vulnerable 00:30:56 - Diverse Perspectives: Learning from a Varied Coaching Cohort 00:32:40 - Taking the Plunge: Becoming Certified Coaches 00:36:25 - Core Emotion Wheel in Action: Practical Exercises and Insights 00:42:10 - Everyday Miracles: Applying the Tools in Real Life 00:44:00 - Guiding Lights: The Role of a Coach in Personal Growth 00:45:31 - Relationship Investment: Why Connection Codes Matter 00:47:43 - Parting Thoughts: Final Reflections and Farewell

Navigating Love and Fear with Lydia and Sebastian Gerhardt(116) Jun 04, 2024

Lydia and Sebastian, the first German certified Connection Codes coaches, are here to share their journey of struggles and breakthroughs when it comes to intimacy and marriage, facilitated by their use of Connection Codes.

Their experiences show the influence these tools have in fostering deeper connections and overcoming cultural and linguistic barriers. This discussion reveals how emotional tools can greatly improve personal relationships and marital satisfaction. Tune in to learn how these strategies can improve your understanding and intimacy in relationships.

Learn how vulnerability and curiosity can lead to real healing and connection in everyday life.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help⁠

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction: Meeting Lydia and Sebastian, Pioneers of Emotional Tools

00:01:20 Greetings from the Podcast Team

00:03:01 Beginnings of a Love Enriched by Connection Codes

00:06:33 The Early Days of Marriage: Learning and Growing Together

00:10:24 Addressing Intimacy Issues Through Emotional Tools

00:14:50 The Role of Emotional Processing in Nurturing Relationships

00:16:10 How Connection Codes Helped Manage Expectations

00:17:45 Practical Tips for Using Emotional Tools Daily

00:18:20 The Impact of Connection Codes on Personal Healing

00:20:15 Stories of Transformation Through Emotional Understanding

00:22:51 The Impact of a Two-Minute Conversation

00:23:44 How to Overcome Common Marital Challenges

00:26:32 Exploring Emotional Perspectives Across Cultures

00:27:29 Broadening the Reach of Connection Codes in Germany

00:28:32 Faith, Personal Development, and Connection Codes

00:30:19 Sharing the Journey: The Global Impact of Emotional Tools

00:36:11 Emotion Identification: The Core Emotion Wheel in Action

00:40:06 Final Thoughts and Actions to Take Forward

Overcoming Numbing pain & Addiction with Elijah Runyan(115) May 28, 2024

Elijah Runyan joins the Connection Codes team to share his journey from numbing pain with alcohol to finding genuine emotional connection.

Elijah opens up about the deep-seated shame, guilt, and loneliness that fueled his coping mechanisms, making him realize the significant impact of facing and processing pain rather than masking it. Through these discussions on the subtle yet impactful ways we all avoid discomfort—whether through alcohol, social media, or other distractions—this episode uncovers the true path to long-term joy and meaningful relationships.

Learn how vulnerability and curiosity can lead to real healing and connection in everyday life.

Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Connect with Elijah:

https://www.runyanstronghealth.com/ Chapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast! 00:00:41 - Elijah's Raw Journey: From Numbing to Healing 00:04:33 - Breaking Free: The Secret to Processing Pain 00:08:00 - The Toll of Numbing: Elijah's Personal Story 00:12:15 - Recognizing Hidden Pain: The First Step to Healing 00:14:15 - Are You Numbing Pain? Recognize the Signs 00:17:30 - Everyday Coping Mechanisms: From Alcohol to Social Media 00:22:49 - The Game-Changer: Emotional Awareness Unleashed 00:26:26 - The Hidden Strength in Vulnerability 00:27:33 - Coping in Relationships: A Real Conversation 00:33:51 - Self-Discovery: The Unexpected Path to Healing 00:38:00 - Small Moments of Joy: Rediscovering Life’s Beauty 00:41:34 - Coping Mechanisms Exposed: How to Break the Cycle 00:45:19 - The Key to Lasting Emotional Support and Awareness

Dating with Intention with Bridgett Blood(114) May 21, 2024

Bridgett Blood joins us to discuss the raw realities of dating. We explore the power of showing up authentically from the very first date, the struggles of overcoming societal pressures to use a "stunt double," and the importance of self-trust in building genuine connections. Bridgett shares her personal experiences, highlighting both the joy and loneliness that come with dating, and offers advice on how to handle these emotions. Whether it's the challenge of a simple coffee date or the exhilaration of feeling truly seen, this conversation will change the way you approach relationships. Tune in to hear how being true to yourself can make a difference in your dating life!

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

00:00:00 Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast
00:01:05 - Bridgett Blood: A Fresh Take on Dating
00:02:27 - The Emotional Rollercoaster of Dating
00:04:39 - Bridgett's Journey with Connection Codes
00:06:17 - Authenticity and Vulnerability: Key to Dating
00:09:10 - Overcoming Fear on First Dates
00:11:50 - Building Self-Trust in Relationships
00:13:06 - Setting Boundaries and Meeting Needs
00:17:53 - The Strength of Being Your True Self
00:20:20 - Lessons from Dating Experiences
00:23:19 - Challenging Cultural Norms in Dating
00:25:42 - Journey to Self-Discovery in Dating
00:28:22 - Applying Connection Codes to Dating
00:33:06 - Why You Shouldn't Date Alone
00:39:26 - Sexual Joy and Loneliness: Insights from a Single
00:43:55 - Broadening Connection Codes for Singles

Links for Bridgett:

Connection as Correction in Parenting with Echo Hill Vetter(113) May 14, 2024

Echo Hill Vetter joins hosts Tara Wages, Dr. Glenn Hill, and Phyllis Hill to explore a revolutionary parenting approach that champions connection over correction. This discussion about the deep-seated traditions of disciplinary methods challenges the effectiveness of punishment and advocates for a nurturing environment where children learn through understanding and empathy. Echo shares personal experiences and practical advice on how fostering emotional safety within the family can lead to more authentic and supportive relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to shift generational patterns and embrace a more compassionate approach to raising children.

Links and Resources: To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters: 00:00:00 Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast 00:00:21 Meet Echo Hill Vetter: A Visionary in Parenting 00:02:00 Unpacking Trauma with the Core Emotion Wheel 00:05:20 A New Paradigm: Discipline Through Connection 00:08:26 Echo's Family Dynamics: A Case Study in Connection 00:09:33 Connection Codes in Action: Echo's Approach with Her Children 00:11:02 Community and Connection: Building a Supportive Family Environment 00:13:15 Correcting Paths through Understanding, Not Punishment 00:14:29 Harnessing Connection to Revolutionize Parenting 00:16:17 Tackling Parental Fears and Societal Challenges 00:21:00 Decoding Whining: Signs of Unmet Needs 00:26:14 Wrapping Up: Inspirational Takeaways and Next Steps

Shaping a Compassionate Future for Our Children(112) May 07, 2024

Tera, Echo, and Bridget discuss the transformative power of respectful communication between adults and children. They explore the significant impact of emotional intelligence on parenting, bringing to the forefront the importance of creating safe, empathetic environments where children are encouraged to express themselves and engage with the world around them confidently. With heartfelt stories and expert insights, this conversation challenges conventional disciplinary tactics, advocating for a connection-first approach that respects children's voices and emotions. If you’re looking to foster deeper connections and understand the profound influence of nurturing communication in shaping the future generation, tune in to this episode!

