Connected Families Podcast

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My Kids Fight All the Time! | Ep. 4 Jul 10, 2019

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It’s summer and the kids are home from school. Is the constant fighting and bickering more than you can take? This week we welcome Lynne Jackson, parent coach and co-founder of Connected Families. She brings stories and practical solutions you can apply (today!) to the sibling conflict in your home. Your big take-away from this podcast: Enter with big, sincere empathy for both kids (conflict is hard!) and then, as they begin to settle down, guide them toward their own solution. To help make this practical we’ll introduce you to The Peace Process. This will give you a simple and memorable path down off “crazy mountain” toward true reconciliation: calm (calm ourselves and help kids calm down)understand (empathize with your kids and help them understand each other)solve (use questions to help kids solve their problem)celebrate (highlight and recognize what went well) We expand on these ideas in our 5-session online course Sibling Conflict: From Bickering to Bonding (also available for small groups!) In this course we equip you with lots of practical tools so your kids can learn to resolve their own conflicts well. Could you use a little peace in your home? Join us today!

I Feel Overwhelmed and Hopeless Jul 03, 2019

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Parenting is hard. It takes everything we have...and then some. What happens when we get to the point of feeling totally overwhelmed and hopeless? On this Connected Families Podcast episode, we discuss these overwhelmed feelings, pull them apart, and ask what we can do about them. Our guest today is parenting coach and Connected Families co-founder, Lynne Jackson. Lynne clearly remembers the times she felt overwhelmed and hopeless as she raised her three rambunctious kids. She will bring practical ideas to encourage you today. In this podcast we discuss: how expectations can feed feelings of hopelessness.the idea behind toxic half-truths two key questions to help us identify and replace toxic lies with God’s truth Check out the following resource: Grace & Truth for Moms online course - We've designed this 5-session online course to be taken with a group. A group could be any size, including you and a friend! Want to learn more? Subscribe to catch each episode on Apple Podcasts or wherever you find podcasts.Follow us on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ConnectedFamilies) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/connectedfams) Subscribe to never miss an episode!

My Child Won’t Get Off Screens | Ep. 2 Jun 26, 2019

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SCREEN TIME!!! It’s a persistent battle in almost every home. And it is one of the questions we receive most frequently. What should you do when your child constantly asks you for screen time? And more screen time? We expand on the following three ideas in this podcast: Get yourself calm. Be clear about expectations, and what will happen if expectations aren’t met. Hold kids accountable to meet those expectations in a way that gains, not loses, kids’ respect. Your calm respectfulness gives weight to your authority so you can hold your kids accountable. Might sound simple, but what does this look like in everyday life? Listen in as we use role plays to pull apart a typical parent-child interaction about screens. Our guest today is Connected Families parent coach Chad Hayenga. Chad is a licensed marriage and family therapist and has coached hundreds of parents - many with tween and teen children (and their challenges). Chad gives practical tips for this heated topic of screen time. He will help you explore the questions: What is your child hearing from you as you engage about screen time? What messages are they getting from you? Is there a better approach? Help your child feel safe, loved, called and capable, and responsible for their actions. Check out the resources we mentioned on the podcast: Discipline That Connects with Your Child's Heart book (also available in audio)Four Messages Every Child Longs to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview (FREE ebook!) Want to learn more? Subscribe to catch each episode on Apple Podcasts or wherever you find podcasts.Follow us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ConnectedFamilies/ and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/connectedfams/Subscribe to never miss an episode!

