Big Time Adulting

Permission To Stop Over-Scheduling Your Kids Mar 13, 2024

Caitlin Murray wants to know why we are frothing at the mouth to enroll our kids in every single extracurricular activity? When did over-scheduling our kids become the norm? Parents of the 80s and 90s were also busy shuttling kids from thing to thing but the activities they were engaged in were close to home, not very serious, and didn't interfere with downtime and play. With a cameo from economist Emily Oster, Caitlin explores the benefits of extracurriculars but also how overcommitment can lead to burnout and strain on the family. Caitlin shares her personal experience of getting sucked into over-scheduling and how she approaches it now with more sanity and balance.

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Having Kids Challenged My Meaning of Success with Emily Tisch Sussman Mar 06, 2024

Emily Tisch Sussman, former political strategist, mother of 3, and host of the podcast She Pivots, joins Caitlin to discuss how motherhood forced her to leave her high-powered career and carve out a new path. Emily reflects on her initial fear and doubt about motherhood, the pressure of family expectations, and the realization that her pre-kid version of success was quickly becoming unsustainable. Emily talks about the profound loss she felt in her article, My Children Killed My Career But Took Me in an Unexpected New Direction, and the visceral reaction she received from colleagues and woman from around the world.

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My Dirty Little Secret About Alone Time Feb 28, 2024

In this refreshing monologue, inspired by one of her most viral reels, Caitlin Murray shares her dirty little secret about what she really craves as a mom of three: alone time. Not just any alone time. It's alone time given to her by her husband. It doesn’t require childcare or coordination or the pressure to be productive. Her mind can be at ease knowing her children are cared for by a parent. And she doesn’t want him to have it easy. She wants him to immerse fully into the chaos and experience the full weight of juggling the shit show that's solo parenting.

Caitlin goes on to examine how society tells women that motherhood should feel natural and easy and therefore mothers have it easier than fathers who work outside of the home. Caitlin believes by giving fathers the opportunity to solo parent in the early childhood years is one step closer to respecting the role of mothers in society.

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Why Are We So Obsessed With Our Kid's Feelings? Feb 21, 2024

How often do you inquire about your child's feelings and emotions during the day? In this episode, Caitlin delves deeper into one of her most recent viral reels: why we worry so much about our children's feelings and why we're always preoccupied with the idea that what we say or do might negatively impact them. This attentiveness is well intentioned. We want to shape our kids into confident, well-adjusted, and resilient adults. But it's frankly exhausting sometimes. Caitlin suggests that maybe we're overthinking things and reminds listeners that our kids could benefit from figuring out and sitting with their own emotions from time to time. She reminds us that we're already doing a fantastic job and perhaps we could let go of our need to do more and instead recognize the efforts we're already making as parents.

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Parenting Alone: Letting Go of Control, Anger, and Self-Pity Feb 14, 2024

Our guest today is the iconic Cris Cavallari, owner of ICCON, a Philadelphia-based fashion studio and online boutique. Cris shares her story navigating motherhood for the second time, 16 years after giving birth to her first child when she was only 16-years-old. Cris expected the second time around to be much smoother because she was an adult and had a partner. But soon into her pregnancy she realized she was going to be alone in her journey. In this conversation, Cris discusses her co-parenting challenges, finding strength in hard times, and how cutting her son's long hair surprisiningly helped her let go of control, anger, and self-pity. Cris is a beacon of inspiration and we’re so excited for you to get to know her.

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The Power of Positivity: Dumpster Diving, Couch Hopping, and Making Peace With My Dysfunctional Family Feb 07, 2024

Our storyteller today is writer Mal Wrenn Corbin, a cherished friend of Caitlin Murray’s mom. Mal grew up in Worcester, MA a town riddled by poverty, addiction, and violence. Mal grew up in an unsafe home, witnessing domestic violence, alcholism, and drug abuse. Her childhood was tossed in and out of the foster care system and she found solace at school and in her friendships. After a youth marked by neglect and loss, she escaped Worcester and ultimately persevered. She went on to Dartmouth college and built a successful life for herself. But becoming a mother was a turning point that helped her recognize her own self-worth for the first time. Mal’s story highlights the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity. This on is a tear jerker!

Mal has written a memoir, Raising Wrenns, where she revisits her past and begins to embrace her family's flaws.

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Tale of a Late Bloomer and Other Teenage Embarrassments Jan 31, 2024

Caitlin Murray was a late bloomer and at fourteen she yearned to have big boobs. In this episode, Caitlin shares an embarrassing story from high school orientation aboard a sailboat when she accidentally exposed her little titties out of the side of her speedo bathing suit in front of her classmates. Caitlin reflects on how embarrassing moments from our youth leave imprints on us and how as we grow older embarrassment becomes somewhat inconsequential and maybe even funny. This is all to say that when our children experience the visceral doom and shame of embarrassment, instead of minimizing it, we can show some empathy and turn it around with some humor.