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Revolutionizing Parenting with Emotional Codes
00:02:24 - Official Start: Unveiling the Connection Codes
00:03:44 - Expanding Kids' Support Networks Beyond Parents
00:06:46 - Discussing Kids’ Rights to Emotions and Choices
00:11:41 - Deepening Understanding of Kids' Emotional Expressions
00:18:57 - Exploring Emotional Regulation Within Families
00:25:17 - Parental Reflections: Aspiring for Change and Healing
00:27:24 - Crafting a Supportive Web for Parents and Kids
00:30:28 - The Intricacies of Emotional Bonds in Families
00:31:49 - Educating Kids on Emotional Intelligence and Safety
00:35:53 - Strengthening Parenting Through Community Support
00:41:04 - Embracing a Spectrum of Emotions in Child Rearing
00:47:48 - Wrapping Up: Embracing Emotional Awareness in Parenting

Is sex a need or just a desire?(111) Apr 30, 2024

Dr. Glenn Hill and his wife Phyllis along with Tera Wages unabashedly dive into nuanced territories of sex, intimacy, and emotional transparency within relationships. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis are experts in marital therapy and clinical sexology. Today’s discussion centers around whether sex is a desire or a need, and how this distinction impacts relationship dynamics. Through personal and professional stories, they explore how sexual intimacy intertwines with personal identity and emotional well-being, offering listeners a profound understanding of how to foster deeper connections with their partners. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their relational depth, navigate complex emotions, and transform their approach to intimacy and connection.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Kicking Off: The Intricacies of Sex and Candid Conversations

00:00:42 - Welcome to the Connection Codes Podcast: Introduction
00:01:36 - Community Vibes: The Strength of Connection
00:03:11 - Emotional Insights: Utilizing the Core Emotion Wheel
00:06:05 - Navigating Emotions: Anger, Fear, and Identity in Personal Connections
00:07:30: - Exploring Anger's Role in Relationship Dynamics
00:09:00: - Fear in Partnerships: Unpacking Vulnerabilities
00:10:45: - Identity Crisis in Relationships: A Closer Look
00:12:15:- How Emotions Shape Connection Dynamics
00:15:20 - Critical Question: Is Sex a Need or Merely a Desire?
00:21:21 - Why Sexual Connection Matters in Deep Relationships
00:25:13 - Debunking Myths: Sex, Identity, and Cultural Misconceptions
00:27:49 - Sexual Identity Explored: Connection and Understanding
00:31:51 - Honoring Each Other: Respecting Individual Sexual Needs
00:33:30: - Challenges in Sexual Relationships: Expert Insights
00:35:10: Individual Needs vs. Relationship Expectations
00:36:45: Techniques for Enhancing Sexual Intimacy
00:38:20: Overcoming Stigmas in Sexual Health
00:41:10 - Seeking Help: The Importance of External Guidance in Sexual Matters

Opening Up About Sex through the Hard Conversations(110) Apr 23, 2024

Tera and Wes Wages engage in a candid exploration of intimacy and vulnerability within their marriage. They discuss the often unspoken complicatedness of sexual desires and emotional needs, using their own experiences to illuminate the universal challenges faced by many couples. The couple explains how addressing past traumas and embracing open, honest dialogue can foster a stronger, more connected relationship. This episode not only provides you with practical insights for enhancing intimacy but also offers a raw look at the courage it takes to confront and navigate the intricate aspects of love and partnership. Whether you're seeking to deepen your relationship or understand the delicate balance of support and desire, Tera and Wes’s journey through love’s emotional landscape will resonate and inspire.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

00:00:00 Welcome to a Raw and Honest Look Inside Marriage: The Connection Codes Episode
00:00:22 Unpacking the Seldom Talked About: Conversations About Sex
00:03:15 Emotional Connection and Intimacy Challenges
00:06:10 Journey Through Emotional and Sexual Intimacy: A Marriage's Story
00:09:48 How Past Traumas Can Influence Our Current Relationships
00:10:46 Delving Into the Complex Interplay Between Sexual Desires and Emotional Needs
00:11:35 The Crucial Role of Open Communication in Strengthening Marriage
00:13:28 Striking a Balance: Healing and Understanding in Partnership
00:17:45 Healing Together: The Journey of Emotional Recovery in Marriage
00:20:17 Why Recognizing Each Partner's Experience Matters
00:22:19 Adapting to the Different Seasons of Marital Life and Mental Wellness
00:24:05 Postpartum Challenges and Navigating Societal Expectations in Relationships
00:26:00 Managing the Demands of Modern Life While Sustaining a Healthy Relationship
00:30:30 Vulnerability and Openness: The Building Blocks to Deeper Connection
00:35:07 Utilizing the Core Emotion Wheel: Tools for Deeper Emotional Insight
00:40:13 Celebrating Growth: Reflecting on the Evolution of a Relationship and Mutual Support

Finding Joy in the Middle of Pain(109) Apr 16, 2024

Join your host Tera Wages, along with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, as they explore the intricate dance between joy and pain through personal stories and the revolutionary use of the core emotion wheel. Discover how facing deep emotional challenges within a family can open up pathways to healing and deeper connections, highlighting the surprising truth that profound joy often coexists with intense sorrow. You are invited to reflect on your own experiences with emotional complexity and the power of vulnerability in fostering true connection. Tune in to learn how embracing all facets of your emotions can lead to a more fulfilled and emotionally rich life.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Intro to Connection Codes: Bridging Emotions
00:01:34 - Unveiling the Core Emotion Wheel
00:03:08 - Personal Stories of Emotional Courage
00:06:22 - Harnessing Emotion to Enhance Connection: Personal Stories
00:10:15 - Coping with Deep Family Challenges
00:12:32 - The Role of the Emotion Wheel in Family Healing
00:14:00 - Personal Reflections on Sorrow and Support Mechanisms
00:18:22 - Vulnerability in Times of Crisis: A Family’s Testament
00:20:54 - The Strength Found in Open Vulnerability
00:23:09 - Journey Through Emotional Release to Joy
00:25:45 - Comparing Physical and Emotional Pains
00:27:23 - Finding Joy Amidst Deep Sorrow: A True Story
00:29:38 - Why Processing Emotions Matters for Health
00:33:54 - Vulnerability as a Pathway to Emotional Healing
00:36:30 - Techniques for Effective Emotional Processing
00:38:15 - Using Emotional Tools to Foster Resilience and Connection
00:40:45 - Conclusion: Taking the Steps Towards Emotional Maturity

When Internship Turns Into Family with Jordan and Erika Koop(108) Apr 09, 2024

In this episode we are journeying alongside the Koops, a Canadian family who ventured into the unfamiliar, embedding themselves with the Hills for an experience that transcends mere internship. Through laughter, tears, and moments of profound vulnerability, we explore the life-changing power of connection, the beauty of unexpected lessons, and the courage it takes to embrace authenticity in every facet of life. From the initial leap of faith encapsulated in a cold email to the intricate dance of living and learning together, this episode shows the richness that comes from opening hearts and homes, challenging us to consider the depth of our connections and the spaces we create for growth and genuine interaction. Join us as we navigate the complexities of human relationships, discovering along the way that home isn't just a place, but a feeling cultivated through true connection and understanding.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

Connect with Certified Coaches Jordan & Erika Koop:

www.questforthecore.com

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Embarking on an Unfamiliar Path: Introducing the Koops and their leap of faith.
00:01:04 - From Cold Email to Shared Roof: The story behind the Koops' bold decision.
00:05:56 - More Than Just Interns: Unpacking the reality behind living with the Hills.
00:08:25 - Laughter and Lessons: Discovering life's unexpected teachings.
00:11:02 - Finding Comfort in the Uncomfortable: The magic of opening up.
00:14:17 - Vulnerability's Victory: Embracing the emotional ebbs and flows together.
00:17:09 - The Essence of Connection: Unveiling the strength found in genuine bonds.
00:18:46 - The Fabric of Family: Weaving together bonds that last.
00:20:57 - The Beauty of Being Seen: Learning the art of visibility and presence.
00:24:01 - Everyday Empathy: Turning understanding into action.
00:26:14 - Heart Over Hesitation: Prioritizing deep connections and daring to be vulnerable.
00:31:22 - Growth Amidst Discomfort: Confronting and growing through personal challenges.
00:34:53 - The Authenticity Effect: How true selves enhance relationships.
00:39:47 - Challenges as Catalysts: Facing fears head-on for personal evolution.
00:42:18 - The Sanctuary of Safety: Building spaces where vulnerability thrives.
00:45:33 - Riding the Emotional Waves: Staying true through life's ups and downs.
00:47:50 - Joy in the Journey: Celebrating the highs amidst the lows.
00:49:34 - The Echoes of Emotion: Learning to listen to what feelings offer.

