Stay ConnectedZak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Lucy Lopez share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth talk with New York Times columnist Ron Lieber about his new book, The Price You Pay for College. He’ll explain why college costs so much, what parents and students should be asking when picking a school, and how to deal with not being able to afford your kid’s dream school.
Then the hosts answer a question from a mom who is struggling with resentment and regret over having a kid at all.
In Slate Plus: Slate’s Rebecca Onion joins to discuss the politicization of kids’ safety and helicopter parenting in the Trump era. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.
Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends LuminAID Solar Lanterns.
Jamilah recommends Highlights Magazine.
Dan recommends actually filling out a One Line a Day journal. You can also text one line a day to Qeepsake.
Also Mentioned:
I Used to Worry About Being an Overprotective Parent. Then Came the Trump Eraby Rebecca Onion, which is from Slate’s package: What We Learned.
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$On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Dan, and Elizabeth debate how to teach a kid about dinosaurs when the parents differ ideologically about evolution and creationism. They also answer a question about prepping a teen for her first concert by herself, whenever it’s safe to see live music again.
In Slate Plus: The hosts discuss the best hand-me-downs they’ve received and what they are most excited to pass along to their kids. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.
Recommendations:
Dan recommends Wingspan.
Elizabeth recommends Warmies.
Jamilah recommends Trader Joe’s Gluten Free Cinnamon Coffee Cake Muffins.
Also Mentioned:
Evolution Education in the U.S. Is Getting Better by Glenn Branch and Ann Reid.
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On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan debate if it’s OK to teach your child to use gendered titles of respect, like sir and ma’am. Then they answer a mother who seems to do the lionshare of housework. Now her husband wants to seize an opportunity to be a stay-at-home father and she’s worried she will no longer be as valuable to the family.
In Slate Plus: What to do if you’re the rebel and your kid is the one who loves rules. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.
Recommendations:
Dan recommends going to a different city—sans kids—and taking a walk with a friend.
Jamilah recommends Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by Adrienne Maree Brown.
Elizabeth recommends Niksen: Embracing the Dutch Art of Doing Nothing by Olga Mecking.
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On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan answer a question from a family where one parent feels that giving the sex talk to a tween violates the child’s privacy. Then they’ll debate what to do about a husband who regresses into a surly teenager when his parents are around.
In Slate Plus: The parenting story of the weekend: Bean Dad. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.
Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends the 1000 Hours Outside printable. There is also a daily tracker available.
Dan recommends World of Snacks.
Jamilah recommends Healthy Roots Dolls.
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On this week’s episode: Our favorite Plus segments of 2020. We’ve got some funny stories about odes to neighborhood racoons and barfing kids. We’ve got therapeutic screams into the void. We also have important segments on colorism, racism, and equity and how the pandemic is impacting the adoption system.
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In Slate Plus: We have a bonus behind-the-scenes clip of Jamilah trying to determine how devastated Dan will be about Eddie Van Halen passing.
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On this week’s episode: We gathered all of the Mom and Dad are Fighting hosts, kids, and partners around the mic for a holiday party extravaganza. It’s an abundance of chaos and cheer to make up for all of the canceled holiday parties this year. Up first is Triumphs and Fails with a twist. Then the kids and partners answer listener questions about them. Followed by a super silly round of everyone’s favorite—Would You Rather.
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Recommendations:
Alia recommends an adult paint by numbers kit.
Lyra recommends playing Broken Picturephone.
Harper recommends Hello Curls Curl Definer Spray and an Erin Condren academic planner.
Naima recommends watching Speechless, which aired from 2016-2019 and is now streaming on Hulu.
Jeff recommends a Quadrilla Marble Run.
Henry recommends Purrble. A stuffed animal that teaches kids how to calm down.
Oliver recommends tote-a-fort.
Teddy recommends the Radish cooking box for kids.
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On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan answer a question about a little girl who wishes her Memaw and Pepaw would be better grandparents. They also debate what to do when a beloved stuffed animal gets lost and your kid is heartbroken.
In Slate Plus: Slate’s Sam Adams joins to talk about kids texting, emailing and finding their written voice. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work.
Recommendations:
Dan recommends installing a wireless mesh network.
Jamilah recommends Trader Joe's Sipping Chocolate.
Elizabeth recommends the December Following Directions printable from Peanut Butter Fish Lessons.
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On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan weigh in on whether you are a jerk for uninviting a family from your pod’s holiday plans. Should you follow invitation etiquette during a pandemic? Then they debate how to handle a parent giving a kid a book that might be too mature. Is it too late to take the book back? Or should you prepare to explain the mature content?
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Recommendations:
Dan recommends A Map to the Sun by Sloane Leong.
Elizabeth recommends USPS Operation Santa.
Jamilah recommends Black Kids Adventures and Black Adventure Crew, which you should also follow on Instagram.
Games Galore:
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question about a kid who was told Santa wasn’t real. Now she is basing her continued belief on whether or not she gets a horse for Christmas. They also answer a question from a sister who is worried about her younger brother’s slacking in school.
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Recommendations:
Jamilah recommends Eczema Honey products.
Elizabeth recommends Mail Order Mystery.
Dan recommends “Christmas Wrapping” by the Waitresses and “Christmas on Riverside Drive” by August Darnell.
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth gather around the virtual Thanksgiving table to share the major and minor things that got them through this wild year. They also answer a listener question from a mom nervous about changes to her kids’ education as they move across the country.
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Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends using Native-Land.ca to learn about Indigenous lands. If you’d like to learn about land you are on, you can also text your city and state *City, state” 1-907-312-5085 or to LandAcknowledgement on Facebook Messenger. Elizabeth also recommends following sitbymyfire on Instagram. She has a wonderful list of picture books for Native American Heritage Month.
Jamilah recommends peanut butter cups from Emerald Sky Edibles, if you are in a location where cannabis is legal.
Dan recommends watching Slings & Arrows.
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Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.
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