My Child Won’t Calm Down | Ep. 1 Jun 19, 2019

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“My child won't calm down!” Have you ever said these words? Perhaps even this morning? ;-) On this Connected Families Podcast episode we discuss this relevant parenting concern and provide steps that you can take to move forward with grace and connection. Our guest today is parenting expert, and Connected Families co-founder, Lynne Jackson, OTR. Lynne brings practical tips that you can use and a deeper understanding around the brain science of meltdowns. She’ll help you explore the questions: What is going on with me?!?What is going on with my child?How should I respond when my child won't calm down? You’ll learn what to say and do when your child won’t calm down, including how to effectively use empathy in the midst of a meltdown (I know! It’s hard!). You’ll also learn the keys to reducing the frequency of those meltdowns over the long haul, so your child can begin to learn to calm down independently when upset. Help your child feel safe, loved, called and capable, and responsible for their actions. Check out the resources we mentioned on the podcast: Discipline That Connects with Your Child's Heart book (also available in audio)Four Messages Every Child Longs to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview (FREE ebook!) Want to learn more? Subscribe to catch each episode on Apple Podcasts or wherever you find podcasts.Follow us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ConnectedFamilies/ and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/connectedfams/Subscribe to never miss an episode!

Connected Families Podcast May 21, 2019

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Welcome to the Connected Families Podcast! We are committed to bringing you content that will challenge, encourage, and equip you to be the thoughtful and confident parent you long to be. Beginning June 19th, the Connected Families podcast will be coming your way! Season 1 explores the question, "What should I do when.....?" . Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts. Or share your name and email address below to ensure that each and every episode lands in your inbox. Season 1 asks the question: “What should I do when….?” Episode 1 – June 19, 2019 – My child won’t calm down.Episode 2 – June 26, 2019 – My child will not get off screens.Episode 3 – July 3, 2019 – I feel overwhelmed and hopeless.Episode 4 – July 10, 2019 – My kids fight all the time!Episode 5 – July 17, 2019 – My child says that they hate me.Episode 6 – July 24, 2019 – My kids won’t do their chores without my nagging.Episode 7 – July 31, 2019 – My child is hitting me.Episode 8 – August 7, 2019 – My tween wants to quit his instrument lesson.Episode 9 – August 14, 2019 – My child lies to me.Episode 10 – August 21, 2019 – My tween will not get ready for school on time.

“I can’t hear you!” Aug 20, 2018

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“I can’t hear you!! I can’t hear you!!” You thought his misbehavior was frustrating, but when your child covers his ears and yells “I can’t hear you!” it sends your blood pressure through the roof! We received this question from a parent, frustrated by this very situation:“How would you handle a child who puts his hands over his ears because he doesn’t want to hear when you are addressing his misbehavior or giving instructions?” Sound familiar? Take a deep breath and 4 minutes to listen to what Jim and Lynne have to say about kids who refuse to listen by putting their hands over their ears. What you’ll learn: What his actions are communicating. I don’t feel safe right now. It’s too hard for me to listen. I’m ashamed of what I did. How you can safely and lovingly talk to your child when he doesn’t want to hear you: Start with empathy, instead of focusing on the correction. “Wow, it’s really hard isn’t it? You kinda had a rough time with your brother. Are you feeling sad about that?” Engage his brain, by giving him some power in the situation. “Do you want to take some time to calm down before we talk?” “Do you want to talk first?” “Do you want me to sit down when we talk?” If his hands still don’t move, talk to the hands. :-) “What are your hands telling me right now?” When kids feel safe and loved, and we listen to what’s important to them, they are much more inclined to listen to us. We love partnering with you and pray this recording was an encouragement in your parenting! Frustrated by constant discipline challenges? Take 15 minutes to read our free ebook 4 Messages All Children Long to Hear: A Discipline That Connects Overview.

Words that Hurt Aug 02, 2018

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In this Q & A, Jim and Lynne take 4 minutes to respond to a question from a mom and dad regarding their son’s hurtful words to his siblings. “Our son constantly criticizes and teases our daughters - and anyone else that he sees as weaker than himself. It hurts them. While we want to lovingly correct our son, we also want to show our daughters that we are for them and want to protect them. We find it hard to do both. What should we do?” By addressing both sides of the situation (the culprit and the casualties of the criticism) Jim and Lynne empower siblings to move from the resentment of ridicule to the joy of relationship. LISTEN HERE What you’ll learn in this audio: Discover the root of your son’s negativity. Refrain from criticizing your son. Instead, talk through the feelings that are driving him to criticize others. Help him to understand the natural impacts of his hurtful words. Find ways to build connection between the kids by getting them on the same team. Some ideas might include doing a service project, cooking a favorite meal, etc. Then acknowledge (with thoughtful, specific observations and affirmation) that you noticed how well they worked together. Strengthen the child who has been picked on. Come alongside and encourage her to advocate for herself. Give her words to say and then roleplay the interaction. Teach her to discern the truth from trash, and how not to give untrue things power.