When Faith Meets Psychology with Dr. Margaret Nagib(107) Apr 02, 2024

Today we’re discussing emotional regulation, personal transformation, and the intricate relationship between the mind, body, and spirit with our esteemed guest, Dr. Margaret Nagib. As a Christian clinical psychologist, Margaret shares her profound insights on how integrating spiritual practices with psychological principles can lead to unparalleled growth and healing. Through her personal experiences that she shares and professional insights, we explore the transformative power of connecting with the Holy Spirit, the importance of nurturing our inner lives, and the impact of emotional intelligence on our relationships and sense of self. This episode is a beacon for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of themselves and their spiritual journey, offering practical advice and encouraging stories of change and healing.

Chapters:

00:00:00 Welcome to Connection Codes
00:02:14 Meet Dr. Margaret Nagib: Unveiling Paths to Healing and Wholeness
00:06:48 Harnessing Emotional Regulation Through Nervous System Awareness
00:08:30 Exploring the Mind-Body Connection: Insights into Emotional Wellness
00:11:05 The Role of Faith in Emotional Health
00:13:47 Techniques for Emotional Regulation
00:16:34 Stories of Transformation: How Integrating Faith Enhances Therapy
00:19:12 The Significance of Self-Awareness in Spiritual and Psychological Growth
00:21:00 Discovering Wholeness: Somatic Practices and Spiritual Insight
00:26:24 Unraveling the Layers: The Quest for an Authentic Self
00:28:00 Awakening to Spiritual Depth
00:30:00 Weathering the Storm: Family, Health, and Hope
00:33:35 Journeying Through Emotions to Find Collective Healing
00:37:52 Integrating Divine Wisdom for Profound Therapeutic Breakthroughs
00:41:08 - Margaret's Methods: Blending Spiritual Practice with Clinical Insights
00:45:12 Vulnerability as a Gateway to Strength and Courage
00:49:44 - Personal Anecdotes of Faith-Fueled Resilience
00:53:17 - Final Reflections: The Journey of Healing and Connection and Heartfelt Thanks

Links and Resources:

Dr. Margaret Nagib on LinkedIn
DUNAMIS PROJECT
Souls Like Stars by Dr. Margaret Nagib
Sozo for Professional Counselors by Dr. Margaret Nagib

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

When Joy is Damaging(106) Mar 26, 2024

In this episode we’re exploring the multifaceted nature of joy, an emotion traditionally viewed through a purely positive lens. Listen in on a thought-provoking journey to uncover the complexities and potential pitfalls of unprocessed joy. From personal experiences to professional insights, we’re shedding light on how unchecked joy can lead to unexpected consequences in both personal health and interpersonal relationships. By exploring the balance between embracing joy and acknowledging its hidden impacts, this episode will offer you a nuanced perspective on managing emotions for deeper connection and understanding.

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Meet Your Guides: The Voices Behind the Connection Codes
00:01:12 - The Complexity of Joy: Its Impact Beyond the Surface
00:02:29 - Joy's Unexpected Consequences: A Story from the Dinner Table
00:05:49 - The Risks of Letting Joy Run Wild
00:08:25 - The Double-Edged Sword of Joy: When Happiness Overshadows
00:10:32 - Joy in the Details: The Impact of Small Moments on Our Well-being
00:15:04 - Joy: Stories That Connect and Enlighten
00:22:57 - The Art of Recognizing and Embracing Joy
00:26:15 - The Intricacies of Joy in Daily Life: Insights and Reflections
00:30:03 - The Ripple Effect of Unprocessed Joy
00:33:03 - A Look at Joy's Influence in Unexpected Places
00:34:08 - The Thin Line Between Aspiration and Acceptance
00:37:41 - Together in Emotion: The Strength of Shared Experiences
00:39:17 - Nurturing Connections Through Emotional Openness
00:45:28 - Facing Life's Challenges: A Family's Journey Through Illness
00:51:52 - A Family's Battle: Fear, Hope, and the Spectrum of Emotions
00:56:51 - Wrapping Up: Embracing the Full Spectrum of Our Emotions

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

Anger in Depth: Exploring Its Role in Connection and Disconnection(105) Mar 19, 2024

We’re discussing the complex nature of anger, distinguishing between its roles as both a primary and secondary emotion. Through a compelling conversation with hosts Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn Hill, and Phyllis Hill, we explore how anger can serve as a protective shield and a driver for change. By breaking down the misconceptions and uncovering the true roots of anger, the episode offers you a unique perspective on using this powerful emotion to enhance connectivity in relationships and personal growth. Through personal experiences and expert analysis, this episode not only will enlighten you but also will empower you to harness your anger in constructive ways, paving the way for deeper connections and a more fulfilling life.

Chapters:

00:00:00 - Exploring Anger: Primary and Secondary Emotions Uncovered
00:05:23 - Personal Insights: The Transformative Role of Anger
00:09:05 - Vulnerability and Its Crucial Role in Understanding Anger
00:13:17 - Anger as Protection: Insights from Personal Experiences
00:17:23 - Leveraging Anger: Catalyst for Change and Personal Growth
00:20:08 - Overcoming Physical and Emotional Pain
00:22:18 - The Complex Dance of Anger and Relationships
00:24:56 - The Transformative Power of Pausing in Moments of Anger
00:27:29 - Loneliness, Partnership, and Emotional Connection
00:29:09 - Beyond the Surface: Anger in Individual and Social Contexts
00:33:39 - Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: Core Emotions and Beyond
00:37:19 - The Core Emotion Wheel: Pathway to Emotional Insight
00:44:54 - Empowerment through Emotional Education: A Vital Call to Action

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠

⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass⁠

An update we wish we didn't have to give (104) Mar 12, 2024

Life changes in an instant and this change has rocked all of our worlds. Today, we are sharing an update on what the Hill family is experiencing with a cancer diagnosis for their daughter-in-law. We talk about why laying the foundation for connection and processing is key before hard times happen and how we are navigating living in the moment today.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Podcast featuring Meg & Sky Hill on Parenting:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000577108464

Podcast featuring Sky Hill on living with intention:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000593408564

Stop feeling what you are feeling (103) Mar 05, 2024

We live with the expectation that we can fully control our emotions. But, emotions happen to us. We don't get to choose when they fire. BUT, we do get to choose what we do with them. And there lies the power. Today, we are going to talk about societal norms and the role emotions play in our lives.

Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

How to process childhood pain with parents with Echo Vetter (102) Mar 01, 2024

No matter how "ideal" parents are- we are all humans and make mistakes that leave pain. As we evolve into adults we find ourselves reliving moments from our childhood that have left scars. Today, we talk about how to navigate that conversation with our parents.

We also share the impact of what can happen when we create a home where these conversations begin early on.

This podcast is for anyone needing to have an open conversation with their parents- but more importantly, it is for parents of adult kids sharing insight on how you can build connection and create the conversation yourself.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Connection Codes for Parenting use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠

https://www.connectioncodes.co/connected-parenting-masterclass

Receive writings from Echo:

https://echohillvetter.substack.com/p/coming-soon

To book a session with Echo:

https://calendly.com/echohillvetter

Shifting from burnout to energy with Echo Vetter (101) Feb 20, 2024

How are you sourcing your energy? Echo Vetter shares the key components she looks for to determine if she is functioning from a joy point or a pain point.

Pain is unavoidable, but creating moments of joy can bring the balance and energy we need to avoid burnout.

This episode shares just how to do that.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

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The Key to Sexual Liberation: Reclaiming Joy and Connection in the Bedroom (100) Feb 13, 2024

In this special 100th episode, we discuss the limitations that society imposes on sex. They explore the concept of "the box" and how it restricts us from fully experiencing and expressing ourselves in our sexual relationships. They dive into the history of these limitations and the detrimental effects it has on couples.

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How to be a bold wife with Alisa DiLorenzo (099) Feb 06, 2024

If you struggle with confidence in your marriage-- this is the episode for you! We are joined by Alisa DiLorenzo of the One Extraordinary Marriage and Bold Wives Club.

We'll be exploring the journey of experiencing confidence in our bodies in the bedroom as women, reflecting on the messages ingrained in us during childhood, and understanding how they influence our marriages today.

We'll be uncovering the essential tools that can empower us to gain confidence within the intimate spaces of our homes. Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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The Role of Emotions in Sex (098) Jan 30, 2024

We answer a question from a listener about how she can connect sexually with her husband when he has turned his emotions off.

