But Not All At Once

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An Update and A Metric Ton of Inspiration with Meredith Jaggard Jan 13, 2022

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In April 2019, Meredith Jaggard was fearless enough to join But Not All At Once as our first-ever guest. The podcast was just a concept then, and by pouring out her heart and her story, Meredith started it with a bang. Now she's back for more.
Today we talk about the lives her words changed, an obituary I had to write, pandemic weight gain, modern marriage, and uprooting your whole life a second time to build a new one.
Learn how she moved (again!) and continued to battle MS during Covid; how "newborn" Ellie is doing; what quarantine was like in a 900 square foot apartment in a new city; her reaction to her husband being asked if MS makes Meredith a "burden"; and what she thinks about your post-Covid beach body.
This conversation was an absolute delight. Hopefully I muted all my typing as I furiously recorded her every quotable line! I also muted a few "adult" words - not because she didn't deserve to say them, or because I don't agree with her, but because I know you're probably used to playing our chats in carline.
Since we recorded this conversation last summer for Patreon, Meredith has an even newer title: Executive Director for the UC Hastings Alumni Association at UC Hastings Law. She also just began a doctoral program at (the West Coast) USC yesterday. No, I don't know how she juggles it all - but her honesty about things will reassure you that she's one of us.
Who's starting the Meredith Jaggard Admiration Society, and do you need a president? (Start by finding her on Instagram as @meredithjaggard.)
Other upcoming and returning guests, you'll hear mentioned:
Mamie Morgan, who just got a book deal and made us all cry
Kim Jamieson Crafton, a newlywed who owes us an update after her "singleness" episode
Marquin Campbell, an artist whose family adventured in Spain through Covid
Margot Guy, whose long road to motherhood has a new and happy chapter

Thanks for being here, y'all! I'd love to hear from you at @ButNotAllAtOnce on social media or via ButNotAllAtOnce.com.

Living Out A Sister's Legacy with Liz Fisher: Part Two Jan 06, 2022

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Brooke Turner's story may be But Not All At Once's most downloaded episode ever - and for good reason. Describing herself as a "student of hope" despite unexpected widowhood and terminal cancer, Brooke shared words I revisit whenever I need a little perspective and a few hours with a friend.
Today Brooke's sister, Liz, finishes her story with an update on the grieving, healing, joy-filled Turner/Fisher family of eight. She and her husband now have six children from third to sixth grades, and their life is as hectic and wonderful as it sounds. This week we pick up just before Brooke's passing and six weeks before the kick-off of Covid.
If you're a Patreon subscriber, be sure your email address is up-to-date in your subscription! Later this month we'll launch an e-newsletter to chat about the awkward, insightful, intimate, or downright embarrassing stories too personal to share on the podcast at large. Plus book and movie recommendations, the best advice we never took, what we wish we could say to our younger selves and more.
Patreon listeners will also hear updates this winter from beloved former guests April Robson, whom many of us have kept close to our hearts in recent months, and Margot Guy, whose long journey to motherhood has a delightful new chapter to share!
Thanks for checking in over the podcast's holiday break; I'm excited to be back. See y'all here next week and on Instagram until then! xoxo

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Living Out A Sister's Legacy with Liz Fisher: Part One Dec 09, 2021

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Brooke Turner's story may be But Not All At Once's most downloaded episode ever - and for good reason. Describing herself as a "student of hope" despite young, unexpected widowhood and a terminal cancer diagnosis, Brooke chose her words carefully and meant every one of them. It's a conversation I revisit when I need a few hours with a friend, and one of the great privileges of my life.
Today Brooke's sister, Liz, steps away from her very full plate to give us an update on the Turner/Fisher family of eight. She and her husband are rearing six children from third to sixth grades while juggling moves, memories, grief, healing, and a metric passel of farm animals.
Next week you'll hear even more from Liz on what Covid, lockdown, a sabbatical, six e-learners and a new farm brought her beautiful blended family.
If you're a Patreon subscriber, be sure to listen to this week's bonus episode there! It's called "Things I Haven't Been Honest About Yet," and it's as revealing as it sounds. (Insert cringe emoji.)
See y'all here next week! xoxo