Tune in to hear from our listeners who submitted their own embarrassing teenage stories!

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Diamonds, Danger, and Denial: The Funny Thing About Minimizing Trauma Jan 24, 2024

Our storyteller today is one of our podcast listeners, Alex from Washington state! Alex shares the shocking and dramatic story of being held hostage by a customer while working at Tiffany's and Company. At the time, she minimized the event as a crazy and adventurous brush with danger. Soon after, she suffered from panic attacks and other mental health issues but never connected them to the hostage fiasco. A couple years later she was diagnosed with PTSD which popped the lid on having to confront other traumas from her past and why she was so susceptible to this event.

Join us as Alex walks us through her story in vivid detail. She also talks about the complicated relationship she has with her mother and the abusive she experienced in her first marriage. In anticipation of the birth of her first child, Alex reflects on the lesson she’d like to pass onto her baby girl- to trust her gut and tap into her body's innate wisdom even if it’s at the expense of other people’s comfort.

Join us for this entertaining, suspenseful, and thought-provoking conversation that will leave you on the edge of your seat.

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The Story Behind Caitlin Murray's Big Time Adulting Jan 17, 2024

You may wonder why Caitlin so confidently makes fun of her kids, bemoans the trials and tribulations of nonstop parenting, dances her ass off in the kitchen like a lunatic, and rattles off pep talks to all the weary moms.

Today, we’re re-releasing Caitlin’s first podcast episode from 2021 when no one really knew she had a podcast. You will giggle and shed tears as Caitlin describes the life-changing event that inspired her to start blogging, posting on Instagram, and podcasting.

In December 2016, her 3-year-old son was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia which set her family on a horrific journey of survival. Caitlin walks us through the heart-wrenching moments that led up to the diagnosis and how it forever shaped and strengthened their family. She also talks about why this experience has given her a license to say whatever the f*** she wants. It’s a story that resonates with moms because it reminds us to trust our gut and advocate for our kids. And its a reminder that humor is essential when going through hard times.

Fast-forward to today, her son is now 10-years-old and thriving alongside his little sister and brother.

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The Gift of Blowing It: Rupture and Repair with Aliza Pressman Jan 03, 2024

Today we’re talking about identity, divorce, shame, imperfection and the gift of blowing it with psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman who is a mother of 2, a clinical and academic wiz, and host of the widely praised parenting podcast Raising Good Humans. In this conversation, Dr. Aliza Pressman discusses how the parenting advice industry has turned into gobbledygook and why she felt it important to write her book, ’The Five Principles of Parenting,’ which teaches parents a manageable framework for raising children: relationships, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair.

Aliza reflects on her “big time adulting moment:” letting go of shame and judgment after her divorce. Aliza and Caitlin also discuss navigating unexpected challenges in life, the loss of the life they envisioned, and the need to reconcile their own desires with the responsibilities of parenting. The main takeaway is that we are all flawed humans. We make mistakes. Shit happens we don’t expect. Not everything is in our control. But we do have the power to normalize imperfections, practice self-compassion, and repair our relationships when we mess up. Aliza reminds us that when we let go of perfect, we can become positive and transformative influences in a children's lives.

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From Homeless to Princeton: Rising Above Childhood Trauma Dec 20, 2023

Milano Buckley is the epitome of resilience. Born to a mentally ill homeless woman named Kat, Milano’s unstable childhood in New York City was marked by unexpected refuge by two unofficial foster parents, an African woman from Ghana and her elementary school teacher. Milano’s grit through uncertain times led her down a path of triumph over adversity. After graduating from Princeton and starting the picture-perfect family of her dreams, she thought attaining such success would free her from her past. But when she became a mother, her childhood trauma surfaced in brutal and surprising ways.

In this episode, Milano Buckley talks about her crazy upbringing and the daily hurdles of being a mom riddled with remnants of trauma. She reflects on the challenges of healing and the disconnect between her expectations of parenthood and reality. She explores the impact of trauma triggers and the importance of accepting and embracing the journey of healing. Milano and Caitlin also discuss the balance between celebrating joy and acknowledging everyday annoyances.

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Mom Life Sans Bullshit with Renee Reina Dec 06, 2023

Today we welcome self-proclaimed over-sharer Renee Reina, the host of the Mom Room podcast. Renee holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is known for her outspoken conversations about motherhood. She isn’t afraid to discuss taboo topics, challenge parenting practices, and ask the hard questions.