We dive into how our emotions affect our sex life and how to communicate with our spouses about the need for emotional connection. Download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Slicing it thinner-- going deeper to get to the root (097) Jan 23, 2024

In this episode, we discuss the concept of "slicing it thinner" in relationships. We explore the idea of getting to the core of issues and emotions beneath the surface, avoiding the extra fluff that often clouds authentic connection. We provide tips on how to recognize when you need to go deeper and share insights on fostering true vulnerability and authenticity in relationships. This episode offers valuable advice for anyone looking to improve their connections and deepen their understanding of themselves and others. ⁠⁠

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Pushing Through the Pain: Tools for Perseverance and Growth (096) Jan 16, 2024

We often put an expiration date on how long we are willing to try something new and when the results don't come when we expect, we often give up.

We are sharing the emotions that arise when we are ready to quit and how to process them out to keep going.

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How to actually achieve the goals you set (095) Jan 09, 2024

In this episode, we dive into the power of the weekly business meeting and how it can transform your life. Whether it's for personal development, building stronger relationships, or achieving your goals, the weekly business meeting provides a structured framework for staying connected and intentional.

Join us as we share practical tips and insights to help you take control of your life and maximize your potential. Discover the transformative power of the weekly business meeting and start building a stronger team in your family.

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How to increase longevity in your life (094) Jan 02, 2024

The majority of growth is about your mindset. In today's episode, we discuss the emotions that can arise when we think about setting goals or learning new skills. We share tips on how to increase life expectancy and live with intention and purpose.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To listen the episode featuring Sky Hill:

⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000593408564⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

How to stop creating massive blow ups in your relationship (093) Dec 26, 2023

We dissect the all-too-familiar concept of 'The Dam' in relationships and how often ignored 'debris' can lead to major roadblocks.

Join us as we explore effective tools for identifying and addressing these emotional hindrances, from elusive fears to thundering conflicts. Unearth practical advice on personal introspection and the art of candid communication. Illuminate common issues like sex, money, and devices, and the potential wreckage they can unleash when left unattended. With reflections on the past and fresh outlooks for the new year, this episode is a must-listen for those seeking to live a 'dam-free' life and experience the joy of being truly connected.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

To listen the episode featuring Sky Hill:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000593408564

*While this episode is created by a therapist Dr Glenn is not acting as your therapist, this is not medical or therapy advice. It is important to consult a physician for any medical help. This podcast is sharing experiences and offering perspectives on topics.

How to connect when you don't feel like you "fit" (Episode 092) Dec 19, 2023

In this episode, we discuss the challenge of feeling like the "black sheep" during family gatherings and offer tools to navigate such situations. They emphasize the importance of embracing one's unique identity and reframing societal expectations. By getting curious about each other and practicing empathy, we can open up new avenues of connection with their families. Ultimately, this episode guides listeners to find peace in family dynamics and create a safe space for their authentic selves during the holiday season.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

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Processing holiday loneliness (Episode 91) Dec 12, 2023

In this episode, we delve into the topic of loneliness and its impact on our lives. We discuss the different dimensions of loneliness, from feeling alone in tasks to feeling left out in social situations.

We share the science behind loneliness and its effects on our well-being. We explore the impact of processing loneliness and how it affects our health when we don't.

Tune in to discover how to navigate loneliness and transform your relationships.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

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Timestamps:

- Introduction and welcoming guest (00:00)

- The definition and different dimensions of loneliness (04:30)

- Loneliness as a common human experience (10:15)

- The science behind loneliness and its impact on the brain (13:45)

- How to support each other in loneliness (18:10)

- Redefining loneliness and understanding its different forms (23:20)

- The power of processing emotions and the Connection Codes (28:00)

- The importance of sharing emotions and creating deeper connections (32:15)

- Loneliness as a societal issue and the role of businesses (36:45)

- The practical implications of implementing the core emotion wheel (40:30)

- The power of connection in preventing loneliness (45:20)

- How to recognize and address loneliness in ourselves and others (48:50)

- Closing remarks and gratitude (52:30)

*While this episode is created by a therapist, this is not medical or therapy advice. It is important to consult a physician for any medical help. This podcast is sharing experiences and offering perspectives on topics.

090: Managing the Mental Load: Tools for a Successful Partnership with Zach Watson Dec 05, 2023

In this episode, Zach Watson joins the podcast to discuss the impact of the mental load and emotional labor in relationships. He shares his own experiences and insights, highlighting the importance of understanding and addressing these dynamics. Through open conversations and building partnerships, couples can navigate the logistics of domestic life and share the weight, fostering deeper connection and trust. Through his work, Zach aims to empower individuals to overcome the challenges of the mental load and find balance in their relationships.

Get Zach's Mentalload 101 download or book a Relationship Goals consulting call: https://stan.store/zachthinkshare?fbclid=PAAab73S2b0gQi4_SuCGgZUsEdigqXH5sBejjs32aFH_CPG5JYs2ZwBTvG5tE_aem_AdLdzC__ha5rJeK_8Wim1Z-42Q1va9_U22891caPiGgzK80Zzs43rvqMbrvS_3xe_8Q To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

089: The Art of Listening: Insights from Connection Coders Fab and Claire Nov 28, 2023

In this episode, Fab and Claire, leaders of a school for Christian actors and dancers, share their journey with Connection Codes and the transformation it has brought to their lives and the lives of others in the entertainment industry. From struggling believers to empowering missionaries, they discuss how Connection Codes have helped them bridge the gap between faith, relationships, and their passion for the arts.

This episode dives deep into the power of connection and provides practical insights for a more fulfilling and purposeful life.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

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Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

088: Can we change our emotions? A Conversation with Josh Haas Nov 21, 2023

In this episode, we are joined by Josh Haas to discuss the topic of emotional transformation. We explore the question of whether it is possible to shift our emotions and how to go about doing so. The conversation delves into concepts such as fear, shame, anger, and joy, and the role they play in our lives. Josh shares personal experiences and insights from his journey of exploring emotional change.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To buy or leave a review on the book: https://a.co/d/ciXVqwJ

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

087: How we got here: Tera's story to the Connection Codes Nov 14, 2023

In this episode, we're talking about sharing a little bit more about how our team was created with the Connection Codes. Tera Wages shares her personal journey and how she came to be a part of the Connection Codes. She discusses her background, the challenges she faced in her relationship, and how she found transformation through the Connection Codes. Emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence and how it can lead to deeper connections in relationships. We will be sharing the story of the three of us and how we ended up sitting at my dining room table. To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

086: Finding Unity amidst Division: The Role of Identity in War Nov 07, 2023

Today's episode is raw and emotional. We are sharing the impact of what the loss of identity can lead to when it is on a massive scale and repeated.

Drawing from current events in the Middle East, we explore how loss of identity can lead to wars and the importance of finding unity and creating space for each other. With a focus on connection and understanding, we navigate the emotions and challenges associated with divisive moments, offering insights and tools for you to apply in your own lives.

Article about Daryl Davis who convinced Ku Klux Klan members to give up their robes: https://www.npr.org/2017/08/20/544861933/how-one-man-convinced-200-ku-klux-klan-members-to-give-up-their-robes

085: How to talk to your kids about sexuality with Clint Davis Oct 31, 2023

Historically parents have often dreaded the lingering need to have "the talk" with their kids. Therapist Clint Davis has spent years researching this very topic. Today we talk about when to begin talking with your kids about sex, what those conversations could look like, and how to navigate the changes your kids will experience over time.

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084: Growing Together: A Conversation on Intimacy and Emotion Oct 24, 2023

In this episode, Brian and Krista share their journey of using Connection Codes to strengthen their marriage and create authentic connections. They discuss the transformative power of vulnerability, the importance of emotional depth, and the joy of feeling truly heard. Their story serves as a source of inspiration and hope for anyone looking to improve their relationships and find greater intimacy. Tune in to discover the impact of Connection Codes on Brian and Krista's lives and how it can transform yours too. To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠ To buy or leave a review on the book: https://a.co/d/ciXVqwJ Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

083: Understanding the Purpose of Shame and How It Can Help Us Grow Oct 17, 2023

In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill and Phyllis Hill discuss the purpose of shame and challenge the common narrative that shame is solely negative. They explore how shame can actually serve as a messenger, guiding us toward becoming a better version of ourselves.