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Women, Work, and Treating Humans Like Humans with Amber Michels Nov 20, 2021

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Amber Michels, founder of The Peace of Mind Project and the forthcoming Lighthouse Effect, joins But Not All At Once to talk about women and work.
Things you'll hear us touch on:
-What is the Great Resignation, and why is it happening now?
-"It isn't that complicated." Treating employees like humans, not machines, changes everything.
-There's no such thing as a non-working mom.
-Parental leave, healthy work environments, and work-life balance benefit employees regardless of whether or not they have children.
-Caretaking is valuable, unpaid work - work largely done by women, whether they are mothers or not.
-Women are loyal workers and emotionally connected to their work. Creating environments where they can thrive matters.
You can learn more about The Peace of Mind Project here. Amber's newest layer of support for moms, The Lighthouse Effect, will debut its first woman-focused empowerment retreat from January 28th to 30th in downtown Greenville, SC. The weekend of yoga, dinners, connection, conversation - all things we need! - will also feature panel speakers like our very own Anne Smith. Follow The Lighthouse Effect on Instagram to learn more as details emerge.
To support But Not All At Once, and to hear next week's subscriber-only episode on narcissism and toxic relationships, visit our Patreon page.

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Things That Get Easier (And A Few That Might Not) Nov 04, 2021

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In genuine irony, this episode was delayed a week after things did not in fact get easier. With both a new puppy and a new business, things felt flat-out wild. But we're back, and I'm reminding us all of what gets easier over time, just in case it's hard to imagine from deep in the trenches.
If you saw my list on Instagram, you'll have a preview of what I mean. Parts of life, decision-making, body issues, communicating, self-care and even parenting do get easier over time. (Conversely, parts of parenting get more complicated and challenging over time too, so stay tuned on that front.)
Overall, this is the antidote to my Things That Are Not Awesome video posted to Patreon yesterday.

In today's episode, you'll hear me mention upcoming follow-up episodes with Brooke Turner's sister Liz; April Robson; Kim Jamieson; and an update from first-ever guest Meredith Jaggard that already lives on Patreon.

If you didn't catch my recent interview on the Mama Needs podcast, please listen to the mix of self-care and '90s nostalgia I wax poetic about there; I believe every word. You can find it, as well as a few other interviews, on the As Seen On section of my website.
Woven into today's chat are a few aspects of our family's story that may make more sense if you listen to background episodes from September 2020 (an interview by April Robson) and September 2021. If you're facing a hard season or swimming through the unthinkable, I hope they provide you a glimmer of hope. That said, you know best what you need; read each summary to determine if the content is more than your heart can handle in a tender spot.
You know where to find me until next week, friends... xoxo

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The Glue of Our Family: A Story of Down Syndrome with Katie Alice Walker Oct 21, 2021

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October is Down Syndrome Awareness Month, and today But Not All At Once dives into the story of Katie Alice Walker and her beautiful third baby, Jayne.
Katie Alice walks us through the shock and grief of an unexpected diagnosis and the joy of meeting a child whose name has been spoken by an entire community in prayer.
There's beauty to be found even in the uncertain, unforeseen and just plain hard; Katie Alice's words are a testament to that.
Whether your family has faced similar news, you want to support a friend in the trenches, or you hope to be an example of inclusion in your community, this discussion is for you.
A few books Katie Alice recommends:
Authentically Addie
You're All Kinds of Wonderful
Different - A Great Thing to Be!
Almost Twins: A Story About Friendship and Inclusion
If you're a parent who wants to connect with the Walkers, you can reach Katie Alice at @kacwalker on Instagram. As always, you can reach Anne at butnotallatonce.com or @butnotallatonce across social platforms.
To support the podcast and hear monthly bonus episodes, subscribe to Patreon.com/ButNotAllAtOnce.
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How Exactly Do You Feel Your Feelings? with Meredith Puckett Oct 07, 2021