In this episode, Renee discusses her whirlwind story of becoming a content creator and why her unfiltered and unabashed approach turns some people off. Renee and Caitlin discuss all the hot topics of mom life: how to determine if you are the “default parent,” the impact of social media on parenting, how to redirect our anxieties from the micro to the macro, why parenting is harder now than in previous generations, the pressures surrounding family planning, and how to better prepare first time expecting moms for new parenthood. Renee isn't afraid to share the truths of motherhood that are often left unsaid.

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Friggin' Decision Fatigue with Emily Oster Nov 22, 2023

Vagina economist Emily Oster is a world-famous data scientist who researches topics related to women’s health, pregnancy, and parenting. Emily translates confusing scientific data and jargon into digestible knowledge that helps parents make better and more relaxed decisions.

Emily is a professor of economics at Brown University and the author of 4 books: Expecting Better, Cribsheet, The Family Firm, and The Unexpected.She also hosts the Parent Data podcast and writes a popular newsletter by the same name.Emily recently appeared on The Daily Show and was included in TIME’s 2022 100 Most Influential People in the world!

In this episode, Caitlin gets to know the many sides of Emily: the mom, the runner, the Insta-famous economist. They chat about why her work resonates with so many moms and how to use data to make decisions. They talk about panic headlines, chaffing, pregnancy, parenting styles, extracurricular activities, discipline, daycare, and more.

We're honored to welcome Emily Oster to the podcast. If you like the show, please subscribe!

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Why We Feel So Much Anxiety and Angst Nov 08, 2023

Anxiety, stress, and angst are inevitable as we traverse the wilderness of parenthood. So how do we make sense of it and how do we tame the tension? Caitlin is joined by John Delony, a mental health expert who offers guidance on relationships, anxiety, and wellness. Over the past 20 years, John learned through research, personal experiences, and working with clients that there are six daily choices people have to make to create a non-anxious life. In this episode, John shares his discoveries with Caitlin. Check out his book Building a Non-Anxious Life.

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Raising a Securely Attached Kid Isn't All On You Oct 25, 2023

Many of us struggle with the fact that one day our kids will grow up and not need us as much. They will inevitably blaze their own independent lives outside the warm cocoon of our arms. Caitlin welcomes Erin O’Connor to the podcast to discuss secure attachment and why it’s never too late to strengthen the bond we have with our kids. Erin is an academic wiz and a force to be reckoned with in the field of child development. She’s a professor and director of the New York University’s Early Childhood Education program. She holds a Doctorate in Human Development and Psychology from Harvard, a Masters in teaching from Fordham University, and a Masters in school psychology from Columbia University. She co-founded the scientificmommy community which is now called Your Cooper, a platform designed to bring together parents, teachers, and researchers around issues of child development. Erin is also co-host of the podcast Parenting Understood, which provides accessible information on parenting and development research.

In this episode, Erin talks about the ways parents can nurture positive relationships with their children, why it's never too late to strengthen that bond, and how it's not all on us to ensure they're securely attached because research shows that when a child develops a strong relationship with someone outside the immediate family, like a teacher, coach, or relative, it's a good predictor of their social-emotional health and academic success. Tune into this fascinating conversation as Erin weaves scientific research into Caitlin's burning questions about parenting and how to ensure our kids will want to come back to us as they test their independence out in the world.

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When Dads Show Up Equally in the Parenting Game Oct 11, 2023

The dads of the Milkless Podcast, Matt Naylor and Max Valverde, are here to grace the airwaves with this refreshingly honest conversation about fatherhood and how manly it is to take on more responsibilities as a parent.

Tune into this dynamic conversation between Caitlin and the dads as they explore topics like masculinity, equity in the home, scorekeeping, mental load, division of labor, and how men can show up more equally in the parenting game.

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Saved By Tiffani Thiessen Sep 27, 2023

Today on the podcast we welcome actress, television host, author, and mom of two Tiffani Thiessen! After Caitlin shakes off being a little starstruck and Tiffani returns the admiration, they reflect on Tiffani's past as a teen idol and the many ways it impacted her life. They dive into her upbringing and how her family helped her stay humble and grounded amidst the Hollywood hustle. They discuss her love of cooking and how she came to pivot her career towards food. Tiffani recently came out with her 2nd cookbook, Here We Go Again, a love letter to her childhood, which is all about getting creative with leftovers!