The episode delves into the misconceptions surrounding shame and highlights its role in personal growth and human connection. Listeners are encouraged to embrace shame as a valuable tool for self-improvement and to shift their perspective on this often misunderstood emotion. To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

082: Strengthening Family Bonds with Connection Codes Oct 10, 2023

Join us in this episode as we dive deep into the power of Connection Codes and how they can transform your relationships. Our special guests, Rachel and Tyler, share their personal experiences with Connection Codes and how it has revolutionized their marriage and family dynamics. Discover the incredible benefits of using Connection Codes to navigate emotions, build authentic connections, and enhance your communication skills. Whether you're single, in a serious relationship, married, or a parent, this episode will provide valuable insights and practical tips to enhance your emotional intelligence and strengthen your relationships.

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

081: Below the Surface: The 90% We Hide from the World Oct 02, 2023

In this episode, Dr Glenn & Phyllis explore the concept of hiding our true selves beneath the surface. They discuss how societal expectations and personal conditioning have led us to present only a fraction of who we are to the world. They emphasize the importance of finding safe people with whom we can share our hidden depths and encourage listeners to break free from the loneliness and vulnerability of living in the 10%. By embracing authenticity and vulnerability, we can foster deeper connections and create a supportive community.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To buy or leave a review on the book: https://a.co/d/ciXVqwJ

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

*While this episode is created by a therapist, this is not medical or therapy advice. It is important to consult a physician for any medical help. This podcast is sharing experiences and offering perspectives on topics. We do not condone keeping criminal activity from authorities and encourage you to seek help.

080: Finding Freedom: How Uncovering Childhood Pain Transforms Relationships Sep 26, 2023

In this episode, guests Elijah and Christina Runyon share their personal journey of using Connection Codes to uncover childhood trauma and find true healing and connection. They discuss the impact of acknowledging and processing emotions, the transformation this has brought to their own relationship, and the importance of cultivating empathy and understanding for oneself and others. Through their vulnerability and insights, they inspire listeners to explore their own emotional journey and find deeper connections in their lives.

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Listen to Episode 044 featuring Elijah & Christina: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520?i=1000596209550

Elijah and Christina Runyan are pastors based in Santa Rosa, California. They are advocates for emotional healing and connection. They have embarked on a transformative journey using Connection Codes to unpack childhood trauma and bring about profound changes in their lives and relationships. Their personal experiences and insights serve as an inspiration for others looking to heal and connect on a deeper level. To learn more about their journey, you can listen to their podcast at: https://open.spotify.com/show/400IxHifxOucJAf9nEtA2U?si=fb018b3279b4eea or learn more about their church at https://www.thepursuitsoco.com/

078: Long term effects of criticisism Sep 19, 2023

In today's episode, we dive deep into the delicate dance of partner criticism. How does criticism impact our relationships, and more importantly, how can we communicate better without tearing each other down? Join us as we unpack the psychology behind criticism, share personal stories, and offer actionable steps to foster understanding and compassion in our relationships. Whether you're in a new romance or decades into a partnership, this episode promises insights that could transform the way you communicate with your significant other.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

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077: Being weighed down by life & how to soften the load Sep 12, 2023

We are talking about how we are often functioning at such a lower capacity because we are carrying around the heaviness of life. We talk about the impact this weight is having on our relationships and how it is keeping us from experiencing all life has. We also share our proven tool to help experience a more joyful life.

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076: Flirting & sexual banter setting expectations for sex Sep 05, 2023

Does your partner want you to be more flirtatious throughout the day? Do you feel a block in what even to say? OR are you the partner asking for the occasional eggplant emoji dropped in your text messages?

Today, we have Tera's husband Wes on the episode to discuss his desire for more sexual banter & what is blocking her from feeling comfortable. And find out the awkward moment Tera had over the weekend leading into this conversation 😂. This is a fun episode that we hope you enjoy!

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075: In-Session: Janet & Rich change the dance after 42 years Aug 29, 2023

Janet & Rich were "good" after being married for 42 years. They had the dance down. They knew the steps. But, they had no idea how much deeper it could be and how they could live with a deep connection having the language to dissect the moments that previously caused pain. Today, they share what their biggest ah-ha moments have been. This episode is filled with hope and lessons on friendship, transitions, and breaking years of patterns.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourse

074: Learning to process your emotions is the most important thing you can do this year-- but why? Aug 22, 2023

All over social media, thought leaders are telling people that processing and regulating their emotions is the most important skill they can have. But-- why? Why do you need this skill and HOW do you regulate your emotions?

This is exactly what the Connection Codes is about & today we are going to share our experience of what this skill has done for us. And share our tool to get you there.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourse

073: The Human Experience of Concealed Pain and the 'Happy Face' Mask Aug 15, 2023

It is uncomfortable being human when we are afraid of feeling or talking about hard things. We tend to project positivity or joy instead of being able to process the pain. We are designed to move to joy but we cannot get to true joy without walking through the pain. Today, we are talking about how can we show up in friendships as our authentic selves without fear of being a "Debbie Downer" and why is it so uncomfortable to share our pain.

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

072: How to spark joy when there are so many "negative" emotions Aug 08, 2023

We want more happy things on the Core Emotion Wheel! We get it! 😉 Today, we talk about how you can spark more joy in your life to share with your partner even when 7 out of 8 emotions on the CEW feel bad. Our goal isn't to be doom and gloom or to "stir the pot" it is to create a system that will be lasting & that touches on what is happening in your core each day. So you can identify each emotion-- especially joy!

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

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071: Adding depth to your relationship & working with your partner, not against them... Aug 01, 2023

If you are in a happy, loving relationship where you feel safe but have moments that suddenly your partner feels like the enemy... Ooooo... you aren't alone. It is easy to feel like they are the ones in the "wrong." Today, we talk about reframing our thoughts and having deep conversations to experience new depth and peace in your relationship.

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Enroll in our Foundations Masterclass using code PODCAST for 20% off. This is the course that can take you from disconnected to connected in your relationship. : click here

00:00 - Emotional Struggles And Communication Breakdowns

03:52 - Dr. Glenn & Phyllis: Dedication To Helping Others

07:40 - Importance Of Deep Connections In Relationships

18:34 - Power Of Vulnerability In Relationships

22:48 - Partnering Against The Cyclone: Unity And Protection

27:55 - Building Deep Connections Through Connection Codes

31:16 - Effects Of Physical Pain On Behavior And Parenting

42:31 - Three Steps To Connect And Communicate

46:02 - Power Of Consistency In Improving Relationships

50:45 - Emotional And Physical Pain: Loneliness, Guilt, And Fear

070: Increase learning capacity in kids with Mark & Teresa Lubovich Jul 25, 2023

Mark & Teresa Lubovich know all about helping kids reach their goals academically- and have witnessed over and over that it is often emotions due to life circumstances that are causing kids to be blocked. They share how they connect with kids to help them increase brain function so they can thrive in the classroom. These same ideas and tools can be applied to the workplace or to help your kids prep for the school day.

You can book a free call with Poulsbo Tutoring created by Mark & Teresa or learn more about their program: https://www.poulsbotutoring.com/

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068: Trauma, Natural Consequences, and Parenting with Echo Vetter Jul 11, 2023

Trauma Informed Coach Echo Vetter comes on the podcast today to discuss how teaching our kids emotional intellegence is in no way a hallpass to let them "get away" with poor behavior. She share her own parenting transformation and what she has intigrated into her home to see a major shift in her family.

Connect with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter

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067: Body Image and Intimacy Jul 05, 2023

How much does body image affect our sex life? When do body image issues begin? And how do American experiences vary from other cultures? We are diving into how body image has affected a large percentage of women and how experiences early in their life can affect them for decades.

Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Enroll in our Foundations Masterclass using code PODCAST for 20% off. This is the course that can take you from disconnected to connected in your relationship. : click here

Book a coaching session with Dr Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

066: In-Session: Emotional eating and processing joy Jun 27, 2023

Petra and Jeff began their journey of the Connection Codes for their marriage, then discovered that it applies to many areas of their life. Their most recent discovery is how emotions affect their eating & maintaining physical health. They share how they use the "wonder wheel" to connect with each other and how they are finding healing with each other without trying to "fix" each other.

Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Enroll in our Foundations Masterclass using code PODCAST for 20% off. This is the course that can take you from disconnected to connected in your relationship. : click here

065: In Session: Night Terrors, Separation, and Creating Safety Jun 20, 2023

After years of sleeping in separate beds due to night terrors, then eventually separating as a couple, Dave and Jess found the Connection Codes. Now, they are finally able to sleep in the same bed and are finding safety in their marriage. In today's episode, they share their story. Dave says, "This whole journey for me is learning to be authentic with Jess." Guys, this episode is raw & so, so good. It is especially powerful for couples who are starting this journey after years of pain. They share their story: the progress, the bumps in the road, and the hope they have moving forward.

Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Enroll in our Foundations Masterclass using code PODCAST for 20% off. This is the course that can take you from disconnected to connected in your relationship. : click here

064: How to transition from tension to fun in your relationship Jun 13, 2023

If you have found yourself in a cycle of defensiveness, pointing the finger, or shutting down it can feel hard to break that pattern. It feels like you are in a courtroom battling it out each day. Sometimes, you can't go straight from living in disconnect to living in connection- there needs to be an in between time of settling. Today, we are talking about the transition from the courtroom of your relationship to the playground. What the in between can look like going from an argument to peace.

Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Foundations Masterclass: click here use code PODCAST for 20% off

063: In session- Small Moments, Big Conflicts Jun 06, 2023

Shawn & Michelle Gabie are sharing a conflict that appears seemingly small to anyone looking in, but when it becomes a daily repeat, it quickly becomes large. The cycle of the conflict leads to feeling disrepected & hurt. These moments happen in our homes every day, a small annoyance that causes big disconnect. They are sharing how they finally turned the corner to overcome this pain point.

Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Foundations Masterclass: click here

062: Q&A- Pressure in Sex, expectations in chores, and sharing the CC with friends May 30, 2023

There have been several great questions come in recently, we decided to do a rapid fire response. We are going to be talking about how doing the Connection Codes isn't a hallpass to be lazy in your relationship, how Tera no longer feel's pressure in sex, and how to explain the CC with friends.

Episode 44- Elijah's Journey

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061: In Session- How to connect when an emotion feels imbalanced May 23, 2023

Connection Coders Roy & Julie are In Session today to talk about the "multiplier." This is when a reaction feels like it should be small but ends up becoming larger than expected. We have all been there. Dr Glenn & Phyllis share communication tips to help reconnect you when things snowball quickly & without warning.

Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Foundations Masterclass: click here

060: Finding the right time to connect when you are balancing a lot May 16, 2023

Jordan & Erika Koop come on the podcast today to talk through finding the right time to do the Core Emotion Wheel. They parents to young kids & finding time to connect when they are both "on" is difficult. (We get it!) Dr Glenn & Phyllis give practical advice & talk through their painpoints.

Foundations course: www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourse

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059: Big ball of yukiness- the difference between guilt & shame May 09, 2023

A listener described her emotions as feeling like one big ball of yukiness-- and we can see how it would feel that way. How can you tell the difference between some emotions when it feels like they are hitting all at once? We are going to help teach you with special emphasis on the difference in guilt and shame.

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058: Friendship and Feelings: Navigating Emotional Safety and Regulation Without a Co-Regulator May 02, 2023

In this episode of "Friendship and Feelings," we explore the challenges of processing emotions in friendships and how to create safety in those relationships. We sit down with Bridgett Blood to discuss how she uses the Connection Codes tools as a single person to work through trauma and find emotional regulation.

Bridgett shares her personal experiences and insights into using the Connection Codes tools to create safety and deeper connections in friendships The conversation is filled with valuable tips and strategies for anyone looking to navigate their emotions and build stronger relationships.

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057: He Said, She Said: Navigating Relationship Conflicts and Resolving Disagreements Apr 25, 2023

We dive into the challenges of navigating relationship conflicts and resolving disagreements with your partner. Using a courtroom analogy, we discuss the pitfalls of trying to make a case against your partner and offer tips for effective communication and conflict resolution. Our goal is to help you avoid damaging your relationship while still finding a way to address your concerns and come to a resolution. Tune in to learn how to navigate the heated moments of relationship disputes with grace and empathy.

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056: Emotional Intensity: Why Some Feelings Hit Harder Than Others Apr 17, 2023

Do you ever feel like you have been hit by sadness so hard that it is hard to move? But another time sadness could come and go quickly? There are different levels that you can experience emotion & being able to communicate those levels can make a big difference in how others respond to you. Something that could look like a small situation to one person could feel big inside another person's body. Sharing that level can affect if you connect or disconnect in the moment.

Today, we are sharing the science behind the levels of emotion & why we call it 43 feet.

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055: Unpacking Anger: Navigating the Emotion and Finding Peace Apr 11, 2023

Today, we will be discussing secondary anger and how to get to the core emotion. Secondary anger is a response to another emotion, such as fear, hurt, or shame. It can be challenging to identify and manage, but it's essential to understand and manage it to prevent it from damaging our relationships and affecting our mental health. By recognizing the signs of secondary anger and using the Connection Codes techniques, we can get to the root of our emotions and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

Additional topics: Nashville school shooting, parenting, and answering a listener's question

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054: How to overcome decision fatigue Apr 04, 2023

Do you stand in the aisle of Target debating what shampoo to buy? Or do you have to keep telling your waitress for one more minute while you decide dinner? Decisions come up all day every day and many of us are frozen due to indecisiveness & struggling to choose. We are diving into how to overcome it to save time & energy.

053: Am I enough? And other question you ask after a big life change. Mar 28, 2023

Babies, marriage, retirement, moving, loss… there are so many moments in life our identity shifts. Those moments leave us feeling lost, unsure of who we are now. And it is painful. Today, we share our experiences in these shifts and a response to an email we received.

052: How to move forward when your partner is shut down Mar 20, 2023

Ever sense that your spouse is still upset the day after a conflict & you don't know what to do to move forward? Today, we dive into how to break that moment up so you can ease the tension & move past the conflict. We are explaining the research behind the Core Emotion Wheel & what it can do to change your life.

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051: Defensiveness, Parenthood, and life after the Connection Codes with Chris Cruz Mar 14, 2023

Chris Cruz joins us today to talk about life before and after the Connection Codes. He dives into the moment he shifted from kind of using the tools to going all in. He shares what he did to push through the hard moments to now live a life of connection.

050: (Part 2) Living with Narcissism & Psychological Disorders Mar 07, 2023

What do people experiencing narcissism need? Can you heal narcissism? If you are living with or in relationship with someone experiencing a psychological disorder, this episode is especially for you. We actually think everyone should hear this because we ALL experience a disorder of the psyche at some point on the spectrum.

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049: (Part 1) Living with Narcissism & Psychological Disorders Feb 28, 2023

Are you in relationship with someone who experiences narcissism? Have you been accused yourself of being narcissist? This two part series is for you. We are breaking down What it looks and feels like to experience narcissism from both the internal perspective and the external.

This is part one & it is very important that you listen to both parts. Next week we complete the puzzle and fill in some big gaps that are needed for full understanding of this disorder.

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048: Childhood trauma affecting who we are in relationships Feb 21, 2023

Everyone has a childhood, a past before we met our partner. Those formative years shape how we are showing up in our relationships today- whether we realize it or not. Today, we share a bit about areas of our childhood that are currently affecting us. Phyllis dives into how her childhood shut off the recognition of anger & how she has lived her life being the "good girl."

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047: Physical touch-- What is happening under the skin? Feb 14, 2023

One person is craving, actually desperate for physical touch. While the other is touched out or unaware of it's power. Today, we are diving into the science of physical touch and the practicalities of it. Physical touch is more than a love language, it is a human need. This episode we talk sex, motherhood and caring for young kids, conflicts-- it is full of goodness you don't want to miss.