WHAT-EVER!! Ideas for Responding to Sass With Class Jul 11, 2018

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What-EVER! (with an eye roll) You’ve seen it a hundred, maybe even a thousand times. Your child doesn’t like what you’ve said and responds with a head tilt, and eye roll, and the grand pronouncement, “What-EVER!!!!” What do you do when this happens? The tendency is to shut it down, NOW! But your angry response communicates to your child that she is in control of your emotions. This gives her the “powerjolt” she needs to pull this behavior out again the next time she’s frustrated with you. In this Q & A, Jim and Lynne take 7 minutes to respond to this question from a mom who is tired of her 8-year-old daughter’s sass. You’ll hear some quick pointers for how to respond with grace while keeping a child accountable for better behavior. LISTEN HERE As you respond, you’ll learn to communicate: You’re SAFE with me: Stay calm as you take a deep breath. Your kids are not your report card. You are LOVED even if you sass: Express empathy. “This is really hard, isn’t it? If it’s hard for me, I’m sure it’s hard for you.” You are CAPABLE: Ask a question. “You don’t like how this is going. What would be a better way?” We hope as you listen to this audio you are encouraged in your parenting! As you learn to follow these three steps to decrease the “sass-level” in your house, take joy in the small victories. We are here to help you in any way we can as you seek to grow your connected family.

The Four Strengths of Every Great Family Jun 13, 2018

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Jeremy Lee, from D6 Family Podcast, interviews the co-founders of Connected Families, Jim & Lynne Jackson. During this 20 minute podcast, Jim and Lynne share the Connected Families parenting framework, which focuses on building a strong parent-child relationship. If you want to be encouraged and challenged in your parenting journey, listen in! We are SO EXCITED to partner with you as you lead your family with grace. LISTEN HERE In this interview Jim & Lynne share bonus parenting nuggets from their popular resources, Discipline that Connects With Your Child’s Heart, Sibling Conflict online course, and Challenging Children. Highlights of what you’ll learn: [0.00] Intro [1:34] Foundation Create a foundation that grounds your child’s identity and purpose in Christ. [2:20] Connect Communicate love to your child so that they can’t miss it. “I LOVE you and ENJOY you!” [3:20] Coach Don’t wait for misbehaviors to build your child’s character; instead, create opportunities to help them gain wisdom and purpose. Follow Jesus’ example of asking thoughtful questions. [5:49] Correct Change your focus from punishment to gentle reconciliation. Effective discipline puts the responsibility on the child to make right what they did wrong. [8:15] Discipline that Connects The goal of discipline is not to manage your child’s behavior, but to shape their belief about themselves. Their behavior ultimately flows out of their identity. “I’m a problem” vs “I’m the solution”. [10:17] Sibling Conflict / Peace Process Helping kids to value reconciliation and the joy of their sibling relationship. Want to dig deeper into sibling relationships? Check out our Sibling Conflict Online Course [15:28] Challenging Children Giving parents compassion and coping mechanisms to help their sensitive child.

Instilling Identity and Character In Your Child Sep 28, 2016

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On Tuesday evening, September 20, Lynne spoke to a packed house at the Discipline That Connects book launch party about the most important messages that parents convey to their children in discipline. This four-level framework is the foundation of intentional, grace-filled parenting. Follow the link below to get a 10 minute audio clip of the message that Lynne shared with the crowd that evening. Listen to learn about building identity and why it is so biblical, and so crucial to character development in your child. What you'll learn: how Jesus lived his own life out of his identity how Jesus built identity in his disciples how we can build the same identity in our kids >

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