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What Would Dr. Becky Do? Sep 20, 2023

There’s no shortage of parenting advice today, and it can often feel overwhelming, causing us to second guess ourselves constantly. Today on the pod, we have clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy, who needs no introduction because she was dubbed the “millennial parenting whisperer” by TIME magazine, and has sparked a parenting revolution. Dr. Becky believes that everything we need is already inside us and she wants to help us move from uncertainty and self-blame to confidence and sturdy leadership. Her brand, Good Inside, boasts a New York Times bestselling book, a podcast, and a massively successful membership community that offers millions of parents tools that focus on the "parent behind the parenting and the child behind the behavior."

In this episode, Caitlin and Dr. Becky address the stress around back to school and how to handle anxious emotions, clinginess, and bullying. They also discuss how to approach different parenting styles, why the normal strategies and scripts don’t work on some kids, and how to repair after losing our shit and yelling at our kids. You don’t want to miss this dynamic conversation. And please check out Becky’s phenomenal TED talk about “the single most important parenting strategy.”

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The Burnout is Real Sep 06, 2023

Even though dads today are taking on more housework and childcare than in past generations, moms typically carry ALL the mental load for the family, a term referring to the cognitive logistics, worry, and decision-making involved in managing a household and family. The mental load can be described as an unending mental checklist that anticipates every need for the family and home. This might include strategizing meals, researching schools and the best eczema cream, remembering to schedule doctor's appointments, organizing calendars, managing the family's emotional needs, changing the bed sheets, signing Johnny up for soccer, remembering that the toilet paper is out, snacks are low, or whether you paid the babysitter last week, not to mention the endless worrying about your kids and if you're doing enough. This "invisible labor" often goes unnoticed by your partner. It's exhausting and no surprise we're dealing with an epidemic of burnout.

Today’s guest, relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip, PhD, has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Morgan knows what it feels like to lose yourself in motherhood, and she’s determined to help mothers navigate it better.

In this episode, Caitlin and Morgan talk about why carrying the mental load leads to burnout, how to start expressing our needs, and why they hate the term self-care. If that's not enough to lead you in the right direction, Morgan just wrote a book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself.

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Why Moms Turn to Booze to Cope Aug 23, 2023

Moms with young kids increased their alcohol consumption by nearly 325% during the pandemic according to a study by RTI International. The term "mommy wine culture" is used to describe moms drinking wine as a way to cope with parenting stresses.

Caitlin welcomes professional chef, sommelier, and life coach Molly Zemek to the podcast to talk about the connection between parental stress and booze consumption. Molly shares her story of how over-drinking and over-eating led her down a painful path of ill health, dissatisfaction, and depression and how she changed her mindset and developed new skills to create a healthier relationship with alcohol WITHOUT taking the pleasure out of a good time. Caitlin and Molly talk about unique circumstances around motherhood that lead to habitual drinking, how you might develop a more moderate attitude to drinking, how over-drinking is connected to over-eating, and how to create a drink plan. This conversation is not about vilifying alcohol but will help you explore your relationship to booze in a more holistic way.

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Perimenopause: What the Hell is Going On? Aug 09, 2023

Perimenopause is top of mind. Hollywood is talking about it. Vaginal creams and supplements are being sold for it. But still, what the hell is going on? As we sail through midlife, how are our fluctuating hormones impacting our bodies and minds and what do we do about it? Dr. Shieva Ghofrany, an OBGYN and insta-glorious expert on all things women’s health, sits down with Caitlin to discuss the predictably unpredictable hormonal shifts of perimenopause. Actual menopause occurs, on average, around age 51 marked by a one year absence of a menstrual period. That means perimenopause is the 10-15 year lead up to menopause that begins somewhere between the late 30s and 40s. Symptoms may include: brain fog, mood swings, feelings of rage, weight gain, heavy periods, vaginal dryness, chin whiskers, lack of libido, insomnia, hot flashes, joint pain, and hair loss. Yay. Often occurring in conjunction with the deranged parenting years, this change in a woman’s life is sure to be miserable and magical, as Dr. Ghofrany puts it. She gives us hope by demystifying this confusing time, equipping listeners with the right questions to ask their doctors, and offering a myriad of treatment options. Maybe we can even embrace this naturally occurring life stage because growing older is a gift and we might as well indulge and enjoy it.