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046: Obligation sex during a holiday Feb 07, 2023

Are you already feeling a sense of dread that Valentine's is around the corner so it is a guaranteed night you will need to show up sexually? Or are you anticipating the night because it has been a while since you have experienced a sexual encounter? Either way-- there can be a lot of emotional pain around sex for this particular holiday. Today- we are addressing our experiences & our mindset shifts that made all the difference.

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045: Is experiencing fear & shame unbiblical? Jan 31, 2023

The Bible says, "Do not fear." "Do not worry about tomorrow." So, what does that actually mean? Is it wrong to process and feel these emotions? What about identity? Is it wrong to lose our identity with our partner if it is only found in Christ? We are talking about the Connection Codes and Christianity with Pastors Josh & Joni Tanner. They dive into what they have learned & how they can see this is all a part of God's design.

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044: In Session: Elijah's Journey to Rediscovering Himself and His Family Jan 24, 2023

It was late at night while laying in bed, Elijah had an epiphany- he was experiencing a disorder of the psyche. This pattern was affecting his wife, his kids, and his perception of himself. He was caught in a pattern. And now that he was aware of it- he can begin to process.

This is true for so many people. We walk around being knocked off course due to our psyche being flooded.

This episode is so relatable, so common, and so vulnerable. Listen in to hear how Elijah is now processing through is day & reconnecting with his family.

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043: How to Human with Carlos Whittaker Jan 17, 2023

When is the last time you changed your mind? How often do you say the name of the grocery clerk bagging your groceries? When did you last pause and connect with your neighbor? Carlos Whittaker is sharing the moment his life was transformed because someone saw him-- really saw him. And how that moment was the launching point of how he now devotes his life to seeing others. He is a natural story teller with a life purpose that will inspire us all-- you don't want to miss this episode! Don't forget to preorder his new book "How to Human" TODAY & take advantage of his live classes beginning January 24th. Buy How to Human : https://a.co/d/bY0JVzJ Listen to Human Hope: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/human-hope-with-carlos-whittaker/id1249486443 Download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/

042: Am I proud of myself? Jan 10, 2023

Do you want more out of life? Do you wonder what steps to take to get to the next level? To wrap up our beginning of the year series, we brought in Sky Hill- Dr Glenn & Phyllis' son- who shares what he has experienced over the last year to transform his life. He shares the biggest question he has asked himself to get to this change & make it last.

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041: How to create habits that will change your life Jan 03, 2023

We set our goals- but we fail to reach them because we don’t create the habits it takes to succeed. We break down why habits are important, where people fail, and tips on how to make them.

040: Goal setting for 2024 Dec 27, 2022

Ever wonder how to set goals? What mindset helps you actually achieve your goals? We are diving into the emotions involved in goal setting and how to set yourself up for success.

039: My partner doesn't want to talk about emotions... Dec 20, 2022

Do you ever find that you are trying to process your emotions but your partner isn't on board to participate? They may say that they don't feel certain emotions... or emotions at all. It can be hard to navigate improving your relationship when it feels one sided. Today, we answering a question from a listener who is wanting her husband to go all in with her on this journey.

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038: When your marriage hits a wall Dec 13, 2022

Why do people fight after they leave therapy? Why aren't date nights helping your marriage? Do you ever feel like you are trying things but getting no where? Today, we are talking about the processes of breaking down the dams that have been built in your relationship. We share what that can look and feel like.

We often say these tools are simple-- but they aren't always easy. Today, we share the not so easy part of the journey and how to make it to the other side.

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037: How to help someone struggling with depression... even if that someone is you. Dec 05, 2022

Dr Glenn says, we know the exact number of humans who need help in the world. And that number is 100%. All humans need help... because they are human. Today, we answer a question from a listener who writes in seeking help for her husband who is struggling with depression. We share our stories & give insight to how she can walk with him through this season and give the support that he needs.

If you or someone you know is struggling with depression & needs to speak with someone, schedule an in person or zoom session with Dr Glenn here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Or reach out to a counselor. We encourage you to reach out for help.

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036: "I felt like I was too much for people" Nov 29, 2022

In session with Elijah & Christina as they share the tools that have transformed how the communicate with each other & how it has helped them individually grow. While we do talk a lot about marriage & relationships-- these tools are for people.... individuals.... you. And Elijah & Christina share all about how they have changed their individual lives for the better, thus creating a massive impact on their home.

Oh, and leave it to Dr Glenn to dive deep and ask about how it is impacting their sex life 🥳. Yes, there is a bit of everything in this episode.

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035: How to make it through the holidays without a fight Nov 22, 2022

Lots of emotions come up around family-- your family, your partner's family, the absence of family, the stress of all the tasks to be done. It can be a lot. We are going to talk about communicating expectations, staying connected, and how to partner with each other to not just survive it-- but come out feeling unified.

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034: This action is damaging your relationship-- and you don't even know it Nov 15, 2022

Feel alone at times in your relationship? Have you ever thought it felt like you were talking to a wall? Do you ever freeze up and feel unable to respond? Today, we break down what a still face is-- and how it is creating damage in our relationships and we don't even know it.

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033: How to help someone grieving Nov 08, 2022

What is the right thing to do for grief? What do we say?

How do we support someone the best way?

Phyllis shared on an episode a few weeks ago about the sadness she was feeling about her mother's passing 8 years ago. She shared how it affected her then & how it affects her today.

Today she shares how those closest to her did & can show up... and what you can do too.

032: Sex questions answered Nov 01, 2022

Emotional connection? Sex Toys? Masturbation? Setting boundaries? Today, we cover some of the top questions we have been asked.

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031: Kleptomania, building community, and processing loss Oct 25, 2022

Many of us have something that we experience that isn't deemed acceptable-- it is sinful or unlawful. But, we still experience it. The problem comes when we don't process the emotion driving the action. It leads us to further want to participate in the potentially harmful activity. We talk about why the power of community is so important here and Phyllis vulnerably shares as she processes the grief from her late mother.

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030: Should I do individual therapy or couples therapy? Oct 18, 2022

"Relational issues are dealt with in relationship."

Today Dr Glenn & Phyllis share their views on when it is right for individual help or help as a couple. Tera shares her past trauma that she thought was no longer affecting her relationship - but realizes it is.

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029: Being defensive, pointing the finger, and growing pains Oct 11, 2022

There are growing pains in your relationship journey. From the moment you learn new tools until the moment your relationship becomes safe and secure. Today, we are answering a question from a listener on what those in between moments look like. And the small shifts to make that will make a big impact.

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028: What is a low libido? Oct 04, 2022

Do you or your partner finding yourself not desiring sex very often... or not at all? Well, you aren't alone. We have been hearing about the low libido diagnosis for years & the array of medication you can take to mask the problem But what if it isn't caused by what you think? Get to the root cause & find the desire you are looking for.

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027: When you operate at different speeds than your partner Sep 27, 2022

It is common for one partner to process their feelings much faster than the other. The fast process partner can feel unloved because they aren't getting the response they are needing. And the slower process partner can feel overwhelmed by the intensity coming at them. Dr Glenn & Phyllis share about a recent moment that Phyllis needed time to sort through what was happening for her. And how getting that time made at the difference in moving forward.

026: Wanting to change your partner Sep 20, 2022

There are moments in marriage we that we wish our partner would change. We even subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) try to change them. Today's episode is about learning to connect with each other while accepting each other's differences. It is also about how to recognize when something actually does need to shift & how to approach it.

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025: Sex for connection... not just for pleasure Sep 13, 2022

It is a myth that men only want sex for a few seconds of pleasure. There is actually something much deeper they are craving. We answer a question from a listener about what he is wanting from his wife. She is exhausted & is tired of having sex out of duty. Listen as Dr Glenn & Phyllis share their perspective & Tera shares her experience.

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024: How to gain more energy in your day Sep 07, 2022

There are obvious things depleting us from energy: stressful job, parenthood, bills... but there are also the less than obvious moments that chip away at us each day. Today, we reveal what those look like for us & challenge you to find it in your own life. We also flip the script and give a tip on how to gain energy in a fun & easy way.

