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From Homeless to Princeton: Rising Above Childhood Trauma Dec 20, 2023

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Milano Buckley is the epitome of resilience. Born to a mentally ill homeless woman named Kat, Milano's unstable childhood in New York City was marked by unexpected refuge by two unofficial foster parents, an African woman from Ghana and her elementary school teacher. Milano's grit through uncertain times led her down a path of triumph over adversity. After graduating from Princeton and starting the picture-perfect family of her dreams, she thought attaining such success would free her from her past. But when she became a mother, her childhood trauma surfaced in brutal and surprising ways.

In this episode, Milano Buckley talks about her crazy upbringing and the daily hurdles of being a mom riddled with remnants of trauma. She reflects on the challenges of healing and the disconnect between her expectations of parenthood and reality. She explores the impact of trauma triggers and the importance of accepting and embracing the journey of healing. Milano and Caitlin also discuss the balance between celebrating joy and acknowledging everyday annoyances.

Milano's favorite snack: Babybel cheese with pretzel crisps.

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Mom Life Sans Bullshit with Renee Reina Dec 06, 2023

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Today we welcome self-proclaimed over-sharer Renee Reina, the host of the Mom Room podcast. Renee holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is known for her outspoken conversations about motherhood. She isn't afraid to discuss taboo topics, challenge parenting practices, and ask the hard questions.

In this episode, Renee discusses her whirlwind story of becoming a content creator and why her unfiltered and unabashed approach turns some people off. Renee and Caitlin discuss all the hot topics of mom life: how to determine if you are the "default parent," the impact of social media on parenting, how to redirect our anxieties from the micro to the macro, why parenting is harder now than in previous generations, the pressures surrounding family planning, and how to better prepare first time expecting moms for new parenthood. Renee isn't afraid to share the truths of motherhood that are often left unsaid.

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Friggin' Decision Fatigue with Emily Oster Nov 22, 2023

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Vagina economist Emily Oster is a world-famous data scientist who researches topics related to women's health, pregnancy, and parenting. Emily translates confusing scientific data and jargon into digestible knowledge that helps parents make better and more relaxed decisions.

Emily is a professor of economics at Brown University and the author of 4 books: Expecting Better, Cribsheet, The Family Firm, and The Unexpected.She also hosts the Parent Data podcast and writes a popular newsletter by the same name.Emily recently appeared on The Daily Show and was included in TIME's 2022 100 Most Influential People in the world!

In this episode, Caitlin gets to know the many sides of Emily: the mom, the runner, the Insta-famous economist. They chat about why her work resonates with so many moms and how to use data to make decisions. They talk about panic headlines, chaffing, pregnancy, parenting styles, extracurricular activities, discipline, daycare, and more.

We're honored to welcome Emily Oster to the podcast. If you like the show, please subscribe!

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Why We Feel So Much Anxiety and Angst Nov 08, 2023

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Anxiety, stress, and angst are inevitable as we traverse the wilderness of parenthood. So how do we make sense of it and how do we tame the tension? Caitlin is joined by John Delony, a mental health expert who offers guidance on relationships, anxiety, and wellness. Over the past 20 years, John learned through research, personal experiences, and working with clients that there are six daily choices people have to make to create a non-anxious life. In this episode, John shares his discoveries with Caitlin. Check out his book Building a Non-Anxious Life.

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Raising a Securely Attached Kid Isn't All On You Oct 25, 2023

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Many of us struggle with the fact that one day our kids will grow up and not need us as much. They will inevitably blaze their own independent lives outside the warm cocoon of our arms. Caitlin welcomes Erin O'Connor to the podcast to discuss secure attachment and why it's never too late to strengthen the bond we have with our kids. Erin is an academic wiz and a force to be reckoned with in the field of child development. She's a professor and director of the New York University's Early Childhood Education program. She holds a Doctorate in Human Development and Psychology from Harvard, a Masters in teaching from Fordham University, and a Masters in school psychology from Columbia University. She co-founded the scientificmommy community which is now called Your Cooper, a platform designed to bring together parents, teachers, and researchers around issues of child development. Erin is also co-host of the podcast Parenting Understood, which provides accessible information on parenting and development research.

In this episode, Erin talks about the ways parents can nurture positive relationships with their children, why it's never too late to strengthen that bond, and how it's not all on us to ensure they're securely attached because research shows that when a child develops a strong relationship with someone outside the immediate family, like a teacher, coach, or relative, it's a good predictor of their social-emotional health and academic success. Tune into this fascinating conversation as Erin weaves scientific research into Caitlin's burning questions about parenting and how to ensure our kids will want to come back to us as they test their independence out in the world.