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The Paradox of Motherhood: Love and Rage Jul 26, 2023

Today on the pod we are doing something a little different. Caitlin was recently a speaker at the MTHR Collective Retreat in Cape Cod with fellow IG sensation Nicki Marie. They sat on a panel to discuss the unique paradox of motherhood: love and rage. In this episode, Nicki and Caitlin reflect on the special weekend, how it felt to meet for the first time in person, and how they experience and view their own anger, rage, frustration, and burnout. About MTHR Collective: An intersection between community and creativity, MTHR Collective is an inclusive, visionary space built for mothers to share, connect, and become stronger advocates for self-care in the realm of motherhood. Nicki Marie @nickimarieinc Caitlin Murray @bigtimeadulting

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Self-Healing Anxiety and Chronic Pain with Nicole Sachs Jul 12, 2023

Today, we have the luminous Nicole Sachs, an LCSW, speaker, writer, podcaster, and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work to the treatment of emotional and physical chronic pain. In this episode, Nicole shares her fascinating story of healing her own debilitating back pain through mind/body medicine inspired by Dr. John Sarno who encouraged her to journal about her repressed emotions. Nicole reflects on the watershed moment when she wrote the words, “I hate being a mother,” a proclamation that released an emotional pressure valve and helped her heal her pain and ultimately enriched her relationship with her kids. Through the lens of motherhood, Caitlin and Nicole talk about the link between emotions, anxiety, depression, and chronic pain, and how we can begin to free ourselves from their grips so that we can experience more connection and energy along our parenting journey.

Nicole has developed a process called JournalSpeak also known as “rage on the page,” a type of expressive writing therapy that rewires neural pathways that cause chronic symptoms. If your bullshit meter is going off, then lean into this episode even harder because Nicole is kind of amazing and certainly changed my preconceived notions about mind/body medicine.

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The Price Women Pay To Be Good With Elise Loehnen Jun 28, 2023

We are delighted to welcome author Elise Loehnen to the pod today. Elise is the former chief content officer of GOOP and the host of the podcast Pulling the Thread. She is here to talk about her new book On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. The seven deadly sins are likely not on your radar, but they are subversively controlling and distorting women’s lives. They are pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, sloth, and anger, all qualities women deny within themselves in order to be “good.” Weaving together history, memoir, and cultural criticism, Elise’s groundbreaking book masterfully reports on this cultural phenomenon and inspires us to untether ourselves from the grip of patriarchy and societal expectations.

In this episode, Caitlin and Elise share personal stories about the pressure they feel to over-function and over-compensate as women, the profound ratcheting up of anger and rage they experience in motherhood, how envy can serve as a motivator to discover secret wants and dreams, and the reason why pride is so uncomfortable to feel. We highly recommend grabbing a copy of Elise's book. It will crack you open and help you reclaim the things you sacrifice in order to be a "good" mother, wife, partner, friend, daughter, human.

Connect with Elise: @eliseloehnen

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How to Talk to Young Kids about Awkward Shit: The Puberty Podcast Jun 14, 2023

Today we are joined by Dr. Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett who are the hosts of The Puberty Podcast, a riveting show that weaves together scientific research, parenting strategies, and hilarious stories to help guide adults who are raising kids through puberty. You might be surprised to learn that puberty begins for girls at 8 or 9 and for boys at 9 or 10! In this episode, we focus on body image and what to say and not say to our kids about their bodies. Caitlin seeks to understand how to set boundaries around clothing, nudity, and public displays of pleasure. We talk about pleasure, consent, social pressures, bodily changes, and how to navigate these awkward conversations. Buckle up, because we need to know how to stay cool, how to talk to our kids without pushing them away, and how to mentally prepare OURSELVES for this next phase of parenting.

Connect with Cara and Vanessa:

The Puberty Podcast

IG: @spillingthepubertea

Pre-order their book: This is So Awkward

Shop their loungewear: @my.oomla

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The Invisible Labor of Motherhood with Eve Rodsky May 31, 2023

Domestic burnout is real. When asked about the division of labor at home, moms always say they do more than their partners. When dads are asked the same question they say the work is shared equally. Why such a disconnect? Join Caitlin as she talks to Eve Rodsky, an expert in the gendered division of labor, to break down the invisible labor of motherhood. "Invisible labor" is all the work someone does that goes unseen or unacknowledged by others.

As a graduate of Harvard Law, Eve Rodsky envisioned smashing the glass ceiling, solving the world's problems, and doing it all. But a decade into her ambitious professional career and with a couple of kids in tow, the only thing she was smashing were peas for her toddler. Eve's groundbreaking book Fairplay and documentary film by the same name have launched a movement to rebalance domestic life and make the invisible work of women visible. The path to relieving this burden starts by understanding invisible labor for what it is and then making little adjustments in your family system. So, if a to-do list is running through your mind at all hours and you feel you're carrying the mental/physical load of your family, then this episode is for you.