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Mini 002: How to rebuild a relationship with your child Sep 02, 2022

From the time our kids are small, we take actions that unintentionally break their trust. This episode answers the question, "How do we rebuild trust with our child?"

Featuring: Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill, Echo Hill Vetter, & Tera Wages

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023: What safety in a relationship looks like-- and how to get it Aug 30, 2022

Dr Glenn & Phyllis dive into a moment where they were both filled with emotion. They break down how they kept it from becoming a disconnect & share how they worked through it without causing any more damage. A painful moment connected them further. Listen to learn how to build the safety in your relationship that your partner craves.

022: {Mini} Managing the before-school breakdowns with your kids Aug 26, 2022

With kids going back to school, we wanted to address the issue on many parents minds--- getting our kids out the door and to the school while managing emotions.

This episode features Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill & Echo Hill Vetter

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021: Raising a passionate child, managing logistics, and building connection with your kids Aug 23, 2022

Hey parents who are raising those strong willed children! This one is for you. We talk all about connecting with our kids, setting goals as parents, and how we battle those tough moments. Today's episode features Dr Glenn & Phyllis' son, Sky Hill and his wife, Meg. They are sharing their personal parenting journey & what it was like to grow up in the Hill home. This episode is full of incredible hot tips... grab your notebooks!

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020: Anxiety and depression in kids Aug 16, 2022

Parents often don't know what to look for when their kids are struggling. What could be anxiety or depression can easily look like defiance or a bad attitude. In this episode, we talk about some signs and symptoms as well as the importance of getting to the root cause.

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019: Pressure from sex (Part 2) Aug 09, 2022

Part 1 Pressure from sex had such a big reaction that we decided we needed a part 2. In this episode, we talk about where the pressure comes from. We share what it has looked like and how we have overcome feeling like it is pressure.

We want to be clear: We don't believe anyone should ever have sex due to pressure. This episode is about discovering where the pressure comes from within yourself and how to overcome it. It is our goal for couples to experience nothing but fireworks and deep sexual connection 🎆

018: In Session- Unspoken emotions causing years of pain Aug 02, 2022

Sam & Lindsey came into their marriage with years of unprocessed emotion (like most of us) but it created cycles of deep pain that they are now working to undo. Their honesty in today's episode is raw and vulnerable. Dr Glenn and Phyllis reveal how they can create safety in their relationship.

017: I am tired of pressure from sex Jul 26, 2022

Are you ever in conversation then next thing you know you are disconnecting over sex? How did we get here? Tera walks through a recent conflict when she was caught off guard and felt pressured sexually. This episode is very eye opening for couples who experience different arousal levels often leaving them fighting.

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016: "That happened 20 years ago." Fights from the past causing fights today. Jul 18, 2022

So often, couples fight today because of conflict that happened in their past. It can be frustrating for one partner because you feel like it happened so long ago. But, emotions sometimes need to be processed even years later.

Dr Glenn & Phyllis experienced a rare disconnect (fight) the night before recording podcasts. They are going to work through their argument in real time and we get to see how the go from being disconnected to listening to each other to become connected again. This is the most powerful episode so far in our journey- you don't want to miss it.

015: "I didn't know he deals with OCD" Jul 11, 2022

Psychological disorders affect around 1 in 7 people globally & often go undiagnosed. In today's episode, Dr Glenn opens up about his disorders of the psyche and how it affected he and Phyllis in their marriage early on. He also reveals what has helped him manage his symptoms so he is now functional.

014: In Session- I thought I was a good husband because I didn't yell at my wife Jun 21, 2022

Today's episode shows the transformation of how Xiomara & Hubert went from experiencing a lasting silent treatment to being consistently connected. They also share about how they had to go against their cultural norm and learn how to share emotion in a way that is connecting. This episode is truly the picture of how the Connection Codes works.

013: Her husband wants more sex. She wants more connection. Jun 14, 2022

In response to an email from a listener- we are diving into the standoff many couples find themselves in. One partner wants sex. The other partner wants connection. And both struggle giving into the other person's needs because they are feeling unseen themselves. Such a tough cycle that we break down & share what to do next.

O12: Take your sex life to the next level May 31, 2022

So many couples have a partner wanting more in sex and another who is battling pain or intense emotion keeping them from opening up. We talk about relaxing into sex, breathing into it, and working through pain whether physical or emotional.

011: Avoiding emotions... especially the bad ones May 24, 2022

Does it feel like you or your partner is "allergic" to emotion? You avoid anything to not feel the bad emotions, so you definitely don't want to sit down with your spouse and talk about these feelings. You aren't alone. Today, we dive into avoiding emotions and what happens when we do.

010: In Session: Postpartum trauma and staying connected during difficulty May 17, 2022

Postpartum is often a difficult experience on its own, add it to a season of pain and it can take a toll on a person. Katie and Chris opened up about their relationship after battling health issues and a season of loss. They shared moments of vulnerability in how they remained connected and what it felt like to be in a body that wasn't functioning at its usual capacity.

009: I want to punish my partner for hurting me... May 10, 2022

After we have been hurt our instinct may want to hurt someone back. We have it sit and make the decision of if we are going to quickly forgive and move on or make them wait even if it prolongs a fight. One of you ultimately has to choose to move forward even if it isn't easy. So, we break the emotions down of how that feels and what it looks like to work through it.

008: How we navigate trigger Topics- Family, Sex, Finances May 03, 2022

Many relationships eventually reach a point where there are topics we tend to avoid- we call those Trigger Topics. Today, we dive into our top topics we have danced around at different times in our marriages. We talk in-laws, sex, and finances.

007: In Session: He hung up on me. Apr 26, 2022

Go in session with Dr Glenn & Phyllis as they work with a couple through a fight that has turned into a cycle. They help Wes & Tera break down what is happening for them when Wes travels for work & Tera is home with their four kids. Dr Glenn and Phyllis help them get to their core emotion and have an incredible break through in their relationship.

006: The top reasons people go to therapy--- from a therapist perspective Apr 19, 2022

Dr. Glenn & Phyllis have sat with hundreds of people dealing with a wide range of issues. In this episode, we talk about the top reasons that bring people into their office & thoughts on the underlining issues they are experiencing.

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005: Following the energy, moving forward after an argument, and codependency Apr 12, 2022

Today's podcast comes directly from a question from one of our listeners! We are sharing how to move forward after a disconnect & if the sting is still there. We also discuss if we change our own behaviors if it creates hurtful emotions in our partners.

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004: How to be a smarter, healthier version of yourself (Part 2) Apr 05, 2022

We often don't realize how much emotions affect how our bodies and brain function. So many of us are functioning at a fraction of what we could be- all because of unprocessed emotion. In this part 2 episode, we share more direct ways in which emotions affect our brain chemistry, glucose levels, and cortisol.

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003: How to be a healthier, smarter version of yourself (Part 1) Mar 22, 2022

We aren't going to tell you that you need exercise & broccoli, although we do promote a healthy lifestyle. Because of brain science, understand that our health isn't just relying on our physical being. Many of us are functioning at 50% or less than what we could be, and it doesn't have to be that way. Dr. Glenn & Phyllis share what happened to their bodies when they didn't understand how to deal with their emotions. And by learning this science, you can prevent it from happening to you.

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002: Taking steps towards healing (Part 2) Mar 16, 2022

This episode begins the transition from a painful marriage to a marriage experiencing healing. It didn't happen overnight, but the result was the creation of a set of tools that now guides couples to a relationship filled with connection.

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001: Living in a marriage filled with pain (Part 1) Mar 16, 2022

If you have ever found yourself in a relationship that wasn't what you imagined when you started... this episode is for you. Within 24 hours of their wedding day, a day filled with magic & beauty, Dr. Glenn & Phyllis were questioning everything. There was so much pain early on that it created years of heartache. In this episode, we get the first part of their story. We get to see the beginning of what created the Connection Codes.

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Intro to the Connection Codes Podcast Mar 09, 2022

Welcome to the first episode where you meet your hosts Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill who have created the guide to human connection. Yes, through decades of research, they have discovered what causes people to connect with each other. So now, with this guide, we can conquer conflict and live in peace. This episode is a great place to start on your Connection Codes journey.

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Produced by: Tera Wages of the I Get it podcast

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