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Meredith Puckett joins But Not All At Once to answer listener questions about grief, loss, and the seemingly easy task of "feeling your feelings." It's everyone's go-to advice for women facing divorce, life change, loss, or parenting in a pandemic, but how exactly how do we do it?
(For reference and as a caution for anyone who may need it, this episode includes general themes of grief around separation, divorce, and pregnancy/infant loss.)
Later this month, Meredith will be on the podcast's Patreon for a more intimate discussion of narcissism, abuse, unhealthy relationships, and finding freedom. Anne's emails and DMs are open for your anonymous stories and questions.
Your thoughts will be in good company; Meredith and Anne will touch on experiences from their own lives and circles of friends. To join the conversation and support the podcast, subscribe at Patreon.com/ButNotAllAtOnce.

Podcasts to Listen to:
· Last week's But Not All At Once episode, "What If You're Still Broken?"
· Grief is a Sneaky B!tch
· Grief Out Loud
· Grief Is My Side Hustle
· Grieving Moms Podcast
· The Mother of All Losses
· While We Are Waiting: Hope After Child Loss
· Surviving Divorce Podcast
· Brené Brown's Unlocking Us episode, "On Grief and Finding Meaning"

Books to Read:
· Good Grief by Granger Westberg
· It’s OK That You Are Not OK by Megan Devine
· Bearing the Unbearable by Joanne Cacciatore
· Grieving is Loving by Joanne Cacciatore

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Bonus Episode: What If You're Still Broken? Sep 27, 2021

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September 27th is a day Anne's body remembers each year, even if her brain doesn't quite catch up to it. This bonus episode dives into grief, miscarriage, trauma, guilt when you don't feel grateful "enough," and why you don't have to be useful to be worthy.
You can read more of these words at Anne's blog, from a previous lifetime, on the subject.

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Blooming Right on Time with Mamie Morgan Sep 23, 2021

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Mamie Morgan is a poet, educator and entrepreneur with an eye for design and a passion for accepting people as they are. Today she talks to But Not All At Once about finding grown-up love; the beauty of blooming late; grieving a parent; and building a life more beautiful (but quite different) than you imagined.
You can read Mamie's poetry at mamiemorgan.com and visit Opal Bride in West Greenville or at opalbride.com.
To support the work of But Not All At Once, hear bonus episodes, and watch the podcast's first video chat, visit Patreon.com/ButNotAllAtOnce.
You’ll hear Mamie reference Sangeeta Hardy’s, Katie Walters’, and Meredith Jaggard’s episodes, which are all worth a listen. Meredith’s was our very first episode, and her August 2021 hour-long update (buckle up and grab a pen to write down everything she says!) is live on Patreon now.
Find Anne at @butnotallatonce on pretty much every social media platform, and don't blame her if TikTok's algorithm sucks you in with a vengeance.
Talk to you next week! xoxo

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A Potluck Podcast Sep 17, 2021

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Today's episode is a smorgasbord of topics requested by our little Instagram community.
First up, the Murdaugh (pronounced "Murdock") murders right here in South Carolina. This is a tragic, complicated, ready-for-Netflix story. I recommend you dive into Mandy Matney's podcast to catch up on years of Lowcountry legal entanglements, unfortunate deaths and mysterious happenings.
Next, the Time 100 cover featuring Harry, Meghan and a boatload of memes about their pose. Also, Britney Spears' engagement and subsequent Instagram exit; the end of Rachel Hollis' Rise conference; the LuLaRich documentary series; the Met gala history and fashion; favorite fall movies; and my personal must-make soup recipes to be whipped up the moment temps drop below 80.
Links! Links! Links!

20% off on nap dresses and anything Hill House Home
Best butternut squash soup recipe ever. Don't @ me.
Pioneer Woman's white bean chicken chili. Add cornbread, invite me, and enjoy.
At-home Sbux Medicine Ball dupe: One Teavana Jade Citrus Mint tea bag and one Teavana Peach Tranquility tea bag. Add warm lemonade (or lemon juice and water), then honey. Voila!
Support the work of But Not All At Once via Patreon, where you can access bonus episodes, videos, and guest follow-ups.
Talk to you next week! xoxo