Eve Rodsky: @everodsky

Explore the Fair Play movement and card game: www.fairplaylife.com

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Catherine Reitman, Creator and Star of Workin’ Moms May 17, 2023

Join in with Catherine Reitman, creator and star of the wildly popular and hilarious Netflix series Workin’ Moms. Catherine, a creative powerhouse and mom of two, just dropped the 7th and final season of her hit show. Catherine shares how her own complicated experience of motherhood led her to write the show, how it evolved through the years and became a cathartic process, and why it resonates with millions of women. Catherine opens up about her late father, the famed Hollywood director of iconic movies like Ghostbusters and Kindergarten Cop and also discusses her youngest son’s recent diagnosis of a rare and mysterious condition called PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Strep Throat). Catherine Reitman is a force of grit, generosity, warmth, and wit and we couldn't be more excited to share this special conversation with you.

Keep in touch with us:

Caitlin Murray: @bigtimeadulting

Catherine Reitman: @reitcatou

Workin’ Moms: @workinmomsnetflix

Learn more about PANDAS disease at www.pandasnetwork.org

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Chelsea Handler! Luxuriating In Her Child-Free Life May 03, 2023

Join Caitlin and her first celebrity guest Chelsea Handler as they talk about childhood, parenting styles, ambition, cultivating a strong sense of self, and how to raise cool kids.

What we love about Chelsea Handler is how loud and proud she is in her beliefs - agree or disagree, and she is not afraid to speak up, which can be hard for women, even in this day and age. Her viral videos extolling the luxury of her freedom, solitude, adventure, pleasure, sleep, and carefree living are frankly, mom porn. We can’t get enough of it. We fell in love with Chelsea in 2004 on Girls Behaving Badly and watched her rise to fame on her late-night show Chelsea Lately. She’s published numerous bestsellers like the college cult classic, Are You There Vodka? It's Me, Chelsea.

Today, Chelsea is living the dream of performing stand-up on her nationwide Little Big Bitch tour while staying grounded and humbled on the ski slopes. In this fun and heartfelt interview, Chelsea reflects on her upbringing and how her mom and dad’s parenting shaped her. She discusses how her relationship with her mom strengthened after her death and still serves as a positive guiding force. She offers parents her take on how to raise cool and respectful kids and suggests resisting the temptation to lose your entire identity in parenthood because no one wants to hang out with someone who only talks about their kids. She kinda gets it, because for a long time, Chelsea’s identity and self-worth were wrapped up in her career and she thanks therapy for helping her cultivate a strong sense of self beyond her ambition. Follow along with us as Chelsea gives us the gift of a positive attitude!

@chelseahandler

See Chelsea Handler LIVE in a city near you on her Little Big Bitch Tour!

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Getting the Dirt on Caitlin Murray Apr 19, 2023

In this special episode, Caitlin is interviewed by her podcast producer Cameron Mullenneaux! Caitlin kicks things off with a pep talk to empower us to trust our gut and define motherhood on our own terms. She shares her feelings about being a stay-at-home parent while building a new career and offers deep thoughts on how hard it is to be truly fulfilled in your role. She reflects on her son's illness, the ways it transformed her perspective on life, and how that dark time period inspired her to create Big Time Adulting. Caitlin also revisits her kid-free days, leading her college lacrosse team to victory like the boss that she is, and gallivanting around NYC with her now husband in pursuit of fun. Get the dirt on Caitlin in this relaxed and thought-provoking interview.

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Moving Through Postpartum Depression Apr 04, 2023

Caitlin is joined by Becky Vieira, the hilarious woman behind @wittyotter and author of Enough About the Baby. Becky shares her scary journey through postpartum depression and how she found support. Join in as they discuss mental health, anxiety, rage, boredom, loneliness, and the woes of breastfeeding. She reminds listeners that putting our needs first isn’t selfish and that the whole motherhood martyrdom thing is on the outs. They laugh and cry and help us all breathe a collective sigh of relief.

Disclaimer: This episode contains conversations about depression and suicide. Take care of yourself. It's okay if you want to skip today's episode.

Follow Becky @wittyotter

Buy her book Enough About the Baby

PPD support:

Karen Kleiman @postpartumstress

Postpartum Support International

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Keeping Your Shit Together With Nicki Marie Mar 22, 2023

Nicki and Caitlin take it deep in their usual fashion of no BS-laden truths on motherhood and life. Listen in as Caitlin questions Nicki on her experiences with miscarriage and infertility, divorce, and facing internet trolls as an "influencer." #blessed

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How to Not Ruin Your Relationship after Kids with Aaron Steinberg Mar 10, 2023

Join in our discussion as Caitlin and Aaron get gritty on all things relationship based, and how to keep your partnership in tact after kids. From the division of labor, living through exhaustion, rediscovering intimacy, and not keeping score, we cover it all. You can find Aaron on Instagram @babyproofingyourrelationship

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The Funk'tional Nutritionist Feb 17, 2023

In this episode, Erin Holt, The Funk'tional Nutritionist, chats with Caitlin about women's nutrition, not only as a function of food, but also about how both food and stress effect our bodies as women and how intertwined our hormonal and nutritional health are with each other. Join in to hear us going deep on the stresses of motherhood and how to best fuel our systems, including leaving room for joy.