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When Dads Show Up Equally in the Parenting Game Oct 11, 2023

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The dads of the Milkless Podcast, Matt Naylor and Max Valverde, are here to grace the airwaves with this refreshingly honest conversation about fatherhood and how manly it is to take on more responsibilities as a parent.

Tune into this dynamic conversation between Caitlin and the dads as they explore topics like masculinity, equity in the home, scorekeeping, mental load, division of labor, and how men can show up more equally in the parenting game.

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Saved By Tiffani Thiessen Sep 27, 2023

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Today on the podcast we welcome actress, television host, author, and mom of two Tiffani Thiessen! After Caitlin shakes off being a little starstruck and Tiffani returns the admiration, they reflect on Tiffani's past as a teen idol and the many ways it impacted her life. They dive into her upbringing and how her family helped her stay humble and grounded amidst the Hollywood hustle. They discuss her love of cooking and how she came to pivot her career towards food. Tiffani recently came out with her 2nd cookbook, Here We Go Again, a love letter to her childhood, which is all about getting creative with leftovers!

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What Would Dr. Becky Do? Sep 20, 2023

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There's no shortage of parenting advice today, and it can often feel overwhelming, causing us to second guess ourselves constantly. Today on the pod, we have clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy, who needs no introduction because she was dubbed the "millennial parenting whisperer" by TIME magazine, and has sparked a parenting revolution. Dr. Becky believes that everything we need is already inside us and she wants to help us move from uncertainty and self-blame to confidence and sturdy leadership. Her brand, Good Inside, boasts a New York Times bestselling book, a podcast, and a massively successful membership community that offers millions of parents tools that focus on the "parent behind the parenting and the child behind the behavior."

In this episode, Caitlin and Dr. Becky address the stress around back to school and how to handle anxious emotions, clinginess, and bullying. They also discuss how to approach different parenting styles, why the normal strategies and scripts don't work on some kids, and how to repair after losing our shit and yelling at our kids. You don't want to miss this dynamic conversation. And please check out Becky's phenomenal TED talk about "the single most important parenting strategy."

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Becky's Ted Talk on Repair

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The Burnout is Real Sep 06, 2023

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Even though dads today are taking on more housework and childcare than in past generations, moms typically carry ALL the mental load for the family, a term referring to the cognitive logistics, worry, and decision-making involved in managing a household and family. The mental load can be described as an unending mental checklist that anticipates every need for the family and home. This might include strategizing meals, researching schools and the best eczema cream, remembering to schedule doctor's appointments, organizing calendars, managing the family's emotional needs, changing the bed sheets, signing Johnny up for soccer, remembering that the toilet paper is out, snacks are low, or whether you paid the babysitter last week, not to mention the endless worrying about your kids and if you're doing enough. This "invisible labor" often goes unnoticed by your partner. It's exhausting and no surprise we're dealing with an epidemic of burnout.

Today's guest, relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip, PhD, has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Morgan knows what it feels like to lose yourself in motherhood, and she's determined to help mothers navigate it better.

In this episode, Caitlin and Morgan talk about why carrying the mental load leads to burnout, how to start expressing our needs, and why they hate the term self-care. If that's not enough to lead you in the right direction, Morgan just wrote a book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself.

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Free Resources at www.drmorgancutlip.com including how to talk to your partner about the mental load
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Why Moms Turn to Booze to Cope Aug 23, 2023

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Moms with young kids increased their alcohol consumption by nearly 325% during the pandemic according to a study by RTI International. The term "mommy wine culture" is used to describe moms drinking wine as a way to cope with parenting stresses.

Caitlin welcomes professional chef, sommelier, and life coach Molly Zemek to the podcast to talk about the connection between parental stress and booze consumption. Molly shares her story of how over-drinking and over-eating led her down a painful path of ill health, dissatisfaction, and depression and how she changed her mindset and developed new skills to create a healthier relationship with alcohol WITHOUT taking the pleasure out of a good time. Caitlin and Molly talk about unique circumstances around motherhood that lead to habitual drinking, how you might develop a more moderate attitude to drinking, how over-drinking is connected to over-eating, and how to create a drink plan. This conversation is not about vilifying alcohol but will help you explore your relationship to booze in a more holistic way.

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