Stay ConnectedZak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Lucy Lopez share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.
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On this episode: We’re diving into our overflowing mailbag! Then we’re advising a parent who is hoping to break an eight-year-old out of the screentime cycle—without making TV or games a forbidden fruit.
Recommendations:
Zak recommends Homeward Bound
Jamilah recommends Wednesday
Elizabeth recommends the MÅLA portable drawing case from Ikea
Episodes mentioned:
Surviving the Holidays With Picky Eaters
Supporting Gender Expression and Exploration
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On this episode: It’s a triple fail week! Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth commiserate over running out of patience and they revel in a school picture so unfortunate it could be a meme. Then they answer a question from a listener whose kid is interested in too many things and is having a hard time narrowing down the activity wish-list. Then on Slate Plus, they weigh in on a Slate Parenting Facebook group post about a 4th grade wedding that went down at school.
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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth are joined by Slate writer, editor, and former Mom and Dad are Fighting host, Dan Kois, who is here to urge parents (and teens) to get trained to administer Narcan. He first wrote about the “miracle” tool in his piece: Parents, You Need Narcan. Essentially, the drug is a powerful tool that’s easy to use, widely available, and will give people peace of mind knowing that if there’s an emergency—you’re prepared.
Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth also answer a question from a listener who is wondering if they should prioritize school friends or family friends. They then finish the show with a quick round of recommendations.
Recommendations:
Zak recommends You Need a Manifesto.
Elizabeth recommends The Cinnamon Bear.
Jamilah recommends preordering Vintage Contemporaries by Dan Kois.
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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth recap their week in parenting. Then Elizabeth speaks with Megan McNamee, MPH, RDN, of Feeding Littles about how to feed your kids this holiday season and beyond. Then on Slate Plus, Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth discuss what to do if someone criticizes your parenting style.
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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a parent whose first grader got mad at her for looking up ‘girl sweaters’ online. The first grader has also previously said that they want to be a boy, not a girl. Our letter writer wants to be supportive but doesn’t know if she should go all-in or sit back and let her kid reveal who they are.
Additional resources:
Supporting My Nonbinary Teen(Part one of ‘Teen Talk’)
We also have an exciting update from the listener who couldn’t handle the seat-belt war and occasionally let them drive unbuckled.
Recommendations:
Jamilah recommends chicken with miso caramelized apples, based on this pork chop recipe.
Elizabeth recommends Dot to Dot In the Sky: Stories of the Aurora by Joan Marie Galat
Zak recommends this Naomi Fisher Twitter thread on child development
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On this episode, the hosts give advice to a mom whose daughter is having a hard time processing big emotions, which has been leading to frequent meltdowns. They’ve tried pretty much everything she can think of but the shrieking still persists. She’s worried about her daughter being in these prolonged states and, furthermore, they’re concerned that if the screaming continues, a neighbor will call the authorities. It’s a really tricky situation and Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth have some suggestions.
Then on Slate Plus, they discuss setting boundaries with grandparents.
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On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a mom who is ashamed of her teenager’s behavior. Her son and a friend were using the word ‘gay’ as an insult when talking about her son’s best friend behind his back. She’s already talked with him but she doesn’t know where to go from there.
Recommendations:
Jamilah recommends Black Panther: Wakanda Forever.
Elizabeth recommends the booksFatty Legsand When I Was Eight.
Zak recommends the Arthur podcast.
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On this bonus episode from our friends at Slate's How To! podcast: As Kate’s teenage son, Sam, approached college she noticed him withdrawing. He wasn’t excited about his future and started to show symptoms of major depression. It came to a crisis point one summer night before Sam was set to leave for school. In the weeks and months that followed, Sam struggled to navigate the mental health system in search of care. And Kate? Kate was left wondering how she could help her son without being overbearing. On this episode of How To!, guest host Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Christine Moutier, psychiatrist and the chief medical officer for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. She advises Kate and all of us on how to be appropriately supportive, especially when things get to a scary place. She also reveals how she coped when her own teenager experienced a mental health crisis.
Resources:
If you or anyone you know is in crisis, dial 988 or text TALK to 741741.
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
AFSP’s Real Conversation Guides
If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Stop Being Anxious”
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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak are joined by author and editor, Travis Nichols. He wrote a wonderful piece for Slate all about his son’s strategic, unique approach to youth baseball. He figured out that if he doesn’t swing at pitches, he’s more likely to get on base. It was incredibly effective… but not in the spirit of the game. What’s a parent to do in that situation?
Recommendations:
Travis recommends voting in the Georgia runoff election.
Zak recommends finding some long, thermal underwear.
Jamilah recommends this chocolate banana cake recipe from Joy of Baking.
Elizabeth recommends art from Andrea Nelson on Instagram.
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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a mom who feels like her house is in chaos. She wants to know what rules and expectations she can have of her kids now they’re approaching preschool. Can they help out with chores? Should they be expected to not fight at the dinner table? What, if any, punishments are acceptable?
They talk about Julie Beck’s article, Why Did We All Have the Same Childhood? on Slate Plus.
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