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Health Anxiety with Dr. Kirren Aug 05, 2022

In this episode Caitlin interviews health anxiety expert, Dr. Kirren Schnack about her longtime struggle with health anxiety. Dr. Kirren discusses the origins of health anxeity, the symptoms of health anxiety, the types of treatments used and tips for parenting our kids should your own or their own health anxiety be causing issues. Dr. Kirren has a fantastic social media presence with highly relateable content for sufferers of health anxiety. Listen in today to let the damn healing begin and find her on Instagram @drkirren

Interview with Laura Jun 08, 2022

In this episode Caitlin speaks with her Irish friend, Laura Farrington, who worked with her when they were wild and free in their 20's in NYC. Since then they have both been through many changes, some horrific and some wonderful. Join them as Laura talks about the grief of losing both her parents, one to suicide and one to cancer, as a young adult and how her career change and journey through becoming a mother herself has helped heal her. Find Laura on social media @meditatewithlaura

Mom Friends May 20, 2022

In this episode, Caitlin discusses her mom-friend-making journey, the awkwardness of meeting new friends as an adult and her own mom's advice on how to make friends.

Jibber Jabber Mar 25, 2022

Join in on this mish mosh episode to hear about the ghost in my house named Phyllis, my experience with laser hair removal and my recent feelings on anxiety. Girl talk!

Interview on Clean Beauty with Kathryn Dickinson Mar 11, 2022

In this episode I interview Kathryn Dickinson, owner of AILLEA, clean beauty store. We take it deep on what beauty means for women, the history of wearing makeup and where are the lines between that and needles or surgery, if any, at the root of the matter. Join us for some light, yet deep thoughts as we dive into the topic of beauty and get some tips on the best clean beauty products to use.

AILLEA on Instagram: @ailleabeauty

AILLEA on the web: https://aillea.com/?sscid=11k6_sc1qg

Interview with Dr. Lucy McBride: The Pandemic and Politics Feb 18, 2022

Dr. McBride and I discussed the current state of the pandemic and the ways in which politics have dictated the policies surrounding mitigation strategies over the last two years, particularly within the last year given the widespread availability of vaccines, the known low risk presented to all children, who have been mandated to adhere to the strictest policies…in blue states.

The goal of this episode was to discuss the disruptions this pandemic has placed on people’s mental well-being and to provide scientific facts to reassure those who may still be fearful as mitigation measures begin to relax, and indeed, to emphasize the need for this process to happen both peacefully and respectfully for the sake of our kids.

Dr. McBride is the creator of Urgency for Normal, which consists of a conglomerate of well-accredited doctors who are speaking up, pro-bono, to advocate for the lowest risk population effected by Covid: the kids.

Websites:

https://www.urgencyofnormal.com

https://www.lucymcbride.com

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/drlucymcbride/?hl=en

Twitter:

https://twitter.com/drlucymcbride?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor

Matchmaker Sophy Singer Feb 07, 2022

In this episode I speak with Sophy Singer, professional matchmaker and dating coach. Sophy is a wealth of knowledge on dating statistics of who you should be looking to date if you're single, what to look for in a partner, what are the best ways to meet someone these days, and how to know when a relationship is over or should be saved. Finally, Sophy talks about re-framing Valentine's Day so that we don't all have to hate it anymore.

To become part of Sophy's data base (for free!) or find out more about her services go to www.sophy.love.com or find her on instagram @matchmakersophy

For Henry Feb 04, 2022

In this episode, I speak in depth with Henry's mom. Henry is battling a one in a million, severe neurological disorder called Alternating Hemiplegia of Childhood (AHC). Henry's AHC causes him to randomly become paralyzed, have seizures and apneas where he stops breathing for periods of time. Each episode threatens a trip to the hospital for Henry and his parents, and each episode could potentially hold life threatening consequences - an incredibly difficult and terrifying way for Henry and his parents to go through life.

The astounding part about Henry's story is that they have found a treatment that would most certainly be life changing for Henry and, even more importantly, potentially life saving. The only barricade between Henry and this treatment is money. Henry's parents have been tasked with raising $3 million to develop the drug he needs, and so they started a foundation and have been doing everything possible to spread the word. Listen in to hear Mary, Henry's mom, describe in greater detail what it has been like for Henry, and where they are in the process now.

To donate and learn more about Henry and AHC go to www.forhenryahc.org or find them on instagram @forhenryahc

The Fitness Episode Jan 17, 2022

In this episode, I discuss my fitness history and background and talk about the time I learned what a calorie was after spending college and beyond crushing beers and peanut butter jelly sandwiches like they were celery sticks. Now that I am a mom and my goals in life have shifted, so has my mentality towards healthy living and fitness, listen in to hear about my philosophy on staying fit.

Interview With My Mom Jan 03, 2022

In this episode I take it deep with my mom about modern day motherhood verse what it was like when she was raising us and the things that have changed, but also remained the same. We talk about finding yourself after motherhood, the hardest time of motherhood in her opinion, regrets, and many more snippets from my wonderful mother. I think you will enjoy it!

Heart to heart with with Nancy, 9/11 widow and mother Dec 16, 2021

In this episode I sat down with dear family friend, Nancy Shea, and ask her questions about her experience in the tragedies of 9/11, now 20 years ago, when she was suddenly widowed as a mother of four children ranging in age from 14-7 years old. Nancy's husband, Joe, and his younger brother, Dan, were working together in the World Trade Center and were both murdered in 9/11. Listen as Nancy shares not only the events that occurred that terrible day, but also her pieces of wisdom and incredible perspective she has on life and parenting in the wake of such horror. Nancy has been a source of inspiration to many people and, now as a parent myself, I admire her more than ever.

The One About the Holidays Dec 13, 2021

In this week's episode, I dive into the ration of BS surrounding the holiday season that we encounter as parents as well as the added stress of navigating family dynamics, and our ultimate goal of making the holidays special for our little ones and why we go to such great lengths.

This episode topic was the winner of a contest I did on Instagram, and the listener who suggested it received a handwritten note on it in the mail from yours truly - a highly coveted prize, I know.

Interview with Dr. Kelly Fradin on the safety of and questions around the Covid Vaccine in kids aged 5-11 Dec 06, 2021

In this episode, I interview an NYC pediatrician and mother of two, Dr. Kelly Fradin, on the safety of the Covid vaccine for young children. We also touch on many other tough points of concern when it comes to Covid, masking, and the politicization of Covid which has caused such a division of opinions, particularly as it pertains to our kids.

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Mommy Wine Culture Nov 22, 2021

This week's episode dives into Mommy Wine Culture, my love of alcohol, and how the two meet.

The Truth About Baby Boredom Nov 15, 2021

In today's episode, I discuss the things that surprised me after having my first baby, particularly how bored I felt at home. Though so much of the experience is joyful, the picture painted for new mothers does not always match how we feel in reality once the baby arrives.

As a society we fail new moms and place unrealistic expectations they way they think they should feel from the moment they become a mom. Listen in to hear my tips and tricks for new moms on how to help combat baby boredom.

Don't forget that if you're a new mom or veteran mom going through all these feelings, you're not alone.

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Mom guilt and parenting during the pandemic with Dr. Tanya Cotler Nov 15, 2021

Welcome to episode three of Big Time Adulting. This episode features my first official guest on the podcast, who is uniquely qualified to provide insights on mom guilt and parenting during a pandemic.

Dr. Tanya Cotler is a clinical psychologist who specializes in reproductive and maternal mental health and parent-child attachment. Being both a child and adult psychologist, she is the perfect candidate to answer my questions today.

It has been both validating and reaffirming to hear from Dr. Cotler that parenting doesn’t have to be perfect. There is no reason to feel guilty for not breastfeeding, deciding to go with an unpopular parenting style, or even having an emotional outburst in front of your child.

If you’ve ever struggled with mom guilt, felt the intense pressure to become a perfect mom, or have wondered on how to support your child during this pandemic, this episode is for you.

Learn more from Dr. Tanya Cotler through her website , or connect with her on Instagram (@drcotlrer)

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My Story Nov 15, 2021

Welcome to episode two of Big Time Adulting. In this episode, I will be talking about the life-changing event that got me started into this whole journey of blogging, Instagram, and now podcasting.

In December 2016, Calum, my first-born son, at the age of three, was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. It was a tough time for us as a family, and sharing my experience with family, friends, and eventually, the public was a healing outlet for me. The ability to be so vulnerable and honest through my blog and Instagram was one of my most validating experiences as a parent, and allowed me to encounter so many like-minded people who shared similar sentiments as it pertained motherhood. Here we are at the next phase of my journey, and I can’t wait to share it with you all through this podcast.

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